Getting to know you- MBTI style

wendy-fly · 2014-02-07T04:36:25+00:00

I am INFP to the core. Known as "the dreamer" or "idealist" which pretty accurately describes me. Intensely introspective, conflict avoidant at all costs, and reserved. I do actually use MBTI to try to figure out what I need to work on. It helped me a lot in realizing that I need creative outlets and that I also need to feel like im helping someone to be happy. It gave me a lot of perspective in relationships when I realized that I idealize my partner. Helped me break up with my ex because it finally hit me that I was putting him on a fake pedestal.

I also believe some types are inherently better together but I see no reason to say that some types arent compatible. My boyfriend is ENFP and compliments me great. Draws me out of my shell, we have the same "emotional needs" haha.

Iv always heard that female INFP make great wives/girlfriends/partners haha. Iv also always heard people say that INFP men usually end up in the friendzone because they allow themselves to be emotional support systems for the people around them and also have the idealization of their partners which can hurt them.

Some of my friends are ENTJ. It seems like it would be a really good man to catch, but seeing my friends, I think ENTJ women would need an even more ENTJ man because damn they are strong leaders themselves. It would take a lot to get them to submit to anyone.

PhantomDream09 · 2014-02-07T04:58:34+00:00

I'm an INFJ and my SO is an INTJ....although he never feels exhausted from being around other people, and can easily pass as a natural extrovert. I, on the other hand, am very sensitive to social situations. He knows several couples with the INTJ and INFJ pairing. The best part (for me) is that being with Occam actually has the same "recharging" benefits as spending time alone. I never feel tired or drained around him, and he actually acts as an energy shield when we go out together. As long as I'm near him, I don't get overwhelmed of feel exhausted. Occam is the portrait of an INTJ, with a healthy helping of stoicism. I think our types are very compatible, and he understands my needs and limitations very easily.

If I had less awareness, or mastery over my emotions, then my feels could definitely run wild and cause problems. It's something I work at, because I severely dislike conflict. When I have a strong, negative impulse, I make a point to bite it back and approach the situation neutrally.

[deleted] · 2014-02-07T04:30:52+00:00

strong Intj with entj leanings in my social face. My husband Is Genghis Khan of the entj's. our relationship models are like Kirk/Spock, zod /Ursa and magneto and mystique.

scallopkid · 2014-02-07T13:15:48+00:00

These things never work for me. INTJ but.. You have slight preference of Introversion over Extraversion (11%) You have moderate preference of Intuition over Sensing (50%) You have marginal or no preference of Thinking over Feeling (1%) You have marginal or no preference of Judging over Perceiving (1%)

morganlane · 2014-02-07T14:13:08+00:00

INTJ/ISTJ. I always score pretty strongly on the IxTJ, but the N/S is always a toss-up.

wendy-fly · 2014-02-07T04:02:48+00:00

I am an INFJ. It is the counselor, protector, idealist. I feel it describes me surprisingly well. We are systematic outwardly but rely heavily on intuition and instincts but we are usually right. I've been asked if I'm psychic but I don't believe in psychic abilities but in logic and extrapolating intuitively from that logic. If you feel X, it makes sense you would also feel Y. We are highly sensitive to conflict, strong value systems and a low tolerance of cognitive dissonance. According to this, in Harry Potter Lupin was an INFJ.

It means I'm very into my feeeeeeeeeelings and I frame things as such in my relationships. I might not be able to tell you why I think you are mad at me, but I feel it (and I am usually right). I also avoid conflict and get my feelings hurt easily. The good news is that I'm nurturing, loyal, and you don't have to tell me when you've had a bad day, I'll know it immediately and will know how to make you feel better.

My husband is an INFP. He is easy going where I am a planner. It makes me nervous because I like a plan and he likes to feel things as he goes. It works well because he too is into feeeeeeelings and able to meet me emotionally and not shy away from how intensely I feel things. He calms my emotional tornados. "Being with him made my brain quiet. I didn't have to invent a thing". We both tend to avoid conflict which can be good or bad.

I need to trust him more and get some P in my J. I need to work on going with his flow more and trusting that while his vision is not bullet pointed, it is still a beautiful and realistic vision.

I would like to be less of a planner and more go-with-the-flow. I am working on not needing every problem addressed immediately with a 12 point action plan with six back-up plans. It's okay to be uncomfortable and get my grubby hands off the wheel and I feel like my J is part of my problem.

sugarcrush · 2014-02-07T04:21:27+00:00

I am an ISFJ and my husband is (a very strong!) INTJ. I feel like both of them capture us pretty well, but at the same time it's kind of one of those "just vague enough to be true" things, so it's fun to look at but I don't put a ton of stock into it. The heart of our types is definitely true though- I'm a "feeler" while he is almost 100% logically driven and can be... well, a bit emotionally/socially slow. He occasionally jokes he has a touch of the aspergers, to give you an idea.

ISFJ is generally described as "the nurturer" or something along those lines. I greatly enjoy caring for others and draw a lot of my self value out of relationships, for better or for worse. I also try to keep the peace... Sometimes this is bad because I bottle up my feelings for awhile and then have an outburst (one of the things I'm working on).

The obvious differences in our types can cause minor issues of the "how does your brain even work that way?!" type but I think this is pretty much negated by my deference. Overall though, I think the differences make us more compatible, and we balance each other out. Both of us being introverted matches up well and we are perfectly happy at home together instead of the bar :) Whether MBTI is true or not I'm extremely happy with my choice in husband!

wendy-fly · 2014-02-07T04:33:29+00:00

This sites type descriptions have a list of what relationship type each type have with the other types when you scroll down to the bottom

http://typelogic.com/infj.html

sierrasecho · 2014-02-07T05:03:07+00:00

Sigh. It never occurred to me... but yah, that's me. ;)

sierrasecho · 2014-02-07T05:33:08+00:00

As a further note, my SO and I are both INTJ. We like our downtime together, and we are incredibly compatible.

ddrluna · 2014-02-07T06:10:22+00:00

Seeing quite a few INFJs around here! I'm one too. I really like this test because I feel it really accurately captures a person's personality. Most if not all of the INFJ traits suit me to a T. I've taken it multiple times and my traits have just gotten stronger over time.

My fiance has taken it a few times. Unlike me, he's gotten different results each time he's taken it. But I think that the one we established was most accurate was ENFP. Hilariously, the type that's most likely to decry tests like these as inaccurate. In fact, we actually just got into a discussion right now about how much he hates it. Sigh. :P

Nonmedicated · 2014-02-07T07:53:07+00:00

INFJ here, with an ISTP husband. Haven't read about how are supposed to mix, but I mix really well with him.

pinkantlers · 2014-02-07T10:10:46+00:00

Well these are my results. Not really sure what it means though, but the 'I' part is definitely accurate - I'm neither introvert nor extrovert, but have more introvert tendencies than extrovert tendencies.

INFJ

Introvert(67%) iNtuitive(38%) Feeling(50%) Judging(44%)

You have distinctive preference of Introversion over Extraversion (67%) You have moderate preference of Intuition over Sensing (38%) You have moderate preference of Feeling over Thinking (50%) You have moderate preference of Judging over Perceiving (44%)

pinkantlers · 2014-02-07T10:31:50+00:00

wow we're mostly all 'INTJ's or 'INFJ's. Do you think that has an effect on our preferred relationship style/men?

[deleted] · 2014-02-07T14:38:33+00:00

I'm an INFJ and my fiance is an ESTP. In our case, 'opposites attract' held very true. He has never met a stranger, and I tend to be pretty shy around new people. In that way, being with him has really put me out of my comfort zone. When we're out together, I guarantee you he will make a new friend or run into someone he already knows. I've definitely noticed my social skills improving since we got together. He is a dreamer and I am a list-maker. As I've seen people say on this sub before, he's the "big picture" guy and I take care of the details (I'm a habitual list-maker). It works really really well, and I'm crazy about him.

TempestTcup · 2014-02-07T15:18:44+00:00

INTJ - Introvert(56%) iNtuitive(62%) Thinking(62%) Judging(33%)

Wow, I'm much less INTJ on this test than usual; usually all the numbers are in the 70s. Sweet!

My husband is also INTJ, but luckily his numbers are in the teens and 20s - someone has to go to the bar and order the beer!

[deleted] · 2014-02-07T15:54:57+00:00

I'm an ISFP. I'd like to be with another introvert or just someone who is sociable but likes a lot of time alone or with their partner. I should work on my social skills and be a tiny bit less introverted or I'll never meet someone!

LifterofThings · 2014-02-07T16:35:11+00:00

I'm an INTJ. I've gotten more moderate as I've gotten older, in all of the dimensions.

My bf's an ENFP.

Funnily, my parents (who've been married 35 years) are the same combination: dad's an INTJ, mom's an ENFP.

drugdoctor87 · 2014-02-07T16:47:56+00:00

I'm INTJ and my partner is ENTJ.

After reading the descriptions, I'd say they are very accurate.

sandpaperwalls · 2014-02-07T17:20:15+00:00

INTP. Complete Introvert. Moderate preference Of intuition and thinking over sensing and feeling, respectively. Slight preference of perceiving over judging. I've taken this test lots of times and this is pretty much always my result, though the P has been a J but it was only once.

I feel like it very much so represents who I am. My fiance has to be E_FJ. Looking at a chart, we are either incompatible or he's a good supervisor for me, lol. He seems to need a lot more reassurance than I do or desire to put out, so its one of the things I have to push myself with, but after getting used to it, its no longer a bother. I commented in another RPW thread yesterday about how my personality makes me come off as unfriendly, and I have to put effort forth to communicate my feelings, or seem nice.

I honestly wish sometimes that I was more extroverted, probably not even enough to change the I to an E, keeping conversation is one thing I work on a lot, but it still just doesn't come naturally.

Edit: Geez, I was just reading about the all or nothing feelings associated with my type. I'm either a stone or a complete mess. That's another thing I've been working on improving about myself, letting my emotions flow when they want so I don't explode.

valkyrieone · 2014-02-07T21:52:32+00:00

INTJ and some ISTJ, but I feel I am more midful of others than it describes me as. I tend to be the caregiver with my group of friends.

Bakerofpie · 2014-02-08T01:25:51+00:00

Never taken one of these before. I got ISFJ. Not really sure how I feel about it.

menina_realista · 2014-02-09T23:10:16+00:00

I'm an INFP. I think it's very accurate, as I'm very introverted and often too sensitive toward other people. I'd like to be more extraverted, and I've been working on it with moderate success. :) I'll never be the life of the party, but I still love to be around people just soaking up the conversation, and I've made a few friends since forcing myself out of the comfort zone.

Being too shy can make it hard to meet anyone, and since I want to meet a lifelong partner in the next few years, it's something I'll have to work through. No SO at the moment but I'm most attracted to extroverted guys - basically my opposite. I think the relationship dynamic balanced out wel.

[deleted] · 2014-02-07T06:00:26+00:00

I'm an INTJ; C is ENFP. To say he's my teacher is very correct, especially considering he's the man who introduced me to TRP and has been patient with helping me in the ways he can. We really fit together well despite being near opposites, which I suppose could be the reason why.

I would say both are fairly good descriptions of us, except he's very calm with his emotions while sometimes mine can get a little out of hand despite my strong rationality. He listens to me when they get out of hand, though!

IllimitableMan · 2014-02-07T13:21:19+00:00

http://i.imgur.com/ElkS8Yn.png

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/ENTJ

ENTJs are among the rarest of types, accounting for ~2–5% of males formally tested, and ~1-3% of females.[2][3] They tend to be self-driven, motivating, energetic, assertive, confident, and competitive. They generally take a big-picture view and build a long-term strategy.

Makes sense its rarer in women as there's a preference for thinking over feeling in this type. Also makes sense women find such qualities vastly attractive, resource acquisition and all that good shit.

About 3 or 4 years ago I used to actively score INTJ. I've done the test a few times in the past 2 years and keep getting ENTJ. I do believe the I/E can change based on social influences and that your MBTI is not concretely defined.

[deleted] · 2014-02-07T20:47:35+00:00

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cat_fox · 2014-02-07T04:35:17+00:00

Heh. I've never taken this particular test before. Just did it and came out as ISFJ. The profile is freakishly accurate. I've always poo-poo'd these tests, but..yikes!

cynicalreason · 2014-02-07T13:25:00+00:00

Male - ENTP

P.S.: http://www.capt.org/mbti-assessment/estimated-frequencies.htm

sierrasecho · 2014-02-07T04:05:03+00:00

As mentioned the other day, I am an INTJ. And yes, in many ways it describes me well. Alas... INTJ women can be.... difficult? Socially we are not rock stars. I have made a lot of effort to be more pleasing. The pay off is slow, but I'm slowly learning that elusive thing called charm.

However, do note the Myers Briggs is an entirely non scientific description. Some studies show that above 30% of people who retake the test land in a different category. As time goes on, that number hovers around 50%. As in, not particularly reliable.... and hence, not necessarily robust or meaningful. That being said, I have tested the same all three times I have taken it. I feel it describes me well, though I'm not at the extreme ends of the spectrums for any of the categories.

Title	Getting to know you- MBTI style
Author	wendy-fly
Upvotes	9
Comments	52
Date	February 7, 2014 3:44 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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