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Remember that a lot of these are just guidelines to help you move to being more confident. For example: Do not doubt yourself out loud ever, whether alone or in public. If you are wrong about something, admit to it, and move on. Confident guys in general don't do this. But, sometimes, they will. I've been around confident types who will suddenly become very interested in what you have to say if you make them think they're making a mistake. "Really, you think it's this way.....what about this" (i…
/r/seduction12/04/13 03:04 PM
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That's like asking an extrovert why they want to read a book or go to school. I'm an introvert. I like socializing, to a degree. And it brings me many benefits. I want it to be a part of my life. It's not where I get my energy, but that doesn't mean I want to cut it out completely. And the exhaustion has gone way down now that I'm used to it.
/r/seduction06/04/13 10:00 PM
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Not sure if you're like me, but I possess a very strong capacity for teasing. I have a great memory and can spot inconsistencies. And I like doing it. So, while some guys have to be told to tease more, I realized I have to tease less. I usually don't repeat a tease unless it's so long after that it recalls an earlier time. Watch their body language when they're teasing, and they're reactions. If their eyes light up, and they sort of move forward and are quick to tease back, then you're doing goo…
/r/seduction06/04/13 09:37 PM
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I've made that mistake. Something can make a girl laugh and hurt her at the same time. Smiles and laughs are signs of submission/nervousness as well as amusement. Be careful with teases - hitting the same point over and over gets less funny and more annoying/hurtful.
/r/seduction06/04/13 09:02 PM
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Do this, and keep doing it. I got so far as to be comfortable making jokes with strangers. Didn't quite reach the start random conversations with strangers stage (except with girls I was approaching)....and then I stopped. Got busy, other stuff distracted me. And now I'm no longer comfortable making jokes with strangers. Conversation is a skill like any other - if you're not a natural, you've got to do a bit of it every day until it becomes a habit. Time to start saying hi to strangers again.
/r/seduction02/04/13 02:11 AM
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Non-friend messages don't work anymore. They get sent to the 'other' folder. 99% of people don't know about it, so she'll never see it, or see it in a few weeks.
/r/seduction31/03/13 04:05 AM
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It worked for me.
/r/seduction26/03/13 09:39 PM
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I'm 5'6", haven't had a problem getting hot girls interested. Still learning, but the physical interest is definitely there. I'd have an even better time if I were a bit taller, sure, but it's hardly a crippling disadvantage. And there are some pros to being a girl's size. Being at eye level with her is intimate and non-threatening.
/r/seduction22/03/13 08:20 PM
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Very true. There was one girl I knew casually, and her interest level in me fluctuated. At one point when she was extremely interested, she would reply within 15 minutes, max, every time. At an earlier time when she wasn't interested, replies were sometimes longer than a day. OTH, some male friends will have delayed text replies, and it doesn't mean anything. Delays can be totally normal, and don't necessarily signal disinterest. But if she's really into you, then replying to your text will take…
/r/seduction20/03/13 05:24 PM
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On another account, I'm the mod of an unrelated subreddit. There have been occasional attempts to form new subreddits. They've all come to nothing. It's actually really easy to hit the top of even a fairly large subreddit like seddit. Format well, and have something interesting to say. The fact that there aren't a ton of posts targeted at older crowds indicates that there's not a lot of demand for that. If you want more, post more, and I expect they'll rise decently fast. I'm 27. The class stuff…
/r/seduction19/03/13 07:21 PM
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Did ye seek wisdom first?
/r/seduction19/03/13 04:16 AM
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Unless you're approaching 50 women per day, you're simply not going to run into issues doing this. There are a lot of women in every major city.
/r/seduction11/03/13 10:12 PM
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Yes, yes, yes. I screwed up majorly this summer because I was only interested in one girl, and stopped gaming others. I focussed too much on her, and got needy. I actually had a chance with her, and should have had sex and perhaps more, but I blew it at the last minute because of my weak internal state. If I had had other options, I probably would have done just fine with her.
/r/seduction27/02/13 06:22 PM
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Oh, I remember now (found the picture). We had this conversation before. It doesn't sound like we'll convince you that you look find (you do). So you could just adopt the alternative belief that's pretty popular around here: 'looks don't matter' It's not strictly true (they help), but it's pretty true. Confidence is much more important, especially for anything past her initial look of interest. It sounds like you've got a negative attitude, and that's what you need to work on. (oops, bluehat, th…
/r/seduction26/02/13 04:15 PM
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Just make small talk. A short conversation after class can turn into a conversation in the hall + a suggestion to meet later for coffee, a drink, studying, etc.
/r/seduction26/02/13 05:03 AM
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Post a pic here, /r/askseddit or in /r/askseddit Whenever I see these posts, most of the time the guy looks totally fine. If you look fine but hate your looks, that will affect your confidence and lower your attractiveness. I'm 5'6". I used to be self-conscious about my height. Then I figured it wasn't an issue, and I get MUCH better reactions. Prob the same thing with your looks. One more thing: If you're lean, muscular, and well dressed, then you're ahead of 80% of men, at least. Male attracti…
/r/seduction26/02/13 04:42 AM
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I'd say both. Make your life a priority, but.... ....there are lots of ways to approach in your day to day life. Just say hi to more strangers, including women. I do most of my approaches when going about my business. Granted, I work from home, so I have more opportunities during the day, but approaching doesn't have to be an intensive time committment. You just have to actually DO it during the time you have available.
/r/seduction26/02/13 01:51 AM
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I've wondered about this. I moved to a new city two years ago. I see lots of different people. Clients, dates, acquantainces, people with similar interests. I go out with various people 3-4 nights a week, and often meet people during the day. But I have no deep connections in this city - my high school and college friends live elsewhere. So there's no one that I'd just call up to hang out. I'm totally comfortable with that. From this thread, it sounds like that's 100% ok with girls as long as I'…
/r/seduction16/02/13 03:14 PM
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Good advice on here. Also, get a few professional massages and try reverse engineer it. I recovered from an injury, and learned to massage my own pain this way. The techniques I learned Work equally well on girls.
/r/seduction12/02/13 03:41 PM
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yeah, I totally agree about finding more female friends. I'm happy to expand my social circle. I guess a better question would have been 'how long do you talk to these girls in person before proposing a date' I do a lot of brief day game while I do errands, then use coffee to build comfort. I could propose dinner after that.
/r/seduction11/02/13 11:24 PM
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If its just strangers, it's totally normal. The girl probably won't even think about, she'll be focussed on you. If you're just saying you should meet up again, it shouldn't matter even if it's her friends, assuming the context made it normal for you to Suggest it. If she's with her friends and you ask her on a date or are very sexual, then she might avoid saying yes, when she would have given you her number had you isolated. Isolation is always better, but you should only let it affect your act…
/r/seduction11/02/13 09:06 PM
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Thanks for mentioning this. I love Tim ferriss, but I guess he doesn't make any pua interviews public by announcing them. Makes sense, the niche has an unsavory reputation. Will watch it today.
/r/seduction11/02/13 01:15 PM
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Do you do this first date? If so, how do you build up enough comfort?
/r/seduction11/02/13 01:13 PM
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Nah, I think they're valid generalizations. I'm going to keep it in mind. I'm currently looking for non-serious relationships, I guess. I don't want to just go for the first girl that takes me, since I'm getting better at this by the week. Planning to tell them something along the lines of 'I'm having fun, not sure that I'm looking for anything serious right now, let's see where this goes.' I do want to keep the door to something more serious open. I'll see how they take it. What do you think?
/r/seduction11/02/13 02:39 AM
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Yes, it's important to rule this out before theorizing any further. OP, the next time a girl goes cold, ask her for feedback. Or ask after sex. If you frame it as just looking for info, and make clear that you want honest (even negative) feedback, girls will often tell you how it was.
/r/seduction10/02/13 11:59 PM
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Why? This is not really a useful comment without an explanation.
/r/seduction10/02/13 11:57 PM
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I second this. Whenever I go out and say hi to a few strangers, make casual conversation, etc. - approaches are then easy, and usually successful. If I'm not warmed up, I may not have the nerve to approach, and I'm lamer when I do. The problem is that my brain resists this knowledge, and I still neglect to be social and warm up.
/r/seduction10/02/13 11:56 PM
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I've noticed, again and again, that my approaches go smoother with more attractive women. I'm not really phased by looks now, so I treat them exactly the same way as less attractive girls. Most guys don't do this; they become social retards in the presence of a hot girl. I think the cute girls pick up on the fact that I'm just acting like a normal guy, and appreciate that I haven't gone all weird like the 98% OP's article refers to. The article isn't being contradictory by telling us to throw ou…
/r/seduction10/02/13 04:33 AM
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we usually go out as a group after class. I've been isolating her from the conversation a bit, and shifting the conversation to relationships, with some kino and teasing. Her walk home is past my place, so that gives me a chance to be alone with her. I'll make a move when the occasion seems right.
/r/seduction09/02/13 05:41 PM
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Because I really like the group in this class, so I'd rather not chance screwing anything up.
/r/seduction09/02/13 05:04 PM
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Totally agree. I've read similar stats for short guys. I'm 5'6". It's no barrier to having attractive girls interested in me.
/r/seduction09/02/13 04:26 PM
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I think it has to do with attraction. My evidence is that it only happens to me when I'm strong, and lean. This summer, I had a six pack. My face was leaner too. Women kept turning their heads down. I remember this happening in college too, when I was really fit. I'm 2-3 pounds of fat heavier now, enough for it to show in my face. Women will turn their eyes down, but not their heads. I've also noticed it's generally less attractive women that do it first. Hot girls are less likely. This makes me…
/r/seduction09/02/13 04:23 PM
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There's a 38 year old woman in my dance class who is stunning. Am slowly gaming her. But she's a rare exception indeed.
/r/seduction09/02/13 04:20 PM
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This has inspired me to retread what's already been posted.
/r/seduction09/02/13 03:46 PM
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Yup. Almost none of the guys I know do all of these. Heck, I still need to improve my cooking. It's perfectly functional for weightlifting, but I don't have any meals I would make for a date.
/r/seduction09/02/13 03:44 PM
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how do you do smiling eyes? I have all of the posture stuff plus muscle, so I can look intimidating.
/r/seduction09/02/13 03:42 PM
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Fwiw, I find that 8's and above are actually much more receptive to approaches. They may be used to it, or their looks make most guys turn lame. Whatever the reason, I have more success with them. You might have your cake and eat it too.
/r/seduction09/02/13 04:38 AM
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This should be voted higher up. Listen to that guy's voice and how he speaks. He sounds so confident and natural. Who cares what race he is?
/r/seduction09/02/13 04:35 AM
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I've noticed some girls are just on ok Cupid to do quizzes. Girls really do love this. My mom's work (female dominated) actually had a consultant come in to do a personality color test on them.
/r/seduction09/02/13 04:22 AM
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how old are you? I was recently surprised to find out that 18-19 year old girls are happy to me their number and go on dates with me. (still working on the sex part, but that applies to all ages). I'm 27.
/r/seduction09/02/13 04:20 AM
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Few people are completely like that. But a lot of people have tendencies. For example, I used to seek approval. I would have doubts about whether my opinions were right, and try to do things that please others (when suggesting activities, restaurants, etc.) I eventually learned that people like you better if you take a stand. Propose what you feel like, and they can agree or disagree. If they hate your proposal, then you can figure something out. But most of the time people are happy to go along…
/r/seduction08/02/13 02:18 PM
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Because they moan on and on about being a "nice guy", exactly as described in the book. Or they might do something for someone, but then show resentment for non-reciprocation. Actual niceness isn't done for reciprocation.
/r/seduction08/02/13 02:00 PM
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Read no more mr nice guys. A lot of afc types are disengenuously nice. It gets then nowhere. The key is that they're not truly nice.
/r/seduction08/02/13 12:54 PM
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Oh no, I agree completely. It was actually just wondering about that phrase. A lot of PUA material says 'NEVER say excuse me', and I was wondering if they meant because of the attitude, or because of the words themselves.
/r/seduction07/02/13 02:56 PM
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great advice. I totally agree on 9's and 10's. My approaches with them go a lot better. It was such a surprise. One question. You say never apologize. I agree. I hear some people say never say 'excuse me'. That's sort of a standard greeting in Canada though, it never felt like an apology until I read about it here. What do you say instead? 'hey', perhaps. Or is excuse me Just fine if said with confidence.
/r/seduction07/02/13 02:00 PM
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Cut them out. Negative people will make you a worse person.
/r/seduction06/02/13 03:05 PM
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More than half the time at least. I mean, a lot of girls are taken. Others won't be interested. Other times you're off your game. Or maybe she's having a bad day. Etc.
/r/seduction06/02/13 02:46 AM
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Good looking guys get rejected a lot. Every guy gets rejected a lot. Good looks help, a bit, but mostly with initial interest. If you're unconfident or weird, looks will not do much for you. Bars are a different environment from everywhere else. I suck at bars, but am pretty good on the street or in other daytime environments. Bars are more physical, and higher energy.
/r/seduction06/02/13 12:38 AM
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yeah, I wouldn't take it as a 100% predictor either way. I've gone on dates with girls who were too shy to hold eye contact during the initial conversation.
/r/seduction05/02/13 10:37 PM
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I don't mean that in a bad way. I'll just notice that I had a really positive experience with someone, look back on it, and notice they did something like one of these 6 techniques. They weren't trying to get something from me. They're just really effective human beings that make the world a better place. When they do want something, they probably get it, too. Like anything else, these techniques can be used for shady purposes, but I don't think they'll really help much if your whole interaction…
/r/seduction05/02/13 07:31 PM
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These are really good. Some of them have worked on me.
/r/seduction05/02/13 03:41 PM
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I've used chatting to arranges dates with girls who fell off my radar. It's also a good tool just to keep in touch with girls/friends, even if you don't want to sleep with them. As you age, inertia will drag you away from the people you used to hang out with. But many of them would still like to see you. Sending old friends a random Facebook message can rekindle social connections. And the more social connections, the more girls you'll meet. But Facebook chat should serve one of either two goals…
/r/seduction05/02/13 03:39 PM
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totally agree with this.
/r/seduction05/02/13 08:54 AM
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Tl;DR Men overestimate their attractiveness so as not to miss mating opportunities. It's not a big deal to think a woman like you when doesn't. It is a big problem to think a woman isn't into you when she actually is attracted. Young, shy guys need to read this article. I'm attractive, but I underestimated female attraction. I blew a ton of opportunities in college simply because I didn't notice what was being offered to me. Err on the side of getting rejected. You'll get stung a bit more, and l…
/r/seduction05/02/13 03:51 AM
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Contrary to others' advice, I think it will change you by giving you sexual confidence. You'll do just fine at making out/sex. But once you do it, and do just fine, you'll get that much more confidence the next time you flirt. You'll also be more comfortable talking about sex with girls. When I was a virgin, I passed up sex with some so-so girls, because I wanted to wait for a girl that I was more attracted to. Stupid, stupid move. Sleep with any girl that will have you at first, then work your …
/r/seduction04/02/13 10:46 PM
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Pick a good picture, then go through matches. Sounds obvious, but I went through about a hundred local matches in two minutes, before optimizing my picture. No matches from the first 100, then got two matches out of the next 15. And now I'm out of local profiles. Oops.
/r/seduction04/02/13 10:43 PM
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Deny him attention. Right now it sounds like he's got you in the palm of his hand. See him less often. Delay your texts a bit. Flirt with other men in his presence, while being colder towards him. Act like he has to impress you. I kind of hate giving this advice, but this actually worked on me.
/r/seduction04/02/13 08:52 PM
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My dates have been falling flat recently. Usually a bar at night or coffee during the day. I do kino throughout, starting with light touches and progressing to legs or the back. I keep eye contact, and can usually keep a good conversation going without it being an interview. The girl is usually laughing throughout. I make sure to bring up sexual/dating topics at least some of the time. There are always a few silences, and I look away sometimes during these. It feels natural, but maybe I should a…
/r/seduction01/02/13 09:36 PM
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One thing I like about Sherlock Holmes is that he offers a convincing model for how mastery of a variety of basic elements creates expertise. Apart from the perceptiveness mention in this article, Sherlock Holmes was an expert in a variety of areas useful to crime solving. He knew London like the back of his hand, he was familiar a variety of trades, he could identify different types of cigar ash, etc. How does this apply to seduction? There are many skills that would be useful to know when talk…
/r/seduction01/02/13 06:52 PM
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Cool. I actually re-worked my gait a few years back, and I used to walk all stiff. The shoulder swing should be pretty minor. It takes conscious work for a bit, but eventually becomes completely natural. Feel free to PM me a pic, or you can post in /r/amiugly (god I love Reddit - there's a subreddit for everything)
/r/seduction01/02/13 03:25 PM
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Ok. If you think looks are a problem, then there are two possibilities, and they're not mutually exclusive: They're not really a problem, but your self-consciousness about it hurts your confidence. They are a problem, and you can optimize it with weights/a stylist/a new warddrobe. I'm handsome, and I know this affects how people react to me. But I'm also absurdly short. So it kind of balances out. Ever since I stopped worrying about being short, no one seems to notice as much. Men have the good …
/r/seduction01/02/13 03:09 PM
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What kind of approaches are you doing? I mostly do indirect daygame, and ok cupid. What I like about indirect daygame is that it's very easy to tell when you're doing well. If the girl keep the conversation going, she's probably interested. Most people don't prolong conversations with strangers. So all you have to do is practice having pleasant conversations with strangers, and girls. At the end of pleasant conversations with girls, say 'It's been fun talking to you, we should have coffee someti…
/r/seduction01/02/13 02:46 PM
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You don't have to drink alcohol to go to clubs. Daygame is your friend. I get all my dates from daygame and online. You will have to get slightly more creative for dates, as drinks are pretty standard. Not a big challenge. edit: Just realized #1 is probably a no-no, since it's a bad idea for recovering alcohol addicts to even be in a bar. But I'll leave it up for anyone who simply doesn't drink. You can still do club game.
/r/seduction01/02/13 05:20 AM
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Hey, I've been there. A situation just seems hopeless. I tried for years and made no noticeable improvements, except getting lucky now and again. But recently, I've made a change. I'm far from an expert, but I realized one fail proof way to success is to make incremental improvements to a variety of skills useful to seduction. More often than not, expertise is just mastery of the basics. There are a bunch of things that help with girls: grooming, ability to talk to strangers, ability to deal wit…
/r/seduction01/02/13 05:12 AM
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How many matches did you get, and what did you do once you had a match? I'm wondering if you just had a regular date, etc.
/r/seduction30/01/13 04:59 AM
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There are a TON of hot girls on it in my area, which is surprising. Online dating uptake is low where I live. Some may be fake. I'll need a better picture. On ok cupid I use an abs shot to establish my looks, but I don't think I should make that my main Tinder pic. Thoughts on using an ab picture?
/r/seduction30/01/13 04:59 AM
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Oh yeah, didn't mean to say you were. To be more precise I should have said 'addicted or spending excessive time on it'. You can spend a lot of time on something but stop easily.
/r/seduction30/01/13 04:15 AM
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I think this post is the answer to the Nofap controversy on Seddit. If you're not addicted to porn/fapping, then nofap probably won't do much for you. Might even give you PE. If you are addicted, then quitting porn/fapping should change your life. You can't judge the effectiveness of nofap/noporn based on your experience alone. For the non-addicts, please don't underestimate how many guys actually are addicted.
/r/seduction29/01/13 11:45 PM
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Yeah, it can definitely help.
/r/seduction29/01/13 05:53 PM
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I get in state in solo daygame by starting conversations with strangers. Usually short, pleasant interactions. Then when it comes time to talk to an attractive girl, you're already used to talking to people.
/r/seduction29/01/13 04:45 PM
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Awesome. FWIW, I've learned a lot from low points, and come back better than ever. Failure is just feedback. Good luck!
/r/seduction29/01/13 03:25 PM
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i was 23. A lot of them were 17. It's not that much of a gap. They were all for it, so what's your issue with it? One year older and absolutely no one would have had an issue with it. I do have a comment downthread as to why I didn't pursue those opportunities.
/r/seduction29/01/13 07:43 AM
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Ok. They don't fake busyness, but they don't smile. I very rarely notice girls smiling at me in a cafe/on the street though, even when subsequent events prove attraction. I actually think your hiding maneuver is kind. As a guy, I prefer it when girls give clear signs of disinterest. I guess I'll just try talking to one of them the next time I notice one of those looks. Guys, any tips on a cross-cafe approach? I've usually only done cafe approaches to girls at the same table.
/r/seduction29/01/13 02:09 AM
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I often get one look that seems like she's checking me out, but then I don't notice others. This is usually in a cafe, where I'm not staring in her direction monitoring whether she's looking over again though. If you see a totally unremarkable guy, do you even make eye contact most of the time?
/r/seduction29/01/13 01:54 AM
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Could you go into more detail. My intuition is that you say this before getting home, then, once you're there you talk, make out, escalate, etc. and one thing leads to another. Is that pretty much how you do it?
/r/seduction29/01/13 01:51 AM
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For gym game, I'd talk to lots of people there, including guys. Get to know people, and raise your status within the gym. Then: You'll already have social status when you approach It won't be out of your usual routine when you approach. Be careful with gym game, if you like that gym. Don't shit where you eat is a pretty good rule to follow. Treat it as higher risk than normal approaches. As for the rest, I'm not sure. I work from home, so I can just game on the street when I feel like it. Lunch …
/r/seduction29/01/13 01:48 AM
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Yes, that would be true for almost any country in the developed world. In some places, 16 is the age of consent, but it would still be heavily frowned upon to sleep with a high school student as a teacher. In addition, sleeping with a student in high school as a teacher can be abuse of authority, and illegal. I believe that's why the teachers warned me off. I was 23 at the time. Not that far off, but I didn't want legal problems in a foreign country. So it was look but don't touch.
/r/seduction29/01/13 01:43 AM
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No, not harsh. I only use that when she seems interested. Last couple of times I asked we ended up in a fun conversation for a bit afterwards.
/r/seduction28/01/13 10:34 PM
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Recently I tried asking 'what's his name'? If she responds quickly, I laugh and say 'ok, you're not lying'. And that's it - I don't really care to try to pull a woman if she's committed to a relationship.
/r/seduction28/01/13 07:09 PM
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It was in another country. I was sternly warned of the illegality of capitalizing on it. And in a situation where it would have been pretty damn tough to keep anything secret. So, no, sadly.
/r/seduction28/01/13 06:45 PM
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I think the not dissimilar thing is somewhat true. What makes us act different is that we're put in different situations. Women get a lot more attention. I worked in a high school once. EVERY girl was in love with me. If a girl told me I was handsome, it was like 'yeah, whatever, what else is new?', and sort of boring. Now when a girl tells me that I'm handsome, it feels great. If you were hit on with the same lame lines over and over again, you'd probably act a lot like a hot girl.
/r/seduction28/01/13 06:26 PM
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Try it. I've had girls buy drinks for me before on dates. Usually they went pretty well.
/r/seduction28/01/13 06:21 PM
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They're far from the only place. I get dates from talking to girls on the street, in cafes, on the subway, etc. and Ok Cupid. Works pretty well. I do want to improve my club game, but I don't have time to go out much these days, and not doing so hasn't hindered my progress overall. Club game is very different from game in other places. Very non-verbal.
/r/seduction27/01/13 08:04 PM
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i think this is correct. I've talked to several extroverted puas who are actually introverts. They need to recharge now and again. I'm the same way. I seem extroverted - I just need alone time now and again to recharge. When I'm being an extrovert, I view it as a fun game and it takes less energy. Can I have good interactions with these people? That's the challenge.
/r/seduction27/01/13 02:54 PM
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What I meant is, by and large, we aren't women here. He phrased it like there were a bunch of women here that could answer his question. I agree with your attitude. I don't think the answers from that subreddit would be of any value for what he's really wondering, which is how to not get rejected as often.
/r/seduction27/01/13 04:06 AM
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You're getting downvoted because you haven't asked anything specific. You're just moaning like an AFC. People post here to see what worked, and to seek advice. You've done neither. It's not all game and strategy, by the way. It should be fun.
/r/seduction27/01/13 01:22 AM
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This is more of a question for /r/askwomen As for practical advice: read the sidebar. Welcome to the world of seduction. Looks do matter, but not very much. A guy with good game will beat an attractive nerd. You guys probably just lack game. The bar is a very different place from everywhere else you go. I'm decent at seducing women on the street, in cafes, on dates. I suck at night game.
/r/seduction27/01/13 01:21 AM
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Depends. There are a few factors that can make cities more appealing: Universities. Many of them mean lots of young women. Obesity. Most women are actually pretty attractive, if in good shape. But in many US cities, few young women are actually in good shape. Most cities with lots of 'hot women' like Havana actually just have lots of women in good shape. Gender Ratio: Some cities have a higher percentage of women to men. This helps, especially when seducing them. Age: Some cities such as New Yor…
/r/seduction26/01/13 10:55 PM
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Practice. Just talk to more women. I just tore the band-aid off on this one. After two years of stalling, I saw an attractive woman on the street, told her she was cute, but that I had to go meet a friend, and I wanted her phone number. Did that a few more times. Now it's not that hard to walk up to a woman and say hi. If you need help getting started, take a friend with you, and give him $100. You get $20 for every woman you approach and ask her phone number.
/r/seduction26/01/13 10:51 PM
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Awesome. I might use it more consistently if I always had prospects. I set up several dates faster than I could in person, but now I've literally messaged all the good profiles.
/r/seduction25/01/13 02:52 AM
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yeah, I emphasized the message too much. What I really meant is that you can present yourself very Differently even without changin your looks. Def includes better pictures though, or fewer average pictures
/r/seduction24/01/13 10:09 PM
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How big is your city? I'm in a mid sized city, and I can quickly run through all the didn't profiles. Then there might bs 2-3 good Prospects per day. I think I'll just activate every couple of months, sift through the new profiles, set up dates, then try again in a couple of months.
/r/seduction24/01/13 01:08 PM
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There's also message quality. Short, interesting, shows you read her profile. Looks matter online, but my reply rates went way up when I wrote better messages and removed info from my profile (made it more cryptic). I also removed all but the best pictures.
/r/seduction24/01/13 01:06 PM
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Mmm, you're right, that would have been a good followup once we talked a bit about her sex life and it was natural to segue to a new topic.
/r/seduction23/01/13 11:06 PM
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you could emphasize the lower risk parts of game, such as expanding your social circle and being the best you that you can be. Get to know. Lot of girls, and focus on pursuing the ones that are green, as per this post.
/r/seduction23/01/13 09:51 PM
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Move to a bigger city?
/r/seduction23/01/13 09:30 PM
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Generally a lack of interest. I had one girl who was super slow to respond, then I spiked her interest one day, and after that had 20 minute response times. I thought she was a power game type, but her interest was just really low. This is generally true. When I've had a bad first date, the texts were usually pretty instant before, but slow after. Don't worry about it. Just respond after some delay. If you match her day long times, you're putting too much importance on her actions.
/r/seduction23/01/13 04:22 AM
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I've found that it doesn't really affect daygame, except on exceptionally cold days. Girls will still stop to talk outside.
/r/seduction23/01/13 04:20 AM
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What's the typical age range? I just googled my local group, and they look to be 30-40ish.
/r/seduction23/01/13 04:07 AM
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You just made this super clear to me. I never understood shit tests, or at least why I wasn't seeing them. This explains it. I've got a lot to work on, but holding my frame is not one of those things. I guess they just bounced off me without my noticing them. Mind you, I don't do a lot of nightgame, where I think they're way more prevalent?
/r/seduction23/01/13 04:03 AM
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This single lesson could have resulted in me having LOTS of sex during college, instead of none. I simply had no idea that I had to make the move. Lots of women set everything up for me, expressed as much interest as was proper given the 'rules' of our society. I didn't rise to the occasion. If there was one thing I could tell the younger me, it would be this. In retrospect, the rest of what I did wasn't nearly as bad as I thought. I just didn't know how to grasp opportunity that was right in fr…
/r/seduction23/01/13 03:59 AM
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I wouldn't say I'm good at it in general, but I'll tell you how it happened this time, and on two other recent occasions. This Time (on train) After about a half hour of conversation, she mentioned that she was tired. I asked why. She said she was up late worry, paranoid about a train crash. Then she looked sheepish. So, I raised an eyebrow. She said 'well, that wasn't quite it'. So I just asked 'a boy?', and she confirmed, and proceeded to talk about that. Then with a couple of follow up questi…
/r/seduction23/01/13 03:40 AM
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We talked about the fact that she has a fuck buddy (her words) and that she's sleeping with a friend but going to break it off. No specific sex acts mentioned.
/r/seduction23/01/13 12:59 AM
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I'm talking in general. I don't care about this specific interaction, much. But I can see this coming up often enough that I'd like to know how to deal with it in general. Outcome independence is about specific situations, right? On average, we want to do stuff that leads to more sex. Hence this question.
/r/seduction23/01/13 12:46 AM
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Mmm, I need to work on verbal escalation. I was doing physical escalation, but not so much verbally. What would be a good way to start light verbal escalation in a daytime environment like a train? There are two considerations that would make me a bit less forward: I shouldn't be as forward as I would at a club. I've got her in a confined space. Since she can't leave, I have to pay more attention to how she's taking it.
/r/seduction23/01/13 12:39 AM
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I dunno, it's an uncommon enough situation. I've actually fucked that up before, while having an easier time with girls who were less forward.
/r/seduction21/01/13 06:34 PM
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Great point - people remember compliments, even when they're given casually. Another benefit is that if you're social to everyone, then it's effortless to be social with a cute girl. Whereas if you never talk to strangers and only talk to women you intend to sleep with, you're stepping outside your comfort zone each time you do it.
/r/seduction21/01/13 02:59 PM
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Yes, wiping away eye snot is step four on the vin do Carlo kino ladder. There's nothing new here people.
/r/seduction21/01/13 02:02 PM
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This pareto idea is extremely common in business and entrepreneurship books.
/r/seduction21/01/13 04:22 AM
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Isn't the point of this subreddit to get into the 20%?
/r/seduction21/01/13 03:29 AM
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Meh. You're focussing on the individual. OP was focussing on the whole. I think his view, though probably a little skewed, is somewhat accurate for the whole. The reduced numbers just make it easier to understand. As an individual, there's a ton of abundance. You just have to know how to use it. An individual can move from one group to the other.
/r/seduction20/01/13 11:26 PM
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I once teased a girl, and she said: 'Hold on, are you one of those guys that tried too....*scrunches up face in thought*....peacock girls?' I told her that peacocking was wearing distinctive clothing, like the santa hat she had on. She looked amused and embarrassed that I spun it around.
/r/seduction20/01/13 10:56 PM
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The top voted female comments are actually pretty realistic: http://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/15jv10/why_women_lose_the_dating_game_r2xc_your_opinions/
/r/seduction20/01/13 10:48 PM
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When I say a direct approach induces panic, I mean they panic almost immediately once I say it, and say something about being late for class then run off. This is especially true if I'm on the side, since they have an easy exit. (Again, not so for indirect) But they look excited that I said it, so they're not creeped out. I guess I could test some lines that play down what I just said.
/r/seduction17/01/13 02:49 AM
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Do you think being handsome affects whether you should approach direct or indirect in daygame? My situations/indirect openers usually go pretty well. Of the approaches that turn into conversations, I'd say I get a number about 75% of the the time, and that usually leads to a date. Of course, the conversations usually only continue when the girl is interested, so that biases the sample. When I try direct openers, the most common reaction is a blush, smile, and panic. The girl will quickly exit, e…
/r/seduction16/01/13 04:47 PM
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These first approaches are just to get rid of your fear. I was surprised to get numbers about 20% when I first started this. Most flaked, but that wasn't the point. I became able to approach, whether direct or indirect. Stop talking about it, and try it. You need to react to the real world, rather than your imagination.
/r/seduction16/01/13 02:31 PM
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Rip the band-aid off. Just walk up to a girl, say you think she's cute, that you have to run to meet friends, but that you'd like her phone number. This actually worked the first time I tried it. But success shouldn't be the goal. Simply approaching and asking should be your only goal. Once you do this, and realize that she'll probably just smile and look flattered (even if she shuts you down) - all future approaches get easier.
/r/seduction16/01/13 03:40 AM
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That good advice - but that is not what this quote says. The quote is pragmatic. You should study how people succeed. But it should be based on what they actually did, not what people say should be done. 'What ought to be done' - theory, including AFC theory 'What is done' - what guys actually do to get girls. FRs, etc.
/r/seduction15/01/13 03:50 PM
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Oh, good. The commute time can be turned into extra study/social time, and it just makes organizing stuff so much easier. As for parties, lots of people throw house parties in college. The more people you know, the more parties you'll hear about. Provide value, be fun, and you'll get invites.
/r/seduction12/01/13 04:38 PM
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Oh, commute. I must have missed that. If there's any way for you to live near campus, it will make your life much, much better for the next four years.
/r/seduction12/01/13 04:27 PM
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This is entirely irrelevant. If you're bi, it just means you have a new field of seduction to explore. It doesn't change ANYTHING re: seducing women.
/r/seduction12/01/13 04:00 PM
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College campus is the best spot for daygame. Just talk to women around you, no need to go to a mall. I love walking through the university in my city, girls everywhere. I'd recommend taking some time for parties. You don't need to get shitfaced. Parties are one of the BEST spots to game, and college is the easiest place to go to parties. When you get older, they become rarer. Take advantage now. Parties are also important for expanding your social circle. The bigger your social circle, the more …
/r/seduction12/01/13 03:59 PM
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Very important. If you've done something before, you know you can do it again.
/r/seduction12/01/13 03:55 PM
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calebcop has a good reply below. Nofap is highly relevant for porn addicts, and a LOT of guys who suck with women are porn addicts, even though they may not know it. If you're not a porn addict, then I doubt nofap will have much effect. It's would be like a non-alcoholic giving up alcohol. Meh. I say this as a porn addict who does nofap. Didn't change much with pursuing women, since I already fixed that, but in terms of sex it's making things better.
/r/seduction12/01/13 03:55 PM
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This. If she wanted a forensics expert, she'd be dating someone from her program. I've talked to lots of people about their passions, in fields I know nothing about. I learn the necessary information by talking to them. Just listen to what she says, and SHE will teach you everything you need to know about forensics.
/r/seduction12/01/13 03:38 PM
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Yeah, in fairness to your point, I think this happened as well. I leaned out by a few pounds while getting stronger.
/r/seduction10/01/13 07:54 PM
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You're right, my bones did not grow. My face muscles grew. I'm 27. I didn't grow suddenly. The change is my jaw is very visible in pictures.
/r/seduction10/01/13 07:24 PM
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Dude, your teeth are fine. Actually, they're quite nice. They're straight. Your lips are in the right position - no gums, and the only the top row shows, which is optimal. The relative sizing is good. They're straight. They are white. There's absolutely nothing to be insecure about. Just develop some confidence in your smile, and flash it around :)
/r/seduction10/01/13 04:40 PM
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I tease a lot, and don't really do any 'you're pretty, here are flowers' things. I don't neg though, or at least not intentionally. I don't really know how - though some of my teasing may be negs.
/r/seduction10/01/13 07:00 AM
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5'6''. About as short as you can go without seeming much too short.
/r/seduction10/01/13 06:58 AM
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ive actually found my height is a complete non issue, unless the girl is taller. I'm sure it would e easier if I were taller, but it doesn't seem to be much f a negative.
/r/seduction10/01/13 03:11 AM
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Great guide. I'm going to have to test the 'adjust your game if you're good looking' section. I'm quite good looking, but also very short, so that could play either way. Very slight amendment, on this point: 'When it comes to the face, there’s not a lot you can do.' I used to think this was true. But I got into barbells this year, and got a lot stronger. I found an old driver's license photo from two years ago, and my face changed. It changed in a good way. I have a very square, powerful jaw now…
/r/seduction10/01/13 02:20 AM
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Just do stuff you find fun. If there isn't anything you find fun apart from what you mentioned, then you may be a little boring, even to yourself. You should find some more stuff that you like doing. There's a whole wide world out there. I'm 27 and I'd pay $40,000 to get back the hours I spent on video games from ages 13-21. I don't have that kind of money, but I'd find a way, and I'd pay more if I had it.
/r/seduction10/01/13 12:09 AM
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Agreed. Fortunately, the post is short. No more than 4 lines of text is a good rule. More than that, make paragraphs. For longer posts, add headings.
/r/seduction10/01/13 12:06 AM
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It can't hurt, if he takes them with a grain of salt. Vague answers are useless, specific answers are more likely to be on the mark. I had one girl tell me that I wasn't comfortable in my in own skin, and didn't seem confident enough to make moves on her. It was 100% true, and that comment helped me realize that girls wanted me to be more forward.
/r/seduction10/01/13 12:05 AM
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I used this when I first started out. Really helped me start getting over AA. One thing I found was that the flake rate was really high compared to other methods. Have you noticed this? The upside is that it's do quick a higher flake rate doesn't matter much.
/r/seduction08/01/13 01:52 PM
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And having sex without a condom won't give you an STD every time. You still shouldn't do it with new partners.
/r/seduction07/01/13 12:23 AM
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Just go to his website, or google Sasha Pua iphone app.
/r/seduction06/01/13 04:17 PM
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How should OP approach in this case. He says talking kills it. Just dance for a while, and eventually kiss? I don't go to clubs anymore, but I remember this happening a few times in College. Never knew how to close it.
/r/seduction05/01/13 03:55 PM
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I'd also like to know the answer to this one, specifically cashiers. The lines are often busy, so there's not much time to chat.
/r/seduction05/01/13 04:44 AM
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Don't care. I mean, eventually you should care about her, but don't invest too much into her before anything happens. Overinvesting emotionally early on (oneitis) is one of the surest ways to screw up with a girl. Been there, done that. Meet cool people. Meet other girls at the same time you pursue this one. Meanwhile, if you want something to start with, tell her you want to see the town a bit while you're there and invite her to explore a place that seems cool.
/r/seduction05/01/13 04:42 AM
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'time filler' There's your problem. You have a finite amount of time on this earth. It's mean to be used. You never get it back. My god, if I could have back the hours I spend on games in my first 21 years of life. I could have learned computer programming or web design, or become fluent in latin, or taught myself to paint, or learned dance, or done any number of things that I would rather be able to do today.
/r/seduction05/01/13 04:35 AM
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I've had this happen a few times. Here's the pattern: We have fun, but there's not a ton in common and I didn't succeed in creating a connection. I used progressive Kino to get her aroused Later, once the moment is over, she's left wondering why she was so attracted in the moment. I'm no longer there to touch her, and the underlying connection was pretty weak.
/r/seduction05/01/13 04:32 AM
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I'd just tell her the truth. Honesty works surprisingly well. She'll respect you more for telling her than for just disappearing. That's weak, indirect and kind of douchey. Plus this way you can still leave things open if things don't work out with the new girl.
/r/seduction05/01/13 01:21 AM
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Why would you say that....what does it get you? I mean, I understand the attitude behind it, but then that's pretty much it.
/r/seduction04/01/13 08:47 PM
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Computer science is an AMAZING thing to be in right now. Own it. There are ways to talk about it without boggling people's brains. If you're not passionate about it, then that's a deeper problem.
/r/seduction04/01/13 07:50 PM
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Anyone try his iPhone app? I like the idea of training 'missions' to build specific skills. At least, I think that's what it's about. I don't bother with data on my phone though - I'd like to know if it requires internet to use.
/r/seduction04/01/13 04:30 AM
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Awesome job man. Keep it up with the fitness. People treat you differently when you're lean and have muscle. I'm 27. Kind of similar situation. Had a few short relationships, and very little sex. Decided to change that last year. Here's what I did: Got in shape. Barbells are awesome. Learned to approach. I did cold approaches on the street. I started with a direct opener, just to get used to the idea. 'Hi, you're cute and I wanted to say hi. I have to go meet some friends, but I'd love to talk t…
/r/seduction04/01/13 04:13 AM
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This should really be in /r/askseddit.
/r/seduction04/01/13 04:00 AM
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Did not read your post, just the TLDR. Add some formatting. I'm not wading into that. That said, I got stuck on one girl this summer, and fucked things up. I analyzed what I did wrong. I stopped approaching and flirting with other women. My options narrowed. Talk to other women. Remind yourself that you have options. This woman may be great, but she's not the only awesome woman in the world. Far from it. If you want to keep her, you'll need to be prepared for the possibility of not keeping her. …
/r/seduction03/01/13 07:27 PM
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It's mostly about comfort and attitude. That said, you could take a dance class. Swing, salsa, etc. It will help you learn rhythm, teach you a few techniques, and most importantly give you the confidence that you can dance.
/r/seduction03/01/13 05:47 PM
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Do you know if restaurants will hire you for a shift a week? I wouldn't be doing it for the money, but I also want to improve my social skills + language skills. I live in an area where English isn't the main language, so my basic social interactions are sometimes choppy with non-English girls.
/r/seduction03/01/13 02:18 PM
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I'm no good at club game, can't help you there. But you're in a great place. College campuses are awesome spots to approach. I get a number or two whenever I pass by one of the local colleges. You can talk to women anywhere. Obviously that won't lead to same night hookups like in a club, so it depends what you're looking for.
/r/seduction03/01/13 02:16 PM
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I agree. It's been done before (Tim Ferriss), and the videos were pretty cool, but I wouldn't want it to set a precedent. Youtube views, subscriptions, engagement are extremely helpful for a Youtube channel, and so there would be a huge incentive for marketers to move all AMAs to Youtube. Mind you, the good ones would still produce good content. I think this XKCD is actually a pretty good model for marketers to use: http://xkcd.com/810/
/r/seduction03/01/13 01:59 PM
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Outcome independence. Make trying your goal. You can't fail at trying, unless you don't try. Don't approach with the goal of getting her number, taking her on a date, bringing her back to your place, sleeping with her, seeing her multiple times, etc. Approach with the goal of approaching. Did you approach? Success! Once you've got approach down, then you can try the next goal.
/r/seduction02/01/13 07:17 PM
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This has worked decently well for me, when I've applied myself to it. I've still got a lot of skills I need to work on, but I've also now got some skills that are pretty solid and I can apply unconsciously.
/r/seduction02/01/13 01:58 PM
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I don't think I've had a friend call me in about nine months, apart from when we were already meeting up and we had to find each other. I've had lots of friends text me first. People under 30 don't call much anymore. You may be right though. Do girls usually answer when you call, and how old are they?
/r/seduction02/01/13 01:55 PM
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If she never calls back, you can always try reconnecting after a few months.
/r/seduction02/01/13 01:51 PM
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Yes.
/r/seduction02/01/13 02:01 AM
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If you get along well with a girl, how long do you keep meeting her? How does it usually break off? Do you see multiple girls at once? I'm on the cusp of being able to sleep with multiple women at once, and want to know how to handle it. I plan on being honest, since I'm not intending to settle down just yet.
/r/seduction02/01/13 01:28 AM
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Google Vin Di Carlo Kino Escalaton ladder I've tried the escalation ramp twice, and it worked flawlessly both times.
/r/seduction02/01/13 01:23 AM
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True story. I did this in during the summer. Chased after one girl, and eventually got her, almost. But I blew it, because I had made myself needy during the chase, and left myself with other options. Not that I'm out of that headspace, it's much easier to attract women.
/r/seduction02/01/13 01:20 AM
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The order is most commonly for building attraction with a girl you've just met. Legs come later because they require a higher level of attraction. There's more than one way to build attraction though. Since OP has built enough attraction that the girls are comfortable coming to his place, he can go right for the legs.
/r/seduction02/01/13 01:18 AM
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'Unless you’ve already been out with her since your initial meeting, my advice is to not do anything.' What if you have seen the girl? I sometimes will have a first date, and then be traveling for a couple of weeks. My instinct has been to say we'll do something when I'm back, and then not say anything else before that unless she texts first. Good guide, by the way.
/r/seduction01/01/13 03:32 AM
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Sounds like they don't really want to see you then. We need more detail on how typical approaches go.
/r/seduction31/12/12 02:22 AM
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Try setting up the date before you leave. Get her number, but keep talking for a bit, have fun, and plan something. Getting her to commit in person decreases the odds of a flake.
/r/seduction31/12/12 02:05 AM
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Honestly, the most useful advice I've gleaned from this subreddit can be summed up as: 'Go talk to women, you idiot' You get better at improving your odds as you do more approaches.
/r/seduction31/12/12 01:59 AM
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If you're just saying hi, then you'll want to think about how you're approaching: Are you dressed ok, and well groomed? Can she see you before you say 'hi'? Do you feel confident that you ought to be there? If you feel weird about it, so will she. Start by practicing asking strangers for directions. Just aim to have a pleasant interaction. Then turn those into conversations. Once you're comfortable talking with strangers, then you'll be comfortable approaching.
/r/seduction31/12/12 01:56 AM
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You mean, approach a stranger? You don't. If you're not her friend, Facebook sends your message to the 'other' folder, where it will never be read. If you are her friend, then get in touch, maybe comment on something you noticed recently, and invite her out somewhere. Worked for me, once, but generally I'm not friends with my targets on Facebook, and so Facebook game isn't relevant.
/r/seduction30/12/12 03:48 AM
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I have no idea - probably something like 'because I enjoy your friendship'. This isn't something I try regularly. It's a line I accidentally used years ago.
/r/seduction29/12/12 02:40 AM
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I did that to a girl in college, back when I really didn't know what I was doing. Years later, she's STILL obsessed with me. Looking back, it all started when I told her 'I used to have a thing for you, but now I'm glad we're just friends'. I am definitely not interested at this point. How do I reverse the spell?
/r/seduction28/12/12 05:00 PM
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Look at it this way: every attractive female friend opens up new options. Hot girls have hot friends. Each new female friend brings many possibilities with her. And if they like you, and you become single, they'll try to set you up. Abundance mentality.
/r/seduction25/12/12 11:04 PM
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no one is perfect, including the people you envy. And there will always be people in a better or worse position than you. The giants you envy are dwarves in different contexts. Are you providing value for the people you're with? Can you provide more value? That's the only thing you need to worry about.
/r/seduction25/12/12 10:57 PM
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Amazing post. Bookmarked, and will be referring to it as applying it. You've got a ton of potential. I'd recommend getting your own website. Costs little, and gives you a lot more long run control and potential. If you're not sure how to do that, PM me, I'd be glad to help out.
/r/seduction25/12/12 08:51 PM
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I'm thinking of getting the vaccine. One less thing to worry about, and seems responsible to avoid spreading it.
/r/seduction25/12/12 02:12 AM
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I'm going to have to try that one.
/r/seduction24/12/12 08:03 PM
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Try an improv class. That will help you develop humour. Humour isn't so much smart remarks as noticing things about the situation and commenting on them in a funny way. Teasing is part of seduction. Girls tease guys too. It's fun, and not insulting. You don't need to be fake about it normally, though you might have to be a bit fake at first while you develop your own style of teasing.
/r/seduction24/12/12 02:55 PM
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They don't, that's why I'm here. I normally don't brag about looks, because I know how useless they are without action on my part. I emphasized them because they're a sign of interest. It's up to me to put that interest to good effect, but that interest is there. And I'm 5'6''. So quit wallowing in your limiting belief.
/r/seduction22/12/12 09:53 PM
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I think 'close' is a sales term, like 'close the deal'. If so, it means you've settled things, but not necessarily that things are over.
/r/seduction22/12/12 08:19 PM
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It's technically against reddit rules to ask for upvotes. Mentioning the no karma bit, and the fact that it's an official post, helps get it past the Knight of New.
/r/seduction22/12/12 02:08 PM
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Dude, I'm 5'6''. I'm very handsome, granted, but....5'6''. It's just about as short as you can get without entering into near midget territory. Doesn't seem to make a difference. If a girl is more than an inch taller it can become a bit of an issue, but 75% of women are my height or shorter. You should see the looks I get in the street. I'm sure I'd get more looks if I were taller, but it's not really an issue in any absolute sense. Work out, stay thin, dress well. You've got to try a bit harder…
/r/seduction22/12/12 05:25 AM
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Thanks. I was at one last night. Opened a four set when my friends left. The girl I opened had a boyfriend, and the others didn't seem interested, but I had fun with them for about 40 minutes, which is more than I've done in a club before. Made me want to try some more.
/r/seduction21/12/12 10:44 PM
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I've thought about this. I've stayed away from clubs because I don't like them. But it's possible that I don't like them because my club game sucks. I'm going to try going to some clubs.
/r/seduction21/12/12 10:34 PM
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'practice > studying' Good point. Your best style bears some resemblance to how you are naturally. It's like an improved version of you. Watching others can give you ideas, but it's only by trying stuff that you see what works for you.
/r/seduction21/12/12 09:27 PM
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I'd love to hear more about your safe sex practices. You've probably got a pretty decent system. I'd be interested to know: at what point you ask if she has anything do you ask to see her results? do you wait for test results before doing oral? if you were seeing multiple women, did you ever switch to no condoms with any of them? If so, how did you work that? I'm sure you had a system, I'd be interested to know the details.
/r/seduction21/12/12 06:39 PM
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Also curious. I like my hairstyle, but haven't changed it in about 7 years.
/r/seduction21/12/12 06:29 PM
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work out. You'll look better, and you'll feel that you look better. The confidence this brings is true attractiveness.
/r/seduction21/12/12 06:10 PM
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Thanks! I'll start doing it daily, and add more things I'm grateful for every now and again or if I feel down.
/r/seduction21/12/12 05:08 PM
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No, I don't do games anymore - one of the best decisions I ever made. I have been taking improv and salsa, and that's definitely helped me make some new friends. They're mostly older, but it's definitely given me social options most weeknights.
/r/seduction21/12/12 04:48 PM
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Any tips for building a strong social network? I moved to a new city, and left behind my college network. I work alone. So that takes out two natural outlets. I'm building a new network, but I'd like to go faster.
/r/seduction21/12/12 04:37 PM
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Seriously. Write a blog, or a book, or an e-book.
/r/seduction21/12/12 04:34 PM
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Great stuff. I just tried writing out what I'm grateful for. Did goals yesterday based on TofuTofu's advice. It really helped. I feel clear minded and content. How often do you write out what you're grateful for, and what your goals are?
/r/seduction21/12/12 04:30 PM
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Awesome. Reminds me that FB is a weak point for me. I need to go to more parties, and get more pictures taken.
/r/seduction21/12/12 03:40 PM
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I can't recommend this enough. Improves confidence too. Not to mention it's a ton of fun.
/r/seduction21/12/12 03:38 PM
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Rule number 2 is highly relevant: http://www.thedatingspecialist.com/blog/17-rules-for-effective-communication-in-a-relationship/ If you don't tell her what you want, you have no right to feel annoyed if you don't get it. If you really like her, she's worth a wait. The first day back or not is not a big deal if you've just started dating. Work on feeling comfortable with situations not going the way you want. You were very outcome dependent in this case.
/r/seduction21/12/12 07:32 AM
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It's easy for women because they have automatic value. Men want to sleep with them purely based on how they look, whereas handsome men can fall flat if their other qualities are lacking. But we have some big advantages. We age better. This is huge. Girls have really high automatic value from ages 18-25, and then it fades fast. Talk to 23-25 year old girls, they're aware of it. I'm 27. I just went on a couple of dates with 20 year olds. They have no problem with the age gap. I just talked to anot…
/r/seduction21/12/12 07:12 AM
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I wouldn't worry about it. Just do something to amuse yourself this afternoon. If your friends are busy, go do something fun on your own. If you're not content by yourself for an afternoon, you may have some inner game issues.
/r/seduction21/12/12 07:08 AM
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Wow, #5 is awesome. Great opener in it's own right, and an authentic source of info on good dates. Date ideas are something I struggle with. Will be trying this shortly.
/r/seduction21/12/12 04:14 AM
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Good stuff. That's actually a daytime approach line, but it should work at night too, except without the 'gtg, can I get your number bit'. You're not going anywhere, you're probably staying in the club. So just say hi, express interest confidently, and see what happens.
/r/seduction21/12/12 12:37 AM
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Looks better already with the paragraphs, much easier to read. You're texting too much. No need to talk every day, you just met. Leave her time to think about you and wonder when you'll text. When she says meet up for drinks later, propose a time. Don't just say "when would be a good time for you?". I'd say she probably meant that night. If you propose a time and she's busy, then you can go from there, but at least you got the ball rolling. 1 hour isn't that long a delay for texting. She could h…
/r/seduction20/12/12 11:58 PM
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I have no advice for your situation, because I didn't read it. It's a wall of text. You'll get more help if you do the following: Divide paragraphs Add formatting, such as bold text Add headings, such as background (are you married, divorced?....wth is going on)
/r/seduction20/12/12 11:18 PM
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27 - Never too late to learn.
/r/seduction20/12/12 10:25 PM
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But what is it that you're doing? Escalate slowly. Once you get a girl comfortable with low level escalation, you can move on to higher stuff. If you just grab her ass or kiss her right away, or touch her hair, etc. she'll get uncomfortable. I'll be more specific. Start with high five. Everyone is comfortable with that. It seems like nothing, but it moves you from 'guy she's never touched' to 'guy she's touched'. And it's fun and hi energy. Throw in a playful shove on the shoulder when you tease…
/r/seduction20/12/12 10:22 PM
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Amen. How do you have interesting conversations? Talk about things that interest you (i.e. don't fake stuff), and show interest in what other people find interesting.
/r/seduction20/12/12 09:59 PM
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'Putting the girl on a pedastal' has a specific meaning that seems different from what you're talking about. It means, don't treat her as superior to yourself. Don't treat her as an object of worship that you must placate with offerings. If doing what you're comfortable with isn't leading to attraction, maybe you're just not displaying sexual intent. Touch her. Flirt with her. Add sexuality to your conversations. Edit: Right, I totally forgot the bit where you said you made everyone uncomfortabl…
/r/seduction20/12/12 09:46 PM
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Approach god damnit. That's about it. In the four hour workweek, Tim Ferriss had a confidence building exercise - he wanted you to talk up to random attractive strangers of the opposite sex, say they were cute, but you had to run to meet a friend, and could you have their phone number. I avoided trying that for two years. Then one day I finally did. And not only did I not die, but I even got a phone number. I was nervous as hell for the first few approaches. Now I'm used to it. I've transitioned…
/r/seduction20/12/12 08:51 PM
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The photo suggestion was because, like me, OP doesn't seem to 'get' that he's actually quite attractive. Seeing strangers assign him an objective number might help fix that.
/r/seduction20/12/12 08:30 PM
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I think he meant bars. A lot of stuff on here is about nightclub game.
/r/seduction20/12/12 07:34 PM
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I dunno, I feel like it's more accurate to say 'if you don't know what you're doing, looks won't help' If you do know what you're doing, everything goes smoother if you're in good shape and dress well. I've changed my body composition significantly over the past year (gained muscle, lost fat) and I get a LOT more looks on the street now.
/r/seduction20/12/12 07:12 PM
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That's a really good way of putting it, thanks.
/r/seduction20/12/12 07:10 PM
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My best advice is: don't. Huge time sink, and I found it distracted me from real life approaches. But, if you still intend to: Make your profile good. I cut my number of pictures in half, and left the text more mysterious. Following format for messages: 'Hey, Look like we both like X. What do you think of Y? - name.' Throw in a tease or a joke if you think of one, otherwise just leave it at that. X and Y don't have to be related. Find new girls using quickmatch. Just hit 3 stars until you see on…
/r/seduction20/12/12 05:48 AM
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A couple of things helped me with this: I took stock of attractive women who showed interest in me. Sure, I had failed on the execution, but some really hot women had at least shown initial interest. I must have something going for me. I went to the gym. This will make you look better, and it will do wonders for your perception of your self image. I found the best picture I had (posing in a tank top in front a mirror) and put it on hot or not. Got a 9.2 or something close. Pretty objective evide…
/r/seduction20/12/12 01:23 AM
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Congrats on figuring this out so early, btw. I was 21 before I realized I had to change things. If you follow through and get good at social dynamics, you're really going to enjoy College.
/r/seduction20/12/12 12:47 AM
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You sound a bit like me when I was younger. My best advice is to learn body language. I have no idea whether you have aspergers', but I do know that a lot of their problems in social situations come because they just ignore 99% of informational input. Learn to make eye contact, and to interpret what you see. I found material mean for Aspie's helped me out, as did Paul Ekman's work. And read the sidebar here. 'Talk to everyone' was one of the bigger revelations. I make efforts to joke/talk with c…
/r/seduction19/12/12 08:14 PM
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This is called a thumb display. Looks very confident compared to a hand in a pocket with no thumbs. Confident guys naturally do it, shy guys naturally hide their thumbs. Look at yourself in a mirror with thumb in and thumb out and it should feel different to you.
/r/seduction18/12/12 06:10 AM
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Oh, thanks. Good to know.
/r/seduction18/12/12 01:08 AM
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Are you a college student? Whenever I pass through the local college campus, I come out with a number or two - I'm 27. If you see a girl walking by, just say hi, and start a conversation. I wrote a post about this yesterday, hardly matters what you say: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/14yztd/say_anything/ The locations for those approaches were: A cafe, outside on a college campus, inside a college building (girl was sitting down studying), and in the lineup for a bank. There are girl…
/r/seduction18/12/12 01:07 AM
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Darn, that's what I have been doing. Probably just insufficient attraction for those where it's been difficult to schedule. It works for about 50% of the numbers I get.
/r/seduction18/12/12 12:36 AM
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What's the best way to schedule a date? Via text, once she's already agreed it would be good to meet up.
/r/seduction17/12/12 11:19 PM
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Kino. Work up to it gradually with lesser intimacy. By touching her, you'll also be able to arrange placing her in a kissable position.
/r/seduction17/12/12 11:18 PM
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One thing I've learned with marketing (and texting girls) is that you should have a call to action. With your initial text, I would have included 'let's go horseback riding sometime this week'. If you text again, I'd mention something like 'I just passed by the horseback place (or mention it somehow), let's go there soon'. Worth a shot.
/r/seduction17/12/12 10:29 PM
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You have a conversation. Give her reasons to enjoy your company, so that it's natural to do something together later. Tell jokes, tease her. If you're a fun, interesting guy, that will show during the conversation. If you're not a fun, interesting guy, then work on that, too. If you suck at conversations (I used to) then have more of them, and try to have fun with it.
/r/seduction17/12/12 10:25 PM
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Your date ratio seems low. What are you doing once you get the number? I try to set something up after that, or at least get her to agree to something. Then I text shortly afterwards, and almost immediately try to set something up. Worked pretty well so far, I haven't found 'wait 3 days' is required. With most approaches you make a very light connection, so I try to keep things going while that connection is still there.
/r/seduction17/12/12 09:30 PM
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For anyone considering it, it helps to make it not a feat of willpower, and instead make it a habit. I workout MWF, sometime between 12 and 2, and I record my workouts so that I can measure my progress. It's one of the most satisfying things I do, and it's very easy to do consistently. 'Going' is the default state, and I have to choose not to go, which has only happened twice in 8 months, and for good reason.
/r/seduction17/12/12 07:59 PM
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Approaching a guy (for a conversation) is a good idea too, if you're uncomfortable doing it. It isn't hard, and you'll build confidence. Some stuff I did yesterday: While waiting for a test, said hi to another guy who was waiting, and chatted about it. After the test, started a conversation with a girl behind me, and continued it until we left the building. Noticed that the cashier at my cafe had gotten a haircut, and complimented her on it. At the grocery store, started a conversation with the …
/r/seduction17/12/12 03:49 PM
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The ladder is gold. At the early stages, focus on innocuous stuff. High-fives, incidental arm and leg touching, playful shoves when teasing her, touching her arm to emphasize a point. Once you've got that down, you'll be able to move on to higher stuff, and you'll also have a good sense of when you can. I find higher level touching came naturally once I did a lot of the lower stuff, like my body knew what to do. Edit: Do's and don'ts. DO use it to gauge her attraction and increase her attraction…
/r/seduction17/12/12 02:49 PM
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Try it. I've only had this sort of thing come up once (girl talking about a horrible first date), but if you contrast it by being a good example of what to do, it should work.
/r/seduction17/12/12 02:47 PM
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'You actually need some "hard openers" ? Isn't it easier to look around, look at your target and just come up with something simple?' Hmm, maybe we have a misunderstanding. That's more or less what I was doing with the girls' phones - first thing I noticed. As for the directions, I thought they looked like social science students, or didn't look like a social science student, so I commented on that after I asked.
/r/seduction17/12/12 02:37 PM
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Yes, this was it. If she had spilled her coffee, I would have teased her about it. If she was struggling to put something in her bag, I would have made a joke about her having too much stuff. If I had noticed something really cool she was wearing, I would have commented on it. The phone was there, I thought of something to say, and I didn't block myself.
/r/seduction17/12/12 02:35 PM
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Actually, they worked really well. Both girls qualified themselves to me. One for having noisy phone, the other for having a really old phone and not being tech saavy. They were laughing from the get go. But it may all be in how you say it.
/r/seduction17/12/12 02:31 PM
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It's only awkward if you make it. Seriously. I use Skype all the time for business and for chatting with friends and family. Even used it a once on Ok Cupid. Never been awkward.
/r/seduction17/12/12 05:28 AM
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I'm no expert at that - but if the conversation takes a slightly sexual turn, go further down that direction and see if she bites. Sometimes if you say things that could be interpreted sexually, the girl will make a joke about it, and you can go from there. Also, you could try some of this stuff with other women: http://www.thedatingspecialist.com/blog/crush-your-sexual-anxiety-once-and-for-all/ I say other women because you're unlikely to be objective about this one girl, or as open to trying n…
/r/seduction17/12/12 05:13 AM
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Have you read the Di Carlo escalation ladder? It's worked pretty well on the few occasions I've had a chance to try it. Roughly, here's the part for when you've got her alone, and want to escalate to sex: Kiss her Kiss her neck. Put your hands under her shirt on the small of her back. Raise her shirt to expose her stomach. Do the same with yours, and touch stomachs (innocent seeming, but very intimate) Kiss her stomach. While kissing her stomach, put your arm between her legs against the bed and…
/r/seduction17/12/12 04:10 AM
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Eh, I'd still go here, I'd just adapt the tactics. Some of the stuff here is 'go hard or go home' high payoff but high stakes tactics. A lot of the rest is become a more confident, better you, and being a more fun, sexual guy around her. A lot of it is low risk. Probably the best thing you could do to attract her though, is to get other women attracted to you. It will change how you act. I made the mistake this summer of neglecting to pursue other girls because I was chasing one girl. I almost g…
/r/seduction17/12/12 04:05 AM
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The biggest breakthrough that I had was that I should be making more statements about her, and asking fewer questions. People (not just girls) love hearing other people express opinions about them. If you're right, they'll think you're very perceptive. If you're wrong, they'll rush to correct you (indirectly giving you importance). Statements naturally lead to a flow in the conversation. Questions tend to make things fall flat.
/r/seduction17/12/12 03:51 AM
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It works. And you can try it tomorrow. I found practicing on the lower rungs made it easier once I decided to go higher up. Just throw in more high fives, touches on arms, etc.
/r/seduction17/12/12 03:29 AM
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While I'm thinking about it: give yourself permission to suck. I was terrible when I started. Now I can say hi to a girl and have a good, fun conversation. It looks and feels simple when I do it, but it's based on the experience of dozens of other conversations that went less smoothly. I'm no expert, I just have tried to put myself out there and figure out what worked well and what didn't. Do this and you'll get better, as with any skill.
/r/seduction17/12/12 03:17 AM
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I like it when a girl shows interest and proposes something.
/r/seduction17/12/12 03:11 AM
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Do it. It's literally something you can do tomorrow, zero risk, zero consequences, definite skill improvement. I can now stop a girl with confidence, which frees me to focus on the other parts of the approach. You might also like my method for improving at kino. This was in Spring. When passing a girl on the street, I would touch her shoulder, and ask her for the time. I was NOT aiming to approach. My only goal was to ask her for the time, in way that made her day better, not worse. Reactions we…
/r/seduction17/12/12 02:42 AM
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I'd do it for your own sake. I tried OK Cupid a bit, but half the dates were 20-30 pounds heavier than their pics. Wouldn't do it again without Skype or Facebook add. I stopped Ok Cupid because it was distracting me from in person approaching. I've approached in person much more since stopping. One major advantage: I know exactly what the girls look like when I approach IRL. I'd try Skype just for the experience. It's really different from a phone call, much more like an in person chat. In some …
/r/seduction17/12/12 02:32 AM
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I was on a date with a girl recently who commented that her roommates are jealous of how many men she meets. It occurred to me that she made it really easy to approach her and go on the date. She was walking down the street with her eyes raised, and a small smile. Easy to get her attention, and not intimidating to stop her. Most girls, if they see me and are attracted, just look at the ground, and give a furtive glance when they pass. Not useful. Once I got her number, she made clear that she'd …
/r/seduction13/12/12 08:58 PM
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The other replies are good. I want to add a bit about body language. I used to be TERRIBLE at this, and resolved to learn. I'd say I'm now quite good, for a guy. I notice things other guys don't, and I can tell when a girl is enjoying a conversation with me. Eye Contact: You probably need to do more of it. If you're not looking at the guy, you're not reading his body language. Fixing this accounted for at least half of my progress. If this applies to you, basically just do more than feels approp…
/r/seduction09/12/12 01:03 AM
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I've thought about getting a dog for this reason, apart from all the other cool aspects of having a dog. I've never owned a dog though, so I don't really know what's involved. I have a very small apartment. How much space indoors does your pomeranian need?
/r/seduction09/12/12 12:45 AM
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I was terrible at touch, too. I learned with very small steps. First, I practiced by touching girls on the shoulder and asking the time. Very positive responses. I didn't approach beyond that, just wanted to get comfortable with touching. When on dates, I tried a version of the Vin Dicarlo escalation ladder. Start absurdly small. Find a reason to high five her. Playfully shove her when teasing. Touch her arm, or shoulder. Later, if she responds well, increase contact. Play with her rings. leave …
/r/seduction30/11/12 01:59 AM
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I've tried this, it works.
/r/seduction30/11/12 01:56 AM
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I like starting with small touches, and progressing. Let's you gauge reaction, and each touch (if she accepts it) lets you progress to a higher level of contact. A hi-five is a good way to start. No girl will ever reject that. Then you're already a guy she's touched, rather than a random guy she hasn't.
/r/seduction26/11/12 06:06 AM
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A high five is really useful. It has zero potential for failure, increases energy, and gets her used to touching you. I start with that, then move to playful shoves, hand on shoulder, hand on back, etc. If she has a ring or earrings, I'll inspect them at some point after that. I'll often steal a ring or two. Taking her drink away (in the context of a game) can make her touch you. Do enough of these little things, and bigger things aren't hard. Next steps are usually incidental hand, arm contact,…
/r/seduction18/11/12 01:33 AM
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Be assertive. You get used to it eventually, then you're comfortable with it. If you already know that you should be more assertive, then it's 99.99% certain that no one will be offended with you being more assertive. Probably, they'll welcome it. You'll be surprised how far you can go with it. There is a limit of course, and you'll figure it out from experience.
/r/seduction14/11/12 10:31 PM
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She laughed, and said she was on the way to buy new leggings. We talked for a bit. She went to walk away, but I asked her name, and stood my ground (didn't follow after her). She came back, talked a bit more, and suggested I take her number. Mind you, I didn't get anywhere further. I had another girl with the same name in my contacts, and as a result botched the followup text. Not sure whether her giving me her number was a blowoff, or whether it was the crappy text that did it, but I didn't hea…
/r/seduction03/11/12 07:48 PM
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Mmm, that could be what I'm noticing. A LOT more smartphones than two years ago + a lot more PUA awareness. Oh well, got to step it up.
/r/seduction01/11/12 05:27 AM
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Cripes, do I have to be super-literal?: "I have no problem scheduling things with girls that work full time, or who are full time grad students. I've noticed undergrads seem busier"
/r/seduction01/11/12 02:58 AM
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These are undergrad girls though, I'm a five years out of college. Was three years out of college when I tried this two years ago, and scheduling with undergrad girls seemed MUCH easier. Incidently, don't have much trouble scheduling with girls that are out of college.
/r/seduction01/11/12 02:46 AM
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Get friendly reactions from a few girls who are "out of your league". Try this. Ask 10 really hot girls for directions/the time. Note how they talk to you. Some will be matter of fact. Some will smile. Once you get comfortable with this, try starting ten conversations with 10 girls that are "out of your league". Notice that at least a couple will be favorable. If this is really a big issue, going abroad to someplace where you are "exotic" can help you blow past this hang-up in a big way.
/r/seduction01/11/12 02:44 AM
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Aye. I'll believe it when I hear numbers. Here are my most successful openers recently, that have ended in numbers, and dates: "Is that the new iPhone?" "Do you know what time it is?" "Can I join your trivia team?" Lame, trivial, whatever. What do they have in common? I can gauge her reaction, give her a chance to say something, and then take the conversation from there, based on what she's feeling. And they're easy as hell to try. I'm pretty new at this. Literally anyone reading these can say t…
/r/seduction01/11/12 02:24 AM
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Read the sidebar. Touch and physical contact basically. Start small. High-five, fist bump, hand on arm. If she's receptive, do more of it, and more intimately. Hand on back, hand on arm held longer, hand brushes hand. Eventually hand on leg, hand on lower back. The "Di Carlo kino escalation ladder" is a good outline. Then you have to go try. Do it right, by starting small, and you'll never risk a blowout. She'll let you know when she's not interested. If you haven't jumped to a higher level, thi…
/r/seduction01/11/12 01:55 AM
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This is overlooked. Some guys go into game mode, and then go back to normal elsewhere. It's a front. I always practice. For instance, I wasn't sure what to do if I wanted to talk to a girl I was walking towards on the street. So I practiced that skill. The next couple dozen attractive girls I saw got stopped so that I could ask for directions. I didn't go beyond that, to keep the pressure low and to make sure I actually did it. The result? A couple of weeks later, I can now stop a girl walking t…
/r/seduction01/11/12 01:32 AM
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Did you read what I wrote? I said I'm handsome. And that, despite being handsome, I sucked at this for years. (I also said I'm really, really short, which may have partially negated the handsomeness) Are you the ugliest troll in the universe? That's too bad. Life isn't fair. You have two options: Mope about it, and live a life of loneliness. Do the best you can do. Figure out what works best. The way to do this? Try stuff. I know which option I'd pick. Bonus Ok, so you don't look great? Your app…
/r/seduction01/11/12 01:25 AM
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I am an attractive guy. I'm also 5'6''. If you believe the whiny short people you read on the internet, I should be virtually undateable. Nope. Height doesn't seem to be an issue. I'm sure I'd do better if I were taller, but it's hardly gotten in my way. I mention this, because I think physical looks are similarly overrated. I can say that I used to get terrible results, looking the way I do. Then I fixed my confidence, and my results changed. I agree looks matter, but not as much as you think. …
/r/seduction01/11/12 12:32 AM
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I wish I could upvote this more. I only started doing this this year, and the feedback is phenomenal. It builds attraction too of course, but even if it didn't it's incredibly useful as a barometer of how things are going, when to kiss, etc.
/r/seduction01/11/12 12:13 AM
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Feeling bad about how you look won't help. Neither does having a chip on your shoulder. It's an objective fact that good looking guys will do better, other things equal. So what? That has nothing to do with what you should do.
/r/seduction01/11/12 12:11 AM
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Lift barbells. Not a joke. Just compared my new drivers license with my license from four years ago. My jawline is totally different.
/r/seduction31/10/12 07:53 PM
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Really good advice. Also, read posts where guys ask "what do I do in challenging situation X"? Then just avoid putting up that challenge yourself.
/r/seduction24/10/12 06:17 AM
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Do you need internet, or can you pre-load stuff on your phone? I have wi-fi, but no data.
/r/seduction28/07/12 11:33 PM
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I want to do that. My neighborhood has no empty playgrounds, too many kids....><
/r/seduction28/07/12 11:33 PM
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Say hi to women. Start by asking them the time, or direction, and move up from there.
/r/seduction27/07/12 01:31 PM
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That ego based oneitis is true for me. Messed up, regretted missing my shot. Things were in the bag, and I only had to not screw up. The result was a few wasted weeks afterwards. Definitely had a bit of a scarcity mindset going on, and didn't take the practical steps to fix that (approaches).
/r/seduction27/07/12 11:52 AM
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you can masturbate without porn. That's the end goal for many people onfap, once they "reset". A lot of guys on there are addicted, soggier sexuality is messed up.
/r/seduction25/07/12 07:02 PM
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I tried this today. Super easy to stop a girl from the front and ask for directions. Now I just have to add the "hey, you look cute/interesting/etc part and see how it goes. Do you sell your book separate from the audio? I'm a reader, not so much of a listener.
/r/seduction25/07/12 06:01 PM
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Thanks. I was wondering if it was legitimately harder, or if I was just making excuses. I've done street approaches successfully before, but in less crowded places. Haven't tried front approaches though. I walked past the girl, and turned around. I will have to experiment with just flagging them down, that would avoid any obstacles while approaching from behind.
/r/seduction25/07/12 03:00 AM
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I live near a crowded street. Lots of cute girls. But sometimes it feels like the crowds make it hard to approach. As I walk toward a girl, there are terraces, poles, and constant passerbys coming in the opposite direction. I find it hard to get in a good position to stop her. What do youdo differently when approaching on a crowded street?
/r/seduction25/07/12 02:14 AM
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Thank you. I recently screwed up because I was too attached to a girl. And regret over my mistakes has been hurting my enjoyment of the present. Exactly what I needed to read. I had shivers as I recognized how I was.
/r/seduction24/07/12 05:20 PM
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Touch them on the shoulder, then wait for them to take their headphones out. If that feels weird, practice touching people on the shoulder then asking for the time. That will let you calibrate it. People react quite well to being touched, lightly.
/r/seduction23/07/12 04:14 AM
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Have you tested this? I've had some very good responses from girls with earbuds. Just wait for them to take them out. They're often bored. If you were reading and approached by an attractive girl, you'd be happy, right?
/r/seduction23/07/12 02:17 AM
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Other people have mentioned this, he just reminded me. I often look like Michael Caine at the start of that video posted below.
/r/seduction10/06/12 05:46 PM
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i currently look like him at the start. It's not just this one friend who noticed - I blink like that all the time.
/r/seduction10/06/12 05:44 PM
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Does a pumice stone have the same effect as a loofah, or are they different? Also, how did you apply the tea tree oil? I have the liquid, did you just put some on a tissue and wipe it over the face?
/r/seduction30/05/12 05:28 AM
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Definitely #1. Check out r/nofap - there's a whole group of guys who have had ED from porn use.
/r/seduction23/05/12 02:57 AM
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I'm 5'6'', doesn't seem to be a big issue. Mind you, 5'6'', handsome, lean and muscular. And confident. Probably, if I were 6'3'' plus all the rest, I'd do even better. But I find that if I'm as tall as the girl or taller it's not at all an issue. You get to look into their eyes. 5'4'' still gets you at eye level with most girls. And slightly taller girls aren't usually an issue either. Just learn, deeply inside, to truly not care about it. Act like they ought to be with you. Then they won't car…
/r/seduction22/05/12 04:14 AM
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