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for sensitive-skinned ladies, I highly recommend buying your man some sheep wool fat soap if he shaves/trims at all. I got some for my SO to use with his cut-throat razor for the occasions when he does shave, and it makes him smell and feel lovely.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/14 06:16 PM
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Nice. I once suggested to my SO that he put conditioner on his hair, he was like 'lol isn't soap good enough'. I like a man that looks scruffy from actually doing stuff and being outside. All I see when I walk around my city is men that look like they've spent far too much effort to make it look like they've spent none.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/14 06:14 PM
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Another one with a bearded SO here. Love it. He has long hair too and he's still manlier than all of these hipster fuckers. Edit: LOL what kind of weirdo man doesn't even know what an Allen key is. They give you them for free with your Ikea flatpack. Side note - does anyone else get turned on when their man does DIY? Love. It.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/14 05:47 PM
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I would not tolerate my SO sharing his resources (time, affection, money, sperm, etc) with some skank. That and it would break my heart. If he felt like that was the right option for him, then I am not the right woman for him and he is not the right man for me.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/14 11:29 AM
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y'know, that short, unstyled hairdo that ladies of a certain age seem to get and then never bother again.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/14 06:57 PM
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Trust him. Your man's opinion and preferences are what matter and come before the general advice we give here. So no need to feel conflicted about your hair. Just please don't let it turn into 'mom hair' - good makeup, esp eye makeup, and accessories like big earrings can work well with shorter hair. As for the other stuff, when you're chilling in pjs/ sweats, little touches like using body lotion, perfume etc can help you feel sexier. If I'm at home all day and going for comfy clothes/no makeup…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/14 08:06 AM
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serious question, how do you avoid it in day to day life then? I am really pale with some freckles so I'm very, very wary of burning.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/14 09:23 PM
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I don't run, but I do do extended cardio in the form of swimming and hill hiking. I don't it because I think it'll make me skinny, I do it because I enjoy those things, want to have healthy heart & lungs, don't want to die early from preventable disease, and still want to be moving when I'm 80.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/14 09:55 PM
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Yup, this. Obv we don't know the whole story but I assumed the same from what she said. Point in action, a couple months ago I started eating better and exercising more to get in better shape. My SO immediately started working out twice as much as he was before. I'm not saying I'd leave him if my SMV went up a tiny bit, obviously I think I never would and am more loyal than that. But, I'm human and hypergamy is real...evidently he realised that too at least on a subconscious level.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/14 01:40 PM
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Whilst I think being critical to an extent about antidepressants is necessary, some people genuinely do need them. And telling people that an illness which causes numerous problems in their life isn't real, is not going to be helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/14 10:23 PM
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go for a walk every lunch time at work. Instant mood lift, and a bit of exercise/fresh air. Sounds easy but it's amazing how tempting it is just to stay in when there's a million things to do and I bring a packed lunch anyway. Also, I want to bust out my sewing machine and make something. Probably something simple like a skirt or cushion covers. I'm good at painting and yarn crafts, but sewing...not so much. Practice practice practice.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/14 10:09 PM
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you are giving terrible and potentially harmful advice in this thread. Stop.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/14 09:54 PM
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you have my sympathy times a million with the parents situation. I've had periods of mental illness too with a depression & anxiety combo, my mum reckons it doesn't exist and I just need to 'try harder' and not 'be such a downer'. Unfortunately their attitude a) just made me more poorly and b) made me trust them less and tell them less about my life. Sorry I can't help, but you're not alone in that.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/14 09:53 PM
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Lol if you think a 'British' accent is attractive, you haven't heard some of our worst ones. Btw we are 4 different countries with hundreds of very, very different accents - which we can be rather pedantic about :)
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/14 09:44 PM
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careful of that hamster :) Men do have lots of different tastes it's true, but we're talking in generalizations here because it's useful to do so. What really matters is what the man you are trying to attract or trying to keep attracted (i.e. in a relationship) likes. If that happens to be tattoos and piercings and green mohawk hair, then fine, do that. But if you're looking more generally, it's a wise strategy to listen to what men say they find attractive in LTR material.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/14 09:20 PM
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yup, this. I love alternative men, my SO is a big hairy metalhead so has certain things appearance-wise he likes, and so are our friends. If I was single however, I would tone down my appearance a bit to cast a wider net in terms of attracting men, rather than getting all 'special snowflake' about this stuff.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/14 09:14 PM
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Being that mean all the time sounds pretty exhausting tbh. And there's no way I would continue to be attracted to a man who would put up with that BS. Since when did being an unpleasant person become a goal to aspire to? I think I'll continue my current relationship strategy of 'try not to be a bitch' instead.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/14 11:39 AM
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that's fair, sounds sensible enough.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/14 06:59 PM
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for me yes it worked well, I have long straight ish hair so it's fairly easy to do because her tutorial is thorough. And yes use proper hair dressing scissors. Obviously it's no substitute for an actual hairdresser, but I'm also wary about them cutting too much off.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/14 06:59 PM
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I've actually wondered about that...if women generally do most of the cooking, how come most professional chefs are male. I suppose its because of high pressure working conditions/macho environment/ long hours etc.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/14 12:42 PM
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I have more respect for anyone, male or female, that can cook even basic food. Being able to feed yourself as an adult isn't a bad thing. My SO only cooks once or twice a week so I do the vast majority of feeding us, and i'm very happy. I love cooking and for me, feeding people is a very literal way of caring for them. So if I could never cook for my man/family/friends, I would be very sad.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/14 12:37 PM
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A drizzle of olive oil too? Yum yum.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/14 12:34 PM
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If you're not actually interested, please don't try to keep him hanging around just in case you change your mind and don't find anyone better. Not saying that's what you are doing, but from your post it sounds like it's a possibility.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/14 08:39 AM
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hmm, fair enough. Obviously I think the situation is concerning too.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/14 08:23 PM
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Ok, I wasn't aware they're still friends, I thought this was The End of the relationship. Staying friends with someone like this would be a stupid idea. I agree with tough love but I wouldn't want to turn her away from sensible perspectives (i.e. RPW) by being overly unkind about it. Just my 2c.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/14 08:07 PM
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What texture is your hair? I'm cursed with straight hair myself, but my friend has lovely curly hair and has great success with something called the 'curly girl method', could be worth a try? Occasional (tiny) trims can help too - I've been trying to get my hair in better condition after dying it for a few years, I've found it gets way less tangled when I trim the very ends off every so often, because they're in the worst condition. I do it myself because some hairdressers can get way too scisso…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/14 08:02 PM
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I also find that Farah Dhukai[2] on YouTube has some great hair videos I like her tutorials, she has fab hair. I use the 'how to cut long layers in your own hair' one to trim my hair.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/14 07:58 PM
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awesome, my OH has 'rockstar like locks' too, I'm a big fan of long hair on men.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/14 07:55 PM
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sorry but I think what you and Dana have said is a bit cruel. OP has agreed that she needs to make better choices in men, has learned from the experience, and most importantly has not disparaged RPW nor blamed RP ideas for what's happened to her. I see no grace in kicking someone when they're already down.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/14 07:52 PM
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haha love it :p but yeah, that way of stacking makes way more sense
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/14 07:34 PM
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I have the tupperware cupboard right now and I loathe it. I'm so replacing them with stackable ones. How do you store the lids to keep them from getting misplaced?
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/14 12:15 PM
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Old fashioned weighing scales and a measuring jug. A decent chopping board will help to protect your work surfaces too. And I 2nd what someone said about good kitchen knives.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/14 12:13 PM
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oh wow those sound delicious. How do you make the broccoli slaw?
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/14 07:37 AM
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my favourite is: rocket and spinach as leaves, a layer of cucumber, spring onions, radish chopped up small, and apple slices. I make a lemon & olive oil dressing for that with lots of pepper in, and for protein add chicken or proper ham for the Mr, and for me nuts or lentils.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/14 07:37 AM
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i love making stuff for the home, like blankets, cushion covers, bunting decorations and so on. I'm working on a big bedspread for me and Mr D at the minute. I've tried a couple of Amigurumi but they can be quite fiddly, although I'm working on a rabbit type thing for my cousin's baby at the minute.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/14 06:53 PM
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Haha I also watch all the good shows with my man so watch crap while he's busy...usually True Blood, or slightly trashy documentaries
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/14 01:14 PM
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My OH put me on a 'no buy' for yarn til I've finished all the crochet projects I'm working on...sad times haha
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/14 01:10 PM
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I love cookie dough. We just started getting the peanut butter cup flavour over here, its lush...I love that sweet/salty combo
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/14 01:07 PM
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These two blokes. One's called Ben, the other one Jerry.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/14 10:11 PM
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yeah her body reminds me of Renaissance nudes paintings. I think she's fairly neutral on the attractiveness scale tbh.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/14 07:20 PM
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I get what you mean. I think you're supposed to be able to identify with the character, but also find her incredibly annoying and frustrating. They're all supposed to be flawed characters and I think if someone would have to be pretty thick to watch it and not realise that.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/14 07:13 PM
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exactly. I'm sorry to see some of female cast (esp the actress that plays Shoshanna) not going further. But, Lena basically plays herself, whereas she created Adam's character as interesting, versatile and full of depth. She should be celebrating that her writing and show helped casting directors see the potential in Adam. Tbh a lot of the stuff she complains about makes me just think, 'rich white girl problems' and tune out.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/14 05:12 PM
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thanks I'll do that. I'm crap at reddit sometimes lol
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/14 03:01 PM
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A scumbag guy picked a fellow scumbag girl instead of you? I don't find that so shocking. This experience has obviously been really hurtful for you and I'm sorry you've had to go through something so horrible, you really do have my sympathy. BUT - you got treated like trash, knew you were only one girl of many, he told you he didn't want you as his girlfriend, and you still continued doing shit for him. That should have been the point you walked away. Learn from this mistake, and make better cho…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/14 02:57 PM
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would you care to elaborate on the sources for your claims a little bit? Some scientific studies? Journal papers?
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/14 02:08 PM
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I think this article could be summed up by saying: "pick your priorities, work towards them, and don't expect everything else to magically happen". I'd like to point out though, it's important to make the distinction between a career and a job. Many people think they will go to college and have the big shiny career at the end of it, when what they actually end up with is the necessary-but-boring job.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/14 10:52 AM
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My SO isn't afraid of biology so I don't worry about it. He knows if he wants a baby to come out of there at some point, he has to deal with other lady business first. It's not some big mystery. If it's that time, I just tell him that it's happening so PIV is off for a few days, and that I'll probably be feeling a bit rough. I do some stretches that help relieve my cramps, he gives me backrubs and cuddles, and I look after his needs in other ways. Plus I make really yummy food because i crave ca…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/14 09:09 AM
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"that's fine"...perhaps the ultimate one. If i ever say it my man just mocks me until I can't keep a straight face any more.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/14 08:57 PM
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very sensible. I was having a conversation about this with my wonderful (early 40s) colleague at work today. She said that it's an unpopular opinion but she had her babies in her early 20s, her career is now on a similar level to her peers who put their careers before families, and she gets to enjoy life with her partner and travel now her kids are older.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/14 08:15 PM
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exactly. In my politics I'm more left-leaning than most here, but I accept that everyone has different views and I don't think it really matters here. RPW isn't really the place for getting our panties in a twist cs someone happens to hold a different political view than us. Because of the way my politics go, i find men with left-leaning politics more attractive. That's my personal preference, and so I'm not gonna get all offended that someone else's personal preferences are different.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/14 11:31 AM
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Has tells of an alt lifestyle I dunno, I think guys covered in tattoos (especially if they're muscular too, yum) are usually fairly masculine? Or maybe I just like that kind of thing haha.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/14 11:22 AM
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In my experience 'wannabe' guys are the ones who can talk the talk. And they talk about it constantly. Guys who can legit handle themselves just get on with doing it. They're too busy getting on with life, and have no need to try and convince anyone that they are a quality man, because they just are one.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/14 12:13 PM
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Agree with this. Alpha qualities/actions needed to sustain attraction, beta qualities/actions needed to sustain LTR. The ratio of alpha to beta required would depend on the individual.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/14 12:09 PM
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hopefully she will start to get the hint then that her behaviour is unacceptable.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/14 06:34 PM
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I usually just take a few deep breaths to calm down, or leave the room if necessary. Then I'm able to ask myself if it really matters, and if I'm being fair. I also usually try to figure out if what I'm getting upset about is actually a symptom of something else, so I can get to the root of the issue and deal with that. How do other people react when your friend lashes out? Not reacting to that behaviour can help because then you're not feeding it.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/14 12:33 PM
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Yeah I worried about getting all tangled up but i like it. I let my hair air dry a bit, and then use this to kind of dry and style my hair at the same time. It makes it nice and smooth but gives it a bit of shape and volume at the same time
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/14 09:40 PM
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I'm pretty basic at styling my hair (although I trim it myself), so i definitely want to get less boring at it. I too have fairly fine hair, because I'm naturally blonde, but have a lot of it if that makes sense. A few weeks ago I bought a hot air styler that looks like this http://images-p.qvc.com/is/image/u2/4/81/400481.001?$uklarge$ and I use that on the first day to style & dry my hair. Then when I go to bed I will either braid my hair or tie it in buns so it has some waves/texture for the s…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/14 09:03 PM
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First thing I want to learn how to cook? Eggs (in almost every variation from scrambled to omelettes). We had scrambled eggs with spring onions and a handful of spinach thrown in for breakfast this morning, was yummy. Definitely recommend just chucking whatever you happen to like into scrambled eggs or omelette. Hard-boiled eggs are tricky to get right but yummy and useful to add to salads, sandwiches, curry etc.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/14 08:55 PM
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aww mom food is the best :) My OH loves Japanese food. One time he had to work a really long, gruelling, unexpected shift at work. So I decided to surprise him and have a go at making some sushi rolls and dumplings. The food wasn't perfect but he said it meant a lot to him that I'd made the effort and been thoughtful.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/14 08:53 PM
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if he likes that kind of food then accept it and cook it for him. Then you can jazz it up for you and the rest of your family and have something tasty whilst pleasing everyone :p
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/14 08:40 PM
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I think that every adult should be able to cook at least some basic home made meals. I can't stand it when people make a big deal and joke about how they can't cook. Not being able to feed yourself is not something to be proud of. Now more on topic, I love cooking. It's one of the ways I show love and care for people. I particularly like making a dish I know my partner loves and seeing his face light up when I tell him that's what we're having for dinner.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/14 08:31 PM
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I'd like to preface this by saying I don't depend on him to sort my moods out. I'm constantly working to check myself and be in control of how I express myself. If I'm just being a bit daft or grumpy, he usually just says my name in a firm but humorous way, gives me 'that' look, and I either apologise or we both burst out laughing. Or he tickles me :p If it's a bit worse and I'm upset about something and need to calm down so we can talk about it properly, he hugs me to him really close and won't…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/14 07:55 AM
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Taken lady here. All going ok so far. I mentioned before I wanted to plan a surprise trip for Mr D...well i've booked it all. We're going at Easter to a really old seaside town I know he'd love. I imagine we'll have romantic walks on the beach and eat lots of seafood (which he also loves). I've started my new job and it's turned out to be a bit higher level than expected as they feel they can use my skills more than originally planned. So that's been a wee bit stressful and I have to admit is pu…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/14 10:38 PM
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yeah cus that's what they want to see. My cousin's situation is so, so far from fine though :(
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/14 06:00 PM
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Can I also add to this, please also think of your future kids when deciding when to have them. If you have kids when you're like 40, your children WILL suffer for it. Think about it, when you're in your 20s would you want to be taking care of ageing parents whilst starting to build your career, date, maybe even have kids of your own? No? Then don't make your children have to go through that. My mum was 38 when she had me although everything is fine now, I can see problems coming in the not so di…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/14 05:27 PM
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YES. I'm starting to think a lot about this now. I'm 23. Originally I was part of the 'there's time for babies later' brigade but learning about biological reality is making me think otherwise now. I hope I will have had my first child before I'm 30. Story time. My cousin waited until she was 36 to have her first, and probably only, baby. Through a combination of bad choices in men and careers, she kept on putting it off and putting it off. She hit her early 30s and the 'baby rabies' started wit…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/14 05:18 PM
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I dunno, I think that it can be possible to have it all, but I don't think it's possible to have it all at once.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/14 05:06 PM
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loads of atheists around here, don't worry. I'm also politically liberal, and I think that's more uncommon for RPW but I don't think it matters as long as you accept that people have different views and that's fine. It sounds like you have a good relationship so I'd say all that matters is that you and your husband are happy together. If you don't mind me asking, how old are you now? Ignore what negative friends and family members have to say about your appearance and marriage, unfortunately for…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/14 10:51 AM
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The babies have a time limit on them, the career stuff does not. You said you'll probably get married in a year and be financially ready for babies in 2, how long is the LPN degree? Could you do that so you've made a start in the mean time while you get married, try for a baby etc? Then when your kids start going to school, you could re-start your career or even go back to school too. The way I see it, plenty of people change their careers all the time, starting a new one in your thirties would …
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/14 10:21 AM
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I reckon OP is exaggerating a lil bit but women do get catty, competitive and jealous around appearance, particularly weight loss. I've kind of experienced it too, no where near as bad as the OP though. For context, I used to be fat until I was about 19. One of my best friends who I'd known since childhood also used to be fat. I managed to lose some weight, and so did she. She worked harder than me though and lost more, and she looks really great. She got a tonne of attention from men that she n…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/14 10:04 AM
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Haha I only just saw this. I certainly think he is :p
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/14 11:01 PM
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Anal and swallowing are completely different to threesomes as they don't involve a third party. As far as I'm concerned its between you and your partner. From a personal perspective I absolutely 'swallow', I see no reason not to. Anal on the other hand I won't do. My partner is fine with this, I give him plenty of other lovin' and would never use it as a bargaining chip or whatever.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/14 10:59 PM
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I'm at a loss with this one, but I'm sure the more experienced RPW will have some good ideas. Just wanted to say it sounds like you're doing your best in a difficult situation, and good luck.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/14 10:40 PM
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Ditto this. Could be that his self esteem took a nosedive after he got laid off at work. A male perspective would really help in this I think?
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/14 10:36 PM
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This is excellent advice to anyone. I can't stand people who blame the world for every single problem they have, whilst refusing to acknowledge any part they may have played in it. A couple months ago, I had quite a few job interviews. After each one, I made a point to contact the hiring manager and ask for feedback about what I could have done better at. It was unpleasant to hear my flaws laid out like that but in the end helped me to land an even better job.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/14 05:18 PM
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You aren't a RPW. if you were you wouldn't be so offended that people haven't pandered to you and sugarcoated the advice you've been given.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/14 01:57 PM
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It's great you want to help him but you're verging on micro-managing him here. You said he's working hard and doing well in his job so what's actually the problem here? If you feel like you have too much leisure time then fill yours. Let him handle his own. He's working hard so please don't nag him into doing even more stuff. Some practical things you can do to help him: take care of the housework and cooking. Make sure you give him enough sex. This will help him relax and soothe his mind-chatte…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/14 01:45 PM
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Actually you're a troll. Gtfo.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/14 07:59 AM
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Excuse me? Who said I don't want to?
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/14 07:57 AM
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Having just come out of university, I couldn't agree with this more. I came out with the top degree classification, but that doesn't even mean jack shit now because I did a BA. So many of my peers scraped by and came out with really, really low grades in a non-useful degree, and I wonder why they bothered. So many people would be better doing things like shorter courses after high school, vocational qualifications and so on. I dunno what it's like in the US, but over here in the UK the governmen…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/14 10:09 PM
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The strongest devotion I've witnessed in a couple was my grandparents. Towards the end of his life my Grampa had very bad health following a stroke and cancer. My Nana, a tiny, frail old lady, cared for him at home until he was so poorly he had to go to hospital. Obviously we helped her too but she was determined she would be the one to make his last months comfortable. When he passed away it was like she lost half of herself. I hope I will be as lucky as they were to have each other. On a light…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/14 03:31 PM
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aww the honeymoon stage is awesome :)
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/14 02:50 PM
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Yeah, before we were a couple of times a week with lots of other physical affection in between, but tbh that's not enough for me. I know it'll settle down over time but I seriously doubt we're headed for dead bedroom now. Ohhh man the butt swatting. When I'm cooking, when I bend over to do something, pretty much every time we pass each other in the flat....love it!
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/14 02:50 PM
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haha! I like to think we do more than that though :p Also what's with the 'hens'? Is it like a pet name for women or something? Not a dig but I've never heard it used before.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/14 02:45 PM
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Exactly. I didn't even realise I was giving off 'no' signals to Mr D until I spoke to him. I feel so, so sad about it because I may have been making him feel rejected or undesired without even realising. Physical intimacy is so important.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/14 08:41 PM
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oh man my family is from an old city with lots of cobbled streets. I've discovered that cobbles & heels is a painful combination :(. Also yes what's with the stripper heels? Save them for the bedroom. There's wayyyyy nicer and classier shoes out there.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/14 10:06 AM
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Super high heels are sexy, but they're also terrible for your feet in the long run.I'd rather sacrifice a bit of sexy for not having messed up feet when I'm older. I have a couple of pairs of nice heels (about 3.5 - 4") that are what I'd call 'bar shoes', to be worn when only walking one street away, or getting a taxi somewhere. Other than that, luckily both my SO and me have a preference for big stompy boots like Dr Martens. I have a bunch of cute flats too which make me feel feminine to wear, …
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/14 10:03 AM
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are you superwoman? My head hurts when I think about being as busy as you. Nice going :)
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/14 09:57 AM
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Ok, I'm just going to be honest here and say what I usually do when these kinds of threads come up. Women can look and act how they choose, and that's fine. Equally, men can have preferences when selecting a sexual partner/relationship, and that is also fine. If that means not selecting these women, that's fine too. Women who look or act less feminine are not trying to spite you. They just don't actually care. They're probably not trying to attract a man who wants a very feminine woman. Which is…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/14 09:52 AM
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ding ding ding! this. Usually it signals that either something is lacking in the relationship, or they have some kind of personality disorder.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/14 08:55 AM
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It's insane isn't it. One trend I've noticed emerging from my peers is after a drunken night out, they will post some shit on facebook, usually a complaint about their SO, and then rapidly delete it again in the morning once they sober up. But the damage is already done. I don't get it - do these people not understand that what you do publicly has an impact on your SO and how people see them? Me and Mr D 'fight' or have 'disagreements' occasionally which I think is normal, but I'd never, ever, e…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/14 08:54 AM
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what a coincidence, it's payday today. Guess I know what I'll be ordering ;)
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/14 08:18 PM
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great idea! He does actually. I have a month to prepare so maybe some nice fish for dinner, and some new lingerie for later ;)
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/14 08:13 PM
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Ok ladies I have a confession. To be honest, the whole BJ thing has been on my mind. I feel like a very bad RPW, because I just can't make myself enjoy doing it :( it feels suffocating and uncomfortable to me. I've been told that my technique is fine, so I dunno, it's clearly me that has the problem. I do it as part of foreplay sometimes, and I don't mind doing that. I love pleasing my man in bed, and he much, much prefers PIV to bjs, so I guess I shouldn't worry too much. But it gets me down a …
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/14 09:23 AM
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This is both an excellent post, and a hard lesson. One of the hardest parts of improving a relationship RPW-style, I think. I still struggle sometimes, in the past I was definitely the 'blow off steam at him over something he did that I perceived to be stupid', and I'm sure I'm probably still guilty of giving off this attitude sometimes. It's not easy but I'm working hard to quell my bitchy tendencies. One of the most important things to learn in doing so is that just because you do something a …
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/14 08:16 AM
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Eat pizza, get drunk, and do bedroom activities. Valentines day really isn't very 'us', and we're partying with friends later in the evening. At this point I'm more interested in the hangover breakfast I'll cook him the next day.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/14 08:05 AM
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I really fancy one of those retro style aprons, kind of like this http://img0.etsystatic.com/000/0/5293100/il_570xN.205614122.jpg I might have a go at sewing one
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/14 06:02 PM
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We are all in agreement that hair, makeup, and outfit should be fully done before cooking begins, correct? Does anyone have a different system? I used to do makeup after so I knew it looked fresh, but that would make timing this properly almost impossible! I get ready first but put a big t-shirt on over my frock to avoid splashing sauce or something on it. Then i would refresh lipstick and perfume etc at the last moment. You could even have a glass of something boozy your hubs likes ready for wh…
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/14 04:36 PM
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spontaneous sex like bending her over a kitchen table, lifting her skirt, and ... I'm so gonna wear a skirt with bare legs when OH gets home tonight ;)
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/14 10:02 AM
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you guys have to pay for BC? O_o We get it for free, I don't think I could actually afford to have sex otherwise haha.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/14 09:59 AM
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seriously, this was the worst thing for me about taking them and part of the reason why I came off. Plus i felt like they weren't really doing anything except keeping me stable, and I wanted to feel the highs again as well as the lows. Obv i understand some people must keep taking them and it'd be dangerous to come off, but I'm happy I did.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/14 09:57 AM
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I'm paying attention to this thread. I don't eat meat (am pescetarian), but my SO eats meat. I was raised veggie so I don't know the first thing about cooking meat. But obviously I want to learn, for my OH. So i have some questions, which may seem obvious but bear with me haha! when you get the chicken from the supermarket, is it ready to go in the oven with some veg & seasoning, or do you have to do anything to it, like cut bits off? please, please tell me how to defrost a chicken. It's a myste…
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/14 09:52 AM
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Oh this is an interesting thread, thanks for posting it. I don't know whether my parents relationship affected my current relationship. I think it was more seeing what didn't work in my past relationships that changed and shaped my views. That being said, I think the type of man that my dad is has encouraged me to look for a 'good man' for myself. My dad is a very selfish, narcissistic person and if I'm being totally honest, has been emotionally abusive to my my mum and myself. He is the type of…
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/14 06:37 PM
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Yeah. I mean he can take care of himself, he doesn't take shit from anyone. He would probably have been fine. But I got scared and worried and would have been panicking had I not stopped him.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/14 06:18 PM
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We usually just talk about things, and we are not married, so I can't think why this situation would arise. Oh wait no I can think of one - he had some disappointing news about uni and decided that getting extremely drunk was how he would deal with it. He didn't want me to take care of him, but thought going for a long walk at 4am through a really rough part of town was the answer. I got scared for him so I took his house keys and pretty much manhandled him into bed. It was horrible but I was af…
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/14 10:24 AM
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Good luck! I have a feeling you and your hubs will be just fine :) Sounds like not having to work full time at a job would help you cope with the other worries though - is there a possibility that you and hubs would be able to save enough money now while you're both working, so that you can stay part time when he goes back to school? Since it's just for 3 months, it might be do-able.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/14 09:39 AM
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thanks for the story, sounds like your SO is lucky, and I definitely learned something from it :) no worries about deleting your post, gotta keep safe on the internet.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/14 11:07 PM
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good idea! Our trip won't be for a couple of months, schedule wise, but I'll definitely do a follow up report :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/14 07:38 PM
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thanks :) Haha i know, my cousin always drags her hubs on clothes shopping trips when they go away somewhere, it sounds dreadful. Luckily me and Mr D really enjoy doing similar things, and I love learning more about the stuff he enjoys.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/14 07:36 PM
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Thanks for the feedback and encouragement :) I love your idea of getting something new to wear (any chance to wear something sexy for him haha). Luckily he never has to work weekends and we share a lot of friends, I reckon I'll get his best guy mates in on it though. They are really supportive of our relationship so I'm sure they'll chime in a few ideas I'd never have thought of too, and they'll help me make sure the plan goes smoothly.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/14 07:34 PM
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Groupon getaways or Livingsocial vacation packages Great idea, I never thought of that so will check it out. Thanks! would he rather you padded a savings account? I'm doing that anyway. I have a set amount I put aside into savings each month, this is left over after I've done that.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/14 05:10 PM
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I defer to my SO in public, even over small things such as where we want to sit in a restaurant. I do this all purposely to reinforce my SO's position as captain and my position as first mate to him, myself and others around us I try to do this too. My friends don't always get it though and I've had the doormat comment before but if it makes my SO feel good then that's all that matters. I like to do things like get him a beer if we have people over for drinks, make a point to check with him firs…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/14 04:15 PM
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aww cool :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/14 04:11 PM
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it's insane isn't it. For me one of the biggest lies feminism told me was that it's all about choice, and every choice is a legitimate choice. Which would be great. But what they really meant was 'every choice is a legitimate choice, as long as it's what we'd want you to choose'.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/14 04:09 PM
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yes I was very lucky. We would do all kinds of stuff together, go swimming, bake cakes, visit family, do painting, have picnics etc. I hope when I have them I'll be able to give my kids some of that. Oh the flip side though, my dad worked long hours so I missed out on a lot of daddy time when I was little, it must have been hard for him too. It's a shame your mum wasn't around but I don't judge other mums who have to work or choose to for whatever reason. Sadly it seems almost impossible for a f…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/14 04:07 PM
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I clean before work. Every day. I can't recommend it enough, doing a small amount of maintenance cleaning every day is way better than getting to the weekend and marathoning. I have a gap of about an hour between when Mr D goes to work, and when I need to go to my job. What I will do each morning in that time is put a load of laundry in, make the bed, go round and pick up any stuff that's not where it should be, wipe down surfaces, and a couple of times a week, hoover all the floors in one go. W…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/14 04:03 PM
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His response is beautiful. I really, really admire SAHMs for all the hard work they do. I'm hoping when I have kids, we'll be in a position financially where I'm able to stay at home with them at least part-time til they go to school. My mama did, and I had the most awesome time with her when I was a little'un.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/14 11:07 AM
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It seems like a really small thing, but if it's made you feel upset and hurt, why not just talk with him about it? Calmly. Something like (fill in blanks) : "hey hubs, y'know when we went out the other night, ......... thing happened and it made me feel ......., I just wanted to hear what you thought about that". Then you've done your bit. See what he says, and accept it. It's up to him whether he does anything about it or not, and as his first mate, you need to accept that decision. Chances are…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/14 11:02 AM
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I do not like manipulating people so although I'm probably as guilty of it as the next woman, I try not to consciously do it. I don't consider myself to be anything above average attractiveness (obv my SO says otherwise haha which is what matters to me) so I don't think I ever really 'use my looks' to get ahead. What I do do is try to be the nicest, friendliest and best-looking version of myself I can be, as life seems to be better and easier when I do this. One recent example I can think of whe…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/14 10:53 AM
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This is great, can we sticky it at the top of the sub? I'm listening and learning.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/14 10:40 AM
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One post wasn't enough for you huh? I understand your upset but this is getting rather frustrating. You haven't said a great deal in this thread that you din't say in the other one. If you didn't like the replies in the other thread and felt like you were 'getting hate', why on earth would you make another complaining thread? That being said, I understand your worries, I really do, so please go and talk to HIM about this so you might have a chance of working on these things in a healthy way toge…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/14 10:33 AM
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it's creepy isn't it :( to me sneaking stuff into your SO's food against their wishes is a very literal way of disrespecting them :( granted though I am extremely lucky to have an un-picky SO who eats mostly everything I feed him, so this situation has never arisen for me. Maybe I would think differently in someone else's shoes.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/14 10:46 PM
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very true. Perhaps I need to work on my patience.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/14 10:01 PM
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you're obviously very upset and overwhelmed by this. Perhaps you need to just step back from doing these things for a while, accept he will eat the way he wants to, and let it go? I hope you can find a solution that works for the both of you :) BTW - when i said 'make the extra effort' - i mean that if you are determined to change the way he eats, you'll either have to make the extra effort in the sense of providing the food etc, or make the extra effort in the sense of getting over this issue. …
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/14 09:57 PM
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I know it makes you nervous but trust me, it's a good thing. I read somewhere that the best kind of relationships are when you always think you got the best end of the deal, in terms of maintaining attraction. It's when you start to think you're out of his league and wondering how you got lumbered with him, that you've got a problem. Bonus: you will probably improve too as a result of wanting to keep him happy :) You ain't got anything to worry about hon so enjoy them feels :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/14 07:58 PM
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Good point. But, it is sooooo irritating when someone posts their relationship problem, and then ignores all the advice we give and continues to be in denial that maybe it is something they're doing or could change their behaviour, and continues to say 'but he does X Y Z' over and over. Fair enough to give some context to the issue they're talking about, but if they don't like what we say they can just go over to /r/relationships instead.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/14 07:53 PM
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oooh yes bigging up my SO to her definitely scored me brownie points too. She's basically your typical Indian mum, so she was soooooo sceptical of me at first and pretty much thought 'how could some white girl ever be good enough for my baby'. I've since managed to form a friendship with her and call her to check in every so often, so it's definitely do-able. Was definitely hard going but hopefully will be easier for OP.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/14 06:33 PM
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aww the helping the mom out in the kitchen is super sweet :) it made me smile actually cause that's how I've bonded with my SO's mother. She is super quiet/shy so it took a while. We enjoy cooking together and she is teaching me some of her family recipes so I can make them for my SO too.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/14 04:49 PM
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How would you feel if someone told you that you're not allowed to eat how you like anymore? Pretty peeved off right? Nagging and trickery ain't gonna work in this situation, it can only push him further away. Have to spoken to him about this on a deeper level? There may be some reason why he eats like this, maybe he was forced to eat food he hated as a child or something. As for how you can still take care of his health, can you suggest he take vitamin supplements or something? You could also cu…
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/14 04:43 PM
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Keep your tits and ass covered, and easy on the make up. Look clean and presentable. But the most important thing for you to wear is a smile. Good luck, and how lovely that he wants to introduce you to his family.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/14 04:34 PM
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I feel like there's the rest of Reddit and the whole flipping world where people can go to whine about their SOs. If we can have this one little space where we instead focus on what we can do, that'd be super cool. Apologies if I've been at all guilty of it though!
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/14 04:32 PM
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Damn right.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/14 04:30 PM
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I think some of the attitude that people in this thread find offensive or whatever is from hurt men, who are probably in stage 2 as detailed in this post by SoftHarem: http://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/1x1284/if_any_of_you_hens_find_trp_to_be_a_little_too/
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/14 07:24 PM
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Good for you if you're happy, but I'm assuming you're allowed contact with the outside world, family & friends, and a laptop etc?
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/14 06:58 PM
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hopefully she will read the replies on this thread and realise that.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/14 06:29 PM
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I don't mind letting a hypothetical SO have another partner for sex Hypothetical. This will probably change if you fall in love with someone.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/14 06:28 PM
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Yeah, I'm hoping the girl will update us further. If it was this shitty, why would she have stayed for 4 years.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/14 06:25 PM
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if he wants someone who needs barely anything from him, why would he stop her from having friends, family, or any outside communication really, so she could meet her social needs in other ways. I'm a bit confused :/
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/14 06:16 PM
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i agree with you in that there are no positives in the relationship for this girl. She seems isolated and unhappy and unsure what to do next.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/14 06:14 PM
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it sounds as though you may still be extremely dependent on your parents, so you may want to work on incorporating some independence in your life first before you try to form a romantic relationship with someone?
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/14 05:34 PM
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I agree with this. Also presumably she has msged it to Phantom on a reddit app on her phone, if she's not allowed a laptop. I don't usually condone doing things behind a partner's back, but i worry that if she showed him this post, he would view it as 'inappropriate' and take her phone too as well as her laptop, so she would be then totally isolated.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/14 04:48 PM
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cool. My initial reaction was to believe her, hence my post further down the thread:)
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/14 04:42 PM
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I don't think it's bitching. To me 'bitching' is just complaining about your SO for the sake of complaining. This girl seems to genuinely want help and advice about what she can do, and is being at least semi-honest about her own flaws.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/14 04:10 PM
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oh shit i never thought it could be trolling. I tend to think the best of people at first and believe them, i need to get my cynical filter up more.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/14 11:53 AM
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Run. I don't care if I'm being a 'bad RPW' by saying this, but I am genuinely afraid for this girl. He's cut you off from everything. No outside communication, no friends, no family. You are alone and utterly dependent on him. It does not sound like this is something you have chosen or are happy with. From what the poster has said, he is not dominant, he is not a good leader. He is abusive. Moreover I do not want concern trolls coming in and thinking that this is a RPW relationship, or that we e…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/14 11:47 AM
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I totally understand how you feel, a lot of it seems a bit wtf to me and is massive generalisations. BUT...it helps to understand the position these men are coming from....a lot of them are really angry, because they've been screwed over by the world and women and they're just starting to work through that process. I think there was a thread a couple of days ago where one of the mods from TRP came here and explained it perfectly - I will try link if I can find it. If it upsets you, as it does me…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/14 11:40 AM
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wow we're mostly all 'INTJ's or 'INFJ's. Do you think that has an effect on our preferred relationship style/men?
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/14 10:31 AM
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I suffer from RBF :(. It's so annoying sometimes I feel like stapling my face into a smile. I've even had people ask me in the street, supermarket etc if I'm ok, when my mind's just somewhere else like thinking about what to make for dinner, or what colour to paint my nails later. If anyone has a cure please tell me!
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/14 10:29 AM
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Well these are my results. Not really sure what it means though, but the 'I' part is definitely accurate - I'm neither introvert nor extrovert, but have more introvert tendencies than extrovert tendencies. INFJ Introvert(67%) iNtuitive(38%) Feeling(50%) Judging(44%) You have distinctive preference of Introversion over Extraversion (67%) You have moderate preference of Intuition over Sensing (38%) You have moderate preference of Feeling over Thinking (50%) You have moderate preference of Judging …
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/14 10:10 AM
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same, I'm learning to drive right now but it's soooo hard. I take the bus sometimes too but I don't really like it, I get travel sick easily so prefer to walk most places. My leg and ass muscles thank me for it though lol.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/14 10:00 AM
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make the walking part of your weight loss goals? I'm also fighting some chub, so I'm trying to make walking to work part of my schedule. It's only about 2 miles away from my house but I get lazy haha.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/14 08:27 PM
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I don't have the sources right now to back it up, but I have a hunch the studies that 'reveal' such a big wage gap don't take into account things like maternity leave, that only women take either. Hmmm. Obviously I'd be pissed if myself and a male co-worker doing exactly the same job were getting paid differently, but as far as I know it's rare that that actually happens.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/14 06:13 PM
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This will be unpopular but oh well. My impression, from what you've said, is that you're treating her like a 3 year 'plate' (that's what they call it right?), rather than a LTR. If you don't like her enough to give her a bit of the beta as well as the alpha, then break it off, move on and save both of you some bother.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/14 10:54 AM
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I'll give you the short version of my relationship: we each play to our strengths. I take care of him in the way he needs, he takes care of me in the way I need. I listen to him & respect him and try to keep him happy. I work on myself and try to be the best version of myself I can be, he is already great but also strives for self-improvement. End result = love, happiness and peace. There are the details like belly full balls empty etc, but the 'spirit' of it is the important thing I think.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/14 10:46 AM
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Can't you talk to him about this? I mean talk, not shout, scream, cry etc. He clearly loves you if he wants to marry you so he will care about how you feel. It is concerning that you're already worrying about him divorcing you, when you aren't even married yet. I don't have much else to add since I am still learning about the ways in which marriage can be risky for both parties, but especially men. But can I make a gentle suggestion - if you worry about him leaving you constantly, it sounds like…
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/14 10:27 AM
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Get your schedule sorted now while you're near the start and you'll be fine :) When I was writing my research papers & studying for my finals, I went to the library every weekday, 9am - 6pm, and treated it like a job where I had set parts of the day I would work on set things. It helps cs then you don't get too overwhelmed and your time in the evenings/weekends is your own. And you don't have to bring that stress home to your SO. I didn't have too many classes at that point though which made it …
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/14 10:10 AM
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This week I'm trying to get enough sleep. Between finishing one job and starting another, keeping on top of the house chores, laundry, feeding me and Mr D healthy tasty dinners & lunches, I'm wearing myself out. Enforced early nights with a book for me!
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/14 10:07 AM
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home reorganising is the bomb isn't it. I looooove pulling all the stuff out of one room and completely rearranging and de-cluttering. So refreshing!
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/14 10:04 AM
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Me too. I'm just finishing up at one job and starting a new one, so my schedule is super duper hectic right now. I'm doing OK with keeping a schedule and finding time for (most) things, but I worry about losing focus on stuff/ forgetting to do things.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/14 10:02 AM
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cool :) me and my OH were thinking about getting some solovairs to replace our most worn out pairs of docs, cs they are still made in the UK so probably better quality, whereas new docs are made in China now I think.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/14 09:57 AM
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Where I'm at with this is similar to wendy-fly to be honest. But please don't think you're invading our space - this post is extremely helpful and your contributions are certainly welcome. I kinda feel like there's so many female spaces where women can talk openly to each other about their feelings, but guys get a raw deal in that respect.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/14 10:25 AM
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I don't think it matters :) I have dated someone a year younger than me, and men 7-12 years older than me. My current partner is my age and I think he's wonderful. I enjoy us being the same age because we are going through similar things, like leaving uni and starting careers/adulthood together.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/14 10:07 AM
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its not about how we are to the world, its about how we are specifically to our men This! We respect our men and keep them happy. Apart from that, we can be and do a whole bunch of different things. People do like to make so many assumptions about us don't they.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/14 07:55 AM
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omg another Docs lover :D Pretty much my standard every day wear is a cute dress, tights, and a pair of badass boots. Mr D looooooves it, he says girls in Docs are really sexy.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/14 07:50 AM
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hell no, I love PIV, and actively dislike the sensation of buttsex. I've tried it so I'm going on my personal experience here :)
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/14 07:39 AM
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hahah I think a lot of guys do want to do it, cs it's taboo or something? I was basically in your situation, except Mr D wanted to try it and no other woman had let him. So i figured why not a couple of times, but having had the experience and knowing I find it unpleasant and completely un-enjoyable, he's satisfied his curiosity, and we won't be repeating.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/14 07:38 AM
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yeah I did try it a couple of times with him so I know I don't like it and probably never would find it comfortable, let alone enjoyable. But that's cool, your SO is lucky that she enjoys it.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/14 07:35 AM
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I get ya. I feel quite sad about the thought of having a boundary where I wouldn't cook dinner for him, it's one of my favourite parts of the day :( that and ahem being intimate.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/14 07:31 AM
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This is so relevant to me today. Under a mountain of stress, insomnia, chores and house things needing doing, I think I'm entirely guilty of giving off the 'never mind, I'll do it myself!' vibe :( I need to think of a way to make it up to Mr D tomorrow. But in the mean time, best get myself back in a frame of gratitude. So here are some of the gifts he has given me today: love physical affection: hugs, hair stroking etc. he worked hard at his job patience and forgiveness with my flaws generally …
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 10:48 PM
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no problem. I realise I could probably have phrased the OP better!
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 10:34 PM
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that reminds me of that couple in Dexter...Hannah McKay and Wayne Randall. Anyone seen it?
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 10:31 PM
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that's really quite beautiful
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 10:29 PM
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no not at all. I suppose I was just curious about everyone's individual boundaries of what they would find acceptable, and to what extend they would or wouldn't ever say 'no' to their partner. I'm being completely non-judgemental or presumptuous (I hope) about individual preferences/relationships, but I thought it might spark some interesting discussion :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 10:27 PM
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to be honest, I think really deep down I would know it wasn't OK and that being chubby was basically not good. But when you don't want to admit to something, your mind can do powerful things. Again, feminism has a lot to answer for in this respect. Body positivity/acceptance can be a good thing for some people sure, but not if you want to actually attract/keep a sexy man.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 08:17 PM
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my SO also speaks openly to me which can be difficult sometimes but ultimately I'm very grateful for. I can take it from him because he loves me and cares for me, but can't deal with it from websites like ROK. I acknowledge that weakness on my part though so I just tend to stay away.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 08:14 PM
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yeah and if I'm honest I find a lot of it really awful, because I'm sensitive and so some of the things said/posted leave me feeling upset and offended. So I don't really go there because what's the point. It's a male space so I do understand why the tone is way more harsh, and that's cool so I'll stay out.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 08:12 PM
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Feminism & not having healthy food role models growing up. So I don't know if it's really a 'RPW thing', but my sense of self-improvement has definitely come on in leaps and bounds since learning about this stuff.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 08:07 PM
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Look, I've just read this thread and whilst I'm sure you had the best of intentions in making it, the one thing that's screaming at me from your comments is that you want validation. It seems rather insecure. If you wanted a 'purple pill' debate, surely you would have taken it to that subreddit? You don't have all RP/RPW ideas, and that's cool, it's ok. I probably still have some 'blue pill' type ideas, but I don't talk about them in this sub because it's neither appropriate nor productive. You …
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 08:05 PM
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oh wow! That's really interesting :) I didn't even realise it was a 'thing' tbh. Also I think it's nice/sweet how much faith your SO has in your birth abilities. Definitely with you on having medical professionals there though.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 07:53 PM
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I would definitely advise against naked pics/video. You never know what could happen to them. Not to imply your SO would do anything by any means, but if anything got onto the internet by mistake it's there forever and would be embarrassing for you both.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 07:50 PM
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That I can eat cake all the time and be a fatty if I want and there shouldn't be any consequences and my SO should still find me just as attractive if I gain a bunch of chub. I mean, I like cake. Cake is yummy. I like baking cake. But the lil blue pill monster on my shoulder likes to tell me it doesn't matter how much I eat it when I know in reality any more than like once a week for my body ain't gonna be good.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 06:39 PM
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that's really cool, I always wish I grew up speaking different languages. IMHO it's an amazing gift you can give a child.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 06:34 PM
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why did he want you to? I haven't really heard about unassisted birth before so I'm curious about it.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 06:29 PM
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I thought this might be a popular one haha. I tried it once with him so he could see what the fuss is about as all past women have refused him, but I really don't like it. I don't know if its mean of me to deny him but he says he wouldn't want to do anything sexually that makes me feel really uncomfortable.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 05:17 PM
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outside of RPW you might get told that's unhealthy but I think the level of trust you place in your SO is incredibly sweet :) I think an important part of it is knowing he has your best interest at heart, no?
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 04:40 PM
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hahah yes I'm on about in the realm of realistic things, not talking about situations like if he asked you to go on a quest to find him a talking dragon :P When you say share him sexually, do you mean in like a 3some situation, or would it be he can go bone other ladies on his own?
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 04:37 PM
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we are like this, me and Mr D generally think in a similar way on most things. I have certain things I would not do/put up with like infidelity, but he's never asked me to do otherwise or crossed those boundaries so it's never come up. If it did I'm sure we'd just talk about it and figure something out.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 04:29 PM
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so mine's very NSFW. Anal. Lol.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 04:27 PM
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wow that's dedication!
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 03:40 PM
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thanks me too :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 11:33 AM
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Thanks :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 11:33 AM
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I'd 2nd this, in the sense that communication is really, really important. You can't expect each other to be mind readers, and often an issue that seemed like a big problem can just come down to miscommunication or unrealistic expectations, and the problem just goes away if you talk about it.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 07:37 AM
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cool. Good luck :) please let us know how it goes.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 07:11 AM
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i understand feeling weirded out by it if you're sat in the next room, I probably would too. But if my OH wants a bit of 'alone time' when he's alone....I think it's kinda hot :p
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/14 09:55 PM
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your girlfriend is being a massive hypocrite and you're pandering to it? Good luck. She doesn't own your junk, you do. Stop being ashamed of your sexuality. If she reads this subreddit, can't you tell her to make a thread and we will explain this directly to her?
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/14 09:52 PM
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I've stopped struggling to force the world and everyone in it to be the way I think it should be. Instead I've embraced who I am, who my partner is, and how things naturally work best for our relationship. I'm literally 100 times happier, in every aspect of my life. Where there was worry and struggle before, now there is peace. That makes me sound like a giant hippie but it's true. Edit - it's also encouraged me to be more critical of myself, in the best possible way. I see my flaws and I want t…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/14 08:12 PM
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I'd say your best bet is to first be the best version of yourself you can be. Be really masculine and confident. That for a start will weed out women who don't like that kind of thing or are intimidated by it, and will attract women who will complement you rather than compete with you. Look for a woman with passion and interests beyond getting trashed at the bar.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/14 10:17 AM
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to be honest with you, i think TRP is more of a 'thing' than RPW. Like, here at RPW we have certain values that we hold in common, but we're really just a whole bunch of varied women trying to do our best to get and/or keep and make happy a decent man. IMHO TRP is more of a 'philosophy' and is more well know, so that may be why. Also, feminism.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/14 10:12 AM
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you sound extremely bitter and resentful of our happy relationships. My thinking is you might not be so happy yourself. Post a thread about the issues that are causing this and we may be able to help? Thankfully I hold men, specifically my man, in much higher regard and respect that you appear to.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/14 09:20 PM
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definitely! I'm not a fan of ugg boots though because I keep seeing people wearing them walking on the side of the sole, it looks so horrible
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/14 01:41 PM
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sounds like you both need to take a breather before you respond to stuff :/
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/14 09:12 PM
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:/ what kind of thing are we talking about here?
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/14 07:31 PM
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Montana? I'm going on holiday? Awesome :D apparently I'm also getting married while I'm there.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/14 05:28 PM
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we're actually going out with friends that night to eat/party , otherwise I would :) I already cook dinner almost every night anyway :)
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/14 05:21 PM
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I also really hate getting flowers to know they will just die soon anyway. Mr D once bought me a bunch of daffodils from the supermarket for pennies, but I thought they were the best thing ever :)
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/14 08:00 AM
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OK ladies story time. Last year's V-day was our first one together, and back when I was basically a horrible girlfriend. I did the typical "you don't need to get me anything" routine, only to feel upset when he did, in fact, do nothing for it. He was pretty hurt that I was disappointed, because he thought I didn't care about all that materialistic shit. In my head I was thinking about all the awesome surprise stuff he was gonna do, and predictably got even more disappointed when I saw girls post…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/14 07:58 AM
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If your man don't get you some shit on valentines day he just dont want pussy that day. I hope you're not suggesting we deliberately withhold physical affection from our men because they didn't give us the right kind of flowers or something?
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/14 07:52 AM
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"mother of two teenagers".....ugh imagine your mother introducing herself as 'Hi, I'm Sexy' at parents evening and to your future bf/gf. Cringe.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/14 07:45 AM
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I like the messy bun too for doing chores or working out or whatever. Bonus is my hair goes wavy when I take it down. For 'everyday' sort of hair, I usually just leave it down, or in some sort of half-up do to pin my bangs off my face. Mine's about an inch off proper boob length, and has some layers in from about collarbone length, so I have plenty to work with :) I have some long-ish side bangs too. I'll check out the youtube videos. My SO pretty much likes my hair whatever (I'm lucky haha), he…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/14 10:51 PM
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no idea if it would help but I've started taking a Biotin supplement and it seems to be improving my skin a bit as well as making my nails stronger, perhaps something you could try?
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/14 10:22 PM
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I found the list I used. I ignored a couple of them that I didn't like, but some are really fun and/or thought provoking. http://www.lovethegrows.com/p/qa-questions.html
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/14 10:17 PM
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I want to ask better questions. There was a blog post on momestary about asking better questions to your loved ones as a way to connect. I realize how often "what did you do at school today?" Is never met with a real reflective answer. Same with "how was your day?" I love this one. A few months ago I found a list of questions to ask your SO online, will link to the article if I can find it again. It was fun and really interesting, we found out loads of new surprising things about each other :) A…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/14 10:08 PM
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yeah. Besides, isn't annoying if you want to do stuff and the girl can't do it cause she's wearing heels? I'd rather be cute but comfy enough to go off on random adventures without being prissy about what I'm wearing on my feet and if I can walk properly.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/14 10:06 PM
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-Grow out my hair,finally get it to the base color I want and keep it that way. Learn more ways to keep it out of my way besides ponytails because my husband hates them. I've been trying to figure out what to do with all this hair I've grown out too. I've been browsing pics of rockabilly/50's type hair and I love it, it's so glamorous and fits my clothing/makeup style anyway. I'm rubbish with hair though so I think I'll be spending quite a lot of time in front of the mirror with Youtube video tu…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/14 10:05 PM
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Actually finish writing a novel That's pretty awesome! One of my biggies this year is also saving money. I've found it's helped me to sit down and work out how much I want to save up, for what, and put a deadline on it. That way, I've calculated how much I need to put aside each month and fingers crossed its working so far :)
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/14 10:01 PM
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those all sound really fun and useful :) If you're anything like me, I wouldn't worry about getting lazy with stuff when you move in with your boyfriend. I found that I went totally the other way when I moved in with mine, I cooked way more and was way more vigilant about keeping things clean. Something about having someone else see the mess etc makes me way more motivated, and sharing meals with someone is good motivation for cooking yummy things.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/14 09:59 PM
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ooh that would definitely be fun. I can speak some French, but I've always fancied giving Spanish a go too. Or something more unusual like Polish :D
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/14 09:54 PM
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Oh cool, I shall go read
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/14 04:47 PM
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Oh a breadmaker sounds cool, I've never used one before. I like kneading the dough myself, I really enjoy tactile stuff like that. But a bread maker sounds good for convenience.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/14 04:43 PM
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yep, my Granny told me that in her day, there was no such thing as a fat or unfit housewife, because they didn't have the conveniences we have now, and worked really hard at it. Now I think we have to consciously be more active, by exercising and so on. (that's not to say you don't already work hard at it btw, it's just some context I thought was relevant)
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/14 04:28 PM
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I like to think so :p
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/14 03:57 PM
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fair enough. I'm not gonna pretend I don't strongly disagree with those views, but I see no reason to pursue that. I was a little freaked out but the way you explained it made more sense. That's the beauty of RPW I think, we all have such varied views about so many different things, but we find agreement in relationship-related topics.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/14 03:48 PM
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It's a fair comment, sometimes keeping our emotions in check is exactly what's needed though :)
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/14 03:42 PM
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Thanks for answering my question.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/14 03:26 PM
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I'm not frustrated or worked, up, I'm concerned and disturbed at the idea that people still think other groups of people should be disenfranchised. I read the RPW AMA thread, which is where I saw views about who should and shouldn't be allowed to vote pop up. I don't venture into TRP for the reason you said, nor do I generally discuss my politics in RPW. I'm relieved that it is not the opinion of the majority. I won't continue this discussion further as I don't want to get into a massive debate …
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/14 03:25 PM
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This is a difficult one for me to bring up, but here goes: I read in another thread that some people who identify with TRP think that there should be an end to women's suffrage (i.e. the vote) and other pretty extreme things. This really concerns me :(. I'd like to know honestly, is that the view of a lot of people in RPW?
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/14 10:07 AM
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I'm probably also going to keep my last name - people call me both lol so if I changed it it'd be like I changed my first name too. Plus my SO has a really quite ugly last name, and he doesn't want to inflict it on me. It makes me a bit sad that we won't have the same family name though :( I also don't get why people get their knickers in such a twist over women changing their name on marriage. It's not even logical to get annoyed about, because for a start most people have their father's last n…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/14 09:26 PM
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me and Mr D got back a little while ago from having dinner in a restaurant, after we'd talked about what we were going to eat, he went right ahead and ordered for us both. It also gave me the warm fuzzies :) it's such a blessing to me that he does that, it shows me he cares, and because I'm really quite shy, it makes the whole experience easier/more enjoyable for me. It meant a lot to me that he didn't check with me first, he just did it. Like, we're going the right way, IYKWIM?
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/14 09:22 PM
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Heeled boots in winter? No thanks. I already broke my ankle years ago, I don't really wanna do the same trying to walk on ice and snow in mega heels. The rest is cute though. I'm lucky, Mr D really likes what he calls the 'cute, snuggly' look - woolly jumpers, beanie hats, furry boots, mittens etc.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/14 12:10 PM
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but then if he still buys her it she would have to drink it, and that frankly sounds repulsive :p
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/14 12:00 PM
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I see one partner in these situations taking care of something the other partner doesn't really care about, as being an act of kindness and love. If I had to decide absolutely everything I think I'd go potty. We have this with choosing a car. I'm doing my bit by learning to drive. I really couldn't give a toss what car we end up getting, as long as we stick within a budget, it's reliable etc. But Mr D knows way more about cars than me, and I trust him to make a good decision. It's such a weight …
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/14 10:14 AM
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Yep! I used to be a feminist, but I think the 'feminazis' that people fear are few and far between tbh. Now I'd probably describe myself as pro-womens-rights, rather than an 'active feminist', as I do believe there are a few areas where women do get a raw deal, especially in other parts of the world, and I have and still do work on campaigns against rape and domestic violence (against both sexes!). However, I really don't want to discuss that here, it is not appropriate and I don't want to be at…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/14 09:58 AM
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no man can give her security and a peace of mind until she learns to accept and love herself. I think this low self-esteem is why a lot of women end up up riding the CC :(
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/14 10:51 PM
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Hubs is not a "natural born alpha" but once I stepped to the side and gave him the opportunity he started exhibiting enough alpha traits to give me gina tingles and inspire my trust. I am/was in a similar situation and this has also happened to me. Mr D was/is quite blue pill and passive, but I love him and like him dearly, and I saw his potential. He has been constantly put down by past girlfriends and his mother, i.e. shrew women, and I wanted to give him a chance to thrive and become the best…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/14 09:46 PM
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I don't think I could productively add to the conversation tbh, so I'm staying away. That's why I'm so happy I found RPW :)
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/14 07:53 PM
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This is great! The parts about the difference between TRP and RPW were really helpful to me. I've decided to just not venture into TRP as i know a lot of it would make me feel offended/upset, and it's not my place to venture into.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/14 07:18 PM
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Crochet and sewing. I want to try learn a martial art once I've upped my fitness a bit too. Oh and Mr D is teaching me some basic DIY :D
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/14 07:08 PM
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hehe :p he gets the benefit of them anyway, everyone wins!
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/14 07:05 PM
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coming at things from a perspective of self-care, making yourself, your life, your home better to make yourself happy seems like a very healthy way to do it. I strive for this when I'm feeling less than thrilled about cleaning, working out etc.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/14 06:59 PM
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sticks hand up, also this for me too. With us it's the laundry. He would mix everything up, screw it up so it never dried, leave it there for ages. I had an epiphany where I realised there was no point criticising him for it, when I could just stop being lazy and do it myself, thereby saving us both the hassle. edit: I'd like to add I'm not complaining about him for the way he did it. My attitude was the problem - I thought my way was the right way, the only way, when in fact that was BS
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/14 06:56 PM
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I can't stress this enough with the control thing. We have a tendency to try and micromanage or control everything, but it's not healthy and is certainly not possible. You can't control what other people do, you can only control how you respond to their actions (or inactions!). I know I certainly struggle with this one, but we have to believe that in the grand scheme of things it will be ok and things will get done even if we don't do it or control it ourselves.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/14 06:52 PM
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i would not describe the op as a 'militant' feminist, i think that is inaccurate, but obviously i cannot speak for her in that respect. I completely understand what you are saying about cognitive dissonance though, and I have experienced it myself. I have since dealt with that and am at peace with my views and my relationship desires.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/14 06:08 PM
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cool thanks. I'm pleased someone else agrees re. the tit for tat, I was worried I was being too harsh, but it's my impression of the situation.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/14 01:58 PM
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no problem :) I also do it for if I'm going to be away from home without Mr D, for example visiting family. Then he has a home made ready meal he can just heat up, and I know he's eating well and it shows I'm thinking of him even if I'm away. I know he could make himself food but I like to do it.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/14 09:35 AM
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also can i make a suggestion re. the cooking thing, because it seems to be one of the things causing you the most stress. You don't have to cook every day, to have home-cooked food every day. You can cook big batches of stuff in one go (pasta sauce, soups, stews etc) and then freeze it in portions that you can heat up at a later date. Or for example if you cooked grilled chicken one night, make enough to have with salad again the next night. This is good for lunches too, and can save you lots of…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/14 09:28 AM
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I also agree with this. You can't be a good partner if you're not also looking after yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/14 09:25 AM
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It's great you're making these changes and it's having a positive influence on your relationship (hellllloooo lots of nookie :p), I also understand why you feel frustrated and upset. But I think it's because you're looking at this from the wrong perspective - it's not a 'tit for tat' situation where you do nice things for him because you expect him to do X Y or Z in return. That will never work. I know it's really, really hard, but you need to do these things without expectation or entitlement. …
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/14 09:23 AM
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WOW i just googled those dogs and they're huge and sooooo fluffy!
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/14 09:13 AM
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awww i love big dogs :) I'm not sure what we would get as it depends on a lot of things like how much we would be at home and so on. We will probably get a rescue dog either way.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/14 09:13 AM
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I think it's because the RP way of thinking is not always nice or easy. I've been mulling this over a little bit too, because I'm not totally RP across my whole life/ set of beliefs. For me where the RPW philosophy fits in is we see an imperfect world and act realistically to thrive in the best way we can in it. Rather than using all our energy trying to change everything. And I guess some folks take objection to that, rather than focusing on their own lives. That may just be me though, I'm cert…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/14 10:31 PM
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yes i definitely need to read up on this. I live in the UK so hopefully won't have as much of a problem. I just did a quick google and read this: http://chriskresser.com/fukushima-seafood which says there is not enough of a risk to worry about/stop eating fish, but I don't know how accurate it is.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/14 08:30 PM
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I don't eat meat but I might try with some fish :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/14 08:11 PM
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I use coconut oil often for my hair & skin but I've never tried to cook with it. Do you just use it in place of regular oil?
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/14 07:56 PM
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Some thoughts from this week: I've been suffering some sleep deprivation and hormonal mood swings so I'm trying to work on that because if I don't keep myself in check it can make me a pretty hideous person to be around. Things are looking up financially for Mr D and I, so we are enjoying planning some outings and trips. I've been working on my more feminine hobbies, in particular crochet, baking bread, and painting. Has anyone else noticed that feminine hobbies tend to be about providing comfor…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/14 07:40 PM
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I don't have any helpful resources but I was also wondering about this, since I haven't really heard about it before today. I shall listen to the comments here and go do some reading.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/14 07:33 PM
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sometimes women like to talk about their problems just to talk about them, share them, get it off their chest, for reassurance etc. Sometimes they are looking for advice/solutions. In my experience, and I think in general too, men tend to see a woman talking about problems = she wants you to give solutions. However if she isn't this can come across as you being a know-it-all/ overly bossy. The miscommunication can be irritating for both parties involved. It can be difficult to tell the differenc…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/14 07:32 PM
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I'm also of the brit variety :p those sound like smart plans, it's always good to have a backup.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/14 04:08 PM
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i see what you mean, self-improvement is always positive! You sound like you're already being really good to him :) If you don't want to answer I understand, but I'm curious about if you guys have talked over what would happen to your jobs should something bad happen to his business?
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/14 03:57 PM
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Don't look for doubts where you don't have them. You sound happy so why worry? It's really good of your boyfriend to give you the job so you don't have to worry about unemployment. Whilst me and Mr D were both at uni, we would often spend all day studying together at home or in the library, then relax with each other in the evenings, and I look back on that time fondly. That being said, I do get super excited to see him now in the evenings when we have spent all day apart at work, so I can see w…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/14 03:47 PM
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doing admin and project work (writing reports, analysing data, doing presentations etc). The job looks really interesting, plus it's local, there's good promotion opportunities, and best of all, they're really flexible about you changing your work hours should you need to for family and so on.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/14 07:44 AM
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you see for some of these I can objectively see they're bad (i.e. Miley Cyrus), but I think being a woman prevents me from seeing the unattractiveness of a lot of them. Something to do with the media and fashion constantly telling women it'd be a really cool idea to cut off all their hair or something. Of course, a lot of these women are actresses, so they may have cut off their hair for a role (i.e. Anne Hathaway). And they're all stunning anyway, so what looks ok on them would not look ok on s…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/14 07:35 AM
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that sounds so nice :) I don't think I would let Mr D have an input on my dress though, I'd want to get it sorted in secret and surprise him on the day by looking lovely for him. Also - "he had the big picture, I implemented the details" sounds like the perfect RPW relationship
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/14 06:54 PM
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I also have a question this thread has raised in my mind - as RPW, how much is the decision/ timing of having babies influenced by your SO? Like, does he have the final say so, is it a decision you naturally come to together, or do you have the lead on this decision? I'm curious :)
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/14 06:46 PM
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that's so lovely, your kids (and future grandkids) are very lucky to have a mama like you. I don't have that kind of extended family as my parents had me when they were older, so I'm working on building one for my future kids with my close friends.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/14 06:43 PM
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My parents were almost 40 when they had me (no siblings either), and as much as I love them I would not want my kids to go through some of the things I have and will do in the future because of that. I don't think I'd want to leave it later than 30 to start to be honest.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/14 06:40 PM
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i thought as much :(
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/14 06:34 PM
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I couldn't add any more to your comment but this is basically my view too. It's all pretty hideous isn't it. I can see why men run the other direction. Mr D and me often talk about getting getting married one day, as in we are planning for it but not in a hurry. We've already agreed that the wedding actually isn't the important bit, it's the relationship/marriage/life together that matters. So we won't be getting into debt, or taking money from parents to pay for it. Sure we'll have the nicest w…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/14 10:06 AM
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this this this! It seems to not even matter what the groom wants/thinks about anything, weddings for a lot of women seem to just be an excuse to act like an entitled princess, and care more about the 'stuff' rather than the marriage. It's so gross, no wonder men dread it. The media and wedding industry in general definitely perpetuates this.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/14 09:58 AM
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I'm surprised this thread got so many downvotes...not really sure why :/ I'm still in my 20s so no way near qualified to give advice. The one thing I'd really like to say to my teenage self though is: be nicer to your parents. I know you hate to admit it, but they really do know best about most things. Especially about the men you date.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/14 09:40 AM
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omg the naughty pics. A couple of years ago, a girl I lived with in uni accommodation dated a real asshole, and she let him take naked pics of her. They were shared with his friends, and when they broke up one of his friends posted them all over her facebook. It got incredibly ugly fast :( I'm trying to take lots of pics of our life together. Thankfully cs of facebook it's a lot easier to share your friends' and families' pics too. I've bought a couple of nice photo albums and I'm planning on pr…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/14 09:36 AM
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I'm aiming for boob length then! I was that but trimmed a couple of inches off to maintain health and get rid of some old split ends. Luckily my SO likes the pastel unnatural hair colours as we are both pretty alternative/ into alt music. If i was single though, I'd definitely pay attention to the colour advice :)
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/14 09:28 AM
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of course you can :) sounds like great advice for anyone.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/14 06:57 PM
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take them now? My parents take loads of trips now they're retired and it's awesome. Me and my SO are planning on travelling quite a bit before we have sproglets
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/14 06:56 PM
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being smart isn't unfeminine. It's good to be interesting and be able to hold a conversation with your man.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/14 06:52 PM
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but at least you didn't wait to have a baby till it was too late! I think this is a more common mistake now tbh.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/14 06:51 PM
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these are awesome! Especially the drinking one. I think a lot of girls my age think the only way to have fun is to drink til they puke, do really stupid things, and can't remember anything the next morning until memories start coming back and all they feel is regret. I'm incredibly ashamed to say i've been that girl in my teenage years but I've stamped out that behaviour. I have a 3 drink limit maximum now whenever I drink, but rarely go above 2. Happy but in control is the way I like it.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/14 06:50 PM
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I think different kinds of braids can look really cute too
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/14 06:43 PM
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definitely sticking with this one! I have a couple of questions for everyone though. how long is long? bob length? shoulder length? boob length? longer? I need some specifics here. What about hair colour? My hair's a kinda unappealing dark mousey blonde colour naturally, so I usually go for a slightly lighter blonde. I like experimenting a little bit with unnatural colour too, I'm talking a bit of pastel pink or something. That usually gets compliments :p Plus i know my SO likes redheads, so I w…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/14 06:43 PM
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so she's happier, has a great relationship, feels good in herself, but her friends don't like it? This has 'jealousy' stamped all over it. Also, I think women can and should be able to wear whatever the heck they like. I also think men can and should be able to have a preference in the qualities they look for when choosing a mate. You can probably tell where I'm going with this.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/14 11:21 PM
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this, so much. I used to have 'short' hair - like, between chin and shoulder length. Now it's boob length and it not only looks nicer, but is SO much easier. I only have to wash it twice a week, it looks relatively good without being styled, and I can do way more creative things with it. I'm fairly crap with hair though so working on that last one.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/14 11:19 PM
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ditto this ^ it's a thing? I need to get on this pronto.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/14 11:15 PM
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Thanks, I'm really excited about it. I used a lil of my 'girl game' tactics in the interview (looking nice, being pleasant, interested in what the interviewer was saying etc) and I like to think that helped too.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/14 11:12 PM
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aww that's lovely, thanks for sharing :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/14 03:38 PM
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Hey everyone, I can see there's been some concern about the spanking thing, so I really don't want to focus on that. The point of this thread was really just to share my story about what happens when I trusted my SO and let him be the strong one for me to lean on when I was in difficulty. Being vulnerable is hard for me sometimes, but with him it's becoming easier :) Some good news too...with his support I managed to land myself a new job! V excited right now!
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/14 07:36 AM
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sorry! The last thing I want to do is negatively affect this sub, I won't bring up the spanking thing again. Hopefully I've said enough here so that concern trolls realise it happens in a semi-playful way, because I want it to, and I consent to it.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/14 07:25 AM
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sorry I don't know what that is?
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/14 07:23 AM
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sorry to hear you've had such difficult health problems :( but good to know your H helps you cope! :) Mine is nothing in comparison but I've suffered (and still do sometimes) from depression and anxiety. My SO has helped me to begin healing myself and his firmness/refusal to take my BS is one of the ways he does that. To outsiders stuff like this can look wtf but to me it's one of the ways he shows me kindness and care.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/14 07:22 AM
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ahhh i get you...it is :p
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/14 09:54 PM
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...really?
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/14 09:48 PM
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probably something in between the two. He knows I like it, and there's certainly an element of playfulness in it :) Plus it calms me down if my mood's getting out of control. I have no idea if it's a part of RPW philosophy, it's just my preference. I know in some people's mind it'll be the image of 1950's woman over the man's knee getting a serious spanking like a naughty child, for me it's not like that at all, it's less serious. But of course I'm not knocking people who do prefer it to be that…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/14 09:47 PM
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Yup I know right...it's like sorry for participating in something that I like and is helpful to me, I'll stop exercising choice in my personal life shall I
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/14 07:41 PM
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oh ok i think i get it more now, thanks for the explanation :) I'm on a lot of 'teams' but some definitely have my priority - i.e. my man comes first. I got enough love to go around to all the folks I care about though.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/14 07:26 PM
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I'm a lil bit confused by this, I think I see what it's getting at but can't I be both? I'm definitely Team My Man but I'm also Team My Women (i.e. my girlfriends) and I don't see the two as being mutually exclusive? Maybe I'm not getting it properly. And Team My Family for that matter. Hahah it's starting to sound like a tongue twister.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/14 07:19 PM
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no problem :) I'm kind of in awe my SO's strength right now, for how he lets me lean on him and be my rock.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/14 06:37 PM
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I don't really 'let' him, that's why it works. Of course if i told him seriously that I didn't want him to he would stop, but not without a conversation about why first. He knows me so well.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/14 06:35 PM
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This is really cool and certainly struck a chord with me. Sounds like you will be just fine. Also - i don't think it would bore us to hear the actual things you're grateful for :p
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/14 04:14 PM
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wow that blogger sounds extremely insecure :/
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/14 10:49 AM
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Oh, i almost forgot! And this is really important. Once the conflict/problem is resolved, we end it with affection. And then I move on. I don't hold a grudge about it, I think it's really bad for a relationship to hold onto a past disagreement and then hold it over someone's head and keep bringing it up in future conflicts.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/14 08:31 PM
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Here are the things I try to do. Note I said 'try', I'm not perfect and I don't always manage it but I'm working on it. Think about my own behaviour first. Generally if he ever does 'disappoint or let me down' it's because I feel like he's not fulfilling his role in the relationship. So of course I am upset about this and will discuss it with him if necessary, but first of all I try to think if I've been doing my side of our relationship properly, have I been a good partner etc. So after that...…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/14 08:27 PM
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sounds great. Could we also maybe do something like a regular 'what would you do?' thread? Where the mods (or someone else) post a particular situation/dilemma and we can discuss what we would/wouldn't do, people can chip in with their experiences etc. I think it could be helpful?
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/14 08:12 PM
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This is probably a bit off-topic, but I feel like reading RPW is making me a better woman in general. Not just a better partner.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/14 11:10 PM
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Update: the baking for his work buddies went down really well, they all said he's so lucky to have a nice gf (haha as if, I'm the lucky one here!!) and he said it gave him major 'man points' which is good as it's a new job. Yey :D Another update: I was chatting with another female friend earlier when she found out I made his packed lunch. Her response? She scornfully said "I'd never do that for my bf. He's perfectly capable of doing that himself"....errrr i know he is, but missing the point are …
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/14 07:03 PM
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I'm not religious at all, I'm atheist if anything. Also I'm not really 'RPW' in my wider values - politically and socially I'm more of a leftie. I don't talk about that stuff here though as I don't feel its productive or appropriate for me to do so. However my relationship is a totally different matter...I decided to try out some of the RPW stuff to make my relationship a happier, more stable one and it's worked really well. I believe in these values for my own relationship and have found peace …
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/14 06:58 PM
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those all sound like things everyone deserves to have in good relationship :)
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/14 09:44 AM
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People have preferences for their sexual partners? Tsk tsk that's like, so oppressive. Notice it's never the other way around? No one ever gets pissed at a woman because she's said she prefers tall men, or men with beards, or men that dress a certain way.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/14 12:12 PM
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good advice, thanks :) I think in my situation we're still feeling our way to a happy medium where we're not having shouting matches and he doesn't get shouty angry over little things, but where he doesn't completely withdraw and so he feels like he can express his annoyance/disappointment/whatever in a healthy way. I would probably struggle not to shout right back if someone shouted at me too, so i see why that wouldn't be productive. Obviously it's up to him to decide how he responds to things…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/14 09:49 AM
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i don't really have any helpful advice OP but it sounds like those girls who are getting jealous of their boyfriends' friendships with you need to worry more about their own relationship with their man. I am only a few years older than you so i really hope this doesn't sound patronising but if you're still doing school/college, worry about that in the mean time rather than being more sexy for men. Keep working on yourself and the rest will follow :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/14 08:29 AM
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I've found this can happen for sure. In my life it's a positive thing though, I go against the general RPW grain here but a number of my close friends are men (they are also my SO's friends) and we love each other like family. I know for sure that they don't see me in any other way than sisterly. They often come to me for advice about women too. I've noticed since I've been trying to improve myself, be more feminine, and be nicer in general, they can be rather protective of me which is nice.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/14 08:27 AM
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ouch, this is certainly food for thought for me. My dude is the quiet type too. Sometimes I can tell he's annoyed with me or something's getting him down, or if we've bickered a bit he tends to withdraw and I hate it. I find myself wishing he'd just let it out and shout at me. I worry too that it's my fault he gets all quiet, because of my previous nagging/bitchy ways. Luckily I have found RPW and am trying to work on that. Hmmmm I need to contemplate on this some more.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/14 08:21 AM
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awww :) in the spirit of this thread, what nice things would your ideal partner do for you?
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/14 08:14 AM
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Ditto! My guy's really into gaming, I'm not really but he gets me to give whatever game he's playing a go sometimes. He really likes me to sit on his lap at the PC while he guides me through it for some reason haha. It makes me feel really special that he wants to share his hobby with me :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/14 08:13 AM
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dayummmm i need to learn this haha
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/14 09:02 PM
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i'm also super grumpy if i don't get my 8 hours. I get up with my SO at like 6am every day as he has to go to work a lot earlier than I do....sometimes I have to have a sneaky nap later on or i struggle to get through the day if we've erm stayed up late.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/14 08:50 PM
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good luck on the baby-making!
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/14 08:49 PM
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i know what you mean, i don't do nice stuff for him with the expectation of him saying anything/getting anything in return, but when he does make a nice comment about what i've done around the house or food i've cooked, it gives me a really warm and fuzzy feeling inside. Eeee _^ I'm so lucky.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/14 08:48 PM
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haha good idea :p don't forget to do something nice for yourself while he's away, I'm sure he'll want to come to a happy lady :)
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/14 03:15 PM
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I forgot to say, I had some of our food shopping budget left over, so I've got in a few bottles of his favourite ale to surprise him with when he gets back :)
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/14 03:14 PM
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aww that's so nice :) I love doing Sunday roasts, I think I will cook one for my SO and our friends next weekend. It's cold here too, I think I will send mine with a leftover portion of tonight's dinner (veggie pie) to put in the microwave at work tomorrow.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/14 03:14 PM
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definitely go for it, it gets way easier once you get past the first couple of lessons. For me it helped to get a female teacher, she is super nice and understands the way I needs to learn stuff. Plus she puts up with my silliness and nervousness.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/14 08:35 PM
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I'm still learning to drive! I feel like a right idiot because I'm in my 20s and still can't do it. I'm quite a nervous driver so I was a bit reluctant to start. In truth the only reason I'm finally getting round to it is because my SO gently (but firmly) told me it's time and I need to get it done, so when we are able to get a car I'll have my license.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/14 04:54 PM
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also I really hope this isn't gonna offend anyone, but I think quite a few women in this subreddit are older than me? So as a woman in my early 20s I REALLY like learning from women who have way more live experience and knowledge than me.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/14 04:51 PM
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i love this! And all the suggestions in the comments. I'm not taking it too literally because a few of those I wouldn't do (I don't live in the US), but generally it's advice to learn useful life skills and grow as a person? Rather than learn to be selfish and bratty (like that ahem...other...list). Am I right? Edit: It's a dull one but I'd also add 'learn to clean you home' to this list. You'd be surprised how many people in their early 20's can't/won't do this. I know a lot of my friends don't…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/14 04:50 PM
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right now, I only have maybe one or two 'housewifey' days a week. Both myself and my man work, but he is full time whereas I'm part time and also job-hunting. My stay-at-home days look something like this: Morning: get up when my partner does, have breakfast with him. Then he goes off to work. do my own getting ready, shower etc. run any errands I need to (food shopping, posting stuff etc) tidy house and general clean (washing up, hoover, wipe down surfaces etc. do any laundry that needs doing. …
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/14 04:18 PM
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Great advice! It's so easy to get complacent with things like this, so thanks for the reminder.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/14 11:10 AM
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I can't imagine living in a 'tit for tat' relationship where every job, chore, decision, task has to be shared exactly between partners for them to feel 'equal'...that's so dull! And not to mention inefficient and a waste of everyone's time. Since when is playing to each other's strengths and skills a bad thing? We do it in all other areas of life, so why not in relationships. Surely when a couple is a 'team' they each work to do things 'for the team' rather than 'we both must do exactly half of…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/14 10:59 AM
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I was in your shoes not so long ago. For me it goes something like: still a feminist in the 'general' sense - about issues in society etc. I have plenty of goals for myself and do very well academically and so on. more RPW in my relationship. I prefer when my partner leads us because I love, like, and respect him enormously. I'm extremely grateful to him for thinking I'm worth it, and for making my life happier and easier. I like doing typically 'feminine' things like cooking, taking care of peo…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/14 10:47 AM
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not sure I can really give any helpful advice, but I'm also in a similar situation to you. I was raised veggie so I'd never cooked any meat or anything before I got together with my current SO. I do all the cooking for us, and our evening meal is always veggie, partly because I don't want to cook two different evening meals, and partly because of cost (we're on a very tight budget). I've talked openly with him about how he feels about this and he said he's totally OK with it, because he knows I …
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/14 10:21 AM
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That's actually a really good idea about doing your masters via long distance learning while you have little kids at home. I might actually consider doing that, it really makes sense.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/13 12:45 PM
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Hi! Another lurker here. I'm very new to RPW, just trying to figure out whether it's for me and my relationship. I'm in my mid 20s, just graduated university, and in a long term co-habiting relationship of just over 2 years. Like a lot of ladies in this thread it seems I am a feminist in the general sense, and I do believe in a lot of feminist ideals. However, I feel like feminism really fails women because it seems to focus on an idealised world that doesn't exist, and tells women 'you should b…
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/13 10:30 AM
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really enjoyed reading this. Got loads of areas that are a 'work in progress' kinda thing. One thing i love doing is my nails, it's a small thing but makes me feel put together and groomed if my nails look nice. Plus my SO sometimes likes to pick out the colour so that's fun. Oh and I'm growing my hair out really long, it's almost at boob length :D
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/13 01:55 AM
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