Seriously. Stfu.

2020-05-03T08:42:35+00:00

We are expected to be perfect, but the standard for perfect changes constantly.

circescircus · 2020-05-03T09:49:13+00:00

You literally can't win. There is no route to be validated as a human being or as a woman. Nothing you are, do or say is correct, good enough or even acceptable. This level of psychotic misogyny is a bizarre mix of conservative/old misogyny and progressive misogyny/pornsickness. Like a combo of ISIS, Ted Bundy, woke BDSMers and rapist pedophile stepfathers.

Women tend to be agreeable, but being this overtly misogynistic is not even in the interest of patriarchy. You have to be somewhat intelligent and nuanced with psychological manipulation and gaslighting. But the dating culture is all about men pushing and pushing women, seeing how far they can go, how many boundaries they can break down. This is just not sustainable. There will be very real social and economic consequences. Society will start having serious discussions about this when it's too late, and I believe it already is.

seraphinelysion · 2020-05-03T14:32:58+00:00

This stops being a problem when you stop living your life the way everyone else around you expects you to live and and you instead ignore those fuckers and just live life the way you want to.

Sewud · 2020-05-03T13:46:25+00:00

Also get shamed for whom they decide to have kids with. This guy wanted me to have his kid in 10 years. I was like "no because I want to have my kids younger than that and not with you". He kept telling me to compromise to do what he wanted. He was old, poor, cheap, emotionally unstable, not someone I wanted to date, definitely not someone I wanted kids with. But he was pressuring me to change my plans for the privilege of being with him. I kept being like "why? there's literally nothing in it for me, it's just you wanting something from me and trying to pressure me into giving it to you, I repeatedly tell you I don't want to date you, why are you still talking?".

infinitymouse · 2020-05-03T10:43:42+00:00

I keep making the mistake of objecting to the double standard of the whole “n-count” bullshit (mistake because they’re never gonna hear logic) and the inevitable response is “women just don’t want to be held accountable for their actions.” Held accountable? I’m sorry exactly which part of “I had some sex in the past” is a crime?

axl3ros3 · 2020-05-03T19:01:58+00:00

STOP SAYING YOU CANT WIN. THAT IS INTERNALIZATION OF MISOGYNISTIC PATRIARCHAL IDEALS.

The actual "win" is not giving a f*ck and focusing on yourself and being the best you can be despite this contradictory bs.

citrus_sugar · 2020-05-03T16:50:25+00:00

Lesbian here. If I had the choice of being straight I wouldn't; women are not easier to date but I feel like my relationships are way more satisfying.

And if I'm already being shamed for being gay and the sex I have it better be fucking amazing.

asoww · 2020-05-03T09:18:57+00:00

Yeah, its impressively oppressive.

biwinny · 2020-05-03T13:14:02+00:00

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MundaneGuava · 2020-05-03T16:22:07+00:00

Let them fuck themselves!

lolwtfnodude · 2020-05-04T05:44:26+00:00

No matter what you do, you're gonna get shamed.

alluringiv · 2020-05-03T17:57:57+00:00

Like seriously fuck off dick havers

smittydoodle · 2020-05-03T18:21:32+00:00

I feel shame for how many guys I've had sex with during my 20s... ugh. It's definitely more than 10.

septemberfinestt · 2020-05-04T07:34:25+00:00

I actually stopped caring about society expectations and I’m much happier

Dont_Settle_for_Less · 2020-05-04T10:24:30+00:00

This is why I don't care about the noise anymore. I will live my life based on my core values and surround myself with people who respect those values.

Title	Seriously. Stfu.
Author	TheOGJammies
Upvotes	1722
Comments	47
Date	May 3, 2020 8:38 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/gcn8u9/seriously_stfu/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/seriously-stfu.692442 https://theredarchive.com/post/692442

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