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So happy for you that you don't have cancer!! Eff cancer
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/22 11:25 AM
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There is considerable overlap between humans and dogs in this regard. We crave the comfort of knowing where we stand and what we can expect from others.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/22 02:08 AM
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Not a housewife but my sister is a SAHM and she deals with her anxiety by structuring her days around some type of theme. For example Sundays are all about food--grocery shopping, food prep, and new recipe research. Tuesdays are for clothes--laundry, ironing, mending, purging old stuff to donate.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/22 01:59 AM
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He says he wants elements of an LTR, but I'm not seeing very much action on his part to support that claim. The biggest red flag is his proclivity for open relationships, to include asking you for one. This is literally the opposite of what we advocate for on RPW. It's clear what his priorities are, and they don't revolve around a family.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/22 01:53 AM
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I can PM you if that's ok, as your post is not tagged NSFW overall
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/22 04:39 PM
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I remember when I was pregnant with our second child my vomiting was so much worse than it was with our first, to the point where at times I was a useless, nauseated blob for hours at a time (even with meds). One night I turned to my husband and told him "I'm sorry for piling all the childcare (human and dogs) onto you lately, I just want to let you know that I SEE YOU and appreciate you taking over." My husband really liked that I verbally acknowledged his help. It's easy to accidentally overlo…
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/22 03:14 PM
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He acquiesced on the marriage issue, but not until we had a long, long discussion on what our expectations were for the other person. For example, don't become a land whale, cool down before approaching problems, focus on the marriage before your kids, etc. Now he seems positively excited at the prospect of marriage and children because we've had those discussions!
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/16 07:31 PM
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I was in your shoes a couple years ago. My boyfriend (whom I'm still with) and I were on the path to marriage when all of a sudden, BAM! He started reading more TRP and was instantly turned off to Marriage 2.0. His reasoning was that women are naturally unfaithful, shitty, greedy people--he'd never phrase it that way but that's what it boiled down to. He even told me that he wouldn't mind living a married lifestyle--minus actually being legally married. Kids, a house, growing old together, the w…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/16 12:18 AM
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...Are you kidding me? No self-respecting RPW would have written this.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/16 01:22 AM
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Thanks for posting this write-up! It summarizes very well some of the thoughts I've had about this sub, and finally explains why I've felt so down reading the posts here lately.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/16 01:18 AM
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You can save your future family a ton of money learning these skills. Seconded! And it feels sooo good when know exactly what your family is eating/wearing/cleaning with. Not to mention how good it feels to provide for your family with your own hands.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/16 03:34 PM
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Let's be clear: being a virgin is not the same thing as being a prude, which is what you and your 'friend' are describing. Being a prude could be helpful very early on in a relationship, if applied in just the right amount. An example of this might be that you shy away from him if his hand starts traveling up your skirt, but lean into it if he wants a snuggle. However, if you resist his escalated attempts at physical contact for too long, he might begin thinking you're not interested in him and …
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/16 03:30 PM
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Well truthfully, you should be begging for his forgiveness. Did you hear that? It's the sound of feminazis being triggered. 😂
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/16 05:37 PM
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In the law enforcement community, a fat cop is often seen as someone who lacks discipline generally. If you can't even keep your body in shape, chances are you have shitty work ethic too.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/16 04:21 PM
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Sounds like you have trust issues. I don't know whether you can patch things up with this guy in particular, but put yourself in his shoes for a second. If he broke up wth you over text because you cancelled plans with him three times, you might feel the same way. Yeah three times is getting a bit excessive, but was it really worth a breakup? In the future, you're just going to have to trust the man you're with. It's a terrifying thing to relinquish control to someone else, but this is what we c…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/16 04:17 PM
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My day has been extremely busy and kind of stressful--but in a good way, if that makes sense. I just started a new job and it leaves me very little time to contribute here on RPW :( On the other hand, it sure does feel good to get a paycheck again!
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/16 02:01 AM
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Know that while your return on investment would be fantastic, prepare yourself for 6-8 years of supporting him emotionally and financially. He won't be able to devote as much time and energy into your relationship because, quite frankly, he won't have much time for anything else but his studies. One of my ex boyfriends was on track to go to med school when I dated him (he's doing his residency now). We broke up because, among other things, he put his studies above all else. I don't blame him for…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/16 03:25 AM
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Do: -Keep it brief -Keep it PG (unless you restrict viewing permissions) -Update your privacy settings on a regular basis Don't -Post anything you wouldn't share with your grandmother -Take nudes, EVER! (Some phones can be set to automatically sync your photos to cloud storage--and we all know what happened with JLaw's undercarriage) -Post anything political, religious, or any other hot-button issue. It's annoying to read, and it may damage friendships anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/16 12:19 AM
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Could it be possible that he watches porn and tries to imitate that? Because the fast and hard ramming you see in porn is NOT how amateurs should do it. Trying to imitate pornstars is kind of like thinking, "Oh I've watched a couple of World Cup championships, I think I'm going to get signed on with Manchester United!"
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/16 09:20 PM
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It seems that you have over-corrected a bit too far in the other direction. Getting into an RPW mindset does not mean just blindly doing whatever he says/wants. Some men like this, but I suspect this is not your husband. If you 'agree' with him, do you actually, truly agree from your heart? Because there's a HUGE difference between that and just glibly going along with whatever he wants. Also, do your words match your actions? Saying "yes, let's do this" but then acting sullen that things aren't…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/16 05:28 PM
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I'd suggest picking up an "unusual" hobby. Saying something like "I rock climb/make jewelry/play the bagpipes/etc. in my spare time" makes for very interesting conversation. Even if you don't end up doing it long-term, it's still an interesting set of experiences you can talk about.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/16 04:09 AM
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Agreed. People love talking about themselves. Shyness and introversion take a little more effort to get past but it can be done.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/16 04:05 AM
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How are your stress levels? When I was 20, my hair basically exploded off my head due to stress. I took 19 credit hours of class (15 credit hours was considered a full load), had a part-time job working 20-30 hours/week, and had marching band practice 8 hours a week (+8 extra during home games). My hair was thinning out and overall looked super-greasy all the time--probably because it was thin. Perhaps your situation isn't exactly the same, but something as simple as getting more sleep or exerci…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/16 01:43 AM
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Can confirm. I take biotin supplements and my hair and nails have never been more lustrous and strong! OP's mileage may vary.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/16 01:36 AM
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:)
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/16 01:34 AM
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I've noticed that guys I've dated in the past liked it when I've made comments like, "Oh I've never done/been/eaten <activity/place/food> before!" It gives them a chance to "show you the ropes" and take the lead. It sets the tone for the kind of relationship you want to foster--he leads, you follow. When my SO took me on our first date, he asked me what food I had never tried before--probably for this reason! (In case you're wondering, it was Korean BBQ. He did all the meat-flipping and fed me t…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/16 12:57 AM
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Not sure why you got downvoted tbh. Guys are super-easy to please, and bj's usually do the job!
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/16 12:00 AM
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Not to mention that she's probably trying to get a rise out of you. Don't give her the satisfaction of seeing that she got under your skin!
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/16 11:59 PM
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My parents always used to advise me to stick to my own race, and that "birds of a feather flock together." So naturally, I dated outside of my race. One of my (now-ex) boyfriends and I didn't have any problems with this personally, but the people closest to us (i.e., parents and other relatives) made it harder for us to form a closer relationship because it was all about impressions. His mother hated me for 1) not being their race, and 2) not being "at his level". He was going to med school, I w…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/16 11:36 AM
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This kind of self-awareness takes awhile to master, so my hat's off to you for recognizing when you may be going a bit too far! Yes, I have gone overboard before, but not in the sense of smothering my man. It was more of me taking Red Pill stuff too literally. For example, when I first read about STFU, I didn't know how to balance it and so for a time I never said anything, regardless of how serious the issue actually was.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/16 11:26 AM
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Also bj's
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/16 11:22 AM
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Should I just suck it up and hope she backs off on her own? Yeah probably. You don't have to talk to her during these events beyond the obligatory "Hi, how are you?" small talk. Why let one person spoil your fun? If other people see it too there's a good chance that she knows people don't think very highly of her, either. If she's being overtly disrespectful (i.e. putting her hands on your husband, ignoring a direct question from someone else to pay attention to your husband, etc.), call her out…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/16 09:28 PM
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I'm always worried about undoing the progress we've made since I discovered RPW I think one instance won't make him think that, but repeated instances will. How should I phrase this to my husband so it doesn't come of accusatory? First, identify what it really is that bothers you. That is, pick your battles carefully. If, as you say, this woman is not a threat, then I wouldn't even worry about it. It takes two to tango, and if your husband doesn't reciprocate, where would it go? If, on the other…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/16 08:52 PM
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If she continually makes plans with your husband alone, I would tell him that it bothers you, but don't phrase it in a way that makes it his fault, especially if he hasn't done anything to warrant your ire. If you snap at her, you will instantly be "that bitch" in most people's minds. The reason she continues to want to spend time with your husband because your husband is feeding into whatever need for attention that she isn't getting from her boyfriend. You and your husband may not consider it …
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/16 08:24 PM
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Has she tried making plans with just her and your husband alone? Or does she always include others besides yourself? It sounds like you're irritated by how aggressively she wants to hang out with your husband. Is she attracted to him? Probably. But I think I would rather be cc'd on a text asking to hang out than to wonder what my husband and some other woman are talking about. There's really nothing you can do except to not hang out with her. It's up to your husband to handle things if he is han…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/16 08:05 PM
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Everyone else here has good stuff. The only thing I would add is that squats are a very good all-around workout. It won't help you lose weight, per se, but it does help tone your tummy, butt, and legs. There is a definite difference between a "squat booty" and a "fat booty" (Image slightly NSFW). http://i.imgur.com/dC0vPG6.jpg
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/16 12:53 PM
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I checked out /r/1200isplenty and it's awesome! Thanks for bringing it to our attention!
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/16 01:43 AM
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I'm sorry to say that while musicians can and do have this kind of description, you are way off here! The guy I'm talking about is not a musician.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 09:19 PM
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Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 07:40 PM
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Are you sure you're commenting on the right post? No one here mentioned anything about playing instruments...
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 07:40 PM
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I was in your shoes a few years ago. This is where having female friends is helpful. Your boyfriend is already stressed enough thinking about engagement and marriage. The last thing he needs is you reminding him of it by bringing it up constantly. This is where having female friends is helpful. Women are more likely to want to talk about details like rings, dresses, wedding venue, etc. Unload this energy on your female friends, who will likely also appreciate that you're seeking their opinion.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 06:16 PM
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I agree with your parents' sentiment about not wasting money on the frivolity of a wedding. Doesn't mean I won't have one, but it will likely be quite modest by American standards. However, I respectfully disagree about the being legally married part. I think the only reason a couple should get married is for the sake of their children. There's tons of tax breaks and other monetary benefits to being married. You'll get better insurance rates and loan APR's as a married couple, too. More money in…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 05:14 PM
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Bids are so important to acknowledge. It's amazing how much one small action can do so much to maintain rapport in one's relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 03:59 PM
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I'm hesitant to bluntly criticize someone's faults to their face You bring up a good point; in my situation I think it was okay because I've known him for the better part of a decade now. But it doesn't sound like you have that kind of relationship with this girl. Also she is female, and we all know that females are generally not very good at taking direct criticism, especially when it is unsolicited. I guess the good thing is when I see women like this to makes me work even harder to not turn o…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 03:02 PM
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How do you tend to respond when she starts being negative? Have you told her how you feel about her attitude? Some people are just totally unaware that they give off such negative energy. I have a male friend who is very similar to yours--overweight, complaining all the time, things are never his fault, etc. It got to the point where I'd avoid calls from him because I knew it was going to be nothing but whining and bitching. Eventually I straight-up told him, "I don't mind listening to some of y…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 12:43 PM
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Is there anything in particular that sets off her negative/toxic attitudes (assuming she's not like that 100% of the time)? I ask because on one hand, she does sound like more trouble than she's worth--at the moment. OTOH, I think you owe it to her to at least try to salvage something since you would not have met your other friends without her.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 12:06 PM
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How old are you? Are you stably employed? Do you have the means to contribute to the expenses? (You didn't specify whether he paid for everything because you couldn't contribute or because he volunteered to pay for everything). You're putting a lot of pressure on your man. To him, it sounds like you're saying, "Put a ring on it, or else you're sending me back to the poorhouse." To make things worse, you're telling him things like, "You don't love me." Quite honestly it sounds exhausting, and if …
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 12:54 AM
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Can confirm (source: am female). A friend of mine (29F) just got broken up with and was telling me how sorry she felt for her ex that he did not have the kind of support system for grieving like she did. I laughed and told her that he never needed one as extensive as hers because he is a man and can take the pain. She did NOT like it one bit, and moved onto someone else who told her what she wanted to hear--mainly, that he was suffering as much as she was and that she was in a better position th…
/r/TheRedPill11/09/16 08:48 PM
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I hope he finds work soon--I'm sure he finds the fact that you've supported him to be rather emasculating, even if he doesn't admit it. I'm sorry that he chose to leave :( I'm just in an LDR and it's hard enough going for long stretches without seeing the man I love. But I think that men don't leave unless they have a very good reason--not having his basic needs (food, sex, clean house) fulfilled is one example. You were definitely right to come here to RPW looking for advice. The only thing you…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/16 12:39 PM
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It's hard for most men to finish s second time right after the first. Seconded. He likely has a hard time (heh) coming because of what is called a refractory period--aka, the amount of time it takes for a guy to be able to bounce back for round 2. Some guys have a refractory period of 10 seconds or less, but this is quite rare. The average guy will take about a half hour. I'm sure he's fantastically pleased that you're so enthusiastic about getting him off! It's a trait many men look for (but do…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/16 12:18 PM
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The first step towards beginning to respect your husband again is to stop blaming him. You chose to relocate ahead of schedule to be with him; you chose to marry him; you chose to separate (pending divorce I assume?). I'm sure he hasn't solved 100% of your problems, but what have you done to help solve his? Cooking, cleaning, walking the dogs, etc. should fall on you because he has more than a full-time job in the military. Would it be fair for him to still do all that stuff after a 12-hour shif…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/16 05:28 AM
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Happy belated birthday!
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/16 05:18 AM
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It's not easy, but it is possible.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/16 04:28 AM
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An 'extreme' opinion I seem to have gotten a lot of backlash for is that women over 30 should accept that their chances of finding a high-value man who would also be a good provider have already dropped to near zero. Their good years have long since passed, but for some reason some women hamster themselves into believing that their SMV skyrockets in their 30s. Also that divorce just because it's "not working out" is NOT an option. Cases of actual abuse and/addiction are exceptions.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/16 04:25 AM
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Loose skin is definitely not attractive, but working out and eating well can help you get some of that tightness/elasticity back.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/16 01:45 PM
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I'm going to make it a goal that whenever I'm feeling my hamster start to jog on its wheel, I'm going to go to my boyfriend and initiate sex with him instead. We're a LDR, but he's coming to visit in a couple weeks and I'm most certainly going to take out my sexual frustration on him! Plus it'll help me with STFU.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/16 11:34 PM
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Sorry if I violated any rules by being a man and posting here I believe the "no boys allowed" rules were something the old RPW mods enforced. That rule was meant to prevent comments like "As a man, I'd prefer my women to do/be XYZ..." While those kinds of comments are still not allowed on here, the mods decided to look at each comment on a case-by-case basis, rather than removing any comments hinting that the commenter isn't female. Your comment stays on topic and is therefore fine IMHO :)
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/16 01:52 PM
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I answered your question. You responded with one-off examples. No one answer encompasses all scenarios.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/16 12:06 AM
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Outside of religious or medical reasons, a 30-year old guy with a low n-count indicates to me that women don't find his SMV to be very high. I'm not wasting my time and youth on someone with low SMV. I would not hold a low n-count against a young guy (15-18) simply because boys mature at a slower rate than women, and wouldn't have had as many opportunities to get sexual experience--outside of masturbation.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/16 10:25 PM
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If conversation is your weak point, fill your speech with questions about herself and the family. She's likely to be a bit nervous too, but people love talking about themselves. Practice active listening and pull threads in stories to form good follow-up question. Ultimately your goal is to find some common ground with her. Keep in mind that you can only do your best. Your boyfriend can't expect anything more from you. Good luck, and let us know how it went.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/16 07:34 PM
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can I asking you're a man or a woman? Says so right there in my flair. How old are you and are you a man or woman? Since I'm 99% sure you're not going to answer (based on your posting history), I'm going to take a wild guess and say that you are a female in her late 20s or early 30s. Correct me if I'm wrong. so I'm asking the women here if they believe that and how do they deal with it. Yes we do believe that. We deal with it by doing as much as possible to retain our youthful appearances--exerc…
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/16 01:01 PM
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I would scale it to his age. I don't have an exact number, but for example, I would be very suspicious of a guy who has only had like 5 sexual partners by the age of 30. But I would not have the same expectation for a guy under 16.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/16 12:13 PM
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"Past their prime" is a bit of a misnomer if referring to a woman still in her 20s. A woman in her 40s is certainly past her prime, but I would not lump them in together. I think a more accurate phrase would be, "looks don't improve past 21/22". As in, "this is as good as it's going to get." The "prime" doesn't last just a year or two. A general timeline might be: 16-23 --> peak years 24-29 --> looks begin to decline slowly 30-35 --> looks decline a lot faster 36+ --> looks decline precipitously…
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/16 03:37 AM
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I think that definition will differ from woman. Passionate could refer to passionate "lovemaking". Passionate could refer to "attentive to my needs". Passionate could simply be another word for "driven". Women desire all of these things, though not necessarily all to the same degree. Sorry if this doesn't really answer your question. I just think of this video whenever I see vague dating profiles like the kind you described.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/16 06:50 PM
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Maybe start out with some field reports and go from there. I'd love to see some posts on this dynamic!
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/16 06:46 PM
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IMO walking in heels that way accentuates your walk (not to mention makes it easier to walk in heels), but it would look weird if you walked that way in flat shoes. I'd suggest facing your feet forward and keeping your feet at your usual distance apart. It would naturally make your walk more graceful!
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/16 06:44 PM
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I think men care less about education and intelligence in their women than women do about men. I have more education than my SO (I have a master's, he has a bachelor's) but he couldn't care less.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/16 11:57 AM
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That's the general rule. It varies slightly across races and countries, but 22 is about the age when your natural looks are as good as they're ever going to get.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/16 09:59 AM
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Ah, gotcha. Thanks for the clarification!
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/16 09:51 AM
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I think you're misunderstanding what I wrote. Are you saying that she couldn't have had this guy for life if she had not been a 'shrew'? They both wanted mutually exclusive things out of life. She wanted lots of kids, he wanted none. She wanted to be married, but he did not. You can't have kids and not have kids at the same time, and the same goes for marriage. The reason a woman breaks up with a man often the same reason she fell for him. He broke up with her, not the other way around. This mos…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/16 01:55 AM
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Good luck with the move, I hope everything goes smoothly!
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/16 01:30 AM
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manwhore shaming I'm very conflicted about this. On one hand, I'd be wary of dating a guy with a super-high n-count, because diseases. Also the higher potential for crazy ex-girlfriends coming back to haunt him. OTOH, a guy with a low n-count would make me wonder why he isn't able to land lots of women. Outside of religious reasons, I'd be very suspect of his value if he claims to be a virgin or close to it.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/16 01:29 AM
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I think you gave women on dating sites far too much credit 😂 This would be like walking into a bar looking to meet a virgin LOL
/r/TheRedPill02/09/16 01:24 AM
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Your first mistake was going on OKC looking for interesting conversations.
/r/TheRedPill02/09/16 12:33 AM
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My SO takes ballroom dancing lessons and teaches me when we are together. It's helped me be slightly less clumsy, but I doubt it'll ever go away completely 😂
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/16 11:47 PM
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Mine's a sigma too :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/16 11:45 PM
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but I end up moving my butt right and left at every step, is that normal? Yep! Because our hips are wider than men's hips, we have a natural tendency to sway while walking. It's even more pronounced if you walk with your feet in a straight line. As for body language/social cues, I'd suggest reading this post from the RedPillWomen writing team.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/16 09:24 PM
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Is it possible to stop being clumsy. Perhaps, if you stop moving. In all seriousness though, I think there's very little you can do to make yourself less clumsy if you're naturally a klutz (source: am a blundering klutz). You could turn it into something cute though. I make fun of myself whenever I trip over perfectly flat ground, or if I run into the corner because I turned too quickly. If I'm with my SO, I give him a look of hilarious desperation that he finds absolutely endearing. But YMMV.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/16 08:16 PM
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I'm never blaspheme I'm not really religious, so I can't comment here. Sometimes I swear I think a little here and there is ok. Too much and you risk sounding like a sailor. It's possible that I don't walk really well I have flat feet too, and multiple surgeries to attempt to correct the way I walk. Do you wear orthotic inserts in your shoes? Shoes with great support can totally change the way you walk. Try also walking with your toes forward, rather than at an outward 45 degree angle (like a du…
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/16 05:57 PM
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not truly an Alpha This is a fair objection. He doesn't have a whole lot of direction. I guess what I meant by "alpha" here is that he is selfish and does what he wants without taking her into consideration. But you're right, he's not the best example of what an Alpha is.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/16 03:51 PM
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I think you have the appearance part down pat. My question is, how feminine are your mannerisms?
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/16 02:09 PM
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I just started a new job and I can already tell that I'm going to have to dodge a lot of carb-filled landmines this holiday season!
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/16 12:33 AM
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I've noticed I get more respect among my coworkers Yes yes yes! Once people see that you're reliable and not going to be an emotional wreck if crap goes sideways, it puts them at ease when they interact with you!
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/16 04:00 PM
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Contrary to what feminists will tell you, RP is beneficial and respectful towards women. It has helped me realize what advantages and limitations I have as a woman. Knowledge is power, but putting it to practice is empowering. It comes with a price, though. Viewing the world through a Red Pill lens can be thoroughly depressing once you see the reality of how the world works. Unplugging is painful at times, but it's supposed to be.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/16 03:58 PM
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😂😂
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/16 12:17 PM
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My boyfriend told me about Rollo Tomassi's The Rational Male. I read it and remember being repulsed by it actually. We'd have long, drawn-out debates over the content within. I went into those debates wanting to prove him wrong, only to find that my reactions/behavior only proved him right. (That smug SOB rubbed it in my face for awhile lol).
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/16 09:54 AM
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The 80/20 rule makes sense. Instinctively women want to pass on the best genes. If a guy has indicators of poor genes (extremely short, chronic illness, physically weak, ugly, unintelligent, etc.) his chances of finding a woman drop significantly. This goes for women too; women who are flat-chested/assed, ugly, terrible skin, with chronic illness, etc will also have a tougher time finding a man. Most people will have one or two "bad" genetic traits, but there's only so much one can do to mitigat…
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/16 08:26 PM
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No and no.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/16 05:18 PM
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Do you even know what porn is?
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/16 04:11 PM
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Very well done! I think you hit the nail on the head when it comes to explaining the behavior of tumblrinas and trigglypuffs. There's no reason to get angry at other people ever I think this is a good mentality to have, knowing that you're human and bound to slip up anyway. Shoot for 100% zen knowing you'll probably hit 85%, right?
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/16 02:42 PM
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Great, now there's a quasi-legal precedence for the rise of younger and younger cat ladies.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/16 10:00 AM
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Either, I guess? For my SO I know his tastes are fairly vanilla as far as porn goes, so for me it would be a matter of who he sees. Though to be fair, he could have a secret love of German BDSM and diaper dungeon porn and I would never know about it--nor would I ever be able to replicate that 😂
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/16 12:13 AM
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I think he meant it in terms of whether or not OP might be open to it or not since OP didn't explicitly say she was or wasn't. And not "Oh why don't you just get some tattoos to make your man happy already?!" I agree that the phrasing could have been a bit better though.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/16 11:02 PM
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"Rat-tat-tatta-tat-tat" Rat-tit-titta-tit-tit There FTFH. She had a golden opportunity and refused to milk it. Okay I'm done with the titillating puns
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/16 10:15 PM
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Consider what it is about his tattoo "obsession" that bothers you. Is it that he wants you to get them and you don't want to? Or is it that you think he believes you aren't as pretty without them? If it's the former and he asks you to get one when you don't want to, tell him politely (but firmly) that you do not want permanent ink on your body. A healthy compromise might be wearing temporary tattoos every once in awhile if that's what gets him sexually excited--it'd be no different than handcuff…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/16 09:33 PM
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Hmm. Maybe she's unaware of how others outside the family are seeing this. Something as simple as looking embarrassed when she starts yelling might be enough to might remind her that her behavior is way out of line. Alternatively--if you're up for it--you could offer to help with whatever she wanted your boyfriend/husband to do instead. That might get her to realize that there are other people in the room over whom she doesn't have power to boss around. Plus, extra brownie points for helping out…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/16 08:44 PM
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We are very alike; I love writing, and would hate to have to give that up for a career making someone else rich. In fact, I did stop writing for a few years when I had a relatively high-powered career. I can say with high certainty that I don't want to live that kind of lifestyle anymore. My ideal lifestyle would be to have my own business (making myself rich, ha!) working part-time. Of course, my SO would have to be making enough money to support that kind of lifestyle in case my business tanks…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/16 10:41 AM
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Can you describe some of the things she's yelled about in the past? What did she say? Was there any sort of resolution or did it seem like an ongoing thing ("For the 100th time, you put the fork on the right side and the knife on the left!)
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/16 04:13 AM
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I'd say work on finding employment first. Once you have a steady income, it'll be easier for you to make friends. By that I mean you'll have the resources to put yourself out there to find like-minded people. Friendships don't cost a thing, but finding friends usually does! 😂 I'm thinking of things like sports leagues, meetup groups, stuff like that.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/16 06:19 PM
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shrugs It's a matter of him picking the best mate for him. Why should he pick a defective woman when there are plenty of better options available? I gain much more than he does by staying in the relationship, so I have little incentive to leave.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/16 04:10 PM
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You flaired this as an advice post, but I'm not sure what the question is. Can you clarify what you're trying to ask?
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/16 03:04 PM
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Yikes! Not to mention that things like mental illness or degenerative diseases are hereditary. If you know your partner has something not-so-great that could be passed on to your offspring, I would think long and hard before agreeing to conceieve children with that person. Weigh the risks and do your best to predict what life will be like emotionally and financially. For me personally, I have a family history of endometriosis that causes lots of complications with 1) how the baby is formed, and …
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/16 03:00 PM
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Was there a surge in political commentary on the TRP/askTRP subs recently? I haven't noticed anything even remotely political here on RPW.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/16 03:40 AM
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I don't think it's wise to open myself up to anything yet (still slightly in love with my ex) I disagree. Now is the best time to put yourself out there. I realize it'll take some time to get over him completely, but sitting around moping about your ex doesn't do anything for you. Honestly it's a waste of your time. I know it's easier said than done, but believe me going out with other guys will help you get over your ex a LOT faster.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/16 03:38 AM
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It could be relevant to the Red Pill. Whether or not it actually is depends largely on the couple's circumstances. Like everything else in life, there are general guidelines, but a million and one exceptions to the rule. That is to say, there is very little black/white; most of the world seems to operate in shades of grey. I had this discussion with my SO years ago, and the scenario always involved some kind of horrific accident that left one of us paralyzed from the neck down, or if one of us h…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/16 11:50 PM
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I can't take credit for it, I heard that quote from Bojack Horseman (Netflix original). And I'm sure they got it from somewhere else lol
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/16 06:15 PM
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Ok, time for some tough love. The first thing you need to do is to quit your victim thinking. It's so easy to relieve ourselves of responsibility by saying, "Oh I never got the chance to..." or "Who would want to be with me?" Start by forgiving yourself. Life hasn't dealt you the best hand, but it's up to you to make the most of it. You seem very focused on finding a career related to your field. While it would be fantastic if you found such a job, it doesn't always work out that way. Give yours…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/16 01:03 PM
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Are people who've become disabled in some way not supposed to have relationships? Whether or not they deserve relationships is irrelevant. That would be like asking, "Are people who have gone blind not supposed to have the privilege of driving a car?" Not everyone is fit for everything. Not everyone makes it. OP is not her boyfriend's nursemaid, and has no commitment to him outside of the time they have spent together.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/16 04:19 AM
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My answer would have been different if they were married and/or had children. Seeing as neither condition holds true, I would say that she has a chance to improve her picking a man better-suited for starting a family. [EDIT: Whereas your argument is, "Don't get going the second the going gets tough." While that argument has merits in other areas, I fail to see the logic in advising OP to stay with a man who sounds like he wouldn't make a good Captain. Would it not be in OP's best interest to sel…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/16 04:14 AM
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I think your boyfriend is right. I don't know what his illness is, or how it affects your relationship, but it sounds like he can't give you what a man should be able to give a woman in an LTR. Everything might be hunky-dory now, but when it comes to things like starting a family and raising children, you may very well hold it against him for not being able to fulfill his role as a husband and father. In your heart you know it's not fair, but I think any future with this man is going to be fraug…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/16 01:26 AM
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When you're wearing rose-colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/16 11:33 PM
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Guys will say and do just about anything to get in your pants. Locker room talk is almost always meaningless, and is perfectly acceptable male bonding activity.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/16 10:05 PM
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It's my pleasure to help, and I hope everything works out for you. Keep us updated OP!
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/16 06:17 PM
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In that case, for the wedding issue I would calmly tell him how he makes you feel, then stop there. Do NOT start your sentence with "Because of your drinking..." or "Your friends make you do XYZ when..." because that will likely put him on he defensive. Not a good position to try to start an adult conversation. He might surprise you and come to the conclusion that he can still hang out with his friends, and needs to either drink less or not at all!
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/16 05:33 PM
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I packed up our baby and drove down turned around to yell some more but I decked him I let him come home only because well I was yelling at him in the street Like you said, you've got some serious anger issues you need to work on. And I don't think you trust your man. Consider seeking anger management therapy. You can't change/fix your husband's behavior, but you can change yourself. The next time you feel rage bubbling up, put yourself in his shoes. Let's use the example you cited here: sees wi…
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/16 11:13 AM
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I love making Crunchy Spicy Chickpeas as a healthier alternative to chips.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/16 11:02 PM
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I'm surprised he didn't dump me for being so nutty. This is proof that men love women for who they are. If not for love (and how awesome sex is), why else would they put up with our B.S.??
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/16 10:57 PM
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What a fantastic FR! I'm so glad everything worked out for you (minus the vomit, of course), and it's clear you've been applying RPW tenets very diligently :) I struggle to not let my hamster take over sometimes, so hat's off to you!
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/16 10:55 PM
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John thought they were going to get married hooks up with a girl during the summer Why not just break up with the first girl before banging another one? Unless they had an open relationship kind of a deal. Not saying that he deserved the false domestic abuse allegations, but objectively speaking he's not 100% innocent as everyone here says he is.
/r/TheRedPill25/08/16 07:18 PM
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You beat me to the punch! :D
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/16 12:00 PM
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I think this is a perfect example of the RP axiom, "Men settle down and women marry up". Not saying you're going to get married to this guy but it's understandable why he's drawn to you--you're of a lower station than he is, but you're pretty and that's what he values more. He already has money, why would he need you to provide that? Go for it, and keep us updated OP!
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/16 03:02 AM
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I loved the idea of being someone's hero Awww so sweet! A very RP mindset--taking care of a woman and making her situation better under your care :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/16 02:59 AM
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It takes a long time to get to the "I think of nothing" stage of meditation. I still have trouble getting there. That said, you could try putting on some white noise/sounds of nature (there are tons of these tracks on YouTube) and visualize yourself in the picture displayed with the soundtrack. It's kind of cheesy but it helps me relax!
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/16 10:47 PM
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Welcome to RPW! I've got bad news and good news. Bad news: If he's a true 100% RP AlphaTM, chances are very good that you will lose his interest eventually. His SMV is likely quite high if, as you describe, women are all over him. This kind of man doesn't have any incentive to stay with one woman, no matter how submissive and feminine she is. Why would he commit to one woman when he can have a whole harem of women willing to give him sex--often with no strings attached? If he happens to want to …
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/16 10:38 PM
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My goals last week were sleep, meditation, and stretching. sleep I started a new job with a whole new schedule last week so I've actually been pretty good about getting 8 hours! meditation I did this only a couple times last week, but when I did I noticed that I slept more peacefully. Intoning "OOHMMMMMMMmmmmmmm" sounds cheesy but the vibrations in my chest were actually quite relaxing. stretching I stretched out my major muscles each morning and I felt much more limber! Go figure haha. It was a…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/16 06:41 PM
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It's hard for me to pinpoint exact positions because I don't know what you studied in college, but I think a good guideline would be a job that offers flex hours and isn't very demanding mentally/physically. For example, many computer programming positions give you a chance to work from home and/or come into the office whenever. Obviously things will get stressful if you're about to launch a product, but assuming you know your stuff (and enjoy programming), the day-to-day should be fairly easy t…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/16 01:35 AM
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To try to measure it in terms of how much she "pays you back" is a futile exercise. The "give" and "take" in any relationship is never equal.
/r/TheRedPill22/08/16 10:58 PM
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Here and here! Speaking of, we should probaby get back on issuing new challenges . . .
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/16 10:31 PM
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My SO and I used to request dirty pics from each other but we'd purposely take it out of context. For example, he might ask me to send him of a picture of my ass. I'd then send him a picture of a donkey captioned, "My Ass." It's all very silly but it still gets him riled up because then he's thinking about my naked body all day long.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/16 06:46 PM
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i desire to find love It doesn't violate any rules that I'm aware of! I think there are plenty of guys out there looking for exactly what you're looking for. If my SO had things 100% his way, we would go through life as though we were legally married, minus the legal paperwork. He has no problems with lifelong commitment to one woman. He's just uncomfortable with the risk of divorce rape.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/16 01:02 AM
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she was almost twenty years older Well hellooooo Mrs. Robinson! ;)
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/16 12:54 AM
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If I were in the other woman's shoes, I would want to get a rise out of OP. Bonus points if I start a fight between them in public! This woman is bullying OP by hitting on her husband, and IMO the best solution for getting rid of bullies is to deprive them of what they're looking for: attention and validation.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/16 12:49 AM
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Hmm, I disagree. Perhaps some amused mastery is in order here. I would be complimented if another woman were to go after my SO so aggressively, especially since my SO would not respond to what is very obviously a shit test.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/16 10:15 PM
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The work culture there is largely about making a good impression, whether or not you actually have work to do. One could go home after putting in 8 or 9 hours, but if you're not one of the last to leave you will look lazy (and therefore, unpromotable) by comparison. A friend of mine who lived in Japan for ~5 years said he would just stare at his computer with his work e-mail and spreadsheets pulled up until 10 or 11 at night to make it look like he was working hard. Many of his coworkers did the…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/16 05:47 PM
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What are you looking for in a relationship? If you're looking for companionship for the remainder of your days [EDIT: Sorry, I re-read it and I didn't mean for it to sound like you were on your deathbed. My bad!], I think your chances of finding such a companion are actually quite good. As /u/MsSadieDunham mentioned, if you find one who has (grown) children and has already been married, you'll have the "been there, done that" kind of a connection that he won't necessarily find in a younger girl.…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/16 05:37 PM
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If it's any consolation, the CS community is pretty good about shitcanning deadweight in the workplace. I believe I was hired into a well-paying CS position because I am a minority woman, not so much because of my talent. I was fired two weeks later because I couldn't cut it. And you know what? It was the best thing that ever happened to me professionally. It forced me to realize my weaknesses and I spent the summer studying and bettering myself. I just got an IT job that pays significantly less…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/16 02:41 PM
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That he voluntarily used an illegal, dangerous, highly addictive drug as a grown-ass adult is a huge red flag, and certainly not indicative of Captain material. RUN, DON'T WALK.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/16 09:55 PM
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How did your husband find RPW, and what was his reasoning for showing it to you?
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/16 09:52 PM
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The first rule of TRP [EDIT: and by extension, RPW] is the same as the first rule of fight club--for the reasons you mentioned. If she's a famous SJW, the chances of your friendship surviving if she knew you were a part of the Red Pill community depends largely on how good of a friend you were with her before she became famous. If she values her fame over your friendship, she'll drop you like it's hot and rake you over the coals to get more followers. As a general aside, I would avoid bringing u…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/16 09:44 PM
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We look forward to the weekly challenge posts :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/16 09:39 PM
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I'm glad that everything went okay, and I must say that I am pleasantly surprised that you came back so soon--especially given the medical scare! We missed your input here and are glad to have you back :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/16 04:36 PM
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golden tip heh
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/16 12:48 PM
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Well said! I really liked how you described how Red Pill is about acting on observable reality. I respect that Blue Pillers try to change the world for the better, but I greatly disagree with their methodology. Being a RPW in a BP world is hard. As they in TRP, "Think for yourself, but move with the herd."
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/16 08:23 PM
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I appreciate your sentiment! I will have to think on it and possibly tweak it to make it fit the TRP sub.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/16 04:26 PM
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While adoption is nice, it doesn't further your line and in my experience most Alphas won't settle for it. Can confirm. My SO told me it would be a dealbreaker if I were unable to produce children either naturally or via surrogate.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/16 11:37 AM
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Has your boyfriend actually given you reason to believe that he might leave you? If not, stop thinking so little of him, and of yourself. I just happened to snap him up before anyone else did. But he chose to stay with you, right? Yeah you may be his first girlfriend but unless he's a player (and it sounds like he's not), guys don't usually leave a relationship unless they have good reason to do so.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/16 11:36 PM
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This sounds like a deeper issue than figuring out how to maximize your sexual value--as we tend to discuss here on RPW. In fact, it comes across to me as an extreme case of Fear of Missing Out (FOMO). As in, you're subconsciously considering branch swinging and you're mad that other women (particularly white women) are removing potential suitors from your dating pool. I'd strongly suggest focusing on your own relationship instead of on others. When you see a couple you would ordinarily be bother…
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/16 09:52 PM
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What does your boyfriend think of you possibly leaving your career? Have you discussed this with him?
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/16 04:47 PM
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Let me start by saying that suicide is never a viable option. You may believe that nobody will miss you when you're gone, but I've found throughout the years that this is never the case. Suicide casts ripples far beyond the people in your immediate vicinity. Please seek professional help, and visit /r/suicidewatch when you get the chance. An RPW answer to your situation would be that you only have so many hours in a day, and it's up to you what you want to prioritize. However, you must accept th…
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/16 04:41 PM
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I'm loving everyone's responses here! The only thing I'll add is that perhaps you can suggest playing around with angles during sex. Try putting a pillow (or two) under the small of your back and see if he can get in deeper that way. Unless his penis is 1" long fully erect, he won't have any problems. Good luck! ;)
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/16 11:03 PM
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I tried the same thing with potato chips and it ended up being so much work I didn't want to make them again!
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/16 03:06 AM
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Just make sure to apply moderation though. Having a small cup of really good ice cream is very different from eating a tub of "low-fat sugar-free" ice cream.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/16 03:05 AM
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When I started my weight loss journey, I focused on what I ate. I began by throwing out everything in the house that was carby or processed. Even if I just bought it not too long ago. When I went to the grocery store, I used only a hand basket to carry the food I wanted to get. This limited the amount of food I would buy (may not be feasible if you have a family though). Then, I'd only buy food from the produce section (veggies/meat/fruits). Look up easy recipes to make awesome salads and stews-…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/16 12:09 AM
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Unless you're publishing/doing research on something together, it sounds like he should separate work from home--and you should help him do that. The next time you sense that he's starting to back you into a corner intellectually, tell him calmly that you are his girlfriend, and that he can leave his work at work. If he persists, I see nothing wrong with giving him a blowjob or climbing on top to initiate sex! [EDIT: If you want to engage in intellectual discussion with him, offer your opinion b…
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/16 03:28 PM
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told him calmly and cooly that I preferred he didn't go but I wanted him to have fun before I could walk away, I started to cry Well if that's not guilt-tripping to your man, I don't know what is! I get the feeling that this issue goes deeper than him going off to play sports. Ask yourself--what is it about him playing sports that bothers you? That you're lonely when he's gone? That he's having fun without you? That you think he's cheating on you under the pretense of playing sports? I can't jud…
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/16 03:19 PM
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I am resolving not to hit "snooze" Ugh, this is a big one for me too! I need to actually wake up when my alarm goes off the first time.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/16 04:51 AM
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OMG fresh sheets are the best thing EVER! YASSSS
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/16 04:48 AM
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I have never heard of a face brush! Is it something for exfoliation?
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/16 04:47 AM
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Welcome to the challenges, I'm excited to see what this week brings for you! I love how specific your plans are, this to me shows resolve for improving yourself :) [EDIT: I find that what helps me get in the right frame of mind for meditation is with breathing exercises. Breathe in slowly for 4 counts, breath out equally slowly for 4 counts.]
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/16 04:46 AM
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I'm not sure what timeframe /u/MsSadieDunham intended, but I'm going to guess she meant Friday to Friday.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/16 02:02 AM
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This post is probably better suited for TRP.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/16 07:30 PM
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I'm turned on by well-balanced (but overall nerdy) men. I met my SO through friends of friends. I initially noticed him because he was he was strong enough to be the center man of the bottom row of a human pyramid, but it wasn't until we started playing nerdy board games like The Settlers of Catan that I really saw his intelligence (and ruthlessness) shine. I've never done online dating, but I would also add board game bars to your list!
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/16 02:10 AM
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A rescheduled date that is concrete is crucial. On the one hand, you have your biological clock to consider in terms of starting a family. On the other hand, you have to be flexible enough to handle what life throws at you. Most men want to be financially stable in their own lives before considering providing for others. My SO and I lived together for a year before we became an LDR. Moving in was his idea, but my condition for living together was that at the end of two years, he would make a dec…
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/16 02:05 AM
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I don't know if your boyfriend is turning beta because of your aggressive behavior, or if you're aggressive because you're making up for his lack of assertiveness and dominance. But to answer your question, yeah he sounds like a beta. Ease up off the aggression and let him take the lead.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/16 08:49 PM
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You're telling me! Now it's being brigaded by feminists and SJWs. Joke's on them though, all they're doing is generating more traffic for what is a fantastically-written post!
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/16 05:05 PM
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Sweden comes to mind The last video isn't actually real, but the misandry is quite prevalent.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/16 04:56 PM
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I'm not talking about makeup. I know you're not, which is why I'm telling you to stay on topic, which in case you're confused, is about makeup.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/16 04:38 PM
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OP is talking about just makeup. No need to try to expand it further.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/16 04:28 PM
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Jesus Christ OP was talking about wearing makeup, not The Matrix.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/16 04:23 PM
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PS is a medical procedure and stuff can go wrong True! I once knew a girl who was, by all accounts, naturally beautiful. But she got some kind of infection after her 2nd nose job and the scarring permanently disfigured her face. I think she was 19 at the time, and flew to China to get the procedure because no American doctor would do it.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/16 01:40 PM
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The game is rigged because the world judges women based on their looks, no matter how hard they try to obtain/maintain beauty. Efforts to make yourself look good don't matter that much in the end because ultimately it's the final product people see. The supremely ugly girl would have to put on a "cakeface" to begin to look as good as the naturally beautiful girl without makeup, but the second the naturally beautiful girl puts on makeup, it's game over for the ugly girl. And makeup/other cosmetic…
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/16 01:23 PM
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Knitting. I knit as a stress-reliever, but also because it's productive. It's something I can do brainlessly while watching TV or whatever.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/16 12:39 PM
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This is one of the more balanced points of view regarding wearing makeup I've ever seen. Brava! I'm sure there are ladies out there who can't hide their flaws/accentuate their good features without a ton of makeup. What's your opinion on plastic surgery that--like makeup--"boosts" features, like pumping collagen into your lips to make them more full, or to make your butt look more round? I'm not talking about restructuring your facial bones or anything drastic.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/16 12:37 PM
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this world is a pretty harsh place Yes, it is. So what are YOU going to do when you hit 40 and lose your "SMV" and you LTC leaves YOU for someone who is younger than you will be when you hit 40? Is your solution to women who hit 40 go and check out? This line of thinking is typical hamstering activity because you're purposely ignoring the fact that I did address this in the body of my post. I said that looks is the #1 thing men look for. I did not say it was the only thing. Re-read what I wrote …
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/16 09:42 PM
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Aw, shucks, you're making me blush :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/16 09:36 PM
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If someone can't love you at your worst, are they really worth your time? If you can't offer someone your best, are YOU really worth their time? when an actress gets old she is thrown out like a dirty rag Sex and sexiness sells in showbusiness. If an actress in show business can't offer that, she won't make money for the production companies. It is as simple as that.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/16 09:29 PM
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Dumb luck lol. JK, she used a third-party recruiter to place her. You hear lots of horror stories about third-party recruiters but she happened to get a good one. Understand though that to pursue one thing, you generally sacrifice something else. Rare is the person who finds the perfect balance.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/16 01:08 PM
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In terms of your education/career, it sounds like you already answered your own question. You're only a couple of years into your college education--if you truly want a family in the end, perhaps you should consider switching your major to a career path that isn't nearly as intense as medicine. I'll use my sister as an example. When she started college, she was a microbiology major. She had the aptitude for it (and even enjoyed organic chemistry), but overall was horribly miserable, and didn't l…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/16 12:22 PM
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I mean, nobody can control their thoughts. If every guy in an LTR nexted their women for having 'disrespectful' thoughts, the only LTRs that'd survive would be ones you see on Stepford Wives. But I guess that's why you choose to plate, right? (Nothing wrong with that by the way, it's just something we don't advocate for women on RPW)
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/16 12:03 PM
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Any kinda 'Alpha' would next her for the lack of patience and trust OP has displayed in this post. Then I guess it's a good thing she didn't give out too many details and can remain relatively anonymous on the Internet? And I'm not sure where you're getting that OP has a lack of patience. She elected to get advice rather than make a rash decision either way. And while her man's forthrightness is noble, they have been dating for less than a year. IMO that's not enough time for someone to earn the…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/16 03:51 AM
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family law, divorce-rape, and parental alienation of kids from fathers by horrible mothers is why TRP advocates against marriage A point of clarification here: The potential for these things to happen is why TRP generally advocates against marriage for men. Plating is a risk-averse way to maximize mating strategies for men. Just because women have the capability to be terrible people to the fathers of their children doesn't mean that's actually what's going to happen.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/16 03:34 AM
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Maybe your "friends" see your inherent value in not being a slut, and want you to drop your value by doing what they do so that they feel better about themselves. Subconsciously, of course. Heaven forbid they admit insecurity.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/16 01:25 AM
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Because I wouldn't be raising it 100% You say that now, but over time you will become attached to this child as if it were your own. You'll pour your heart, time, and love into this little human but when push comes to shove, you will have ZERO rights when it comes to things like medical care or who's picking up the kid from childcare. Unless you formally adopt him/her. If this kid's mom is still in your lives down the road (positively or negatively), there's a good chance you may never get over …
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/16 08:28 PM
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Nothing is guaranteed for sure, but at 24, you still have a decent amount of time to find another man. If you leave, men might accuse you of AWALT and "women don't understand loyalty," but just ignore them. If those men were in your shoes, they would have cut their losses already by now.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/16 08:21 PM
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I'd say you should move on. You've established yourself as a plate to him, and I think it would be very difficult for him to "un-plate" you in his mind.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/16 07:57 PM
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I wish you and your man the best of luck. Please keep us posted!
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/16 04:22 PM
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if you honestly have no money to pay child support, you go to jail. So you can't get a job to pay off the child support. Holy cow, I didn't even know this could happen. I knew the child support system wasn't fair, but I didn't think the courts would stoop so low as to punish a man for not making enough money to pay child support by making it even harder for him to find another job that would, you know, help pay child support.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/16 04:11 PM
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Men are simple. You should be glad they are! Hear, hear! I provide enough complications my own relationship. I don't need more drama than what I'm adding!!
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/16 03:36 PM
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Whoa, she's getting lawyers involved? Be very, very careful here. If the paternity shows that it's his, he needs to lawyer up and stop talking to her lawyer IMMEDIATELY. The first thing her lawyer is going to do is to get as much information from your man in order to squeeze as much money from him when they go to court. They don't do an equal 50/50, you know. The courts calculate how much he pays in child support based on how much he can pay without losing his house at the time the calculations …
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/16 03:06 PM
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I don't have any human children, but I doubt you can just raise a kid for a few years and then check out of his/her life. I'm betting that he's banking on your female maternal instincts kicking in to help raise this child, regardless if you tell him you only want to help him raising it through infancy. How could you not grow attached? I just hope for his sake and yours that this child is not his. You have not mentioned what the mother's wishes are--for all you know, she could want 100% of the cu…
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/16 02:09 PM
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Oh, boy. My first thoughts--how good of a Captain can he be if he isn't responsible enough to wrap it up with women who he considers to be one-night stands? While it's admirable that he isn't running away from the responsibility of a child that may be his, that responsibility has nothing to do with you. You shouldn't have to raise a child you did not ask for or help create--especially out of wedlock. If your man wants 50% care for this child, the other 50% needs to involve the other woman.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/16 01:19 PM
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He might be flirting with you as a way to get you to come back as a customer. If that's the case, it's clearly working! He could be flirting with tons of women all day.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/16 03:19 AM
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Very good points. I'd also like to add that most men will find that dating/marrying single mothers to be a very raw deal because men will never be their first priority--their children are #1. These men will at best be #2, and in the presence of other available women who can put them first, what incentives do men have for dating single moms? If OP were to maintain a BMI of between 18-24 and not be a nagging beeyotch and domestically provide for her man, she'd put herself ahead of a lot of hotter,…
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/16 02:30 AM
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Yep. I think--deep down--those women know that they're not the only women their man is having sex with, but choose instead to hamster it away with thoughts like "He told me he has feelings for me so he must love me" or "But I'm the one he's going to marry so it doesn't matter." Women would rather share an alpha and rationalize that they're not slutty, than to be happily committed to a super beta.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/16 11:46 PM
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Was he masturbating to porn, or to other women he knows? If it's porn, I'd say it's a harmless release. I can understand you feeling offended if he masturbates to porn instead of having sex with you, but in that scenario, he's masturbating to a fantasy. I'd say let him have his fantasy. The conversation changes completely if he's jacking off to pictures of a mutual friend or some other woman he actually does have access to. In that scenario, you'd have legitimate reason to be offended. However, …
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/16 03:49 PM
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Hey, long time no see! I'll take a slightly different tack than everyone else here. To answer your question about what you could have done differently, I'd say to resist the urge to have any romantic contact (dates, spending time alone, etc) with a taken man, especially if you know he's making moves on you. Even if the girl the guy was dating was a Grade A, numero uno beeyotch (unlike Annie), just walk away. You can't control what the guy does, but you sure can control what how you respond. As f…
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/16 01:58 PM
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Being a RPW has changed my relationship with my sister. She used to shit-test me all the time, and every time I would fail. The last time she shit-tested me though, I told her that I would not tolerate her disrespect and shitty behavior and hung up. The very next day, she called to apologize and ended up sobbing midway through about how stupid she was. It was a textbook RP shit-test! And RP accurately predicted how she'd react.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/16 12:14 AM
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I'm sorry your husband lost his job. I know how that feels and the feeling of powerlessness is truly awful, but I can only imagine that it's exponentially worse when you have two children to provide for as well. You have to have some faith that your man can take the right steps to get your family out of this situation. Whatever adverse emotions you're feeling will be amplified by a billion in your husband, so give him a chance to redeem himself. He needs direction and responsibilities now, more …
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/16 03:10 PM
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Subs for what?
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/16 01:13 PM
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Have you sought professional help? I mean, we're happy to provide advice here on RPW but at the end of the day, it's just free advice from the Internet.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/16 05:09 AM
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This is a fantastic step-by-step word flowchart! I'll definitely be using this whenever I sense an argument storming--be it with my SO or whoever.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/16 04:06 AM
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Love these tips! I wish I thought of them myself!! :P
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/16 03:59 AM
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Beautifully written :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/16 10:31 PM
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I want to get better at STFU. I'm getting better at it, but sometimes I slip up and hamster-y word vomit comes pouring out. If it gets really bad, I'm going to do my best to just leave the room until I'm calm(er).
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/16 02:24 PM
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You wanna get married find yourself a blue pill chump, preferably coalpha. Um, no. Captains are not automatically BP chumps for exhibiting some BP traits, such as providing for their own children or being married to one woman. Nobody can ever be 100% Red Pill or 100% Blue Pill all the time, and it's not "all or nothing," either. I agree with you in the sense that RP optimizes sexual strategy differently between men and women, but what we're striving for here on RPW is a compromise between the tw…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/16 12:38 PM
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But plot twist! We're both neckbeards in our 40s. Jk. Yeah sometimes I wish we could have an RPW convention or something. I think Everquest conventions used to have voluntary server meetups so you could meet other players on the same server.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/16 11:39 PM
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Get it, girl! We're all rooting for you :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/16 07:35 PM
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It's great that you dropped 40 lbs after college! Instead of giving you six things to try starting out, I'll give you one thing that helps you in six different ways. I find that once you get to a BMI of between 18.5-24.9, everything else just falls into place. Why? 1) You'll feel more confident about yourself because of the validation you get from others about your physique. Men will be much more overt about their validation (compliments, catcalls, etc). Women may validate you with compliments, …
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/16 05:47 PM
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OP should have noticed and mentioned if he had any signs that would suggest depression. I disagree. Unless OP has had experience/education in diagnosing mental illnesses, it should not be a given that OP would be able to recognize signs of depression. Anybody with a computer can go on WebMD and find that they have 10 different kinds of cancer. And in any case, people who are closest to those suffering from depression aren't always the best people to recognize the source of the problem in the fir…
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/16 05:08 PM
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I would strongly urge you to talk to a marriage/family law lawyer about the nuances of a pre-nup as it relates to common-law marriages. In the meantime, consider what you're offering. Right now, the only things you've told us that you offer him is 1) your love, and 2) care for your combined children. Both of those things are great, but in the absence of anything else, marriage for him would be a very raw deal. What makes you better than the next woman? What makes you better than other women 10, …
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/16 05:04 PM
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Not necessarily. I don't know about low-T levels, but he could be suffering from depression to some degree.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/16 12:22 PM
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I would cross the bad bridge when I came to it but never had to. This is a wonderful attitude to have! Especially because we women are so prone to jumping to conclusions without hard evidence (though there is something to be said for the power of female intuition!).
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/16 01:19 AM
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Nice A & A from your fiancée!
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/16 04:10 PM
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I'm so glad it's working out for you!! On a side note, I initially thought you were trying you say you were dating God because you referred to your SO with capitalized pronouns--He, Him etc.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/16 10:44 AM
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A couple of months ago, I told my boyfriend that I would make it a point to never badmouth him, especially in front of others. He was a bit puzzled because I said it completely out of the blue, but he accepted it and moved on. Fast-forward to last night, when we were at a friend's birthday party. One of the couples there were verbally fighting over how the guy jokingly said, "Well, I guess I'm stuck with this old bitch for life." It might have been funny if it weren't for the fact that they are …
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/16 11:11 PM
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Strap on some heels and wear sexy lingerie. No need to spend tons of money on this stuff because it's all coming off within a few minutes anyway! If you're limber and have some time, you could build up the anticipation by learning how to do a little lapdance/burlesque show just for him. Enjoy ;)
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/16 05:44 AM
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It's clear that you aren't going to get commitment from this man. Just because he calls you his girlfriend doesn't make it so. If commitment is what you're looking for, your only option is to break up with him and look for someone willing to give that to you. It's that simple. Everyone here has provided you solid RP advice/reasoning. I'm not sure what else you were looking for.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/16 05:33 AM
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Your conclusions are based on false assumptions. Mainly, that you can change a man. Only he can change himself, which he obviously has no interest in doing. And to answer my own question, I believe the real reason you're with him is that women are willing to share an alpha. I'm sorry, but you are nothing but a plate to this man.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/16 05:14 AM
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Okay see, this changes things. Please keep in mind that if you keeping trickle-truthing, it affects the quality of the responses you get. If he has repeatedly cheated on you in the past, why are you with him? (I already know the answer to this question, but humor me anyway.)
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/16 05:03 AM
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Based on what you've written on this thread and others, you don't have any evidence that he is cheating on you. Unless there are times you've caught him in a blatant lie, I would not have any reason to assume he is cheating, based on what you've written. I wouldn't mention it to him again.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/16 04:37 AM
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He has a past of cheating He has told me that he is a sex addict Are you having lots of sex with him? If not, then the logical assumption is that he is sleeping with other women.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/16 04:29 AM
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Are you two exclusive? I just want to make sure you aren't misusing the term "boyfriend." But TBH this relationship isn't really looking good if the trust has dissolved to the point where you ask that he surrender his phone on demand.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/16 04:26 AM
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I think she meant like: a) How long have you two been in a relationship? b) Are you living together? c) How old are you two? d) How is your sex life? Stuff like that.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/16 04:18 AM
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That you see your job as a means to an end is a good, balanced approach! A job where you can work from home is an awesome way to bring income while also taking care of the family.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/16 12:14 PM
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I aim to please!
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/16 10:36 PM
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Wanting a family and children doesn't make you crazy, it just makes you a woman lol. (Or did I just repeat myself? :P). In all seriousness, it's a perfectly natural urge. There's no really making it go away, and you're going to have to ask yourself if you actually want the kids/family/white picket fence. Just know that it's very difficult for women to have a high-power career AND a great family/home life. It's not fair but that's the way it is. The question is, what do YOU want to do? Regardless…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/16 08:59 PM
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Agreed, and it's wonderful to hear success stories like this! That recognition "moment" with my Captain occurred with considerably more 'cardio', however . . . ;)
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/16 04:04 PM
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Thanks for providing points of view I hadn't considered!
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/16 12:17 AM
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Korean dramas all follow basically the same BP storyline :/ A lot of my friends watch them believing that this is how their lives should be. To no one's surprise, the ones in relationships are perpetually unhappy because their men aren't richer/taller/more handsome. According to Brian Scott McFadden, all women want to date a gay football coach!
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/16 02:29 PM
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So, from stalk-y and controlling, to stalk-y and speculative? Huh, I didn't think of it like that. I meant more like how some messaging apps will give you a timestamp of when the recipient read your message. I'm hoping/assuming that women here aren't attaching keyloggers/spyware to their SO's devices . . . In both of the above examples, don't forget the power and simplicity of STFU when considering options. Mother was always right--if you've got nothing good to say, don't say anything at all!
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/16 02:25 PM
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I didn't notice it until plein_old pointed it out, either! Curse our lizard brains for subconsciously lizard-ing out over the Alphas . . .
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/16 11:56 AM
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I'd like to add that it's so easy to just mindlessly eat (especially in first-world countries where snacking is a thing)! Counting calories and remaining at a calorie deficit is so simple, yet so hard to keep up. I think the best situation is being able to consistently substitute the unhealthy crap for delicious, wholesome, healthier things.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/16 04:16 AM
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Here's to hoping conservative (sexual) values will make more of a comeback!
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/16 04:10 AM
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If a guy doesn't bring up the topic of sex after a reasonable amount of time, how else are you two supposed to continue a relationship? It would be one thing if he asked you these things on a first date. But if it's been more than a few dates and you haven't brought it up yet, he's going to be wondering if you've just put him in the friendzone.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/16 03:49 AM
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I am glad that you decided to ask for advice--from all of us (FWIW)--before your situation got more serious. I think the problem is that whether you intended to or not, you are giving this man responses that he interprets as signals of interest. Your older male coworkers may understand that your responses are purely innocent, but the coworker you're talking about clearly doesn't. Being civil is not the same thing as being friendly--but you don't need to be friendly with him to continue working w…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/16 12:38 AM
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I just find it so difficult because when my boyfriend is there I can be my friendly self to anyone and everyone and feel safe, does that make sense? Can you clarify this point a bit further? Do you mean to say that your behavior with this man is the same regardless of whether your boyfriend is there or not? Aside from that, you should never feel obligated to be polite to someone who is making you feel uncomfortable from unwanted touching. You would have already given him warning that this is una…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/16 06:28 PM
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I've been in your shoes before, and trust me when I say it never ends well. Downote me all you like, but I think there's a small part of you that's attracted to this man. Let's take a look at how you're describing your interactions with him: because having a connection means there's chemistry. Right off the bat you understand how male/female attraction works. He and I used to go on lunch breaks together (since we would be in a meeting immediately prior) From how you've written this, it sounds li…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/16 02:23 PM
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Hopefully none of the women in your church group are as crazy/entitled as this lady is about swimsuits on other women. The original post was deleted because the lady got so much hate mail. Go figure.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/16 02:01 PM
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IMO it depends on the guy's frame of mind about spending money. I know my SO isn't thinking, "Oh I'm paying for her company," or "If I don't buy her dinner, she'll leave me for someone else." Rather, "I want to spend quality time with her and this is one way I can do that." He also gets a sense of pride from being able to provide for our meals. That's not to say that I never pay; I do pay on occasion, which he appreciates greatly because that is an acknowledgement that we're partners in this rel…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/16 03:24 AM
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Thank you for sharing your story! I think a lot of us stumbled across RPW the way you did. I know that was the case for me; it took awhile to de-program the 3rd wave feminist crap that had been drilled into me since birth. Feminism just doesn't offer the empowerment and happiness that TRP/RPW has done for me.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/16 01:44 AM
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I like the idea of a prenup, as it can protect you too in case you have a lot of assets in your name. However, I've been told by more than one lawyer (I'm not a lawyer) that there is no such a thing as an ironclad prenup. They're good to have as evidence that you did have a discussion as to how assets and/or custody is to be divided, but I wouldn't rely on them 100% in the unfortunate event of a divorce.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/16 05:05 PM
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My mother used to tell me I was annoying when I did it and I never understood. Until now. I straight up loled at this for a good 30 seconds :D Does he think he needs to change his behavior? If not, I think you're going to have a very hard time because you can't get men to change their behavior, and even less so if they don't want to do it. If he does want to change, I think a way you could point it out without nagging is to jokingly act like his mother ("Did you need a juice box, honey?") whenev…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/16 09:47 PM
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You're welcome! Do you know how I can make sure what my values are and what I really want in a partner? No, sorry. Only you can figure out what your specific values are and what you find important in a partner. Generally, I'd say that RPW has more conservative outlook. RPW will generally advise that women here look for men who are CaptainTM material. In other words, someone who is a has a good mix of alpha and beta traits. Someone alpha enough to keep you interested, but beta enough to want to p…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/16 09:31 PM
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So let me get this straight. You used to baby-talk in the past, and you believe that because of your baby-talking, he has started talking like a baby, too. What? I'm not understanding how you're angry about this. Do you still talk that way? Is it just in the tone, or are is he/you literally like, "Gaa gaa GOO?!" ?
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/16 08:56 PM
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I didn't really write that I don't respect him Editing your post after getting called out on something does work wonders for shaping people's impressions, and I will be sure to block quote for the next time. because I respect him for his intelligence, maturity and good character. I think you mean that you like that he is intelligent, mature, and of good character. If you truly respected him for those things, I think you'd realize that getting back together with him is one of the worst things you…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/16 08:39 PM
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So should I get back to him or not? No. You can't change a man, and it doesn't sound like anything would change by getting back together with him; trying the same thing expecting different results is the definition of insanity. And why would you want to be with someone you don't respect (your words, not mine)? And is there any way to make him feel less hurt about the fact that I broke up with him? No. He needs to go through this pain to in order to be a better person, and to grow. Trying to soft…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/16 08:16 PM
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This is an excellent summary of RPW sidebar material, and provides a very good balanced answer/alternative to the SAHM lifestyle for those who don't want to be SAHMs. Thanks for the wonderful post!
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/16 01:09 PM
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Welcome to RPW! We look forward to reading your posts as you start your RPW journey :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/16 10:35 PM
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And taken to an extreme, sexytimes might be permanently awkward if a guy inadvertently yells, "MOM!" midway through. :P
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/16 10:30 PM
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She would look like a unicorn because 100% RP women don't exist. The closest example of a RPW that's pretty darn close to 100% that I can think of is probably a 1950s housewife. And even then they weren't 100% perfect because they're human. I doubt we'd be able to perfectly replicate life/society in that era, even if you yourself have all the habits, attitudes, and appearances of such a woman.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/16 10:27 PM
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At least it'll make it easier for you to identify women with the self-discipline to stay fit, and perhaps (by extension) to remain disciplined enough to positively contribute to a LTR.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/16 04:23 PM
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IMO "thin" is relative to your height and and muscle mass. A 5'5" 140 lbs female who works out and eats right is going to look very different from a woman with the same dimensions who doesn't work out.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/16 01:06 PM
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Weight isn't an issue for me. Trust me, I wish it were Hey now, don't speak it into existence!! :P I think humor and good naturedness is important, but it's hard to develop that in the first place if people are averse to you. I disagree. Is your SO averse to you? Obviously not. And IMO, people aren't averse to ugly people. People are averse to ugly personalities. I'm not saying you have an ugly personality, but it's something you're going to have to improve from within. I don't know if you have …
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/16 02:57 AM
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Huh, I've never thought about it that way. I once dated a man who hadn't cut the umbilical cord from his mother, and I remember feeling like I just got slapped in the face every time he would tell me I would never be as good as his mother.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/16 02:27 AM
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Physical attractiveness is just one part of the equation. Even the most beautiful of girls will one day grow old and wrinkly. What keeps a man interested in a woman long after her beauty has faded are things that add to her RMV. Things like humor, good companionship, and holding your own weight in intellectual conversations (and many others, of course). Could he leave you for a prettier girl? Sure, he could. But the question is, what do you bring to the table? What will you do to improve/maintai…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/16 02:02 AM
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I think he'd be disappointed and sad, but he would understand. Ultimately he wants me to be happy.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/16 01:59 PM
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Ah, sorry I should have been more clear. We are of the same culture, but I am more observant than he is of it. Hyphenating our names is out of the question as well for the same reasons. It's either I take his name or we don't get married. After a lot of reflection, I have come to the conclusion that at the end of the day, the man I'm spending most of the rest of my days with is going to be my boyfriend (future husband). So I'm willing to "give in" to his requests, considering the companionship a…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/16 03:24 AM
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I had a cultural reason for not wanting to change my last name. In traditional Chinese culture, it's not customary for women to change their last names because it's a way to honor their fathers. Children would take the father's last name. My dad made me promise I would never change it. If my boyfriend and I ever get married, I'm afraid I will have to break my promise. My boyfriend is much more Westernized than I am in this aspect, and insists that I take his last name as a sign of respect and ac…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/16 11:46 AM
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Everyone here basically nailed it so I don't have too much to add. The only other thing I have to say is that the stuff you see on TRP can sound harsh to women (especially the stuff about plating and seeking non-monogamous relationships) because it caters to mens' best interests. It's also a space where they can be 100% honest and not feel like they have to police their language. I would suggest against going there only because you're going to feel like you have to defend yourself and all women …
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/16 11:06 AM
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That's fair. I wouldn't want for legitimate newbies to feel too intimidated to post.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/16 10:55 AM
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Will these interviews/attempts always be a formal PM in one's inbox? Or should we also watch out for fake posters asking for "advice" or wanting to have "discussions"? I've noticed an influx of low-quality, low-effort posts here on RPW lately, and most of them are questions that could have been easily answered by spending 5 minutes on the sidebar. Or spending two seconds searching for in the search bar. Could these posters also be reporters fishing for triggeringTM responses?
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/16 02:16 AM
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Not to self-promote this sub (ha!), but I pull up RPW every day to read people's stories to remind myself about what works and what doesn't. It's a process. Nobody is ever going to do everything fully RPW all the time. The lifestyle changes you have to go through to make it "something you are" vs. "something you do" often starts at a much more fundamental level than just wearing feminine clothing and keeping the house clean. For example, you could look into the reasons why you're too tired to be…
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/16 04:10 PM
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Dude this is awesome! I'm so glad OP talked to her mom about this instead of letting it slide. I'm not married, but I imagine it's so easy to forget the other person when all you're thinking about is your kids. Thanks for posting!
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/16 10:38 PM
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I do suspect that he tells her everything about our relationship Whoa, that's crossing the line. I think some things are okay to talk about (where you went in dates, what you do for work), but knowledge that you wouldn't have otherwise divulged to her naturally (intimate moments, health issues, etc.) would NOT be appropriate for him to discuss with his mother. I understand that you're a private person, but being in an LTR means you have to have some degree of vulnerability and trust in this guy.…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/16 09:15 PM
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and that I'm the number one woman to him. Not to be rude, here, but it's completely unreasonable for you to expect this right now. Furthermore, you don't have a right to know what goes on between him and his mother. You two aren't married, and unless she's actively going out of her way to hurt your relationship, you just have to trust that he's handling it. I want to feel like our relationship is important to him Has he given you reason to assume that it's not?
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/16 06:31 PM
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If you skip step one, the vetting process, then yes, you can end up like most women who are stuck with betas. OP said that marriages in her country are usually arranged, so the vetting process would have to take place with her older relatives.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/16 06:20 PM
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Okay. A lot of RPW advice stems from learning how to pick the right man. Obviously this doesn't apply in your case, but it sounds like you're wondering what women can do if they are stuck with someone who isn't CaptainTM material. It also sounds like a lot of women in your culture end up marrying undesirable men, but it's a false premise to assume that they are "stuck" with them for life. This is a victim mentality that these women use to justify treating their men terribly. Don't be one of thes…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/16 06:17 PM
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If it's actually worth bringing to his attention, just tell him how you feel during $Situation, without judging his actions/inactions. Example: "I get upset when you pull your phone out on our date nights." When you do this, you're bringing him the problem (i.e., you're not feeling happy). This gives him a chance to fix it without feeling attacked because you're focusing on your emotions. There's a good chance he doesn't know that it's bothering you that much.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/16 05:41 PM
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I used to be a feminist, and I wanted women to be able to do all the things that men do in the military. This thought has changed drastically over the years...I no longer consider myself a feminist. What brought about the change? It's a huge transformation, and no easy feat!
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/16 03:20 PM
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Basically, some times you are destined to stay in a marriage with someone you haven't chose for your whole life. I'm unfamiliar with the culture you're describing here, but am I correct to assume that this is one where arranged marriages are the norm?
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/16 03:13 PM
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Welcome RPW! I am tickled you found us by searching for Southern Belles :P It sounds like you have found the ideal RPW partner! Everyone here basically nailed it. I only have a few things left to add: About a year ago I decided to take some me time, find a great therapist, and work through what was holding me back in my life. This was probably the greatest gift I have ever given myself. YES. So many people who need help often think they don't need it/it won't work for them, so hat's off to you f…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/16 03:04 PM
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Exactly! I get frustrated whenever I see someone babbling about things like "We need to get more women in STEM because TEAM WOMAN!" The reason why STEM fields are prestigious is because it requires an assload of work and responsibility to be successful--work and responsibility that women may be unprepared for if she just jumps blindly into it.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/16 03:15 AM
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Hm, that's fair. I could have clarified which group(s) of feminists are problematic (i.e., the "Gimme Feminists" you mentioned). I'll be sure to make that distinction, should I mention feminists in future posts!
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/16 03:11 AM
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This isn't advice. OP already said she is new to RP, and I have to assume she wants to make changes.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/16 12:38 AM
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Expanding the draft is, in my opinion, a "least common denominator" approach to equality. The easiest way you can treat two groups of people equally is to treat them both in an equally shitty way, rather than to treat them both in an equally good way. Ha! I suppose you're not wrong. I agree with you that expanding the draft to include women would make things more equal between the genders. What I have a problem with is women who argue (for arguments' sake) that we should expand the draft to incl…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/16 10:56 PM
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Thank you for your perspective! This could honestly be a post in of itself; when I did the research for military-related posts on RPW, there were only perhaps one or two where OP was a female soldier. You write well and could really help "connect the dots" for those of us who have never served. Also, thank you for your service! [EDIT: I'd also like to add that I liked how you mentioned the problem of fitting into infantry culture. Fitting in is important for both genders, but the need to feel ac…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/16 10:49 PM
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When Cecelia is done shaking your confidence daily, perhaps you could look into real confidence-building activities like, you know, working out. I fail to see how dressing wth mediocre style does this for you.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/16 08:17 PM
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I have to agree with everyone else here when they say that you're just a plate to this man. You were likely one his more interesting plates (hence the stimulating conversations), but unless you established that you two are in an exclusive relationship, this doesn't sound like an LTR at all. At least he didn't lead you on/lie to you?
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/16 08:02 PM
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SMH. What did she think she signed up for when she joined the military??
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/16 07:52 PM
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It that was not the case, she'd be pregnant the day after a draft started, primarily to keep her safe. This gave me the warm fuzzies :) Every single father I've ever met has said that they would never give their daughters up for the services--especially the ones who had prior military service.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/16 07:50 PM
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What always puzzled me is how happy feminists were for trying to make women eligible for the draft. I mean it's one thing if you joined the military voluntarily--luckily we haven't had to force people to go to war since Vietnam. But did they think that the men who were forced to fight wanted to be there??
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/16 07:45 PM
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Like, at the rifle itself or the thought of having to point it at someone and pull the trigger?
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/16 07:36 PM
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The standards shouldn't be lowered for them. That is a risk to everyone. The sweet, sweet thing that feminists can't seem to comprehend is that that would be inherently unequal. This isn't a military example of where physical standards were lowered to accommodate for a woman who just couldn't cut it, but she caught flack for it all the same.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/16 07:26 PM
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That make sense, now that I think about it. I just wish it weren't the case :(
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/16 07:21 PM
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Sounds like a very thankless job, and one where you don't tend to get credit where credit is due. I <3 nurses!
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/16 12:23 PM
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Yep! Sans barking though
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/16 11:01 PM
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Nail ==> Head.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/16 08:22 PM
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Welcome to RPW! I'd suggest reading the sidebar material. There are some good ones under "How to RPW."
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/16 08:18 PM
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but she's not my girlfriend yet This is BluePill thinking. She doesn't need to be your girlfriend for her to respect you. If you want to work your way towards being more of an alpha male, all women (plates, LTRs, sisters, coworkers, etc) need to respect you. What she does with her own pussy is her prerogative. You just have to set the standard for what is/isn't acceptable behavior for YOU.
/r/TheRedPill12/07/16 08:07 PM
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Reposting because my original response was removed for linking to sidebar material. My bad. Of the six types of responses to shit-testing, I think "Commanding Respect" could work well here. If she started talking about specific plans that sound suspiciously like CC activity (i.e., music festivals, clubs/bars, hitchhiking/staying in hostels, etc.), you could say something like, "Going to $Place to do $Thing is extremely disrespectful to me and I won't tolerate it in our relationship. Do it if you…
/r/TheRedPill12/07/16 07:21 PM
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OP was looking for a unicorn. There's a reason they don't exist these days. I didn't say anything about negotiations. Properly responding to shit-tests has nothing to do with negotiations.[Removed after seeing your edit. Gah I hope this doesn't end up being an edit-on-edit chain]
/r/TheRedPill12/07/16 06:53 PM
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If you were so ready to turn her into a plate at the drop of a hat, it doesn't sound like you're ready for an LTR. And that's okay. But if you're actually interested in an LTR, and she was truly LTR material (no red flags, no slutty behaviors) before she decided to go on her trip, why are you nailing her to the cross for something that hasn't happened yet? You're making assumptions based on false premises--mainly, that women worthy of LTRs are going to be perfect 100% of the time. Nobody is perf…
/r/TheRedPill12/07/16 06:32 PM
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I've never been married, and the comments on here already are really good, so I don't have much to add from a married perspective. All I have to add is that I compare marriage to a business venture. When you open a business, you have no idea if it's going to work in the long run. In fact, the odds are really good that it's going to fail--most small businesses do. The only thing you can really do is prepare and control what you can (i.e., proper vetting and being the best version of yourself), an…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/16 03:54 PM
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Most people who get married will fall out of love, get divorced, screw the kids, ready for my next intravenous hit of love. People who get divorced with young children in tow are selfish. And the worst part of it all? The culture of "Oh, well if it doesn't work out you can just get a divorce. Why be unhappy together when you can be happy alone?" Makes me sick.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/16 03:45 PM
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Can't go wrong with bacon
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/16 07:03 AM
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If I could get out of bed without waking him up, I would totally do this!
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/16 07:02 AM
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Little compliment mean a lot and are easy to do Can confirm. My man won't ever express how much he likes it when I compliment him on his muscles or if he did something well. Sometimes I'll even go a bit over the top if he wins a game, squealing, "Oh my god, honey, that was soooooo good!!" He knows I'm joking but appreciates the sentiment nonetheless.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/16 07:01 AM
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Would it be in poor taste to do a female version of "D--k in a Box"? :P To seriously answer your question though, I like to come running to the door the second my man comes home from work. He says it makes him feel like he's "coming home" vs. "coming back to a house"
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/16 10:43 PM
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A reminder to all men that they will always be swimming in a tank full of the most beautiful sharks...
/r/TheRedPill11/07/16 08:19 AM
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It's so terrifying to be a college-aged woman these days, you misogynistic prick. /s
/r/TheRedPill11/07/16 08:09 AM
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Assuming you're not a broke, lazy fatass, you'll always have an abundant supply of women interested in you. Just remember that us women will always need men more than men need women.
/r/TheRedPill11/07/16 08:00 AM
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My body dimensions are similar to yours, and I've had great luck with the cut/fit from New York & Company. I've never had to alter any dresses I bought from them.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/16 05:04 AM
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You could check out your local crafts store and/or community college to see what classes they have. Classes from community colleges will be cheaper, but crafts stores will have access to more materials. Alternatively, if you have a relative or friend who has sewing skills, you could find a picture of a dress you like online, and then ask them to teach you how to make it.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/16 05:01 AM
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Just checked it out. As the site's name suggests, they are "le bomb!"
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/16 04:56 AM
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I think you should divorce him. You'd be doing him a favor. For her, staying married to this man (who may have the potential to change for the better) might be her only option, as her SMV is rapidly declining. Couple that with children (if they end up having them), and her options for finding a Captain narrow even further. Her chances of landing another beta would probably be rather high. If she actively changes and improves, and if he changes and improves, wouldn't that work out better for all …
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/16 12:23 AM
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I just thought of another way you can meet people. My cousin was in your shoes about 5 years ago. He fought off depression and suicidal thoughts with antidepressants and his circle of hiking buddies, who he met on an outdoorsy meetup.com group. Since then, he's hiked portions of the Appalachians, the Rockies, and Everest.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/16 01:15 PM
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How do I get over the regret and pain of missing the opportunity of experiencing love and children? You probably won't see many RPW here providing advice on "How to prepare for a life without love and children" because its not good RPW advice. In the RPW view, it's not in a woman's best interest to go it alone for the rest of her natural life. MGTOW can work for men because they remain fertile long after we do, and can father children well into their golden years. But women will almost always wa…
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/16 12:15 PM
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I think they came here to give your entire family more opportunities, not because they wanted to integrate into American culture. I mean, you went to school because it opened more opportunities, but I'm sure it wasn't your absolute favorite thing in the world. Give your parents some credit, and be a little bit more gracious. I'm willing to bet my bottom dollar that they came here to give you a better life, knowing how competitive EVERYTHING is in China.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/16 03:45 AM
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Okay, I've got some good news and some bad news. I'll start with the bad news first. 1) A romantic relationship with this man is highly unlikely. Even if it does happen, it probably won't be the kind of relationship you fantasize about. Men are usually very direct; if he wanted to be with you, he would have made it clear/made it happen a long, long time ago. 2) You're at a disadvantage in terms of your SMV. By her late 20's, a woman's attractiveness begins to drop, and continues dropping precipi…
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/16 03:32 AM
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They were blind to the fact that I would never share their experience of growing up in China, and they would never know if my experience of growing up here and having to learn everything on my own. That's not fair to them. Consider how you'd feel if the reverse were true. How would you feel if you immigrated to China? I'd bet that they'd feel just as frustrated that you might not accept the culture there as easily as they do. Whether or not you'd fully accept the culture is less important than y…
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/16 02:44 AM
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It's especially rich coming from her because she's skinnyfat. She complains ALL THE TIME about needing to lose the tummy fat while continuing to eat junk food and not exercise.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/16 01:57 AM
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You may also want to consider crossposting to this r/relationships. But I hear you; I, too, am a child of immigrant parents. I'm sorry to hear that you were socially isolated growing up. Let me guess: your parents made you prioritize you education/career path over social interaction? I assume you posted on an RP sub because you're looking to befriend women who have more traditional values (read: basically the opposite of feminists and SJWs). A fellow RPW asked a very similar question quite recen…
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/16 01:54 AM
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Before I answer your questions, I have a few things I want to clarify: 1) You say you want to stop your habit of obsessing over men. It's great that you've identified the problem you need to fix, but what happens afterward? What do you ultimately want, at the end of the day? 2) Can you be more specific when you say "VERY LOW partner count"? Very low compared to what? You can give me a range (within 5 preferably) if you don't feel comfortable getting into the exact number of partners you've had s…
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/16 01:38 AM
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This is awesome! This post comes at an interesting time for me because it just hit me today that my roommate is incredibly jealous of my boyfriend and me. She's usually sweet, but she'll also take any and every opportunity to make us look like fools, usually in a situation she contrived. Examples: --"Hey rproller, come here and take a funny picture with me!" snaps picture of just rproller and immediately turns around to a friend to point out how ugly and stupid I look --"Hey [rproller's boyfrien…
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/16 01:19 AM
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meaning I'll get college education and a degree without wasting a dime on it That's awesome! I'm not sure what you'll be studying, but assuming it's not a completely useless degree (like English, Sociology, etc) then your man will likely see it as an asset you can use to get a good job. Good jobs make it easier for you and your other half to have the kind of life you want in the end! Even better if you created those opportunities for yourself without incurring significant debt. [EDIT: Spelling]
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/16 04:26 AM
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That's fair. And bear in mind, too, that having an education doesn't always equate to being intelligent. It all depends on what the woman does to cultivate her mind/intelligence. A woman who reads academic publications, attends professional conferences, and does research on her own time is likely to be very intelligent, but she wouldn't need a college degree to do those things.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/16 10:51 PM
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What is there for me in getting married ? This comment is better-suited for TRP. RPW advocates for LTR's/marriage because that is what is best for women. TRP advocates for plating/avoiding marriage because that is what is best for men. Furthermore, this post is meant for people interested in marriage. OP is not trying to convince people who don't want to get married that marriage is for them.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/16 09:11 PM
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Have you visited Mr. Ironwood's blog? OP posted a CliffNotes version of the "Wife Tests" content, so of course it isn't going into that much detail.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/16 08:47 PM
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To deny values of human curiosity and inquiry and the beauty of being able to discuss various subjects on an even leg with your lifetime partner is to reduce us to our animal natures. I don't think /u/MsSadieDunham was trying to say that women should forego education altogether. I think she's trying to say that education, in of itself, doesn't increase a woman's SMV. Most guys would not put "education" on the list of things they find attractive about a woman (or if they do, it would probably be …
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/16 08:42 PM
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I don't think you interpreted my comment the way I meant it. I meant to say that being happy and fulfilled increases your SMV. Gotcha. But then these women should ask themselves why they "enjoy" their job. Agreed, and it's a tough balance to work out. The lies we've been fed all of our lives make it hard to answer this question--"I checked all the boxes for what Disney and feminism have told me happiness is, but something's still missing . . . Oooh, I know, I'll look to RomComs for the answer to…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/16 06:51 PM
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...Are you sure you're only 18?? You had some well-written theories there, and I certainly wouldn't have gotten as deep when I was your age. I wish I could comment on what you've written about raising children intelligently, but I've never had them (unless you count fur-children) so I can't say what's effective and what's not. I wonder what the /r/RedPillParenting would have to say.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/16 04:42 PM
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That in itself will increase your SMV. /u/VigilantRedRooster gives a very eloquently-written explanation of why that statement doesn't align with RPW.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/16 05:35 AM
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Have you ever seen a woman try to hook a guy just to see if she can? Insecure women do this constantly to try to find self-worth. An excellent point!
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/16 04:08 AM
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Thanks! /u/Mentathiel made an excellent observation that I really like: it's a social fitness test, so it's useful for everyone in certain contexts.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/16 03:25 AM
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Ah, okay. At the risk of ticking off some people: in my experience, the more devout the Catholic, the higher the guilt.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/16 03:02 AM
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I'm guessing you've never heard of Catholic Guilt. I'm not Catholic, but my Catholic friends confirm the pic just about sums up how they feel.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/16 12:32 AM
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Goth 1: "I'm going to kill you in your sleep." These are the looks that are are more prone to keep men away. This had me chuckling, so thanks for that!
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/16 12:08 AM
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I'm going to assume you're a troll because your account is a day old, and you clearly have not read the sidebar. Shoo!
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/16 11:16 PM
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1) That may be so, but they're probably thinking that they have to work harder than you to maintain the same level of beauty. Whether or not that's true is irrelevant because their hamsters are going to go ballistic that you're young and they're not. 3) I'd focus on building a friendship with the woman you get along with. No point in forcing the issue with those you don't get along with, right? Whether or not you want to keep putting up with them is up to you. If you know that they make you feel…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/16 11:12 PM
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That depends on your personal values. I personally think it doesn't matter because like I said, I care more about what it is they're doing. A person staying up until 4am practicing a musical instrument is considerably less of a concern than someone who stays up until 4am on a coke-induced vandalism rampage.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/16 11:03 PM
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The very fact that I said I'd badmouth her by getting into specifics shows disrespect and is something I'd never allow myself with my SO. IMO, you didn't disrespect your mother . . . You can't control your thoughts, but you sure can control your actions. Just thinking about something bad doesn't make you disrespectful (unless you're Catholic, then in which case ignore my reply :P). In fact, I'd say you showed your mother respect by acknowledging what would be disrespectful.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/16 10:51 PM
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I have several thoughts as to why these girls are putting on their best "Mean Girls" impression. 1) Jealousy. I'm guessing these women are older than you, possibly 30+ (judging from your boyfriend's and V's ages)? A younger girl in their group (i.e., you) would throw off their dynamics because they realize they can't compete (SMV-wise) with a 25-year old. 2) Jealousy, pt. II. Maybe these women all fancy your boyfriend in some form or fashion. Tearing you down might be their only method for getti…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/16 07:41 PM
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You're reading too much into that statement. My point is that there's a higher chance of engaging in risky/bad activities as the night goes on. If they don't end up doing anything bad, then yay. But what matters more is what the person (guy or girl) does in those late hours, not the time in which $Activity was done.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/16 07:02 AM
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I'll admit that I should go to the gym more often. Good thing "go lift bro" isn't advice I hear often as a woman ;)
/r/TheRedPill07/07/16 06:58 AM
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Absolutely fascinating. I had to Google a lot of the terms you used but it makes sense. I'm so glad I only wear heels once or twice a month, and that my boyfriend makes me do squats and plyos when we go to the gym.
/r/TheRedPill06/07/16 03:22 PM
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Great observations! You mentioned his several times, and I'm genuinely curious: how can you tell the difference between a woman who is thin through effort vs. one who is thin by genetics? Presence of muscle tone? Eating a salad?
/r/TheRedPill06/07/16 12:19 PM
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This is a great list! I'm not married, but my boyfriend and I did live together for a time. I worked full-time just like he did, but often felt frustrated that his standard of "cleanliness" wasn't even close to mine, and my nagging drove us both out of our minds. It's so easy to fall into this trap, so thanks for bringing this to our attention!
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/16 11:12 AM
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I'll tackle the easy stuff first. What about recreational drug usage at events like festivals? I would highly suggest against recreational drug usage if you want to maintain value--especially since you want to be married by 25. Even if a high-quality man doesn't mind the drug use in of itself, the drug usage may lead to other things that you'd probably regret. People go to festivals for the drugs and easy sex; do you really want to be associated with that? If you do, that's fine--just understand…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/16 06:35 PM
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The hell I must have put my parents through. I know right?! It wasn't until a couple of years ago when I realized that my parents were right all along, and that I should have just listened to them in the first place. Oh well. I have a soft spot for the piano, as it is my primary instrument. If you have time and money to learn it in the future, I think it will make you into a better musician IMO.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/16 06:06 PM
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It's all well and good that you're accommodating of his nighttime activities. I see where you're coming from in the sense that it doesn't seem equal that he gets to have fun out with his friends but he has a problem when you try to do the same. Here's the thing though: you and your boyfriend are not equal players in this game. There's a lot less risk to him going out until the early hours in the morning. It's not the same for you, and never will be. The longer you stay out at night, the higher c…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/16 06:02 PM
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Absolutely, and this is such an important distinction when a woman decides to be a SAHM, too. If she does it just because he wants her to, chances are she's going to be quite miserable. Though I will say, for the record, that before I met my current boyfriend, I was a big believer in not being a SAHM--ever. He's got a good mix of alpha and beta traits (i.e. a Captain), and he is the first guy I have ever truly considered being a SAHM for. I guess it was just a matter of finding a guy who is more…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/16 07:22 AM
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If you're really dead-set on going, you shouldn't let you boyfriend stop you. Just understand that every action has a consequence, good and bad. These choices seem mutually exclusive, which begs the question: what is more important to you--this festival or your boyfriend? And if the situation were reversed, how would you feel if you really didn't want him going to $Activity?
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/16 07:16 AM
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Don't limit your life for someone who doesn't plan on being around in a year or so. I get what you're saying, but that's a lot to assume. You don't know which stage her boyfriend is at with TRP, nor do you know what his goals with women are.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/16 07:08 AM
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it's going to feel like someone just dropped a dog turd in your lap when he tries to hold your hand. LOLOLMAO Freakin lost it 😂. Thanks for that mental image!
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/16 06:54 AM
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Congrats to you for getting your degree! I'm glad to see that you've turned your life around; that sort of thing doesn't happen everyday or overnight. She always sees me at my best and I'd like to continue that pattern. You took the words right out of my mouth. It wasn't so long ago that I was teenage girl, and I can tell you that the best way you're going to lead is by example. Rare is the 15-year old girl who simply listens to the wisdom and experience of those who've "been there, done that". …
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/16 06:49 AM
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Good luck to you!
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/16 06:27 AM
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First, I'd like to applaud you for wanting to step up to the plate to be this girl's father figure. It takes a lot of guts to do that. Without identifying yourself too much, can you tell us a bit more about you? What are some features you have that make up a stable father figure? Steady job/military? Good familial, platonic, and romantic relationships?
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/16 03:10 AM
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Being bisexual is kind of irrelevant to this situation. The true issue here is whether you're going to be honest about you wanting to have sex with other people (male or female). Do your boyfriend a favor and break up with him if you feel that strongly about having romantic relationships with others. [EDIT: Clarity]
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/16 10:27 PM
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Don't poop where you eat. It can either go very, very well or very, very poorly. In my experience it's been either extreme, and usually the latter.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/16 10:24 PM
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I suppose it would be in poor taste to get a mug that says "Feminist Tears" huh? :P
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/16 03:15 AM
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Thanks! I was worried about it's reception on this sub. I haven't gotten any hate mail PM'ed to me so I guess it hasn't stirred the pot that much!
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/16 03:12 AM
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You don't want to be as needy as a dog, for instance. That's a good point. I'd be suffocated if my Captain followed me around everywhere and wanted to interact with me 24/7.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/16 06:49 PM
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Here's to hoping that the political pendulum swings back to something closer to 1950's-era relationships?
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/16 06:46 PM
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Me not taking him seriously was a big source of immaturity and when he explained this to me, I acted incredibly immature and manipulative. I think this is true of all women, not just in your case. I think RP women do a better job of suppressing the urge to nag, challenge and dominate, but it never really goes away. As a side note, if you're nagging, challenging, and dominating the guy, part of the problem is on him for not being alpha enough to keep you submissive. A woman's femininity is genera…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/16 05:14 PM
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Welcome to RPW! The comments here about clothing, makeup, and majors are really good, and I have nothing to add there. About RP behavior in a college setting: Parties Figure out what your drinking limit is before you go to a party. I'll assume you're going to a U.S.- based college so while you can't legally drink, it may help to have an older brother/sister help you. This will reduce the edge/temptation to go bananas when you have only yourself to watch out for you. Sex Frat parties/bars are pri…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/16 07:04 AM
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I can't offer any useful advice because I've never been married, but I wanted to wish you good luck. We're here for you!
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/16 04:46 AM
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I've started acting more feminine and listening to men more, rather than getting super drunk all the time and trying to act like I'm "just one of the guys" which is what I thought guys wanted. THIS. In high school and first two years of college, I used to pride myself on how much like I behaved "like one of the guys." For a time, I was somewhat sexually invisible to most men because--you guessed it--I acted like a man. Looking back on it now, I can't believe that I was ever confused as to why I …
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/16 04:42 AM
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Thank you for capturing the nuances of what I couldn't quite put on paper (screen?). I found myself very frustrated because I kept thinking, "I'm not telling women to forego an education! I myself am a fairly well-educated woman!" but I couldn't figure out a way to voice it. Thank you also for bringing your personal experience into this. I admit that I'm still quite young, and the majority of the women with PhDs I know are either a) militant feminists or b) like Woman B. So those experiences do …
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/16 04:37 AM
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Why do you want to get back together with him? What makes you worthy of him? I know this isn't easy to read, but a large part of RPW is understanding where you need to improve to be a better woman that is deserving of a better man. It's not a matter of "incorporating aspects of RP" into your life. It's a lifestyle change that requires a lot of dedication. I would suggest that you really look within yourself to identify what can make you more attractive to men in general, not just your ex. [EDITE…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/16 02:44 AM
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Straight from the horse's mouth!
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/16 04:23 PM
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Yeah, I get the feeling that it'd go wrong no matter what you did or said. I've been on the receiving end of rich people being intentionally snobby to me ("Oh, you went to public school? What do you people eat there?"), so I get where he's coming from. On the other hand, I realized that a lot of the perceived prejudices were in my head, and that I was probably being oversensitive sometimes.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/16 07:26 AM
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As hard as it is, remember too that your parents love you and ultimately want what they think is best for you. You don't see eye-to-eye with them but that's okay. There were a tense few years between 20 and 25 between my parents and myself because they constantly judged who I dated (usually a race-related reason) and how much of an allowance I could afford to give them. It wasn't until very recently that I realized it was because they had a hard time coming to terms with wanting to do what they …
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/16 07:18 AM
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How did that one guy realize that your family is wealthy? I can't imagine that the conversation went, "Hi, I'm /u/asteadyheart, and my family is swimming in money! How dare you swim in water, you plebe?!"
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/16 08:30 PM
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I just got into dehydrating within the last couple of weeks. Since then, I've made about 5 lbs of beef jerky (from about 15 lbs of ground beef), which has been useful as a snack (obviously) as well as a way to save space in the freezer. If I'm making soup or stews, I toss in some cut-up beef jerky to rehydrate so I can have instant meat that's already been marinated and cooked! Basic Beef Jerky Recipe 3 lbs of ground beef (90% lean or higher) Salt Pepper Garlic powder Cayenne pepper Liquid smoke…
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/16 06:05 PM
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Good On the first date with my Captain, he took me out to Korean BBQ, which I never had before. He did all the cooking/flipping because I was (and still am) terrified of splattering oil, and fed me the choicest pieces. Bad A guy I previously dated said he was taking me out for a fun birthday surprise. Little did I know that "fun birthday surprise" meant spending the entire morning and afternoon at his church fasting (!) and praying. I have nothing against religion, but I was not (and am still no…
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/16 04:38 PM
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I would prefer to find someone willing to constantly surpass themselves and and settle for what they've got so far! That's my personal preference as well. If my Captain were totally turned off by my education and career goals, and also refused to improve himself, I think I'd probably find another Captain.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/16 03:52 PM
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Thanks for your long and thoughtful answer! However, I believe women should be encouraged to keep an open mind that they may need to end or diminish their careers to begin a family. This is one of the hardest things that I've had to come to terms with. I'm lucky that my Captain supports me in whatever I decide to do! If I want to pursue a career for life, he's happy for the double income. If it means giving up a career for a family, he is happy to adjust his work hours to compensate. Instead of …
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/16 03:18 PM
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I'd also like to add that how a man treats those "beneath" his station (secretaries, waitresses, etc.) is a good indicator of how he'll treat his woman.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/16 05:32 AM
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Growing up in a Chinese family, I was always taught to fight for the honor of paying the bill. When my Captain and I first began dating, we'd make quite a scene at the restaurant whenever we fought over who got to pay! Then we started getting sneaky about it, like paying when the other person got up to go to the bathroom, or excusing myself and paying at the hostess' stand.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/16 03:37 AM
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Another benefit is the knowledge you gain about your own body. Yep! Knowledge is powerful, and putting it to use is empowering.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/16 07:21 AM
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Ludacris is definitely on pointe with "lady in the streets but a freak in the bed"
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/16 07:20 AM
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Agreed!
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/16 09:36 PM
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I'm not a therapist, so take my words with a grain of salt. I go to bed happy and wake up angry. Seems to me like you have a lot of unresolved simmering just below the surface. I would do some serious self-reflection on whether the problem is him, or if you have personal problems that you're taking out on him. It sounds really dumb, but for heaven's sake don't go looking for reasons to be mad at him, either! Chances are, you do things that drive him crazy too. And as hard as it is to put into pr…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/16 08:15 PM
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Can confirm. Just be careful that you don't inadvertently wander into green card marriage/visa drama. It happens more often than you think. Source: I'm a Chinese girl.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/16 05:07 AM
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I saw a joke about vegans on r/Jokes recently: "In a room full of people, how do you tell which ones are vegan? They'll tell you."
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/16 05:14 PM
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I see a lot of comments here about counting calories and exercising, which is good! The only thing I would add is to perhaps invest in a certain fitness tracker device (brand doesn't matter), especially ones that tell you to move around every so often. I bought one for about $80 and it was worth every penny. I lost 25 lbs in 7 months, which doesn't sound like a lot, but the real challenge is not gaining it all back once you get comfortable at your target weight.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/16 05:11 PM
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I find that the wonderful thing about STFU in general is that after a while, your man will start to think that the stuff you had been badgering him about was his idea in the first place! :D
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/16 02:41 PM
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It helps that he sees being successfully married (with children) as the ultimate challenge. He always wanted to be married, but was rightfully concerned to avoid marriage(s!) with women with lots of red flags.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/16 02:33 PM
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Everything in moderation. IMO, a glass of wine every once or twice a week with dinner is perfectly fine, but if you drink a lot, you put yourself in a position to potentially make bad choices that are unbecoming of a RPW (e.g., cheating on your man at a party, drunk driving, etc.). Not to mention that alcohol tends to have a lot of empty calories, so you could put on some serious weight if you're not careful.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/16 06:59 AM
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