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1

It’s amazing the variety of things they try blame women for
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 04:03 AM
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No you don’t need to spell it out. That’s a waste of your time. He will just try to justify and defend himself and he won’t change anyway
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 07:01 PM
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All people could benefit from therapy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 09:06 AM
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Mental health. All adults should enter therapy especially if having a romantic, intimate relationship is a priority for them. You cannot become a good partner if you aren’t managing your mental health
/r/askFDS26/07/20 10:49 PM
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I also believe that if you want to be healthier and look better because it's healthy, Correction: being healthy might be considered to “look better” but looks actually have nothing to do with health. I was looking my best when I had anorexia nervosa, and I was very much unhealthy, physically and mentally. My aunt has an has scars all over her skin from a childhood disease, and she’s now completely healthy but her “looks” are not magazine perfect. It doesn’t matter though, she is thankful to be a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 10:42 PM
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You also want a nicer body because you’re conditioned to revile, hate, disparage and treat poorly any person who shows physical deviation from porn version of what a woman is supposed to look like I’ve got news: you aren’t supposed to look like anything but yourself exactly as you exist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 07:35 PM
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I’m so sorry, those are actual monsters
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 07:30 PM
13

How pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 07:28 PM
4

Yes she is monstrous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 07:28 PM
5

She’s a piece of shit, a terrible mother, and an irreconcilable pickme. Her poor daughter will suffer immensely from such a poor excuse for a parent. I pity her daughter so much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 07:27 PM
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A diamond is prized for its hardness, no matter who will touch it, a diamond will retain its shape longer than any other stone. That’s the reason diamonds are so highly praised, along with their rarity, and of course the artificially enhanced scarcity brought on by corporate greed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 07:23 PM
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Go to therapy, and make efforts to improve and maintain healthy mental wellness, each and every day. Also maintain a healthy sleep cycle, regularly put energy and focus on self care, hygiene, and most critically, your living space.
/r/askFDS26/07/20 07:21 PM
2

Wow I hope you blocked and deleted him from your life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 07:18 PM
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He’s a piece of trash, complete waste of oxygen. Nothing he says matters in any way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 07:17 PM
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I agree with most of what you’ve posted here. It’s true. Women need to wake up and understand how much of each hour of their lives is influenced by patriarchy, and this is especially important when it comes to dating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 07:16 PM
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What’s a masculine role? This seems coded for anti-woman bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 06:52 PM
60

Never share your intentions with a man. I’m not sure if that’s in the handbook but it’s a common piece of advice around here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 06:37 PM
29

Exactly what is his question or issue? “I’m fucking a woman I don’t really care about” is that seriously what he’s talking about
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 04:36 AM
1

Apparently 6 of the children were with his first wife, and the 7th is now born of grimes I don’t believe in “potential,” I was just responding to another comment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 03:41 AM
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Chemistry isnt “just the feeling of familiarity.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 03:38 AM
16

Awesome! What a great guy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 09:36 AM
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I’ve been using this site for many years and it has always been toxic for women. I had hoped they would take measures to have better moderation and guidelines to protect women and minorities, but it’s still severely inadequate. I don’t use Reddit anymore except for this sub
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 09:35 AM
3

This is so great
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 09:33 AM
21

If you’re exclusive, you’re his girlfriend. If he doesn’t call you his girlfriend but expects exclusivity, then he’s just a your boyfriend who treats you like shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 09:31 AM
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he has potential, Darling, he’s a trust fund baby who was kicked out of PayPal, paid for the great ideas of Tesla and masqueraded it as his own, regularly has Twitter tantrums, is in his 50s, has two ex wives and 6 kids with 3 different women There is no potential. What you see is what you get
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 09:25 AM
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This is incredibly insightful actually, this is really what a lot of guys think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 09:57 PM
5

I had the exact same experience. It’s just sad to read now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 09:42 AM
3

Holy shit that is vile
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 09:07 AM
5

They know how to feel for the esophagus with their hand in a fist around a woman’s neck but can’t find the clitoris or make her cum
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 09:07 AM
3

What the fuck is he even talking about
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 08:35 AM
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That’s so true, and then wanting attention is just another way of saying they want you focused on them, not your own ideas
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 08:22 AM
2

They are far more similar than they are different
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 08:06 PM
2

Eww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 10:48 PM
11

Just cut to the chase and let go now, it will be ok
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 10:38 PM
12

This is perfection
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 10:37 PM
4

I’ve heard a lot about what BDSM is “supposed” to be and as far as I can tell it is never actually that in real life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 10:36 PM
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Is all of BDSM just men receiving attention, labour, and sexual gratification from women?? Yes you are correct
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 10:35 PM
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This man is an abuser, I guarantee it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 05:26 PM
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“Works for us” Um it works for him, sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 05:19 PM
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The poor baby, this is sick...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 08:47 AM
3

Bueno
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 08:44 AM
4

He’s already blaming HER for “shrinking his clothes” and she’s asking if SHE would be an asshole for telling him the truth? I don’t know ladies, I am starting to lose hope for humanity with this one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 08:44 AM
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They have been raised to feel entitled to our labor It’s part of why married men are happier and live longer than unmarried men, whereas the opposite is true for women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 11:39 PM
2

Wow he isn’t even embarrassed but he should be
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 11:36 PM
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I always remember the quote “some of you women are willing to do a lot to have a husband” Why
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 09:47 PM
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And even when grown children are around to help, it’s usually the daughter not the son lol... sometimes his wife
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 05:19 PM
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Joel is the definition of a weak man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 04:20 PM
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It’s misogyny. They think women and anything associated with being a woman is lesser, is bad, is worthy of scorn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 04:18 PM
5

Get him the fuck out, girl. I would do everything in my power to make sure he is inconvenienced and uncomfortable in my home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 04:13 PM
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Wow reddit hates women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 04:12 PM
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It’s a status symbol for them. Having access to a pornstar body is like getting to drive a race car, in that they’re both toys men want to play with and then discard when bored
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 03:37 PM
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Apparently he’s military so yeah, probably
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 03:34 PM
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Well that sub is mostly fiction anyway lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 03:32 PM
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What is there to entertain? It’s not even worth a second thought. He’s scum. Imagine you are that girlfriend he kept abandoning to flirt with a hot lady at a pool party
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 09:28 AM
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This scrote has absolutely no idea what he is talking about
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 08:15 AM
7

FDS is nothing like T R P
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 08:11 AM
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Try being 80, husband is useless or long gone, and your kids can’t care for you anyway so you need to pay for full time care but your money went to the kids and keeping up an expensive marriage or divorce... That’s the norm for most elderly women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 05:47 PM
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I told him he was just HOLDING UP A MIRROR TO HIMSELF. Every complaint about them was just total nonsense. Bingo. You nailed it. Good for you! I’m so proud of you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 04:42 PM
2

Cellulite is considered a secondary sex characteristic for women. Almost all adult women have cellulite as a product of undergoing puberty and growth into adulthood
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 04:40 PM
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Husbands like this are disgusting. I had to distance myself from a friend who did this when she married an insecure LVM. It was sad to lose her but I could not keep quiet and condone a marriage that I think ruined her life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 03:11 PM
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It doesn’t work. Those men don’t see women as people
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 02:56 PM
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Most people who hear it think it’s fiction...it’s not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 01:54 PM
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What needs to be fixed? She’s a normal human woman, there is nothing that needs fixing. These photos were chosen because they were the most unflattering angles and poses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 08:41 PM
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What the fuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 07:10 PM
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I really just need advice on how to either move on or how to talk with him , please help. Move on. Never talk to him again. I’m not joking. I know that dropping him is probably the easiest solution but it’s so hard because my heart does not want that. Actually your heart does want that, really and truly. Your heart knows he’s not right for you, and that is why you feel so bad about it. Your immediate insecurities, codepency, and need for validation are the things telling you to keep pining after…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 07:04 PM
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Too right! And then most of them are too pornsick to even perform sexually or can’t even pleasure a female partner
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 06:41 PM
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Having expectations or boundaries isn’t “cool” or “trendy” apparently
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 06:36 PM
75

It’s seriously puzzling exactly what they think they have to offer a woman or girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 06:36 PM
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“Nothing of positive value” Haha that is the true meaning
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 06:35 PM
13

Just like all the young women and girls posting to r/ roastme It’s so extremely sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 05:48 PM
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And then those women are PROUD to be a slave, and insult women who are single or who don’t want to be slaves...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 04:23 PM
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Have you read the FDS handbook?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 04:13 PM
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Read “breaking mom,” “just no mil,” “dead bedrooms,” “am I the asshole,” or any relationship advice sub if you want a reminder why low value men aren’t even worth considering
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 04:10 PM
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You need to communicate with him how this made you feel... JUST KIDDING dump the motherfucker already
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 04:09 PM
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For 80-90% of these men, exactly WHAT do they bring to the table? Seriously what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 04:08 PM
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I remember this. She is such a pathetic pickme. These men won’t get away with behaving like a useless fucking child if the women in their life hold them accountable. She even had the fucking audacity to say “I had to choose to be a mom” like no, working moms are moms, and you chose to end your business and put 13 employees’ livelihoods at stake so you could be a mother to your husband as well you PMAB
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 03:53 PM
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“It’s all I have” then you need therapy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 07:01 AM
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Men know this and it’s why the stupid “men go their own way” subreddit is nothing but talking about women lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 05:22 AM
1

Divorce is amazing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 05:01 AM
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It’s the most common cause of death for pregnant women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 03:34 AM
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Murder is the #1 cause of death for pregnant women of all demographics, and 7x higher for pregnant black women vs pregnant white women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 03:34 AM
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“Respect yourself enough to walk away” That title is everything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 09:43 PM
9

He also just rephrases tweets and posts that already went viral
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 09:42 PM
6

That’s a great strategy, I’m going to try that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 09:41 PM
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The spark is very important, if you’re not excited to be with someone why date them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 09:01 PM
5

I doubt very much he’s magically a great partner now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 08:58 PM
3

A man wanting to control how you look and being possessive of your body is one of the hallmark signs of abuse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 08:12 PM
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It still remains true that the vast majority of both men and women prefer a partner close to their own age. And I honestly have a hard time believing the idea that most men desire the youngest women in their early 20s as anything other than fantasy, because women are a status symbol for men so stating they desire a young women is like saying they dream about a Ferrari - that might be an imaginary ideal, but it’s not what the average guy is going to be able to get and they know that. Even the men…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 03:43 PM
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Silence is always more hurtful than anything you could say. It drives them up the fucking wall. Just ignore and start proving through your actions that he isn’t worth the time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 11:20 AM
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Yeah I’m bi and I find it disgusting that men think it will make me want to join in on their objectification of women together
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 05:52 PM
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I think realistically 7-10 years is my limit. Any more than that and they’re in another generation essentially and I’m not interested in a cross-generational relationship. Either I wouldn’t be able to respect a man who dates someone that much younger, or there would be a huge gulf between our life stages and experience that it will cause conflict in the relationship. I am still focused on ideally people close to my age
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 05:45 AM
3

That’s exceedingly rude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 04:20 AM
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LVM don’t think like normal empathetic and decent people. Yes exactly. They are counting on women to maintain social norms like kindness and respect, and take advantage of it while all along those concepts don’t guide their own behavior at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 07:19 PM
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Yeah my ex was clearly not invested in our relationship and would be extremely rude and cruel if I tried to talk to him about it, so I broke up with him. The only thing that really bothered me about the break up was the question of why he didn’t break up with me first if he didn’t really want to date me? And I realized that I was extrapolating my own reasoning and behavior onto him. If I didn’t want to be with someone I would break up, but for him, it was good enough for now and he couldn’t be i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 07:06 PM
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He is a blood-sucking leech, a complete LVM. You are so much better off without him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 06:54 PM
4

Flatter your body type, have luxurious textures, wear things that make you comfortable and feel confident. With those tips in mind you can’t lose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 06:42 PM
9

Lol yep where is the lie
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 04:12 PM
12

They just want women to agree with them and to not rely on them for help with anything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 05:40 AM
18

She would be as admired as Tyler Durden
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 05:39 AM
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This isn’t an exaggeration, this is exactly how they behave when you reject them or state your standards. They act like you threw knives into their chest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 05:37 AM
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Men think because they find women attractive that women owe them attention and sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 06:29 PM
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That’s so pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 05:31 PM
2

Camgirls are porn producers in the sex work industry but it is disingenuous that these libfems keep comparing camgirls to other forms of sex work where their physical body is the product for sale.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 01:31 PM
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I just meant I highly doubt that person is legitimately a sex worker, I think they’re making it up. Any sex worker would be able to understand that groping and disrespect happen whether it’s their personal experience or not
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 01:10 PM
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What the fuck is up with that picture? The energy drink cans? Are you serious? I’m surprised there isn’t cheetoh dust and porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 12:54 PM
3

That is a fake comment if I ever saw one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 12:51 PM
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If that were really all that mattered she wouldn’t be commenting out of petty jealousy that women complain about their proposals. She is steeped in resentment and it shows. You can tell by the way she explodes when someone calls her out on it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 06:45 PM
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I silently put up with it all because even though it drove me insane i know exactly where it's coming from This is incorrect, you don’t know exactly where this is coming from. This isn’t just like an eating disorder. This isn’t your bulimia. This isn’t your experience at all. And being silent in the face of cruelty isn’t going to help him. He is being abusive. I’m not joking - his behavior to you is emotionally abusive. Whatever he is going through doesn’t justify being an asshole. Did you ever …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 06:42 PM
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Lol after she just TOLD US her situation. How very sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 05:28 PM
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Oh wow, she sounds like a pickme and proud of it. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 05:27 PM
23

Never send “nudes”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 05:26 PM
37

He refused? Oh fuck no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 04:23 PM
5

I’m the only one who has a license This, on top of everything else, just kills me. This man is a leech not a partner
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 06:57 PM
3

I love her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 06:40 PM
7

Also to them, women are status symbols. The younger and hotter the woman, the more of a status he will gain by assocation with her. It’s part of why dudes who think they’re hot shit will say things like “I date models” or “I only bang 10’s” because this is the same as bragging about “I drive a Lamborghini” or “my watch is a Rolex” To these men, women are possessions and toys. They want to use youth and beauty of their “toys” to brag to other men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 06:37 PM
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Oh my god did the mods remove the “R” you posted so that it wouldn’t show “less porn” anymore?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 06:29 PM
23

Never forget - almost half of all men over 40 have erectile dysfunction, and that’s just the ones who were willing to self-report
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 06:05 PM
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I’ve seen how the women in my life and growing up were stifled and miserable in their marriages. I know that marriage and kids isn’t a magic bean that will lead to happily ever after, or fulfillment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 06:03 PM
9

I feel this so hard. Especially when seeing girls who are so mean to themselves about looks, and then they become mean to others about looks too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 05:59 PM
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He doesn’t like actual women. He likes fictional women and those air brushed on screen. Not real people. Let’s hope no woman ever has the misfortune to date such a person
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 05:56 PM
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Got em lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 06:43 AM
24

They’ve successfully got women scared of growing older - older! When it is just the natural progression of being alive!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 06:42 AM
7

Hahaha brilliant
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 08:04 PM
5

Yes I feel the same way about my cheating ex, I’m ashamed I ever spoke to him...but you are FREE now! That’s the important part
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 06:41 PM
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You’re awesome, that’s the right move
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 04:37 PM
20

If we vet men harshly and refuse most of them, and the worst thing they do is call us stuck up, it’s an absolute win
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 04:35 PM
7

KickHimOut2020
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 04:33 PM
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So many women are proud to be a servant. No thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 04:23 PM
6

You are so much better off without him in your life. He’s scum
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 04:05 PM
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It’s not worth your time. Frankly there are a surprising number of reasonable comments saying things like that’s not a gendered issue that’s just a communication issue, some men really do have a hard time accepting criticism or tough conversations, etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 11:07 AM
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Oh that fucking thread. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 11:01 AM
6

Yeah this is my experience as well. The socially awkward and ugly guys were always the worst and filled with resentment and hate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 05:56 PM
17

If this is actually real and he’s honestly dating a 21 year old as a 40-something with 3 kids in a bitter divorce where he’s trying to use humiliation as a weapon against the mother of his children, he is a serious loser
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 10:44 AM
15

No one cares what you want, Chad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 06:27 AM
117

I don’t know if there’s a term for this, but there should be: when he gets mad and resentful that a woman isnt his “manic pixie dream girl” but instead is a real human woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 05:30 AM
12

Whoa I love this I never knew this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 05:26 AM
3

Wow what an asshole, good riddance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 05:23 AM
9

Because she wants to get picked! Here’s hoping the male approval arrives in real life that she so desperately craves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 05:22 PM
2

Yes it’s completely pickme, the definition of a pickme
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 05:21 PM
9

Thank you I needed this reminder. I knew it at one point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 05:19 PM
12

You are FAR more valuable than any company or intellectual property, you deserve to protect yourself at least as well as they do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 05:14 PM
-31

The idea that men care more about each other than they do women or their own families? No, I don’t think so. Homosocial relationships sure, but not the misogynistic aspect
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 07:04 AM
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I’m not sure it’s “well” explored but there are examples where the topic has come up in research and literature It needs to be more prevalent because frankly it’s not part of common knowledge
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 06:59 AM
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They feel embarrassed or defensive. They know what they’re doing is wrong and they’re counting on you to play it cool and not make a scene
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 04:52 AM
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I’m really hoping they actually don’t have a date and he’s making it up, since he seems so full of shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 04:32 AM
5

Good for you. Glad u threw them away. That’s sick on her part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 03:46 AM
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“Must have your own car. Preferably a minivan” Why so I can cart around your kids for you, but I’m not allowed to have kids of my own? Who has a minivan who doesn’t have kids? This guy has some serious gall to think he has a right to demand that whole list
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 03:40 AM
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I told her about this guy I cut off recently who kept making degrading sexual comments to me and she told me that that's just in men's "biology" and that men are opportunists and will keep trying and that's how they are and that I was kind of asking for it. This is actually dangerous and toxic, you need to get away from anyone who talks like this. These are the pick-me’s that choose to cover up child abuse and blame the victim if their husband or father get caught. These are the pick-me’s that m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 02:40 AM
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This is an idea I’ve seen more and more, the fact that men have vastly more respect and attention to their homosocial friendships than their wives or female partners. Men love and value other men more, and their opinions are the only ones that matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 02:30 AM
7

Ok thanks for the explanation, he is still a feckless ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 02:23 AM
21

What a bitter jerk with no joy in his heart
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 01:02 AM
54

“I just can’t condone this behavior” you mean the behavior you made up based on nothing? What the fuck? And anyway what does that mean “keep that behavior seeking arrangement where it belongs” Just go fuck yourself, get off dating sites, and buy a real doll
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 12:59 AM
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If I ever have children it will be alone. Better to have kids to raise than do all that AND have some asshole not helping and making my life harder and then publicly posting a video that’s mocking me when i get mad about it Nah, don’t need that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 12:07 AM
1

Exactly, I don’t see how that logic is supposed to make sense lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 08:31 PM
24

They think “unattractive” is the worst thing a woman can be
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 04:40 PM
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These men hate their wives, literally hate them. What kind of sick person is so callous and cruel that they can’t empathize about the well being and safety of their partner and mother of their children? They consider them decorative ornaments in their lives and do not love them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 04:37 PM
99

Can women just have their bodies as they naturally exist please
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 03:37 PM
8

It’s really not about how good you look, because your value doesn’t come from your looks. It really doesn’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 02:27 PM
43

Lol yeah my ex did too and I told him that was the epitome of gaslighting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 01:57 PM
68

Catcalling is typically an aggressive action meant to show dominance and power, usually to impress other men, and degrade/frighten women so much that they no longer feel comfortable being present in public life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 10:17 AM
9

Is this real? I’ve seen stories like this on reddit a few times and I have to say it seems like an epic troll meme, that men out there think cleaning or wiping their own ass is “too gay” ...like really?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 10:15 AM
19

That sub is full of LVM opinions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 10:11 AM
279

“You sound violent” what? Projection much?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 10:09 AM
8

Oh god I didn’t realize she actually layed in it... omg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 04:51 PM
3

Thanks for this. I am going through a tough breakup and this is exactly the reminder I needed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 04:31 PM
12

And as such, you will never attract a man more than when he can't have you yet, no quality about you will attract him more than that. So true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 04:29 PM
14

This is a major part of the effect of habitual porn addiction
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 04:28 PM
2

Dump him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 04:28 PM
19

Here’s a badass quote from Katherine from right after this picture was taken: Everyone was cursing, most loudly Arnie, the mild-mannered sweetheart, who proclaimed he was going to Kill That Jock Semple Who Should Know Better Being a Runner Himself! Tom really looked as if steam was coming out of his ears; he was still in full bombastic mode, and each curse of his was accompanied by another jab or a challenging look over his shoulder. John looked bewildered. I felt puke-ish, afraid that we’d seri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 04:03 PM
7

Her boyfriend was a douche
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 03:58 PM
11

Read her story about the marathon in the link below. Her boyfriend at the time, Tom, is a complete LVM https://kathrineswitzer.com/1967-boston-marathon-the-real-story/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 03:58 PM
22

Her bf got mad at her for it later? What a loser
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 03:52 PM
33

Who is the emotionally fragile sex again? It is men it’s always been men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 03:46 PM
11

This woman is a hero
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 03:46 PM
5

This is a sad story
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 02:55 AM
5

They simply don’t know what they are talking about
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 02:52 AM
93

Remember dick is abundant and low value
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 02:52 AM
1

No no no back away ... never in my life would I even consider a man who sleeps in a nest rather than a bed out of choice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 09:50 PM
3

One important point is that although the average lifespan was significantly younger than today, it’s also presenting the average or aggregate findings, which included a vastly higher rate of infant and child mortality which brought the averages down lower. In some case in the distant past, particularly for privileged members of society, humans lived to ages a bit closer to what we experience now but of course in a much smaller representation of the population
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 09:37 PM
4

It might be in the same info you saw, but it's believed that the reason women go through menopause is because of the info above. She loses her fertility in order to put thar energy into keeping the family alive. Yes, I’ve read that is one theory for why women go through menopause at the life stage we do which is comparatively earlier than other mammals, but from what I understand it’s presently just one of many theories about menopause or similar experiences
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 09:35 PM
2

Haha too perfect
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 09:33 PM
54

Older women have always been powerful but ignored by larger society. Archaeologists have found that the bulk of calories to sustain early human groups came from those foods collected by women, particularly grandmothers, who also helped their own children raise grandchildren and take care of community needs. It flips the narrative of the dependence on a hunting based society and largely male leadership
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 11:22 AM
9

I’m in love
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 07:52 AM
6

This is great thanks for sharing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 03:45 AM
4

Cheers to this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 02:51 AM
15

It is so fucking pervasive and stupid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 02:49 AM
41

“Nice for what”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 02:47 AM
14

Where are these people learning manners? Aren’t they ashamed to make their dates put up with the lowest common denominator? Don’t that take pride in being hospitable and gracious? I’m sure they’ve never even heard of the words hospitality or gracious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 12:33 AM
3

I’m so very sorry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 08:22 PM
109

Imagine how dumb you have to be to think service industry staff are flirting with you...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 08:21 PM
3

“No. Absolutely not. Shut it down.” — Liz Lemon “That’s a dealbreaker, ladies” — Liz Lemon
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 07:49 PM
4

The title alone makes me want to vomit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 07:54 PM
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He was also super creepy and a complete asshole when she changed her mind...it’s a dating show, it’s not tinder, you know there are other men she might choose, get a hold of yourself man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 07:19 PM
33

Women are treated worse than dogs more at 11
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 07:18 PM
19

That’s a dubious and unsubstantiated claim. The stats show that men are 7 times more likely to leave a sick wife, than the other way around. Wouldn’t life insurance for women affect this? Why wouldn’t it be more equitable? Both men and women usually have their spouse as a beneficiary so I can’t see why it would make women stay more often than men with a sick spouse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 07:09 AM
9

Yeah they were honestly really bad especially when grouped together. I hope she gets out soon
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 06:38 AM
25

I love Anna Faris and was sad when they divorced but now it seems it was a good thing for her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 06:30 AM
15

Yeah I was blown away the first time I learned about the term “trauma bonding.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 06:10 AM
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He finally had me in tears and was yelling at me. Finally, everything calmed down and he said all the right words. He even seemed genuine. He said, “I don’t want you to say it’s okay, because it’s not. You’re right. I should have stopped.” I felt better about the interaction, but overall very uneasy. This sounds like “trauma bonding” and is a classic part of a manipulative or abusive dynamic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 06:03 AM
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I’m so sorry to hear this. Sadly I’m not surprised in the least. I wasn’t raised Mormon, but I was raised in a fundamentalist environment and that kind of treatment was the norm for women in my family’s church. I hate the splitting in our society of either conservative misogyny or liberal. Same wings on the woman hating bird. This is a fantastic statement, well said
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 05:40 AM
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They’re some of the worst because they have the idea of “god” justifying their abuse and oppression of women... “men of faith” are some of the biggest threats to women and children
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 05:31 AM
4

Good for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 04:31 AM
5

I was also brainwashed from childhood to believe that being a housewife to a “nice” Christian man would be the best possible outcome for my life. I am so extremely grateful for the strong feminist women in my childhood who planted the seeds that would grow into awareness and understanding. Being a housewife is my worst nightmare, and I was brought up to believe that any woman who didn’t want that (like me) was bad, sinful, and destined for hell. I’m so glad that I learned that wasn’t true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 04:29 AM
5

A happy housewife would imply consent and choice. Which they are all too excited to remove and eliminate from women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 04:24 AM
2

DUMP HIM NOW. Do not pass go, do not collect 200 dollars. Dump him yesterday
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 04:11 AM
2

Nice job
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 04:02 AM
28

“$20 for a meal is too much investment” go fuck yourself for real
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 03:50 AM
349

Never forget the “traditional” or “religious” type which really is just code for raging misogynist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 03:46 AM
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Erectile disfunction, balding hair, bloated gut, energy decline, lack of emotional awareness, self absorption, entitled attitude...these are the traits that describe older low value men. Never forget, at any age, dick is abundant and low value
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 03:34 AM
14

It’s not damaging him. Please shut up. Sex is not a need for living. And going without it is not a hardship. This narrative has to be dismantled
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 10:46 PM
6

DUMP HIM Like yesterday
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 05:40 PM
14

Low value men will use any reason to blame “a broken heart” for their problems...they’ll blame a broken heart for their porn use, they’ll even blame a broken heart for murdering the girl they broke up with...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 05:38 PM
1

The NVM and LVM will take, and take, and take, and never give back half what you put in. Imagine if she skipped all that and focused on herself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 04:23 PM
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He’s 19. He didn’t “just get out of a 3 year relationship” he had a childhood sweetheart. Sigh, but who among us wasn’t a pushover at 18? Very few. It’s common to make mistakes I hope she wakes up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 04:19 PM
14

It’s gross and made me really uncomfortable when I was at my first wedding experiences as a kid. I remember thinking “what is wrong with these adults? If you don’t want to do this, go home.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 04:16 PM
3

That’s awesome
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 04:15 PM
10

Have fun! No worries, darling. It sounds badass and comfortable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 04:14 PM
17

Bigger penises do feel better. It’s just true. For most women, but not all. They don’t like you to be honest about that though, they prefer you to lie and coddle their feelings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 04:13 PM
14

Lol “I’m winning the staring contest” lol sure you are buddy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 04:12 PM
40

And 40% of men over 40 have erectile dysfunction...and sperm after 35 is too old to donate...and women consistently choose mates near their own age despite a handful of cases of rich men...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 04:11 PM
23

Meanwhile rape subs are still up, and men on reddit complain every day that women have the right to vote. Okay Benjamin Basanovic, maybe try to gain some perspective, yeah?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 04:08 PM
2

She’s probably a pickme. As if there isn’t enough content in the world where men discuss boob sizes? Go to askmen if the issue is so very pressing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 10:00 AM
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Seeing that question on the front page of reddit is a micro aggression as a woman. The main subs on this site are just pure trash, filled with complete knobheads. They’re pornsick losers who think of women in terms of fuckable holes and body parts to jack off to. The men of Reddit are some lowlifes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 09:59 AM
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No, and go fuck yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 08:31 AM
44

Oh my fucking god this is what girls dream about? Marriage seems like such a scam
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 10:49 PM
3

Oh I’m so sorry to hear that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 09:59 PM
43

It was the newest season that came out this year, about the DJ
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 08:06 PM
153

They made him apologize to his mom on camera! I loved it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 08:05 PM
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“Straight men don’t give a single fuck about how women feel” Nailed it. There was one episode where Tan asked a fireman what he did to look special or nice when he goes on dates with his wife and the man said “nothing” and it seemed like the first time he had ever thought of that concept in his life. I feel so much pity for his wife
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 08:05 PM
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"I went up to her and told her she had a creative and artistic vibe. Are you an artist? She said yeah and I got confused because I wasn't expecting that. Dear god how can someone be so stupid but survive this long?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 08:02 PM
20

Beautiful, accurate, fantastic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 08:00 PM
15

“Not go public” how fucking insulting. You can publicly kiss my ass, scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 07:47 PM
10

Cringetopia is also filled with racists, misogynists and altright idiots
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 07:06 PM
28

Oh you got a little downvote fairy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 05:41 PM
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Every time I see someone compare this sub to incels, and think of how incels actually advocate violent rape and some have murdered people in real life, I have to laugh that they think this is anywhere NEAR that kind of rhetoric. I’ve said it before and I will say it again: the worst thing this sub advocates is ignoring low value men. That’s it. No threats, no violence, nothing. Leave them alone because we don’t want them in our life. It’s not toxic and it’s not cultish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 05:40 PM
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Lol what a loser. He blurred his own photo, he’s married and on Tinder? What a pathetic waste of oxygen. I pity any pickme who actually talks to him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 05:20 PM
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No. Never stay with a pro-life man. All that means is he thinks a woman’s body doesn’t belong to her. Imagine what else this affects.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 04:49 PM
5

If you said you don’t like those jokes, and asked him to stop, and he keeps making them anyway, that’s very disrespectful even if he says he’s just joking. It’s ok to ask him or tell him to stop those jokes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 04:45 AM
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Omg thank you I love this it speaks to me so much This is me right now and struggling with the shame I feel for letting a man treat me poorly or just not walking away at the first red flag “I can’t forgive myself for taking that treatment” “Regret is paying too much attention to decisions you made when you were still learning” https://www.instagram.com/p/B8eq3sdpN4I/?igshid=1odt6ela41wcj
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 03:37 AM
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I love this. I’m a believer in ghosting, sometimes, but also sometimes these things need to be taken to task. For our own sake, not theirs. “No one has ever spoken to me that way” good you asshole. Proud of you OP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 02:23 AM
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Spot on, they really do love and adore men more than any woman. It’s a shame they can’t just date each other and leave women alone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 12:04 AM
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Most guys don’t know that lol they think they stay “virile” forever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 10:29 PM
21

The comments talk about how guys age well and still look like Sean Connery... uh no bald spot and tummy bulge, you do not age well at all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 10:28 PM
41

It’s not odd AT ALL that they turned into full nazis. Red Pill ideology has a lot of overlap with the fascist, white supremacist patriarchy that the nazis promoted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 08:35 PM
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Red pillers want to make as many women suffer as they can, and suffer as much as possible. If it’s not a girl to rape, it’s their wife to abuse, or the mother of their children to degrade and humiliate. They want any woman they know to suffer because they deserve it just for being women, and it makes them feel like big powerful men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 08:34 PM
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Oh my fucking god, that thread is full of guys that do not get it at all. A few voices of reason but mostly trash. Women really should boycott straight men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 08:31 PM
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You’re right, they really don’t get it. They think being a “nice guy” with a pulse makes them worthy of our time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 07:19 PM
2

Love those responses, just sheer perfection
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 07:18 PM
37

A partner who can’t listen and discuss your fears and feelings is a bad partner. I think he knows this deep down and realizes he’s being a bad partner, and in his guilt, says it’s your failt and that you’re “calling him a piece of shit.” That behavior seems like classic projection, to me. He’s projecting his feelings of guilt about being a poor partner onto you so that you’re now the bad guy and it’s your fault. You should break up with him, go to therapy and focus on doing what’s right for your…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 06:33 PM
30

“I’m not sure there really is such a thing as ‘love’ “ Wow what an intellectual
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 05:12 PM
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Omg I hate hearing about this from friends, and yes, it’s 90% of men incapable of accomplishing grocery shopping. my friend has to take pictures, print out copies and arrange them in a map matching the layout of the store in order for her husband to get around half the shit she puts on the list. She was telling me about it and laughing but was really embarrassed about it. TELL ME AGAIN HOW MEN ARE SUCH VISUAL BEINGS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 05:02 PM
23

If I smelled their unwiped excrement wafting up from their asshole when I was attempting to give them oral sex, I would never go on a date with them again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 04:26 AM
3

It’s still legal in 48 states with parental consent of the child (usually a girl)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 04:18 AM
2

Child marriage is still not illegal in 48 states in 2020, because they still allow it with “parental consent.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 04:17 AM
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It’s not islamophobic to condemn and try to prevent child marriage or pedophilia. I can’t believe this statement is controversial
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 04:16 AM
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Some things are not acceptable, even with cultural relativism, such as pedophilia and child marriage. No matter the culture or context, it is never ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 04:15 AM
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That’s a great book, I have read it, and I need to read it again. The shame I feel is in ever speaking even once to my abusive ex, and not leaving at the first red flag. It eats me up inside that I didn’t run sooner
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 02:14 AM
1

Yep
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 01:29 AM
3

Yes it is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 01:29 AM
2

Oh I’m sure they’re heartbroken lol scrote very clever plot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 01:22 AM
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The last time I saw him he called me unphotogenic, that my body was bad (Im a size 6) and that his ex was the best at sex because she was not a virgin like me and was more and i quote "experienced". Baby, even if you were a size 18, you still wouldn’t deserve that kind of language or disrespect
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 12:45 AM
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I have so much shame and guilt about even accepting that situation to begin with, it’s hard to move on and let go of those feelings
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 12:44 AM
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“Oh you didn’t explicitly say you didn’t like the kink for me to press cigarette burns into the roof of your mouth, so that means I can do it.” That’s the kind of polluted, rotten logic this jackass is working with
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 12:38 AM
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There is nothing harsh about what you did or said, at all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 11:59 PM
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Brilliant, it’s so true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 11:32 PM
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This is top shelf pickme. “You didn’t say you didn’t like being choked” nope, no, that’s not how this works. Even the types who promote kink communities agree that you cannot take an action unless there is consent and permission FIRST. All normal people understand you can’t choke someone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 06:52 PM
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Do not use children as weapons to hurt your ex, even if he cheated. It is abusive toward the children more than anything else
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 07:05 AM
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That’s so cool! I hope you post after reading it about the things you found interesting or helpful, or even unhelpful, about it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 08:33 PM
7

Love this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 08:32 PM
5

It took me soooooooo long to learn this. Being with a bad partner drains you. You can’t just ignore the bad stuff and thing it won’t affect your life. Being alone is almost always the better choice, depending on whether it’s feasible or not
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 05:01 AM
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FYI the “got damn” was likely intentional
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 06:44 AM
23

He isn’t changed just give it time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 06:17 AM
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Love her love the energy love the message
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 06:12 AM
10

I think the execution is fine. We all know we might not get through to someone through talking to them, but it’s not always about them. You spoke your mind and that’s fine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 07:32 PM
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Omg if that were me I would have been absolutely mortified and refused to talk to this boy ever again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 06:20 PM
1

Wow. The Greys Anatomy quote as a chest tattoo. Wow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 06:19 PM
20

So many women are proud so be a servant to a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 06:08 PM
8

This story sounds just like the rapist Barney from the TV show “How I met your mother”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 09:34 PM
11

Plus so many of them treat beautiful women WORSE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 09:33 PM
4

This is disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 09:10 PM
5

He's worse than being absent, worse than not being there at all. What a waste of space.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 09:04 PM
2

This. is. sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 09:02 PM
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A lot of posts are fabricated or exaggerated on reddit. I find it extremely odd for a woman to post whether to consider dating a man who found their contact info without their consent after blocking him. That behavior is not appropriate and downright scary. It is surprising to me this is real. I guess I’ve learned my lesson, it isn’t so surprising on Reddit anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 06:49 AM
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Right it’s probably a good thing that most of them aren’t having sex because no one should be subjected to that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 06:42 AM
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They often want to see themselves as believers in equality, but at the end of the day they expect a servant not a partner...they’re just embarrassed to say it out loud
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 06:40 AM
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You should want your partner to like themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 04:59 AM
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Pro-choice is the only acceptable answer. Because anyone can choose not to have an abortion, but trying to prevent other people from access to abortion is inhumane and unacceptable. Pro-choice does not mean pro-abortion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 12:41 AM
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Men are not more visual. It’s just an excuse to sexually objectify women. If they’re more visual, why do they have a hard time differentiating similar shades of color? If they’re more visual, why can’t they see mess and filth in a home and clean it to the same standard as women? If they’re more visual, why can’t they put a fashionable outfit together? If they’re more visual, why can’t they see the systemic discrimination against women in all sectors?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 11:48 PM
11

This description defines the women of my moms generation. Proudly suffering for the sake of being married, because the worst fate imaginable is to be single, even in the face of domestic abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 09:43 PM
33

This sub DOES NOT promote abuse. Incels and Red pill PROMOTE ABUSE. This isn’t a confusing concept.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 09:37 PM
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Because they don’t love strong women, they love the idea of strong women and they love to think of themselves as an ally to women. Really though, they hate women who behave as autonomous people with their own values and interests.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 07:49 PM
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A lot of things they say are actually code for “I hate strong women”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 07:47 PM
5

“Niche sights” “life is too sure” “its about having fun” We got a scholar over here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 06:38 AM
17

What the FUCK He is TAKING ADVANTAGE of her goodness and generosity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 04:42 AM
23

He didn’t just forget your birthday, he broke his word because he already said he would send you things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 11:57 PM
56

“You paid $13 for my dinner, now I should risk pregnancy and disease by letting you use my body as a toy for sport” How about fuck no
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 09:59 PM
7

Off dating for good? Wonderful! Women across the world rejoice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 09:12 PM
31

So glad he’s an ex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 09:08 PM
32

Most men expect this kind of emotional labor from women and never even think of returning the favor Put this on repeat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 09:08 PM
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I’m really worried about you. If this post is real, it has some MAJOR red flags. You need to stop dating and start working on your confidence. Why would make a post about a guy who stalked you online to find your WhatsApp after you blocked him? That’s extremely inappropriate behavior from him, and a sign that he may be a danger to you. Stop dating. Get off online dating websites. Start working on gaining confidence and independence and explore why you put up with poor behavior from men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 07:43 PM
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Marriage has trapped most women in unhappiness and bad relationships. Getting married does offer some protections regarding property and child custody, that’s true. Sadly it doesn’t offer guarantees regarding the sharing of resources, or commitment or fidelity. Still, if marriage is important to you, NEVER put up with a man or partner who isn’t going to share marriage as a goal. Never put up with dangling commitment. I’m personally against marriage but I know most people grew up thinking it’s a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 07:35 PM
6

Pick-me’s are women who can’t fathom that it could be better, they can’t imagine that they deserve better. They try to make themselves satisfied with the bullshit they believe is acceptable, like men who think women exist to serve men, and get mad at any woman who reminds them maybe there’s a better way. It’s jealousy, it’s hurt and anger, it’s sadness and disappointment, and it all comes out as lashing out at women instead of the low value men and pick-mes who perpetuate this bs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 07:21 PM
56

He doesn’t care about her dreams, her desires, her future. What a selfish prick. Do her a favor and dump her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 09:55 AM
1

What are you talking about? There is slapstick style comedy all over the world. And The Office isn’t really a slapstick comedy although it did have some elements of that. What?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 10:15 PM
7

Just get a sex doll from Japan and leave human women alone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 12:14 PM
8

Yes you're acknowledging low value traits, now what are you going to do about it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 11:56 AM
10

Nope he’s trash You’re sooooo much better off without that draining the life from you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 01:47 PM
7

He’s not a catch at all Block and move on, forget everything he ever said to you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 12:40 PM
2

This is an excellent summary
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 12:36 PM
3

I think they genuinely just are too selfish to take the time to build solid relationships. It’s very sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 12:35 PM
1

Breaking up is the better choice and saves the $10 anyway lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 12:34 PM
10

His words and thoughts are worth less than nothing, what a douche
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 12:33 PM
21

I’m sorry, I just don’t understand the situation depicted, can someone kindly explain perhaps?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 12:10 PM
24

Let’s stick a dildo aaalllll the way down his throat and esophagus to the point where his body instinctually convulses and wretches in an attempt to expel the foreign object and make him hold it there for several minutes. Then he can feel free to comment about the experience
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 11:43 AM
16

Wtf I never knew about that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 07:25 PM
25

Good for you for dumping him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 07:47 PM
19

I’m so sorry you had to go through that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 06:36 PM
19

Second cancellation means no. That’s not acceptable especially if you’ve never met. First impressions are important and he just blew it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 03:35 PM
138

Men who dislike women aren’t anyone’s type
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 03:17 PM
10

Fuck that guy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 03:33 AM
13

He wants you pay to take yourself out?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 02:10 AM
3

Sounds like you have a growth mindset and are learning healthy boundaries which is wonderful! The longer you spend time realizing that the past doesn’t define you, the easier it will become to let go of guilt and resentment. Self-love is the foundation for true change and fulfillment and it will help you forgive yourself and not be held back by previous mistakes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 10:30 PM
11

Yes she is a victim
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 10:27 PM
3

You need to let it go and put it in the past. It’s over, you can’t change it. If there’s something you don’t like about your past behavior, change (your behavior) and don’t repeat that behavior again. You can accept that you made mistakes, and you can accept that you wouldn’t do the same thing again if you had a choice. That’s growth and it’s part of growing up. Growing up doesn’t stop at 18. All the adults you admire have made mistakes and overcome them, and not let it define them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 08:24 PM
10

“The Gift of Fear” “Why does he do that?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 08:21 PM
36

Men like that will treat a woman like shit especially if she’s super model attractive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 08:17 PM
23

They rape women in their custody and claim it was consensual even when the women try to prosecute And it’s LEGAL for them to have sex with people in their custody in some places
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 08:12 PM
19

I want to say “who are these women that put up with this?” But then I remember all the pick-me bullshit I used to do. Fuck this. Not ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 07:05 PM
22

Holy shit that’s unbelievable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 06:38 PM
41

Whoa that’s nightmare fuel 23 with a 7 year old? She got taken for a ride
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 06:37 PM
29

Omg really? What losers! I wonder what they could possibly have to say other than “I’m a drain on society”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 06:33 PM
3

Wow what a fucking asshole
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 06:32 PM
29

When will I get "thanked" for not raping a person, for not pissing on the floor, for not neglecting my kids, and not being unemployed, and not neglecting housework? LEVEL UP Answer: Never, because i am a woman and the bar for me is somewhere around Jupiter and beyond the infinite. Leveling up....we STOP thanking men for doing basic adult tasks. And call out the pickmes that do it. This is pure poetry. I love it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 07:37 AM
4

Whoa that’s tragic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 05:26 AM
37

Then break up with him!!!!!! This isn’t rocket science!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:57 AM
6

You often can’t argue with that. It’s beyond logic and reasoning. It’s not rational. They will justify their toxic behavior and thoughts by any means necessary, which often lead victims to think THEY THEMSELVES must be the crazy one. It’s textbook gaslighting among other things. Experts on abusive relationships often caution against going to therapy with an abuser, because they will find ways to use it as ammunition for their abuse or their internal, (delusional) justification for their bad beha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:41 AM
12

It seems like she’s in extreme denial. A part of her knows it’s true deep down but she’s too afraid to let herself acknowledge it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:00 AM
11

If you’re having a hard time evaluating what is and isn’t healthy boundaries or arguments, I really hope you might consider going to therapy. And also being single - I know it’s not what you want to hear, and people say that all the time, but being single can help us reevaluate what healthy behavior is and what our boundaries should be. Is what he says too far to come back from? No one on Reddit can know. But it’s often a little voice telling you something isn’t right, and you need to listen to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 03:56 AM
6

You were abused by him. He abused you. It’s not your fault. He may never ever admit or acknowledge what he did to you. Emotional abuse is real. People like that often paint themselves the only victim in their own mind. I hope you find comfort and peace
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 03:51 AM
25

Sometimes it feels better to remember that most of AITA are made up stories and pretend this is one too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 01:33 AM
40

So many dudes would rather masturbate to porn than enjoy sex with another human being It’s very sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 01:31 AM
2

I do loudly and often
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 01:28 AM
12

You make your goals and expectations known, and if his aren’t compatible, you move on. Sooner rather than later
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 03:32 AM
5

Women aren’t products
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 06:50 AM
8

That’s what natural breasts look like, and men aren’t used to seeing it. It’s not your fault. There is nothing wrong with you. There is nothing wrong with your breasts. You’re perfect just as you are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 08:04 PM
5

People always think I’m making that up when I tell them that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 04:17 PM
5

Expecting to be emotionally validated and fulfilled by a romantic relationship is usually a recipe for disaster in all cases, for everyone. Being a healthy person means having the ability to emotionally self-regulate, and have inherent self-worth. No one can give that to you if it’s not there within you. And romantic relationships can be a wonderful experience, but they cannot make a person fulfilled entirely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 04:14 PM
3

Eewww I literally gasped in disgust when I saw the pic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 04:02 PM
6

Women don’t need to shave if they don’t want to End of story
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 03:59 PM
19

There are SO MANY fake posts on that sub r/amitheasshole
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 03:56 PM
8

What is toxic about FDS?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 03:55 PM
29

No one ever convinced anyone of anything. If somebody wants to change, they’re the only one that can do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 03:49 PM
6

We never have to justify to anyone when we do or don’t have sex. Ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 11:11 AM
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Women are choosing between a healthy life and a deadbeat. That’s the biggest takeaway from me. There are posts here that ask things like “will I ever meet a HVM?” Or “The dating pool gets smaller the higher your standards are” But the thing is, no one but a HVM is worth our time. We are better off and healthier without a LVM or NVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 06:11 PM
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Lean In was a gentle reproach about internalized misogyny, which many professional women had never recognized before Oh no, no it was absolutely not a “gentle reproach of internalized misogyny.” It placed the blame of women’s discrimination on the backs of the women, and took the responsibility away from the men doing the discriminating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 06:05 PM
25

Fuck her for real
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 06:03 PM
35

One of the most upsetting visages I’ve been unfortunate to see
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 06:02 PM
6

Mark Zuckerberg is a true villain But the pick-me-ass-b***h is Sheryl Sandberg. God, that horrible “Lean In” book is the perfect example. Sheryl Sandberg is a class traitor and a traitor to women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 06:02 PM
8

I knew that post would be referenced here lol man that OP loser is a real piece of work incel type
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 04:35 AM
1

If everyone in my life would have abandoned me during that time, I would have abosultey lost it.. But it’s not everyone in his life abandoning him. That’s hyperbolic. That isn’t helpful. The post is about this girlfriend trying to decide whether he is healthy or fit enough to be a partner and boyfriend. Everyone has the right and the responsibility to evaluate if their partner is right for them. He clearly is not fit for that. A lot of people aren’t. And you know what’s best for their mental hea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 03:17 AM
25

He said “I’m making the slave bake cookies” and she’s wondering whether or not to dump him? This girl is so, so sad and I want to say pathetic but it feels just too mean, it’s beyond sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 05:56 PM
5

No fucking way in hell. Begone scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 05:58 AM
9

Lol of fucking course he is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 03:59 PM
6

Oh Laci Green how sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 03:58 PM
2

That’s so very sad I have a feeling it’s only a matter of time before she learns
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 03:58 PM
11

I’m not trying to justify it, but I will say that’s what our culture praises women for. It’s from both men and women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 03:57 PM
12

Oh no Honey just NO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 03:56 PM
2

Interesting thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 03:54 PM
10

Put your foot down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 08:51 AM
27

Bukowski was a raging misogynist but in this one poem there is wisdom
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 08:49 AM
11

Just imagine if girls did this to their boyfriends on the regular. Just imagine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 08:45 AM
2

Is “double text” sending the same message again a while later just to make sure it went through? Because that’s some cringe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 08:41 AM
17

All this sub advocates regarding LVM is to LEAVE THEM ALONE. That's it. That's the worst thing promoted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 03:47 AM
15

You’re right of course. I just use that response as a way to put the conversation back on him, because it’s absolutely true he has no right to tell me what to do with my body either They don’t think they have any reason to expect the same treatment and they’re offended when it happens
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 10:46 PM
46

What legacy do they think they have? Legacy of being a selfish childish jerk?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 09:25 PM
11

This is the story of my first gamer boyfriend. Yes, I stupidly dated a second gamer boyfriend and it was not much better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 09:25 PM
37

As a woman who enjoys playing video games as a hobby, I endorse this post and this is absolutely true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 09:20 PM
98

MGTOW and RP actively promote abusing, raping, and manipulating women to satisfy men’s desires. They talk about and treat women as if they’re subhuman and incapable of love, and not worthy of dignity or respect. That’s the party line of those groups. No one here is advocating the same for men. They’re in a totally different ballpark
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 09:02 PM
71

If a man made comments about me being hairy, I’d ask him when is he getting his balls waxed? If not he can shut the fuck up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 06:12 PM
21

Nope. He goes into the pit. Better to be single than deal with a bottom feeder like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 06:23 PM
3

In her honest opinion, and according to the laws of nature, it takes two. Fuck that guy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 12:36 PM
7

A man raped me when i was in college. I don’t like to say “I was raped” because it’s more accurate to say “a man raped me.” It’s not a passive event, and I’m not going to use a passive verb
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 09:19 AM
6

He cheated on Sienna with their nanny. Perhaps she was a step mother. It’s a pretty widely documented scandal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 08:41 AM
12

Yeah at the VERY least, it’s not good parenting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 02:43 PM
26

Wow you are not joking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 12:48 PM
30

It's a very commonly held belief. The USA in particular has a problem with hero-worship of famous people. Even, or especially, the terrible LVM ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 12:46 PM
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He cheated on Sienna Miller with their childrens' nanny. Sienna fucking Miller! You can't get much more beautiful, talented or successful than her. Proof that women will never be enough to force a LVM to behave properly, and women need to act accordingly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 12:45 PM
29

That's not ok, you're not overreacting, it's gross and you made the right call. What kind of a 39 year old adult is obsessed with lurking IG models to the point they can't even stop? Pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 10:44 AM
66

He noticed. He knew she was passed out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 10:16 AM
1

If it's a joke, it's a terrible and misguided one at best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 09:52 AM
3

Harassment and stalking aren't a joke. Stupid pickme women and misogynists make it worse for everyone by making light of it, making it into a joke, or a compliment. It's sickening
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 09:52 AM
35

this is horrifying this is why i never send nudes these blokes can’t be trusted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 09:25 AM
9

Oh sweetie... he's using your BODY as his playground and baby machine. He uses your time and mental load to govern his house and be his maid, cook, personal assistant, social secretary, nurse, nanny, and laundry service. Can you say "internalized misogyny" or maybe just "blind to reality"???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 08:19 PM
24

I love this quote, but I tried to find out where Julia Roberts is credited with saying this and I can't find anything. Was this in an interview or something? Is there a source?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 08:08 PM
166

You will never be skinny enough, pretty enough, popular enough, or successful enough to prove that you’re good enough. Because worth is not tied to any of those things even if external validation might seem to be sometimes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 06:34 AM
73

As a veritable connoisseur of the vast spectrum of white dudes from mayo white to toothpaste white, they are not worth shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 07:56 AM
30

Thanks patriarchy!!! A thing which permeates society yet most men can’t even acknowledge as real What a world!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 08:00 PM
4

See that’s where the tools of the patriarchy kick in. Financial strain and coercion, social pressure and threats of ostracizing, political agency or currency, access to education, healthcare or other living needs... These things have been historically weaponized against women to prevent them from making their own choices for their lives, and work to stop women from being able to choose their own partner Bottom line, find a way to support yourself and never let a man or anyone threaten your finan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 07:25 PM
3

Thank you that’s so kind and it’s appreciated very much Harsh truths are acts of love too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 06:43 PM
20

Holy shit he’s a monster Breastfeeding issues are sooooo common and so many women are made to feel bad or inadequate about it This shit makes me want to bleed out of my eyeballs for having looked at it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 07:26 AM
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THIS IS MY CURRENT ISSUE Someone please slap me in the face. I’ve read through the sidebar but I need more help waking up and not remaining a pick-me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 07:14 AM
9

What about their fathers Fucking eyeroll
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 07:11 PM
14

Imagine what you would do if one of your friends was hitting on your little sibling like that. Imagine. I would hit the ROOF if they did that. What is wrong with the brother that protecting his sister isn’t a priority?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 03:54 PM
15

Sad to admit I've been a pick-me in the past and currently have found someone not willing to put the effort in. This is a good reminder not to settle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 07:27 AM
10

He's 80% terrible and his advice isn't based in reality, usually. He's gay, white, affluent, male privilege incarnate. He's actually said multiple times that straight men "have it the worst" out of anyone for sex (!!) as if the entirety of media doesn't cater to their sexual interests. He advocates women to be pick-me's, ignore their intuition, and thinks polyamorous relationships are the answer to most modern relationship problems. I could go on... But on a handful of occasions, he's given good…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 06:47 AM
28

If it were really their love language, they would be giving it too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 08:28 PM
7

That sounds very nice! Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 08:20 PM
18

This is a WINNING comment. This is an excellent summary of how to evaluate a LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 06:56 PM
10

What do you do on the days you don’t value yourself very much at all?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 06:41 PM
31

To borrow the classic catchphrase from Dan Savage, who sucks in many ways but does get it right sometimes: DTMFA (Dump the mother fucker already)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 06:37 PM
64

I will kink shame all day long if that shit is problematic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 10:06 AM
24

Adding to this: You already don’t need a man, you just have to realize it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 10:05 AM
6

Non-hormonal IUD worked for me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 10:03 AM
33

They’re cowards it’s just that simple. They don’t want to blemish their own self-image of themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 05:01 AM
10

F Scott Fitzgerald plagiarized Daisy’s diaries for dialogue and passages in “The Great Gatsby.” That’s just the example I thought of off the top of my head. This happened All. The. Time. Throughout. History.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 04:59 AM
4

Dump the motherfucker already
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 04:50 AM
2

Beautifully done ✅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 04:35 AM
1

I’ve never sent a naked pic and never will. I don’t think there’s anything shameful about it, but it’s just too risky. I will never trust another person with a photo like that and I’ll always know that if someone claims to have one of me it’s fake. Sad that even that had a risk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 04:28 AM
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It’s an act of aggression. It’s part of making public life so uncomfortable for women they no longer venture into public spaces. Some men are able to acknowledge this, but most aren’t
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 11:56 PM
28

Other men or nobody
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 11:55 PM
90

Worrying about finding a partner before you’re 30 years old is how you get stuck settling in an unhappy marriage. If marriage is more important than your happiness, by all means go for it, but know what you’re signing up for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 08:33 AM
17

It’s never enough. They don’t want women to have their own spaces
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 07:04 PM
9

Are the mods male? Most mods on reddit are men even for the so-called “women’s subs”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 07:04 PM
36

Yes that’s exactly the right question to confront the absurd notion that sex work is empowering. If it’s so empowering, the rich and influential men would do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 06:57 PM
23

They do not tell us about what it means in the mind and the heart and the spirit, when you’ve been paid to say ‘yes’ and behave ‘yes’ and perform ‘yes’, so that you are mute – and rendered mute by the very reality of the transaction that has bought your silence – but everything non-audible that makes up who you are is silently screaming ‘NO’. Bingo. Consent cannot be bought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 06:55 PM
21

For a handful of already privileged women I suspect, for whom the upward mobility was always assured regardless of whether they engaged in sex work or not
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 06:54 PM
23

Sex work is a tool of the patriarchy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 06:53 PM
82

Put this on a pillow
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 06:50 PM
11

That’s actually the opposite of the point, happiness is the source of true beauty. Radiant smiles, healthy food and sleep for skin, and lots of healthy mental attitudes and positivity and activity are the keys to real beauty The most beautiful woman I’ve met had a huge facial scar but her warmth and kind heart made her glowing, and she was infectious just attracting people to her all the time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 12:50 AM
18

That’s a bingo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 11:26 PM
8

The number of men who casually throw out “no fat chicks no dogs no one under 7/10s” is too high
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 07:12 PM
23

“This caused him to go astray” No no no. Nothing causes cheating but the cheater. Cheating is never the fault or caused by the cheated party.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 06:42 PM
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Just a friendly reminder that “the wall” is a myth but aging is ok, for both men and women. High value comes from good character and self-actualization, and that “happy girls are the prettiest” according to Audrey Hepburn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 06:40 PM
4

Ladies, never fear losing a man. Never be governed by fear. There are millions of males on planet earth. Stop overvaluing the one you have because you’re getting emotionally attached too quickly, without a serious commitment from him or anything. This is so true, and perfection summary. I don’t really dig the “feminine is passive” concept at the beginning of your comment because that’s a narrative largely written by men, and I think feminine energy is mostly about creativity, change and resilien…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 10:48 AM
1

Yep
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 10:17 AM
2

lol this makes me laugh, just have to say 32 is not old in the least
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 03:54 AM
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I completely agree with you and it sucks that you’re downvoted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 02:15 AM
20

“I’m sorry that I couldn’t be real for you anon” Jesus whoever created this is sick in the head
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 06:19 PM
23

Uh no. Take care of your own damn self. If you’re not healthy enough for a relationship, do not enter into one. That is taking advantage of someone. I highly doubt this goon would advocate loving women when they’re insecure and make bad choices, so why does he think men get a pass? Newsflash: they don’t
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 05:26 PM
4

Love her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 05:24 PM
19

Elon Musk ain’t shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 10:20 AM
10

That is very sad indeed, I feel genuine pity for them. It makes me so glad I’m a woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 08:28 AM
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Oh and the erectile dysfunction, holy shit - it affects almost half of all men over the age group 35-40, and even with the “good ones” the sex just declines from there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 03:21 AM
42

Yes it’s never as easy as people think it is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 05:47 PM
74

Getting away from an abuser is usually the only thing we need to worry about doing His actions in the future aren’t your responsibility
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 05:46 PM
52

Yeah lots of people are trained to ignore it in rape culture. We don’t have to be brainwashed like them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 04:33 PM
4

That's not even bitchy Like he's such a sad loser, that's the only lie he could go for
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 09:45 AM
3

You have nothing to be ashamed of. A number is just a number. Do you feel bad about how many handshakes you've had? Yes I know it's not exactly the same, but it is absurd to think your "count" can affect your worth in any way, just like it's absurd to think a handshake could. Your worth and value are immutable, and no sex and no man can take it from you. You are whole and complete just as you are today, no less than any day before - and you were not more whole, complete, valid, worthy, or lovabl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 09:36 AM
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It's like it's still governed by the fear of admitting men contribute to the problem. The whole quoting rape statistics like "women are raped at high rates on college campuses" instead of saying "men rape women at high rates on college campuses" as though calling it out is going to bring the whole thing crashing down, as if feminism is just predicated on a wobbly foundation of conditional male support or approval that's ready to be rescinded at any moment, so we have to tip-toe around the tangib…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 06:50 AM
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Professors with their young students think they’re so smooth and cool, but really it’s disgusting and predatory
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 10:25 PM
6

This is so perfect in every way haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 10:23 PM
3

majority of men just incapable of giving the bare minimum I don’t think they’re incapable, they’re just benefiting from the patriarchy and they’re allowed to get away with it It’s part of why most men are so invested in keeping women down and they fight against women gaining equal rights Why would they ever want to give up the privilege they enjoy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 10:16 PM
2

Dude get the fuck out of here you’re not welcome you women-hating piece of flaming male garbage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 10:03 PM
8

Brainwash and they don’t ever question it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 09:27 PM
4

Avoiding misogynistic, chauvinist women makes your life better... I guarantee it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 09:26 PM
60

I love to see depictions of happy independent older women. There’s not enough of it shown around
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 12:50 AM
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You can and will if you don’t give up! She certainly is admirable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 12:49 AM
2

Oh shit that is tough
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 12:41 AM
2

Stealing a 2 year old’s money? All of that is shit but this one really is beyond
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 12:41 AM
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We can’t always “choose the right man” though, and there are circumstances like death and disease that render them unable to help. It’s not always possible to just choose
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 12:39 AM
7

I mean the image is just listing examples of ways to show care or put effort in a relationship and it’s usually not unreasonable things that are relatively easy to achieve Maybe your list looks different
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 12:17 AM
38

A lot of them think manliness and social worth for men is tied to how cruel they can be to women, and the more women they hurt the better they are. There was a meme on here that said “some men hate women so much they hate men who don’t hate women.” Thats T RP and MG TOW in a nutshell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 06:39 PM
9

Something about “to be fair women want tall guys with big paychecks”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 06:34 PM
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Why did you type “to be fair”? What’s “fair” about your statement? What is it contextualizing? This was a meme about putting effort into a relationship. It has nothing to do with height or income. What are you even talking about?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 12:47 PM
5

It doesn’t have to be love bombing it can just be the excitement of a new relationship and the novelty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 12:29 PM
3

I guess I’ve come to the perspective that it doesn’t even matter if I meet a HVM. I want to expect the best from myself and from any intimate personal relationships I have
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 12:27 PM
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I remember growing up and watching boys laugh at things like this because they found it so funny, and I thought something was wrong with me because I would be revolted and horrified. Turns out there was nothing wrong with me. I wish I had the faith in myself back then so I could rip those laughing boys a new asshole
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 12:25 PM
14

So he says he’s a feminist, but does he do the dishes?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 12:21 PM
18

I’ve been guilty of worrying about this, but ultimately it doesn’t even matter. He didn’t do those things for you, so who cares if he does them for someone else? You deserve someone who wants to be a good partner for you, specifically, just like you want to be a good partner for your loved ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 11:10 AM
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That’s wonderful it worked out for you! I hope to one day live in a world where my choice to keep my name is as commonplace as a man keeping his own when marrying, or a woman changing hers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 08:11 PM
5

Congratulations on your doctorate!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 08:10 PM
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John Stoltenberg, “The Fetus as Penis: Men’s Self-Interest and Abortion Rights” from Refusing to be a Man: Essays on Sex and Justice Now that is one essay I am going to have to read
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 07:28 PM
1

This is LIFE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 07:24 PM
1

Yes, it’s a cult
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 07:49 AM
9

This is SO TRUE. It cannot be overstated. For all kinds of reasons, being selective in who we associate with is extremely important to our well-being and health.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:31 PM
23

Nerds typically don’t take care of themselves. They don’t typically have athletic hobbies or relationship with their bodies. They don’t put effort into having flattering clothes or stylish outfits. The reasons why must be vast, but I know at least sometimes that comes with the culture of being a “nerd” or they’re so resentful about having to put care in appearance to be treated as attractive that they just refuse to do it. There’s also the concept that they might have low self esteem or depressi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:22 PM
33

Men don’t love you, they love what you can do for them. This is the ultimate. At least for low value men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 03:32 AM
29

It’s actually 7 times more likely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 02:11 AM
11

Even if you like gaming shirts, it’s absurd to call a girl an asshole for being embarrassed by a grown man wearing them to special events. You probably understand there are social contexts where it just wouldn’t be appropriate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 11:11 PM
8

Yeah, they all think they’re studs, especially the not-attractive ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 10:14 PM
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I saw that, and holy shit what a mess. The comments call her an asshole because she doesn’t want her adult boyfriend to wear old (they call them “vintage”) game t-shirts to special events. If men have nothing else, they have the audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 02:21 PM
37

Brava!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 12:33 AM
25

It’s projection, it’s always projection. They hate yet covet the happiness of others especially independent women they find attractive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 12:33 AM
2

'I could be like other guys, and just keep following them because all my guy friends do it, but no I unfollowed them for you’ Gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 05:24 PM
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But by definition, they have a medical issue or a problem, which is different from the norm or default. If they still pursue sex despite feeling painful sensations, it’s part of their own agency to decide to do that. Pain in sex however, in a typical context outside of medical issues, indicates something abnormal is happening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 04:17 AM
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They’re insane. It’s supposed to be not painful, and a positive experience for everyone involved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 04:12 AM
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I really, really don’t agree with this and I would NEVER marry a man before I experienced living with him at least for a short period of time but I know everyone is different. Good luck out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 06:55 AM
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These poor women are brainwashed and mentally ill. That is no way to live, I feel so sorry for them it’s not even funny Edit: apparently this is possibly a man pretending to be a woman, either way it’s fucked up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 11:02 PM
1

D U M P. H I M.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 10:34 PM
3

I laughed super loud Tremendous
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 05:47 AM
17

Cue Regina George “Why are you so obsessed with me [us]?!?!?” https://giphy.com/gifs/mean-girls-regina-george-obsessed-szPZ2NXIGCMcE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 05:45 AM
7

This is a fucking crock. I swear this is financial abuse. She can’t afford to leave even if she wants to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 02:45 PM
16

If you engage with R e d p i l l types you’ve already lost
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 06:57 AM
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Steve Harvey actively hates women and thinks they’re lesser than men, but a broken clock can still show the right time twice a day
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 09:36 PM
15

23 and already such a proven piece of shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 08:29 PM
10

Wow that’s ... wow. She’s trapped with him? Have the baby and leave
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 07:53 PM
1

Yeah that’s weird
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 07:44 PM
8

Ignoring bullies doesn’t usually work though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 07:43 PM
6

Eh if they inconvenience my day I see nothing wrong with saying what I want to say and then blocking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 07:42 PM
8

No one has ever needed medical care or surgery after creating a romance novel - female porn performers sometimes do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 07:41 PM
25

Testicles should never have been a symbol for strength. Balls are soft, weak and vulnerable. Vaginas, now those are strong! Pussies should always be symbols of strength and resilience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 07:39 PM
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I can’t believe the number of women being financially abused by their husband and the father of their children. Like, WHAT is the point? What does he add to her life or his children’s lives? “We split everything down the middle and I pay for all children’s clothes, food, activities, healthcare and education and also do all cleaning and childcare, and he pays the mortgage for the house which is in his name only. HOW can I convince him to buy Christmas gifts for his extended family this year since…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 07:31 PM
5

Pornsick men don’t want sex they just want orgasms
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 11:52 PM
20

Ok well, I did google it, and now it seems you’re incorrect? The Washington Post isn’t the best source but here’s what I found. From the actress herself: “Marlon said to me: ‘Maria, don’t worry, it’s just a movie,’ but during the scene, even though what Marlon was doing wasn’t real, I was crying real tears,” she said. “I felt humiliated and to be honest, I felt a little raped, both by Marlon and by Bertolucci. After the scene, Marlon didn’t console me or apologize. Thankfully, there was just one…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 04:41 PM
6

Yes I agree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 04:36 PM
0

How do you know?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 03:44 PM
26

BDSM or just plain old rapists and rape fetishists? Is there even a difference
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 03:43 PM
58

That’s rape. It’s an industry that not only doesn’t protect against rape, it actively profits from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 03:42 PM
92

This is beyond horrifying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 07:54 AM
75

Whoa that is crazy, but I wish it were surprising! ”I didn’t mention it because my kids have nothing to do with who I am as a person” If his kids have nothing to do with who he is as a person, I want nothing to do with him. What does he think kids are? Lawn ornaments? I mean I understand that he was just lying to try and get laid, but the attempt is just so sad and despicable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 07:46 AM
7

Great post and very important point. This bears repeating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 07:05 AM
75

Thats a fantastic story
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 07:04 AM
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I think a lot of it has to do with the consumerist culture we live in. If people are ok without sex, then sex and all the anxieties around being attractive or getting approval from dating is just out the window, which means we won’t need to buy or do some of the goods and services that are being marketed. Advertising in movies, music, TV...all the media is putting out messaging and ads that seek to capture attention and make us want to buy what they’re selling. A lot of what they’re selling is t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 06:41 AM
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If he can’t look at her and see she needs help, it’s a cognitive or empathy problem, not a communication problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 01:24 AM
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Yeah he was just inconvenienced and irritated lol LOSER
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 11:37 PM
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They’re usually not intimidated, the closest thing would probably be having their ideas or lifestyle challenged or questioned by a woman. It’s more about inconvenience or irritation than intimidation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 07:48 PM
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If I invited someone over and cooked for myself and didn’t even offer for them, I would be mortified. Absolutely ashamed of myself. No, just no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 07:42 PM
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Yeah it’s very very sad to realize that someone you care for, just doesn’t really care about you. It’s heartbreaking sometimes. It’s hard to accept especially if you really love or care about him. But it’s true - look at his actions, not his words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 02:47 PM
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Block and move on, for real. If he wanted something to happen he would make it known
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 08:23 AM
3

You deserve to be happy and with a partner who values and respects you. You absolutely do!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 08:21 AM
4

You might love him, but he’s not the one for you. It’s hard to change but you know you need to do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 07:54 AM
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I can prefer Brad Pitt’s looks, but still accept my boyfriend’s looks and be respectful. I’m not resentful that he’s not Brad Pitt and I don’t make cruel remarks about expecting him to look different. That’s what a preference is. Its not a license to be mean or manipulative
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 01:13 AM
3

Wow that’s powerful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 10:52 PM
19

I love your username
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 10:50 PM
10

Yes she’s right. If he didn’t pay for the tickets, he should have split payment for something else. OR if he invited her to go on vacation, he should have paid for everything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 10:49 PM
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Yes this very true. I used to get caught in trying to ask “why,” and get him to “understand,” but it ultimately doesn’t matter why. It’s not ok to treat someone poorly, that’s the end of the story
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 10:44 PM
1

This is lovely!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 10:42 PM
30

Child abusing monsters who let their sons molest their daughter and did nothing to stop it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 10:40 PM
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He’s a disgusting abuser Don’t believe for a second he’s “changed his ways” It will be back to the same in no time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 10:39 PM
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Setting ground rules is an indication that you expect your partner to disrespect you. That’s a very good point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 10:32 PM
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Why even stay with him at that point? He’s proving that he thinks her feelings are worth less than dirt. Instead of a threesome, she should dump him and he should go fuck himself twice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 10:30 PM
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That’s so spot on https://www.covenanteyes.com/pornstats/ “The young women who talk to me on campuses about the effect of pornography on their intimate lives speak of feeling that they can never measure up, that they can never ask for what they want; and that if they do not offer what porn offers, they cannot expect to hold a guy. The young men talk about what it is like to grow up learning about sex from porn, and how it is not helpful to them in trying to figure out how to be with a real woman…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 10:27 PM
3

We are taught to second-guess ourselves. We have to stop. We are constantly subjected to doubt from others, or contradicted even if we are completely 100% correct about something - ESPECIALLY when it comes to LVM and dating. Gaslighting partners will tell you no, your instincts are off, there’s no way what you’re saying is true! And then after the break up, it all comes to light that we were right the whole damn time and they used our trust or good nature against us. Let’s just forget all that. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 06:08 PM
21

Wow, a 32 year old playing mommy for a 24 year old guy. It’s just too sad to even be funny. Anything for a tiny scrap of male approval I suppose
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 11:28 PM
8

I can count on one hand the number of men who can regularly cook, clean, do laundry and take care of their finances and chores without asking or paying a woman to help them do it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 08:38 PM
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Think about it, there is no alternative. Lowering your standards will invariably make you miserable. The choice isn’t really HVM vs being single, it’s being true to yourself no matter what life brings. Could you be happy with a LVM who treats you like crap just because he simply exists to keep you from the label “single” and that’s all? No, of course not. Life is too short for that. Don’t settle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 09:18 AM
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This made me so disgusted and angry. Men will actually kill women doing this, thinking it’s just “fun” and “kinky” Fuck your kink. Some things need to be “kink-shamed”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 09:13 AM
2

That’s probably because healthy marriages typically don’t end in divorce
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 04:05 AM
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“Obviously I would not be with her for her money as she is a poor college student” But he is with her exactly because she is a young, naive, inexperienced, poor, and powerless college student
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 03:50 AM
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Exactly what did he add to her life? I would love to know
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 03:48 AM
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I’m sure you do, and it will serve you well! Still prepare yourself because good judgement isn’t a guarantee you’re not doing it on your own. In all relationships there is the possibility for death, disease, divorce, disability, and of course the plain old disinterest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 04:03 AM
7

There’s no guarantee you won’t be raising kids alone even if you do get married, that’s the norm for most mothers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 12:05 AM
7

That’s a brilliant phrase
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 12:00 AM
38

What is desirable to most men is being a sex doll with a pulse and no opinions. No thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 11:53 PM
15

It’s ridiculous to call marriage an accomplishment. Look how many married people are miserable! What a life is that to envy? I’m with you OP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 11:52 PM
13

You will, you will!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 09:21 PM
5

Empathy is one thing but defending and supporting behavior that is lying to young girls about the dangers of engaging in sexual work? No. That behavior isn’t defensible. We can tell self-professed sex workers to stop promoting those ideas, without implying they don’t have inherent value
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 09:18 PM
5

But they’re a vocal minority, and they get all kinds of media attention because they support what patriarchy and pornsick men want. It’s toxic. They’re actively hurting other women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 09:16 PM
6

It’s unheard of to rehabilitate a rapist. Just get them off the face of the Earth so they can’t hurt anyone else
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 08:14 PM
4

“Her crying really pissed me off” What an absolute goon
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 08:05 PM
8

Isn’t that negging? Saying she’s looking for something but she doesn’t need to, as if she’s doing it wrong and he’s there to correct her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 08:11 PM
20

I can’t believe how many women are PROUD to think that women’s pain is a toy for men’s pleasure. Fuck that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 08:08 PM
3

It does according to this post
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 01:52 PM
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HVM really just means “rich man” according to this sub
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 03:19 AM
6

Most men with a sick partner leave them. Most. They just want what they can’t have and should do is all a favor and get a sex doll, leaving us all alone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 01:02 AM
5

Because they want to control you like a pet. It’s what they want the most.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 01:00 AM
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Block block block. I’m glad you feel vindicated. But this is just one more opportunity for you to waste time and energy on this turd. I’m glad you can point out how his email is wrong, but you went point by point dissecting it when you should have just thrown the whole thing away. It’s all bullshit, the entire thing. You don’t need to spend another moment thinking about him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 12:49 AM
1

You can’t compel consent under the threat of homelessness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 12:06 PM
2

Pure. Trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 05:38 PM
1

A woman cannot be attained
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 12:40 PM
11

He has to be told to be affectionate and supportive even if it won’t lead to sex? Maybe talking isn’t his problem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 12:02 PM
8

I love the movie “Bridesmaids” for having this ultimate message. ”You are the problem, Annie. And you are the solution.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 11:57 AM
15

It took me a long time to not feel bad about doing this. I would call out ex-boyfriends on their bullshit behavior, and they would be so offended I didn’t believe what they said and become very mad or sad , and in turn I would feel guilty about “being mean” and give them the benefit of the doubt, which means I was doubting myself and my judgement of them. Guess what...I was right, and I should never have doubted myself or put up with their crap. I won’t feel bad about correctly calling out low v…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 07:36 PM
137

It seems like a kind of level up strategy where marriage isn’t needed for a fulfilling life. Pickmeishas and LVM often say that women need a man, but it’s not true. We might want a man, but we don’t need them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 07:30 PM
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It just looks like the set up to a porn scenario You know, they kind that is completely manufactured and separate from real life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 04:37 AM
6

The glorious, extraordinary everyday women I’ve been blessed to know have enriched my life and the lives of everyone they know
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 04:35 AM
17

And this thinking “isn’t uncommon” Jesus
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 04:33 AM
68

I’m frightened for his wife and child
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 04:32 AM
25

What the actual fuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 04:32 AM
104

Sperm from a man older than 35 is too aged for most sperm banks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 04:26 AM
50

“At least” I mean no, not at least. He could do so, so much more, not to mention the predatory business practices of Microsoft in the 90s until now.... He’s not a good guy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 09:36 PM
26

I see it a lot on Reddit, and in this thread even Yeah the Steve Jobs sycophants are gross too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 09:35 PM
93

Bill Gates foundation was created primarily as a tax write-off for his vast fortune It is absolutely not based on altruism. Why wouldn’t he support existing orgs instead? Because he wanted the tax write-offs, and the control George Soros has a foundation that actually provides grants and financial support for existing activist and aid groups around the world. Yet that isn’t ever talked about, probably because they don’t spend as much on marketing as the Gates foundation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 08:56 PM
35

Absolutely LVM with a lot of money and influence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 08:24 PM
89

The ass-kissing of Elon and even Bill Gates is disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 08:23 PM
10

The guy on the left is very cute
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 07:52 AM
54

Some of the worst LVM I’ve ever had the misfortune to meet were loaded beyond measure, very very wealthy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 01:29 AM
9

I’m sorry you had to experience that, I hope he is out of your life forever, never to bother you again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 12:58 AM
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Sometimes it seems they like having women they don’t like, it makes it easier on their conscience and self-concept to hate and abuse the women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 12:21 AM
38

They get so mad if you stay calm while they have a meltdown Good for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/20 12:20 AM
9

She said her dad treated her mom like a servant. Pay attention to that part. It seems you’re focused on minutiae and trying to defend the dad for some reason instead of focusing on the actual words which she describes: her dad treated her mom like a servant. What does “treated like a servant” mean to you? Edit: ah, you’re a poster in “red pill women” and that’s probably why you want to defend the dad. Too bad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 10:51 PM
14

Edit: you’re a poster in “redpillwomen” and so I don’t really expect you to listen to any of the ideas posted here, although I hope you or anyone reading this realizes you don’t have to settle for being a second class citizen in your own relationship I think you’re agreeing to what I say but you seem to think you’re disagreeing. I totally agree that fair distribution of chores and house duties will need to be negotiated and it’s not possible to cut the house in half like a pie. There’s a give an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 10:42 PM
9

I didn’t say “50-50” in everything cut right down the middle. I said a fair distribution of labor. What isn’t fair is assuming the woman will do all domestic chores...like plan for groceries, keep a running updated list, go out and choose groceries and budget for them, bring them home and inventory what is and isn’t needed, plan recipes and portions, start cooking and make food for everyone, without an agreement or acknowledgment or thank you. What is fair is going to be different for every coup…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 10:37 PM
11

A woman isn’t the default cook or maid of the house. It’s a group effort, with ideally a fair distribution of labor and chores. Your mom was married and presumably agreed to do the cooking? The couple in the anecdote aren’t married. They seemingly both work, both need to prioritize groceries and food, and both should agree on who is cooking and when. What it seems like the problem is, is that the girlfriend is automatically taking on the role of personal assistant, cook and maid, and the boyfrie…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 09:53 PM
8

Yes, unless they made plans to eat together, in which case he should be thanking her. She got groceries he’s more than capable of using to cook. If not, he needs to acknowledge her efforts and contribute himself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 09:52 PM
19

Don’t forget the vile disgusting things they say about women as a whole as if they’re true. It’s all over every main sub of reddit. It’s endless, and it’s everywhere, and it’s UPVOTED a lot of the time “Women are stupid and incapable of higher thought or learning” “Women just get attention for being hot, they don’t actually do anything of value” “Women deserve to be raped and jokes about rape are good” “women are only interested in shallow vapid hobbies like makeup and have nothing to contribute…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 07:32 PM
4

Uhhhh no. No times one million
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 07:25 PM
5

LVM are so audacious I would believe it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 07:24 PM
30

Honestly it’s hard for people to acknowledge just how much men hate women and how rampant misogyny is. It’s easier to just give in and think it’s normal, that it’s how it should be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 07:18 PM
19

Why do I see literal manipulation and abuse being celebrated on Twitter ALL THE TIME?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 07:16 PM
15

For many (most) people, saying they’re “polyamorous” just means they can’t handle healthy boundaries in a relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 07:15 PM
2

A whole generation like that? Really?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 07:06 PM
4

Really excellent post. Thanks for this. It sums up a lot of those points beautifully
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 06:56 PM
9

Why would anyone ever ask him questions about relationships?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 09:00 AM
27

Fuck that cancerous garbage, meaning that guy and the lump
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/20 04:51 AM
10

That sounds like financial abuse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 06:54 PM
8

They love to make their wives and women in their lives scapegoats for their dissatisfaction as well Don’t fall for it, know your worth, never put up with a man blaming your for his own problems (and most of his problems are indeed of his own making)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 06:53 PM
3

I mean it’s incorrect that feminists don’t agree with those points. It’s part of why Marxist and socialist political ideology is often incorporated by some second-wave feminist academics, among others. And there is feminism far beyond the scope of academia and white supremacist culture in the West
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 06:50 PM
3

You’re talking about liberal feminism
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 04:29 PM
158

Why ignore the fact that the Red Pill advocates rape and abuse? Advocates preventing/discouraging women and girls from getting educations or financial independence? No one in this sub is saying the same about men. That’s the real difference. They would have all women be chattel property again, to ensure they each “get” one like a broodmare. They advocate dumping women or their wives after carrying, birthing and raising children because they’re “too old.” No one in this sub suggests that about me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 08:00 PM
4

The OP from that thread defends him and also all “age gap” relationships between old professors and their young student mentees....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 07:09 PM
0

Ok
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 07:04 PM
4

It’s already abated to some degree. It’s actually become less of the norm. What now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 06:52 PM
3

It’s important to remember that women were always shamed for having sex, always, and it’s a good thing that women can have sex without as much stigma. That doesn’t mean all casual sex is empowering. But the purity myth is real and still pervades our culture, and it needs to die. It does nothing but hurt women and girls and gives men power over us
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 05:57 PM
31

We don’t need to “see where this goes.” We decide where we want it to go, and make a choice to go there together. If not, goodbye and good luck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 05:54 PM
2

That doesn’t mean you have to make meals for him?? Stop being complicit in your own misery
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 05:48 PM
16

Isn’t it funny when pick-me women actually brag about treating their men like their own children? It’s not cute
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 10:25 AM
9

That’s very sad. You broke up for a reason and as long as you’re in contact with him you won’t be able to heal or move on. Each conversation or word from him is another cut, another wound. We have to take the knife out first before the healing can begin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 09:23 AM
15

Nope they’re owed nothing! He should be grateful she said “no thank you” and not “fuck right off”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 09:17 AM
3

That would be a dealbreaker for me too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 09:11 AM
33

Wtf did I just read
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 08:53 AM
33

Your time is WAY more valuable than their ego
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 08:52 AM
11

Is this real? It might be best to go no-contact. That can help especially right after a break-up. Go home and rest and restore yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 08:50 AM
19

It’s not really either/or...it’s not work 0 or work 12, most people fall in between. A lot of women fall for a guy with riches thinking he’s high value, and that they’ll be “taken care of” and find out that’s not true or the guy is not a good partner. Not to mention the spoiled entitlement often makes them terribly selfish and take their wives and families for granted. A man with a good work ethic at least has passion and drive, puts energy into something in his life, shows he wants to survive/t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 11:02 AM
2

I mean you should still be mad at them for being trash human beings, even if there are women with low enough self-esteem to put up with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 09:40 AM
11

That’s so extremely sad. Not worth getting out of the bath for? Sadly in my pickme days I could see myself putting up with that or somehow finding a way to understand his rationalizations. But no more, just call it like it is. He doesn’t care or respect enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 09:34 AM
37

That’s why we should never settle. Never.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 07:38 AM
31

People always think I’m lying when I say that. No, it’s backed by data. There are peer reviewed sources.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 07:38 AM
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On the same note, don’t confuse a large bank account with actual value. Wealthy men are just as likely to be abusive and worthless as a partner as poor men, the stats bear out. Having money is not having value
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 06:52 AM
18

That’s just plain rude and not a good enough reason. Yard work? Plan your time better. Just proves how disrespectful he is of other people and their time. Block and move on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 06:12 AM
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Wealthy men bragging about money is such a LVM move. I see a lot of posts and comments on this sub that confuse a wealthy man for a valuable man. Not the case. If anything it’s harder for a rich guy to prove his value because money is not going to be enough to bring to the table, and they’re used to thinking it’s all that matters
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 05:52 AM
24

Also gotta love the pick-me-ass-bitches who fawn over any man who does even the slightest amount of housework, and glares daggers out of her eyes at the woman standing there with no praise for a grown man who should know how to do that shit anyway
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 05:45 AM
4

Can’t say that I have but honestly I chose LVM and was a pickme
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 09:38 PM
6

It is also not uncommon for said HVM to trade in wifey number 1 after the kids are raised because they no longer have anything in common because the wife hasn’t done anything except keep the house clean and watch Martha Stewart. Is that a HVM? Or just a rich man?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 09:39 AM
56

It took me too long to learn this. You can love them and want the best for them from afar, where they’re not dragging you down
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 10:49 AM
1

Taking things seriously is a good thing. Being serious about what you want is a desirable attribute in a partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 10:47 AM
1

This rambling psycho has no idea what he’s talking about
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 10:45 AM
11

It sounds made up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 08:23 PM
31

They say a lot of stuff and then do the opposite
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 08:22 PM
3

I feel so sad for this girl. How did it get to a point where she can’t express her desire to stop? Why didn’t she dump him after this became a problem? Why
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 08:11 PM
6

This is a winning comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 08:09 PM
48

That’s a compliment coming from a guy like that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 06:07 AM
27

Bothered “I can’t be arsed” = “I can’t be bothered”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 06:06 AM
32

Did she dump him? He’s pure garbage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 06:05 AM
8

I like playing video games myself, and so I often meet and find common ground with other gamers both men and women. But male gamers are so often full of toxic bullshit that gets reinforced in the broader culture, and gaming addiction isn’t seen as a stigma as much as drug addiction like heroin or alcohol and so they don’t take it seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 06:03 AM
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A lawyer-to-be? So.... not a lawyer. Got it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 05:59 AM
16

A lot of them treat their daughters like garbage anyway
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 05:58 AM
19

Him: "Why is it okay to try and bring me down?" They consider factually describing most LVM behavior as bringing them down. They know what they’re doing they just don’t want to hear about it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 05:57 AM
2

This is a great response thanks for sharing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 05:46 AM
6

I dated an Italian mama’s boy once, never again. Ever. He’s now married to a woman who is happy to fetch his slippers and treat him like her son while also birthing and raising their kids Not for me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 07:04 PM
1

What is it you mean by saying the grass is greener? Sorry I just didn’t understand what you mean. Which grass is greener? I think it’s all crap except the grass we water, our beautiful lives and selves and not bowing to pressure to cling to low value men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 07:00 PM
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In most cultures it seems that women are subjugated so that they MUST choose a male partner in order to survive, and the LVM thrive in these environments. Don’t be caught up in that trap. Be self-sufficient or you will have to settle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 07:37 AM
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No one says that. No one is saying any woman must date men. In fact it seems to promote the idea that unless a man has value and adds to your life, do not date them. Or anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 07:33 AM
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This seems dubious, but it’s hard to disagree. And both men and women alike have repeatedly said to me “don’t believe what he says, believe what he does.” Because the words are hollow, the actions are the truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 07:32 AM
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The post says men are “slowly making the word” synonymous with obsession, but it’s not slowly making, it has already occurred. I guess it just makes more sense to say “men have made the word synonymous” Reddit has actually toned down the use of “porn” attached to non-sexual subs. There used to be main page subs daily, at the height around 5-6 years ago, like “history porn” or “fake history porn” or “nature porn”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 06:07 AM
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This has been going on for many years, it’s now new
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 05:37 AM
5

Is this a feminist sub?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 05:36 AM
24

You don’t “personally prefer” anything because your preferences are shaped by your environment which tells you that your naturally occurring body hair needs to be removed. You “don’t know why but hair feels too unattractive” - the reason “why” is that you’ve bought into a story that tells women they aren’t ok the way they are. They don’t tell this to men. It’s only women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 04:12 PM
48

Women get really mad if they see other women standing up for themselves and refusing to settle for the trash that men or the patriarchy expect us to Their identities and world views are built around reassuring themselves that they like being disrespected, they chose it, it’s the best way, and any woman who doesn’t agree is worthless or dangerous. Keep doing it. It is going to get you backlash sometimes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 02:23 PM
5

If they even put a tiny bit of effort into their appearance it would improve, but of course that’s asking too much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:10 AM
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Sex isn’t inherently degrading. I don’t agree with “h*e culture” but it’s toxic to promote the idea that sex itself can degrade any woman. That’s just false
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 10:02 PM
8

“ I really like it if it’s done well” And when it’s not, it’s traumatizing and can leave lifelong scars and emotional injuries. What is “done well” and what happens when it isn’t? Oh sorry asking that question is “kink shaming” my bad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 07:54 PM
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They act like kink-shaming is the worst thing in the world. Uh no, women being pressured and coerced into pretending they enjoy being assaulted and raped is worse than kink-shaming
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 07:52 PM
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People are looking to justify not dealing with their mental shit by declaring it's just a personal preference. That’s one of the dangers of the lies of “choice feminism” aka liberal feminism. Women and girls think they make these “choices” of their own accord in a vacuum and don’t see the toxic pressures weighing down on them and their mind and decision making.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 07:51 PM
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future lawyer, his father was giving him a lot of money every week This actually doesn’t make him valuable, it just makes him entitled. It just means he’s used to getting money and power without having to work for it. Be very wary of guys who come from rich backgrounds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 07:27 PM
8

Yeah they’re rare everywhere
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 07:24 PM
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Honestly there aren’t even very many men who are high value before they reach late-20s or 30s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 12:54 AM
22

I learned the same lesson. If he really wanted to express interest in you he would, no matter how “shy” he is - he would find a way to make his interest known. And if not, do you really want to be with someone who can’t even get past their own issues enough to show they’re into you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:11 AM
8

Is being attractive a power move in that sense? Attractive women are beautiful in both flats and high heels
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:07 AM
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Yes if it weren’t sexist in origin, men would do it too, and they would WANT to do it too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:05 AM
11

It sounds like an exaggerated terrible joke, but it’s not. Most men are dangerous. Then among the ones that aren’t, most are willing to defend and sympathize with the dangerous ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:41 AM
1

Fantastic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:54 AM
6

Youth is no picnic and I don’t miss it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:53 AM
18

If you choose family only and have no way of making your own income, you are now beholden to whatever man is paying your way. Any death, disease, departure or divorce from your man will now render you unable to support yourself and survive. Always maintain a skill or a connection to a way to have a career or gain income. Otherwise you are relegating your safety to the good will of a man. Half of all marriages end in divorce and the ones that don’t, end with death of one of the partners
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:52 AM
10

That’s why I’m using FDS as a “dating” strategy resource only - not trying to marry any of these scrotes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:49 AM
10

Seems like in all heterosexual relationships the woman is disposable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:48 AM
10

Most men only bring more dirty dishes and shit to clean up They seldom add, always take
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:47 AM
18

Even still, (we are separated) he talks about how I never wanted to do anything fun when I was sick. Mind you, I still took care of the kids and worked full time. Men are trash
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:46 AM
6

I never realized that before but yes people DO compare cum to food all the time and I’ve never thought about how fucked up and pornsick that is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 05:39 AM
3

You’re not junk food and it’s not cute or empowering to say you are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 05:38 AM
7

I know you’re joking, but women’s bodies aren’t inferior to men’s just because of the way they naturally occur. “Mother Nature” is no pickmeisha. Women’s bodies are not simply the faulty, inferior version of a man’s body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 05:31 AM
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I’m so sorry you’ve experienced so much trauma and upsetting experiences. You didn’t overreact. Not at all. You didn’t make a mistake, except maybe being overly obliging in your exit text and too polite. He had also said a few things about "women taking everything in a divorce" but from what I understand his divorce was pretty nasty. So I let those slide. That’s also a mistake - don’t let remarks like that slide.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 05:22 AM
17

They’re counting on you to be too polite to call them out, or they’ll leave just enough ambiguity to keep plausible deniability. Just call them out, or be honest. Don’t be scared. You know what they’re implying, you can stop pretending you don’t know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 05:08 AM
5

There was an askreddit thread years ago asking about what unique or unusual dealbreakers women had for dating...Jesus Christ the volume of acidic vitriol thrown at those women, myself included. The examples weren’t even egregious just some personal interests and preferences for compatibility, and the men and pickmeishas pounced and downvoted into oblivion innocuous comments shared by women. I had listed a dealbreaker about a niche hobby, I won’t list it here, but there are some specific types of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 10:15 AM
6

They don’t want us to be people with our own agency or outspoken opinions, just compliant sex toys
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 10:09 AM
5

That user’s comment history is a garbage dump of toxic masculinity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 10:07 AM
4

That’s extremely rude and inconsiderate to say at all, let alone to you, a person he’s supposedly trying to woo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 12:46 AM
3

All of this, 100% completely What you deserve, what kind of life you want to have at your best and healthiest ... these are the standards and boundaries. Not just what you’re told to accept or just what’s available
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 12:05 AM
3

It is absolutely pathetic and disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 12:00 AM
14

We always said we were meant to be together and I want to see him, but I can’t make myself go. I’ve no one to talk to, as we kept everything totally secret, but I’m scared that if I confront him that will be the end. This woman is still afraid it will end about a man that disrespected her, his wife and kids, and has now bluntly cast her aside after using her for 20 years. This sounds pathologically needy, she needs therapy and a lot of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:54 PM
5

I don’t think most normal brothers would talk or think about their sister this way This has to be a troll right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:47 PM
12

Pining after the idea of the “one who got away” is easier than taking responsibility for yourself and building a healthy relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:46 PM
3

“Never had coffee or wine” Why is that in the profile
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:13 PM
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“Dodgy” doesn’t mean “many sex partners” If that’s your limit then by all means use that as a boundary in a relationship, but saying terms like “high n-count” should be described as “dodgy” or “disrespectful” by definition is very harmful language. This reminds me of the shaming of women for having sex outside of marriage and their “purity” is “tainted.” Thats harmful language and I don’t think it has a place in modern life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 03:12 AM
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I may be downvoted for this but... “N counts” don’t matter at all It’s an unnecessary stigma to have. Sex you’ve had in the past does not ruin you for the present or future. What makes a person high or low value is the respect and consideration with which they treat themselves or others. Having sex is not inherently disrespectful. Being inconsiderate or disrespectful is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 07:09 PM
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And so many women say shit like that. “Oh, I just happen to be the tidy one!! It’s nothing to do with systemic gender imbalances, no! In our relationship I simply like being the clean one, and he just uniquely likes when I clean up after him!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 07:04 PM
22

They’ve been trained to think their entitlement is more important than being clean
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 07:02 PM
40

Oh the old classic “no labels” gambit. What a douchey way for him to reveal his trashness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 07:01 PM
48

So many guys are not just ok but HAPPY to live in actual filth Part of why men die sooner?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 06:59 PM
9

There’s a huge unneeded stigma surrounding this that just doesn’t exist everywhere. Sadly I used to be ignorant and judgemental about this too Stay strong OP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 06:47 PM
13

It would be pretty great if turned into a satire “Written by and for people who hate women”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 09:56 PM
19

That’s gross and controlling A “test” to see how much she will sacrifice for you? Isn’t that a classic behavior of an abuser? It won’t stop with just the phone or social media
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 09:50 PM
36

“He married her despite knowing her fertility issues” Uh, gold star for marrying a woman and not a baby machine, what a guy... He was dragging his feet because he took her for granted, that was my entire point. Then, he didn’t stick around to resolve their fight, he just ghosted her there on the spot. Charlotte was pathetic enough to take him back the literal minute she saw him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 09:06 PM
8

Oh god I remember seeing that article, it’s so sad the wife is still with him, she’s making it acceptable for her husband or anyone reading the article to think a woman can and should support her husband through actual sexual assault. She’s ruining her life and the lives of many other women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 06:12 PM
25

Sadly there’s a lot out there willing to be with married men, they’re the pick-me’s and they’re strong in numbers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 06:10 PM
9

Absolute steaming garbage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 06:08 PM
26

She wants to be told there’s a reason not to give up, because she wants so badly to believe her fantasy about the relationship. Some people don’t want advice they just wnt to be enabled to continue lying to themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 06:07 PM
19

She’s in denial so badly. She wants to believe it was only one time, but what is she basing that on? There’s no reason to think it was just once
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 06:06 PM
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Watching that show at 19 it seemed weird they were all obsessed with and had their self esteem revolve around men I did love the episode where Miranda figures it out that if he’s not showing interest it’s just because he’s “not that into you” when the book comes out - she gives that advice to two women talking on the street, and they cuss her out and yell about how she’s so wrong and “yes he is into me.” It’s the perfect example of a pick-me. I think the writers really hated women and it shows
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 06:03 PM
3

Whoa what is that story?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 05:59 PM
21

Harry totally took Charlotte for granted and never would have married her if not for the drama Just saying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 05:55 PM
4

Terrible awful show. Just so bad. And it’s patronizing that any woman would be empowered by those awful characters. The only thing it was good for is showing that media geared towards women could be lucrative
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 05:54 PM
20

I’ve seen that phrase long before I ever even heard of FDS I don’t think it’s just an FDS phrase
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 05:52 PM
29

Dick is abundant and low value Never ever forget
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 05:51 PM
20

Is he new? If she’s not your exclusive girlfriend she’s free to see anyone, that’s the usual social norm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 11:00 PM
17

Some of the happiest older women I know are spinsters
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 10:59 PM
33

“Being a hoe” isn’t a thing. It’s a made-up concept used to shame women who have sex. What’s the equivalent for men? There isn’t one. That’s how you know it’s sexist bullshit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 10:55 PM
44

Video game addiction is real, it destroys lives and relationships. Don’t enter or stay in a relationship with an addict, period. Video game addicts are part of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 02:16 AM
18

It’s not only safe for them to express hatred and violent sentiments about women, it’s encouraged. The only consequence is a ton of upvotes and the anonymity protects them. The online culture is real
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 10:58 PM
14

Lowering your standards doesn’t work anyway, because you’ll either pretend to be someone you’re not, or pretend you don’t care about things that you actually do care about, or be with someone who will by definition disappoint you. Just don’t even bother with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 10:17 PM
4

Just because men are stronger doesn’t mean that women aren’t also strong and capable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:32 PM
16

There’s a line from True Detective that goes something like: “the only real difference between the sexes is that one can kill the other with their bare hands”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:31 PM
3

Your intuition and gut feelings are your friend. Develop more inner trust and respect for yourself and learn to listen to yourself. A lot of people won’t admit the truth in relationships especially when called out on them. I’ve called out so many for behavior like that and they would refute me and deny it to my face, but then later do exactly what your ex did or otherwise admit to me I was right after the fact. I’ve learned to stop believing words, and start believing actions. If you feel uncomf…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:22 PM
2

I would love to hear what they have to say about LVM... ...I bet it’s a lot of excuses for them and blaming the woman for any and all problems Being a wife isn’t being a woman. What’s “wife material” mean? The ultimate pick-me? What about just being a fulfilled emotionally mature person without needing validation in the form of a marriage proposal?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:11 PM
6

Projection all the way They want to believe what they’re saying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 09:10 PM
13

Remember, they want our “yes” but not our “no.” Sexual empowerment is supposed to mean the comfort and ability to say no to whatever you want whenever you want without being criticized for it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 08:54 PM
37

Let her know you feel sorry for any daughters she has. People need to start hearing this shit isn’t ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 08:39 PM
13

Trash. That man is pure trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 08:37 PM
3

Cut him out of your life. He’s shown he can’t add anything of value or what you need
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 12:05 PM
2

Have men met men?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 12:00 PM
128

They think having even the slightest of physical standards is bad, yet criticize any physical imperfections in women and say shit like “no fat chicks”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 06:31 PM
7

Goodbye entitled couch creature Beautiful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 05:51 PM
6

Most can barely function or clean themselves without a woman telling them to do it whether a mom or a girlfriend behaving as their mom
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 12:15 AM
7

Yes they’re mommydiggers for sure that’s the perfect word
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 12:14 AM
5

Remember that being with the wrong person who treats you poorly is far far worse than being alone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 12:13 AM
5

They keep up this lie and the lie that single women are lonely and wretched to keep us on our toes thinking we must do things to maintain the blessing and privilege of a relationship/marriage with a man. They have nothing to offer usually so they must keep us afraid of living without them and any society-wide push towards women’s independence is met with a backlash because it will make us harder to keep under their thumb
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 12:12 AM
14

They still own many of us in many ways
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 12:04 AM
3

No they might at first but then it becomes and expectation they are never fully appreciative of
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 12:04 AM
31

“it’s so refreshing” I think I read about relationships like this in the Bible, sis, there’s nothing new or fresh about it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 11:46 PM
7

It was her former step brother at least
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 11:44 PM
0

It is shaming. It’s shameful to behave that way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 11:16 PM
30

The leading cause of injury to women are by men close to them, intimate partner or family violence
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 07:46 AM
16

Just proves marriage is nothing more than a business arrangement and if a man can bring in money the woman will put up with anything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 06:12 AM
12

The culture espouses this so hard people don’t even notice, like a fish not seeing the water. It’s everywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 06:10 AM
13

Yeah my ex literally started dating his neighbor after we broke up, couldn’t even be bothered to leave the street to find a gf lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 05:47 AM
66

I read somewhere a quote: “I’ve seen more girls with self-harm scars than body hair” and that just sums it up. The socialization is real - most will destroy themselves to the point of pain and death rather than question what has been forced down our throats We need to support each other and not blame each other for surviving in a culture that wants to rip our humanity from our very bodies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 05:41 AM
200

They really don’t understand how unattractive lame ass older guys are They think they’re all going to be treated like George Clooney...uh no dawg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 01:54 AM
5

Hookup culture is good for women and girls to get away from the virginity trap and purity myth It’s bad for women and girls to expect liberation via sexual objectification
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 01:51 AM
17

Yes they don’t want women to enjoy sex they want to enjoy dominating and subjugating women as objects for their pleasure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 01:41 AM
7

Never compromise for a guy who is turned off or controlling of your sexual interests and pleasure I’m not talking about violating boundaries or being disrespectful, I’m talking about expressing healthy sexual interest
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 01:40 AM
3

Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 01:37 AM
5

So many men put zero effort into romantic and physical connection in a relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 09:55 AM
73

They want our “yes,” but not our “no” They don’t really want sexual liberation they just want easy sex from women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 09:53 AM
78

It’s really true. So many guys just want easy sex on their terms with no strings attached, yet if you say you’re just looking for a fling nothing serious they suddenly become personally invested in why you aren’t fawning all over them Or secretly assume that you are, but you’re just not admitting it to yourself yet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 09:50 AM
9

She looks radiant with happiness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 08:12 AM
36

Plus the erectile dysfunction and low quality sex is real in older men. What young woman wants that when she has young dudes her own age who can fuck worth a damn?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 07:03 PM
44

The hilarious concept that women hit a wall and are no longer attractive! Like dude, do you even know how fucking thirsty and LONELY older men are? I mean even young men. There is always, I repeat ALWAYS a man who is going to be attracted to any given woman of any age. The only issue for women is finding one of quality. Also, that study is bullshit and completely disregards standards for academic analytics, and disregards actual numbers that show the truth in our physical reality, not just an on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 06:52 PM
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