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The reason you confidence is being hurt is due to two problems: You have expectations for what you should "accomplish". This is stupid. Don't talk to women if you don't feel like talking. Don't try and get with girls you don't like. Because things don't go your way, you get all sadboi. There's no race. No one cares whether or not you get laid, so you shouldn't either. If you are bad at conversation, I'd suggest talking to people normally. Guys, girls, older, younger--anyone. Be cheerful and funn…
/r/seduction10/10/16 03:41 PM
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Just going to reaffirm the fundamental concept here that confessions don't really work. Which I guess you've realized. Suppose we should just sidebar this at this point, huh?
/r/seduction10/10/16 03:09 PM
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Really seems like you botched that one pal
/r/seduction19/09/16 02:13 AM
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Well...to be honest we haven't fielded too many of these types of questions from women. The big question is what are you looking for? If you're a girl (and honestly, it doesn't matter much what you look like) getting laid shouldn't be an issue, as long as you're receptive to guys trying to holla. Are you trying to holla at guys you think normally wouldn't give you attention? That's where we can help! Going solo can be daunting, but totally worth it. To be honest, I've never seen a woman go solo …
/r/seduction19/09/16 02:10 AM
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Women have more options then men. They don't develop one-itis as much, if at all, bc of this. Ehh, I'm not sure I agree with this. I've known loads of women that get one-itis. It's just that they heal much faster than your typical sadboi. When a women wants to get laid to forget about someone it is almost always effortless. Men (in general) have difficulty having sex whenever they want/need--and often see relationships as a way to secure their sexual needs without cultivating attraction and just…
/r/seduction19/09/16 01:47 AM
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Some tough love: Yes, of course it will. You need to get your life in order and move out. You can try and game (and might even have success) but women are attracted to guys that can stand on their own two feet. You need to be on the self-improvement kick and not the "how do I get laid" kick. Get the former down and the latter will follow. Don't mean to sound accusatory, I'm sure you're working on it. I'm just saying keep doing that, then come talk to us when you've got your shit sorted.
/r/seduction09/09/16 04:17 AM
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Cheers brother, it gets us all. Your last two stories has gotten me thinking about very close female friendships. I don't mean to talk about having females friends in general. But like confidant/best friend close. There was a time where I thought those types of relationships were a great boon to my game. But...these days I find them a burden. Reflecting when I've gotten oneitits the worst, it's definitely these types of situations, as I convince myself that these relationships which "just out of…
/r/seduction09/09/16 04:10 AM
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Or better yet do BOTH. I know really fit guys that essentially blunder themselves into getting laid. If they just had game they would be Casanovas.
/r/seduction24/06/16 03:02 PM
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Pretty sure you whooshed. Yes being fit helps...but there are are chubbsters getting pussy everyday. It's not the be all end all.
/r/seduction24/06/16 02:58 PM
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Good job--I can see where you're coming from, and every step towards improvement counts. Was she into you? Well there really isn't anyway to tell...she could just be a confident, friendly chick. You would have found out if you got the digits. Hell even an email? You need to get a phone dog, like even a burner. They can be pretty cheap these days! Your romantic life is going to hampered without one. It's just a standard in this day and age.
/r/seduction24/06/16 02:52 PM
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Bruh...
/r/seduction23/06/16 07:46 PM
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OK cool, I see where you're coming from. I'd put a million dollars on she was just goofing...but considering the kind of culture we're in, saying shit like that would make many dudes uncomfortable. The trick is not to let it get it to you. If you choked at this comment, it must have made things even more awkward. Handle that shit with a graceful joke ("In your dreams!", etc.) and continue gaming. Escalating can be tricky--there is no universal tempo or rhythm to it. You need to learn how to acco…
/r/seduction23/06/16 07:45 PM
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I have had girls flirt and get touchy with me only to call me out as a creep (in a nonjoking way) when I do it back. In the past, how have you touched girls? Like did you do it in the context of talking? Or did you just stick your hand out there? You should check out the DiCarlo Ladder. But perhaps it's too abstract? For me, it's simple--escalate means you gotta start from somewhere: a handshake, hug, hi five. Touch her shoulder when telling a story. Hold her hand/ rest your hand on her knee if …
/r/seduction22/06/16 10:08 PM
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Not trying to hate but this was awful to read. You told her your feelings in the most pathetic, beta way possible. If she is addressing you like this one of two things happened: a) your were broadcasting your feelings in a really obviously but, ultimately pussy way or b) you told one of her friends...don't ever do that again, revealing personal shit to a lover/wife/crush's friends will always end in stirring shit up. Also, have been out on a date yet? Had sex? Kissed? All this talk is meaningles…
/r/seduction22/06/16 09:42 PM
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While u/Chad_PUA has a point, I see where you're coming from. You thought this was a date, she isn't responding well to flirting, so WTF am I doing here? You definitely shouldn't have brought up the boyfriend, like at all. Instead, your job should have been to make her more comfortable.
/r/seduction22/06/16 09:06 PM
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There's merit in practicing sex if you're completely inexperienced--and I did try sleeping with unattractive women to improve my game when I started college. My take home message is: it's not really worth it. If you really aren't attracted to certain women, sex can be a awkward and unpleasant. We all get drunk af and pull someone with only the intention of filling a hole, but you shouldn't be trying to date women you aren't attracted to to. Stop worrying about your virginity--it's the silliest c…
/r/seduction17/06/16 05:32 PM
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Since my self post didn't seem gain any traction; what is a good amount of time between dates? I have been trying like 5-10 days but I am concerned that I am leaving too much time, and my buying temperature seems to drop.
/r/seduction14/06/13 08:53 PM
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Ouch man. I hurt for you because I was rooting for you to rally and come out in the end. Your self-critique hits the nail on the head mostly, but let me give you some other points. * Lead the interaction Not just with the abandoned house, but with venue changes, and the night in general. You say you're busy and can't go out much--before you start any kind of dating visit a couple of nice venues and make them your "own." Be familiar with the menu, how busy they are on average, etc. You don't have…
/r/seduction06/06/13 02:31 PM
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Given that I have only one "club" in this shitty university town I live in, I don't deal with many of these problems (I use it as a venue change to ramp up kino with grinding), however I'm soon moving to the ATL where there'll be some real clubs. I'm currently working on my weight, so though dress well and smell nice, I know most girls won't go for me at a glance because I'm fat. Do you think good body language and energy will be enough to get some girls attention in a club?Right now I take care…
/r/seduction21/05/13 07:46 AM
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Great post. If you were one of two males described at the top of the post, I'm here to tell you, you can fix things with that chick that just left you cold and dry. Ask her out again, and engage her physically. As long you don't become her mewling manservant, you can always salvage situations like this. TEXT HER. DO IT.
/r/seduction08/05/13 12:42 PM
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After conquering my inner game, this was the greatest lesson I've learned from seddit. With few exceptions, a girl WILL NOT bang you unless you engage her physically beforehand.
/r/seduction08/05/13 12:39 PM
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Yeah, I think it's good to assume everything's an IOI. I find it encouraging if I am ever in a timid mood.
/r/seduction08/05/13 12:30 PM
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Right, well barring actual congenital disorders or horrific scars, most males are okay looking as long as they are well dressed and have proper hygiene. If you're lacking in those two things fix em where you can. Without really knowing much about your situation I'd say that you should establish rapport before you start to escalate. Get your hands on her, but let her know that you're cool by talking to her for a bit. Perhaps my usual routine might be useful: Handshake/hi-five-->5-15 minutes of co…
/r/seduction08/05/13 12:27 PM
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Well not bad....but something is bothering me. I don't mean to make an ad hominen logical fallacy, but did you see some of the stuff he links from his website? Dude is a white nationalist... While his understanding of the Game seems solid, as a mixed race guy,I think I'll take my advice from somewhere else.
/r/seduction05/05/13 09:59 PM
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I'm a misogynist because I think it's fair for each person to pay for their own meal? No, you're not a misogynist because you'd like the woman to pay for her own meal. I assume you are a misogynist because you seemed to be very passionate about hating the status quo that males often pay for everything. I understand your sentiment, but the fact it is such a big deal conveys to me veiled misogynistic leanings. Seriously dude, SRS already gives us so much negative attention, do you really need to m…
/r/seduction02/05/13 11:06 PM
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Said the misogynist with a serious chip on his shoulder. You just comment shat all over this thread. We get it, you don't think it's fair for guys to pay.
/r/seduction02/05/13 07:48 PM
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It doesn't necessarily fuck things up, but you're going to lose some potential high value women by pulling that shit. I always pay for the first date, (this is actually not correct, because Ive had women pay the whole check before. I always offer to pay and usually do)and from there I've had women buy me drinks and pay for subsequent dates, etc. If you can't really afford the paying for both of you, come up with better date ideas, there are many low cost options that just inherently more fun. Le…
/r/seduction02/05/13 03:28 PM
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Wholeheartedly agree with you. The only thing I really agree with OP is recycling old numbers, I mean digits that have just been gathering dust I your phone. I have had some mild success texting girls from very old interactions (either I fucked up our first meeting/date (or it just generally wasnt good, or the unfortunately had a boyfriend when I met them). I guess you can't loose anything on a "How ya been?" text, but under no circumstances will you find me texting a girl more than twice with n…
/r/seduction02/05/13 01:12 PM
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I cannot agree more. Until a few weeks ago, I had created an opener I called "Stop being a bitch." Basically it works by telling the girl that she's being rude by not paying you any attention, and tell her that she's coming off as bitchy (playful delivery is very much required). It's a great way (if not very direct) to disarm bitch shields, and even girls who aren't bitchy will struggle to qualify themselves to you, which is great. I got a bunch of numbers, and a couple pulls, but before long th…
/r/seduction30/04/13 04:11 PM
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Knew there was something of about that spelling. Now I feel like an idiot....Good catch!
/r/seduction29/04/13 08:59 PM
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Off the top of my head; In response to deflection: -"Really? I agree to disagree I guess." -"Yeah, that why you're here talking to me and not anyone else..." Accusations of being conceited: -"Me, conceited? No wayyy." -"But is it conceited if it's true?" Keep it fun, and don't take anything too seriously. Make sure you know how to deliver in a playful sort of way!
/r/seduction29/04/13 04:14 PM
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Yeah. But "assume attraction" does wonders for your game. If this is not your mindset, you need to change it to that. Pretend like women are trying to pick you up. It awesome because: They know the score. Girls know better than guys when flirting is taking place. However, this is the most effective way to come off as flirty without that tinge of creepiness like "uuhhhh....you're really pretty...or whatever..." See? a little weird. You're clearly demonstrating "Hey you're a cute girl and I'm an a…
/r/seduction29/04/13 04:05 PM
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I think I disagree with you on all counts. While ideally you want to facilitate isolation, girls that go to clubs together will invariably want to check on each other, just from a safety standpoint. As long as you're keeping them engaged despite this, I see nothing wrong. "Keep it casual, keep it fun." There is no harm in opening sets solo, obviously OP was pretty casual about the whole thing. Obviously, approaching with the wing increases your chances, but remember you're out to have fun. 3.See…
/r/seduction28/04/13 10:17 PM
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Good on you OP. It seems at least at this point in the night, you had more rapport with girls than your wing. Allowing to maintain convo with HB6.5 while you take the front was a good move.
/r/seduction28/04/13 10:04 PM
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As I'm reading this for the second time (I've read most of this sometime before on this subreddit) I was like: "Ok, ok, ok...wait..what?" "Do initiate flirtation with people of roughly the same level of attractiveness as yourself." Fuck this. Fuck all of this and her explanation. But otherwise I thought the rest of it was somewhat helpful.
/r/seduction03/04/13 02:44 PM
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Hmm....I guess I didn't mean not to kino right away, I think just as long as you're using escalation. Not that I've thought over it a bit more, I can see what RSD was trying to get at, you can easily get caught up trying to convey value, and not interact with a girl. You may not need this advice, but when escalating, I like grab a girl's hands when telling her some silly anecdote. It's both intimate and innocent at the same time. I usually get more success after starting like that.
/r/seduction27/03/13 01:30 AM
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Good FR man. I've struggled with similar situations in the past; you're really winning over the crowd, you've picked a target, isolate.....then you jump to interview questions. I do not like "not conveying value." It's ballsy as hell to start kino-ing off the bat, but I feel more girls would be creeped out by it than actually seduced by it. It breaks an escalation of rapport and comfort, but to each their own. My advice would be to keep that energy when working the crowd and gauge if your target…
/r/seduction27/03/13 12:46 AM
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One of the symptoms of oneitis is not being able to see faults in those you have oneitis over. I remind myself that whoever she is, she isn't perfect. There's always someone hotter. There's always someone funnier. There's always someone smarter. Don't put them on a pedestal and realize that if they don't treat like you should be treated, analyze what you may have done wrong with your Game, then "next" 'em.
/r/seduction27/03/13 12:30 AM
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Great video. Why the fuck is his hair like that?
/r/seduction06/03/13 05:24 PM
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This line just makes me cringe. I mean, I know we can be a little too dogmatic at times about how to compliment women, but come on. Women that are very physically attractive and know it will scoff at this. They hear it every fucking day. I know this because I've experienced the bitchiness that follows me saying that line. Now if she's not a knockout, I'd say "meh." If you're confident you could pull it off like a champ, I'd just say be prepared for an increased failure rate. Her intellect, her f…
/r/seduction20/02/13 11:53 PM
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For college bars (like the biggest, most popular on campus) try not to approach at the bar itself, especially on specials night. It's loud and crowded, and people just want to get the attention of the bartender for two seconds to get a drink. Once I establish my "base" ,usually grabbing a table with some friends, I approach people in my vicinity. (A sidenote to this: bring as many people out as you can. "The more the merrier" really does work, I always have a much better time if there's lots of …
/r/seduction20/02/13 04:23 PM
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some sort of abstract/intellectual topic Be more judicious when deciding on talking topics. Does she seem like the intellectual type? I'm a pretty smart dude, so I get what you're talking about, discussing about intellectual stuff can be a big DHV if she herself is quite intelligent. As you're aware, not everyone can be a Einstein, so if it's becoming boring to her, change gears and talk about pop culture, music, tv, movies, etc. If you're not exciting her or bringing a smile, you're doing it wr…
/r/seduction18/02/13 04:14 PM
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Sorry for the somewhat pithy remark OP. But I agree with kino slowly, and don't be afraid to take the wheel. Is this encounter specifically for sex? I'm a little unsure about your post. If he's expecting sex, I would assume he'd just go with the flow.
/r/seduction18/02/13 04:05 PM
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We can say I'm a virgin if that's what you're into.
/r/seduction17/02/13 12:45 PM
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Hmm. I don't actually day game that often, so the settings I'm in are mostly parties or bars. If you really can't find a setting where there dynamic is people you'll never see again, I'd say go ahead and game the girls you're with. Like I was saying, if you maintain confidence and avoid coming off as creepy (one in the same really). I mean I've interacted with girls that have rejected me, and we basically act like it didn't happen, while remaining pleasant. Those are American girls, but I think …
/r/seduction14/02/13 05:17 PM
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Yeah, I'd hazard to say most of it was bad. I liked the start, but many of the techniques were just stupid. If she would still bang you after all of that, you already had an ace in the hole from the get-go.
/r/seduction14/02/13 03:19 PM
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Thanks for posting. It's funny you mention this, because my friend girlfriend was offering me some advice on women (which was horrible). But when I told her what I usually do, and even showed her with random girls at the bar, she was very impressed. On paper, I think many women are turned off by the seduction community, but the fact of the matter is that it's effective. Please keep us updated, I am eager to here more things from a female perspective.
/r/seduction14/02/13 03:13 PM
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Sorry for the late reply. I usually make a smart ass remark before I eject, "Well you look like the kind of girl that could use two" blah, blah. Just keep your cool and move one to another set, or friend her and ask her to "wing" for you--I think it's always a shame to just build up rapport like that for nothing. To address your other point, I'll be completely honest here, I tend not to approach too many women that I am likely to see again (I go to university, but there are something like 40,000…
/r/seduction14/02/13 03:07 PM
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Always assume attraction and escalate. Every...single...time. Don't stalk on facebook, it's likely most girls that are attractive have other guys they are talking to. Until you go for a close (#,kiss, whatever) and they say "I have a boyfriend" do you eject. Because you never know. Could they be on the verge of breaking up? Is it mainly a casual thing? I've known girls who stay with horrible boyfriends, not because they really like him, but because she feels like she has no other option. Be that…
/r/seduction12/02/13 04:13 PM
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I'm not. Sex is fun but involves a lot of bodily fluids. Doing that in front of a party is unsanitary in my opinion. Take her to your crib for the nasty yo!
/r/seduction12/02/13 04:04 PM
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Arch your fucking palms and apply. So many people have an inclination to use their fingers and it's uncomfortable as hell, especially if you're a novice.
/r/seduction12/02/13 03:58 PM
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I agree that certain terms like f-closing are kinda silly It's silly because I think most people don't use it right. The difference between "fuck" and "f-close" is that latter means "I ended the interaction with sexual intercourse" while the former mean "sexual intercourse." You don't f-close your girlfriend for example, and if she's a random girl, saying "f-close" can also mean that you banged her with no intention of escalating your relationship anywhere. If we're talking PUA community in gene…
/r/seduction12/02/13 04:56 AM
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One night I'll fuck a girl in front of a whole party I hope that's figurative. Otherwise ewww
/r/seduction12/02/13 04:33 AM
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Great, so some of the locations you mention sound interactions are very fleeting, so it may be difficult to establish attraction, especially a location like the bus. Day game can be a bit trickier so props for that. "Vibing" is hard to describe, sometimes when you talk to a girl, there is just a lot of chemistry you know? It usually comes from similar senses of humor, similar career goals, and just generally a common outlook on life. If you're both clearly enjoying the conversation you're what I…
/r/seduction12/02/13 04:24 AM
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I can get either # or a bit of kino To start off, you don't get kino, you give kino. Many girls are naturally more touchy than guys, so it's incumbent on you to establish kino, not them to give it to you. If you're finding a high degree a flakes, there may be some things you have to take into account. Answers to these questions are the most important: Did she seem interested during your conversation and give you IOIs? How long was the conversation for? How drunk were both parties during the conv…
/r/seduction11/02/13 10:29 PM
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Christ....that guy is an asshole by our standards, he did everything all wrong. He's not a PUA, just a giant douche. Why can't they get that? I have dealt with some psycho-feminazi bitches in my time, but that never made me go "Hey, you know what. All feminists are just like that. Girls suck! Amirite guys?" Seriously though, there's no point in defending ourselves, let them circlejerk themselves into oblivion think we're all these kind of assholes.
/r/seduction11/02/13 10:18 PM
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I called her the wrong name. Don't do this.. Yeah that is a surefire way to turn a girl off. Has happened to me too many times. That feel man. It's recoverable though, apologize sincerely and continue engaging her.
/r/seduction11/02/13 05:41 AM
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As far as I'm concerned, there are two definitions of the friendzone. A girl has "friended" you meaning that they are not initially sexually attracted to. This can be broken quite easily by studying techniques you've learned here. A girl "friends" you, but continually leads you on, keeping you thinking that if you were just a little more supplicating you'll bang her and you'll elope romantically together. Many an AFC have been trapped here (including myself) and it's more logical to just leave s…
/r/seduction11/02/13 05:32 AM
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Fun fact: none of your questions matter. Read the sidebar own how to build attraction and rapport. Approaching is one of the hardest parts, if you break that barrier, it's all downhill from there. Here are some questions that are important for you: -how long did you talk to her? -was she interested in the conversation? Depending on the answer to those questions a simple "I really enjoyed talking to you, wanna go out for drinks/coffee sometime?" is really, really easy.
/r/seduction07/02/13 03:42 PM
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I think you hit the nail on the head here. Most of the time I can treat any girl like just any other girl without putting her on a pedestal (though this was not always true). Now that I like her, more than just a pretty face, it makes me think the game no longer applies.....but I know I'm wrong, I'm just trying to make sense of it.
/r/seduction05/02/13 07:11 PM
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/u/july25 mentioned bringing a wing, but let me also add perhaps going out with some friends? I find it comforting to get back into state by having a "home base" when I'm out. This will just be a group of my friends hanging some place around the bar/club that I can return to as sanctuary and to give girls a FTC and make my interaction limited (e.g. "I need to be getting back to my friends") and is great for a quick #-close.
/r/seduction05/02/13 05:42 AM
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I think you're confusing attraction with oneitis...it's absolutely fine to be attracted to a girl and show interest, it's another thing entirely when it's unreciprocated and consuming your life.
/r/seduction30/01/13 01:48 AM
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People who go out on Sundays and weekdays have more control over their lives Not in my experience. In fact it's people with little to do, who are ambitionless and have too much time on their hands.
/r/seduction30/01/13 01:44 AM
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you just wingman him over onto one of those five girls This is important though, you're helping him get laid, just not with the target. This is easily the coup de grace of disarming an AMOG, these types will almost always try to go for the easiest lay, essentially for facilitating his need without compromising the attraction/attention of your target.
/r/seduction27/01/13 07:59 PM
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Great use of seduction techniques. We should add "sitting there wistfully for attractive women to approach me all night" to the sidebar.
/r/seduction27/01/13 07:50 PM
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pigtails, suspenders, glasses Birds of a feather, you and me. Not sure about those ankle socks though.
/r/seduction25/01/13 07:43 PM
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It also occurs to me that when I study I often stare into space (especially when thinking critically), and will often not realize I'm staring at someone until they catch my gaze, at which point I'll occasionally smile if it's a girl or a simple headnod if it's a guy. Could have been a misread IOI is what I'm thinking, not that should stop OP from further approaches like that. We always assume something is an IOI, it's stupid to try and parse out whether it is or not in the moment.
/r/seduction25/01/13 07:38 PM
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OP, you keep mentioning a "sexual reputation" which seems like some weird artifact to me. Is you social network and community so narrow that everyone woman you try to pick up is friends with someone that had sex with you? You're right in that if you're good at sex, a girl will tell her girlfriends. I'm not sure how that helps you unless you're a FWB situation, as I'm assuming you're not going to try and bang this woman's friends if it was a ONS or you're actually dating her. That may be your sty…
/r/seduction25/01/13 07:30 PM
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Step 1. Open target at the bar Step 2. Bang her (read:well) Good thing I can skip building attraction and actually talking to her to maintain her attention. That's makes it so much simpler.
/r/seduction25/01/13 07:02 PM
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Your bros will probably tell you it's all fair. Those are not bros I want. For me, there's a clear line, if she's drunk and I'm not drinking, it is not happening until we achieve the same state.
/r/seduction23/01/13 05:28 AM
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if you're drinking don't sarge. If you're sarging don't drink I agree with a big caveat: don't get drunk if you're sarging. In my recent attempts I've limited it to 1.5 drinks an hour. I'm really the same person (maybe with a bit of a buzz) but can calibrate just as well. It also feels...wrong when I am not drinking and gaming with girls that are (even if it just a couple of drinks).
/r/seduction16/01/13 09:25 PM
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Controversial? You betcha. Let's cut the witch hunt. I think it serves a purpose. I'm probably not going to meet the love my life this way. This is a good way to get sex however. If you're a virgin AFC and has little sexual experience, then this is an appropriate guide. If you asked me a year ago how I would approach women at the bar to "just to get laid" I'd have been clueless and fucked it up at some point. This isn't bad from that perspective. Where it goes bad is that it doesn't really build…
/r/seduction16/01/13 09:16 PM
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That's ok, but that's what we need to work on! Inner game is obviously the first, and most challenging step to becoming a PUA. But we should be exploring techniques in the field and elsewhere, and discussing outer game routines as a group; which has been lacking in current filed reports. TofuTofu is a mod and mPUA here's and example of him letting us know what happened, AND he actually added a new strategy, engineering social situations to use preselection (usually done with girls you know befor…
/r/seduction13/01/13 02:00 AM
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The "brag reports" are the worst. It has ceased to be a productive forum for improvement and has become a dick measuring contest telling awesome stories. Sometimes the brag reports don't even give any techniques they cited other than "Don't give a fuck" or "Be alpha." As a community, I find we focus wayyyy too much on inner game. Look, I struggle with it, and at some point we all do, but do we really need a post at least every other day that results in a "I know that feel bro" thread?
/r/seduction12/01/13 10:09 PM
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Have a good laugh, tell them they are barking up the wrong tree, and ask if they have any hot female friends. I'm sorry you've had a traumatic past involving homosexuality, but getting very upset about it conveys to others that you are homophobic (not that you are) and can hurt not only your inner game, but outer game as well, I'm assuming most girls don't find seemingly intolerant people attractive. Just have a good sense of humor mate.
/r/seduction12/01/13 10:01 PM
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What I've learned is that some girls just don't kiss on the first date. If they pull this then I will never pursue that girl again. Eh, you're not wrong, but that's a little harsh. Understand that some women have the mindset of not doing anything physical on the first date, to determine if you are the type of guy interested in dating or just sex. Unless there was zero chemistry for the date, I usually try date 2, if you don't get a kiss then, then it's certain she's not into you.
/r/seduction11/01/13 08:36 PM
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Ahh, that's good. I'll save it for next time. I have followed the social rule of avoiding politics and religion in polite conversation, but what you suggested is a good way way to qualify herself when talking, without become too personal.
/r/seduction11/01/13 08:23 PM
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OP you're catching a lot of flak, but thanks for posting this. If people would embrace a more analytical mindset, they'd see that you were right. Here's the thing: texting is a great way to become familiar with someone, but if you haven't built attraction beforehand, you'll lose way more times than you win. Texting is hard, because of the difficulty of sarcasm (an important point in English-speaking culture's humor), and a great many other things, like lack of personal interaction and body langu…
/r/seduction11/01/13 02:44 AM
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Sigh.. Texting game is arguably harder and certainly different. That's the point right there. It's intrinsicly harder and more difficult as you are more likely to lose attraction doing it. Seriously, text game is a clingy, beta move. When given the choice it is still better to use a more personal means of conversation like calling or even better face to face where kink can be used Yes, at all times yes. Texting is good for communicating when short, direct messages are needed, if you need to have…
/r/seduction11/01/13 02:36 AM
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It ain't easy being cheesy. It's worked for me, so don't knock it till you try it.
/r/seduction05/01/13 04:39 PM
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Here it is seddit, during NYE on my way out the bar I noticed a really cute bartender was staring at me, I made eye contact and we both smiled. I've talked with her a couple times, usual elevator talk etc., but I kind of regret not talking to her before I left. It's a big college bar, and she gets hit on by dozens of dudes nightly. I just didn't want to go in thinking a "hired gun" being nice was an IOI. Thoughts?
/r/seduction05/01/13 04:37 PM
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I enjoy it on the rocks too, but sometimes bars don't use filtered water for their ice (I live in the Midwest so the water is pretty hard), and that ruins the taste for me, I use coke to mask that. Also it's fucking delicious and if font agree your tongue is full retarded. But to go as far as calling them girly? Have you the other replies? Mojotos? Long Islands? Christ, those are girly.
/r/seduction05/01/13 04:47 AM
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While you're dancing look over to the girls watching you and make eye contact with them. Then use your hands to beckon them towards you (an invitation to dance). They may be too shy, so don't be afraid to go and gently grab them by the hand. Take her towards the dance floor and do a simple salsa/swing dance that requires little direction. Then prepare to get your dick wet.
/r/seduction05/01/13 04:33 AM
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Listen, as a gamer and amateur PUA here's the honest truth: There is still a massive stigma about being into video games. If you talk about video games, most females can't relate and they will find it weird and alienating. Find something else that creates passion; movies, musics, really most things that a girl can relate to. Just, really don't mention it, it's a part of my life that I hide to 99% of the new women I meet. Is this alpha? No, it's just a harsh truth that you have to come to terms w…
/r/seduction04/01/13 10:47 PM
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Jameson and Coke, double
/r/seduction04/01/13 10:37 PM
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Is there any way I can re-establish my alpha Perhaps, but you know what the best way to do that is? Leave her alone. Cut off communication as Mr_Zarika said, forever. We've all been there, you get over it. Trust me, you need to give the other gagillion girls a chance. It's a statistical certainty that there will be a girl who is just like your oneitis (with perhaps some minor differences) that actually reciprocates your feelings. Get out there man and leave her alone!
/r/seduction04/01/13 05:42 PM
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Good points all. I actually blew my chances with a girl on NYE getting too drunk, alcohol consumption must be carefully done, especially if you're like me and enjoy a good bit of whiskey! Also your comments on texting are spot on, I'm so tired of the "text game" posts...texting isn't complicated people! You can't build attraction with 140 character limits.....
/r/seduction04/01/13 05:33 PM
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I genuinely think that it's not a big deal, but I do have a few rules: I don't pursue if the guys in my social circle, and I always make it clear that she has a choice. Full disclosure? I haven't hooked up with any girl that had a boyfriend, though I've pursued many. Bottom line: she's a big girl and you aren't forcing her to do anything.
/r/seduction03/01/13 03:33 PM
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The "buy me a drink" role-reversal is cute, but I think you milked it too long, after a while it just comes off as annoying and obnoxious, as you mentioned. In regards to your HB7, that shipped has sailed my man. You could try contacting her, but I would emphasize abundance mentality here.
/r/seduction30/12/12 04:49 AM
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As a fellow "well-fed" PUA, props man.
/r/seduction29/12/12 04:33 PM
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NYE will probably be my first FR after studying PUA techniques. I have worked on honing my inner game interacting with random people while home for winter break, and my buddies and I are finally going out that night to have some fun. It's time to test my mettle, honestly I'm ready to get blown out a dozen times, so I can conquer that defeatist inner voice.
/r/seduction29/12/12 06:52 AM
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You did good kid. Yeah, perhaps you should have kissed her, but keeping in mind your situation you did things exceptionally well--you were alpha, employed lots of kino, used sexual language, and you were pretty funny. I want to hear more about this, breaching the friend-zone lke this is no minor feat, and I don't doubt she will be forgiving of the weird escalation you tried. Cheers mate!
/r/seduction28/12/12 04:59 PM
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Text game? Please...if you built attraction properly do you think she'll flake because you seemed to text oddly? When I was a major AFC, I constantly worried over my texts "Am I being flirty enough?" "Did I text back too fast?" But I've come to realization that dawdling over texts is such a beta move. If you did your job when you got her number, be sure that she won't flake on you over what you texted. That being said, I do think that the article has useful pointers that I follow, as in not text…
/r/seduction28/12/12 08:22 AM
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"...we can teach you everything and make you a god at sex." Sounds like it was taken from one of my masturbatory fantasies when I was 13.
/r/seduction24/12/12 06:46 AM
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Agreed. My close second would be "I don't know, your friend here is looking a little bi-curious."
/r/seduction23/12/12 02:57 AM
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Hijakcing top comment very fast because this is important: If no one can hear you talk, whisper in their ear. It's an easy way to get intimate and practice kino, and was essential for me as practice. Escalation from their is dependent on your game, but at the very least initiating kino is on easy mode at clubs, I think you're being a little short sighted.
/r/seduction22/12/12 07:45 PM
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Maybe a colloquialism you use, but not the standard on this site. "K-close" means "I ended the interaction with a kiss and then didn't see her again." It has a specific meaning that is relevant to this community. If continue to interact with her you didn't k-close you just kissed her.
/r/seduction22/12/12 07:30 PM
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Of course, I'll let her know I'm running the show, and steer clear of her beta advice.
/r/seduction22/12/12 07:26 PM
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Other factors can be at play here. How many other people were in the house? What was your relationship before that? What's the timeline before you guys dated? Perhaps I shouldn't have been so absolute, but it's shaky ground for sure, and if it isn't handled tactfully can turn into a mess real fast. Of course I haven't been a part a of relationship like this, but I've witnessed it too many times to even try. Ultimately its OP's choice, just exercise caution.
/r/seduction22/12/12 05:36 PM
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This wasnt you question, but wow, your friend is a cunt. This deserves a long talk about etiquette next time you see him. If he decides to cheat on his girl, that's one thing, but to try and steal that one you're flirting with is the ultimate douche move. You played it well, you didn't call him out on it that night, but really tell him his behavior was wrong. I'm not saying you should never have competition with friends, sometimes it can be fun, but he came into that situation cold and you gave …
/r/seduction22/12/12 02:24 PM
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That's great! You have no idea what I'd give to get a FWB thing going on with my friend. (TBH, i wouldn't date this girl, the fact that every Dick and Tom wants to meet her can become annoying at times). On a side note I'm concerned that your game might lose its edge if you have the security of bringing you friend home every night though, just food for thought.
/r/seduction22/12/12 04:39 AM
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Short of throwing your own party, I have no idea how to control for that. People are more willing to get smashed at house parties, since crashing can be a possibility. Don't ask girls to dance, especially if thats the first thing you say to them. For example, I start shaking it like a fool, and if i notice someone dancing in my proximity, I make gestures to come and dance with me. Sometimes they shake their head, but 8/10 they see you're having fun, and want to be part of it. I'm not a big dance…
/r/seduction22/12/12 04:23 AM
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This should be top comment. It's not that having good looks trumps game, it's that being good looking eases the process of interaction, and if they've been looking for a long time, they've had years to practice this with girls (AA becomes less of an obstacle when your approach gives them anxiety). I have a pretty boy friend and you'd be amazed the kind of social blunders a girl is willing to "forgive" if you're pretty, but there's definitely a limit. Let us have a friendly competition with a gir…
/r/seduction22/12/12 12:35 AM
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Preselection with using girls you've never met before? Bravo sir, I need to try that sometime.
/r/seduction21/12/12 09:06 PM
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Only trouble with using an FTC is that it gets awkward if you don’t leave. See before I found r/seduction and studied PUA I used FTC's a couple times. The target would say "where's your friends?" and I'd reply "I can catch up with them later, I really like talking to you..etc." Is this bad? I think I used it twice, one was an HB10 that was kind of a bitch, and the other was an HB7 who really enjoyed that I stayed with her and I k-closed. Should I always leave to show I have "social proof" and no…
/r/seduction21/12/12 02:18 PM
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I get it, man. Personally it's 24-48 hours for me. It doesn't come off as needy, and shows interest. Waiting for 3+ days (I know you said it was arbitrary, but many PUA sources think that's a minimum time needed before you try and contact her) will work if you've built a lot of attraction, so discussing that is moot because you did that in your FR. Here's the thing, if you've established moderate levels of attraction (she's attracted you, but she could take it or leave it), waiting serves no pur…
/r/seduction21/12/12 02:04 PM
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I waited 4 days before texting her. Yeah...in my experience this is a staple in the texting game that seems to be irrelevant. Keeping her waiting (for many cases, but maybe not all) is only going to increase the chances that she forgets about the interaction. I think the PUA community is divided on this subject as a whole. Did you build attraction with her that night? Was she completely smashed? If you answered probably and no to those last two questions, then I'd contact within 3 days. If you a…
/r/seduction21/12/12 05:34 AM
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Right, I'm guessing you're at least college age or older, so the following recommendations are specific to that: Isolating is often context specific. If you're out at the bars, asking if she wants a drink is a go to and a classic, but in certain circumstances won't work, obviously it depends if she has a drink, if she's set a limit for herself, etc. My preferred way is (if the set is small enough) buy everyone a round, then ask the target for help in getting everyone a drink (if it's a two-dolla…
/r/seduction21/12/12 05:15 AM
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22...I'm going to grad school next year, and I realize I am not happy with my interactions with women, and I will have to start a brand new social circle once I move, and that scared the shit out of me. Then I found this subreddit, and it has been a blessing. It's winter break in my college town, so there's not too many people here. I'm counting down the days until the spring semester to really get the experience that I'll need, especially since I may be moving to Canada or Scotland to get my Ph…
/r/seduction20/12/12 11:40 PM
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intentions be known In my humble, rookie, opinion this stood out to me. I agree with other posters, be specific. From the way you're phrasing things it seems like you are lacking subtlety in your actions. Also no one said it's impossible to have fun without building attraction, so it's entirely possible you're having the time of your life without building any. But going cold without specifics, I'd say that there are probably instances where you may have built vestiges of attraction without escal…
/r/seduction20/12/12 11:32 PM
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Good point, but this summer I went on two coffee dates, and while good for talking, is just a horrible place to build up attraction...I guess if you followed it with something fun on the second date? Getting to know people intellectually is integral for relationships, but I feel like that stuff is less important than just overall demonstration that you're a fun person, which is what many gals look for I think.
/r/seduction20/12/12 07:32 PM
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That's great. I had a mind=blown moment when he was talking about approaching from the side rather than directly across, in my own experience, I had much more success in just flirting/kino from that position than facing opposite. Thanks!
/r/seduction15/12/12 03:28 AM
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The approach...it's still so awkward, even when I try my hardest to just play it off however. I'm a bigger dude (overweight, but not obese), and I just feel like when I'm tower over her I come across as intimidating. Any bigger guys here have tips?
/r/seduction14/12/12 10:13 PM
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