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What’s the best way to go about it? Apps?
/r/askTRP08/07/21 06:51 PM
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I sense some screws loose with this one. I hate saying BPD but the extremely over the top flattery and obsession at the beginning are signs of love bombing. I’d just take a step back and chase other girls
/r/askTRP03/04/21 04:04 AM
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Man you sound alot like me when I was your age. Nothing in your gif makes me think ‘oh that guy is beta’. Infact you have a solid frame to work off of and you have a good looking face - your looks are not the issue here, it’s the mindset. Have you thought about seeking therapy to uncouple some of the issues surfaced from your Dad and childhood? I’d look into CBT for social anxiety as well - you need to look into being aware of your thoughts and doing thought reversals. Couple that with exposure …
/r/askTRP03/04/21 02:43 AM
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A few things really 1) Rise of feminism - a lot of pro-sex conversations with women and anti-slut shaming, promoting women to be ok with non marital sex. 2) Greater planned parenthood options - more pregnancy prevention options allows women to feel less risky about sex 3) The internet - we're more connected than ever which widened the net of potential sexual partners for everyone
/r/askTRP01/04/21 02:15 PM
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If you want a cushy job, work that 9-5. If you want to start your own business and make it very successful, you need to work much harder than your typical 9-5 office worker. I’m mid 30s and known many people who started their own businesses. The ones who succeed worked like dogs. Keep in mind as a new business you have to really push through the noise - and that means you have to work harder and smarter than your competition. Working 3 hours a day is no way to start a business- those I know work…
/r/askTRP01/04/21 06:00 AM
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I hated my major too but I managed to get away from it - while remaining in the industry - and pulling in 250 as a result. I have a friend who did accounting at one of the big 4 as an auditor then migrated to project management in tech
/r/askTRP18/03/21 04:50 PM
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What are your accomplishments? Are you successful or on the right path to be? Are you hitting the gym? Are you meditating to be more aware of your thoughts and catch them in their tracks?
/r/askTRP18/03/21 01:07 PM
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That's awesome! And hey, as a former fat virgin, getting fit is one of the best things I have ever done for myself (and I'm 34 now). One of the biggest perks is people give you so much slack - especially women. Everytime I meet someone I haven't seen in a while, the #1 thing they comment on is how they cant believe how fit I am - their jaws practically drop. It is so so worth it and the best part is it's literally all in your hands to accomplish - you can do this
/r/askTRP15/03/21 11:30 PM
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As others mentioned, you have to have a strong purpose for doing so. What is your why? Being fit goes way beyond just being attractive to girls - men and women alike will subconsciously respect and listen to you more. Your energy levels will improve which will bleed into all areas of your life. Your stress levels will drop allowing you to take on more challenges to conquer on your way to achieving your goals. When you start, I highly recommend watching motivational videos to get you pumped. Moti…
/r/askTRP15/03/21 06:59 PM
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If she's dropping L bombs on you for two months and went that far out of her way to make a presentation, I would say you're as comfortable as you're ever going to get with a girl to promote her to an LTR. TRP can take things to autistic levels sometimes, it's a rubric for taking girls off pedestals and realizing your value as a man. I missed out on two potential LTRs with great women because of this that I still regret. I'd take the plunge if that's what you want
/r/askTRP12/03/21 05:56 PM
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Yeah, you and I are similar in that experience. I just was with a girl that checked all the boxes for the first time ever - very successful like me, same cultural background, introduced by mutuals so social proof, low N-Count, easy to talk to, exactly my type. Haven't met someone like that since 2018. However, she just got out of a 2 year relationship and is completely emotionally available. What helps me is that I was fine before her and I'll be fine after her. Just use that pain as fuel to dri…
/r/askTRP09/03/21 04:37 PM
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That's rough man. I know how difficult it can be to lose someone due to life circumstances. On the other hand, you see many stories here of a man or girl moving to another city, going to grad school, doing an LDR, and it falling apart or one side moving on with someone else. Not to mention the disasters I've heard of one individual moving with the other, only to get dumped in a new city/country. The silver lining here is now you know exactly what a healthy, longterm, relational dynamic feels lik…
/r/askTRP09/03/21 04:00 PM
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Either go with 1 or option 3 - Politely decline her LJBF and do not meet with her. If you decline LJBF and still meet up with her you're going to make it awkward for both of you, or you're just giving her the pleasure of being validated (making you a beta orbiter). The only way you can possibly gain her romantic interest (which - frankly, don't count on it) is to stop communicating with her and focus on increasing your SMV
/r/askTRP08/03/21 02:41 PM
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Contrary to what a lot of people here said, I've been on plenty of first dates where I just didn't feel comfortable escalating yet but led to 2nd, 3rd, or 4th date F closes. It's most likely what you said in another comment - you're too in your head. You want to keep her engaged, get her to talk, get her laughing, and of course do some teasing as well. There is some good sidebar content that can guide you on building up your charm
/r/askTRP05/03/21 12:42 PM
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My success with women really kicked off when I hit 30. Compounding career success, getting very fit for the first time ever, financial abundance instead of drowning in student loans - I developed this consistent buzz of confidence. Also, for whatever reason, I got more ass from <25 yos at 30+ than in any other period of my life
/r/askTRP02/03/21 05:34 AM
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Not that weird - women are indirect. She was clearly trying to gage your interest in scat play or golden showers, which are well known fetishes
/r/askTRP27/02/21 12:53 PM
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It sounds like you suffer from complex relational trauma. I did as well. Being naive and ignorant while falling for a jaded she-devil can make you extremely vulnerable to being manipulated - which will cause lasting damage. I do strongly recommend therapy to work through this, and this is coming from a fellow 6'3 man
/r/askTRP24/02/21 04:16 PM
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Agreed - I started seeing them as a virgin, which messed with my game and self development significantly. That is the perspective in which I write from. I've been tempted to dabble here and there now that my SMV and game has significantly evolved - mostly out of curiosity to see if the experience holds the same weight. Probably not though
/r/TheRedPill24/02/21 02:02 AM
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I'm the same way in that 'fetish', which is why after learning game I much prefer a steady girl. Also, if an escort allows you to rawdog, she allows everyone else to as well - massive STD risk
/r/TheRedPill24/02/21 02:00 AM
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They absolutely raised my standards, which is a catch 22. My attraction threshhold in a woman became higher after, but it also meant I really needed to keep my ship tight if I'm to continue meeting that standard.
/r/TheRedPill24/02/21 01:59 AM
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Yeah - all of the escorts I've seen are GFE
/r/TheRedPill24/02/21 01:56 AM
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If you can avoid it, I would. No shame in using one to get over your hangups with sex if you're a virgin or it's been a while though
/r/TheRedPill24/02/21 01:56 AM
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I'm in the same boat as you salary wise - good to see another successful brother on here Interesting - I've never invited someone directly over from Tinder. Interested to hear your messaging approach - I could be more direct
/r/TheRedPill24/02/21 01:54 AM
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I went through the exact same thing. Met a girl early Jan and I haven't felt that comfortable with a girl in a while. Valentine's week she started to back off, gave me a 'it's not you its my busy schedule' type of bs response for ignoring my txts when we were in the middle of planning a date (which she has never done), and I haven't messaged her since. It pissed me off too, especially given i was introduced to her by mutuals - she wasn't a rando. The best thing you can do as other have mentioned…
/r/askTRP22/02/21 08:01 PM
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It depends what your goals are. I’m about to move from Boston to NYC for the below reasons: 1)NYC is the best city in the US interms of single girls to guys in ratio. I’ve heard Austin isn’t as good. Also, NYC has a ton of international people so you get more variety 2)So much to do - there’s an almost unlimited amount of food to get or places to check out in Manhattan or the boroughs 3)Rent prices absolutely plummeted during COVID in NYC. Although still high, many places are offering months off…
/r/askTRP18/02/21 11:34 AM
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It's funny - I fit that same trend and had to work hard to push past it. Why? Because I experienced things in my life which had a similar psychological impact as what those girls may have gone through - just in a different context. I was just as damaged/toxic as they were and we were kindred spirits. Toi give an example - First gf had severe daddy issues and saw men as trophies (rich exec Dad who verbally and physically beat her, her mom, her sis) 2nd gf was a divorced single mom who was a bum (…
/r/askTRP24/01/21 04:55 PM
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It's a shit test - it sounds like your situation with her now is better than it has ever been. Don't change a thing, nothing needs to be altered
/r/askTRP16/12/20 04:53 PM
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How do you typically approach? Curious because I’m looking into cold approaching
/r/askTRP18/10/20 01:31 AM
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If it wasn’t a focal point - atleast unconsciously - then you wouldn’t be having the problem outlined in your post
/r/askTRP10/10/20 04:46 PM
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If it takes you 3 weeks of lavish spending just to get a bj, then I’d re evaluate your dating strategy and read the sidebar
/r/askTRP08/10/20 07:39 PM
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Yeahhh don't hit up escorts, especially if you're struggling getting real women. The thing about getting real girls is it's a payoff of your investment in self, while hot escorts are also shagging 80yo slobs with 0 game because they had the money. It will also make you more entitled to sex when you get into the habit of banging a girl the second a door closes and cash is exchanged, causing you to be really impatient and needy with real girls - you can't ignore the human aspect of women like you …
/r/askTRP07/10/20 02:13 PM
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I'm in a city in the Northeast and social distancing is really intense, yeah. Only some places have gyms open, most towns are outdoor only dining, and the gyms that are open have queues to the weight room with every other machine taped up to ensure 6 ft apart. Everyone is wearing a mask
/r/askTRP06/10/20 01:27 PM
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Thanks - I’ll take a look
/r/askTRP06/10/20 11:24 AM
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The last girl I dated, the first time I kissed her was on the 3rd night, but she spent that night in my bed (and did alot more). If she doesn't kiss you it isn't the end of the world - be cool with her boundaries. Forcing a kiss if she says no will hurt your SMV
/r/askTRP03/09/20 07:56 PM
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Right but your girl will get jealous, even if you aren’t. I don’t know how you’re meeting girls now but try a more serious approach. If you’re looking for a good Christian girl then do Christian Mingle vs Tinder, go to church and participate in different activities there - my friend met his wife that way
/r/askTRP03/09/20 05:29 AM
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I would move out. If she’s acting like that now - imagine what would happen if you brought a good Christian girl over and your roommate starts her antics of getting you jealous. That relationship won’t last very long
/r/askTRP03/09/20 05:02 AM
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How old is she? Did you meet her on apps i assume?
/r/askTRP03/09/20 04:29 AM
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I'm in the same boat as you, but in my early 30s. I'm also 6'4'', I make $200k+ now, and I have 0 debt. I've been going to the gym for years and I have a build I'm happy with, I've hooked up with plenty of women - want an LTR but it's hard to find one. My issue was I used to have alot of debt, I used to not being able to afford certain luxuries, I used to live in my parents basement and never be able to pull girls. I used to say I wanted to be a millionaire badly - but that was moreso out of sca…
/r/askTRP02/09/20 12:57 PM
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A few tips from a guy who's on the otherside after swallowing the pill a few years back: less is more. Once you get the number, text only for logistics. If you read Rational Male, you'd of learned about three things: 1) The Golden Ratio - communicate to her about 2/3rd the time she does you 2) A woman's sexuality is fueled by her imagination. The golden ratio works because she'll fill in the gaps with her ideal of you (omg is he talking to other girls? what's he up to? why isn't he feeding me at…
/r/askTRP29/08/20 08:56 PM
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Yeah - I just say be careful. If you struggle with attracting 7+s and don't have true abundance, I recommend against it. The reason being is one of a few: 1) After sleeping with these girls, you'll get a sense in your gut that they really just were into the money and aren't really into you. Do this enough without abundance of organic sexual relationships in your life and it'll start wrecking your inner game 2) These girls are sleeping with 60,70,80 year old fat fucks for the same amount. This ti…
/r/askTRP29/08/20 08:35 PM
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This is the right answer. I was in your same spot a few years back and needed to do this to move on. It's one of the hardest things I've ever had to do but I've grown significantly since - and she hit the wall hard (went from thin and curvy to obese)
/r/askTRP03/08/20 12:32 AM
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' It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was. '
/r/askTRP03/08/20 12:30 AM
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I chose to live home for a few years after college to pay off my debt. Once I managed that, my first apartment was a high rise in the nicest neighborhood in my city and I've never looked back. I don't regret that time, although it wasn't easy. The decision is yours, but mine paid off in spades
/r/askTRP28/07/20 06:40 AM
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Agreed. This is actually one of the main tenants of the book "No More Mr. Niceguy". Having strong masculine friendships is key to becoming a less needy, more emotionally independent man
/r/TheRedPill20/07/20 09:15 AM
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Absolutely man - you are not alone. I was in a toxic back and forth for 1.5 years with who I thought was my soul mate. She was BPD and the hot and cold switches she had drove me crazy, depressed, suicidal. It lead me to discovering TRP. You sound like where I was back then. Stick to it, read and reread what you see here until it's an unconscious part of your psyche. 4 years later, I make 3x what I did back then ($200k+), I'm in the best shape of my life, have my own high rise single bedroom, and…
/r/askTRP18/07/20 09:26 PM
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As a reformed beta, the biggest change I made was have an IDGAF mentality towards women. Getting fit and my own place had a big impact towards that - as well as absorbing the material here, especially Rational Male and Chateau Hearste’s rules. My first date close rate is around 60%, with 90% closing on a day 2. I never worry about getting sex anymore, and have been more focused on getting higher quality women (educated, driven, etc)
/r/askTRP17/03/20 09:35 PM
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Sounds like your classic BPD girl - switching between idealizing and demonizing you. Better off without man
/r/askTRP05/11/19 10:32 PM
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It's fine - soft next and hit her up at a later date. I do pulse checks with former plates all the time and each one has come back into orbit after a period. Recently started hooking up with 2 plates that broke from last year, and a 3rd started txting me again
/r/askTRP29/10/19 04:50 PM
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Very true. From vanilla-WotLK I was atleast a semi-hardcore raider. I ended up sleeping with a half dozen groupies during that time. As you said - if you're going to do something, do it well and groupies will follow. Sorry Heartiste - even World of Warcraft. The problem is, outside of WoW I'll admit I wasn't much at the time. Out of shape, etc. Those groupies never stuck around for more than a few lays
/r/TheRedPill18/10/18 01:04 PM
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Thanks for the advice. I originally hurt my lower back doing deadlifts a few years back. Not during the actual lift, but I decided to re-wrack the loaded weight instead of dropping it, ended up tilting the weight and it all went to the lower-left area of my lower back. Lately I was pushing for higher weight (trying to finally get 315) but got a bit too cocky, my form wasn't the greatest. I'll definitely look into the reverse hyper extension machine.
/r/askTRP03/10/18 03:02 PM
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I was in your shoes at 23 - but worse off. I didn't lift, I wasn't fit, and I wasn't even doing that well in school. I was also a virgin. The fact you're lifting and about to graduate is great - I remember the extreme loneliness I felt on Campus when I was alone while my friends had gfs and all these couples walked by. I wished I found TRP at your age ​ My suggestions are the following: Keep up with lifting and improving your style. It's great that you found a stylish haircut and beard. These th…
/r/askTRP31/08/18 06:04 PM
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Yeah - I work in tech. I found that you can make a lot of money in customer facing roles - I'm a Sales Engineer
/r/TheRedPill31/08/18 03:55 PM
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One thing about Boston is that it's a comparatively fit city as well and fitness is big on the apps around here. My friend went from getting 10-12 matches a week to 100+ after posting an Abs pic. I am 31, 6'3'' pulling in over 200k a year, live in a high rise in back bay, and yes, it's easier than before, - but you hit diminishing returns after a certain level of income. That balance is important and frankly, at that point fitness may be the best SMV boost (for me anyway, I'd say I'm around 15-1…
/r/TheRedPill28/08/18 03:21 PM
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Broke up after 3 years and she immediately jumped into a relationship with you - you were her rebound. With rebound relationships, it's very common to lose feelings for your new partner after the honeymoon phase - she was just not emotionally available. That is a big red flag. Not to mention she seemed to have a broken morale compass with the cheating and sadism - sounds like her ex may have been abusive for a reason
/r/TheRedPill14/08/18 01:41 PM
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Haha - I've actually read both of those a while back. Might be worth going through once more - thanks
/r/askTRP14/08/18 12:46 PM
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True, but I feel like oneitis is more of an obsession than actual love
/r/askTRP14/08/18 12:44 PM
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Haha such good timing. I'll try and listen to it today
/r/askTRP14/08/18 12:44 PM
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Nothing to that degree, but she absolutely was my oneitis
/r/askTRP14/08/18 03:52 AM
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I'll check that out - thanks
/r/askTRP14/08/18 03:51 AM
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Thank you - I will consider this when I feel those thoughts creeping up again
/r/askTRP14/08/18 03:51 AM
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I absolutely was a broken man. She caught me at a tale end of a breakup and she got her hooks in - not to mention I had no semblance of frame and low SMV. I was as beta as you get Thankfully I have had her blocked on social media for years now and burnt/deleted any pics of her or us. She found me on Snap last year and I caved and accepted, but thanks to my brother - he took my phone and blocked her on there too (we never communicated, only viewing each other's stories) so it's been a year+ now o…
/r/askTRP14/08/18 03:49 AM
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You should check out SLAA meetings. It sounds like you suffer from Love addiction. It may help you internalize where that's coming from and how to redirect that in more fulfilling ways
/r/TheRedPill09/08/18 01:03 PM
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Yeah. To clarify, I am aware of the glycenic index and where things fall. I just tend to falter to HG carbs since they're similar (no brown rice as an option? Oh well I'll just get Mexican rice, it's not THAT big a deal), which is why I'm looking to try out Keto as an experiment and see where it leads. Being a former fat boy (267lbs no muscle during college years, 205 now with working out, 6'3"), those old binging neuropathways are still there and can be a bitch of a temptation at times
/r/askTRP03/08/18 02:27 AM
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Awesome - I'm looking forward to it. I'm starting on Monday. Do you have any favorite recipes?
/r/askTRP03/08/18 02:21 AM
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I am - you are right. I do sometimes go for more helpings of stuff like baked sweet potato fries, black beans, even fruit. I feel like I make more excuses when I'm out and about too such as 'oh I haven't had too many carbs today, I can afford to have a wheat beer', then that opens the door for a 2nd, etc - and apply that mentality to pizza and anything else. The latter portion of this comment though is me falling for a logical fallacy egged on by sugar cravings and you have merit
/r/askTRP02/08/18 11:39 PM
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Use this to eyeball where you're at. In my experience, you're usually higher than you think you are: https://www.builtlean.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/09/body-fat-photos-1.jpg
/r/askTRP24/07/18 07:51 PM
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Keep cutting IMO. Get down to 12ish percent and then from there, do lean bulks to higher teens and cut down from there
/r/askTRP24/07/18 05:25 PM
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Take it from someone who suffered the negative effects of this. For years I was doing nothing but seeing prostitutes because of your logic above. As a result, I went without a partner and went without a 'civilian lay' for longer than I would like to admit. Then I got sloppy. Stopped really working out, stopped trying to improve my social circle, and budgeted every month for prostitutes. You know what irked me most? When my friends got into relationships with beautiful, red pilled women. I got je…
/r/askTRP09/07/18 04:35 AM
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You just made me cringe because that was me before I stumbled upon Redpill a few years ago. Didn't matter if I was at a party or in the middle of work - the second I saw that phone call I was stepping outside and answering it. Sometimes for hours. Ugh.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/18 08:09 PM
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In my experience, when I was suffering from low self esteem, insecurity, feelings of worthlessness - getting a woman made my life worse, not better. That inner, personal plague I suffered from put me into the most toxic, unhealthy relationships which did nothing but make things worse. No More Mr Nice Guys talks alot about that
/r/TheRedPill02/05/18 10:29 PM
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Hey man - I'm also 6'3 and just wondering what weight you're at with 9.2% bodyfat?
/r/TheRedPill17/04/18 06:49 PM
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Shit's getting too messy for a plate. Do not speak with the BF at all and I'd recommend dropping her
/r/askTRP14/03/18 05:41 PM
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48 Laws of Power is a bit much for someone completely uninitiated. No More Mr. Nice Guy would've been the better lead off for sure - as it's immediately relatable to him
/r/TheRedPill07/03/18 10:37 PM
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Lol no. I had it really bad with them (hence my username). You'll get thoughts, fantasies, temptations yes, but you aren't doomed. Once I distanced myself far enough from that life I've been able to sleep around with normie women the normie way.
/r/askTRP07/03/18 08:07 PM
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He could have been super possessive, jealous, or 'too nice'. Let her figure out why she shouldn't want to fuck you over her ex, don't self sabotage
/r/askTRP06/03/18 06:33 PM
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Becareful - she might be projecting
/r/askTRP21/02/18 07:00 PM
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Way too many red flags. It seems like you're the one constantly doing the chasing and have to talk her out of trying other cocks? That should be a given on her end. Either she's going to cheat or she has already. I would hard next - as you have feelings for her so plating is a bit tough at the moment
/r/askTRP06/02/18 06:55 PM
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Ugh reading this brings back painful memories that set me on this path. Feels good to be able to look back and feel disillusioned
/r/TheRedPill06/02/18 06:14 PM
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Oof - it's an uphill battle now. She wanted a dick appointment and you didn't deliver. It doesn't hurt to txt her after the weekend
/r/askTRP02/02/18 04:21 PM
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Sounds like a long date - I feel like you could've skipped the last venue you went to (after she paid for drinks). You should give more plausible deniability with the recommendation to go back to your place as well. You were making out and feeling her up and only recommended going back to your place after she stated it was time for her to go home, which is the equivalent to forcing a kiss when you walk a girl to her car at the end of the night. It needs to come more natural
/r/TheRedPill30/01/18 06:32 PM
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Uhh this girl screams drama. I would've walked out on the spot - that is what I would consider one of the worst dates I could've had
/r/TheRedPill25/01/18 04:18 PM
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Keep reading and internalizing the side bar - you sound alot like how i was. It's all mental at this point - you need to work on your mental frame. From what you're saying, I think you put women on too high of a pedestal
/r/askTRP22/01/18 10:48 PM
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It's a combination of not knowing what you're doing, seeing how far away you are from the other gym bros, and that doubt spirals into believing everyone is looking at and judging everything you're doing. Every one of us here went through the same thing - but in my long tenure at the gym, I've never conversed with anyone who wasn't cool or helpful. It's in your head
/r/askTRP22/01/18 10:32 PM
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Girls are all about plausible deniability if you haven't slept with them yet. Your best response after her 'No no I mean if you're looking for sex then I'm not coming over' would've just been something like 'We wont do anything you aren't comfortable with'. It looks like she was still game after that msg tho, and you could've redeemed yourself by using that same response above but that came out as pretty butthurt. I'd say you definitely fucked that one up but learn and move on
/r/askTRP22/01/18 10:30 PM
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You did escalate in what sounds like a non-sexual setting so she may have been caught offguard, yet she was receptive enough to suggest going on a date. I don't think you fucked up - just take her out (she knows what you want now) and escalating should be easier
/r/askTRP12/01/18 08:41 PM
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Work on increasing your SMV in the meantime. Beware of falling for the fantasy of 'if we werent together I'd be getting all the sex with all the hotties!'. It won't be that easy - you even admitted that before her you've only been with 5s and 6s. All guys are skeptical of commitment and feel how you do after a certain amount of time. Is your SMV higher than it was when you were averaging 5s and 6s? If not, then that'll probably be where you're going to be stuck at. Tread carefully
/r/TheRedPill27/07/17 08:06 PM
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They both just seem super nervous, nothing more. People are looking into this way too much
/r/TheRedPill27/07/17 03:13 PM
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Agreed - they both just seemed super nervous and overwhelmed, nothing more
/r/TheRedPill27/07/17 03:12 PM
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Great post. One thing that personally helped me - especially with that last point - is getting myself in shape. It's easier to see yourself as the prize and drive that mindset when you're satisfied with what you see in the mirror
/r/TheRedPill09/07/17 08:50 AM
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Yeah - It's in the works. I also visited Japan - but had nowhere near the level of success
/r/TheRedPill09/07/17 08:49 AM
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If she was cheating on you, she wasn't really Alpha Widowed. She misses your comfort and validation, not your cock - she misses the Beta. Don't give her that
/r/askTRP26/05/17 07:39 PM
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Let me add one thing to the lifting thing. Being an alpha isnt just about looking good, but having a leg up to your fellow men. When i only lifted, i definitely looked better. But when I added muay thai and boxing to that? I started feeling much more confident - and able to hold my ground/become healthily confrontational with others when needed. I highly recommend a combat sport to suppliment lifting
/r/TheRedPill20/05/17 04:13 PM
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Yeah it makes sense - same here, no shame in the past. I think it's because we adopted the more masculine role of being the gatekeepers of commitment, which adds to the attraction. I remember this girl I was hooking up with - I made sure to never say the four letter word. When I cut it off with her, she was like 'I know you never said it but your actions did!' Sigh
/r/TheRedPill11/05/17 02:36 PM
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Regarding your anti-relationship mindset, I adopted that as well. Funny thing is, as soon as I adopted that, it seemed like women would get more attached to me and bring up 'dating' etc in conversations here and there. I remember when I used to be the one trying to get them in a relationship cringe
/r/TheRedPill11/05/17 02:01 PM
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Haha - one of my old coworkers was just like this. When I first met him, I hated him. 6'2, former football player - all american look. Built like a truck, strong jawline, high cheekbones, hunter's brow, you name it. Later on - I became really close to him. He never realized how attractive he was and 1) intimidated many women 2) got anxious and thought they didn't like him because of how weird they acted around him. Ended up dating a less attractive girl who was really confident
/r/TheRedPill09/05/17 09:58 PM
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My favorite read on this: http://www.sharischreiber.com/anycost.html
/r/askTRP09/05/17 09:23 PM
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Just LTR, not marry
/r/askTRP09/05/17 04:37 PM
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Sometimes guys will do loserish things, like let a girl treat them badly or repeatedly pursue a girl who doesn’t care about them, and justify it by saying “I don’t really care about her, I just want to fuck.” This is a bad idea, because even though you consciously think you “don’t give a fuck,” by pursuing her, you become emotionally invested, and by allowing her treat you like shit, you subconsciously re-wire your brain to feel like a beta male. Even if you didn't give a fuck before, now you do…
/r/TheRedPill09/05/17 02:40 PM
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Avoid. The reason I ended up at TRP is because I got wrecked by a Single mom. All of the goods you mentioned were there, that's how I got hooked. The list: Good Very attractive. She was the spitting image of a 23 year old Eva Mendes (when it started). To this day I can't see Eva Mendes without my heart skipping a beat Initiated contact and meetups all the time, it was incredibly flattering High sex drive Said she's 'independent, doesnt want a father figure for her kid' Constantly told me how muc…
/r/askTRP09/05/17 02:25 PM
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When I was 19, I was extremely socially awkward. I commuted and had no friends in college or girl experience. I was also obese - 270 pounds. I am now 30, making six figs for a few years, in great shape, and have a notch count of 60+ women. You need to work hard for it - and coming here is the right step. Oh, and I also still like video games - but guess what, with all the rest, the girls definitely dont give a shit
/r/askTRP08/05/17 01:42 AM
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Great post. I especially want to applaud you on your final point. I've lived in my current city my entire life. Back in fall, I went on a trip to Hong Kong. I never felt more of a sense of bliss and confidence than when I was there - I fell in love with the city. When I got back home I realized wow - I don't miss this place or anyone in it. It immediately made me realize I needed to get the hell out of here. It's a thought I was flirting with for a while, but that trip did it for me. It's scary,…
/r/TheRedPill30/04/17 09:40 PM
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People at work treat you better, take you more seriously. Women eye you more and more. Interms of game? I actually felt attractive. When you reach that point where you take your shirt off and really like what you see, that is the real changing point. In bed, it went from 'omg this is amazing look how great she is and feels' to 'I am rocking this girl's world' - that mentality shift, the 'I'm the prize' mentality, that confidence, changed everything for me. It's one of the best things I've ever d…
/r/askTRP28/04/17 02:51 PM
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Honestly - for me - to really follow what the Sex God Method followed, I had to feel really good and confident about my body. I wasn't able to successfully apply some of the concepts like 'I'm the prize' in a sexual context until I really began embracing my masculinity. There's alot of pre-work that goes into building that mentality
/r/askTRP26/04/17 10:13 PM
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your actions show you want to raise two of someone elses
/r/TheRedPill25/04/17 07:27 PM
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clearly you didn't internalize much if you're trying to see where it goes with a near-wall single mother of 2 lol
/r/TheRedPill25/04/17 06:25 PM
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Very true. The past two weeks I haven't been 'motivated' to go to the gym, but I still went 10 days out of 14 - whenever I get there, my body goes on autopilot and does what it needs to do, and I feel great afterwards. I think this aligns well with delayed gratificaiton
/r/TheRedPill25/04/17 06:09 PM
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I'm the same way. I'm agnostic - I don't quite agree with alot of the 'religions of Abraham', but in my gut I believe there's a higher power out there. Hah - I also do cold showers, infact it's a meditative practice in itself (snaps you into the present moment) - and frankly, amazing for muscle recovery. I'm no expert in Theology and finding a religion that works for you, but if you want to work on meditation, there's a nifty app called 'Headspace' which teaches you how to meditate on training w…
/r/askTRP20/04/17 01:14 PM
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Haha that reminds of a story. Two summers ago, I went on a cabin trip with about a dozen friends. One of them is a billy beta who brought his older, less attractive GF with him. Anyway, I recall we were talking about attractive women (she's an HB6 at best), and she goes "you'll never find girls like that in real life, unless they're prostitutes - we're the real deal (referring to another girl there that was an HB5)". Sad thing is - he buys into it
/r/TheRedPill16/04/17 03:24 PM
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To add to this, I believe him taking her out to a hibachi dinner (which where I reside is not a cheap dinner, meals alone range $25-30 a pop let alone drinks) gave her that initial beta expression - causing the 3 date wait
/r/TheRedPill14/04/17 04:51 PM
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30 y/o, living in a prime location in a big city, making 100k+ for a few years now, lifting, mma, great circle of close male friends, and for some reason young 20s girls are easier to pick up than they ever have been. When you truly prioritize yourself and become 'healthily selfish', life satisfaction will skyrocket
/r/askTRP12/04/17 07:23 PM
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Sounds like you do good with HB8s and below but anything higher freaks you out. Sounds like your external SMV is high (you can clearly open doors with the most attractive women), but your inner game can use work. Mindful Meditation can help with this
/r/askTRP10/04/17 09:18 PM
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Yup - Cauliflower too. No problem
/r/askTRP10/04/17 05:26 PM
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How are your Vitamin D levels? Some suggestions: Add more garlic to your diet Broccoli is king (helps keep T from converting to estrogen) Eat more red meat Take a Vitamin D supplement (studies show there's a direct correlation between Vit D lvls and T) Take Zinc and Magnesium before going to bed (natural T boosters) Make sure you lift heavy on leg days Make sure you're doing something competitive and heart pounding (intramural sports, boxing, etc)
/r/askTRP10/04/17 04:55 PM
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Block her on all social media
/r/askTRP06/04/17 09:10 PM
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How long were you two together? I was in a toxic 2 year and I didn't start getting better until I blocked her on all social media. Thoughts of her still come and go but blocking her has helped immensely. You need to bite the bullet and do this.
/r/askTRP04/04/17 07:11 PM
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Ugh yeah, I tried to do so with a buddy of mine as well. He dated this single mom who he let move in with him instantly. She went back with her ex and asked me what to do. Told him to kick her out and ghost her. Instead, he forced himself to be 'mature enough' to remain friends - while she constantly brings her ex over to fuck in the next room over, all the while she continues using my buddy as an emotional tampon. It was his birthday recently and her post on his wall went something like 'Thank …
/r/TheRedPill03/04/17 10:30 PM
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Do your 'bros' mock each other? If not, you're mad low on the pecking order in your group and are the punching bag. You aren't doing yourself any favors staying in that dynamic. Read the sidebar and pick up some of the books mentioned as well. You may want to read Gorilla Mindset as it seems like you have some self-talk issues. Rationale Male and No More Mr Nice Guy are crucial too
/r/askTRP29/03/17 03:28 PM
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Nice man! I had a similar experience with Tinder in HK - they love Americans. My buddy - who was 6'1 and 300+ pounds - hooked up with a girl 7 years younger and super fit too. It's another world Please let me know how you make out in Japan. I remember trying the passport feature in Osaka and it wasn't as hot as I expected, although I hear Japanese girls can be even more gaga over Americans than the HK/Thai girls - maybe Tinder isn't that great there
/r/TheRedPill28/03/17 01:25 PM
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Great post, man! I am going to pickup Headspace. Have you seen significant progress with it?
/r/TheRedPill27/03/17 09:27 PM
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Hong Kong. Amazing international crossroads. Great food, a ton of things to do, and the women love foreigners
/r/askTRP27/03/17 07:08 PM
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It's a great help for those beginning to unplug - goes into prioritizing yourself, dread game, getting your own masculine hobbies and the importance of male friends, etc
/r/askTRP24/03/17 10:03 PM
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No More Mister Nice Guy is a great read
/r/askTRP24/03/17 09:52 PM
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So because he's married we should completely disregard all points on plate spinning and other RP tenants influenced by his Rationale Male books as well? I understand what you're saying about time and money. If you want a quick, typically good fuck, yes a prostitute can give you that. What I'm trying to say is that there is 0 seduction or SMV on your end involved, no captain-first mate dynamic, no shit tests to deal with, no frame to hold, no need to work out or dress nice or groom well, no plate…
/r/askTRP22/03/17 06:45 PM
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If you want an RP way of fucking prostitutes, be her pimp. Throwing cash at an actress that'll take a nut from anyone is beta bucks. Both Rollo and No More Mr. Nice Guy share that same stance on Prostitutes, and if this guy is a nice-guy virgin at 23, a prostitute is not the best idea
/r/askTRP22/03/17 06:26 PM
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You're skipping the entire seduction process and paying with your hard earned money what you can get for free - it is the most literal version of beta bucks, and the girl is fucking 1/10 socially awkward obese older men for the same price. It's false abundance if anything and can harm your progress in improving your SMV and practicing your game.
/r/askTRP22/03/17 05:56 PM
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Don't - because I did. Associating your first sexual act with something shameful (which it was for me) isn't a good first step to begin your sex life. Seducing a girl and sleeping with her organically is a radically different process. Also, once you open that door - it's very hard to close. I got addicted
/r/askTRP21/03/17 05:31 PM
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Yup. I was fit, stylish and unconfident at one point. Doors would open for me, girls would approach me, but my 'vibe' was off and it wouldn't go places. When I became more successful financially, I was heavier but confident, and I was able to pull girls like moths to a flame - being fit helps but from my concrete experience, confidence is king
/r/TheRedPill10/03/17 04:47 PM
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Yup - dynamics are extremely difficult to change. Two years and many conquests later, I still have beta creeping up on me when my previous oneitis tries to get in touch. That emotional hijack is still there to some extent
/r/TheRedPill09/03/17 03:46 PM
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you act all high and mighty about having standards when it comes to women. Honestly, I don't see that at all in your actions - that's your ego doing the talking. Why? Because look at your actions, not your words: You're fat You don't have many friends You dont have much confidence You admit you're low social status IMO you're lucky to even get female attention at all. Pull your head out of your ass and walk the walk, read the sidebar, and understand that the reason those are the only girls that …
/r/askTRP08/03/17 02:28 PM
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1 more - travel, even if alone. And travel to a foreign country. NOTHING hijacked my mindset like getting completely uprooted from my day to day life and all the memories/thought patterns associated with it. I personally need to travel internationally once (preferably twice) a year. My college Eurotrip broadened my perspective so much that I killed my social anxiety and depression
/r/TheRedPill03/03/17 04:33 PM
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Yup - was in Hong Kong on vacation and couldn't believe how easy it was as a foreigner. It doesn't matter what color either - black, brown, white - they love them all
/r/TheRedPill02/03/17 11:13 PM
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Yup - I lift 3x a week and muay thai 3x a week. Even going against a heavy bag isn't enough, you really need to spar to see how exhausting a real fight can be
/r/TheRedPill01/03/17 03:57 PM
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Referring to No More Mr. Nice Guy in this context isn't smart. In the book, he states 'Nice guys use prostitutes to get their sexual needs met'. If anything, it'll push guys even further away from it
/r/TheRedPill24/02/17 07:57 PM
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Well, what life do you want to have? If you quit video games with nothing else going on, you'll eventually relapse
/r/askTRP23/02/17 08:54 PM
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Don't spread yourself too thin at first. Establish a strong habit in one area and once you keep that going with minimal willpower, add another. For example, if diet/exercise is a goal of yours, focus on that for a month, and once you start legit not wanting to eat like crazy and develop an addiction to that post workout high, you're no longer going to need to use so much willpower to prevent yourself from eating and to get yourself into the gym. Use that sense of urgency to keep your existing ha…
/r/askTRP20/02/17 04:07 AM
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When I was in Hong Kong, there was a nightlife area called LKF where alot of local girls will head to to hook up with foreigners. Tinder was popping there too. It was way too easy. I heard that Tokyo has a similar nightlife area called Roppongi. Not sure about Beijing. One of the girls I hooked up with in HK told me that a niche of Japanese girls go gaga over white guys and it's quite easy. If you're as tall and aesthetic as you say, you'll have it easy if your frame is tight
/r/askTRP20/02/17 04:02 AM
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I've been there man. Found the red pill and cut her off. Best decision I made - a year later and I have no women in my life that do that, and I ended up dumping a beautiful girl who was in love with me because I wasn't feeling it anymore (something I never would have saw myself doing and never have). You made the right call, and you need this level of pain to fully swallow the pill - you're changing your beliefs at their core, and your mind/body sure as fuck does not want to do that until it abs…
/r/askTRP16/02/17 09:51 PM
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goodjob man!
/r/askTRP16/02/17 05:59 PM
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Both - strength will build your inner confidence, size will improve your external SMV. Eric Cressy and John Romaniello have some good routines that encompass both
/r/askTRP15/02/17 08:25 PM
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can you explain water manipulation/depletion cycle? or have link to good articles on it?
/r/TheRedPill15/02/17 12:42 PM
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Hits home, especially the 'temporary replacement' part. I was the rebound of a 23 year old divorcee single mother oneitis i had for years. Was mad beta then and went through the worst emotional pain of my life - cognitive dissonance that my snowflake oneitis soul mate went back to her abusive ex husband despite all the times she promised 'nothing will happen between us'. I feel blessed for that experience however - as that nearly suicidal emotional pain is what I needed to perform the paradigm s…
/r/TheRedPill03/02/17 08:47 PM
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That's something to keep in mind. The HK girls my buddy and I were with were both gaga over us though. However, we're both pretty tall (6'+)and are freshly 30 and both very successful for our ages. He's a heavy set guy but had this 23 year old 100 pound doll of a girl all over him. It was ridiculously easy for the both of us
/r/TheRedPill02/02/17 02:39 PM
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Boston - and I highly recommend it. There is no language barrier like other asian cities. I am seriously considering moving there for a year
/r/TheRedPill01/02/17 03:26 PM
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Isn't that all women? They're with you because you're higher status than them
/r/TheRedPill01/02/17 02:36 PM
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Yeah. I went to Hong Kong last November and it was like shooting fish in a barrel. The thing about China as a white guy too is that white girls there have alot of trouble getting dates as well -so you're a hot commodity for both nationalities - atleast in HK. I was matching and meeting up with Model-quality international girls, which I rarely find in MA. I'm already planning on trying to live there for a year
/r/TheRedPill01/02/17 02:22 PM
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Haha it's a process man. I've been there. Had a girl I was crazy about go on a date with me and later tell me she was surprised I didn't take her back to my place because she was clearly giving me signs she was ready to sleep with me. Getting out of your head and reading their covert indirect communication is a process that is well worth mastering. Looking back, after more TRP, she definitely was "my friends tell me I should try online dating, that I really just need to sleep with someone to mov…
/r/TheRedPill30/01/17 05:00 PM
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Geographic location is absolutely important. New York, Chicago, Minneapolis, Boston are great singles cities off the top of my head (New York being the best). Make the move - leave the cage. You wont regret it.
/r/askTRP20/01/17 03:02 PM
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Got it - what's LHW? I'm currently lifting and doing muay thai but I'm trying to find a way to get bjj in there too
/r/askTRP14/01/17 03:39 PM
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Do you lift as well? How many days a week do you do MMA?
/r/askTRP14/01/17 12:27 AM
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Whatever you feel more confident in. One of my plates is an Asian with sensitive skin who straight up told me when we met that my facial hair would hurt her and she didn't like my body hair. I did not give a fuck and now she all of a sudden loves both.
/r/askTRP13/01/17 06:29 PM
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It's tough. If you're low on the pecking order, people will work hard to keep you there. The ones that do that - cut them off. I had to
/r/askTRP13/01/17 05:39 PM
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Women are as entitled as ever these days - it sucks. Thinking about it more though, it concerns me that you're OK with dating other single moms. Betas typically end up with Single Moms and are OK with it. It sounds like your perceived SMV may have dropped. Another common behavioral tell from TRP is that women will act beta around perceived alphas they're very attracted to - which means they wouldn't protest your parental status. Are you sure your mentality hasn't changed since you became single …
/r/askTRP11/01/17 07:19 PM
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Any sort of acknowledgement will work. I once locked eyes with a cute girl in French class back in the college days, I just confidentially nodded at her upwards and she beamed and shyly looked away .Asked her out right after and she said yes. It's a very easy qualifier
/r/askTRP11/01/17 07:11 PM
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This is way too broad. In the end your goal is to feel validated by no one but yourself. Why? Because if you're so easily brightened by validation, then you'll be just as likely to get crushed from rejection/criticism. Keep reading the side bar
/r/askTRP11/01/17 05:06 PM
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Read what you just stated about why you don't want to date Single Mom's (logistical nightmare, might have baby daddy issues, etc). It's the same reason these girls don't want to date you - baggage. I know you absolutely love your kid, but being very practical, it does hurt your options. If you're just looking to plate, you honestly don't even need to mention him. Save that for a plate you want to get more serious about - your son shouldn't be meeting these random plates anyway to keep him from g…
/r/askTRP11/01/17 05:02 PM
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This hits hard. I've deployed TRP principles since last January. Around August of last year - I was able to make great progress internalizing the 'I'm the prize' mentality. I was doing the following: Lifting 4 days a week, Muay Thai 2 days a week Receiving constant Praise at work and studying certs to advance my career Taking motorcycle lessons and staying socially active Perfect diet Met up with my Oneitis for the first time in 6 months and she was going gaga texting, calling, and wanting to ha…
/r/TheRedPill11/01/17 02:01 PM
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She can sense the dread caused from her behavior. That's a great trait to have
/r/TheRedPill11/01/17 02:51 AM
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To expand, you may even find a place you'd prefer over your homeland. I took a trip with a friend to Hong Kong and had the time of my life - and both of us had flings with local girls too. Very tempted to try living there
/r/TheRedPill10/01/17 05:37 PM
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Yup - my brother went through it. Dated a girl in the office for 6 months, nasty breakup, the aftermath got him reported to HR and fired
/r/TheRedPill05/01/17 12:58 PM
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Although I do not understand the cuck mindset at all, if you want to be genuinely dominant and rough with her, read Sex God Method - specifically the sections about dominance and dirty talk
/r/askTRP10/11/16 03:56 AM
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Add more broccoli/coliflower and garlic in your diet. Supplement for Vitamin D3 if you arent getting much sunlight (which most people who work dont), take zinc and magnesium supplements before bed, spread out how often you choke the chicken, lift alot - dont skip leg day (leg day helps with test production since it works the pelvic area).
/r/TheRedPill03/11/16 02:26 AM
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Almost everytime I hung out with a girl and we slept together, she would indicate something to the lines of us not having sex. It's her anti-slut defense kicking in. When it does happen, she can just tell her friends 'it just happened' rather than planning it. Give it a shot, but if you're getting that frustrated it sounds like you simply lack abundance. Have you read Sex God Method? Also, if she keeps resisting, try freezing her out. Completely stopping making out and turning the lights on to d…
/r/askTRP28/10/16 09:43 PM
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I didn't get my degree until I was 25 - and I made six figs by the time i was 28. The struggle you're going through now? If you pull yourself out of it - you'll be one resilient motherfucker. I was in your shoes. I was overweight ,WoW addicted, socially awkward, got dumped by my WoW GF that I was madly in love with even though we never slept together, and wanted to die. I got excused for 6 months for medical leave due to the severity of my depression and sought therapy. You aren't too late - and…
/r/askTRP24/10/16 07:54 PM
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At first - but when you start realizing you can only get any when you pay for it, it gets depressing
/r/askTRP22/10/16 12:39 AM
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Nah I meant that I would feel shame after the fact - that I have to resort to paying for it to get any. Had one amazing encounter with a girl and the agency accidentally texted me her next appointment details - which was 15 minutes right after I left the door. Saw a nervous guy walking by me as i was heading to the lot and he was older and overweight. Ruined the fantasy real quick.
/r/askTRP21/10/16 04:57 PM
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Thanks for the advice. For the longest time I was your typical WoW addict overweight neckbeared with no fashion sense. I always had decent social skills and game but 0 confidence in my sex appeal. I could game a girl into bed but the second the clothes start coming off i get super insecure and freeze - it's like I loved the attention and the idea of having sex, but the actual act terrifies me for whatever reason. Now that I started TRP and am in much better shape + good haircut + fashion + apart…
/r/askTRP21/10/16 04:00 PM
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Thank you. This insight helps alot. To be Frank - you're right. Until recently I lived at home - so getting working logistics and my own place is new to me. Need to work on that abundance
/r/askTRP21/10/16 03:30 PM
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Fucking a fat girl is the female equivalent of fucking an insecure nice guy. Don't put yourself at that level!
/r/askTRP21/10/16 02:21 PM
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That's why you're here - to fundamentally change your perspective of women. Once you do and start seeing yourself as the prize, it gets infinitely easier
/r/TheRedPill20/10/16 05:55 PM
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Eh - there are absolutely special negatives about single moms. If they're younger, clearly bad decision makers. Also - possible baby daddy drama. Had a situation where I wouldn't commit to a single mom and had him blowing up my phone and facebook trying to track me down.
/r/askTRP20/10/16 01:55 PM
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I lost my virginity to the Hobby and it became an addiction. I did have relationships in between and I wont lie - when I'm indulging it kills all desire for me to actually game and expose myself to rejection. However, a GF is infinitely more satisfying. The first time I got an ex in bed and we were cuddling ,watching movies, and fucking - I couldn't even BELIEVE that this is what is considered normal. It's infinitesimally more satisfying than escorts - atleast in my experience. It's worth it, bu…
/r/TheRedPill20/10/16 01:45 PM
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I'm the same way. The idea of TRP is to assist you in becoming the type of man that women will enthusiastically want to fuck - not out of obligation for paying them
/r/TheRedPill20/10/16 01:43 PM
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She could've lied to you about her ex and probably wasn't attracted enough to you to fully let go. It sounds like you were a man version of a whore - giving your commitment without much in return. For all you know she's riding this ex-army (probably dominant and mad alpha) guy's dick every night. AWALT
/r/askTRP20/10/16 04:20 AM
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Keep working on raising your SMV. What other option do you have?
/r/askTRP20/10/16 04:16 AM
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Every woman has different tastes just like every guy has different tastes. I'm tall dark handsome and people assume I love blondes. In reality I love tall brunettes and don't find blondes very attractive.
/r/askTRP20/10/16 04:05 AM
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Alright - I figured as much. Do you perceive that reaction at the end to be in line with what I was thinking?
/r/askTRP19/10/16 10:42 PM
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good point
/r/askTRP19/10/16 10:38 PM
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If a girl has it ingrained in her head that you werent attractive, it's very hard to change that image. If you do, if you slip even once, she will immediately relapse into her default thinking of you as beta - while new girls who dont know the old you will be much more forgiving
/r/askTRP19/10/16 10:37 PM
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Interesting - I didn't think of it that way. I probably should've ghosted her. However, her reaction just seems extremely over the top
/r/askTRP19/10/16 10:34 PM
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If you go through my post, I put this chick on a pedestal and made my needs 2nd. It came out everything she said was a lie and I got hurt bad as a result. If you have a girl on a pedestal, you'll start blinding yourself to her apparent red flags and be in her frame, not your own. Since a woman's love towards a man is out of admiration, if she feels you're more into her and she has more control over you than you do her, it's just a recipe for bad news. Being into someone to that degree is not hea…
/r/askTRP19/10/16 10:26 PM
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Rationale Male, Way of the Superior Man, No More Mr Nice Guy. These books help you experience a paradigm shift that allows you to prioritize your own needs and desires over anyone else. Once you do this and can dictate what behavior you'll accept from others, you'll come out with a strong frame and a way to protect yourself from toxic people who seek to topple it.
/r/askTRP19/10/16 04:37 PM
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I feel like it's more the latter if anything. During my BP days, I always had good social skills but would catch the feels and get needy real quick.
/r/askTRP19/10/16 04:36 PM
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Go into a client-facing, managing role. I started out in a corner coding all the time, now I do nothing but delegate and have never been more social. Go the managing/lead route rather than the technical SME route
/r/askTRP09/10/16 12:08 AM
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Sounds like she had BPD, and sounds like you have aspects of Narcissism. BTW, BPD women will typically choose an easier target after you, and their beds are never cold. Do not put the blame on yourself -as Narcs typically do. I have alot of experience going through something similar, and I'm also in Boston. Feel free to hit me up
/r/TheRedPill23/09/16 05:27 PM
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That mentality only works if you're easily fucking plates just as hot as those escorts like Charlie Sheen - who made that quote - can. If you're on this site - most likely you're not.
/r/TheRedPill07/07/16 01:38 PM
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I don't see how Prostitutes are redpill or 'alpha'. Maybe if you're an older virgin and want to get it out of the way. I always felt The Red Pill was about improving yourself to the point that women would constantly chase after you and fall in love with you way before you do. Prostitutes (in my view) is the definition of Beta Bucks. You're spending money (that any fat, ugly, unmotivated, awkward low SMV man can spend) to sleep with a woman who isn't doing it out of a primal natural desire. Some …
/r/TheRedPill07/07/16 01:27 PM
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In my one and only relationship where I was very alpha and dominant, the woman saw me as her rock, had beta orbiters to complain about me to, and practically worshiped me. However, the one time I called her because I needed emotional support (my grandfather passed away), she had absolutely no idea what to say. I didn't mind too much - but when the dynamic is established that you're the dominant rock, she has no idea what to do when it's the opposite - and frankly, that's OK. Use your family and …
/r/TheRedPill28/06/16 04:54 PM
3

I wouldn't recommend this as a first date for girls you meet on Tinder/etc. The range is a great date spot, yes, but it's really loud and hard to establish rapport if you haven't meshed with the girl yet. Archery Range in this case isn't a bad call
/r/TheRedPill24/06/16 10:01 PM
3

Your height and looks open doors. You need frame and game to walk through. That's where your focus needs to be and that's what you're missing
/r/TheRedPill21/06/16 08:46 PM
2

Wow. I love the comparison to recess!
/r/TheRedPill20/06/16 08:00 PM
1

I saw you noted '4 hour workweek'. I've heard alot about that book - worth reading?
/r/TheRedPill14/06/16 10:07 PM
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There needs to be two more IMO. 4) Spend time each day working toward's your life's purpose (study, work on a side project, write a page in that book you've been wanting to write) 5) cultivate a skill (martial arts, cooking, instrument, new language, etc.) Your 3 will build physical, mental, spiritual health. The other 2 build passion and open your world view
/r/TheRedPill14/06/16 12:24 PM
5

Be very careful. I lost my virginity in Amsterdam, and I proceeded to sleep with 9 prostitutes within those 6 months. It gave me variety and experience. I was able to score a girlfriend with a 10 body but maybe a 7 face later on - note, I was still very overweight (and she was a single mother). A year later, I was beta bux for a 10 - and I found out she was cheating on me with a chizzled 6'2 chad. Went back to escorts, and I found an all time favorite that I would visit. She then disappeared and…
/r/TheRedPill10/06/16 12:31 PM
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Good post. What I did was remove things in my life that caused daily 'shame' hits and replace with activities of self love. For example - working out instead of netflix/video game binging. Cutting out snacks and eating a healthy meal. No porn or erotica. Limited masturbation. Cutting out toxic life-taking people from your life. Taking more effort in dressing better. Blocking the ex instead of social media creeping or texting her when you feel vulnerable. Replace those thousand daily cuts of sham…
/r/TheRedPill06/06/16 04:27 AM
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Because it's false confidence. It's a fantasy. When you watch porn or masturbate, you're fantasizing fucking a hot chick with zero effort. Escorts is that amplified - especially with the 'Girlfriend Experience' service. With escorts - you skip the entire process. You don't deal with shit tests, you don't have to build attraction, you don't need strong frame or game. You can be a socially awkward neckbeard living inyour mom's basement that just happened to save up that month. You enter a room wit…
/r/TheRedPill29/05/16 04:44 PM
8

Beware of the Escort trap. I followed the same path a few years back and it destroyed my game. Before that I was dating 8s-9s with relative ease. Having sex with 10s with 0 effort interms of SMV can make you complacent in your ability to naturally game, intrigue, and attract women - regardless of what you have going on in your life. Those 10s are fucking 1s and 2s who are paying the same price and giving them the same treatment - just tread carefully
/r/TheRedPill29/05/16 02:41 PM
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When you have downtime, I highly recommend small talking with key players in your office. Aside from that - study, study. I made 6 figs in 3 years after college by building the right netwotk and studying certs in my downtime. Then you wont have to pretend
/r/TheRedPill25/05/16 01:19 PM
2

Didn't realize you slept with her - my mistake!
/r/askTRP25/05/16 02:01 AM
1

She misses her orbiter. Don't buy into it
/r/askTRP24/05/16 09:30 PM
4

The general wisdom is to never do long distance
/r/TheRedPill22/05/16 03:07 PM
2

Saw you're 5'9. Buy shoes with heels (tons of business shoes with 1 inch lifts). Nike airs give lifts too. Read male fashion advice for year round boot styles. Buy lift inserts. Shoe with a 1 inch heel and a 2 inch heel insert - congrats, you're 6' tall. And then guess what? you'll notice the impact is much less significant than you anticipated. I'm 6'3'' and my phone sure isn't swimming with hot women. Alpha is a mindset - nothing else. Go tell 5'7'' Tom Cruise that you aren't alpha due to your…
/r/TheRedPill16/05/16 08:53 PM
1

Alot of it is mindset - you became more confident and people respond positively to that as well.
/r/TheRedPill16/05/16 12:15 PM
1

I've been doing Boxing + Muay Thai - boxing essentials and it turns your shins into steel. Great conditioning work out - I substitute my former cardio days with Muay Thai. What's a good body if you don't know how to use it?
/r/TheRedPill15/05/16 03:36 AM
2

I just got over a suicidal oneitis. While in it, not a day went by that I didn't think about her for 90% of the day. I couldn't have a single conversation without bringing her up. I felt like it was absolutely impossible that we don't end up together - the idea of life without her in it was something my mind rejected fully. No girl - regardless of how great or how hot - could compare with her. She was the most beautiful, funny, intelligent thing on earth to my mind. After a year, we finally met …
/r/askTRP10/05/16 06:15 PM
2

that's what I do too. I start with a hot shower and end with a cold one
/r/askTRP10/05/16 03:44 PM
2

If you have a problem with porn and fapping, cut out both for 90 days - let your brain's reward center return to it's natural state in regards to sex. After, I'd say moderate masturbation with fantasy (especially fantasizing that you're the one dominating, not passive) is healthy from a TRP standpoint. Personally, I cut out both permanently - due to feeling shame around masturbation. If you choose to abstain, read up on Sexual Transmutation - it's the real deal
/r/askTRP10/05/16 03:30 PM
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Attractiveness opens doors, you need frame/confidence to successfully walk through
/r/TheRedPill06/05/16 04:18 PM
6

This opens my eyes wide to my past relationships. 2 of them the women 'wore the pants', and both had lackluster sex and ended with them dumping or cheating on me. The other 2 were times I took full control, and the respect and sex was out of this world - they'd initiate many times and would never say no. Thank you
/r/TheRedPill05/05/16 09:44 PM
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2/3. Yeah mine's minimalist at the moment - cutting. Sounds like you're bulking or have alot of size to maintain, intermittent fasting sound unecessary 5. Jeeze, yeah, 14 hours a week on cooking would have me bail on that idea real fast.
/r/askTRP29/04/16 03:06 PM
1

kill the morning shower. Two showers a day dries out your skin badly Intermittent fasting - dont eat breakfast. Get your calories in from 12-8 or 1-9. Water/black coffee/plain tea outside that window For lunch, on days i lift, I do tuna on whole wheat with almonds on the side. For days I don't lift, I do a protein + fat salad (basically dressing/cheese). You typically want to keep carbs to the minimum on days you dont lift. Have a 2 scoop protein shake as a mid day snack For dinner, I just have …
/r/askTRP28/04/16 06:31 PM
1

Look into 'Dealing with AMOGs' - basically other guys that try to tool with you when dealing with your girl or a girl you're picking up
/r/TheRedPill28/04/16 12:59 PM
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They enjoyed fucking her and you're in the way of them keeping that up. In the future, listen to one of the principles of TRP - don't date a girl with all guy friends - especially ones she's fucked. The amount of male validation this girl needs just to feel ok about herself is unhealthy. I can't imagine dating someone who hangs around with 4 'exes' all the time and having it thrown in my face that she's been tossed around
/r/TheRedPill28/04/16 12:48 PM
1

Allston is a good hunting ground - TITS is prime, but not as good as it used to be. I live in Back Bay now and primarily go to the clubs/bars around that area
/r/TheRedPill28/04/16 12:37 PM
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Sounds like you got into an LTR with a club slut who still surrounds herself with her fuck boys. She still hangs out with them and doesn't push back when they try to hold her hand or grind on her even when you're with her? And now she doesn't hang out with you regularly but still hangs with her fuck boys who she has displayed inappropriate behavior with right infront of your face? Get yourself out of there
/r/TheRedPill28/04/16 12:30 PM
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Boston - college capital of the world and easy to pub crawl due to the more compact size. Large number of fresh 21 year olds and international students at bars every year - pick whatever flavor of women you like
/r/TheRedPill27/04/16 04:43 PM
1

Thank you - I do see that. After blocking her, I stopped doing alot of self care - like I only was doing it for her. Do you recommend any specific meditation method?
/r/askTRP05/04/16 04:52 PM
1

Looks like you need to focus on the internal, not external. I was in the same boat. Last summer my EXTERNAL SMV was sky-high, but my internal was shit - you need to build that Frame. It sounds like it's all in your head at this point - see a therapist and look into mindful meditation
/r/askTRP16/03/16 11:53 PM
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Almost. The issue is these girls have a blueprint of you as BP. If you mess up once, they'll immediately retract to that blueprint. It's a house of cards
/r/askTRP16/03/16 11:51 PM
1

I can't get over my ex. I fall for women too fast and too hard. I fell madly in love with my ex even though we only dated for 3 months - I left because she wasn't respecting my boundaries when it came to contact with her abusive ex. Lo and behold, one week later and she went back with him. It's what introduced me to redpill. The idea my snowflake would go back to bad Ol' chad was an impossibility in my mind -she knew better for herself. Worst pain I've ever felt. It's almost been a year - I'm st…
/r/TheRedPill16/03/16 01:19 AM
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Exactly. When I started self-actualizing, I realized I had one friend who kept me around primarily because he thinks he's better than me. Once I came into my own and stopped putting up with his shit, he called me the same. Note - we're not friends anymore
/r/askTRP10/03/16 07:19 PM
5

You're in the anger phase - when the reality of male/female dynamics is observed for the first time. It's a tough pill to swallow
/r/askTRP10/03/16 06:42 PM
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I would've done it - bird in the hand. Plus, it would've been a good way to build dread and create competition anxiety
/r/askTRP09/03/16 02:06 PM
1

Google the 12 levels of dread
/r/askTRP04/03/16 04:40 AM
1

My first few girlfriends were women I met on World of Warcraft during my obsessive years. I was always their guildmaster or raid leader, so I wonder if the reason they were drawn to me was my relative SMV in that marketplace? Granted, in person, my SMV at the time really wasn't that high, while their's were (HB6, HB7, HB8, HB7.5) - which is probably why we didn't last long outside of that subculture
/r/TheRedPill04/03/16 02:35 AM
1

The opportunity is there, but it isn't a sealed deal until her legs are open. Choking is part of very dominant sex - you need to be in control. Have you read Daniel Rose's Sex God Method?
/r/askTRP02/03/16 04:29 PM
1

It sounds to me like you're her plate, not the other way around. You clearly still have strong feelings for this girl and are her in-between/backup plan. BTW - girls will always say 'you were the best sex I ever had' when they want to hookup with a past fling, don't take it seriously. Sounds miserable, honestly. Are you spinning other plates?
/r/askTRP02/03/16 01:37 PM
1

Read this blog post. In fact, I highly suggest you read Tomassi's book - 'The Rational Male: http://therationalmale.com/2011/09/19/playing-friends/ Your mistake at the beginning was acting like a platonic friend and de-sexualizing yourself to her. Excessive comfort kills attraction. Trust me, I went through the same shit
/r/TheRedPill02/03/16 01:20 PM
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Don't. I went through the exact same scenario a few months ago. If you do go back with her, the second you drop frame - she'll instantly revert back to her personality state of when she broke up with you. Too much damage and baggage. Would you really want to get back with a girl who proved she's willing to branch swing off you?
/r/askTRP01/03/16 01:44 PM
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Honestly - I wouldn't recommend prostitutes for those who just swallowed the red pill. If you're lazy, out of shape, have a poor personality, and are boring - congrats, for $200-300 you can fuck an HB9 with no effort on your own. Maybe if you want to get rid of your virginity, but for those really struggling in the market due to low SMV - soliciting escorts can be a nail in the coffin
/r/TheRedPill01/03/16 01:28 PM
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Using escorts fucked up my game. I used them during a eurotrip to lose my v card. Afterwards, I was a broke college kid and couldnt afford them - but I went all out with game and reeled in an HB8 gf and rebounded with an HB9 (looked exactly like a young catherine zeta jones) right after. When I graduated and went through a dry spell, I started to resort solely on escorts and my game went to shit. 1 rejection and I'd go 'fuck this, escort time'. It's a very slippery slope, and I wouldn't recommen…
/r/askTRP29/02/16 10:18 PM
2

had a friend. He had all the qualities of an alpha male including game. He was really socially attuned. But he had near 0 alpha frame and mindset. He was somehow naive about relationships. He LTR'd a slut. Thinking she was a virgin. He didn't fuck her, because he didn't want to pop her cherry because that's important for women. Ugh. That described me and my last LTR to a T. That's what lead me to TRP. Did you introduce your friend to it?
/r/TheRedPill29/02/16 06:00 PM
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You have a good point about procrastination, but I believe that swallowing the pill and internalizing the theory will make you much more aware of what happens in action. There are many PUAs who will pick up chicks but become mad blue pill after - purely from a lack of awareness.
/r/TheRedPill08/02/16 06:41 PM
2

Have you read Red Pill's guide to online dating? First rule is - only use txt for logistics/setting dates. Sounds like you haven't met her before
/r/askTRP20/01/16 08:07 PM
0

nsfw - http://www.sciencephoto.com/image/618305/530wm/C0221006-Klinefelter_s_Syndrome_and_Healthy_Male-SPL.jpg
/r/askTRP20/01/16 02:10 PM
1

I have an hourglass figure - small waist, wide hips (nsfw)http://www.sciencephoto.com/image/618305/530wm/C0221006-Klinefelter_s_Syndrome_and_Healthy_Male-SPL.jpg
/r/askTRP20/01/16 02:06 PM
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Nah - I have an hourglass figure. Small waist, wide hips pic (nfsw) - http://www.sciencephoto.com/image/618305/530wm/C0221006-Klinefelter_s_Syndrome_and_Healthy_Male-SPL.jpg
/r/askTRP20/01/16 02:06 PM
1

yes! exactly. I have a very obvious hourglass figure
/r/askTRP20/01/16 02:05 PM
4

Haha ouch
/r/askTRP20/01/16 04:35 AM
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Thanks - that helps put things in perspective
/r/askTRP20/01/16 04:26 AM
1

Never thought of that - but not surprising. Also, if she's been with a violent psychopath for that long, then she probably has a weird fetish for seeing men fight over her. I wouldn't be surprised if she's purposely trying to pit us against each other
/r/askTRP08/12/15 02:55 AM
1

Which is probably why she loves that I'm a gun nut
/r/askTRP07/12/15 07:51 PM
2

Yeah, it's brutal. Going from wanting to be FWB to flipping the script. Makes you feel like you were so close - but her views on sex and her situation just make it impossible. You've written some good stuff - reading through it. It's a tough pill to swallow, but I don't have a choice if I want to be happy. Damn. She's always going to be around due to the family friend thing. Maybe something will happen if her situation isn't impossible in the future, but I can't keep holding my breath
/r/askTRP07/12/15 07:20 PM
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A bit about me - 6'3, good shape, make 6 figs, 50+ under my belt. 29. Downside - up until 3 days ago, I lived at home. Natural confidence killer and made logistics a bitch. Now I'm in a prime location in downtown in my own place. Part of it was student loans (100k+), but I'll be blunt and say part of it was complacency. A hot, alpha-possessed woman on a unicorn-level pedestal. Your chances are already slim to none. The blindfolds are lifted, but you're right. She's alpha-possessed. he's super po…
/r/askTRP07/12/15 03:51 PM
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