Question on wife cheating

Gogo4u · 2016-01-10T02:33:20+00:00

By not leaving her after the first one, you've only enabled her to continue doing it.

What do you think you're subconsciously telling her by staying with her after the second?

You can't reward (the epitome of)bad behavior with your commitment. It only tells them that what they did has no consequences.

Good luck.

Archwinger · 2016-01-10T04:28:21+00:00

Find your balls. You can do better.

stonepimpletilists · 2016-01-10T03:35:38+00:00

I've had a chance to think everything thru.

the first time would have been a good time to have this self reflection. what does your lawyer say?

SorcererKing · 2016-01-10T09:08:24+00:00

In her mind you're a paycheck and a babysitter. You stay home with the kids while she's out getting cock. Grow a spine.

A_Rex · 2016-01-10T13:20:17+00:00

Get everything lined up before you nuke it.

RealEstateRockstar · 2016-01-10T06:09:35+00:00

arnieschwarz · 2016-01-10T06:25:56+00:00

Divorce her.

fakefalse · 2016-01-10T19:06:21+00:00

Wife cheated twice...

Two children...

Interesting....

Corollalover · 2016-01-10T00:48:46+00:00

theultmatecad · 2016-01-10T13:21:26+00:00

You have to give more information. Did she cheat when you were 400 pounds and unemployed and passive-aggressively arguing with her because she wasn't "there for you"?

My extreme example illustrates that women will be as awful as you allow them to be and ultimately it's your fault.

Quarter_Century_Club · 2016-01-10T14:00:00+00:00

You deserve better. Next her immediately and put all your time, energy and resources in bettering yourself and your kids' lives.

IASGame · 2016-01-10T14:37:13+00:00

Even being as "tolerant" on the wife as UCad is being, I think staying with a wife that cheated twice is such a demonstration of lower value that I don't see room for a realistic recovery.

The OP could put in the effort to become as hot and dominant as a mythical Chad and the wife would still remember he stayed with her after she cheated on him twice. She could then think "I don't deserve him", but she could also think (more likely) "If he stayed he had no options".

With the relationship in such dire straits, I'm not even sure it is still better for the kids to stay. Are the kids even genetically the OP's (needs to be considered given the circumstances)?

Whatever amount of effort he puts in, the same amount of effort would get him better with one or more other women.

midlifedick · 2016-01-10T00:53:26+00:00

innominating · 2016-01-10T01:07:35+00:00

WillWorkForLTC · 2016-01-10T01:34:29+00:00

BigJizzyJeff · 2016-01-10T01:05:40+00:00

Nebulose11 · 2016-01-10T16:24:37+00:00

Demote her to plate and get some on the side yourself.

Let her be the one to nuke the relationship. The childhood of your children is at stake. Get all your ducks on a row for your exist but let her initiate. Remember, once demoted never promote her again.

Redpilllife79 · 2016-01-10T17:19:58+00:00

No. This is a world of abundance and there are plenty of other quality women out there who do not cheat. Get a lawyer and get the hell out man. Good luck.

Griever114 · 2016-01-10T17:23:04+00:00

Dump the cheating whore and move on. Make SURE you have documentation of her cheating (letters/emails etc) and lawyer up BEFORE telling her that you are dumping this shit tier quality woman.

It WILL get better.

Do you really want to show your kids that its ok to cheat on a spouse?

Redneck001 · 2016-01-11T01:33:30+00:00

wife who cheated twice

Absolutely fucking no.

PillScarlet · 2016-01-10T11:32:21+00:00

AgainstTheHerd · 2016-01-10T05:13:51+00:00

If you like the nickname ShuffleUp Cuck then keep her .. if not then Next her.

wakethfkupneo · 2016-01-10T09:55:51+00:00

Is there any situation in which a wife who cheated once should not be dumped?

No.

Is there any situation in which a wife who cheated twice should not be dumped?

HELL NO!

chief_slap_ahoe · 2016-01-10T11:39:59+00:00

I would have nuked the world the first time. She wouldn't have had a chance for the second.

the_Zambony · 2016-01-10T14:26:09+00:00

One time, maybe, with true remorse an indicator for possible reconciliation

Two times, no fucking way.

[deleted] · 2016-01-10T17:03:50+00:00

Leave her

mrpCamper · 2016-01-11T18:01:51+00:00

Short answer no. More useful information, depending on your state's divorce laws, if you forgive her, then you can not use her cheating as leverage in the divorce suit. For example, you will pay alimony if you forgive her and then decide later to divorce but may be able to get out of it if you divorce her based on a non forgiven affair. Proof can be just that something sketchy happened like a hotel receipt. The first time is a wash. it already happened. If the second time is more recent, you could be giving up leeway, money and parental control by not proceeding forward with a divorce. Please go see an attorney if nothing else.

Title	Question on wife cheating
Author	ShuffleUp
Upvotes	6
Comments	44
Date	January 10, 2016 12:41 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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