I hate how common it is for men to do degrading/ abusive shit during sex

ppaulapple · 2020-04-18T04:48:25+00:00

Story time. I once had a Tinder date with a guy from the military - thought “why not?! I’ve always wanted to hook up with someone from the military”. Welp... after some ROUGH sex, he proceeds to tell me how he’s racist against asians because of his experience with being in the military in Japan... drumroll I’m asian. Somehow, the roughness and choking during sex didn’t feel so sexy anymore. Quickly noped out of that one real quick. Never saw him again.

CSardothien_1 · 2020-04-18T04:26:37+00:00

Wonder how’d they’d feel if when we were on top we would death grip their balls and put all our weight onto their necks? WhY wOuLd yOu dO tHaT iTs dEgRaDiNg!?! ‘Sorry you should have communicated before hand.’ I’m so sick of this type of crap I could scream.

TheOGJammies · 2020-04-18T03:11:54+00:00

The comments are pissing me smooth off. There are a bunch of pornsick scrotes going off on wHy dIdn'T YoU cOMMunIcaTe?

Okay, i have to tell a man not to fucking choke me now? What's it going to be next year? I have to tell them not to punch me in the face? They are literally physically assaulting us and acting like it's our fault.

midorihuh · 2020-04-18T04:10:34+00:00

it’s disgusting how it’s almost normal now for men to treat women like their personal fucktoys. but if the tables were turned they wouldn’t put up with a single bit of that.

tipsytoess · 2020-04-18T05:48:03+00:00

I have been viciously verbally attacked by a libfem for breaking up with someone after he beat me. Because we engaged in 'kinky sex' he thought it was okay to hit me hard enough to knock me off my feet when I wasn't getting dressed fast enough. It made me realize how badly I had fucked up by even getting that deep into kink culture. I was second guessing myself. Thinking that he was really the victim because I let him hit me in bed and maybe he was just confused about boundaries. I felt bad for not giving him a second chance. But I was so put off from him after he hit me that way that I just couldn't go back plus he had already cheated on me with the libfem who was attacking me so I had already forgiven him for that. 5 years later I realize that you shouldn't have to tell your partner it's not okay for them to hit you. I'm almost 100% vanilla now and my mental health is so much better. The girl that was so awful to me now posts constantly about her blood fetish, dehumanization fetish - she's posted that her dream is to be fucked from behind while a man holds her head in a toilet. So I think I made the right choice all those years ago.

UpbeatIncubator · 2020-04-18T07:47:20+00:00

Vanilla sex is no longer default, it's basically now a fetish in itself. I feel so sorry for teens/ young women who are too insecure and naive to say no to this shit in their formative relationships :(

MuttonDressedAsGoose · 2020-04-18T08:29:01+00:00

Satisfying vanilla sex is difficult for guys. To figure out what makes her cum and then patiently do it? They're not interested.

Young guys are especially useless.

epileptic_fridge_boy · 2020-04-18T09:58:06+00:00

If a guy ever hits you/chokes you during sex, kick him as hard as you can in the balls. After all he should have communicated he didn't want you to do that before consenting to sex

LadyGrimes · 2020-04-18T03:05:36+00:00

Pornsick society of men, that's why.

arthurl101 · 2020-04-18T04:28:25+00:00

I feel this. I lost my virginity at 18 and I remember around this time period I started watching porn because I wasn’t really sure what to do during sex plus I was very insecure. And for many years I put up with really degrading and derogatory acts with boyfriends because that’s all I knew and sex was based on his pleasure and not mine. Looking back, I’m disgusted in those men who treated my body like that. And I’m sad I thought this was normal.

Novemberinthechair · 2020-04-18T05:43:49+00:00

Hey! Don't get busy with a guy who wants to reenact your murder. Just don't.

monivoz · 2020-04-18T10:51:16+00:00

I don't get it. I was shocked when someone slapped my tits like wtf is this, does this mean something, so many questions

radical__daphne · 2020-04-18T02:22:02+00:00

Oh god 🤮

jesza09 · 2020-04-18T11:09:04+00:00

I read so much about this kind of behaviour on here and I’m lucky I haven’t really experienced anything like this. I’m not sure if it’s because of my age (30+) or because I’ve only been intimate with few men, all who were long term boyfriends. I just can’t believe how common it is, it makes me scared to put myself out there and meet new men/ date.

lanaisg0d · 2020-04-18T14:16:18+00:00

My pickmeisha friend told me she likes rough sex getting slapped and choked and I was like wth I don’t like that. I like being treated nicely now I wonder if there’s a co relation with her being a pickmeisha and liking “rough” sex

sexxxybae · 2020-04-18T19:37:09+00:00

I like getting my ass slapped but when it's all the time it's annoying af. And what's with the slapping boobs??

jenneschguet · 2020-04-18T17:18:41+00:00

I would recommend reading Melanie Tonia Evans’ article of the difference between having sex and making love, it was eye-opening: https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/narcissists-and-sex/

Ms_Tilly · 2020-04-18T17:38:32+00:00

Honestly the best part about my last LV relationship was that he wasn't into any of that shit. He was disgusted by any type of porn shit except for weird porn positions. I haven't really dated any that are into choking and "facials" thankfully. It could be because I'm older at 39. I think there have been a few but they never made it into a relationship with me for other reasons.

Title	I hate how common it is for men to do degrading/ abusive shit during sex
Author	greenteaapplepie69
Upvotes	274
Comments	53
Date	April 18, 2020 2:15 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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