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I used to be that same way too, shy around women and having a lack of any idea whatsoever on what to do. I learned what to do through trial and error mostly, it boils down to the following in my experience: You have to be willing to break out of your comfort zone, take risks and understand that no matter what there is always a chance you will be rejected. Rejection sucks, but remember that getting rejected is far better than never trying. The sting of getting rejected will never truly go away, b…
/r/seduction05/10/20 02:00 PM
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Don’t do it, it won’t work. If a woman were to hint at other guys at me, I would tell her she might as well go date them. Yes this actually happened in that exact way. Same goes for me, if I’m really interested in her then I wouldn’t feel the need to tell her about other women unless I lost interest in her. There’s nothing you can do on your own input that will be guaranteed to influence her to make up her mind about you, she has to do that herself. I’d just keep my options open if a woman is on…
/r/seduction02/09/20 01:51 PM
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I’d argue a slut is more a woman who uses her looks/sex as a means to get what she wants, especially from men, and she’s extremely shady and untrustworthy about it.
/r/seduction31/08/20 01:56 PM
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I’m not black pill nor am I claiming it as truth, I think it’s 100% bullshit. Value is relative and it’s a lot more than just looks, career, personality, lifestyle, etc. Everybody is different and values different things, but it’s really about who you connect with. People tend to choose mates who they have more in common with because they can relate easier, but even people who don’t seem to have much in common on the surface still might be able to form a connection with each other.
/r/seduction30/08/20 06:31 PM
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Scarcity mentality is the root cause of men who have the mindset of giving the time of day to every woman who expresses interest in them: men are so conditioned to act like any woman who gives them even the slightest chance will be the last, that they will settle and put up with so much shit in the name of securing a partner. I'd rather be lonely and masturbate for the rest of my life than settle for a woman who I wouldn't be happy with, even if the human race depended on it. I used to have that…
/r/seduction29/08/20 04:24 PM
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This! Most young adults, especially in expensive cost of living areas tend to live with their parents unless they have rich parents who can afford to help them out, have well paying jobs themselves, some combination of both, and either split the cost of living with roommates or with a partner. And even then most young adults who decided to move out are living paycheck to paycheck, working more than one job, working crazy overtime, etc. just to make ends meet. I think this attitude comes from 195…
/r/seduction29/08/20 03:54 PM
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"Hope he's a good guy, nice meeting you." And move on with your day
/r/seduction29/08/20 03:30 PM
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Fragility is the number one reason why so many men fail with women. They are so afraid of being rejected that they avoid risking rejection, and they get mad and butthurt when they get rejected.
/r/seduction14/08/20 02:54 PM
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SMH that some guys are so insecure they feel the need to hit a woman when they’re rejected. Be a man and just say “okay have a nice day” and move on, not an overgrown boy who hits when he doesn’t get his way.
/r/seduction07/08/20 02:39 PM
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Most guys think that feminists are man hating, dog whistling, dyed hair and sometimes ugly women who are out to strip away men’s legal rights and prop up a society where men are subservient to women. When you actually learn more about feminism you realize that there are dozens of not hundreds of different groups that don’t even agree with each other at all. Many feminists hate false rape accusations because it makes genuine victims look like liars. Some feminists are feminazis, TERFS, and pseudo…
/r/seduction07/08/20 02:00 PM
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It can be beneficial to some guys, especially if they are literally addicted to masturbating and cannot control the urge to, but it isn't the big cure-all that so many guys make it out to be. The act of no-fapping itself won't just magically give you superpowers, it might help you develop your self-discipline and discipline is a major key to improving confidence, but there are also dozens of other ways to develop self discipline. Medical and mental health consensus is that masturbation is psycho…
/r/seduction19/07/20 08:23 PM
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Here are a few I've personally experienced: Playing hard to get: When she talks to you she's seems genuinely happy and interested to be in your company, but when you text her she takes forever to reply. She agrees to go out for coffee with you, then flakes and reschedules and says "maybe", then finally comes out after you asking her 3 times and suggests going out again same time next week, only to flake because she's "busy". She does this because she thinks that men have to do the chasing, or sh…
/r/seduction19/07/20 07:48 PM
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There are people who exist that do fall into the categories of the theory, but they do not represent everybody at all. Yes there are “beta” men who do get taken advantage of, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t be a generous man: you just have to know how to determine who is and isn’t worthy of your respect, know how to say no, and have the confidence to stand up for yourself when you’re being disrespected. Similarly you can be confident and attractive to women without being an asshole “alpha” …
/r/seduction19/07/20 05:33 PM
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In the vast majority of cases laugh it off, but if you have a chance for a very witty comeback then take it.
/r/seduction19/07/20 05:21 PM
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There’s some truth in it, but it’s definitely a gross oversimplification that tries to explain it as being true across the board when it’s really not. Confirmation bias is definitely in full effect for guys who preach the theory.
/r/seduction19/07/20 04:50 PM
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How they meet: these hot girls are a certain type that hang out in places they know these uber rich guys will be at. They’re looking for clout, money, or just a good time and these uber rich guys don’t mind providing since they have plenty of money to do so.
/r/seduction18/07/20 01:01 PM
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This post is so true! Most men tend to do the bare minimum on Tinder, and when they are lucky enough to get a match they hit with a bare minimum effort message like a “hey” or a “how you doin?” like they’re Joey from Friends. They don’t stand out enough to even make an impression, and they bitch and blame it on Tinder instead of trying to learn how to improve.
/r/seduction16/07/20 02:58 AM
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My thing is to not paint pretty pictures in your head. Just live in the moment and don’t expect anything until she gives you a good reason to.
/r/seduction16/07/20 02:50 AM
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Most of these guys just have such fragile egos that they would much rather blame outside circumstances, or made up facts, instead of picking themselves up and making the improvements they need to in order to better their love lives. It also doesn’t help that they tend to hang out with each other and just feed off each other’s own negative thoughts in echo chambers. They actively try to tear each other down instead of prop each other up.
/r/seduction16/07/20 02:48 AM
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Honestly just do it. Start small and work your way up. You still have 5 years till you’re 30, that’s a lot of time to catch up! If you don’t step out of your comfort zone then you’ll never grow. It’ll be scary but what’s scarier: going through multiple rejections to find a girl who says yes, or never approaching and being lonely at age 35?
/r/seduction16/07/20 02:39 AM
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As counterintuitive as it sounds don’t try to compete with another guy for a girl’s attention. Getting into a direct competition is the worst thing you can do: there’s no guarantee that you will win and there’s a very good chance nobody will win. At the end of the day it’s the girl’s choice who she will end up preferring, or if she will just move on and leave the both of you behind. From my experience the best way to handle this situation is to not let yourself get bothered by the other guy’s pr…
/r/seduction08/07/20 11:27 PM
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It depends heavily on where you live, especially in today’s day and age. Manson’s merely speaking from his own experiences growing up in the United States, where in many places cost of living is low and it’s the norm for people to move out in their early 20s. And even then that’s probably from a decade or so ago. Where I live it’s pretty common for people my age to still be living with their parents well into their 20s or even 30s. Many friends are still at home for financial reasons (I.e. payin…
/r/seduction08/07/20 01:44 PM
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It’s pretty common but not really a universal thing. I know a bunch of darker skinned guys who end up with white, blonde women.
/r/seduction24/06/20 02:10 AM
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Same as anybody else would keep a conversation going, by having conversation skills. First and most importantly read the room and the vibe. Read her vibe too. Choose your opener/topics from that. Keep the topics simple and light, stay away from more controversial or heavy topics like religion and politics. -Flirt with her. Try to steer away from complimenting her body, instead compliment something non-sexual or something she’s wearing. Make things more suggestive later. Use humour. Crack jokes a…
/r/seduction19/06/20 02:02 PM
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I don’t advocate for being a bad boy/jerk since you really don’t need to be one. However I won’t deny that they are often successful. It’s nothing to do with them being bad, it’s more a case of them being confident and direct in their approach without giving a fuck about rejection. Bad boys/jerks tend to be the type who naturally doesn’t care much what others think. You should be aiming to simply channel that instead of trying to be a bad boy/jerk.
/r/seduction18/06/20 06:27 PM
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A real man is secure and confident with himself and doesn’t try to be anything he isn’t. Talk to her like she’s just anyone else. If she’s agreed to talk to you on the phone assume she probably likes you. If you get turned down then it’s her loss.
/r/seduction18/06/20 04:14 PM
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Be self aware of your actions and how they impact other people, regardless of what your intent is. Most creepy guys lack self awareness, or have a case of “special snowflake” syndrome where they don’t see their actions as creepy because they don’t have “bad intentions” behind them. These same “snowflake” guys will dismiss the exact same things they do as creepy if and only if other guys do it.
/r/seduction11/06/20 07:27 PM
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One word answers, closed off body language, bitchy tone, are the obvious ones. Not so obvious: Has a friendly demeanour but if you really think about it, she’s giving off more of a “fake nice” vibe. She’s being polite but there’s a lack of enthusiasm.
/r/seduction11/06/20 07:17 PM
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Go in with the expectation that you’re going to have FUN, not that you’ll pull a girl. You have FUN regardless of whether or not you get a girl. Your mindset will make you subconsciously appear more attractive and set you aside from the 99% of other guys who are thirsty and spending way too much effort trying to get their ducks wet.
/r/seduction07/06/20 03:22 AM
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Honestly just do it, push yourself outside your comfort zone. You will probably trip over yourself your first few times and that’s par for the course, just get back up again and keep doing it until you get it right. Hell you might even be amazed at the results the first time.
/r/seduction26/05/20 07:26 PM
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I’ve been around here for years, still stick around to help even though I’ve been in a relationship for quite some time. When I first joined it was full of guys who knew what they’re doing, now most of them have moved on and it’s full of fake alphas, snake oil PUAs, guys who have no idea what they’re doing, and yes there are some borderline incels here. Thank you for this post.
/r/seduction20/05/20 02:52 PM
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In hindsight high school dating wasn’t hard at all, it was just my young dumb brain that made it hard for myself. I had so many chances I didn’t bother taking because I was hung up on my crush at the time. It was also me expecting it to just fall in my lap one day, but that’s not how the world works. If you want to date you have to put in the work.
/r/seduction10/03/20 01:23 PM
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I feel like this is the case with dating in general, whereas girls are told to just wait for the right guy to come along, guys are always constantly told to improve themselves There's a fuck ton of lonely and unhappy women out there mostly because of that very advice. Sure they might still be able to attract guys, but if that's their strategy then finding a guy who actually satisfies them is like winning the lottery. ​ Like you said, there are men that are stronger, smarter, richer and better at…
/r/seduction22/02/20 12:21 AM
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The title is supposed to be a bit tongue in cheek. It's not a how to guide to fuck models, it's a guide on some fundamentals on self improvement that will, when applied right, show you how to present yourself as a desirable dating partner, how to handle yourself in situations, and how to position yourself to have more dating opportunities. You could very well end up dating a model, but she's not at all different from any other woman.
/r/seduction22/02/20 12:02 AM
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Umm women don’t just magically appear on your doorstep that’s not how it works. You have to put yourself out there. Approaching is not chasing.
/r/seduction20/02/20 01:40 PM
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Say “oh well”, delete her number, then go about my day as usual.
/r/seduction20/02/20 01:15 PM
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The simps who throw money at girls usually don’t have much else going for them. They take girls to fancy dinners, shower them with gifts, etc. but the girls eventually get bored of them and either leave or cheat, and move onto a more interesting guy. Be the interesting guy, not the guy who needs $$$ to get a girl Some girls do go for guys exclusively for their money, stay away from those types.
/r/seduction20/02/20 01:13 PM
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A lot of women have had encounters with PUAs before, sexually or otherwise or they know someone who has. They’re pretty wise to textbook PUA and fuckboy tactics and for the most part know how to sniff one out. It “works” when the women just decide they don’t really care because they want some action.
/r/seduction14/02/20 02:54 PM
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You really just have to know how to be your best self, present your best self, know your boundaries, know what you’re looking for, and most importantly know when you like a woman vs. liking the idea of her. Honest communication is a key aspect of relationships, be honest with yourself and her, and encourage her to do the same. Never lie about who you are or present yourself falsely, that is why PUA only works for short term flings.
/r/seduction14/02/20 01:53 PM
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Depends what you're looking for. If you're just looking for a good time and nothing serious then there's no harm in it, but go in with very low expectations
/r/seduction14/02/20 12:29 AM
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I struck out with a girl at a club (admittedly because of something dumb I did) then matched with her on Tinder 2 weeks later. It took a while before I realized I'd met her before, but by the time I figured it out she unmatched me Kind of came to show me that I would have had a chance if I didn't fuck up 😂 😂
/r/seduction14/02/20 12:29 AM
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Multitude of possible reasons: She just wanted attention and you established yourself as a texting buddy, which to attention seeking girls is the easiest and most low effort form of attention. She doesn't want to meet up but "agrees" just to keep you on the line. When she says "yes", she really means "yes if I have nothing better to do", but when the day comes something "better" comes up (i.e. friends invite her out for other plans, she's seeing another guy, etc) or she decides she doesn't feel …
/r/seduction14/02/20 12:24 AM
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Sounds like there's miscommunication from both ends here. If you keep saying you're busy without offering an alternative date, of course he's going to stop talking to you: he probably thinks you're not interested in him. Maybe when you agree to these dates it wouldn't hurt to reach out to confirm with him that you're both still on if you haven't heard from him. Us guys are always taught to reach out and confirm plans the day of a planned date if the girl hasn't already. Remember don't expect any…
/r/seduction14/02/20 12:04 AM
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Be the guy having the most fun and/or just know how to look like you’re fun to be around in general. At the same time don’t be a total clown 🤡
/r/seduction10/02/20 02:23 PM
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The only way to know is to ask her
/r/seduction10/02/20 02:15 PM
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I’ve just learned to have absolutely no expectations from anybody until they’ve shown that there is some sort of connection, and I give that ample time to happen. Before I’ve been on 3 dates with a girl I keep in mind that she could ghost or flake me at any time, but instead of dwelling on it I just focus on living in the now and doing what’s best for me. If I do get flaked or ghosted on then I say “whatever” and move on since there’s no point dwelling too hard. It’s different getting ghosted/fl…
/r/seduction10/02/20 02:13 PM
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If you get a haircut that’s just okay it will hardly make much difference. If you get a haircut that’s great it’ll make a huge difference. It goes hand in hand with beard grooming, what you’re wearing, how clean you are, etc. Even if you have a great haircut you can still dress like a hobo.
/r/seduction08/02/20 09:31 PM
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Once you’ve established yourself as a simp it’s pretty hard to come back from that. Grow a spine and cut the woman out of your life, and don’t let it happen with women you meet in the future.
/r/seduction08/02/20 09:23 PM
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I never said "Chad" is white or over 6 feet tall, nor does that automatically make a guy a Chad. ;)
/r/seduction07/02/20 07:14 PM
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It's possible to eat right, work out, and look good on a budget. You do have to make sacrifices, sometimes you do have to spend a bit of extra upfront, but it's all about making wise purchases that will add value to your life in the long run. Don't want to spend a bunch of money every month on a gym membership? Work out at home! If you want to improve your workouts invest in a yoga mat, a good pair of adjustable dumbbells, some resistance bands, and nice workout clothes. You might spend a couple…
/r/seduction07/02/20 07:08 PM
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I will admit that high school is a little different from adult life since everyone lives in a bubble and the odds can be very much for you or against you depending on who you are. After high school though life really starts to become what you make it: you only exist in that same bubble if you choose to. Guys who go incel are mostly just stuck in high school mentality
/r/seduction07/02/20 07:02 PM
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That's something I definitely overlooked, but yes you are correct. Part of the idea is to point out that things aren't always what they seem when it comes to "Chad" guys, and at the end of the day it's just a label.
/r/seduction07/02/20 06:54 PM
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I’m 5’10” and it’s never stopped me from getting girls
/r/seduction07/02/20 12:16 AM
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https://markmanson.net/change-your-mind Sorry was on mobile earlier
/r/seduction06/02/20 10:10 PM
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I’d point her to his blog, a lot of his articles seem to be written with more gender neutral advice in mind. The “instead of x, do y instead” blog comes to mind for something that helps with putting partners on pedestals
/r/seduction06/02/20 08:45 PM
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I used to be like that too, I’d nurse a crush on a girl until a new one would come along, then I’d “move on” to crushing on the other girl instead. Eventually figured out that another girl always comes and my brain was playing tricks on me
/r/seduction05/02/20 09:39 PM
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Correction: You think the idea of her is perfect for you, but that doesn't say anything of if she's perfect for you nor not. There's no such thing as a perfect person. If you let yourself hold onto that idea forever then you will, but I would advise against that: it's not healthy or productive.
/r/seduction05/02/20 08:29 PM
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Do you guys think she planned on ghosting me (how hard can it be to say that you’re not interested?) or that she was thinking about saying yes and I pushed her into rejecting me? I doubt that she was thinking about saying yes before you messaged her, if she wanted to say yes then she would have said yes two weeks ago. I feel like we got along last time we met in person last year and hit it off. I’ll likely run into her again in person at some point but I don’t want to make it awkward if I do get…
/r/seduction05/02/20 08:22 PM
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Techniques are more about short term gains. They might work if you're looking to get quick flings or hookups in party environments, but they tend to fall flat at a certain point and will probably put you in certain situations that hurt your ego more than anything. Working on your inner game on the other hand opens the doors for more meaningful encounters and longer lasting relationships, and even if you're only looking for flings or hookups it still has its way of making them come quite naturall…
/r/seduction05/02/20 08:14 PM
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Before pickup was based around certain routines and gimmicks that worked better since they were more like "trade secrets" back then. Now that they're more known, game has shifted more to focusing on nuance and improvisation
/r/seduction05/02/20 08:07 PM
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Remember that fictional characters are fictional characters, they have the power of plot on their side: if a character is supposed to have "game" then they'll get laid a lot regardless of how well their interactions would pan out in real life. That being said you can definitely learn a lot of fundamentals and basics by the way certain actors and characters. But don't act like or become that character or actor, just study their nonverbal communication and apply the lessons to the way you carry yo…
/r/seduction05/02/20 07:51 PM
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I’d nope the fuck out of there, unless you’re fine with making things more complicated.
/r/seduction02/02/20 06:24 PM
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If you at your core are the kind of person who just gives up easily and believes you’re not good enough, then yes you will stay that way. Changing those beliefs is half the battle. Yes it’s true some girls do end up going for shitty men. Usually it’s because these girls either have some serious mental issues that cause them to make poor decisions, or they’re shitty women who can’t find any other men who will put up with them. Sometimes shitty women end up with men who deserve better, but these m…
/r/seduction02/02/20 06:19 PM
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Yes it’s possible and it happens more than you’d think. Guys just have a tendency to overlook lack of chemistry more than girls do. A lot of guys also kid themselves and try to force chemistry when there really isn’t
/r/seduction02/02/20 02:55 AM
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I’m calling BS on this post, expensive does not equal good taste. You don’t need to be head to toe in Versace and Balenciaga, but you should definitely consider Uniqlo and Calvin Klein over Walmart and Target. Choose clothes that fit your body well, accentuate your strong features and divert attention away from your weaker features. Learn what colours pair well with each other and with your skin colour/tone as well as how to use patterns, avoid anything that looks like what your mother bought yo…
/r/seduction01/02/20 04:52 PM
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The magic happens when you push yourself out of your comfort zone
/r/seduction01/02/20 04:43 PM
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“Okay, have a nice life” then walk away
/r/seduction01/02/20 04:39 PM
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I only ever tell true stories, I don’t make up fake stories: I don’t need to and a fake story will always have holes in it. Telling a good story is 10% what it’s about and 90% delivery. You could do something amazing like go to Bali for two weeks yet if you’re shit at storytelling then you could put someone to sleep telling the story. You could do something as mundane as go to the mall and make it sound interesting if you’re great at storytelling. If you don’t have any interesting stories then i…
/r/seduction01/02/20 03:46 PM
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Be upfront about the fact that you still live with your parents. She may be able to host you at her place. Otherwise Airbnb’s or hotels are your go to
/r/seduction01/02/20 03:37 PM
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Don’t focus on getting girls focus on having a good time. Zero expectations and you won’t be disappointed.
/r/seduction01/02/20 02:15 AM
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Tough but not impossible. If you know how to present yourself and to focus on having fun it works wonders for multiplying your chances. Remember you’re a good time is mandatory, getting laid is not
/r/seduction01/02/20 02:13 AM
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Either she’s actually busy, she’s intentionally texting back slowly to not seem too interested, or she’s unintentionally it because it’s not the biggest priority to her at the given moment. Don’t read into it and don’t take it too personally either.
/r/seduction31/01/20 06:26 PM
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Girls in clubs tend to have their guard up since there are always a bunch of thirsty guys trying to creep up on them, and when they get drunk they tend to not even bother with politeness.
/r/seduction30/01/20 06:31 AM
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That used to be the story of my life. Older women would always say I was a handsome boy, people I met would always say how they bet I got laid a lot, girls would always tell me that “any girl would be lucky to have you” yet those same girls wouldn’t be interested in me. I did have girls interested in me but I wasn’t personally attracted to them. I lost a bit of weight, cleaned up my appearance, started dressing better and most importantly I started putting myself out there more. Then everything …
/r/seduction26/01/20 11:16 PM
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Isn’t /r/sex a better sub for this?
/r/seduction26/01/20 09:17 PM
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This! Don’t stoop yourself to letting yourself get used for easy entries, you’re better than that. Keep it professional at work and look other places for romance
/r/seduction25/01/20 10:30 PM
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London’s a big city with a lot to do and it’s not hard to get around there either. Who said you have to exclusively date in your part of London?
/r/seduction25/01/20 10:27 PM
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Jeez hell no don’t do that! Free stuff on the internet is all you really need, if you feel like you need a coach then surely there are much cheaper ones out there
/r/seduction25/01/20 02:46 PM
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Dating while in an open relationship is a whole new beast. Right now you’re approaching it as if you’re monogamous, which you’re conditioned to do. By that I mean your approach is framed as if you’re single and potentially looking for a girlfriend. Since that’s the case you’re attracting girls who are hoping to eventually find a long term boyfriend. The goal is to switch your game to looking for hookups, one night stands, and FWBs exclusively. The best starting tip is to be upfront about it. Say…
/r/seduction25/01/20 01:52 PM
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Or you just use it when you want to completely move on and not waste your time playing childish games
/r/seduction24/01/20 03:56 PM
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The friend zone exists, but it’s not what it’s commonly described as. Girls can’t just trap a guy in the friendzone, it only happens because the guy allows himself to get trapped there in the first place. Even if a girl gives you the LJBF there’s nobody holding a gun to your head saying you have to be confined to the friendzone forever with this girl, you either accept the friendship and pursue other women or move on.
/r/seduction24/01/20 03:55 PM
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Well I’ve stopped talking to girls for weird things they said or did, even good looking girls. Dated one girl I met at a club for like two weeks and she started talking about what our babies would look like (she was a different race from me) and she was super into me (I’d say she was 7-8/10), I was a virgin at the time but even then I still drew the line. But there are a lot of thirsty guys who wouldn’t care. You just made a mistake is all, the first time was okay but the second time was cringew…
/r/seduction24/01/20 02:40 PM
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Why is this woman a slut, just because she didn’t sleep with you? Smh. You don’t trick anyone, you work on yourself and improve your skills with women and learn that chads aren’t really a thing, they’re pretty much regular dudes who just know what they’re doing.
/r/seduction24/01/20 02:24 PM
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There were a lot of malls that had warnings about PUA meetups a few years ago, but now it’s kind of been swept under the rug. It’s still definitely there but I’d say it’s moved into a different form now, and not as many guys are doing it since the old methods don’t work anymore.
/r/seduction24/01/20 01:49 PM
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I think you’ve probably got the flirting, looking good, dressing well, etc part down pat. That’s the easy part for women. When I’m considering a woman as a potential long term girlfriend sex is definitely a key for sure, but I’m also looking at what else she has to offer other than just sex. If sex is the best thing she can offer me then I won’t take her that seriously; I’m confident enough to know that I have plenty of options if I’m looking for just sex. I’m looking particularly for what makes…
/r/seduction23/01/20 11:29 PM
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I was a big fan of the series during its run and watched the entire thing from beginning to end so yes I know what you’re talking about. First of all you don’t seem to actually be that self aware of how you probably came off. Saying “I love you” on a third date with someone you barely know is already weird enough, but the fact that you went the extra step to deliberately say it in her language probably at best made you look like you’re trying too hard, and at worst it probably offended her a bit…
/r/seduction23/01/20 11:00 PM
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She probably kissed you because she wanted to at the time, but this was obviously before you said “I love you” to her. Either that or since it was the 3rd date she felt obligated to. Or maybe she just wasn’t thinking too much of it and said why not? To be honest you probably did shoot yourself in the foot a bit. The first time you said it over Tinder you were clearly just demonstrating that you know a Farsi phrase and she probably thought it was cute you were trying to impress her with it. Since…
/r/seduction23/01/20 06:57 PM
1

Clubs, bars, meetup events, parties, Tinder, travelling, school, gatherings and concerts mostly. To some extent you kind of will have to cold approach, in my experience sometimes it just comes more naturally than other times, and it’s a matter of being in the right place at the right time. At the same time you have to put yourself out there to get that chance
/r/seduction23/01/20 06:25 PM
1

Calling bullshit on this. Just because you’re friends with a girl doesn’t automatically put you in the friend zone. Guys only end up in the friend zone because they put themselves there, and they do that by only befriending women in hopes that they’ll eventually get in their pants from it. If you become friends with a girl and see it as that while nothing more, while actively pursuing other girls for romantic/sexual partners then you’re not in the friendzone. TLDR; Only befriend a girl if you ar…
/r/seduction23/01/20 06:15 PM
1

Dem hot famales
/r/seduction23/01/20 06:11 PM
1

She sounds like she’s the type to prefer taking things slow. Maybe she’s more of the relationship type, maybe she got hurt by guys who used her for sex in the past, maybe she just got out of a relationship, for whatever reason she has her guard up. In her mind sex is her most valuable card to play, so she will not put out until she sees the value in doing so. The most likely scenario where she’ll get intimate with you is either a) when she is confident you’re not going to play her AND she sees i…
/r/seduction23/01/20 06:09 PM
3

Most girls are conditioned to believe that there has to be a “bad guy” in the breakup, so if the guy isn’t a piece of shit and didn’t do anything wrong then in her mind she must be the bad guy. Also there are a lot of guys out there who get mad when a girl dumps them so they’re probably afraid of that too
/r/seduction19/01/20 03:52 PM
1

It’s not a lame excuse, she didn’t want to have sex right then and there so she said no, simple as that. She said next time but even then she still has the right to refuse sex, and if she does then do not force it. It’s perfectly understandable to get frustrated but if she denies you then you do not pressure, push, or force her into it, you simply just get the hell out of there.
/r/seduction17/01/20 03:29 PM
3

Needy guys can and do get girlfriends, but most of the time they’re it’s because settling for less. These kinds of guys attract girls who also settle for less, who are also needy, etc.
/r/seduction15/01/20 10:21 PM
3

That's exactly the point I made lol
/r/seduction14/01/20 08:36 PM
12

I don't think you can necessarily change yourself or who you are, the idea is to become a better version of yourself or feel comfortable in being yourself instead of trying to be someone you're not. But yes I do agree the "just be yourself", "just be confident", etc. advice is horrible advice since they're merely stating the end goal while not offering any advice on how to reach it. HOW do you be yourself? HOW do you just be confident? It's extremely vague advice given by people who are ignorant…
/r/seduction14/01/20 08:20 PM
1

The pushover nice guy who is too afraid to go for what he wants will almost always get passed over for the asshole who isn't afraid to go for what he wants. The guy who does nice things but isn't afraid to stand up for himself or go for what he wants will almost always win over the asshole.
/r/seduction14/01/20 06:40 PM
0

Don’t kill me 😂
/r/seduction11/01/20 11:11 PM
1

Because women ultimately want men and not boys, and at age 18 you're at a transition point: while you're legally considered a man, the vast majority of people do not perceive you as one. The vast majority of guys at age 18 haven't had anywhere near enough life experience or maturity to be considered a man. Guys with more life experience and maturity tend to be more confident, have better social skills, know how to present themselves better, have better game, be more established, be more secure/l…
/r/seduction11/01/20 11:07 PM
1

Go to a sex club or look into breaking into your local nonmonogamy/swinging scene. You'll find plenty of likeminded people there
/r/seduction11/01/20 10:12 PM
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It's not about not giving a fuck about anything at all, but rather about knowing what not to give a fuck about. When you make a move on a girl you should not give a fuck whether or not she rejects you. When you're seeing a girl, you don't give a fuck that you're putting yourself at risk to get cheated on, dumped, ghosted, humiliated, etc. When you make her your girlfriend, you don't give a fuck about the fact that you're not entitled to her, that she could leave at any time.
/r/seduction11/01/20 08:14 PM
1

You'd be surprised how many guys are in the same boat or getting even less than you. In fact I thought for the longest time that I was the only virgin in my group of friends, after I lost my virginity one of my friends revealed he was a virgin and was shocked that I was.
/r/seduction10/01/20 08:16 PM
6

It can be and it can also mean jackshit at the same time.
/r/seduction10/01/20 07:43 PM
2

You basically answered your own question, you don’t always need to list off all your boundaries right off the bat, doing that right off the bat might make you come off as too uptight. A lot of the time it’s a matter of bringing it up when you feel like that boundary is about to be crossed. If we use your situation as an example you are right, it wasn’t necessary to say that you shouldn’t have sex when you first meet, you could have just as easily crossed that bridge when it came to it. Also anot…
/r/seduction10/01/20 04:58 PM
1

For the most part I’m pretty much the same, the only main difference is if I was 100% certain that it won’t go anywhere beyond casual/hookup then I’m even more blunt than I already am. I’m much more likely to try my luck at sex within a the first few hours.
/r/seduction10/01/20 03:41 PM
2

Simply expressing what you truly and honestly want/need is not a needy behaviour in itself because it doesn’t imply that you’re expecting it from someone, you’re merely laying your cards on the table. Nice guys behaviour is needy because nice guys aren’t really upfront with what they want. They are afraid that their wants and needs will “scare her off” so they instead bottle it all up, neglect or even lie about their needs, and focus entirely on meeting a woman’s needs in the hope that she’ll so…
/r/seduction10/01/20 03:22 PM
1

Take good pictures, make sure they’re interesting and curate your best ones. Use hashtags to get more likes and use stories, if you want your account to get more follows then be consistent with your posting and keep to a certain theme (I.e. fitness if you work out a lot, travel, fashion, etc).
/r/seduction10/01/20 02:40 PM
1

The "real social dynamic" I've experienced is that if you just do what you feel is right or what you. For example I dance and I'd post stories of me going dancing on Snapchat/Instagram and I have some girls I know from time to time ask me to take them dancing. Never did it with the intent or expectation that it would catch a girl's attention, it just did.
/r/seduction08/01/20 08:59 PM
6

You give her space and do your own thing, if she wants to come back to you she will.
/r/seduction08/01/20 08:47 PM
5

The way I see it you’re spot on. You ultimately don’t decide if a girl says yes or no, you do decide to find a girl who says yes when another one said no. The less fucks you give about being rejected the easier it is to go for what you want
/r/seduction08/01/20 05:15 PM
45

Just tell her you’re not looking for anything serious and ask if she’s okay with that.
/r/seduction08/01/20 04:10 PM
98

I remind myself that before I can appreciate that she’s a special someone, she has to show me she’s worthy of being that special someone
/r/seduction08/01/20 04:08 PM
2

For every person who blooms late there’s also someone who peaked early. I feel like I’m in the same boat but at the same time I like where I am now and made peace with it. That semi open-relationship you have with your girlfriend is a pretty awesome opportunity to get those notches on your belt, I’d be happy that you have that option: not a lot of guys are so lucky
/r/seduction07/01/20 04:17 PM
1

Financial success, fun lifestyle, being in shape, having an attractive appearance and all that do give you a huge advantage in attracting women, but none of that means jackshit if you don't have the right skills and confidence to actually meet and date women. But based on your post history I think your mentality is your problem
/r/seduction07/01/20 03:38 PM
1

Before whenever I’d hit it off with a girl I’d always think in my mind “I HAVE to make this work”, I would start picturing what the future had in store for us and I would think in the back of my mind that things not working out was a failure on my part, and the last thing I wanted was to be back at square one again. Subconsciously I would get into this way of thinking that the girl I was seeing was the last girl I would ever have a chance with. Unsurprisingly I always found myself back at square…
/r/seduction07/01/20 03:30 PM
1

If she doesn’t like you then she doesn’t like you, nothing you do can change that. Your goal is to see if she likes you, not make her like you.
/r/seduction07/01/20 03:19 PM
2

It just ran its course, nothing you can really have done. Just look back on the memories
/r/seduction07/01/20 03:17 PM
2

You’d be surprised how many older women don’t want to be with a younger guy
/r/seduction07/01/20 03:16 PM
2

There’s not one universal answer here that can apply to all Asian women. They’re people like everyone else and their preferences all vary based on the individual.
/r/seduction07/01/20 03:14 PM
1

Dude you’re in a hostel, you don’t have the time to take things slow. Just go for it and enjoy your time together
/r/seduction07/01/20 03:08 PM
1

Anybody can improve their social skills, confidence, lifestyle, and even to a degree their appearance if they put in the effort. The problem with incels is they don’t want to work for it and blame women and guys who get laid for their situation. Yes it’s true that some guys will have an easier time than others, some guys just have better luck, and some guys have to work a little bit harder to get there. It’s just the way things are. But instead of doing the work to get in step with everyone else…
/r/seduction06/01/20 08:27 PM
1

Why not find a second group of friends? That way you hang out with your first group for whatever it is you guys normally do, and your second group for when you go out to bars/clubs. Your group of friends right now won’t change if they don’t want to.
/r/seduction06/01/20 05:52 PM
3

Used to be a lot less successful with girls than I am now. The way I see it I don't think it has anything them to do with seeing me as a provider more than a badboy, but rather when I was in high school/college I was much shyer and didn't have the time/energy/resources to work on myself. Once I graduated and started working I developed a certain maturity that gave me the discipline to get into shape, wear better clothes, have a better sense of personal style, and push myself out of my comfort zo…
/r/seduction05/01/20 08:24 PM
1

I used to have this exact same problem too. There's tons of advice on this topic all over the subreddit but I'll comment mine nonetheless. You have to understand what creepiness is: creepiness comes from behaviours and actions that cause people to experience unease and discomfort. There are actions that are universally considered creepy, but there are also many situations where it's ultimately subjective. One girl might not mind what makes another girl uncomfortable: for example one girl might f…
/r/seduction05/01/20 07:54 PM
1

This happened years ago lol, I'm fully aware that I have nobody or nothing to blame except myself for my mistake. I've learned a lot since then, just thought I should share an old story as an example of what not to do.
/r/seduction05/01/20 03:06 PM
1

Well what have you tried already?
/r/seduction05/01/20 02:55 PM
1

Corrected it to say that’s her choice, guess I got the grammar wrong
/r/seduction05/01/20 02:19 AM
1

Even Rob Schenider's current wife, jeez
/r/seduction04/01/20 08:31 PM
11

This! Even guys who are super attractive and put in the work don't get laid 100% of the time, rejection is part of life no matter who you are.
/r/seduction04/01/20 08:27 PM
2

Being upfront and honest about where you're at is the best thing you can do. Never lie about wanting something you don't, and don't change what you're looking for until you're ready. If they're willing to meet up anyway even after you're upfront about where you're at then there's honestly no harm in it. You're a grown ass man dating grown ass women, if you lay your cards on the table and they accept it then they should by this point know exactly what they're getting themselves into. If a woman k…
/r/seduction04/01/20 07:48 PM
5

You handled this in the best way anyone could in this situation. There's clearly something very off about those two and it would be best not to get involved, definitely sounds like too much drama for what it's worth. There is a chance that they could have indeed been boyfriend and girlfriend, they probably had some sort of argument or dispute earlier and the girl might have been deliberately doing stuff with you to make a point with him. If that's the case then definitely not worth giving her th…
/r/seduction04/01/20 07:44 PM
1

I don’t really care, just as long as she’s safe about it and in good sexual health
/r/seduction02/01/20 05:30 PM
2

If there’s a pattern the common denominator comes from you
/r/seduction31/12/19 10:02 PM
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Immaturity, sense of entitlement, lack of communication with their friends, not having an abundance mindset.
/r/seduction31/12/19 09:24 PM
1

I’d consider game that it factor that guys have that makes women naturally drawn to him. Some guys have it naturally, but any guy can learn it through hard work and pragmatic change
/r/seduction31/12/19 11:48 AM
1

For starters you’re talking too much to her over text/phone before you even meet them. In early stage dating texting and all that should be reserved for setting up the date primarily: a few random texts here and there maybe but don’t get to know each other that way, save that for the date
/r/seduction31/12/19 11:46 AM
1

Well if you act one way then do a complete 180 later what do you expect is going to happen? More importantly what are you looking for? Are you looking for ONS? Are you looking for a FWB? Are you looking for a girlfriend? Bottom line be consistent with what you want
/r/seduction30/12/19 10:25 PM
2

Have your own hobbies, social life, etc outside of your relationship that you find happiness in.
/r/seduction30/12/19 02:39 PM
3

You probably gave a “player who wants a ONS” vibe at first but after getting laid you gave off boyfriend vibes and it immediately threw her off. If you want to scare off a girl who’s not looking for anything serious then that’s how to do it!
/r/seduction30/12/19 02:37 PM
1

Consider it more a reflection of her character than yours. This kind of thing unfortunately happens all the time in the dating world but might as well grow a thick skin to it since there’s nothing you can really do to stop it
/r/seduction30/12/19 12:38 PM
3

Well duh of course it’s easier to go on a date with a girl who has a crush on you! She’s already predetermined that she likes you before the date so by that point it’s pretty hard to fuck things up unless you deliberately go out of your way
/r/seduction30/12/19 12:32 PM
1

Stock a variety of booze. Have some wine glasses, cocktail glasses, shot glasses, and even beer glasses handy as well. Wine is usually the safest bet but you sometimes get a girl who prefers a mixed drink or even beer. Having a good speaker system has never failed me as well. A few board/card games, especially for two, helps as well.
/r/seduction30/12/19 12:27 PM
1

I only day game when I’m travelling somewhere tropical, like a resort vacation or somewhere like Miami that has daytime pool parties.
/r/seduction28/12/19 09:03 PM
3

You’re mixing up shy and introvert. Not all shy people are introverts and not all introverts are shy. A shy person is someone who has a hard time breaking out of their shell socially. An introvert is someone who needs alone time to recharge their mental battery.
/r/seduction28/12/19 08:55 PM
3

I’m not really ever worried about girls with guy friends, a lot of the time her guy friends are just platonic friends and even if they do secretly want her on the DL the vast majority of the time they aren’t really a threat to you anyway. If there are men in her life that are your competition then chances are she’s not going to introduce you to them or make you aware of their existence. I do acknowledge that there’s the possibility these guys are around, but I’d rather just focus on me and her: …
/r/seduction28/12/19 08:44 PM
1

Because you’re have the recipe for success on Tinder: good looks, good photos, good profile. I used to have a bit of extra weight and a terrible sense of style, on Tinder I got maybe 1-2 matches per month and most of the girls I matched with weren’t that interesting. Lost weight, cleaned up my style, improved my profile and I was averaging one match a day with much netter looking girls. Tinder is only a waste of time if you’re expecting it to be a silver bullet solution. Newsflash, it’s not, you…
/r/seduction28/12/19 08:32 PM
1

I’d let someone else deal with her and GTFO of there. No time for that.
/r/seduction28/12/19 08:22 PM
1

Lol, I don’t really care how she poses as long as she looks sexy
/r/seduction28/12/19 08:19 PM
19

That’s half the battle, the next half is having the right mindset and focusing your efforts in the right places
/r/seduction28/12/19 08:18 PM
1

You mean for a picture?
/r/seduction28/12/19 08:17 PM
1

Masculinity itself isn’t something that can really be defined or quantified, it’s just a vibe that male humans give off. I would say that it has traits and by far the biggest and most important trait is strength. Strength can be expressed in many ways, and if I had to define it myself then I’d say strength of character is the ultimate way to express masculinity healthily. Toxic masculinity is an immature mindset, held by insecure and often weak of character men, that they have to be or act a cer…
/r/seduction27/12/19 04:08 PM
1

The Game was written well over a decade ago, times have changed since then.
/r/seduction27/12/19 03:23 PM
1

You were her “just in case there’s nobody else” guy, but the truth is there is always someone else.
/r/seduction27/12/19 03:21 PM
1

They’re funny and all but too many guys out there take this alpha/beta stuff too seriously and will actually try it.
/r/seduction27/12/19 03:19 PM
1

First you have to understand what the friendzone actually is. It’s not just merely having a platonic friendship with a girl. When you’re in the friendzone it’s when a girl only sees you platonically while you hang around with her hoping for more or trying for more. She may have different reasons for this: maybe she genuinely likes you but only as a friend, or maybe she likes the validation, sometimes a bit of both. But the fact remains that she does not want to be more than friends for whatever …
/r/seduction27/12/19 03:03 PM
1

She may be a serial monogamist, one of those girls who always has to find a new boyfriend after she’s just got out of something. Tread carefully.
/r/seduction27/12/19 02:40 PM
1

It’s out there but there doesn’t seem to be as much of a demand of it from women as there is from men. Maybe it’s partly to do with our society’s slut shaming problem so women are less inclined to take a more active role. Maybe it’s also to do with the fact that most attractive women don’t really have to go out of their way as much as men do to find a date: on average most men who are good at getting women tend to have a certain degree of social skills, whereas the most successful women tend to …
/r/seduction24/12/19 03:28 PM
1

Just to be clear it’s something I learned isn’t a good thing to do. When you do this you reap what you sow since you just end up attracting people with the same mindset sooner or later
/r/seduction24/12/19 02:53 PM
2

From my experience if the girl is into you enough, and you’re not being a predatory creep, then her cockblock friends won’t matter. You could also introduce yourself to her friends, this helps them see you as less of a creepy guy trying to get in their friend’s pants and more as a regular guy who their friend probably wants to bang.
/r/seduction23/12/19 07:57 PM
1

You sure that’s 5 years apart?
/r/seduction23/12/19 07:49 PM
2

No point, just accept the rejection like a man and move on
/r/seduction23/12/19 07:46 PM
3

Just send her the fucking message
/r/seduction23/12/19 07:46 PM
3

Why the fuck does it matter just live life the way you want on your terms
/r/seduction23/12/19 07:45 PM
2

No. I’ve committed to girls who were less than I want, but I knew deep down I just wanted to have a safety net while I was looking for the next best thing.
/r/seduction23/12/19 07:40 PM
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These things don’t just switch off it takes time. Just keep doing what you’re doing and distract yourself from thinking about her.
/r/seduction22/12/19 08:52 PM
1

Go after girls who are high too?
/r/seduction22/12/19 02:47 PM
2

Seems like you’re in the mindset of taking whatever girl you can get regardless of if she meets your criteria or not. There’s some underlying belief system that you can only get these girls so you subconsciously tend to attract what you’re getting instead of what you want, and you’re putting most your energy into these girls who don’t meet your standards and wasting time you could be spending getting the girls you want. If you want it to stop then you need to be pickier and stop wasting your tim…
/r/seduction22/12/19 02:24 PM
1

I’ve had this problem before sometimes but not necessarily always, it heavily depends on the group dynamic, the situation , etc. It’s not so much me being unattractive so much as I’m merely not the centre of attention at the time. There are some situations where I’m the life of the party and others where I’m a lonely wallflower.
/r/seduction21/12/19 07:56 PM
1

Take up Latin dancing, it naturally tends to attract more singles
/r/seduction21/12/19 02:07 PM
2

Step back and leave it up to her
/r/seduction20/12/19 09:01 PM
1

Follow up with another minor compliment, ask about her, or make a joke and say your secret is Farrah Fawcett shampoo and see if she gets the Stranger Things reference. Ask her name, introduce yourself, chat for a bit then ask for her number.
/r/seduction20/12/19 08:25 PM
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If you're being hurtful then chances are you're lying, being dishonest, and doing things that are leading these girls on to think there's a possibility of something else when there's not. The key here is to not leave any false hope. You don't have to be super specific and say you're only looking for a one night stand or a fling for a few weeks, but what you can do is be upfront about the fact that you're not looking for anything serious, or you can explicitly say you aren't looking for a relatio…
/r/seduction20/12/19 03:21 PM
2

Don't worry about getting validation from guys, find other outlets to get validation from within.
/r/seduction20/12/19 03:00 PM
1

It's not so much a question of women liking men who are hard to reach or unavailable that it's really men who make themselves too available are a turn-off. There are a lot of guys who will more or less be available at a woman's beck and call, for example if she wants to talk to him on the phone later he'll call her within the next minute. Or if she wants to meet up on Wednesday night when he has his weekly boxing class after work, he'll skip boxing to go out with her. Even behind the safety of a…
/r/seduction20/12/19 02:59 PM
2

Try making little subtle moves on him when you're out and see how he responds.
/r/seduction20/12/19 02:46 PM
1

Where I live we have these eventbrite networking events for young professionals across all industries where they rent out an entire venue, and you walk around and introduce yourself to people. Some people there are looking to promote their business, others are there looking to build connections, some people just to unwind and get drunk after work. Also been to meetups for young singles in my city, actually managed to be the life of the fucking party there and got 2 girls numbers. You might want …
/r/seduction20/12/19 02:40 PM
1

Totally had a "Jake" who thought he was so slick he could woo my ex away from me, he tried and failed miserably.
/r/seduction20/12/19 02:35 PM
1

Only text her to ask her out on a date
/r/seduction20/12/19 02:30 PM
3

This forum helped me out a lot
/r/seduction20/12/19 02:29 PM
1

Are there networking events in your city?
/r/seduction20/12/19 02:28 PM
1

Honestly it’s better not to put too much energy into getting the “cold” girls. Sometimes they warm up but that’s out of your hands, they have to do it on their terms. Leave the ball in their court and let them decide what to do with it.
/r/seduction20/12/19 12:13 PM
1

I meant challenging in a way that’s fun for the girl and challenges her to answer. I don’t mean ask her a complex math, science, etc question.
/r/seduction20/12/19 12:10 PM
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For starters, girls in online dating tend to have loads of messages from would-be suitors. The problem? Most of these messages are cliche "Hey", "How you doin?", "Hey beautiful", "You're cute", "Nice boobs/ass", "Bobs and Vagene", "[dick pick] Like what you see?". None of these messages actually stand out at all, so she'll feel less inclined to actually fish through them all. The real thing is to try and think outside the box and do something that will catch her attention. For example, one girl …
/r/seduction19/12/19 10:31 PM
2

One thing I found helped was to be more selective on who I asked out on a date, I would try to discern which girls I'd consider more "warm" leads and ones who I was actually more interested in getting to know from girls who would merely give me the time of day or just give out their number just for the sake of it. Another thing is to not set too many dates at once. I find that doing this spreads you too thin and makes you come off as the flakey one. I'm not against seeing multiple people at once…
/r/seduction19/12/19 10:16 PM
1

Being someone who knows how to have a good time and help others have a good time too. People are naturally drawn to positive energy, women are no exception.
/r/seduction19/12/19 10:09 PM
2

I wouldn't say it's so much of a question of guys being inherently unable to attract women so much as they just don't want to work for it and think that women should just fall into their laps.
/r/seduction19/12/19 10:04 PM
1

The only thing I could really think of is to propose an alternative date idea (i.e. coffee/tea, dessert, interesting food spot, etc). If she still declines that then I'd take that as her not being interested in me and politely be on my way.
/r/seduction19/12/19 10:01 PM
1

I honestly went there once and its safe to say that most guys probably go there at some point in their lives. On the positive side she was freaky and she put out much faster than any other girl I've ever met. However, the downsides were: she wasn't that great in bed, I had a hard time finding myself attracted to her, she was crazy insecure, probably psycho, and was too much drama for me to deal with.
/r/seduction19/12/19 09:51 PM
1

"Chad" is literally a myth, and even guys who are close to the "Chad" stereotype get do get rejected all the time. In reality "Chad" guys just have a different mentality when it comes to women. They accept that rejection is inevitable regardless of who you are and don't place so much emphasis on it since it's really not such a big deal when you do get rejected. Getting there takes time, effort, determination, and most importantly a willingness to change and improve. Before you engage in a behavi…
/r/seduction19/12/19 09:49 PM
1

I didn’t use any coaching service, just googled a bunch of stuff and went through trial and error. I’ll summarize what to look at and what I learned. Pictures - Learn how to take good pictures of yourself or get a friend to take some good ones of you. Have at least one full body and one that clearly shows your face without sunglasses or a hat on. Avoid selfies unless you really know how to take decent ones, stay away from group pics, pictures with girls, shirtless gym selfies, selfies with guns,…
/r/seduction15/12/19 09:59 AM
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Long story short, tourists are more likely to be DTF because they’re in adventure mode. When they go somewhere more often than not they’re there for a good time not a long time. They don’t have to worry as much about the potential fallout of sleeping with a stranger from abroad like stigma from friends/community, catching awkward feelings, etc. It also works in reverse for locals when meeting tourists. A local will have an easier time sleeping with a tourist they barely know for the same reasons…
/r/seduction15/12/19 09:36 AM
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Don’t make getting laid your focus, it makes you reek of thirst and most club girls are turned off by thirsty guys
/r/seduction15/12/19 09:26 AM
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This, certain resorts, especially adult only ones, are crawling with prostitutes
/r/seduction15/12/19 09:24 AM
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Don’t put her on a pedestal like 99% of the male population would, at the end of the day she’s a normal woman who wants to be treated as such. She agreed to a date because she likes you, be yourself and don’t think you have to impress her.
/r/seduction15/12/19 09:20 AM
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These days the focus is more on inner game and authenticity, such as what’s seen in Models by MM. There are some guys who still swear by pickup stuff though
/r/seduction15/12/19 09:17 AM
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If that floats your boat then go for it!
/r/seduction15/12/19 09:14 AM
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If it makes you feel better I didn’t get laid till my 23rd birthday. It really didn’t change anything other than the fact I learned that virginity really isn’t a big deal.
/r/seduction22/11/19 12:23 AM
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I don’t think it’s anything to do with your introversion, you sound more like you’re stuck in your comfort zone and you’re expecting getting laid will get you out of your rut.
/r/seduction22/11/19 12:20 AM
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This sub is geared more towards putting yourself out there and learning how to connect with women in a more non-platonic manner
/r/seduction22/11/19 12:13 AM
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You kind of have to just be direct about what you want, even if it means you’ll probably get rejected. Realistically your first few attempts are going to be awkward as fuck but once you get rejected a few times it’s much less scary and it kind of just comes more naturally
/r/seduction22/11/19 12:07 AM
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If she’s toying with you she’ll do everything short of actions that would get you out of the friend zone, but she’ll never quite get there. The whole thing will feel like chasing the end of the rainbow
/r/seduction21/11/19 11:38 PM
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Don’t give them attention. Best case it flips the script and she chases you, worst case you don’t waste time with her.
/r/seduction21/11/19 11:31 PM
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Half-Asian here! Asian guys can and do have success dating women of all races although it isn't commonly portrayed as much in the media, but even that's changing these days. Your problem seems to mainly be a defeatist attitude and beliefs that are holding you back more than anything. It's common among Asian guys to have this mindset but white guys commonly have it too. Guys of all races suffer from similar doubts, as well as their own set of unique problems. It sounds like you're on a good path …
/r/seduction18/11/19 07:19 PM
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If she says something like "I don't know where my friends went" I usually respond with "Let's go find them, I'd like to say hi". Or say "I'd like to meet your friends, or whatever feels right in the time. Also found from experience that if a girl really wants you then she'll find her way to you even if her friends pull her away, especially if its the case that her friends are just salty.
/r/seduction18/11/19 06:18 PM
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I guess the main reason why geeks are so bad, because they DON't interact. If they would they would start to see patterns. At least I do. I'm the same, a lot of geeks do end up becoming better with girls but that's only after years of practice, which was the case for me. One key difference between writing code and interacting with a girl you just met though. When you're writing the code, computers don't have free will: sure it requires abstract problem solving to solve the problem but it's not g…
/r/seduction18/11/19 06:16 PM
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If a shy girl is interested then it really just means that you have to be the one to make the moves. She’ll show less IOIs but they’ll still be there, and she won’t pull away if you make moves. It’s hard to tell if a girl is a sexual abuse victim, anxiety is a sign but she could just as easily be an anxious person. The only way you can really know is to ask her
/r/seduction18/11/19 03:30 PM
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Because most geeks are used to thinking in terms of science/math that ultimately boil down to basic laws and rules, and they assume that human social interaction follows similarly simple rules and laws. As a result they tend to have a very simplistic view of social networks and interactions when it’s really more nuanced and complex. Understanding human socialization and behaviour requires much more abstract thinking which geeks lack the skills in how to do so. Source: Would consider myself a gee…
/r/seduction18/11/19 03:24 PM
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Depends on your geographic location. My city is notoriously expensive to rent/buy so it’s not uncommon for people in their 20s to be living at home anyway. Women care more if you have your shit together and actually doing something with your life. There’s a difference between living at home and working towards a degree/focusing on your career and saving money, versus living at home because you work a dead end part time job and your only other pastime is smoking weed and playing Call of Duty
/r/seduction18/11/19 03:15 PM
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If I felt like it then sure why not? If she comments on what happened I’d just laugh it off. If she asks why I “chose” the other girl first I’d reply with something like “Sometimes you save the best for last”
/r/seduction18/11/19 03:10 PM
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I’ve never found that mind games are necessary at all to get laid, all you really need is a backbone and to know how to be direct with women. Women want casual too, and I’ve found from experience that women would much rather fuck a guy who they know what to expect from than a guy who says one thing but really means another thing. Most women tend to have very good bullshit detectors. A PUA might get laid over the “nice guy” who offers to give the girl everything she wants and treat her right beca…
/r/seduction18/11/19 02:57 PM
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In adult life it’s more about your lifestyle than your label; a certain lifestyle will surround you with a lot of hot girls. Funny enough though these girls are more often than not more attracted to the lifestyle than the guy who lives it. These same guys often complain about how women tend to go for more “normal” guys than them, the truth is most of these guys have no idea what they want from women, and that leads to them having a hard time connecting with women. Women at the end of the day are…
/r/seduction18/11/19 02:37 PM
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Ask her if you can introduce yourself to her friends. That way instead of them seeing you as the grimy douchebag at the club, they see that you’re just a typical guy. They will appreciate the effort you made as well and it makes them feel more comfortable.
/r/seduction18/11/19 01:57 PM
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How much of your "true self" did you sacrifice to be a better you? None of it at all. Have you discarded your true self entirely in favor of a persona that produces more success? Nope Is it better to be a fake person and be socially successful than being yourself and not so successful? Sometimes there's no harm in doing the whole "fake it till you make it" thing but there's a right way and wrong way to do it. I eventually learned that faking it till you make it is not about having a fake persona…
/r/seduction15/11/19 07:07 PM
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Long story short, you have nothing to lose by telling her how you feel at this point. Best case she feels the same and you've got a potential relationship, worst case she says no and you finally move on with your life.
/r/seduction15/11/19 04:06 PM
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Many people out there associate attractiveness and confidence with narcissism, and many people feel threatened by attractive people. It’s nothing to do with you and everything to do with their insecurities.
/r/seduction15/11/19 12:57 PM
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Indian girls aren’t always rude to me, but from my experience they tend to have hangups about dating and intimacy, esp. if you’re not the same culture/subculture. If they’re rude to you all the time then you’re the common denominator
/r/seduction15/11/19 12:49 PM
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I actually agree with these guys' psychology: being in a LTR isn't a reason to stop putting your best self forward, you should always be striving to be your best self otherwise you get complacent, and complacency is the number one killer of you realizing your true maximum potential. This applies for both men and women in a relationship.
/r/seduction14/11/19 09:51 PM
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I just notice I have to have a motive to approach them, you know? I'm honestly the same, I wouldn't say so much I need a motive as much as there needs to be some sort of random nuance that would make it feel more natural to break the ice with a stranger in public. Giving your power bank to a girl who clearly needed to urgently charge her phone would be a good example where a little nuance is acceptable. In general most girls do not like to be just cold approached when they're out in the street, …
/r/seduction14/11/19 09:37 PM
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The rules are obviously a bit different in a bar or something. But when it comes to the street or a mall or whatever, most of the things I read here are not a good way to meet anyone. This is the part that's missed on most guys. Approaching a girl you don't know at a public venue or event such as a bar, concert, nightclub, party, all inclusive resort, etc. is in most cases more socially acceptable and even expected: women are often more open to being approached. I've always found that approachin…
/r/seduction14/11/19 09:09 PM
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110% I can relate to this. This concept is so crucial and key yet it completely goes over so many men's heads. Yes its true that not being needy/desperate is extremely important in attracting women, but you don't need to rely on playing silly mind games and using gimmicky techniques to prove that you're not. Guys keep trying to give of that "IDGAF" vibe, but they're so heavily dependent on the outcome that they end up coming off needy in the long run anyway. On the other hand when you don't use …
/r/seduction14/11/19 08:42 PM
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Why not both?
/r/seduction14/11/19 08:24 PM
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Being honest, upfront and straightforward is definitely the best policy and it's something I do believe that everybody should always strive for. Unfortunately we don't live in a perfect world and people do not always like the truth, so people tend to try to lie to avoid conflict. While yes lies and deception can avoid problems in the short term they tend to not be a sustainable solution. On the other hand, while honesty might cause immediate problems in the short term those problems tend to be t…
/r/seduction13/11/19 06:44 PM
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What helped for me was learning how to strike up random friendly conversations with strangers more naturally, and having just a regular friendly conversation without any specific intent beyond just a friendly chat. For a long time this was easy for me without problem but if I was talking to a girl I found attractive I would get tongue tied and have no idea what to say, or I would hesitate and not even bother. Then over time I would find myself in conversations with hot girls where there wasn't a…
/r/seduction13/11/19 05:04 PM
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FWBs usually tend to be better than ONS, you get the perk of getting comfortable with the other person while none of the commitment.
/r/seduction13/11/19 04:36 PM
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You're on the right path! Keep it up and try not to lose your vibe
/r/seduction13/11/19 04:14 PM
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Any guy who has baby mamas from casual sex is doing it wrong. For starters use condoms, they protect you from more than just unwanted BMs, never do a girl raw unless you know she's on BC and STD free, and if you do a girl raw then be prepared to fork out the cash for a Plan B. Always use your own condoms, carry a spare or two, and use lube. Don't be silly wrap your willy
/r/seduction13/11/19 03:20 PM
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I've had girls I've known for a long time show interest, but most of the time it usually happens when I don't see the girl that often or I haven't seen her for a very long time. It's more likely a change in her mindset than anything you did differently to make her all of a sudden interested.
/r/seduction13/11/19 03:11 PM
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That's a pretty rare situation, most of the time if a girl has a boyfriend she'll let me know in a non-threatening way and I usually just reply with "well he's a lucky guy, and you must be a lucky girl too. Have a nice day/night" Even if the boyfriend then unless you're being disrespectful about it or being extremely creepy then they generally don't get hostile; they can't fault you if you didn't know she's taken. I did know one girl who told me her boyfriend would say stuff like "I'm gonna find…
/r/seduction13/11/19 03:04 PM
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It hurts when it happens to you the first time but this is definitely far from the harshest rejection that could happen, I wouldn't even consider it harsh: it was just a very typical bad date. It could have been much worse than it actually worse. Part of the reason why it feels harsh is you probably built yourself up too much and got your hopes too high. You hinged a lot on this panning out, and when that failed it made the blow hurt that much more. It also probably made you pay it too safe sinc…
/r/seduction12/11/19 07:29 PM
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Psychologist Don't give a fuck. All they care about are talking about stupid feelings and stuff instead of trying to actually give you practical plan. They can only help you so much, you have to want to let them help you The only thing I want in this world right now is to have a someone be my saviour or something and guide me with baby steps so that I can get back on track. BUT NO BODY WANTS TO DO THAT. All they give is the same regurgitated bullshit messages. That won't help me. At the end of t…
/r/seduction12/11/19 06:48 PM
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Short answer: you have to get over being a chicken and accept that the truth might not be the one you like
/r/seduction12/11/19 05:54 PM
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Ghosting will happen whether you like it or not, just have to grow a thick skin to it. Realize that it hurts the ego more than anything, and the less you dwell on it the more easily you'll recover. Instead of dwelling on it just take the positive and accept that it was fun while it lasted: the memories are always fun.
/r/seduction12/11/19 05:53 PM
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I wrote off the whole alpha/beta nonsense a long time ago, it's pseudoscience that at best reflects how children socialize. I do agree with you it's very ironic when men talk about and try to be alpha, pretty much 100% of the time they're much closer to their own definition of being beta.
/r/seduction12/11/19 05:40 PM
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I use Gucci Guilty, got it for like $90CAD (about $70USD)
/r/seduction10/11/19 02:29 PM
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From my experience it’s always the women who don’t go to the club very often, or the ones that don’t look like they belong there, that are the most likely to hook up with a random guy. The boujee “thotiana” type girls wearing the tight outfits and twerking on the table are most of the time not there to hook up, they’re there to get free drinks and do their own thing. They’re only there to hook up if they’re fat/ugly. The girl wearing the jeans, sneakers, and cardigan and is sitting there bored w…
/r/seduction10/11/19 02:27 PM
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I use veet for down there. First I use a beard trimmer to get the hair a bit shorter (but not too short) then I lather on the veet, leave it for about 5 mins then most if not all the hair comes off. Get a sensitive skin formula and be careful not to use it for too long or else your balls will burn for a whole day.
/r/seduction10/11/19 02:15 PM
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You probably have some belief system that’s holding you back. Your beliefs are causing you to expect the worst, and from that you have conditioned yourself to act a certain way to avoid the worst case, yet your conditioning causes your belief system to be self fulfilling. The only way to break out of it is to step out of your comfort zone and try new approaches. If something works try it again, if it doesn’t work then do something different.
/r/seduction10/11/19 02:11 PM
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Let her come to you
/r/seduction10/11/19 02:03 PM
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Lots of reasons. Maybe she’s thinking of cheating, maybe she just gets a kick out of teasing guys, or maybe you’re misreading her signals
/r/seduction10/11/19 02:00 PM
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Shortly put, because that’s what the market wants these days. The reputation PUAs have got from the media in recent years is not a good one, and many coaches are trying to shake the label off them. Many guys out there also don’t want to be associated with PUA instructors because many of them are snake oil salesman. The snake oil salesman have merely found a new snake oil to sell.
/r/seduction10/11/19 01:00 PM
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If she mentions a boyfriend she either: A) Has one B) Is trying to get you to go away In the vast majority of cases if she’s into you she won’t mention a boyfriend
/r/seduction09/11/19 10:37 PM
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Next some you see her tell her you think she’s cute, you’d like to get to know her and ask her out on a date.
/r/seduction09/11/19 07:49 PM
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Drinks or coffee first
/r/seduction09/11/19 01:23 AM
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Three strike rule
/r/seduction09/11/19 01:23 AM
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Got dates, been kissed and all that as a teenager but didn't actually have sex till my 23rd birthday. Even getting laid didn't change anything overnight, for the most part it was me getting lucky and being in the right place at the right time. It took around a couple years before I was able to actually go out of my way to pursue romantic/sexual relationships with women and actually get results, but for a large chunk of that time I was battling depression and being miserable all the time severely…
/r/seduction08/11/19 10:15 PM
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Easy way: Pay for sex with 100+ different sex workers. It's expensive but it's guaranteed, and if you're rich it won't be a problem. Hard way: Maximize your options by a) optimizing your looks, confidence etc. to make yourself appear more attractive to women, b) knowing your demographic niche and what sort of women you are most likely to attract and c) look for these women where you know you're most likely to find them. At the same time learn how to pursue sexual relationships with women by bein…
/r/seduction08/11/19 09:58 PM
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I have a policy of not shitting where I eat, especially if its someone I'd expect to see everyday or will be working there for a long time. My exceptions for dating colleagues are a) if I don't expect to see them often or b) they're no longer my colleagues. The best way is to get to know them as acquaintances but don't get too up close and friendly with them, and don't expect too much to happen. Sometimes an opportunity comes up, sometimes it doesn't. If an opportunity does come up then ask and …
/r/seduction08/11/19 09:49 PM
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There's a right way and wrong way to do it. I'm not too experienced with it myself but I know for sure the wrong way to do it: don't be like every other thirsty guy and send compliments about her ass, dick pics, how much of a nice guy you are, etc. If I were to try it I would probably make sure that she's at least following me back first, comment on her story in some way that stands out from all the thirsty dregs, see if/how she responds, then go from there and let things happen organically with…
/r/seduction08/11/19 09:33 PM
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Take partner dancing classes, it really helped me get out of my comfort zone and lose my fear of touching girls.
/r/seduction08/11/19 09:29 PM
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Sometimes abundance isn't about the options you actually have at the present time, but rather the potential options that you are able to have. Girls come and go, sometimes you might have 5 girls on the roster that you're actively talking to, you might be sleeping with 2 of them, maybe there's only one girl, and sometimes there will be nobody. It's extremely transient, but every situation is temporary. If you have no active options with girls it gets hard but accept that this happens to everybody…
/r/seduction08/11/19 09:19 PM
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Being able to accept rejection and handle it without letting it affect you is one of the most important key skills to being better at seduction, and many other aspects of life really.
/r/seduction08/11/19 08:40 PM
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Forgetting several important things here: You're not boyfriend and girlfriend, she has no obligation to be exclusive to you so never assume you're the only guy. This cuts both ways, you have no obligation to her either. Expect no commitment or exclusivity until it's agreed on by both of you, and until this point everything is fair game. It might sound contradictory to the above, but don't automatically assume that every guy in her life is giving her the D or trying to get into her pants unless y…
/r/seduction08/11/19 08:38 PM
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Nice and politeness is appreciated but that on its own isn't enough. It's not that girls are automatically turned off by nice sweet guys, it's moreso when these guys don't really bring much else to the table. Girls want a guy who they find charming and attractive, and despite popular belief you don't need to be a jackass who treats her poorly to be charming or attractive to her, you simply need to know how to take it beyond being a "nice sweet" guy. A huge part of it is also the intentions behin…
/r/seduction06/11/19 10:06 PM
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Interest and attraction are very fleeting, people are just fickle like that.
/r/seduction06/11/19 08:25 PM
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Ask yourself, will it lead to a favourable outcome? It 99.9% won’t change her mind about you and will only give you a minimal ego boost in the short term, but even then it won’t stop you stressing about it. Would you rather spend your time dwelling on it or getting with another girl?
/r/seduction06/11/19 07:14 PM
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You don't need to be a hulking gorilla of a man with testosterone running through your veins. They key to attracting women is being confident in yourself and your abilities, not being needy/desperate, not stooping to unsavoury means to get laid, and most importantly knowing how to carry yourself. A guy could be 6 feet tall with broad shoulders but if he smells like BO, has a neck-beard, and wears cargo shorts and My Little Pony shirts while walking with a slouch and literally begs girls to fuck …
/r/seduction04/11/19 05:59 PM
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