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DISCUSSIONsexxxybae/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 09:20 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEsexxxybae/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 08:31 PM
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One guy who was an attorney no less, showed up in some tshirt and sneakers, like there are stylish tshirts for men and nice sneakers, but these weren't those... anyway he even said on the phone he didn't know what to wear for the date. I get not knowing how fancy or casual, but guy was a professional, oh and 42. Another guy showed up unshowered. Not making fun of anyone with maybe depression issues, not even saying he was depressed, but I could smell his hair from across the table, and he was we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 06:18 PM
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But right now where is everyone meeting anyone with what's going on? Everyone is supposedly online.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 12:44 AM
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In my experience most guys keep exes around. They don't break up clean, and take time in between girls. There is always someone, so they aren't over one ex until they've been with the next girl enough time, even then, the next girl had to deal with a lot of pain because of this. If they had a short relationship, didn't fall in love, I might accept it, there are some guys who can handle it. But most guys keep them around for possible sex and they still have feelings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 10:16 PM
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It's so crazy how many people project. I truly think now that most people project, i mean we look at the world through our own perspective based on our experiences. I have one ex who has anger issues and he called me irritable, but I'm not. I know someone else who thinks most neighbors are bad because of their neighbors, I'm starting to think that when someone says something about you, or about life in general they are telling you who they really are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 09:44 PM
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They also cheat first chance they get. They feel they landed you, so they can get another girl on the level as well. And since they don't often get women they will jump at the chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 09:32 PM
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This only works if he is not in person. In person, the guy will keep going and going and it can be hard to stay calm because it's in front of you. Like some men are persistent enough that they won't stop until they get a reaction, like you're trapped. People who ask the same question over and over because they don't like the answer? On the phone you can do anything, be calm and not engage and it's no problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 07:33 PM
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Hate this. You got away from those men because what they wanted wasn't good for you. I've started to think the other way, like when they say a story of what a girl did, that they won't put up with again, I think, okay you let her do it and you still stayed! lol. Agree that you can't tell them too much about the past because they will be twisted and think that very thing, oh some other guy got away with it. Even being treated badly, don't tell em.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 07:00 PM
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Woww did you go out with my ex? Yes, I am latina too, "you were built for it" because of having a curvy booty, as if being curvy means you are supposed to have anal often. I said those are porn girls, most regular girls aren't into tons of anal. Apparently he met one girl with whom that's all they did. Wonderful. And there are women out there who will do that all the time, it's not the standard though. And he was also a jackhammer taking forever to cum. And yes brought up the butt plug thing. An…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 06:54 PM
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Oh that's horrible. That poor girl. He's still trying to get with you and trying to get her in on it. I don't know how some of these men are so entitled to think they deserve all the sex with all the women. And with you, he'll always be trying to have sex with you so you'll never really be comfortable in the friendship if you stick around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 06:52 PM
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I thought it was just greed because it feels so good for them to be inside but not cum yet, like they wanna stretch that feeling out as long as they can. Which is okay for a guy who cums fast, but if he already takes a really long time yea it's greed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 12:01 AM
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My ex took a long time to cum too. He admitted he's just like that, but it's hard to not think it's you, especially since he would get frustrated at times and things had to be a certain way... like the fan or a.c. couldn't be on, too much noise outside distracted, arms would hurt and I'd have to position myself a certain way because we were going for endurance lol, but he wanted a different visual than me resting on one arm (excuse me, you take a long time so I have to do it that way, with head …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 11:54 PM
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My ex, and i wonder if it's a lot of men over 40, notices little things, and he would tell me to sleep with a bra. I used to back when they made cotton bras, because it's something i wanted, I can't find them anymore, so I don't sleep with one because these fabrics irritate me. so he says to sleep with one so they don't sag. I understand wanting to stay attracted to someone, i do, but sometimes it's odd how much attention some of them pay to certain things. What guys do that? And I believe some …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 07:39 PM
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As they get older they sound more like the dad and little exclamations, like grunts and stuff, are similar. For whatever reason, weight ages many men. Not all, but many, girls can pull off slim to chubby most of the time, girls can fluctuate within 25 lbs, but men really age with extra weight mostly. Also facial hair if it's not groomed or neat or clean. Some guys look handsome with facial hair, most do not unless it's short, it's what it is even though a lot of them try to pull it off. Men aren…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 07:28 PM
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Yea helping would be nice! If there is room. I was talking to a friend about this the other day, how some guys try to do the 50-50 thing (a little off topic i know) nowadays when back in the day they knew it cost money to date and they were motivated. Now if you pay just as much and you are doing all that work, they don't understand that we start to think of it in terms of "is it worth all this stress? I could just be by myself if I have to do more work and pay and deal with other women around."…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 11:08 PM
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That's true I glossed over the age difference. At this point in his life I'm sure he has been with non virgins... at that age he has to accept everyone has a history. Wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 09:44 PM
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This is hard. Because if you did have feelings about those things, you're over it. So he is making you relive it. And if you don't have feelings about this stuff, he's basically having issues that you don't feel bad about it? Like it's up to you how to feel. I don't kno... he may be on a path to punishing you or making you feel bad about things that came way before him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 09:42 PM
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Yea even if it's not some guy being a perv, men just stay in the way when you're trying to do chores. clothes cooking etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 09:36 PM
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Lol bisexual men and gay men are the hottest ones. Porn has destroyed some men, and not just the younger men. They see women doing anal so easily and think all women can do that. And the grooming... some expect completely smooth, who cares if it's painful for you? It's horrible
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 06:12 PM
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They always keep exes around. And they can never be alone, always wanting a "companion" who gives them sex and helps them in the house... but they don't want you to be their girlfriend, no commitment. The ex thing is frustrating, most of them still have an ex around. Is it so hard to start a relationship clean, no exes in the picture? Back in the day people broke up and that was that. It sucks now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 12:48 AM
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I know this older guy who used to be this way and he talked to someone about it and figured it out. He no longer has these issues, but he is deeply religious and believes in something else, most men won't change. He told me that when he was angry there was adrenaline rushing, it made him feel strong. I think it goes for women who have anger issues too. It gives energy. Eventually he worked on this and is no longer this way. It makes them feel powerful. Now I think some people are more at home wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 05:26 PM
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Passion is in bed, it's feeling for something creative or something one does, their work, their hobbies etc. Anger is not passion. Anger is natural but expressing it in an abusive way is nott
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 06:57 PM
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I can't understand watching stuff that makes you so stressed out. I like trash tv at times, but it doesn't make me crazy or angry. It is entertaining to me. Some people watch stuff and get so angry it annoys me tho if I am around it. It's like, don't get so attached to it or don't watch it! Exceptions are movies that make u cry because that's just having a heart lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 06:56 PM
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You have to wonder if they get like that when they are alone. My ex would get mad getting ready for work, I knew he was ready to put on me that I'm making him late even though every time I was ready to go way before him. So I would call him out and he'd still manage to get mad at something. So I would be like do you talk to the air when you're by yourself and getting ready? Or is it because someone is there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 06:53 PM
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Yesss!! that's the difference. Ours points inward so we are hurting ourselves, but no one else. And I feel we learn ways to cope, like writing, exercising and going for walks, dancing, listening to music, and just feeling your emotions etc. They put it on the people around them, usually those closest to them... like their girlfriendss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 06:51 PM
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Crazy... so it's just an individual thing then, not even an age thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 06:49 PM
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40 and over men have them too. I was so used to my ex and his "tantrums" that when i would talk to other guys and they said they had a bad day at work, I was surprised they weren't pissed. Not all guys are like this but some definitely are...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 04:33 PM
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Unfortunately a man can have a great time with you, like you, great conversation, find you attractive etc. and still not want to be with you. We think of it more formulaic like all the stuff is there, why not just be together? A lot of men don't, they tend to know fast if they want you. Sometimes you can grown on a guy but it happens a lot faster than this. He's enjoying being with you but doesn't want more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 08:37 PM
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Or just the effects on relationships. One thing is regular porn, regular sex between two people, it pushes the envelope every so often, and now these guys demand stuff they see in porn. With my ex I could tell what the trend was based on what he wanted, and I don't even think he watched that much. Like back when it was choking on a guy's d, and then later this obsession with anal. Apparently a big thing is men having their ahole licked. wth? what happened to regular sex? That all sounds like a l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 08:20 PM
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I don't think it's always planned, sometimes things happen and then they act out and probably think, oh well if she loves him she'll stay no matter what he's putting her through. Thing is with a lot of guys it's external, they lash out, verbally abuse etc. It's not that you don't wanna be there for him through bad times like they wanna say, it's that you don't want to be criticized, put down or abused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 08:12 PM
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She's uncomfortable saying Ted had a point. There is a fine line between psycho and genius and yes many psychopaths are geniuses. He was a smart man who did horrific things. And yes... maybe it's fine to listen to what he had to say because who else would know why he committed those crimes or what influenced him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 08:09 PM
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Right... I want someone to be with me for me, not what I do for them. That's being useful. I don't want to be useful to someone, that's offensive. And it's not like, okay you did stuff now you can relax and love each other. It just gets you more of the same, more doing for him, more work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 07:50 PM
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Exactly. More of the same. I told my ex I'm not doing it again, what I put up with years ago. Fine... then major things happened and he started acting the same way he did back then. Said that whatever happened years ago isn't the last time some bad stuff will happen in life, people go through stuff. Okay that's true, but they also have to learn to handle things without abusing those around them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 07:47 PM
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Thank you. I never understood men making women jump through hoops. If she does it and it all works out, great. But sometimes these men keep doing it over and over. Like "what have you done for me lately?" She did everything years ago and now you're putting her through it again? To prove she loves you? And if she leaves she's mean now, she changed etc. They should be encouraging a good situation, bringing more positive, not negative or taking away from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 07:36 PM
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Not just an age thing. My ex's now ex, she seduced him while in the "talking" stage and he fell for it. Sex all the time, etc. Once they became official that stopped. Not the sex, but the sex all the time and she got selfish. Demanded to cum but sometimes left him hanging, and this is not a guy you leave hanging, so that was totally unheard of to me. She didn't feel sexy anymore she said, libido dropped etc. Either women are like men, and are turned on by novelty and variety and the newness of t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 05:42 PM
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I am in my 30's, I have friends in their 20's who demand to cum. I assumed women nowadays weren't giving it up unless they were getting off too? I have to say I admire that. I don't have the nerve to demand an orgasm, but I know girls who do. These guys really try to get away with the bare minimum, even now in bed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 05:37 PM
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They want to do no foreplay because they're lazy... yet they demand anal. Men have gotten so selfish in bed for sure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 05:31 PM
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omg yesss the ones who just say "hey" and it's like, are you supposed to carry the conversation? He swiped right because he wants to have sex with you at some point, so he should come up with some conversation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 06:38 PM
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I've found that shorter women are more aggressive and feisty than taller. Maybe to make up for their height? I have friends who were treated a certain way when younger so they turned more dominant to offset that, once they open their mouths you know they aren't going to get controlled lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 06:30 PM
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The worst is definitely before bedtime. I get anxious and then I can't sleep. You get all worked up it sucks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 08:59 PM
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When I was younger I was nice to everyone. I still am but one ex told me you can't be nice to guys because then they think you wanna sleep with them. He said that guys who like you and say let's be friends, really wanna sleep with you so if you stay friends and are nice to them, but not interested in them, they will try. I thought he was exaggerating, didn't believe it. But he was right. Sounds like something a controlling bf would say but it's true. You think you feel bad for him, so be nice to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 07:51 PM
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My relative just sees me sitting there and thinks it's time to unload. She will be talking for like 40 minutes or longer. I'm reading or looking stuff up, I'm doing something, I'm not sitting there doing nothing, but if someone sees you it's like they have the go ahead to start talking. She realized that telling me stuff makes her feel better, but it's like I have no choice because I can't just walk away (or can I?) It makes me feel trapped, like you feel the anxiety rise when you were calm a fe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 07:29 PM
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It wouldn't be so bad if it was literally just mentioning their issue and moving on. But some people go on and on, and others get angry as they talk about it and then it gets in you somehow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 07:23 PM
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And nowadays men don't want consequences, they find ways to do things consequence free. So there is no motivation for them to compromise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 06:32 PM
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I used to be okay with it when I was younger. Then it started to affect me and I would see someone else feel better and me being agitated. Then i realized no more, this isn't good. So now if I can avoid it I do, there are still a few who try and it's annoying. One in particular, she retells a story and gets re-mad over it as if it's happening again, and I read somewhere that happens in general. As she is getting mad I can feel it, so then I get annoyed because I didn't need this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 06:22 PM
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They are kinda clingy. I say this as someone who might be a bit clingy with the right person. But they need to always have a woman around, to heal from another woman, for sex, for boosting, etc. Women can break up and be alone and work on themselves and heal, men always need a girl there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 06:14 PM
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yesss there was this guy who would message me every so often but I wasn't into him. I thought maybe I could give a chance because he seemed cool if he was only easier-going but you get on the phone with him and it's like he starts dumping on you. You even hear it in his voice, like when someone is so exasperated, it was annoying. Shouldn't he be trying to impress? And he had a therapist too. I think I'm more of an empath anyway so I have to have boundaries to not listen to certain things. I have…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 06:05 PM
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The millionaire matchmaker says he should take you out on dinner dates and then when you feel you know him you can cook for him. You don't take him out on dates though. These guys wanna cook for you... nice if it's your boyfriend but not just a date..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 06:21 PM
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Good point. I met a guy and he wanted to cook for me at his place for the first date. I didn't feel right about it, I don't go to men's houses who i just met you know? Didn't do it ofcourse, we went to a regular place but then he wanted to do it for the second time we met! I told him the chemistry wasn't there so that was that. But he was really trying to have me go over his place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 06:20 PM
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Men in my family are also hvm. I grew up thinking this is how all guys are and nope it's not. I thought men liked to drive you in their car and pick you up, fix things for you, try to impress you. A lot of them are selfish and don't care to do those things, they are lazy and want their stuff for them, whether it's money time or energy. And the way they talk to women... ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 05:58 PM
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They always come back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 02:41 AM
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Yes they have multiple side chicks. And baby mama... none of them wanna get married now. But they all want kids
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 07:28 PM
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I've been on and off with the same ex for awhile. There was a guy before when we broke up, that i went on a date with. He smelled. He showed up in something you would wear to the gym, and usually that's not a concern, but come on. He smelled like dirty hair and I could smell it from across the table we sat at. Guys I have been with smelled good, or if they did a lot they had that smell but it was different. I see you guys always posting about unhygienic men, after going out with that guy I see i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 07:20 PM
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Damn. Were you living together, like constant exposure to him, or did you have some time to yourself? These situations tend to absorb a woman, and then your every thought is on it and that definitely is stressful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 05:49 PM
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What is the age? Is it 45, is it 50?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 09:46 PM
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Did it really? Genuinely curious. And how long was the relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 09:45 PM
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I like all that stuff, pleasing my man, but yea there were times with my ex he'd always want the makeup or whatever. Not even a lot, it was just very specific and I'd go to him with it on, then obviously we fool around and sleep and the next day I'd wanna be comfortable and he'd want me in certain clothes again. I would see other couples I know where the girl switches it up, sometimes in a hoodie and glasses and the guy is fine. Also if I showed up without eyeliner he'd mention it immediately. T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 05:24 PM
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What's crazy is it seems his view of her changed when she told him about the perimenopause. There's no mention of anything else changing, just internal symptoms and the labeling. Btw I never heard of perimenopause until last year. Funny how they have a name for that. It's like the knowledge of it is what is making him lose attraction, not the actual flashes and sugar cravings. Makes you not wanna tell men anything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 09:23 PM
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Guys find a lot more attractive than women do. Guys will bang anything. They will find something on the girl they like, even if it's just the mystery of sex with someone new. It's different for women. So yes it's much easier for men to find someone they can be with than it is for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/20 09:13 PM
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Yess either one is annoying. They shouldn't be telling you either way. What about a guy who wants you made up just for him? When you're out on your own he wants you conservative but when you're at his house he wants the makeup and everything?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 09:05 PM
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Omg yes. I had an ex like that, and another ex like that lol. I decided all it was was making it easier for them to look at other girls while with me, and not having to worry about guys looking at me. I'm not here to make your life easier to look at others. So I wear what I want and your attention will be on me and the guys who look at me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 09:00 PM
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lmao belly full balls empty. You're right. And say he does act right because you keep him fed and satisfied... how many nights of not haviing sex or making him dinner does it take before he's a jerk again? I don't mean to take him for granted. But these guys accuse women of having a "what have you done for me lately" mentality but a lot of them have that when it comes to sex and cooking, cleaning whatever. If you go through a bout where you're tired or whatever, will he still act right ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 06:33 PM
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Men shouldn't date if they don't have the money to. Also, 20 sounds like his half. Where is it 20 for a date for both?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 08:50 PM
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Even my dad told me, if there are women on tv and they are pretty, he will spot the one who "knows she's pretty." He says those ones are trouble. lmao but my parents are married and he never cared about that, he always liked a challenge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 01:22 AM
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Jealousy is a tricky game. go too far a woman will completely be done with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 09:33 PM
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The things they say they hate are actually the things that will keep them around. They hate high body counts? That competition eats at them and makes them stay, just like if you have other men around you who like you. They say they hate drama? Those are the ones who love it, women with drama keep them entertained, otherwise they would be bored. it intrigues them. Takes up their mindspace so much they don't have anything left to think of another woman. Why do you think they keep taking back women…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 09:31 PM
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Ugh they can be horrible. He could also be telling you this to make you jealous. They love to make women jealous. My ex told me he doesn't even like short girls but his ex was really short and he could throw her around in bed. That he liked. he's like 6'3, he should be able to throw anyone around in bed. so like was he complaining about me? meanwhile, the guy i hooked up with after him was only a bit taller than me and tossed me around no problem..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 09:27 PM
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I had only been with guys who had some upper body strength going, even if they hadn't gone to the gym. Then there were two i was seeing not at the same time, who had these narrow arms and chest area. they weren't chubby but that's a turnoff. I like slim guys too if they have a slight shape, like a young James Spader sigh. Anyway, if it's just skinny arms with no tone and they are narrow ughh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 09:23 PM
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Thin arms and narrow shoulder/chest area goodness. such a turnoff lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:14 AM
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lmao yes a guy who used to work out and gained a bit is attractive. you can see the foundation, they usually have nice arms and shoulders and chest with a little meat. dudes who don't work out at all may have skinny arms and be narrow and tiny chests. the meatier one is more attractive...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:12 AM
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What do you think of two people getting together when the girl is 10 years younger, but he saw her grow up? Like when he was 20 she was 10 and he saw her as a little girl and all? But now they are in their 26 and 36.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 09:53 PM
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Noticed that with men when you cook. If you cook a lot for them theyre more open with the criticisms. If you cook once in a while, they love it. I understand why women don't wanna cook all the time. All that work and they can't show appreciation?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 09:26 PM
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omg, this guy i talked to after awhile of him trying to talk to me, he started telling me all this stuff, mentioned his shrink, said these are things he can't talk to his friends about, etc. He was going through a bad time it seems, but if you like a girl and have been after her for a long time wouldn't you put your best effort forward initially? I felt like he was using me to dump on. Maybe he wanted me to feel bad and using that. Something about people immediately telling you sad things about …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 07:55 PM
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it's funny. there have been multiple times in my life where I knew two people were going to hook up or i saw something between them well before it happened. Told i was overthinking. The latest? I don't have sex with just anyone, my friend went after me specifically after i said to myself i would not get with anyone i already know. Did that prior, and all that did was make the guy take me for granted because he already knew me, even if he liked me a lot. You need to start with new guys. Anyway...…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 05:43 PM
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True. The reason I don't think it's that is because he doesn't like jerking off, he's one of those guys who "needs" pussy or the warm mouth bla bla. He needs more stimulation than just jerking off, and I like doing all that stuff but when he needs a lot of stimulation every time, plus he's not focusing, and anything different, like different speed or slight switch in angle can cause him to go from almost cumming to not cumming, it can be too much. It was really the attitude that was the worst pa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 05:21 PM
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How old is your bf now? curious because you mentioned the age thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 05:08 PM
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My ex, it didn't hurt him if we switched angles. But like he would feel like he was going to cum, i knew his dick well enough to know also, but sometimes it wouldn't happen because of a slight switch in angle or the air conditioner was on or whatever. It had to be very precise conditions, which can start to agitate you and believe me i have tons of patience. It would frustrate him and then if he lost it we might have to go another 20 minutes or something, maybe a bit less, but ne never let it go…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 05:06 PM
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This is hard. My ex took a very long time cumming, i don't think it was porn though. And he wanted it all the time. I would try to please him and we would always have sex, it became about him cumming. He enjoyed it, it could be fun for me, but I ended up worrying about if he's gonna cum because he was never gonna let it go. He had to cum. no matter how long it took. Mentally that starts to mess with you, are you good enough, and even if you are he can get frustrated and that can mess with you in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 12:50 AM
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Also depending on where you are, you are a walking advertisement for him. Women wonder why is she with him and assume he's good in bed or is great to you. He also gets off on cheating on a woman out of his league, probably makes him hotter than actually having sex with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 10:25 PM
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HVM are very secure. LVM are insecure so they go around hurting women if they never take control of their mental and emotional situation..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 10:22 PM
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Does that include if the affair travels to these states? They say that about common law, the states it is recognized in, all you have to do is go there as a couple and say this is your wife/husband. People say that all the time if they're together for years and not married. If they travel to say, nc for a rendezvous and then go back home to another state, does it count?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 08:29 PM
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Not always. But men nowadays probably can't redeem themselves. Between phones and texting, they don't know how to cut ties. Back in the day it was the housephone so the wife knew, they could hear the husband tell the other woman it's over etc. Plus men were busy doing things. These guys now, it's just different. They're just not solid anymore. Plus it look like it says they work together? The only way you can take back a man after an affair is if he cuts all ties and that includes quitting his j…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 08:22 PM
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Like the makeup one. they want a girl who looks good without makeup, but they want her to wear makeup. some guys are rigid control freaks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 08:08 PM
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Yes. which is why you don't pay for dates. don't allow him to save money to take other women out, if he wants to date a bunch of women let him pay for it. I've said it before, i'm not paying and sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 07:01 PM
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If a man could handle it, you would never know he was dating others. I think those are the only men who should be able to do it. They can't, they give themselves away. If they fight with one it trickles down to the others, you can tell when their attention and energy is scattered. They can't handle juggling women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 07:00 PM
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And if you aren't even like that they see so many men living like that, other women who pay most of the stuff and do everything at home, who have degrees and he does not, and they want that for themselves. Instead of breaking up with you, or stepping it up for themselves, they just torture you to be like those women. crazy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 06:46 PM
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Yess. Very true. That generation in general grew up faster, every generation is slower in that department than the last. Those guys did not play video games, it was a different world without cellphones and dating online and distractions. They lived and were present. Men did the hard work and didn't complain, that's the most important part. They got pride out of making money and doing work, they didn't see it as a burden.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 06:42 PM
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Men are expected to do more because they were only expected to make money before, it's not that they're expected to do more than women. A lot of couples are two income, so even if he's the primary breadwinner she's still working. Just because she makes less doesn't take away from that.. if you're both working you can both do chores and you can both take care of the kidss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 06:40 PM
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They're obsessed with women. It's supposed to be a site where they have nothing to do with women, not even picking up women and using them for sex, but all they talk about is women. The comment sections are amazing, some guys will call each other out, i remember one saying "all these guys are just one blowjob away from falling for a woman." or something like it. They know. These are bitter men who were used or fell for some girl who hurt them bad, and they act like they don't need anyone but yea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 06:20 PM
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I never liked this. I don't understand why this is a normal thing. In my 30's so a bit older. It seems more normal among the 20 somethings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 02:35 AM
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If a guy is going out of his way to text little things to his friend, or offer stuff even if he won't do it, it's an excuse to talk to her and flirt and set the stage for sex later. There's no reason for a guy to text certain things, they don't reach out just because like girls do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 09:18 PM
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that's what it is, i don't mind pleasing him, but to get angry if you don't wanna do that thing... it shouldn't cause huge fights if you don't wear makeup that day or wear lingerie. It's supposed to be an extra, fun, not a requirement. when men make it a requirement it takes the excitement and joy out of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 09:15 PM
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Yes if you did it right you would like it. okay... do they all do it right tho?? anal is a very specific thing, you may want it and then not for a very long time or maybe you never want it. being pestered about it doesn't help. why do they need anal to be excited? regular sex with a vag isn't exciting enough for them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 09:13 PM
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I mean, is it too much to ask that even if it's a fling, that he not text other women until you leave? They are so lazy they can't even have a fling the right way. frustrating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 09:00 AM
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very bad, especially when they get into a fight with a girl and you know it because he says things that have nothing at all to do with you. they are horrible at juggling. they always give themselves away. the only guys who should be allowed to cheat are the ones who can actually balance it all. and the ones who can afford it. lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 08:57 AM
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There is a lot of projection going on. They have basically taken the complaints women have of them and turned it around. How there are no faithful women anywhere and how women don't love them unconditionally and how they would invest in the relationship and she would leave... like, where are these men? this can't be for real
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 08:40 AM
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lmaooooooo yess ! alpha chad. who wants to be treated badly by some mediocre looks having guy? i'm laughing this is a great comment.. he better be hot and give some good sex for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 06:39 AM
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lmaoo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 06:31 AM
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Men on the train for awhile don't get up to give pregnant women seats. Younger guys do though, it's the older business men who don't. they wanna bang but they get satisfaction out of not showing you they want to. also the language they use. my ex was using the term "fans" for many years i think he was looking at the Roosh stuff back in the day, but i don't think he looks at the stuff now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 11:51 PM
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to me a real simp is these onlyfans guys. the ones paying for porn and cam girls. but simply being good to women is not a simp
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 11:49 PM
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Ahh yes the "you're being over sensitive." Part of femininity is sensitivity, and they talk about loving feminine women, they should be expressing their aggression with other men, because real men are gentleman and do not do that around women. These guys are full of it. I've seen maybe 1 or 2 who had decent ideas, a little more rational than the others, but even then they just complain. There are a couple that tell men that if they want a feminine woman they need to be making enough money to all…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 11:47 PM
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My thing is not only have phones made things so accessible so that he's in the bed looking at who knows what, but they are addicted to them. The stereotype is that girls in their 20's are attached to their phones, pics, instagram, etc. But I'll give them that, they're young and that's how they grew up. You have men in their 30's and 40's glued to a phone all the time, like how do you have a relationship? I didn't come to see you and your phone, i came to see you! It's rude and inattentive. The l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 11:27 PM
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always. they bring up other women to make you jealous, and if you show you are you're crazy. i was reading the way this one guy worded it, something like "it's a shame that you can't really be your full self with a woman, and share everything like experiences and memories from the past. Women don't want to know you as a whole, they don't really want to know you. and what others have done for you" something like that. what he was getting at was, you can't share your experiences with other women w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 11:17 PM
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Most men cheat. Definitely more than half. Some who never cheated just haven't had the opportunity or they didn't have a long enough relationship to cheat. But most men cheat for sure. There are some that don't, and there are some that make that mistake and fix it, by getting rid of that other woman and never speaking to her again or contact of any kind. I do think some men make mistakes and they learn and fix it. But the amount who actually don't cheat is probably a low number. It's a character…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 10:43 PM
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You know, if a woman doesn't give in to the divorce you can still get his benefits. If there isn't any debt. He will want to divorce but you don't have to give it to him, if you still benefit from being married to him at that point when you're old, stay married. His new girl can't get his benefits. Also, these kinds of stories are horrible, but the way I learned to try to see it is, well at least you had him when he was nice and young! She gets him old and past his prime. Anything to make yourse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 10:37 PM
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It's messed up. Love is just love. Love will not make a man treat you well or respect you or not cheat. they do what they wanna do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 10:02 PM
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Men will build a whole life, wife kids house everything, and destroy it all. I think some people get bored as in, they set goals and achieve them and think, is this all there is? Like they've done it all, what do they work towards? Men mostly, and then they destroy the whole thing they don't want what they thought they wanted or feel trapped or are getting to old age and want something else. It's messed up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 08:52 PM
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oh yes the sob story. Everyone has a rough time in one way or another. I'm soo over people's sob stories. Especially after a certain age. Some people will take another's feelings into consideration and some won't. That has nothing to do with what sob story they have. It's your character. I learned this, these people will do what they want and use the sob story as an excuse, meanwhile they were going to do it anyway most likely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 08:07 PM
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Funny. I'm from nyc and a big part of it is the mindgames, there are beautiful girls everywhere but it's really about who can mess with whose head better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 07:18 PM
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This guy told me this just the other day like it was some big mystery. Guys will wait years to get with you and be your friend. Um that's not your friend. I've always known the only reason a guy will be friends with you is because he wants to bang you or you want to bang him, some kind of attraction. Or you grew up together or something. They don't see a girl and say gee i wanna be friends with her, let me put some effort into maintaining a friendship with that one. loll
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 07:40 PM
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Oooh yes they want to be loved unconditionally, meaning he can cheat/check out other ladies, hit you, disrespect you, and if you leave you had ulterior motives. That's why they don't want to pay for women, it's a way of showing you like him for him and just that. But then they go and date 4 other women at the same time, so you're just saving him money so he can date others. nopee
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 07:38 PM
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I worked in a spa and this beautiful fit girl came in with her boyfriend. He was also attractive but her hair was done, toned body, pretty. She was the one with the money. okay, she pays for both of them. He checks out the girls who work there though, i saw his eyes. This girl was really attractive paying for both of them and he checks out other women while he's with her? If they're gonna do it anyway, don't pay
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 07:17 PM
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Yea I'm not saying it can't be good. But usually a woman isn't initiating anal, the man pushes for it. Some men are more persuasive, or you love that guy, or he makes a better environment, bla bla... The next guy does just what you said above, but he doesn't do it in the same way. He just thinks he's entitled to it because you did it for someone else, no effort required
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 04:20 PM
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I'm the one who doesn't wanna meet him. He wants more. I've seen it's one or the other, what you said, like a waste of time never meeting, or a guy wants to meet fast and tries to push for it. He's the latter. I stopped responding when my ex and i started trying to work things out, but we hit a grey area (a girl he used to see was kinda around, ugh) so i did the site thing. Then i answered his ad by mistake lol, he went through a rough time so i felt bad but he seems manipulative in a covert way…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 04:17 PM
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They always pull the "oh you did it for your ex" card. That's pathetic. But I guess the equivalent is if you know he spent a lot of money on an ex or did a ton of things for her and then doesn't for you. That would piss me off. But they always tend to do it with sex. It's like, if it's anal or something, maybe you were with your ex for a year?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 01:53 AM
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He sees a shrink, his words. That's fine. But he was hitting me with all this talk, i felt like he was using the tools the shrink gave him and on me. Like as if I was in the chair, not analyzing my mind, but breaking down the interaction in a way that was too much for someone i don't know like that. Seemed he was manipulative in a needy type of way. I respect all out narcissism and the manipulation that goes with it more than a guy acting nice but manipulative at the same time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 09:38 PM
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Interesting. Do you really think that, the mess signified him on the inside? I know someone who has tons of things, everywhere, and says it's really hard to clean up, but i can't understand if you live alone you are only cleaning after you. The bathroom doesn't stink, and cabinets and stuff are full it's just there's so much stuff outside them too. Did he want you to clean up?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 09:29 PM
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Yea it was off this site, i answered an ad, and we had a long conversation. It was 2 years ago, and i get it, liking someone off that. But I had gone back on the site and answered a couple of ads and he happened to be on the other side of one of them! Basically he was like, why not him, if I'm going to talk to other guys? I've thought that when I liked a guy, but to ask it when I promised him nothing? It was like entitlement, nice guy entitlement. He was pushy and making me answer for things he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 09:23 PM
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He wants to f around without guilt because well he isn't a married man. And then find someone who he knows is it from the first day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 09:04 PM
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They are maybe impressed that a woman comes up to them, but that's all it is. And it's flattering. Who cares? Do you wanna flatter them? No. And yes you could be hot and all, they have to seek you out. Not the opposite. Either you look easy or too needy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 08:50 PM
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This guy emails me every so often, he likes me and we never met. He knows I am working on stuff with my ex, so he admitted guys will be your friend and wait til you break up and get in there. We know this... anyway he doesn't want marriage. Not that everyone does...but why the hell waste time trying to get with me, when in the end you don't want marriage and admitted you're not a good boyfriend? So you can waste a year or two from my time, you got what you wanted, and stuff ran its course? So se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 08:32 PM
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Yes. He could do it on his own time, these are guys who want to be caught, or don't care at all how she feels, or get off on the risk. That's why people cheat, but he's risking hurting her, he was sloppy about it. This is very blatant disregard for her feelings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 08:27 PM
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This is what I'm saying. "Liked" as in instagram or facebook. A lot of guys can't be trusted when it comes to that, these are women they know! in the end, a lot of women post hot pics because they want attention and validation. It's the way it is, don't defend against it if you know it's true. A man "liking" those pics just feeds into that, and being that that's a form of communication it's a slippery slope. These women are attainable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 08:25 PM
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I wouldn't like it. That's why I don't trust guys so active on instagram. These are real women they have access to. If they haven't talked in years, he must have actively looked for her online and was inspired to jerk off. Not okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 08:21 PM
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I don't like discussing money with a man, but everyone is so open about it nowadays. And some men do seem interested in knowing how much you have in the bank. I wasn't sure if I was being stubborn or if it was a trait of mine, it just feels uncomfortable and like, why does it matter what i have? If a guy is talking about a future with you, like marriage and kids, does it make sense for him to know what you have in the bank? My ex, we are working on things, he asks me what i have in the bank and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 03:11 AM
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naked girls on Reddit? That's a thing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 02:55 AM
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omg having this issue now unfortunately. guys never cut women off. even if he breaks up with her and doesn't initiate contact with her, if she does it they're banging. it only ever ends if a woman ends it OR if he finds someone he is really into and doesn't want to ruin it or something like that. Meaning he truly moves on at that point. as long as there's free p*%$y he's there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 02:54 AM
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anytime you have a feeling about a girl it's usually true, but if it turns out they get together after you break up, something was going on when you were together. even if it wasn't physical, they were having conversations, or even just looks. which people will act like oh so what, but they were obviously flirting in some way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 02:50 AM
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Yea his ex still loves him and now he is single and can do whatever he wants... the other one is a fbuddy and he's trying to sex the ex too. He is positioning himself in a triangle and when it blows up, oh well he's single so he's not doing wrong. in the end he gets sex from both of them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 02:49 AM
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lmao true i forgot about this generation. what a disaster for everyone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 02:18 AM
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I knew a girl who said the same thing. They get let down... like that's weird. It's mental for them then, not really about looks. They love to talk about evolution and all that, but their sperm ages as they do, it's not even as safe for them to have kids older so they need to calm down with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 02:14 AM
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I'm in my 30's and think of men in they're 20's like "he's a kid." like a teenager or like he's a college kid, they're so young. I am not attracted to guys so much younger. 30 and up is good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 02:12 AM
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I hate the ones that have a picture of him with a girl. It's stupid. They think it shows us that they're desireable men but it just shows me that he's probably banging her. That doesn't make me jealous, it makes me swipe left for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 02:06 AM
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Some men that age really do look better than some guys in their 30's. I also have a theory that that generation of men was more masculine...but anyway, something's gotta give. Can he keep up sexually? These men want someone young, but do they really have the energy and stamina?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 01:41 AM
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whoooooooa what a visual. This may have nothing to do with age, but I don't care if a guy is meaty, he could have a stomach if he's built. I like big shoulders and chest, nice arm area. I don't mean that he has to be in the gym, it's just a build some guys have whether they're thinner or chubbier. But some don't have it, really do not like narrow shoulders and no chest on a dude.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 01:39 AM
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I hate when guys have to throw in the "younger women like me" "my ex was 19, 22, 24, etc." bs. It's like to show you young women find him hot, and you should too. Or like to make you jealous. In general I don't specifically ask men if younger women like them, but somehow they volunteer it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 01:36 AM
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lol my ex/bf said why can't i be more like my mom? i guess in terms of cooking and maybe cleaning. I told him well she didn't have to work when we were little because my dad provided and paid all the bills. He said that he disagreed with, shocker. Lol. You can't play Frankenstein bitch, this isn't mix and match.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 10:43 PM
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This is a thing. My ex, we are working on possibly being back together. Well he had a girlfriend since we had broken up (been a long time) and he was always a sexual guy, wanted sex all the time but he went down. I have hair down there, and it's not his preference, he said stuff about it before but now he's really nitpicky about it. Makes me think she probably shaved or waxed... anyway, i trim down there and am less hairy there than i was when he was my bf, but he complains more. I got into a fi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 10:39 PM
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I don't understand these guys. Look, even if you are a pleaser, you like pleasing your man, you like going down on him, um they want sex more than we do, so isn't it in their best interest to make us enjoy it?? A lot of girls aren't even into giving head anyway so I'm sure he's been turned down or got the two lick before he gets hard deal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 10:33 PM
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What about these guys who feel that if you work you should contribute financially? It's one thing to not work and stay home, but if you are making money some think you should be giving some to the household.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 10:14 PM
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sounds like one of these mgtow guys who say that men don't need a lot to live on, men are simple and don't need comforts that women like. They make a lot of money to spend it on what the woman wants, so when they decide on this other lifestyle they're basically saying they make enough for them and only them, and they have a right to, but it's selfish if they also want to date or want a woman in their life. They are not entitled to women, women cost money. so he can live simply and alone, or try …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 10:16 PM
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this is all rational and makes sense, but what about when you get old? real question. that's something i think about, being with a man for a bit until he shows his bs and then leaving is all good when you don't have his kids and aren't married to him, but eventually everyone gets old. anyone think of being old and alone? This isn't a criticism, i am agreeing with what you say. It's just something that i think about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 10:09 PM
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that's the thing. seems as if most cheat, so if he's gonna cheat anyway, why struggle financially? and many are at least emotionally abusive, some physically too. When I was younger, i knew people weren't perfect, but when i thought of flaws i thought of people who nag or complain, grumpy types, annoying habits, etc. Big deal. Adults, talking about men now, have major flaws, abusive, cheating, gambling, addiction, hiding money. Depression that's disguised as anger, bringing drama home from work …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 10:05 PM
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Yes women spend frivolously according to them, but they can spend on whatever they want...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 09:53 PM
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Unless he's paying most of or all the bills. Your housework shouldn't increase but it usually does
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 09:51 PM
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They like your company, like having a girl around, may even love you, but seems like they usually know if they want to commit to you or not and will keep you around for years. Taking youth from you. It suckssss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 09:37 PM
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Yes i've heard that. Ex i'm dealing with, he says "it wasn't all bad, you're exaggerating." Yea because I was nice to him, the issue was how he was to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 09:35 PM
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Exactly.. and no one tells the other person this fact, because it's harsh so people are left thinking they were used.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 06:59 PM
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I hate how these guys want sex but they're soft or go soft. How you gonna come to the party without a hard dick? That's crude af but that's how i started thinking. You're down there and he's hard then goes soft and it's the most awkward thing. It's such a turnon when you're with a guy who is hard and you can make him cum. Sounds so simple, but it's not a given anymore. Could be porn, could be age, not sure what it really is. Some of them just don't cum, and others just don't cum but demand it so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 10:38 PM
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Which some women may even be okay with, if he was the same level of loyal, but you know they're not. They're hypocrites when it comes to thiss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 10:33 PM
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they have apps for these guys that automatically swipe right on every profile, basically so he can see every girl who swiped right on him. talk about not putting effort? because they just want to see who they can possibly bang. i mean you can't swipe left and right like everyone else and just put that minimal effort into it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 10:29 PM
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You should just blow up on him. I realize it's so therapeutic to blow up on a guy when you know you don't want anything with him. sometimes they even go back and say they're sorry to you. Whatever. just flip out on him and make him sound crazy...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 10:22 PM
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I remember seeing something on tv, a dating show, and this guy says to another guy, "you know when you think you really like a girl and then you sleep with her, and you realize you don't?" I never knew that. I always thought they just were trying to get in your pants, that was the end goal. Sometimes they do really think they are into you and then they're not. It sucks there just is no guarantee
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 10:18 PM
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oh daaaammmmmmmmnnn sad facts !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 10:15 PM
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lmaooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 10:10 PM
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Yes that's why when they say she cooks all the time and cleans all the time and makes good money it's like, wow that sounds like a ton of work. what's he doing tho...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 10:08 PM
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i don't know much about femdom but i thought the woman told the guy what to do and he submits to her???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 10:01 PM
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Yep. Why don't they say that on the news? He attacked a pregnant woman. That is the man all these riots are about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 09:59 PM
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ugh it's not just black relationships. other guys are jumping on that bandwagon now, hispanic men (depending on which country his family is from ofcourse) do this too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 09:28 PM
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true. so many girls out there do give it away for free, if it's just the sex he's after, he's thinking why does he have to put effort and go on a date? unless he is totally into the girl already. thing is, how will he know that unless he spends time with you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 09:26 PM
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I was wondering why men online are obsessed with women aging. Seems petty and bitchy, aka what they consider female behavior, to me. Men shouldn't be talking bad about women's looks or aging, it's catty af. So it's really because of their own aging and not reaching their goals. Basically, they're obsessed because of the responsibility they have as men to act like men, and when they can't live up to it, they put women down? Thing is, when you read this stuff you'll think it's the whole world, it'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 09:21 PM
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That's probably the key. If you're pretty staying at home you're not meeting anyone. Honestly, I never thought it was as much about looks as it is how extroverted you are. Outgoing girls have lots of options because they know lots of guys and tend to be bubbly and flirty. Guys don't necessarily treat someone well if they're pretty, especially nowadays. They make it a mindgame to treat pretty girls worse because it makes them feel better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 09:29 PM
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I don't know. I knew a few guys who dated a lot of pretty girls when they were younger, and then settled down with I'm sorry to say, frumpy plain women. And the guys were still nice looking, had plenty of options. Maybe these women had some more money, or traits he wanted his kids to have, or were just "easier" to deal with. Or he was able to be the prize. idk..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 09:25 PM
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It's more about being his type. It is looks based but you have to be his type. That's why there are very pretty girls who chase and wonder why he doesn't like her, she's just not his type. Guys know fast what they really like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 09:16 PM
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noticed that right away. That's offensive to his wife too. Like why is he still thinking about the ex? still some feelings there if he's even mentioning her...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 08:57 PM
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Why is he dating women who are party girl types anyway? sounds like he was trying for younger women who he shouldn't have been trying for. this guy i was talking to, he was 45, he said he was looking for a wife, he wanted kids. one time he tells me he was at a party out in long island, a college party where he was at least twice the age of everyone there, he was drinking a lot too. Um you complain you can't find a wife when you go to college parties ? Men have no problem finding someone to commi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 07:05 PM
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well the guys are probably lying. they say women lie about age, maybe in person! on dating online guys lie about age and height, women may lie about how slim they are though, but these guys lie about their age like 8 years too, not a small amount.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 06:33 PM
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Yea only the guys that actually make a ton of money might be able to date a woman way younger, and she may or may not have someone on the side her own age who can keep up with her in bed and just have good times with. They act like it's all of them and it's only very few. To be with someone that young, he has to have a ton of money, or be in a position of power, or be really goodlooking or fit, or have really good game. Some combination of those, he can't be a run of the mill 40-50 year old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 06:28 PM
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that money is not to pay his child support. that is his job to do. he was doing it, although it was hard but he can do it. don't let him manipulate you into thinking you're wrong..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 08:44 PM
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Dated someone 6 years older than me at 19 for quite a few years. it's not a huge amount but it was significant enough i could feel the age difference. girls typically like someone close in age, especially when they're younger. energy levels can be very different. idk what makes these guys think they can keep up with a young woman lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 08:40 PM
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seriously. when i was younger i wanted to know all that stuff. even if i am talking to a guy i'm not sure i like, i think i test them by mentioning a girl is pretty or has a nice body to see how he reacts. i've noticed a lot of men feel uncomfortable with that, or they put the focus back on you, unless it is a celebrity, even then they put it back on you. then you know they're trying to get with you and it's nice. but when i was younger and guys did talk about other women i allowed it, i had to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 08:35 PM
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lmaoo that's what i was thinking too. a guy in spin class? that's because there are women there who are hot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 08:30 PM
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that's a hard one. your spin instructor is a real person in real life, you have contact with her. that's why she flipped out on you. celebrities are not real people in that sense. they are fantasies, characters, unattainable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 08:26 PM
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I've seen those. they post on feminine websites geared toward women who want to do better for themselves and want to be treated nicely, they start talking about doing for men, it turns out they have sons. okay... that's great, it doesn't take away from the fact that men should be men and be the provider. women have babies, there is a built in time when they can't work, it's not golddigging. then it's like you can sense they have some pettiness toward other women, ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 08:24 PM
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They call women crazy all the time. Our age gets made fun of, if you're not married it's because you don't know how to cook and clean or something must be wrong with you (meanwhile lots of women don't do those things and there are men who accept it,) we're all victims of our hormones, etc. I thought i heard years ago they were in an open relationship btw so i'm confused but ok... women's mental health has been picked apart always. I noticed something men do now, they take the women narrative and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 08:19 PM
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Okay yea i see the difference. that makes sense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 06:10 PM
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Idk i assume it's a too much of a similarity thing? I'm latina and some of my dominican friends won't date dominican guys because they're huge players, but they only really get to see that because their related to them so they've seen it since they were kids. I have hispanic family members who wouldn't date hispanic because they feel they're too macho. I kind of understand that because not only can they be macho, but nowadays it's minus the provider aspect! what a mix. And some white girls won't…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 04:31 PM
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Yea idk... it's okay when they tell you you look pretty and you know you did something different, but for them to demand it or demand you don't wear it, i just don't know their obsession. I'm not telling my man to wear cologne or not, he might know what i like but i'm not making demands. Guys nowadays are really weird about makeup. My parents' generation, i don't remember that being a thing. If two people liked each other, he thought she was pretty, maybe they liked the red lips because it was t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 05:28 AM
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If a man can't afford to take out a woman because he's spending on his kid, he shouldn't be dating. He's not entitled to women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 09:57 PM
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Why can't they just jerk off? I know men who think of that as high school bs, that if they are in a relationship they shouldn't have to. But these men are single, so why can't they do that? Most guys I know don't believe in the masks, and i get it, the carbon dioxide thing, there's a point, but i and most women still wear them. Women are more hygienic with the handwashing, my ex/bf says i'm paranoid because he goes to work everyday with public transportation and he's fine. Okay. But still. I kno…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 09:19 PM
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I know some people keep cameras in the house if they live in a coop or apartment because they are afraid of robberies. But not the bathroom! Not usually the bedroom either, the concern is he's taping you naked. invasion of privacy. That may be illegal too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 09:08 PM
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My boss said that. This woman came in and she was in her 40's. She left and he said to another guy that she looked much younger for her age. Then he made a joke about it being due to the single life. may be truth to it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 08:48 PM
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That's the thing. Supporting a man and banging him too? It would feel wrong and unnatural. The thing i really can't understand, is women being the breadwinner and the man claiming he's an alpha who is man of the house. And she has to be housewife too. How can you be provider and housewife? and bang? these women who supposedly cheat that guys complain about? yea that's why. could totally understand that in those situations
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 08:38 PM
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Heard that a lot of guys did this. They feel if they aren't having sex or the potential of it, they just stopped talking to girls they were in the start of dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 08:30 PM
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what is with these guys who don't want to pay for a meal? You'd think you wanted expensive jewelry or crazy vacations but a meal? a man shouldn't date if he can't pay for a meal of the girl he is with. They complain about what they spend but you're not entitled to women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 08:01 PM
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oh that's so true, the desensitizing them to it. They need boundaries that show what is forbidden to be at a higher standard or else. It's sad but it seems true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 07:58 PM
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thinking the same thing. it sounds like something he may have read on one of those sites, like make her pay by the third date to show she's interested, make her invest in you. So crazy because it was on the third date that women were expected to get physical, and now men are getting that advice. Um idk what woman is going to want to do anything with a guy after he pulls that on her. And they know this. nothing makes a woman drier than going into her pocket. So i have no idea what they're even do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 07:09 PM
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Yes since when did it cost women to date? We have to buy dresses, makeup, get waxed, all done up etc which costs us a lot of money. When a women starts thinking like a man, damn dating is costing me, she's not gonna date that guy! When she thinks she could stay home and make herself something simple and cheaper, without spending lots of gas money or cab fare, and money on her dinner at a restaurant, she's not gonna date him. Men are supposed to demonstrate they can at least provide a meal throug…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 07:01 PM
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Yes.. some of them use affection and romance but don't wanna pay. They flip it on women..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 06:50 PM
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Whoaaa. They try anything to get the number. I prefer texting through the app until i feel i can trust the guy more. Plus I feel like they get your number and then stay on the site talking to other girls. Why make it easier for them? Anyway it's crazy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 06:06 PM
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Yes that's the perfect way to see your body and you with no makeup. guys swear they're slick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 05:55 PM
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It's not even just that. When men talk badly about a woman's appearance, like in a bitter way, that's bitch behavior to me. That's not masculine it's catty. How does a man put down a woman's appearance? It's so not attractive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 03:51 AM
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How old is he? I was assuming he was in his 30's and that's early for mid life crisis! If he's like this in his 30's it will get worse probably. Aging... yea men can be bad about it. When i was single dating, the guys in their 40's would talk about what creams they used and then i felt weird if i knew they had recently dated women in their 20's (i'm in my 30's). You wonder if they're comparing. One guy who i rejected kissing him, pulled out the auntie joke meanwhile he was like well into his 40'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 03:35 AM
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Yea if they like you they will probably like your friends. Definitely laziness too. This generation of men is so lazy in lots of ways. My dad's generation wasn't perfect but they worked different jobs if they couldn't make enough money, they had cars and took girls out and went out all the time. These guys are lazy and cheap, they are so lazy they go for your friends instead of meeting new girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 06:08 PM
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That's why women want "better" as these men call it. We date up. Including wanting a man who is smarter. I don't want a man who is not as smart as me or even as smart, I want him to be smarter. Otherwise how will I respect him enough to trust him and give in to him the way they really desire?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 05:49 PM
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Yea he said he's in his 40s I think, um no. He's not ugly or anything but he looks older. The way he talks about women is really gross. It's scary, because he is well spoken so these men will just follow him. They dedicate whole channels to bashing women but claim they are going their own way. You are not going your own way when so much of your emotional energy is spend talking about women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 05:47 PM
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Yea they think it's okay if you were just a fling. It's definitely not, I mean among some friend circles it might be. But guys usually wouldn't want their friends banging their ex fling either, and if they don't care women usually do. So many women out there they don't need to go for the friends
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 05:46 PM
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You are entitled to good treatment in a relationship, you don't have to earn it because he chose to be with you. Now, what needs to be earned is a certain amount of deference some guys seem to want from their girls. Some men want submission, they can't just get submission. That has to be earned. They can't pay half, get sex whenever they want, have you pick up after them and talk to you disrespectfully and expect submission.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 09:02 PM
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Why do they hit on your friends? That's the worst. There are so many women out there, why women you know? too much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 08:58 PM
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Yea at first I wasn't understanding what he was getting at, but then I was like oh haha no she doesn't. but I knew why he said it. then he said I look much younger and im like okaaayyyy. Oh and he was in his 40's, quite a few years older than me. They do that. They will be older than you and still make age jokes, which I never understood. Like what? Honestly I hate age jokes because I know when a guy is saying it he is saying it for the sole purpose of pissing you off. You're a grown man who des…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 08:54 PM
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they can't keep up with those girls though. This girl i met said she had a guy friend who was in his upper 30's and his gf was like 22 and it was her birthday. She wanted to go to Great Adventure with her friends and him for the day, okay. When they got back she wanted to go to the club and party. LOL. He was so tired. these guys can't keep up with the younger girls
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 08:49 PM
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It makes sense because it really is on the man. Women tend to want to settle down and get married. Men try to keep playing til they can't anymore, so it's not weird to find women who are older and not married because guys don't want to commit. The ones to worry about are the ones over 40 who say they really want a wife and kids, because if they really wanted that they could have had that by now. That guy just did not want to commit to anyonee
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 08:47 PM
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Okay so he's more stressed. That's not something to brag about. I don't know why this culture likes to brag about being more stressed and having to handle more stuff. And why do men have to compare themselves that way anyway? the "i do more than her" bs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 08:43 PM
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It's not like you hit 30 and wake up the next day magically looking different. The things that change have more to do with less ability to bounce back, you need your sleep more you can't do sleepless nights and partying and eating badly without it showing. Just have to take care of yourself. Handling stress too. But you don't suddenly change!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 08:41 PM
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Oh geez there's this one guy who i subscribed to because it's good to see how they think but i had to get rid of it because it pissed me off. He referred to vagina as p-sleeve and kept talking about Chad and Tyrone and how women cheat with Chad and Tyrone and do "monkey double back flips" for these other guys lmao. Meaning sex ofcourse. And the guys underneath are like "yea that's what I'm talking about" meanwhile if one chick showed them attention they'd be outta there. LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 08:37 PM
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That's bs. I've heard the whole height preference is stupid bs. Oh well it's that it's a preference. Women prefer guys at least a bit taller than they are, and most men want a girl who is shorter than he is. It works both ways. They want girls with huge boobs, you can't really control that unless you get a huge invasive surgery! A natural hourglass body, that's just genetic and you can't really control that. But it has to do with the dude's attitude. I know one short guy, nice looking and he car…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 08:33 PM
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They tend to be less bitter and creepy and twisted in the head when they're younger. I think, I'm hearing some crazy things about this next generation of 20 year old guys, but usually they are more together in the head. Something happens if they pass 40 and never really settled down but ofcourse claim they want to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 08:27 PM
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Here's the thing, they think because Sean Connery exists and aged well, that they will too. Noooooo. Most men do not age like Connery, Brad Pitt, or Rob Lowe. Or Robert Downey Jr. *swoon* the best... anyway. But because of these men they all swear they age like fine wine, they don't tho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 08:25 PM
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There are younger women who look older and older women who look young. You really can't tell anymore. That's all the guys have because you can't get time back or change your real age, so they use that when they're bitter or you won't give them ass. One guy i went on a date with tried to play me and ask if my cousin (who is younger by 10 years) calls me auntie AFTER I rejected him trying to kiss me because his tongue was like ashes and he just smoked. I never heard that auntie thing before. That'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 08:23 PM
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Exactly. Like I said he could be gruff but it was probably just peacocking like some guys do, when it came to action he showed up. A lot of men won't do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 11:10 PM
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this is absolutely horrible. My boss is an old school very masculine almost gruff type of guy, says some crazy stuff about women, but when his wife got sick he was at every appointment with her, he took care of her. He is very much in love with her. I told him a lot of men can't handle when their wives get sick, a lot of men leave, but if it's the other way around women are expected to stay and be the caretaker. It made me have a whole other level of respect for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 06:23 PM
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True!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 07:05 PM
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Is that what it is? I thought it was the submissive thing, like she allows him to be in control and defers to him..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 07:04 PM
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The thing that bothers me about this mentality is, let's say that was true. What do they care? So what if we did have it easier? Why do they need us to work just as hard and suffer just as much and sleep as little as they do? What is the competition that they suffer so much and we don't, so we need to? Why compete with women if you're such a man? That mentality is bitch mentality. You're not a real man if you want a woman to have it just as hard as you do. It's a lie tho, women suffer in very di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 06:58 PM
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They can never be alone for long. Which is unfair to all women because they bring baggage into new relationships all the time and the new girl has to deal with feelings he has for the ex. All so he can have consistent sex and companionship. If they took some responsibility for their mental health and worked on themselves, they could truly be a better boyfriend in the future
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 06:47 PM
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Oh they call it wife training tho. I thought that was a joke until a man much older told me they try to see if you're wife material, older women told me that too. On one hand it sounds traditional, and if that's the case, let him pay for everything. On the other hand it's offensive because if he loves you for you, it shouldn't matter, that stuff i always thought came in time, like after you get married you cook and clean and maybe you aren't perfect but you're doing it, and improve with time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 06:44 PM
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I used to never complain, I am annoyed when people complain a lot. Didn't ask for much either. Know what that gets you? Title of cool girl, oh she's cool nothing bothers her, and your needs don't get met. Guess what I'm not that cool, things bother me, I'm a brat. It's disrespectful when people think of you as someone who nothing bothers, because then they do whatever they want. But then when you start speaking up you're touchy. Can't win. I remember going to visit family and we were all gonna g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 06:36 PM
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Very interesting. I was a child in the 80s and 90s so another interesting thing is that the men from back then acted like real men. Even the rock stars with long hair and makeup, they carried themselves and talked like men, I never thought of them as feminine even though they had supposed hallmarks of femininity like eyeliner and nailpolish. and handled responsibilities like men. Not saying it was perfect, there was some domestic violence too that they didn't talk about. My point is that I said …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 06:20 PM
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Women gave them what they wanted and they secretly hate them for it. And we're the twisted ones???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 06:02 PM
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some of those channels were started by men who had those experiences, they went for the bitches and now they paint all women with the same brush. so I don't feel bad for them. on top of it they will say they loved that girl the most or she gave the best sex ever, crazy sex. that's what kept them hooked, so no don't feel bad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 05:32 PM
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Ugh. My bf makes comments about me being hairy. I trim but if I shave it even in the same direction as hair growth, when it grows back it hurts or I get ingrown. so I try to keep it as short as possible without shaving it. but he has to say stuff about it. I have thick hair down there, that's the way it is. He keeps his stuff maintained but for some of us there are things we can't control. I will not wax right now, maybe one day but not yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 05:29 PM
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There are women out there who stop working when they get married and the husband does the major chores, these women don't even cook much. Love to know how that happens
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 05:18 PM
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Yea like you have to take all the bad treatment or you're a bitch for wanting divorce. They say the 3 A's.... addiction, adultery and abuse or grounds for leaving and you don't need to feel bad. but these guys want you to stick it out through the "rough" times including those!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 05:16 PM
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Do you know how many times these guys looked past the good girls who weren't just good, but were pretty, young, nice personality, smart, etc. To be with the girl who had major issues? Something I discovered when I was younger was if you were wifey material guys either cheated or didn't get with you because they knew that would be it, no more fooling around, so they would get with the girls who they didn't see a future with just to hook up. But then they would fall for those same girls and then c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 05:14 PM
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Yes. Maybe thinking a woman may be looser too, after, just the selfishness of how it affects them. when the woman is the one who went through this 9 months of bloating, soreness, morning sickness, moods, whatever, and it's not over. Painful childbirth, and stuff that comes afterwards!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 07:33 PM
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ohboy. okay, most bitching in my life comes from men. Grown intimidating type men with tempers, they complain like nothing. Plus that "passion" behind it which makes it extra irritating. as for being superficial in what we want lookswise, um should we be like men who will bang anything that moves? Because that's the opposite of being choosy. Most women don't care about weight but yes height we do care about, oh well. It's a preference just like some guys like big boobs or blondes. too badd. Wome…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 07:28 PM
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If it was how it was before, if you found a good man and were able to stay home and raise them while he works and doesn't complain he has to pay for everything. It could work. But the men now are like kids themselves, basically they feel like why be with a woman unless she's making his life easier, by picking up after him, but he doesn't make her life easier with the bills and relationship bs. Plus relationships aren't perfect, you take a relationship that is having issues and add kids to the mi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 07:15 PM
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It's so crazy when men talk about the stats on divorce. It's like... why are these women divorcing?? Maybe it's because he cheated on her? That's how i grew up, if someone was getting a divorce that was always the reason. But it's like they're so entitled that you must stay even if they cheated, or else you're the reason the marriage was a failure. They've flipped the script talking about how women are slutty now and that's why they divorce, that women cheat more than men. Um... no. These are th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 07:09 PM
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If they really wanna take it old school, okay i can stay home. But he has to pay everything, discipline him and deal with his tantrums. Old school women did all the other stuff but the dads dealt with outbursts in kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 07:02 PM
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Yea, we're designed for it. But there are still complications. And women can die within weeks of childbirth due to that childbirth. What it does to your body, and what about women who don't want sex while pregnant let alone after? There are a lot of men who feel it's okay to cheat because "what do you care?" because you're not having sex with them. It's crazy. The time you need them most, and a lot of them are the most selfish. If you don't lose the weight fast enough after birth? Or you could a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 06:59 PM
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They want kids to carry their name or seed down. To show they're a real adult, to show something for themselves. But to have kids to nurture them or actually do stuff for them? At least half aren't thinking of it like that, probably more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 06:52 PM
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Not just that you're not supposed to get pregnant again for at least a year because your uterus isn't healed, it's not strong enough to carry another birth so soon. I mean women do it but usually have to be on bed rest so they don't have the baby early
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 06:04 PM
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It's ridiculous. Why can't a man jerk off? You had his baby, and he's still trying to take from you? Even blowjobs, what new mom wants to do that when she's waking with the baby taking care of the baby all the time? some men are super selfish
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 06:02 PM
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I do that sometimes. For other things too, like if i know that person just wants a reaction or likes to start. I'll act like i don't get it. But truly argumentative types who want a back and forth will say it again later or say something else if they really just want a fight or reaction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 11:38 PM
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Yea they want unconditional love. Meaning if he cheats or mistreats you you will still be there. They also like the finished product but not the time or money that goes into it. They want you to cook and clean and do everything for them, even have their kid but not marry you. It's disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 07:27 PM
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hmmm yea or acts of service. I didn't wanna be judgy but doing things for someone is a nice gesture, but if it's running all your man's errands, or doing everything for him, I mean is that really a love language or is it being taken advantage of and laziness?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 06:44 PM
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True. You're supposed to respect each other's boundaries and what you feel comfortable doing. If you aren't comfortable with it and he makes it about his desires, then what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 06:36 PM
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On the fence about this... sometimes the things you aren't supposed to do are really hot in bed. There are things I like to be called, but not in real life. But my tastes would be considered vanilla based on the stuff out there now, like what you said, they're trying to break women's boundaries down. It's porn, I would know what the trends were in porn based on my boyfriend's desires in the bedroom. When the gagging on his d til you cry thing was the trend. That's nothing compared to some of the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 06:33 PM
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I know so many people who were touched or molested from that time, and it was taboo and wrong, no one talked about it though. It seems like it was frequent. A lot of men just touched kids in those days, it seems like. The weirdest thing i hear though, from older relatives and people they know who were touched or molested, is stuff like "his wife was cold." Like it was common knowledge if a man's wife didn't satisfy his needs, he would just touch kids??? Not all the men, but a lot. It's disturbin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 07:16 PM
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Yea my bf and me are on and off and were talking about sex and ofcourse he brings up anal. I'm okay with once in awhile, like his bday or something... but not as a regular or semi-regular thing. He says he promises i will like it, but how? I know his ex didn't want it so he barely did it with her, how can you be so sure i will like it when you haven't been practicing? Also now he wants me to smoke weed with him. I don't smoke, no offense to anyone who does. He didn't used to but he does now. Tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 05:59 PM
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Yess wtf is that about?? Just leave it in and thrust. This pulling all the way out and all the way in makes a girl full of air and there's no smoothness to it. It's like these guys wanna slam you, whatever happened to smooth flowing sex? they think they're in a pornnn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 05:55 PM
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a lot of times it means something but sometimes the pet just senses something else, like I know a guy who some male pets don't like, he's very masculine and has aggressive energy even when he's not doing anything. also animals like the opposite sex, doesn't mean a boy cat won't like a guy, but that happens a lot where a girl animal prefers the male owner, or the male dog prefers the female owner. Birds are very extreme this way also
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 05:29 PM
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Oh jeez. guys who talk about another type in front of their girl, so disrespectful. they know what they're doing. any guy actively trying to make you jealous by trying to make you compete.. just, no. disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 06:25 PM
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Yess. That's what i say. If a woman isn't married by a certain age, it's understandable because men don't wanna commit. But if a man isn't married and claims he wants marriage, bs... a man determines commitment and women determine sex. It just means he never wanted to commit to anyone, a man can easily find a wife. Women can't easily find husbands. And absolutely, they wanna settle down when they aren't as attractive. some wait till almost the last minute lol. so selfish..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 06:03 PM
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But shouldn't the enjoyment come from her being everything you want? (and you know, loving her...) As opposed to trying to change her? That takes more work and a lot of these guys are lazy. But that's what I'm saying. What they say they want and actually may think they want, and what they actually want or respond favorably to, are two different things. I never tried to buy a guy, I feel spending a lot of money on a man is masculine and wasn't raised that way, but I have tried by doing basically …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 05:41 PM
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Yes that's the thing, what they say what they want or even think they want, is different from what they actually want. They respond to and stick it out with women who are a challenge and don't do everything they say they want. Starting to think they like being mentally tortured too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 07:18 PM
12

Wouldn't it have been interesting if he stayed with Amber Heard and she screwed him over like she did Johnny Depp? that would be something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 07:07 PM
5

That was crazy!! He let them have it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 07:06 PM
4

What's with these guys and investing. Like they're pros or something. Even if a guy is decent, why do they want to control the woman's money? That's so annoying. You work, you spend time making that money only for your man to come in and tell you how it will be spent? They love to make fun of women "your little makeup up money" because they feel you spend on frivolous things, who cares? You worked for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 06:49 PM
6

It's true. I worked for an accountant and asked him that question, he said inheritances aren't marital.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 06:45 PM
5

He is actually not entitled to half of it. Inheritances are off limits in marriage. If she wants to share fine but it's hers and only hers. And the fact that he would take legal actions on his wife over inheritance that was a surprise! woww These guys once there is any money look to invest invest invest even if it's not theirs. Why is a man counting his woman's money anyway? So he can look at his phone all day while the investments rise and drop?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 06:39 PM
70

They say we are the ones who complain even when they give us everything. Who are these guys who sacrifice? It's usually the other way around, you're right about wanting the housewife who gives on demand sex, plus pays half don't forget that. and don't gain weight, make sure your makeup is nice, and wear cute stuff. and talk when he wants but shut up when he wants. meanwhile they go crazy over chicks who treat them bad and blow up over nothing. how many stories have i read of guys who fell deep f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 06:28 PM
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didn't even see that, you're 25 and he's 35. You don't need to put up with that crap for someone so much older than you, you're young and can get with a younger guy with less baggage. part of the allure of an older guy is he is supposed to take care of you!! that's part of the whole attraction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 06:24 PM
20

bought a lot of expensive gifts? I admit I did the bj thing for only one out of love. draw the line at spending a lot of money on a guy tho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 06:22 PM
3

True you could say you have a funny stomach, it hurts, you have diarrhea etc. But he will try again another day, soon. My bf and I just got into this, we are on and off and there was a period of time years ago that we did that a lot, sometimes I liked it, sometimes it was neutral, but most times it hurt. We haven't done it in forever and I don't want to, he takes forever to cum in general and it has to go in just the right way or else we have to start again. The thing that pisses me off is he wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 08:07 PM
9

Funny I had a thing for cowboy romance novels, I read one and bought a bunch of them. They're sexy and romantic, you get a masculine cowboy, maybe a bad boy with a good heart and he falls for an impulsive passionate good girl. Something about those stories is so sexy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 07:56 PM
19

Yes what's wrong with romance or something softer? Women want to be wanted but it doesn't have to be a poundfest. Doesn't mean everything has to be hard grabs and slapping breasts and hard thrusting and harsh words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 07:54 PM
17

Yea they say the woman determines whether the kid is carried to term, if her body can't she will have a miscarriage, but the man determines if the child will have certain difficulties, based on the quality of his sperm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 07:46 PM
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He gets to go home and be on his ass, while she gets to go home and clean up after him, cook, then clean the counters and wash the dishes again, then shower and have to be ready for sex after all that. While he plays video games and relaxes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 07:40 PM
9

Yes. They eat so much more than we do. true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 07:21 PM
8

I'm now neurotic about the handwashing. I tell him wash his hands if he's gonna touch me, these people touch doorknobs then wanna touch you down there. No thanksss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 07:17 PM
8

Don't wanna be gross over here, but there is that all day smell on a guy. I prefer that to the pee smell. i kno that's nasty but i hate the smell of pee, just wash it in the sinkk when you're done, you kno?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 07:13 PM
29

Any guy who brags that his wife is a lawyer or nurse or whatever that makes so much, it's like who cares? That makes me think that's why he's with her. So she can "help" him with bills. These guys like their money and want free cooks/maids/look good while doing everything, up for sex whenever, always has their body nice, always in a good mood (because cleaning while wearing makeup and getting sweaty puts you in such a great mood loll) have kids and lose the weight kinda fast, and not expect marr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 07:01 PM
42

That's just freaking cheap. idc it's the most manipulative thing ever that these guys think paying for your dinner or coffee is golddigging. When i was younger i thought golddigging was specifically wanting a man for his money, buying you jewelfy and all kinds of stuff but you don't like or love him. If you like the guy ofcourse you want him to take care of you, that's not golddigging. Meanwhile they date multiple girls, if you can't afford to date don't do it. Basically women are letting them d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 06:51 PM
35

Yess in general, I used to listen to people's problems, venting etc thinking I'm helping them and being a good friend/relative. Then I realized I started feeling drained or anxious after being around certain people. On top of that, I noticed they would walk away from the interaction being calmer. So basically their anxious/worried/nervous/angry energy transferred to me!! this is real. I'm calm on my own, I think some seek me out because of this and know they will be calm after talking to me, but…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 06:45 PM
2

I'm Latina and some guys would be like "oh so you speak Spanish in bed? you say Papi?" It's like nooooo we don't all turn into some Latina caricature in the bedroom. Not that there's anything wrong with the stuff above it's just that they stereotype you and if you don't act like they think you would, you're not Latina enough. Or in your case, Asian enough if you don't do all the housework. Listen to the guy, as soon as he says that stuff to me I'm turned off, I'm me not some stereotype you saw i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 07:33 PM
6

I've had guys who were messaging, and it was nice, then the next day I wouldn't say anything til like 1 or something, and they would say good morning like I was sleeping that whole time. There was one in particular. What makes you think that just because I don't text you at 7 in the morning, or that texting you at 1 means I just woke up? Like this one who seemed sweet but he was "joking" that I wasn't working, I texted for a bit then said I had to go, so he said okay "guess you're going to take …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 07:04 PM
6

Yes! there are guys out there who care to please you, and what's sad is when you meet one its unusual. It shouldn't be unusual... it's such a turn on and it will make you want it more. So many women end up being bored with their man after awhile because he just doesn't care to please her anymore or expects her to be good to go no matter what's going on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 06:26 PM
14

very interesting. I like knowing that just being me is a turn on for the guy, lol, maybe it's my way or something about me or even something i do that comes naturally. I don't want it to be something constructed or something i work for. I think that's actually narcissistic lol but women like to feel desired.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 06:55 PM
6

Oh God the revenge thing. There were plenty of guys his age dating girls his age when he was young too. So what's with that... they were able to get girlfriends, he wasn't. Sounds like he didn't know how to treat or talk to women. These guys just feel entitled to whatever instead of just working on themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 08:59 PM
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oh boyy. idk what girls he is talking about, when I was 18 girls liked guys their own age, maybe 1-3 years older and 3 years was pushing it. I specifically was with someone 6 years older when I was 19 and there was a difference, but I was one out of my group, the rest of them liked the same age. Women are like that especially into their 20's. Does this guy care about how these girls see him tho?? When I was 18, 26 was old! 40 was ancient. Look if this guy can get an 18 year old what does he care…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 08:52 PM
9

Not sure if any of you watch "everyone loves Raymond" but that's an episode, he purposely does chores badly so the wife just does it all. he convinces his brother to mess up some invitations (first draft) so his fiancée thinks he's incompetent, but by accident they get sent out and it's a whole mess. Funny episode, but yea i'm sure guys do it for real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 07:17 PM
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That's the problem. Girls that he knew. I get that people don't wanna be fans to celebs but they prefer to be fans to "real" people they know? They are just giving attention to girls who aren't their own gf and it's an excuse. It's basically amateur soft half porn, how is it okay for a man to have pics of girls they know in their bikinis? Because that's basically what it is. Hate that. These are the same guys who talk about not feeding into women but they do that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 08:31 PM
3

Oh okay I thought it was like his thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 08:16 PM
75

That's why they say you don't go to couples counselor with an abuser. If you want to stay with your bf and he is abusive, he needs to get help. They just learn tips and skills when they go to couples counseling, and they are amazing manipulators and just polish it up more, and then manipulate the psychiatrist! And even though they are trained psychiatrists, they fall for it! It's dangerous. What does that tell you? If a trained doc can fall for it, normal people can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 08:15 PM
18

Yesss. I'm in my 30's, won't be with a man who has kids. Not dealing with baby mama drama or child support. There are plenty who haven't had kids nowadays anyway, so it's not impossible to find.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 07:43 PM
6

I like getting my ass slapped but when it's all the time it's annoying af. And what's with the slapping boobs??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 07:37 PM
8

Jumpers and track suit bottoms? like a fetish?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 07:20 PM
29

The first one. Hardd. There are plenty of men who want kids, idk how much they really want to be fathers, but they want to continue their line. Okay fine. But do it the right way, get married. I have nothing against it if both don't want to be married. But who does it benefit not to get married? Him. He can always cheat and because he never married you, it's okay. He never committed to you. That's what it really is. ofcourse he can cheat while married but there are consequences. they want no con…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 06:32 PM
1

Exactly. it's never up to the guy to cut ties it's always the girl. I mean if a guy is that type, some guys when they're done they're done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 05:16 PM
12

lmao yes it's like the tall handsome smooth black man. These guys are so obsessed with Chad and Tyrone I think they want them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 05:14 PM
5

A lot of women look the same in the 30's as they do in their 20's, as long as you maintain your weight. Some gain weight in the right places too. Some it's just their genes, men can't tell how old you are. It's mental. If they know you are a certain age, they'll use it against u. But if they never even knew you and just met you and you lowball them, it wouldn't make a difference. That's why I'm all for women lying about age. Because you'll have these older unattractive dudes who think because yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 01:58 AM
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omg!! Chad and Tyrone... they talk so much about how they don't need women but have a whole movement dedicated to that. If you really didn't want or need women, you would be talking about your hobbies that keep you so busy. But everyday they talk about how she's a thot because she wants a tall guy who pays for dates, that if she wants a walk in the park or picnic that isn't real life, that if she's over a certain age she must give head like a pro. this is not by far the majority of men, that's w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 01:37 AM
3

Ugh i hate this. Because it's clear women are the ones who cut a guy off when they aren't together. He may not talk to his ex and then you'll be with him for a year and she pops up, most guys won't draw the line and say "we can't speak anymore I am in a relationship and i love her and don't want to mess it up."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 09:22 PM
6

Manipulative and controlling would be you expecting him to stop even if you weren't together. Or that he must stay with you no matter what. HE is being manipulative and controlling by saying that. You are entitled to leave him if he can't respect your feelings. He is not entitled to you staying and putting up with the behavior that hurts you. At this point he doesn't have a leg to stand on, he wants you to not break up with him. He can't be negotiating terms of your relationship (ie keeping you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 09:17 PM
6

What i say, is it's inappropriate behavior if you're in a relationship. I've been pulled into the debate of it, i'm not interested in definitions or technicalities. I've heard "it's not like you caught me sleeping with her." Not "it's not like I slept with her." They all of a sudden talk like they're in court. You need to just tell them this isn't court, you are not a lawyer, this isn't debate team, etc. A lot of guys try to play lawyer with the "you have no proof." nopee. don't care. You will n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 09:08 PM
7

saying he's the best and he's amazing was enough for him to think you like him. you can't compliment guys who you have no interest in, they will think more of it. it's just how it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 07:59 PM
9

I actually think Brad Pitt looks pretty good. He's one of the few though. These guys swear they age like him or George Clooney or something. No. Most men don't. My fave is Robert Downey Jr. though.... i think he's the best looking one and aged the best out of all of them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 07:09 PM
12

Like someone who is mentally a child is using a man for money. She doesn't know anything about life yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 06:14 PM
22

The worst is "in some states 16 is legal" argument. Seriously? 16 is a child in the head. idc if it's legal when guys use that it's like he's justifying... or "they used to do that all the time in the old days." "in other countries when the girl is 14 bla bla bla." so what??? they also do horrible things in other countries...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 06:12 PM
6

Hmm sounds like he wants a virgin now that he's older and bored of the scene. Convenient, he's bored of sex because he's done so much of it, so now he's Christian not believing in premarital sex. If it's genuine, so be it and I feel bad for saying the following, but my opinion is the only thing that "excites" him now is a virgin and he's old and that's the only way he'll get one. Also he spent his prime chasing all types of women and now that his options are lower he's "changed." These guys who …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 05:37 PM
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Yea it seems like, from some guys I've met, it seems that it actually takes work and energy on their part, its not natural. like "i don't wanna have to be protective to her." What do you mean? doesn't it come naturally when you care about a girl? They look at it as effort, such a weird concept when you grow up another way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 05:28 PM
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This is something I had to learn out there, my family does what they say. The men do what they say and have no problem fixing or getting things repaired etc. out in the world not everyone is like that. I also had this idea that all men were protective and wanted to take care of you, because biologically that is within men. But if the guy doesn't grow up that way, never had a sister or cousin to watch out for, sorry but if his mom was "too" strong and didn't need anyone, that's what he expects fr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 06:38 PM
25

Is that that middle eastern guy, not sure. There's this guy "Roosh" you can look him up, he's from early 2000's and on with the pua stuff. He even said all this banging around, lots of different women, he's ruined because supposedly women don't excite him anymore. All this learning the game and trying to get women hurt him in the end. These men were guys who got rejected by hot women (because their standards were through the roof) and then became bitter about it, and want to make all women pay. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 06:19 PM
6

They probably lie about their age. I've heard guys say they see a girl's pic and then meet her and she's chubbier than advertised, but men lie about height and age. Or else those are some hard 38's. not believing it though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 01:48 AM
6

Never thought of that, where would u find that information?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 01:00 AM
7

Maybe. Could be. In my experience older men in their 40's on instagram were just using it to look at pics of girls and dm them, shouldn't be doing that in a relationship. If they're single with instagram looking to get into a relationship, they should delete it but many of them don't. It's inappropriate and disrespectful to their girl/wife. And we know what most people use it for, besides work purposes, women on this thread have said it! guys are not contacting makeup artists because they like t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 12:52 AM
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I wouldn't make fun of those things on guys either, they can't control them but that's not even why. It's mean. Not a mean person... don't really understand why people can be mean and I know that sounds innocent or naïve but yea, that's not ok
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 12:48 AM
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Beautiful hair. And yes it's true what she's saying..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 12:47 AM
5

wow. yea these supposedly racist guys... they may not date that girl but it turns them on even more because they don't think they should be with them, like a taboo thing. guys are sick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 07:07 PM
9

I'm with you on this. I just signed up for reddit recently, I don't have facebook or anything, certainly not Instagram. I think it's a bs excuse to look at other women and talk to them. Here's the thing, I'm in my 30's and I feel that if guys my age and older, men in their 40's, have Instagram, it's pathetic. Men in their 40's should not have Instagram, that's for young people. I understand 24 year old men having it, because younger women post, but what is a 43 year old doing on it? YOU ARE NOT …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 07:01 PM
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Exactly. I hate when men say things like some of these teenage girls look older, like a 16 or 17 year old girl who looks like a woman, that guy would want to get with her too... i hate that because then the guy says these girls know what they're doing. You know, to excuse older males. Um no... they are kids in the head. You don't magically wake up at 18 suddenly an adult in the head, if you ever hear them talk, idc if they've been with guys, they are still children mentally. They are with guys t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 07:12 PM
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You know and that's the fear. I was talking with some other women about what if society crumbled? Not a good time for women because you would see what most men really thought, they'd take who and what they want and there would be no consequences. What would most men really do if they could?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 07:04 PM
8

Omg this is horrible. First of all he's a creep they are young, teens are kids in the head. Second of all he goes from saying they are pretty to wanting to smash them in the head??? What the hell does one have to do with the other? That's the sickest part. Say it was a woman of appropriate age, that's his mentality, pretty is equal to wanting to harm them. This is a sick man and I wonder how many men really think like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 06:50 PM
2

gains. lol. Yea guys who go to the gym all the time... if he works from home or has a flexible schedule it's cool but anything that takes that much time or so structured, it's hard for them to be flexible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 05:59 PM
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Yes I don't trust the super nice guy who may be compensating for where he lacks. You have to listen to them talk, if they sound bitter against women, that's the guy who once he loses weight, makes more money, cleans up better...etc... he'll be playing girls just like the other guys. I trust a guy who has been with quite a few women more because they are used to it. The other one isn't used to girls throwing themselves at them. My ex/bf has a coworker who lost a lot of weight and now he's in the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 05:50 PM
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Thank you! Never go dutch. I will not make life easier for you so you can take out multiple girls, that's how i think. These men want lots of women, and talk about how men have been doing it for ages. Yea.. the rule is you can have as many women as you can support and pay for. That goes for kings also. So if you wanna be a real player, you need to pay for all your women. Who is going to share a man ANDD pay?? please
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 11:46 PM
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I would just make a few more anyway, they can get eaten later. I try to make more whenever i cook, more pasta, more whatever if i can because if no one eats it now they will later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 11:35 PM
8

My ex would tell me to sleep over all the time, he wants me to live with him etc, but he got on my case about the toilet paper (i had my period...) it's like he wants me with him, but complains about stuff like that. Or just general hygiene habits, i go to wash up before bed and he complains like what are you doing then sighs because of it, like can i do what i gotta do before bed? but yea he mentioned the toilet paper and paper towels, i used a bunch to clean his sink because it was gross with …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 11:32 PM
14

Patti Stanger that millionaire matchmaker said divorced guys are a best kept secret because they commit. I hung out with this guy in his mid 40's who was never married but wanted a wife like tomorrow. What the hell was he doing all this time? He wanted a family and everything!! And he had his own business, apartment, car, etc. Not bad looking, all I know is women decide if or when we have sex, but men are the gatekeepers to relationships, so I know why you will find older women who were never ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 11:25 PM
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When you're in a relationship it's hard to be immersed in other things, relationships take a lot of energy and time. Even if you aren't with him all the time there is emotional and mental energy, worry, stress, all those things take away from what you could be doing, the same way if you're focused on other things they can take away from your relationship. the hope is to do it all but in reality you can't give a hundred percent to everything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 06:54 PM
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That's just cheap. A guy who makes just enough of his food, i think is a thing of doing less work, but it's also a thing of being cheap. there are a lot of guys out there who are cheap in ways you wouldn't think of. Counting up toilet paper and paper towels you use, i understand that stuff costs money, but if you're staying at his house... and he insists you stay with him... there are a lot of men out there who will scold you about how much soap you use, shaving cream, etc. F that commie bs. Can…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 06:29 PM
19

Yes that one too! They will turn down a girl they are attracted to for revenge against another girl... who it doesn't effect anyway... just to feel better about himself and his ego
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 12:42 AM
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This whole initiating thing, not just with sex but with meeting guys... they say it's good to approach them and ask them out. no it's just an ego boost. if a guy really likes you he will approach you. the other way around flatters them, but where does that get you? ooh big deal you flattered a guy and come away feeling shitty. rejection hurts more for women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 09:52 PM
41

Yea dominant is an attitude, how they carry themselves, how they feel, etc. I don't understand how they expect to dominate when they don't pay, don't lead, don't want to protect..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 09:49 PM
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It's different. Because women will meet men who they want to marry, most women want to marry. So if a woman doesn't marry by a certain age it could be because she was in an abusive relationship or the guy just wouldn't commit. If a guy doesn't marry it was his choice. Women hold the key to sex and men hold the key to commitment. Generalizing ofcourse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 08:13 PM
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I've heard that, men only get married because they want children. It's not always true ofcourse, but it's common
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 08:11 PM
12

Yes that's the real test, if they have never been in a long term relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 08:10 PM
3

Italian men are goodlooking. German too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 08:05 PM
4

Yea I get that men are visual. But she seems to have effected him emotionally if he can't stop thinking about her, even though she had a horrible personality. Maybe he needs to not date for awhile to get over her? These guys jump from one to the next, they can't be alone, bringing in the ghosts of relationships past. Not fair to the next girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 08:01 PM
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I didn't like how he kept digging into her past, she was uncomfortable. I don't know the culture in the Phillippines, it's possible that asking a girl about her past is offensive much more than here? Also she's a single mom who works all day, doing things from scratch, her and her sister don't have much money. Where would she have time to hook up with lots of men like what he seemed to be trying to find out about her? He does seem a bit demanding. And he cheated on his first wife they said in th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 07:27 PM
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Wow I felt this. Little girls born in the 80's too. Especially in certain ethnicities, boys were allowed to behave in certain ways. Some of those boys grew up and educated themselves on how to be better though. Others... they try to find a woman to enable those tantrum tendencies they had their whole lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 01:49 AM
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