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| 11 | Men hate women so much they hate other men for not hating women.💯💯💯!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 05:20 AM |
| 41 | Men hate women so much they hate other men for not hating women.Recently read Phil Zimbardo’s book on boys and young men failing to thrive. The book agrees with your assessment that boys are crumbling. For example, Zimbardo attributes boy’s lack of academic attainments on learning and school work is coded by boys as “girly”. Reading books and homework is something girls are good so therefore boys to maintain their masculine opt out. This coded repugnance for female identified activities is also observed in the workplace. Once traditional male careers became … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 05:08 AM |
| 14 | Men hate women so much they hate other men for not hating women.I don’t need to make shit up to show men’s ugly. They put out there themselves, freely in quantity. Men state unequivocally that they are trash. Notallmen indeed. Lol! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 04:39 AM |
| 37 | Men hate women so much they hate other men for not hating women.Men oppress women because that’s their value system of how to conduct themselves with women. Women are shit so women earn and therefore deserve shit. It’s that simple. At the very same time men want women. For sex. For mothering and feminine labor. For appearances and admiration. Because society socially favors couples. Men never imagine that genuinely liking women and basic respect is necessary. Not when everything from birth onward says the worst thing a man can be is a girl. Storytime: I was … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 12:49 AM |
| 84 | Men hate women so much they hate other men for not hating women.I think you’re right. Men are demanding access to women because porn, bros and video games isn’t working to fill their emotional void. Who would’ve thunk?!? That men are still aggressively seeking sex only- often lying about their intentions - and instead of anything else that could change men’s outcomes they are turning up hatred and disrespect towards their prey ? That hating what you “must” fuck and getting no fucks is messing with men’s minds and all this alpha male shit leaves them sad and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 12:12 AM |
| 132 | Men hate women so much they hate other men for not hating women.In the last decade research and statistics demonstrates heterosexual partnerships of all durations are significantly less in number when compared to previous decades and generations. Age at marriage, percent married, single person households, birth/population replacement rate, self reported sexual frequency, and a whole slew of correlated statistical indicators show that people are not together. A few years ago, I only found a couple of blog posts about women done with men after lots of searchin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 10:38 PM |
| 16 | Why Men In Their Thirties Won't Commit — Solitary BeastEvery time I googled “how to meet women” because I was trying to source why men’s approaches seemed so universally repellent there really was nothing but PUA or slightly more mainstream essays with a kinder gentler version of how to get laid. Hardly any grooming tips. A few date ideas. It was a barren wasteland devoid of emotional intelligence or insight into relationship dynamics. Even the worst pick me advice has some sort of emotional management techniques and/or consideration of men’s feelin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 12:28 PM |
| 50 | Why Men In Their Thirties Won't Commit — Solitary BeastHe’s insightful and correct about men not liking women’s companionship, the mercenary pursuit of sex for bro points, and that men’s sex tactics earn way more no than yes from women. He’s stupid blind believing that his observations indicate that men are winning at being men and therefore women are the losers. He’s wrong that women are wired for relationship seeking and can be easily persuaded to be f*ck toys because there’s a possibility of a relationship at the end of his dick. FYI: his shitty … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 03:55 AM |
| 10 | How do I talk myself out of online dating?Match owns tinder, OkCupid and a few others. Each app has a reputation that is created, controlled and marketed by the Match corporation. It’s not accidental that the most expensive, Match is considered the best because we’ve been conditioned to believe more expensive is better quality. So let’s unpack what paying a couple dollars a day means. Across the whole suite of Match apps more money paid means more access to all the features. Seeing who liked you or whatever doesn’t really change your ou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 09:38 PM |
| 28 | Your current male partner and ex partner are more likely to murder you than anyone else.There’s a definite truth to caution around strange men is like a safety belt like other preventative strategies to prevent violence. Imo what is ignored is the dynamic that makes you a candidate for violence. How do men enact violence against women ? Are men more likely violent with strangers or with women they know (how ever slightly)? Statistics and my anecdotal experiences show overwhelmingly that men are violent with women they know. So let’s unpack! Storytime: years ago I decided to just go… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 10:20 PM |
| 54 | Your current male partner and ex partner are more likely to murder you than anyone else.And yet women are always looking for stranger danger because that’s what is amplified as the biggest risk to their safety. News, true crime and even women’s self defense don’t identify the main threat - men we know. Men’s anger is normatively reactive and escalating. It spirals up and out of them. Men justify anger because they believe it’s how they work. Destructive anger is a valuable tool to win the war of life and reach peak manhood. Real men don’t self soothe. They act out. Women on the oth… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 07:57 PM |
| 34 | This sub is going to get banned soon. It’s time to leave Reddit ladies.Facebook bans people for saying men are trash because it’s “hate speech”. And they insist on real name use which creates a whole bunch of unnecessary security issues. In the last few weeks 2 social media influencers I follow had their accounts hacked. One had nearly a million followers. It’s not a secure platform. Facebook is losing advertisers in a no profit from hate campaign. Because Zuch has been such a fail at all the terrible fallout from unregulated Facebook (genocide, election fraud, mur… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 12:20 AM |
| 5 | Traumatic intrusive thoughts/ memories and dissociation from sexual harassment have taken over my life. I need support...Please find face-to-face in real time support. Call a crisis hotline or google local resources. Join a well moderated online support group. Ongoing, consistent support along with healing resources will give you tools to break the hold of intrusive thoughts triggered by everyday harassment. When metoo broke the seal on speaking truth about harassment so many experiences that I had buried and then forgot about surfaced. Multiple decades of sexualized harassment and abuse that was just part of ever… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 10:36 PM |
| 54 | Yes I’m sure we’ve all seen all these”heartbroken” men out here sobbing in agony while they fap defeatedly to “teen sluts vol. 12”No Timothy, being a screen sexual isn’t because your 9th grade girlfriend dumped your ass 25 years ago because she caught you making out with Karen. You don’t watch women sexually degraded because you sad and need kinetic relationship replacement therapy (otherwise known as fapping.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 01:03 PM |
| 337 | SeXuALLy ReJeCtiNg mEn iS A HaTe cRiMePopularizing strategies to not be a sex object or a target of emotional/financial/sexual/physical abuse makes me a terrorist? Ok! That’s way better than all the shit I was called before! And totally is way more appealing than trauma bonding with another nvm (because apparently that’s our patriotic duty)! Do we get uniforms? How about a secret handshake? Or maybe a rewards card where for every 10 men blocked and deleted earns you 5% off your next purchase! I’m all about saving money and saving my… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 12:39 PM |
| 39 | The scrodacityApparently sites use bots and there’s lots of scams using catfish. I will always be extremely skeptical that there’s a multitude of real highly attractive women OLD because even average women get their fill mighty fast of being objectified for sex. Also the Match group is well known for fraud so color me cynical about anything they say about their user demographics. What irritates me to no end is that men complain about scams and no matches/messages but still clown suit up and full speed ahead w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/20 12:28 PM |
| 73 | The scrodacityAnd meanwhile on planet earth 🌏 a silent army of women are done with OLD because nobody no how should ever be exposed to this ubiquitous shit as if this is just how dating is online. The audacity of those men and the Match group to promote this garbage and call it whatever tired freedom of choice nonsense that’s being offered up as spin. Tbh, I believe women should expose women to the reality of OLD. No more sugar coating the shit show! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/20 11:03 AM |
| 10 | Can you help me pin this down?Life unfortunately isn’t a predictable machine with obvious mechanisms that demonstrate that X made Y happen. He was in “love” with you to extent that his performance of “love” was easily seen by others. And then the dynamic changed and he had to provide for you and the baby that you made together. It’s easy to imagine instead of rising to the occasion he felt resentment. And that in turn soured his feelings for you and all relationships. I also suspect he’s subscribed to MGTOW ideas about vampi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/20 11:11 PM |
| 13 | Y’all this guy is mansplaining my job to me. I’ve only done it for 15 years, but thank you Bumble man for telling me how to do it.🤔🤔🤔🤔 This emoji is the foundation of every mansplaination. Men believe they’ve vast super powers of analysis built by merely living that gives them equal footing on any subject. The “woke” mansplainers are the most annoying because the cloak their know it all by deescalating their shit using substitution, reduction and conflation. As if complex subjects and fully lived experiences can be equated to a book, movie or a class taken years ago. That emoji was him still Christopher Columbus claiming s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 09:24 PM |
| 10 | PSA About Age Gap RelationshipsApparently the ability to pay for adventure and entertaining is important. And that he’s no pretense for commitment is the downside. So you’ve kinda painted yourself into a corner. And there’s the additional observation that men your age don’t splash out, that’s supported by no expectation to find a hvm for the next 2-4 years. What does a hvm relationship look like to you? What are his ethics and values? Would he be wined and dined by a significantly older woman because fun and no other immediat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 11:42 PM |
| 18 | Me: a mentally and emotionally tired black woman; Him: a white man with no understanding of boundariesIn a perfect world texts like that would get an automated free lifetime subscription to The Root’s Clapback Mailbag and would be auto banned from texting you ever again. Sorry this happened to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 07:25 AM |
| 91 | Why are men okay with dating other women but not okay when you date other men?Think objectification, ownership and control. Think misogynistic rap lyrics and 1950’s teen rebel without a clue movies. Think hoarders. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 07:18 AM |
| 27 | I’m trying my best not to lose my shitOne of my greatest lessons from FDS is that men don’t need chances. It’s never my job to pretend that they need time and appropriate motivation to fix an issue that’s obviously bad like they are school kids that can use some patience and help with their problems. Their problems are not my problems. I’m done with being governess, nanny, and caretaker of emotional garbage so I can see where it goes with a man who deliberately brings bs into my life. I don’t have to live with shit that’s intolerabl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 01:37 AM |
| 37 | I’m trying my best not to lose my shitSupport for what? Why do women only spaces have to support stuff they see through like clear clean glass? Here’s the deal: ShE Is My CRAzy eX gIrlFREInd AnD Is DRAMA is a standard excuse used by men to explain away all sorts of unnecessary shit. Imagine if it was your ex stalking you using the same tactics as this woman. What would you do? Probably not act like it was no deal and then show your bf the receipts while ignoring that he would have feelings about this intrusive attention. Jealousy po… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 12:48 AM |
| 2 | The Economics of SexFDS is strategy that benefits women in everyday interactions based on analysis and lived experiences. While the video has some elements of FDS as a whole it’s a no from me. There’s no strategy here and the economic analogy is limited in scope. Blaming women collectively for being easy and not denying sex to men as a unified group to raise the value of sex and therefore increase marriage rates? That sure seems typical and aligned with popular misogyny mindsets. And the denial of patriarchy as a f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 11:24 PM |
| 15 | Love is....This post is exactly “more fodder” that creates space to “get used while dating”. Personally, I’m totally over this romantic fantasy sales job that literally says it’s worth everything ever- like a holy grail hero’s quest, to find soulmate love that’s described always in achingly similar lurid prose. That’s there’s some guy who’s a gonzo multipurpose savior, trauma salve and Swiss Army knife of white knights that was created especially for you if just keep kissing frogs to find the prince. When … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 04:33 PM |
| 30 | Block him or Let him see what he lostYou couldn’t make him do anything (like be a good partner) and that’s probably one of the reasons for the breakup, right? Why imagine a virtual revenge fantasy that’s straight up Hollywood stereotype? Men don’t live in a world of regrets and sorrowful self examination mournfully looking at social media learning lessons about what a sad sack of shit they were to lose that wonderful woman- just look at her living her best life on Insta! Cut the cord. You don’t need any connections to him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 03:41 PM |
| 23 | Ivy League Liberal Feminist Nutbag Laurie Shrage advocates for “Financial Abortions” for men in the NYT. Do women like this live in reality?Penis in vagina sex is not a zero sum activity that can be rebuilt as single serve, carefree funsies because men want control over all their money expenditures- they agree to sex only not a child so therefore. Slippery slope application of this principle means not paying for what you don’t value. It’s easy to conflate this idea to all sorts of taxes, fines, fees and “overpriced” goods/services that people don’t want to pay for because they find them oppressive. That’s not how capitalism works. T… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 09:30 PM |
| 43 | "yes: i also Like younger women"G spot training? That’s extreme ultra mega clown shit that other men at best will say is a “bad apple” and most just shrug off with a mansplaination. I’m exhausted. Off topic but what will it take for heterosexual men to see ? Every sort of hard boiled sick violence is mainstream normalized and broadcast profusely so that society as a whole is blinded to everyday depravity of men towards women. Not all men my ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 08:32 PM |
| 8 | Is this normal for a HVM to say?“bring it up” implies that he’s a slightly socially awkward but totally reasonable guy who needs the benefit of the doubt and another chance all wrapped up in a super nice girl gesture. When you “bring it up” you’re signing up to be his emotional nanny - the gatekeeper of proper behavior that dispenses wisdom and unconditional love because he’s not a grown up. Dude said something creepy and your default is to create a web of assumptions that made space for yet another time for him to target you … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 06:20 PM |
| 77 | When a poly guy is trying to get you REALLY HARD to continue a conversationThe Mansplaination: I am the Alpha and Omega of fuck bois. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 08:03 AM |
| 20 | Does anyone else think "Responsive Sexual Desire" is Horse Shit?I don’t have spontaneous desire for men anymore. I suspect that it’s because men have been consistent trauma vectors that inflicted terrible emotional (and sometimes physical) pain and damage that was inexorably tied to sex and intimacy. Handsome men can ruin their beauty with a just a few words or a simple action. And then there’s my inability to objectify men for sex. Try as I might, (even though I find men attractive) I don’t see them as sex partners or feel horny because the desire for intim… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 10:36 PM |
| 14 | They really do think we're that stupidOLD men blatantly lie about height. It’s the tip of the iceberg of deception men use to manipulate women in order to get sex. So yes, they think women are stupid. And they also think their magic pixie unicorn will fall for their charms anyways and/or they dgaf because penis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 08:28 PM |
| 40 | Seeking advice, trying to see if I have a LVM in HVM clothing...Dump him. He believes women earn rape, theft and trafficking!!! Holy fucking shit! And he doesn’t see his own actions have consequences. Not cooking because “smell” but able to eat out (restaurants always smell liked cooked food) fat and doesn’t like exercise- wtf is gonna happen here? Run run away from this clown! More red flags than Moscow on May Day! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 11:06 PM |
| 24 | What range of price is acceptable for gifts on bdays?Give him a only 2 months a girlfriend gift. Don’t give him a wife gift. What would you gift a respected colleague or fun cousin that you spent holidays with growing up? It’s all a matter of degree. Price range is relative. A funny card at brunch or a something else that isn’t too specific or too intimate. Don’t try too hard or overthink. You’re actual gift to him is being a girlfriend that helps him celebrate his birthday. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 10:54 PM |
| 15 | 😬“Expect you to clean up their emotional mess afterwards”!!!! That’s gold! Thank you!!!!!! That’s been my experience countless times. Ironically, when shit got really ugly- the men in my life gave me the silent treatment. They were giving me their worst punishment of all! They were revoking my emotional nanny privileges! I was fired from messy emotion clean up detail! It took a minute and lots of work to deconstruct this scapegoat silent treatment. And systematically analyze why no matter what I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 10:35 PM |
| 31 | I have an issue with "I like a woman who takes care of herself" on dating profiles...Imo it’s because men want what they ordered because OLD is catalog where they shop for women and they see dating as a sales contract of sorts. Basically they want a widget they can plug and play into their life. A “woman who takes care of herself” isn’t a teammate or a partner -she’s self contained separate entity that he employs at will to entertain him as sees fit. Just like it really pisses him off when the purchased product looks nothing like the advertisement he cannot abide a woman who doe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 10:13 PM |
| 48 | 😬Good for you! Your story is exactly what women need to see because it really illustrates why all the stupid shit women are told about argument resolution in relationships are lies. Women don’t need to make peace or bring closure. You COmmuNiCated. He got mad. He escalated. He deleted all pictures to punish you. And then expected that the relationship would default back to “normal” after his display of disrespect, power and destruction. Men don’t fucking get it. Pretty sure male lurkers reading t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 09:43 PM |
| 53 | It’s legal in 35 states for cops to rape you after detaining you.It is “legal” in all 50 states, territories and worldwide for cops to detain, abuse and then use the “justice” system to avoid prosecution. Rape is another job perk. My state is one of the 15 that outlawed “consensual” sex with detainees. Nevertheless, in my town the longtime police Sargent is a known anal rapist that drugs women he “dates”. He’s been unsuccessfully prosecuted. There was more than one accuser. He’s still “protecting and serving”. His last victim and her adult son were outed by t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 09:05 PM |
| 79 | 😬So typical him being confused and angry over being dumped for escalating childish asshole stuff. It’s obvious that conflict resolution for so many men is not a restorative sorting out of the issue but an increase in destructive hostility to “win” and silence the argument. In mansplain this is what men mean by “drama”. A petty annoyance becomes an argument that the man blows up into something bigger with words and actions that are specifically hurtful and way out of proportion to the stimulus. No… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 08:20 PM |
| 13 | What if we started a Women’s Social Justice Movement?On a meta level police brutality that’s supported institutionally has many of the same components that parallel the nvm abuse tactics discussed on FDS. To lesser and greater degrees women in general suffer the same shit. I don’t believe that syphoning off any attention from blm will necessarily produce change for women as a separate group. As I work to become thoroughly anti racist I struggled with identifying and centering myself in blm because of my own experiences of bad policing and extra le… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 09:09 PM |
| 1 | Addressing the 'tough love' commenting in the FDS community.Like I mentioned taking breaks benefited me. And as far as what the “ men of Reddit” think they’re not my concern for hundreds if not thousands of reasons and pointed examples of egregious nasty shit they flood Reddit with daily about women. Not trying to deflect or make a right out of two wrongs here just stating the obvious. Reddit is a known cesspool. As far as the violent woman hitting her partner- didn’t see that- perhaps I blocked her? Nevertheless I agree that there’s posts and upvoting t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 06:12 AM |
| 2 | Addressing the 'tough love' commenting in the FDS community.My opinion for what it’s worth: Women have idealized the “sisterhood” and have all sorts of ideas about what constitutes toxic and supportive behavior that often seem rather ill defined and dependent on the perceived status of the caller or receiver of blunt advice. Especially if they are the one getting called out. Moreover, even though I have been deep in the middle of a group of like minded supportive women there’s limits. Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants is fiction. Most important in my min… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 05:46 AM |
| 40 | From AskWomen: For those of you married, what is one red flag you noticed and let pass before marrying your SO that you deeply regret glazing over?Too many are making “medical” explanations for the 🚩🚩they ignored in men. Sorry not sorry but really? When you excuse awful behavior, bad hygiene and etc as something medical that can’t be helped you’re really reaching hard for excessive sympathy and undeserved understanding to stay a cool girl living in a pick me world imo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 02:56 AM |
| 30 | How do you mourn the loss of friendships with guy friends who only wanted to date you?True story. Unpacking the interlocking set of lies about widespread equality with men and that goodness always overcomes depravity in friendship is something that helps overcome depressed self blame type stuff. There’s all sorts of research and social theories that explain men’s friendships and how men construct a reality separate from women. These 12 men didn’t define friends like you. Friendship practices are not universal despite what we’re told. So why is this not everyday knowledge? Well th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 09:21 PM |
| 8 | I love you allFalse equivalency and orders of magnitude error. But you do you. Best wishes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 05:37 PM |
| 12 | Dating in times of CoronavirusYou’ve went to his house 6 times (during an unprecedented pandemic where the only cure for the disease is no social contact) and now that’s a dilemma because you want to upgrade to “actual dates” but the weather’s gonna be shitty and you need 10 quick tips on how to maneuver the dates to a later time so you won’t just be going to his house again because of high value or whatever? Wtf? Just lie. After all this lack of clarity and disregard for yourself and public health/opinion who really cares h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 02:30 AM |
| 8 | Or- better yet, don’t reply.Grey rock. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 01:24 AM |
| 116 | Or- better yet, don’t reply.I block anyone and everyone everywhere because there’s a whole lot that needs no explanation. I ain’t your momma. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 07:43 PM |
| 14 | How do I put an end to excessive compliments?Imagine what a real and well intentioned compliment feels like: take a deep breath and savor that. Then compare with the meaningless shit that rolls outta men’s mouths while they clamor for your attention because they believe flattering comments on your appearance will get them sexual access. So then consider this: are these men actually complementing you? If it feels fake and excessive is it your job to school them (especially since they know exactly what they are doing)? How will telling lying… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 03:43 AM |
| 45 | Do you girls think its worth waiting for a guy that doesn’t quite make your physical standards but is working hard to improve and showing results?Don’t wait, never settle. You’re actually saying that you don’t deserve your standards and are operating a man rescue and rehab concern by waiting to see his “results” imo. Holding space for a future man instead of evaluating the present man does you no favors. Personally, imo if a man was waiting around for me to “improve” to his standard that’s a 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩. Let him go sis. It’s a blessing for both of you because nobody is option on trial trying to earn a loving relationship by transforming to c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 09:15 PM |
| 11 | Why do men always assume you want their opinion??This dude that asked me was nearly elderly. As your reply illustrates it’s a lifelong pattern. I’ve kinda come to the conclusion that men’s idea about shared interests (especially in dating) means them assuming the pedantic edge lord role to slay you with mansplain. Not to “educate” but to humiliate you into submission because blah blah blah yada yada yada. It’s always over something dumb and often it’s totally obvious they really don’t know the subject but nevertheless. I have stories for days.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 09:00 PM |
| 2 | Why do men always assume you want their opinion??👆🏻 💯🤡💩! 🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 07:23 PM |
| 3 | FYI: virtual assistance for men online dating. Who are you really messaging with?Lol💯! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 10:30 AM |
| 9 | FYI: virtual assistance for men online dating. Who are you really messaging with?Actually it’s a service that will virtually assist men by writing profiles and sending messages. A few years ago the company was hiring VAs. They paid $15 an hour to write profiles and send flirty messages to women OLD for their male clients. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 09:12 AM |
| 64 | Why do men always assume you want their opinion??It’s like men were dropped collectively on their tiny pinheads and lost all social graces and abilities to interact with women as a non-combatant when “dating”. It’s not you sis! Demands you watch ThAT movie (like anyone with one college film class and/or general pop culture analytics wouldn’t 🤷🏻♀️🙄🙄 and then whatever that choice). That he deflects and sophomorically deflates all your responses to his fuckery like he’s doing you a big fat favor is 🤡🤡🤡🤡💩💩💩! And this is men in general in my exper… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 09:05 AM |
| 4 | How do you exude femininity?Just because it’s “celebrated” doesn’t mean every aspect is the absolute truth for everyone in every situation- pretty sure you’re aware of that though. There’s some unpacking of confident that’s unique to you it seems- what does confidence look and feel like to you ? What do you already possess? And what can you build? What are the everyday actions that you can use to create sustainable confidence? As far as YouTube influencers and the validity of their advice : popularity doesn’t necessarily m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 05:06 AM |
| 50 | How do you exude femininity?Hold yourself in a confident way while exuding soft femininity? Sounds exhausting! How does this posturing benefit you? What’s wrong with your fine ass glorious self as is? And besides, why is the performance of femininity a thing anyways? Lots and lots of ways to gain ease of grace in your own body if that’s what you’re asking here. Conformity to a mythical, gendered stereotype may not be the answer (but of course, you do you). Many women feel awkward- it’s the baked in fear to all the image me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/20 10:39 PM |
| 17 | What would happen if all women using dating apps... stopped? 🤔There’s statistics that show there’s 2 or 3 men per woman OLD. But of course, like nearly everything else, the data isn’t transparent or consistent. And then again, OLD industry loves to use “research” to sell its product especially OkCupid because it was founded by Ivy League nerds. The actual experience is hidden by pseudo science, bad statistics and the quest for profit. Imo If the menz knew they were significantly over represented and the women knew how endemic shitty experiences were - ther… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 10:45 PM |
| 7 | Shut the F*** UpWhy is this even a question? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 07:39 PM |
| 1 | Breaking MomI hear you. I too am really over complaining. There’s no solution based talk. Just endless angry, sad, fear, victim, bad guy stuck on whirl speed that doesn’t fix anything and is just exhausting. For myself what’s worked to stop frustration is eliminating all sources of bs and moving on from lessons learned. Basically, when it’s irrelevant and irritating and especially if it’s not in my control- I ignore it. For example, I’ve lurked and then participated here for about 8 months. Learned life alt… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 11:11 PM |
| 22 | What do you think, ladies?Just nope. Men cry big over rejection. Let’s unpack that a little. Men are miffed because of the no, not the delivery. Women are programmed to politely say no. To be kind and let a guy down nicely. And to be as nice saying no the first time as the twentieth (to the same guy). I’m so tired of men pretending that we’re all equal and have the same experience of life. I already have a full buffet of men fuckery to consider adding more to my piled high plate. I’m not taking on asking men out because … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 06:46 PM |
| 10 | Coronavirus is forcing people to take things slow with dating, pro or con, ladies?👆🏻me too. My takeaway is that OLD is like picking at a scab. I had all the hopes that this unprecedented event would change results. The biggest difference this time was application of FDS. No crazy making occurred which was a vast improvement from all other times OLD. But here’s the thing: I don’t like OLD. It’s not fun, the messages and conversations are dull at best. Negging,mansplain and misogyny is the norm. My name is definitely not, “hey pretty”. And all this comes from a pack of mediocre… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 11:52 PM |
| 17 | Coronavirus is forcing people to take things slow with dating, pro or con, ladies?Author is chief science advisor for Match group. Her sample size is skewed and has bias that OLD is “good”. She describes a very different experience than many first person accounts of OLD during pandemic. I don’t believe her article is representative. But if it was, months long video chats and phone calls? Not optimistic. People lie. And boredom was real during lockdown - OLD was entertainment. But in her mythical world where people actually use OLD to create solid relationships? Why sure, Jan,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 10:22 PM |
| 36 | asking to hangout then ghosting for the rest of the day then messaging you the next day like nothing happened is an instant indicator of a LVMThe first signs of disinterest is my reason to block. I’m talking basics. It’s all a big fucking game to lvm because sex is their life project. Lvm show interest and when they think you’re hooked they oopsie to dominate which builds a case for the eventual discard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 09:42 PM |
| 14 | Breaking MomCircumstances “entirely in their control”? (I totally read that sub for cautionary tales and reminders of past experiences. There’s wisdom to be gained from seeing how women are frustrated in relationship - lessons on what to avoid) For many many years I judged and vented about about people fails. Why didn’t they just pull on their bootstraps because they could have and should have done x,y,z because I certainly would have if it had been me. Tbh, all my judgment created a sense of safety in a ch… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 08:35 PM |
| 8 | Are you being a Mommy Girlfriend or a Partner?Results may vary. All children choose themselves over parents to some degree. So on the meta, well intentioned and invested parents regularly have children that refuse and rebel and then go on to live in opposition to everything they were taught. Unconditional love isn’t doormat love. It’s not abased servitude that encourages entitlement that leads to disrespect and hatred for the hand that feeds you . Imo it’s lack of love, family influence and myopic cultural views that raise up succeeding gen… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 08:45 PM |
| 2 | What would you do if you went on a date with a male feminist / how do you weed out male feminists before meeting them?💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 11:29 PM |
| 14 | Has the Online Dating Fish Bowl gotten worse since Coronavirus?My takeaway is men use OLD to find targets for low effort no stakes sex. And any attention received is a bonus. That hasn’t changed with covid. They’re not adapting. They don’t want virtual because they use OLD to quickly meet irl so they can shoot their shot. Social distancing doesn’t apply. Many say that on their profile. One clown first message negged me and then included a couple of paragraphs about covid is fake with YouTube links. Quite a few after 3 or 4 messages asked to meet. One guy of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 08:43 PM |
| 86 | What Awesome Things Did You Accomplish After Getting Rid of the LVM or NVM?3 college degrees, normal BMI, sanity, and self esteem. And all sorts of things big and small that were impossible with that vampire sucking my life force. It’s been 13+ years. I have not missed him a single minute. No regrets. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 03:17 AM |
| 9 | What would you do if you went on a date with a male feminist / how do you weed out male feminists before meeting them?I think you’re not clear on my point: that feminism is so inclusive that it is poorly defined. The Tea Party Trump Republican mention was an illustration to contrast feminism with its hazy definition with a label more clear cut. Aware the woke liberal bros love the feminist brand. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 03:08 AM |
| 19 | What would you do if you went on a date with a male feminist / how do you weed out male feminists before meeting them?There’s no single “feminist” platform it’s not like being a Tea Party Trump Republican or whatever. Basically those men wear it like a medal- and definitely bring it up because it gets them undeserved praise and sex. I met one so far. Let him ramble and basically he didn’t know shit about it. He was a feminist because his mother was in the 60’s. Myself I would never label myself with anything that’s so non specific. Especially since feminism can mean you’re porn star stripper who’s a 3rd in a po… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 01:30 AM |
| 7 | Doesn’t it feel like a woman have to choose between a Homer Simpson and Ned Flanders?Religion imparts ethics and proscribed ways to value other people to create paradise now and in the hereafter. Unfortunately, in practice religious people use their morality to justify really bad stuff. Hence agnostics and atheists are born from religious hypocrisy and unwillingness to believe in the unseen. My own longtime experience with Christianity where I knew many Ned Flanders was that kindness, service and consideration was baked in- men were modeling a benevolent paternalism that’s speci… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 11:06 PM |
| 12 | Yet Another Pickme in r/datingoverforty. Looks like a rescue mission happened but was downvoted to hell.These unfounded statements about FDS are exactly the shit world of stupidity that runs most Reddit arguments. And it’s how men run conversations. Opinion authoritatively stated as fact that perfectly fits their siloed beliefs without specifics. We live in an opinion as fact era. Basic rhetoric is a mystery and critical thinking skills devolved into a nice soft skill that colleges say they impart. How you feel about something is important and truth is “relative”. Fluently examining issues and unp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 09:30 PM |
| 9 | Being asked on a date "too early"I’m not in charge of you or your standards. And there’s a what about for nearly every situation under the sun. Pretty sure that if you’re still enjoying him on day 3 and he asks to meet- there’s a multitude of things you can say, like: “I’m enjoying getting to know you here”. If 5 days works for you then that’s your selection tool. Right? And to answer your question directly. If his way too early is different than yours??? That’s an issue. If you don’t sync time and milestone wise at the beginni… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 10:54 PM |
| 21 | Being asked on a date "too early"If a man sparks no joy, is pushy or anything else that doesn’t make you feel like he’s a fun and safe man, why would you “educate” him? Read the handbook. (It doesn’t recommend telling men how to treat you.) And then consider this: by telling him something basic like he’s being too aggressive and you don’t know anything about him - that it’s too early- he knows!!!! Repeat till you understand that! Dude knows!!!! So if he knows why is he asking too early? Is because you’re special? Or that he kno… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 10:07 PM |
| 48 | I have yet to meet a man who is as interesting as he pretends to be. Where are the men who read and can keep up with me intellectually?Men’s OLD profiles, resumes and getting to know them prattle is just a baited hook to troll for sex. In the USA anti “intellectual” is the cultural preference. And if you’re smart- you’re a nerd lacking social skills. Being authoritative is valued over educated- talking in absolutes based on opinions presented as facts that doesn’t create space for mutual discussion is the norm for vast legions of men. The ones I’ve met that do read are very sophomoric about it. For example, men would ask about … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 08:12 PM |
| 28 | Beware the onslaught of LVM we are about to encounterFuck! He’s probably right. They’re all wound up with combo of bored, lonely, pouty and porn sick horny - and like moths to a bug light are gonna be out pestering for sex. I was wondering why they seemed extra extra friendly when I went out the other day. It’s gonna be a long summer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 07:56 AM |
| 30 | Dudes posing like they are the prize 🤣🤣🤣*NSFW and also *NSFL (not safe for life)Ummm he does not have the body to make that look “sexy”. That pose and pic is a hairless doughy body hat fish. And his booty and spine curve - very extra. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 12:07 AM |
| 15 | Dating in the country that invented 'Going Dutch'FDS is take what works. The principles are adaptable to your situation. The underlying principle of he pays dinner dates is a demonstration of interest through investment. How do Dutch men(or any other culture) indicate they value you? If it’s not dinner dates how do they “invest”? When I first dated years ago men demonstrated interest and investment by fixing my car and other work and kindness- and they paid for dates. A few years ago I lived in Ireland and definitely dating is different in man… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 07:48 PM |
| 31 | GiGi Engle, who we’ve called out here multiple times for giving absolutely harmful anti-woman bad sex advice, has written for almost every single major magazine imaginable. Why is this horrible woman allowed to speak for and to us like this?She’s marketable because her narrative is valuable to maintain the mainstream. She fills that niche of cool girl who capably blames women using “feminism” so therefore it’s true in a what about way. She’s tailor made for fake feminism that’s built out by inclusiveness. Because obviously men and women despite gender socialization in a binary that is oppositional we are intrinsically the same. Her “provocative” spin captures all the shit man apologists rationalize. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 07:42 PM |
| 11 | Is it just me or are OLD guys awful at conversation?That’s what happens, right? Idk but I deleted my profile today. It’s the longest time I’ve had one up -about 35 days and this time I wasn’t frustrated or butt hurt. And I learned some really interesting things. So basically I was done done done with men and wondering why the hell I was subbed to FDS. So I made a pandemic profile because there was no way I was meeting someone irl and used block and delete strategies. What really wore me down every time OLD before was all the never got any of my o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 05:41 AM |
| 22 | Is it just me or are OLD guys awful at conversation?Yes they are. And best thing ever is reclaiming your sanity by block and delete. Figure out what messages get automatically deleted and start enjoying texting by trashing everything that doesn’t create conversation. Personally it’s anything that doesn’t “spark joy” and respond in kind to my profile. Witty conversation is my benchmark so I wrote stuff that made me laugh out loud. ( (Include obvious conversation starters that cannot be easily sexualized. Upload a few (I only do one) good pictures … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 01:55 AM |
| 16 | On today’s episode of why are men™We thought it was okay because that’s what wife, mom, sister, aunt, gf and maids do. Men “help out”. And men’s help doesn’t need to be to standards. I know that in all my relationships with men ( except a gay brother) that friction from mess making with conflict over domestic work was the everyday issue that unraveled the relationship. Post rad fem and FDS I see that so many conflicts in relationships are just basic disrespect that is weaponized with men’s passive aggressive tactics to procure s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 08:40 PM |
| 23 | The guy didn’t confirm the date. So I didn’t meet up. What’s your policy on this?Am I understanding you correctly? Tuesday set up a time and date but not a specific location? And then he texts on Thursday saying he’s there? If that’s the case then there wasn’t a date planned. (Why would he do that? Especially if you didn’t agree to a specific place on Tuesday? I’m not really clear on what happened) Y’all are adults. So therefore clear cut plans with confirmation calls are easy to make. But here’s the thing: I would never expect a call that wasn’t mutually preplanned and then… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 05:40 PM |
| 75 | On today’s episode of why are men™During quarantine I have daily gratitude that I am not cleaning up after, caretaking, managing the house for all the men formerly in my life. I’m extremely grateful not living with their mess, pouty attitudes and especially the stupid unnecessary shit they say. Whole grown men never are because apparently, as my ex said, “that’s the wimen’s work”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 05:06 PM |
| 1 | Men hate it when their experiences aren’t being talked about in a discussion about women’s experiencesWhite cisgender heterosexual men typically believe that every fucking body is just like them. In their never to be enlightened minds, everyone has the same opportunity because we’re human and all sorts of samey same everything. Their golden rule and life motto: it’s a only few bad apples and everyone creates their own reality. From this apex of “equality” out rolls the blame. Because obviously if you’ve had fail, trauma or drama- that’s on you. And not only that, but your experiences better fit … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 07:00 PM |
| 14 | What do you guys think about “Onlyfans”?When she says: “are you going to pay my bills?!?!” It’s really about ownership isn’t it? He’s angry that men are paying for sex that’s he’s already claimed and payed for- he’s angry not because it’s humiliating, exploitative and objectifying- that it’s a bad life choice. He’s mad because she’s revoked his exclusive rights. Only fans is like all other sex based work. Not a fan. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 04:57 PM |
| 5 | Permanently Banned from r/relationships simply for participating in FDSThanks! Just making sure that if there’s human moderators lurking they smell exactly what I was stepping in🖕💩🖕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 03:12 AM |
| 24 | Permanently Banned from r/relationships simply for participating in FDSPeople are really kinda intolerant of ideas that do not support their version of life like pissy Karen manager needing cop calling types. I think it’s because everyone nowadays believes they’re smart in a no further info necessary, Imma influencer too, can’t fool me kinda way. So they hunker down in silos of same thought and rid themselves of heretics that dare to suggest something different. I mean for sure subs can be exclusive to a topic with rules but our bans were just ridiculous. Apparentl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 01:11 AM |
| 76 | Permanently Banned from r/relationships simply for participating in FDSMe too and I wasn’t subbed and didn’t mention them by name in a post here but nevertheless. Really thought the ban proved how utterly enslaved they are to their massively terrible lives that are directly related to the shit men they serve. Handmaids to their own misery. Really have no fucks left for meaningless Reddit drama. All these subs that don’t allow anything but culturally approved ideas 🤡🤡💩💩🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 12:09 AM |
| 131 | Pure GOLD StrategyI hate to say this because it’s not a criticism of any response to harassment. Unfortunately “feisty” and “angry” and therefore “lusty” is the fucked up shit men are after when they sexualize red hair. It’s disgusting. When I was blonde it was dumb, coercible and “sexy”. Brunette- I don’t remember any particular attention except that my hair was very long. Men sexualize the shit out of everything and some things are bigger targets- red hair seems to be high on the extreme perv act stupid scale. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 10:30 PM |
| 188 | Pure GOLD StrategyI’ve dyed my hair for years. I reply to all comments and questions like this: “It comes in box, you can have it too.” And it’s like magically pissing in their whole bowl of stupid Cheerios. The big time assholes and pervs are activated into super dumb shit by red hair in my experience. Blonde was bad but redhead brings all the boys to my yard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 09:32 PM |
| 28 | I love seeing comments on here about how "love languages" are bullshitThere’s an industry of made up ideas to explain away issues in relationships. There’s a huge market and appetite for simple but “insightful” ideas and methods especially if they seem “spiritual”. The book was published nearly 30 years ago and it’s become a pop culture fact. Many relationship “experts” throw the 5 languages like it was as true as water is wet. Having exposed myself to waaaay too much relationship advice and taken the quiz it sure seemed like rationalizing non negotiable demands a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 05:41 PM |
| 4 | The big lie about women and communication💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 07:51 AM |
| 19 | Women, you are NOT a fucking play thing.It’s painful to write out all the ways we were used. But it’s cathartic in good way because it shows us our good hearts that have forgotten that all these gifts are valuable and we are too. And at least for me personally it shows all the expectations for services that men so greedily devour and then toss us aside. I too have similar stories for days. Feel better this was not you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 03:09 AM |
| 23 | Women, you are NOT a fucking play thing.So sorry about your experience- feel better! Your story is why I’ve been blocking and deleting at the first sign of being used because men are totally about using you for whatever they can get. They always have an excuse that always begins with “it’s just”. And they’re using you for things from the minor like attention (like replies to their OLD messages) to truly selfish messed up things like what he did to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 02:56 AM |
| 2 | The big lie about women and communicationActually (sorry about this Bible rant-but formerly belonged to a cult) women were singled out in the New Testament and specifically rewarded and recognized for their faith and spirituality. And there’s instances in the Hebrew/ Aramaic scriptures and probably in the Apocrypha too! Anyways I totally agree that we’re made to believe it’s all within our control. That it’s all on us to earn respect and not earn abuse. It’s really fucked up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 02:43 AM |
| 13 | So I know this isn’t the absolute worst but still😭 Are they trying to make walk dates a thing now?Can confirm walk dates are a thing. And also long winded political declarations about rights that include whole essay length rants that compare covid to the flu and declare that people die in big numbers anyways. How romantic. Anyways reading OkCupid profiles during pandemic is like watching train crash auto wreck videos . It’s become a guilty pleasure. My bad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 02:33 AM |
| 6 | The big lie about women and communicationRealizing that it wasn’t me and that unwarranted, unwanted, unnecessary and undeserved fucking bullshit was going to happen no matter what has been liberating. Especially learning that many women practice this bs at the expense of other women because they’ve internalized misogyny and are in an imaginary race collecting boss girl lean in points to fill up their self hatred rewards card redeemable in cool girl accolades. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 02:23 AM |
| 12 | The big lie about women and communication“Aggressive gaslighting” that’s such a valuable insight! We’re bullied with lies. And given the bangmaid role and yet somehow we’re supposed to use our words for change. 🤷🏻♀️🤔🤡💩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/20 02:12 AM |
| 58 | Watch how he ‘play fights’ with you, I just saw this tweet where the guy is extremely violent while ‘playing’She smiles and looks like she enjoyed this whereas he looks angry and acts like he’s in battle mode. There’s a vast difference in their body language. She’s been trained to seek out this kind of attention, minimize his violence and to derive pleasure from brutality. We know that he’s all over bad and that the relationship will end. That trauma accrues and isn’t a sustainable bond. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 07:09 PM |
| 26 | The bar is so low on advice subsI see how male centric everything that’s shitty is and how it entitles men to awful destructive behavior and that it’s baked in all of this type of advice. There’s never rational analysis of men’s behavior. No questions about his motivation or beliefs or actions or what his immediate and long term plan was by acting out. It’s just men and how they are so therefore all this advice is basically more work assigned to the women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 06:56 PM |
| 3 | Thank you sir who is 15 years older than me and completely ignored the first line of my bio that said “No hookups”, very coolGood to know. I appreciate your experience because it is expansive. Thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 12:24 AM |
| 8 | Thank you sir who is 15 years older than me and completely ignored the first line of my bio that said “No hookups”, very coolThanks for the validation. I figured I was not the only one. I never talk about this because of all the “damaged” shaming and blame that belittles women as broken and deserving of abuse. No I don’t like bad boys. They’re all bad when they’re blind to women’s life of objectification and harassment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 12:06 AM |
| 24 | Thank you sir who is 15 years older than me and completely ignored the first line of my bio that said “No hookups”, very coolNo matter what they say this is what OLD men mean. Sure they have all sorts of other things on their profiles and most would never directly say this... But (and true story) Every single one I’ve met OLD would have sex for the sake of having sex. I’m sure this is y’all’s experience too. Men are so fucking (more accurately fuck less) oblivious that sex for sex sake isn’t good for women. It isn’t empowerment, rarely pleasurable and it’s dangerous. But nevertheless, men are out there, dick in hand, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/20 08:51 PM |
| 25 | Why do some HVM marry “shallow” girls?Just maybe this hvm likes her company and is in love blah blah blah? Maybe he didn’t see marriage as a bunch of accomplishments like those required to be accepted into an Ivy League university and thought all those qualities didn’t matter? And who knows but perhaps she has other qualities and there’s money for her pop culture spending and millions of people like KK? Maybe he isn’t attracted to women for thousands of good and bad reasons that are everything she’s not? Idk just maybe he sees beyon… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/20 06:53 PM |
| 122 | How mods sleep knowing FDS is responsible for some low life cheating scrote getting blocked somewhereMy emotional health is vastly different because I no longer believe any of the lies. And therefore don’t allow shit behavior and/or create relationships in my head. All the disappointment and disaster is gone - my emotional turmoil and resulting trauma from believing that men were benign and had good motives - that I just needed to take chances and keep trying until I found the “one” replaced with clarity and method that benefits me. My crazy died. Men are trauma vectors. All interactions have a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/20 07:43 PM |
| 11 | More Sex Work Propaganda from Refinery29: “Sex Work is one of the few ways women have access to upward mobility and that’s why it’s so threatening to the patriarchy”. 🙄 The Patriarchy is not threatened by you sucking their dicks sis, they’re intentionally encouraging it.And part of the whole truth is why men purchase sex. What do men receive? Do men believe they are smashing the patriarchy and supporting a local small business for the good of their community? Do men believe they’re empowering women’s financial security and sexual autonomy? https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/why-do-men-buy-sex-2012-10-23/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/20 06:51 PM |
| 10 | More Sex Work Propaganda from Refinery29: “Sex Work is one of the few ways women have access to upward mobility and that’s why it’s so threatening to the patriarchy”. 🙄 The Patriarchy is not threatened by you sucking their dicks sis, they’re intentionally encouraging it.So much ??? Decriminalize the buyer and worker AND the pimp/trafficker is still a criminal because while selling sex is ok the manager/agent/recruiter isn’t and their acts still criminal. I know it’s a slippery slope argument but when does the sale of sex become illegal and why? Laws are generally based on ethics and outcome. Why is the usual corporate hierarchical structure of income distribution no bueno in sex work? Why is the procurement and management of workers criminal in this industry? A… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/20 05:27 PM |
| 1 | Things seem to be taking a negative turn here. Please, let's focus our energies on building each other up and IGNORING trash men.Yeah well, me too! But apparently others see discussion as down vote material- or maybe it’s trolls. 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤔🤔🤔🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 11:41 PM |
| 1 | Things seem to be taking a negative turn here. Please, let's focus our energies on building each other up and IGNORING trash men.Oh and btw getting down votes for my replies here- lol!!! Is this the supportive sisterhood? No reasoned discussion? Lol!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 11:00 PM |
| 1 | When all dates during a global pandemic seem casual, how can you identify LVM?There’s no such thing as an FDS socially distanced date. Did you suit up with real ppe? Especially since medical personal are experiencing shortages and dying because? Anyone including you that agrees to meet during an unprecedented pandemic from a virus that kills and isn’t fully understood- and new effects are being discovered nearly daily that has a high transmission rate and is often carried without any symptoms- is acting in an irresponsible low value placed on human life manner. That’s not… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 10:42 PM |
| 2 | Things seem to be taking a negative turn here. Please, let's focus our energies on building each other up and IGNORING trash men.I’m not in favor of sub subscribers who have participated for less than a few months that haven’t leveled up their flair trying to make new and substantive changes onstage instead of asking moderators offstage for a discussion about concerns. Basically I’m not for politicking big changes by upvote and comment count by subscribers. As far as your second point that it’s unseemly to denigrate in absentia, only a monster would disagree. And in context, once again I will say that these posts seem to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 10:06 PM |
| 2 | Things seem to be taking a negative turn here. Please, let's focus our energies on building each other up and IGNORING trash men.This sub auto bans many derogatory terms. And if it’s a screenshot of something that the poster wants to rant about???? And somebody’s being roasted in absentia? 🤷🏻♀️ There’s a lot of roasting and venting here. It sure seems to be part of the process of finding your voice. Especially since women are silenced as a matter of fact. Being more extra or whatever and no slamming is a censorship. There’s always this push on women to be more refined and civilized not to be angry. Personally imo it’s ki… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 09:44 PM |
| 13 | Things seem to be taking a negative turn here. Please, let's focus our energies on building each other up and IGNORING trash men.Here’s my opinion for what it’s worth. I agree that all the clap back stuff needs deplatformed. I also think all advice seeking posts where it’s obviously answered in the sidebar are best deleted- especially: he’s hvm but.... Finally fuck all the positive vibes only, handholding support women policing of blunt replies. I know for sure if someone, anyone had kicked me in the ass about my choice in men in the past my life would be totally different! Instead of all the: he’s handsome, he seems nice… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 09:31 PM |
| 19 | How to maintain FDS Guidelines during quarantineCall instead of texting- texting is for asking if you have time for your expected chat. Calls should have a time limit. But most of all this isn’t dating! And most FDS followers rightfully believe that pandemic dating is just lvm desperate for attention. Basically you’re just entertainment because any well put together person isn’t gonna be trying to find a partner during social distancing. And if you’re finding boundaries difficult how is that going to work when restrictions are lifted??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 08:49 PM |
| 6 | Disappointed but not surprisedSo now you know. The pandemic restrictions create space for conversations that would not usually take place until after committing and sometimes marriage. The normal dating model is best foot forward, doing fun and entertaining things usually in public- good mood and well behaved. The whole person is rarely seen. So here we are 90 million quarantine days later, so you’re talking a lot. My own takeaways from talking to a man during quarantine: That discussion about important stuff- values, goals,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 08:05 PM |
| 28 | Does anyone feel like they attract poor options?Many many women of all different economic situations, educational attainments all over the world have extremely similar anecdotal stories about the prevalence of shitty men attracted to them. Lots come to conclusions like yours- that somehow it’s their fault. That it’s the location, their class, their career, their past, their present, their financials and decide that if they work smart and diligently they can win the prize: a man. That all this nasty attention is circumstantial and relative to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 02:09 AM |
| 80 | Who’s going to tell him?Well, gee whiz Brad, ya think? Of course his name is Brad! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 07:36 AM |
| 3 | Responding to Reddit messages from male lurkersYes we have! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 07:12 AM |
| 16 | LMAAAO.The comments detail the issue. Men don’t see, if they do see, it’s not them or their problem, and for some, because the article isn’t solution-based it’s an evil plot to create even a bigger problem. 🤡🤡🤡💩💩💩🎭🎭🎭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 07:12 AM |
| 3 | Responding to Reddit messages from male lurkersI’ve been messaged by others too- not distracted or anything you’ve mentioned- umm it was just a shower thought type rant not a plea for help but thanks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 07:03 AM |
| 37 | LMAAAO.Not taking even the slightest whiff of shit off men is key. This stuff starts when a man assumes you’ll pick up the slack, patiently wait around with saintly tolerance and then kindly forgive and forget to forge the relationship forward. Fuck that shit. Stop being nice to men that use you as a bangmaid. So magically 45% of men and 3% of women say the men do more quarantine schooling. And the rest of the survey just slides off even further into the men don’t pull their own weight shitter. The com… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 05:53 AM |
| 8 | Responding to Reddit messages from male lurkersThere’s a nonsensical quality to standard “gotcha” imma-gonna-own-you replies like, ur ugly and no man will marry you. They have this he man haters club cope of beliefs about a steady, large supply of women available for their machinations. Women are doomed to men like lemmings off a cliff in their world. They’re just sending you a PSA. Probably because secretly they would love to have a lvm type relationship dynamic with another man (but no homo) because they conflate abuse and dominance with g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 11:41 PM |
| 16 | Responding to Reddit messages from male lurkersThere’s opinion spin industry of mainly white men who violently whine about how terribly negative anything they disagree with is where they dog whistle and make outright calls for action. It’s ubiquitous. Their target audience is men. This audience is monkey see, monkey do. They are basking in reflected glory by doing their neo cons lord’s work of sending these messages to spark response and hopefully make a platform to argue from. It’s like little boys wearing daddy’s boots and going to “work”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 11:14 PM |
| 15 | FDS and dating when you might be considered LV?If that’s your paradigm and rubric then you know your answer- don’t date until you’ve “maxed”. Personally and imo I am not a product that should be at peak performance in terms of subjective things like looks, housing and other stuff seemingly mercantile in order to attract a man. That all just rubs me wrong and yes, I have extensively read the sidebar and auxiliary reading material. You gotta roll with what works for you and leave the rest. Once again personally, I’m emotionally ready and since… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 03:28 AM |
| 17 | “Men sleep with who they can but women sleep with who they want. Men marry who they want but women marry who they can” Thoughts??Just because women choose poorly and invest in staying doesn’t mean that men have advantage that allows them to direct things. Women statistically leave bad relationships. They don’t sign up for life. Statistics are something like 70% of divorce is initiated by women in the States. And long term marriages are ending- there’s a trend of late in life divorce. All tired old sayings that “prove” men are dogs and women are baby and marriage hungry willing to commit to any guy that asks don’t do much … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 12:15 AM |
| 16 | Am I going crazy or are men starting to look worse and worse?Take pride in filth! Exactly! Storytime: Last man I dated was objectively, literally and physically ugly. By this time in my dating experiment I just didn’t care anymore. He sorta was adoring, did the gentleman thing and was basically amusing. I was settling. Big time. It was nearly 5 months, we never had sex and I dumped him because drama. Here’s the thing his looks (he was formerly handsome), his health (he had multiple serious issues from neglect and alcohol) and his life filled with constant… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 11:22 PM |
| 40 | Am I going crazy or are men starting to look worse and worse?Actually for many heterosexual men being ugly, fat(ish), dirty and having no desire or talent for appearance upkeep or improvement is a personality trait. It’s them! I’ve seen and heard all the reasons. For years I rarely thought men were attractive. I thought it was because I didn’t objectify them, that I was not sexual etc. Recently, I realized that objectively men are ugly and fat. That it’s mostly women and proportionally very few men that care about their appearance to present themselves ae… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 08:48 PM |
| 178 | Am I going crazy or are men starting to look worse and worse?There’s no social pressure, training and the marketplace doesn’t sell appearance products or values to men. It’s video games, porn, expensive shoes and watches. It’s unflattering clothes, it’s passive screen based activity. It’s junk food, bacon and booze. It’s hangovers and energy drinks and fast food. It’s high blood pressure before 40. It’s beer belly and dad bods. It’s blackheads, bad hygiene and preventable decay. It’s gay to wash, eat healthy, get medical care or care about grooming or wha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 06:58 PM |
| 22 | You do not “attract” abusive men. You are not responsible for your own abuse.The “boys will be boys” golden rule playbook that builds legions of hate what you fuck - but fuck as you must men uses blaming women for abuse to maintain the shit show. Women are blamed first for the fucking and then for everything else. Blaming yourself and/or believing that’s what you attract is the easiest explanation. And it supports economic and belief structures that profit from commoditizing your grief, pain and shame that come from heteronormative intimacy that commonly comes with bruta… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 06:05 PM |
| 40 | Thinking about being in a relationship rn is revolting. Anyone relate?It’s not the traditional benefits men receive in patriarchal marriage as much as the zeroing out of traditional benefits for women that’s been replaced with libfem faux equality via pixie manic sexually empowered bdsm kinky cool girls who allow anything and pay for half imo that has made so many women stop dating permanently. Traditional benefits for women were never great but nonetheless benevolent sexism gave some benefits that kept many women married in the past. There was a minor something. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 07:31 AM |
| 1 | Question from a Virgin in a relationship; Should I not sleep with him until I’ve met his friends/he’s met mine even if it’s been 90 days?90 days???? What does 90 days have to do with having sex with another person virgin or not? Why would meeting his friends make a difference? What requirements do you have for a first time? Have you talked about sex? Is he trustworthy? Safe? Considerate? What do you expect? What do both of you know about human sexual design and function? Does he watch porn? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 03:32 AM |
| 12 | Is it a red flag when a guy says on his profile that his favorite quality of a person is “empathy”?There’s a shit ton of “looking for” lists by men that are problematic imo . While it’s best practice to build solid standards by analyzing why and what works before making OLD profiles imo publicizing them online isn’t not best practice - most lists by men indicate reasons not to date them. Men create a role for you to play with these trait lists so you can act in ways for them to pick you after the auditions. Here’s some translations: Easygoing: wants a woman that allows disrespect and/or abuse… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 03:25 AM |
| 15 | Is it a red flag when a guy says on his profile that his favorite quality of a person is “empathy”?In general, men don’t understand “empathy”, the ability to understand and feel other people’s experiences. It’s not in the “boys will be boys” bible. Typically boys are not taught a full range of emotions and social skills including empathy - so the ability to read others is intriguing and a skill they want applied to them- especially in dating/relationships. They believe a woman’s ability to sense their wants and whims is really beneficial to them. They want that! If you’re sensitive, feel othe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 02:07 AM |
| 7 | Does it sound like my ex was a narcissist ?💯💯💯👆🏻👆🏻👆🏻 Because this bs means that the woman making the excuses doesn’t have to take a look at herself. She gets to save him, understand him, nurture him and then expect shit in return. And when it all blows up and bad shit breaks them up it’s the perfect excuse: mental illness. She then gets martyr points to punch her “been there done that- send booze” card that she can eventually redeem for a socially acceptable reason why she’s single. At least that’s what my cynical self says. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 01:43 AM |
| 4 | Tip for those who use OLDWell then, you understand my reasons. Life is not a dichotomous flow chart that engineers create. They can fuck right off with that shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 05:28 AM |
| 6 | Tip for those who use OLDMy personal opinion and preference is based on the basic assumption of the engineering profession and academic discipline: that systems, apparatus and function are mathematical and therefore designable. And since engineers have training and status conferred from successfully controlling often complex operations they try to apply it unilaterally to intimacy and relationships. They conflate engineering paradigms with social calibration to control and regulate emotional output of themselves, friend… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 05:20 AM |
| 3 | Tip for those who use OLDAnymore, I read those posts with specifics and see less application. In general, every profession and category of men is filled with fuck bois and other undesirable men who are not relationship material. In general, I like the principle of that there’s no confusion about his behavior and intentions towards you and then using standards and vetting according to a well designed plan that suits your needs. I see tooooo many posts here that say “he’s high value.... but....” because women get fooled b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 02:51 AM |
| 3 | Tip for those who use OLDFor me all sorts of things, for you???? Results may vary. Imo that’s how dating advice fails big time. Yes, there are non negotiable principles and yet, at the same time, individual preferences that become a standard for personal reasons that might or not apply to others. That’s why I ignore many things that fall into to the preferences category. For instance my profile fits my own standards and is specific- I don’t do certain things that many dating rules say are mandatory. I trust my own judgm… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 01:32 AM |
| 6 | Tip for those who use OLDI met a man last week OLD that so far meets standards. It’s a pandemic so of course there’s all the very real considerations and context. But here’s the thing: vetting brought me someone who appears to be a man who I would meet. I feel good about this. I have zero expectations, am not making Pinocchio into a real boy and am not building a relationship in my head. If OLD was engaging with respectful, witty men in mutual conversation like this guy- I would do more. They are out there. This guy- we… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 11:52 PM |
| 18 | Tip for those who use OLDMy list of messages and men blocked. Use what works for you and ignore what won’t. All appearance based compliments. I have mirror and self awareness. All negs and review type comments- it’s dating not Yelp. I don’t care. Any mansplain convo- for example: men that ask my academic discipline and then use mainstream mass market books or tv shows demonstrate their “depth” of knowledge. (No Brad, just no.) Any non specific requests to chat. Don’t have time or energy for that. Any obvious discrepancy… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 10:19 PM |
| 26 | OLDHaven’t you noticed that men get hostile rather quickly over inconsequential things? Are you not familiar with road rage or very public meltdowns when men don’t get what they want, when they want it and to their liking? I mean sure #notallmen and all that women are bad too explain away stuff- but really, men’s hostility is not inexplicable nor is it rare. Men believe their swipes, likes, lame messages and compliments are exactly enough - that’s all they will do- some men don’t read profiles. Tel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/20 10:52 AM |
| 1 | Why are there SO MANY LVM?Hope is a contract you make with yourself for a better future- right? Nobody is leading you to anything, really, if you think about it. You’re in charge. But as for bright and positive, why you weight that over some sort of value-based pragmatism that creates better outcomes through knowledge and selectivity is something perhaps to consider? Certainly positive attitudes have only so much efficacy. As far as the sub triggering difficult negative reactions - perhaps finding answers elsewhere and/o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/20 02:41 AM |
| 13 | Why are there SO MANY LVM?I’m not sure why “the scarcity mindset” is demonized? Some environments and cultures will have more men without basic qualities. Educating yourself, making standards that align with your ethics and aspirations for life- that’s what’s important. It’s vital to clearly see what is, instead of what isn’t -even when that means there are fewer viable choices. All stories good or bad about men while they have truth might not be true for you. I personally find lots of value in horror stories because so … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/20 01:04 AM |
| 13 | Everything the #MeToo Movement Fought For is Being Threatened by LibFem Hypocrisy on Tara Reade. No progress will be made if powerful women immediately rescind their principles for capitalists interests and personal political gains. Liberal Feminism is feminism for me and not for thee.Women in general and those with relative power refuse to see how the worldwide eons long rape and assault endemic of women as it is: if all men do all or some or even one of these: rape, coerce sex, or subsidize rape by tacit agreement, by silence, or denial, or watch rape porn and all other rapey behaviors - then- women would have to disavow all men who rape or are rapey. When you unpack why men’s whole existence is singularly sex centric and built by victimizing women there’s no liberal femini… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 11:51 PM |
| 3 | Study: 70% of men agree it's acceptable to lie to women and say you're in love with them to have sex with her. 80% of men think they shouldn't have to use any birth control. And 90% of these men said abortion was wrong.Install a pdf app? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 08:47 PM |
| 28 | Study: 70% of men agree it's acceptable to lie to women and say you're in love with them to have sex with her. 80% of men think they shouldn't have to use any birth control. And 90% of these men said abortion was wrong.https://b-ok.cc/ Search : Last name, first PDF copy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 08:15 PM |
| 18 | Why don't women like me? I call them beautiful! Dating is hard.Men believe complimenting appearance unlocks the next level. Irl man says you’re beautiful, woman is supposed to mildly blush and stammer some self deprecation AND THEN the good stuff like sex happens. Thanks Hollywood! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 07:36 PM |
| 22 | I really wish I could’ve seen this thread earlier.... I didn’t know we shouldn’t tell men we’ve been in abusive relationships. A guy friend of mine that I’ve been talking to for 6 months knows basically everything about my exes ... there’s no going back now....Hope this helps: From my own experience I learned that it’s best to tell NOBODY about your past abusive experience. Period. End of story. (The popular fashion for sharing sad abuse stories I’m guessing comes from reality tv and tabloid style over interest in tragedy as if there’s a hero’s journey and redemption gained from surviving abuse. I call bullshit.) Your abuse story can and will be used against you to further harm you in ways and in situations that will surprise you and sometimes will be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 04:46 AM |
| 44 | Never Settle: a cute article on going your own way and being singleI belonged to the Facebook group created by the author of this article. She spent 10 years on apps in NYC with years doing first/second date hook ups and finally quit the apps, started a podcast and has a Refinery29 column on being single. Her accounts of app dating are bleak and brutal. After getting her fill she quit hooking up after a few years and then spent the subsequent years using up substantial swaths of time daily swiping that resulted in (as she says) no return on investment. She’s in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 10:28 PM |
| 5 | r/datingoverforty filled with bitter middle aged men as the comments in the post shows. All MEn OvER 40 OnLY DaTE 20 YEaR OLds yOu StOOpid BiTcH!As an American that did postgrad in the UK a few years ago -aware of the difference in the social safety net. No offense taken. Even though you have a government that has basic supports- being poor with a child it’s obviously not a good choice because there’s this biological clock belief that a woman needs to have a child. Like you point out the social stigma marks you. While the situation isn’t as dire the results are similar to the US : it’s a bad situation to struggle in that doesn’t benefit … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 09:58 PM |
| 49 | In need of a little encouragementHe’s faking his capacity for a relationship by dating and never falling in love for “reasons”. He’s searching for his unicorn. The yin to his yang. The woman savior that will lead him into the promised land. This is men 2020. The reasons are multiple volume book length but basically his emotional cognition is not developed to allow him a mutually satisfying and reciprocal relationship with a woman. Block, delete and feel better. It’s not you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 09:13 PM |
| 17 | What are the typical true motivations of LV exes who contact you to "apologize"?My ex husband who singularly made the divorce brutal- lying about everything to ruin and destroy me (using every means available) sent a substantial sum a few years after the final decree. His motivation according to the lawyer was “I realized I wasn’t fair”. Which in his case translates, “I realized water was wet”. Apologies are grooming to entrap you into to forgiveness. Forgiving is a declaration about who’s the victim and perpetrator that usually doesn’t address the wrong and makes space for… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 08:53 PM |
| 38 | r/datingoverforty filled with bitter middle aged men as the comments in the post shows. All MEn OvER 40 OnLY DaTE 20 YEaR OLds yOu StOOpid BiTcH!Your story is rarely heard in the biological clock narrative. Especially now since the cost of children is beyond expensive- and in general there’s little financial stability and many women will never earn enough to even adequately raise a child alone. Having a child in poverty in the US means homelessness, food instability and lack of basic access to health care and adequate education. It’s too bad there’s not a resource like FDS for women to see facts, read stories and share experiences. The b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 07:40 PM |
| 103 | Is this supposed to be funny or insulting? Ugh, online dating.You don’t have to take any shit off men online dating. Since what he wrote can clearly be seen as mean dump his ass. Delete and block. Don’t bother with anything that doesn’t make you feel happy! Ok? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 04:25 AM |
| 2 | My lessons learned from attempting to spark conversation using online dating while blocking bad behavior using FDS style basic standards to vet messages.Women in general don’t see oppression- especially the more privileged they are- if they have basics : education, job that pays the bills, family, friends they are blind because shit works like they’ve been programmed to expect. That’s changing. Life goals that require men is destroying centuries of women’s beliefs about normal because it’s not mentally, physically or financially sustainable to associate with men. Especially OLD. Women are getting that “normal” is bad. With all the mainstream cov… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 12:40 AM |
| 34 | Quick Question Ladies... Is it ok if the person you're in a relationship constantly checks out other people when you're in public?It’s not human nature to leer and blatantly sexualize women in an obvious way that is noticeable when you’re in public with your significant other that you are in an exclusive monogamous relationship with- that’s total bs. It’s not ok. It’s rape culture. It’s dehumanizing. It’s predatory. It has nothing to do with observing a beautiful woman in public and knowing she’s attractive to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 12:05 AM |
| 19 | You shouldn't care about hurting men's feelingsWomen are taught to care about men’s feelings because it’s self preservation. Women are policed for their behavior. Loudly, publicly, privately and sometimes violently. Women are humiliated, guilted and admonished by strangers, family, friends and associates to be “ladylike”, accommodating and meek. Men are enforcers that expect women act and appear as they see fit. Men are explosively fragile and triggered by inconsequential things and will totally out of proportion to the situation overreact i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 11:30 PM |
| 28 | Total shitshow in Trueoffmychest right now. These people are depressingHere’s the thing: despite being biochemical and bioelectrical organisms with hormones that message and direct functions we don’t live in a vacuum. Environment and social learning organize and pressure humans to reaction and behavior. All these fascist arguments with bad science, poor rhetoric that come to totalitarian type conclusions that support misogyny-based patriarchal intolerance and oppression are basically “because I said so” and testosterone =superiority. Sure, Jan. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 08:52 PM |
| 73 | Total shitshow in Trueoffmychest right now. These people are depressingTestosterone correlated to reason and logic? 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 08:26 PM |
| 20 | My lessons learned from attempting to spark conversation using online dating while blocking bad behavior using FDS style basic standards to vet messages.Men cannot fathom that a woman’s experience OLD is nothing like a man’s. At fucking all. Men imagine that women think like them and are motivated and react like them. Men would love to get genital pics, be sexualized, complimented on their beauty, and get thousands of likes and hundreds of messages. Men imagine heaven as a place where they would be sexually objectified and pursued relentlessly for fucking. Men do not think that negging, aggressive argumentative messages, name calling, bullying, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 08:32 AM |
| 19 | I was sexually assaulted last weekend. Cautionary tale in the time of a pandemic.Women assume that reporting a rape is like calling the manager to get someone fired like a boss. They assume that as the victim they will be protected and their needs prioritized. That the police and judicial officers will have their back and justice will be served and he will be locked up and registered as a sex offender for life. They assume they will shoot to kill, fight to maim and will manage to escape. They assume he will be some pervy deranged stranger. They never talk about how rape is n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 07:58 AM |
| 6 | My lessons learned from attempting to spark conversation using online dating while blocking bad behavior using FDS style basic standards to vet messages.I don’t think there’s any reliable method to get good results- that what’s supremely important is to ruthlessly vet and take no shit. Tbh that even though I’m not having conversations my experience is way better because I am not engaging with what doesn’t work. So there’s that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 04:08 AM |
| 9 | My lessons learned from attempting to spark conversation using online dating while blocking bad behavior using FDS style basic standards to vet messages.And I believe your experience could be my experience- that’s why I went online. Instead I’m getting a lesson in online dating first message dynamics. Glad you are having a better experience than me. Your’s is how online dating should be- and it’s not imo about our methods- we’re both selective - there’s other factors. Thanks for the reply. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 03:51 AM |
| 13 | My lessons learned from attempting to spark conversation using online dating while blocking bad behavior using FDS style basic standards to vet messages.They are on dating apps because exactly what they are doing constituents dating for them. Perhaps it’s only frustration. Maybe it’s a hookups- maybe just one. They ARE dating and this is how it looks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 03:05 AM |
| 18 | My lessons learned from attempting to spark conversation using online dating while blocking bad behavior using FDS style basic standards to vet messages.I thought it was just negging at first but I’m not in the PUA target demographic at all. It’s something extra beyond negging imo and so common that I never really noticed it before. It’s like air pollution or other ubiquitous problems- I was used to it. About 85% of my first messages have negative criticism about the profile. Flipping the script I would use negative personal attacks to establish dominance and only if I saw the advantage. I wouldn’t do that if I saw someone/thing as equal or abov… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 02:23 AM |
| 79 | I was sexually assaulted last weekend. Cautionary tale in the time of a pandemic.To all the posters that say report this rape to the police: Please sit down and shush. It’s definitely time to educate your rape cause and effect ignorance. Rape laws and evidentiary procedures create jobs and statistics not justice and rape prevention. Even if conviction rates were 90% (it’s less than 5% in the USA) the legal process is long, adversarial (not restorative) and lifelong marks the victim publicly and privately. The legal system has failed miserably to stop the rape epidemic and is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 09:40 PM |
| 18 | Thinking of ghosting a LVMGhosting isn’t brutal it’s strategic. This is a man that you cannot COmmUNiCaTE with and his behavior demonstrated he does not value you in an acceptable way to mutually resolve issues. If you give him the “it’s not working out” explanation or the passive aggressive “it’s me, not you” talk then it’s his turn to provide feedback. Right? Why create a platform for him to vent his feelings or worse? Is there anything (?!?) else you need to know? You’re done so why fake nice an ending for a not nice … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 08:14 PM |
| 79 | Why attractive women are single?Attractive women are single for the same reasons common to all women. I realized way late in life that “attractive” had nothing to do with quality just quantity of interest. And most of all that attention from attraction has never become anything much beyond making me a projection object in a drama orchestrated by a man’s hopes, dreams, fears and hatreds. Imo there’s more single women than ever (attractive or not) is because men’s uses for women favors single serve emotionally unsatisfying, non … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 01:40 AM |
| 18 | What percentage of women do you think are settling?Gender programming- every idea and principle that constructs what women are and “supposed to be” is a cope to maintain a patriarchy where women are tasked with settling. Women must settle for the shit dynamic and lives that devalue self worth and agency because that’s our role in a society that is built and designed for the fulfillment of men’s life projects. We’re all just side chicks in our own lives. Women have 3 basic jobs: sexual object, mother, and martyr for heteronormativity (aka settlin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 11:41 PM |
| 8 | This explains a whole fucking lot, actuallyTrue story 💯! I woke up a while back to the truth that real life women are often incredibly talented and all around fabulous great humans. Whereas conversely, men irl are often cookie cutter awful and Stepford Wives the same. Anymore I cannot even hate watch most women written by men characters - shouting at the tv is bad for my health. Never put together like you just did in your comment. Thanks for putting a fine point on it. No wonder women characters act all pissed off for minor issues, are … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 04:15 AM |
| 28 | How to deal with depression from male depravity?Over decades I’ve oscillated between many shades of negative feelings from the verifiable destructive way men behave towards women - from things I’ve witnessed in irl, news accounts read, and stories told by other women. I’ve dug myself out of all sorts of undeserved non reciprocal trauma created by men. Worked, worshipped alongside, befriended, dated, married, parented, mentored and gave birth to men. I’ve spent significant time listening and talking with men. And try as I might to think otherw… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 03:15 AM |
| 17 | A Word on Shallon LesterImo (more or less) beyond the core principle of dating to benefit yourself exclusively, FDS is a take what you need and leave the rest aggregator of advice. And like all methods of fixing your life it’s learning from a spectrum of sources, personal application and evaluation of results. Rinse and repeat. All the 10 commandments, 15 red flags, 20 best cities for singles, 50 must have dating outfits, 69 sex positions to make him love you - the lists of rules, coaches with one weird secret- that cr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 07:59 PM |
| 224 | This explains a whole fucking lot, actuallyI’ve stopped watching shows with entitled Karen calling the manager personality characters that are so myopically righteous that they cause drama, disaster and drive the ridiculous storyline to all the standard cliches endings. Refuse to watch rape as a life experience that creates growth and development shit too. Basically have realized that there are no media depictions of how average men talk, act and react. And that many of my positive ideas about men come from media not real life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 12:41 AM |
| 45 | LVM with 200k salary wants his gf to pay to sleepover; I hope she dumps his assAll of this starts with rejecting basic tenets of hospitality. Guests are given food, comfort and shelter because your home and company are not from a vending machine activated with money. Life in all its aspects is not a commodity that has a fixed price that must be paid to participate. The gross blindness to everything else other than an economic system that values pricing, payments and dividends over all other living things on the planet is amazingly efficient in creating poverty, lack and gr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 10:04 PM |
| 48 | Not emotionally attached to sex?If emotional development is stunted and aggression and anger is expected and preferable (blah blah blah toxic masculinity)- if sex is about proving and being a man- that’s really barren ground to develop the empathy required to feel emotionally attached to a sexual partner. That’s why heteronormative men often refer to fucking as “intimacy” and are so interpersonally repellent, uncommitted and uncooperative with their “partners”. Men lack the social calibration and necessary scripting to become … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 10:53 AM |
| 12 | When you are ”nice” and men automatically think you’re “flirting”There’s is a small very unrealistic part of me that imagines saying this in public to an audience. But since I like my life rape and death threat free I make sure to never speak the truth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 03:02 AM |
| 17 | Ex Reaches out after four monthsYou got closure he’s gone and you are with someone you really like. If you mean getting some sort of emotional care package from an apology and going over the shit again that makes the hurt and anger that you felt at the time disappear and then you become some sort of friends and he gets to be a nice guy instead of an asshole ex- why? I’m just spinning stuff here because I cannot even imagine what you will get from this. Please explain? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 12:58 AM |
| 26 | When you are ”nice” and men automatically think you’re “flirting”When your whole universe is penis centric and women are sex dispensers that you intrinsically hate (like a sexually active homophobic gay man) any touch, look, smile, sign of acknowledging your existence is a signal that it’s pervy pressure time for the woman that demonstrates basic social skills. You will of course blame the woman. And if you’re “intellectual” you will blame caveman- your ancient ancestors who unfortunately made you selfish in bed, promiscuous, unable to do housework or care fo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/20 10:51 PM |
| 1 | How do we balance our integrity with society's expectations of appearances? How far should we go to improve how we look?Many cosmetic procedures need revision and/or maintenance. Breast implants are not a once only major surgery. You’re committed to a lifetime of procedures. That’s something that is rarely mentioned in considerations of risk and cost. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/20 09:53 PM |
| 13 | Back to square oneYou’d think the way piv sex is promoted that it’s better than anything else on the planet. The 7 wonders of the world? Nah, dick is better. Space travel? Nah, dick is better. Dick is better than aspirin, antibiotics, organ transplants- it’s better than NyQuil! Throughout my life dick has been the cure to a disease I never had. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/20 10:18 AM |
| 30 | I decided to check out the relationship_advice sub after seeing posts from there on FDS.We’re taught that women should always want someone for reasons before we can even talk. Before my unnecessarily brutal divorce the ex booked us a therapy session with a terrible therapist. Dr. Dipstick tried undermine my resolve to live alone by asking if I had before- acting like it was something terrible when I said, “no”. So when I moved into my first place alone realized within days that alone was the best thing ever! I’ve mostly lived alone since December 2007. Unless it’s living with someo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/20 06:39 AM |
| 12 | Can't seem to change my toxic mindsetExactly 💯 this. Additionally sorting through why you chose hyper masculine abuse as attractive that’s a gender performance 180 from your Dad is a lot to unpack and a deep seated adaptation to trauma. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/20 06:19 AM |
| 4 | I need some perspective on why behavior from men bothers me SO much.Your reply has me realizing how I just cannot ignore off feeling shit from men anymore. Like the minute my wtf sense even slightly tingles I’m done. It’s like a WTF Lalapalooza anymore where all the corny shit gets tossed out as fast as it gets given. And “my ex liked it” is as common as dirt in the WTF 🤡🤡🤡show. No Brad, you’re ex “liking it” is not a permanent pass and signed permission to do “it” to all women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/20 06:09 AM |
| 51 | I need some perspective on why behavior from men bothers me SO much.Like others said he doesn’t see you as human. Men don’t tell just met men “my bros think I’m a great ____” cuz that’s a flex and weak. He’s treating you as a sex option activated by his magic hands. Gross. Mentioning massage and ex gf in the same sentence is sex talk. It bothers because it’s not overt it’s a subtle way of him saying that he can cure your bad mood with his penis. That’s rapey shit. Personally I’m irritated by men who treat women as a singular monolith with individual women as dis… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 10:45 PM |
| 23 | How do we balance our integrity with society's expectations of appearances? How far should we go to improve how we look?Improve your look to meet and exceed society’s expectations? To level up? Isn’t integrity about ethics and actions not appearance? Boob jobs and cosmetic surgery are medical procedures that have consequences- not shaming but isn’t much of the demand created by shame ? By a crazy narrative that’s broadcast that one look is better and that buying that look will reward you with love, sex and other perks? That finally you’ll look in the mirror with satisfaction? What you decide is truly personal and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 10:29 PM |
| 19 | Empathic women of FDS... how do you radiate that bad bitch energy despite being quiet, reserved, and/or influenced by the feelings of others?Not sure exactly how your empath manifests. Do you perceive emotions? I too experienced many of the deleterious things everyone mentioned. For many years I just denied my ability to feel others and know things I should not - never told anyone. A couple of years ago I Internet stumbled across “empath” -read books and blogs on both the highly sensitive and empaths. For a short time I identified as empath. It was not a homecoming- finding that other empaths weren’t a fit. So many had boundary and d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 09:02 PM |
| 1 | Male Online Dating profiles?Thanks for the very accurate description - it’s totally off kilter to establish what you don’t like about someone in the first message. It’s like getting a Yelp review- like online dating is customer service for lonely, horny men who are channeling their inner middle school vice principal to give you the passive aggressive , “nice girls don’t” talk- just in case if you message back. Dating while misogynistic is quite the cope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 01:07 AM |
| 2 | Male Online Dating profiles?It’s everyone’s experience on OkCupid- many men write long profiles about their individuality and collectively they end up being blandly humble bragged nearly the same. Like there’s maybe 3 or 4 standard models of men. In my demographic ( currently experimenting with having a conversation online with men on OkCupid like we are human - not predator/prey) Here’s what I observe: There’s something bloviating about career. A summary of former relationships like divorced, separated or never married be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 11:24 PM |
| 3 | Different sex drives in a relationship?“DO you CoMmuNiCaTe” ?!?!? Stop with the enabling of a shit sex dynamic that is rapey and needs to stop immediately. She’s communicating she isn’t interested! And he’s COmmUniCaTiNg by sex pestering her and clearly letting her know he’s dtf 2 or 3 times a day despite her lack of desire. He’s CoMmUNicaTinG his orgasms are so important that he doesn’t need to even have a basic conversation about what she likes or etc etc etc etc etc etc etc etc. Why? Because he’s got sex on tap a couple times a we… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 10:15 PM |
| 64 | Different sex drives in a relationship?He’s not hvm if there’s a “but” as big as no orgasms after years of sex, pestering for sex and has “conservative values” and you’re not wife or ring and date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 08:08 PM |
| 52 | The porn industry has launched an defamation offensive against r/NoFap!! They are harassing members for telling the truth about porn!Imagine that! 2020 is post truth and everything must be and should be for sale. The mayhem and injury caused? Well that’s relative- what’s important is individual choice and enjoyment. That’s fucking freedom! It’s all part of the harmful bullshit for sale industrial complex that activates keyboard warriors and worse for battle to protect their worse than meth addiction and support the supply of their drug of choice. Sometimes (especially when I see shit like this) it feels like I’m stuck in a dy… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 06:01 AM |
| 5 | Ladies don't embrassed yourself for money and male attentionMissed the point 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 12:35 AM |
| 16 | Ladies don't embrassed yourself for money and male attentionYour eyeballs consuming all this content and then complaining gives it fuel. Our online attention is monetized and all the brain space given over to valid observations and criticism does nothing to change it. If anything you’re feeding algorithms that demonstrate the popularity and drive the feed. If all you can do on a personal level is have meaningful conversations when appropriate - do that virtually or irl. Please be aware your page views are part of the problem even if infinitesimal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/20 11:37 PM |
| 12 | Women has height preference on dating app. Man decides to shame her, tell her she is ugly, ginger, old and 'dosen't deserve a man'.The audacity that he is a Man Baby Jesus™️ clearing out from the sacred temple of Tinder the shallow height snobs with subpar looks, boring meaningless tattoos and beyond bland personalities to bring in a new world order online dating is just a tad much. Don’t ya think? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/20 11:26 PM |
| 198 | Dating, sex and expectations have changed so much. You cannot expect the rules and vibes that existed 15, 10 or even 5 years ago. Remaining celibate and leveling up in all other areas of my life is making me feel so strong right now.Dating was different. There wasn’t 50 shades of sadistic unsatisfying sex and expectations of hairlessness. It certainly wasn’t utopia- sexism was overt but often benevolent. Men did the heavy lifting. There was residual chivalry and basic manners were common. What absolutely astounds me now is how men connect with women for “dating”. Beyond the no effort wyd stuff (that’s a cope strategy because if you never really ask then rejection isn’t real either) it’s the negging. The minimizing, the dimi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/20 01:28 PM |
| 16 | I hate how common it is for men to do degrading/ abusive shit during sex💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/20 06:31 AM |
| 21 | At first I hoped this is not real :/It’s my personal covid activated response. I literally have nothing better do than write pithy shit. But thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/20 12:18 AM |
| 120 | Men’s Bait and Switch GameMen build mountains of lies for sex. Apparently they get maximum pleasure from orgasms by deceit because that activates the “oopsie” escape mechanism where they claim everything was all a misunderstanding and then they disappear back to the man cave to plot their next conquest. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/20 12:08 AM |
| 28 | At first I hoped this is not real :/The are the straights ok? sub is kinda based on this “adult” version of Kids Do The Darndest Things: The Master Manipulator 2.0. It’s one big shaking my head lalapalooza of memes and screenshots of straights doing fucked up manipulative things because asking for stuff you want or need isn’t how you treat the enemy (aka your SO). I don’t give that sub too much credit. Same sex attracted doesn’t erase the battle beast mode that’s normal in intimate relationships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 10:54 PM |
| 97 | At first I hoped this is not real :/In nearly related true storytime. Woman married food addict met in Overeaters Anonymous. Proceeds to only serve poor tasting badly prepared food for decades to control his food intake. He still dies prematurely from obesity . Heteronormative relationships prioritize manipulations that never really change behavior because obviously it’s based on the false - everyone needs someone fairytale of happiness manufacturing. Stop trying to manage and maneuver toxic people into good choices that benefit y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 10:08 PM |
| 45 | A guy gave me his phone numberBeing open minded, easy going, giving the benefit of the doubt is shit that ends badly. Here’s the steaming hot truth. A man will clearly arrange a call with you. No bullshit that leaves you wondering enough to write defensive tone posts on the Internet asking, “WHat DoEs He MEaNnnnnnnnn?” He gave you his phone number so what? That’s a stupid game especially for someone who’s done the deep personal work to overcome shadows that fuel addiction. Adults say something along the lines of asking first… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 09:04 PM |
| 2 | Almost 100% of our cultural sexual terminology is centered around men’s pleasure and we should be outraged.Imma making t-shirts to wear to the next women’s march. Fuck pink pussy hats. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 08:47 PM |
| 26 | Now, how the hell do I reply to this LOLSaved this because it succinctly sums up my discontent with OLD messages. The future faking relationship(ish) tone and direction of initial messages with content obviously meant to be way too open and transparent so as to overcome red flags. That’s what irritates me. My dude not romantic. It’s grooming. Talk to me like a person. Don’t try overcome my defenses/boundaries and groom me into imagining a relationship in my head trying to make me dick ready for the 3rd date (at the latest) by creating… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 07:40 PM |
| 19 | 'FLYFISHING' def: when men just get their rods out, waggle it, and expect a pornoWhen men moan shame - apparently writhing around whilst making loud noise like something’s broken is necessary for THEIR sexual enjoyment. Men never consider that porn needs a soundtrack cuz silent movies are no longer a thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 07:07 PM |
| 3 | Men that you're talking to in quarantine are lonely sacks of shits and/or they are the dregs of society.I share your thoughts on newish women’s expectations that this is a place to get quick tl;dr tips to avoid the asshole and bag the bf of your dreams nonsense that popular women’s mass media promote shamelessly. I also find the defensive combative replies if triggered or when they angrily silence by demanding to be “supported” with coddling, “positive vibes only” sympathy - very tiresome. The Mansplaination Nation is large and loyal. Online dating is a difficult subject. So many life projects, go… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 11:47 AM |
| 5 | Men that you're talking to in quarantine are lonely sacks of shits and/or they are the dregs of society.Acceptance of the reality, the end of the way I hope it could be and then act/plan. That’s what I am doing too- thanks for sharing. Tbh it’s kinda exhausting - a minor death of belief in people. The dismissal of all the women that upheld and lived the lies behind closed doors with public happy faces and dismay at the endless clown show of delusional angry he man woman haters who ply me with obsolete tactics for obscene intentions. I’m mighty tired. I was naive- no more - there will always be an … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 07:03 AM |
| 64 | Almost 100% of our cultural sexual terminology is centered around men’s pleasure and we should be outraged.Liberal feminism’s sexual empowerment is rapey opportunism promoted by kink fascists at women’s expense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 06:19 AM |
| 49 | Glamour publishes “kink” manual and almost 100% of the Kinks described in are centered around normalizing Degradation, Objectification, Infantilization, and Abuse. Why is kink synonymous with abuse or disassociation with our bodies? Female sexuality is more than this and we deserve better.We live in an age defined by the fable : “ The Emperor’s New Clothes”. Bad is good and fashionable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 03:44 AM |
| 10 | Are moms welcome here too?Yup. Many have been without provocation unnecessarily mean etc etc. On a mission angry. It’s not sustainable even for pickmeisha types. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 01:39 AM |
| 50 | Are moms welcome here too?True story that before the Internet men showed up to get a date- start and maintain a relationship. When I started dating again after the Internet it took me a minute to figure out that things had drastically changed. Now more than ever are there just trash choices. Men had to show interest and manners-those days are gone. Millions of women have had men say things that are inappropriate to say to anyone let alone a stranger on a dating app. Glad you are here. Teach your son respect, manners and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 01:04 AM |
| 21 | Men that you're talking to in quarantine are lonely sacks of shits and/or they are the dregs of society.I started a profile almost 2 weeks ago to see what changed because of current dynamics. Storytime: First time OLD fully FDS allowing zero shit with block and delete immediately. I’m using OLD to survey the viability of dating changing my location often. You’ve all had my experiences: messaging that demonstrates not reading your profile with low rent endearments and compliments on your appearance. Lots of negging. Conversation killers. Men trying to impress by dominating. Ignorant assumptions and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 10:05 PM |
| 3 | Spoiling me too much?It either totally works or it doesn’t, right? I know what my intuition is telling me. But that’s not the point now is it? The best advice is from self knowledge- the ability to act authentically for your own interest. None of us have a crystal ball or really know all the major and minor things good and bad about him. We don’t know what his words really mean. And then again, Internet advice is like consulting psychics sometimes it’s scary accurate like they’re seeing into your soul. And sometimes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 12:04 PM |
| 19 | Spoiling me too much?If your intuition says he’s love bombing through extravagant gift giving not appropriate to the relationship as is - then get off Reddit and block and delete him. If his escalating offers of ever more expensive gifts makes you have bad feels you already know what to do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 09:41 AM |
| 7 | Man concerned his BDSM Habit is harmful in the era of #MeToo and wants to see a therapist. Rich Juzwiak: Nah Bro, BDSM is how women process patriarchy! It's cathartic for them!Jezebel is liberal feminism. If feminism is political, sexual and economic equality they definitely believe that women should get an equal serving of the shit pie that is late capitalism. They don’t see oppression because equal is the focus. Jezebel is my daily hate read. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 04:13 AM |
| 33 | Preferences vs RequirementsIdk perhaps women are expected to date as a public service? Certainly incels and Jordan Petersen believe vaginas are a community resource that is a man’s due. It’s much like the hidden belief system that supports rape culture- can’t really go around supporting rape even if you think it’s ok - that’s not acceptable and diminishes your supply of possibilities. The preferences but not standards reasoning is just maintaining the pool of women available for sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 03:32 AM |
| 1 | I have issues comparing myself to another woman...So comparison and asking why she won his love doesn’t have a component of competition? That women are not taught to police and judge other women not only on looks but things way more subjective like personality and why that obviously not prettier, smarter, woman who is not better than other women has that man (or sometimes any man)?!? Pro tip: (meant in nicest bluntest way possible) deconstructing crappy belief systems that are emotionally harmful start with acceptance that what hurts is an adap… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 02:43 AM |
| 4 | I have issues comparing myself to another woman...Perhaps because we’re taught that life is a competition? And that especially as women we are judged for beauty and feminine gender conformity so therefore we internalize a fucked up version of an internal beauty pageant where we contrast and compare ourselves using negative self talk? Because feeling good about yourself as a woman or good about women in general isn’t normative in a patriarchal society that uses misogyny to control? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 01:51 AM |
| 12 | Man concerned his BDSM Habit is harmful in the era of #MeToo and wants to see a therapist. Rich Juzwiak: Nah Bro, BDSM is how women process patriarchy! It's cathartic for them!I don’t believe people wake up without a reason to want different than what’s on offer. She’s “successful”. She is a typical rebel without a clue that delved into “immorality” to individuate herself as a “star” in an industry that intrinsically supports systematic oppression with sexual violence and hierarchical dominance. She doesn’t care because paid and worshiped. She gets platformed because of the commercialization of her vagina. She’s a hero for turning herself into a product so now she get… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 12:53 AM |
| 20 | Man concerned his BDSM Habit is harmful in the era of #MeToo and wants to see a therapist. Rich Juzwiak: Nah Bro, BDSM is how women process patriarchy! It's cathartic for them!The one woman speaking for all women shit! “ALl My OTher GirLFRIends LiKed ThaT” She gets to sell her shitastic opinion because it aligns with men’s porn derived views on women. She’s just another tool for the silencing and erasing of women as individuals with agency who deserve pain free respect in all relationships especially sexual. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 12:08 AM |
| 8 | Man concerned his BDSM Habit is harmful in the era of #MeToo and wants to see a therapist. Rich Juzwiak: Nah Bro, BDSM is how women process patriarchy! It's cathartic for them!Exactly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 11:58 PM |
| 34 | Man concerned his BDSM Habit is harmful in the era of #MeToo and wants to see a therapist. Rich Juzwiak: Nah Bro, BDSM is how women process patriarchy! It's cathartic for them!“Feminism” is a tool for 1984 style bad is good speak. Saying that women use bondage, domination, submission and masochism to adapt to patriarchy-based trauma exemplifies entitlement and sociopath-style no empathy critical thinking skills. Juzwiak does not see people as people. He certainly doesn’t believe that harmful horrible shit experienced on the daily that’s endemic to women is never necessary and is in fact a disgusting choice to inflict shit to gain dominance. He thinks it’s normal so yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 11:11 PM |
| 2 | What’s a good comeback for “Why buy a cow when the milk is so cheap ?” Or “don’t buy a car without a test drive “ , things they say to try and lower your standards for sex ?Actually the moment you drive that new car off the lot it’s depreciated- cars in general don’t go up in value. But nevertheless you’re totally on point. Women are objects that produce sex valued with depreciating worth. Women are appraised by how many and often they have dick inside and the extant situation during the vagina usage. Men that internalize this shit nonsense cannot see “see you as a person” or “want more than that” because the penis is a political tool used to establish, create and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 07:46 PM |
| 80 | What’s a good comeback for “Why buy a cow when the milk is so cheap ?” Or “don’t buy a car without a test drive “ , things they say to try and lower your standards for sex ?Don’t engage. Take the garbage people out of your life that think sex is a commodity. Or that sex is a test before spending time/money in a relationship. They’re saying simultaneously don’t have sex if you want commitment but you must have sex before you commit. They can fuck right off. Which one is it, Brad? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 09:07 AM |
| 10 | Male “dating coaches” for womenExactly it’s that same damned if you do damned if you don’t role play that’s the cosmic mind fuck of what is expected for women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 03:15 AM |
| 6 | Questions about dating in the quarantine. Please helpMen won’t fix lonely. And also without knowing you or your situation sounds like you’re investing in something that isn’t beneficial to you. Stay safe and feel better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 03:12 AM |
| 12 | Male “dating coaches” for womenA couple of years ago at the start of my figuring out wtf was up with dating I followed a few dating coaches. Of similar mind they’d host multi day free “seminars” that promoted their “work”. They were all in the Evan Marc Katz orbit- he was often “featured” on these limited access podcasts. I followed one guy for months and eventually just hate followed him after awhile. The thing with all dating advice that is male centric is it’s focused exclusively on what a woman can do, understand better a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 02:33 AM |
| 7 | Questions about dating in the quarantine. Please helpWhat benefit are you getting? Is chatting swiping achieving your goals? I suspect you already know the outcome and want to be talked into or out of whatever you already know. Follow your intuition. Build your standards. Take no shit off men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 01:59 AM |
| 24 | Why would a guy initiate an interest in a relationship but seem aloof?The better question is why you tolerate his behavior? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 10:32 PM |
| 85 | What is the best life changing advice you can give for a 23 year old girl in terms of dating, education or working? (Level up)Figure out your trauma, triggers and shadow beliefs. And then erase your limited beliefs that were created by these things. There’s plenty of financial, career, education, goal setting advice out there. But first you have to love/like/know yourself without the negative baggage that blocks and sabotages you to make the advice work imo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 04:17 PM |
| 25 | What is the bare minimum and what are HVM qualities?That’s the issue: bare minimum of behavior that makes someone “high value”. That’s like looking through the wrong end of the telescope to see the issue in a microcosm. HVM is a global set of ethics, morals and behaviors. It’s not a la carte. Acceptable, tolerable and allowable are the trifecta of shit behavior production that has poor outcomes. This is biggest swindle ever that there’s a minimum and/or because we’re human we have to make allowances and yet still see someone as this better person… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 04:22 AM |
| 36 | At what age do you think men learn to be abusers? Are they born or made?There’s social science research on the genesis of male violence. Much insightful work on the subject. Some evidence for epigenetic transfer - that’s cutting edge stuff. And then there’s always the nurture debate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 01:35 AM |
| 7 | Case Study: Online Dating vs WomenYou’re still fire! Damn sis but that’s about my “results”. And I specifically with wit ask for no 1 or 2 on your list. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 01:26 AM |
| 26 | Case Study: Online Dating vs WomenI too have been conducting a similar experiment OLD. My conclusion is men are not datable. It’s apparent they base their approach on a picture and rarely read the profile. Messaging has nothing to with conversation to learn about you. It’s them shooting their shots talking at you. Using all their lines. Asking questions that supposedly demonstrate compatibility- I’ve experienced more emotional “intimacy” with my pets and some inanimate objects. Idgaf if this ever works for men it’s totes obvious… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 09:42 PM |
| 67 | It's insane that because of porn, rough sex is now the norm, and "vanilla" sex is an "other" only girlfriends deserve, according to the manosphere. “Not being abused like a porn actress” is now a sexual special request.That’s obvious 👆🏻 There’s a mainstream normalization of acceptance and “education” that targets women especially young women that violent sex is normal and desirable. Teen Vogue published a guide to anal sex. Cosmopolitan and its clones in tone and editorial content all push porn and rough sex as normal and desirable. So yes, women need education. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 09:05 AM |
| 15 | What do you all think of sexting?Never take naked pictures and never ever send them. It’s simple. Sexy time is not safe on camera. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 08:46 AM |
| 156 | It's insane that because of porn, rough sex is now the norm, and "vanilla" sex is an "other" only girlfriends deserve, according to the manosphere. “Not being abused like a porn actress” is now a sexual special request.And this is why women need educating. Taking domestic violence and normalizing that brutality as consensual sex with “aftercare” making that ok and mainstream is another reworked ancient lie told about women. There’s no battle of the sexes, the shrew does not need tamed and it’s not true that she wants “discipline and dominance” to feel “feminine”. Fuck this shit. And don’t fuck men who believe in violent sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 08:43 AM |
| 29 | Why are people so weirded out by the idea of celibacy?Because sex is commodity and women especially are a means for producing sex. Mainstreaming as normal violent, painful, emotionally bereft and physically harmful sex as better than celibacy is a masterful piece of advertising and social control. Humans live in a system of exchange to get needs met. And all things sex, sex adjacent and resulting from sex are part of an industrial complex that capitalizes sex. A system that both creates a demand and regulates sex. It’s no wonder the tin foil hat cr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 05:33 AM |
| 92 | Intimacy Shaming: Anyone else experience these? Or am I the wrong one?A partner that degraded and shames you making denigrating remarks knows nothing about intimacy and wants the porn performance his misogyny and entitlement expects. There is no “homework”. You demonstrate what you want after you have negotiated consent. Fuck those men and who or whatever that taught you that any of this was ok because of your “inexperience”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 03:06 AM |
| 1 | What’s your take on women “picking fights”?Thanks! I live gloriously alone! And unsurprisingly am never lonely. I love people, am quite magnetic and sociable but have zero tolerance for toxic drama. It’s pretty commonplace for people to live their lives like a reality tv show. I don’t miss people and “friendships” because of all of that. And in a personal up level way I gained invaluable insight and tolerance. I am using my knowledge gained to deconstruct my judgements and reactions because that’s the mechanism that fuels all this dysfun… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/20 10:49 PM |
| 2 | Does Anyone Else Notice A General Trend Of Women Losing Interest In Dating?MGTOW spurns women publicly and vociferously because men are required to pay settlements and child support. That women have negative financial impact on men and are unfairly favored because feminism and “motherhood”. Angry is an understatement. This movement isn’t about being done with women. It’s about men’s right to men’s income and assets. That men are unfairly conscripted for war, and other things like high male suicide rates etc and the cure is no commitment relationships with women , and l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/20 10:30 PM |
| 19 | Help me see the light and leave my fiancé , FDS!First order of business: unless you have a ring and a date with a plan and financials you’re not a fiancée. He was violent, has sex 2 times a year only when sloppy drunk, you pay half and do the majority of the domestic stuff, and yet..... you “love him”? Wtf is love to you? What you have is a very bad deal that you pay for AND do maid work. The light is blinding on my side of the screen and for sure is even brighter on your side. You don’t need help seeing the light from the Internet. You do ne… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/20 05:56 AM |
| 21 | The Case of Avoiding Dating vs. GrowingOne standard promise of self growth post results is the of embodiment “ready to relationship”, which of course is based on the premise that you were broken and thus were not available for a good partner and that’s why shit happened. What if that wasn’t completely true? There’s always some validity to generalization. People do attract where they’re at but that’s not always tied to who they are - it’s often situational. Unpacking lifelong programming rarely involves dismantling the framework and l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/20 11:35 PM |
| 26 | This post is some abject LVM fuckery. Man with 6 kids forces teen daughter to raise them until she has a nervous breakdown, but rejects her therapist recommendation to let her be a kid. RAISE YOUR OWN DAMN KIDS SCROTE!And his “sibling” also posts calling him out with receipts using first names of everyone involved. Not an expert - stylistically op and sib write in the same style and “voice”. And the first names are extra - like from a Lifetime Christmas movie. Poor little 14 year old “Clare” has been set free by Reddit! I call bullshit. In other news, I was expected to parent a sibling and older brother was assigned a sibling. We did all the stuff. Nothing good came from this. I was a junior grade adult respo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/20 09:41 PM |
| 12 | I feel there's lack of advice for GNC/Masculine women on this subActually that’s a fantastic way to meet a good man. Through someone matchmaking. I’d proud grateful all the good stuff if that was my situation. Not sure what is embarrassing? Anyways the whole idea that dating is hard, horrible blah blah is harsh. It doesn’t have to be that way. Imo that’s why dating etc is not as popular and large numbers of people don’t date- the suck factor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/20 03:14 AM |
| 10 | I feel there's lack of advice for GNC/Masculine women on this subSounds like you were negged- typical no matter the presentation. It also sounds like you were introduced by someone well meaning with your interest in mind. Gender conforming women have the same issues and also success from what you described. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/20 02:35 AM |
| 37 | I feel there's lack of advice for GNC/Masculine women on this subApparently feminine performance is not a requirement for hvm/hvw relationships. You found one. Perhaps your impression is because this sub has posts from women of all different backgrounds and beliefs. Many fully embrace typical gendered performative like hair, makeup and thinness. Go figure. It’s normative for women. By nature a Reddit sub has limitations and skews to a “typical” audience and what they post. Perhaps you could post strategy and analysis and fill that void? Many obviously need th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 11:22 PM |
| 7 | This sub is turning into a LVM hall of fameI’ve used many of the examples to learn wtf is lvm behavior. I have a sophisticated social science education and critical thinking skills. And in general there’s a huge lack of clarity on behavior dynamics in heteronormative relationships. Mainstream therapeutic sources lack basic information. Learning doesn’t happen in a vacuum. Knowing what is lvm isn’t automatically conferred because you like yourself. My experience was I had up leveled my self esteem eradicating negative self talk. And yet, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 11:06 PM |
| 22 | What do ya'll think of men who pride themselves on being assholes?Avoid assholes! That statement is permission to treat you badly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 10:36 PM |
| 9 | What’s your take on women “picking fights”?Yes he was systematically torturing me to establish “dominance” and maintain control. I wasn’t a victim I was something else I was a “good wife” - and all those pop psyche labels that never demonstrate how unnecessary, unwanted and non consensual this behavior is in any kind of relationship. I don’t give a shit about judgments made on me because I lived that for years. That’s part of the problem not a solution. When married I adapted by removing myself and work arounds. It’s been 10+ years since… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 10:32 PM |
| 17 | Men over 50 who have never marriedTbh just being over 50 man has a set of standard issues that makes them undatable. My Dad always said that 50 is when men begin to mature. He was right. At 50 most stop with dick first thinking and decades of life creates systematic understanding of how to treat themselves and others. How to give and get. Starting way before 40 women because of typical responsibilities where they caretake, practice selflessness. The ability to think of and act for others to function together is essential to be a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 09:23 PM |
| -1 | Strategies on how to let go past LVM?Well then, why include all his shit? Look it’s brutal get real with yourself time. The strategy is sort yourself out. Why do you fuck without commitment!?! You’re attached now and stuck on explanations of his fuckery. You’re the problem. Here’s some suggestions. Therapy Self Help books Journaling Meditation 12 step groups Radical Feminist theory READ THE HANDBOOK AND ALL OF THE SIDEBAR I promise if you do this work you won’t do this again. Invest in yourself! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 05:24 AM |
| -4 | Strategies on how to let go past LVM?Why are you still analyzing him??? Stop! This is on you to stop thinking about him. Stop wondering if!!!????!! There’s a plethora of resources to combat obtrusive thoughts. Asking FDS to analyze the asshole you fucked on the second date isn’t gonna help. Stop thinking about him! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 03:13 AM |
| 21 | What’s your take on women “picking fights”?Men and women pick fights. It’s not a function of words exclusively. Storytime (to illustrate): Once upon a time, (in the bad old days) when I was married to a NIcE GuY ™️this was his daily routine: Wake up at ungodly thirty and immediately flip on the bright megawatt overhead lights. Leave lights on. Go into adjacent kitchen and slam and bang every cupboard door, every pan and dish despite only having coffee in the morning and no breakfast. Fill out the crossword puzzle in ink with wrong answer… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/20 11:33 PM |
| 28 | Welp I did it again. I scared him away.A friend calls, his face is on Skype, and you did something wrong? What the literal absolute fuck are you talking about? You don’t need “support” you need a whole world view change-ectimy ASAP. Show his face is too soon for what?!?!?!?!?!? That’s hella sketchy- what so she cannot identify him to the police? He doesn’t want to be seen because he wants to be a free fuck boi- single with nothing tying him to anyone. Why wouldn’t he want to be seen with you? Imagine this scenario with anybody else. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/20 07:51 PM |
| 9 | 70 Women Ages 5 to 75 Answer: What Advice Do You Have For Men?That’s what is astounding astonishing and every other mind blown word. What they’re “supposed” to be, what they’re “celebrated” for being, what they say they are- isn’t true. Ask any woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/20 09:54 AM |
| 21 | Would these men be attracted to themselves if they were the opposite sex?Forget the penis size. Way too much importance placed on basically what’s 1% of the total landmass that doesn’t do much of anything but spurt sperm and waste. That’s not why men would not date themselves- it not pecker size. They know how awful they are that’s why they are constantly projecting and collecting asshole points to put on their imaginary man score card- that they plan to redeem in imaginary porn stars and some sort gangsta worship or Elon Musk-ship fantasy where they finally make ass… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/20 07:42 AM |
| 24 | 70 Women Ages 5 to 75 Answer: What Advice Do You Have For Men?Aware there’s editorial intent but Christ on a Cracker that’s mighty cringe worthy since that’s what women have to say to the menz! Seriously think about it- men are supposed to be all these things successful and rational- leaders- the masculine role model. And all women have to say is basically, “quit being lying assholes and listen”. Like their collective experiences as women of men was dealing with 12 year old bullies. Men (not that they’re listening) should be fucking ashamed! (But they’re n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/20 07:20 AM |
| 2 | Like many I reactivated OLD to see if this crisis has shifted the results. I’ve thought that just like women learn to level up because of hard circumstances that men could become better. Had zero expectations and am not being disappointed. Don’t see my experiment lasting much longer and it’s day 3.It’s not illegal in my state but it should be. It just really pisses me off because this is so serious. Most of the messages I get - why the fuck do they bother? I don’t respond to pretty or flirty pet names- my dude you’re words on a screen! And I own a mirror I’m aware of how I look - not impressed. And because it’s a train wreck I read the shit they write. They throw themselves under the bus. I’m so glad my man translated game is strong! I think you’re right it’s screenshot time! There’s gott… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 10:07 AM |
| 3 | Like many I reactivated OLD to see if this crisis has shifted the results. I’ve thought that just like women learn to level up because of hard circumstances that men could become better. Had zero expectations and am not being disappointed. Don’t see my experiment lasting much longer and it’s day 3.Yes!! yes! you are doing the gods work! I also believe that the more men get shut out the greater chance for a learning lesson though men are awfully dense ! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 09:57 AM |
| 1 | Ladies, level up and go to therapy....My plan in the US does not pay for telemedicine therapy. Every state has its own rules and each plan within that state has its own rubric- nothing is national (except maybe IRS - lol) And yet again therapy is not an universal panacea nor was it ever intended to be. It’s a tool not the mechanism. Super glad therapy worked so well for you! That’s awesome and inspiring for those that need that insight. Like they say on the Internet: you do you babe! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 09:27 AM |
| 4 | Autoban from r/breakingmom just for participating here. I guess it's not just men who don't like women to know their worth.And that’s the fuck fuck issue. The bend over backwards accommodations made to not anger the menz with the truth of their actions that is automated, imprinted, insisted on and enforced. I hope they all are endlessly tormented in “whatabout” level hell while wearing false eyelashes, pantyhose that don’t fit, suffering from razor bump pubes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 09:06 AM |
| 1 | Ladies, level up and go to therapy....Please read all the personal stories in response to your original post. As much as you believe that your observations and answer is unequivocally true these replies demonstrate that therapeutic interventions are not always applicable, obtainable or necessary. Your statements lack empathy sis and boots on the ground knowledge. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 08:54 AM |
| 2 | Ladies, level up and go to therapy....All these replies but especially your reply demonstrates how far off the mark the original post is. The assumption that all FDS are damaged and therapy is necessary using popular psychology diagnostic labels as support for the assertion is a no. It’s part of the problem not a solution. Unless therapy as health care is universal it’s often a privilege, sometimes an insurmountable financial burden and yet one more unrealistic expectation that women are expected to achieve that comes with more barr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 08:48 AM |
| 22 | Let’s be real here...That’s the issue and the lie. That women are biologically programmed to procreate with men like the sun rises and sets. So therefore martyrdom is the necessary moral ingredient to elevate women from their animal desires and allowing men to abuse them because caveman. This dynamic is righteous and necessary to women’s spiritual growth and survival of the species. See: any religious text. I could quote the Bible but not gonna do that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 12:19 AM |
| 72 | Ladies, level up and go to therapy....Gonna say this for women because of circumstances especially economic that cannot access therapy at this time. Therapy is presented as the gold standard for resolving issues from minor to life threatening. Therapy has efficacy that it situational. Your success is predicated on a wide range of variables that include motivation, appropriate diagnosis/treatment and patient/therapist fit. Not trying to dissuade or provide excuses against therapy- just a reality check. My own therapy journey has both… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 11:12 PM |
| 33 | Autoban from r/breakingmom just for participating here. I guess it's not just men who don't like women to know their worth.I was banned because I alluded to their sub specifically not mentioning them by name. I don’t subscribe or post. But nonetheless about an hour after my FDS post I received an autoban notification. Guessing they have a bot that searches histories and for “breaking mom” hopefully it’s not a real live human on a conquest. I read breakingmom nearly daily during lockdown. Why? My academic speciality and training says it’s ethnographic data indicating that heteronormative relationships are failing. No… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 10:40 PM |
| 7 | Like many I reactivated OLD to see if this crisis has shifted the results. I’ve thought that just like women learn to level up because of hard circumstances that men could become better. Had zero expectations and am not being disappointed. Don’t see my experiment lasting much longer and it’s day 3.They’re not worth having sex with so many are terrible at it. There’s no FRieNdS. You’re not WiTH them. And there’s zero BEniFiTs. Men lie to women for sex like it’s their moral duty owed to themselves, their penis and their douche bro buddies everywhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 02:32 PM |
| 8 | Like many I reactivated OLD to see if this crisis has shifted the results. I’ve thought that just like women learn to level up because of hard circumstances that men could become better. Had zero expectations and am not being disappointed. Don’t see my experiment lasting much longer and it’s day 3.I’m also past “the wall” and can concur I don’t feel lonely. My dating experiences were uniformly bad since my first try OLD in 2011. I’m done with being treated poorly. When I started dating pre Internet typically men did or provided things that helped a woman out. They’ve fixed my car, helped move stuff - not big things but labor or a helping hand - a lot this was benevolent sexism but the actual help received because men showed up for me was tangible. Things changed and now helping a woman ou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 02:23 PM |
| 7 | Like many I reactivated OLD to see if this crisis has shifted the results. I’ve thought that just like women learn to level up because of hard circumstances that men could become better. Had zero expectations and am not being disappointed. Don’t see my experiment lasting much longer and it’s day 3.My biggest takeaway is no matter what men write, how they message etc that men OLD don’t want to date. Most want to fuck but only if it’s easy and there’s nothing more- like they’re doing you the biggest favor poking you and then running you off. And you’re right heteronormative men are excruciatingly boring. I often thought if movies and tv were written to portray men actually and just like they talk everyday in real life that the resulting shows would be literally unwatchable and studios and n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 11:24 AM |
| 3 | Like many I reactivated OLD to see if this crisis has shifted the results. I’ve thought that just like women learn to level up because of hard circumstances that men could become better. Had zero expectations and am not being disappointed. Don’t see my experiment lasting much longer and it’s day 3.It sure does! Ironically the OLD whiner had a special set of instructions for women to be more successful OLD. Shit like paying to see likes- lol. I would NOT follow or recommend anything he said. This morning when I replied I thought he was slightly delusional blah blah blah - nope I was totally wrong! I need to work on zero sympathy for men because that’s realistic. Thanks for the support. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 07:21 AM |
| 7 | Ladies, validation needed!No validation is needed from the Internet ever. Tbh I cannot imagine why him attempting sex while you were asleep was ok! And why you are saying that therefore he shouldn’t have been so angry when you tried to have sex with him when he was sleepy because when he was totally out bounds trying to coerce sex you didn’t get violent. This isn’t a equivalence issue. It’s coercive sex and violence. All of this sounds fucked up. Glad you’re safe though! Good on you for dumping him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 07:11 AM |
| 7 | Like many I reactivated OLD to see if this crisis has shifted the results. I’ve thought that just like women learn to level up because of hard circumstances that men could become better. Had zero expectations and am not being disappointed. Don’t see my experiment lasting much longer and it’s day 3.Their death rate from this is significant higher. And the speculation is that it’s because of how they act and biology. Saw a 58 year man acquaintance today- he thinks he’s not in a risk category because blah blah blah. He has no idea my education and science background (not that he would care or listen) - he’s exactly at risk just by age and sex alone. I’ve been immune compromised for years and understand my risk. Today was the first day outside in weeks. It’s amazing that after all this bs and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 06:13 AM |
| 5 | Like many I reactivated OLD to see if this crisis has shifted the results. I’ve thought that just like women learn to level up because of hard circumstances that men could become better. Had zero expectations and am not being disappointed. Don’t see my experiment lasting much longer and it’s day 3.Yup men are shameless attention seekers! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 05:38 AM |
| 6 | Like many I reactivated OLD to see if this crisis has shifted the results. I’ve thought that just like women learn to level up because of hard circumstances that men could become better. Had zero expectations and am not being disappointed. Don’t see my experiment lasting much longer and it’s day 3.Hey thanks for your results! I appreciate that and will include them in my consideration. This time I specifically moved cities because I have zero plans to meet and didn’t want to talk to the same men who are permanently on OLD in my area. There’s really no difference just different men! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 05:34 AM |
| 8 | Like many I reactivated OLD to see if this crisis has shifted the results. I’ve thought that just like women learn to level up because of hard circumstances that men could become better. Had zero expectations and am not being disappointed. Don’t see my experiment lasting much longer and it’s day 3.I was a delete and drop OLD dater before FDS- a stance that came after waaaaayyy too much shit from assholes never met - now after FDS it’s radical take no shit for any reason and if he doesn’t measure up there’s no point in bothering block his ass immediately because taking shit off men not necessary. Especially online! Men OLD don’t become real boys until after 6 months or more of irl dating. And even then there’s no taking shit off them. Today I blocked enough that I lost count because their … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 05:29 AM |
| 21 | Sis, If You Have to Write A Whole Essay Here To Ask Us Whether He is Playing You and You Should Move On...Yup way too many posting novels about blah blah blah not reading the handbook wanting advice ( except they don’t) And then they get mad because they believe women owe them kind soft words that make their shit show seem better. Some get defensive ( so why did you ask strangers on the Internet in the first place?) Some get angry. All every single one still thinks a man is the solution to their life. That’s why they don’t see the obvious: take no shit off men, standards and dump his ass immediately… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/20 10:51 PM |
| 5 | help needed...What will revenge change for you? What will you invest to exact it? Does revenge elevate unhappiness? If so why? Tbh sounds like a standard OLD scenario that you while having a different outcome envisioned participated in willingly. Why are you still aware of what he’s doing? Getting revenge by fucking up his work is extra imo and has not much to do with mood improvements if that’s your aim. No sympathy for him but if your beef is negs, asking for sex without a condom and ghosting months ago - i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/20 02:41 AM |
| 60 | women aren’t attracted to moneyMen have a consumer fantasy that when they offer dick, money, looks, status etc they’ve paid for what they want. Life is them “earning” with expectation to be paid in sex, attention, babies, domestic work and emotional labor etc. Nice Guys™️ are notorious for this. And this idea also morphs into the fallacy “that they already gave” so therefore they are not obliged to give more and renegotiating is emasculating. They’ve already paid and earned their due. Men live by rules created by men, that ex… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 11:45 PM |
| 10 | I’m totes fine being singleI definitely agree with you- growth, insight and happiness- a sense of peace. Men make life ugly- it’s not accidental. Lately been perusing “are straight people ok?” stuff. It’s amazing to see how blatantly normalized fucked up dynamics in heterosexual relationships are- the queer community’s observations - on point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 01:39 PM |
| 13 | The X chromosomes that men hate us for might be helping up in this pandemic.And the deaths are just starting here in the States. I will surmise that all countries when this ends will have lost knowledge, experience and lots of men in male centric power structures. I’m stunned and amazed that men in power are not doing everything possible to starve the virus of hosts. They’re the ones more likely to be dying. It’s not legions of others. This one is coming for middle mangers, senior VPs and middle aged men. Watching these truly ignorant media types, politicians, pundits a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 07:31 AM |
| 66 | I’m totes fine being singleThanks for the honesty. There’s a huge society wide change from nearly everyone married 30+ years ago to the nearly zero reasons to have anything to do with men because of the reasons you list. Women can see men for how they act and what they say. Pretending otherwise is dangerous and harmful. I hope that women see themselves in your words, see value, act in their own best interest and for their own benefit. It’s time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 05:17 AM |
| 7 | Roast Me. No engagement, rookie moves...Read the sidebar. All. Of. It. And then get back to us. Don’t be a pickmeisha asking for no judgement on yourself and free emotional labor to show you what to do when the answer is clear cut. Take no shit off men. Dump his ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 01:17 AM |
| 14 | Beware the male feministI’ve only met one while online dating and not in person. He spent the whole phone call laying out his “credentials” and bashing his 2 baby moms. In late mid life nearly retirement age he had teenagers that he was planning on financially abandoning when they turned 18. His “feminism” was from his mom back in the day and being a roadie for a lesbian jazz ensemble about 20 years ago. It sure sounds like fiction, huh? Anyways he lives in mega liberal utopia that promotes alternative lifestyle and ca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 07:19 AM |
| 9 | Comedy hour: A self-described Chad on what he has to offer HVW 🤣🤣Dear CEO of Menz, Women demand male attractiveness no longer be correlated to female orgasms! Looks alone do not stimulate the clitoris! Sincerely, Karen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 06:56 AM |
| 3 | Covid-19 will not be over until there's a vaccine. I don't want to be single for the next 2 yearshttps://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/disaster-distress-helpline | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 05:01 AM |
| 6 | Covid-19 will not be over until there's a vaccine. I don't want to be single for the next 2 yearsNope all the drama is too extra. The wanting human contact is happening- you’re getting plenty of attention albeit from a screen. Turn this around all you want on me and down vote me to oblivion- I’m not against you just unsympathetic to your pity party. You’re lonely right now and it hurts enough to lash out to my blunt advice. Good. Anything is better than swirling the drain with arm loads of hurt that for at least today you can’t change. Unfortunately and painfully sometimes the best advice i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 04:10 AM |
| 7 | Covid-19 will not be over until there's a vaccine. I don't want to be single for the next 2 yearsI live alone far from family too. Samesies!! I don’t have any pets just a Sleep-n-Snore Ernie who’s seemed possessed lately and talks without activation so I put him on the couch to binge watch “Why Women Kill” with me. Life is what you make it. You can focus on the zero or make the best of what you have until peace and happiness blossoms. You’re not trapped in a dystopian no man in my future I don’t want to be single nightmare blah blah blah. That’s waaaay too extra. Telling everyone to fuck of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 03:53 AM |
| 16 | Covid-19 will not be over until there's a vaccine. I don't want to be single for the next 2 yearsWhining about a future that hasn’t happened yet - no men for 2 years maybe a decade is the cherry on top of the whole stupid catastrophizing pie. Aren’t there more important issues like health or financial or basically anything else than upset cuz the man market has shut down in the pandemic? With all the possible things that can happen, good bad you’re fixated on no man. This is an issue for therapy not the Internet. And now you want virtual hugs and “support” words of wisdom to talk you off th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 02:41 AM |
| 9 | Comedy hour: A self-described Chad on what he has to offer HVW 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 12:22 AM |
| 1 | Guy I knew for 2 weeks and slept with 8 years ago has msg’d me until 2016 (and I ignored him for the most part). 4 years later, He’s back. He’s now married, has a son and has suddenly “thought of me”.And that’s why you block them- then you don’t need proof. Suggestion: keeping convos is great for business/work/school situations because people lie or sometimes forget- but in personal relationships especially dating is kinda toxic because arguing and needing proof is a lot of negative energy imo. It’s really legalistic and honestly I have no desire to spend anymore time pleading my case. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 12:21 AM |
| 57 | Comedy hour: A self-described Chad on what he has to offer HVW 🤣🤣Imagine being so fucking dumb to believe that male attractiveness makes women orgasm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/20 11:54 PM |
| 3 | Guy I knew for 2 weeks and slept with 8 years ago has msg’d me until 2016 (and I ignored him for the most part). 4 years later, He’s back. He’s now married, has a son and has suddenly “thought of me”.No conversation saved= no material to ruminate on- typically that’s what women do- relive a man that’s not great or worse and spin stories in their head of shoulda coulda or woulda. How is saving a conversation a benefit? You’ve learned the principle, cut the attachment and live life free of that connection. No conversation saved gives you no reference material to remember all the details. Why would anyone want reminders of shit? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/20 11:48 PM |
| 5 | Highly intelligent women - are you with, or only date, other highly intelligent men?Was selected for a gifted program, dropped out of high school- college at 16 didn’t finish until decades later and then postgrad in U.K. Lived years off the grid and read the classics. My so called “intelligence” now has degrees. Intelligence is often conflated to mean passing a standardized test. As a child, I lived proximal to college students who often used me for their Wechsler practicum and practice improves outcomes - point is they quit asking me as I scored too high. The baseline assumpti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/20 09:25 PM |
| 15 | This is the 'empowering' dating lifestyle lib fems are trying to push on us. Lmao. I can'tBUt ThEY’rE In LooooOOOOOoOoVE. Way too much nasty shit is done “in the name of love”. That’s the why for everything pickmeisha -the possibility of “love”. He’s bargain basement ugly and their explanations of how their partnership works is on par with his appearance. Btw for a guy his age he’s got the average 50ish man deal on lockdown. His looks, success and physical health is in some distance past but he’s got pictures! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/20 07:27 AM |
| 4 | Guy I knew for 2 weeks and slept with 8 years ago has msg’d me until 2016 (and I ignored him for the most part). 4 years later, He’s back. He’s now married, has a son and has suddenly “thought of me”.Good idea. My dad was involved in sketchy things way before the Internet. He was adamant about not putting business on blast. Security is important even if you are totally legit. His predictions came true. We are now the product because everything we do on the Internet is collected and sold to advertisers, and the background check industry. And being a woman makes you a target. It’s best to minimize risk. Stay safe!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/20 04:31 AM |
| 5 | Guy I knew for 2 weeks and slept with 8 years ago has msg’d me until 2016 (and I ignored him for the most part). 4 years later, He’s back. He’s now married, has a son and has suddenly “thought of me”.Not an internet safety expert. But I’ve become really good at finding out who, where and what about people on the Internet. Knowing first last name and any place resided is gold. Actually without all that and with bits and pieces of info with a little time you can figure out real names, criminal history and associates even when they’re selectively lying. Most people are listed on numerous sites that sell information. You don’t have to pay to find out. Some government sources publish extensive cr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/20 04:03 AM |
| 16 | Is it just me or do men need to invest more into their sex appeal to women?And that’s the problem. We don’t observe men as is- we spin what we’d like to think and ask questions from there. That’s why many observations and dating advice for heteronormative relationships are specious, harmful or don’t work. There’s this baseline assumption that men are operating from a place of self interest and a benign collective interest that can benefit women - especially women they are attracted to. The vast numbers of women haters - individuals and cults are declared “outliers” whi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/20 01:30 AM |
| 2 | Corona virus safetyLinks? Actual verified reports? Or is this from social media? Even an anecdotal story with details? I seriously doubt anyone opens their door without looking. And men are not dressed up in fake cop stuff roaming to rape. This is like every chain email I got in 2007 about not stopping for an infant in a car seat left on the side of the road. And besides if you live someplace where management does not announce inspection, repairs or visits that is an issue to enforce your boundaries. I don’t know … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 11:03 PM |
| 51 | Is it just me or do men need to invest more into their sex appeal to women?Heterosexual men don’t groom or clean beyond what they think necessary. And in general do not take care of their bodies physically or emotionally. As far as appealing to women that’s a concept that doesn’t fit with their view of sex or relationships. The Stacy/Chad - that all women are only attracted to 20% of men so why bother argument underlies men’s global view: Women are evil necessities that will never like you because “relationships” are hard, filled with drama and only have unicorn reward… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 10:57 PM |
| 26 | Guy I knew for 2 weeks and slept with 8 years ago has msg’d me until 2016 (and I ignored him for the most part). 4 years later, He’s back. He’s now married, has a son and has suddenly “thought of me”.Because you didn’t block him and didn’t delete the original convo. Gonna be savage here. Knowing how social media works and how privacy controls work is your job. You left yourself exposed. Just like IRL you minimize your risk by not leaving keys outside or in your car with door and windows open or leaving expensive items on display -it’s up to you to protect yourself. This isn’t an audacity thing it’s a you left yourself open to it thing. And no this isn’t comparable to what were you wearing ra… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 10:33 PM |
| 34 | This sub keeps being tagged for “hate speech”Everywhere across all platforms and IRL men (and their handmaidens) silence, minimize, and oppose women freely speaking their experiences. Women’s objections or observations of shit behaviors - basically any talk that doesn’t serve their dicks, fragile sense of “reality” and inflated egos is hate speech. They’re that petty because of their penis imperative and rapey standards. They’re shamelessly that bad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 09:16 AM |
| 57 | Cuddling with strangers during a pandemic 🤔 I have soooooo many messages like this. I’m just on dating apps for giggles at this point. They are cesspools of LVM. Usually out of relationships, on the rebound looking to get revenge because of the ex.And this is how the virus is spread. All he has to do is breathe on you to give you death. This shit is so unnecessary and lethal. They should shut down OLD to save lives because assholes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 06:03 AM |
| 25 | don’t ever marry a man who is stingy with moneyI’ve got stories and receipts for days because men using women is common and I allowed it, thought it was “normal” and most every other woman I knew lived under her husband’s thumb. I also knew the career professional women. The ones with means, and agency at work. And that strategy didn’t save them from the classic dynamic that women are expected to over give and not proportionally receive back because inequality establishes dominance for the petty dictator typical husband that waaaay overvalue… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 04:33 AM |
| 89 | #vanlife- is that code for #nojob?Hobosexual that needs blue balls drained. Ewwww. Don’t be that woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 01:48 AM |
| 6 | How bad is it if a guy in his early/mid 20s still lives with his parents?I totally agree that if the man is NOT a fully functioning pay his share and contribute to the household by unpaid labor etc then he’s a no. I also think that it’s obvious when they are not contributing but not always readily apparent. Unfortunately, men and family they live with are going to put on a show because airing your dirty secrets to a woman who could potentially take your problem off your hands or for general pride reasons - that he’s a man baby might not appear quickly. So that’s the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 12:19 AM |
| 4 | How bad is it if a guy in his early/mid 20s still lives with his parents?I read it. If him living at home doesn’t work because time spent at your place and sex, then why try to futurize this imaginary relationship? Why try to “build” something with ingredients that don’t work? FYI if cuddles/sex space is necessary then why not require future boyfriend to purchase space like a hotel room or maybe something like an Airbnb apartment regularly as you date? I stand by my infantilism paragraph because there’s still the assumption that this man isn’t given privacy and that … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 10:56 PM |
| 13 | A story about how my HVM showed his worth from the jump.That you’re getting nasty comments and your story picked apart is indicative of poor understanding of what a beneficial heterosexual marriage could look like over many years. It’s not bags packed, one foot out the door, better safe than sorry imo. All the doom calling and specific criticism of perceived power dynamics “revealed” by how you structure the paid work contribution shows a rigid mentality that everything must be 50/50 and a substantial “fuck you asshole fund” must be constantly mainta… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 10:35 PM |
| 27 | How bad is it if a guy in his early/mid 20s still lives with his parents?Why does every vetting rule for dating men need an exception?? If men who live at home is not a benefit for you then why look to create exceptions? Imo women are always building all these rules and exceptions and ideals about vetting not to exclude men but to include them because basic humanity in men is gone creating a scarcity mindset and women have been terrorized into a fear-based state of wanting/needing a man. Imo the lives at home vet is really white peoples in America centric. Why imagin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 08:54 PM |
| 12 | General expectations of your HVM. Is their something distinct?Specifically wtf? Your general things that men want aren’t something to build from like hvm want those and additional things. Wtf does submissive mean and how does it benefit women FDS style? And why does how many penises inserted into a woman’s vagina have anything to do with worthy for relationship? Or determine who she is as a person???? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 07:57 PM |
| 13 | FDS Newbie here... looking for advice on my relationship with large age gapWtf? Read the handbook! This is a sea of red flags 🚩and stupid pick me bullshit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 06:43 PM |
| 6 | How can you tell a guy is into you during quarantine?“Should I just drop this dude” What part of anything that’s self respecting, knowing your worth and rejects liars because that’s the foundation of everything good are you asking that? Read the sidebar read the additional materials suggested. Do you think any of that advice or FDS in general has a single doubt about this guy and blocking him? Here’s the thing everyone who’s dating during this pandemic is acting as if all the normal social rules apply and this is a sort of holiday where everything… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 06:31 PM |
| 7 | I need advice about my boyfriendTake no shit and dump his ass. You can’t “freshen“ a relationship - it’s not stale bread that tastes better after you microwave it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 06:34 AM |
| 31 | How can you tell a guy is into you during quarantine?You can’t. Simple truth. He’s a stranger and now he’s your phone buddy and pocket pal. And since you can’t have face- to- face time and this an unprecedented crisis situation what are your goals for this “relationship”? Are you planning on emerging from quarantine as a couple that is going to team up and deal together with whatever situation is the case after all these people die and the virus is no longer spreading? Is this just fun? What will you do if you catch feelings before this ends? Go s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 06:30 AM |
| 24 | Feeling stuck with depressed partner.Here’s the thing: I appreciate and really feel for you in your tough between a rock and a hard place situation. And if I give sympathy and encouragement to cope that is just a bandage that keeps both of you in misery. Suicide is not a treat at home situation- even if you are any of the things: educated in modalities, compassionate and motivated. Here’s a question: are you two really stuck at home and have no medical options such as treatment in a facility that deals with suicidal thoughts? Are y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 12:15 AM |
| 2 | If you have questions about dump his ass or if a man is a HVM read women’s pitiful stories about their lives with their bf/husbands that are everywhere else on Reddit. Those posts can give clarity like nothing else.👍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/20 11:30 PM |
| 18 | If you have questions about dump his ass or if a man is a HVM read women’s pitiful stories about their lives with their bf/husbands that are everywhere else on Reddit. Those posts can give clarity like nothing else.I don’t subscribe or post just lurk. Less than an hour after making this post they banned me. I sent a reply nonetheless and said basically that wouldn’t it be nice if women lived in a world where they didn’t need to get internet sympathy to patch themselves up just to live another day of misery. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/20 08:02 PM |
| 1 | If you have questions about dump his ass or if a man is a HVM read women’s pitiful stories about their lives with their bf/husbands that are everywhere else on Reddit. Those posts can give clarity like nothing else.👍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/20 07:56 PM |
| 3 | If you have questions about dump his ass or if a man is a HVM read women’s pitiful stories about their lives with their bf/husbands that are everywhere else on Reddit. Those posts can give clarity like nothing else.😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/20 07:56 PM |
| 1 | If you have questions about dump his ass or if a man is a HVM read women’s pitiful stories about their lives with their bf/husbands that are everywhere else on Reddit. Those posts can give clarity like nothing else.👍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/20 07:55 PM |
| 3 | If you have questions about dump his ass or if a man is a HVM read women’s pitiful stories about their lives with their bf/husbands that are everywhere else on Reddit. Those posts can give clarity like nothing else.👍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/20 12:20 PM |
| 3 | If you have questions about dump his ass or if a man is a HVM read women’s pitiful stories about their lives with their bf/husbands that are everywhere else on Reddit. Those posts can give clarity like nothing else.Done | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/20 12:17 PM |
| 41 | Liberal Feminists created a world where we can literally witness a woman being choked or slapped and we now have to second guess whether it’s abuse and she wants it instead of being immediately alarmed🤡“Say you love me” while strangling and hurting her and posting it. No words. Too bad there’s no actual enforcement of laws against assault. Mind blown. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/20 12:11 PM |
| 11 | Just a thought : Sex is like sports. Those who aren't good enough to play, watch.I’m gonna use this forever! Thanks !🤔🤔🤔🤔😆😆😆❤️❤️❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/20 12:04 PM |
| 5 | If you have questions about dump his ass or if a man is a HVM read women’s pitiful stories about their lives with their bf/husbands that are everywhere else on Reddit. Those posts can give clarity like nothing else.Sent a chat message with info | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/20 11:28 AM |
| 3 | Make a list of what you want in a manAwesome! I have reread them too. She has incisive clarity and insight. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 08:55 PM |
| 4 | Make a list of what you want in a manI loved that book. Read the other 2 it’s part of a trilogy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 08:52 PM |
| 17 | He's (30M) finally changed, but I'm (27F) exhausted from the journeyIf “better” is exhausted then why? And “finally changed” into what? Let’s play what if!!! Answer honestly! No sympathy, justification or bs! What if you were sick? What if he fell into money- would he be generous based only on the last (9 YEARS!!!!) of providing for you? What if he could cheat without you knowing would he? What if he stayed exactly as he is today? He sounds from your own words to be a clown 🤡 and a rescue mission. So what if you dumped his ass and just did you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 08:50 PM |
| 13 | Serious question: are you still allowed to be a part of FDS even if you don't 100% agree with everything?Male sympathy is the way women gaslight themselves to accept all the terrible shit from minor to meta. Without “poor baby” Sir Tries A Lot would have cook his own damn food, domestic/emotional labor, clean his smelly ass and be a basic decent human. Ya know, adult 101 stuff. Pity for fucks is a man’s game where women never ever win. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 12:19 PM |
| 6 | Serious question: are you still allowed to be a part of FDS even if you don't 100% agree with everything?FDS has many many different opinions made by a nearly worldwide group of women. While moderated it’s not a perfect echo chamber. I would be astonished if there was even one woman who 100% agreed with every commenter’s viewpoint on every post. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 12:09 PM |
| 8 | Serious question: are you still allowed to be a part of FDS even if you don't 100% agree with everything?Well then, what exactly makes you believe you’re not conforming or that FDS demands uniform beliefs? There’s a basic handbook and suggested auxiliary outside material like books etc. Many women hate men in general and love specific ones. I really don’t have enough information to assess the cause of your discomfort. What seems important is the ask - are you a fit with the assumption that the sum of all FDS beliefs equals 100 percent acceptance. Perhaps figure out what you do not believe and compa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 11:54 AM |
| 47 | Serious question: are you still allowed to be a part of FDS even if you don't 100% agree with everything?That FDS “hates men” is a cope used as a critique that dismisses the content. Apparently, getting salty, mocking or unvarnished assessments is “hating” men. What’s your criteria? What exactly here hates men? To go to what about land, that magical place where so much of misogyny is born- is what’s said here truthfully comparable to what men say when they hate on women? Why would anyone agree 100% with anything that they find on Reddit? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 11:37 AM |
| 69 | Dead Bedroom subreddit at the cringe again... I genuinely feel so bad for this woman I am baffled that this is a real situation that she continues to stay inI’ve been reading many pitiful relationship stories across a few different subs the last few days. Since quarantine measures shit has gone south for straight peoples. Thousands of trapped, rock bottoming women all telling the same epically awful and interchangeable story. Little Johnny Rotten Sack aka “the love of their life” or some other lame justification is too fucking mean and nasty to live with like this anymore. “He won’t _, shirks __ , passive aggressively ______, and now he’s left me al… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 08:17 AM |
| 60 | Boyfriend said another girl was hot while he was drunk. Pass or no.Drunk is filter free. 30 and rating women with you in the room? What’s unclear here? What benefit does he bring into your life after 4 months that needs some sort “doubt” about what’s obvious? His objectification of women as man bonding activity while intoxicated is a fact - no doubt necessary. Ask yourself all the questions. Make decisions that benefit you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/20 05:18 AM |
| 5 | Would you date Damaged guy ?No | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/20 05:08 AM |
| 38 | Why is a beautiful woman like you single?I believe that instinctively lvm ask this question to keep the supply of single women for heterosexual sex large and readily available through guilt and peer pressure. I was heavily pressured, had numerous men sit me down and give me talks about “finding someone”. Had both men and women push me towards “available men” because, frankly they were men. Guys that had no quality except single and male. I haven’t had that pressure or been asked that question since I retired from dating and hanging out… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/20 09:44 PM |
| 29 | When did you decide to have sex with a man? What „requirements” had to be met?There’s no “rule” or “guideline” that’s 100% guaranteed to keep you safe, respected, and make sex an intimate act that bonds people together to co-create a relationship that is mutually beneficial. That is if you’re having sex with men. What’s crucial before you decide is to know clearly what men in general think sex is. It’s a single serve thing where men orchestrate painful and humiliating acts that are designed for penis centric pleasure learned from misogynistic porn that has no meaning exce… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/20 09:28 PM |
| 52 | Dating feels like eating at the same restaurant over and over again. The menu seems to change but everything ends up tasting the same.That’s exactly it- same results no matter the variables. For a couple of years while I was dating recently I followed conventional advice and blamed myself ruthlessly deconstructing all the many ways I was worthless, damaged or attracting the wrong men. By focusing on me as the source and wellspring I was definitely using the prevailing mindset that I was the only common denominator in my dating misery. And then came #metoo. I thought about years worth of significant, life altering sexual harass… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/20 01:08 AM |
| 121 | Low Value Male Wastes His Time Giving Women Dating Advice Nobody Asked ForTranslation: men want to fuck, therefore be “sexy” we might want to know you after fucking but don’t hold your breath. Best advice ever for “dating” porn sick men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/20 09:45 PM |
| 11 | Positive note!Because “just keep trying” +”I’ve got mine”+”they’re out there” = massive fucking cope. It’s an I was picked me’d post that isn’t hopeful because lack of info and no FDS-based proof. Idk about everyone else, imo if I was a decade into a hvm I would post details and the strategies learned. Insights about how to maintain a hvm relationship. That’s inspiring. Humble brags about hvm from new FDS members with condescension when questioned are not admirable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/20 09:08 PM |
| 95 | Daily reminder that men are seven times more likely to leave a sick partner than women are. Also, what a major asshole (full text in comments)Just gonna say it. His logic chain is typical. Here’s the flow chart: Wet Dick ? If yes 👉 return to asshole stasis. If no 👉 🤡 it’s big top circus time! Do whatever it takes to get fucks and spin your inhumanity by declaring your “right” to happiness and worshipful respect. *extra man points™️ are awarded for procurement of new hot bangmaid that can be redeemed after paving your pathway to hell with pussy. (Satan has many rewards programs accepting man points™️ please read the fine print for deta… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/20 03:07 AM |
| 51 | HaVe yoU TrIEd COMmunICAtINg???Ok. Me: You only cuddle me after we have sex when I’m not on my period? Him: all the “reasons” why. Result: cuddles are a reward for sex masquerading as an affectionate display of love when you’re not repulsively bleeding. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 10:45 PM |
| 21 | As couples self-isolate due to coronavirus, lawyers expect a rise in divorcesThe inception of my divorce began 16 years in- it was a standard Oprah ah! ha! conclusion that my future was changing his shitty diapers and making his life comfortable while he kept tight control of every decision using financial means as a weapon. He was having the same 16 years long argument about money when I had this epiphany. We had lots of financial assets. And he always threatened to limit our food to beans and hot dogs to stay on “budget”. He spent years making the house smell repulsive… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 10:32 PM |
| 70 | Coronavirus making married moms realize that they may have a husband, but they don't have a partnerI imagine that they actually cannot afford help, there’s no help to hire because shelter in place or because “as a couple” they decided against. I’m very opinionated about all this and here’s my really unsympathetic observation: Everyone in all those households except the infants should be working as a team. At a minimum the kids should be able to not interrupt mom on the phone. This would take a radical new dynamic because the magical thinking that all of this is mom’s job would be replaced wit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 11:42 AM |
| 40 | Is there a certain age at which a man, if still single, becomes questionable?I’ve always wondered about this. Imo people in general aren’t socialized for marriage anymore (not that historical marriages was any better or there was some sort of better past.) But getting married was something most adults did until rather recently. We live in fuck boi times. As far as men no matter what the age it’s best to be skeptical. Imo starting somewhere around getting their first big boy job and establishing their own homes. And then anything after 30. Idk but basically heterosexual m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 10:43 AM |
| 68 | Coronavirus making married moms realize that they may have a husband, but they don't have a partnerAnd yet the NYT reports this without any of the men’s viewpoints. The article discusses this like it’s gravity, like a solid fact and women’s lot in life. I don’t feel sorry for these women at all. Every single one, no matter her education or career signed up for what they have: a man who doesn’t pull his weight. The deal has changed and everyone is mandated to be home with their children and there’s no school, extra curricular activities, daycare to shift the caretaking. It’s obvious from the c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 08:41 AM |
| 11 | Find a man who gets off on your pleasure, not your pain.See rule# 9 of the sub. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 12:47 AM |
| 27 | Find a man who gets off on your pleasure, not your pain.What about all that? That he makes pain and humiliation palatable- that’s ok? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 12:29 AM |
| 11 | Making conversation with menOk you’re completely right about men and conversation - it’s not possible. You’re not crazy. The advice imo sucks because you cannot improve something that doesn’t exist. Women cannot make themselves heard when men do not listen. My basic thoughts are that I know exactly what is communication through conversation. So since I don’t believe that talking with men benefits me or improves my life- then I don’t have to. It’s Independence Day thanks to your post. I had not made this resolution before- … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 12:26 AM |
| 11 | Making conversation with menWe share a common experience that women live on the daily. The article is (no surprise) a roadmap for women (only) to create something that doesn’t exist in the first place. Men talk at -not with - this is the why of every heterosexual inequality especially in a relationship. What’s really insidious is the absolute social construct that insulates men from the responsibility or necessity of listening to understand women. Men are immune to women’s words. Men like it that way. There’s a whole world… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 12:12 AM |
| 24 | Making conversation with menThe first few paragraphs of the article - men soapbox, spew opinions to establish dominance and hierarchy through “knowledge”- that’s accurate. The other analysis about the exchange dynamics and women asking too many questions with suggestions on how to ask “better” more genuine questions? Conversation for men has nothing to do with reciprocal exchange. “Improvement” will not yield different results. Mansplaining, monopolizing, minimizing and misogyny- women can be an Oprah-like next level compa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 10:44 PM |
| 4 | you can't make this up- a thread on r/askreddit about blowjobs and almost all of the women mentioned disgusting penises, their jaws hurting, or their partners being silent.Imagine that! Its a job right? Not a blow vacay. So go figure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 01:27 PM |
| 4 | Always testing🍿🍿🍿🍿🍿🍿🍿🍿🍿🍿🍿 🦚🦚🦚🦚🦚🦚🦚🦚🦚🦚🦚 🚫🚫🚫🚫🚫🚫🚫🚫🚫🚫🚫 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 01:18 PM |
| 10 | Always testing🖕🖕🖕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 11:05 AM |
| 14 | Always testingBasic relationship 101 is do no harm. Yes getting to know someone is a process of time and shared experiences to see if their style of handling life works for you. AND if together you create something good and desirable that adds value to your life. You seem hung up on the Darwinian cutthroat model- neither one of you trying to win some televised contest or intern for a competitive career. People have intrinsic value imo. Read the handbook. Delve into the suggested books on the wiki. Expect care… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 11:02 AM |
| 19 | Always testingDick is free and abundant why would “diminished” somehow make any of this obnoxious disrespect of your safety any better. Your reply is just the cherry on top of the whole shit pie. Girls are always defensive and quickly call hvm even when it’s totes obvious that he’s not. Life is not a dystopian test unless you allow it. But you do you, babe! If those are your “standards” creating fuck fuck games to test him and being thrilled and delighted when he reciprocates- yay you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 10:49 AM |
| 31 | Always testingI agree with you. wtf? Why was it okay as optional ever? Why would anyone who has concern or cares about your safety suggest taking the train if it’s dangerous and then say he wouldn’t respect a woman who did? Why would you test someone with something dangerous? Imagine a mother or teacher or coach (basically anyone who has a duty to keep you safe) giving two choices -one dangerous that requires no effort on their part and one that requires time and effort? Why would anyone test like that? What … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 10:34 AM |
| 31 | Why do men try to talk us out of our standards?Because men throw anything or anyone under the bus to “win” no matter how awful, stupid or selfish. And then when they “win” because a woman says yes to a former no- men move the goalposts again. Life for men is one big soul sucking battlefield game where overwhelming and overriding women is proof of manhood along with sex. The rules of this manly game are never be “pussy whipped” or ever act like a “white knight” or “girl”. Basically to be a man means divestment of humanity and compassionate re… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 08:44 AM |
| 7 | I have a question for former pick me or cool girls. How do you come to terms with the things you used to do?That’s what happened. It is not who you are. And most importantly quit blaming yourself- judging all that you did with really negative labels and self-censure- none of this happened in a vacuum. It’s not like you lived in a world with only good, healthy choices/outcomes and wickedly like She Satan The Devil chose to do hateful things that disrespected yourself and other women to fuck men on the casual. Always remember that all those men required and allowed all that behavior- and most got sick s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 03:58 AM |
| 1 | How do you cope with loneliness if you don’t have a lot of friends and you’re not dating ?Tbh I don’t even think about the past. I’ve had “it all” the truth behind closed doors and my deeply honest evaluation of everything and everyone that made up that life: it was all dependent on abusive disrespect. I was not valued. I was on some sort of hamster wheel of pick me bullshit. I don’t know how else to describe poor esteem bolstered by negative self talk reinforced by predatory relationships of all sorts that used me to suit their needs at will. Women in particular are taught to appeas… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 12:52 AM |
| 64 | I just have to say it here....Good for you! Stay strong! Stay healthy!!! Men are searching for options. Don’t be an option! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 10:52 PM |
| 24 | LOSER LVM WHINING ABOUT MUHHHDICCKKKKK IN R/DATINGOVERFORTYThis is why people are dying from the virus. But beyond that pandemic fact this guy is why heterosexual relationships are no longer as common as they were just a few years ago. And this is why heterosexuals are having less sex in general. All this “social distancing” is cutting off the supply of people to use for money, sex, entertainment and/or general purpose. He’s Mr. Less-than-average. The general kind of man that floods the OLD dating pool, IRL bars and nightclubs- the guy who flirts shamel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 08:52 PM |
| 5 | How do you cope with loneliness if you don’t have a lot of friends and you’re not dating ?This is gonna sound perhaps weird or like I’m full of shit and just being an asshole. Please this is meant to show possible outcomes instead of despair. I’m nearly old and definitely older and because circumstances have literally no friends and family is a big zero too. When I’m out and about I know my neighbors and have acquaintances- I’m one of those introverted extroverts and for reasons unexplainable people just talk to me wherever I go. But other than that I am totally and completely alone.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 05:57 AM |
| 18 | For those men who are 35+ and say ‘i’M nOt lOoKiNG 4 aNYtHINg sERIoUS’ my dude you’re half way to being elderly lmao like get it together Michael. Stop deluding yourselves into thinking you’re a spring chicken, you’re not!Awesome! You do you, babe! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 05:40 AM |
| 55 | SHOCKER: Porn Makes Men Terrible in Bed“ Most porn is about watching women pretend to enjoy sex acts that are unpleasant to them. It doesn’t have to be this way, but it is. Men who watch this type of porn are basically being taught sexual practices that will not work in real life” Because no critical media analysis skills men believe that sex with women is this performative pretzeling filled with loud moaning and painful positioning. Men don’t realize no hair is for the camera along with the awkward positions required that allow for … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 02:02 AM |
| 52 | For those men who are 35+ and say ‘i’M nOt lOoKiNG 4 aNYtHINg sERIoUS’ my dude you’re half way to being elderly lmao like get it together Michael. Stop deluding yourselves into thinking you’re a spring chicken, you’re not!Well then, (no standards shaming) you’ll be spoiled for choice! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 01:53 AM |
| 21 | Organically meeting someone doesn't guarantee a different outcomeI was definitely of the grass is always greener mindset as I switched between IRL to OLD to group settings. From 2016 to 2019 I searched out and then applied every advice and FDS too. Every single time there was a sense of hope that finally, I was in the right place and mindset to meet a hvm. Basically, I’ve come to the same conclusion about the quality of men in general. It’s a clown show circus. I will not OLD because the behavior is consistently shitty. In real life it’s dependent on time and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 12:14 AM |
| 4 | Matched with guy 2 weeks ago but due to COVID-19 we havent met yetRead the sidebar. Read the handbook. Read the wiki. Getting him to come to you during a pandemic is not FDS high value woman behavior. Why are you dating during a worldwide pandemic and trying to meet a man who has high exposure? Not FDS imo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/20 10:26 PM |
| 59 | Ask Men: “What Made You Walk Out of an Interview?”Yup they know when to walk out on job interviews that demonstrate a shitty future but somehow don’t understand how they treat women poorly which creates shitty outcomes and relationships. Men understand cause and effect. Assholes tell on themselves. Men know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/20 08:36 AM |
| 23 | Why do some men seem to bond over how poorly they can treat women sexually/romantically?Because how women are valued is an indicator of the general health of the planet. Men entertaining themselves with heterosexual maltreatment hacks playing at Lord of the Flies treatments of their sexual “conquests” worship destruction on a biological basis. Selfishly fucked in the head, locked and loaded with blinding anger, dickmatized to believe in a penis standard society- it’s manifest destiny and imperial colonialism post modern style. Women will always be a frontier to subjugate. And/or Ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/20 12:27 AM |
| 18 | Why do people think it’s so sad when a woman says she may never want a relationship again?Because being a done with men single woman literally unravels their world. It’s a couples aspirational world- actually it’s just basically women’s aspirations to men all the way round that makes what we’ve been sold as normal work because men don’t aspire to have girlfriends or wives. Women are supposed to want men and then effort and earn relationship. And this aspiration for men is a socially pressured group delusion of epic proportion. Being done with men is a crisis of consciousness situatio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/20 02:49 PM |
| 22 | Thanks to FDS I no longer give benefit of the doubt as much as I once didWe each have our standards- mine is treat it like a convo- everyone I message regularly does- nobody is that busy. But you and I agree on courtesy. That’s the point that FDS demonstrates. There’s no benefit of the doubt for disrespect. If you feel the man is not respecting you then you’re right. End of story. Block his ass and get on with your day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/20 01:46 AM |
| 79 | Thanks to FDS I no longer give benefit of the doubt as much as I once didThe dropped convos being left on read really fried my ass hard before FDS. It really frustrated me. Had a friend analyze that I was creating relationships in my head- that was true to an extent and part of my anger. But I also definitely thought that manners and courtesy were applicable messaging. There’s a beginning, middle and end to any convo. The silent treatment is bullshit. If men cannot carry a convo then delete and block. There’s no point in any conversation that does not have basic resp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/20 01:29 AM |
| 9 | Left him at the cafeCoffee and tea have 0 calories. So what’s your point? He’s ok? It’s perfectly valid to be a selfish fuck because diet? Missing the point here sis. Meeting someone for the first time is about creating an atmosphere that feels comfortable and conducive to creating friendly feelings. Not calorie count. Not inviting someone to something you don’t do. Wtf? Perhaps you’re trolling here? Read the handbook. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/20 01:12 AM |
| 19 | Left him at the cafeThis in a nutshell! Thrilled to have sex 👉 bewildered that women don’t 👉 which somehow becomes women lie because equality means we’re now all free to fuck our brains out when invited. But then again, it’s not only men. Fucking people in general cannot imagine a world where their interests aren’t the most important thing in every situation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/20 04:29 AM |
| 56 | Left him at the cafeThat wasn’t even scraps! This absolute audacity of zero effort despite social skills and then all the butt hurt bUT I caN’T FiND anYone to DAte- all the pity gathering- all the “equality” woke claims - all the money only 50/50 splitting bemoaned - dude was some really rude and privileged fuck. That’s why I have stopped dating. Men like this are like trying to negotiate a relationship with a parking meter. When you quit paying time is up. Not only do men like this think you’re everything less tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/20 11:28 PM |
| 28 | Only LVM are dating during COVID-19And every story is: And this justifies me going despite this fact, this government order and this official scientific recommendation because I wanted to see this stranger met online- BEaCaUsE I’m BOrEd and and and. Virus spreads by breathing, it’s highly contagious for days before symptoms and lives on surfaces. It’s kinda beyond hand washing and face touching and 6 feet apart. But you do you!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/20 11:06 PM |
| 122 | Left him at the cafeAfter reading all the anti FDS comments on the “unpopular opinion” post about FDS cross posted here- this! This is why FDS advocates men pay. This destroys all the “equality” and “investment” whiney bs arguments about mutual efforts only make a relationship viable. What the fuck happened to hospitality? Manners? What the living fuck? Imagine inviting anyone else that you wish to know and make a favorable impression- a client, friend of a friend or a prospective whatever at minimum you’d get up o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/20 09:47 PM |
| 63 | Scrote from r/UnpopularOpinion thinks r/femaledatingstrategy is asking for too much and looking for the “most perfect man”.2 comments on the post say FDS provides material to reflect on themselves as men. I’ve wondered before how anyone with basic reading comprehension believes FDS is incel or MGTOW or a bunch of whatever sad stereotypes about single women. And Christ on a Cracker why all the cat hatred? My dude, that’s the “adult” version of girls have cooties. Overall just more totally missing the point of FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/20 08:23 AM |
| 18 | Interruption of Pick Me Supply. What happens when the world shuts down and swipe sex and hook ups are affected too?I was theorizing along similar lines after I posted. LVM by definition pay as little as possible to gain sex, attention and labor. No free or low cost sex from OLD? Then it’s free porn, cam girls and sex workers dependent on cash flow and attachment to perceived benefits of irl women. Like you mentioned lvm cannot be bothered with hygiene (because washing yourself is “girly” not manly) so more of the same kind of economic analysis of sex procurement- cost, value, reward- the standards already in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/20 12:33 AM |
| 1 | When is the right time to tell a new person I’m dating that I have dysthymia (chronic long term low grade depression) and anxiety?Hope this all works out well for you. Sounds like you are working through many issues. It’s difficult to sort out relationships in general and having extra things that you should be able to share and be supported hard to navigate when dating. The caretaker mention certainly was not meant as an aspersion- we all need to have that option. That’s kinda the point of being a team having assists as needed while tackling individual and couple issues/problems. Thanks for the answer. I wish you the best. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 09:41 AM |
| 3 | What Being a Pickmeisha Looks Like From the Other SideUmm what do you think about all this? So much to unpack and not much info- there’s no point in me saying anything that doesn’t help or does not elevate you. So this isn’t specific to you- take what works and forget what doesn’t. Was reading another post (ironically from an op with pickmeisha flair) with some pointed observation about “man bashing” with healthy side dish of “you’re the common denominator” like if we just kick our heels 3X and fiercely believe- there will be gallons of good guys l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 09:24 AM |
| 15 | What Being a Pickmeisha Looks Like From the Other SideImo pick me is a choice feminist, low self esteem, make-the-man-the-plan; woman with internalized misogyny that plays cool girl and allows shit that is disrespectful and ambiguous in order to have a relationship- at all costs. Though sometimes pick me is subtle and insidious. I don’t understand how a man can be a pick me and a hvm? Seems mutually exclusive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 03:04 AM |
| 39 | What Being a Pickmeisha Looks Like From the Other SideThere’s no enough data on John to declare hvm. Wanting exclusive after 3 dates? That’s scary. Being desperate for you isn’t a sign of a pick me man- quick lockdown can indicate disordered thinking not a nice guy you’re not into that’s ruining his chance by giving you what traditionally women are supposed to want. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 01:55 AM |
| 20 | When is the right time to tell a new person I’m dating that I have dysthymia (chronic long term low grade depression) and anxiety?What criteria do you have for a support system person in general? How do you decide that they are safe, appropriate, willing and available to know your diagnosis and/or help you when in crisis? The last rejection from a doctor- someone supposedly trained to understand your diagnosis devastated you- his aims for a partner did not include caretaking- have you considered that stance is basic to heteronormative men? Basic FDS is don’t give a man ammunition to do you harm or another woman in the futu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/20 08:40 PM |
| 73 | Where we conditioned/raised to try and fix broken men?Social script. See: romcoms/sitcoms with fugly baby-man has hot wife “If he’s mean it’s because he likes you” Beauty and The Beast Nerd love Girls taught to be nice not bitchy There’s hella more- it’s our role and assigned specifically to the female gender and is binary. Women give. Men get. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/20 07:28 AM |
| 20 | My pick me cool girl shit was a maladaptive coping strategy just like other self medicating addictive behaviors that are trauma basedThe “finding a home in another person” such a powerful insight- something applicable in my own life. And something that’s a common expectation of women in general. Women are supposed to create homes with another like our lives depend on it- our single lives are never considered adequate or desirable or socially acceptable. We don’t analyze our social constructs or our thoughts and how we came to believe them. For me- I wondered for years why I rarely felt attracted to men and why my relationship… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/20 06:57 AM |
| 1 | I have absolutely no wordsI’m sincerely glad you are ok. Keep safe! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 08:48 PM |
| 44 | I have absolutely no wordsI think I need a shower-lol! Are you ok? And men are the logical blah blah blah. That was like a lifetime movie. Once again I hope you’re okay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 07:15 AM |
| 29 | Does Anyone Else Notice A General Trend Of Women Losing Interest In Dating?This trend is hard to get an accurate picture. Statistics show in many countries declining birth/marriage rates and larger than historical average single populations. Women are not celebrated for being single- for many reasons it isn’t useful to be labeled done with dating. And then there’s the fact that women are usually not allowed to speak their truth if it’s not normative. Imo there’s a mostly silent movement of women who are done with dating and men. There’s an epidemic of rape and violence… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 02:55 AM |
| 32 | ...and nothing of value was lost - these are the men who whine about "hypergamy" and "misandry" online:😂They’re trying to monetize themselves and become paid influencers - gather a tribe of admirers and perform manly man manhood since the traditional route to MAn™️ sex with women and/or colonizing a virgin frontier ain’t happening for them. That they look like that? Idk cosmic justice? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 09:04 PM |
| 26 | Another Unwashed, Unkempt, Unshaven Scrote tells us all about how our poor opinion of men is solely because of chasing “Chad”. You see ladies, We don’t date guys like him because we lack common sense, not because he’s repulsive. 🙄Exactly! The futility of having anything to do with someone who is blind to your basic worth and is willing to suck the life out of you- no reciprocity because his must fuck/hate all women dissonance has stolen his humanity. Women are not mad about the Chad. Nope it’s the everyday nice guy average chump and that heteronormative “relationships” don’t even approach a zero sum game. Women worldwide are just saying no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 06:21 AM |
| 40 | Another Unwashed, Unkempt, Unshaven Scrote tells us all about how our poor opinion of men is solely because of chasing “Chad”. You see ladies, We don’t date guys like him because we lack common sense, not because he’s repulsive. 🙄Failed hygiene 101 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Fucking Jesus Mary and Joseph!!! Here’s the thing, me personally I have a certain sense of kindness for my fellow human beings. I balance that with the fact that sympathy for men and pity fucking men like him is exactly with who and how the bad shit starts. Having a “relationship” with a clown king that posts videos that are hateful about women is always a no. Basically wtf does he date women when he says that shit unless he has some really bad psychological shit to work… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 06:00 AM |
| 83 | Another Unwashed, Unkempt, Unshaven Scrote tells us all about how our poor opinion of men is solely because of chasing “Chad”. You see ladies, We don’t date guys like him because we lack common sense, not because he’s repulsive. 🙄The delusion, the mansplain, the chad obsession, the obvious lack of reading comprehension and cherry-pick. Why does he care so hard? His analysis of us “girls” (🤮🤮🤮🤮) that we are all chad chasing lunatics that blah blah blah retrograde regressive blah blah blame women!!! The fucking fifties called and want their nice girl bs back. Translation: if we’d just fuck guys like him and be nice our lives would be 🦄🦄🦄🌈🌈🌈. He’s just coping. Dude needs a trim and shave and a total rethink of his visuals. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 05:47 AM |
| 121 | Listen up Scrotes! This is How Men THINK rape happens, vs how it ACTUALLY happens!Men believe rape is everything but their dickmatized, rapey “entitled to sex” selfs. Men have created rape explanation sub cultures, “science”, “philosophy”, political rape, religion-based rape, rape as “art”, rape “logic”, and rape tourism, rape for character development, rape-based industries - basically they’ve turned the world into an oyster and free for all d!sneyland of rape. All while creating a harassment to abuse pipeline of deniability and victim grooming through the pervasiveness of r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 10:09 PM |
| 16 | I need some outside perspectives on this situation with my bossLogic, “common sense”, intuition, every daytime paternity testing talk show host ever and all that is holy, smart and sane dictates (actually implores) you that: You. Cannot. Know. People. In. Two. Weeks. Especially in situations where people automatically are putting their best forward to earn money, rewards or access to vagina. By your definition of HV nearly everyman who appears to be married, working, hygienic and not apparently a sexual predator- that analysis fails hard. Here’s the thing s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 08:33 PM |
| 164 | RAPE LAWS: In the 70s it was marital rape, the 80s it was date rape, the 90s was roofies & rape drugs, 2000s it was rape while intoxicated/campus rape, & 2010s it was revenge porn and physical assault during sex. What new anti-sexual violence war will we have to wage with the Scrotes in the 2020s?Non consensual violence during consensual sex. No slapping, choking porn inspired violence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 07:37 AM |
| 15 | Reminder: Male sexual attention is not a compliment, and you should not make receiving it a priority.Wow- feel better. Sounds like you have a good plan. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 03:04 AM |
| 11 | Reminder: Male sexual attention is not a compliment, and you should not make receiving it a priority.Link please? Thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 02:02 AM |
| 64 | Reminder: Male sexual attention is not a compliment, and you should not make receiving it a priority.Wow. Nothing motivates like well aimed and specially crafted insult- NOT!!!! Words are like bullets. They scar and maim. He’s sculpting you in the image of an ex with insults that never wash off that he pretends are something entirely else. That’s gaslighting for sure. Sometimes I think men are calculating and know exactly how to puppeteer. Other times in men’s moments of vulnerability I see broken and bewildered men who are genuinely lost and lonely wanting love. Then I remember that sympathy i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 02:01 AM |
| 16 | LADIES HELP!!! LVM Ex Fiance sent me this e-mail - I turn to you so I don't reply!Because this virus is a game changer. America in particular is individualistic - if you personally are doing good then that’s the metric. Obviously selfish and emotionally oblivious men like him are threatened by the possibility that they are living and doing well in system that has all the science and tools to stop what is essentially a mild to bad cold flu bug for most people but kills the old and vulnerable. He wants to use this to trap you. During the days and weeks after September 11, 2001 … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 01:44 AM |
| 225 | Reminder: Male sexual attention is not a compliment, and you should not make receiving it a priority.I’m waaaay past the fake wall expiration date. Like many women my age and older I didn’t become invisible- I’ve got the required look and shape for male sexualized attention. At midlife, divorced from a long marriage I went from high school dropout to Master’s degree. I applied the skills acquired to the personal. No more negative self talk and comfort eating- it was hard work to stop bad shit ingrained from birth and reinforced autonomically by a culture that needs women to be lesser. During an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 09:30 PM |
| 2 | I’m learning faster and faster to cut these loser clown idiots off at the pass. My dreams don’t die the second I meet some dude. 🙄https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/michaelblackmon/dating-hook-ups-loneliness-drag-his-ass-mary-beth-barone | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/20 09:10 PM |
| 4 | I’m learning faster and faster to cut these loser clown idiots off at the pass. My dreams don’t die the second I meet some dude. 🙄That’s where I am- the assumption of good intentions piece and why that’s destructive. Tbh I am immersed in books and content on dv and structural misogyny. Also follow specific men’s transformation spaces. It’s a total shit show for women with very few sources able or willing to state that assume the bad until proven the good is basic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/20 07:47 PM |
| 18 | I’m learning faster and faster to cut these loser clown idiots off at the pass. My dreams don’t die the second I meet some dude. 🙄I agree! It sure took me a moment and lots brain damage incurred from OLD to see this generic, typical stuff as toxic. I missed “the few successful dates” - you’re right. 🤡💩🤡 That was my issue reading into things and always assuming relationship motives. I need more work on that apparently. Thanks for the lesson. Was reading a Buzzfeed article today on dating dystopia. Written by a gay POC man that includes women’s stories it has themes of how isolating dating is,how people settle for what doesn… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/20 07:06 PM |
| 49 | I’m learning faster and faster to cut these loser clown idiots off at the pass. My dreams don’t die the second I meet some dude. 🙄Doing work is a future fake implying he wants to connect in a ltr- the sexy shit is being “flirty” which is supposed to be “fun”. Clowns 🤡 perform this generic I wanna be your boyfriend material so women create hope and investment and then men can coerce with assumed familiarity. This is power move. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/20 06:20 PM |
| 22 | This is why we cannot have anything “nice”Guy wants advice on how to have everything and keep it all too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/20 12:24 AM |
| 11 | Dating: when I was single amount of times a guy would 'schedule' a date but not follow up was incredible. Low effort and not worthy of a second chance.Before FDS I had to figure out why men with careers and finances that demonstrate social skills, follow through, planning and goals could not keep their word OLD and IRL. Why these men were less than half-assed with me while they were engaging with me ostensibly for the purpose of dating - why they cancelled on everything for no discernible reason. I’m so glad that I found FDS because it’s shown me that I wasn’t wrong. Men don’t want to date and don’t want to date me. Men are getting their sexua… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 10:49 PM |
| 10 | Is watching tailored-to-you porn cheating?Yes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 06:54 PM |
| 9 | How has Liberal Feminism benefited men more than women?Andrea Dworkin: Woman Hating. Basically any book by Dworkin and the libfem criticism of her work. In the intro to Woman Hating she says that women don’t think of themselves as oppressed. And that knowledge of oppression is fundamental. That’s the unstated bias of Libfem. Women are not oppressed by other or outer forces. Women are oppressed from within and freedom comes with choice. That women freed to choose will create equal. Libfem is right about all of these assertions. Women are now equal to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 06:47 PM |
| 8 | Today I realized there are absolutely no qualifications to be a sex columnist in a women’s magazine except the willingness to sleep around, lie, and feel self important enough to think someone should care about it. I’m pissed.😡True story, right? My cynical opinion isn’t a sympathy or defense of male centric sex advice. Longer I read theory and do structural analysis I see economic not pro social construct in most everything. As much as we’d like to think that businesses should have consumer interest in mind it’s not true: big pharma, oil, American Health Care, Monsanto, Dow Chemical, plastic industry, processed food industry, fast food, Facebook, Amazon, OLD...... Basic human dignity to safe products???only when they … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 03:35 AM |
| 4 | Today I realized there are absolutely no qualifications to be a sex columnist in a women’s magazine except the willingness to sleep around, lie, and feel self important enough to think someone should care about it. I’m pissed.😡Maybe? Imo actual sex advice might be a legal liability. This way if someone gets hurt it’s not real advice from an educated professional. It’s like a horoscope! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 02:40 AM |
| 36 | Today I realized there are absolutely no qualifications to be a sex columnist in a women’s magazine except the willingness to sleep around, lie, and feel self important enough to think someone should care about it. I’m pissed.😡It would certainly ruin all the fun and profits if sex columnists had at the least a basic understanding of statistics, knowledge of survey instruments and appropriate applications of human subjects research. Then there’s the legion of keyboard warriors that expect piv male orgasm centric advice- no freelancer who is making pennies per word wants death threats and doxing. Sex advice is infotainment. Big time click bait. It’s definitely not a public service or educational based on peer review res… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 01:38 AM |
| 23 | I’ve never felt protected by a man before in my entire life. I would like that feeling of being provided for and protected. Anyone else feeling the same?I’ve thought a lot about this. Men don’t value safety- physical, emotional or sexual of women in general. All the man strangers I’ve met - there’s always this assumption that you can vet them online or in person and most are nice guy harmless. They use this presumption of safe so they can detrimentally use women and go on the offensive if they get caught. Men think in terms of $$ and physical violence and don’t see rape and everyday coercion. Since we’re all supposedly equal now protection, givi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 09:05 PM |
| 12 | ShowerThought: Having a man is like owning a gun. In theory you have it for protection and to feel safe and confident, but statistically it’s actually more likely to kill you and someone you love than to be used against someone who is actually dangerous to you.There’s no biological instinct that selects for violent, bloody and dangerous men. If everything is truly about passing on genetics then why choose drama that keeps you and your children adjacent to violence? Hollywood and bad science education has mainstreamed ideas about brutal, rapey, Lord of the Flies like primal ancestors that we can blame the worst parts of humanity on because scapegoat. No need for structural analysis of current social standards. Nope, it was CaVEmEn!!! It’s way too long … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 12:19 AM |
| 67 | ShowerThought: Having a man is like owning a gun. In theory you have it for protection and to feel safe and confident, but statistically it’s actually more likely to kill you and someone you love than to be used against someone who is actually dangerous to you.Having had more guns than the average 3rd world drug lord and lots of practice- I now have zero. Why? Because a gun is for killing not safety or confidence. Similar to men- you can’t just have one laying around on the off chance that he’s safe. And if you do, may the odds be ever in your favor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 06:54 AM |
| 37 | men are sickGetting hit upside the head with how awful average people are - how cavalier they are about really evil shit is so hard to see. I don’t think it’s necessarily your background- you were sober and watching and listening. In a no excuse frame of mind. I’ve heard too many awful “jokes” about unspeakable shit- people say really nasty things when they think they can- I cannot anymore and don’t beat myself up for being there- it’s not safe to police people. I’m so thankful you’re safe at home. It’s a r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 06:39 AM |
| 16 | Does anybody REALLY feel this way about dating? Dating should be "freeing, fun, and an opportunity to know yourself and others". Maybe it did the first 4 months of dating before the bloom falls off the rose.Idealistic sentiments for sure- but here’s the thing for me. I don’t want to shit show date. I won’t OLD. I won’t wonder ever again if he _____? I will not text strangers or have long ass phone calls. When a man I’m not feeling shows interest I will shut that shit down- the kitchen’s closed. I will not allow bs because “that’s how men and dating are” I’m not weeding through no value men. I refuse to participate. I’ve recently re-evaluated my OLD vs IRL “success”. A super like or a “hey beautiful… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 10:19 PM |
| 1 | can’t wait to come forward with all the fucked up sexist shit that’s held me back in my career only to have libfems bash me for it bc I’m hot and refuse to take on any kind of “digestible” victim identity On the meta women are projection objects- ruthlessly examined and judged for what they don’t possess so they can assume the role that suits the “morality” play at hand. My crime was no man so therefore I was a sex crazed, jealous, cop calling bitch needing a good fucking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 07:31 PM |
| 18 | Porn has convinced men that violent sex is OK. It ISN'T. A man who wants to strangle during sex has paired sex and violence.Me too. I have a noticeable ass and was bullied and shamed for it- since booty & bdsm is now universal and mainstream - fml. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 07:17 PM |
| 44 | Porn has convinced men that violent sex is OK. It ISN'T. A man who wants to strangle during sex has paired sex and violence.It’s on trend for women to wear restrictive or painful clothes and shoes. Beauty is painful that makes a woman worthy of male lust so why not sex? Women are sold men = pain. Children= pain. Beauty=pain. Being a women means endlessly enduring pain. In the patriarchy, women in pain is a given just like the sun rises. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 06:31 PM |
| 45 | Porn has convinced men that violent sex is OK. It ISN'T. A man who wants to strangle during sex has paired sex and violence.Obligatory ass slapping. There’s a whole myth floating around that women love to be spanked. That it’s part of our sexual response and need to feel dominance. That spanks are “playful”. No my dude. Hitting, pinching, biting is a no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 06:20 PM |
| 10 | can’t wait to come forward with all the fucked up sexist shit that’s held me back in my career only to have libfems bash me for it bc I’m hot and refuse to take on any kind of “digestible” victim identity You’re story isn’t just Hollywood. Thematically it’s the circus that attractive, accomplished women are framed with and viewed by in all socioeconomic levels. I’m far removed from Hollywood and I see myself in your story even living in a backwards tourist town with a high crime rate and all the other issues that come with exploitation and lack mentality. I was fuck zoned, groped, harassed, pestered and then astonishingly set up and mocked by women who believed that I was after their men. It’s a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 10:13 PM |
| 2 | How much are dating apps costing you?We are product! Sex dispensers. Every time I read a post that truthfully shows the OLD experience without excuses is so informative. I agree- no more grief. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 09:25 PM |
| 13 | I need some advice on dealing with the most confusing relationship ever!Amazing sex isn’t divorced from respect and being valued and treated like you matter. Why do you over value orgasms from a man over orgasms you give yourself- why do you value them at all ? Wtf made you believe amazing sex is more valuable than you? This is next level pick me shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 08:09 PM |
| 40 | How to answer questions about your OLD dating history?Nearly every man on every platform asks. It’s the equivalent of “hey, beautiful”. The implication is that women age out of OLD desirability in a month or less. Pre FDS I always answered truthfully because I always deleted my profiles in less than 3 weeks (sometimes in hours). I never realized the implications of the ask. Imo if a man is asking any question about your experiences with dating and other men- it’s not benign- especially if you don’t know them well, why they are asking and their reac… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 07:58 PM |
| 52 | Dating with age?Fear of scarcity is the number one reason for pick me shit and a huge reason for men’s delusions and trashy behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 10:31 PM |
| 6 | So many of us believe HVM are in short supply but even when we find them do we stand a chance? Even HVM's are drawn to damaged women.. I've given up on ever finding one in my 40s. Thank GOD for FDS helping me realize my self worthiness!Fear, economics, fear, fear, fear and the dynamics of baby making. Hundreds of comments on this sub that illustrate compulsory heterosexuality that unravel the complexities of how women are psychologically mutilated from birth to want men. I have been constantly asking myself for the last 2 years these questions: why do I want a man? Which men are sexually attractive? What were my relationships truthfully? Do I know happy couples? Do I know good men? Why is dating so awful? Why am I trying? Why … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 09:42 PM |
| 30 | Dating Over Thirty, the shitshowDating over 30 (and the rest of the dating over subs) have no actual advice that works on a consistent basis. Those subs just regurgitate stereotypes and vents and every once in a while a success story. I’ve often wondered about dating advice in general in comparison to other Internet advice. There’s thousands of videos that demonstrate every skill under the sun- I’ve fixed my car and cell phone and used beauty tutorials. I’ve found important advice that’s improved my chronic health issue. I’ve … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 09:00 PM |
| 11 | So many of us believe HVM are in short supply but even when we find them do we stand a chance? Even HVM's are drawn to damaged women.. I've given up on ever finding one in my 40s. Thank GOD for FDS helping me realize my self worthiness!Science literacy: the article argument is filled with “could suggest” sample size insufficiency, alternative explanations and the unstated assumptions about good methodology and replicable results. Fear of not finding a man is social programming. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 08:15 PM |
| 6 | Learn to be your own witness, learn to be the woman you need for yourself and not to get a man. Anyone else have any thoughts on Mark Groves?I’ve listened to him and a whole bunch of others just like him extensively. We have different opinions. Glad you find value. There’s plenty of men from the health and wellness industry and the date coaching industry that have huge followings of women that they dispense advice to - and their main selling point is their level of enlightenment which sets them apart from the “average guy”. None have personal insight gained from actual oppression or the everyday experiences of being a woman. Nor do t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 08:19 AM |
| 20 | Learn to be your own witness, learn to be the woman you need for yourself and not to get a man. Anyone else have any thoughts on Mark Groves?Personally I’m over all men who sell dating advice to heterosexual women. Imo men should be working with men because men are overwhelmingly the rapists, abusers and porn addicts- the problem is men. Certainly many of the issues women face would disappear if dating was a safe relatively benign thing. Being your own witness is code speak for don’t get gaslit. Mark is gaslighting his following into thinking he’s got sage advice. Dear Men: Fix yourselves before you try to fix me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 03:19 AM |
| 7 | How much are dating apps costing you?Quitting apps is the best answer if they don’t work or are not worth it to you! I really hope it becomes a mainstream trend. Not to get revenge or teach men or make a political statement- but because rejection of apps shows that love should never hurt. Apps are not fun, safe or harassment free. ROI: money, time, negative interactions definitely outweigh the outcomes. That’s my big meta lesson: dating (especially apps) hurt me. I’m not running into the fire anymore and trying to not get burnt bec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 10:04 PM |
| 16 | How much are dating apps costing you?OLD broke my world view of men -Alice in Wonderland style down the rabbit hole to discover that everything dating was not as promised. Apps cost self esteem and vast amounts of brain space and time. Besides all the typical beauty and fashion I spent money on dating books and a personal coach. In many ways I feel like a disaster victim finding the silver lining way after the fact. I figured OLD out and quit hurting myself. Dating, was making myself into a product in high turnover sex pursuit game… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 06:43 PM |
| 7 | Marriage subreddit - training yourself to be arousedRead the post and some comments. Op is blaming herself: it’s her lack of knowledge about her natural arousal and latent sexual feeling that is hindered by whore messaging and therefore she’s shut down. So she’s reading erotica and meditating on the feels and is having more sex because she’s arousing herself everyday while having her morning coffee. Something suspicious about this especially since this lack of arousal generally happens in ltr to women with careers and family. And especially since… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 07:26 AM |
| 57 | What is it with LVM and wanting to"cuddle"?Yes men believe women will want cuddles. Because they know that women don’t want their unhygienic, violent, misogynistic everyday selves. Are men touch starved? Nah. Aren’t men socialized to abhor platonic soft consensual touch and sublimate those needs into contact sports, bro slap hugs and death grip porn wanks? Cuddles are an optic. It’s not poor lonely nice guy who wants to feel warm fuzzy connection with fond feels. That’s why they are asking strangers online on a platform they use to find … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 04:06 AM |
| 22 | Done with dudesThe pernicious lie that good girls get good guys so just be good is enabled by false narratives such as: don’t air dirty laundry, two sides to every story, complaining is draining, positive vibes only and bitterness policing. Women are not allowed to talk. And when we do we are truth shamed. We live in a world that for thousands of years that has exclusively favored certain shades of men. Your gfs don’t want to be woken up. They believe. It is extremely destabilizing to find out that your whole … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/02/20 10:44 PM |
| 75 | Paulina Porizkova feels ‘betrayed’ after being cut out of husband Ric Ocasek’s willA story so predictable. He was 20 years older, married, successful and powerfully glamorous- she was 18. He was objectively ugly with rockstar personality - she brought him massive bro achievement points for banging and bagging a sexual fantasy stratospherically out of his league. For decades their marriage kept him media relevant because it wasn’t his music that was interesting. Without her he’d be a nostalgia act playing woebegone casinos in bum fuck and county fairs in summer. Their marriage … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/02/20 09:00 PM |
| 16 | A revelation I had in therapy about men and their mothers.Unfortunately men can be HV in one or more areas and still be utter trash. We’d love to think that certain indicators will predict future outcomes. It’s actually the whole man 24/7 365 for years/decades/lifetime that = hvm. That idea that certain behavior indicates intention starts with little boys acting in horrific mean ways and little girls trying to make sense and being told, “he likes you”. Basically men are socialized to be shits and women to ignore reality and instead believe in every oth… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 07:32 PM |
| 2 | Men don't even consider that we existThe pie chart economic idea is the structural thinking that enables the shit show. Real truth about domestic labors is “many hands make the load light” and the time component diminishes and especially if the work is not only shared but done daily and with adequate effort. Men are like petulant lazy children and would rather do every passive aggressive tactic ever invented from arguing why any task is necessary , to poor performance or even conveniently “forgetting” - men are the ones that frame … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 02:38 AM |
| 11 | Men don't even consider that we existTrue story they don’t see struggle they see threat. They see all systems and resources as finite and “earned” so equality means they get less!!! They don’t want to get less of the pie! And they view all things coded female, especially work and emotions as humiliating. Fuck if they’re gonna clean house or act “nice”. Basically seeing women as human and according them dignity means abandoning The Penis Standard- the system of social and economic beliefs (aka the patriarchy) that makes them believe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 09:37 PM |
| 100 | Men don't even consider that we existIn my investigation of my own bias, I learned that the structure that contains and creates the systematic hatred toward race, women, class etc. isn’t seen. Especially in the interconnected digital age where personal solutions instead of collective actions are more viable. I can’t personal growth my disfunction away because the world at large reinforces my bs and is built by men and for men to destroy not create a fair world. Men see issues as other-created because obviously it’s a male centric c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 06:19 PM |
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