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| 10 | Faux Pas Friday!I don't wear pantyhose because they are warm. It's a winter-only item for me. Wayyy to hot in Texas for that. I also personally feel that covering my legs is unnecessary for modesty reasons. As long as my dress is knee length or longer and an office-appropriate cut, I see no reason for further modesty beyond that. | /r/RedPillWives | 26/05/17 05:17 PM |
| 6 | An Introduction to Home BartendingJust want to add that simple syrup is ridic easy to make yourself! Literally just boil equal parts water and sugar until the sugar is completely dissolved. You can store it in the refrigerator so you always have it on hand. No need to buy! You can use it in many nonalcoholic drinks as well (lemonade anybody? Just add vodka 😉). | /r/RedPillWives | 13/05/17 06:49 AM |
| 4 | How do I stop liking gossip?I don't see a problem with enjoying gossip, especially about anonymous/people you aren't related to (unless it's interfering with your life, but that goes for any hobby). I lurveeee the relationships and subredditdrama forums! I actually find it helps me be more grateful about my husband/life. If I'm feeling annoyed about some little thing, I can just read some of those threads and immediately feel better about my drama-free life, lol 😂 Of course, if you feel that you are spending too much time … | /r/RedPillWives | 23/04/17 02:50 AM |
| 8 | For the RPW's summer drinking needs. Boozy Sparkling Water!That's my least favorite thing about alcohol- not required to have an ingredient list or nutritional facts 😒 can't wait for the day when it's required! Can't a girl get tipsy while knowing what she's putting in her body? | /r/RedPillWives | 10/04/17 10:06 PM |
| 2 | For the RPW's summer drinking needs. Boozy Sparkling Water!I'll probably love it but it sounds like a definite hangover in the morning lol Anyone know what it's sweetened with? I'm guessing aspartame or something similar since it's 0 g sugar according to MFP | /r/RedPillWives | 10/04/17 09:48 PM |
| 2 | Healthy Boundaries in RelationshipsYes that sounds much better! My husband is the most even tempered person ever so I've never really been in that situation before. | /r/RedPillWives | 04/02/17 06:43 PM |
| 8 | Healthy Boundaries in RelationshipsI think she went from one extreme (nagging about everything) to another (no boundaries apparently?). It's possible to have reasonable boundaries and communicate them in healthy ways. For example, I would leave my husband if he wanted an open marriage, decided he no longer wanted children, became abusive, etc. Are those not boundaries? Additionally, if he were to say something extremely harsh without cause, I do think it's appropriate to say something like "That was a very hurtful thing to say. P… | /r/RedPillWives | 04/02/17 03:26 PM |
| 3 | Gilmore Girls: who should Rory/Lorelei have ended up with?Team Logan all the way!! I think we're totally in the minority here but I agree that Rory should have accepted his original proposal. I guess you can call me biased since I got married young, but I don't think that marriage limits your growth. In the time since I got married, I quit going to school for a degree I hated, worked a full time job, discovered my actual passion, went back to school to pursue a degree for said passion, quit working full time to work part time in a relevant position, an… | /r/RedPillWives | 26/01/17 12:35 AM |
| 2 | Hygge Helps Explain Millennials' Longing For ReenchantmentThat's totally how I feel- if I give someone a gift, child or not, I want them to open it right then! I just love seeing the reaction after I've spent so much time picking the (hopefully) perfect gift. It might also be helpful for the parents because the child can thank you specifically for the present in the moment, rather than writing a thank you note later. That might start a whole other debate though, lol! Although, in my own childhood (and hopefully with my own future children), presents di… | /r/RedPillWives | 26/12/16 07:47 PM |
| 1 | Winter attire threadI had a pair of uggs in high school and lately I have been wanting to get another pair because you just can't beat how warm they are! I'll definitely have to look for some on hopefully post-holiday sales. | /r/RedPillWives | 21/12/16 03:49 PM |
| 1 | Winter attire threadFrye is seriously the best. I've had my riding boots for 4 years now and they still look like new! Definitely worth the price tag. | /r/RedPillWives | 21/12/16 03:42 PM |
| 3 | Winter attire threadAll of the boots, please! For snowy/icy weather, I have a pair of Sorel boots. For other times, I have a pair of riding boots or combat boots. Boot socks look super cute and keep my toes nice and toasty! Clothing- I have a couple of sweater dresses that I like to wear with tights, if it's not too cold or windy. I also have a plaid wool skirt that I love more than life. Other than that, I wear the typical sweaters and jeans. My most complimented winter item is probably my wool coat. It looks simi… | /r/RedPillWives | 21/12/16 03:27 PM |
| 1 | Free Friday - What's on your holiday wishlist??Major thumbs up for Amazon smile! I love seeing people using it! | /r/RedPillWives | 20/11/16 07:02 PM |
| 3 | Struggling, ladies.Is it possible you are somehow insulting or offending him when you bow out? Could you not read or whatever in the same room while he's watching his thing? I know I like being in the same room as my husband, even if we are doing separate things. In any case, it sounds like he is rather hurt by you not taking an interest in his movies & shows. Maybe you could find something based on a book that you could read first and then watch together. | /r/RedPillWives | 20/11/16 06:54 PM |
| 5 | Learning how to parent correctly annihilated marriage problems, fixed our fighting, and helped us handle issues with other "adults"... and we don't even have kids yet.I LOVE Janet Lansbury! I'm so happy to see her mentioned here. Highly recommend for anyone with young children... and I guess adults too lol. Everybody does better when they know what is expected of them and what they are allowed to do. | /r/RedPillWives | 11/11/16 09:01 PM |
| 3 | FREE FRIDAY!Woo, since I have prime it would get here just in time!! | /r/RedPillWives | 21/10/16 07:17 PM |
| 5 | FREE FRIDAY!My husband is leaving me for TWO WHOLE WEEKS for job training. I don't know what I'm going to do, ladies 😭😭😭 The last time I lived by myself, I think my diet consisted of yogurt and grapes. How do you buy food and cook for one person? So far, my plan is to keep myself entertained through a variety of activities (shopping, getting nails done) but that's expensive... | /r/RedPillWives | 21/10/16 06:52 PM |
| 3 | Date Night Megathread!Visiting a rock climbing gym is a super fun date (and hobby!). Top rope is cooperative, and bouldering is really fun too. It's also fun to go do the things you used to do as kids- bowling, roller skating, go to the zoo, etc. My city has this little Christmas village that I went to every year growing up, and my husband and I have had fun date nights there. Watching UFC! Beer, wings, grown men beating the shit out of each other... what more could you want? Go to Lush or similar store with nice bat… | /r/RedPillWives | 19/10/16 10:50 PM |
| 2 | Date Night Megathread!We have done this before and loved it as well :) | /r/RedPillWives | 19/10/16 10:38 PM |
| 2 | Would You Rather...I would take the horse sized duck personally. I feel like I could take one of those out eventually, but the army of mini horses would just keep coming! Just think of all the leg biting, eek 😬 | /r/RedPillWives | 12/10/16 11:25 PM |
| 1 | Would You Rather...But just think about it... no more pizza! No cheeseburgers! No nachos or mozzarella sticks! No mac and cheese or other delicious cheese covered pastas. No more grilled cheese. The perfect union of meat and cheese will no longer bless your sandwiches. No cheese boards! Plus no more things made with cheese like cheez-its and goldfish. Do you REALLY need to have sex when you can just stay in bed and enjoy your cheesy treats??? Haha, I actually agree with you. But damn I had to stop and think for a … | /r/RedPillWives | 12/10/16 11:23 PM |
| 4 | Would You Rather...How fun! My answers: -No one show up to wedding -Be in jail for 10 years (those conjugal visits 😏) -Lose hearing -Never shave again for sure!! -Go bald Would you rather: Have no internet or no cell phone? Never have sex again or never eat cheese again? (Referring specifically to PIV, hands & oral still allowed) Know how you die or know the day you die? Obligatory Reddit question, would you rather fight one horse-sized duck or one hundred duck sized horses? | /r/RedPillWives | 12/10/16 10:38 PM |
| 3 | Random RP Thoughts!Ah yeah I totally get that. I definitely made some decisions that prioritized boyfriends in the past when I should have made my own life a greater priority. | /r/RedPillWives | 21/09/16 11:55 PM |
| 4 | Wedding Megathread!I had a destination wedding, which I know can be somewhat controversial, but if anyone is interested in that I can answer your questions. | /r/RedPillWives | 21/09/16 11:41 PM |
| 8 | Random RP Thoughts!Boyfriends are great, but we still want to give them an incentive to get married/commit further. Eh, something about that sentence strikes me the wrong way. If you have personal beliefs that certain actions are reserved solely for marriage, that's one thing, but it shouldn't be dangled like a carrot on a stick in front of your man. His incentive to commit/marry you should be that you are a woman who respects, loves, and supports him. I think it should be an active choice on his part, no further … | /r/RedPillWives | 21/09/16 11:31 PM |
| 2 | I like you by Sandol Stoddard WarburgI love this more than any other piece of work I've ever loved. Thanks! | /r/RedPillWives | 21/09/16 01:09 PM |
| 3 | Bait, Bid, and Bite - Everyday affections.I think I'm definitely the one who "baits" more often (also that's what she said ;) ) I love telling him about the silly little things during my day. Also, smartphones make it super easy to send him a quick thought or picture that made me laugh. If he doesn't respond, when I get home I usually ask "did you see xxxx?!" Nice to know there's a name for that now! | /r/RedPillWives | 12/09/16 08:03 PM |
| 6 | RPW Survey Results!Wow, didn't realize there were so many fellow Texans here! Super interesting to see all the results! | /r/RedPillWives | 13/08/16 12:33 AM |
| 4 | What do I do now?Just open the door and they'll come right in! | /r/RedPillWives | 06/08/16 06:01 PM |
| 7 | What do I do now?It means you're definitely over the wall and thus basically a man now. There's no hope for you anymore. Good luck with the rest of your life. | /r/RedPillWives | 06/08/16 05:53 PM |
| 11 | How do you know if your standards are too high or low?I would say if you aren't getting any interest from the type of guys you are looking for, you are asking too much (meaning they are "out of your league", although I don't care for that phrase). In that case, you either need to adjust your expectations or work on yourself until you are attracting those men. It's harder to say how to know if you are settling. I think if you feel like you are settling, then you shouldn't be with that person because that's probably an indicator that you don't truly … | /r/RedPillWives | 30/07/16 01:15 PM |
| 3 | Week 7 Girl Game Challenge: Declutter your lifeA tip that I did not come up with myself but love: ask yourself if you would rather have the item or its value in cash. This works best when considering buying something new, but can also work for stuff you own already. Next time you're out shopping, ask yourself, "Would I rather have this thing for $20 or would I prefer for a random person to come up and give me $20?" If you would take the cash instead, don't buy it! | /r/RedPillWives | 29/07/16 08:10 PM |
| 7 | Red Pill Wives Survey! (It's not long + completely anonymous)69/F/Zambia, how you doin'? ;) Seriously though, I'm interested in seeing the results! | /r/RedPillWives | 27/07/16 08:06 PM |
| 11 | [Insanity] Barefoot Contessa's latest book focuses on cooking meals that her husband enjoys...apparently this undermines her career and reputationThe only people who are outraged are those that don't cook and thus would never buy her book in the first place. Everyone that I know who cooks actually enjoys making meals that their family members love. | /r/RedPillWives | 07/07/16 10:41 PM |
| 2 | How would you fix the 'boys crisis in education'?I actually don't have much knowledge about how classrooms worked historically. I do think modern schools have longer hours, and students are also required to sit at a desk more without breaks (less or no recess periods). It's also important to keep in mind that for a long time education was only for the rich, so a lot of boys (and girls) were off working or whatever rather than sitting at desks. Trickle down curriculum is another issue. This is anecdotal, but my kindergarten class in 1995 is pre… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/16 03:22 AM |
| 24 | How would you fix the 'boys crisis in education'?I love this topic! I did some coursework on gender differences in education while getting my degree and this is what I found helpful for boys in the classroom: -Include multiple recess (actual free play, not just physical activity time/p.e.) periods during the day -Use hands on learning techniques like blocks and manipulatives -Allow boys to compete with each other and show healthy aggression -Bring male role models into the classroom -Boys tend to work better when they can spread their work out… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/16 08:10 PM |
| 2 | Problems with Husband's DesireTestosterone levels tend to drop in men after age 30. It's possible that he has lost interest and begun relying on porn because he can't physically get or keep an erection without the extra stimulation. Have you noticed any other symptoms such as feeling more tired, depressed, low motivation, or weight gain? Might be something to look into. It is a fairly easy fix and can make a big difference! | /r/RedPillWives | 23/06/16 06:39 PM |
| 11 | Checklist: Needs vs. WantsI don't mean to be rude, but did you read the post your list was inspired by? "Needs" should be the 5-6 things you REALLY can't live without. Is being 5'5" a serious deal breaker? What if he is not overweight (meets one criteria) but likes to indulge in fast food occasionally (fails on that one)? I would try and boil your list down further to those that are really serious dealbreakers, for example those items like wants marriage, 2-3 children, nonreligious. Also, a lot of your list seems to be j… | /r/RedPillWives | 16/06/16 11:48 AM |
| 3 | Laughing at OurselvesWhen I switched from regular to low dose birth control I had one moment of crazy that I can remember. I can't recall exactly what triggered it, but my husband/boyfriend at the time either didn't answer when I called or wasn't as happy to be talking to me as I thought he should be or something stupid like that. I got the crazy thought in my head that he was cheating on me (Why?? I had literally no reason or proof!! So much cringe looking back). I started crying and wondering why he didn't love me… | /r/RedPillWives | 15/06/16 08:47 PM |
| 1 | Need advice on delicate financial situation. I'm having trouble being a good first mate!You're probably doing this already, but since you didn't mention it in your post I feel like I have to say it... Start looking for a job NOW! There's no reason to wait. You could also look into part time quick cash gigs like babysitting, waitressing, etc. that will leave your days free for job hunting while still receiving some income. I agree with tempest about not touching your savings. Your mom left you this wonderful gift, use it wisely! | /r/RedPillWives | 15/06/16 02:32 AM |
| 7 | Age gap and sex talk, red flags? (x-post from redpillwomen)You met because of something sex related, he mostly just wants to talk about sex, and you've never been on a date. Sounds like he's trying to plate you :/ Sorry girl. I recommend meeting people based on mutual nonsexual interests in the future. | /r/RedPillWives | 09/06/16 10:32 PM |
| 4 | Beauty, Fashion, and Makeup MegathreadSome beauty tips I've learned over the years that have been life changing: -For curly hair, find a sulfate free shampoo. This does not have to be expensive! Grocery stores and pharmacies carry them now too! I use the coconut organix shampoo and it's great. In general, try to keep products silicone free because it weighs your hair down. Alcohol free is also good because it is drying. Leaving a bit of conditioner on the ends of your hair can help keep it moisturized. Don't rub your hair with a tow… | /r/RedPillWives | 09/06/16 10:22 PM |
| 5 | Beauty, Fashion, and Makeup MegathreadMaybe instead of cuts you could go for a blow out? I can personally recommend Dry Bar, but there are a ton of blow dry bars now if you're in need of pampering! | /r/RedPillWives | 09/06/16 10:09 PM |
| 3 | Shit Post Saturday!It's not really how I feel lol but a lot of the times the technology named in the pic is exactly what my husband is thinking about it! | /r/RedPillWives | 05/06/16 04:06 PM |
| 7 | Shit Post Saturday!Our relationship IRL My feelings as I approach the wall | /r/RedPillWives | 05/06/16 12:54 PM |
| 23 | What about those guys who are clueless?Personally, if I was giving all the indicators of interest and the guy wasn't getting it, I probably wouldn't want to date him. I need a husband who can be a strong role model for our future children, and that includes social skills. Plus, I don't want to worry about other women hitting on him and he lets it go too far because he's too socially retarded to realize what's happening. You could try asking the guy out yourself, but be aware that this might start a trend of you leading the relationsh… | /r/RedPillWives | 02/06/16 10:51 PM |
| 2 | Wedding Stories!We had a destination wedding. It was both small and cheap. We skipped out on a lot of the traditional things (no bridesmaids/groomsmen, didn't send out any formal invitations, no dj or dancing, etc.) but it was beautiful and everyone had a good time. Pros: As stated above, cheap! I think everything wedding related cost maybe $5000, and that included some upgrades so it could have been as cheap as $1200 I think. Obviously we also paid for our room and what not but that doubled as the honeymoon. S… | /r/RedPillWives | 02/06/16 12:53 PM |
| 2 | Where's the beef?Oh man I am SO guilty of seeing my husband make one small mistake and all of a sudden my brain thinks he is going to accidentally kill one of our future children. It's worse than a hamster wheel, it's more like a soul sucking tornado whirlwind of negative thoughts. Anxiety is the worst! Anyways, when I feel like my brain is spinning out of control I use a method called STAR breaths- it stands for Smile, Take a deep breath, And Relax. Do it 3 times and you will feel better! | /r/RedPillWives | 19/05/16 10:45 PM |
| 2 | How do you help a husband who has a low self esteem?In my experience, true self esteem must come from within... There's that annoying little key word "self" in there, you know! You might be able to temporarily puff somebody up, but they won't ever develop self esteem until they accomplish something for themselves or understand that their accomplishments are worthy of respect. Unfortunately, some people never get the second part (see all the stereotypical tortured geniuses who never think they are good enough). Does your husband experience any suc… | /r/RedPillWives | 19/05/16 04:35 PM |
| 3 | How to Handle a Depressed HusbandI think part of it might be that you were experiencing your difficulties for so long, it's possible that it is going to take him just as long to adjust back to normal. He was experiencing high levels of stress for an entire year and a half, and he is probably still worried that you could slip back into that state. Hopefully, he will see that you really are stable now and he can relax again. Did he ever take medication for depression in the past or is that something he would be open to? Also, how… | /r/RedPillWives | 18/05/16 01:15 AM |
| 2 | 1,000 Subscribers!!! New users, come say 'Hello' :)Yay for new subscribers! -My favorite advice is KISS: keep it simple stupid! I have a problem with majorly overthinking things, and I find that the simplest solution is usually the best. -Nikki Northview... Not bad! -Not super into romantic movies, but my favorite is probably Love Actually. A must watch at Christmas time! | /r/RedPillWives | 17/05/16 07:09 PM |
| 2 | Is being a perfect fit with his family just a fairytale?I have a similar situation with my husbands family. He and I are more educated/intellectual than most members of his family, so even he doesn't really connect with them on that level... However, they are very loving and generous people so I am always happy to visit. Have you tried bringing up any of the topics you are interested in with them? I have found that even though they wouldn't bring those topics up on their own, they will have a conversation if one of us brings it up. If that doesn't wo… | /r/RedPillWives | 11/05/16 08:08 PM |
| 4 | Is being a perfect fit with his family just a fairytale?I don't agree with the first part of your reply at all. It should absolutely not be normal to have a "ain't no hussy good enough for MY baby boy" attitude. That's a giant red flag in my book, from both my own and my friends & family experiences. Unless the son sets appropriate boundaries in this situation, the couple is going to end up with a mother who is WAY too involved in their personal life and dictates everything. Maybe your situation is an outlier and she won't be that way, but I have had… | /r/RedPillWives | 11/05/16 07:49 PM |
| 5 | [Hamster, Hamster, Where's the Hamster?] The Things I Missed Out On Because I Got Married As A TeenagerIf you can't experience personal growth or meaningful friendships while in a relationship, you either aren't trying or you're in the wrong relationship. I met my husband when I was 19 and am now 25. We got married "young" (I was 22). Many of my personal interests and goals have changed since then. I have developed an almost entirely new set of friends over the past 6 months! He has experienced major changes in his interests and career path. We supported each other through all of these new develo… | /r/RedPillWives | 10/05/16 05:02 PM |
| 1 | First Coffee Date Qualms?I think both of you guys are WAY overthinking it! If you are attracted to him after the date, be receptive and have a good night kiss. If not, politely decline and don't go out again. At the same time, he should be socially aware enough to read the situation and decide if it would be appropriate or not. Discussing it before is weird... Lol it's just a kiss, you know? It doesn't have to be a symbol of anything. | /r/RedPillWives | 05/05/16 03:17 PM |
| 2 | Creating a step familyI don't have any experience with this, but it would probably be helpful to others if you shared how many children each of you has, their ages, and what the situation is like with the other bio parent. | /r/RedPillWives | 04/05/16 08:20 PM |
| 6 | How The Government Is Robbing Men Of Good WivesEh, I think Roosh sets up a false dichotomy in this post. He seems to be saying that the only options for women are 1. Taking out $100,000 in loans to ride the CC and go to law school, or 2. Receive no education and be a SAHM. In reality, there are SO many more options. Associates degrees, vocational schools, certificate programs... There are even bachelor degrees you can finish in 4 years and be guaranteed a good job by age 22 assuming you start college immediately after high school (teaching a… | /r/RedPillWives | 04/05/16 12:02 AM |
| 10 | For Fun! What is your Political Typology?I got "Solid Liberal": Generally affluent and highly educated, most Solid Liberals strongly support the social safety net and take very liberal positions on virtually all issues. Most say they always vote Democratic and are unflagging supporters of Barack Obama. Overall, Solid Liberals are very optimistic about the nation’s future and are the most likely to say that America’s success is linked to its ability to change, rather than its reliance on long-standing principles. On foreign policy, Soli… | /r/RedPillWives | 03/05/16 07:32 PM |
| 4 | Q4Women: What did you all do as kids for fun? What was cool about it?I think in elementary, we were definitely doing the same things as boys. When I was by myself I would catch bugs, read (mix of girly books like babysitters club and more boyish books like captain underpants), play video games (Mario, Zelda, Pokemon, all the classic N64, gameboy, and then later gamecube games), color, build with blocks... I mean that's all pretty traditional stuff that all kids like. When I was with my friends we would ride bikes to get snowcones, play sports, play pretend (somet… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/16 04:12 AM |
| 3 | The Difference Between Dominance and Abuse100% agree. After my relationship with my ex boyfriend, who got disproportionately angry at small problems, I am pretty hyper aware of this issue. One of my husbands traits that I appreciate the most is that he is my rock- don't get me wrong, he's not emotionless, but he has been and continues to be stable through the storms of our life together. I have never once heard him yell or otherwise lose his temper at me or anyone else. I hope all the single and newly dating ladies here keep this post i… | /r/RedPillWives | 03/05/16 03:28 AM |
| 4 | "Spring Cleaning" the RP Woman and MarriageFirst of all- majorly squeeing right now! So happy to see you posting again, margery! I have had to do some "spring cleaning" lately for sure. I've been so busy/stressed with school I slipped into some pretty bad bitchiness on too many (read: more than zero) occasions :/ Right now, I'm concentrating on an internal effort to be more pleasant and biting my tongue on unnecessary comments. I will definitely be following this thread for more tips! I did recently purchase a planner, which has helped c… | /r/RedPillWives | 01/05/16 12:56 PM |
| 7 | What is your favourite quote?"If you're interested, you'll do what's convenient. If you're committed, you'll do whatever it takes." I find that it applies to pretty much every area of my life, marriage included. | /r/RedPillWives | 26/04/16 12:15 AM |
| 19 | What makes men cheat/flirt?I have to agree with all the other ladies here. Sounds like this is simply the type of person he is. Since you don't want to leave him, the only other option I see is to give him your blessing but tell him he has to be super discreet and not leave any evidence out for you to see (or for your child to see in the future). Stop trying to look at his phone and let his business be his business. However, I strongly urge you to consider the fact that your marriage will be your child's model for their f… | /r/RedPillWives | 22/04/16 06:47 PM |
| 2 | Houston FloodBest wishes to you and your family during this time, /u/Camille11325, and any other Houston users as well | /r/RedPillWives | 20/04/16 01:46 AM |
| 51 | Looking for advice. Had an epiphany yesterday and realized that I scare potential suitors away by surrounding myself with guy "friends".Of course, my many guy friends are super supportive of me and completely against this dude. Because they also want to get in your pants. You need to understand that most of them are not really your friend, they are your beta orbiters. I'm sure they are just like the other guy right? Nice, sweet, tells you that you're always right, tells you what a wonderful girl you are... Have you introduced them to a boyfriend yet? I'm curious how many would stick around if you came over with sweatpants, no ma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/16 08:57 PM |
| 2 | Simple QuestionsPretty much in the same situation with my mom. We usually have a girls day where we spend time together, and I'll pay for our lunch or for us to have our nails done. | /r/RedPillWives | 18/04/16 10:11 AM |
| 5 | Let's Share Fun Quizzes and Tests!Manipulated an MOS to orgasm I died. | /r/RedPillWives | 16/04/16 10:41 PM |
| 9 | Is PMS Just Another Excuse to be a Bitch?Honestly, it doesn't matter if PMS is real or not. You have to learn to rein yourself in either way. Are PMSing or pregnant ladies bitchy to their boss? Of course not, because they know their ass will be fired in 2 seconds if they treated them the same way they treated their husband. If you can control yourself for your boss, you can control yourself at home too. | /r/RedPillWives | 15/04/16 11:35 PM |
| 4 | Relationship Dynamics Part One (Updated + Expanded!)I was waiting for this to be posted again! Thanks so much Camille! I'm pretty sure we would fall into the LLL category. In my experience, it makes for a pretty chill relationship. It's interesting speaking to other people about it. "How are things?" "Good!" "Do you ever fight?" "Not really." They are either impressed by how laid back we are or are entirely bored after 2 minutes lol. | /r/RedPillWives | 14/04/16 09:13 PM |
| 5 | Advice on receiving?Maybe you could say something like "Thanks again so much for offering to help me buy the weightlifting shoes! Let me know when to you send the money so I can order them. I'll be sure to send pictures of my results ;)" I can be forgetful with stuff like that too, so a little reminder like that could be helpful if he's the same way. | /r/RedPillWives | 11/04/16 02:05 AM |
| 12 | What's more important to SMV: Should I dress to emphasize sexiness or youthfulness more?Dress in a way that is flattering for your body but appropriate for the situation. I would go with emphasizing an hourglass figure over appearing youthful. Personally, I think ladies who try to dress "young" usually just look silly. Men are attracted to youth because it correlates with higher fertility. This is based on physical features like smooth skin, large eyes, and long healthy hair, NOT frilly little girl skirts and pigtails (although some guys are into that too!) During the day/work time… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/16 03:47 AM |
| 11 | SHIT POST SATURDAY!Happy Saturday everybody! I love saving funny photos on my phone and randomly sending them to my husband so keep them coming!! Me in public But it's so catchy!!! Lol forever I miss them Worst day ever ONLY TWO MORE WEEKS AHHHHH! | /r/RedPillWives | 09/04/16 12:40 PM |
| 5 | Helpful Habit: "Is It Worth It?"Similarly, I like: Is it true? Is it necessary? Is it kind? Must meet all 3 criteria to be said. I usually think of this when giving criticism, but it could go for most random conversation as well. | /r/RedPillWives | 07/04/16 12:10 PM |
| 10 | WE'VE REACHED 500 SUBSCRIBERS!!!!Hey there friends! I've been a part of RPW since practically the beginning I think, although my ability to participate comes and goes with how busy I am. I'm ~25, married almost 3 years and together 6 years. I'm an early childhood educator and will finally be graduating with my degree in May. Hopefully after that I will be able to come play in IRC more! I enjoy most active, outdoors activities, shopping, and am entirely addicted to Netflix. I'm a city girl, but have a secret (or not so secret so… | /r/RedPillWives | 07/04/16 11:59 AM |
| 3 | SteaksMedium rare master race for life!!! I usually sear mine in the pan for just a few minutes on each side, then finish in the oven to reach medium rare internal temp. Unfortunately, we live in an apartment that fills with smoke SO quickly and the smoke detectors are ridiculously sensitive on top of that so I can't cook it all the way through in the pan. Really though, nothing beats steak grilled outside. Bring on grilling season! | /r/RedPillWives | 06/04/16 06:22 PM |
| 1 | New Flairs, Please Update Yours Now!Awesome, thanks! | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/16 01:53 AM |
| 2 | New Flairs, Please Update Yours Now!Hi! I currently have an endorsed flair. I'm mid 20s, married 3 years, together 6 years | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/16 01:13 AM |
| 3 | Iyanla's Tough Love for a Defensive Wife: "Stop Trying to Be Right"Can't remember where I originally heard it, but I try to remember the phrase "you can be right or you can be happy". It's hard for me, because I love, LOVE, LOVEEEE to be right about everything 100% of the time... to be fair, I research everything and am right a lot of the time lol. It takes active work and restraint to not tell my husband he is doing something wrong just because I would do it differently ("the right way"!) I have learned that if I want help with something in the future it reall… | /r/RedPillWives | 05/04/16 04:07 PM |
| 3 | In Need of Some AdviceHonestly, from what you wrote you don't seem happy. Maybe I'm reading between the lines too much or projecting my own feelings. But I got the sense that you don't feel he is truly committed to you. If you can honestly say that your needs are met in this relationship, then I will agree that my advice is completely wrong and wish you two all the best in your future together. But if you are not happy, then you need to leave now. He has already laid everything out on the table- no marriage, no guara… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/16 08:16 PM |
| 6 | In Need of Some AdviceGirl, he's seeing other women. Come on. It's not like you are the only friend and companion he has in life and you're kicking him to the curb because you're bored. I'm sure he will not have any problem running to his other plates to get his needs fulfilled. In fact; I wouldn't be surprised if he uses the end of your relationship as a sob story to pick up more. It is 100% fine to want to be in a monogamous relationship, and he's not giving that to you. Don't waste the pretty! | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/16 08:05 PM |
| 4 | Hil*scary*ous: Tumblr Argument GeneratorFUCK YOU, YOU DEATHFATPHOBIC ABLE-BODY-OVERPRIVILEGED ANTI-FEMINIST Lol I would actually welcome this insult since it's all true! | /r/RedPillWives | 03/04/16 03:47 PM |
| 5 | How your personality type expresses and asks for loveI am an ISFJ, so "harmony". I definitely agree! One of my main love languages is quality time, so that correlates together. I can also see how others can interpret me as clingy. My husband is an INTJ, so reading through this it seems like there is not too much direct conflict in how we ask for love, which I find true to life. However, there are definitely times of conflict when I want attention and he's busy being effective. Very insightful post! I'm surprised with how accurate it is. | /r/RedPillWives | 03/04/16 01:11 PM |
| 3 | Any advice or motivation for getting out of a funk?I find making weekly small goals is the most effective. Start with the smallest. So maybe this week, your goal could be to get dressed in at least jeans every day, and cook your 2 meals. Then next week, continue with those 2 and add in doing makeup every day. Then the next week add doing your hair, and on and on. Try and get some exercise, preferably out in the sun, every day too. Even if it's just a 5 minute walk around the block. It will help your mood and eventually the weight gain as well. I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/16 02:38 AM |
| 6 | Have hubs in room during birth?No kids yet, but I definitely want my husband with me. But like up by my head and holding my hand, not on the business end. I guess if he really wants to be down there he can, but honestly I don't even want to watch in a mirror or whatever! | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/16 02:32 AM |
| 2 | Concern about SO drinkingIf he's drinking standard size bottles, that's 12 glasses of wine. Even over 6 hours that's a lot to drink. I can't imagine anyone finishing 2 bottles alone. My dad, husband, and I recently split 2 bottles between the 3 of us and we all ended up pretty tipsy (and I was definitely drunk). And that was with dinner, my dad and husband are both good sized dudes and regular moderate drinkers. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/16 01:01 AM |
| 4 | Growing a feminine personality/ Is it too late for me?My question would be ARE you really attracted to them if you look down on their hobbies or whatever else? Respect is one of the most important components of a relationship. If you don't respect your partner as a man because he doesn't fit your idea of what a man should be, you are both going to end up having a bad time. He will be able to tell you don't respect him even if you don't verbalized it, and you're going to end up wanting to leave the relationship for someone you are attracted to and c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/16 11:46 PM |
| 5 | How do you working women balance the longer parts of your self-care routines with your schedule?Honestly, it sounds like exercising in the morning is what's throwing everything off. I would change your routine so that you can go later in the day. Is your office environment one where you could go on your lunch break and then eat at your desk? Another suggestion would be to bring your gym bag with you to work, and then go immediately after you finish work without going home first. Also sounds like you would benefit from a trip to /r/curlyhair. Check out top of all and see the before and afte… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/16 07:41 PM |
| 2 | Simple QuestionsHe hasn't had any problems, but we have a pretty small bathroom and you pretty much only have to lean over to see the mirror from the tub. You could also get a stick on shower mirror. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/16 10:49 PM |
| 2 | Simple QuestionsI asked my husband if he could start shaving over the bathtub. It's much easier to just turn on the shower and rinse them away real quick. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/16 06:15 PM |
| 6 | Where to make high-quality, RPW-minded girl friendsAll the best girlfriends I have made I met through other people. So like my husbands guy friends girlfriends, and the that girl introduces me to another girl, etc. I highly recommend getting together with other couples and making friends! | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/16 08:11 PM |
| 9 | RP and childrenI don't have children yet, but here are some of the things my parents taught me that I found helpful and will pass on to my own children: It's important to be active and exercise for both health reasons and to stay physically attractive. When you look good and are in shape, you feel good. This wasn't explicitly told to me, but my dad mentioned how much he liked my moms hair when it was long. I specifically remember him describing her as looking vivacious, which I loved. My brother and I were exp… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/16 03:47 PM |
| 1 | I need help coping with my husband being a new father.Right, it's definitely up to him in the end. You can always give gentle suggestions like "I'll be at home with the little ones for the next couple of hours if you want to head to the gym" or ask to go on a family walk all together. Sorry if you wrote this elsewhere and I missed it, but does he have any dad friends? He might feel better if he could have a guys night out with them and commiserate a little. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/16 06:51 PM |
| 4 | I need help coping with my husband being a new father.Because nobody else has mentioned it yet, I just want to throw it out there that it is possible for men to have some form of postpartum depression as well. Maybe you can try out some methods that help with depression like healthy diet, getting exercise, sunshine everyday, and possibly medical/psychiatric help if necessary. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/16 06:04 PM |
| 2 | Many of our relationship problems have been solved by having separate bedrooms.We slept on a twin bed for about a year. We miss it sometimes too! It's so cozy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/16 02:48 PM |
| 1 | I need some advice! How do you fall asleep when your SO likes to sleep with background noise?You can buy pillows with built in headphones/speakers, so that solves the noise problem pretty easy. But I definitely agree the light isn't good for sleep so put the tv on a timer as well! | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/16 10:00 PM |
| 9 | Do Gentlemen Prefer "Bland"?Yup, the part that got me the most is she considers reading novels, baking, and playing the flute "bland", but taking selfies, eating cake (that you did not make yourself), and being a feminist are enlightened and interesting hobbies. None of those are even real hobbies... Unless you count making shitty posts on tumblr I guess. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/16 01:10 PM |
| 2 | 16 "Hilarious" Jokes that explain what its like to be in a relationshipSeriously though, let go of your hands and finish your jog. I relate to that one lol but yeah I would hate to be in a relationship that could even be remotely described as "enemies with benefits". | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/16 01:44 PM |
| 2 | These are a few of my favorite things...No one has said cheese yet?? What is wrong with you people?! My favorite right now is Kerrygold Reserve Sharp Cheddar. YUM Nailtiques formula 2 for my poor weak nails. This makes them shiny and strong! Recently started using the Beautypedia on Paula's Choice website and everything they have recommended has been amazing. I needed new makeup and based on their ratings bought a Revlon concealer (can't remember the exact name) and Revlon nearly naked powder. They are both great, better than some of … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/16 07:55 PM |
| 1 | Valentine's Day and the RP/Masculine maleI do like to acknowledge the day in some way. I prefer to stay in rather than go out though- no way I'm paying 3x normal price for a set menu where I don't even get to pick anything! The first year we were together my husband brought home take out and a bottle of wine for Valentine's Day, and that's pretty much set the tone for us ever since. It's relaxed but still a little special and different from a normal day. Some years we have gotten gifts too but usually not. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/16 02:09 AM |
| 2 | Quick Beauty Tip: Waxing Your Eyebrows at HomeI always get the best eyebrows by having them waxed professionally and then being diligent about maintenance at home. If I remember to tweeze a couple times per week then I can get away with only waxing 1-2 times a year. The stencils are helpful but there is no substitute for a professionally trained eye in my experience. Plus it's only like $12 including tip an that's totally worth not having to deal with lining everything up and handling the wax myself! | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/16 06:27 PM |
| 10 | UFC Champion Conor McGregor's longtime partner Dee Devlin. Would this be a good example of a Red Pill Woman? I really admire her but I'd love to know your thoughts ladies?There's no way to tell what is really going on inside a relationship. For all we know, she could be the screechiest bitch ever behind closed doors. Remember, the ultimate goal of articles like this is always getting more publicity. Who knows what is true and what is said because it paints a flattering image? However, if it is motivating for you then who cares? If it is all true, great, if it's not, take what you can from it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/16 02:06 PM |
| 5 | What are your experiences with birth control?Personally, I have had a very positive experience taking a low dose birth control pill (loloestrin). I even take it continuously so I don't have periods, which is nice. I haven't experienced any side effects and it hasn't lowered my sex drive. It also cleared up the acne I had and I got bigger boobies! So I'm a fan lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/16 10:24 PM |
| 2 | 5 minutes snack ideas - suggestions please?Lol I thought the whole point of snacks is that they are quick and unelaborate? Anyways, my husband's favorite snacks is stuff like muffins, pretzel chips with cream cheese, beef jerky, cheese sticks, or just a smaller serving size of leftovers. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/01/16 05:45 PM |
| 3 | 5 things you love about your SOHe's really ambitious, super smart, and always trying to learn more and do better. Sexy! He makes me laugh, and also laughs at my stupid jokes, lol. Last night we were walking around target and cracked up at "purified baby water". Beard, obviously ;) He's a great leader, both in our relationship and with others. He's just all around awesome!! We always have such a good time together. I don't know what I would do without him. Bonus #6, he introduced me to reddit which eventually led me here! | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/16 03:01 PM |
| 9 | PornAnd like I said, I realize I'm the odd one out here! I personally would have a problem with that much porn usage and would move on. But if it's not bothering OP, then you do you girl. I just wanted to give another perspective that I had not seen yet. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/16 04:24 AM |
| 5 | PornI have seen studies documenting higher rates of porn addiction now, but we can agree to disagree :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/16 04:19 AM |
| 12 | PornIt's the addictive nature of porn that makes the difference to me. As far as I know, tv and general internet don't cause the same dopamine reaction in the brain as pornography. (Personally, I do feel that more than ~1 hr of passive screen time is excessive but that's not really the point.) Sitting and browsing porn while not masturbating is a sign of addiction. If he was only watching while masturbating I wouldn't consider it a problem. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/16 04:08 AM |
| 21 | PornI unserstand 99% of men watch porn on a regular basis, my husband too, but 1-3 HOURS?! That goes beyond just banging out some self love real quick. That seems excessive to me. I guess I'm the odd one out with this opinion, but I would consider this getting into worrisome territory. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/16 02:57 AM |
| 3 | Improving/Skyrocketing your SMV outside your appearance: The GuideI'm not sure what you are disagreeing with because that is exactly what I said. You can be skinny due to your diet, but you aren't going to have a nice body unless you also exercise. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/16 01:15 PM |
| 2 | Family dinamics - Being a wife first and mom secondNo children of my own yet, but I babysit about once a week for my sister and brother in law so they can go on a date night. She has told me on many occasions that I am the reason they are still married, lol! Definitely find a reliable family member or sitter and make time regularly to connect with each other. Maybe you can even make it a rule to not talk about the baby during this time :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/12/15 02:49 PM |
| 7 | do guys gossip like girls?It's rude and disrespectful because you are working with other people and sharing an environment. It doesn't matter if you think they are attractive or not, you should be maintaining basic hygiene. Have you ever worked with a smelly person? Being trapped with the stink is unbearable. These people are forced to be around you for however long your shift is. Have you even considered the fact that maybe they don't think you are hot stuff either?? Yet I'm guessing they still shower enough to be clean… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/15 04:56 AM |
| 7 | do guys gossip like girls?Uh, you shouldn't be smelly around your coworkers anyways, regardless of how attractive they are. That's fucking rude and gross and disrespectful. Just because they aren't up to your standards (and honestly you shouldn't be judging anyone right now with your admittedly poor hygiene) doesn't mean you can treat them as lesser. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/15 04:44 AM |
| 52 | Improving/Skyrocketing your SMV outside your appearance: The GuideIt's a misconception that all women need to do to have a hot body is eat less. Maybe if you have really good genetics you will, but most likely you will only be skinny-fat (look okay in clothes but doughy underneath). Exercise is necessary for both health and appearance. Weight lifting in particular (real heavy weights, no 2 lb dumbbells) will give you the "toned" look, plus protects against osteoporosis. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/15 03:09 PM |
| 5 | Tips on dating in a (very!) small town? Good or bad idea?How close are nearby cities? It might be worth it to hop on okcupid and make the drive to some bigger cities. It will give you a larger pool of men and you can filter for commitment minded ones, especially since you have a clear end date for the distance. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/12/15 03:33 AM |
| 6 | The metamorphosis of our pregnancy plans.Talking about a baby in theory is WAY different than when one is actually on the way/here. I'm sorry it's different than what you discussed with your girlfriend previously, but a lot of women discover they have a strong desire to stay with their baby once it's born. The United States barbaric maternity leave isn't helpful either (I'm assuming you're American, correct me if wrong). Honestly, your plan to run a business and look after a small child is a joke. Infants are demanding and you're going… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/15 09:12 PM |
| 2 | Things not to do this Christmas season.I thought it was kind of funny too ::shrugs:: Not everything has to be so serious guys! Now, if someone actually has that attitude it's different. But seriously, STOP BUYING ME BATH AND BODY WORKS (not my husband but his family lol) | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/15 08:04 PM |
| 2 | Married SAHM wondering about future careerYes!! My school is constructivist/Reggio. Natural materials for the win! | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/15 11:00 PM |
| 1 | Married SAHM wondering about future careerI kind of always wanted to work with children, but after my first niece was born I discovered my passion for teaching and I'm back in school now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/15 10:59 PM |
| 2 | Married SAHM wondering about future careerI do think you need to have passion, or at least interest, in the field. Like you mentioned, early education is so rigorous in some places now. Luckily, I work at a really good preschool that totally supports the learning through play philosophy. However, this requires a lot more intentional lesson planning, observation, and assessment than more academic preschools that might just slap down a worksheet and call it a day. I love my work so much I'm struggling to find the right words... The best I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/15 10:43 PM |
| 5 | Married SAHM wondering about future careerWe are planning on me staying home while we have young children. I am an early childhood educator so luckily it is a fairly flexible field and I can return easily. I definitely want to stay at home for at least the first year, and then maybe work mornings 3 days a week after that, or be a sub. I could also be a nanny or have a home based childcare and look after 1-2 similar aged children. That might be an option to look into for yourself as well, although I highly recommend taking child developm… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/15 07:22 PM |
| 3 | What are you doing for your men for Christmas?We're probably the boringest Christmas couple ever, but I'll go ahead and share in case it helps anyone else lol :P My husband and I both have particular things we like to receive as gifts (him techy stuff, me clothes). We are also both picky so we just agree upon a budget and select our own gifts. It works out perfectly for us because we get exactly what we want every year! I do feel it is important to note that neither one of our love languages is gift, so this might not work for someone with … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/15 10:29 PM |
| 7 | My SO does exciting things with his friends but would rather stay in if it's just the two of us. I feel bad about that. Help?I think at this point if you want to go out, you should plan something, invite him, and then go- whether he decides to join or not. If all he says is "come over when you're done", then go out and then go over. Tell him "(event) was really fun, I wish you were there to experience it with me." Then don't mention it again, go about your evening as usual. Maybe he starts to go with you, maybe he doesn't. If he doesn't, then you will have to decide if a lifetime of Netflix and chill is okay with you.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/15 03:00 PM |
| 3 | Stitch Fix - anyone tried it?Sounds like you are the perfect customer then! Hopefully you get some good stuff :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/15 08:39 PM |
| 3 | Stitch Fix - anyone tried it?I think the idea is great, but I've seen too many posts about people paying for something in their box and then finding the same item at marshalls for like 1/3 the price. I think you would probably be better off going to a store that has complimentary personal shoppers like Nordstrom or anthropologie unless you are very short on time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/15 01:56 PM |
| 1 | Asking Ex for FeedbackTotally agree with this for two reasons- No contact is always best Self-reflection is an important skill to develop and is necessary for true changes to take place. Someone can tell you "I broke up because you were too needy", but you won't actually be able to change until you understand why you were being this way and recognize the behavior when it starts. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/15 11:49 PM |
| 6 | Friday Evening Anxiety/Help Quashing Need to Control/Please reassure me that my boyfriend is not an awful person and that this is just a dude thingProbably not phrased the best, but what I mean is that right now she is just sitting by the phone waiting on his every beck and call and that's not attractive. Having your own social life is attractive. I think it would be good for them if he texted her to come out and she replied "having a girls night, enjoy your time with the boys. Let's catch up over breakfast tomorrow" or something like that. A little absence makes the heart grow fonder :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/15 11:57 PM |
| 2 | Friday Evening Anxiety/Help Quashing Need to Control/Please reassure me that my boyfriend is not an awful person and that this is just a dude thingI think your first solution is the best. You need to start making your own plans and not be dependent on him for your social life on Friday nights (or any night really). Make plans with your girl friends, and if you happen to end up in the same bar at the end of the night great. If not, still great because you had a good time with your friends. I think it would also help if you communicated your needs more. I'm unclear from your post, but have you told him "hey I want to come pregame with you"? … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/15 10:06 PM |
| 3 | Is a man with zero ambition (self-proclaimed) a red flag?Depends what you want out of life. Are you okay doing all the work and having a "house husband" who doesn't do much? Unless that's the sort of arrangement you're looking for, it's a red flag. Probably even more than a red flag, it would be an automatic deal breaker for me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/11/15 02:52 AM |
| 24 | I [19F] believe my mother [43F] doesn't treat my father [53M] well enough, even though she thinks she has good intentions. What can I do about it? [x-post from r/relationships]Their relationship is none of your business. If you want your dad to be happy, then do things that make him happy. If you're not already helping around the house, you need to start immediately. Take over dinner a couple nights to give him a break. Make sure you show your dad that you are grateful for everything he does. Just spend time with him and tell him you love him, that's all parents really want in my experience. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/15 01:15 PM |
| 3 | Word Cloud Shows Enormous Differences in How Men and Women Communicate - super interesting!Very interesting, and not unexpected results :P I noticed something similar over the last days. I listen to a radio morning show on my way to work, and when someone calls in they ask them to introduce themselves. The women almost always start off with relating themselves to their family- I'm married, I have this many children, etc. The men almost always start off with describing their job and work. I think it really shows where the different sexes priorities lie in general. Women tend to focus o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/15 01:00 AM |
| 3 | Can I prevent an Alpha Widow situation?As long as you're honest about the break up and make it a firm ending (no contact is best) that's really all you can do. It's up to her to not dwell on the relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/15 02:45 AM |
| 5 | Need Advice on maintaining future relationship pleaseWas he also 22? It's entirely possible you did nothing "wrong", he might just not want to settle down so early in life. Men have a later peak than women and benefit more from focusing on themselves and achieving career goals (aka "monk mode") rather than committing at an early age. They don't have the same worries of fertility and aging like we do. If that's the case, he might want to be able to totally throw himself into his work (relocation, late nights, etc.) without trying to fit a serious g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/15 09:39 PM |
| 8 | Coming to terms with putting my boyfriend's family firstYour boyfriends not a mind reader, he can't know there's a problem if you don't tell him! Why do you think he wouldn't enjoy a trip with just you? I think that's a feeling you need to explore. He's with you because he loves you and enjoys spending time with you! Plus, it's not like you have to go from ALL trips with other people to NO trips with other people. You can vacation as a couple AND with family/friends, since you're taking multiple trips a year. If you really think it would be selfish, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/15 12:47 PM |
| 6 | Coming to terms with putting my boyfriend's family firstI'm a bit confused, have you asked him about this? You can ask in a way that isn't bitchy or demanding. Something like "I like your brother, but I also really love you and want to take a trip that's just the two of us. I think we would be able to explore more of our own interests rather than following his. What do you think?" | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/15 12:16 PM |
| 15 | Do you think it's true that most women don't have hobbies?I think more people in general (men and women) have no hobbies or only passively consume media as a "hobby". It's too easy to come home and fall into the trap of television, smart phones, and computers. I think the downturn in the economy has also affected this. It takes money to start and maintain hobbies, and many young people don't have any extra lying around to purchase sports gear or art supplies or whatever. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/15 09:07 PM |
| 30 | How Come Women Have Such A Hard Time In Other Subreddits With Empathy-Why I Love /r/redpillwomenThe entirety of reddit is filled with teen-mid 20s socially awkward men who have never been in a relationship. Subreddits like relationships and even twox have especially high concentrations. It's really not surprising they give terrible advice that absolves the woman of all blame. They are the nice guys who think "oh if she was with me I would NEVER do that and we would live happily ever after, I'll tell her she deserves better and maybe one day we'll be together..." | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/15 10:23 PM |
| 4 | When do you start sharing your personal stories to your date?If you're looking for a seriously committed relationship, I think you absolutely should share. There's no part of my past that I think I should hide from my husband. I would share details as they come up and as you feel more comfortable. For example if he offers you drinks you could tell him "I don't drink/only have one/whatever because I struggled with addiction in the past." Something like that is honest but doesn't include a bunch of dirty details early in the relationship. You can share more… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/15 02:49 PM |
| 2 | I need counseling but captain and I cannot afford it.Okay, so I see you mention in your comment to tempest that you aren't in a part of the world where you can find resources easily, so I'm guessing you aren't in any western countries? Sharing a (general) location might be helpful, in case there's a user from the same area who can help you more specifically. In the US we can find some counselors that work on a "sliding scale", meaning you pay what you can afford. Does something like this exist in your country? Does your country have a nationalized… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/15 08:36 PM |
| 9 | Ladies night ideas?Spa Night- Everyone brings pretty nail polish, masks, whatever. Take silly pictures with your faces all green! Closet Swap- Obviously works best if you're all similar sizes. Pinterest Night- Bring a recipe or craft and make it together Movies- Rent something stupid like Magic Mike for maximum enjoyment Also just drinking wine and gossiping is always fun when you have good company :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/15 03:12 AM |
| 10 | Wow, I failed spectacularly on that one.It sounds like you already apologized and he accepted. There's no need to continue to dwell on it. Just take it this whole situation to heart and don't make the same mistake. If he's up for it, offer to watch the little ones tonight while he goes out to make up for the missed one. If tonight doesn't work, go ahead and put his next boys night on the calendar so he has something to look forward to. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/15 04:22 PM |
| 12 | Blindsided by BFNot everyone wants a red pill style relationship, that's the purpose of dating, to figure these things out. So sorry about your breakup though, honey :( Better luck next time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/10/15 11:46 PM |
| 4 | Keeping your maiden nameall my work contacts know me as first name maiden name, additionally, I'd have to get a box full of business cards redone. I can understand wanting to keep your maiden name for personal reasons, but I don't really understand this argument. Is there some legal requirement that you must do business/publish/whatever under your legal last name? Couldn't you change your name and just continue to do business under your maiden name anyways? Honestly I have no idea, so please correct me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/15 01:20 AM |
| 3 | What's your most used/loved non-standard kitchen tool?I'm not sure if this is considered standard or not, but I recently bought a mesh strainer and it makes rinsing anything small SO much easier. The holes on my colander are kinda big so it's helpful to have the mesh. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/15 09:01 PM |
| 16 | Am I making a mountain out of a molehill and overreacting to my bf helping out his mentally unstable ex?I am not comfortable with contact with exes in my relationship, but other people feel differently... Light catching up I could understand but saying "I miss you" and comparing himself to the new boyfriend definitely crosses a line for anyone I think. If she has a new boyfriend anyways it seems like she has moved on as well and doesn't need him for "support" (wtf does that mean anyways if they aren't even talking about her depression??). If he wants to keep talking to her that is obviously his ri… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/15 03:48 PM |
| 1 | Doesn't it bother you that TRP preaches that men can have multiple sex partners while women who do the same aren't marriage material?Honestly I wouldn't (and didn't) marry a promiscuous man either. Once you start that habit, it's hard to change. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/15 12:11 AM |
| 10 | Eating your veggiesI don't know what type of diet you eat, but personally high fat, low(ish) carb helps me eat a ton more veggies (plus lose weight!). Everything is delicious with butter, olive oil, or bacon added :) Some examples: -Steam broccoli and add butter -Have bacon and eggs for breakfast, sauté a pepper (or any vegetable really) in some of the bacon grease. Mix it all together and add salsa on top, nom forever. -Roast brussels sprouts with bacon. I can eat an entire pan of this by myself, no joke. -Green … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/15 09:05 PM |
| 4 | How do I handle cooking for a man who doesn't like many foods?I don't think you have to limit yourself to only making 4-5 meals. Just make sure there's at least 1 thing he likes at every meal, and try to keep a stockpile of stuff he likes in the fridge that can be heated up to add to his dinner. Another thing you can do is have "build your own" meals so that you can both customize. Like you could make tacos and go crazy with the toppings on yours but maybe he only has the meat. Or pasta but don't mix in the sauce. Did he mind having to pick the veggies out… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/15 12:12 PM |
| 9 | Are there any books, kitchen tools, articles of clothing, etc. that you've recently purchased that you would highly recommend to other RPW?If you don't have one already, maybe invest in a good winter coat. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/15 02:35 AM |
| 16 | Hey girls! I need your honest opinions - do I need to change my behaviour?It's just signs, not statements of fact- and from a rather terrible and clickbait-y site at that. If you and your partner are happy with your behavior and appearance, that's what counts. I do feel like I need to caution you against inviting other people into the bedroom. Once that door is open, it's going to forever change your relationship, potentially in ways you aren't okay with. And if it's something that causes a break up, you are going to have to either hide it (lying) or deal with future … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/15 01:54 AM |
| 7 | Really like this guy but feel obligated to do things I don't want toHonestly unless his friends are complete immature assholes nobody will care. My husbands and his friends usually smoke when they hang out and I don't. If they offer to me I just say no thanks and they pass to the next person. No big deal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/15 12:07 PM |
| 3 | What criteria do you use for finding new friends?If philanthropy/volunteering is an important criteria to you, look for an organization that supports local causes. Most major cities have a junior league, which is just for women and they usually have volunteer requirements as well as social events. Some are more difficult to join than others though, and can be a little snobby, but just check it out! | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/15 01:57 PM |
| 13 | I'm nervous to surrender, but I'm ready. Need help!Submitting doesn't have to be an all or nothing thing. It would be unwise to hand over major decisions to a guy you've only been a few dates with. You can start with smaller acts (letting him plan dates and make the first moves) and escalate as your relationship becomes more serious and committed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/15 03:57 AM |
| 21 | Not sure if this is the place for meI suggest that if you want to move forward with your life (red pill or not), you stop all contact with your ex and spend time figuring out what you want. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/15 01:47 AM |
| 6 | Advice for a 20 year old who has never been in a relationship pleaseDon't rush into a relationship just to have one! It's easy to get swept up the first time a guy pays attention to you, but take the time to make sure he is a good choice before you commit to anything/get physical. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/15 01:24 PM |
| 10 | Let's say I was married for a long time and my husband cheated on me. What would I do?Depends on the circumstances to me... One time, one night stand situation, confesses immediately, takes steps to work on solving whatever led to this? I would probably attempt to work it out. Lengthy affair, lots of secrecy? Bye. I don't think I could repair trust in that situation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/15 11:13 PM |
| 3 | How much do you invest in a new relationship?I think it depends a lot on the level of trust in your relationship. My first relationship there wasn't much trust- my bf was very insecure and asked for things that in hindsight were unreasonable. He didn't want me to hang out with any of my friends (all girls) or work my job that was only two afternoons a week. We fought a lot and he couldn't give me any real reason for these things. In my current relationship, we have a strong level of trust. I know my husband would never ask me to give somet… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/15 06:09 PM |
| 7 | RPW in the medical professionCould you hire some other midwives or join a group where you take turns being on call? Hopefully you would only have to be away maybe one week of nights/weekend a month, and could schedule things around that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/15 12:22 AM |
| 9 | SO wants me to move into his house. What is the feminine thing to do in terms of paying rent?It benefits you both in the long run to get debt paid off. If you are seriously committed (which you should be if you are going to live together), then go for it! I think it would be nice if you could use some of the extra money you are saving on top of rent and surprise him with treats- bring him the new game he's eyeing, or the fancy food/drink he wants to try but is too expensive to justify buying. I'm so excited for you! Living together is awesome, and so is paying off debt :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/15 11:31 PM |
| 7 | How did you make your house a home?I think the atmosphere is what turns a house into a home. I've seen some beautifully decorated and designed houses, but they just didn't FEEL like a home, you know? So, to create that home feeling for us here's what I try to do: -Smells nice: cleaned without harsh smelling stuff, plus an oil warmer. We like eucalyptus mint because it's not too strong or frou frou -A couple pictures of us & families around, and some artwork done by my grandmother hung on the walls -Yummy food! -Cozy blankets for … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/08/15 05:52 PM |
| 5 | How do you feel feminine at the gym?Really there isn't anything "feminine" (in the traditional sense thinking of ladies as soft, gentle, clean, pretty) about working out, particularly weight lifting. But, having a curvy and healthy hourglass figure definitely is! So forget about the short term and focus on the long. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/15 11:48 PM |
| 2 | Accepting RealityHonestly, I'm happy I met my husband before I knew what the red pill or even what reddit was. When I met him, I actually didn't even have a smart phone! Yeah I'm a late adapter for my generation, but I still think it made things so much easier. I didn't even have texting on my phone plan until I was like 16, and no smart phone until I was 21 I think... And even then it was a shit windows phone lol. This sounds cheesy but when you're with the right person, it does just "feel right". Yes you shoul… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/15 08:37 PM |
| 1 | I'd Love Some Of Your Best Baking Recipes.Sally's baking addiction is my go to for baking recipes. She has everything. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/15 09:11 PM |
| 3 | Curious for Perspective on "Complaining" v. "Sharing"I can't imagine not telling my serious boyfriend I was in an accident. Even if it's minor. In fact, I was in a minor accident when my husband and I were dating, as I was on the way over to visit him. I told him when I got there and cried on his shoulder for a minute since it was my first accident and I was all freaked out. I would personally find it concerning that she never shares anything negative or cries in front of her boyfriend. I think it's good to be open and vulnerable- see one of the m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/15 02:07 AM |
| 12 | Is it ever too late for someone?Personally, I don't think it's ever too late for anyone unless they are on their deathbed. But I prefer to think positive :) If SHE (not you, or her therapist, but herself) truly wants to make changes then she can do it. I would encourage her to be honest and forthcoming about her past. Doesn't need to go into dirty details or anything, but lying/hiding is the fastest way to lose trust and respect. She also needs to manage her expectations. Some guys are not going to be okay with her past and th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/07/15 01:47 AM |
| 3 | How be disciplined without being too compulsive about it?/How to adapt routines?Have you ever talked to a doctor about this? Kind of sounds like you are either ADHD and have found coping methods that sometimes work, or maybe bipolar and going through manic/depressive episodes. Just a possibility. I would share your schedule with your bf and come up with one that meets both your needs. Can you spend weekend mornings and maybe one weekday morning in bed with him? Is he willing to wake up earlier? I would also strongly recommend NOT hiding your feelings from him! It can really… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/15 01:38 AM |
| 7 | SO is going aboard for 1-2 years, what do I do?Personally I wouldn't do it... Too much risk in LDRs. He's not only going to be in a new city but a new country and I'm betting he's going to want to get out and enjoy it, leaving even less time to maintain your relationship through skype/phone. Plus on top of that you describe him as more career focused then wanting to settle down. If that's your goal, then I would find a guy with similar feelings that's not planning on moving any time soon. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/07/15 06:08 PM |
| 10 | In an argument, my boyfriend [24/M] of 6 months said he is a very dominant person and expects me [22/F] to not talk back to him. [X Post from /r/relationship/advice]You can be sassy without being rude/disrespectful. I playfully tease my husband and give him a hard time occasionally, but it's all clearly in jest and I know when to stop. And a big part of that is NOT DURING ARGUMENTS! Even if it started as a joke at first, as soon as you felt it taking a wrong turn that's when you needed to stop. Take this as a lesson for the future. I've always been able to hold my own You are in a relationship now, so it's more important that you work as a team and communic… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/15 08:19 PM |
| 1 | Newbie here: where is the line between "mothering" and "taking care of your man".Oh yeah I think it's great when guys have good relationships with their family/mom. I'm talking more like, she is still doing all his laundry, paying his bills, and generally running his life. Acceptable for a 5 year old, not cute when the guy is 25! Sounds like you're off to a great relationship :) Enjoy | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/15 07:59 PM |
| 3 | Newbie here: where is the line between "mothering" and "taking care of your man".I think it depends more on the rest of your relationship outside of cooking and cleaning. I think if you have a motherly relationship outside of cooking/cleaning, then you still would no matter how much of the domestic duties you were doing. Stuff like nagging, no quality couple time, and no sex can lead to that. The guys personality can play a role too- run fast and far away from mamas boys. If his mother is still mothering when he should be independent, you can be pretty sure you will just rep… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/15 07:23 PM |
| 6 | RP-friendly books for new Fathers-to-be?Just get any non-gender specific book. Some suggestions: Healthy sleep habits, happy child Happiest baby on the block (has a follow up happiest toddler on the block) What to expect the first year or mayo clinic guide to the first year | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/15 02:08 AM |
| 4 | Does your husband travel?I totally get freaked out too. Usually at night I'll set up the iPad with Netflix on by the bed and watch something innocuous and slightly boring until I fall asleep. It's a good distraction. Strangely enough, Law & Order SVU works best... You would think it would make me more scared, but seriously after the first 10 minutes I'm out like a light every time! | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/15 06:23 PM |
| 21 | When to sacrifice things that weakens your future date-ability/Need help fully surrendering/Ethical DilemmaThey're not married any haven't even been in a committed relationship for that long. I think she is right to keep the future in mind, especially since this guy seems passive aggressive and won't even give her a straight answer. If he has a problem with it he should clearly state that instead of acting pissy and saying "do whatever". | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/15 11:34 PM |
| 5 | Giving Him Space?Baggage from cheating exes sucks! When I used to get the crazy "OMG he must be cheating on me!!1!" feelings, I would repeat... counterevidence? I guess that's the best word... to myself. Things that I knew were true that showed he wasn't cheating on me and that I was just being craycray. So I would tell myself things like "he's always really open with his phone and computer, he told me his plans for the whole week, his conversations with his friends is consistent with what he tells me" etc etc. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/15 06:42 PM |
| 2 | Looking for advice from RPW gone back into the workforce after initial childcareSome fields are more forgiving of time off than others. I don't really know anything about statistics, but could you ask a teacher/mentor/friend in the field about the work/life balance? You can also reduce resume gaps by doing some freelance work or continuing education classes during time off. Hope it all works out for you in the future! | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/15 06:14 PM |
| 2 | Field Report! Consistently being Present in the mornings.How's your sleep hygiene? In my experience, you can definitely change from being a night owl to an early bird, but you really need to focus on good sleep habits: -Spend time outside during the day taking in natural light -Get exercise every day -Cut caffeine, at least after a certain hour -No electronics at night (the big one that most people struggle with!) The first couple of days are definitely hard, but if you make sure to spend lots of active time to make yourself tired and turn off the art… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/15 01:07 PM |
| 73 | Your Relationship is Not EqualAlong similar lines, I like the saying that relationships shouldn't be 50/50- they should be 100/100, each person putting in their best effort. Instead of keeping track of who did this and who did that. It just leads to frustration. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/15 07:52 PM |
| 18 | How can I/Can I talk to him about hygiene?Okay, I came in here all ready to post about the hygiene issue but honestly you have a much bigger problem on your hands... Uncontrolled diabetes is really, really bad. Like having a heart attack, kidney failure, going blind bad. Does he realize he is literally going to die if he doesn't get it under control? Is the "hassle" of a 1 hour doctor appointment worth his life? You need to make him a doctors appointment and then I would sit him down and tell him a couple things along these lines: -I lo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/15 11:55 AM |
| 4 | Why do Red Pill Women encourage homemaking for their men before they are financially provided for? Doesn't that violateI don't think it takes away the incentive to provide, it can be quite the opposite actually- if he wants to continue to be cared for, he needs to show the ability to provide financially. This can be done even when the couple is not living together. He can take her out on dates, show fiscal responsibility through lifestyle choices (keeping up with car/home, no debt, etc.), and conversations about finances. ***Disclaimer, this is all assuming the lady is smart enough to be aware of these things an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/15 12:27 AM |
| 3 | RPW are you comfortable discussing sex and sexuality? BPW are you?I usually just lurk here, but since you specifically called out RPW then I will answer :) -I'm straight, no real feelings about it, it's just how I am! Sometime I will look at subreddits like gonewild or hardbodies, which if you saw in my browsing history could give another impression but I just use it for comparison to myself. -I had my first experiences my senior year of high school with my first serious bf. I guess it helped me grow? I certainly realized I enjoy sex! I felt in control of my b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/15 04:43 AM |
| 6 | Starting Over- Learning to Date AgainMy parents got divorced after 19 years together and they both had success with dating, my Mom's even remarried now. Unfortunately (but also weirdly fortunately at the same time?!) there are a lot of older divorced people, so if you are working on yourself and attractive you shouldn't have a problem. Try online dating (like okcupid, not tinder lol!) or take group classes, my dad is really into ballroom and swing dance and meets a lot of women there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/15 11:17 PM |
| 3 | How do you deal with a man who won't stop hitting on youTry /r/legaladvice You probably need to start looking for a new job. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/15 01:09 PM |
| 4 | 1 yr anniversary helpDoes he like traditional pen/paper writing or just electronically? Maybe a nice composition book with good pens if he does. Membership or passes to do something active and fun like rock climbing. Honestly pinterest is full of girly crap that yes is fun to make, but most guys will just fake gratitude and then forget about it. Hopefully after a year you know what his true interests are, get him something that aligns with that. If all else fails, good steak and beer is usually appreciated. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/15 06:14 PM |
| 11 | About self-reports of beauty (I'm a 7/8/9...)Yup, everyone thinks they are above average. It has been studied and even has a name! Illusory Superiority Although, it isn't hard to be above average these days, so many young people are fat. As long as you are in shape and have a decent face you probably are a 6-8. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/15 06:31 PM |
| 18 | [Happy Update] Not my boyfriend's typeI would have to disagree. This girl is beta orbiting a beta orbiter. Reading the first post was sad, but reading this one titled "happy ending" where her boyfriend vehemently defends some girl he barely even knows apparently is downright depressing. She should stop wasting her time with this loser and find someone else. DONT WASTE THE PRETTY OP! | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/15 02:41 AM |
| 18 | What are the most important things a woman should be able to do in the kitchen?I think meal planning is most important. I see SO much food just get thrown away because people bought them and didn't use it all. Such a waste of money. Yeah it's great that you roasted a chicken, but what are you going to do with it after the first day? Don't just let it go to waste because leftovers are boring! Turn it into a salad or enchiladas or something. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/15 03:33 PM |
| 14 | Sending X rated pics to your SO. Do you Sext?I had pictures posted online by an ex boyfriend. To my best knowledge, none of my family has seen it and only one friend (she's actually the one that alerted me). It was humiliating. Luckily, the site has since been shot down... But they are probably still floating around somewhere :/ That said... I do send pictures to my husband. But we are obviously married, we have a whole other level of trust I never experienced with my ex bf, and he also is not vindictive like ex bf was (doesn't trash talk … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/15 10:01 PM |
| 12 | Some questions I can not find answers to, and how RP relationship may blend with other ideals.I guess if the only choices were be #1 of a harem or be with someone who actively disgusts you, yeah I would choose to be #1. However, in reality this dichotomy doesn't exist. Many of the ladies here are in long term, exclusive relationships with guys they respect and are attracted to. Some of us are even OMG MARRIED! which according to some, a ~true alpha~ would never do. Remember that most of what is written on TRP subreddit and blogs aimed at men are not written with the best interests of wom… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/15 08:03 PM |
| 25 | Dread Game and BoundariesI am okay with some general catching up about life (ex- how are you, what's going on these days, seen any good movies lately, you know that sort of thing), but anything that could be described as flirting or "banter"? And on a daily basis? Oh HELL to the no. I don't care if he likes the attention. It's disrespectful and can cross into shady territory too quickly and easily. I would be even more not okay that he is getting defensive about it. I don't know how serious this relationship is, but I w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/15 07:36 PM |
| 12 | Red pill music for early 20 year olds?In my perspective, that music IS only supposed to sound good, not carry any sort of message. It's made to be played in clubs where you can only understand every other word and they are all mixed together anyways. I like it to dance along to in my car, but when I want to listen to music I actually connect to I go for another genre (and obviously that's a matter of personal taste). Your life doesn't have to be 100% RP everything all the time! Just listen to whatever sounds good to you. On a semi-r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/15 01:02 AM |
| 19 | Body HairPersonally, I feel dirtier when my armpit hair is longer. Like it holds onto sweat more, so then I smell worse, plus the deodorant doesn't get all the way down to the skin where it's more effective. Honestly I think dudes should shave their pits too. Clean underarms for everyone! | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/15 08:17 PM |
| 12 | What are habits I should develop before I find my captain so I'm "prepared" for the relationship?Just as an FYI it's not great for your skin in general and especially your eyes to keep makeup on at night. Long term, you are doing more damage and it will end up looking worse as you age. If you are planning on finding a captain, meaning someone you want to be with until death and probably have children with, he is going to see worse things than dark circles at some point in your life. Take the makeup off and put on some good moisturizer! | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/15 07:12 PM |
| 6 | Discussing past relationships (and sex life) with a new partner.My husband and I have talked about our exes before and I don't think it's a big deal, if you're honest and don't go on and on about it you know. I think it's kind of nice to add something like "(exbf) had (this trait), it bothered me because (reasons), I'm so happy to be with you now because you have (other trait) instead!" That wasn't worded the best but hopefully you get what I mean. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/15 07:46 PM |
| 8 | I'm too self conscious of my body and it might hurt the relationship.Are you exercising regularly? Exercise will improve your body, make you feel better about yourself (both because you look better and just mentally in general), plus it can help your varicose veins. There are also other treatments for varicose veins, like stockings and stuff but that's something you should talk to your doctor about. Don't worry about being pale... Honestly I think pale skin can look very beautiful, plus less worries about wrinkles in the future :). But if you really don't like it… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/15 01:57 AM |
| 4 | Fitness as a form of self-improvement and being a RPW: what gets you through a workout, and what is your routine?I go through phases. Sometimes I get really into running, then heavy weight lifting (well I don't do it consistently so it's never really heavy but I aim for as heavy as I can), then body weight workouts, then p90x... It goes on and on! Right now I really like yoga. Basically the most important part for me is that it's enjoyable, because otherwise I won't do it. I think as long as you are getting some form of consistent movement, you're good. Diet is most important for maintaining weight anyways… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/15 04:31 PM |
| 3 | Husband won't set boundaries with in lawsHow often are you seeing his parents? If it's just once in a while for a visit, I would probably let some of it go (except for the disrespect, that's unacceptable). Grandparents like to spoil them and an extra snack every now and then won't hurt. But if they are providing regular child care, then you should probably work on finding an alternative. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/15 04:14 PM |
| 1 | Best tips for being spend thriftI think creating a budget first is helpful. Make sure to include fun money and savings! There are many good budget trackers/apps that will notify you when you have reached your limit for a category. Most popular ones seem to be mint (free) and you need a budget (think its like $10). After you have your budget then you can work on getting the most of your money. Personally I think people tend to focus on the wrong parts of being frugal- spend 4 hours making their own cleaning products that only s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/15 04:21 PM |
| 3 | Ladies, how do you feel about splitting the bill on dates?I think splitting is awkward, I would rather alternate on who pays for dates. If the man (or lady) really wants to split, then I would pick a date like coffee, ice cream, or museum outing and get there before the other person so you can easily pay for your own. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/15 07:30 PM |
| 3 | How to find out if someone is still interested in you the RPW way?In my experience when a guy is interested in you, you will definitely hear from him. I'm assuming when he contacted you the next day, you also responded positively? I would guess you are right, he lost interest for whatever reason. If you really really liked him though, I think it would be okay to reach out one more time and just be like hey how has your week been, I had a really good time on our date, would you like to go out again? For future first dates that go well, try to set up your next d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/15 01:48 AM |
| 5 | Trying to do the best I can with what I've got. (warning, long post)I will admit I don't know anything about cars or selling them, but could you sell or trade in your cars for enough to pay off your debt and get less expensive ones? 20k EACH on cars seems like an awful lot. Also you might want to visit /r/personalfinance and /r/frugal for tips on paying off debt, managing your money, and living within your means. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/15 08:29 PM |
| 3 | Wise Words from my FatherI'm a fan of the "everything I need to know I learned in kindergarten" philosophy. If you don't have something nice to say don't say anything at all. Share. Be kind. Use gentle hands with others. Lol! | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/03/15 10:51 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts on wearing dressesI love that wearing a dress makes you look more put together than jeans and a t shirt, and it's also easier (only have to pick one clothing item!), more comfortable (no restricting pants!), and cooler in hot weather. Right now dresses are going to be most expensive because it's the beginning of the s/s season. If you can, wait for the end of the season and buy for next year (obviously only works if you won't change much in size or style). | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/03/15 03:16 AM |
| 3 | Newly wed advice thread.First, make a budget! Preferably one that includes savings and fun money! Remember to leave room for things you don't usually think about but come up occasionally, like haircuts, extra household supplies, whatever. We have a joint checking, joint savings, and then individual accounts (they are also technically joint because both our names are on them in case of emergencies, but we only spend money from our own accounts). Paychecks get deposited into joint, and then once a month we auto transfer … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/15 03:56 PM |
| 1 | My captain has no direction.If you haven't seen it yet, looks like her bf replied below (although I have to admit my troll sensors always go off when that happens...) They had a chat and worked it out. Also seems like some extremely relevant info was left out so my thoughts seem pretty off now! Anyways thanks for sharing another viewpoint with me :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/15 03:17 AM |
| 8 | My captain has no direction.You don't just prioritize any relationship. You prioritize a long term committed relationship with a man who you 100% trust has both of your best interests in mind. This does not seem to be that guy for her, and that's okay. I'm not encouraging her to keep going after guys forever. Honestly I find it rather annoying that multiple people in this thread have gone to extremes suggesting the only possibilities are that she is a gold digger who wants a huge house and fancy cars or she has to stay wit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/15 02:45 AM |
| 23 | My captain has no direction.On the other hand, she could stick with him for years, waiting for him to finally "make it". She acts as the main breadwinner while resentment slowly grows, she ages, possibly even has an accidental baby that they cannot afford because they have only one real income coming in. Even worse, maybe she is with him so long she misses that boat entirely. Then she's stuck either in a miserable marriage or with a divorce and all the messy baggage that comes with it, and she's also older with less option… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/15 11:45 PM |
| 3 | An interesting article that discusses how raising children (in America) has become a "religion" - thoughts?If you weren't aware already, there are actually several books on this topic! Bringing Up Bebe is one and there's another on eating called French Kids Eat Everything. I have not read them myself but they are pretty well reviewed on Amazon. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/15 03:18 AM |
| 3 | I'm a 22 year old, college educated, successful, white, nonreligious woman. Now that I've attained a degree and a high paying job, what is the redpill approach to attaining a faithful high income male to start a family with?Since I am a woman Why do I not believe this for 2 seconds | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/15 02:26 PM |
| 17 | Career QuandaryThe VAST majority of restaurants and food businesses fail. Also, running your own business is insanely more stressful and time consuming than a regular full time job. You will probably be spending more than 60 hours a week, especially in the beginning. Not to mention the amount of debt you will probably take on getting everything purchased. Im not sure you have realistic expectations... A business isn't something you can just play with on the side, unless you are running like an etsy "business" … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/15 08:07 PM |
| 1 | Moving in togetherMarshals and home goods can have some cute stuff, although it's not the best quality. Target too. I have had some friends get good stuff from Craigslist, but the couple times I have looked it was all ugly lol so maybe you have to be checking every day?? Beware of anything fabric covered though because of bedbugs (mattress, couches, etc) There will probably be an adjustment period when you move in together- you will probably both discover annoying habits you weren't previously aware of, or someth… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/15 12:16 AM |
| 2 | Tips on not getting attachedYou put on your big girl panties and break up with them. Maybe you should take a break from dating until you learn to think with your head (it's not just for growing hair!) instead of your ovaries. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/15 01:10 PM |
| 5 | How Can I Handle My Anger?What do you mean he gets mad at you for "talking in public"? If you are saying inappropriate things that's one point, but if he thinks you should just be silent for no reason then that's concerning. When I feel like I am getting too angry, I remove myself from the situation. I'll go sit by myself for awhile, or go for a walk if the weather is nice and cool off until I can communicate effectively again. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/15 08:14 PM |
| 3 | My husband has suggested I start taking therapy and anxiety medication. I'm hesitant.Just in case you didn't know, a "therapist" (person you talk to) won't be able to prescribe you medication. You need to see a psychiatrist (person with an MD who specializes in mental health) for that. Additionally, there are several lifestyle changes you can make before trying medication. Things like good nutrition, getting enough sleep (hard with two little ones, but SO important!), and regular exercise. Yoga in particular can be very helpful. You might find that these changes along with some … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/15 02:34 PM |
| 9 | How do you respond to people saying you're too young for marriage?The nicer people phrased it as a question, something like "don't you think you're a little young to get married?" I usually just said no without any further explanation. The more rude people who gave statements "you ARE to young to get married" I would just be like "okay" and went about my business anyways. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/15 08:53 PM |
| 4 | What are you doing for your SO on Valentines Day?Oooh what movies have you done in the past? I would love a romance/science fiction combo! | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/15 02:10 AM |
| 13 | What are you doing for your SO on Valentines Day?We have a tradition that began when we first met as poor students. We get takeout from Olive Garden (yeah yeah I know... But we were poor so that was "fancy" and now tradition dictates it must be so!), a bottle of wine, and we eat it out by our apartment pool. Then we bang and after that it's just a pretty normal evening. It's nothing special by most people's standards but we like it and it fits "us" :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/15 11:28 PM |
| 6 | Overcoming financial issuesFirst of all, you are married! Don't think of it as "your" money and "his" money. Everything you bring in together is YOUR money that works for both of you for the benefit of your marriage! Even though he is bringing in more in finances, you are still providing support in other ways, which I'm sure is invaluable to him :) You don't have to answer here, but do you have any sort of concrete budget? For example, 50% goes to rent/bills, 20% savings, 30% fun/other? If you don't have a real budget may… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/15 12:15 AM |
| 16 | What is RPW's view on female sex workers in general?obviously I'm against any case where the women are forced into it, both by slavery and life circumstance (feel like they have no other way to support themselves). If a woman chooses to be a sex worker and doesn't hide it from her other sex partners and is happy with her choice, I'm happy for her too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/15 01:55 PM |
| 9 | My SO doesn't want me sexually like he used toEven if he's no longer interested in you, he should still be getting morning wood (maybe not right when he wakes up but multiple times through the night). I would be concerned about a medical issue. He should really see a doctor. Sorry, I don't have any advice on how to approach him :( it's a sensitive topic, hopefully a more experienced user can help you out. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/15 01:06 PM |
| 2 | Remaining Calm Under FireI'm so happy both of you are okay! What a scary situation. Your instincts seem pretty spot on to me. As a suggestion for everyone here, Even though it's depressing to talk about, and you'll probably never need it, I think it's good to have a plan for emergency situations like this. I know personally my instincts usually suck, so having a general idea of what I SHOULD do is comforting/helpful for me :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/15 11:34 PM |
| 9 | How is it that some women appear classy, while at the same time being slutty?"Never judge a book by its cover" is a saying for a reason. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/15 01:45 PM |
| 10 | Need opinions on dropping this female friendship?Can you just downgrade her to a casual friend that you grab lunch with every now and then? I kind of have a similar friend. Friends since elementary school, I don't agree with a lot of her behavior. She's really a good friend to me though... I decided to never go out with her at night or anything, instead we work out together, go shopping, get lunch, really casual and innocent things where I know no trouble can be gotten into! I also try to guide her in the right direction when I can give advice… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/15 11:24 PM |
| 3 | "If you make a stupid, juvenile mistake, you can be utterly destroyed. If you’re male, that is."Another example of why you don't post anything you wouldn't mind your boss/mother/etc seeing on the internet. I love offensive jokes, but this is why you only tell them in private, where you can read nonverbal cues to judge how appropriate it is, if this group of people would receive it well. THE INTERNET IS NOT PRIVATE!! Even if a facebook page, blog, subreddit is marked private, you should never ever ever treat it as truly private. I'm guessing as fourth year dental students, they are 25-26. T… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/15 11:18 PM |
| 1 | Happy New Year!We had some pizza and champagne at home. I've had a cold this week, so tired I fell asleep at 9:30 but at least woke back up at 11:30 in time for the traditional midnight kiss! I don't really make resolutions but New Years officially marks the end of my holiday celebrating and back to normal life (meaning a majority healthy diet and no putting off exercising for family events). Happy New Years friends and be safe if you go out :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/01/15 06:46 AM |
| 5 | Looking for tips on how to bring up concerns/needs without nagging. UPDATESo sorry, honey :( I see from a previous post you have children- focus on them. Obviously divorce is hard but it can at least be civil if you both focus on their best interests. He has a responsibility to continue being their father, and hopefully you can work together to find a way for them to continue seeing you both 50% of the time. I know you probably want to stab him in the face right now, but if he's a good father put aside your own emotions. You might find either he or the other woman bac… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/14 10:32 PM |
| 12 | Parents are influenced by modern society too much and are very disappointed. Here's why. Need input.I think your parents don't understand, however I do believe most parents want to see their children happy so they will probably come around when they see you are in a happy marriage, safe living situation, stable life, etc. Also, most parents are suckers for grandchildren :) I do want to add that you should develop a back up plan for if shit hits the fan (serious injury/death of your husband, unemployment, relationship ends, whatever). I'm not saying you have to run out and get a full time job, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/14 10:08 PM |
| 10 | How do you ladies sign your notes and cards?I don't put much thought into it, but I do notice I sign his name first on stuff for his friends/family and my name first on stuff for mine. I don't really know why, it just seems right! :P Sometimes when it's a joint thing I sign us as "The Ourlastnames". Or I'll write the card, sign my name and then let him sign his own name. I don't think anyone really pays attention to the order of the names though. At least I never have when I get a card! | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/14 10:29 PM |
| 11 | Discussion about naggingDon't be in a relationship with someone you have to nag. Be with a guy who knows how to take care of his shit. When I start to feel the need to rant (something like OMG I told you this like five times already, this isn't that difficult, nag nag nag). Nagging is screechy and constant. A reminder about something important is polite and INFREQUENT. Personal safety is huge to me so I wouldn't stay with someone who kept leaving the door open. Someone could come in and harm us, steal things, and like … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/14 03:57 AM |
| 2 | Advice on saving money.I totally agree with Tempest, make sure all your big expenses are low before worrying about stuff like washing out ziplocs! Honestly I buy a $10 thing of detergent every couple of months, I might save what $20 a year by making my own? It's much more time and money efficient to find a cheaper phone plan, insurance, internet, everything that's a big recurring expense. If you have the time and inclination, of course do the small things too, they add up over time as well! But I like to browse /r/fru… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/14 08:27 PM |
| 7 | Flirty LinesWe do the same thing like when he or I ask for something say "okay but you have to give me (random number) of kisses first". Sometimes it turns into bargaining which is also fun! Another one is when we are getting dressed to go out we might say something like "you should go out like that", when he only had his underwear on or I'm just wearing jeans and a bra. It's hard to say any others because the best lines fit the context of the situation so you just have to learn to think fast and be witty! … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/14 12:10 AM |
| 5 | DAE have this "problem"? (Embarrassing... Please be nice)Honestly, I wouldn't worry about it. The majority of guys I know would take a fit girl with a smaller chest than a lazy one with bigger boobs. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/14 01:29 AM |
| 4 | What about the single RP women?Your strategy depends on the type of man you want to date. If you really want the guy to be the pursuer, then I wouldn't do anything more than make eye contact and smile before looking away. But if you are okay with doing some of the chasing, go up and talk! Check the insightful field reports thread and if you are into online dating, /u/PhantomDream09 wrote a great article that you can find under her submitted posts :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/12/14 02:47 AM |
| 2 | Holiday season is coming. Here's a recipe for toffee, and other festive sweets.If you like toffee you might like this version with saltine crackers and chocolate. I made it last year and it was so good, and also pretty easy! If anyone else has a perfect soft sugar cookie recipe I would appreciate it. I love those pretty decorated Christmas ones, so making them would be even more fun and delicious. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/14 08:48 PM |
| 3 | What do you ladies usually wear to bed?I have one of these "sleepshirts" (it's really more like a short dress) from Victoria's Secret. They are comfortable and my husband likes it, he says it cute and also likes the "easy access" lol. If you get one or something similar, try wearing it to bed without anything underneath ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/14 07:00 PM |
| 4 | Any RPW out there consistently initiate sex with your S/O? Want your advice.If you want it, why wait? :) I don't think I've ever heard a guy say "Man, I really wish that girl didn't want to have sex with me" We are probably about 50/50 on who initiates. Mine range from subtle (sitting on his lap and kind of grinding into him) to more direct (stripping my clothes off and grabbing him through his pants). He hasn't complained yet ;) As long as you don't throw a hissy fit if he turns you down, go for it! | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/14 07:53 PM |
| 15 | How can I handle sexual rejection? (Do we view sex in the same way?)You have a LOT of issues going on here. When I'm stressed, sex does not even enter my brain. He might be the same. When I'm at home after a stressful day I am either still internally thinking about all the stressors, or just trying to shut my brain off for a little while. Add on some stress induced weight gain and sex is the last thing I want to do. It's good that you are doing everything at home, but I really hope you aren't turning this into some sort of who's stressed more competition. Stayin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/11/14 12:29 AM |
| 1 | RPW, what do your weekends look like?We usually have one day where we just hang out and be lazy, maybe do something with friends and then one day for chores and grocery shopping, all that good stuff. Sometimes (like right now, my birthday and holidays) we do stuff with our families. My parents are divorced plus we try to see his occasionally so we have like 3 different events to go to for everything. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/14 03:13 PM |
| 5 | RPW, what do your weekends look like?omg 😂 i luv u 5eva | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/14 03:10 PM |
| 3 | Can we have a Thanksgiving Dinner Recipe mega thread?Get a roasting rack that you put in the pan like this. Then you can just pick it up and turn it over easily. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/14 03:58 PM |
| 3 | Can we have a Thanksgiving Dinner Recipe mega thread?Do you have any way of reheating stuff at work the next day? If yes: Brussel sprouts and bacon Mashed potatoes or sweet potatoes Roasted green beans with almond slivers are yummy. Really any sort of roasted veggie would work! If no: Any sort of salad. I like spinach with pear, cranberry, walnuts, and Gorgonzola or blue cheese Fruit salad Make your own hummus or salsa | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/14 12:22 AM |
| 5 | Can we have a Thanksgiving Dinner Recipe mega thread?-Cooking the turkey breast down for most of the cooking time will keep the breast meat nice and juicy. Just flip it over for the last 30-45 mins to get the yummy crispy skin on top too! -Butter makes everything better -So does bacon -If you are cooking everything yourself and are limited in time or have a small kitchen, lots of sides can be made ahead and then reheated, like stuffing and mashed potatoes | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/14 10:54 PM |
| 5 | What Changed Your Mind?I used to label myself a feminist, I was never a strong one but more of the "choice feminism" type. Then I realized that even the other "choice" feminists seemed to believe that only certain choices were correct. Like yeah women could technically choose to shave, or wear makeup, or be feminine, or stay at home, but their choice was wrong and they were judged pretty harshly. This and other things bothered me enough that I no longer agree with or wish to associate myself with the movement. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/14 03:27 AM |
| 9 | Women on twitter believe this is not a good list of reasons for a man to dump a woman. Consider a man with standards a joke.He should have put his foot down in the beginning if these were really deal breakers. Plus... Texting... Really? Come on bro. Number 3 though, omg I died 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/14 06:38 PM |
| 3 | Mr. Too PerfectI think it's normal (and even good!) to think your guy is too perfect at the beginning of a new relationship. It's called the honeymoon period for a reason :) I remember when I first started dating my husband it blew my mind that this perfect guy was with ME!! Woah! Just be aware that you aren't putting him on a pedestal. Nobody is perfect, that doesn't mean he isn't a great guy but there will be flaws and issues you will have to work through together. But enjoy the honeymoon while it lasts! | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/14 04:11 AM |
| 3 | Question for the Ladies who have embraced RPI don't feel attacked either online or in the real world. I can choose to not read critical comments, and I guess I'm not one of the "prominent" users so I don't get any direct messages :) All my family and friends approve of our relationship. Additionally, I handle my friends/family and he handles his. So like in your example situation, he would let me know he was ready to go and then I announce that were leaving, no reason is really necessary other than that we are ready to go. He does the sam… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/14 12:19 AM |
| 2 | Honest Question: Why did you choose this lifestyle?I totally agree with you. While I do believe that there should be some sort of backup plan in place (both people working, life insurance, savings, something like that), it's silly to think you can depend on a job to always provide for you. People rarely work at the same company for years anymore. And why should a company keep the old timer around when they can pay a new college grad 1/4 as much and they will probably be willing to work more? I wouldn't count on govt support either, I doubt any o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/14 09:03 PM |
| 1 | Honest Question: Why did you choose this lifestyle?I believe RPW has good general advice that works for all relationships, whether they be RP or BP- work to stay attractive, be sweet and open with your partner, work to improve yourself, fulfill sexual needs, etc. as well as specific advice that aligns with my own personal preferences- husband is the captain, look feminine with long hair and dress, have domestic skills, etc. I believe all relationships work better when there are clear roles established. In my own PERSONAL case, I prefer for the l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/14 08:55 PM |
| 4 | Time to take responsibility for our failed relationshipsI'll be honest, I usually lose interest and skim longer articles but this one is worth a full read through! So much truth. I was totally a crazy bitch at times in my last relationship. But I do think even if you were a good girlfriend you can always reflect on the past and see what you could do better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/14 01:59 AM |
| 5 | I need a pick me up and to be told I can turn this ship around.How long ago did you have the baby? There are some things that only time can fix- it's going to take a couple months for your hormones to stabilize, for your skin to shrink back, things like that. I know you want to get back to the way things were, but with a baby you need to understand you will probably never get that back. That isn't a bad thing though! Now you get to develop a new wonderful life with your little family. Also, it's okay to put your son down in a safe place to get some things d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/14 01:50 PM |
| 3 | Did Anyone Else Get This PM?You are probably right that it is a troll. I wouldn't answer and also send a message to the mods about it. Anyone who would legitimately like to learn can see that there is MORE than enough info in both the sidebar here AND on trp. Edit- and I would also like to add that being a RPW absolutely DOES NOT mean that any man that comes along asking for something from us gets it! We choose who to submit to/help (read: our SO and maybe other men that we know and trust to be respectful of us and our rel… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/14 10:39 PM |
| 5 | It's non romantic, but I think a girl is trying to compete with me. How would you gracefully handle this?Go to actual networking events! Is your course at a community college or university? My community college has networking and career fair days all the time. I agree it would be nice to be able to list your professor as a reference, but I doubt a company will care about other people in your class. Another good option is a meetup group for your career field, I have seen a couple on the site before, mostly for IT stuff. Or try to find an internship or some sort of applicable volunteer opportunity (i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/11/14 12:53 AM |
| 7 | RPW opinion on pushup bra?The majority of my bras are push-ups. First, it can be pretty hard to find a non push up that's still cute. Second, they just make my boobs look better so why not? I like it, my husband likes it, everybody wins! I feel like mine are kind of far apart and they need help being friends :P push-ups solve that problem lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/14 02:05 AM |
| 3 | Winter is comingI like Sorel boots for winter- I think they are wayyy cuter than uggs (although I have a pair of those too, but prefer the sorels). Check out the joan of arctic. Snow bunny chic! Get good socks too, like smartwool or something made for skiing. I also highly recommend investing in some under armour cold gear. When it gets really cold I wear them under my top and jeans, and it helps keep me insulated. If you are having a particularly sensitive day, maybe keep some of those air-activated hand warme… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/14 11:25 PM |
| 4 | #NoNothingNovember - a Manosphere.com and TheRedPill sponsored challenge...I'll go for No Sloth November- I fell out of my exercise routine with the excuse of being busier with work and school (but somehow still found time to watch netflix...) and would also like to keep our apartment clean on a daily basis instead of letting things build up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/14 06:21 PM |
| 9 | How do you know if you're stepping into mom territory?I think you only get into mom territory when you start nagging (did you do this yet? What about now? Did you do it? SHUT UP MOM!) or you start policing his choices/actions that he is completely capable of making as an independent adult (don't you think you should get to bed? Should you really be eating that? Etc). It sounds like you are doing just fine :) Remember to take time for yourself and your relationship though, it sounds like you both have a lot in your plate! | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/14 09:48 PM |
| 11 | "Why your husband's cheating"Cough cough humblebrag cough cough Honestly the whole post disgusted me. How much you want to bet the same girl is complaining about the lack of good men in ten years once she's done with her party girl lifestyle and sleeping around? | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/14 12:41 PM |
| 1 | How to find a good catch using online dating?I haven't personally done online dating, but from hearing others talk about it make sure your profile doesn't have any of that vague bs like "I can be quiet but also talkative" "I enjoy staying in but also going out", stuff like that. It describes like 99% of people anyways and doesn't tell the guy anything about you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/14 02:55 AM |
| 32 | I really dropped the ball on this one ladies. How would you have reacted?I don't think you messed up. Your boyfriend is a big boy and he can stand up for himself. Maybe next time you could chime in like "I don't have a problem with it, I would totally wreck her too!" You know just something light to add some humor. Fun girlfriend > best friend with stick up her butt | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/14 05:28 PM |
| 2 | Explaining The RPW SubThat was quite a read through phantom! But worth it ;) RPW doesn't really present any concept of feminine life outside of finding a "captain" and becoming a wife. I would agree with you and say we don't talk about it here because there are other forums on reddit and the internet in general for discussing hobbies, careers, and everything else. But there's very few that focus on this marriage dynamic! Additionally, the times threads about these things have come up, I think our members have shown t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/14 11:36 PM |
| 7 | Telling a man I've just started dating - and am interested in! - that I don't want to have sex too early. How can I do this without it coming off badly?Tell him now (not while he's trying to initiate! talk about awkward!) and be direct about it. It doesn't have to be anything long, just "hey I'm having a lot of fun with you so far, and I just wanted to let you know I only go past first/second/third/whatever base within LTRs". | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/14 07:26 PM |
| 1 | "...maybe couples that have modest rings and receptions feel that their boundless love is a celebration enough."I think #3 is because it's still more common for most families to attend church sometimes rather than never. You know the type of people who attend on Christmas and Easter and then spend the rest of the year talking about what good Christians they are while generally being horrible people. So basically more people attending sometimes = more divorce | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/14 01:18 AM |
| 1 | Beer Recipes Anyone?I have seen a lot of roast recipes that use beer. There's also things like beer can chicken, beer brats, beer battered fish, beer chili... The list goes on! Basically if there's a recipe, there's probably a version that includes beer lol I have also had a beer cheese soup (it was at a restaurant but I'm sure you could find a recipe) that was AAAMAZING, if it's cold enough to be soup weather where you are. It might also be fun to buy some new beers and do a flight with one of the meals. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/14 11:02 PM |
| 7 | I'm Not Sure Where I Lie...I am also a dirty liberal. I don't personally believe that being liberal and following red pill theory are mutually exclusive, although I know some others do. But either way, RPW isn't a political forum, it's for discussing how to have the most successful relationship you can :) If you do decide to join, welcome! If not... Go away! ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/14 10:50 PM |
| 5 | Help with a new marriageWhat was her behavior and hygiene/cleaning habits like pre marriage and baby? If she wasn't like this, have her checked for post partum depression. The lack of personal care and excessive gaming (is she using it as an escape from real life?) sound like big red flags to me. On the other hand, if she WAS like this before the baby, then you need to accept you made a bad wife choice and improve yourself like crazy and run mad game and hopefully she'll get her butt in gear. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/14 01:14 AM |
| 9 | A stupid question.Babies farting is hilarious. They are SO little but they can fart SO loud! How is it even possible. My 4 month old niece looks so pleased with herself after she has a poopsplosion all up her back. It's pretty adorable. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/14 09:39 PM |
| 4 | A stupid question.Honestly I think you need to loosen up. Everybody farts, you and I prefer to do it in private but apparently your husband doesn't, who cares? Fake a giggle and move on with your life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/14 08:59 PM |
| 3 | A stupid question.I will never ever ever have a farting contest, but come on, farts are funny! And so is poop. I mean it's stuff that comes out of your butt how can you do anything but laugh lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/14 08:49 PM |
| 6 | He's driving me nuts, I'm probably driving him nuts. Halp!I'll let someone else handle the marriage part, as it's way over my head, but I would like to chime in on the health and parenting aspect- I strongly believe that you (and your husband too, but you're the only one I can talk to here!) have an extremely important duty as parents to model AND ALSO create a healthy lifestyle for the children. There is so much research now that the type and amount of food you eat as a child follows you for the rest of your life. You have a responsibility to set them… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/10/14 06:08 PM |
| 9 | Getting along with other femalesI usually give a vague answer and then change the subject, usually to something that is going on with them. Most people LOVE talking about themselves, we are just the odd ones out :) So for example: Them- (some annoying overly personal question I don't want to talk about) Me- oh it's fine. How are you doing? I want to hear about your vacation planning! Them- endless babbling, forgot all about above personal thing | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/14 04:20 PM |
| 4 | My Mother the SAHMTo expand on your point about your moms love of learning- I hate that only those with 4 year degrees are seen as smart, and that the only path to becoming "educated" is getting a bachelors degree. There are so many alternate paths to learning! Go to the library, join an interest group, audit a community college course, but old textbooks (it's usually the same info for 1/4 the price). Today there's even free online courses from places like MIT! Honestly I think people like your mom who are self m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/14 01:36 AM |
| 14 | Is it okay for my LTR to be friend with her exes?Personally I am not okay with it. In my life and social circle I have never seen a good or even neutral outcome from keeping in touch with exes. Just keep in mind that if he's been friends with them since before your relationship, it's not something you can tell him to stop doing now. You have to decide if it's something you are okay with or not and then adjust your own actions. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/14 08:08 PM |
| 5 | How can a RPW has pride in her ethnicity?I think a good way to celebrate your culture is to include it in every day life. Make traditional foods, celebrate holidays, etc. Also if you speak Spanish and are planning on having children, teaching them the language is an amazing lifelong gift! | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/14 12:55 AM |
| 3 | Good evening Red Pill Women. I have a simple question. How did you know know he is the one?We have similar life goals and beliefs, plus we just "get" each other regarding humor, personality, things like that. We are both pretty introverted, so it's nice that we can just sit in a room and be together and have it be comfortable instead of awkward, like "well... what do we talk about now...?" About 6 months into our relationship I knew. It was both terrifying and exhilarating. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/14 02:10 PM |
| 1 | What are your views on conditioning your man?I don't know what to call it, sorry | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/14 12:27 AM |
| 5 | What are your views on conditioning your man?I think there's a difference between responding happily when he does something you like and conditioning. It's pretty natural to respond enthusiastically to his own positive behavior... For example, let's say my husband is being very touchy, lots of physical flirtation, this is something that I really like so I naturally respond positively, he also likes the way I respond so he continues this in the future. Personally, I don't consider that conditioning. Now, giving him a blowie every time he fl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/14 11:38 PM |
| 3 | It is extremely hot here and I dont feel like getting out of bed, I need ideas on how to deal with it, help please!!-Try to make food that doesn't require using the oven or stove. Grill outside, or use a crockpot. I like to make a bunch of shredded chicken in the crockpot and then you can use it on salads, or it only takes like 5 min to stir fry or steam veggies and it won't heat up your house too much. -Sundresses... All of the sundresses!! Wearing only one piece of clothing is infinitely cooler, plus it's cute :) and you can still have the fan blow up your skirt lol -When it's a million degrees I pretty muc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/14 11:42 PM |
| 1 | What if everyone actually had only one soul mate?There's a pretty good movie that explores this a bit called TiMER. I'm pretty sure it's on Netflix. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/14 01:03 PM |
| 1 | Very confused. Otherwise TRP male (28) with RPW (26), losing my footing due to constant travel on his part. Need some Red Pill Women advice.Have you asked him again what his plan for your future together is? | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/14 09:12 PM |
| 2 | Mutual friend is also beta orbiter. Just got a bit awkward.If he's an otherwise good guy, maybe try to hook him up with any girlfriends you have? | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/14 09:07 PM |
| 6 | I feel guilty and need adviceStart hitting the gym yourself and invite him on more active dates. If you are worried about finances, a walk in the park is free and you can get a soccer ball or football to toss around for cheap. Pick up games would also be a great way for him to make friends if he's drifted away from his. Hopefully he feeds off your own positive changes and begins his own self improvement. If not, I would reevaluate the relationship and bring up your concerns in a gentle way. Unfortunately many people get stu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/14 10:52 PM |
| 1 | Long DistanceWe usually talk once before bed and maybe a couple texts during the day. I also usually send him some sexy pictures ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/14 01:47 PM |
| 1 | How submissive without being married?When I was dating I went into it with the goal of marriage. So I more or less acted and made the same decisions I do now. I did have a couple boundaries- I didn't talk finances with anyone until I moved in with my husband. And I don't think I would have done anything crazy like move across the country for a guy without a very serious commitment (preferably engagement, at the very least living together)... but that never came up, so who knows? :P I think the big thing is you have to decide for yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/14 01:01 AM |
| 2 | Has red pill school been doxxed??? [XPOST]Lol I think I went in the loop where she has sex with him like 5 times! Putting his privilege inside her oppression... Made me giggle. But for real, probably has never been to Texas? Booo. Everyone knows Texas girls are the best ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/14 07:42 PM |
| 1 | Wedding Planning, RPW style?We did a destination wedding at a resort, and I think the style they did with us would work great with guys because it was quick and easy. Basically they just had a list of everything and we went down and picked our options. So you could do the same with him, have a list for food, flowers, colors, etc and he can pick or say up to you! Boom easy lol we both loved it, it took like 15 mins to plan our wedding! | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/14 01:39 PM |
| 1 | Where do you find the real dessert recipes?I like Martha Stewart and Sally's baking addiction. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/14 12:16 PM |
| 2 | What are your thoughts on the subject of separate bedrooms?I'm not a fan of it. My completely uninformed opinion is that at best it's neutral and at worst it could be a detriment... I would be interested in seeing research done on this topic if anyone has seen any. Maybe it could be a good thing if there is something like bad snoring, but really if you snore so bad it keeps your partner awake, you need to be working with a doctor to resolve it because that's not normal and there's probably a sleep apnea thing going on. But like I said, I'm uninformed so… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/14 11:18 PM |
| 1 | 'I Didn't Marry The Love Of My Life'Oh okay, I must have missed that part. Still would probably hurt even after though :/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/14 10:19 PM |
| 3 | 'I Didn't Marry The Love Of My Life'Holy shit I can't believe she put this online where her husband can find it and read it... I hope that's a fake name because that would be heartbreaking to read :( I will console myself by pretending her husband was visiting a mistress during all the times she was "having lunch" with Fred. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/14 10:02 PM |
| 23 | Holding your tongueI think a good way to control your words is to consider these things before saying anything: -Is it true? -Is it necessary? -Is it kind? (Note on this one I don't mean you can't ever say anything remotely negative, but you can at least phrase things in a way that shows understanding, compassion, a willingness to listen, whatever... hopefully you get what I mean because I can't think of the right word) If it doesn't meet those 3 criteria, don't say it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/14 01:19 AM |
| 4 | The Five Respect Needs of MenNext time you hear her start in on it say something like, "Hey, don't talk about my dad that way!" | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/14 01:11 PM |
| 4 | Question for the married ladies among us who have lovely long hair: what did you do for your wedding?I wanted to wear my hair down with big curls, but we were on a beach and it was windy so that was a no go. Instead they gave me a curly side bun, pretty similar to this. My husband and I took it down after and they used like 80 bobby pins lol! So basically my only advice is wear it how you and your hubby to be like but do give your location and weather some consideration :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/14 06:18 PM |
| 17 | If a man and woman work the same hours, should the woman still do all the household chores after work?Write up a list of all the chores and come up with a split that is acceptable to both of you. We work the same hours and share some of the housework. I do more of it because I like certain things to be done the only correct way... Uh, I mean my way :) Husband helps out when I ask, which is usually with dishes, picking junk up, and trash. He will also be in charge of mowing and stuff when we get a house. I'll gladly do the dusting, vacuuming, and scrubbing in exchange for that! | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/08/14 06:11 PM |
| 3 | My S.O. and I have a largely inactive sex life and I don't know what to do to try and fix it.I agree with this, it sounds like you just aren't compatible. Some people are low libido and there is nothing you can do about it. It's sad and it sucks and it will hurt, but it's best to get out now. Don't waste the pretty on a relationship where are you already unhappy <1 year in. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/08/14 12:32 AM |
| 6 | Follow upIs your family the type that demands you be around every minute? When my husband and I visit family, we usually go off by ourselves for a couple minutes every now and then (we are both introverts and need to escape the barrage of aunts and grandmothers!) and we chill and talk by ourselves for a bit. If either one of you sense that you are heading towards a bad moment, maybe you could do the same? | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/14 07:52 PM |
| 8 | How to treat men right: #14 Don’t bring a problem to him if you don’t want a solution.Sometimes when I need to vent I'll give him a warning, something like "I just need to bitch about this for 5 minutes, no input please" and then later after I've blown off steam he helps me solve the problem, if there is one. Unfortunately sometimes there is no solution, like that annoying girl at work that you just can't escape lol. I think the important thing when you need to vent is limit your time talking about it, because it's SUPER annoying to hear someone be negative all the time. But 5-10… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/14 06:41 PM |
| 1 | Homemakers/laundry connoisseurs of RPW: What's your laundry routine like?No, I just dry on delicate or medium, I don't have any problems with static or anything. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/14 09:53 PM |
| 4 | A long read, but confirms RP theories. What do you all think?... besides the required bullshit feminist kowtowing that contradicts everything else in the article of course.I really like this part: Meana posits that it takes a greater jolt, a more significant stimulus, to switch on a woman’s libido than a man’s. “If I don’t love cake as much as you,” she told me, “my cake better be kick-butt to get me excited to eat it.” And within a committed relationship, the crucial stimulus of being desired decreases considerably, not only because the woman’s partner loses a degree of interest but also, more important, because the woman feels that her partner is trapped, that a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/14 01:05 PM |
| 1 | I will be starting work for the first time in over 3 years, can I get some ideas for time management?I think you will find you have less to clean with your kiddo out of the house four days a week. They are like little tornados at that age! The good thing about working from home is you can do other things while working. Maybe you could even consider getting a headset and you could take calls while doing quiet cleaning activities, like picking up, laundry, dusting... Depends on how much concentration your calls take though. Obviously don't do anything to jeopardize your job! To make cleaning fast… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/07/14 11:30 PM |
| 1 | Homemakers/laundry connoisseurs of RPW: What's your laundry routine like?Laundry is something I find worth spending time on because washing your clothes properly (actually washing delicate things on delicate!) can make them last so much longer. We generally do 4 loads for the 2 of us- whites (on delicate), reds (on delicate), delicate darks, regular darks. I wash all our stuff on cold so it doesn't fade or shrink. Stuff marked lay flat or line dry gets laid out or hung. Everything else that can go in the dryer gets dried on delicate or at most medium heat to minimize… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/07/14 05:10 AM |
| 5 | Raising homemakersI never understand people who can't even do their own laundry! Every other part of cleaning I can let slide that you never learned, but laundry is something I naturally wanted to do for myself as I got older because really now do you want your mother washing your thongs?? Or if you are a dude your cum stained boxers?! Lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/07/14 02:29 AM |
| 7 | Raising homemakersEven if you are not a SAHM you still need to know how to run a household. Maybe even more so when you work, because as a SAHM you have all day to clean/cook/etc so if you screw up you have time to fix it! I think my parents did pretty good. I knew how to clean and my mom did pretty good teaching me makeup and hygiene. I do wish they taught me more cooking. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/14 09:48 PM |
| 2 | Common Hobbies and Experiences.My husband and I actually don't share many interests/hobbies. He's into techy stuff and I like girly things and more outdoor oriented activities. I think the important things are that 1. We really enjoy just being together and 2. We are both willing to engage in the others hobbies with a positive attitude. I'll try to play some of his easier video games and he will come to a dance class with me, stuff like that. Also, as phantom mentioned , we can be in the same room and doing different things. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/07/14 06:17 PM |
| 3 | Asking for help without becoming naggy or bossy?What about sitting down together and creating a chore list (including kid stuff)? Then you can divide it up based on your capabilities. For example, he can be on toddler duty while you take care of the little one since he's not as mobile. He could switch the laundry and bring the clean stuff to you to fold. Divide and conquer! Also, be willing to let your expectations go a little. Maybe you use paper plates for awhile and there's a few dust bunnies hanging about. Personally I think picking up af… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/14 07:54 PM |
| 4 | Do you have a rainy-day savings?Financial responsibility is one of my highest priorities. We have our accounts set up so we have an auto deposit to savings on the first of every month. We also move any extra dollars over when we have them (months where we get 3 paychecks, tax return, etc). I don't regularly talk about finances with people, but I think we have more money in savings than most people our age. To give you an idea, we are mid 20s and are getting close to 20k in savings. We could support ourselves for 6 months on th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/14 03:03 AM |
| 10 | Would you encourage lying to a potential SO about sexual history?I don't encourage lying about anything ever, especially in LTRs. The truth comes out eventually. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/07/14 02:01 PM |
| 4 | Ladies of RPW, how do I get my crush to act more feminine*.I think you have put the pussy so high on the pedestal you can't even see how big of a train wreck this relationship would be. Let's go through the events... You both are interested in each other, but she will only go out "as friends". You finally agree to go out as friends, but she then makes you further qualify WHY you should go out (even though you are mutually interested in each other?!?!). So anyways she FINALLY goes out with you, and proceeds to lecture you the entire time. Date ends and n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/14 12:58 PM |
| 5 | The consequences of being a plateI think the biggest consequence is wasting time in a relationship where you will almost inevitably be dumped for a younger model. At the end, your prime years where you could have found a husband have been wasted (depending on how long "too long" is, I tend to agree with phantom that one minute is too long!) Also, your family and friends will probably think you are stupid for staying with a player when you want a LTR. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/14 12:49 PM |
| 11 | I fucked up...You messed up, just make sure to learn from your mistakes. "Go with the flow" and similar responses (let's just see how it goes... It's complicated... Etc) in response to "I want an LTR"= he doesn't want one! Maybe try to come up with some little response that you can give in the future, something like "I already know which flow I would like to go with, but thanks for your time anyways :)". Also, I find it best to not put myself in the position for anything to happen. If you aren't ready to fool… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/14 12:42 AM |
| 2 | Balancing College with the rest of my RPW Life?Personally, I find that going to school and having a part time job makes it really easy to maintain home life, much easier than it ever was working full time! I don't ever feel the need to make a schedule, I think you end up falling into a routine pretty easily. My days went roughly like this: Class in the morning. Depending on what time they start, I either work out and shower/get ready before or after. Home again, eat lunch. Do any chores or errands that need doing (grocery shopping in the mid… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/14 06:29 PM |
| 2 | The Hamster In ActionUgh. Some people... I don't even know what to say, all I can do is shake my head. This reminds me of those criminals who break into someone's house and inure themselves, and then sue the homeowner. Ridiculous! | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/14 07:10 PM |
| 13 | Dignified/graceful way to deal with a break up?Take one day of wallowing, stay in bed all day if I want, eat bad food. But just ONE day, that's it. The next day I purged my room, phone, computer, etc of all evidence of our relationship. And then bought pretty bra and panty sets and moved on with my life. I'm a big fan of no contact, every one I know who kept in touch with their exs had a bunch of drama, some went into that terrible cycle of break up-get back together-repeat ad nauseam. It's really for the best. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/14 06:34 PM |
| 6 | [FR] Apologizing - I left him behind...The point wasn't to have a competitive race, the point was to have a fun bike ride together. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/14 06:10 PM |
| 3 | Do all RPW want/have children? Also, are RPW mostly conservative &/or religious?I would like children I currently work, would like to be a SAHM with young children and then probably work again I consider myself agnostic I'm not conservative | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/14 02:23 AM |
| 6 | Help explain 'the wall' to my dadMy mom got remarried when she was 55. Just because you have hit/are past the wall doesn't mean you have to give up forever, it just means you need to be realistic about your options (less). You seem to have taken the concept of hitting the wall a bit too far in the opposite direction! If you don't want to get married at this point, that's okay, but don't let a few wrinkles stop you from seeking out a partner if you want one. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/07/14 12:46 AM |
| 7 | Pet NamesWe just use "boy" and "girl". He usually answers the phone or greets me with a "hey girl" and I will say stuff like "I love you boy". I'm not really sure how it started, but that's what we use! | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/14 05:50 PM |
| 2 | Looking for advice from mothers...> MFW you say you have browsed RPW for "years" and it's barely even one year old. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/14 11:52 PM |
| 2 | New to the red pill! Have some advice needed.I think you need to do some introspection about whether this is a relationship you are capable of maintaining. Long distance relationships aren't for everyone, and that x 100 for military ones. I did a LDR for awhile and learned that I am a person that requires more physical time together. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/14 06:25 PM |
| 11 | Habits of Happy CouplesWe do all of them except say good night. If we are right next to each other... What's the point! Lol I would say my number one tip is be naked together. Anything bad can be solved with some naked time :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/14 01:01 AM |
| 3 | RPW getting ready for the weekend... 6/27I really want to have a Fourth of July party, but tiny apartment + living in the city (no fireworks allowed :() = boring! Tonight we are having people over to play magic so that should be fun, even though they aren't the type to appreciate my efforts. That's about it! It has been cloudy and rainy here and I miss the sun. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/06/14 06:29 PM |
| 2 | How to dress my age?Chino shorts are like this. Basically flat front cotton shorts. I'm not exactly sure what tops you are talking about, but if you see them a lot on teenagers it would probably be best to stay away! | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/06/14 12:08 AM |
| 5 | How to dress my age?Instead of plain tshirts and tanks, wear some that have pretty detailing or a tailored look like button downs. Instead of jean shorts or gym shorts try chino shorts. Instead of hoodies wear a cardigan or blazer. Get non-sneaker flats and non-flipflop sandals. Also wearing a low heel more often will help. Add a couple accessories to each outfit, a nice watch especially ages you up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/14 11:18 PM |
| 11 | Whenever summer comes around I either look like a stripper or a grandmaLook at fit and flare dresses. Like this | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/14 11:26 PM |
| 5 | Flair UpgradesI have flair already but I like the word "bopped" so I have to comment. Bop bop bop! :P | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/14 11:23 PM |
| 1 | How do you ladies keep your nails?I keep mine fairly short, about fingertip length, and filed nicely. They are usually plain. I like to get French manicures every once in awhile. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/14 12:16 PM |
| 1 | What do you wear to lunch with ladies?If I am already with my husband, I wear whatever I was wearing with him. If I go out with my friends and I'm going to be seeing him immediately after, then I put in something cute. If I have time between friends and seeing him then I wear whatever. I don't really care if my friends or strangers think I look nice. Although keep in mind "whatever" isn't sweats or anything like that, it's more like shorts/jeans and a v neck shirt. If I was single I would wear something cute, because you never know … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/06/14 06:52 PM |
| 2 | Which dress to wear for my elopement?The second dress looks more weddingish to me, so it depends on if that's the vibe you want to go for now or save that look for your actual wedding. Personally, I don't think the first dress is court house appropriate... I don't know if they would kick you out or anything but I know that I wouldn't feel comfortable in it. Maybe wear it out to dinner or something after? | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/14 11:43 PM |
| 3 | How do you go above and beyond?It's okay to have messed up on this one, but surely after 12 years you know what activities he DOES like? Pick one of those and do it. I feel you on the gifts. When my husband wants something he usually just gets it. It can be hard to think of something he wants but doesn't know he wants! Plus, he usually wants techy stuff that I know nothing about so it's best he picks out his own thing anyways. Bringing home little surprises can make a day special, though. Favorite candy, a new beer to try, so… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/14 07:51 PM |
| 8 | When a man says your style is boringOnly a few dates? I would probably do the same. I also dress in a rather simple fashion, I'm happy with a plain dress or pretty top and jeans. I know that all my clothing is well fitting, flattering, and durable and it has all been carefully chosen. I'm not going to overhaul my wardrobe for a dude I barely know. Now, if my husband expressed interest in seeming some new and different pieces, that is completely different. As long as we have the money for it and I don't have to show any private bit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/14 11:21 PM |
| 10 | Let's take a moment to laugh at the childish self entitlement of feminist redditors (Slight rant, sorry)I used to buy into the "choice" feminism line of thinking. However as I spent more and more time reading on the girly, feminist leaning subs I realized that they are basically like Animal Farm, they may proclaim all choices are equal but some choices are definitely considered more equal than others. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/14 02:27 AM |
| 4 | polycystic ovarian syndromeI see lots of groupons for discounted laser hair removal. If it's only a small patch on your neck, it would probably only be a couple hundred dollars total. The expensive areas are bikini and large leg patches. How does your man feel about it? Does it bother him at all? You could always ask for a contribution towards the laser as your bday/Christmas/whatever gifts. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/14 01:05 PM |
| 9 | How do you divide up household duties when both partners work full time?I like things done a particular way (clearly my way is the only correct way ;) ) so I do most of the cleaning. I usually do the kitchen, living room, laundry, and bedroom and he does the bathroom (which I HATE cleaning) and takes trash out (also hate). Also since I cook he usually helps with dishes. I do more but since I don't have to do the things I hate I think it's fair! | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/14 12:18 AM |
| 5 | Why doesn't Return of Queens get any respect?The first couple posts ranged from shit to "meh". I saw no reason to return. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/14 02:24 AM |
| 1 | How to dress your man?I like Nordstrom Rack a lot. A lot of the time they have nice basic tees 2/$25. Casual button downs go on sale occasionally too. Target actually has some good basic tees for dudes too. But I think guys look hot in basic stuff (if it's well fitting), so maybe I don't mind the generic look as much :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/06/14 01:21 AM |
| 2 | Bitchy comments from friends....how to respond?I like to go with something like "wow, that was a really rude thing to say." Simple, yet effective. If you want to REALLY put them on the spot look at her with a quizzical expression and ask "what were you hoping to accomplish by saying that?" Wait for the response and internally cackle as the other person stumbles over their words trying to come up with a lame excuse. If you are feeling passive aggressive: -"Oh Suzy it is not like you at all to say such mean things. You must be having a bad day… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/14 06:56 PM |
| 3 | Field report - spending money I earnedUse some of it to buy a sexy dress, then go out to a nice dinner and spend a night in a hotel. Celebrate! | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/14 01:28 PM |
| 5 | What do you ladies think of Steve Harvey's "Think Like A Man, Act Like A Lady"?From that article, it doesn't look too bad to me. I think there is a little too much about setting high standards for the man and not enough about setting some for yourself. I thought all the euphemisms that boil down to "don't be a slut" were funny. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/06/14 07:47 PM |
| 16 | "This is what #femaledisadvantage looks like"Am I the only one who has never worried this? My thoughts before a date are usually along the lines of "what should I wear?" or "I hope it's fun", not "oh noesss what if he's a rapist" o.O wtf would you accept a date with a guy you got rapist vibes from...? | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/14 09:19 PM |
| 2 | Bill for Student Safety: Sexual AssaultStupid on oh so many levels. How do you determine who was the initiator? (Oh right it will be assumed to be the male in all cases) how do you prove they received verbal consent? Should they record it? What about written, what if they lose it? How long do they need to keep the written consent for, forever? How do you prove that consent was ongoing (again, should you record it?) I understand what they were trying to do here, but this bill does nothing to actually protect anyone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/14 12:23 PM |
| 6 | She may or may not be cheating on her husband.I would encourage him to verify the rumors. Check out her phone, internet accounts, bank accounts, etc. If the rumors are true, he needs to find a lawyer and figure out how to best protect his rights depending on his own unique situation and location. Actually it might be best to do this even if he finds nothing, just in case. More information is never a bad thing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/14 06:58 PM |
| 4 | Is it ever ok to issue an ultimatum?It's controversial, but I am not against giving ultimatums (in certain circumstances). It is a NEW behavior. This is the most important factor. For example, it wouldn't be fair to ask a smoker to stop smoking after you enter a relationship with them. You knew they were a smoker from the beginning, if you can't accept it that's on you. It's a SERIOUS problem. You can't go issuing ultimatums over every little thing. It needs to be something that is a deal breaker. You need to be able to follow thr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/14 06:44 PM |
| 2 | From a RPW perspective, what are some ways to be a good long-distance partner?Set up "dates" over video chat together. For example cook the same meal and then eat it together. Or start a movie at the same time and watch it together. If there is a night when you know he is going to be home and hasn't eaten yet, order his favorite pizza or takeout and have it delivered as a surprise. Most places will allow you to prepay online or over the phone with a credit card. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/14 12:23 PM |
| 2 | Does anyone ever poke fun of you because you have a very "girly" voice?I have had my voice made fun of before. I think it's more because I do have a tendency to upspeak :/ They don't tease me in a mean way, just poking fun, but it still makes me self conscious. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/06/14 02:10 PM |
| 12 | My Boyfriend Seems Mad With Me but I don't Know Why? Usualy He's Very Up Front About it So I'm confused.This seems real trollish but I'm going to answer anyways because I'm bored. You seem sweet, but honestly clueless. First of all, you moved in wayyy too soon. I think it would be best if you had a part time job outside of modeling and had your own source of income so you can support yourself and live on your own and develop better habits while you get to know him more seriously. It's not good to be messy in the first place, and leaving a mess in an apartment someone else pays for is extra disresp… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/06/14 02:37 AM |
| 4 | Field Report: Ultimate Frisbee…quite possibly the best place to meet athletic men.Wonderful! I think any active group event is a great way to meet good guys like you said. Intramural sports, rock climbing (buff shoulders and backs mmm...), dance classes, etc. Plus even if you don't meet anyone you got some exercise. Win win! | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/14 04:52 PM |
| 9 | Do women like femininity?I think many women are afraid to be feminine because they think it means they are lesser, or weak, or inferior. If you read askwomen or twox or one of the other women related subreddits, you see posts saying exactly this fairly often. These girls avoid makeup and skirts and girly things because they were raised to be strong and independent and being tough (read=like a man) is good but being nurturing and soft and sweet is bad. They think other girls are vapid and frivolous and stupid but they ar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/06/14 04:44 PM |
| 1 | Pregnancy, sex, and TRP mentality. Am I wrong for being pissed at a lack of sex?Oh yeah, good point on the asking! I worded that badly... Don't just straight up ask :P do what stingray said! | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/14 01:22 PM |
| 6 | Pregnancy, sex, and TRP mentality. Am I wrong for being pissed at a lack of sex?Okay, so I went ahead and took a look. In one of your posts you say the sex used to be "amazing and frequent", so I'm inclined to believe that it stopped because of the issues she is having with the pregnancy. Second, it sounds like she is REALLY sick. Losing 11 lbs is absolutely not normal. But she has a prescription now and is getting better, right? She is still in the first trimester so hopefully the meds + time solves her tiredness and sickness and you can get back to (semi)normal. I know so… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/14 12:53 PM |
| 5 | 30 day ab challengeHonestly I think the challenges like this are stupid and a way for people to feel good about themselves without actually doing anything. Sooo many people sign up to do them, but I rarely see anyone complete the 30 days. They either A. Never begin or B. Do like the first week and then quit. Plus, it focuses on such a limited range (abs only) when you really need a whole body program for health. BUTTTT that said if it inspires someone to change their lifestyle who am I to say it's stupid? I sincer… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/14 11:51 AM |
| 1 | Pregnancy, sex, and TRP mentality. Am I wrong for being pissed at a lack of sex?Is this something new with the pregnancy or was she low libido before as well? | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/14 11:44 AM |
| 5 | What's your skincare routine?I'm following the beginners routine from /r/skincareaddiction. I'm really happy with the results I'm getting! My skin has definitely cleared up since I started. Morning: Splash with water only unless I feel like I woke up with my face extra dirty for whatever reason. Swipe with BHA pads (I use stridex). Moisturizer with cetaphil moisturizer. Night: Wash with cetaphil cleanser. Use a small amount of AHA treatment (olay regenerist night something or other). Moisturizer again. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/14 02:00 AM |
| 2 | RPers & RPW: How do you instill RP values in your children?Model the behavior! Your children are always watching you and they pick up on more than you think. Speak openly and often about your family values. Be candid about things like sex and what's attractive and what's not. Here are some things my parents told me as I was growing up that I believe impacted my thinking to a more naturally RP style: -Sex is fun and enjoyable, but is also an emotional experience that is best limited to serious, monogamous relationships. -Being fit is important for both h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/14 03:17 AM |
| 2 | The price of beauty - Where do you draw the line?I've know idea if this is a frowned upon view here but while I was brought up with a healthy dose of " it's what's on the inside that counts " every fibre of my being has told me my looks and attractiveness is the number one thing that's important. Where in the world would you get the idea that that is frowned upon here?! We have SOOO many posts about the importance of attractiveness. Yeah personality keeps them around, but attractiveness draws them in which you obviously need first! Additionall… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/14 06:54 PM |
| 4 | The price of beauty - Where do you draw the line?I am currently happy with the results I get from drugstore products (hair, skin, and makeup), the most expensive might be $10, tops. But I would pay more. Probably up to $20/each products for hair and $50-75/each for skincare if I need stronger stuff as I get older. Haircuts I will pay a lot for since curls are hard and need to be shaped well. I would say I'm willing to go up to $100-120 for the cut alone since I get it cut so rarely. I don't need coloring right now but I would pay well for that… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/05/14 06:07 PM |
| 6 | Why are Smart Women Waiting Until the Onset of Menopause to Try to Have Kids?To add a little math: Let's say you are a typical woman using some form of hormonal birth control. After quitting the hormones, it can take a couple months for the hormones to clear your system and for your cycles to stabilize. Let's say 3 months. As stated above, up to 1 year to get pregnant. Add 9 month pregnancy onto that (and technically it's 40 weeks so more like 10). That means it is entirely possible that you won't have a baby in your arms for as long as 2 YEARS after you start trying. It… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/14 10:02 PM |
| 12 | Why are Smart Women Waiting Until the Onset of Menopause to Try to Have Kids?I think another problem with sex ed is that it is fear based, where the fear is teen pregnancy. Comments like "it only takes one time" are common. Until I took a bio course in college I had no clue that the fertilization window is fairly short. In fact, it is perfectly normal for a HEALTHY, YOUNG couple to take up to a year to get pregnant while having regular unprotected sex. I repeat, HEALTHY, YOUNG, as long as a whole 365 days. It's always in your best interest to start earlier rather than la… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/14 09:47 PM |
| 2 | Separate activities with friendsMine doesn't spend much physical time alone with friends but he plays games over Skype pretty much daily with them. Maybe that's why he doesn't feel the need for boys nights? We like to spend our free time together too, and we both don't care to go "out" meaning bars/clubs except for once in a blue moon, and even then we want to go together to grind all up on each other and then have drunk sex :P Edit, hit submit too soon! So in conclusion I guess it's not that important for us to have separate … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/14 05:16 PM |
| 1 | I would really value some opinions on this family situation re: the dynamic between my mother in law, husband and myself.I would reply "you should really discuss this (and any future disagreements) directly with him." If she continues to rant at you, just repeat that or ignore it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/14 03:00 PM |
| 2 | A Day in the Life of an RP WomanWe wake up between 7-8. I sit in bed and check the internets and talk with husband as he gets dressed for work. He leaves, I usually get up and have some tea. Then go work out. Come back and shower and make myself all pretty for the day. Eat lunch and then do any chores/errands we have to do. If we don't have anything I might go have lunch with a friend or something. Either way, I try to be home around 5ish to figure out what we want to do for dinner. Husband gets home around 5:30-6. We don't li… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/05/14 12:57 PM |
| 14 | Too self sufficient?Congratulations, you have found an adult human male instead of a man child! That's the goal :P It will be easier to play house and do all those wifey things for him when you live together. For now, why not focus on other special things? You could bake something tasty and bring it over, make or find a cool decoration, knit him a scarf in his favorite color or something. Additionally, try to figure out his love language. I'm sure he appreciates when you do things for him, but his love language mig… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/14 04:27 PM |
| 2 | RP advice for living with alcoholism?I avoid both extremes. Alcoholism is absolutely unacceptable to me, but so is a guy who NEVER drinks. I like to drink casually/socially and I looked for someone similar. I like keeping nice beer and a few bottles and mixers around so that I can have a drink with dinner if I feel like it (I usually don't, but sometimes the urge strikes). My husband has one or two beers most nights and I'm okay with that, since studies has shown that level to be healthy. If he started to increase his usage though … | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/14 10:28 PM |
| 3 | RECIPE MEGATHREAD:Post you favorite recipes you love to make the most!I have never had something bad from a Martha Stewart recipe. Meals, drinks, baking, everything is good. That lady knows what she's doing. Look up lemon garlic pork, my husband loveddd it. We are actually having it again tonight! | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/14 08:40 PM |
| 1 | Do you like the dress?I don't care for the top half, but I think long sleeve wedding dresses look kind of weird. Especially for a summer wedding! But it is very flattering to her figure and if she and Kanye like it, who cares what I think :P I don't think TRP has a stance on interracial couples, other than that you tend to see certain combinations more often that others, for example white guy with an Asian girl is common but Asian guy and white girl is quite rare. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/05/14 04:17 PM |
| 8 | My SO is deadI'm so sorry for you, scallopkid. I don't have any experience with this so I can't give you any advice, but please feel free to pm me if you ever need to vent at someone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/14 04:02 PM |
| 14 | #YesAllWomen is stupid and selfish.Men have literally never been a victim of a violent crime ever. #NoManEver | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/14 01:53 AM |
| 22 | Reminder of something that is frowned upon hereExactly! If you don't like it, just come play here :) I like my RPW bubble of niceness and femininity. Let the boys have their locker room talk. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/14 03:32 PM |
| 2 | How different are your and your SO's eating habits?We actually have pretty different eating habits. Breakfast: he eats it and I usually don't. When I do, we have different tastes. I would rather have eggs/bacon/protein or some fresh fruit and he likes a carb fest- cereal, waffles, muffins. Lunch: he likes to eat out at work (Taco bell, raising canes) and I eat at home or bring my lunch, or if I do eat out I like to go somewhere semi-healthy like subway or chipotle. Dinner: the only meal where we usually eat the same things. He definitely likes t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/14 09:37 PM |
| 1 | Survey for women: Post your and your man's stats.Your age: 23 Your height: 5'7" Your weight: we don't own a scale, but I believe I'm about 135 Your race/ethnicity (more specific is better): White, mix European Your salary: No idea but it's not a lot. I'm a part time server so I bring home tips Your occupation: See above! Your education level: Currently in college Your college major: Child development His age: 25 His height: 6'3" His weight: I think he's around 170. He's pretty thin for his height His race/ethnicity (more specific is better): W… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/14 01:03 PM |
| 5 | Do you think it's disrespectful for a woman to not take her husband's last name when they get married?Just to clear up some misinformation, NOWHERE in the U.S. will two people be married based solely on the fact that they live together. In all the states (including DC) that still recognize common law marriages, the couples must be presenting themselves as husband and wife to the public. No need to worry about being accidentally married, you have to agree to it first :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/05/14 08:46 PM |
| 3 | Broth fasting stories or recipes?The full fat Fage is getting SO hard to find around here :( My grocery store recently quit stocking it and now they only have the 2% and fat free kind. The 2% is okay, but I need to find a new place to get the full fat. I hate the fat=evil people. Thanks for ruining my yogurt jerks! | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/05/14 08:39 PM |
| 7 | Broth fasting stories or recipes?I think it would be more beneficial to you to try something like a Whole 30. Much more sustainable in the long run and it can help you find which elements of your diet are causing your digestive issues. If you don't know what it is, basically you eat only meat, a lot of veggies, and fruit. No dairy, no grains/gluten, no legumes, no added sugar. There's a whole website dedicated if you google it. If you do decide to go ahead with your broth fast, I would limit it to one or two days max. That shou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/05/14 11:35 AM |
| 33 | Do you think it's disrespectful for a woman to not take her husband's last name when they get married?I'm not sure I find it disrespectful as much as completely foreign. Like... why NOT change your name (or at least hyphenate, or some sort of common last name)? Married couple=Family=Same last name. I want to share a family name with my children, and so does my husband. It's just easier for me to change my name culturally and financially (wives can change for free, husbands no). I don't understand the women who cry "But it's my name! It's my identity!" I feel like if you are secure in yourself, y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/05/14 01:15 AM |
| 11 | A guide to feminine shaving (NSFW)It's called an epilator in English :) love your description! Tiny lawn mower is very accurate! | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/05/14 01:08 PM |
| 2 | Legitimate Question - AWALTI don't waste my time trying to change people's minds. I'll go on with my own life and if they want to think I'm an overly hypergamous, gold digging slut who will eventually cheat on her husband that's fine. I'm not married to them! And anyways, actions are worth 1000 words. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/14 12:18 PM |
| 9 | RPW on Cohabitation?I am very pro cohabitation before marriage. There are some things that only come out when you start living together. Poor hygiene habits, porn addiction, stuff like that can be hard to see when you don't live together. I'm not against people not living together before marriage, but I do think at least making some slight compromises so you get a taste of what it's going to be like is good. Take an extended vacation together or maybe do several "trial runs" where you aren't officially living toget… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/14 12:14 PM |
| 5 | What does your week look like with regard to exercise?I go through phases of what I do. Right now I'm super out of shape so I started doing couch to 5k. One week in! Diet, I try to eat generally healthy which to me means mostly protein, dairy, and natural carbs through fruit and veggies. Sometimes I'll have bread products, but I try to keep it down because it makes me feel gross if I eat too much. I kind of naturally do intermittent fasting, I'm never hungry in the morning so I usually don't eat breakfast. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/14 08:23 PM |
| 4 | Married and LTR RPW: Who buys his clothes?My husband could care less what he wears, so I buy stuff I think looks good on him. He picks out his daily wear, unless he asks for my input or if I notice something is just totally clashing (like I said, he could care less...) | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/14 07:19 PM |
| 2 | Red Pill man here. My LTR woman claims I'm a controlling person and I disagree.Well, in any case, you two seem to have fundamental disagreements, so like Dana said it's probably time to next. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/14 01:33 PM |
| 4 | Red Pill man here. My LTR woman claims I'm a controlling person and I disagree.That's still kind of vague... What are the boundaries? | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/14 01:14 PM |
| 10 | Red Pill man here. My LTR woman claims I'm a controlling person and I disagree.Your definition seems to be just the extremes. You can be controlling while still not taking it to that level. It would be better to say what you actually are doing instead of only what you aren't doing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/14 01:06 PM |
| 2 | Males who are strong and handsome by nature?I saw someone post this chart the other day and thought it was a really good representation of all dude body types. I would say the guy at 5c is the most attractive, looks like he's fit but not obsessed and isn't against going out for burgers and beer. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/14 02:24 AM |
| 4 | Please use the REPORT button if you see anyone being rude.Anyone who disagrees with me or downvotes me counts as rude. #sorrynotsorry /giant sarcasm symbol here just to be safe, lol! | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/14 10:15 PM |
| 7 | Fighting Discouragement in Weight LossStop paying attention to the scale number and start paying attention to how you look, how clothes fit, and tape measurements. If you are lifting heavy weights, it's entirely possible that you are putting on muscle and losing fat at the same time. Because muscle is heavier than fat, you can be getting thinner (losing fat) but not have lost weight according to the scale. Try taking progress pics once a month and compare those instead. As for the issue with your bf, try giving him a specific thing … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/14 08:39 PM |
| 3 | How do you do your nails?I keep mine natural, fairly short, and just kind of a smooth, roundish shape. My job and the fact that I wear contacts everyday prevents me from wanting to grow them long and polish them! When I do polish, I usually do a French manicure. I think it looks pretty and natural. Occasionally I'll do bright red, which I love but chips are so noticeable! My toes I keep polished pretty much all the time, usually a bright pink. My feet aren't that pretty and I think the polish gives them a small boost, l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/14 02:09 AM |
| 2 | How do you learn to dress like a girl?Find a good tailor and utilize them! Buy shirts to fit your boobs and then get them taken in at the waist, it should be pretty cheap and if you buy good quality shirts they will look great and last a long time. Also, make sure you are wearing a properly fitted bra: /r/abrathatfits Pinterest is great for fashion inspiration. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/14 06:25 PM |
| 3 | Lady-like language?My parents beat "no swearing" into me as a child, so I hardly ever curse (in actual conversation I mean, it tends to come out more online). Maybe only a couple times a year? At least when I do, people know I'm serious! Overall though, I think using proper grammar and manners is most important for feminine speech. Sounding educated and polite goes a long way. When I first started working where I do now, everyone was impressed that I use please, thank you, excuse me, etc. It only takes an extra se… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/14 02:07 AM |
| 3 | An Appreciation Letter to the BoyfriendI feel like this is one of those things that is more effective with women. Unless his love language is words of affirmation, most dudes just don't really care about long, gushy love letters you know? Not that they wouldn't enjoy it at all, but I think other ways of showing your appreciation are more effective. How about dressing up sexy and having a nice dinner. Look up at him with adoring eyes and say "I really appreciate everything you do for me". Then show your continued appreciation in the f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/05/14 07:21 PM |
| 7 | What constitutes naggingEvolution of Nagging: (tone: polite, friendly): Hey, can you take the trash out when you have a minute? Thanks. (tone: still polite, maybe a little less warm) Can you take the trash out please? (tone: a little annoyed and urgent) Can you take the trash out now?? (tone: screechy) Can't you just take the trash out already?!?! I don't understand what's taking so long?? Like why can't you just do it already, how many times do I have to ask??? Blah blah blah rant rant rant... other person stopped lis… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/05/14 07:14 PM |
| 1 | Your RPW Jewish Mom makes you feel guilty....This is my last week of school, so when it's over I'll have more time to join in! I miss our chats. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/14 05:31 PM |
| 2 | [Advice] How can i let a guy down firmly, but gently?It really will hurt him more in the long run... Time goes on, he gets more attached, it hurts more in the end. On the bright side, this is how some guys find TRP so maybe there's hope for him (with another girl) one day ;) BTW I just noticed you are from dallas too! Hi fellow dallas RPW! | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/14 01:11 PM |
| 3 | [Advice] How can i let a guy down firmly, but gently?This guy is never going to be interested in being "just friends" with you no matter what you or he says. It would be better for you to just cut him off before he can do any damage to your relationship. Stop worrying about hurting his feelings! He is showing so much disrespect to your bf and your relationship. Just tell him "I'm not interested and your continued insistence is making me uncomfortable. Please don't contact me again." Then ignore him. It's really for the best. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/14 01:00 PM |
| 13 | A Great Thread In TrollX In A RedPillWomen Hate FestivalEvery time RPW comes up you can see the amount of willful ignorance and twisting of words that goes on. It's pretty ridiculous. But high fives to all you girls that set the record straight! I never thought I would see RPW answers being upvoted in that sub! I don't understand why they can't just take care of their own business and let us take care of ours. Nobody is FORCING them to be red pill women, if they don't want to they don't have to! Just get on with your own life and leave us alone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/14 01:25 AM |
| 6 | 13 Ways to Keep Your Husband HappyI have mixed feelings about articles like these. On one hand, I appreciate the advice and think it needs to be heard. But on the other hand, I get a "look at meee I'm so hot and cool. All other women are bitches" vibe. Maybe it's just because I would feel braggy writing a similar article? I don't know, anyone else get this feeling or is it just me? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/14 09:15 PM |
| 1 | HairIt would be helpful if you added a bit more information... What's your hair texture like, straight or curly? Is it fine or thick? What's your face shape, or would you like to accentuate any facial feature? Anyways, I've always loved Reese Witherspoons hair. I think this cut is really nice. Blake Lively has amazing hair too, like here. Hilary Duff could be another inspiration. Or Lauren Conrad for the "all one length" look | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/14 02:50 AM |
| 11 | RPW: What is the benefit of marriage to a high earning male?You seem to be aware of the legal benefits, so I won't go too much into that. Most important for me here is the medical legal benefits like hospital visitation and power of attorney. I know my husband is aware of my wishes and I trust him to carry them out if I can't. It's kind of awkward discussing with your parents what you want to be done with your dead body, you know? They don't need that burden placed on them. Then there's the "girlfriend experience" stuff. Companionship, homemaking skills … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/14 04:14 PM |
| 1 | Woman dismissed from gym for being "too fit and making other members uncomfortable". WTF?Lol I love it! | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/14 12:43 PM |
| 4 | The love of my life said I lack "drive"Could it be possible he meant something like you lack a passion or "spark" in life? Do you have anything to talk about other than the children, his work, and the house? Obviously you are busy with the kids and what not, but it could be beneficial to carve out a couple hours a week to pick up an interesting hobby or take a night class or something (if you don't already). Passion is attractive outside of the bedroom too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/14 12:49 AM |
| 1 | Question from a fellow male red-pillerTouch is big for me, if I feel comfortable enough to touch you, I like you. But some people are more touchy feely than others, it might not mean anything special for others. For random encounters, eye contact and a smile. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/14 06:11 PM |
| 1 | [Angry Humor]This is f**king awesome: AN OPEN LETTER TO BEARDED HIPSTERSHow short does he keep it? When my husbands beard is too short (like basically just stubble) it's painful, but when it grows a bit longer it softens up on its own. this painful this not painful | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/14 04:12 PM |
| 14 | Woman dismissed from gym for being "too fit and making other members uncomfortable". WTF?It's stupid, but planet fitness DOES have a dress code that she agreed to follow when she signed up. It's common knowledge that PF is a "judgement free and lunk free" zone so if she wanted a real gym instead of a place of coddling and hand holding that also happens to have a couple treadmills, she should have signed up elsewhere. My problem with PF is how hypocritical they are... They claim to be judgement free but will sound an alarm if you grunt? Sounds like judging someone's workout preferenc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/05/14 04:05 PM |
| 3 | Long Distance Relationships... Can they work?I did it for two years. In the end we broke up due to him cheating, but I'm not sure it was related to the distance because he also did it during blocks of time when we were together (like 3 months being together over the summer and I was begging HIM for sex). If I was still single/dating, I would never do it again. Within the context of our marriage I would do everything possible to prevent it, obviously short work trips and the like are going to happen but if he was going to be gone for more t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/14 11:55 PM |
| 5 | "So, tell me more about yourself"I still struggle with this question... It's like there's simultaneously so much and so little I could say about myself! My mind just goes blank. I feel like I'm just a regular girl, you know? What is there to say lol. My favorite color is blue, I like cooking and baking, I watch too much netflix, I like being outside and I love babies. That's just the surface, to go to a deeper level I could say trust and honesty are my #1 virtues, my spiritual beliefs can be summed up with the prayer of St. Fra… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/14 11:43 PM |
| 1 | I just have to share...Your hair is gorgeous! Looks so soft and shiny. My favorite is the spring/summer 2013 pic, those waves are to die for. I've thought about dying my hair blonde before. I was naturally blonde for most of my childhood, up until about high school, but it darkened to its current color. I miss it, but haven't been able to justify the cost/upkeep to myself yet... Maybe one day :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/14 01:08 PM |
| 1 | I just have to share...Since I've been growing it out I haven't straightened it because of how damaging it is, although I REALLYYY want to for the exact reason you said! When it's wet it gets pretty straight though and it's down to about my lower back. Not exactly the same but close enough :P | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/14 12:50 PM |
| 1 | I just have to share...Yeah, I've read about it too, but I'm not brave enough either! Sometimes I'll take a shower and only condition it, but I don't think I could do it every day. How do you like the loreal? I use organix which is also sulfate free. I think I can tell a difference from regular shampoo lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/14 12:48 PM |
| 1 | What do you wear on a daily basis?I love my born sandals! They look most similar to these except they are plain brown leather instead of the multicolor. They are also pretty comfortable. A lot of Born shoes are a little "crunchy" looking but the simple sandals are pretty cute. I also have a pair by reef that are nice but they are more casual flip flop style | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/14 03:05 PM |
| 3 | What do you wear on a daily basis?I dress casual, kind of girly, but no "uniform"... I mix it up! In the summer I wear shorts and a tank or tee, or pretty summer dresses. Sometimes a skirt. Shoes are sperrys or sandals. On Monday I bought some strappy high heel sandals that I'm excited to wear :) In the winter, I usually wear skinny jeans and tall frye boots with a sweater. I have a couple sweater dresses for when it's not too cold that I'll wear with tights and boots. My coat is a wool peacoat that I think looks nice and femini… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/04/14 02:04 PM |
| 10 | So how do you girls react/feel about strangers hitting on/cat calling?I like the car honks and "Ayyy girl" kinds. I just give them a wave and keep on walking. It does bother me when they start following, but that's only happened like once. I don't live in a pedestrian friendly area though, so it's not a frequent thing :P | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/14 04:33 PM |
| 7 | Interesting take on "why feminism is good": (XPost from r/TheRedPill)I also frequently do a hitler. Thanks femimanism! | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/14 02:03 PM |
| 9 | [RANT] I'm Getting Bullied By Tumblr FeministsPlease don't feed the trolls, dear. If this is causing you to lose business I would go ahead and shut this down and move to another space, preferably under a new name. At the very least close comments and delete the past negative ones. In the future, try to keep your money making ventures and personal life stuff separate, unless they are somehow related. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/14 02:39 AM |
| 6 | Weekly Post: What Are You Making? Show Off Your Arts, Crafts or Pretty Cooking!Not much, but there's something about red toes that make a girl feel pretty :) here | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/14 09:15 PM |
| 3 | How to deal with SO's ultra-conservative fatherYou're not married yet, so you have to decide if it's something you are willing to put up with for the sake of your boyfriend. Another thing to consider is if your boyfriend will have the same expectations of you once you are married. Personally, I would not want to be reduced to a maid and the mutually simulating conversations I have with my husband is very important to me (and him). However, if I could be assured in some way that he would not expect the same, I could probably put up with the t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/14 06:33 PM |
| 5 | How to deal with SO's ultra-conservative fatherMen don't find education attractive but some of them absolutely value it. There is a key difference between the two. My husband values that I am educated and intelligent. If I wasn't, I would just be some dumb slut he banged, not his wife. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/14 06:28 PM |
| 2 | Alternatives to traditional American schooling?The other options are private schools or a charter school, but even with those the vast majority is the academic sit at a desk all day kind of thing. If your city has a Montessori or similar program schools for higher grade levels, they are pretty good about exploring, not sitting all day, etc. But it's going to be big $$$ unless you can get a scholarship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/14 04:12 PM |
| 3 | RedPillWomen, what is your idea of a perfect man?I'm not going to write it all out here, but I do have a cute little story :) When I was about 16, my friend and I were having a sleepover and we each wrote out a list of characteristics (physical and personality) of our "perfect guys". I ended up keeping mine in a little scrapbook I had full of silly things like that, notes from friends, etc. Years later shortly after I started dating m husband I realized he fit ALL of the things I wrote, including physical description, down to eye color! He rea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/14 12:01 AM |
| 2 | Helping with infantsI haven't had any of my own, but all of your above suggestions were appreciated by my sister when my niece was born. Dishes and laundry seem never ending with a newborn. Feeding or just holding the little one while she takes a shower or nap or whatever is great too. It's normal to be a bit overwhelmed at first, but watch out for postpartum depression. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/14 08:38 PM |
| 3 | What is you favorite brand of heels?I like Sam Edelman, Nine West, and I have a pair of Jessica Simpsons that are pretty comfy. They were all ~$100 I think. I would love to try some of the bigger (read: expensive!) designers, you really do get what you pay for with shoes 99% of the time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/14 01:46 PM |
| 2 | Need tips on how to stay motivated!I love checklists. Checking something off is so satisfying!! And progress logs as well. I usually use it for exercise, but really it could be done for anything. Seeing how far I've come is really motivating for me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/14 02:15 PM |
| 8 | Why are you a red pill woman?It just seems right to me. I feel a natural femininity and submissiveness, and did even before discovering that TRP is a thing. Apparently when I was little (3-4 I think?) I went through a phase where I refused to wear anything but dresses, if that gives you any idea :) My family, mostly my dad, was kind of red pill. He always emphasized the importance and interplay of health, exercise, physical attractiveness, etc as well as being a vivacious and interesting person. He also is considered kind o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/14 12:16 AM |
| 3 | Do you guys have any ironing tips you could share with me?It depends on what your needs are... If your shirts really need to be crisp with creases, or you are mostly doing 100% cotton stuff, you need the iron. But if you are in more of a casual workplace and wrinkle-free but not perfectly creased is okay, or have mostly delicate materials (silk, wool, etc.) the streamer is better in my opinion. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/14 08:59 PM |
| 7 | Do you guys have any ironing tips you could share with me?Ditch the iron and get a steamer :P that's what I did lol. But seriously, ironing isn't really that bad. Do make sure you have a quality iron that heats reliably and evenly though, and never ever ever leave it in one spot! Some irons have the different fabric types labelled on them, and most shirts tell you what setting to put it on, but until you learn how hot the different levels are and how sensitive the shirt is, always start lower. I think it's easiest to start with the shirt unbuttoned and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/14 08:44 PM |
| 2 | Can I be a RPW?I love Little Women! I always liked Beth, because she reminded me of myself, but then she dies, so yeah... o.O Sorry I don't really know where I was going with that lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/14 03:59 PM |
| 8 | Requiring sexual strategy suggestions please!Don't overthink it! I'm sure he would love a surprise blowjob. And if he does reject you, so what? It's just because he's tired/not horny/not feeling it at the moment, not because he doesn't love you or isn't attracted to you (unless you left out some major details lol). One of my favorite ways to initiate: let's say he's sitting on the couch or bed or whatever. Walk up wearing something sexy (or not ;) ) and straddle him. Start rubbing and grabbing on him, get some quality making out in and put… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/14 03:22 AM |
| 3 | Bold brows are in styleThe best tip I have learned for brows is to only pluck from the middle and underneath, leave the top alone unless you have obvious rogues. It keeps them looking pretty and natural! | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/04/14 02:13 AM |
| 5 | A Girl Tries Girl GameI think this is a great write up, although I have to say that I'm surprised that she was surprised that prettiness is important! I feel like even in a "blue pill" world, men liking pretty girls is common knowledge? Just me? | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/04/14 02:10 AM |
| 4 | USA Today: Best for moms to be home?I think being around your children full time is extremely important for the first one, maybe two years but after that they really need social group interaction. If you can accomplish this while being a SAHM that's even better, but unfortunately overinflated stranger danger is so prevalent nowadays that the only play time with other children kids get now is in daycare and school, and even that is becoming so academic and regimented that their recess and lunch and other social times are cut short.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/14 05:31 PM |
| 4 | New to this, and would like a new perspective to try.I have had the same issue with my husband in the past. It seems to be a problem that builds upon itself... He starts playing a lot because he has more free time --> he gets more addicted --> he plays even more. It sucks to be turned down for an electronic device. One thing that works is to pre-plan more exciting events together. If your plans are always "sit on the couch and watch Netflix" of course he would rather be playing games and that's what he's going to do. But if you have another plan, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/04/14 02:52 PM |
| 12 | My financè cheated on me. Twice. Within a month.So first things first, I think you should leave. Whatever the case, cheating is a sign of a shitty relationship and you shouldn't bond yourself to life with them while you can still get out. Secondly though, I took a peek at your history to see if you had posted anything else about your relationship so I could get some more info. While I did not find that, I did see a comment from you where you mention getting out of another shitty engagement. If this is your second failed engagement, I think yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/14 07:50 PM |
| 1 | Tweezing out Femininity: Keeping it Covered!There's no links but they look like modcloth dresses to me. Maybe start there? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/14 03:52 PM |
| 4 | Underarm hair yay or nay?If I do nothing else in the shower, I shave my underarms. I feel like I'm sweatier and smell worse when I don't. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/14 02:07 PM |
| 3 | Mom's Style Do's and Don't's Real Simple MagazineSome feel good bs but overall good. Yay for paying attention to the small details! | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/14 02:05 PM |
| 6 | The Priorities of a RedPill WomanAs a solution to your problem with number 3, I recommend not dating a man-child who partakes in every little whim that crosses his mind just because it would make him haaappy (sound familiar anyone?) This also goes along with your point 4. I can regularly do things that make my husband happy because the things that make him happy won't ruin us physically or financially. We can indulge occasionally and be fine because he doesn't want to every week | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/14 04:11 AM |
| 2 | Job ProblemsWe just got out of a super similar situation, husband working menial job while looking for the real thing and I was earning most of our money. So from the other side I can tell you, it does get better! Your home is like his "office" now so try to treat it that way by keeping it stress free, organized, and neat. He doesn't need to be worrying about where the phone charger is right before he is expecting a call back. If he can have a dedicated area to set up a computer, phone, maps, whatever other… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/14 02:07 AM |
| 3 | Organization1 rule of organization for me is don't keep anything we no longer want, need, or use. It makes things so much easier! For anything that needs storin beyond that, I like these baskets from target. I think they are super cute and functional. We have some in the closet, one in the bathroom for holding towels, and one in the living room for holding blankets and game controllers. I don't keep any calendars or planners despite buying them and trying to a couple times. I use them for like a week and ne… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/14 01:07 PM |
| 3 | Transparency:I would say we are like 9/10 transparency. I don't actively say "this is my password" but I would and have given it freely in the past, same with my husband. We leave all our devices lying around and I don't think any of them are password protected. At the same time though we respect each other's privacy, I don't pick up his phone and go through it and to my knowledge he hasn't done that with mine (not that I would mind anyways). It's crazy the difference between this relationship where I have c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/14 04:11 AM |
| 13 | The Myth of Female IntelligenceI think a lot of girls confuse "attractive" and "valuable". Intelligence is rarely attractive (meaning not boner giving) but is often valuable (meaning makes his life better/easier/happier). So then they show off their intelligence in the same way they show off their bodies. But the thing about value is it doesn't need to be thrown in anyone's face, it will come out naturally over time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/14 07:25 PM |
| 2 | What would things be like without social expectations?I think it would be impossible to say what men and women would be like without any societal expectations. Humans are social creatures and therefore some social roles are as ingrained as the instincts are. I imagine it would be a lot like the tribal societies were, some monogamy, a lot of sleeping around, and an amount of aggression and sexual violence. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/14 01:21 AM |
| 3 | Weekly Post: What Are You Making? Show Off Your Arts, Crafts or Pretty Cooking!Love radishes! And avocado! I never would have thought to put them together. Looks good :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/14 07:41 PM |
| 3 | Divorce risk calculatorI think a lot of it depends on why you get married at that age. Strictly speaking from anecdata, a lot of under 21 marriages are 1. couples who have an unplanned pregnancy 2. those who rush into marriage to have sex or live together and 3. People with poor impulse control. Obviously those are shitty reasons to get married and it's not surprising they have a high risk of divorce. But if you are under 21 and marry for the same reasons as those over 25- you have a stable relationship, you talked ov… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/14 07:39 PM |
| 3 | Divorce risk calculatorInteresting. I look forward to seeing the full paper! I got 37% I think the social attitudes questions could use some tweaking, but overall it seems accurate. I was unsure if I was supposed up give my attitude in general or what I would do personally- for example, I would not have a child while unmarried but I think it's okay if someone else does. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/14 04:06 PM |
| 2 | Response to actual LTRDepends at what point in the relationship. Of course I will stick by my husband now but I doubt I would have started dating him if he didn't have a job. He was unemployed for a couple months around the 6 month point in our relationship and we got through it fine | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/14 03:46 PM |
| 3 | What are some good time-efficient ways to sneak exercise into your day?Walk walk walk! Anywhere you can walk, do it. Park in the back of the parking lot. Take the stairs. Go for a walk instead of watching TV- it's great bonding time. Most of the time my husband and I take a popsicle or beer with us, which I'm sure completely negates the walking, but hey at least we're doing it :P If your work will allow it, sit on a yoga ball instead of a chair or use a standing desk instead of a traditional one. Much better for your posture and great core exercise. Deep clean your… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/14 09:28 PM |
| 3 | Do you believe that women are bombarded with "unhealthy and unrealistic expectations" of women's bodies?I'm not sure why women get hung up on the images. I will admit that I am occasionally one of them. I do get a little depressed by the onslaught of beautiful women everywhere in advertising, even though I know they are photoshopped. I'll never be as poreless, firm, even-toned and beautiful as they are. Why is my husband with me when he could be with them? Even if he doesn't expect that of me, I expect it of myself. Why? I don't know really. Maybe it is from seeing them everywhere. Whatever the re… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/14 09:09 PM |
| 1 | How Withholding Sex Puts a Relationship at RiskO.O wut. So happy I read on mobile and didn't see that! | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/14 02:01 PM |
| 1 | how many of you either have a degree or are actively pursuing one?I'm pursuing one right now, child development/early childhood education. Just an associates for now, not sure if I'm going to do full bachelors yet. I like that it gives me options for how I want to work: full time or part, if I keep working I could have my children there with me, I could run a home daycare, I could stop working and it wouldn't really be frowned upon. Plus I love it :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/14 12:06 PM |
| 1 | Drifting away from my BP girlfriends...I hang out with them, but I don't discuss much of our relationship. Not that there's really anything to report anyways, beyond the usual! I don't think anything has changed post red pill. I was always fairly private about my relationships, and I've never been a bar/going out person. We still do what we did before- go to the pool, make dinner, go out for lunch. In fact, our friendships might even be better because I can drop some knowledge and they generally agree, or say it makes sense. Hopefull… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/14 12:51 AM |
| 1 | Hatred on single mothers?From the lurking around TRP I've done, there's a couple reasons. The biggest: alpha fucks, beta bucks. A woman gets knocked up by an alpha when she's young and then goes looking for a beta provider when it doesn't work out with her alpha. This pisses men off because they are relegated to being a walking checkbook. Second, the single moms children always come first. This is obviously how it should be, but who WANTS to come second in a new relationship? You can also use this to understand why sing… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/14 10:08 PM |
| 2 | One Night Stands!For anyone who is confused, take a look at the username- phantomdreamO9 vs. phantomdream09. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/14 05:55 PM |
| 8 | What's the ideal age difference for most LTRs?My husband is a bit over 2 years older than me. I think it's a good difference, he has always been a bit "ahead" of me in life and can give me some guidance when I need it. I once read that a study had been done and couples with a 3 year age difference with the man being older had the most successful marriages. I can't remember where I saw it though, if anyone else has seen something similar I would love if you can link to it so I can look over it again! | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/14 12:29 AM |
| 3 | Are Older Husbands the New Housewives? One Female CEO Thinks SoCongrats if it works for them, but I can't imagine very many men being okay with spending their retirement years raising children effectively as a single dad. Not to mention older parents aren't ideal for genetic and energy level reasons... Even if he retired early, the vast majority of ~50 year olds couldn't keep up with a toddler. Just because she's a special snowflake who managed to do it doesn't mean it's possible or even desirable for most people. I'm sick of celebrities and other rich peop… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/03/14 08:47 PM |
| 2 | How to respond to SO venting about his job?Try to make your home the most warm and comforting place to be. The goal would be for him to forget about all that stress as soon as he walks through the door. At the same time though, everyone needs to vent occasionally. As you say- it isn't the most attractive thing in the world. Try to turn it around in both of your minds and give him encouragement in these moments. Be specific if you can. "You're doing a really great job on (project). Thank you for all being such a hard working man and provi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/14 07:43 PM |
| 2 | What The F*ck Happened To Dating In College? What do you ladies think?Newsflash: sex only happens first with a date way later when you let it happen that way. Somehow I managed to avoid this seemingly inevitable course of events... By not having sex until after multiple dates. Imagine that! Also: the author's bio. Ugh. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/14 04:09 AM |
| 3 | What's your opinion on Dr. Phil's advice for this couple?...Man, I love me some Dr. Phil too, but everyone who goes on that show is a crazy, immature, narcissist. I wouldn't take anything meaningful away other than don't stick your dick in crazy and don't let crazy stick his dick in you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/14 08:22 PM |
| 1 | What do drinks say about your date?Me too, it's so good in the summer! | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/14 03:48 PM |
| 9 | What do drinks say about your date?So basically what I got from this is anyone who orders any drink ever is a douchebag. Lol. Unless you order some obscure alcohol straight and then you're a "Real Drinker"TM My favorites are rum and coke, snakebites, cranberry vodka, vodka and redbull (if I'm in need of caffeine), or a mojito if I'm somewhere that actually has mint. My husband usually gets whatever beer is on special or a Shiner. We tip well and don't make a mess so hopefully bartenders don't hate us too much :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/03/14 03:45 PM |
| -1 | RPW dating strategies; new guy, need help.We can't give you a step by step, not every guy is the same or has the same expectations. I would just follow general "girl game" rules: look pretty, keep fit and have a nice body, be sweet and feminine. Once you start sleeping together, be HIS slut... Keep it frequent and fun. If he is as into you as he says he is, then you're doing something right! Keep it up! | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/14 08:52 PM |
| 5 | Are Women More Picky Than Men?I would say definitely pickier if we are talking about just sex, but I think equally picky when it comes to relationships. Looking at my husbands friends, I would even say they are more picky than girls... A lot of them will sleep with someone, but not get into a relationship even though the girl wants to. But apparently the speed dating study proves me wrong, so what do I know ¯_(ツ)_/¯ | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/14 08:48 PM |
| 3 | Question pertaining to the vajayjay (male lurkers, you've been warned!)No, its not true. Read this and this. I'm guessing you are relatively young and haven't given birth. It's good to maintain pelvic floor health, but you probably won't see any difference because yours is already fine. Just relax and have fun sex with your boyfriend! It's not something to worry about at this point in your life (or ever, if you keep yours healthy). | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/14 07:13 PM |
| 12 | Question pertaining to the vajayjay (male lurkers, you've been warned!)honestly I think you are worrying way too much about how tight you are. Do pelvic floor exercises- NOT just kegels, things like squats are much better. And don't worry about it after that. "Super tight" is not a good thing, it can be painful for you and your partner. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/14 07:00 PM |
| 8 | How Women Can Avoid Hitting The WallI like that he mentions that hitting the wall is as much (possibly more?) about inner health as the physical. Not even the best skin creams and makeup can hide bitterness. Have to give it a bit of the side eye for mentioning cleanses and herbalism as healthy... But the rest was good stuff! | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/14 04:02 PM |
| 1 | He claims to be a RP man, but his actions speak otherwise.Sounds like he doesn't have his alpha/beta balance down yet. Does he read MMSL? If not I would point him there. Don't waste too much time with him if you don't see any improvement though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/14 12:09 PM |
| 2 | Can someone explain to me what this argument was supposed to be about?I also understand that every dollar spent on picking me up and feeding me is a dollar earned by a guy who works hard Seriously!!! I met my husband in college. At the time, we were both working typical shitty college minimum wage jobs. If he took me out or I took him out, let's say for your usual casual dining $25 dinner, that's about 4 hours worth of busting ass taking care of entitled customers at work. That's a LONG time for one dinner, and service industry is usually some combination of demea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/03/14 01:09 AM |
| 3 | How do you handle a non-feminine shape?Dress to emphasize the difference between your waist and hips. First off, get a GOOD bra. Get measured at a real lingerie shop or a place like Nordstroms, not Victoria's Secret. Go for tops and dresses with a v neck and come in at the smallest part of your waist, probably right under your bust. Wrap tops and dresses or those with ruching will look really nice. Exercise is great and heavy weight lifting will definitely help you build a butt. Look at Bret Contreras websites and articles. Stay slim… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/14 07:12 PM |
| 0 | Singer Drops 60 pounds-- and her boyfriend. Opinions?Okay good that's definitely on the healthier end of the scale :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/14 12:27 AM |
| 2 | Singer Drops 60 pounds-- and her boyfriend. Opinions?I'm all for slimness, and I know 5'0" is tiny, but 90 lbs is very light for that height. If you continue to lose weight please be healthy about it and don't take it too far. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/14 12:04 AM |
| 1 | Singer Drops 60 pounds-- and her boyfriend. Opinions?This is a strange situation to me... By her description, he is a conventionally attractive dude. He dates the chubby girl instead of a similarly conventionally attractive girl. Presumably he was attracted to her since they started dating. But he wasn't, because he says she would be attractive if she lost weight. While that is obviously true, why did he start dating her in the first place then? It's not like she was thin and then got fat, she had been fat all her life and was fat when they got to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/14 12:00 AM |
| 4 | Time-saving techniques for cooking, housework and beauty rituals?Why are you always making intricate meals? Elaborate meals are nice and all that but for every day... Ain't nobody got time for that. Or at least we don't in our household. Since it's getting warmer, I'll go with a grilling example. Grilled chicken, a grilled veggie (asparagus is great) and a salad is gluten free and a perfectly delicious, healthy dinner that takes like 20 minutes. If you want to add carbs, fajitas in corn tortillas are quick, gluten free, and tasty. For stuff like broth and sau… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/14 11:49 PM |
| 12 | Sexism in the workplaceIf you feel you are being treated unfairly at a job, for any reason, then look for another or take steps to fix it (gather evidence, assess the validity of your claims and present it to a higher up). Whining about it online gets you nowhere. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/14 11:28 PM |
| 11 | Bedroom advice for a woman with a more traditional man....Good ol' regular lingerie! Nightie, corset and thigh highs, even just a super sexy bra and panty set. Wear it outside of special occasions and under your clothes on date night. Bonus points for giving him a sneak preview beforehand (don't show him the whole outfit, but do something like lift your dress up a bit so it's clear your wearing a garter, etc) Don't relegate sex to the same time and place. Be spontaneous! Kitchen sex. Shower sex. Couch sex. Secluded outdoor locations. Middle of the day.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/14 11:22 PM |
| 2 | Opinions on women wearing sneakers?I don't really like sneaker style shoes outside of athletic activity. I think it looks a bit too casual. My everyday shoes for summer are usually strappy sandals, kinda like these. During winter I generally wear boots. If I'm going to be doing a decent amount of walking (going to six flags etc.) but not athletic/hiking levels or I'm at a place that requires close toed shoes, I have a pair of nice leather sperrys that I wear. Heels are for special occasions or times where I want to dress up and I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/14 08:16 PM |
| 5 | RPW examples?Miranda Kerr talks about being submissive. That is the daily mail though, so grain of salt and all that. I love that Zooey Deschanel takes pride in her femininity. Being feminine =/= being a dunce or being weak, and I think Zooey embodies that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/14 03:13 AM |
| 1 | When guys talk about "long hair", how long are they talking?In my experience men seem to consider "long" anything that can be pulled into a decent ponytail. So about shoulder length and longer. It stops being attractive at about the hips/butt/weirdo who never cuts their hair length. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/14 05:29 AM |
| 4 | Here's an idea for being more soft-feminine: wear a skirtThat lady is so pretty, why did she have to destroy her eyebrows?! | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/14 08:50 PM |
| 4 | Long-term effects of porn?Porn did affect my relationship with my ex boyfriend. He expected our sex to always be like "porn sex" meaning almost no fore play, I had to be screaming and he wanted to finish on my boobs or face. I don't have a problem with that occasionally, but definitely NOT every single time!!! This obviously left me with a negative opinion of porn. Now, my husband does look at it and honestly I'm still not happy with it but I keep my mouth shut and will continue to do so unless it ever starts affecting o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/14 08:39 PM |
| 3 | What happens when /r/askmen confirms that they prefer long hair on women...Did these people learn nothing from analyzing Harrison Bergeron in the 8th grade? Some people are attractive and some are unattractive. You can do things to make yourself more or less attractive. EVERYONE BEING EQUALLY ATTRACTIVE WOULD MAKE THE WORLD A TERRIBLE PLACE. Accept reality and move on with your life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/14 05:17 PM |
| 1 | What if you're with a man who loves cooking? (Their numbers are growing.)Make it a couples activity! Be the chef and let her be sous. Or the other way around. Cooking together is so fun. I wish our kitchen was bigger so more than one person could fit in comfortably/without being in the others way. My husband can't really cook but sometimes I ask him to just hang out with me in the kitchen because it's a nice way to talk and be productive at the same time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/14 02:49 PM |
| 1 | Why All Men Cheat on Loyal Women – By Kevin HartOkay, I get his point but I have a problem with a couple things in this article... The whole "No TRUE man would ever cheat!" thing. There have been plenty of good men in the history of the world that made a mistake and cheated. I don't think one incident completely invalidates the rest of their lives. Men cheat because they are insecure. I'm not a man, so maybe this is the real reason, but I feel like I can think of plenty of other things that would cause a man to cheat. Maybe he isn't getting a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/14 12:53 PM |
| 4 | Here's an idea for being more soft-feminine: wear a skirtTry looking at more of the "preppy" style stores like j crew, Ralph Lauren, etc. Things tend to be cut more conservatively than they are at places like forever 21. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/14 12:33 PM |
| 3 | I need some suggestions...I just moved into a new apartment and due to mould in the old apartment, I need to replace most things in my kitchen...Cast iron skillet and Dutch oven A couple different sized stockpots and pans. Maybe one 3 qt and one large stock pot, and one wok/large frying pan for stir fry and one other decent size. Walmart has a set of stainless steel called tramontina that's a pretty good dupe of all clad at like 1/5 the price! Tools: one good chefs knife, a large cutting board, a steamer basket, mixing bowls and spoons, spatulas, tongs Baking sheets and glass baking dishes Electronics: blender and stand mixer, and a croc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/14 03:13 PM |
| 1 | Salad tips?Greek salad: romaine lettuce, cucumber, Roma tomatoes, peppercinis, red onion, top with feta Roasted pear salad: slice a pair and broil for 5 minutes. Layer spinach, the pear, dried cranberries, top with Gorgonzola and walnuts, use balsamic vinaigrette | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/14 02:57 PM |
| 8 | Checking my privilegeWhy? My husband and I went straight from strangers to dating. Waiting around to get to know a girl first is how you end up friendzoned. Make your intentions known from the beginning and you won't have that problem. Not saying that being friends first is bad, but if a guy wants to date a girl he should woo, not wait. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/14 08:49 PM |
| 20 | Man deploys, wife weighs 260 lbs. Wife says "fuck this" and loses 110 lbs. Husband returns to a big surprise!I love that she explains how her diet changed. It wasn't anything dramatic, she didn't do anything hard, just made a couple of simple changes that everyone can do. Drink water and coffee/tea only instead of sugary drinks. Oven baked chicken instead of fried. More veggies. Still eat the good stuff like pancakes but in smaller portions. She is awesome and should be an inspiration for everyone looking to lose weight. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/14 02:37 AM |
| 6 | Weekly Thread: What's your guilty pleasure?I really like hey Stephen, the best day, 22, jump then fall, mine, and our song. I can't pick just one D: | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/14 01:55 AM |
| 6 | Weekly Thread: What's your guilty pleasure?I may or may not own multiple Taylor Swift songs and sing along when I'm alone in my car. Just sayin', it's a possibility.... | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/14 09:58 PM |
| 3 | Want an example of what not to be? I present to you Hannah from HBO series Girls, the most irritating, self-absorbed young female character on TV right now.I don't watch girls, but as a fellow watcher of bad TV (gossip girl anyone?) I'll say the draw for me is that it's like a train wreck you can't look away from. Sometimes you want a full healthy meal, other times you just want some junk lol :P | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/14 07:25 PM |
| 9 | Being a RPW epiphany - it's not about him. It's about you.Honestly I'm not understanding what you're meaning. You are saying, we act feminine because it's the only way we will be attracted to our husbands? I don't think that's the case, at least personally. I act in a feminine manner because I AM feminine. It's something I feel deeply and trying to be masculine feels like putting on a show. Sure, submitting makes it easier for my husband to be the leader, but if he wasn't making an effort to lead I could submit/act feminine/have girl game all day long … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/14 10:25 PM |
| 1 | Happy Steak and a BJ Day Ladies!No worries, I would warn you if it was NSFW ;) it's NSFW text I suppose but I think everyone got that by the title lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/14 10:19 PM |
| 3 | Happy Steak and a BJ Day Ladies!That's the spirit! Lol Although steak every day would get a bit expensive :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/14 10:17 PM |
| 6 | Finishing college--is it worth it?I did the usual start school at 18, went for two years, and then dropped out for awhile. I dropped because I didn't know what I wanted to do anymore and I honestly didn't care about school. Also I was working full time and trying to take night classes and it was so stressful I hated it. Now I am back in classes again at 23, learning about something I love and actually want to do (early childhood education). I'm working towards an associates, leaning towards full bachelors but not totally sure ye… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/14 05:29 PM |
| 4 | Pay attention, young ladies. Your older sisters have a plan, and it involves you, crushed under a bus.The article it links to is worth reading as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/14 04:00 PM |
| 2 | How are your 2014 goals going?We are well on our way to our couple goals and I'm not doing too bad on my personal ones either :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/14 01:15 AM |
| 25 | Found This Sub Today, And It Makes Me So Happy. But What About Its Counterpart?There are some posters on TRP that I think are great men and are or will be excellent captains. Some I wouldn't touch with a ten foot pole. Find a poster or two who is in the type of relationship you would like to be in or the type of man you would like to be and pay particular attention to their posts. Filter the rest through your own lens, if it seems helpful to your end goals keep it in mind and if it's not then discard it and move on. /u/occamsusername wrote some great posts on LTR game, may… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/14 09:53 PM |
| 9 | What do you have planned for Spring?-Semi-annual purge & organize -Try to get some sun and vitamin D now that it's warmer! -Buy all the pretty dresses -Enjoy the amazing food especially fruit that is now in season :) I can't wait until the cherries get to my grocery store! | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/14 05:54 PM |
| 5 | Higher culture for womenI would suggest at least partially tailoring your pursuit of knowledge to the crowd you and your husband tend to associate with. Now I'm not saying to go bore yourself to tears learning about something you truly don't care about, but I think part of being a good hostess is keeping a lively conversation up, and that means being able to talk about what your guests are interested in. To use some stereotypes, if your husband is part of a higher class business type crowd, you might want to learn abou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/14 02:54 AM |
| 3 | Funeral for two women--which do you want to end up being in the end?So far I've had one grandmother pass away. Pretty much the only attendees at her funeral were her family members: my parents, myself and siblings, my aunt, and a couple of her cousins that were still alive. She was 87 and had pretty much outlived the rest, including her husband, all of her friends... I suspect that my other grandmothers funeral (she is still alive, age 86) will be much the same. In the end all you have left family. Everyone else- colleagues, bosses, even your OMGBFF4L that you s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/03/14 08:31 PM |
| 18 | Opinions on the idea of a promiscuous man being more desirable?I feel similarly to you. Anyone who sleeps around, male or female, is icky to me. I don't want a dick that's been marinated in the juices of a thousand vaginas inside of mine. Get it away from me! | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/14 09:45 PM |
| 7 | Field ReportI think you did fine. You made a suggestion, not a demand, and he made a decision from there. To me, that's the difference between being a first officer and being a doormat. You could have kept quiet and just "yes dear"ed everything he said, and then the damage might have been even more extensive! We are here to support to our husbands and pick up the slack where they need it and that's exactly what you did. Keep it up :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/14 10:41 PM |
| 7 | Weekly Thread: What's your favorite beauty secret?Coconut oil all the things. Well, I don't use it on my face because it's already a grease ball but I'm sure it would be a wonderful facial moisturizer for you ladies with dry skin. I've been using the John Frieda curl mousse for years and it is better than any salon product I've tried plus cheaper. Not a product, but a tip- technique is just as important if not more than the product you are using. Even drugstore makeup looks amazing when skillfully applied. Learn how to properly use all your pro… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/03/14 08:40 PM |
| 16 | While researching wine reviews I stumble across a confident divorced woman -- Hilarity ensuesA trend I've noticed : ladies like the writer (and their friends, apparently) often use "confidence" as a euphemism for controlling, I'm in charge, I wear the pants. "They just can't handle me because I'm confident!" No honey it's because they don't WANT to "handle" you, they don't want to be bossed around and hen pecked. I'm not sure why they think it's one or the other to begin with- either you are confident strong single woman who don't need no man or you do have one and you aren't. Personall… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/03/14 02:12 PM |
| 4 | Is there a subreddit like /r/trollxchromosomes for TRPers?I think TRP community is generally against memes. They are rather low effort and a useless time waster. However, remember that you can always make a subreddit of your own so if you want to see some memes go for it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/14 12:52 PM |
| 12 | Weekly Post: How's your relationship?My husband got his big boy job! Yay! | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/14 10:13 PM |
| 1 | "Southern women like men and allow them to stay men." True or false?I'm not Deep South, where these things might be even more true, but I am south so maybe I can give a bit if perspective. I feel like a lot of this true, but it's mostly true about the older ladies and while it can still be observed it is not as present in the younger crowd. For example, with the babies... I don't think as many southern girls proclaim to be child free as those is northern and coastal states, but it's really the older ladies that really go crazy over babies. Same with makeup- olde… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/14 04:31 AM |
| 1 | How detrimental are under-eye circles to a woman's looks?I have the same thing. Right now I really like the garnier eye roller thing for dark circles. It's not super expensive either which is a plus. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/14 04:48 AM |
| 5 | Girl game reports?I have struggled with this occasionally as well. If I don't check myself I can sound pretty condescending/snippy/overall bitchy. I have found that reading the material here and keeping sweetness and support a priority in my brain helps. Really, "shut your mouth!" is the best advice. When I can feel myself getting that frustrated feeling and I know something rude is about to come out, I just make myself take a second to recompose and fix my wording and tone to a less bitchy one. When I don't catc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/14 04:28 AM |
| 1 | Supporting SO's CareerIs it actually both of you that feel like you have too much leisure time or just you? Because I'm getting the impression this is all coming from you and that he was nagged into it. If anything it sounds like he needs MORE relaxation time if he is having issues calming his mind. Let him spend his free time as he chooses. When he wants to work on his career he will. If you need someone who works more, let him go and find a guy that does. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/14 08:46 PM |
| 2 | Shout Out to RPW with Kids--Please Unscare These Neurotic Reddit Girls!!This is beautiful Margery, thanks | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/14 03:51 AM |
| 6 | And this is what is wrong with our generation. Yikes.Also, if you spend your entire 20s being selfish how are you ever going to learn to give freely later in life. It's not like you turn 30 and magically develop the ability to be unselfish. Hint: it's not through blowing all your money at bars, showing up to work hungover (thanks for further ruining my generations reputation you dumb asshole) and using random dudes as mutual masturbation toys. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/14 04:46 AM |
| 4 | And this is what is wrong with our generation. Yikes."Disney lied, there is no such thing as fairy tale love.” Well call me crazy, but I think this could be one of the dumbest quotes I’ve ever seen come across my Tumblr feed. Did Disney lie or are we just too anxious to take the next step to wait for the right person to come along? I will gladly call her absolutely crazy. Honestly I thought the girls who believed in Disney love forever were just a joke, but here is one before my very eyes! She is in for quite a rude awakening when that feeling dis… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/14 04:36 AM |
| 12 | Dedicated to the Young Women of Reddit, the Smartest women in History, Determined to Remove their Genes from the FutureThis is so depressing to me... I would love to have children now, but we would be SO poor... Like welfare and food stamps poor :/ Everyone says you just make it work but I could never purposely have a child knowing I couldn't afford it myself. Hopefully the day we can afford children comes soon. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/14 10:29 PM |
| 1 | How do you ladies stay feminine in the winter?Skinny jeans, a tight sweater, and boots. If it's not too terribly cold or I don't have to be outside for long, a sweater dress with tights and boots. Get a nicely fitted wool peacoat that has a feminine shape to it (fitted chest, nips in at waist, slight flare out at hips). Layering does wonders. I like under armour brand if you can afford it, that stuff is a miracle in cold weather. A general tip, buy as much natural fiber clothing as you can afford. Wool is much warmer than polyester or rayon… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/14 05:26 PM |
| 4 | What's your favorite exercise move? Do you have a video link or photo to show it?I love body weight exercises and heavy weights, particularly focused on the lower body. Squats, hip thrusts, glute bridges, lunges, deadlifts... I could do leg day every day :) I love the strong curves book. It's all about getting a sexy, feminine figure which is perfect for bikini season! Check it out here it's also available on kindle. Also as just a random cardio exercise I really like the p90x kenpo (kind of like boxing) video, and also the yoga one but I can't link to them sorry. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/14 06:23 PM |
| 1 | A career decision in a red pill relationshipAh okay. I don't really know much about phd level positions (is it super obvious? :)) so that's all from me. I hope you both find fulfilling positions soon wherever they may be. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/14 06:17 PM |
| 1 | A career decision in a red pill relationshipMy bad, I must have misunderstood the timeline. My husband is going through a similar situation right now so I feel your pain on the great but no interviews thing. Are you working in a relevant job to your field right now? If so is there anything wrong with the current one? Is your husband willing to travel and check the area out? Obviously it's hard to get a real feel on a weekend or other short time period but it's better than nothing. If you are just working a random McJob right now, and you … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/14 06:06 PM |
| 3 | A career decision in a red pill relationshipHappy husband or pile of money? Pick one Personally I am of the belief that great husbands are rarer than great jobs. It sounds like you are a good candidate who gets a lot of interest, another opportunity in a better place will present itself eventually. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/14 05:34 PM |
| 4 | Is one's health the "universal" Wall?To add onto Dana's comment, I think long term care is another benefit to having children. Spouses can care for each other as long as one of them is in decent health, but if both get sick at the same time or after one is a widow/widower it is very important to have someone else to look after them in old age. Professional care is exorbitantly priced even for bare minimum places and elder abuse is rampant. There is no way I would put my parents in one of those places unless they just absolutely ref… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/14 03:59 AM |
| 3 | How am I supposed to be a good wife when my husband isn't home?How old is your daughter? I'm guessing she's little since you are worried about her getting into things and aren't cooking for her yet. Don't be afraid to stick her in a playpen or something while you shower. I promise it won't kill her to scream for 10 minutes while you shower. Cooking for one: utilize your freezer! Buy a package of something, proportion what you need for the next couple of days, and then freeze the rest. I would also find an excuse to get out of the house at least once a day s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/14 07:53 PM |
| 0 | Why the Highest Heels are the SexiestI think 4-5 in. heels look best. I always thought of that as a pretty normal heel, but maybe they are higher than I thought! I don't wear them daily, because of the foot problems they can cause, but for special occasions I'm not worried about going all out high and sexy :) Thank goodness for tall husbands! | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/14 04:32 PM |
| 3 | "I love you even though I want to kill you sometimes, lol"I completely agree. The fact that fighting on a regular basis is considered normal makes me shake my head. I used to read /r/relationships pretty often and the amount of posts that start with "we have our ups and downs like anyone else" or "we argue regularly like every couple does"... It's just astonishing to me that people think that's fine, normal, and even expected! What?? I would class the amount of fights we have as "rarely" and anything more would make me concerned. I won't claim to be an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/14 02:57 PM |
| 6 | Valentine's PlansI'm super excited because I came up with a mini surprise. We are both working Friday night, so our usual get dinner and drinks celebration is taking place later. BUT I decided that I am going to get up early and make homemade pancakes with bacon roses (okay it's cheesy but it's still bacon so :P). Also going to get a bottle of champagne for mimosas because it's okay if we have just one drink before work ;) Yesterday I bought a super cute pair of red heels that are very fitting for the occasion s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/14 09:30 PM |
| 4 | Steak and BJ day - March 14!We celebrate it for funsies if we remember and can make room for steak in the grocery budget. BJs are a regular part of our sex life anyways though so it's not like a special thing, really, but hey everyone enjoys steak and blowjobs anyways :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/14 07:07 PM |
| 3 | Quick roast chicken recipeI like to keep it simple... Rub butter all over and under the skin, high quality salt and pepper cracked on the outside, stuff with garlic cloves, lemon slices, rosemary, and some onion. It comes out crispy and delicious, and not so strongly flavored that you can't add more spices the next day if you feel like making it into something else (for example you could add cumin and chili pepper to make it into fajita chicken). | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/14 02:01 AM |
| 2 | Ways to regain femininity?When you say you are masculine, do you mean physically, personality, both? Physically: Growing your hair out is the number one thing you can do. Easy peasy, literally no effort on your part but takes time. Makeup is next. There's no need to shellac on gobs of it, look up a "5 minute face" and just do it at the start of every day after you shower. If you don't workout already, start! Clothing: What does your fiance think you look hot in? Ask him and wear that. Sometimes men have problem verbalizi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/02/14 10:46 PM |
| 10 | Preparing for a bumpy road-Try to save as much money as possible so financial worries aren't an issue (or less of an issue, at least) -Do as much physical therapy as possible, preferably professionally since you think you have long term damage but at home too if you can't afford it. -Talk to your husband about his priorities and then be okay with letting the less important things slide. In these sorts of situations my husband would rather have lots of sex and the little time he has available together than a perfectly cle… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/02/14 01:27 AM |
| 2 | How do I keep on top of the cleaning?Keep things picked up and dishes washed during the week. I always find that getting our place into a state where it is ready to be cleaned takes longer than the actual cleaning if I let things go. So make sure everything is in it's place and dishes are out of the sink at the end of every night. Do one chore or one room per day, whatever your preferred method is. So if you wanted to do one chore everyday you could do dusting on Monday, vacuum Tuesday, sweep and mop hard floors Wednesday, etc. Or … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/14 01:59 PM |
| 7 | A Husband's Awesome Response to "She's a Stay at Home Mom? What does she DO all day?"I like how feminism has made women hate each other more... Was "mommy wars" even a thing before now? If you check the comments they all devolved into an argument on who had it harder, SAHM vs working moms. Way to miss the point!!! Where is this sisterhood I was promised? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/14 01:50 PM |
| 2 | OK Ladies, No More SO BitchfestsMaybe it would be helpful to include something in the FAQ similar to the triage questions at MMSL to help people disclose their problems when they want to ask for advice? Obviously it doesn't need to be as extensive as that one but I think a lot of girls don't know where to start or what things to include, and some starter questions especially ones like what is THEIR part in the relationship issue (because every issue has two sides!) might give a more balanced picture of what is going on. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/14 09:33 PM |
| 2 | Hi RPW, new face here! I know my post might seem out of place, but I hope you can provide some help.high quality cheese in his Mac instead of cheese food Ahhhh the way food isn't even food anymore kills me! Cheese is "cheese food product" Ice Cream is "frozen dairy treat"... wtf happened to regular food?!?! I run away screaming back to the outer edges of the store where things don't need labels lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/14 09:28 PM |
| 3 | Meet the ParentsNo dinner attire and heavy makeup for a day date with parents!!! You want to show them that their son made an excellent choice by picking you, not that he is going out with some harlot that doesn't know how to dress appropriately for the situation. Wear something attractive and pretty but slightly conservative. If your guy likes leggings, maybe wear a sweater dress or tunic, leggings, and boots. Have a fresh looking face with light and tasteful makeup. Hair down and neat. There's really no need … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/14 04:03 PM |
| 2 | Hi RPW, new face here! I know my post might seem out of place, but I hope you can provide some help.Well... You asked him to try and he doesn't want to. That's really all you can do. To look on the bright side, at least the meals he likes don't take much time and effort to prepare and can easily be cooked in large batches so you don't have to make 2 meals every single day. Also, just because he has a limited menu doesn't mean you have to stick to it for your children or guests. If he wants to eat pasta while the rest of you eat a roast, fine. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/14 05:40 AM |
| 1 | Help me support him PLEASE!I'm not sure how the university system works in Europe but is transferring to another one where he wants to live possible? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/14 08:43 PM |
| 5 | Funny Friday? This chick thinks that Disney should make a movie with a fat princess...REAL men have curves!!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/14 12:16 AM |
| 15 | Advice NeededThis just feels wrong to me. It sounds like you are alone in your relationship, which is the exact OPPOSITE of what a relationship should be! Was he always like this? Can Phantom add some more background for you? Also, these two things are very concerning to me- you aren't allowed to have your own laptop? Why not? And friends aren't "optimal for your performance"? What does that even mean??? I don't think this sounds like a good guy to submit to. I would get out while you still have the pretty a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/14 09:48 PM |
| 6 | Why is RPW the only sub of its kind?Reddit is largely young, university educated, and liberal. This means there are a decent number of feminists, even more fence sitters and white knights who might not call themselves feminists but effectively are, and then the maybe 1% at most of the userbase who are part of TRP. So to me, it's not very surprising that RPW is one of a kind. Most of the ideas here are pretty controversial. Even leaving out all of the "red pill" stuff, not immediately suggesting that the man is the problem during a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/14 04:40 AM |
| 1 | Getting to know you- MBTI styleI am an ISFJ and my husband is (a very strong!) INTJ. I feel like both of them capture us pretty well, but at the same time it's kind of one of those "just vague enough to be true" things, so it's fun to look at but I don't put a ton of stock into it. The heart of our types is definitely true though- I'm a "feeler" while he is almost 100% logically driven and can be... well, a bit emotionally/socially slow. He occasionally jokes he has a touch of the aspergers, to give you an idea. ISFJ is gener… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/14 04:21 AM |
| 2 | How do I write a glowing online dating profile that will attract lots of RP men?You might find this post interesting: http://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/1vvkl4/woman_tried_two_dating_profiles_on_eharmony_was/ Now, I wouldn't go so far as to purposefully come off as a bimbo (misspelled words, excessive smileys, etc. because that will attract the pump n dumpers) but basically you want to make it clear that you are a happy, feminine woman who enjoys taking care of her man in the context of a relationship. I've never written an online dating profile so unfortunately … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/02/14 02:44 AM |
| 12 | Felicia Day and the short hair debacleThis isn't even a female celebrity only issue, it's an "I'm famous and my fans don't like my new look but I do" issue which everyone in Hollywood gets. She is a celebrity and therefore her success is largely based on her appearance. That is a fact of life if you want to be famous. Male celebrities get the same treatment when they grow out or cut their hair, and grow or shave a beard. Even Felicia herself acknowledges that fact in this interview She says if she had better teeth or bigger boobs sh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/14 08:13 PM |
| 6 | Does a More Equal Marriage Mean Less Sex?I think this is especially important in relationships where the man's love language is "acts of service". Also, most typical "guy chores" like yardwork and fixing the car makes me all gross anyways, I don't feel attractive and I'm sure I don't look it either! Please let me stay inside with the temperature controlled air and lack of dirt! Nothing bugs me more than dirt under my nails. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/14 06:01 PM |
| 3 | What improvement are you going to work on this week?I've been thrown all out of sorts since starting a new job so I'm trying to get back into a schedule and have better time management and planning skills. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/14 04:59 PM |
| 9 | What skills are important for a RPW?Nunchuck skills, bowhunting skills, computer hacking skills.... (please tell me someone remembers this reference!) But seriously. Cooking obviously, because everyone appreciates a good meal. General homemaking- cleaning is a part of it, but more importantly making your home a warm, cozy environment that your man looks forward to coming back to. Another skill that I think is very important is being very perceptive about emotions and feelings. I think you should be able to pick up on when your guy… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/14 03:03 PM |
| 6 | Make Up and YouAlso just to make myself clear, I'm not saying there is anything wrong with wearing only what is listed but I don't want anyone here thinking they can slap on some mascara, liner, and gloss and walk out looking like #2 no matter how good your skin is. Her look definitely took several products as well as a professional makeup artist to apply them in order to look like that, plus the lighting and probably a bit of photoshop helped as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/14 05:32 AM |
| 5 | Make Up and You1 and 2 are wearing a full face as well, trust me! You can tell that they have concealer and foundation, blush, filled in brows, and #2 has lots of highlighting and contouring as well. I like using BB creams (pretty much any), Smashbox Full Exposure mascara, lip and cheek tints from Benefit, Too Faced has good bronzers, Nars has good blush (and they have fun names, orgasm anyone? :P). I suck at explaining though, look on youtube for application lessons, I think Lisa Eldridge is especially good a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/14 05:25 AM |
| 9 | Make Up and YouPlease tell me you know the models in 1-3 are using more than the products listed... They all have full faces just done in a very natural way. Which was the goal, so I can see how it might be confusing if you aren't experienced with makeup. Anyways I agree that natural looks with glory skin, big eyes, and rosy cheeks and lips are most attractive to men. Use whatever products are necessary to get there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/14 02:34 AM |
| 2 | How should I fight this depression so it doesn't ruin my marriage?What you are doing is great, but depression can't always be fixed with only lifestyle improvements. If you have a brain chemical imbalance (which seems likely to me considering the family history) you need medication. Would he be willing to go to the doctor or counselor with you and talk about it? You don't HAVE to go on antidepressants right away, or even ever- just see what they recommend and talk about your options. In the meantime, maybe look at doing CBT exercises at home. Working on changi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/14 10:19 PM |
| 3 | [Guide] Looking substantially better, for startersBe careful putting vaseline around your eyes.... it can be irritating to sensitive skin and possibly clog it. I would go with something like coconut oil personally, it should have the same moisturizing effect but more natural and better absorbed by your skin and lashes. My only advice to add on would be to keep in mind what aspects of your beauty are most important/more noticed by your man and focus on those. For example my husband couldn't care less if my nails are painted but enjoys my long ha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/14 07:18 PM |
| 1 | Working out more has made my hips too narrow! What do I do?Honestly girl you're reminding me of this right now. Don't worry about it!!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/14 01:37 AM |
| 2 | Working out more has made my hips too narrow! What do I do?You can't selectively gain or lose fat, so eating more probably won't help. Just don't worry about it. You work out and are hot, that's what matters...not having a "perfect" waist hip ratio is seriously not a big deal, at all, even a little bit. Enjoy your round ass. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/14 01:25 AM |
| 8 | Bad Bitches and the Dark TriadIt's as important as the man in the relationship thinks it is. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/14 12:57 AM |
| 2 | The Time Is Right For Traditional Sex Roles To ReturnThis should be interesting... I kind of want to get on twitter just so I can follow the hashtag, #backtothekitchen that's pretty funny :P So far I enjoyed their first post in the series, about how feminists attacked Michelle Obama for describing her most important role as a mother. If they keep this level of quality up all week I will be very impressed! | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/14 07:45 PM |
| 5 | Is there anything, as a RPW, you won't do for your SO? Let's talk about boundaries, negotiating them, etc.We agree about pretty much everything- I think it's very important to discuss these things before marriage so that (hopefully) this is never even an issue. Obviously people do change sometimes, but you do the best you can. My only hard lines: I absolutely do not share (sexually and emotionally), and I will be having children at one point. If he changed his mind on either one of these we would have to divorce which would be very hard and sad but I'm not willing to compromise on these two. But lik… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/02/14 03:59 PM |
| 3 | Watching porn in a relationshipThat was actually my point behind asking for an explanation- of course there isn't a good one, she will realize that when she tries to answer his question and she can't come up with anything. Hopefully that will let her see she is being unreasonable. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/14 06:35 PM |
| 1 | Winter Wedding help!There are some wintery formal dresses like this that come with sleeves, but it's not like they are going to keep you any more warm than a typical sleeveless cocktail dress since they are so thin :/ I would wear any nice dress you have or something like the one above and pair it with tights, heels, and a nice coat to keep warm. Unless the bride and groom are dumbasses you probably won't have to stand around outside much, so you would only have to be cold for the time it takes to walk from the car… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/14 05:39 PM |
| 2 | Watching porn in a relationshipI really don't like my husband watching porn, but as long as it doesn't interfere with our sex life I just try to not think about it and keep my mouth shut. If you can look at your masturbation and porn habits honestly and say it isn't interfering, then she needs to get over it ESPECIALLY because she is doing the exact same thing! Have you ever asked her to explain her logic behind porn being okay for her but not for you? Force her to see through the hamster. My vote goes to unreasonable. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/14 05:24 PM |
| 3 | How many of you actually celebrate V Day?We celebrate! Pretty low-key though... EVERYTHING even remotely related gets their prices so jacked up its half our preference for low-key events and half out of necessity. $300 set menu dinner? Yeah no thanks. We get take out and a bottle of wine and eat and then bang. A good time is had by all! Sometimes we do gifts and sometimes not. It depends on if the person wants anything and if we have money for it. But February is so close to Christmas, usually we just got everything we wanted so what's… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/14 05:19 PM |
| 3 | Super Bowl or boringI really don't care for sports at all, although I do enjoy going to games! But that's more about socializing, tailgating, and snacks than the actual game :P I'm not sure how much it is considered a "sport" but I actually really like watching UFC matches. I don't follow the season or people or anything, but if one happens to be on we watch it together. Luckily for me my husband isn't into sports either. He does participate in some fantasy football leagues but half of the time we don't even watch … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/14 05:12 PM |
| 3 | Married Ladies Roll CallWe met at a Halloween house party. He was dressed as Jamie Hyneman! First thing I noticed was how tall he was. Me likey. ~2.5 years I think? I can't math this early in the morning. We met in October 2010 and got married in June 2013. I was 22 and he was 24. It was such a beautiful day :) I know you would all be jealous if you saw pictures ;) I love everything really... I am so so happy I just don't know what to do with myself! I love how much fun we have together, even doing the mundane things. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/14 01:32 PM |
| 4 | Single Ladies Roll CallI absolutely LOVE talking about clothes... If you have any questions or need help please start a thread, I would be more than happy to blab your ear off :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/14 04:02 AM |
| 4 | [BP Example] Is he easy going?I probably would have said something like "We get along very well. I'm looking forward to the day we move in together! (Insert big smile)". Or honestly you could just say yes and then move on, who cares what some gossipy blue pill lady at work thinks? | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/14 04:00 AM |
| 6 | [Question] What would be a "classic" RPW response to being hit on by a sleazy dude?I would start with "no thank you, I'm not interested"... DONT just say "I have a boyfriend" or similar because some guys take that as a challenge. Second defense would be moving away if possible. If not possible or he still persists, alert a manager or bouncer or something. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/14 03:41 AM |
| 3 | At RPW we like self-improvement, so can we talk about our goals for 2014?Be more fit and healthy. I'm kind of playing around with the idea of signing up for 5ks as a goal, but I like lifting more so we'll see All "A"s in classes Bake more. Pie and bread specifically. Probably start with bread and work up to pies :) Hit 6 months of savings goal and if we are super lucky hopefully start a house fund! | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/14 05:28 PM |
| 2 | Why should I join the Red Pill?My personal philosophy is that everything is worth trying once (obvious exceptions for things like, you know, murder). So why not try being a RPW for awhile? Embrace your femininity and do some reading here and at related sites. See how you feel. If it doesn't work it doesn't work. But you tried and then you'll know for sure. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/14 03:37 AM |
| 5 | Return of Queens goes the way of the hamsterI've been randomly checking in on ROQ since it started and have yet to be even a little bit impressed. And I had such high hopes, too :/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/14 03:32 AM |
| 6 | Sexy Winter Fashion!My sexy winter fashion tip for night: instead of switching to frumpy long winter pajamas, keep wearing your regular ones and put on a pair of thigh high socks! It keeps you warm and looks good. Also I think this guy must live in a place where winter means 50*F because there's no way I'm clomping around in ice in high heeled boots or wearing leggings out when it's 20 and windy! It is cute stuff though. Maybe call it late fall or early winter fashion :P | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/14 01:39 PM |
| 6 | On retaining classy RPW frame when everyone and their mother is trying to convince you otherwiseNo similar situations for me yet (knocking on wood currently!) but if I were you I would say "please contact my husband and ask him for this and all future communication, his number is xxx-xxx-xxxx" and then ignore them. In the future, don't even give them your number so they have no choice. If they try to insist just keep smiling and say "no really the best way is to go through my husband! Thanks though!" | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/14 03:15 AM |
| 1 | Facebook-Is ok to use for RPW ? Yay or Nay?I use it to stalk briefly check in on people I can't talk to or see much. I don't really post much myself. The last thing I did was our wedding photos, which was back in June. My thing with facebook and any other social websites is, don't be stupid about it. Don't post anything you wouldn't want your boss, grandma, or boyfriend to see- meaning no half naked photos, no cursing, no flirting with other men (publicly OR privately!), it shouldn't look like all you do is party. It shouldn't be a sourc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/14 10:56 PM |
| 3 | Is it possible to have a RP-style relationship with a BP man?I do think it is possible, as you have seen with your husband. I think it really depends on how blue pill/beta/lazy bear/whatever you want to call it the man starts out as. Most normal guys (meaning no issues with low testosterone, depression, etc.) seem to happily rise to the challenge after they see it is a permanent change. With your mom, I really don't know... cheating on almost every partner you have had is a tough thing to break. But I am also a strong believer that it is never too late fo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/14 10:34 PM |
| 7 | What are some hobbies you've picked up in your 20s or older?Swing dance! It's super fun and makes me feel so girly and pretty, twirling around in a nice dress. Plus good exercise. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/14 07:10 PM |
| 2 | Weekly Post: Ask All Your Urgent Questions Here!That's what we did! So good! I was actually thinking we need to buy a couple more tubs of coconut oil because we use it for so many things. Probably shouldn't use the same jar I do for cooking as I do for hair conditioning! | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/14 05:55 PM |
| 6 | Weekly Post: Ask All Your Urgent Questions Here!I swear I had an answer all typed out but then I hit submit and it disappeared >:( so sorry if this is a double post. Yay for the start of weekly threads! Even though I haven't done much :P I'm proud of myself for having a good start to my classes (even though it's keeping me from here ;)) and getting in some good workouts. I made stovetop popcorn for the first time and it was really good. Definitely never going back to microwave. Try it if you haven't! Also it's really effing cold here and I ha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/14 05:30 PM |
| 3 | I live with my boyfriend, he is also my boss - Help/ advice pleaseIt sounds like you two have a wonderful routine worked out- if it ain't broke, don't fix it! As far as maintaining the spark goes, just make sure that you leave work at "work" even though you work from home... Don't let it bleed over into your personal time together. But it sounds like you are doing this already, so try not to worry so much and enjoy your relationship :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/14 05:09 PM |
| 2 | Can we talk about weight/weight loss, dieting, etc?I haven't lost a significant amount of weight, but I've never needed to. My problem is being "skinnyfat" meaning I am thin but with little muscle or tone. So far all my health kicks have been initiated by me. Favorite diets: I do best eating whole foods and low carb. There is an immediate noticeable difference in how I feel when I eat junk now. Favorite workouts: I alternate heavy weight lifting and cardio. I also enjoy yoga when I do it, although that's not very often. I really like lifting bec… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/14 09:36 AM |
| 23 | Woman Dresses to Please Her Man and Her Friends are LividWait wait wait let me get this straight.... dressing to please (woman) friends: completely fine! dressing to please your boyfriend: HOW DARE YOU, YOU EVIL DOORMAT TRAITOR! How do they not see the hypocrisy in this? I'll never know. I'm not sure how her friends/random feminists also missed the SEVERAL points throughout her relationship and in the article where the author mentions that SHE made the decision to take his opinion into account. Isn't that what they are all about? SHE decided to grow h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/14 05:19 PM |
| 3 | Married and happy, but husband wants to swing with me?Do you think he would be open to fulfilling hhis fantasy a little bit but draw the line at actual sex acts? For example go to strips club together or other voyeur activities like cams. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/14 10:48 PM |
| 4 | Can we talk insecurities and how to not let them get in the way of happiness?Try to determine if your insecurity legitimate. Take the following two examples: Insecurity over small breasts: cannot be fixed except through expensive and possibly dangerous surgery. Your man is presumably attracted to your body, small boobs and all, so don't worry about it! Insecurity because you are fat (actually overweight, no mental issues such as eating disorder telling you are fat when you're not): this is something that you CAN work to fix and it probably is affecting your attractivenes… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/14 04:05 PM |
| 3 | The Sex Risk For Women That No One Likes To Talk About - an example of why keeping your # low is importantBut the dicks just made it better! ....hey, does this taste salty to you? | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/14 02:29 AM |
| 7 | Woman tried two dating profiles on eHarmony - was astonished that red pill "bimbo" profile beat blue pill "nerdy" profileSeriously, I thought cooking and working out was called "being an adult human" lol! Not a bimbo. Cooking healthy meals and researching and following a work out program actually takes a bit of brains. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/14 11:52 PM |
| 6 | How do you ladies deal with stress without relying on your SO's?How does your husband feel about you sharing your worries with him? Are you sure it's not just your anxiety talking that you need to keep it to yourself? You might want to look into CBT techniques for anxiety. You can find worksheets like this one online to help you work through how you are feeling and develop a course of action. Another thing I find helpful is yoga with a brief period of meditation at the end. I was skeptical at first, but there really is something about stretching your body in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/14 09:06 PM |
| 25 | Woman tried two dating profiles on eHarmony - was astonished that red pill "bimbo" profile beat blue pill "nerdy" profileWow, you mean men like happy, feminine girls who enjoy taking care of them? Shocking! I'm not sure how she derived this lesson out of it: However, this lesson was clear: if it seems like you're not having a lot of success in attracting people to your profile, rewrite it. Keep it simple. The lesson is not "keep it simple". The lesson is to demonstrate that you are a fun, sexy, feminine woman (mentioning 50 shades of grey=likes sex, cooking and taking care of your man=domestic skills, likes workin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/14 08:52 PM |
| 8 | [Mod] RPW Posting RulesNow I want to make RPW memes a thing :P | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/14 07:02 PM |
| 3 | Autonomic Half Life or Why men think women are crazy.Interesting! I also see how it relates to that article that stated couples are happier when the woman is able to calm down quickly after an argument, so there definitely seems to be truth to it. This used to be a bad habit of mine that was hard to break but definitely for the best. I know I used to rationalize bringing it up because "it shows a pattern of behavior" but honestly how does that help anything... | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/01/14 11:04 PM |
| 6 | Sharing a great female health resourcesAnother great resource for women is Taking Charge of Your Fertility. It will teach you everything you need to know about your hormone cycle and how it relates to fertility. I highly recommend to anyone who wants to get OR prevent pregnancy- it's great for both! | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/14 12:46 AM |
| 8 | Self-improvement thrifty style!Develop a "French" or "capsule" wardrobe- have a small number of quality clothing where everything goes together. When all of your clothing is classic pieces, you could (theoretically at least, this will never happen for me :P) go years without buying new pieces. It does take money to set up but much less expensive in the long run. For my fellow apartment dwellers- we may not have room for a garden, but herbs can usually be grown on a windowsill or balcony. Instead of buying candles, boil a mix … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/14 09:32 PM |
| 10 | Why do women lie/give bad advice about dating?I don't think they lie, they just don't know any better and/or aren't able to verbalize it in a way that men understand. To use the old standby "Just be yourself!": they really do want you to be "yourself" meaning don't put on a persona, but at the same time be the attractive, interesting version of yourself. Don't be the you that rolls out to the club in sweatpants and yesterday's shirt and geeks out over the minor details of your fantasy football league. Be the you that wears something nice an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/14 03:30 AM |
| 6 | Does your first ever leave your mind?He has no place in my heart and I only think of him as often as any other past acquaintance (hey I wonder what the girl who sat behind me in math class is up to these days...?) | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/14 10:26 PM |
| 13 | 22 Things Only Single Women UnderstandIf you can't figure out how to open a jar, assemble Ikea furniture, or perform basic household maintenance, you have larger problems than being single. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/14 10:24 PM |
| 4 | Bend and Snap: The Red Pill Woman Trap - apparently we're seen as the latest, coolest thing since feminism!Don't worry about it, MrsStrom- your post was amazing and I'm pretty sure this lady has a bad case of the speshul snowflakes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/14 07:25 PM |
| 11 | Bend and Snap: The Red Pill Woman Trap - apparently we're seen as the latest, coolest thing since feminism!Seriously! Choosing submission through your religion is fine, but doing it because of other personal beliefs does not make you "less authentic". Wtf?! In some situations I would even venture to say its the opposite- coming to submission on your own because it is the right thing to do is better than doing it just because the bible says so without any further reflection. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/14 03:48 AM |
| 5 | A Few Words On Boundaries and AppearanceMy advice? Be my best plate. In RPW...? My Reaction | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/14 10:28 PM |
| 3 | Idea For The Community: Weekly ThreadsI think the mods are going to talk about setting up a poll for the threads, so definitely suggest it there when they post it :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/14 08:34 PM |
| 5 | Since there isn't an askRPW, I figured I'd ask this here.I would never ever be in that sort of relationship and my heart aches for any girl who would agree to it. Personally I am against planning on having a child as a single parent, but if you feel differently consider looking into hiring a surrogate and having a live in nanny. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/14 01:37 AM |
| 4 | Idea For The Community: Weekly ThreadsMost subs do one per day of each week- for example on xxfitness every Monday is about nutrition, Tuesdays are newbie questions, Thursday is brag about your achievement day, Sunday is progress pics etc. And then they are repeated every week. However we are a smaller sub so maybe doing only one and leaving it up all week would work out better. I'm sure whatever you mods deem appropriate would work out wonderfully :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/14 12:51 AM |
| 13 | When your RP man disappoints you?An important thing to keep in mind: getting mad and losing your temper won't make him magically go back in time and fix it. Letting your emotions get the better of you might make you TEMPORARILY feel better, but is absolute poison for your relationship in the long run. What I do is, ask him- lovingly and with genuine concern, don't talk until you can be genuine- what happened that caused him to mess up? Is he too busy to take care of this particular thing, would it be better if he delegated it t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/14 12:43 AM |
| 13 | Do you think women can make good friends?Contrary to most people on the red pill, and even reddit in general, I have always had very good female friends. I'm not sure where the "girls are 100% dramatic all the time ever" experiences come from. I have had many many girl friends (ran cross country in high school with at least 30 girls plus my regular friends) and have never had friend drama in my entire life. Maybe it's my personality, maybe it's because I have many stereotypical girl interests, I don't know. I have had nothing but good … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/14 11:58 PM |
| 9 | One of the boysI think there are two problems here that combine to form the "I'll be one of the boys!" romantic strategy. Girls are attracted to boys when they do manly things. Without proper role models to steer them in the right direction and point out that men are attracted femininity, not masculinity, the girls mimic the boys and hope they are attracted to them as well. Women (deservedly) get a lot of flack for giving bad dating advice, but this is true of most blue pill men as well particularly the young … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/14 03:35 PM |
| 8 | How did you become Red Pill?I'm not sure I ever "became" red pill... it was more something I already knew, both instinctively and through being raised in a fairly red pill manner (thanks parents!). It was then was put into words/theories and expanded upon when I discovered trp community. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/14 03:18 PM |
| 6 | The State of RPW, What we Are NotPersonally I see RPW advocating the best strategy for happiness in women: LTR with a guy who has a good alpha/beta mix. Technically we could reproduce with the alpha and then ensnare a beta to raise our offspring, but we wouldn't be very happy despite the reproductive success (see alpha widows). | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/14 04:01 AM |
| 7 | Christianity and the Red PillRPW is definitely for EVERYONE! Not just ladies of the religious persuasions. Many of our beliefs do overlap with Christian morals though, so I see why it attracts that group. They tend to be the ones to write about it the most too. I'm not really sure why, maybe because many of them are SAHM and have more time? I'm hoping for more secular blogs in the future. Sometimes I think about doing it myself, but I am not nearly articulate enough for that! I would describe myself as agnostic. My interest… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/14 06:19 PM |
| 7 | Introducing RedPillWomen's Newest Moderator: PhantomDream09!Congratulations, have a kitten! I hope your mod duties don't keep you too busy and we see more of your wonderful postings soon :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/14 05:11 PM |
| 6 | How can we postpone the inevitable wall?Really, all you can do is live an overall healthy lifestyle and hope you inherited the good side of your genetics. Stay thin, drink lots of water, proper nutrition, exercise, plenty of sleep. You know the drill. Use sun protection if you are going to be out for long periods of time (big hat and long sleeves are better than sunscreen). Skin creams: prevention is far easier than correction. Use a daily moisturizer. If you do want to use something that fixes imperfections make sure it is something … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/14 02:40 PM |
| 4 | It's Time to Turn Our Thinking Around: reconsidering what we've been taught about marriageClever! I'm always impressed with people who can write things like this, and palindromes and what not... My brain can barely write in one direction! | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/14 01:35 PM |
| 6 | What nice things did you do for your partner today?School starts for me, so I'm at home being boring and responsible :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/14 06:32 PM |
| 7 | What nice things did you do for your partner today?This morning I drove him to the airport for a ski trip, so I'll be spending today and this week by myself (sniff). So I'm just going to be keeping the place clean and make sure there are tasty things in the house upon his return. My good deed for the day will probably be sexy pics later ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/14 03:07 PM |
| 5 | How to encourage my husband to be more RP?I would start by asking him what his vision for your life together is... Where does he see you two in 6 months, a year, 5 years, even 20 years? What does he think is the best way to go about getting there? Let him know you are available to help him in any way, and then wait for him to take the lead. A book you might want to consider reading together is Athol Kays Mindful Attraction Plan. It deals with married red pill relationships and general self improvement. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/14 12:44 AM |
| 1 | The fine lineWhat sort of crowd do you hang around with? Are the men hitting on you single or are they in relationships too? If they are single, maybe suggest that your husband have boys nights with them and only go out together with other married friends. Best of luck to you two! | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/14 12:37 AM |
| 4 | Obviously when it comes to selecting a wife or permanent LTR, a virgin bride/girlfriend is the ideal, but...Oh, please don't feel that way! I check reddit pretty frequently and I love seeing everyone's answers here. Add as much or little as you can think of, they are asking these questions because they WANT lots of answers! | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/14 04:57 PM |
| 2 | Why do you love your man?http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=FJBqja9Z6Ms | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/14 03:25 PM |
| 3 | Can you be a RP socialist or communist?I don't know about describing myself as a socialist or communist, but I am liberal (at least socially honestly I don't know enough about finances to have an opinion there). Based on some past threads I know there are some others out there as well. It is kind of disheartening to see the amount of hate the lefties get, but like you say above I consider my political views irrelevant to TRP so I ignore it and move on. I just tell myself NALALT and assume they aren't talking about me lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/14 07:50 AM |
| 13 | Deti’s advice to young women on 23 things to do before you’re 23:Hi bourkleton, you are fairly new here, yes? It's important to keep in mind that we are speaking in generalities... so when we say "don't have piercings" it is because MOST men (most, not all) dislike a face full of metal. If yours likes your tongue ring then keep it and don't give it a second thought :) that is what's most important. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/14 09:50 PM |
| 3 | Obviously when it comes to selecting a wife or permanent LTR, a virgin bride/girlfriend is the ideal, but...Welcome! I'm a southern girl too. I hope to see you around more :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/14 08:52 PM |
| 3 | Why do you love your man?I love this line: I have always been His, I just had to wait until our timelines collided it reminds me of one of my favorite songs! I feel all mushy for you just reading what you wrote. I love happy couples :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/14 08:51 PM |
| 5 | Obviously when it comes to selecting a wife or permanent LTR, a virgin bride/girlfriend is the ideal, but...I am sensing that this is something we probably have a fundamental disagreement over. Personally, I believe in 100% openness in relationships and particularly in marriage. Knowing exactly how many sexual and relationship partners my husband had in the past is important to me for protecting my own sexual health (more partners=higher risk of STDs) and to ensure that I am with someone that has similar values, because it is something I plan on teaching to our future children. So, agree to disagree :… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/14 08:41 PM |
| 7 | Obviously when it comes to selecting a wife or permanent LTR, a virgin bride/girlfriend is the ideal, but...Not asking is one thing, but not answering? I mean, you have every right to not answer but please realize that most men will assume the worst and treat you accordingly. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/14 08:16 PM |
| 2 | Deti’s advice to young women on 23 things to do before you’re 23:Sweet, looks like I did pretty good! I would add: Develop a healthy and fit lifestyle. Including skin care routine! Get a pet and practice your "parenting" skills Learn to drive a stick shift, because you never know. It might come in use during the zombie apocalypse when the only working car you can find is a standard! | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/14 07:52 PM |
| 16 | Obviously when it comes to selecting a wife or permanent LTR, a virgin bride/girlfriend is the ideal, but...There is a lot to work through here in your post! Let's start at the beginning. I'm sure for many men, a virgin bride is the ideal. However, some men do NOT want to wait until marriage to discover if they are sexually compatible with their wife. My husband fell into the second category. In fact, me being a virgin at the wedding day would have been not only not ideal but a detriment. That said, how many partners is considered "acceptable" is going to vary by man. There have been a number of threa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/14 04:22 PM |
| 2 | A good RP aggregate site I just found: Page For MenI want to like it... but that CSS O.O vivalamanosphere is another good aggregate site, for anyone who hasn't seen it already. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/14 03:52 PM |
| 7 | There is HopeWow thanks /u/not_popular_opinions! I can't afford reddit gold because my husband controls all the money so this is the best I can do: http://i.imgur.com/3RF2RPI.jpg Maybe I can call that number tonight if my husband allows me to use the phone! | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/14 09:21 PM |
| 7 | A Few Responses to Some Common Criticisms of Wifely SubmissionBig round of applause! | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/14 04:57 PM |
| 5 | What's your ideal length of time for dating before getting engaged/married?Well, I had what I thought I would like to happen and then what actually happened. Funny how life is like that right! Ideal: Date 1 year, live together 1 year, then get engaged and plan the wedding over the course of another year Reality: We got engaged after dating for a bit over a year and had been living together for 6 months of that time period. Then we took 18 months to actually get married. Yes we are procrastinators :P. I met him at 19 and we got married when I was 22. He was 22 and 24. I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/14 02:42 PM |
| 18 | New RPW site just launched [x-post from /r/RedKings]I hope you post more articles on being feminine and becoming a "queen" rather than just "here's more reasons why all women are bad". I don't learn anything from blue pill examples other than don't be a bitch, which I already know. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/14 01:01 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, please tell me your thoughts and views when it comes to hanging out with single gentlemen one on one.I agree with you. I don't do it and I recommend the same to others. It just seems to be asking for trouble. However, some people are stubborn, so when they insist they just must hang out alone with this guy I think the following guidelines are good: Never ever ever even one drop of alcohol Try to keep hang outs to casual lunches. Don't let him pay for you except for maybe once a year on your birthday Don't do anything that could be remotely construed as romantic interest. No flirting, no touchin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/01/14 12:54 PM |
| 23 | A friend posted an update on FB Christmas Eve, his wife's comment made me cringe!So many things I want to rage about: Airing their financial dirty laundry on Facebook. No. Just no. Blaming her husband for their lack of funding. Get off your ass and get a job. She is posting VIA MOBILE which means she has a smartphone and the accompanying data plan. If you want presents so bad, sell your phone and stop paying $50+ (probably over $100 assuming her husband has the same) a month in cell phone bills. Your kid is one year old. My nieces favorite toys at that age were sticks and le… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/14 07:27 PM |
| 6 | Ladies, how long did it take you to find your RPM?I met my husband when I was 19. At the time I didn't know anything about TRP, or even reddit lol! I hate saying this because it sounds special snowflakey, but my husband and I are what I guess you could call red pill naturals? He is a natural leader and I am a natural submissive. So I didn't know he was/is a RPM I just knew that I liked him a whole bunch and we worked together well and I wanted his babies :) Around the time we got married I discovered the red pill and was like oh hey this is all… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/14 05:33 PM |
| 6 | Help with my brother, please :(This is tricky because you want to help him realize his wife is an abuser but not trash talk her so much that it drives him further towards her. Many times abuse victims can develop an "us against the world" mentality when people criticize their partner. Be as much of an open ear and shoulder to lean on for him as you can. Call him regularly to check up. Try specifically mentioning her actions and how they are wrong. I'm not sure to what extent she is abusive but you could say something like "Br… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/14 02:24 AM |
| 7 | Candace Cameron Bure Explains Being 'Submissive' To HusbandI loved this line: equal in importance, different in performance. That really sums up a red pill relationship to me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/14 01:43 AM |
| 6 | Yet another food thread...There are lots of meals where you can make a big batch of something and then throw meat in for his half! Off the top of my head: stir frys, salad, soup/stew, tacos, burritos, quesadillas, fajitas, pot pies or shepherds pie, chili, kabobs. You can grill things like burgers where his is actual meat and yours is a veggie burger or use a large portabella mushroom. Make a pan of lasagna half meat and half veggie. Good luck! | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/14 09:57 PM |
| 2 | The Day I Wore Yoga Pants: 5 Myths About ModestyVictorias Secret athletic line has good quality yoga pants in different cuts and lengths. The material is nice and thick too so your ass doesn't show through when you move around. Plus more reasonably priced than lululemon! My husband loves mine ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/14 07:43 PM |
| 6 | The Day I Wore Yoga Pants: 5 Myths About ModestyCan't say it's all applicable to my life but I definitely admire her mindset and ability for self reflection and will take notes on that part :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/14 05:48 PM |
| 1 | Why do females enjoy horror shows/movies?I like the adrenaline rush. It's fun to be scared while still knowing you aren't in any real danger. | /r/TheRedPill | 07/01/14 02:33 PM |
| 4 | Tips to help a friend become RP...You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it swallow the red pill. Or something like that :) Live your life and let her see how happy you are. If she is interested in being similarly happy, she'll ask and you can give her some tips on femininity and submissiveness. At the very MOST if you really want to do something now, point her towards your favorite red pill blog and say something like "I saw this and thought it was interesting. I've been trying some of the methods for women and they s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/14 05:02 AM |
| 1 | Any non-RP website suggestions?Pinterest of course! Mostly for recipes and outfit inspiration. Speaking of recipes: I like Martha Stewart, budgetbytes, popularpaleo, and skinnytaste. I also like pioneer woman, but be careful because her recipes tend to be really unhealthy. And her writing is annoying. The food is good though. I use the fitbit and myfitnesspal websites to track my workouts. I think they have forums as well, but I don't go to them. Naturallycurly.com is fun if you have curls like me :) My fave YouTube channel i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/14 02:59 AM |
| 5 | What's worse: to regret getting married or to regret *not* getting married?Personally I don't believe in "the one". There are a lot of people that I could probably be happy and have a successful marriage with. I believe I have found one in my husband and that is why we got married. As far as hypergamy goes, I think if you find a man that you respect and look up to and then (this is the key part) don't put yourself in a position to find another man, meaning going out with single friends, hanging out alone with other men, etc. you will not need to worry about it. I was n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/14 07:19 PM |
| 24 | What's worse: to regret getting married or to regret *not* getting married?For the love of god please don't get married because you set some arbitrary date for yourself like "must be married by 24". This is how divorces happen, because some little princess wants a wedding and the MarriedTM status but doesn't realize the responsibilities behind being a wife. Get married because you found someone you want to build a life with. To answer your question though, I believe regretting getting married is much worse because you have destroyed two lives instead of one. Same with … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/14 06:47 PM |
| 5 | Feminist stumbles into RPW. Agrees with a LOT of points. Confusion ensues. Please help!!If you are confused, keep reading! There are a lot of great resources in the sidebar. I am partial to the "married man sex life" view of the red pill myself, so maybe you should start there ;) RPW is explicitly anti-feminist, so if you plan on coming at everything from that point of view you are probably going to have a bad time. To give you an idea of my own personal views, I am all for equal opportunity, equal access, and equal protection under the law but the current wave has taken things MUC… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/01/14 03:59 PM |
| 3 | Just For Fun: The Importance of Attractiveness...so, whats ur fave beanie baby, sexy ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/14 06:35 AM |
| 2 | Just For Fun: The Importance of AttractivenessI would hope she's just a dump, for anyone, ever, but apparently there are some prettyyyy desperate dudes o.O I mean she admits to faking pregnancies like 5 times why would anyone want to deal with that!!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/14 06:35 AM |
| 2 | Just For Fun: The Importance of AttractivenessI hope the weekend is treating you better at least! | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/01/14 06:33 AM |
| 7 | RPW tips for millennials?I know that sometimes I get burnt out when I try to change too many things at once. Maybe you should try a step by step approach so each change has a chance to become fully ingrained before tackling the next? A couple things per week would be a good guideline. So maybe this week you work on your entitlement attitude and thinking of ways to please him before he mentions something. Next week you work on nagging and being clingy, etc etc until you have completed your overall change. Best of luck la… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/14 10:04 PM |
| 4 | RPW, How do you make new friends?Meet ups in your city. You can pick a specific activity or sometimes there are general young people meet up groups. Take up a new (group) hobby! Join an adult soccer league, take dance classes, etc. You have young children, right? Try a mommy and me group or join a play date group. Make new friends and let the babies keep each other out of your hair! Basically, get out of the house and look like you are having fun. Someone will see that and want to come join in :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/01/14 01:35 PM |
| 5 | Respect In ActionA+++ would read again and share with all my friends :) Respect, to me at least, is the most important and basic virtue. All others can be traced back to it. Honesty respects another's right to the truth. Avoiding infidelity respects your partner's monogamy. Kindness respects others pursuit of happiness. And on and on and on. No matter how much I don't like someone, I will at the bare minimum be polite and respectful. This way my butt/reputation is covered at all times :P Can't be accused of thin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/01/14 01:10 PM |
| 4 | How to improve waist-hip ratioYou can't change your bone structure or the way your body holds fat so if you are already slim, this is just the way your body is. In fact with this problem you would probably want to try gaining fat and hoping it goes to your hips but again that is all genetics and you might end up with a flabby belly instead. Just keep working on your overall health and fitness and I guarantee you will be hot. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/14 09:16 PM |
| 2 | Feminists are ugly.They are probably eating way under their calorie requirements and not getting near enough protein. The girls I know that don't cook pretty much just eat low fat "healthy" premade items like yogurt and rice cakes, microwaveable lean cuisine meals, and they might know how to make one or two simple dishes but it will be some terrible combination of over/under cooked and over/under seasoned. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/14 08:10 PM |
| 13 | Feminists are ugly.ugh I can't stand that attitude... I see it a lot, some girl will say something like "Yeah my boyfriend does all the cooking, I even burn toast lol!!!!" Yes, it is so hilarious that you aren't capable of even the most basic part of being an adult. Have fun subsisting off of tasteless meals or takeout and getting fat when he finally leaves you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/14 04:36 PM |
| 8 | Advice-Fiance no longer working, now I bring home the incomeCould you add some more information? I'm a bit confused... he was working, developed a terminal illness, and then quit and began receiving disability but now he is better and no longer receiving it? Is he able to work now but hasn't found a job yet, or is he stuck where he is not well enough to work but not bad enough for disability? Either way, I would reassure him he is not useless and encourage him in job seeking efforts (if he can work). Maybe you could suggest that he do a couple things tha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/14 04:05 PM |
| 4 | When husband is being a jerkNot that this is any excuse, but sometimes men aren't sure how to relate to young children and young girls in particular. It sets up a bad cycle where they don't know what to do --> they avoid spending time with the child --> they never learn --> they continue avoiding. It might help if you start setting up situations where he can be with her without you as backup so he forms more of a relationship. Run out to the store or for a manicure for an hour and just let him do the dad thing. Maybe ask h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/14 12:45 AM |
| 3 | Do Sexy and Modest mix?You can absolutely be modest and sexy! I think it's far better than slutty and sexy too. It's the kind of sexy that lasts for years rather than ending when you hit the wall. Is tight clothing okay as long as everything is covered? If so, I think Pencil Skirts are a good modest/sexy mix. Mid rise skinny jeans like these also show your curves but keep everything covered. Another look I love is fit and flare dresses. They are so sexy and feminine for the spring and summer. For fall and winter, swea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/01/14 11:15 PM |
| 11 | 23 Things to Do Instead of Getting Engaged Before You're 23I've seen this posted around too and it's honestly one of the worst articles I've ever seen. Most of them don't even make sense- since when does marriage preclude you from adopting a pet?!- and the rest are just mean. Having a life goal of purposefully disappointing your parents makes me incredibly sad. I'm sure she accomplished that by writing this though so good for her I guess? | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/01/14 01:35 PM |
| 2 | up my game?You really should smile more! You look absolutely radiant in the first picture (I'm guessing wedding? :)) If you don't normally wear makeup, you might try some out. Your eyes are beautiful and you have nice cheekbones. Some eyeliner, mascara, and blush would highlight those features very well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/01/14 06:23 AM |
| 2 | What body type/size do you think most men actually prefer?From what I can observe, they are attracted to an hourglass figure and the amount of body fat they prefer is personal preference. Some men like hardbodies with visible abs, and some men like fat they can grab onto. But pretty much all of them want a visible curve between the boobs, waist, and hips with smooth firm skin. Just look at the celebrities they go crazy for and you can get a good idea, Scarlett Johannsen, Sofia Vergara, Kim K., etc. Can't do much in the boobs department other than surge… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/01/14 12:57 AM |
| 3 | A Quicker Way to Clean HouseOur place is a disaster after being too busy from holidays AND we have someone coming to stay this weekend, so this is a wonderfully timed post :) I am quite stuck in my "zone cleaning" habit so I will have to try to break out of it and do this instead! | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/12/13 04:35 PM |
| 2 | New Year's ResolutionCould you share the name of the book pretty please :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/12/13 09:36 PM |
| 3 | New Year's ResolutionThat's a wonderful idea! I might have to steal it :) Mine aren't really unique and are basically just continuations of things I was working on already, but here we go: Keep following my workout program 2. Back to eating paleo-ish/whole foods. The holidays really screwed me up in this department 3. Continue building a buy it for life (or at least many years :P) type wardrobe of high quality, feminine fashion 4. Also improve on some other personal things like anxiety that I'm too much of a wimp to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/12/13 09:28 PM |
| 8 | 1 I messed up. Badly. Do any of you ladies have extensions, and if so, can you lend a fellow RPW some tips? :(If you are going to get extensions, you really want to do it the right way and that means professionally and high quality which as you know means expensive. Personally I find cheap ones trashy looking. If you can't afford the nice ones, I think your best bet would be to get a cut so your hair is at least even and then really play up your femininity with accessories. Cute headbands, sparkly hair pins, colorful scarves, etc. Make sure your clothing is feminine as well and maybe do your makeup just… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/12/13 02:21 PM |
| 8 | Hey RP Women! My friend asked: What value can women add to a man's life?My goal is to make him value his own life more because I am a part of it. If he is happier today than yesterday then I am doing my job right. For me, this means making the hard things easier and the easy parts more fun. The specifics would probably take forever and I won't write a novel since I think /u/MrsStrom covered them very well above and mine is pretty similar. But basically take care of things at home and be a source of light and support (the make things easier part) and have a lot of re… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/13 09:46 PM |
| 2 | 36 Ways To Be Irresistibly AttractiveI would agree if the title just said "how to be attractive", but I think having "irresistible" in there changes it. This article is about adding that extra little something, a glimmer, a spark, the X factor, whatever you want to call it that draws men to you... The part that they see and can tell that you are full of life and will add value to theirs beyond sitting there and looking pretty. It reminds me of the video where the guy starts "fighting" with the students on campus and one girl starts… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/13 09:20 PM |
| 2 | Hair colourI had blonde hair when I was younger but it's darkened since high school into a light brown. I've thought about dying it blonde again for funsies since it's been suggested to me by many stylists... I will probably do it one day when we aren't quite so poor so I can afford the proper upkeep and what not. Coloring every six weeks is expensive! | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/12/13 02:52 PM |
| 7 | No contact rule - what other redpillwomen certified techniques can you use?Persist with no contact. If you are being tempted, block his number and mark all the messages as spam or whatever so they go directly to trash and you never even see them. If you say anything, no matter how direct or indirect, it's going to feed him a bit of hope and throw fuel on the fire. DON'T DO IT! | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/12/13 05:59 AM |
| 5 | How should you deal with childish acts of your partner?When someone is acting childish around me, I treat them like a child until they calm down. For me, that means: Figure out if something else could be causing the outburst, if they don't normally act that way. Are they tired? Work stress getting to them? Etc. Then, validate their emotions- "I know you are upset/angry/frustrated and I understand why you feel that way." Give them space or support, depending on what they need and then talk it over when they are ready to be an adult again. This strate… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/13 10:44 PM |
| 13 | Looking your best when you aren't at your bestThe most important thing I do is take the best care of my skin and hair so it looks okay even when I'm not wearing makeup and hair styled. Clear skin and well hydrated hair goes a long way. If you switch your pillow case to satin, that can help it look less messy. If you grow your hair back out, braids look cute and hide frizzies until you can wash and style again. Comfy but sexy clothes: my husband likes tank tops and booty shorts, which is great for me because those are also my comfort clothes… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/13 09:44 PM |
| 8 | Why We Hate FeminismA quick look through your comment history reveals that you are a single mom. I'm guessing that's a big part of your problem. I don't mean for this to sound insulting, but why would a red pill man want a 27 year old with another mans child when he could have one that doesn't, or one that's even younger and also not a single mom. You would probably do better to find a beta dude and then teach him to be alpha through married man sex life and other LTR red pill books. | /r/TheRedPill | 21/12/13 02:49 PM |
| 5 | Questions regarding expectations...PLEASE listen to lady motido OP! The fact that he is hinting that you are ugly/unattractive already at 21 is concerning and does not look good for a life long monogamous relationship. If he thinks the prime years end at 16 and 16 year olds are legal wherever you are then he should be with them, or an 18 year old who still looks 16. But you should get out NOW and find someone else with more reasonable expectations while you are actually still in your prime years. There is no way the wall hits at … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/13 01:57 PM |
| 5 | The Rationalization HamsterI recognize it, sometimes while I'm doing it and always after if I didn't. I have noticed improvement since I started making a point to watch out for it in myself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/13 05:53 PM |
| 2 | I have been a terrible first mate to my captainI completely understand, I'm the same way. I think if you explain to him that you trust him, but the crazy side of your brain needs to understand the plan he will not feel like you don't trust his judgement. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/13 12:43 AM |
| 3 | I have been a terrible first mate to my captainDo you think it might soothe your anxiety if he explained his plans to you and maybe gave you some direction? I feel better when I am given a task that I can grab and attack and focus on, instead of letting my thoughts snowball into some horror story of the future. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/13 10:26 PM |
| 5 | I have been a terrible first mate to my captainStep one is obviously apologizing in whatever way he finds most sincere. If you like the five love languages, they also have a "languages of apology" here. I haven't used it personally, but it might be helpful if you struggle with words like I do. One thing that you might find helpful is keeping a gratitude journal. It's a lot easier to take 5 minutes to jot down what you are grateful to your husband for than spending 30+ mins on the computer reading red pill stuff. I wish you all the best in th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/13 06:38 PM |
| 2 | Red Pill Women Best of 2013!Haha my bad! Sorry katyara. Well anyways the first part still applies. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/13 01:38 AM |
| 1 | intelligent women?Intelligence is more like a bonus. If you take two girls with the same attractiveness, and one is intelligent and one is average, most men will pick the intelligent one. But if the choice is between a sexy average girl, and an intelligent but plain one, they will pick the hottie. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/13 12:06 AM |
| 3 | Redpill wisdom confirmed: Man agrees with everything wife says, marriage goes to hell in 12 daysI just noticed that they are discussing this over at MMSL as well... but they don't get that it's a joke :O If someone has an account over there you might want to set them straight. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/13 10:09 PM |
| 5 | New here, a couple questions :)Things like strong, handsome, and manly are USUALLY a good sign of an alpha male, but the most important thing is that an alpha holds his "frame" and does things because HE wants to do it, not because he is catering to his ex-gf's wishes in the hopes she will maybe grant him 5 minutes of her precious time. Your boyfriend seems to be lacking the latter. Alpha men will feel heartbreak yes but they are also "outcome independent"- it doesn't matter if this one leaves because they know they can get a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/13 10:02 PM |
| 17 | Redpill wisdom confirmed: Man agrees with everything wife says, marriage goes to hell in 12 daysOmg look at the graph - http://www.bmj.com/highwire/filestream/678079/field_highwire_fragment_image_l/0/F1.medium.gif Dying over here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/13 09:55 PM |
| 7 | Red Pill Women Best of 2013!I would like to nominate /u/PhantomDream09 for her always articulate advice in the red pill related subs and getting the RPW IRC set up. She has a wonderful, approachable writing style and seems to possess the ability to explain everything. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/13 09:32 PM |
| 2 | Red Pill Women Best of 2013!The post from /u/margerym "What happens when I deny my husband sex and other thoughts on the Red Pill". It is an excellent breakdown on the differences between theredpill and redpillwomen and the comments are very thoughtful as well. Particularly when discussing the differences and necessity of alpha and beta traits. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/13 09:28 PM |
| 4 | Red Pill Women Best of 2013!"Adventures in Female Hypergamy, or I Went to a Male Strip Show, Kill Me Now" by /u/MrsStrom found here. It was both hilarious and enlightening as someone who has never been to a strip club. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/13 09:23 PM |
| 4 | Daughter is 8. What would you want mom and dad to instill or teach?The number one bestest thing you can do is model a good relationship, particularly if her mom cycles through bad ones. Give her plenty of age appropriate chores and responsibilities that grow as she does along with consequences for her actions. I strongly believe in requiring that children participate in a sport or some sort of physical activity (preferably group), but not everyone feels this way. The benefits of earned instead of artificially inflated self esteem, teamwork, sacrifice and planni… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/13 04:25 AM |
| 0 | Should girls go to college to get their MRS degrees?Yes community college for the first 1-2 years seems to be the way to go now. The one here is easily 1/5 the price of the local university. I wish more vocational schools were still around, but they seem to have been run out by those phony for profit colleges where your degree is basically meaningless :/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/13 10:29 PM |
| -2 | Should girls go to college to get their MRS degrees?I did not go to college to get my MRS degree but it did end up happening. Still working on that other degree :P Thankfully my parents can't feel bad about me wasting their money since I paid for the partial schooling I have with scholarships. I plan on encouraging any potential daughters to go to college for many reasons, one of which is having the highest concentration of marriage material men. That lady who encouraged the stanford girls to find a husband while they were on campus had it right.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/13 09:35 PM |
| 6 | New here, a couple questions :)I think you might be a bit confused on what submissive means. Submissive is NOT "shy and insecure". Now, most shy and insecure people are submissive, but it's usually in the dreaded doormat way where people walk all over them because they have no voice. You want to be confident in yourself and submit because it is your nature and it makes you and your boyfriend happy and works for your relationship... not because you fear he will leave you if you don't cater to his wishes 24/7. Do you have a lif… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/13 08:06 PM |
| 3 | Let's Ban WeddingsOpen bar is the only necessary part for a good wedding in my opinion ;) We did a destination wedding and it was so easy and fun (and actually pretty cheap!). I definitely recommend going that route as well to any ladies thinking of getting married, if you don't want to have it at home. Plus you get to start the honeymoon early! | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/13 04:51 PM |
| 2 | Just got engaged! Any advice?There will most likely be something that goes wrong on the wedding day. Maybe something small or maybe something big. Be prepared, but don't freak out about it! As long as the certificate is signed, you will be married at the end of the day and everything else is just cherry on top Also if you feel like you're going to start crying before the pictures are done, look up at a light and fan with your hands so you don't mess your makeup ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/13 04:10 PM |
| 3 | Let's Ban WeddingsYup because clearly the only choices are no wedding or spending $15,000 on being "queen for the day". Nobody is capable of planning a fun, reasonably priced, beautiful wedding while still caring about their marriage. Thanks for clearing that up huffpo. Unrelated but she seems unreasonably jealous baby showers. If you want one so bad then have a baby, but don't shit all over everyone else for being excited. Or throw your own self a graduation party. But more importantly, GET OVER IT. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/13 03:59 PM |
| 14 | Lurker looking for answers. Can you classy ladies define the red pill lifestyle?There aren't clear cut answers to how you should live your life. Some of the ladies here work, some stay home, some have kids, some are child free, some are married and some are against marriage. You live your life how you want, and be aware and accepting of the consequences of your choices. For example if you choose to work and have children, be aware that your performance will probably be lacking somewhere than if you just focused on one. The only basics are the captain/first officer relations… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/13 03:54 AM |
| 9 | RPW advice please?5 months is enough time to know what he sees for himself in the future. It doesn't have to be some super serious "so when are we getting married" thing. Just ask him generally about what he wants and the timeline he sees it happening in. If his vision matches up with yours great! If not, it's probably better to move along and let him (and yourself) find a more suitable partner. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/13 11:07 PM |
| 3 | I saw the exact moment a woman spat out the red pill last month. Proof in action!I think it depends on the tone it's said in. Now she was being serious, so yeah she was pretty cold. But I can imagine saying something similar to my husband with a jokey tone and a wink or a little arm pinch and then him spanking me in return, and it would all be in good fun. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/13 03:36 PM |
| 3 | Staying RPW in tough times?I'm not trying to make you feel bad so imagine this next sentence being said with all the love in the world and a gentle tone... By avoiding him, you aren't solving your situation and adding feelings of rejection on top of his. ITS OKAY to cry and be vulnerable in front of your man! I'm not sure how long you have been together, but I promise he knows that you are not an emotional wreck all the time and that this too shall pass. Check out Margery's posts at GBG about the "bare bones". I think it … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/13 03:30 PM |
| 1 | Tips for how to look younger while already in my 20s?I'm not attracted to women, sooo I don't really know what is prettier! But if you are concerned about your features looking too sharp, use some blush on the apples of your cheeks and eyeshadow and mascara to make your eyes look bigger. Thicker brows make you look younger too, so try growing them a bit thicker and filling them in too if you already don't. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/13 02:14 AM |
| 2 | Slutty vs SexyWell you will probably start noticing a pattern after awhile. To wildly speculate off the examples you gave, it sounds like he prefers cleavage but only wants one body part shown off per outfit. So that might be way cleavage + midriff was worse than just a short skirt? Why not just ask him? You can trade telling each other what you think the sexiest outfit is! Like "hey honey I think when you wear (outfit) it's super sexy. What do you think I look sexiest in?" And then wear that. Or show him pic… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/13 02:09 AM |
| 1 | Slutty vs SexyLook we could argue all day over the difference between sexy and slutty, because everyone has a different opinion. I'm wearing a sweater and jeans today and I'm sure some people would say I look conservative but I would be considered slutty in the Middle East. So really the only opinion that should matter to you is your boyfriend (as long as it's situationally appropriate, don't have boobs spilling out at work for example). | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/13 02:00 AM |
| 2 | Tips for how to look younger while already in my 20s?What's your hair like? I find that generally hair at shoulders or below makes a person look younger, and above the shoulders make them look older. If your hair is on the shorter side, growing it out might help. It's possible that you have just reached your "adult look" earlier than your friends have. Some peoples faces and figures reach maturity sooner than others. That doesn't necessarily mean you are going to look older than you are forever. If you continue taking good care of yourself, you ca… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/13 01:50 AM |
| 8 | The Friend Zone and The Slut Zone [x-post from r/TRP]I would say put out when you know him well enough to know you want to be in a relationship with him. But as a caveat to that, if you regularly do this and then the guy disappears or turns out to be just in it for the sex, you might want to reevaluate your selection process and not do it until after commitment. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/13 09:20 PM |
| 14 | How do people feel about /r/TumblrInAction?I go there occasionally and look at the top posts. How can I not when This Shit Is So Hilarious Although I'm still not exactly sure what otherkin and headmates are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/13 03:53 PM |
| 3 | Parental leave and mandatory military servicesIt's an option but it's much more difficult and I think more women would successfully breastfeed for the recommended time period (1 year) if they could do it directly rather than through pumping. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/13 03:17 PM |
| 3 | Parental leave and mandatory military servicesI think women should be guaranteed an amount of paid parental leave, simply for the physical healing process. Other than that, I support the parents deciding how they would like to split the time (preferably the whole first year, USA needs to get it together in the parental leave department) BUT I would add that women should be strongly encouraged to take the vast majority because of the benefits of breastfeeding. There should be no mandatory military service for anyone at this point in time. If… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/13 02:32 PM |
| 5 | Low self esteem in women, and how do I help my gf gain confidence?Does she have any hobbies she is really good at? Or an exercise routine? I have higher self esteem when I am being active on a regular basis and generally being productive. Is it possible for her to switch roommates? | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/12/13 12:30 PM |
| 10 | Being Bullied For Wanting To Be Traditional :(I'm sorry to hear about your friends. If you want to meet women like you, look for meetup groups with traditional hobbies. Ballroom dancing, sewing clubs, cooking classes, etc. Personally these days I'm happy focusing on my husband, family, and a couple close friends (in that order of priority). I don't have time for vampires or arguments over my life choices. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/13 11:29 PM |
| 3 | Thoughts on "Women, the Most Responsible Teenager in the House"?To add onto the solution, it would obviously be ideal if one could recognize that they aren't mature, but immature people aren't known for that. Hint: if you have to proclaim how mature you are... you're not. That's why so many teenagers try to do the whole "But I'm so mature for my age!!!" | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/13 08:21 PM |
| 4 | Thoughts on "Women, the Most Responsible Teenager in the House"?I do agree that biologically, it doesn't make sense that women just stop maturing at age 18. You can see this in the link you posted and in many other neurological studies. However, I think that socially women are not encouraged to mature past 18 and this is where the problem comes from. 18 isn't just an arbitrary number. It is age of adulthood, the age where the majority of women leave their parent's homes to go live on their own. This is the age where their responsibility to anyone other than … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/13 08:18 PM |
| 18 | Punishing sexual "coercion."Policies like this trouble me deeply. Why are they taking away Amanda's agency? According to the story, Bill didn't block the door, or pin her down, or force her hand to his penis. Amanda could have left, called a friend, or continued to say no. Bill is certainly a whiny douche but that doesn't mean he is a rapist. Please, college board, stop taking my agency as a woman away from me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/13 07:35 PM |
| 10 | Women, after all, are still a tiny minority in well-paying trades like plumbing, welding and masonry.BREAKING NEWS: Women typically have different interests than men! More on this emerging topic at 8! I have no problem admitting that I have less than zero interest in most trade fields. I really don't even like getting dirt under my nails while working in a garden. Dealing with literal shit? No thanks. I'll take the plumbers phone calls or watch his small children any day before I stick my hands near a sewer system. And where is the push for more men in women's dominated fields? Where are the sc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/13 07:28 PM |
| 2 | A slut defined: A guy's perspectiveI'm just being nitpicky :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/13 03:39 AM |
| 2 | A slut defined: A guy's perspectiveI think you make a good point, but Personally I would distinguish between trashy and slutty. You can be trashy and not slutty, slutty and not trashy, or the horrid combo of slutty and trashy: Trashy: openly gossiping about your sex life (whether you're gettin' some or not) Slutty: promiscuous Trashy and slutty: openly gossiping about your promiscuous sex life I advise avoiding all but particularly the third. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/13 03:14 AM |
| 3 | A slut defined: A guy's perspectiveWhy is calling someone a slut disrespectful? Is calling a fat person fat disrespectful? If someone is promiscuous, they are a slut. Now if you go around telling them "you are a nasty useless slut and should kill yourself", yeah that's disrespectful and mean. But simply describing someone as a slut is not disrespectful, IMO. I don't think I'm inherently better than slutty girls, but I am probably a better MATCH (match, not person, important distinction) for someone like op and my husband who want… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/13 03:10 AM |
| 21 | Male here. Help with my sister?If her anxiety is that severe she probably needs medication in the short term while working with therapy like cbt or exposure therapy in the long term. But she isn't going to change until she wants to. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/13 12:39 PM |
| 3 | My 40YO bf has started talking about marriage. And I wanna say yes. I'm 20.What is the reason behind not introducing him to your family yet? Circumstance, or is there something more behind it? Excuse me if I'm reading more into it than I should, but if you are reluctant to introduce him to family/friends, that's a bad sign. I was embarrassed to introduce my ex bf to my family and I should have paid attention to that gut feeling because he was not a quality partner and deep down I knew that. You should be proud of being with your man and want to shout from the rooftops … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/13 01:41 AM |
| 6 | Norwegian woman puts up post-birth selfie. Fat feminists go crazy.She clearly already has great genetics, carried small, and works her ass off for that body. 2 out of 3 things are completely out of her control. Why not say congrats on the luck for the first 2 and good for her for the last? Getting mad isn't going to get your flabby body back in shape any faster. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/13 04:49 PM |
| 4 | The hypocrisy is astounding.It does sound rather clinical, but it's nothing to get offended over. Maybe it's just my medical background but whenever I hear "female" I think either research patients or case studies, for example "39 year old female is presenting with...." | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/13 05:19 AM |
| 6 | How to proceed with LDRDon't lock this woman down. LDRs are already hard, and she already cheated. To make up statistics, you're taking like a 10% chance of it working with just the LDR, a 10% chance of working it out after cheating, and multiplying them together... Odds are so far out of your favor honestly I don't think its worth it (and neither is she). YOU CAN DO BETTER! | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/12/13 02:10 PM |
| 1 | Wait for me (to hit the wall)Are we not seeing the same person? She looks really pretty to me... | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/13 09:53 PM |
| 2 | Getting Married Next Year: What's the RPW Marriage Prep Checklist?I eat paleo most of the time... but you know 80/20 and all that :P plus my husband likes muffins for breakfast. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/13 04:15 PM |
| 2 | Getting Married Next Year: What's the RPW Marriage Prep Checklist?My problem is that I always want to taste as I go along and I end up eating more because it's so good! :O Especially with baking, mmm delicious batter... | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/13 04:07 PM |
| 6 | Getting Married Next Year: What's the RPW Marriage Prep Checklist?Do you mind sharing more information? For example, do you live together already, will you be having joint accounts, etc? Really, what you do AFTER the wedding is most important. Many men are afraid that once they are married, their once lovely sweet wife will turn into a fat bitchy mess who never has sex with them again. The engagement period only lasts a year, the marriage is a lifetime. That said, here are some things to work on (but remember that it continues after the wedding too!) Find a di… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/13 12:37 PM |
| 4 | Is divorce ever okay?I would divorce over infidelity, abuse (to myself or children), the more terrible criminal offenses, and if for some reason he decided upon an extreme lifestyle change (ex: no longer wants children). I might be willing to work it out in a case of infidelity if it was a one time, drunken mistake while we were going through a bad time, confessed immediately, etc. type of thing, but I learned in the past that being cheated in turns me into a crazy person and it's not good for myself or my partner t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/12/13 08:35 PM |
| 2 | Are any of you ladies religious? If so, how do your beliefs add to your RP ideology?I'm only familiar with the judeo-christian flavors, but the bible absolutely supports red pill values. Male lead, encouraging femininity in women and masculinity in men, self improvement, etc. We didn't go to church growing up, because I was in a mixed religion household, but I always thought it would be nice to have that sort of community and support. I'm not sure I will ever go though because I'm more of an agnostic type and I would feel like a fraud. Plus being in the south we have all the su… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/13 03:48 PM |
| 2 | "Stop eating so much." -BoyfriendTalk to your doctor or nutritionist about how much you should be eating a day. After that, there are many free apps and websites you can use to track your calories- myfitnesspal, loseit, spark people, etc. I feel best on a high protein and fat, low carb diet. I also only ever drink water (and alcohol when we go out, but that's less than once a week). We hardly ever go out to eat or order food so when we do I don't worry about it, just eat less before or the next day. For exercise I enjoy lifting… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/13 12:39 PM |
| 5 | This lady has never had a boyfriend before and is 31. What does RPW think?She keeps saying things like "I'm no bombshell but I put in effort" and "I'm not swimsuit model hot but I try"... what do these things even mean? There is a large range in between supermodel and fugly that can still be attractive. This combined with no pictures and her experience on the dating site makes me suspicious of her appearance. The majority of women get TONS of messages (even if its just for casual hookups) on dating websites and she says she only got a few. She mentions being intereste… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/13 02:24 PM |
| 2 | Hello ladies! Long Hair, Short Hair, Medium Hair. Tell us what you think.I like short or medium. Kind of shaggy. Don't like buzz cuts or long enough to pull back. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/13 06:48 PM |
| 10 | The describes about 10 qualities of a gentlemen.. How do red pill women feel about this article?Am I the only one who hates the phrase "true gentleman"? I feel like it's one of those things where if you have to describe yourself that way... you're not. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/11/13 04:55 PM |
| 6 | Female FriendshipsI really have one close girl friend right now. I see her about once every 1-2 weeks and we get dinner or something and catch up. My other... well she was my best friend but she moved away for school and doesn't come up much anymore, and doesn't make much of an effort to stay in touch. Other than the first girl I mostly just hang out with my family. It would be nice to have another one or two close girl friends (especially ones in good relationships) but I'm pretty happy with my social life now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/13 09:00 PM |
| 1 | Of all the important issues and causes that *have gone too far* Jezebel calls for women to "take a stand against bacon mania"The bacon obsession IS getting a bit annoying. Although I'm not sure why this is a feminist/women's issue? Just don't buy the bacon products if you don't like it. Problem solved. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/13 03:02 AM |
| 3 | So, I found a man. Now what?Even if you don't know how to do anything now, you can learn. Summer is a good 6+ months away and that is plenty of time to learn how to clean a house and make some meals. Online resources: simplyrecipes.com pinterest.com allrecipes.com marthastewart.com flylady.com And millions more if you just google what you want to know. There are also cooking and cleaning subreddits here on reddit. Also I'm going to add that after being in one, I am of the belief that long distance relationships don't work … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/11/13 12:39 PM |
| 2 | Alpha men in pop cultureThe problem with most alpha men in pop culture is they have a glaring flaw. For example, Ron Swanson is great.... Until he gets around Tammy 1 and Tammy 2, and then he turns into the ultimate beta. Don Draper is pretty alpha... But has crippling intimacy issues and has flings and drinks to hide his unhappiness with himself. House is alpha except he is an addict. And on and on with every alpha male in the media. Ron Swanson is pretty awesome though. Nice choice! | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/13 10:47 PM |
| 7 | Ladies, tell us of your Captain. Tell us of your interpersonal deference.Essential: He wants the same things out of life (marriage, children, similar financial and lifestyle beliefs). He is smarter than me. He is better at most logical decisions. He has the ability to be a provider. AND he's super sexy :) that is definitely essential :) Beneficial: There are so many perks he provides in our relationship! He makes me laugh. He has the cutest pointy teeth. He has shown me so many new and interesting things. He accepts me but still pushes me to be better. I could go on … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/13 04:44 PM |
| 10 | How I learned the truthWhat? No. But clearly she wishes she was more open to relationships in the past. I think it's sad that she missed out on many years of love. I'm sure she will find someone eventually but she probably could have already if she wasn't so busy being independent. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/13 03:39 AM |
| 5 | How I learned the truthHow sad. She's pretty, too. Too bad she didn't figure it out earlier. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/13 11:50 PM |
| 1 | Freakonomics - Women Are Not MenIt's long, so I can't remember any specific quotes right now. But the interesting part (discussing why women were happier than the 70s than now) starts at about 25 mins in I think. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/13 06:21 PM |
| 15 | "What a girl does while she's single (and she was) is not an indication of what she does while in a relationship." Is this utter bullshit?People can change but past behavior is still a predictor for future behavior. A man who was an alcoholic is more likely to become an addict again than a non drinker, and a girl who participated in a random gangbang is more likely to seek out casual sex than a strict monogamous one. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/13 12:36 PM |
| 3 | To baby or not to baby - most of us have probably considered the questionsquats are an excellent pelvic floor exercise as well. plus, booty! | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/13 02:04 PM |
| 8 | To baby or not to baby - most of us have probably considered the questionI absolutely think it's better to have children younger. I wish we had better support systems in place so that it was possible for anyone who wants to do that. Like daycares at universities, grandparents to retire and help, more telecommuting positions, etc. as well as better maternity care. So jealous of Canadians! We want to have children as soon as financially possible. I was hoping for around age 25 but it looks like that isn't happening at this rate :( I have the baby fever real bad. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/13 12:39 PM |
| 1 | Come and join the conversation ladies and gentlemen!So I downloaded an app in hopes that it works better for me... Can someone post what info to put in again? Thank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/11/13 12:28 AM |
| 4 | Instagram And The Female DouchebagSo many attention whores on instagram. But they really do make good "fitspiration" when I'm thinking about not going to the gym so I'm okay with it :P | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/13 06:13 PM |
| 5 | A cold war fought by womenWell it's nice to know that tuition dollars are going to studies that everyone knew the answer to already. But at least now we know FOR SURE I guess... I wish there were comments on that article. It would be fun to watch some hamster spinning about how she is clearly wrong and that it is all "internalized misogyny" and "this is why we need more feminism". | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/13 06:10 PM |
| 4 | How should women respond to men withdrawing from courtship?I love point #1. The produce analogy is amazingly perfect. Yeah you can roll up to the grocery store at 8:00 at night and still buy some steaks, and at a discount too... because they expire tomorrow and are looking at bit green lol. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/11/13 04:45 PM |
| 6 | "Double standards"I actually think sugar daddy and sugar baby relationships are one of the most honest relationships out there. Think about it. Both sides go in fully showing what their cards are and have an agreed upon relationship that they feel is fair for both sides. They are 100% open about their motives and when one side doesn't keep up with the agreement they split. I think those communication skills are kind of worthy of envy! Other men and women just get mad because the rich old guy is getting the hot yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/13 09:52 PM |
| 4 | Thank Yousome other subreddits (and I think even theredpill subreddit?) have IRC chat rooms. It might be fun to have one here too! Hey mods! | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/11/13 09:39 PM |
| 3 | dumb question for women onlyI know my first friend was a boy, but I don't remember what our relationship was like other than his name was Josh and we played together in preschool. Thinking back though, I haven't ever been the leader in any of my friend groups, even with other girls. Luckily I picked good friends and they never led me into trouble because I probably would have gone along with it! Edit: Now that I think about it some more, my father was probably the biggest influence on young me, more than my friends. I know… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/13 01:55 PM |
| 6 | Can you ladies explain the difference between being attracted to a man with resources/high status versus a "bad boy" that is otherwise low status?You are correct that women's attraction is more complex than men's. We care about physical attraction too, but status (perceived or real) is very important as well. The bad boy: Bad boys actually have a lot going for them status wise. The excitement you get by rebelling because you're dating someone you shouldn't, the way people around him back down and are intimidated by him... And there's also the whole "taming his troubled soul" thing. Of course women generally aren't attracted to him after h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/13 08:28 PM |
| 5 | Why men are withdrawing from courtship.traditional men should keep courtship expenditure to a minimum until a woman has indicated a fairly strong interest in marrying him This is an excellent way of screening for an entitlement attitude. Is she okay with a picnic in the park or does Princess strongly imply you should take her out to the trendy new restaurant? The answer should tell you a lot. Humblebrag warning... I was overjoyed with any date activity my husband suggested because I just wanted to spend time with him. Most of the tim… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/13 12:41 AM |
| 4 | RPW DemographicsI don't view my husband as beta and don't view any other male as beta just because he wants a long term relationship. In fact, I'm rather happy that my husband shares my views about relationships because I would like to raise our children with those beliefs. I'm also happy we have had the same number of partners so there's no weird insecurity or bonding issues. I am naturally submissive and prefer traditional gender roles so I was kind of already red pill but I didn't officially find it until I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/13 10:51 PM |
| 4 | Pro Choice?I would be for parental surrender (for either gender, but I will use paternal surrender here since that's the question) if it was similarly restricted to abortion. I would prefer a system along these lines: Mother must notify father within a reasonable time period (a week? idk) of finding out she's pregnant and her original decision to keep or not. Father must also give reasonable notification of his intentions, with enough time for her to arrange a legal abortion if she decides to go that route… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/13 02:25 PM |
| 11 | What RPW is notI think this is a wonderful summary! The only problem is, we could have it stickied five times with Vegas lights attached and some people will still not get it. I would add that there are also differences in the red pill for men interested in marriage and LTRs. Some good beta is necessary while it not so much with typical red pill game. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/11/13 12:48 AM |
| 6 | Hello! I'm new here and very happy with what I've seen, but I have a few questions if that's alrightPersonally I don't think the male domination aspect has to carry over to the bedroom, although it often does. If you both enjoy switching, then switch. I strongly believe that (in general) sleeping around has negative effects on long term relationships. There are people who are exceptions to this, but unfortunately there is no way of knowing if you are one until it's potentially too late. I can tell you right now that you won't find much if any support for you being in an open relationship as a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/11/13 07:40 PM |
| 2 | How do you keep yourself looking beautiful?teach me your ways, I work out and struggle to not pass out on the couch by 9... | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/13 09:11 PM |
| 8 | Jezebel covers an NY times article (and NYU study) about the dearth of orgasms experienced by women during random hookups. Their editorial take away is a complete fail.and we also think the guys care more in a relationship," said one researcher. No, really?? We should demand that strangers care about our orgasms more!!! I honestly have a hard time thinking of a one night hookup as actual sex. It's really just masturbating with another persons body. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/13 07:19 PM |
| 2 | How do you keep yourself looking beautiful?Skincare: Currently I wash, tone, moisturize twice a day. This has kept my face pretty much blemish free. I don't feel like hiding when I'm not wearing makeup anymore. I still have large pores though and dark circles :/ I would rate my skin a 5/10. Haircare: I have very ringlet-y curls. Sulfate free shampoo, rich conditioner, and weekly deep conditioning with coconut oil. I have finally settled down into some ltr product relationships so I'm very happy with my hair currently :) General other bea… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/13 06:58 PM |
| 2 | Ladies: it is older women, gay men, and feminists who tell you it’s great to cut your hair short. What conclusion can you draw from that?How nice that your grandma kept her hair long! Both of my grandmothers were part of the "older women must chop their hair off" belief system... and pushed it onto my mom :/ my dad definitely didn't like it and was occasionally vocal about it to all three of them but she never grew her hair out again. I would love if I could keep my hair at least shoulder length as I age and have it generally like this lady. Currently crossing every available appendage that I got enough of my dad's genes that my … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/13 10:06 PM |
| 5 | Ladies: it is older women, gay men, and feminists who tell you it’s great to cut your hair short. What conclusion can you draw from that?I have never understood the "rule" that older women need to cut their hair. And really they aren't even that old, it's like as soon as you have a child you are obligated to chop your hair off into the "mom cut". Why?? Long hair is SO much more forgiving than short hair... short hair needs a wash and style pretty much everyday because sleeping on it messes it up so much. If I don't get particularly sweaty I can get away with only washing my hair every 3 days if I want to because I don't get bed h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/11/13 06:43 PM |
| 5 | Child playing at being a man?I agree with you- I want (and need!) my husband to be in control of his emotions, especially when I'm not... now, that doesn't mean that he has to be perfect and obviously everyone is going to lose their temper sometimes. Really that whole situation is a mess though. He should have stopped her at the beginning and put her to bed. I'm thinking something along the lines of "this is not the appropriate way or time to discuss your feelings, we will talk about it tomorrow." 3 AM and drunk is not the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/13 06:40 PM |
| 5 | "Why We As Women Need to Ease Up on Men" what do you think?www.markmanson.net/vulernability | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/13 10:47 PM |
| 3 | "Why We As Women Need to Ease Up on Men" what do you think?Meh. I like Mark Manson's writing on how to vulnerable in a masculine way much better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/13 04:17 PM |
| 2 | Relationship Role ModelsI was thinking about this the other day... and I realize I had NO good relationship models. My family has had dysfunctional relationships (multiple affairs and physical abuse) back as far as my great grandparents, and probably even before then but I haven't heard any stories beyond that. Luckily we do seem to be improving with each generation though! My grandfathers both had affairs but at least didn't have any bastard children like my great grandfather did, and my parents remained completely fa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/13 03:44 PM |
| 2 | If you were married and your husband cheated, would you feel justified in taking half the money/resources accumulated during the marriage in the event of divorce?I'm pretty sure that all of us agree that the current system is unfair. In fact, some ladies aren't getting married at all for that very reason. We're on men's side here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/11/13 01:04 AM |
| 5 | If you were married and your husband cheated, would you feel justified in taking half the money/resources accumulated during the marriage in the event of divorce?Any man that does not want to get married should not get married. Clearly you are one of them. I'm not sure you understand what RPW is all about and what we are trying to do and support here, maybe you should read the sticky at the top of the page. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/11/13 09:25 PM |
| 2 | Why You're Not MarriedI honestly wouldn't be surprised if walmart started carrying babies. They would be imported from china and kept in the back by the goldfish. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/11/13 08:49 PM |
| 8 | If you were married and your husband cheated, would you feel justified in taking half the money/resources accumulated during the marriage in the event of divorce?Dude I don't think you realize how much you would have to actually pay to get the "wife experience" from replacement help. Full time live in nanny- $30,000 a year plus room and board and benefits. But we'll say you are okay with raising your kids without assistance outside of work hours. Nannies average $15/hour. I guess you can try to cycle through the newbies at $11/hour so that's about $20,000/year assuming 8 hour days. Housekeepers get about the same rate as nannies. If you want all your coo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/11/13 08:47 PM |
| 4 | If you were married and your husband cheated, would you feel justified in taking half the money/resources accumulated during the marriage in the event of divorce?Sort of a side note- I'm happy we married young and poor because everything we have now and will have in the future is what we built TOGETHER so splitting is fair. I do think it's wrong when one partner saves a lot and then the other can steal half away without having put in the effort and sacrifice. Of course nobody thinks they or their partner are going to turn into a vindictive shrieking harpy but anger can change people fast. No worries about that here thank goodness. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/11/13 06:46 PM |
| 2 | If you were married and your husband cheated, would you feel justified in taking half the money/resources accumulated during the marriage in the event of divorce?what is epl? | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/11/13 06:35 PM |
| 5 | Feminism's Terrible Blunder -- A great read for women new to the Red PillJust as an fyi, it's only been in very recent history that women have been fertile between 12-15. Average age of menarche used to be more like 17. Additionally, most girls aren't even ovulating most of the time until the third year of menstruation, so they would probably be having their first child around 20. See here for a quick overview. | /r/TheRedPill | 06/11/13 03:54 PM |
| 2 | Why You're Not MarriedThis isn't true in every case but quite often strengthening your core will solve back issues. Doing things like squats, pushups, deadlifts, etc. starting with a light weight or bodyweight and increasing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/11/13 03:43 PM |
| 2 | Is my body my boyfriend's "property"?My husband is dominant but my body is not his property because we aren't in an agreed upon power exchange. However, he does touch me pretty much any way he wants (in and out of the bedroom) and I let him because I trust him not to take it to far, spring something out of nowhere, and to back off when I say no/stop. If he seemed serious, why not just ask him what he meant by it? He might be interested in an actual D/s kinda thing but too nervous to come out and say it. Come up with a safeword and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/13 10:26 PM |
| 5 | TOO reaffirming?I don't think it's overkill, I think it's sweet! I love happy couples. This makes me smile. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/13 07:41 PM |
| 9 | Why You're Not MarriedSo we obviously shouldn't take advice from this woman about STAYING married, but if you want to get married this lady has it figured out. Except for the part about "have a baby and the husband will come along", I think this is completely spot on. She wrote a follow up here- more reasons you're still not married XPost from the red pill. Their discussion is here | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/13 03:48 PM |
| 4 | The 11 differences between women and "red pill" women [xpost r/theredpill]2 is so true, the amount I hear people say "I DESERVE..." these days drives me crazy!!! The world owes you nothing, and your perfect prince in shining armor isn't going to just drop in your lap out of nowhere because you are entitled to a boyfriend. If you want to be treated well, treat others well first and most importantly don't keep bad people in your life. Maybe I should be more cynical but I truly do believe that the vast majority of people are good and kind and want to do the right thing a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/13 03:35 PM |
| 1 | Why You Can't Find a ManWow, apparently there are a LOT of single men where I am! I can't say I particularly noticed it before, but now that I think about it I can see it. I would love if it was broken down further by age and choice. How did so many single women end up on the east coast? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/11/13 03:12 AM |
| 1 | Why all young women are malnourished and why you should care.Men can develop eating disorders too. Be careful and get help if you really feel out of control. | /r/TheRedPill | 04/11/13 10:29 PM |
| 4 | I don't know if this is the right sub, but I can't handle the role I've been put into.Red Pill men looking for a good woman are not just looking for a hot woman to support while they work. What a ridiculous assumption. I think she is seeing this because some men do go a bit overboard with the whole "we are not attracted to a woman's career or ambition" thing. I have seen a few men claim they would prefer a hot unemployed/mcdonalds worker/uneducated woman to a career woman. Obviously this is a false dichotomy and there is a middle ground but I can see how some women would get the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/13 10:13 PM |
| 11 | I don't know if this is the right sub, but I can't handle the role I've been put into.Well, sounds like you gave it your best shot. He won't ever actually quit until he decides he wants to. I would leave this situation. I'm sorry to hear about your struggles but you sound like a nice girl so get all prettied up and jump back in. There are other actual alpha fish in the sea. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/13 04:26 PM |
| 3 | My post on r/asktrp: Discerning between alpha and asshole. I'd love some input from you ladies!!He seems to have a touch of the crazy. Drunk dialing you a dozen times?! I would run. He does sound like an asshole and he might be alpha in the pick up artist way but definitely not the LTR way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/13 03:59 PM |
| 12 | I don't know if this is the right sub, but I can't handle the role I've been put into.First of all: you were not "put into" this situation. You put yourself into this situation. You are a big girl and can take responsibility for it. What do you want out of your relationship? Yes we prefer the traditional model of relationships here with the man leading, but that doesn't mean we are all June Cleavers. Myself and others have full time jobs and are just as red pill as those of us who stay home. Do you want to be the stay at home wifey type? What is he looking for in his relationship… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/13 03:56 PM |
| 1 | "A man’s perspective on why engagement rings are a joke" (article's comments really bring the LOL)Jewelry and diamonds in particular have terrible resale value. You can sell it but a ring that was "worth" a couple thousand when purchased will probably only get a couple hundred dollars. | /r/TheRedPill | 04/11/13 03:08 PM |
| 3 | New to red pill, husband is beta. =/How does he respond when you take the submissive role? If this is a 100% change for him, have you tried something small like leaving the dinner or date plans up to him? | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/11/13 02:17 PM |
| 4 | Feminists: always making life worse for women and children.I definitely agree with this part: In all likelihood the reason isn't feminisms at all, but religion Especially regarding hispanic families. The vast majority of them are catholic which is very against bc/abortion. I live in an area with a pretty high hispanic population and if you go out to the movies or mall on a friday night you are pretty much guaranteed to see a couple pregnant girls, and they look YOUNG too. It's very sad. A baby makes it about a million times harder to claw your way out o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/13 09:24 PM |
| 29 | Feminists: always making life worse for women and children.Interesting how things like marriage, leg shaving, and makeup conveniently switch from an evil product of the patriarchy to MY CHOICE! when it benefits them. But everyone else better not do it because that means you have internalized misogyny or something like that. And you could definitely never make an educated choice like I could but also don't ask me about it because it's not my job to educate you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/13 09:08 PM |
| 2 | High heels or not?I usually go to Nordstrom Rack or Neiman Marcus Last Call and find a comfortable pair, I can't think of any specific brands. For boots I like Frye. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/13 10:22 PM |
| 3 | High heels or not?Make sure you buy high quality heels, preferably leather, so that they mold to your feet and are as comfortable as possible. Do plenty of foot and ankle stretches when you are done wearing them. Heels put your feet in a very unnatural position and you can shorten your Achilles' tendon, and it can be very painful. You can also get bunions, ingrown toenails, etc which just make your feet ugly... Could he help you get regular pedicures? From a medical standpoint, I would try to limit wearing them t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/10/13 10:05 PM |
| 4 | Need marriage advice for my sisterI'm going to take your word for it here that he is truly abusive, but do please make sure he actually is before you make any accusations. You didn't really give us enough information to say if it can be saved or not. Does he recognize his abusive tendencies? Does he want to change? Is it still necessary for her to stay home full time? Her kids are school age, so she should at least be able to work part time while they are in school if she isn't home schooling. Maybe he disrespects her because he… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/13 01:00 PM |
| 8 | Your thoughts on a red pill wife/alpha womanIf it works for you, it doesn't really matter what we think, does it? While I don't personally want a house husband, I can definitely see how a guy who runs a tight ship at home is attractive. Welcome to RPW and enjoy your marriage :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/13 10:50 PM |
| 33 | RPW Opinion on "man allowed to cheat, women not allowed to cheat" dynamic in relationships?I don't understand women who are okay with this at all. I definitely have the "filled with rage" reaction to another woman going after my man/him going after another woman. Be very very careful with this situation. It can get messy fast. Be sure to clarify boundaries on both sides- things like, is it okay for her to sleep with other people too? Does she get a veto on who you date? Are emotions allowed, or is this purely physical? What happens if you knock the other woman up (this does matter by … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/10/13 01:37 PM |
| 4 | The Red Pill for WomenThe wall is when you are clearly on the downward swing of fertility and are beginning to show some age. It depends on a couple different things. Genetics and how well you care for yourself are the biggest factors, so the age isn't really a set point and differs person to person. My personal opinion: saying the wall begins at 18 is ridiculous. I didn't even get boobs until I was 18. 25 is earlyyy but you do have some girls who start to get the "rode hard and put up wet" look because they've been … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/13 09:32 PM |
| 26 | Why women lose the dating game [xpost from TRP]I want to feel bad for the older unmarried women but then I remember all the times they told me I'm ruining my life by getting married too young and then I don't care anymore. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/13 06:19 PM |
| 6 | The Red Pill for WomenThe Wall: The point in a woman's life where her ego and self-assessed view of her sexual market value exceed her actual sexual market value; the beginning of the decline. Usually occurs as a wake-up shock to women when they realize that their power over men was temporary and that their looks are fading. This usually results with first denial and then a sudden change in priority towards looking for a husband. Even after hitting the wall, many women will squander a few more precious years testing … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/13 02:56 PM |
| 3 | Dance ClassesSome tips from a follow: MAKE FUCKING SURE you brush your teeth and more importantly WEAR DEODORANT before class. You are going to get sweaty, and I thought this would be common sense but for some reason there are always a couple guys in class who don't do those and they smell bad and girls won't want to dance with you. Class isn't the best place to chat up the ladies (unless you come early and stay late) because you switch partners every few minutes. However, many classes or dance orgs do have … | /r/TheRedPill | 24/10/13 10:47 PM |
| 1 | Woman Known For Her Inability To Form Meaningful Human Relationships Is Somehow Proud To Prefer Animals To PeopleExtremely vocal minority of the tumblr social justice crowd + a lot of trolls who like to provoke them = any topic with the slightest hint of controversy (transgenders, circumcision, feminism, atheism, the list goes on...) becomes an obsession, usually in the form of a 1000+ comment shouting match. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/13 04:07 PM |
| 4 | A Frivolous, girly post--What to do with all that long hair?Pretty! The sparkly clips are a nice touch. What's your hair texture like? I have ringlet curls, so I feel like most updos look sloppy unless I straighten my hair first. It's about bra strap length now and a couple inches longer when straight. If I do a messy bun or ponytail I pull at the roots for volume. It ends up kind of like your picture. A lot less flat and boring! Then I add a pretty ribbon or headband so I look a bit girlier and put together and less sporty. My husband really likes braid… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/13 03:24 AM |
| 3 | Woman Known For Her Inability To Form Meaningful Human Relationships Is Somehow Proud To Prefer Animals To PeopleIs this satire? I honestly can't tell because I've seen enough other people admit the same thing. Maybe that's my answer... Honestly, people who prefer animals to humans weird me out a bit. I love my pets, but they aren't my child, they aren't my best friend, and I would save a strange human being before I saved them. Idk. I don't get it. I generally like people though, so I guess that's it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/13 08:42 PM |
| 6 | Children; do you have them or want them?From observing my family members with small children, I can tell you that your life will only revolve around your children if you let it. Yes, for the first couple months it will out of necessity, but once they are sleeping through the night and can go for longer stretches without eating you can definitely take time for yourself and your relationship, either with a babysitter or carting the baby along with you. Babies are surprisingly portable and in my experience they don't really care where th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/13 06:40 PM |
| 5 | Children; do you have them or want them?None right now, but I want them. I want babies so bad right now. Yall don't even know. As soon as my husband can find a better job and we get a house, it's baby time! | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/13 05:34 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with feelings of inadequacyContinue to use those feelings as inspiration for self improvement. My personal goal is for here to be a back and forth struggle between us for who is the higher value partner. I figure by the time we die we should both be pretty awesome. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/13 07:59 PM |
| 2 | 25 Ways To Communicate Respect To Your Man... Without Ever Saying A WordWhat parts did you find blue pill? I thought his list was a pretty good quick guide to alpha/beta balance. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/13 12:21 AM |
| 2 | 25 Ways To Communicate Respect To Your Man... Without Ever Saying A WordI agree with you, but most of the good relationship advice now comes from a religious perspective (this, love languages book, etc). I would also be interested in more secular red pill reading if anyone knows any good ones. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/13 05:24 PM |
| 16 | What do you believe about women having careers?Neutral. You do what works for your family. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/13 03:13 AM |
| 1 | My best friend is a c-word.Wait so what happened to bisque guy and pie guy? Is this the same guy? If so, and if emily is the same girl from the pie story, I'm not really surprised she tried to crash your date. You kind of set yourself up there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/13 01:14 PM |
| 5 | I'm honestly curious.The sticky at the top of the page about the differences between TRP and RPW is a good summary. Also, remember that this place is just the very very edge of the red pill sphere. There are many different communities and blogs by men and women with a variety of beliefs. We probably aren't a representative sample. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/13 03:52 AM |
| 1 | Wondering about dinners for my night shift husbandDepending on when you have to go into work and when he prefers to get up and eat, another option to consider is switching the big meal of the day to breakfast. He could grab a snack when he gets home (or intermittent fast!) and then you could make a big breakfast in the morning for you guys to share. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/13 01:36 PM |
| 3 | Wondering about dinners for my night shift husbandWill he eat leftovers? If so, I would suck it up and make an actual dinner and he could heat it up out of the fridge when he gets home. I totally get hating to put a bunch of effort into dinner for just yourself, but I'm sure he would really appreciate coming home to a hearty meal. Do you have a crockpot? Lots of recipes can be made in 4 hours, so you could throw it in at 8 and he could serve himself when he gets home. Another easy option is to make a big meal on the weekend and have individual … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/13 02:09 AM |
| 3 | When do you have sex with a new partner?It's not uncommon at all. Most girls I know, including me, wait for commitment or at least some form exclusivity to have sex. I also know one girl who waited until marriage, and I'm sure there are many others but I don't run in very conservative circles. It's a gamble either way really, that's the conclusion I've come to. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/13 08:08 PM |
| 8 | When do you have sex with a new partner?The problem is, some people don't realize that they or their partner is unwilling to learn until they start having sex. It would be great of everyone would do everything their partner is into, but some people are just not kinky no matter what. Additionally, some things sound great in theory but no so much in practice and vice versa. I actually thought oral sex was really gross before I tried it but now I enjoy doing it. I'm sure for some people it's the opposite. Making sure your sex drives sync… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/13 07:47 PM |
| 0 | Need more advice for my BDSM sub girlfriend and her lazy bear "Dom" husbandDon't feel like you need to say things like "no disrespect"! I enjoy hearing from people who disagree with me and I won't take any offense to being wrong. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/13 09:04 PM |
| 2 | Need more advice for my BDSM sub girlfriend and her lazy bear "Dom" husbandI would suggest keeping it short and to the point: Here is the current state of our finances and marriage. This is unsustainable as a household and unacceptable to me as a sub What are your goals for our household and marriage? (Encourage him to be specific here, for example "retire by x age and sex x times a week" rather than "grow old together" or some bs non answer) How do you plan on getting there? I want our marriage to last and I will do anything you ask of me to help us get there. But for… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/13 06:08 PM |
| 1 | Need more advice for my BDSM sub girlfriend and her lazy bear "Dom" husbanddidn't she say the children are from a previous marriage? It's her responsibility to make sure they aren't homeless, not the husbands, since they aren't his. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/13 04:39 PM |
| 1 | Need more advice for my BDSM sub girlfriend and her lazy bear "Dom" husbandI would probably go with 3 while threatening 2 if he doesn't get his shit together (and then obviously following through if he doesn't). I'm not exactly sure how desperate the situation is, would a timeline of a year to demonstrate he can be an actual dom be realistic or would they lose everything by then? He could start demonstrating this change by setting an appointment with a financial counselor and potentially selling things like the motorcycle and quitting smoking to show that he can be a p… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/13 03:05 PM |
| 1 | How did you discover TRP/RPW? What made you want to adopt this lifestyle?I'm married. I guess I should have said my relationship is! | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/13 04:08 PM |
| 1 | How did you discover TRP/RPW? What made you want to adopt this lifestyle?My relationship was kind of already red pill so it's just a nice place to hang out with similarly minded people. I'm 23 and found it on reddit. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/13 03:49 PM |
| 3 | Girl game cookingCooking doesn't have to be expensive. It does take some money to get yourself set up with a good spice selection and tools, but after you have the basics your costs should go down. Unless you are buying fancy cuts, which is fine, but you don't HAVE to in order to make good food. For more learning, consider a time tested traditional cookbook. Joy of Cooking or the Better Homes and Garden one are very helpful for recipes or as a quick reference guide. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/13 01:35 PM |
| 2 | Enabling stay-at-home Moms. Take a guess what happens to this guy.Teenagers might not require "supervision" but they do require a lot of teaching before you let them loose on their own. Things like housekeeping, cooking, budgeting and financial planning, smart shopping, etc. Now that home ec doesn't exist in most schools parents have to do it. | /r/TheRedPill | 12/10/13 02:04 AM |
| 4 | What mistake did you make and what did you learn from it?Girl trust me even if it didn't annoy him, you want to keep it on the side of the sink. It will start to smell really, really bad after awhile if it's left down in the wetness. I learned that one the hard way! | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/13 08:05 PM |
| 6 | What mistake did you make and what did you learn from it?I'm trying to break the habit of keeping things bottled up and then melting down later. I have to either realize it's not a big deal and let it go, or communicate. It's an ongoing process. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/13 08:04 PM |
| 2 | Feminism turns women into maternal prostitutes and johns.I was being sarcastic, I know why they want younger women :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/13 01:40 PM |
| 5 | Feminism Is Causing The Depression EpidemicI think it is interesting that 60% of dutch women work part time and a VERY similar amount of american women, 65%, wish to do the same. see the study here. It seems to be the best path to take. I really like this exchange: I had a 22-year-old student say, ‘Why is it your business if my wife wants to bake cookies?’ and the female students agreed with him! I was like, what’s happening here?” Seriously, explain why it IS any of your business. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/13 01:04 PM |
| 6 | How did you meet your SO?We met at a halloween party, by chance. We were both looking for a serious relationship. This will be our 4th one together! | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/13 07:06 PM |
| 3 | Feminism turns women into maternal prostitutes and johns.I'm outdated in the music technology department and have been listening to the radio almost every morning of my life. In the last year or so I've noticed one particular new advertisement: a company soliciting for egg donors. Apparently you can make a decent chunk of money if you donate. I don't remember hearing any of these when I was younger or even in high school, which wasn't that long ago! Bonus observation: they are specifically requesting women between the ages of 18 and 31. I wonder why..… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/13 03:50 PM |
| 6 | Who should pay on the first date, RPW?If that is the lifestyle you really want, you need to talk to him about it and be ready to split if necessary. Don't waste the pretty on someone who isn't compatible with you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/13 09:36 PM |
| 5 | I’m not ambitious, and that’s OKSurprisingly, there are some great comments on the article. I particularly enjoyed this one: Every year is only 365 days and they go by so quickly! It seems to me that so many reach their later years and regret the time spent striving to meet others' definition motherhood and work. When I was born it was considered wrong for a woman to work. That was before feminism. Then things changed and women were pressured to work. For awhile i bowed to this pressure. I have come to believe that at the end … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/13 09:32 PM |
| 4 | Who should pay on the first date, RPW?Whoever asked should pay. The other person should pay for (or at least offer to) the next date. If the asker wants to split the check, it needs to be discussed beforehand so the other person can come prepared. Some girls won't go dutch, so it would be a waste of your time and money to go out with someone with differing values anyways. Much better to know before. Personally, I much prefer to switch off who pays for dates over paying separately. It feels more romantic and less like friends to me. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/13 08:57 PM |
| 1 | What is TRP life plan for an 18 year old girl embarking on her adult life?I don't want to speak for the entire red pill movement, since there are lots of different beliefs within it, but I don't think women HAVE to be a stay at home mom to be red pill. With the current economic climate it is very difficult to be a one income household. So even if you want to be, sometimes it's just not possible. The important takeaway here for me is accepting the following: You cannot "have it all" with career and children at the same time. That doesn't mean you can't do both at the s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/10/13 12:27 AM |
| 7 | What is TRP life plan for an 18 year old girl embarking on her adult life?You can have it all, but realize that you won't be able to give your all to each area. It's the same for men. If you want to have a career and children, you are not going to be able to give 100% to both. There will be sacrifices at work and at home. Maybe you miss out on important meetings because you have to take your kid to the doctor. Maybe you aren't there for them when they are sick and need you because you have a deadline at work. If you are okay with making these sacrifices, then have at … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/13 09:02 PM |
| 3 | What happens when you deny YOUR men sex?Are any other ladies the higher drive partner? He's the one turning ME down. I have a bad habit of pouting afterwards, which I need to work on. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/13 06:58 PM |
| 2 | What do you look for in a mate and why?I had different "levels" I guess of what I was looking for. Dealbreakers: Someone I was physically attracted to, Someone who wanted to get married and have children Strong requirements: A provider, Same attitude regarding morals, sex, money, Not into the party lifestyle. There was some room for compromise here, but not much. As long as our views could be described as "similar" that would be fine. Weak requirements (more like preferences): Taste in music and interests, likes to be fit and do outd… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/13 02:28 PM |
| 5 | Should a Single Woman Know Where She Ranks on the “1-10 Scale”?All women should know where they stand, single or not. It's one thing to drop one or two points as you get older, it's unavoidable, but if you go from a 7 to a 3 while married that's a problem. I would be interested in finding out what most people consider my number to be. My husband always just tells me I'm a 10, which is flattering but untrue :P | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/13 05:20 PM |
| 18 | Do People Even Want to Date Anymore?I don't hang out around single girls very often, but my husband and I do occasionally go out with his single guy friends and it was really surprising what these dudes go through mentally over just approaching. Last time we were at a hookah bar and two of them spent a good 30+ minutes debating whether to go over to a table of two other girls, rehearsing their "openers"... it was really shocking to me, since they are so cool and confident around our group. Single girls, try and spend some time aro… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/13 07:28 PM |
| 2 | Women’s arrogance and the downfall of assortive mating.That's true. I suppose a better description would be that I don't blame them for their arrogance, just like I don't blame men for believing the current cultural narrative of what women are attracted to. It's hard to not accept what everyone is telling you when you hear little opposition. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/13 09:41 PM |
| 3 | Women’s arrogance and the downfall of assortive mating.I think the majority of this article is spot on, although I'm not sure arrogance is the right word. Is it really arrogant to believe you are higher value than you actually are when that is what you have been told your entire life by parents, teachers, friends, media, most men, etc? I feel like arrogance is more of an internal quality. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/13 03:13 PM |
| 10 | "Slut shaming" is a no-no?I don't really care if someone wants to be slut. Go right ahead, just be aware of the consequences. I think shaming only works before the behavior occurs because they won't be able to un-slut themselves no matter how bad they feel about it you know? | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/10/13 08:04 PM |
| 2 | just fyi for anyone interested, christina hoff sommers doing an AMA on the 4thI got my popcorn ready | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/10/13 04:05 PM |
| 8 | Enthusiastic HousekeepingI'm going to be honest, I will never ever be "joyful" about anything regarding cleaning! I can think of 100 things I would rather do than housekeeping. But it is one of those things that has to be done, so might as well do it with a [mostly ;)] good attitude right? Things I do to make things easier: -VERY minimalistic belongings. Clutter can't clutter if it doesn't exist! Minimal knick knacks mean less things for dust to gather on. I go through our belongings and closets a couple times of year a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/10/13 09:41 PM |
| 1 | Cheap and impressive cookingYes you can put frozen meat in it, just make sure to adjust the cooking time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/10/13 11:28 AM |
| 10 | What is the gender split here on RPW?I'm a lady, but I don't think there's very many of us here. Lately there's been more "I'm a dude and here's what I think" posts than ones from women. I doubt it will grow much beyond now. Reddit isn't exactly a welcoming environment for traditional or conservative women. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/13 02:17 AM |
| 2 | Cheap and impressive cookingI'm all about protein, so here's some meat suggestions: Get a crock pot and buy cheap cuts of meat (chuck roast, etc.). With some basic seasonings, you can have a very tasty and easy meal. Just put it in in the morning and come home to dinner. Learn how to make a whole chicken. It sounds complicated at first but it's really easy, and I get two dinners out of one chicken for super cheap. For example I roast it one night and we will eat the dark meat, save the breasts and use that for a different … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/13 01:22 AM |
| 0 | 300 Sandwiches: The way to a man's heart is through his stomachSometimes you just need a sandwich | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/13 04:25 AM |
| 5 | 300 Sandwiches: The way to a man's heart is through his stomachI think this is a really cute story/blog and I can't believe the amount of hate they are getting. To anyone with a sense of humor it's 100% clear her boyfriend was joking. And he's a gourmet chef who cooks all the other meals for gods sake! Even if he wasn't joking, the dude deserves a sandwich a couple times a week. Plus, she's a writer, so I'm not particularly convinced it wasn't completely fabricated or greatly embellished so she had a good back story for the blog and a potential television s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/13 04:24 AM |
| 1 | Girl game: It's as easy as pie.I'm the same way over here, down to the husband liking massive amounts of salt and honey sauces. Which makes no sense because he doesn't like dessert but is crazy about sweetened meat...? He doesn't get my sugar addiction though so we'll call it even! I try to make note of the non sweet seasonings he likes and incorporate those more. Rosemary and lots of garlic is a winner in our house. He doesn't care about health as much as I do so Ill also just make whatever he likes occasionally while I eat … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/13 10:10 PM |
| 6 | Girl game: It's as easy as pie.I wish my husband had a sweet tooth so things like this would work on him! Unfortunately all my efforts at baking have gone uneaten (or eaten by me, which I am trying to avoid). He does like when I make muffins for breakfast, but there's only so many things to do with muffins... At least I have dinner game on lock lol Too bad about your friend. I find that baking and cooking is soothing and rewarding. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/13 05:45 PM |
| 12 | [BP Example] I have no words...Lol @ there being not one, not two, but THREE separate articles lamenting the lack of good men in the related section after that poorly written, hypocritical, condescending "message" to men. Good luck lady. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/13 09:10 PM |
| 6 | Online DatingI don't think it's a scam. 2 of my family members met their husbands on dating sites. Is it better than meeting someone traditionally, probably not, but it's good if you are too busy to go out and meet someone OR are looking for a specific type of person (religion, age, apparently farmers now lol etc). I think a lot of the religious targeted dating sites are very successful. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/13 03:07 PM |
| 5 | Hypergamy Self-Awareness?One of the more bitter parts of trp for me was realizing how "hypergamous" (is that a word?) I was. It hurts to fit a stereotype that men talk about negatively. But I've accepted it now. I can't change it, so I seek to limit its control over me. I definitely think one of the reasons I am so wildly attracted to my husband is because I see him as better than me in pretty much every way. Smarter, more attractive, higher earning career path, etc. I used to be super nervous that people would see us a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/13 01:51 AM |
| 4 | What do you think are the day-to-day behavior expectations for a "good" Red Pill woman?Respectful, honest, anticipates others needs. That covers pretty much everything for me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/13 01:41 PM |
| 1 | Looking for ideas/feedback for a potential RPW-oriented siteYou might want to check out GBG. It's in the sidebar as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/13 03:51 AM |
| 3 | Building rapport, developing safe lasting human relationshipsDo you ever ask these people to get together sometime? Their existing friend group does, so of course they will go back to them when the conversation ends if you don't make a move to continue the relationship. Next time you're chatting a potential friend up, bring up the next campus event or new movie or whatever and see if they are interested too. No pressure, a simple "I was thinking about going to (x), want to check it out with me?" If they say yes, great! Get their number to coordinate. If t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/13 06:16 AM |
| 5 | I want to be a housewife.I'm assuming she feels like she would be throwing it away because as a housewife she would never work. So if the point of getting a degree was to get a job (which most people think it is), it would be a waste. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/09/13 08:54 PM |
| 8 | What does female seduction look like?I think we can close the comments now, this is definitely the answer. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/13 10:32 PM |
| 17 | What does female seduction look like?As a submissive lady, I'm trying to seduce him into seducing me. If that makes sense. For context, this example is assuming you are at some sort of social gathering, preferably with someone you are already acquainted with. Start off with the classic eye flirt. Look, hold for a second, look away, and then look back (with a smile of course). If this is someone you know already, maybe give them a small wink or a wave. Go back to whatever you were doing. Hopefully this is enough to draw them over. I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/13 09:55 PM |
| 10 | Kate Thompson: Britain's worst wife - and she's proud of itThe rare male submissive? I have a problem with this article (well, multiple, but this is the big one). She writes like "oh poor husband" but the real victims here are the children. At least he knew what he was walking into. They had no choice in being born to a mother who they never see and who apparently KNEW having children wouldn't make her happy. Poor kids. You can tell how much she doesn't care about them. They get like 2 mentions, and it's only about how they are inconveniences and don't … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/13 09:38 PM |
| 1 | Need advice.Can you do any research? Check facebook? If you really want to know, most counties have marriage records online, but if he was married elsewhere that wouldn't help. This is obviously moving into romantic territory, despite him not asking to meet up yet. Guys don't text girls all day for shits and giggles, you know? The only times I have ever had a guy texting me in what could be described as "incessantly", he wanted in my pants. So, if you do want this to keep going forward, ask if he's married.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/13 04:56 PM |
| 3 | Swallowing TRP in progress: learn from my badly-behaved wife exampleI know that because in her post she explicitly says she is the one paying he bills. I guess I could have added on "talk with your husband" about setting up an auto transfer, but I felt that was fairly obvious. My bad. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/13 10:22 PM |
| 3 | Swallowing TRP in progress: learn from my badly-behaved wife exampleBut if he handles the money, why isn't he also paying the bills? Either way, I was just pointing it out as an option since I'm all about making things easier on everyone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/13 09:19 PM |
| 2 | Swallowing TRP in progress: learn from my badly-behaved wife exampleAh that makes much more sense. I was sitting here like... why didn't she just do it?! But I tend to forgot not all married people have joint accounts. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/13 04:22 PM |
| 3 | Swallowing TRP in progress: learn from my badly-behaved wife exampleUnless you are using a bank that has some sort of crazy archaic system, you should be able to set up an automatic transfer so this doesn't happen again. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/13 03:24 PM |
| 1 | Is there a level of sexual-value "damage" at which a woman would be better off bypassing relationships entirely?It's individualistic because different men have different thresholds on what is acceptable. Some men will refuse to even consider nonvirgins, but others like crankypants below don't mind (and even prefer) a woman who had sexual experience. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/13 04:07 PM |
| 0 | advice from RPW about raising a daughterOh, how nice! I would have loved something like that. Especially if it also incorporated makeup application and style. I know ballroom dancing for adults is making a comeback so maybe there are children's classes as well now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/13 03:19 AM |
| 0 | advice from RPW about raising a daughterThe cross country girls were very nice. Maybe it's because you are really only competing against yourself? I'm not sure, but it was a wonderful experience for me. I think dance is great too, but a lot of the dance girls in my school ended up on drill team and they did not have great reputations. You could also stick with traditional dance like ballet, but then you run the risk of OCD/anorexia issues at higher levels. I'm sure having good parental models could help that though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/13 02:51 AM |
| 3 | advice from RPW about raising a daughterI would continue to speak openly and honestly with her. Don't be afraid to express your disappointment when she is using the poor guys. A well placed "I raised you better than this" can go a long way. I also highly recommend enrolling her in some sort of team based athletics. I ran cross country in high school and I think it benefitted me for many reasons: 1. Fosters healthy habits. I still keep in touch with my team and none of us are fat 5 years later. 2. Keeps grades up. Most athletics have g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/13 01:52 AM |
| 4 | How do you recover from being a slut?You will never find someone that you are completely satisfied with. It's actually a "rule" of dating: the 80/20 rule. At most, you will find someone who gives you 80% of what you want. You just have to get over the remaining 20%. Even if you get above the 80%, there's always little things to nitpick about. Hopefully you can work on accepting that. How to be single... don't put yourself in situations that led to sleeping around in the past. In your situation, I would probably try to have no nonpr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/13 05:56 PM |
| 6 | How do you recover from being a slut?I think you have a lot of self exploration to do. From the way you write, it seems like you don't really want to settle down, but you feel like you should. Is this true at all, or am I getting the wrong impression? I do believe that there are some people that are just not wired for monogamy. A small amount, yes, but they are out there and maybe you are one of them? I can't fathom dumping a great guy for another just because he happens to be a bit taller... but if you've done it 60 times, LTRs mi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/13 05:32 PM |
| 1 | What comes out of "allowance"?My husband and I get our own allowance/spending money per month. It is mostly just for things we want (clothes for me, electronic toys for him) but we also have to use our own money if we go out to lunch at work instead of bringing from home, or going out with our friends, etc. Using spending money on toiletries or hobbies is kind of iffy. I would say if she wants something beyond a basic (makeup from sephora or salon shampoo instead of drugstore) she should use her own money, but otherwise join… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/13 02:23 PM |
| 9 | Something my date on Friday night did that made me think of this sub right away.I really liked that he would phrase things as statements rather than questions. For example he would text me "you should come over" instead of "do you want to come over?" I hadn't experienced that before but I enjoy it now! | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/09/13 02:15 PM |
| 2 | How much "letting it go" is too much?I would have a conversation and see if he would prefer an agreed upon cleaning schedule (and maybe a quick tutorial?) or see if he would prefer to get a self cleaning litter box. Sometimes it's better to acknowledge your weakness and give into convenience! | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/13 03:37 PM |
| 3 | As RPW, do or would you expect your long term SO/Husband to provide for you financially?I do expect that he provides for me financially at least 50%. I could never have a house husband, even if he still did all the cooking and cleaning. It's just not attractive to me. I would prefer to stay at home in the future if we are able to financially afford that. In return, I would take care of all household duties as well as make the most of the money. Right now I am planning on going back to school for early childhood education and I would like to be able to run a home daycare when we hav… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/13 08:59 PM |
| 4 | BimbosLike you said, it's a fetish. I don't see this as being a part of RPW at all, really. I believe much of sexuality is wiring and if these girls get off on being bimbos, I won't question it as long it's kept between consenting adults. Maybe I'm biased though because I think the "use me as a sex doll" thing is hot. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/13 07:47 PM |
| 2 | Dealing with husband's need for supportSounds like he doesn't feel very in control of his environment. Would he be open to redirecting his energies into something he could control? Exercise, yard work, making music, idk just some ideas. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/13 01:17 AM |
| 9 | The Sound of SilenceI 100% agree with this. If I just sit with my husband and give him a little back rub, he has time to do whatever processing he needs to do and eventually opens up or at the least moves past whatever it is. It took me time to get over the "Wahhh he's not talking to me he must not love/trust me" thing but once I just accepted that this is how it is, we work through things much better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/13 12:04 AM |
| 2 | 23 Things Every Woman Should Stop Doing -- Hit or Miss from Huffpo?99% of these lists are 99% BS, this one is no different. It could be decent but its too vague and feel good to accomplish anything. Plus anything with more than 5 items is usually way too repetitive. All of these life improvement lists could be boiled down to: 1. Stop being crazy 2. Stop being a bitch 3. Live a healthy lifestyle 4. Stop sticking your nose into others people business and worry about your own 5. Decide what is important to you and act accordingly. Actions have consequences. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/13 12:01 AM |
| 1 | mini update "Is this normal?"I have the same problem as you with strange men asking me things in public. I'm like... why are you talking to me?! Must have ill intentions!!! But really, isn't that ridiculous? How many male college students have ever snatched a fellow female student in broad daylight in public? Honestly they are just a bit socially awkward, and I know I can be too, and they deserve some compassion. I doubt he meant anything by the question and was only trying to make conversation. I would have probably turned… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/13 08:47 PM |
| 3 | Long term Redpillish wife (new to RPW) looking for adviceSelf improvement: have you ever taken a look at married man sex life? It has this thing called the MAP which is mindful attraction plan or something like that, and is basically all about self improvement. If you don't have time for a book right now, you could also just list out the parts of your life, physical, emotional, beauty, skills, etc., and then rank them in importance and start working on them one by one. Validation. You need to learn to find validation within yourself, with only occasio… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/13 11:44 AM |
| 2 | A Perfect Example of a Terrible GirlfriendThis is a good reminder that there are 2 sides to every story. I'm not sure if you look at the red pill subreddit also, but they recently stopped allowing x-posting and now images with the information blocked out is the only thing allowed. Might be a good thing to implement here also? I would be sad if we were banned! | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/13 04:23 PM |
| 1 | Naive Question: Are RPW 'just' serial monogamists?I really enjoy reading your writing about your marriage. It's probably not a dynamic that I would choose for myself, but I'm happy that it works for you guys and the way you feel about him shines through. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/13 03:34 PM |
| 3 | Naive Question: Are RPW 'just' serial monogamists?I would call myself a serial monogamist. I had 2 boyfriends in high school that lasted a couple months each (which is like, years in adult time lol). I was a goody two shoes back then though, and didn't do anything with either one of them... which is why we broke up actually. Then I seriously dated the same guy from senior year of high school to very beginning of sophomore year of college, and then I met my husband. I like serial monogamy. I think it's the way to go personally. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/13 03:11 PM |
| 3 | Tell me, how do you feel now about all the Disney movies you watched as a kid?I am a really big Disney fan. I love their movies and I think they are wonderful silly fun entertainment. BUT- that's where it stops, entertainment. I have never and would never model my life after a CARTOON, and frankly I don't understand people who took Disney seriously. You really thought you could sit and wait for your (nameless, in many cases) knight to come fall in love with you at first sight? And for guys, you wanted to be that knight?! I question their critical thinking skills. I can't … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/13 07:57 PM |
| 19 | How does RPWomen feel about "the male friend"?Also... can you imagine the outrage that this would get if the genders were flipped? "I use her friends for hookup material, use her as an unpaid escort to fancy events, and make her cook for me because everyone knows my male friends can't do that!" People would freak out on that guy about how women are more than just arm candy, he should leave her friends alone, men are capable of cooking too, etc. I kind of want to see that written now just to see the responses. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/13 04:25 PM |
| 26 | How does RPWomen feel about "the male friend"?I prefer to not have male friends. I usually don't have many common interests with them, and also for staying out of potentially bad situations. I tend to think that women with mostly guy friends only have them because they enjoy the male attention. I'm definitely getting that vibe from this lady too. Guy friends are better because you can use them as a date for weddings and make them help you move...? She sounds like a great friend! | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/13 01:17 PM |
| 2 | Help! I am new, am I here for the right thing?Congratulations! I was married pretty recently too, and now I'm a big softy about marriage/wedding stuff so please share details if you want :) You are definitely in the right place. There have been lots of good threads already, so check out the top posts and jump on in! The blogs in the sidebar are great too. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/13 01:54 PM |
| 1 | Is promiscuity in men as damaging as it is to women in the ability to bond monogamously?I agree that it is extremely difficult to go from abundance and variety to being a one-woman guy. Is it as damaging as it is for women, no but I do think this is one of the few situations where it will be hard the generalize. The comment by donalgraeme sums up my thoughts pretty well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/13 04:51 PM |
| 7 | Approaching a man/ getting a man to ask you out (or asking a man out)I don't think there is anything in wrong with approaching, as long as it is done in a natural way (aka not yelling across the room for a man to come sit with you ;) ). In fact, it seems to have worked quite well in the last situation you describe! Rejection is something you have to get over. The more you practice, the less it will sting. But, if you want to experience less rejection, I would take the approach SashaFinch describes and let the man come to you. However, this also means that you wil… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/13 01:56 PM |
| 6 | Be like this girl.I agree that Summer seems like a cool chick but holy pedestalizing in the comments. I would be more like the first girl. I'm too shy to play around with strangers. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/13 01:28 PM |
| 4 | What do redpillwomen think of "Taken in Hand" relationships?I asked a similar question here that had a lot of good discussion about domestic discipline and I think taken in hand was brought up. I agree that taken in hand seems pretty red pill. I wouldn't call myself "taken in hand" (maybe I am, but I haven't explored it too much) but it seems interesting and good for anyone who is into it! | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/13 01:11 PM |
| 1 | Am I supposed to be Super Woman?eh, I guess I was getting a different tone than you. It reads to me more like OP is naturally a neat person while boyfriend couldn't care less if the house is a mess. This is also how my husband and I were when we moved in together, down to the ring around the toilet in his apartment. I guess I see it more from her side and wasn't getting a tone of entitlement, especially since she is also the breadwinner while he only takes classes. I hope she talks with him and works it out to an arrangement t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/13 07:38 PM |
| 7 | Am I supposed to be Super Woman?So why is it entitlement for her to want some help with things he would be doing anyways? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/13 07:14 PM |
| 5 | Am I supposed to be Super Woman?If he were single who would cook, clean, and most importantly pay living expenses for him? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/13 07:08 PM |
| 3 | Am I supposed to be Super Woman?Personally, I would find that unacceptable. I know everyone hates chores, but certain things just need to get done, you know? My husband requires a bit of prodding, but he will help when I ask. How does your boyfriend react when you ask him to help you clean up? Like I said, I would sit down and have a chat about the chores and how often you both think they need to be done. Letting a ring build up around the toilet is just gross. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/13 05:24 PM |
| 3 | I'm stuck in a mindset that doesn't make sense and I don't know how to get outDo you mind sharing some more information? Are you planning on being a stay at home mother, since you mention your bf supporting 4 people on one paycheck? What level of care do your parents and brother require? For a little encouragement- you can have children in grad school. I know many people who did this because it allowed them to be around often for their babies first year or so, since class was only a few hours a day, and then they could start working when they were a bit older. So it is po… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/13 05:04 PM |
| 5 | Am I supposed to be Super Woman?Nobody can be a super human being, despite what the media tells us (especially women). It's just not possible to be giving 100%, or at least pretty close, on so many different things at once. Did you know that the human brain isn't capable of multitasking? No matter how hard we try, it's not biologically possible! If you and your boyfriend are both working full time, the household chores need to be split as well. After all, you each would need to be cleaning up after yourselves if you were singl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/13 04:51 PM |
| 3 | When do you let the crazy out in a beginning of a relationship?Common points for crazy to come out: first time sleeping together becoming official first time saying I love you engagement and after marriage I mostly see girls get crazy after a major milestone. Once they feel they have the guy on lock basically. Everyone is a little crazy, so the only thing you can do is find the least crazy girl possible. Preferably one whose craziness is directed at herself rather than you. It's a lot easier to deal with "are my thighs fat?!?!?!" than "I KNOW YOU'RE CHEATIN… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/13 11:48 AM |
| 1 | Ladies, how do you deal with unwanted male attention (physical or otherwise) in a feminine/non-bitchy way?Flirting: I stay friendly but clearly non-flirty. I make sure I'm not being giggly or absent mindedly playing with my hair (a bad habit of mine). Drop a line in about boyfriend/husband and they get the point. Touching: I put all the blame on myself so it's less embarrassing for them. Gently remove the hand or arm and say "sorry, germ freak!" Or "sorry, I have a big personal bubble. I know I'm weird!". Say it nicely with a smile the first time. If they persist, move onto a more serious statement … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/13 01:27 AM |
| 3 | Girl game in college for an LTR?I have ADHD, bipolar, and crohns. I'm working part time and full time student and a senior so I'm busy as hell Not only am I extremely busy, but the supermarket choices in my town are slim, don't have a car, trying to save money. But my skin and hair are drier than a lot of other people standards other women put themselves to make me feel shitty Excersize to me is a pain, literally. I'm so out of shape. These look a lot like excuses to me. I'm sorry if I came off overly harsh, but you came to th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/13 08:29 PM |
| 6 | Girl game in college for an LTR?I'm hearing a lot of excuses here. First of all, if your medical disorders are interfering with your life you need to revisit a doctor and do whatever medication and lifestyle changes to get them under control. That is the most important thing. About the food: everyone has to eat at some point, even if they are OMG SO BUSY. Groceries can be delivered, or take the bus, or ride a bike, or walk. There are lots of 30 min meal options. You can also cook a large amount of food on the weekends and rehe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/13 07:32 PM |
| 2 | Would you date or marry a man that had a vasectomy?What if the man still wanted a family though? It is possible to have children through sperm extraction and IUI. Would you be okay with that, or is the old fashioned way the only way for you? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/13 06:54 PM |
| 5 | Serious question: Do you women really exist? What age are you?I'm 23. I have one other friend who is also my age that has some red pill leanings at the very least. In my experience (which I admit is limited so take with a grain of salt), red pill ladies tend to get snatched up at fairly young ages. I've been with my husband since I was 19. So we exist, it's just hard to find us while still single. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/13 11:58 AM |
| 2 | Is there any hope for the lady-bros?I usually see it used in a "I only live once so I'll do whatever I want when I want" kind of way. Like who cares about delayed gratification because you only live once. That might have been the original intent, but I think it's been unfortunately corrupted. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/13 06:11 PM |
| 2 | Is there any hope for the lady-bros?Why in the world would anyone LAUGH about their mother bailing them out of jail?! #nohope #retarded More seriously, I think the "yolo" attitude is becoming sadly common. That's great for her that she gets good grades (i also wonder what her definition of good is....), but what employer is going to want to hire the ".341 girl"? Especially when she is proud of her actions instead of mortified? She could have the chance to get a lot of good publicity, post a public apology to her school, maybe star… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/09/13 02:20 PM |
| 2 | Would you date or marry a man that had a vasectomy?I don't mean for it to be a complicated question, just a little discussion :) I wanted to get other women's perspectives on something that is often recommended to men. thanks for sharing yours! | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/13 08:10 PM |
| 1 | Dearest wo[m]en, I've got myself banned in r/trp and r/seduction. Help me get unbanned. I am just here to help.I don't know what you wrote in the post, but anything with a title like "This subreddit has become beta heaven. True Alphas, it is time to move on" sounds incredibly trollish. Additionally, you could have just stopped posting there instead of making some dramatic swan song and bitching about how you don't like a space that someone else was kind enough to create for others. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/13 02:33 PM |
| 1 | Dearest wo[m]en, I've got myself banned in r/trp and r/seduction. Help me get unbanned. I am just here to help.You should probably ask the moderators of those subreddits why you were banned. BUT since I'm bored at work, I'm guessing it has something to do with this post | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/13 12:52 PM |
| 1 | What are your family and relationship holiday traditions? What do you do when they clash (if they have)?That's a super cute idea, thanks! | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/13 11:22 AM |
| 2 | How to save blue pill female friends from spinsterhood?I think you are correct that the best way to get through to them is through other women. Honestly if some guy tried to tell me about this stuff before I read into it on my own I would have been like "lol k bro" and immediately dismissed it because what does a man know about having relationships with men? But if your partner can be an example to them, they might start taking notice, asking her what she does to have such a good relationship, etc. This might be hard for her because when women gathe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/13 08:35 PM |
| 3 | How Do Young Marriage-Minded Girls Meet a Potential Husband?Oh I forgot to add one thing onto my comment there- for post college ladies, swing dance groups and classes are another great place to meet men! There are some membership fees and you have to pay to get into the dances and what not, but it is SO much fun and there is a mix of other single people and couples. Usually about 50/50 sex ratio too so no worries about it only being a bunch of women lol. I highly recommend it! Plus, as the lady you will be the follow... it's great practice for letting g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/08/13 05:35 PM |
| 2 | Slut shaming + social media combine - Idiocy ensues!Hide yo kids, hide yo wife, cause they be retweetin child porn out here | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/13 08:53 PM |
| 1 | Slut shaming + social media combine - Idiocy ensues!I guess? Just out of curiosity, what were you hoping to discuss about this incident? The girl, the photographer, the people who reposted it, the incident as a whole? I don't really see how it relates to RPW unless you posted it in a "don't be a dumbass like this chick" way, which I would hope is fairly obvious to all the readers here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/13 08:50 PM |
| 1 | How available do I make myself? Brand new to this and I have no idea what I'm doing here. Please help!What people say and what people do are quite different... there are a LOT of girls who claim to be saving themselves, but then "it just happened!!!" Not saying it's impossible for any girl here who wants to, but in my experience people change their tune real quick when they get into their first serious relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/13 08:25 PM |
| 1 | Slut shaming + social media combine - Idiocy ensues!I believe that for pictures and video you still have to be 18. So even though what she did was legal, having a picture of it is illegal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/13 08:20 PM |
| 5 | RedPillWoman Official Recipe ThreadIf you can read, you can cook :) I was basically you. I did not learn to cook growing up beyond the very very basics (pasta, things from boxes and cans). When I moved out, I wanted to learn to cook so I could spend less money and eat better. I literally just went to google and typed in "chicken recipes" or something lol! I still mostly just follow recipes I get off pinterest/internet. If someone else has already done the work to come up with a great one, why not? :P Don't worry about creativity … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/13 05:04 PM |
| 2 | RedPillWoman Official Recipe ThreadOh, I must have missed it! Was it in the whole chicken post? I always need more chicken recipes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/13 10:01 PM |
| 4 | RedPillWoman Official Recipe ThreadThis is my husband's favorite recipe. I find it a bit heavy, so serve with lighter sides. Baked Honey Mustard Chicken 4 Chicken Breasts 1/2 cup dijon mustard 1/4 cup honey 1 Tb vinegar (I usually use rice vinegar) Fresh rosemary or thyme The chicken will produce a lot of liquid, so if you want the sauce to stay thicker, brown the chicken first and reduce the cooking time. Preheat oven to 400. Salt and pepper chicken. Mix together mustard, honey, and vinegar. Place chicken in foil lined baking di… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/13 07:34 PM |
| 1 | Why Fitness is Incredibly Important for WomenI've heard of it but not tried it. Im happy with the results of my current routine and products and I don't want to have to go through the transition period so I'm kind of unwilling. Maybe I will the next time they discontinue my conditioner :P | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/13 07:09 PM |
| 3 | My girl game field reportI would definitely appreciate regular recipe threads, pinterest has been failing me lately :( and I know you ladies have good taste! | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/13 05:08 PM |
| 10 | Why Fitness is Incredibly Important for WomenYou are kind of right but kind of wrong about skin, hair, and nails. Yes they are technically "dead" and keratinized but they still absorb things. Otherwise, you wouldn't be able to artificially tan or color your hair! I do think $50 shampoos are a bit overboard but quality products absolutely make a difference. Try a coconut oil deep conditioning treatment on your hair and let me know if it doesn't make a difference :) As for the rest of your advice... I think you might be a wee bit extreme her… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/13 03:18 PM |
| 8 | Ponderings on "Maturity"Wow, that's a really unique perspective on the topic! I'll have to consider this more. I tend to think that women are not socially encouraged or required to mature between 18, not that it's biologically impossible for us. Despite the fact that our brains develop until 25, we aren't really called upon to use that continued maturity. Think about it- most girls leave daddy's house at 18, go into the extended adolescence of college, and then (if you are somewhat attractive) move in with one of the f… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/13 12:57 AM |
| 15 | UPDATE: Friends HATE the changes I've made to my lifeGood for you! I hope you guys find some good non toxic friends to hang out with. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/13 09:11 PM |
| 2 | RPW: What is your love/dating life like, and are you happy?I met my husband at 19... Just sayin' :) Like I said, if this is how you feel then rock on with yo bad self. But there are always places to find stable guys. If you want someone who is already financially stable, I'm sure your school has grad students who are working while improving their value. Or find a guy around your age with a good major and build a life together. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/13 09:49 PM |
| 4 | RPW: What is your love/dating life like, and are you happy?Well, your good years are flying by, but if you don't care then that's that. I would like to remind you that dating takes time. Just because you decide you want to be married at 28 doesn't mean you will find someone within a year. I would factor in at least 5 to find someone compatible, have a serious relationship, and get married. I am happily married. I had 2 silly high school relationships and one other serious before I met my husband. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/13 09:30 PM |
| 7 | The choice to be child-free is admirable, not selfish | Jill Filipovic | Comment is freeI don't really understand child free people, but I also don't think having them or not having them is admirable. It's just a thing you do like eating or breathing. We are animals, we eat, we breathe, we reproduce. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/13 03:01 PM |
| 3 | Eldersluts and Spinsters: the end result of the female fantasy of marrying “three days after turning 30″.Anecdotally, it has not affected my own attraction. I think benefits currently outweigh negatives although more study is warranted. The results don't seem very definitive so far... Lots of "some scientists believe it might have an effect" but no "there is/is not an effect" | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/13 10:31 PM |
| 14 | Eldersluts and Spinsters: the end result of the female fantasy of marrying “three days after turning 30″.This is why people (especially women, but men who want to marry too) should be encouraged to husband hunt instead of "date". On the other hand, I do find it highly entertaining to go into /r/relationships and listen to them whine about how their boyfriend who stated he wasn't interested in marriage from the beginning won't marry them. Great popcorn material! | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/13 05:55 PM |
| 1 | The Three AlphasMy bad, I meant bear | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/13 12:13 AM |
| 7 | The Three AlphasI think the distinctions can be useful, but at the same time I worry that young guys new to red pill will latch onto bull bear alpha/sigma/whatever word they use for "lone wolf" and hide behind the label as a way to avoid confronting their social awkwardness. If they want to be alone that's fine, but it makes me sad for them. Anyone else or just me? Valid concern or all in my head? Anyways, this seems to be an accurate breakdown. I wonder if there is a female equivalent? | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/13 10:45 PM |
| 1 | Housewives are the New Battered WivesAs someone who just recently got out of the having roommates stage of life, THANK YOU for teaching your children to care for their living space! I have so many roommate nightmare stories because they were used to mommy cleaning up after them. I don't understand how some parents don't realize that a child is a future adult and therefore they need to learn adult things like washing their damn dish when they are done with it!!! Okay I feel better now :P | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/13 06:47 PM |
| 3 | Let's talk long termI know what you mean. My grandmother died earlier this year and the actual death was a relief compared to seeing her suffer. I can only hope there are more humane options available by the time of my own. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/13 02:32 AM |
| 3 | Let's talk long termHonestly I'm not sure. There was a graph posted on trp the other day and the marriage rate is predicted to greatly drop in the coming years. So while I WANT to tell young women to marry, I'm not sure if that's a viable option. However if the graph is wrong and the current culture continues, I would definitely tell them to hold out for marriage because there are still men who want to be married. I suppose a committed long term relationship is the next best thing, although I wonder about how curre… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/13 02:09 AM |
| 8 | Let's talk long termJust out of curiosity, what do you plan to do about things like hospital visitation, power of attorney, and distribution of property in the case of a serious injury or death? Are you going to draw up papers giving each other that, leave the powers with your respective families, or just hope it doesn't happen? | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/13 02:05 AM |
| 5 | Let's talk long termMarriage has always been a deal breaker for me. I found a man who wanted that and children as well. We had good role models growing up too so there's never been any concerns with us. We also were married young and have nothing so there's no possibility for divorce rape. We are both quite happy with the direction our life is going :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/13 10:16 PM |
| 11 | Working to tame myselfDon't beat yourself up too much. We all make mistakes when we are young and stupid, especially when we live in a culture that encourages princess syndrome. Now that you've recognized the poor behaviors in yourself, you can work on improving! I recommend checking out the girls being girls blog and margerym's blog. They both have a lot of great posts on learning to be submissive . Particularly check out. "The taming of the shrew". | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/13 12:23 AM |
| 1 | How do you feel about women paying for the first dates?I think the asker should pay, and alternate after that (although I wouldn't say no if he wanted to pay for everything). I wouldn't be against splitting the check, but the asker needs to make the other person aware beforehand. Just mention you prefer to go dutch and then make sure your date idea is financially feasible for the other person. Also, I think those "check reach tests" are completely stupid. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/13 06:44 PM |
| 9 | How did you find this community and what made you decide it was for you? Or was it just a name for how you'd always felt?I found it after seeing it mentioned on reddit. I love reading up on controversial topics so I had to check it out of course! At first I agreed with the general negative opinions, but there was enough that I would see and think to myself "yeah... That's true..." that I kept coming back. After exploring some other parts (mmsl, red pill wifey, etc) I liked it enough to join in on the fun :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/13 02:21 AM |
| 3 | Red pill ladies, help! Is my boyfriend wasting my time?Honestly no, it doesn't necessarily naturally escalate it. I actually have a friend who just moved back into her own apartment because living with her boyfriend turned out to be a nightmare. I really encourage you to take the rest of the advice here and ask about his thoughts on marriage and living together before you sign away the next 10 months of your life. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/13 08:14 PM |
| 5 | How are red pill women able to balance their self-worth with red pill philosophies?haha okay good. I always feel like I have to add that disclaimer because I get the impression that others think we are either 1. Self loathing abused women who have no life outside their ego maniac husband, or 2. hyper religious ladies who wear floor length skirts or coveralls while homeschooling our 15 children... I'm trying to change the stereotypes, don't know if it's working! | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/13 08:06 PM |
| 3 | How are red pill women able to balance their self-worth with red pill philosophies?Hey good for you guys. I actually saw the thread you were referring to although I did not participate because I was afraid of a beat down, lol! I can see how the red pill looks like a doom and gloom life of servitude for women by outsiders, but if you look further into it, it can really be a loving relationship model. In fact, you probably know some couples who are in "red pill" relationships even though they don't even know what the red pill is. We're normal people too, I promise :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/13 07:53 PM |
| 3 | Red pill ladies, help! Is my boyfriend wasting my time?A big mistake couples make in the moving in together process is not defining what it means for them and their relationship. It is really disappointing for (usually) the lady to find out her boyfriend doesn't think moving in together is a step towards to marriage after the fact. Don't assume he thinks of it as an escalation because that's what YOU see it as. I would ask him why he wants to move in together before you go signing any leases. If he just wants to save some cash or play house for the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/13 07:47 PM |
| 5 | How are red pill women able to balance their self-worth with red pill philosophies?I would not take everything on /r/theredpill as the gospel truth for the whole red pill movement. If you would like more information on how the red pill can be beneficial and beneficial to women in particular, I would go for sites like marriedmansexlife.com and the others in the sidebar under "resources". Positives: I feel the red pill is a much better fit for my natural personality and tendencies than most of what modern society dictates I should do. For example: embraces femininity in women in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/13 07:33 PM |
| 4 | Working for your husband an an employeeI've never heard of a situation like this ending well. It is really really hard to separate your personal relationship from your business relationship and not bring all the bad junk from work home. Unless you really want to do this or he can't afford to pay someone else a salary, I would talk together and consider finding an employee who was a better fit communication wise. Please note that this is anecdotal evidence though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/13 07:18 PM |
| 3 | What are your go-to's for rewarding a woman's good behavior?Have you looked into the 5 love languages before? Reward will be strongest when linked with the girls love language. Praise is great for someone who feels loved through words of affirmation, but might not mean much to someone who feels loved through quality time. | /r/askTRP | 12/08/13 02:51 PM |
| 7 | Attitudes to successful women?I could not be happier for anyone who has found something they love doing and is enjoying their life. I think that's great! However, I disagree with the current cultural narrative that states the only way to live a happy fulfilled life is to get a college degree and work for the rest of your life, probably to the detriment of your family. I also disagree with the generalization "men and women can be friends". I think SOME men and women can be, but not generally. Personally I don't have male frie… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/13 01:20 AM |
| 4 | What is your opinion on saving sex for marriage? Just curious.There are pros and cons. Or, in my opinion, there are a couple minor pros (assuming your partner count is still kept low) and one big con. Sexual compatibility is extremely important for long term monogamous relationships, and I wasn't willing to take the gamble. I will be my husbands only sexual contact and he will be my only for the next 50+ years, so we better be in tune with each other or its going to be a loooong hard haul. However, I completely support others waiting until marriage, althou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/13 04:31 AM |
| 1 | Means, motive, opportunity: Why do women consistently fail to outperform men?I didn't say anything about IQ, I'm not sure what you're referring too? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/13 11:11 PM |
| 1 | Every time you see and/or interact with a man, look for something good about him.I really appreciate that my parents taught me how to treat guests. I can't stand when I go over to someone's house and one of the hosts just yells over their shoulder from the couch "yeah so just help yourself from the fridge". I'm really not comfortable digging through someone's kitchen, and then you have to do that awkward search through all the cabinets for the one with glasses, and its just awful and I hate it!!! | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/13 06:33 PM |
| 1 | So you're interested in Red Pill...I would add a part b to #4- do try reading the other areas of the red pill and some of the criticisms. I obviously have no interest in being a PUA/running harems, but I like reading their viewpoints even though I don't always agree because it helps solidify my own. Same with feministy websites. Or just playing devils advocate on my own. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/13 06:18 PM |
| 1 | Means, motive, opportunity: Why do women consistently fail to outperform men?It's really difficult to be a career woman like that and have children. My sister is a doctor and had my little niece who is now 15 months old. After working full time for awhile after she was born, she decided she couldn't handle it and is now stepping back to a hospitalist position where she only has to work 2 days a week so she can spend more time with her. She doesn't get how the other ladies she worked with do it. One has a live in nanny, and the other legitimately seems to be one of those … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/13 03:54 PM |
| 2 | Every time you see and/or interact with a man, look for something good about him.It can be applicable to those of us who are in relationships too. Sometimes we have to deal with people we may not particularly like in our jobs or maybe the husband has a friend we don't care for, and I find the best way to deal with this is to find the good side in them and focus on that. Being a warm hostess is a really nice feminine value to have. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/13 03:46 PM |
| 2 | Means, motive, opportunity: Why do women consistently fail to outperform men?Motive seems to be the biggest contributer to me. Most STEM careers aren't family friendly, and require additional schooling if you ever want to be paid more than a lab slave. Unless you want to pursue graduate degrees, it's a much better use of your time to go for something like teaching, nursing, or accounting that only requires an undergrad and will pay a livable wage after 4 years. I know no women who were kept out of science and math by some cultural conspiracy- if anything they receive mor… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/13 02:03 PM |
| 3 | [Sentimental] A musical tribute to true loveIf anyone else likes adult alternative/pop punk kind of stuff (why yes I am 13 years old), I think Antonia by Motion City Soundtrack is a super sweet song. It's basically about all the little things that make you love a person. The ending gets me every time! Heres a link to lyrics And here is a youtube link | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/13 09:51 PM |
| 1 | Do you think your upbringing and/or personality affected your journey to and acceptance of the red pill?I haven't watched many old movies, but I really enjoy the classic books. When I was a little girl my favorites were books like A Little Princess, The Secret Garden, and then in high school I actually liked our required reading! I don't read as much now, but luckily I just got a smartphone and with the kindle app so I'm going to download all the public domain stuff and start again. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/13 12:29 AM |
| 1 | "Ridiculously Bad Advice from the 1950's"??? There are some pretty good advice in here...No worries :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/13 12:18 AM |
| 1 | "Ridiculously Bad Advice from the 1950's"??? There are some pretty good advice in here...That sucks, would you mind sharing an example or maybe not the exact one but similar? I like classic and kind of different names so I can't imagine bullying someone, let alone a child | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/13 12:10 AM |
| 3 | "Ridiculously Bad Advice from the 1950's"??? There are some pretty good advice in here...Off topic, but Genevieve Antoine Dariaux (author of the how to be chic quote) is the best name ever. Why don't we have more people with names like this? It's just so elegant sounding. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/13 11:18 PM |
| 3 | Girl Game: Issue A ChallengeI think that would be a really fun idea! hey mods, possibly something to implement? | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/13 11:12 PM |
| 3 | Choose to be happyI have a hard time with it too, have you ever tried yoga? A good hard hour of sweaty and anger inducing yoga helps me first... sounds counterintuitive to yoga lol but for some reason the harder it is for me the more I relax and feel "at one" after. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/13 11:10 PM |
| 1 | 5 Baby Steps to De-ShrewingIt's hard, but you really just have to learn to move on from your mistakes. Apologize, rectify, and let it go. A brief period of reflection might be helpful, such as meditation, going for a walk, something like that. Instead of turtleing distract yourself with an activity. Go to the kitchen and bake something to make it up to him, or do a chore that needs to be done, or take a shower and get all dolled up for no reason. Its hard at first but you'll get it with time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/13 06:48 PM |
| -1 | Anorexia and Obesity has Been Caused by Women and Male Homosexualsahaha I love it! | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/13 03:01 PM |
| 1 | Anorexia and Obesity has Been Caused by Women and Male HomosexualsAh yes, that's my favorite, an epidemic despite the fact that prevalence has been decreasing almost every year for decades now. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/13 02:50 PM |
| 3 | Anorexia and Obesity has Been Caused by Women and Male Homosexualsanything bad seems to be an "epidemic" now... the school shooting epidemic, the anorexia epidemic, the drug use epidemic, the diabetes epidemic... I actually have a hard time caring when everything is an epidemic, kind of defeats the purpose. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/13 02:42 PM |
| 1 | The Name-Change Debate.From a brief bit of googling, some states require that you practice under your legal name and some do not. Glancing over a few physicians forums it seems like most women who get married after they graduated med school change their name on everything but their medical license, especially if they have already completed residency and consider themselves "established" under their maiden name. Seems like its mostly dependent on the states laws and when the woman got married. I get why you posted this… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/13 03:08 AM |
| 2 | The Name-Change Debate.Are you sure about that? I'm not sure your medical license could be under a name that is no longer your legal name. Although I guess she could continue to advertise as Dr. Maiden Names office, but I don't know if that would work because the patients insurance would still have to file as Dr. Married Name, so it could get confusing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/13 02:47 AM |
| 5 | Do you think your upbringing and/or personality affected your journey to and acceptance of the red pill?I hope you become a unicorn soon :) I'm working on it too | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/13 02:39 AM |
| 8 | The Name-Change Debate.I have a physician in my family, so I understand where she's coming from. My sister got married while in med school, so it wasnt an issue, but I can see how it could hurt her practice if she changed the name on it. Patient word of mouth and reviews are what attracts business and new patients might not be able to find her because now she's Dr. X instead of Dr. Y. However, I'm unsure why she wouldn't want to at least go by his name socially, but I'm firmly on the side of "families should have the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/13 02:31 AM |
| 2 | Do you think your upbringing and/or personality affected your journey to and acceptance of the red pill?Thanks for the response. I think you are the first person that I have seen who was introduced to the red pill rather than coming into themselves. How did he introduce it to you? Do you think you would have ever found it on your own, and would the outcome have been different? | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/13 12:12 AM |
| 9 | Do you think your upbringing and/or personality affected your journey to and acceptance of the red pill?Thanks for sharing! I like that you bring up the whole femininity=vapid slut thing. I got a lot of mixed messages from feminism where they describe being a woman as great, but only if you be a woman in the way we like, meaning strong independent career woman. Despite preaching choice I've found they only support the "correct" choices. I'm happy you were able to look past that and embrace your femininity! | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/13 12:06 AM |
| 5 | The power of a woman’s submissivenessI like the submission = powerful idea. Really, at the end of the day, the submissive partner is the determining factor because UNLESS we submit, whatever event/choice/decision won't happen. Assuming the man doesn't physically force us. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/13 04:36 PM |
| 7 | [Mod] A Thousand Subscribers and Some News!yay mods! thanks for being awesome! | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/13 04:15 PM |
| 3 | Is it too late?Of course it's not too late. My mom is just getting married again at 57. Now, it will be harder, and you might not get your first pick, but don't give up hope. If youre decent looking and keep your game up you should get a guy without too many troubles. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/13 02:15 PM |
| 3 | Don't Be That FeministThat's great, thanks! | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/13 03:33 AM |
| 3 | Don't Be That FeministGah I know I should, but its hard for me to stand up to people especially when I don't know them well and want to make a good impression (friends of my parents and people like that) | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/13 02:03 AM |
| 1 | Question about the "Good Girl's" gameI was assuming he wanted to move it beyond kissing. My bad if that's all you have intended! | /r/askTRP | 05/08/13 09:42 PM |
| 3 | Question about the "Good Girl's" gameBe careful about this because some girls will cry rape when their boyfriend finds out. | /r/askTRP | 05/08/13 09:17 PM |
| 3 | Don't Be That FeministI've seen "if you feel like you were raped you were raped" so many times. Too many times!!! I'm pretty sure there is a specific legal definition for rape and you can't go claiming you were based on feelings. You either consented (and non verbal consent counts) or you didn't. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/13 09:08 PM |
| 8 | Don't Be That FeministI can't stand attitudes like the first example. It's so insulting to both sexes. Husband is the bumbling fool while I'm "the old ball and chain" and the wedding ring was "the world's tiniest pair of handcuffs". I've been married about 2 months now and I've received both of those comments already. I just sit there in silence until they change the subject because I don't have the ovaries to say what I really want to :/ How sad is it that this is what people think of marriage now? Some of us actual… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/13 08:18 PM |
| 1 | Dressing your body shape: how to create an hourglass figureyes, you can really see it with pant styles now, most companies carry a thin, medium, and curvy fit. Skirts and dresses (especially A Line) are universally flattering though! | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/13 08:11 PM |
| 3 | Dressing your body shape: how to create an hourglass figureYou are truly a physically blessed girl! I'm a banana shape but I like to refer to myself as a half hour glass so I feel more special lol | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/13 05:43 PM |
| 3 | Dressing down a culture for refusing to dress upHats + curls = no go, for me at least. Unless its ones of those tiny ones that just barely sits on your head. But then what's the point if its not providing any sun protection? Maybe it's the tie of women, you just wear it because you're supposed to. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/13 10:04 PM |
| 4 | Dressing down a culture for refusing to dress upFast fashion is a hard trap to fall into. The stuff can be SO cute, but it falls apart after a few wears... And then you are back to the mall for more. Even if it doesn't fall apart, it's so trendy and dated you probably won't want to wear it after 1 season. I'm currently transitioning my wardrobe over from those types of clothes to more classic and quality pieces. Its going slowly, because poorness, but I feel more well dressed and "adult" for once! I can't say I agree with the author when it c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/13 07:02 PM |
| 4 | Cheating: is it okay?I wasn't married but it really is hell. The constant thoughts of "is he really where he says he is? Is he really talking to (friend) and not another woman? Why is he taking the phone to the bathroom?" It just never ends. Every little thing is suddenly a potential sign. Unless you follow the advice from the other thread, where you are immediately completely transparent about everything, it probably won't work. Also even then it probably won't work because I will just think you have secret account… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/13 12:49 AM |
| 22 | Cheating: is it okay?Cheating is not okay. It is definitely a deal breaker for me. I've been in a relationship where I stayed after cheating and it was never the same. And he cheated again. "Trust takes years to build, seconds to break, and a lifetime to repair." | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/13 12:35 AM |
| 6 | Sex question for the ladies: Do you consider oral (female-on-male) an "expected" normal sex act?Can she explain her reasoning behind that? Doesn't like the taste, very sensitive gag reflex or gets lock jaw, never done it before so she's secretly afraid she will bad at it, anything? Almost any problems someone has with oral can be fixed. What happens if you straight up ask her for it? | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/08/13 07:52 PM |
| 6 | Beyond looksI think a big cause behind the rampant mental health issues like PPD, general depression, and anxiety in everyone, but particularly women, is the loss of "the village". Humans are social creatures. We aren't meant to isolate ourselves in a 1200 sq ft bubble where our only social contact is our husband who is home for precious few waking hours and mostly nonverbal children. We used to be able to gather and socialize while the children toddled about forming their own social networks, but "stranger… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/08/13 06:10 PM |
| 5 | Romantic relationships and the red pill womanI'm still pretty new too! Hopefully you like what you see so far? :) We could use more girls around. High value man is pretty much what it sounds like, a man who has much to add to your life. So things like attractive, well paying job, strong leadership. They usually go together, but you can find beta guys who get lots of girls because they have a high level job or are good looking. My husband has beta traits in the way Athol Kay uses them, he provides comfort for me when I'm sad and will help c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/08/13 04:16 PM |
| 20 | [Mod] New Sub, and a New Rule!are female perspectives welcome there, and can we post questions about our relationships with men as well? | /r/TheRedPill | 02/08/13 03:34 PM |
| 19 | When a Woman Wants a Cowboy, You Play By His RulesThe thing that always gets me is when women have all these physical preferences, and they want the hot muscular tall guy, but he is not allowed to have preferences in return and he should be attracted to them despite being fat or sloppy looking. There is a really good picture that I believe came from tumblr that describes what I'm talking about but I can't find it. It's this fat girl, like morbidly obese dead by 30 fat, and she put up a few pictures of herself and is going on about "I deserve a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/13 03:38 PM |
| 4 | Marriage fail, I need help.Even if you put in effort, only time will tell if you messed it up too much or if the trust can return. However, you don't really seem to be remorseful or like you want to change, so I'm not sure why you (or him, poor husband still thinking you are in this together) are still trying. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/13 01:13 PM |
| 5 | How do I become a better woman?Develop a strong sense of yourself. Who are you? What value can you provide to others? Decide what your goals in life are for yourself and future family. Who do you want to become? What does your life look like in 5, 10, 20 years? Create an idea of what you want in a husband. What sort of life does he live? What value does he provide to you? What sort of things do you think he will be looking for in a future wife? Finally, based on these things, come up with a game plan for self improvement. The… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/13 01:09 PM |
| 7 | National Post | How could a movement mandated to serve women's best interests get it so wrong? : TheRedPillPersonally I know quite a few people who understand this fact quite well and have wanted to have children young- but there is absolutely no support for it. Things like: You're ruining your life, enjoy never having fun again, you're too young, you'll get divorced, you'll be poor forever... despite the fact that humans have been having children in their late teens and early 20s forever, and we somehow managed to survive and sometimes even be happy! The horror! I do wish there was more support for … | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/13 09:34 PM |
| 2 | Domestic DisciplineI think everyone, children and adults, feel better when there are boundaries. It's much easier when you know what is expected of you and are otherwise free to act within those ranges. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/13 03:14 AM |
| 2 | Domestic DisciplineIt does sound quite like an excuse for BDSM. And 24/7 BDSM at that! Among those with these urges, it's not uncommon to find emotional fulfillment and satisfaction in moving that dynamic of control beyond the confines of the bedroom I was under the impression that taking it outside the bedroom was pretty rare? Do you have more information on how common it is? I think this is a great answer, I look forward to your article! | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/13 02:08 AM |
| 6 | Domestic DisciplineI agree, I think the abuse argument comes from people saying that they are "manipulated" into it, usually with religion? Not really sure. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/13 12:24 AM |
| 2 | Domestic DisciplineDid that happen with very many couples in your experience, where it becomes sexual? That was honestly my first impression lol, that its some sex thing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/07/13 12:19 AM |
| 3 | Domestic DisciplineIt seems like the vast majority of the people using it have the strict farther model, but I also think there are probably a few cases where it's an abusive person using it to justify their abuse. But at the same time if their partner consented, I don't think it can really be abuse... | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/13 09:30 PM |
| 2 | Domestic DisciplinePersonally, I don't think we would ever try this, and I can definitely see where the concerns come from although I haven't explored it beyond the link above. At the same time, I can see where it could benefit relationships, especially where the submissive partner has poor self control and needs an outside source of negative reinforcement to basically "keep in line" (that sounds awful but I can't think of better words!). | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/13 09:15 PM |
| 1 | What value does your husband bring to your life?He checked every box I ever wanted plus some bonus ones. I made a silly little "future husband" list when I was 16 or so. It had some specifics (dark hair, light eyes) and some general (intelligent, funny). At some point when we were engaged I remembered it and realized he meets all of them :) We just work together. Its pretty great. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/13 08:10 AM |
| 6 | Anyone else see something wrong with this article?I think its hard to change when you feel shitty about yourself, whether its coming from within or others. Still not an excuse though. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/07/13 08:11 PM |
| 1 | "The problem with equality is that people are not equal."I dont see that in the side bar? | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/13 11:33 PM |
| 6 | What do women feel once they swallow the Red Pill?Mine was more of a three stage process. Denial (I'm not like that!), shame (oh god I am like that), and acceptance (now I will be better than that). I see no reason to be angry but I'm not an angry person in general. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/13 11:30 PM |
| 1 | "The problem with equality is that people are not equal."I'm sorry, can you point me in the direction of where we said everyone was the same? | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/13 09:53 PM |
| 2 | Walking the line between submission and being a doormat?Correct me if I'm wrong, but you would consider selfless and doormat basically the same? Do you think there is a better word for a person who gives up their own real needs for others, or is that not really a thing in your opinion? | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/13 07:59 PM |
| 2 | Walking the line between submission and being a doormat?I guess I saw myself as more a doormat and not just upset in that example because of how I wouldn't voice my feelings. I read your post below, but could you go further on what you would consider a doormat? I think I've pretty much got it under control now, but maybe it would help others here with similar issues. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/13 07:50 PM |
| 6 | [Blue Pill Ex] BF feels guilty about losing respect for slut GFGood timing on the conscious/subconscious brain thing, just yesterday this came up with one of my friends. She was telling us how she was starting to date this guy, but then found out he had hooked up with another guy a couple times in the past. She was fine with him/people in general who want to do that, but she just wasn't attracted to him at all anymore. We can't force ourselves to have certain feelings, and we really shouldn't try in the first place because it's only going to end in more hur… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/13 07:44 PM |
| 2 | Walking the line between submission and being a doormat?I'm not so bad anymore, but basically I let people walk all over me without voicing my own thoughts or compromises, and do whatever they want. For example, my love language is quality time, meaning I feel loved in a relationship when we can spend one on one time together. A couple times while we were dating, my husband would change special pre planned date night at the last minute because he wanted to go play games with his friends or whatever. Instead of speaking up I would be like "oh okay" an… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/13 05:38 PM |
| 8 | The Red Pill "Other Woman"Women should look up to their man, but I think you have this guy on a bit too high of a pedestal. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/13 03:56 PM |
| 19 | The Slut, and how not to be one.Another benefit of settling down early is that when you are ready to have children you can have them, instead of "I'm ready to have children, better find a husband!" The husband is practically just a sperm donor at that point. Also, who wants to rush a relationship to become super serious that quickly when it's so much fun? | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/13 05:53 PM |
| 5 | The Slut, and how not to be one.I guess it seems more common to me since my husband was in a fraternity so we knew lots of people in the hookup culture. We were at a nerd school too so even the guys who were overall pretty average had no trouble getting girls if they were social. I kind of forgot there are people who sit in their rooms all weekend! | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/13 03:19 PM |
| 27 | The Slut, and how not to be one.Maybe I'm reading incorrectly, but you seem to imply that the slut and the man she sleeps with both want a relationship? In my experience, women (and men) sleep around because they feel it is a rite of passage in their youth, the whole college/party/hookup thing, and they are actively NOT looking for anything committed. If you have seen something different or I have interpreted wrong, could you explain further? | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/13 11:46 AM |
| 4 | laidnyc on Girl Game (you should read it)Wow, this is a such a super comprehensive list I can't even think of anything to add! Nice find! | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/13 09:28 PM |
| 3 | The stabilizing influence of masculine dominance on women’s lives.I guess I'm the only one that thinks this, but sometimes people are just into what they're into. It might be related to personal issues in a few cases, but most likely something about it just really gets them going because that's how their brain is wired. Some dudes are into submission, others are into furry costumes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/13 08:30 PM |
| 2 | 'Girls Being Girls' blog/communityyou guys should stick this over in the side bar with resources! | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/13 04:49 PM |
| 2 | frivolous postyes yes yes! Especially if you can have tons of diagrams and videos documenting what the hell I do with my hands, lol. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/13 04:40 PM |
| 2 | Salmon Bake - If your man likes Salmon, cook this for him tonight!Squash and Zucchini don't have a very high water content What? Zucchini is 95% water. When I roast them I usually have to salt and blot them with paper towels first so they don't just stew in their own juices. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/13 04:37 PM |
| 2 | frivolous postI don't, but I keep thinking I would like to learn along with crafting in general. I'm horribly incompetent at most crafty things though, so I'm afraid to start and have it be a giant waste. I struggle with friendship bracelets... But, if you have good resources or tips for complete beginners maybe I could give it a try anyways! | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/13 04:16 PM |
| 8 | A Good Woman, A Good ManThe problem is people have different goals. Some guys in TRP never want to get married and some do. Some want to sleep around and some have no interest in interactions with women at all. Therefore, they have different ideas of what "good" is. Its just too subjective to agree on. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/13 12:30 PM |
| 3 | How do you recognize a dominant man?I think poor eye contact almost always indicates submissiveness, but good eye contact doesn't necessarily mean dominance. If someone is trying to "stare you down" it's probably dominance, but regular ol' eye contact is just good people skills to me. It shows you are listening to the other person, or if you are in a group it shows you are open to talking. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/07/13 09:09 PM |
| 2 | MBTI personalities and datingApparently my husband is the "enigma" to me... somehow it still works | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/07/13 09:01 PM |
| 2 | MBTI personalities and datingI would trust my husband to fill it out, no way on my parents though. They still think I'm the same person I was in elementary school. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/07/13 08:51 PM |
| 3 | MBTI personalities and datingI don't put much stock in these to begin with, but maybe they are claiming to be INTJ when they are really not because they would like to think of themselves as "the scientist". It comes up a lot on reddit too, if you would like a good laugh go to the INTJ subreddit and observe their over inflated egos/sense of superiority. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/07/13 07:46 PM |
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