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Basic Questionpullypants/r/askMRP01/11/15 09:35 PM
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It's not as hard as you think. Try to be selfish, go through a process where whenever you're motivated to do anything, think about who it is for. If it's for someone else, decide what's actually in it for you. If it's nothing, then you don't give a fuck. Abundance really helps here. You clearly think she's vital to your existence or you wouldn't be putting this much effort in. She isn't, and there's plenty of others who'd fill her space in your life. Often wouldn't be ideal to switch, but you wo…
/r/askMRP20/09/16 12:11 PM
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You're over thinking. The ideal mindset: Zero Fucks Given. Try to stop thinking about everything from her point of view. This is for you, not her.
/r/askMRP19/09/16 12:11 PM
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"his morning in counseling, she victim puked all over the place, taking the worst snippets of my behavior over the past couple years and painting me with that brush top to bottom. These things are not things I do to her to make her upset. These are errors of omission, like slacking off with the house work. Chores inside the house type stuff." That's just her rationalizing why she doesn't want you around, if you did the chores all day it'd be something else. Pay no attention to the detail, just k…
/r/askMRP31/08/16 02:09 PM
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These variations work well: http://img-9gag-fun.9cache.com/photo/aOVVqX2_700b.jpg
/r/askMRP23/08/16 12:35 PM
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"yeah, lol!"
/r/askMRP04/08/16 01:01 PM
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Too much chatter and responding to bullshit. That convo wasn't worth your time. Yeah, lift. Especially important for us older guys to get some manly muscle back, and it works.
/r/askMRP07/07/16 12:08 PM
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You can't change the past, accept that and move on. Stop giving a fuck. Some reading: https://thefamilyalpha.com/2015/12/20/get-over-your-relationship-ptsd/
/r/askMRP06/07/16 03:07 PM
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I'm amazed at how quick the bounce back is now. Thinking back, her silent treatment and withdrawals would last days after a clash. Sometimes she'd hold a grudge so long I'd forget what it's for. These days, a flare up will be brief and she'll be all over me even more than before minutes later. Be a rock, she'll respect you more.
/r/askMRP19/05/16 09:40 AM
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I don't think this works in this context, as you're still entering her frame and allowing her emotions to set the course of action. Better to deal with it as appropriate, not give it any significance, laugh it off show your mettle, move on. Mine does exactly the same thing with company, though much less now since I've started behaving better when it happens. She'll be peeved short term but much happier long term when you start to deflect these outbursts rather than giving them any time of day.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/16 05:43 PM
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I don't see it that way. More that a stressful event is coming, she's subconsciously testing your strength. Are you going to be strong enough to protect her when the event hits, or are you going to be a pussy and fold and force her to take care of herself?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/16 05:41 PM
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I would give him the opportunity to lead and be more dominant consciously without actually spelling it out. Ask him for permission to do something without it being required, ask him for his opinion, suggest that he handle something rather than you. Stick your arse out as he walks past and tell him it needs a slap. With the kids, ask him to sit with them and set some boundaries over any issues you might be having. You begin by leading by example, but he should catch on. I wouldn't email, I'd talk…
/r/askMRP22/04/16 01:53 PM
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It's a very good book. At a very basic level she's saying the same thing as many here: be desirable. She holds the view that many marriages fail because the partners get too comfortable, too close, too safe, too predictable. You need separation for desire. And she writes that you can't just turn it on when you want sex, it's a full time job to be desirable and something you have to work at. She tackles a lot of concepts we're familiar with but with differing terminology; avoiding covert contract…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/16 01:00 PM
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There's some good podcasts too: Art of Charm Art of Manliness Chick Wisperer Joe Rogan Experience
/r/askMRP06/04/16 05:55 AM
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The point here being, if I couldn't find the sitter I should stay home because she couldn't go? And if so, this warranted the ensuing argument? The point here being; you shouldn't have asked her if she could go with conditions. You tell her she's coming after you made it happen. Making it her fault she couldn't go sucks for her, and you've seen the result.
/r/askMRP05/04/16 11:43 AM
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I think what's going on here is our baseline of what's normal and what's muscle. They're saying they don't find the massive bodybuilder types in full cut competition mode attractive. Huge Jackman is 'normal' and fit, not muscular in your averages womans mind and the rest of us norms aren't measuring up.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/16 02:27 PM
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I recognize the journey but I'm not sure I accept the cause. Did they wife really work to turn the man or did he do it to himself? Looking back at my own situation, I'm not sure I can so clearly place the blame. I interpreted her needs incorrectly, I thought letting this headstrong woman take the lead was what she wanted. It's clear now it wasn't, I interpreted her incorrectly though a combination of factors. She never asked for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/16 02:54 PM
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I would go to an obese person for advice avoiding obesity. I would go to someone with a fucked up marriage and ask how he got there and what he could have done differently. He might not have the answers I need, but he's going to have a perspective someone with a perfect marriage isn't going to have. I always take advice with caution, I won't blindly follow what anyone on reddit says about any subject. That doesn't make the advice from someone with experience worthless. We're all big boys here, w…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/16 02:49 PM
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I think that's nonsense. Plenty of coaches don't represent what they teach. There's no shortage of 400 pound gym teachers. Someone who's marriage is a failure can be a better choice for an authority than someone who's got shit sorted. At least someone who's failed might have worked out what he did wrong and be able to share it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/16 01:51 PM
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Which I actually think is a great and much-needed niche in the modern world of marital advice Spot on. I'm still a big fan of Athol Kay, he doesn't get it all right, but I think he's got the right balance of 'be a man your woman wants, not a pussy' advice aimed at LTR's rather than plate spinners/players. I'm not sure I buy the OP's premise that married women want beta men. My observation is that men often make themselves beta in a misguided aim to become what they think their wife's want. This …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/16 09:01 AM
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The big missed point is "build yourself back into the man you used to be". Where many of us went wrong is allowing marriage to change us. We thought we were becoming what she wanted, but instead became weaker and repulsive. Most of us just got it wrong, and needed a steer back in the right direction.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/16 10:49 PM
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Sounds to me like she's erected big walls based on past abuse to protect herself. That's going to take time to rebuild the trust and intimacy to pull them down. One thing that really seems to accelerate this is fun. If you've got all the other stuff down, have you tried upping the fun? It can really help heal wounds.
/r/askMRP14/03/16 10:22 PM
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What a bollocks policy. "Say yes even if you don't want it", how on earth is anyone who doesn't want sex going to enjoy it? Eat that shit pie and pretend to enjoy it? Fuck that.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/16 09:03 AM
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There's an element of 'fake it till you make it'. If she knows this is what you are doing, you'll lose credibility. To her, the improving has to come from you, not what someone's telling you to do. Mine has suspicions. "Is that what man-chat told you to do", enough that the full exposure would really damage the gains.
/r/askMRP10/03/16 11:00 AM
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You went to the gym, came home sweaty and initiated before showering? Get a shower at the Gym, come home ready. As for the other stuff, stop giving a fuck. She didn't want it, her loss, go about your day.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/16 01:20 PM
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Sounds like you're lucky enough that she's actually telling you what she wants, unhappy partners often don't, and will just begin to stonewall you out to make the separation easier. Women still want fun, feelz, laughs. Treat her like a kid sister, play with her, piss her around, make her call you a dickhead for fucking around with her. Don't listen to her words, pay attention to what she does.
/r/askMRP07/03/16 10:30 AM
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Your question gets right to the heart of why so many of us end up here, and you've got some great replies. For me the abundance mentality really helps with that oneitis. Talk to other women, go out with friends, sign up (carefully anonymously) to online dating sites, chat up everyone you see hot or not. Realizing she's not a special snowflake doesn't mean you don't love her, but it does take the fear of loss out of loving her. I still slip, I still want her way more than (I think - she does play…
/r/askMRP07/03/16 10:08 AM
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Great FR, thanks for sharing.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/16 09:05 PM
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Agreed. Come a long way though. It's funny, when I met her I didn't think this way, but after many years together I'd managed to elevate her to the only woman on the planet that I could possibly share time with. I even told her that. Makes me cringe now!
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 07:20 PM
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She's intimidated by Gyms, which works quite well for me as it makes going there look more impressive. I'm not sure of the benefits of her going, there's a lot of ripped young guys down there, there's a danger you'll show up quite poorly in comparison.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 03:41 PM
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Good summary. I started lifting at home before finally joining a Gym, and that has some additional benefits. I suffer very badly from oneitis and getting down the Gym and starting to get friendly with some of the fitties down there has really helped my abundance mentality. Also, getting out and giving her a chance to miss you, getting the hamster working while you're amongst those fitties down the gym, getting a shower and coming home after fresh and energised, it's all good.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 01:24 PM
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I imagine for most of us, "being yourself" is where we've been going wrong.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/16 02:06 PM
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Focus on improving yourself, fuck what anyone else does.
/r/askMRP13/02/16 08:03 AM
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..yet
/r/askMRP12/02/16 01:11 PM
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Was also in a similar place. It got to be I couldn't even put a hand on her tit without her sex alarm going off. I've made it much more playful now, I'll tease and mess with her all the time and don't constantly follow up with a press. Can be really effective to get her going then leave her hanging. She's used to the hands in various places now and used to it not always ending up as sex. The defences don't come up. As an aside, we often focus on the reasons that make her want to have sex with us…
/r/askMRP11/02/16 11:47 AM
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.. now it's "oh you're mad again? Okay. I'm busy". Even this is far too much acknowledgement of her bullshit. She's a kid, smile at her amusing tantrums as they wash over you unaffected. They don't affect you, you're a rock. The quality of sex will improve with your attraction and the wife thinking you're a prize. Or it may not, at which point you have to do something about it, either accept it and be a pussy the rest of your relationship, or move on. Otherwise nothing you do has any conviction,…
/r/askMRP11/02/16 11:31 AM
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Your woman walks into your room naked while you have a boner, you jump on her right there. She says no, you get busy with something else. Declining only makes you look like a big huffy man baby. Have you read the sidebar? You appear to be missing some of the fundamentals. I'd reccomend MMSLP as a good starting point for your situation, you look like a classic case. She doesn't view you as a man, you're a pathetic, unattractive and frankly repulsive needy man baby. This is what you need to change…
/r/askMRP11/02/16 11:22 AM
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Poeple often love validation that their choice is good, I actually enjoy it when someone hits on my wife. She's attractive, I get it, nice to know it's not just me. The important part for me is how you react, if you'd have kept it secret, programmed it into your phone and called the girl, that's shitty. If you fessed up, laughed about it and threw it away, that's good.
/r/askMRP10/02/16 03:58 PM
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Well for me picking it up later on is enough. I'm just telling you what works, in my relationship you've got to put the idea in her head early if you want results and an overt bargain on my terms works well.
/r/askMRP02/02/16 08:16 AM
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You don't come across like one here, so I imagine you don't come across like one to her. Setting up a massage parlour for her, doing her task list for her, playing her sex board game like a good little boy. You're in her frame, she's the boss, she's got all the control and no desire. This is what you need to work on.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 08:15 AM
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"I feel good when I look good"
/r/askMRP30/01/16 06:15 PM
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You've asked her, she's denied. You've either got to decide if you accept the denial or get the test. I don't see how you can lead the house and maintain respect while living with a possible perpetual lie if you don't believe her word.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/16 06:06 PM
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Er, no. As in, initiate later, she can obviously still say no.
/r/askMRP30/01/16 09:28 AM
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Heh, I'm not talking about a deadpan "we are having sex" or a written contract for her to sign. A playful, "I'll rub your back, but watch out if I can't control myself after" type thing. Makes it clear that sex is on the table and gives her a chance to warm to the idea. Horses for courses, but I've found this works really well. Far better than the old covert contract me who'd do shit then get butthurt because a bj didn't follow.
/r/askMRP30/01/16 09:28 AM
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The Art of Charm: This is a PUA podcast that's 'grown up'. Mixed bag of guests, but often very good. The 'fanmail friday' often has good advice. The Entreleadership Podcast: Again, can have a mixed bag of guests, lots of self help types but if you pick you're episodes there's some great stuff here on leadership and development. Art of Manliness: More male focused than art of charm, but the host is likeable with some good guests Sex With Emily: Yeah, she's a bit annoying and attention seekie, and…
/r/askMRP30/01/16 08:46 AM
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I think that's terrible advice. Many women don't turn on in an instant, you need to create sexual tension, get them warmed up. Giving overt notice is a great way to ensure you're getting some later. Kino, deals, 'you need to earn it later <wink>'. Get far more 'no' when you just spring it on them. If she accepts the deal, don't let her off the hook. Definitely steer clear of covert contracts, giving her a back rub in the hope you'll get some later, that often disappoints.
/r/askMRP28/01/16 06:12 PM
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I use full on overt contract with this kind of thing. You want a back rub? I'm going in after, deal?
/r/askMRP28/01/16 01:31 PM
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Watched Love Actually over christmas. Used to be one of my favourite films, I totally believed the 'nice guys get the girl' in the end message throughout. It's utter bollocks.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/16 09:13 PM
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Yes Android. Looks just the job, thanks for the recommend.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/16 05:56 PM
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I've multiple goals when I go to the gym. It gets me out of the house, it builds my confidence, it builds my strength for other sports, it makes me stronger and more functional and it makes me look better. I do things in the gym to support those goals, and one of those is to make my arms and chest look better because women including my wife respond to it. I like it when this happens, it suits me very well. It's not the only reason I lift, but it's one reason I modify the accessories to fit my go…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/16 05:35 PM
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It does seem light on back. I've added lat pull down and seated rows over the bent over row and pull ups.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/16 03:02 PM
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Yeah, that's what I'm after. The ability to programme a routine in the way that Stronglifts is pre-programmed.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/16 03:01 PM
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Yes! If it wasn't for women, I'd wallow on my sofa playing videogames eating cheesy poofs!
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/16 02:59 PM
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Anyone have any good tracking app recommendations? I'm doing SL5x5 currently, and the app's been a big part of my success with the programme. Turning up at the Gym and being told exactly what to do, what weight, how many reps and how much rest has been superb. Tracking my progress automatically is also very motivating. As I beging to branch out from SL, I'd like a similar app but with more flexibility to add exercises from different programmes. Android wear support would be nice too!
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/16 01:45 PM
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I'm not sure he's advising against them if you read the post, he's saying prioritise the main lifts if you've got limited time. I'm in no rush, I can spent a couple of hours in the gym regularly, so I do the main lifts, then I add 3 x 8-10 accessories where I think I need to. You don't need to stick rigidly to the programme, make it suit your needs. My missus has responded very well to my bigger arms and shoulders, and she doesn't give much of a fuck about my legs. After a good few months of the…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/16 01:10 PM
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I've been doing Stronglifts for the last few months. Very pleased with it, had great strength gains and noticeable change in body shape, particularly chest and arms, legs were already pretty good from running and cycling. SL 5x5 does include biceps work in the accessories, has curls and pullups.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/16 08:52 AM
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Wow, spot on!
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/16 09:31 PM
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If you are a weak, out of shape, emotional crybaby who isn't in >control of yourself, you need to fix THAT. This isn't about her, it's >about you. Nicely done, you're clearly thinking like a leader.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/16 09:31 AM
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I'd stick at it, but try to make it fun and casual not overtly sexual, but agree with the posts who say you need to improve to the point she wants contact. Try to avoid the negative bias by spotting the wins. If she's pulling back but sex is improving, it's working. Try other ways of asserting, eye contact, play, dicking around, playing tricks, joking. It takes a while, but when it starts to work, it's fucking ace. I've gone from complete cold shoulder to her pulling my hands onto her. Keep at i…
/r/askMRP15/01/16 11:26 AM
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The personal growth aspect works though, keep faith. I've found now that the rejection genuinely doesn't bother me at all. I'm getting enough, I'm feeling so much better that I don't need her validation, I'm far more take it or leave it through the personal growth. That's a frame of mind that women pick up on, so they respond differently to you. It works, have faith, don't expect overnight success or a quick trick to win. Wifes know you, they can sniff that fraudulent shit out. Be a man she want…
/r/askMRP15/01/16 10:40 AM
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I think the trick is to show that you want sex, that you're a sexual man, but you don't need sex. If you can internalise this, it makes everything much easier. Show her all the time, signpost sex all day long if you want it, don't spring it on her last minuite and expect her to be ready. You don't want come across as needy which basically makes you smell like old piss as far as attraction is concerned and it takes a lot of her power over you away. For me, I try to get in her knickers all the tim…
/r/askMRP15/01/16 10:28 AM
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Don't underestimate the power of a little knowing smile at her antics and a chuckle to yourself. Works far better than a victim puke to the wife, drives them nuts but also kicks the hamster into action. "What does he know?". You don't need to explain it to her, let her try to work out what's going on. Actions not words, prove you're not cheating by not cheating, not by telling her what you are doing.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/16 10:20 AM
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Great post, but it excludes goals. What are you trying to achieve? Lower weight, look better, be stronger, be faster, increase T, what? Saying cardio is over rated without considering goals is a mistake. If I want to run a marathon, I need cardio. For me, I like to run, I like to race bikes, so I'll always include a significant amount of cardio and endurance training, not for weight loss but to maintain performance.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 10:56 AM
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This sub is all about self improvement. We accept that our nature isn't set in stone and that we can change it. Why is that true of men and not women? I accept you need to have standards, and I accept that in many circumstances cheating is zero tolerance. But it's never truly that straightforward is it?
/r/askMRP11/01/16 11:43 AM
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I struggle with this one. We've got kids, so initiation only tends to happen last thing at night. Pretty daft to go out wandering at 11pm.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 11:41 AM
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Come on. Zero tolerance? Really?
/r/askMRP10/01/16 03:34 PM
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Agree, what's the deal? Her seeing someone for months while you neglect her is different from a drunk mistake. There's also different kinds of staying.
/r/askMRP10/01/16 03:32 PM
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Good start. You're new, and there's a lot of victim puke and 'she' in your post. Of course there is, that's why you're here. Try to forget her in relation to your day, instead of instituting dread on her by taking an appointment, take the appointment because it needed to be done. Get out of her frame. Keep it light. Enjoy your life. Simply ignoring can come off as butthurt. Be amused by her antics as much as you can. "Not knowing how to effectively respond, I calmly ignored that statement" It's …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/16 03:46 PM
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And why don't men try? Because they think they don't have to. Many men, me included thought that once that ring was on the finger that 'shes mine' and I no longer need to try. Let's sit on the sofa in our vests, farting away and chugging beers while she fixes up a nice meal and sorts the kids out. Winner!
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/16 01:21 PM
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When my missus says my hands are cold, I grab bits of her and rub real fast. Works a treat!
/r/askMRP06/01/16 10:04 PM
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I'd say the best response if you can't think of anything is a smile and say nothing. This is a good sign, she's seen that your time is in short supply which means she knows it's valuable. You're winning, Keep it up! Also remember, actions not words. One of the best tips I've picked up from here is to pretty much ignore what she says and focus on what she does.
/r/askMRP03/01/16 10:21 AM
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Me: One of the main things I did wrong before was listen to you. Me: And when I did, you said no. Me: So I shouldn't listen to you? I'm calling STFU on these. Forget what you used to do, forget what she used to do, it shows low value, resentment and butthurt. Keep your eyes forward. Consider: Her: (we should do things my way) Me: Of course we should princess! ...and carry on what you were doing.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/15 08:33 AM
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You've not got attraction yet. She simply doesn't want you, and you've got to keep on working and become attractive to again. Takes time and is hard, longer if she's already actively working to repeal you.
/r/askMRP10/12/15 06:44 AM
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Look at it this way: you feel now how she felt six months ago. You've just had a power flip, the one who desires the least leads and it's your turn to be on top. With great power comes responsibility, you have to put the effort in. It's harder to be the leader, but ultimately worth the effort.
/r/askMRP04/12/15 12:47 PM
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Initiations that don't lead to sex work well in the build up. Dick around with her, be playful. Throw her onto the sofa, jump on her, ravage her neck, then jump off and walk away. If every physical contact ends up with a demand for sex, she'll soon not want you touching at all. Put a bit of doubt in her, get the hamster working for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/15 01:00 PM
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Really? I've found the 'foreplay all day' suggestions from Athol Kay really work, making it clear what's coming later. Ignoring sex all day and jumping on her at bedtime seems a really reliable way of getting a no.
/r/askMRP30/11/15 01:12 PM
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Agree. I almost wish MRP was called something completely different. A lot of it is presented by TRP evangelists as black and white. AWALT etc and supporters and detractors take it all a bit too literally. Hardcore MMSL is much closer to what this sub is for me than MRP for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/15 12:41 PM
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Try to stop looking to her to validate yourself. She is not the provider of your happiness. Take ownership of things in your control, do what makes you happy. You have to turn yourself into someone she wants to be with, if she decides to, great. If not, plan b.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/15 01:14 PM
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One of the most helpful things I learned to improve my marriage was the realisation that she doesn't directly know what she wants from me. My symptoms were very similar to yours, although not articulated directly. We never had an ILYB conversation, but she was definitely close. During conversations begging for sex, the closest I got for an answer on what to do was 'stop being annoying' delivered with a slightly confused expression. She didn't actually know what was happening. I needed to man up,…
/r/askMRP26/11/15 09:45 AM
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Focus on what she does, not what she says. If you're getting more attention then it's working.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 12:55 PM
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Thanks for the analogy. The kick in the nuts of a step backwards is hard as fuck to take, especially when you've tasted success. It's also hard to fight that negative bias when something goes wrong and ignore all the things that have improved. Must keep it up!
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/15 08:13 PM
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Good work! "So I bet you want a blowjob dont you?" Zip, lob... :)
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/15 03:58 PM
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I like this too. She did that because of what you did, not because what she did. It's far easier to handle and accept that you need to change to fix the problem.
/r/askMRP16/11/15 01:17 PM
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It's part of their game, and generally they seem better at it than most men.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/15 12:48 PM
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Mine had a similar talk a few weeks into unplugging. "Don't know what you're up to", "this has to stop", blah blah. Listened, smiled, carried on doing what I was doing. Her actions continue to improve in line with mine, largely at odds with what she says. Most of the time she's pretending not to notice, but I know she's paying close attention. Little quips occasionally like 'did you read that on man-chat?' and 'trying to be alpha?' shit tests. But sex has gone from almost total db to multiple pe…
/r/askMRP11/11/15 02:55 PM
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This stuff is rarely clean cut, but telling her what you want doesn't help if you're in a very low attraction situation. If your wife is repelled by you, she's not going to dance around to make your cock hard, why would she?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/15 02:25 PM
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I like this response, looking thoughtful, like it might be a good idea
/r/askMRP03/11/15 01:22 PM
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Yes, thanks. Another thing that's improved is the physicalness, and it does work. She's taken to trying to get the car keys off me so she can drive, she knows I want to all the time. So I've taken to rugby tackling her, no matter where we are, to get the keys off her. Did it in a car park, much to the amusement of passers by. She loves it, while calling me a dickhead. Women eh?
/r/askMRP03/11/15 01:21 PM
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Your right, this boundary testing could definitely be part of it. She's clearly feeling more vulnerable because I'm not clinging to her tit any more like a big man baby yet probably not quite to the level that she's worried when I'm out of her sight. She has upped her own self improvement though, which is amusing, like she did a five mile walk last night.
/r/askMRP03/11/15 01:20 PM
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I had exactly the same thing a few weeks after I began to implement changes. A fairly confused conversation about how I'd just better stop whatever I'm doing and stop asking for sex all the time. I offered reassurance and ignored her, carrying on with improving, OI, removing covert contracts and most importantly taking responsibility for myself. It's worked. It's hard work and it's not a magic bullet so there's still issues, but it's a huge improvement in between my own ears and for my family so…
/r/askMRP03/11/15 01:17 PM
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Yep, not rare at all. In fact since unplugging you spot so many men around you making the same mistakes that you simply didn't recognise before. It's hard not to cringe sometimes.
/r/askMRP31/10/15 11:34 AM
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The advantage is it works without risking your marriage without the 'going nuclear' divorce threat. It may seem manipulative, but it's just reality; to desire something it has to be desirable. One indication of it being desirable is that other people want it. Demonstrating that is much of what Dread is about, it's just an escalation path to limit the damage of the higher levels. I can see why people are put off by the way it's presented, and I think it's a little over general and dramatic too, b…
/r/ExRedPill22/10/15 01:25 PM
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You sound like a barrel of laughs. More of what she does to you, and how you're thinking of everything in that way.
/r/ExRedPill22/10/15 01:18 PM
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This post shows you don't truly understand the books you've been reading and the resources you're dismissing. You cannot negotiate desire, you cannot worry about what she needs to do, that is completely out of your control. You're in her frame, you thinking too much about it from her point of view and what she needs to do. You almost need to forget her, focus on yourself. You're missing the point; thinking about what she needs to do to meet your needs is only going to lead to resentment and bad …
/r/ExRedPill22/10/15 01:15 PM
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Reads a lot like a summary of MMSLP. Athol Kay leads with this view that you can't just be the alpha fuck if you want to get and crucially KEEP a partner. Also feels a lot like what this sub is, an adaptation of TRP for people who want to maintain a long term relationship. For me, a lot of TRP is over-generalised and is focused on the prize of getting your leg over, and not keeping your foot in the door. You change the goal to long term, and you have to soften the approach. That's why I like it …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 12:48 PM
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Over thinking it perhaps? Desire comes and goes, it's not a steady flow.
/r/askMRP21/10/15 11:42 AM
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I was of the same mind as you too, but tried it anyway and it can work. Particularly if you go do your own shit, give it lots of 'no fucks given' and have fun without her. It's surprising how quickly even a hard face bitch mooid comes around when she's on the outside.
/r/askMRP16/10/15 12:57 PM
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I'm here too. I'm in a place where it's up to 2-3 times a week from an almost complete DB. I'm getting good responses even enthusiastic initations occasionally too. My problem is also one of quality, a passionate start can turn into a starfish and 'hurry up', which is a boner destroyer. Any tips welcome!
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/15 09:17 AM
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She married him, she's initiated sex with him recently, so there was attraction, he's got a head start vs a new relationship. She's obviously analysed what's going on so understands her feelings better than most to articulate what's happening to her now. That doesn't mean he can't make her want him in future, she's still there, that she's told him means she probably wants him to fix the problem. If she didn't care, she would have been tired, or had a headache. The advise here and in Kays' books …
/r/askMRP12/10/15 07:43 AM
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That's all very good for adding the alpha, but it doesn't seem to go along with what Athol says about mixing the alpha and the beta and what NMMNG says about showing vulnerability to build intimacy. I can see where they're coming from, this isn't TRP, this is hardmode, we can't be cocky pricks who fuck off the next day. The difficulty is how you do the vulnerability and intimacy without becoming clingy, needy and weak.
/r/askMRP08/10/15 07:16 PM
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Very rough test was on one of the 'manosphere' (urgh hate that word) blogs yesterday. Eye contact in the street; she looks down, she's attracted but shy, looks directly at you, she's attracted and keen, looks to the side, she's not attracted and you're dismissed. Been trying it out and it's not perfect, they might just be looking down to see where they're going, but as a general guide it seems to work. The look sideways is definitely more frequent with the hotties.
/r/askMRP08/10/15 02:58 PM
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Think I'm at the same spot in NNMNG: that you need to develop intimacy by sharing and being vulnerable. I'm shit at that to be frank, and shit at knowing the difference between looking weak and being vulnerable. I just can't relate to what this is. Anyone got some examples of what the author means?
/r/askMRP08/10/15 02:44 PM
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I've been running and cycling as part of a group; free (if you already own a bike and trainers) and a good way of getting a group of men as mates. I've been doing basic wood projects with reclaimed shipping pallets, built a fence, a dog guard and a garden bench so far. It's a good use of time, you're outside, taking them apart is good fun and so's putting them back together. Kids have started calling me DIY DAD!
/r/askMRP07/10/15 03:01 PM
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Nailed it. It's about you, not her. Fix yourself. Love the attitude!
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/15 09:22 AM
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Great post, and certainly underpins a lot of what I've learned. It's a depressing summary for the married man though, we've got a challenging task to keep that level of interest long term.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/15 12:56 PM
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Or she articulates them incorrectly because she's confused. In my dark days of asking why I wasn't getting any action, she would say things like 'you need to stop annoying me'. This would be said in an irritated way, because even asking is creating the problem as I now know. You definitely can't pay attention to what they say anyway, you have to think about how you're making them feel.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/15 12:49 PM
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Agreed. If you spend time on /deadbedrooms you see time and time again; Low libido ex wife suddenly having lots of sex drive with their new men. Ouch.
/r/askMRP29/09/15 12:25 PM
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"She does think she's prettier than I deserve. " Read the books in the sidebar, particularly MMSLP. You'll read that and think he wrote it about you, pay particular attention to SMV. If your wife thinks she has a higher SMV than you, you're goosed. She should think you're slightly hotter than she is, you're the prize. Make yourself the prize.
/r/askMRP29/09/15 12:15 PM
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I don't think it's that different for the sexes. Strive to be better, for you, not him, be fit, look good, smell good, be happy in yourself. Basically, be as attractive as you can be. Since I started trying to improve I've notice my wife making more of an effort too, wearing more skirts, exercising more, taking classes, laughing more. It was predicted in the Athol Kay book and it's happening.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/15 12:00 PM
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Don't respond, shrug and go to sleep, the next day improve. Keep improving until she wants you, if she doesn't go to plan b. Responding badly does more damage than not responding at all. I've been through all the ways you do this wrong, asking for sex nicely, asking what I'm doing wrong, asking how I can make it better. As everyone here will tell you, it doesn't work. You can't force anyone to like you, and trying usually makes them dislike you more. It's needy and to women it's even repulsive. …
/r/askMRP28/09/15 12:46 PM
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Big 'aha' moment for me after ingesting the wisdom of this and other subs/books is 'What she says is not what she means'. I've also recoiled from 'you only want me from sex' in the past. It's a test, agree and amplify!
/r/askMRP28/09/15 12:26 PM
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This seems to be linked to age. Below 35 or so, the skin may be more elastic and snap back. The older you get, the less likely it is to do it on its own. After I lost Abot 140 lbs aged 40, and the loose skins a problem. Makes it look like I have a spare tyre when the fat is mostly gone. Have considered surgery, but the advice is it's risky because of complications and of course you can't excersise or train in the weeks after. Tough choice. I think it deffo counts against smv, it just doesn't loo…
/r/askMRP06/09/15 01:28 PM
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