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It's really disgusting how I can tell a difference in how I'm treated when I go out in my sweatpants and look a mess versus actually put in effort and clean up nicely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 07:19 PM
5

never fucking again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 07:18 PM
5

Me as hellllll
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 09:56 AM
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I took some sexy but classy boudoir photos and posted a couple to my private, friends only instagram. My LVM ex didn't bother to like these photos of me until after I broke up with him. Like, a few hours after. And we'd already had plenty of talks about me feeling uncertain about his desire for me because he never really expressed it. I just can't... I'll never make these mistakes again, but like lmao why are men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 05:30 AM
32

Same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 05:21 AM
39

Ah yes the wlw struggle, I know it too lol men don’t phase me but women?? Make me a nervous wreck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:48 PM
2

I’m in this photo and I don’t like it. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 02:53 PM
2

Yes!! I would absolutely buy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 09:33 PM
2

I wish I’d understood this so much sooner. But I’m here now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 12:53 AM
2

Two months free here. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 02:48 AM
79

They really did. They just don’t care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 04:03 AM
4

I am so glad I finally realized this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 04:35 PM
18

Your current boyfriend sounds amazing, and you absolutely deserve it Queen. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 02:02 AM
3

Ugh, I wish I’d never taken nudes in the past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 08:33 PM
5

My pole/aerials studio is 99% women, and my favorite place to work out/dance/be. I highly recommend giving something like that a shot if you have any interest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 08:21 PM
5

That song and ‘I Did Something Bad’ are my fuck you anthems. Reputation is such a great record.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 03:34 AM
17

Man I used to dislike Taylor. She definitely used to be a pickme but in the last few years has really leveled up. And her latest guy sounds high value. Loving the new album and this song!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 11:23 PM
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Dating fucked me over financially so bad, y’all. I don’t even wanna say. It’s embarrassing. I was so depressed and anxious and traumatized I didn’t care what price I had to pay to numb all of that, and my finances took a big hit... I’m happy to say I should be out of debt by the end of the year, and finally able to start saving money again. This would not be happening so soon if I hadn’t stopped dating a couple of months ago! Fuck men honestly I’m gonna get a bag. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 08:29 PM
6

Amen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 08:27 PM
14

Oooh this projection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 08:12 PM
17

‘Just because’ like... ok dude you try getting raped a few times and see if you trust the gender that did it. Jesus fucking Christ what an absolute asshole. He’s probably a rapist himself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 08:08 PM
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Yuuuup same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 08:04 PM
11

We are dealt the cards we are dealt, and then it’s up to us to make the best of it. Sometimes we’re dealt really shitty cards and it’s absolute hell trying to make sense of where to go from there. But we have to try. I am definitely stronger for all of the work I’ve had to put into myself because of the shit I’ve been through. It sucks that it happened but I can’t change it. I can only change my mind and focus on the resilient and valuable qualities I’ve gained through the unfortunate circumstan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 03:43 PM
19

I have like, one that I talk to regularly. And I’m fine with just the one. We dated briefly but were able to become friends no problem after a few months of some distance. I don’t think he’ll hit me with the ‘I have feelings for you still’ bs, but it is a concern and always is with male friends no matter how unlikely you think they are to pull that. Sucks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 03:05 AM
9

It has really made me question a lot. I thought some of these men I’ve let do this to me weren’t assholes. Now I find it hard to believe you aren’t an asshole if you get off on strangling women. The mindset is just so awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 11:26 PM
12

My ex used to choke me during sex sometimes. I’m realizing now just how fucked up it was, and how my relationship with him was abusive, not just in the emotionally neglectful way. He of course claimed to be a ‘dom’ and so I’m replaying some stuff in my mind that like even though I consented at the time it feels so fucked up to me now. This being one of those things. Twice he choked me so hard or long that I passed out - didn’t consent to that part, and he knew that and claimed it was an accident…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 10:07 PM
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This just made me so, so fucking happy in a way that no man ever has. Because I relate, this has been me since I discovered FDS a few weeks ago. I feel like I've gotten my life back, MYSELF back, from some painful void. It's a beautiful feeling that I just can't put into words. Every woman deserves to feel this way. I'm definitely going to print the handbook out and share it with everyone I know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 05:08 PM
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Yeah tell this to my aspergers ex who knew for months after repeated conversations what I needed from him and he continually failed to deliver and really thought missing social/romantic cues was an excuse to emotionally neglect me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 05:49 AM
12

You said it, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 10:57 PM
19

When I stopped doing this the difference in how I felt was incredible. I will never hesitate to block again. It’s like the ultimate closure and I couldn’t really move on until I did it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 06:21 PM
9

This is rape. That poor girl. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 06:19 PM
16

But it’s not in the long term. These men are so stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 06:16 PM
42

Cannot possibly comprehend being so insecure and desperate for a man that you marry, fuck, and have a baby with a pedophile. Out of all of her options as a rich, talented, beautiful rapper, that was really the best she thought she could do? Come the fuck on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 06:14 PM
9

Ooh I feel this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 12:44 AM
2

Amen. My abusive shithead predator of an ex went to therapy. My narc/borderline mother goes to therapy. But it doesn't work for them - they go to complain about other people and get validation for their bullshit. Therapy only works if you take accountability and do the work. Some people are just incapable of that no matter how hard you push them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 04:45 PM
41

Yup. Ugh. It’s okay to abuse women in all these various ways but abuse a man’s wallet, oh god how could you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 03:46 PM
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AGREED omg this femdom shit being used to normalize draining women like that makes me so mad. So many femdoms make their male subs clean and cook and pleasure them... then there are these out here who are like yeah I change my sub’s diapers and suck his dick everyday and it’s like????? Girl no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 03:44 PM
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So many man babies claim to be into femdom because they just want a mommy to literally baby them while still being the one in control, getting all the pleasure. They really twist everything to favor them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 03:41 PM
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I agree! I’m bisexual and I feel like this sub is not only going to make me a much better partner to a HVM but also to a HVW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 02:02 AM
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Lmao funny you say this because my ex that introduced me to weighted blankets basically made me feel like I was just a warm body to keep around
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 07:01 PM
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Ooh I definitely need to keep this one in mind. Going forward this will 100% be my mindset so that I don't settle for less like I'm so used to doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 06:58 PM
33

For real. They just don't view our outrage the way we do - it's fuel to them and so draining on us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 06:50 PM
3

They really think we find this attractive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 12:32 PM
10

Facts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 06:14 AM
26

Somebody stopped maturing in middle school.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 01:33 AM
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Thank you, sister. I’m glad he’s your ex as well, we deserve better. I am much happier and healthier without him, and am so thankful I gathered my strength and left when I did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 10:15 PM
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Really can't believe how brainwashed I was once, and how brainwashed some continue to be...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 09:03 PM
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And even if my looks fade with age, why the fuck would I want to date a man who has a problem with that?? I don’t. Thats a LVM and I don’t do those anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 11:57 AM
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It’s true. I am so much happier single. I’m at that age where I guess I should be worried about settling down (almost to 30) but nah, my life is just beginning now that I’ve seen how happy I can be on my own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 11:56 AM
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This. I was one of those kinkmeishas once and now that I've seen the light, I want to bring it up around some people I know but I just know it won't go over well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 12:31 AM
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Ooooof I fucking feel this one lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 08:23 PM
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My ex tried so hard to bring my self esteem down and it worked for a little bit. After I ended things, I realized I had hella options and he was the one who didn’t have shit without me and that was precisely why he was so cruel. He couldn’t risk me knowing how fabulous I am, or I might leave him. These men are so weak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 08:18 PM
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Ugh. This makes me nauseous. As a bisexual woman I constantly have men trying to objectify women with me. It’s so gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 08:14 PM
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You don’t have to settle just because he loves you. You can have everything you want - a man who loves you like that who will also wine and dine you and give you everything else you need, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 12:06 AM
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yikes this triggers me with my recent ex lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 07:50 PM
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Daaaamn, gotta love when the trash takes itself out! Throwing a tantrum when he's denied sex... thank u, next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 05:28 PM
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I love this method, holy crap. Gonna use this every time my brain does the stupids about some guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 11:53 PM
1

Yikes yikes yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 06:22 PM
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My ex, the most insecure small dicked man I’ve ever met, was such a porn addict and abused me over sharing my feelings about how poorly it made me feel. I’m talking he would start fapping the second I left the apartment, and everyday there would be a towel in the hamper with his cum on it. I also fucked him everyday, sometimes multiple times a day, so like.. was that really necessary. I found out he was using chaturbate and I was like I’m uncomfortable with you spending money on this (he wasn’t …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 05:53 PM
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How is he 34 oh my god
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 05:21 AM
3

Excellent use of entanglement lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 05:17 AM
3

You. Are. Amazing. Such a Queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 03:42 AM
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God, I didn’t even think about that. Fucking hell. I bet some of them would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 05:56 PM
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YUP. I have an ex who claimed that was his love language. Except, the only times he would touch me would be in sexual situations or he’d grab my ass or pinch my nipples randomly. When it came time to cuddle and hug and hold hands he wasn’t usually about it. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 06:05 PM
4

I feel like everyone who wants to become a parent should probably have an experience like this to see if it’s something they are up for. My mother certainly wasn’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 06:00 PM
1

My ex had a small dick and abused the fuck out of me because he was so insecure about it. What a loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 06:56 AM
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Ugh, too much experience with this shit. Miraculously I’m somehow maintaining a friendship with a man I briefly dated last year. I ended things which broke his heart and thank god I did, because he would’ve been a shit partner but he makes for a good friend now. I keep waiting for him to ruin it (because I’m so used to men ruining things) by asking to be friends with benefits or declaring his love for me, but so far so good eight months into friendship. Y’all will definitely find out if he fucks…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 05:49 AM
8

Yep. I've always felt like I was sexually abused young though I can't remember it, I wonder if I suffered the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 04:57 AM
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Agreed. Anytime I get baby fever (because they are hella cute) I just redirect it to animals, because honestly being a mother to a human child sounds like more hell than it's worth for me. I am 29 and have always felt like I wanted much more for myself and my life than being a mother. Besides, the world is overpopulated and is shit. I'm not raising a child here even if I wanted to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 04:24 AM
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I have sacrificed far too much for men in the past and I am really struggling to not berate myself over it. I know it's not my fault, in most of the cases they were abusive and I was still buying into society's bullshit, but ugh. Never ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 04:18 AM
15

My mother, a pickme and a narcissist, allowed one of her boyfriends to molest my older sisters when they were very young. So fucking gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 04:17 AM
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I used bumble once like years ago, and had no luck. So I stuck to tinder and okc, and waited for men to message me. Still no luck lmao, but like, fuck messaging them first. Lazy asses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 04:08 AM
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So true. I haven't met a single woman in the BDSM community who isn't deeply insecure in one way or another. I was one of them once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 03:56 AM
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I agree with you. You're not condoning it, and it is important to educate and inform. Many women will be viewing this sub still not convinced that BDSM is inherently abusive, and in that case they should at least understand what it is they're partaking in and how to ban men who ignore safe words from that community.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 03:53 AM
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There's a lot of BDSM I used to partake in that I am now trying to de-condition myself from enjoying. Rape/CNC kink was never, ever one of them. It always felt dangerous, and I never want to be with someone who gets off on that. You can't just... separate that shit from real life. Your man gets off on pretend raping you??? So... he would get off on raping you, then. TW I actually did date a guy years ago who was into CNC, and would ask me frequently to partake. I refused because it made me uncom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 03:49 AM
5

Same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 03:45 AM
2

You're totally right. We've learned, and we will have a better future. Much love <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 03:45 AM
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I have done all of these. No more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 08:41 PM
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God, I want to send this to some of my exes. Dipshits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 08:40 PM
1

You’re right. I’ve just dated a lot of INTJ men who were shitty, but I shouldn’t generalize.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 06:46 PM
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Thank you for sharing. You’re totally correct. I need to channel these desires into something healthy, like neck touches that aren’t abusive or violent, etc. I hate how conditioned we are to accept this shit as healthy and normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 03:55 PM
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Thank you so much. You’re totally right. I am nitpicking at myself and I don’t deserve that. I’m definitely swearing off OLD for awhile, if not forever. It hasn’t done me any favors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 03:53 PM
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Whoa. You hit the nail right on the head. Thank you so much for this - you’re absolutely right, and this put it into perspective for me. I didn’t know, but now I do and I won’t make the same mistakes again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 03:51 PM
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Oh yeah. When I was a teenager boys made fun of my small chest, my smile (I had braces), my hips/thighs/butt (it wasn’t in style back then), and who knows what else. My abusive ex also made me feel insecure about my thighs, my hobbies, personality, etc. I’m confident and love myself now but it was a journey to get here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 03:45 PM
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I second this. I don’t know if I’ll return to OLD for these reasons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 05:33 AM
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Ahh this makes me so excited to hear! I’m so glad you’ve found so much love and joy in your kitties. Your one cat you described sounds like such a sweetie. I’ve never had a cat but I’ve always loved them, and I can’t wait to bring mine home. They apparently love to cuddle! Thank you for your sweet well wishes. Same to you! 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 05:27 AM
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Maybe you’re the problem bro.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 04:30 AM
115

Wooooooow. "Move aside and let a real woman step up." Wow. Just. Wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 03:33 AM
150

I try to avoid that stuff because I find it extremely triggering, but from what I've seen, yup. They absolutely loathe women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 02:46 AM
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I think about this all the time. Especially in regards to my own dating life - these men don't actually like women (or me), they just like pussy and being babied. My recent ex definitely liked the idea of me so much more than the reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 01:46 AM
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It's not stupidity, it's how we're socialized from a very young age. It's fucked, but you're here now! You can and will change the cycle and get the HVM you deserve as a HVW. <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 01:43 AM
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You're absolutely right. <3 Thank you. We got this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 01:42 AM
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Thank you, I appreciate that. This is so true. I definitely feel like I have been guilted into lowering my standards, which is why I have. No more! They will be sky high and someday a HVM will come along and meet them. I don't mind waiting anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 01:42 AM
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Me too!! I can't wait for my babies. Haha glad you liked! Ugh I feel that, I don't have sympathy for these men anymore. If I've had to spend thousands of dollars on therapy over the years to ensure that I can be a great partner, then so do you bud! It's infuriating. Like, you'd rather lose the best woman that's ever happened to you instead of getting your shit together? Okay then. Your loss!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 01:41 AM
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It put me in such a weird place, as a survivor of abuse that was most definitely malicious. But I eventually realized it doesn't matter what his intent is, if he knows it's hurting me and he doesn't change it then he doesn't care. Thank you. <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 01:40 AM
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Fuck INTJ men. That’s a huge red flag for me. Anyone else?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 01:29 AM
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For real! I am so tired of having to do this emotional labor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 09:13 PM
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My recent ex made at least 2.5x more than me, but still insisted on always splitting the bill. I resent him so much for it and wish I hadn't put up with that for so long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 09:06 PM
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You are so strong, thank you for sharing your story with us. I really admire how you put yourself first, no matter how much you loved him. <3 Queen energy for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 09:04 PM
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I used to be involved in BDSM, and I really want to heal the parts of me that enjoyed things like choking and being hit. I recognize that it's not healthy, and I look back on all the men I let do those things to me and how they definitely overstepped my boundaries - hitting too hard, choking me til I passed out without having given consent for that, etc. It's really fucked now that I think about it. Why do I enjoy it? Why does he enjoy it? I just want to be loved and cared for, so why did that m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 08:42 PM
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Yeah I'm a little confused too about where the line is, but what a queen! I am inspired.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 08:20 PM
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Perfect response. Tell ‘em.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 07:22 PM
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I needed to hear this. I keep dating casually and getting my feelings hurt or feeling like I’m wasting my time just for the sake of experience. Why? I’m 29, I know what I want, I don’t need any more experience. I need a real man, and until one comes along I’m not dating again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 05:17 PM
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Yay!! I need to go introduce myself later. Thank you all for all that you do!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 12:56 PM
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Y’all are totally right. Never again. Haha blocked and deleted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 07:57 AM
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If this isn't fake... fucking hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 05:54 AM
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Amen. Feels virtually impossible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 05:27 AM
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Ugh, y'all are right. Okay. I'm ending shit with these dudes lmao. I'll be more insulted if some average ass guy tries to pull some fuck shit with me than one on my level or above. Like, really?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 05:19 AM
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I just deleted my tinder. I've been 'seeing' a couple of guys for a couple of weeks from there (virtual dates) but I'm not really feeling it. I dunno. Recently by chance, I also ran into an ex who was abusive (we broke up last summer) and it really shook me. It's been about half a year since I accidentally ran into him and it's still jarring though I've made great progress healing from it. Ever since seeing him I haven't felt up to rejoining the dating game like I thought I was, and upon further…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 05:17 AM
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Thank you. This put it into perspective for me, lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 04:32 AM
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Damn, you right. I'm not committing to anyone for a long time at least - just seeing what's out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 04:11 AM
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I like your way of thinking. I used to think my ex, a NVM, damaged me but I am surely healing from the bullshit and coming out so much better. He, however, will always stay the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 04:01 AM
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Reasons I started dating average looking men even though I'm pretty hot. Will report on whether or not it makes a difference, lmao. Still figuring it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 04:00 AM
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When I realized this is what a healthy relationship is, it changed my life. I grew up in a violent and abusive home. This concept of not fighting and just disagreeing is so foreign to me, but I will never again stay in a relationship where it escalates to a fight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 04:35 PM
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It's so fucking gross that women having standards and self-respect is seen as misandry. Misogyny is so deeply rooted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 05:07 AM
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I love her. How Hollywood treated her is despicable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 06:13 AM
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I just found this sub this week and it has already changed me for the better in so many ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 02:48 AM
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A man 15 years my senior in my twenties used and abused me in every way he could. I'm even hesitant to date men who are 5+ years older than me now - even if they aren't abusers, they don't want to put in the effort it takes to treat a woman well so they don't date their own age. That's been my experience lately anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 11:00 PM
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