User Drugganser from this post:
https://www.reddit.com/r/askMRP/comments/4vts60/update_on_my_journey/
Suggested I post some examples of fogging to improve my game.
Mostly I use it when my wife is critising me for something I factually failed to do in a crappy tone. Examples:
"You didn't take out the trash!" A: "You're right, I didn't."
"You left the dishes in the sink!" A: "That's true, I did."
This is different than deering -
Defend: "What's the big deal?"
Explain: "I was really busy and figured I could do dishes after the kids were in bed."
Evade: "I don't remember that. Are you sure it wasn't one of the kids?"
Rationalize: "You leave things in the sink all the time!"
My acknowledging the objection pretty much ends the discussion.
Ironically, since I've started exercising and getting rid of processed foods, the amount of these criticisms has decreased. I suspect I am -
a) Actually taking care of business better and b) Not giving her a emotional reward for criticism (no whining!)
Not sure. But /I/ feel better.
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