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It's really simple when you think about it: Be nice to everyone because that's what you want to do not because it's what you think you should do, but don't let people walk over you or mistreat you. End of story. Anything else is "nice guy" territory or "narcissistic asshole" territory.
/r/seduction05/11/21 07:56 PM
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Eh having set jokes or whatever is pretty lame. Rather develop your sense of humor to be able to make jokes on the spot about whatever is going on in the moment. Don't try so hard either, girls don't want to date standup comedians (unless that's your job and you're successful at it haha)
/r/seduction04/11/21 06:56 PM
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Personality = passions What are you passionate about? Can't tell you how many girls' faces I've seen light up when I get excited talking about *why* I love solo traveling, or *why* I love history.
/r/seduction04/11/21 06:54 PM
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I'm sure others have said it but it's 100% true: she wants sex but because of societal standards does not want to come off as a "slut". I've been with at least 100 women at this point in my life and this is a constant with women. You just have to shrug or make a little joke and move on, escalate physically, and go for it. I seriously cannot tell you how many times I've been told "we're not having sex tonight" and thirty minutes later we're doing it lol.
/r/seduction01/11/21 02:52 PM
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Having trouble with this right now. I get attached pretty easily, and it's so hard to let go. I'm 32 so this seems like it's happened so many times, and I've heard all of the "solutions" for it, but honestly I just think time will heal it. After all these times it's still so hard to just get over that you can have a connection with someone and they go from extremely hot to extremely cold in such a short timespan.
/r/seduction26/10/21 04:36 AM
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I think you hit the nail on the head here. Practicing gratitude is the key to survival in this day and age, where everyone is just trying to figure things out and constantly comparing themselves to others and thinking about what they don't have and what they want. I have definitely had trouble with this, and still do.
/r/seduction25/10/21 01:33 PM
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Don't sweat it. You definitely aren't alone. 32 years old and I've slept with more than 100 women. I'm usually the one to end things early on but the few that I've wanted to stay with I got too invested way too early, and probably scared them off. Or at least did everything right but they just weren't in the right state. Maybe trying to have serious relationships with attractive 23 year olds that just want a casual fling after only knowing them for a few weeks isn't the brightest idea, but damn …
/r/seduction25/10/21 01:30 PM
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Where's this list? Asking for a friend...
/r/seduction25/10/21 01:28 PM
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Focus on social media presence = get vapid, self-conscious, shallow women if any women at all Don't focus on social media presence = show that you live your life instead of trying to plaster it on the internet for fake points and thus increase your attraction across the board
/r/seduction19/10/21 08:18 PM
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32 and stopped counting around 60 a few years ago, definitely at least 100 by now. I'll start with the obvious and unfortunate reasons and then go to the more important ones. Obvious: I'm attractive, I'm 6'0", I have a full-time job, and my own apartment in the downtown area of a trendy city. I'm also older and my experience is girls tend to really love guys in their 30s. More important: Fuck all the other stuff. And fuck body counts. I have had great sex with some very attractive, model quality…
/r/seduction19/10/21 08:13 PM
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How do you keep up the energy for this? I had 4 dates in a row back in May and I was exhausted by the last date. Not to mention all the alcohol consumed.
/r/seduction27/08/21 10:58 PM
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Haha haven't been on this account in awhile. It sounds like you're doing some major projecting. I've had sex with very attractive women on online dating so I'm sorry to counter your thesis there :/
/r/seduction26/08/21 08:53 PM
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I'm really tired of seeing this sentiment everywhere. Online dating is absolute shit, I won't doubt it, but as an attractive man (yes that's a caveat but it can mean a lot of things, especially if you have better pictures) I have had so much luck with online dating over the years. I just hooked up with two different attractive women this weekend and seeing both again this week. I've also had so much bullshit/flakes/no responses. It's like anything out there. If you're willing to put the effort i…
/r/seduction02/08/21 08:15 PM
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Mine is contextual. It depends on my mood, if I've been drinking, if I actually feel up to socializing or not. I can do really well in larger crowds and awkward as fuck in one-on-one settings if I don't feel like putting in effort (more pressure to carry the conversation). I can have the best weekend ever where I party my ass off and hook up with multiple women then go on a date the next day and it's just awkward and I'm shy (mostly because my energy is probably depleted by then).
/r/seduction25/07/21 08:26 PM
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Don't have any expectations but please do make a move or at least show that you desire her. Touch her and escalate things. Then if y'all make it to the bedroom you can be honest with her before you do it (if that's what you want to do). Remember to take it slow at first instead of pumping away or flopping on her like a beached fish, thrust your pelvis close to her while you're having sex to stimulate her more, and take some queues from her if you need to go slower/faster etc.
/r/seduction07/07/21 07:18 PM
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It all comes down to what you think is important and worthwhile in life. You may not like reliving your past and partying but as long as someone is stable in other areas what's wrong with them preferring that in their 30s to settling down? I'm in my 30s and although I'm open to actually settling down in the future, travelling and seeing the world and figuring out my purpose seems more exciting and meaningful than changing diapers and spending all my money on a wedding and house.
/r/seduction07/07/21 07:14 PM
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Peaking is also arbitrary right? You most likely can get back near what you had or at least make an even more exciting life for yourself. Your mentality is your only hinderance (it can be mine definitely).
/r/seduction07/07/21 07:11 PM
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It's mostly bullshit and arbitrary. Physically that's probably peak time for a woman (and biologically if her goal is to have children). But god damn there are some attractive women in their 30s and by that time they've become more mature (hopefully) and know what they want. So it's all relative to what you're looking for.
/r/seduction06/07/21 03:38 AM
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From a sand volleyball team I joined in my city, one of those social recreational leagues.
/r/seduction06/07/21 03:30 AM
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I agree completely. Also 6'1" attractive guy. I've been on online dating for a long time and had many great dates/relationships from it in the past. But lately it's just exhausting and pointless. 90% of the time you don't match 90% of the ones you match with don't respond 90% of the ones that respond the conversation goes nowhere I also don't feel like it used to be this hard. Like others I had a lot of success with tinder/hinge a few years ago. Now it's absolute horseshit. I've been having more…
/r/seduction05/07/21 03:50 PM
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I recently found an awesome friend group in my 30s and we've been going to parties that remind me of my college years. Life is what you make it and if you want that then you can have it. EDIT: From a sand volleyball team I joined in my city, one of those social recreational leagues.
/r/seduction05/07/21 03:46 PM
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I instantly think a person has regretted their life decisions (aka having children and settling down so young) when they say the best times were in high school/college. Like you must have peaked then. That just sucks honestly.
/r/seduction05/07/21 03:44 PM
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Exactly. Would you ever want to be with someone like that? Because brother I don't give a shit how hot she is it's not worth it. Focus on yourself and find someone who likes you for you.
/r/seduction05/06/21 03:31 PM
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Don’t fight the world That girl you think hates you is doing the best she can. Come from a space of love as you move through the world I think this is immensely important and not talked about enough in this community. The best connections, the best dates, and the best sex I've ever had has come from me being vulnerable and myself, i.e. kind and forgiving. I've sent some texts or made some calls a lot of "players" would think were incredibly cringy, that got me that next date or into a loving rel…
/r/seduction04/06/21 04:46 PM
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I agree with that. I just brought it up because the last girl I dated was attractive and played video games (she had depression and was very introverted).
/r/seduction21/05/21 02:08 PM
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Agreed. Just tailor it to yourself homie. Fuck all that "alpha" bullshit anyways, that all comes from a place of deep insecurity.
/r/seduction14/05/21 12:55 PM
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Truth but I think there's far less women out there who have deal-breakers about guys playing video games than people on here think. Just depends on how much they play video games. If you keep your frame and answer honestly you're still good most of the time imo.
/r/seduction14/05/21 12:39 AM
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No.
/r/seduction14/05/21 12:25 AM
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If your city has social sports leagues do that (kickball, sand volleyball, cornhole, etc.)
/r/seduction14/05/21 12:23 AM
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A lot of it is but a lot of it really does wonders. I'd skip the Nordic folk music (lol wtf) and just focus on meditation, deep breathing exercises, and a cold shower. Make your own routine that works for you really.
/r/seduction14/05/21 12:20 AM
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You lost me at "no caffeine" lmao
/r/seduction14/05/21 12:17 AM
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I think you're missing some points here. These guys, by doing their own thing and not giving a shit, exude confidence and therefore security. You saying they're not offering security is just straight up wrong, because by being confident in themselves they provide it tenfold. First you say they're not particularly confident or charismatic, but then you say they "give no fucks". That is the core definition of confidence to many people.
/r/seduction13/05/21 01:57 PM
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Something I need to work on too every now and then despite years of dating and sex. Let's try to make a game-plan here: Having fun is all about not having expectations. It's about going out with the sole intention of having good interactions with people, not just girls. In the past I've had great nights out not even getting a girl's number but just meeting interesting folks. Therefore to have a fun night you must disregard the drive for pussy and instead focus on the moment. Talk to interesting …
/r/seduction13/05/21 01:51 PM
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What specifically do you have trouble with? Getting on the actual date or actually leading towards sex? I want to help if I can.
/r/seduction12/05/21 01:39 PM
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I know you've probably heard it time and time again at this point but there are ways to help. Meditation, exercise have all helped me with my anxiety, as have just gaining perspective (no one really gives a shit what you do). I'm also looking into therapy specifically to do cognitive behavioral therapy which I've heard great things about.
/r/seduction12/05/21 01:38 PM
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Realize they all have the same insecurities and problems anyone else has. Realize they take giant smelly shits. Realize that pussy is really just a warm pocket to put your pee pee in on cold nights. Realize at any point in time there will be girls out there happy to date you, so why rush anyways?
/r/seduction12/05/21 02:57 AM
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There's some hoes in this house!
/r/seduction12/05/21 02:53 AM
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Like I said that feels off it's probably worse and it depends whether I'm on my game or in a rut.
/r/seduction12/05/21 02:52 AM
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Are you me? I hate one night stands so I usually end up seeing girls I hook up with and trying to make it work. Then shit implodes.
/r/seduction12/05/21 02:49 AM
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To be honest I didn't care for the longest time (got tested for the first time in awhile a month ago and was clean), but can totally understand the fears from it. I would say the majority of the women I hooked up with were not overly promiscuous and I was obviously screening before so I didn't hook up with trashy women. Used a condom for all of my lays except for the ones I started seeing seriously and for one time I can remember when I drunkenly was an idiot and didn't use one then promptly fre…
/r/seduction12/05/21 02:46 AM
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I made another post where I said I lost count. This is because I stopped counting because it does not matter. Full stop. Search for quality, not quantity. So many bullshit expectations for guys out there that fuck up our frames. Fuck it.
/r/seduction12/05/21 02:37 AM
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I want to second the whole income part especially. I've been on quite a few dates with girls that consider themselves "old school", aka want you pay for everything. Tell her straight up that you're not paying for everything and you expect her to buy a round. She'll get upset, but just stand your ground and I swear to god it's one of the hottest things to her. One girl said all her exes used to pay for all her drinks and I looked her in the eyes and said "I'm not your exes" and I swear to god it …
/r/seduction12/05/21 02:35 AM
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I seriously am not meaning to be a dick, but why be on here? You're trying to change that? If so I would highly, highly recommend just losing it already and you'll realize how stupid it all is making that your number one focus anyways. Quality is so much more important than quantity.
/r/seduction12/05/21 02:28 AM
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Well I first got on tinder in 2014 after a break-up but while I was still in college and for the rest of that semester I did really well. Then moved back in with parents for a few months so didn't do great but still got some lays, quality wise was lacking a bit. After that I got a job and moved into my own place again and on and off tinder and hinge since then, and I'd say on average it was maybe 1 out of 20 I messaged with I actually hooked up with. And that's the ones that responded to initial…
/r/seduction12/05/21 02:23 AM
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Props especially during covid times, though I don't know the college dynamics during there were probably still lots of parties.
/r/seduction12/05/21 02:13 AM
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For online dating: Get good pictures. First picture should be a kind of professionally done close up or with a good camera. Look on airbnb for experiences of photo tours in your city, it's what I did to get some good photos. Other pics are from my world travels. Adding on to this: be light and funny with your messages if you can and try to connect on something in her profile. Don't go overboard on how cute she is. Meet up for drinks or coffee, don't be the guy that has to have some elaborate thi…
/r/seduction12/05/21 02:09 AM
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Actually yes. Note that there's some seriously attractive women on hinge nowadays and those who were on tinder years back. I slept with some great women, and I also slept with some sub-par women when I was lonely or feeling desperate. It was a mix of both but overall not bad. I just hate the whole dynamic of online dating. It's easier to not get ghosted/flaked on if you met them in person first and you're able to be yourself. I fucking hate texting which is crucial in online dating. So I want to…
/r/seduction12/05/21 02:06 AM
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Crapshoot for me but for different reasons. Got back into online dating and used only Hinge (bought preferred for three months since it worked in the past) and free Tinder. Hooked up with 7 women from there in a few months. The last one I dated for a month before we broke up and then got back on online dating. That's when I remade my Hinge, Tinder, and Bumble profiles and got a whopping five or so matches between all three (because of the noob boost I guess, then nothing). This is with the same …
/r/seduction11/05/21 11:25 PM
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There's quite literally millions of factors why she would reject you. Best not to worry and obsess over what they are, but rather fix whatever neediness is showing through and recognize that not every woman (in fact most) are not available to you (not attracted/have committed relationship/etc.).
/r/seduction11/05/21 11:22 PM
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Lost count after 50 or so, wasn't really important to keep track anymore. From 18-32. Mostly from online dating but quite a few from bars/clubs. Prospered the most right before the pandemic I would say so around 30ish, just trying to get back into my groove. Despite that I can still be socially awkward as fuck and just trying to meet girls elsewhere since online dating sucks donkey balls. Have probably made 3-4 actual approaches in daygame settings.
/r/seduction11/05/21 11:13 PM
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This deserves to be pinned and needs way more upvotes.
/r/seduction10/05/21 09:48 PM
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Fuck yeah me too man. I want to start approaching but I've been so stuck in my head, and become so dependent on online dating. Then I read more and more on here about approaching and I lose confidence (only 1 out 100 approaches work/you might be creepy/etc. etc. etc.). I just want to fucking do it. I hit a point like you did recently where I'm throwing my hands up and saying "FUCK IT" though so I'm going to do this whether I want to or not.
/r/seduction10/05/21 09:46 PM
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You're right. My indecision showed through all the bullshit. I understand that now and just need to stop being so self-centered about this. Thanks.
/r/seduction14/02/21 03:54 AM
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God damn when you're right you're right. I can't pretend to know exactly what happened here but this has to be it. I used to do that back in the day too and it was always a good thing to do, yet recently I just never even followed up. Thanks for this reminder!
/r/seduction14/02/21 03:52 AM
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I think OP's main point is that no one is ever "stuck" in the friend zone. It is quite possible to get out of the friend zone, it just takes a little patience and honestly probably isn't even worth it. It definitely exists though.
/r/seduction22/01/20 08:39 PM
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If you're in a big city go on AirBnb to their experiences tab and there should be some photoshoot tours. I did one in my city and got some awesome professional photos for around $50 plus discovered some cool new areas of my city. You just go on a walking tour and the host takes good pictures of you in front of buildings or landmarks or whatever.
/r/seduction18/01/20 11:28 PM
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Jesus Christ man you need a new perspective on life. Go on a fun vacation, go on a meditative retreat, get your mind off of this bullshit that our society had pushed on us to be so important. The fact of the matter is that everyone is different and derives happiness from life differently. I slept with about 20 women in the last year but I'm 30 and not in a significant relationship. Should I kill myself per your logic? Even if I didn't sleep with one girl in the last year I wouldn't kill myself b…
/r/seduction18/01/20 03:06 PM
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Why the fuck are you even spreading bullshit like this? Comments like the one you made turn people off from even trying ffs. Shit happens but stuff like that is so rare it doesn't even need to be brought up. You won't get your ass beat by a girl's boyfriend unless you're just straight up socially retarded. Fuck reddit is terrible for learning seduction or social skills because we get people like you fear mongering.
/r/seduction16/01/20 07:34 PM
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Lol clubs are not bad. They're just a different animal. Much of seduction and attraction in general is body language and touch, two things you have to be good at in club environments. Meet girls that way then take them to the bar or outside to talk to them. People on this subreddit make clubs out to be these terrible places when there's so many women that go to clubs to meet new people.
/r/seduction16/01/20 02:58 PM
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Have any tips for approaching at bars? I'm no stranger to nightgame but usually it's at clubs. Bars though can be super laid back and full of people locked in their own groups. How do you best open girls there?
/r/seduction16/01/20 02:55 PM
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We definitely overthink it. Some nights I've killed it going out alone. When I was just focused on having fun and dancing, meeting new people. Other nights I literally just stood at the bar with my drink staring at a TV screen while everyone around me is having fun. You start to realize that no one gives a shit. On the nights that I sucked no one really noticed me and they probably didn't think anything about how "creepy" I thought I was coming across and if they did it was all of 5 seconds befo…
/r/seduction15/01/20 08:04 PM
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You know what bro...I'm going to join you. Texting absolutely sucks. It's so easy for things to get misinterpreted and miscommunicated. It's just hard because younger girls are so used to texting that I think they've forgotten their phones can actually make calls.
/r/seduction15/01/20 02:48 PM
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Except yeah remember it's a loud nightclub and things are moving fast. A better way would be to make eye contact and use body language/take her hand to dance. This might happen if you talk to her: "hey I thought you looked really cute." "WHAT?" "I said I thought you looked cute?" "SORRY I CANT HEAR YOU!" "I SAID I THOUGHT YOU LOOKED CUTE!" by this point her friends have whisked her away Just go out and dance and smile and make eye contact and have fun. That's what loud nightclubs are about.
/r/seduction15/01/20 02:45 PM
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It's important to add a caveat to this though. If you've never met up with her it's ok if she's hesitant (especially online dating) so don't just expect a 'fuck yes' all the time. If you have gone on a date with her and she acts flaky/ghosts you then yes definitely follow this advice.
/r/seduction15/01/20 02:41 PM
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Yeah I fucked it up lately. Reread models and then met a girl that was all over me at first but then I became too needy and over invested and it got fucked up. I wasn't applying what I had just learned. Never again. I'm making a fucking promise right here and now. Never invest more in her than she is in you. Live your own life and invite her along. Don't make her your whole focus.
/r/seduction15/12/19 07:42 PM
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It's bad because of the amount of advice thrown at you in this subreddit where guys will say "approach and tell them they're cute" then turn around and say "never qualify a girl and tell she's cute unless she's earned it" or some other bullshit.
/r/seduction15/12/19 07:39 PM
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It also depends on what type of club. I live in a large city and there's a popular hipster club where I've picked up women and even met one of my exes just going solo. Not all clubs have to be about tight suits and skirts and too much hair product.
/r/seduction15/12/19 07:34 PM
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Yeah I'm worried this subreddit is turning into an incel hangout.
/r/seduction08/12/19 10:09 PM
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No kidding. This subreddit is turning into an incel haven.
/r/seduction08/12/19 10:09 PM
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It's like people here can't read honestly. The other thread was talking about how online dating was a waste for attractive people. That's literally what the thread was about. Attractive people. My point therefore is that it still is a viable option. What do people here not understand about this? Lol
/r/seduction08/12/19 10:08 PM
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Yep. This subreddit is hot garbage honestly. I got downvoted in the other thread for saying online dating is still a viable option to get laid by cute chicks. Lmao it's fucking ridiculous.
/r/seduction06/12/19 12:25 AM
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It was to prove a point. This entire thread is about how apparently attractive people shouldn't use online dating, and in my experience as someone who is decently attractive (I know it sounds like flexing but it's pertinent nonetheless) and introverted, online dating gives you a lot of success. Is it better than cold approaching? No probably not, but it's still a good option to have.
/r/seduction06/12/19 12:23 AM
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Isn't that the point of this subreddit?
/r/seduction06/12/19 12:13 AM
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Lmao you're ridiculous dude. I approach in real life and use the app. Who the fuck just uses one or the other?
/r/seduction06/12/19 12:12 AM
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And you have 100% success rate cold approaching?
/r/seduction06/12/19 12:10 AM
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I was going to say this. I'm really getting tired of seeing these shit posts. Online dating has gotten me laid every day of the week this week (not even joking) from a new, cute girl that is just as attractive if not more than some random fucking club slut. It's surreal having my experience and seeing these complaining posts lmao.
/r/seduction05/12/19 03:17 PM
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I really don't understand these countless "waste of time" posts. I'm an attractive guy and holy shit I've had a date every day of the week this week with a new, cute girl I met off of Hinge (fuck tinder). It's crazy. And all of them but one was a first date lay, I'm going on a second date to seal the deal with the other girl. All of these girls are just as cute if not more than some random club slut that would grind up on me. Like fucking lol, this subreddit is making online dating out to be a t…
/r/seduction05/12/19 03:14 PM
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I can understand that logic.
/r/seduction30/11/19 09:07 PM
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Lol wut.
/r/seduction30/11/19 07:49 PM
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Haha I actually said that to her while giving some intense eye contact. Went pretty well.
/r/seduction30/11/19 07:48 PM
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Meaning continue telling her to pick up the tab once in awhile?
/r/seduction30/11/19 07:15 PM
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Yeah I'm torn. The same exact shit happened with another girl earlier in the year. Complained I made her pay for something even though we ended up fucking and having a good time. I ended up ditching her altogether because I was paying for everything. This girl is similar. Super cute and thinks she can get away with guys paying for everything. She says she's old school and not a feminist so it's been ingrained in her that a guy pays for everything. Fuck it. I'm going over to her place tonight so …
/r/seduction30/11/19 07:14 PM
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I guess the thing is though I still get laid and give a good date even though she pays every now and then. I was seeing another girl earlier in the year that was the same. I made her pick up a round of drinks and she complained even though she always ended up in my bed. I was always paying for every date so I just stopped talking to her altogether. Was this rational? I mean why should I be paying for everything in the year 2019, post-MeToo era?
/r/seduction30/11/19 07:10 PM
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Yeah the sad fact is that 90% of it is out of your control. You can send the wittiest, sexiest combo of texts like OP and still have the girl freak out last minute with meeting a stranger she hasn't met before or have something happen where she can't meet up or just over-analyze one of your texts and decides she doesn't want to meet up or whatever. There is no sure fire fix to get any girl to meet up with you but there are things that help assuage her fears.
/r/seduction30/11/19 07:05 PM
1

Thanks man this is awesome. Yeah I feel like mostly I've just been dicking around with chords and a few songs I already know. Learning on acoustic is harder because of the callouses but yeah I'll have to push through.
/r/seduction26/11/19 04:20 PM
1

I'm actually just starting to learn guitar on an acoustic. I'm a couple months in and mainly just doing 15-30 minutes a day on Justin guitar. Do you have any recommendations on taking it up a notch? What would be a solid game plan for getting good enough to start playing small sets? Thanks!
/r/seduction26/11/19 02:55 PM
2

Not much in the way of tips here. The key is to be normal and, just as importantly; not boring. It's hard for a lot of guys to balance this but once you do success comes naturally. In essence you want to make her laugh at something but then don't try too hard to keep making jokes it comes off weird and try hard. Make her laugh, talk for a message or two, then ask her out.
/r/seduction26/11/19 02:16 AM
8

Anyone else notice how whenever a woman posts something here half the posts are calling her a bitch and being unreasonablely aggressive towards her and the other half are white knights putting her on a pedestal? Fucking lmao no wonder fuckers here are so frustrated; y'all are either incels or nice guys. Go get laid.
/r/seduction25/11/19 08:35 PM
15

I feel like this is such a common answer here. The difference between a bar and the places you mention is that at bars women are actually looking to meet new people and are in social moods. So for anyone bars and clubs are no-brainers to go to along with daygame spots.
/r/seduction23/11/19 07:18 PM
3

Lol ok champ you too. Glad you think you know me. Keep making those incel posts you got this.
/r/seduction23/11/19 07:17 PM
12

"You should literally see every girl as someone who is below you." Damn this is some narcissistic, incel cringe. You should treat women as people, neither above nor below you.
/r/seduction23/11/19 01:38 AM
1

Yeah I just constantly make excuses. Like during the day on a weekday I make excuses that everyone is working and not out and about. And I don't live in a city where there are people walking around so I pretty much have to go to malls.
/r/seduction23/11/19 12:05 AM
1

Dude I shit you not I had 4 dates scheduled this week with 4 different women I met on Hinge and every single one flaked. I wasn't strange or anything, set up the dates and everything normally. It's fucking unreal.
/r/seduction23/11/19 12:04 AM
2

Red flag. You've only been on one date and you're buying her jewelry? Yeah nah.
/r/seduction23/11/19 12:03 AM
2

Yeah programmer. It's a good job, just horribly dull and gives me tons of free time. Then I feel lazy as fuck not wanting to actually go out and find other things I could work at. I go to the gym, practice guitar, practice Spanish, meditate, but holy shit I have so much more time than all that takes lol.
/r/seduction21/11/19 11:48 PM
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I know man but it sucks. You schedule a date with a girl that you think is a sure thing, then she tells you last minute she can't come out. What do you do? I'm terrible at finding something else to spend the night doing...
/r/seduction21/11/19 11:46 PM
2

Yeah I know working is the answer. My job is crazy in that I work from home and maybe do an hour or two of actual work a week. I need to find a part time job or a new full time job or something to keep me busy. I get needy and desperate when I end up just sitting on my couch on my phone.
/r/seduction21/11/19 09:34 PM
1

I am. I'm talking to quite a few. I still have so much free time that I focus everything on the girl I'm seeing next...
/r/seduction21/11/19 08:43 PM
11

Even then you for sure didn't do 50 approaches, probably a third of that if even. Over-exaggerations like that are just one of many mental blocks we convince ourselves in order to go back to our comfort zone (I do it all of the time). Plus as a beginner you probably just used the same type of approach on every girl without fine tuning each one or doing it based on the girl. We all need to practice taking a step back and realize that the world is not as scary as we make it out to seem and women d…
/r/seduction21/11/19 05:37 AM
1

Not sure if I worded my post wrong or what. I'm saying making out with her at the club and not bringing her home gives you blue balls. Obviously if brought home sexy times would happen.
/r/seduction19/11/19 03:29 AM
1

Mostly to point out that nothing is final. As long as you're a good dude girls can regret being shitty towards you and you can end up reaching out/let them reach out later on.
/r/seduction18/11/19 02:23 PM
4

Yeah I'm sure and I fucked quite a few girls between then and now. What does that matter exactly?
/r/seduction18/11/19 02:22 PM
7

This 1000%. People hate hearing "be yourself" and it's not exactly that but it's close. It's being yourself and being confident in who you are, being vulnerable and showing your scars and experiences and laying them out for the whole world to see and not giving a fuck. That's more attractive than any PUA "alpha" tactics you'll read about.
/r/seduction18/11/19 03:19 AM
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This is just club game. I've brought girls back the same night before, but 99% of the time you will end up with blue balls, but, as long as you were accepting and didn't push too much and come off as an asshole, you have a girl that you can see again. Show your desire for her, make out with her on the dancefloor, at least once tell her you want to take her home. Women love being desired and if you made a good impression then schedule an actual date and seal the deal then. Patience is completely …
/r/seduction18/11/19 01:54 AM
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You're going to have guys shooting themselves in the foot by leaving a set when a girl is actually super receptive. The important thing to know is when to leave, but lots of times you'll be able to get the girl away from the group ("let's go grab a drink" or "let's go outside so we can hear each other") and then escalate to making out. Once her friends see that she's into you you're golden anyways. When she leaves with her friends kiss her and go back to the venue so she knows you're not just le…
/r/seduction18/11/19 01:47 AM
8

What's the best way to break into the bartender world? I'm 30 in a large city with no bartending experience all the bars around me are pretty trendy. Just apply for barback roles?
/r/seduction17/11/19 05:08 PM
4

Been close to there my friend. It sounds old and oft repeated but seriously it's the only way; set a schedule for yourself and just do it. Do, do, do, do, and do. Sitting around in this hole you've made will only make it worse and harder to get out of the rut. Start meditating, take cold showers, go to the gym, eat healthier, seek professional help. Your future self will thank you.
/r/seduction15/11/19 02:40 PM
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Prepare to be downvoted or having the incels come out against you. I think your post offers a good form of constructive debate which this subreddit needs. Can I ask, are you in a committed relationship? Because if so then you are not in the subset of women guys are looking for doing these cold approaches. That's why so many men here have to drill into their heads to deal with rejections, so they can move on until they find a girl that is free and is looking, which then puts cold approaching in t…
/r/seduction14/11/19 12:39 AM
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It exists because imagine how easily you could fuck up something from texting, and how important it is to know how not to come off when texting a girl. Despite what most here say about "text only to set up the date", girls these days want a little banter back and forth. If she sends you a text about something randomly one day what are you going to say "sorry I only text to set up dates." ??? Knowing how to text also is extremely helpful for online dating (I know, I know, we should all hate onlin…
/r/seduction13/11/19 04:26 AM
2

Nope yeah I'm in TX. I just broke up a week ago with a 25 year old Megan who is currently studying biology haha.
/r/seduction12/11/19 11:48 PM
1

Hey can I ask what city you're in? Number 2 sounds familiar lol.
/r/seduction12/11/19 02:03 PM
5

I'm a guy who likes casual sex and has fucked around 50-ish women. Never had a pregnancy scare (only with an actual girlfriend) or STD scare. Just be smart. The guys you know are apparently not smart.
/r/seduction12/11/19 02:00 PM
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Yes, it's a great spot. Just make sure to talk to people and not be on your phone.
/r/seduction11/11/19 08:56 PM
1

Just got out of a relationship with a girl that was all over me but also busy and doing her own thing. I ended up being too needy and in turn she made less time for me until the whole thing just failed because I made such a big deal of it. If you act desperate like I did and try to make her such a big part of your life so early on then it's doomed to fail. If you have other things going on in your life then it could work.
/r/seduction11/11/19 01:49 PM
5

Same with me my dude, you're not alone. I find myself physically attracted to different types but haven't nailed down what exactly I'm looking for. I'm going to spend some time today to sit down and really think about it and write that shit down.
/r/seduction11/11/19 01:31 PM
1

So what I should not even try to go out today to pick up women if I need the experience? I realize it displays neediness but my home/work life does not get me meeting women so I need to be proactive.
/r/seduction09/11/19 03:32 PM
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Unfortunately it's just harder there because of the social implications of Japanese women not wanting to come off "slutty". I would recommend going in focusing more on comfort and being bold in the open but not making jokes she might not understand. I really didn't have a lot of experience there since I was only in country for two weeks and not really focused on pickup.
/r/seduction09/11/19 02:23 AM
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Japanese girls are super horny but really reserved at first. It's just part of the culture. I actually got picked up by a cougar in a bar in Tokyo. So yeah just break through the initial barrier and you're golden. Being around alcohol helps a lot too.
/r/seduction09/11/19 01:33 AM
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The point is that it's hard to be "flirty and fun" over text. Flirting requires eye contact, body language, sexuality that can't be expressed over texting.
/r/seduction07/11/19 06:30 PM
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Yeah this blows. Texting girls is like a minefield and it's so easy to say the wrong thing. Any good tips?
/r/seduction07/11/19 03:01 PM
4

Dude, be super proud of yourself. 99% of people are too chicken-shit to even think of going out by themselves. Here's a long story if you're down to read: I just recently got out of a relationship, but in the past had some solid success going out solo. This weekend I decided "fuck it" and went out on Friday night. I end up at the club I frequented before at around 11pm. Now I'm pretty rusty, and spend 1 or 2 drinks at the bar just kind of on my phone and not doing anything (this is a mistake, yo…
/r/seduction04/11/19 04:13 AM
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It's hard to predict how or what your night is going to be going out alone. I've done it a lot, whether I actually wanted to or whether I just didn't have anyone to go out with. I can tell you this though: it's all in your mind. Some nights were awesome. I'd be outgoing, meet people, take a girl home and get laid. Some nights sucked. The other night I went out by myself to watch a World Series game and seriously felt like I was the only one there by myself, people treated me like shit trying to …
/r/seduction25/10/19 06:06 PM
2

I feel like this can be a very limiting mindset. I met my last girlfriend at a club. She was not a drinker and was just there to dance with friends and have a good time. Definitely not a "club girl" or a barfly. Many girls go out to clubs/bars to do things other than drink or party like crazy.
/r/seduction24/07/19 04:07 AM
1

I live in a city where I can't just walk around streets picking up women (no one walks here and it's inhumanely hot 90% of the time), so I'd have to do daygame in malls and indoor areas. Just worried about getting reputations there.
/r/seduction21/07/19 04:21 AM
2

By far my biggest hurdle with game so far is caring what others think. I feel like everyone is just going to point and laugh like the school kids in a shitty teen movie. It really hinders me even starting daygame, so yeah I think warming up is the way to go. Do you really yell at the top of your voice when out and about though? I'm just worried about getting a reputation as some weirdo walking around the mall yelling and high fiving people lol.
/r/seduction19/07/19 03:58 AM
2

Just want to chime in that recently I've seen the power of eye contact and can't agree enough that this should be #1 if not in the top 5 things guys need to improve on. Intense eye contact can really make a girl weak at the knees. Also it gives them a chance to see your eyes which might be a strong suit of yours and you just don't even realize it yet.
/r/seduction19/07/19 03:49 AM
5

Preach. The older I get the more I want to surround myself with girls that can stimulate my mind as well as my pee pee. The already small "community" of pick-up people in my city seem so overly invested in fucking dumb models than actually doing some solid groundwork in finding well-rounded women. It's hard to find wings that are in the same mindset.
/r/seduction18/07/19 03:12 PM
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Don't worry man you're not alone. I usually fall in love with any cute girl that ticks my boxes. Just think to yourself that you don't know her and for all you know she might be a racist or a Scientologist or something.
/r/seduction18/07/19 03:00 PM
2

Man I hate that I'm in the 3rd largest city in the USA and there's only 12 members in Houston's game group... How can we grow this community?
/r/seduction12/07/19 10:00 PM
1

One thing no one here is saying is how 99% of people settle. They settled on the first girl that gave them interest. And in their generations' time it was better to stick through the turmoil than to break up and face the stigma of being single/divorced. People still settle and still stick around with people they aren't happy with, but it's a lot more common and acceptable to be single. Just stop comparing yourself to others and be happy with yourself.
/r/seduction06/07/19 01:32 AM
1

Few things to texting I've learned: 1) Keep it short 2) Don't double text unless they're both short and don't do it too often 3) Only really text to say it was nice meeting them and to set the date and to use some callback humor every now and then 4) Fuck texting. Call them. Shows a lot more confidence and will surprise them in a good way unless they're just total bitches
/r/seduction06/07/19 01:21 AM
2

Yeah, the hostel I stayed at in Budapest it seemed the guys that worked there were getting laid every night. How did you find the job? It'd be a cool back up but I'm getting older now.
/r/seduction06/07/19 01:06 AM
1

eat fast food feel good
/r/seduction06/07/19 12:38 AM
1

You done good! Girls' have a natural defense mechanism towards guys they like, because she doesn't want to come off as a 'slut' she definitely likes you. Also it is funny how comfortable you get with a girl after your kiss them. A good approach in the future could be when on first dates with girls just act like you had already been intimate with her. Might make you more relaxed and any actual escalation would come more naturally.
/r/seduction05/07/19 06:47 PM
11

Ok I laughed. But if you're somewhat serious just call when out and about. Other noises in the background obviously make it sound like you're doing something.
/r/seduction05/07/19 06:43 PM
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I feel like this is actually a really important thing we need to talk about on this subreddit: What is your goal? Just to to get laid as much as possible? Meet a girl for a relationship? Fuck anything that moves? Fuck only hotties?
/r/seduction05/07/19 06:42 PM
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I also have problem with my state getting fucked up because of a bad night. I'm trying to look at it from a growth mindset. So even if you get blown out by all these women and fail; you're still progressing because you tried. The only way to progress is by enduring many failures/rejections. So just say to yourself "Yeah these nights sucked but I'm getting them out of the way until I have an awesome night and then go from there."
/r/seduction03/07/19 03:45 AM
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This right here is the kind of post I fucking can't stand seeing on this subreddit. First of all you're giving mixed signals to those who want to go out and practice daygame, now they'll be doubting everything they do because they don't want to "end up with a reputation of complete weirdo". Secondly you offer no alternate way of doing daygame besides "There are non autistic ways to try to meet women daytime." Thanks for that champ. Thirdly, who the fuck is upvoting this? This kind of shit is neg…
/r/seduction02/07/19 09:03 PM
2

Lol alright champ good luck then.
/r/seduction30/06/19 10:38 PM
4

First of all don't approach random women from behind. It's creepy as fuck and unless y'all have had some kind of interaction before don't do it. Second of all grinding isn't necessary. Take her hand and spin her, put your hand on her waist and give her other light touches. Eventually tell her you want to get a drink at the bar/go outside where you can talk to her. Then you start going for more touching and eventually a kiss/make out. Unless she's just really into you from the beginning then just…
/r/seduction30/06/19 05:52 PM
2

Man this is getting me pumped up. Thanks for this. I've only just started slowly at daygame and want to get better.
/r/seduction27/06/19 09:04 PM
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Yep. 4-5 years ago when I first got tinder I had some great times and met some cool girls. Got laid way more than I had before, even more than when I was in a LTR. I'd go on and off for awhile, but starting around 2 years ago I noticed a significant decrease in quality and matches. They changed their algorithm and there's simply way more thirsty people on there. So I've finally deleted tinder and all other online dating apps and profiles the other day. I realized they were only getting me laid e…
/r/seduction27/06/19 03:50 PM
1

Thank you! This is what I was looking for. There was a cute girl sitting across from me at the cafe once looking my way, I made eye contact and she darted her eyes away. I didn't keep eye contact then and went back to my laptop. So if she looks away continue looking at her until she looks back my way or is that that too creepy? I think this solves it though. Make the approach after getting an ioi of some sort. Cold approaching without that in a cafe could end badly.
/r/seduction27/06/19 01:42 PM
1

Lol no fuck off. Nice edit there.
/r/seduction25/06/19 07:58 PM
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Dude this is great progress! Way way way more than I've done. It's still a beginning stage though, most girls will flake that's just the sad truth of the matter. It still takes massive balls to do 168 approaches in the last month alone! Where do you do these approaches and what your typical approach is like?
/r/seduction25/06/19 03:01 PM
1

Hey man I'll take them. Thanks you!
/r/seduction25/06/19 02:00 PM
2

Ayy same my dude. In Houston as well. I hope more people join here so we can get a good community going.
/r/seduction25/06/19 03:42 AM
4

Yep. She ended up texting "hey wyd" later in the night but I was hanging out with another girl so I just ignored her. Fuck that wavy back and forth shit I only want a 'fuck yes' or a 'fuck no' from now on.
/r/seduction24/06/19 01:15 PM
10

Met a super cute short latina girl at the club last night. She was into me, but because she was visiting town with family who were also at the club she couldn't come home with me. I got her number and texted her, she said we could meet up for coffee. Then she makes an excuse that she can't. I respond "It's all cool, it was nice to meet you." then she came back with 'actually I can lets do 7pm', I say that sounds good, but then she flakes an hour before with another excuse. Women will flake. It r…
/r/seduction24/06/19 12:36 AM
1

It depends really. Most of the time a text like "wow, dropped me like a stone." won't work. That said I've sent that exact text and rekindled the conversation ending with a fuck buddy for a few months. Just make sure it doesn't come off as needy.
/r/seduction23/06/19 09:18 PM
4

Was she with friends? It could be that she was out supporting a friend and was willing to shut you down to prove she's out with that purpose and not to get hit on.
/r/seduction23/06/19 05:31 PM
3

I'm pissed because I didn't even try. Had a few opportunities but chickened out. I'm too in my head and my frame is so fucking weak it's hilarious. One bad moment or comment makes me self-conscious beyond belief despite pumping myself up. The sucky thing is I've done it before; gone out solo, had a good time, and pulled a girl without really trying. But just the thought of approaching out of the blue makes me so nervous. I'm fucking sick of it.
/r/seduction21/06/19 05:09 AM
2

Yeah it's tough. My frame is always fucked. For example tonight I was about to call it in but then was like "fuck it I'm going out", and I put on the tank-top I had on earlier (without thinking, it is a cool tank-top and it's fucking sweltering in Houston) and the first bar I tried to go in I was going to shoot the shit with the bouncer but right off the bat he told me "sorry man no tank-tops". Fuck. No big deal I'll go on to another bar where this big event was going on. But it was too late, I …
/r/seduction21/06/19 05:01 AM
1

Haha wow man. Not even remotely. Gay people bring their hot hetero girl friends with them to one of the biggest pride parades in the world. You'd be a fool not to go.
/r/seduction21/06/19 03:43 AM
2

I'm also in Houston just now trying to get into daygame. The only difference is I'm closer to downtown and not broke. My advice would be to change that ASAP. Make your priority bettering yourself and moving closer to where the action is or at least making more money. I've met plenty of people who don't live near downtown but still make decent money enough to go out and do shit. I'm thinking about hitting up the Galleria for daygame. Also the Pride parade on Saturday is going to be fucking lit. A…
/r/seduction21/06/19 03:21 AM
2

Thanks! I'm good at being social in certain environments but approaching girls during the day in places still fills me with dread. I think you're right and making a schedule of "go here, and approach 10 women" or something similar would be a good idea.
/r/seduction20/06/19 08:18 PM
4

The other guy's post is wrong. Nice guys are definitely too worried about validation. If you're comfortable with yourself and who you are and what your desires are, then you will not seek validation from strangers. Seeking validation is a form of neediness that means you lack the self-respect needed to go after what you want or think you might like. Be nice because you want to be nice, not because you think people like or will reward you for being nice.
/r/seduction17/06/19 05:50 PM
1

Says the guy making assumptions about a book that hundreds if not thousands of men have said works. It's only natural that you think you applied what was in the book, but in reality you were just performing the whole time and then getting pissed off at a book that many swear by, including myself.
/r/seduction17/06/19 01:19 AM
2

Uh yeah no idea what you're talking about. I'm currently listening to the audiobook and it's most certainly not Mark Manson himself reading. Also there's nothing wrong with how the guy reads it comes off perfectly well and understandable.
/r/seduction17/06/19 01:17 AM
2

Now you're getting it! And if you look comfortable with yourself people will even come up to you. Just go out and have fun with no expectation of outcome.
/r/seduction15/06/19 06:28 PM
2

Eh, shit happens my dude. It's a numbers game like anything else. Just wait for a new person to sit next to you and try again, or when the bartender is less busy (can't fault them for doing their job).
/r/seduction15/06/19 03:20 PM
3

Yep. Especially at the beginning of the night you'll be self-conscious ("I'm the only one here by myself aren't I?") but if you're open to people and sit at the bar so you show you're up for a conversation and take interest in what people are doing; you'll probably have a good night. One thing that's easy to do is comment on what the person next to you ordered "I've never seen that drink before, what is it?". Also like you said going to a bar that has some kind of event going on (music, readings…
/r/seduction14/06/19 11:19 PM
3

Not at all. Don't have any expectations and make sure you're not just talking to women. Talk to everybody. Sit at the bar, it's much easier to conversate. I went out to a bar near my place last night and sat at the bar, started talking to this dude next to me and he was a cool guy traveling for work, we just talked about whiskey and women for most of the time there, and the guy on the other side pulled up the NBA final game on his iPad. There weren't many women around so I didn't hit on anyone t…
/r/seduction14/06/19 11:14 PM
4

Ah you're right. Having long conversations on the phone is pointless. But short calls to set up a date are fantastic. Guess I misread.
/r/seduction13/06/19 05:50 PM
7

Can someone tell me wtf is going on here. This is great advice yet the most up-voted comment is telling you not to call. Why the fuck would this happen? Calling shows you have the balls to have a quick conversation over the phone with someone you're interested in instead of the insanely easy text that anyone can do and that shows 0 confidence. How is this annoying to anyone other than 18-21 year olds who probably don't even realize their phones have a call function? Anyone older than that would …
/r/seduction13/06/19 04:54 PM
4

I plan to. We initially set a date for Wednesday but she got a fever (can confirm since my neighbor, her friend, got it as well) so she said we'll do a rain check. I'll call her later today to see how she's doing and grab a drink this weekend. 👍
/r/seduction13/06/19 02:35 PM
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You're missing the point here. Don't call to chit chat. Call to set up the date, ask her quickly how her day went, then say see you later. And please stop making posts that make people self-conscious about calling people ffs. Calling is way more personable than texting whether you yourself get "annoyed" or not.
/r/seduction13/06/19 02:30 PM
1

Dude I realize this. You said it's worse than jacking it to porn and it's not because there is going out and human interaction involved.
/r/seduction11/06/19 03:54 PM
1

Agreed except for the last part, depending on how much money you have to spend. At strip clubs you're at least interacting with another human being.
/r/seduction11/06/19 03:19 PM
1

Any recommendations for picking up at cafes? Like how to approach and what not? I live near quite a few in a trendy neighborhood. I'm usually just used to going to bars.
/r/seduction11/06/19 02:05 PM
2

Thanks man.
/r/seduction10/06/19 08:21 PM
1

Thanks. Y'all are helping me with this. I need to get over this oneitis bullshit that I have. Abundance is what I need for real.
/r/seduction10/06/19 08:21 PM
2

Thank you. I needed this. Truth be told it was a great time and it reinforced the idea that a beautiful girl like that can have interest in me. At one point we were looking in to each others eyes and she legit got flustered and forgot the point of what she was talking about haha. (the absolute, crazy power of eye contact) And no. I'm at the age where one night stands don't hold any interest to me. I wanted to get to know her more before I slept with her. So I think it was an overall success. Tha…
/r/seduction10/06/19 08:20 PM
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Ding ding ding. From my experience: If you escalate and she rejects or pushes you away, BUT you don't say you're sorry and still defend that choice, she will probably be more attracted to you. However the BUT is in whether you apologize and think it was a mistake. Own your choices and stick with it.
/r/seduction09/06/19 10:23 PM
2

Yep I agree. 4-5 years ago it was great and I had some great sex and met some amazing women. Now something seriously has changed. I get matches like you, some even message me first, but after a few messages they ghost, or stop messaging when I ask for the number. 1% of them I actually meet up with. It's pretty fucking bad. What are your plans going forward OP? I want to start makig some massive action towards actually approaching IRL and getting away from this online dating focus.
/r/seduction07/06/19 01:53 PM
4

I watched his video on picking up the Swedish girl at a grocery store. It seemed staged for a few reasons. First of all he was talking to this chick in the aisle for what seemed like 30 minutes straight, talking about what chips she should get. And the whole time the guy that is filming is just down the aisle with them. Wouldn't she have suspected that dude of doing something weird since he was there the whole time they were talking?
/r/seduction05/06/19 09:10 PM
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Random? You said you're a 30 year old dude with intermediate success so was hoping for some tips? Just thought I'd ask.
/r/seduction05/06/19 07:32 PM
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I'm also a 30M I've slept a good amount of women but I'm a beginner at pick up. Where do you meet these girls and how do you approach? I need to put myself out there.
/r/seduction05/06/19 06:21 PM
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What do I do when the girl gets annoyed that I don't text much? The last girl I went on a date with said she "loves to text lol" and constantly talks about how weird it is that I don't text often.
/r/seduction05/06/19 01:30 PM
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Thanks for this. Not sure if I'm going to get an extra job but it could be a good way to get out of the house. Do you have any personal recommendations on where to practice daygame?
/r/seduction03/06/19 07:03 PM
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Bro that story happened 10 years ago. I'm no casanova but I've had sex with many hotter women since then. It's a journey for everyone, and sink_flower probably thinks he's God's gift to women and incapable of fucking up but won't face reality lmao.
/r/seduction01/06/19 11:30 PM
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Haha wtf are you smoking. Who is going to win with a hot girl: A scrawny dude who never lifted weights who has game Or A jacked dude who lifts weights and shows he cares about fitness who has game The answer is simple my dude. Confidence and game is paramount, but being fit is icing on the cake for any girl.
/r/seduction01/06/19 09:58 PM
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Accept this truth right here and right now: Girls are just as horny, if not more, than guys. They want to get fucked, just like we do. Society has made it to where it's hard for them to openly want or directly pursue casual sex without looking like a "slut". I often have trouble with this as well. Though I've gotten much better. I once long ago met a girl in college, we hung out and made out all over campus at night, went back to her place, watched TV, I said I'd sleep on the couch (wtf!), later…
/r/seduction01/06/19 09:52 PM
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It's hard to shake oneitis when everywhere I go I see couples happy and holding hands. It seems like everyone has a match. It's hard to shake that feeling. Does anyone have tips on how to change that mindset?
/r/seduction01/06/19 09:42 PM
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I'm honestly baffled by this post. It's not a guaranteed lay but I can think of multiple times I've gone out solo to a club and ended taking a girl home with me/make-outs in the club/etc. And I don't go out to clubs that often. I really don't get this "clubs aren't good for pick-up" shit people spew on here.
/r/seduction31/05/19 01:34 PM
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My therapist recognized this in me recently and recommended a book called Mindset by Carol S Dweck. It apparently goes over the fixed vs growth mindsets. I've yet to read it but thought it might be helpful to some here.
/r/seduction17/09/18 06:13 PM
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Yeah honestly not too down on myself for actually going out and having fun. Just kicking myself on how I ended up focused on one girl and fucking it up.
/r/seduction17/10/17 03:08 AM
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Thanks man. Yeah that would definitely be for the best. I think I tend to use it as a crutch.
/r/seduction17/10/17 03:07 AM
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Haha I had a gf in college that supplied me with adderral, I never had problems with it. I'm currently taking anti-depressants which normally help, but I've been thinking something like adderral would help with motivation/taking charge.
/r/seduction16/10/17 04:49 AM
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Hey man thank you for the reply. All very solid advice. I tend to get swept up in the moment with everything else happening around I forget to just take charge and ask up front what the intentions are, and say what my intentions were. I noticed she was digging me at first, but that seemed to fade as time went on. If I was more up front and assertive who knows. And yeah the texting has always been my downfall. I really wish I had a guardian angel that tapped on my shoulder before I sent each text…
/r/seduction16/10/17 04:45 AM
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Thank you! Yes I do end up being too in my head all the time to actually pay attention to my surroundings and that often makes me a terrible listener. I need to work on this and just living in the now. My father is an excellent storyteller, yet I seem to have inherited none of that. Often times I'll tell a story that just has no point and trail off and it ends up awkward. I have a degree in history so I consider myself a student of history, so I should definitely play to that. I always feel like…
/r/seduction22/03/17 10:35 PM
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Thanks for this. I really want to become outcome independent but I've been conditioned throughout life (by myself no less) to look more at the outcome rather than the journey. I never appreciate the moment only wishing I could go back and change things I did wrong. This leads me to be desperate and needy for a certain outcome. And like you said observation is a big thing as well. I tend to be pretty bad at observing my environment and how people are reacting, even what they are saying in a conve…
/r/seduction22/03/17 06:38 PM
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I feel like I do the same when I go out alone, although I've only done it once or twice. Are there any tactics to take when going out alone? How do you get over the mindset that you might look like a creep being by yourself, and just to initiate socially with everyone?
/r/seduction17/03/17 11:07 AM
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I just started actually. Started on medication a month ago and starting therapy next Friday. I hope it helps because nothing else seems to in the long run.
/r/seduction09/03/17 11:40 PM
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Truth. I'm boring as shit and don't have many hobbies. I just never stuck with the countless things I've tried. This is probably tied to my depression which I'm trying to handle currently. If I get that sorted out hopefully I'll regain the ability to be interested in things enough to do them. I've coasted by on being relatively physically attractive and having all these additional minor perks but they're useless when the core attractive qualities just aren't there. I need to find some passions.
/r/seduction09/03/17 11:38 PM
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I have this problem so bad it's not even funny. Every time a new girl comes along, we start to date, have sex, whatever I instantly latch on to her. Something happens in my mind where I just say "hey I found someone, so now I can just stop trying and relax". Then I just become obsessive and try to spend every day with her until I've completely smothered her and either she ends it or it just teeters off. I need help with this. I know I need abundance but it just seems like a toxic mentality I nee…
/r/seduction09/03/17 02:20 PM
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Would definitely be interested in this.
/r/seduction26/02/17 03:36 PM
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Absolutely agree, I've had hundreds more matches with plus, and you definitely have to still have a good profile to take advantage.
/r/seduction16/01/17 02:56 PM
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Look, I'm not an expert because I lost my v-card in high school, but the way I see it if you work on yourself, meet a girl, have fun with said girl, and there's that mutual attraction, once it gets to the part where you have sex; just be upfront with her. What can it hurt? If she's weirded out about it so much that she just doesn't want to go through with it (which seems unlikely to me once she's already convinced herself she wants to fuck you) then chalk it up to an almost win and try again. Mo…
/r/seduction13/01/17 12:33 AM
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I would say don't personally, but as long as you go in thinking it will be like a business transaction with no romance involved, then do what you want. Sex to me is much more than just the physical side of it. It's an emotional connection, and once you reach that connection of getting to know someone and having sex out of a mutual like/love it's euphoric. I was by no means a virgin but when I want on a recent eurotrip and I was in Prague, I had gotten sick and missed out on a lot of hostel game,…
/r/seduction12/01/17 09:59 PM
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I always had a question about asking her for the time: in this day and age everyone has a clock on their phone, so wouldn't they just wonder why you don't check your phone for the time?
/r/seduction09/01/17 02:30 PM
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Thank you, I need the brutal truth. So I really need to work on my situational awareness. Being able to asses the situation and how she is reacting. Often times this is hard because I'm already nervous with the initial approach, it's not like a normal social interaction I'm used to. Also being more interesting which means I need to focus on self-amusing as well. You recommend next time for day game just opening with compliments and moving on to another set?
/r/seduction09/01/17 05:54 AM
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Just read your old post and it's very motivational! I'm almost 3 months out of a tough break up that's really fucked up my self-esteem, and just recently got into learning about seduction and pick-up. I'm in the same boat that I have something holding me back from approaching. I actually do ok with getting decent sex; a different ex who is now a FWB is coming over in a bit. But it's more about me wanting to meet as many women as possible to find the next girl I want to have a meaningful relation…
/r/seduction07/01/17 01:34 AM
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Thanks for the reply! My success with girls from the opener was usually with girls who admitted later how unique my opener was and how boring/cringey others' were, and that helped me launch into the rest of hooking up with her. However if the girl likes your profile enough to where you stand out from others (which as you state is the most important part) I agree that it doesn't matter since you've already grabbed her attention.
/r/seduction04/01/17 02:18 AM
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You're recommending to say lackluster things for openers such as "Hello" or "You're cute." This usually goes against common wisdom. Girls get tons of messages like this so why would they pick yours? I've had some good experience with tinder in the last few years and most of my successes were from some sort of first message with actual thought behind it. So could you explain this further?
/r/seduction04/01/17 01:51 AM
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"Be independent. Be carefree. Be stoic." Definitely want this tattooed in my brain. Thanks man and we're going to run this shit this year I can feel it!
/r/seduction03/01/17 01:51 PM
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I'm with you man! It's been more than two months since a breakup fucked me up and a month or so since I started looking into pickup. For me it's not even solely about getting laid (I have an ex who is a FWB and I can get laid off tinder every now and then so sex isn't something I'm desperate for) but rather meeting interesting girls to have some solid connections. My NYR is to make more friends and make more social circles to increase social proof, but other than that definitely start doing dayg…
/r/seduction01/01/17 07:32 PM
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You're right. Since the break-up I've been hitting the gym frequently, started mediation, reading, brushing up on Spanish, etc. Just taking time for myself. I went on a few Tinder dates; they ranged from a one night stand to total disasters, and since hooked up with another ex who recently went through a break-up (stupid, I know). So I have been taking time for myself, but I think you're right in that I need to keep working on myself. Obviously I want to be in the mindset of not letting opportun…
/r/seduction21/12/16 11:14 PM
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See I understand that masturbation is totally normal and even healthy. The whole thing is the porn aspect. I wanted to try getting used to masturbating without the stimulation of pictures. In Models the author talks about getting rid of porn, and jacking off once a week or every other week to the thought of girls you want to get with but haven't yet.
/r/seduction21/12/16 09:50 PM
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