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sexytimeinseattle/r/seduction21/03/19 04:19 PM
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Leftoverssexytimeinseattle/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/01/21 06:08 AM
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sexytimeinseattle/r/Divorce_Men16/10/19 08:25 AM
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sexytimeinseattle/r/Divorce_Men20/07/19 03:55 AM
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sexytimeinseattle/r/Divorce_Men23/04/21 03:55 AM
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sexytimeinseattle/r/MensRights26/05/20 07:17 PM
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sexytimeinseattle/r/MGTOW19/09/19 07:48 PM
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sexytimeinseattle/r/Divorce_Men15/10/20 09:23 PM
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sexytimeinseattle/r/Divorce_Men07/11/19 08:44 PM
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sexytimeinseattle/r/MGTOW18/10/19 06:42 PM
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sexytimeinseattle/r/Divorce_Men15/03/19 07:49 PM
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sexytimeinseattle/r/MGTOW11/08/19 07:21 PM
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sexytimeinseattle/r/MGTOW30/10/19 06:37 PM
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sexytimeinseattle/r/Divorce_Men04/02/20 07:10 PM
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Feminismsexytimeinseattle/r/MensRights13/01/22 03:27 AM
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sexytimeinseattle/r/Divorce_Men17/04/19 03:33 AM
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sexytimeinseattle/r/MGTOW03/09/19 03:07 AM
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sexytimeinseattle/r/Divorce_Men30/03/20 07:40 PM
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sexytimeinseattle/r/Divorce_Men05/08/20 09:47 PM
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sexytimeinseattle/r/Divorce_Men08/04/19 09:14 PM
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sexytimeinseattle/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/03/21 05:33 PM
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sexytimeinseattle/r/MGTOW19/09/19 07:47 PM
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sexytimeinseattle/r/MGTOW26/07/19 06:32 PM
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Damaged Goodssexytimeinseattle/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen08/03/21 10:51 PM
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sexytimeinseattle/r/Divorce_Men26/06/20 06:48 PM
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Discriminationsexytimeinseattle/r/MensRights04/04/20 11:09 PM
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50 year olds weren't working age in the 70s, my dude. 50 year olds came of working age in the 90s, and women had plenty of options by then, and more over time.
/r/MensRights05/08/23 09:23 PM
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So a bare majority of journos are women; yet they're a diminishing minority of casualties.
/r/MensRights19/03/23 06:27 AM
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without norming the stat against how many journos are women, this is a meaningless number. is it disproportionate?
/r/MensRights14/03/23 05:58 AM
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Prior to marriage, gift all your separate property (bank accounts, stocks etc.) to your parents. Above $15K to each per year is taxable per year. have them make a will gifting the house to charity on their death you'd be kicked out. You're assuming you get divorced before your parents die. If the parents die first, you'd inherit and then the house still becomes marital estate unless it's put into a trust or something. There is something to be said for keeping your assets out of personal control …
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/23 11:01 PM
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but this is solely our fault as men exactly. We need to stop committing to women with this kind of attitude and let them fend for themselves. If that means less grandchildren for these kinds of grandmothers, well they've made their bed.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/23 07:51 PM
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I've never heard of the chance of PVPS being that high, I don't believe OP looked into it sufficiently.
/r/MensRights31/12/22 08:03 PM
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Indeed. The first step of cleaning a gun for almost all models is to unload it, including emptying the chamber.
/r/MensRights13/12/22 09:30 PM
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What I find frustrating is that there have been other American men and women over the years incarcerated in Russia America after being convicted of simple possession of marijuana So if Griner gets busted in a non-legal US state, will we do a prisoner swap with Idaho?
/r/MensRights09/12/22 05:20 AM
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" couldn’t differentiate between flirtation and sexual harassment" The way women differentiate is how attractive the man is that's approaching them. That's been well demonstrated. Also, note how they try to shame him for making a choice on sexual stance, as if they're entitled to his advances. They are not.
/r/MensRights16/10/22 07:08 PM
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One might question why you're part of this community at all. You're looking at a community of men on reddit that have gone through a divorce, and expected some kind of female empowerment message? Read the room.
/r/MensRights16/10/22 08:52 AM
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An email would have been better so you could have sued her for discrimination. If it's a room in a house then you can discriminate. If it's not you can't, and can and should be sued under equal access laws.
/r/MensRights14/10/22 09:44 PM
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lol no shit. I can't keep it straight either. I assume that trans women are individuals that now identify as women, regardless of their birth gender. Transfrom to, not transform from (the ablative case).
/r/MensRights11/10/22 06:10 AM
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"Not a perfect victim". Note the assumption that she was the victim and Depp was the abuser; it doesn't cross their hamster brains that perhaps Depp was "not a perfect victim" but was in fact the victim in the relationship. The fact is that it was clearly an extremely toxic relationship, and both suffered for it; but it was only Heard that felt like she needed to write an OpEd about it. If she hadn't tried to play the victim card in public there would have been no case.
/r/MensRights07/10/22 05:52 PM
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Does anybody have a solution that doesn’t involve leaving her? Call the cops after each incident. But your quickest solution is to leave her, and you should, before she escalates and you are wounded and/or die.
/r/MensRights03/10/22 07:34 PM
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If you want to be visible, do something of value. Visibility based on your looks has an expiration date, and you all know it, and trying to pretend that you're different is like shouting at the wind.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/08/22 10:48 PM
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A pay gap is when a women does the same job as a man and gets paid less for it. That is illegal, and if it is happening those women should sue, and they will win. The concept of "unequal pay for equal work" has been widely bebunked and it's persistence is solely due to self-serving feminist propaganda. Women as a gender are paid less than men, but it's because they chose jobs that pay less. If they were to stop doing that the entire issue would go away, but the fact is that most women don't want…
/r/MensRights19/08/22 05:49 PM
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Women in the United States were told that their state will decide the limits on abortion. And furthermore, since they can vote, if they don't like it they can vote those legislatures and laws out. I'm not sure that the fact that they don't is my problem to solve for them.
/r/MensRights19/08/22 05:46 PM
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wow she is psycho
/r/MensRights18/08/22 05:41 AM
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Generally it is decided together Then you decide it bilaterally, or she bears the burden on her own. Including costs. Full stop. You could even go so far as to deny them them time, but that's too the kids detriment. This is like a missile silo in which you both have to turn the key at the same time. Even if just one doesn't turn, missile doesn't go.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/22 06:42 AM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e59smB2L2EE&ab_channel=MikeMGTV
/r/MensRights04/08/22 03:16 AM
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female friends the question is do they do it with the guy that they're fucking.
/r/MensRights02/08/22 08:14 PM
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how it's ok for men to express emotions and she will always listen to emotional men. aka "hamstering" phenomenon. It's part of the myth that women tell themselves to make them feel superior/better about themselves, that they are more emotionally aware and supportive than men are. It's a myth, that doesn't hold up under scrutiny or observed experience. They want to believe it about themselves, and contrary evidence is ignored because acknowledging it would be damaging to their self-image.
/r/MensRights02/08/22 08:09 PM
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So when you were on unemployment and your ex knew this and knew you couldn't pay, what was that conversation with her like? What did she say to you? "Fuck you, pay me" If I didn't have savings, the judges ruling would have made me homeless.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/22 06:47 PM
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I tried that too; I was earning 200k+, was laid off, and went to court to stipulate payment at what I thought I could make reasonably with my skills and region. Judge didn't buy it. At all. Basically assumed that I could make $200k and I continued to pay at that rate, even though I was collecting employment. We're in appeals now and this link makes me wonder if my case will actually wind up on that site eventually. I am re-employed, at more than my assumption during court but still less than $20…
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/22 09:15 PM
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Where does that sentence specify a gender?
/r/MensRights11/07/22 01:38 AM
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I’ll admit eager to grow and learn as a person. "They must be able to accept my criticism, but I'm not going to accept theirs because I'm too smart for it." rarely because I feel truly seen and appreciated for being the delightful weirdo I am. You don't get to be accepted as "a delightful weirdo" on a first date. After all, they have accepted you for that, because they asked for second dates. It's that you haven't accepted them. Maybe it's because you're unwilling to accept them due to them bein…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/07/22 02:23 AM
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she must have some dealbreaker personality disorder according to the OP, she's just picky in rejecting most second date attempts. It's safe to assume that her personality disorder is to believe in Disney "love at first sight" tropes.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/07/22 02:18 AM
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I want 50/50 and to not remain on the mortgage. This is the way. That she doesn't agree or will be hurt financially is her problem, not yours. I will need to assume full responsibility of my D3 and she will not take part in raising her. Take that deal and run with it. Make sure to get child support from her, calculate at 0% time, as well. She's said she won't abide by the court and she won't even show up to the pre-trial. Even better. You will win by default and there are plenty of legal options…
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/22 07:00 PM
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The only way would be for the Democrats win 60 votes in the Senate, and I don't see a path to that. I don't think they're going to get to a nationwide ban, either. This issue will be left up to individual states.
/r/MensRights26/06/22 09:55 PM
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In that person's mind, there are either no cheaters in the world, or happy people that cheat anyway
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/22 10:48 PM
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It's not cheating if she wasn't happy Hamster wheel goes brrrrr If only we could harness that energy
/r/Divorce_Men23/06/22 07:59 AM
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"Men constantly have to prove themselves"...to other men. Now that women are in the workplace as peers, they're frustrated that they're being treated as men treat each other, iow being constantly challenged and have to prove themselves. I think that a lof of the so-called abuse women experience in the workplace is simply a fact of being directly exposed to the abuse that men direct at each other, and the women weren't socialized into that kind of social combat.
/r/MensRights21/06/22 08:48 PM
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Personally, I'm counting the days until they're 18.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/22 06:02 PM
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This is just as inane as Sheryl Sandberg saying that male supervisors needed to spend as much personal time with their female staff as they do their male staff. SS, you can't dictate with whom I choose to be friends. That's my time, not your time, to dictate. Sorry if you and people like you built a culture in which men should be afraid of spending personal time with female subordinates. Maybe you should have thought that through.
/r/MensRights16/06/22 05:03 AM
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Try not to date for a good long while. Like, a few years. A rule of thumb is stay off the market for one month for every year of your marriage, but you'll know when you're ready. Also, try not to drink too much just because you're bored and lonely. The biggest change will be being able to do whatever you want whenever you want, and to change your plans if you see fit. Sometimes you just need to follow your nose.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/22 06:58 PM
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Actually, the murderer did the stabbing. You're victim shaming, just as much as saying that the clothes that she wore is what got her raped.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/22 07:02 AM
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As Jordan Peterson puts it, no feminist is out there demanding equal ratios of women in bricklaying. They want to cherry pick the cush jobs.
/r/MensRights10/06/22 08:27 AM
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cause it screws up my aim
/r/MensRights09/06/22 08:10 PM
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You should get a refund on your degree. It means that more men either pay as they go, or enlist in the military and have those loans forgiven by taxpayers already.
/r/MensRights03/06/22 09:41 PM
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but the banks are you kidding? Biden just increased liquidity by $25B at the expense of the taxpayer. Now banks can reissue that money for mortgages.
/r/MensRights03/06/22 09:40 PM
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Women should be scared to lie, is the takeaway. And they should be.
/r/MensRights01/06/22 10:37 PM
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My thoughts on Depp are "don't stick your dick in crazy". I don't quite know how they met or dated, and I don't want to know, but that level of crazy must have been obvious to both, and like moths drawn to flame thought it was no doubt "exciting" and "fun" and "thrilling" and unique. And this is how it ended, it a great big fireball. I'm pleased to see that a majority of women are taking Depp's side, and that the few women that are knee jerking Heard are getting shouted down. Maybe the age of #m…
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/22 10:30 PM
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I just don't understand how anyone gives 90 minutes of their lives to an issue that doesn't personally affect them. On this or any other topic.
/r/MensRights24/05/22 05:47 PM
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so close
/r/MensRights10/05/22 02:38 AM
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You missed 24 yo "milf" You ain't a milf, hon. You're just a dumb thot that got herself knocked up.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/05/22 04:34 PM
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I regret getting married. I'm not really comfortable with most aspects of marriage, and I had rocks in my head when I proposed. Getting divorced is just the final conclusion of that fiasco.
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/22 06:24 PM
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I'm astonished that single motherhood is such an endemic problem in today's modern age of contraception. What, the fuck, is actually going on? Is it irresponsibility, accident, or were those intentional babies and the mothers only came to resent the dads later? There is a never ending stream of posters asking how to share custody of less than one year olds--even sometimes before the kid is born. Like, your marriage really disintegrated that fast?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/04/22 05:09 PM
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Last time I got into this argument it was pointed out that surviving for 30 years and starving or subsisting on eg prostitution was worse than dying instantly during combat. I agreed that it was worse, so then asked if it's that bad why doesn't the survivor just blow their brains out like the man did. I guess surviving isn't really that bad or survivors would find another way to exit.
/r/MensRights18/04/22 03:36 PM
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He has a PhD in clinical psychology. I trust him for his opinions on behavior. But I think the has classic celebrity disease, in which he feels qualified to speak his mind on any topic whenever there is a microphone in his face. I don't trust him outright on anything that is outside his specialty, which is driven by data and empirical science.
/r/MensRights09/04/22 02:58 AM
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I don't have a term for it, because I'm not miffed by a woman telling me something I already know. Who cares, it doesn't seem like a big deal, frankly.
/r/MensRights25/03/22 10:23 PM
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Mansplaining is a problem when a man tells a woman something she is already aware of, especially when she has more qualification in the topic than the man. It's an illegitimate issue when the woman doesn't actually have the requisite knowledge, but believes that she is woman and therefore knows everything, so can't receive new information about any topic at all. Also, it ignores that it's simply how men talk to each other, and make a special victimhood for women as the only ones subject to this.…
/r/MensRights24/03/22 06:53 AM
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This is just hamstering. Even stalwart ones will revert to it when they think their lives might be threatened.
/r/MensRights16/03/22 04:01 PM
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Men learning to self-actualize without making themselves available for women to exploit is a threat. It's as simple as that.
/r/MensRights14/03/22 07:49 PM
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The court will I moved out and had no such issue. I think that's a bad to assume that to always be true. It varies wildly by the state and circumstances. I believe that "abandonment" has a higher test than that, including financial support and still being involved in the kids' lives. The first thing to do is to talk to a lawyer and they will give you appropriate advice.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/22 10:28 PM
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Actually, I wonder wtf happened to the pill. If you're going to go on Tinder and fuck strange, aren't you going to be on the pill? How is it that there are this many single mothers in this day and age?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/03/22 07:57 PM
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Real relationships don't give you tingles every day for a lifetime. No wonder she's single and disappointed.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/03/22 03:03 AM
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I've heard of that, but I think it'll work less well when they go to school. Too much disruption.
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/22 09:02 AM
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Ironcially, Thursday. For reasons. But it'll change in the fall. Part of the idea was to have contiguous weekends, but frankly a weekday swap for week on/week off is a pita.
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/22 09:02 AM
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I got mine after the birth of my second child, I knew I didn't want more. She wanted to adopt after that, but also complained about being an overworked SAHM so I dunno how she thought another kid would help. Point, she wanted to adopt specifically and herself didn't want another bio. I digress. The snip itself was no walk in the park. I was out for 5 days. It was the nicest my wife has ever treated me, tbh. I sat on bags of frozen peas and played xbox while high on pain killers, and I was 35 at …
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/22 06:29 PM
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I suggested breaking up. I really wanted him to fight for me and he didn't. He bloody didn't. lol The arrogance of men to be able to choose too.
/r/MensRights02/03/22 05:19 AM
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"rewrite masculinity" right in the subtitle. When women entered academia, were they implored to act more like dykes to be able to succeed? Or instead did we get 1000 hours of sensitivity training to make sure to include them?
/r/MensRights02/03/22 05:17 AM
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This is what your HR is for. You are entitled not to date whomever you don't want to, without repercussion. And in fact I you made the right decision in this case. If you are experiencing a HOSTILE WORKPLACE atm as a consequence, this is what HR departments were designed to address. Better than random redditors. And use the bolded words in your email to them for faster action.
/r/MensRights01/03/22 07:04 PM
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Or a sinking ship.
/r/MensRights28/02/22 10:50 PM
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Obviously, better if there's 2 of them. But far worse if they become orphans. So I understand if mothers need to leave. Mothers can stay and fight and the kids can cross the border with their dads, if need be.
/r/MensRights28/02/22 10:49 PM
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Let me guess: post-menopausal. I'm pretty sure that menopause fucks up a women's hormones enough to screw up their metabolism. Some can manage to diet and exercise it away, but if it was tough before, now it became really difficult, and/or they no longer had the discipline or will for it either.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/02/22 06:59 AM
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It's a dangerous path. Once you get really comfortable with not having a woman around anymore, your place becomes a place that no woman would want to enter. I haven't given up entirely, so it's a careful edge I walk. I even vacuum once in a while.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/22 07:16 PM
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lol. But muh diversity!
/r/MensRights19/02/22 06:16 AM
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I have no problem with someone preferring being single, and finding it empowering. That's basically WGTOW: god speed and god bless. I do have more issue with a child being willingly raised in a single parent household; it might be fun for the woman to play mommy, but is it so good for the kid to have just one parent instead of two? The mom is only thinking of her entitlement, and not the balanced emotional needs of the kid. Then ofc: Took a swipe at white men by subtly insinuating that they are …
/r/MensRights15/02/22 09:48 PM
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There is nothing in her profile that suggests what she'd bring to the relationship besides wearing a tank top.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/02/22 08:54 PM
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Let's start by talking about what the Bible has to say about unwed mothers.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen08/02/22 06:00 PM
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And the sooner this is resolved the less payout you'll have to give her. The more time, the harder it is to separate before marriage and after marriage assets; and the longer you'll have to give her spousal support. She's living on your gravy train and will feel little motivation to get off of it.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/22 05:25 PM
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I never would have thought I've have to count how many underwear at 14 year old has
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/22 01:27 AM
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I believe that PhDs have to almost be emotionally maladjusted by definition, in order to make it through the programs. They may contribute to society, but as interpersonal people are terrible.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/01/22 06:52 PM
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I think they are literally delusional. They willingly allow their friends and validators to gaslight them, so they have no critical perspective left. There is simply no one left in their lives to tell them no, and when experience denies them their desires, they rail at the universe in general and men in particular for failing to get with the program that they've been promised by everyone they know. Smart people are willing to engage in self-criticism match perspective to lived experience. But th…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/01/22 06:51 PM
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This is performative. She's not using Tinder to date, she's using Tinder to establish her identity after a "bad marriage". Maybe she actually expects dudes to help her establish her identity, and maybe not.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/01/22 07:46 AM
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It's easy to understand why they would. They don't want to have to share attention with spawn that aren't their own. The real question, and why this sub exists, is why do men do that. Single childless men should not, should not, step into someone else's save game. No matter how well she fucks you. As a single father myself, I can't imagine taking on the responsibility of someone else's kids as a full time step-parent. My own fucking kids are enough to manage, I'm not going to restart the process…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/01/22 06:55 PM
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Known as "cuffing season". If they just want to bang someone for presents, this is just prostitution with extra steps.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/01/22 05:38 PM
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Mr Big, in particular. Mr Big would never commit to someone like SJP irl. What did SJP have to offer, for one thing?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/01/22 06:02 PM
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With Thanksgiving and Christmas in there too, which are dating deadzones IME. Women like this have no capacity to live like men often do, with dry spells that are measured in years.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/01/22 05:58 PM
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We've all faced that scenario. And it sucks. I wound up moving into a mobile home. It's big enough to be suitable but it's definitely a downgrade. But you just have to explore the options. For me, an option was staying in my the marital home, coming back to find my wife fucking some dude in the living room, and beating them both to death. So, on balance, finding the $30K necessary to get out of there was a bargain vs. losing my life to jail and legal expenses.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/22 07:52 PM
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I think this is a parody profile. It's too on the nose. Y'all need to lighten up.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/01/22 08:44 AM
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Well, mine turned into a bisexual polyamorist, and only decided to work after we were going to divorce. Mind, a big part of the reason for the divorce was that she refused to work in the first place.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/22 05:33 PM
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lol you think that's how that works?
/r/MensRights14/01/22 02:06 AM
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That was her point too. I take pleasure in it because it raises awareness. And if hard working women are forced to support their deadbeat husbands for the rest of their misbegotten lives, maybe awareness will be raised enough to eliminate it for both genders. We aren't likely to win this without allies. I'm sorry that she has to pay because she can't afford it. But she wasn't sorry that I had to pay mine until she suffered it too.
/r/MensRights13/01/22 06:58 AM
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No, the subject of the article was a Spanish language teacher in High School. Мakes I think $40k/year? But is obligated to pay her worthless ex-husband $800 for life, a third of her gross. Oh well. Now maybe they get it. Hope they remember that when they vote!
/r/MensRights13/01/22 03:44 AM
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Naturally it takes the tragedy of a woman paying lifetime alimony for it to be the subject of national news. Glad that she attempted to raise awareness; but if the article is to be believed, the idea of removing the burden has lost ground over time, not gained it.
/r/MensRights13/01/22 03:28 AM
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And child support will be mandated by the state anyway. It's in their interest to provide for healthy kids to turn into productive adults. And you should take enough alimony and support to get you established in life and provide a comfortable transition.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/22 07:03 AM
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Actually, I believe that would be closer to the top 1-2% of earners. It doesn't actually sound like that much--$200K is the top 2%? Yes, because the obscenely wealthy is like .05%.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/01/22 01:09 AM
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From TFA: "This is why many of her single friends end up dating “much, much” younger men who are less judgmental, she says: “They want to learn.” uh, I'm sure that's why. She's justifying her friends doing exactly what she's complaining about, just reverse genders. Maybe older men are chasing younger women because "they're willing to learn". I'm sure that's it.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/01/22 05:00 AM
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iow: "expect men to wait around for you to get your shit together, and have no fear that there are men that will still be willing to setle for you and wife you up when you're good and goddam ready. Men are ornaments that we attach or detach from lives as our whim decrees" This the perfect example of female solipsism, and it was voluntarily given.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/01/22 12:52 AM
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Like most things, I think that RP has some interesting ideas, but it over generalizes based on some pretty specious knowledge of biology and pyschology. They couch their concepts in science, but you'll note that none of them are actual scientists that can do data analysis and scientific process. It's all "it's just biology, dude" without actually supporting that science. That said, I think that what women say they want and what they really want are different, and most women don't have the intros…
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/22 06:57 PM
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incel MGTOW That's an oxymoron. incel is "involuntarily celibate". MGTOW is "voluntarily celibate". Men that can self-actualize without needing women, imo, are to be respected.
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/22 06:54 PM
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You don't even need to justify your preferences based on pseudo evolutionary science. You're entitled to have them regardless. And that's the rub. Women don't want men to have preferences because it controls them. For sure, it does. But also don't get to try to control what men want, either. It goes both ways, but women want it to only go one way.
/r/MensRights05/01/22 05:54 PM
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She says that Holmes should be charged and convicted, and that men should be charged and convicted for "similar crimes". No argument. And then goes on to list a bunch of male CEOs that do shady or morally questionable things, but are actually neither ethically, morally, or criminally similar. This is like the wage disparity argument. "women make less than men for similar work"--but the work isn't actually similar on scrutiny. If women make less men in the same role, she can and should sue. But a…
/r/MensRights05/01/22 05:33 PM
5

She was surprised he'd moved on and lost interest. The audacity of men! To refuse to stay on the shelf!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/01/22 07:32 PM
8

"I don't care what she does" is a giant problem with our society. Women believe that they can act without consequence, and simps like this support it.
/r/MensRights28/12/21 07:01 PM
1

She needs to comply with the terms of the decree. This will make her think twice about any future conditions she tries to impose. If she can't afford to both go herself and pay the 35% for the kid, the kid doesn't go. That's an optional expense, the terms of the decree requires that she goes. And it'll save you the 65%. If she wants to negotiate it, you could allow her to pay 100% of the kids counseling and forgo her own.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/21 01:28 AM
1

He failed to use the runaway truck crash strips, of which there are several and available for exactly that purpose. I am generally, and specifically in this case, unwilling to second guess the prosecution of justice without having all of the facts, that were presented at trial, before me.
/r/MensRights21/12/21 08:57 PM
3

I thought about it too, somewhat seriously. I lost enough assets in the divorce that it would have been worth. The trade off would be never seeing my kids again. I decided that I can make more money, but I'm not going to have any more kids. If it wasn't for them, though, I probably would have. I can sympathize with OP's position.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/21 07:14 PM
2

Russia does not cooperate with US or international law enforcement at all for now Consider that you would be a foreign national without their language or useful skills; and that you need to out live her interest in you. While Putin may not give a shit, will his successor in 30 years turn you over? I dunno man I think it's a tough racket. If you have ties to someplace that doesn't extradite then maybe you could make it work, but without that I don't think you could navigate it to more satisfactio…
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/21 07:55 AM
3

I feel it shows a huge lack of judgment to be practicing this type of act with a man she really barely knows. It rather shows a huge lack of judgement that you think that a legal sexual activity between two consenting adults will be of any interest whatsoever to the court. Most courts don't even care about adultery, FFS. Trying to bring that up will lose you more credibility than you hope you gain, and will demonstrate that a) you're a snoop, and b) that you are being emotional, vindictive, and …
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/21 01:03 AM
3

We did this too. Even though my ex is listed as "primary", I am told by my lawyer that she can't move them out of district without an argument.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/21 05:41 PM
1

Pee in the hallways. Assert dominance.
/r/MensRights09/12/21 08:34 PM
8

wow.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/12/21 09:43 PM
4

That's not a bad point to make. I'm proudly and confidently independent, but a smile and a nice comment is all it takes for me to start planning futures together. Turns out I do like sex.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/11/21 10:36 PM
6

I think that MGTOW will be increasingly accepted by male society, actually. It will be increasingly rejected by women, but men won't care.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/11/21 04:40 PM
28

Then frankly their strategy is working out for them very well, and we have no one to blame but ourselves. We can try to talk chadfuckboy out of scoring with the chicks he can land, but c'mon. Would you? So the best we can do is teach BBs to expect to live their life on their own, and how to manage to do so with satisfaction.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/11/21 08:07 PM
44

It's a fascinating social experiment. I can't say with a straight face that if the majority of men (say, 3s and 4s) could swipe and instafuck, that they wouldn't also. Men would, as evidenced by the 10% that can now. But modern women are dealing with an existential crisis. They both crave external validation to the bottom of their soul, and find that it's on tap and available literally every hour of every day. They're addicts, and they can't turn it off--and yet, like addicts, they know that the…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/11/21 07:20 PM
64

This sort of behaviour is so gender stereotypical, it’s actually incredible when you start to realise that if you’re working to be a decent, stable, loyal guy, you’re essentially waiting until women have got all their sexual needs met, all their ‘fun’ out the way, then she’s ready for what you actually have to offer (if you’re lucky) Cheryl Sandberg says to do exactly that. And assumes that men will just be available when necessary. https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/772391-when-looking-for-a-life…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/11/21 06:47 PM
64

They simply want their cake and to eat it too. They want to have fun, and they want to have a relationship. They're hamstering how to have both at the same time, when they really know that the first is eliminating the chance of the second. But they just can't help themselves.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/11/21 06:40 PM
15

How is "frosting" a market. To whom exactly does she sell? People that make their own cupcakes from scratch but don't know how to make frosting from milk and sugar? I know that there are commercial frostings available, and they stupefy me as well. But how does she intend to compete with them?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/11/21 07:42 PM
1

I don't believe that to be true.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 06:07 AM
1

Men generally only go to therapy when something is very wrong. What?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 10:03 PM
21

"not really looking for hookup" which isn't a no, either.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/11/21 05:59 PM
3

How can I possibly know if I'll love your crotch goblins as well--did you include their details in your profile as well?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/11/21 02:43 AM
1

The phrase you need to use is exactly this: "no". If she's not going to let you have your own opinion of the matter, you don't want to make a baby with her anyway.
/r/MensRights13/11/21 04:38 AM
10

So women that cheat should be mutilated. Got it. Would you prefer with a branding iron or a knife?
/r/MensRights11/11/21 08:52 PM
22

She MIGHT be huge, maybe not. IME if they don't have a body shot they're huge, 100% of the time. They know full well what they're doing.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/11/21 02:00 AM
1

There's nothing preventing you from pulling all of your money out from shared accounts and putting it into an account that only you have access to. I wouldn't spend it--you might be compelled to give some of it back. But then she has to make you, instead of her spending from shared accounts and then having to do a deconstruction of who spent what and when.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/21 06:38 AM
3

Did anyone ask what she thinks? Now that she has offered it, does anyone care? Here's better advice: when you have the confidence to live life on your own terms, you'll attract people to that life that you appreciate having there. Even shorter: live life for yourself, and no one else. You're the only one that has to live your life.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/10/21 06:33 AM
10

looking for a father for their kid isn't bad It's just selfish, entitled, delusional, and solipsistic. But no, it's not bad or evil. It's simply unreasonable. It's to objectify men and the things that they can bring as a gender, and their individual character, wants, and needs, are irrelevant. If I was a single mom, I'd wish for my kid to have a father too. But I wouldn't expect the universe to provide me one in spite of my bad choices in life.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen30/10/21 05:13 PM
13

The dude probably likes the kid more than her. Sure she could do better. Doesn't her experience demonstrate this? owait: bio dad bounced, she's had a "string of terrible dates". Huh if there was only some way to tell. The fact is that she isn't attracted to him, but doesn't want to die alone either. What a conundrum! Too bad she didn't keep the dude around that she was attracted to enough to pop a kid out with.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/10/21 01:27 AM
-3

Since OP doesn't have evidence of her being on the carousel, I don't know that this one belongs here. For all we know, she's been single her whole life. I would not assume otherwise out of simple misogyny.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/10/21 06:56 PM
3

Personally I give a pass on teenagers that can feed themselves, or even shared custody. Littles that need daily care are another thing.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/10/21 04:40 PM
9

Which is why his list can be so demanding. By that age, presumably he's pretty comfortable in his single-dom, so why give that up for anything other than the best?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/10/21 04:39 PM
3

Mental illness I'd forgive if she was hot enough. We're all familiar with the hot/crazy matrix.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/10/21 04:37 PM
17

The biggest issue that I have with these profiles is that they don't offer anything themselves. They just demand that their sense of entitlement be satiated, and yet don't deign to offer anything themselves in return, besides constraint and obligation. People can want what they want, but imagine if a male profile said "I'm a strong independent man and I know what I want. And that's a 120# 5' 2" nyphomaniac who can also cook, clean, and makes me laugh."
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/10/21 04:35 PM
3

You know why
/r/MensRights21/10/21 05:09 AM
6

I thought we all knew that women were the largest victims of war. Now we want them to actually maybe but not really go to war? Who will be left to be the biggest victims then? Actually waitaminute. If women are the biggest victims of war, because they stay home, wouldn't actually sending them to the front to be shot in the face be doing them a favor? By Clinton's logic, staying at home > than going to war, so women should be in favor of having to go to war!
/r/MensRights19/10/21 09:01 PM
2

You know full well that if the situation was gender reversed he'd be fired already.
/r/MensRights16/10/21 04:01 AM
2

be kind You're victim blaming.
/r/MensRights15/10/21 10:01 PM
7

It doesn't have to be said. That's sexual harassment, and almost certainly was described as such by HR during orientation. They have may have swapped the gender roles, but nevertheless. This not some questionable blurred line.
/r/MensRights15/10/21 10:00 PM
20

Due to the male attention she got pre-pregnancy, no doubt she believes that you can choose a man just like picking an egg from a carton. She simply doesn't understand what made her attractive to men in the first place, and why it'll be different now.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen14/10/21 07:35 PM
2

That's not the issue with her response, it's this: "Since you aren’t asking as u aren’t interested" She's inventing a fiction about you so she can cast you as the villain. She ignored what you did, cast you as the villain, and then made sure to know that there was an issue. If they were off school due to illness, it's the school's fault that they don't offer a makeup. So what, they'll get their hearing tested next year. If you want to respond at all you could say "I made the best decision given …
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/21 02:37 AM
-3

I don't understand why female political leadership is considered a True Good. The women politicians that the world has had so far have proven to be just as bad as the male politicians. Neither worse nor better. So why would Iceland be now on some righteous path? Doesn't the BBC remember Thatcher?
/r/MensRights26/09/21 04:49 PM
14

Thinking will become action when she gets tingles on a girl's night out. Then it's just a question of how long does she continue to lead the BF on. Immediately jump ship? Or try to lead a double life?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/09/21 04:45 PM
1

She minimized your sexual assault so she could continue to demonize another gender. "who cares if a man was assaulted, they probably had it coming anyway". She has the emotional capacity of a cantaloupe. Get out.
/r/MensRights21/09/21 05:43 PM
7

Besides a lot of leg...what does she have to offer?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/09/21 07:12 AM
4

The best part about divorcing is that you no longer have to care about the other's emotional journey, at all. That's all on them now and you don't, or can't even, have any part of it. She got to this place on her own and now you just need to let her have it. Make sure to move quickly on getting her to sign any agreements that are favorable to you. She thinks she's going to find a new life and won't need you; but that'll change at some point and then she'll come back to extract whatever she can f…
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/21 04:02 PM
3

Mine did, but she also got into a much better relationship and developed more self-confidence.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/21 04:43 AM
-9

She should have simply said that she identifies as male.
/r/MensRights08/09/21 03:55 PM
4

Imagine being the first child. You know the Christian word for that child, right?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/09/21 05:49 AM
4

Who knows? I think it's impossible for an outside observer to determine.
/r/MensRights27/08/21 06:11 AM
3

He shouldn't have responded to the interrogation, and just ghosted her. She'll never learn regardless of the engagement. The best you can do is just put them in the corner.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/08/21 12:33 AM
6

Yes, everybody knows that. I don't think that everybody knows or acknowledges that, or admits that it is also a problem.
/r/MensRights19/08/21 08:15 PM
2

credit score? does she think I'm applying for a loan?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/08/21 06:54 PM
10

There is ZERO excuse for this with all the pregnancy prevention programs available. This. WTF is with all of these single mothers. Is remembering to take the pill really that hard?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/08/21 03:20 PM
7

FR. Senior A/C techs don't live behind gates where I'm from.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/08/21 04:39 AM
1

Ask for full custody, she is the onekving away from the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/21 02:40 PM
22

I matched with a landwhale that identifies as a mtn bike rider, which is a popular hobby in my area. I've biked some, but get out once every other month or so. I'm basically considered a filthy casual. Whereas she said that she got out multiple times a week, sometimes after work she loves it so much. If you haven't been biking before, you burn basically 1000 calories an hour. It's pretty intense. Regardless of her interest, since I go to the gym and watch what I eat, I kicked her ass all over th…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/08/21 03:51 AM
1

poor kid. are kids just accessories to a woman's life, now?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/08/21 07:27 PM
7

Note how she's trying to shame him into appropriate behavior instead of reflecting on her own shitty life choices. If those are the kinds of guys she's hooking up with, and she doesn't like how she's treated, perhaps she should stop hooking up with those kinds of guys. The reality is that she doesn't want to stop hooking up with exactly that kind of Chad, she wants them to be more discrete so she can continue to pretend that they're not actually that kind of guy and her choices are still sound.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/07/21 04:18 PM
9

Wait until she realizes that homeboy matched with her while his last conquest was still in the car. She wants all of the freedom of casual hookup, but all of the validation of an engaged relationship.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/07/21 03:47 PM
6

no. before the plan, you each have equal rights to the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/21 04:57 PM
3

This isn't always the best advice. 1) move out if you can't control you anger. be sure that she will provoke it to it's utmost limits. can you sleep in the guest bedroom while a train is running on her in your marital bed? 2) I moved out. She got the house and I got the investments. That means she has a mortgage obligation and I have the freedom of liquidity. The court will see the values as the same, even though they aren't the same. I lost somewhat on the division of household assets, but not …
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/21 05:12 AM
10

So--the husband, during those 20 years, also didn't learn how to cook. That was the agreed upon division of labor, right? So why does he now need to take on that responsibility to take care of himself, whereas she doesn't need to take on the responsibility of her own financial support?
/r/MensRights22/07/21 07:14 PM
8

I mean, right? She's entitled to the continued support of her lifestyle, so doesn't he get compensation for the continuing support of his too? Assuming she was SAHM, and therefore did the cooking cleaning--why does he now need to assume the maintenance of his household but also her financial support? Why is the enslavement of men accepted practice?
/r/MensRights22/07/21 07:12 PM
4

but only on the condition that he would come to Ukraine and live in Svitlana’s apartment to test their relationship before taking her to America Is that so different than cohabbing before marriage, which is very common, at least in the West? Why wouldn't one want to do that?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/07/21 07:05 PM
23

"nice guys are weak" in so many words. That sentiment will be the downfall of Western civilization.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/07/21 05:06 PM
3

I loled
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/07/21 01:06 AM
17

The fact that she recognized she isn't as desirable as she once was is an astonishing admission She said she's "basically the same woman as she was" when she was 20% younger. She's not acknowledging anything.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/07/21 07:37 PM
38

That's why women hate younger girls who are doing what they did when they were the same age. They almost never do. They just blame the men. In a righteous world, they'd acknowledge that these young women are adults with their own agency and tell them to stop dating older men, as they have some shared experience. Instead, they try to shame men for the behavior that they themselves indulged in when they could.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/07/21 07:35 PM
20

All of 5 figures? Like, $10,000+ qualifies? Gee whiz hold the phone.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/07/21 06:07 AM
3

Exactly. She wants the good bits without the controversial bits that come with the package, like telling her what to do.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/07/21 06:40 AM
21

She had literally nothing to offer him, and was way below his class. I get that it's a female fantasy story, but it made me so angry. And stupefied to realize that that was really a popular fantasy, still, among women.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/07/21 07:02 PM
17

"I make decisions all day long. At the end of the day, I want my guy to say: ‘Babe, I got this.’ ” Lol. Like he doesn't also make decisions all day. When does he get to be taken care of? This is just abject cake-eating behavior.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/07/21 06:57 PM
67

I have a rather liberal female friend, single, that says she is looking for a "masculine man". Ok, fine, you're tired of soy boys. But hun, you know that almost all of the masculine men you are looking for won't be ok with your career, lack of desire to have babies, and etc? If you want someone that knows how to drop an engine, camps and hunts, etc, he's going to have a different perspective of you and your sushi eating and yoga doing ways, right? Maybe that dude is out there for her. But I rath…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/07/21 06:47 PM
5

This has more red flags than a Chinese New Year's Day parade. Holy jeezus, wow. Imagine being able to have the ability to type all of those words out and be left with 0 introspection. "abusive" BDs I'm sure. From this perspective that almost certainly means that "they wanted me to do things and get my shit together and stop cheating on them, and got increasingly frustrated with my refusals until they just fucking left".
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen08/07/21 07:54 PM
16

There's a lot of triggered women in that post. They just can't believe that they've closed out on some of their options through their own choices, and it's men's fault.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/07/21 09:12 PM
27

The "proper etiquette" is 2 months salary for an engagement ring. That's a trope invented by De Beers.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/07/21 06:13 PM
31

"If you want to make this transactional, do you really want to know the going rate?"
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/06/21 06:01 AM
17

I just find it amazing that she's played out and ready to settle down by 22. And had her first kid at 20. This chick must have started young as fuck.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/06/21 05:14 PM
2

And then will demand that she be entitled to the benefits of that work next. Men are damned if they do and damned if they don't.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/21 07:10 PM
15

how virtuous it is for a man to "step up" Which just proves how dangerous it is to allow women to set the emotional norming for society. They are probably more emotionally aware creatures, and so that's how they claimed that right; but don't forget that when push comes to shove they'll use it for their advantage too.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen14/06/21 06:18 PM
1

I don't know, was there?
/r/MensRights14/06/21 06:14 PM
1

Not expecting that boys should learn to respect themselves is, yes. Suggesting that men don't deserve to respect themselves as a correction to a history of oppression of women is white knighting, yes.
/r/MensRights13/06/21 08:40 PM
134

Dudes that don't buy chicks drinks are "cheap", but girls that don't buy themselves drinks are not cheap themselves. Pure hamster logic. Also, while we're talking about traditional values, let's talk about all of the other ones too, like waiting for marriage to have sex, and staying at home to be a housewife. They simply want to have their cake and eat it too.
/r/MensRights13/06/21 08:30 PM
11

This is an attempt to nip that in the bud. Not even a little. This is the most whiteknighting post I've seen all month.
/r/MensRights12/06/21 04:36 PM
20

Despite what is often said in these circles she potentially still has a chance of hooking someone But the clock is ticking, too. She has about 4 years before she goes onto the box-wine-and-cats plan. Telling women that they can be players in their 20s and settle in their 30s, when they want to have kids, is dangerous advice. They're literally playing against the clock.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/06/21 06:09 PM
18

Hard pass. Super hard pass. The hardest of passes. The response from the IB has it just right: "hon, you're a depreciating asset. Why would I buy you?"
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/06/21 06:07 PM
6

What she's trying to say is that men see increasingly little value in marriage. Those that can, will get sex outside of marriage; those that can't get sex outside of marriage won't get married anyway. And if women no longer gatekeep sex, they haven't been inculturated to bring enough to the table to make it worth the risk of men entering into a marriage with them. She says that she and her sisters need to "raise up men into being good husband material" instead of asserting that women like her ne…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/06/21 07:03 PM
1

Right. But it's a lot easier to claim that the particular asset wasn't earned during the marriage the shorter the marriage is. Over time, that line becomes much fuzzier.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/21 02:00 AM
1

It will be considered marital property so she would get half. With the length of the marriage being that short, it's credible that you could go out as you came in. Full divisions are much more likely when the length is longer.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/21 10:38 PM
5

take the sense of reasoning out of it and do the math. if you'd pay her more in child support/alimony than the daycare will cost, just do the daycare thing and keep clear of the legal liability. She'll be too old for dc soon enough anyway. If you don't know what your exposure for cs and alimony might be, then get a lawyer and find out. You can talk to a lawyer to know your legal options without necessarily letting her know and make it contentious. I'd suggest that the dc will probably be cheaper…
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/21 04:55 AM
2

Or else, what, exactly? You won't be paired up? Is that the whole of your threat?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/05/21 09:54 PM
2

There sure are a lot of petty tyrants. It really underscores the wisdom of the 1st A, or the demands for control would reach the governmental level as well. The irony of being banned from /r/republican and /r/conservative is too rich. basically they are tacitly admitting to wanting an echo chamber. But it goes for a great many other groups as well.
/r/MensRights27/05/21 07:38 PM
19

She's going to take the moral high ground on divorce, and but expect that her immorality will be forgiven?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/05/21 05:40 PM
1

Seriously though, why does this woman want to get married then at all? The answer is so clear, how does she not realize that herself and correct for it?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/05/21 05:02 PM
3

She wants to be friends because she wants to have her behavior sanctified. You don't owe her any feelings you don't feel. You can coparent, and you can co parent without being friends. Being a friend to someone requires respect, and if you don't have respect for her she's only due as much civility as a stranger on the street.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/21 05:41 AM
1

report it to the doe.
/r/MensRights24/05/21 09:49 PM
4

I tend to agree. She's making a fuss about bed sheets because what she really wants to talk about is the lack of attention you've been giving her. She said as much in so many words. Justified or not. She'd say that she's sending you messages. As men we find these passive aggressive and indirect, but a woman would say that she's making her frustrations clear and you're ignoring her out of spite and arrogance. Therefore, to de-escalate, find a way to give her attention that is covid-compliant. If …
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/21 05:33 PM
10

Because she was already burnt once by the games and hidden agendas, and has the evidence to prove it. Now she's learned her lesson and doesn't want to do that again! The better question is: whyfore all of these fucking single moms? Birth control has never been easier to get. There is no excuse not to use it. It's one thing for a gal to ride the CC, it's another altogether for her to do so without protection. Moms that were married for 10 years and wound up with kids out of the deal before she ki…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/05/21 05:11 AM
70

lol, I mean c'mon. I make that kind of money but it took me 51 years on this earth to get there. I'm probably a 6 in looks, 7 when I glow up. My filter is set below 30 yes, but it's also above 45 because I'm realistic. I would date anywhere in that range...but I wouldn't date her for obvious reasons.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/05/21 09:14 PM
9

"Mainstream" doctors don't have compatible worldview. Neither does someone who is informed by "mainstream" news, or atheists. She is woo woo central. She wants a rich practitioner of alternative arts. I laugh at these gals that are "traditional". Doe that include being a virgin until marriage, hon? Or driving yourself places?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/05/21 05:12 PM
-13

No one is forcing a man to have sex with her, unless it's rape.
/r/MensRights17/05/21 07:51 PM
1

It doesn't technically matter, but it stillight he practically more difficult
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/21 02:41 AM
2

If you continue to share bank accounts, you can just rebuy all of that stuff out of shared finances. You won't have to split the remaining money until later.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/21 08:30 PM
5

I don't like them on dudes either, tbh
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen14/05/21 03:13 AM
25

tongue and nose piercings are a hard no. I can't get past them, and i don't mind tattoos in general.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/05/21 05:47 PM
4

My Dad left me (and my sister) behind. We had contact, and he paid some support, but he was two states away. We visited him during the summer, some, but not even for full summers. It left me emotionally broken in ways that I couldn't comprehend at 14, and wound up causing me to get married to the first person that showed me attention, as we locked ourselves into a co-dependent suicide pact. And now 25 years later I'm finally divorcing her, and it's financially ruining me. Your kid needs their da…
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/21 05:40 PM
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You missed her entitlement. She's been at this, like, a month? And expects men of her preference just to fall out of the man tree whenever she shakes it. She's going to be single for a long long time, so she'd better get more used to it. Men don't come in vending machines anymore, even if they did when you were 20.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/05/21 05:37 PM
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When I courted I was told to treat her like a princess\queen. That was perhaps necessary once, when women had little marketplace power on their own. That is no longer true. Now they should be treated like peers.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/21 09:19 PM
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I'm at about $40k with another $40k on appeal. The fact is that all of that discovery done on assets, the lawyers read too. So they know how much is at stake, and how much is available for them to squeeze.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/21 01:38 AM
2

If you could wait ages you could probably bleed some assets into crypto. They aren't all that smart, I agree, but big obvious moves they'll be able to find.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/21 08:54 PM
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And, in many states ("no-fault") even if she is cheating it won't matter to asset disposition.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/21 08:52 PM
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That's only prove your point if there was correlation between divorce rate and relative n count. I'm not sure that's true at all. High divorce rate has more to do with alimony laws, I expect.
/r/MensRights10/05/21 02:09 AM
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You are free to demand whatever, I just personally don't care much and I don't appreciate being included in your "we" statement. You don't speak for me, buddy. I don't personally understand the concept of being "used up", and I'm hardly a white knight simp. It just doesn't bother me much.
/r/MensRights09/05/21 07:27 PM
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We just don't want used up women, how hard is that to understand? Women aren't like a glass of milk that get used up, and the concept itself if grossly objectifying. I think there's something to be said about high N count women having a harder time making lifetime attachments, but that's pretty pop pysch and I'm not sure at all that it holds up under good science. But thinking that women get "used up" is like thinking that more men masturbate the more disgusting and unable to have real sex they …
/r/MensRights09/05/21 07:09 PM
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Except it's not at all, if you look outside of Judeo-Christianity.
/r/MensRights09/05/21 07:05 PM
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Denying your feelings is giving into the patriarchy. But I don't consider this WAATGM, not yet. We want women to be more selective and not just jump into the sack with Chad, right? He's not entitled to her sex just because he got her a birthday thing, and she's entitled to being selective. If that causes her to become a spincel in later life because she was too selective remains to be seen, but I don't think it's a given.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/05/21 07:07 PM
21

Which is an ex relationship for reasons that she's conveniently forgotten.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/05/21 04:09 PM
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This. They have this super abundance mentality, which allows them to be extremely capricious and superficial. Then, that abundance goes away but the mentality persists, which is why the title of this sub. I actually feel badly for them--they've been led to expect one thing, which by all accounts and experience is a given, only to have it evaporate for reasons outside of their control. It'd be like expecting gravity and then someday in your 40s you set your plate down on the table and it just flo…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/05/21 04:05 PM
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And if Bezos still lost 1/2, like, I guess my lawyer isn't that bad after all.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/21 06:00 AM
1

No shit, right? I doubt he did, actually, because they got married before Microsoft got big big. If he doesn't, he's about to lose his position in the top 10 richest people in the world.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/21 05:58 AM
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"Can handle me" is how she justifies her lack of matching--it's not due to her obvious and well enumerated liabilities, it's because she's too awesome and terrifies men. We saw this exact hamstering, in so many words, in this article here: https://archive.is/j4DLl
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/05/21 07:22 PM
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She answers her own question. Normal guys only want sex from her, which is why it's what she's normally finding.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/04/21 05:13 PM
4

If she's a "planner", she planned on starting her look for kids at 39? That's the corner she deliberately placed herself in?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/04/21 03:42 PM
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Had Hitler died before 1941, he would have been considered one the of world's greatest statesmen. That's really interesting to consider. Who would the natural successor be? And would they have continued the war with as much aggression?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/04/21 03:39 PM
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She should just go to a sperm bank. She doesn't want a partner, she just wants his sperm. And it's the only way that she's going to have kids before she hits 40. Has she really thought about what 2-4 kids will do to her FIRE?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/04/21 03:37 PM
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she thinks you're cheating because she's cheating.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/21 04:25 PM
5

Perhaps one should stop with the self pity and be thankful they have far less parts to kill them. And yet we die younger. Isn't the result what matters, not which road is taken to get there?
/r/MensRights26/04/21 03:35 PM
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Further women also can, and do, experience far more types of cancer than men such as ovarian and uterine So?
/r/MensRights26/04/21 03:34 PM
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*your idea of fun not welcome if it differs She just wants an accessory, she says it right there. She doesn't want a realized adult male that comes with his own ideas and agendas. She just wants a silent dick on a stick that will slot into her ready-made life. This is wha solipsism looks like.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/04/21 03:32 PM
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Could this be a reason why people won’t date her? That they are simply afraid of being rejected by such an impressive, magnetic person? Sure, that's it. Man the lies you must tell yourself. It's that men are too weak to love, can't be anything else.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/04/21 11:15 PM
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It's too bad too, because Jordan was cute with a sense of style--if she lost 100 pounds. The more interesting thing was how hard it was for Maria to say out loud that she thinks she's often the most attractive person in a room. But I tend to agree, I think Maria was the most attractive as well. The biggest difference between men and women is that men don't fuck personalities. They friendzone them. Men will sleep with women despite their personalities. It seems like women operate completely diffe…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/04/21 11:12 PM
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I considered moving 30 minutes away by car, and would have had to be responsible for getting them to their schools every morning I had custody. As it is, I now live 1/2 mile away and the kids can bike or walk back and forth as the need arises (usually for things they forgot they needed). We don't exactly have the same neighbors, but I've run into her and her new partner once in the last two years while doing errands. Besides that, let's just say that we don't move in the same circles so it doesn…
/r/Divorce_Men24/04/21 09:19 PM
1

My STBXW keeps bragging about how she scheduled therapies and doctor's visits for our boys as if that were a $3,000/mo task. Mine asserted a claim for primary custody, and then tried to split management of that stuff with me too. I said sure, as long as I get joint custody. Joint privilege, joint privilege. She turned me down. She'd rather have the control even if that means keeping all of the burden too.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/21 10:26 PM
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Yet she still benefits from my income, while I don't continue to benefit from the housework. It's no longer divided, it's one sided.
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/21 06:12 PM
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The simple explanation is that it doesn't matter how a woman presents herself. She will still get inundated with messages. She will still have some attractive men message her. She still has access to attractive men. She can act bitchy - who cares? Attractive men will put up with it long enough to dump a fuck in her and split. Right. I read these profiles that say "no hook ups" and even women like her, a 3 at best, get enough cock to be tired of riding the CC. If men froze her out completely she'…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/04/21 08:51 PM
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They've been trying to shame us into being attracted to trаns women, too. Men can't have standards because we aren't allowed to deny women whatever their hearts desire, regardless of the effort or contribution they make themselves. It's blatant hypocrisy, and furthermore it's not going to work: you can't shame men into those actions, really not matter how hard they try.
/r/MensRights22/04/21 04:01 PM
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I took the opposite approach. OFC she could just youtube it and probably accomplish it herself. But that would fail to get her the attention and validation that she also craved, if she just quietly took care of her business. She probably has "hates drama" in her profile too.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/04/21 03:37 AM
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No emojis?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/04/21 06:05 PM
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yes, because he still has to work for that money. working means using his hands or pushing his brains around to gather it. It's not like he just goes off to the money store every day, and bring home a bag of money. work means labor. labor means sweat. shouldn't he be rewarded for that sweat? Why does she get a piece of it, even though she didn't sweat for it? And to further your example, if she continues to deserve money, doesn't he continue to deserve her housekeeping services? why is it that s…
/r/MensRights17/04/21 07:47 PM
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Right now we do not have a court ordered parenting plan and mediation is 2 months away. So it’s the weird stage where anything goes. Nope, you nailed it. This is basically the same situation as if you were both still married and your wife didn't come home with your kid. You can't charge her with kidnapping, she has full legal authority to do what she wants at that point. Once you have a custody order and she violates that you have leverage, but until then you don't.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/21 04:39 PM
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I find it so hard to understand why you'd decide to stop chatting with her. Clearly you dodged a giant bullet if that's how she reacts to a no contact declaration after just 3 weeks of dating.
/r/MensRights17/04/21 04:33 PM
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And include a pic of a woman who claims to have been terrorized by her husband, undermining the contention of the article.
/r/MensRights16/04/21 07:58 PM
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The innocent smile of the boy triggers the "save the bambi" reflex in a male like me. No shit. Poor kid. He is a problem, but he's not my problem.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/04/21 08:51 AM
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That may be, but the fact is that men still die much younger than women. If anyone is under represented in the medical community, it's what ails men. Men's stress and quality of life that lead to early deaths are just considered to be facts of life.
/r/MensRights14/04/21 04:06 PM
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to generate clicks, ofc
/r/MensRights14/04/21 04:02 PM
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women being ignored by the medical industry What is the average lifespan of women, and what is it of men? Ignored by the medical industry, please.
/r/MensRights14/04/21 04:00 PM
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Focusing on work and on on the wife is a common complaint from women. Until it's alimony time, and then they take your income as a given.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/21 06:16 PM
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When a woman on FDS posts a selfie, it's almost invariably a fat black woman. There could be skinny white women there I guess, in theory. But it appears from the pictures that the "qweens" are black women that think they can demand respect be paid to them.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/04/21 06:14 PM
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If you don't have a temp parenting plan now, she won't give you your daughter back again until you have one. But that plan will probably be 50/50 overnights with each parent when it happens. Is she so angry about this that she'd flee?
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/21 06:12 PM
2

Jokes on her, by the time she's that old women vastly outnumber men. That means that the tables have turned and it's men that get to be picky.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/04/21 03:51 PM
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From TFA: "Galloway claims in his lawsuit that he’d had a consensual, romantic affair with AB lasting over two years. In November 2015, according to the claim, AB made statements to several individuals, including professors, that she had been raped and physically assaulted by Galloway." Later, she alleges that he "groomed" her ie the sex that appeared to be consensual was, in fact, not therefore = rape. Did he abuse his authority? According to his own admission of having sex with a student, prob…
/r/MensRights10/04/21 01:30 AM
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It's actually more interesting than that, imo. I believe men put photos in their profiles of the things that they are proud of personally. Catching a fish is often one of them. Women see those photos and interpret them as an advert, and are often confused by the intent. iow, men use photos for self-esteem. women use photos for public esteem. And are confused by why a man would want to publicly proclaim and by inference attempt to garner respect by the size of the fish he can catch. Men generally…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/04/21 08:45 PM
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Its almost as if they've been living in a cave for the past decade. That's actually to their credit that they wouldn't think like that. Also it's unlikely many of the subs of FDS are looking at women's profiles on Tinder. Just as I had no idea the reaction a picture with a fish gets until I started hearing more from the other side.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen09/04/21 06:19 PM
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Depends on the state, but for that length of marriage your obligation would be minimal.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/21 07:02 PM
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The key thing, illuminated by this post, but in all of the others on this sub, is the entitlement. She offers nothing to the relationship, and now wants an NPC accessory male to hang off of her, because she "deserves to be happy" just like she "deserves a new pair of shoes". You can't compel other people to fit into your life for your own benefit. Period. Her attempting to validate herself by having 4 babies without the responsibility to raise them is the entirety of the issue. She brings nothin…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen08/04/21 06:57 PM
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https://californiainnocenceproject.org/read-their-stories/brian-banks/?gclid=Cj0KCQjwsLWDBhCmARIsAPSL3_3LBF-ZTQys3l0KPYTVLH_LqI_UvV04YIkbCeIGNTyIIDPjkYg8NtQaAvYLEALw_wcB followup from the false accuser: http://ourweekly.com/news/2013/jun/16/wanetta-gibson-ordered-pay-26-million-long-beach-u/ She only collected 1/2 of the original payout, but is in the wind for the judgement against her tl;dr the school is still out 3/4 of a Million dollars.
/r/MensRights08/04/21 05:39 AM
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Marry who you want and don't worry about others Right? I was partial to Warren, until she ran in 2020. But this line was really just pandering to a feminist audience. We find that women are the purveyors and gatekeepers of toxic masculinity.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/04/21 09:51 PM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K5KlaEjIqMg&ab_channel=TIME "Assuming you can find one"...because if you can't your perspective is delegitimized.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/04/21 07:20 PM
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The more men that understand their dignity and self respect is more important than women’s approval Society has conditioned men to seek that approval. I can cite numerous examples in the common media. Rejecting society's expectations is something men must learn to do.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/04/21 06:18 PM
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And then people getting offended when others questioned why someone can be good enough to be a friend but not a potential partner I can see this. I have women friends that I wouldn't want to have a relationship with. OFC I'd smash them, I think that's a given, but we aren't compatible on a relationship level. But what's aggravating about this post is that dude meets her desires, but she still doesn't want him to be a partner. She wants a dude with those qualities, but also extra. Her mistake is …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/04/21 06:00 PM
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The advantage of the 7/7 is that you can travel alone for an extended period. Just 2 days without kids doesn't give you that kind of flexibility. I've only been doing 7/7 since this started.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/21 05:02 PM
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well, hook a brother up
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/04/21 05:40 AM
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I got married for all of the wrong reasons, and it was the worst thing that I could have done to myself. So yes. The more interesting question is, did she really help me build my career like she argued during the alimony hearing? I dunno. She gave me a push into new roles. I'm not sure I would have pursued them on my own. But again, I might have, I have my own autonomy and can count just as well. I may not have been able to build my career as effectively if we more equally shared kid raising res…
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/21 03:42 PM
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Well, it leads to kids, at least.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/04/21 05:25 AM
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She even said as much. During the summer she does her drunk 2am hookups, but now wants a snuggle bunny for the winter. But he'll evaporate in the spring rain as fast as an icicle in an oven. Why would a dude signup for a 6 mo stint?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen03/04/21 04:15 AM
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$110 a month?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/04/21 04:30 PM
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Every weekend? And he got away? There ain't anyone else going to do that for you, and the sooner you learn that the better. Also you can want what you want, but if after two years you're not getting offers, read the room.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/04/21 05:08 AM
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And the kids are watching. My teenage boys are seeing what I'm going through, and it's killed their interest in women. edit to add: and I haven't said anything to them directly. They have just watched as my situation diminished due to her demands, and can read the story for themselves. I'm genuinely curious what their relationship with their mother will be like when they're old enough to make their choices themselves. Who knows, maybe I read it wrong.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/03/21 05:32 PM
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Either we're equal, or we ain't. Equal means equal. Equal access, equal exposure, etc. Lot's of women claim that they're equal, but that they're also more victimized. I tend to believe that they are subject to more abuse, so then the question is do they want increased exposure to it, or segregation from it?
/r/MensRights26/03/21 09:54 PM
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Now they want a safe space for women, after spending 40 years desegregating spaces. There used to be places and institutions that were segregated by gender, because sometimes boys just want to be around other boys and girls just want to be around other girls. But OMG what if the boys kept secrets from the girls? How unfair! So they barged in and wanted into our spaces, and in turn we got into theirs. Now, they want to segregate it again. But this time only one direction. If women can be in the m…
/r/MensRights26/03/21 07:55 AM
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It could have been as simple as saying" who Dave?, he's Sarah's new BF who turned up for the day", but no she went and got all angry which shows she had something to hide. EXACTLY. If it was innocent she would have brushed it off. If she was a better liar she would have brushed it off. It could be that you approached her and were preemptively bent out of shape, and she reacted defensively. You are the only one that can judge that. It's a difference of "hey hon, who's that guy in the picture? I d…
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/21 07:19 AM
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Actually look at the stats that the parent posted. In their 60s, single women vastly out number men. A great many of those women stipulate that they don't want partners, but is that just because they've given up by that point?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/03/21 03:47 AM
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No. Division of assets is a process. She probably needs the liquidity to rebuild her life, but can't compel a quick sale. He needs to get his own lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/21 05:33 PM
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We see this in the workplace too. When women are treated like men, they cry about the bias. Men attack men all of the time. We just have been trained to defend ourselves and give as good as we get. Women don't really see this and so weren't prepared for it when it happened to them.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/03/21 05:20 PM
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I got curious and so found an updated source. https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2020/08/20/a-profile-of-single-americans/psdt_08-19-20_dating-relationships-015/ There's about 2:1 single men:single women under 30. Sausage fest. Single women learn that they can get all of the attention that they want. Closer to 3:2 for 30-49. Still it's a buyer's market for women. Then 1:1 50-64. Suddenly the women are on a larger playing field, and have to compete on merit, not just presence. And after 65…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/03/21 05:35 AM
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Men are basically NPCs. Why shouldn't they be seen as such, when women in their 20s are bombarded by too-many-to-name simps? I'd lose track too. And then expect as a conditioned behavior that when I'm ready I could still dip from the well. In spite of the theme of this sub, I wonder how many women find a partner in their 40s anyway. Probably more than we're willing to admit.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/03/21 12:24 AM
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That's basically what this sub is all about. There are a lot--not all, for sure, but a lot--of women that appear to want a dildo attached to a male sex doll that actually breathes.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/03/21 10:57 PM
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This is a nice summary of the mentality. I want all of the things that I want, and that includes a man, so men owe it to me and my happiness to line up. She's entitled to live her life however she sees fit. She's entitled to even look for a dating partner. But to expect one to materialize on her terms because the universe owes her happiness, is to treat male partners as quest giving NPCs.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/03/21 08:36 PM
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Unbelievable. Why doesn't she cross the the street herself? And furthermore, if she does and then you do as well, she maybe has a reason to worry so it's a signal.
/r/MensRights24/03/21 07:26 PM
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You think she's going to do any housecleaning? She wants to be a princess. Unfortunately, evidenced by her still being a virgin, she doesn't have the looks to pull off being a trophy wife. And apparently has nothing else to offer.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/03/21 06:40 PM
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Women think they can solve problems with their relationships, not by working on it or doing any introspection, but just by finding the right puzzle piece. Again, can't accept responsibility for their own agency, want a White Knight that will come with all of the right relationship qualities pre-loaded so they don't have to do any work to make it work. So many of these are clear echoes of past relationship failures.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/03/21 04:22 PM
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That's not really the question tho. Even if this man does exist, and is single, why would he want to date her? He knows his worth.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen20/03/21 04:06 PM
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Y, don't. I actually don't think there is much reason to anymore, besides the tax benefits. The downside is the risk of just this happening, and it seems like it's happening more and more.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/21 10:13 PM
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"Say you get no Pusy, without saying you get no pusy" is just trying to shame you into compliance with the narrative. Whether or not you get pussy is irrelevant to life, and especially irrelevant to the topic.
/r/MensRights19/03/21 12:28 AM
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Is it possible to go forward without a lawyer? Possible, yes, but it requires both sides to be reasonable. Divorce does nothing but make reasonableness very hard to achieve. Has anyone seen or went through a similar situation? Very common. One spouse isn't getting what they think they deserve, the other side won't budge. That's exactly why there are divorce lawyers, to tell you both what the laws regarding division of assets should be.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/21 06:55 AM
1

"bit old fashioned", really? you stayed a virgin until marriage? You'll stay home and cook and clean? They know that old fashioned goes both ways, right? Don't answer that it's rhetorical. She just wants to be spoiled, there's nothing old fashioned romantic about that.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/03/21 05:35 PM
3

"no more" is the the reddest of flags.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/03/21 05:32 PM
3

Religion, not even once. "Christians" such as OP do more to delegitimize their religion than their faith does to bolster it.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/03/21 09:20 PM
3

That's the second time in as many weeks as I've seen that sentiment, in so many words. Women are so brazen and entitled that they are approaching straight up illegality. The only way to put an end to this nonsense, and remind them of the boundaries of the law, is to get them to put it in writing and then report them to the EEOE. I'm not sure what penalties apply, but they are, or should be, gender blind and could be significant. The company will have to pay the penalties and then can decide what…
/r/MensRights16/03/21 09:03 PM
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I know plenty of Christian single moms that hate gays and abortion etc, just like the Bible tells them too, but somehow skipped the part about "adulterers being stoned to death".
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/03/21 08:32 PM
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She's doing you a favor by letting you know that you're firmly in 2nd place. That is, only until she finds her next Chad.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen14/03/21 07:16 PM
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Already, at 19. She has a lonely life ahead of her.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/03/21 06:18 PM
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Ie "can you measure up to this dude that I can hire?" No, no I can't. Next.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/03/21 06:15 PM
2

Could mean that she wishes to rent it from you. Or, that she has a new boyfriend that intends to pay it off for her.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/21 11:23 PM
4

missed "like ariana grande" at 38 unironically
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/03/21 09:42 PM
5

Yes. Women on average make less than men, which is the foundation of the "wage gap". But that's on average, which includes factors like quitting the workforce to raise kids, take positions in lower paying roles, etc. It's naturally quite illegal to pay different genders different wages for the same role, and it's been that way in the US for awhile now.
/r/MensRights11/03/21 08:10 PM
10

exactly. Why can't men learn to love me! Dummies.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/03/21 08:03 PM
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The quickest way to shut down single mother dating is telling them you [won't] ever consider joining her family Fixed that for you.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/03/21 08:01 PM
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That's really only a question that she can answer herself, guided by experience. What should naturally follow is a characterization of the attributes that would make her worth more than that. Naturally it didn't follow because women like her are incapable of self-awareness.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/03/21 08:00 PM
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Because guys that "can measure up" can pull women that are 20 years their junior, who are more attractive in every way. The question this women should be asking themselves, is why did they discard the men that they've dated in the last 20 years?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/03/21 09:06 PM
3

Much as I love sex, I'm not sure that's enough to make up for it. It would bandaid over all of the other issues, for awhile, but then you're literally just thinking with your dick.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/21 08:54 PM
4

my therapist told me that my ex sounded like a narcissist. My therapist doubled down on that and said that we tend to be attracted to the personality style of our parents, because it's what we know and what we're comfortable with. It's true, I tend to be more attracted to and fascinated by Borderline personalities, regardless of the drama they bring. Well adjusted people are just boring to me. I either need to unlearn that or accept that I'm going to have drama in my life if I pursue partners. I…
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/21 08:53 PM
4

you forgot "entitled". And no. 99% of kids at least eventually move out and support themselves.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/21 08:43 PM
2

right. regardless who's name on it. it sounds like they haven't yet split marital assets.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/21 04:53 PM
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It's so classic for a nice girl to blame men for her troubles. Most well adjusted people would say "I can't find a date", but the nicegirl will say "why won't a date come to me".
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/03/21 04:48 PM
5

It depends on the size of your bedroom. And let me be among the first to tell you that you've only begun your healing process. What you will want/need in 3 or 5 years from now will be different than what you want now. tl;dr don't make any radical life choices in this period of transition.
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/21 06:32 PM
1

Complete with lying is ok justified by "protecting a man's fragile ego". Connect that hamster wheel up to the Texas power grid. The complete fallacy of this is easy to see by just reversing the genders. If a man slept with prostitutes and potentially caught an STD from one, would that be ok info to keep from their commitment partner? In order to preserve her own fragile sense of worth? The moral of the story: women deserve a loving relationship at all costs, regardless of the cost to their integ…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen08/03/21 10:54 PM
7

IKR? If you could miniaturize it and install it in one of those sex dolls, I can see it actually being pretty popular. Why we've normalized vibrators for women but men pleasuring themselves is icky I dunno.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/21 08:40 AM
2

https://www.alibaba.com/product-detail/SW-3701-II-Automatic-Sperm-Collector_62428963451.html?spm=a2700.details.maylikeexp.1.389b64aaO9xiOb Just sayin.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/21 08:18 AM
13

I found her twitter. She denounces men that cheat on their wives when they're not getting sex at home because "that's just what marriage is". Hon, who do you think predominantly goes to SW? And if that's what you think marriage is, why be married at all? We should date SW, but consign ourselves to no sex inside of marriage? iow she just wants women to be accepted by men on all of women's terms, and men basically don't get a say in setting their own standards or expectations from life. Twitter is…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/03/21 08:03 AM
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This is after the post from the SW who reviled giving her pussy away for free on a vanilla date. After you learn to give affection on a transactional monetary basis, can you unlearn that lesson and give affection for a pedestrian basis, like love and stability? Would this woman, who wants men to normalize dating SW, be comfortable dating a man who she knows to have paid, or currently pays, for sex?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/03/21 07:36 AM
1

I wonder how much of the declining birthrate correlates to their decrim of prostitution. iow, if you can just buy it, men will be commitment (and fatherhood) averse.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen04/03/21 06:02 PM
4

Men treated like human beings? With actual feelings? well slow your roll there, partner. They're trying to determine if fathers have feelings, first. Like, they don't even start off with that assumption. I'm glad that they're asking, at least.
/r/MensRights02/03/21 08:04 PM
4

She says that we can settle between us, we don’t need lawyers. ... She doesn’t want to fight me for the house or custody, our finances are separate for the most part we managed everything through a house account. get that in writing. have a lawyer review it before you sign; an hour is cheap it just gets expensive when there its contentious. do it all quickly before someone gets in her ear, this is the best deal youre going to get. i'll leave the emotional stuff to your therapist.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/21 09:43 PM
1

how much does the judge understand that an alcoholic saying their spouse is controlling and manipulating is part of the disease judges in most states dont simply dont care, although its more involved if she wants custody and you think shes a legit threat to the kids. judges dont want to be relationship therapists. they interpret the law and assess the relevant facts. facts only matter insomuch as they have a bearing on how the law could be interpreted, and "controlling and manipulating", even if…
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/21 08:55 PM
2

How am I supposed to put myself out there now that I'm a husk of what I used to be? you're not, and you shouldn't. wait until youy have healed and have closure before you do. also your STBXW is a cunt of the first order.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/21 08:02 PM
1

My main concern is that I will have to get an apartment and she will still want me to pay half of the mortgage. "no" is the answer. she will in fact probably wind up having to pay you, both cs and spousal.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/21 08:36 PM
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notably, they continue to try to do this during the divorce process, believing that they can continue to dictate terms that are obviously favorable to themselves. i think a lot of men allow that to happen, as they are in the habit of allowing their wives to dictate terms. it takes a strong presence of mind to be demanded to be taken as a peer.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/02/21 07:36 PM
15

far and away more women try to tell men what it means "to be a man" than other men do. funny how that definition fits their own sense of perceived need, too. you cant shame me into supporting you. lol. my frame is way more intact than that. the bottomline is that men arent allowed to have their own preferences. our support is to be a given.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/02/21 07:31 PM
1

if he can't change the work culture, he's tilting at windmills.
/r/MensRights24/02/21 09:00 PM
12

and didnt have kids until she was married.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/02/21 08:28 AM
22

thats really interesting. source?
/r/MensRights21/02/21 09:07 PM
3

why wasn't there a conviction?
/r/MensRights21/02/21 08:03 PM
3

if you go far enough left, you get your guns back
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/02/21 06:49 PM
1

thats because the real victims of war are women. --Hillary Clinton
/r/MensRights14/02/21 06:18 PM
10

Just create a dating profile as an overweight woman and see how inundated with options women are thats an interesting, im legit curious
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/02/21 08:44 AM
12

5 kids and single. by 29. thats some fast work. the eldest of those kids is still going to be in single digit years of age. whats the over/under on those kids being from at least two fathers? i date divorcees with teenagers, because c'mon. those kids are almost gone and its my age demo. but if this chick has time to date with that many littles her priorities are all messed up.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen13/02/21 12:00 AM
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I think a lot of women have almost no self awareness about the image they project. because their friends trade in positive affirmation and validation, and she can still get some attention from simps. if you get all of that validation, your natural inclination would be to try to punch above your weight, and see what you can pull in. if it doesn't work out you can just delete your profile. i feel bad for these women actually. she'll eventually be embittered and alone because she believed society w…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen11/02/21 08:01 PM
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if the real father is trash, you shouldn't have slept with him. once again demonstrating that men are disposable commodities
/r/MensRights07/02/21 10:52 PM
13

ooh do selective service next
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/02/21 07:31 PM
2

you missed "mental health awareness" which certainly means she has mental health issues of her own, and expects you to attend to them. probably includes, but is not limited to, anxiety, mania, and borderline behavior. too bad solipistic entitlement isnt in the DSM
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/02/21 01:17 AM
2

the attempt to shame men into giving women what they want is just continuing to be strident. if anything, thats more than likely to be counterproductive. the fact that women need to come to terms with is that we don't owe them anything, and you cant make us. maybe you should have thought of that before you disempowered us, and made getting married (and divorced) such a bad deal for men. you took us for granted, are totes comfortable with exploiting our work product and health, have no qualms abo…
/r/MensRights06/02/21 12:40 AM
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men are scared of single mothers shes trying to shame us, as shes been told that she is responsible for emotional management and that men allow themselves to be told how they feel. it might work on dudes with mommy issues.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/02/21 10:20 PM
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many think they can double dog dare us into being their financial support system. i think this is because they both have been acculturated to entitlement, and women are lauded as the emotional managers of a relationship. ie "we get to tell you how you should feel about things, and now we're going to use that to our advantage"
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/02/21 10:15 PM
0

visible tattoos are trashy, gangsta. to have them that prominent speaks to me of anger issues. have you done time? you will do whatever you want, but theyd be a red flag to me and my sensibilities.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/02/21 06:26 PM
5

thats more a matter of culture than biology. in some cultures women are feared more than men, as they have a capacity for viciousness that men dont have as much.
/r/MensRights02/02/21 06:22 PM
1

oh, i c that youre a chick. tats on fingers are somewhat different imo.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/02/21 06:18 PM
7

well, resources. this is a dumb take.
/r/MensRights02/02/21 06:10 PM
9

top generals--who i trust more than a rando on the internet--have said that the services are now so mechanized that the difference between male and female body strength doesnt matter as much as it used to.
/r/MensRights02/02/21 06:09 PM
1

i do have problems with profiles that say "i've had my fun, and have the kids to prove it, now im ready to settle for a provider and im still a prize (so dont give me any shit or ill toss you out)" i dont see that on this one. if you dont like tats fine, but i dont see them necessarily as psychological baggage.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/02/21 06:06 PM
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y, tattoos dont bother me either. i honestly dont think this profile is that bad, i'd date her.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/02/21 05:55 PM
7

clinton: women have always been the true victims of war men are disposable.
/r/MensRights27/01/21 09:26 PM
20

When you get 500 matches and messages within 10 mins of signing up for now this sub is about the difference of experience between a 25 yo female and a 45 yo one. honestly i pity them. if you get a lifetime of effortless attention you'd naturally continue to expect that it will continue indefinitely. and then it, just, stops.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/01/21 07:07 PM
2

not one word about what she offers to the relationship
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/01/21 09:13 AM
0

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/11/10/health/was-the-pfizer-vaccine-part-of-the-governments-operation-warp-speed.html and so what about coronavirus research? they're a large category of viruses that includes the seasonal flu. we should know more about them. and indeed we had a pandemic response team and action plan, probably based in part on that research, that trump ignored.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/01/21 09:10 AM
2

i dunno i do ok. Not kinky enough to need bespoke porn, i guess.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/01/21 09:02 AM
2

At the same time Trumps vaccine You know the Pfizer vaccine was developed in Germany without US assistance, right?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/01/21 06:43 PM
34

I don't understand paying for OF when more porn that I could ever watch is free. What's the appeal? Better looking chicks, but doing less PiV porn? People that I might know IRL, or at least digitally, rather than an anonymous stranger? I don't get it. Then again, I don't go to strip clubs either, I just find it frustrating.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/01/21 06:40 PM
2

also mis spells "career". press f to doubt
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen14/01/21 08:23 PM
5

This whole article is "how dare men for having standards. I have tits and that's enough for you, now get on over here and give me what I think I deserve"
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen12/01/21 06:15 PM
12

Well it isn't her first language, so I'd give this one a pass on spelling.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen08/01/21 07:44 PM
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I think Warner Brothers has totally missed the mark on this. Aquaman 2 is going to be targeted towards a male demographic. If those males boycott the movie--and I will, and i won't take my boys to see it--they will lose the cost of production. It'd be one thing if we were trying to boycott a romcom. But she's in the wrong movie targeted towards the wrong demo to try to get away with it.
/r/MensRights06/01/21 11:57 PM
2

and are completely single. I know lots of those exact same. guys. They don't even match on OLD. Guess what.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/01/21 11:41 PM
1

And she still won't get the relationship commitment she's seeking, because she refuses to accept the limitations of her natural aging. She should have locked something up when she was younger, but failing to do so means that she might have another 5 years of being a cougar and then retiring into being a spinster cat lady, decrying the men who fail to recognize her "qualities". Time is a harsh mistress.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/01/21 11:37 PM
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Exactly. And then when women inevitably age, they revile the men that date younger, because it puts them out of competition. Regardless that they likely enjoyed dating older when they, themselves, were younger. Don't they realize that if they accuse older men that are dating younger women of being predators, that that means that when they were younger and dated older that they were themselves dating predators? Or that they were prey? I doubt many women consider taking advantage of their youth as…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/01/21 08:44 PM
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38 ain't that old, either. wait until she's 49. Having "abundance mentality" is great until the abundance goes away. Then you just have the mentality but not the abundance. Which leads you to an entitled mentality, which is nicegirl when you're younger and WAATGM when you're older. To have two teenagers with two fathers by 38 is something of a trick too. She must have started at 23? All that said, I'd date her. But I'm 50, so 38 would be a relative catch. I doubt she'd take me, though, believing…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/01/21 05:30 PM
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If a 400 pound broke loser defined himself as attractive and an amazing catch, he'd be laughed out of the building for his delusions The word for that is "incel" or "niceguy" and it's well characterized and rightly mocked. What it amounts to is that no one owes you PiV because you have lived your life a certain way that is supposedly by the rules. Just because you're a niceguy, or a woman with a house, does not mean that the world owes you validation of your worth. Maybe you were tricked, but I …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/01/21 08:56 AM
2

I mean, duh. They get so in the habit of it that they continue to try to do it even after you're divorced.
/r/MensRights01/01/21 08:56 PM
20

It also explains why women are so opposed to transactional sex, like prostitution. If men can just go buy sex for less than it would cost to get married, then the women lose their bargaining chip. Furthermore, (almost exclusively) women hate when men date younger. Why? It boils down to the younger woman giving it up too easily, she "doesn't know her worth". They revile the dilution of their power.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen01/01/21 08:26 PM
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What this post is not saying is the affirmative. Like: "give me a flabby, nerdy, but thoughtful and considerate man. A man who knows how to cry and share his emotions and vulnerabilities, who likes to cook, who remembers my Mom's birthday" She doesn't say that because it's too hard to say with a straight face. But presuming she doesn't want to be alone, but is ruling out "bad boys", that's what she really means, isn't it? Why not come out an say it?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/12/20 07:29 PM
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compared to traditional therapy it's a bargain. trad therapy is like $100 an hour. The bummer is that BH isn't covered by insurance very often, so it's out of pocket. Nevertheless, I think it's worthwhile.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/20 04:08 AM
1

Talkspace gives you a new therapist each time? That's whacky
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/20 05:18 PM
3

I've been using a competitor--betterhelp--for years. It costs me $140 a month. Pros: I can write whenever the mood strikes. Sometimes I'll go for weeks with out saying anything cause things are going swimmingly. Then when I have some concerns I might write twice a day. I travel a lot, so I can still reach my therapist regardless of where I happen to be. I can write any time of day or night. My therapist has been good about turning around responses very reliably within 24 hours. Cons: You have to…
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/20 05:16 PM
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I think it's an entitlement mentality. Women get so much more attention, as a rule, they just can't imagine that a change of circumstances would stop that attention from coming in. You get habituated to it, you begin to think that's inviolate, that's a natural consequence. And who knows, she might be right. She may yet find a dude to be a provider to her and her unborn kid.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen28/12/20 11:38 PM
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this isn't a logical response. This is an emotional one. She wants to one-up baby daddy and hopefully secure a stable relationship provider in one swoop. Honestly, I appreciate her honesty. There's a lot of women that would simply keep it a secret.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen27/12/20 09:47 PM
2

With sex so freely available without emotional attachments Is it, though? More to the point, is that any more true now than it was in the last 30 years?
/r/MensRights23/12/20 07:02 PM
2

He really should sit outside a recruitment center.
/r/MensRights20/12/20 06:42 PM
1

Honestly? Ask for 50/50 asset split, 50/50 custody time, state mandated child support and no more, and either little or no spousal maintenance. My ex wanted an amicable split, but then she turned around and asked for 60/40 asset split in her favor and what I considered an outrageous amount for spousal maintenance. I mean, look. Arguably we earned the money together, the marriage was by definition a partnership. But let's not kid ourselves either--I made the money, while she stayed home and did n…
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/20 07:53 AM
1

Really depends if you're in an at fault state or not. Most aren't anymore, which means the infidelity won't matter. The only thing you could do is starting moving money. Technically it's still both of yours to do with as you wish, so you can drain accounts. Only after one of you files do those numbers freeze up hard.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/20 11:28 PM
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Because men are the only ones capable of being manipulators, doncha know.
/r/MensRights17/12/20 02:08 AM
4

The obvious response is to say that his son identifies as a woman. They don't want to be anti-trans, right?
/r/MensRights03/12/20 07:15 PM
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And?
/r/MensRights03/12/20 12:20 AM
0

I noticed that too. They're speaking past each other because they're talking about two different data points. tl;dr both have lacking reading comprehension skills.
/r/MensRights03/12/20 12:20 AM
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The answer to that is no, according to TFA.
/r/MensRights30/11/20 04:03 AM
3

Pretty much exactly. Women may be more affected by the pandemic in specific, but the problem of suicide in general remains more of a man's issue, before and during the pandemic. "The pandemic appears to have reversed that trend, and the rise in suicides has disproportionately affected women. Although they represent a smaller proportion of total suicides than men, the number of women taking their own lives is increasing." So they are closer to being equal in desperation, but haven't yet reached i…
/r/MensRights30/11/20 04:00 AM
3

I believe that ny is a community property state, which means that everything will be divided 50/50. If the one that gets the property can’t afford it, they’ll have to sell it. And gl making it until the kid graduates. Sometimes the time table moves itself.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/20 08:32 PM
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Following the logic, he could have sex with her when he was in a relationship with her. If she is entitled to continue the support arrangement, he is entitled to continue the sexual relationship.
/r/MensRights12/11/20 06:02 PM
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I give credit to Sheryl Sandberg for recognizing this issue, and then she lost it in the next senescence by demanding that male mentors spend equal time with both genders. You don’t get to tell me who I spend my personal time with, Sheryl, just because it fits your objective. If I go golfing or have dinner with a friend that happens to be a subordinate, thats my time and my discretion. Maybe you should have thought of that consequence before you #believedallwomen. Maybe you should conclude that …
/r/MensRights30/10/20 05:23 PM
1

The divorce courts take men working for granted too. I don’t shit money just because I punch a clock. It takes constant mental and emotional effort and maneuvering. You take my efforts for granted because I don’t complain about it because it is my duty.
/r/MensRights30/10/20 05:16 PM
4

You might consider a pro. As the joke goes, “you don’t pay them for sex, you pay them to leave”
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/20 04:00 PM
3

He's probably using her, and will soon get tired and move on. Then she'll cry because she'll realize she was just being used for sex. The odds on this being a long term emotionally supportive relationship are very low.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/20 08:51 PM
1

Mine is really slow, too. I don't get it. If I got $25 per one line email I'd turn those around immediately.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/20 05:52 PM
1

When is it better to negotiate with them directly, and when is it better to fight. I think it's often tough knowing which is which.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/20 05:50 PM
2

In Oregon, technically lifetime. I'm advised that it'll probably end at my retirement age, which is still pretty bad.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/20 06:23 AM
1

In spite of my username, I'm filing in Oregon not WA. Alimony doesn't appear to have more than a rough guidance of percentage of takehome for a formula. Child support does.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/20 05:12 AM
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They just basically assume that the working spouse can continue to endlessly fart out money, without effort. It's assumed to be a given. As we are all aware, it's almost never a given.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/20 05:10 AM
1

We already did that. She got the house, I got the investments. $/$ a 50/50 split, but my value is obviously more liquid. Whether or not this gambit works entirely in my favor remains to be seen, but my counsel tends to think it'll weigh more in my favor than not.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/20 05:09 AM
0

There's a chance of that yes, but my profession is unusual enough that it won't be an easy task. It's not easy to impute, whether or not I am able to find a like position frankly depends largely on my personal network of associates. I have some other personal, complicating factors that I expect to make it problematic to impute. I'm sure she'll try. More likely, she'll say that if I ever do get re-employed that the decision will be revisited, so it's a game of chicken.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/20 12:09 AM
0

I can, but why?
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/20 11:09 PM
2

I don't have a lot of faith that Biden will undo that penalty, even if he expires the tax package, either. The consituency is too small.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/20 11:09 PM
3

Oh, believe me, I'm aware. The surprise is that I'm going to use that fact to stipulate that her SS percentage should be based on net, and not on gross, and therefore it'll be bad for both of us, not just me. Right now it's just me.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/20 10:24 PM
3

Noted and ty, friend. I turned 50 this year, so I think I'll know in about 3 months if I have enough savings to make it to retirement age. It depends on a couple of variables that are outside my control.
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/20 10:13 PM
12

It's a matter of can he pay her back, and if so, he should. I'd say the same if the woman owed money to the man. This isn't a business debt. This is a partnership which included vows of "for richer and poorer". They both consented to entering a shared financial arrangement, where two pots became one.
/r/MensRights15/10/20 06:35 PM
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I thought so, too. The more that people realize that marriage means sharing of resources, both present and future, the more hesitant people will be to get married and share their earning power. That's ethically, morally, and legally, what marriage means. If you're not ready to trust your partner and make that tie, you probably aren't ready to get married.
/r/MensRights15/10/20 06:33 PM
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Right. Wait until she learns that not only is their marital assets split 50/50 regardless of contribution (assuming a community property state), but that she will have to pay him spousal support since she makes more than he does. he'd get out of this fantasy "debt", he'd get half of what she built, and would get a monthly check from her to balance their incomes.
/r/MensRights15/10/20 06:31 PM
2

The only time I’ve been directly smiled at by a strange woman was when she was a prostitute, as a come on. It was so remarkable it nearly worked.
/r/seduction12/09/20 05:54 PM
7

is that whataboutism? even if women 1000 are, that doesn't diminish this issue.
/r/MensRights26/08/20 04:18 PM
1

"I'm a racist towards black people except for old joe who lives next door, he's one of the good ones" Exact same line of thinking.
/r/MensRights21/08/20 03:15 PM
2

She's almost certainly a lesbian.
/r/MensRights20/08/20 05:20 PM
2

I literally can't buy a parking space in Seattle for the cost of that house. No really. I was just looking at condos and the parking space for them was $29K each.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/20 06:47 AM
1

One thing I have noticed is she continues to tell me how I am fucked, I can't touch her retirement, There's what she wants to believe, and what the courts will think. She's about to get a lesson that her wish doesn't equal the law. Also you might have an option to buy her out of the house if you think you can improve it for a profit.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/20 11:53 PM
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Well, it's kind of a joke. My therapist didn't see the humor either. The canard is that when men hit their mid-life crisis and want "an adventure romance", they'd often prefer to pick up a side piece for the lust/spark and still maintain all of the trappings of middle-class life: 4bd/two kids/two cars/dog, and that includes a wife. Someone to screw and someone to come home to. That being a selfish inclination misses the point that the impulse is stil lthere. Whereas, when women cheat it's becaus…
/r/MensRights10/08/20 10:37 PM
17

That's not what I said. I said the intent is often different, and usually unconscious, not that either was acceptable behavior.
/r/MensRights10/08/20 08:31 PM
43

Men cheat to stay married. Women cheat to end their marriage.
/r/MensRights10/08/20 05:59 PM
2

When women say "quality" they are rarely referring to the date's personality, they mean someone that is able to support them. Good looking is a bonus.
/r/MensRights06/08/20 10:15 PM
2

Thanks for the well wishes! I'm in Deschutes County too! I hope I get the same judge lol. Maybe we should meet up for a drink. You have to be careful with cohabitation, I guess in WA if you live with a single mother in a romantic relationship for a year you have established a relationship with the child that isn't yours and are liable for support! LOL if only. I did ask my lawyer and he said that cohab in Oregon wouldn't affect Child Support, ever.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/20 04:56 PM
2

I talked to my lawyer and he suggests that I can make an argument for a reduction in alimony, because XW now has a new mealticket. I just need to bide my time.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/20 06:00 AM
1

Thank you, those are good reminders. I feel powerless and surprised by this person's codependence, but also, it is what it is. The boys haven't had much feedback on GF yet, although they've already taken trips together. I wonder if that'll change. ex may get a nasty surprise as a consequence of this choice when I move to reduce my very substantial alimony award because now she has another source of support. That's the silver lining.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/20 10:33 PM
2

I would argue that min wage should be enough to support one self at 30% of prevailing housing costs, but probably only enough for one person. Similarly, I would tie rent increases to average wage. That would probably suppress real estate values and therefore property tax revenue. But one growing faster than the other seems to be the core issue.
/r/MensRights05/08/20 08:30 PM
7

Why should minimum wage be enough to support your choice to raise children? It should be enough for a single person to live in minimum accommodations. That's what "minimum" means. You should have more that minimum before you start expecting to support other mouths.
/r/MensRights05/08/20 07:28 PM
2

They do not realize this, because they are stupid and think that they can fix societal issues with kneejerk regulation. And then are surprised when the will in their head fails to materialize. The issues with this are so elementary I just can't even.
/r/MensRights05/08/20 07:24 PM
13

Then target the ones actually affected insteading of using a broad gendered brush. If you want to help the ones laid off by Covid, then help those ones. Regardless of gender. What about the men that do choose to stay home, for whatever reason? Even given that they're in the minority, fuck them? What about the women making minimum wage vs. the single dad raising two kids on min wage? Just because he happens to be a minority of that segment, fuck him? If you want to support single parents instead …
/r/MensRights05/08/20 07:22 PM
2

A higher min wage for women will mean less women being hired for that min wage job, although that will never be tacitly said. In 5-10 years, everyone will wonder why the ratios will be like 80% men/20% women in these jobs, and "why aren't women being hired?" I mean, c'mon. This kind of market manipulation just never works out.
/r/MensRights05/08/20 07:17 PM
5

I will confess that she made it easy for me, and for that I'm thankful. After 6 months of developing drama, she finally told me that being a unemployed SAHM but nevertheless had the freedom to be a poly bisexual was her ultimatum. So I walked and haven't looked back. If those are your demands it's a rock solid no from me. Might as well get a doormat? She's now shacked up with another girl. I'm going to wind up paying her lots of spousal support, but at least it's the courts making me rather than…
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/20 09:31 PM
12

ike when they tried to insist that sex bots need to be able to withdraw consent at random lol wut. Also you left out decrim of prostitution. Sex trafficking is a real concern, but the other concern is that if men can just hire sex then they don't need to support women through marriage anymore.
/r/MensRights30/07/20 06:20 PM
16

I think that's what it comes down to, actually, yeah. Imagine you're a 25 year old 8+/10 girl. You basically get way more attention than you want on a daily basis. You don't need to develop a personality or interests, because you get attention anyway. Then you turn 35 and the attention is still there but drops. Then you turn 45 and where did the attention go? You never developed a personality or interests, because you didn't need to. So now you're stuck and think that you can shame men into givi…
/r/MensRights30/07/20 06:16 PM
4

fool me once I mean, you did get married again. Also the state usually mandates CS, like it or not. GL.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/20 09:42 PM
7

women should only wear full length skirts women that have short haircuts are unattractive
/r/MensRights24/07/20 07:55 PM
3

No introspection. They're told by almost all of society that they are the emotional stewards of a relationship, so just assume that however they feel is the right way to behave.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/20 08:37 PM
1

Congratualtions. exclusive right to designate primary residence is pretty big in terms of flexibility. Assuming she made more, she's goddam lucky she doesn't have to pay sm. Why would she be furious? This is literally the deal the feminists wanted, they just forget that the courts are attempting to be gender neutral in their judgements.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/20 05:25 PM
3

The judge will probably dictate 50/50 if you express a desire for it and there is no reason not to give it to you. Also, that'll impact your child support to your benefit.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/20 04:07 PM
2

ballpark based on your limited info? you will owe her 1/2 of your net salary. make sure it's net (after taxes), not gross. That's probably worse case, and the duration really depends on each state.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/20 07:35 PM
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This ain’t a popular opinion here, but I don’t have a problem with hypergamy. I don’t think a pussy “can be used up.” I do have a problem with cheaters, but that’s not necessarily equivalent to hypergamy. Whenever hypergamy is mentioned that guy doesn’t wonder about the dudes lined up at her door—they’re being just as slutty.
/r/MensRights17/07/20 03:49 PM
1

The poster I was responding to said: Will Smith as a cuckold. That's a thing i didn't think i would see. That implies to me the suggestion that Will could have prevented this. I don't see how he could have, as it was her choice, and he had little influence over it. Which is why I asked "why"?
/r/MensRights15/07/20 07:24 PM
6

She can believe and want to fuck you all she wants. She's about to learn that, in your situation, she's not going to have any attack surface and will have to learn to be an adult on her own. Without assets and kids you might have to split the car. If she doesn't have a job or the ability to get a job you might have a problem with spousal, but that depends on both of your income and how long you've been married. I don't recall what the support calculator is like for California, but in general if …
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/20 07:17 PM
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but she thinks she can convince me or soften me up to it. She needs to, because that's how she protects her future. You don't want to, because it's how you protect yours. Who gets their way is whomever is the least afraid of being alone. And this point there is very little reason to get married besides a tax deduction and very eventually, social security benefits for a non-working spouse. (after being married for 10 years a spouse can claim their own SS or 1/2 of their spouse's, whichever is gre…
/r/MensRights15/07/20 07:09 PM
1

I didn't? Read it again.
/r/MensRights15/07/20 07:06 PM
1

And my downvotes prove it. Either my message wasn't clear, or their is some consensus that men through some supernatural power can keep their women from acting their own head. I dunno which it is.
/r/MensRights15/07/20 07:05 PM
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If that is true, why is he so upset? This doesn't follow. edit: it seems like it's been rocky for a long time. https://www.cosmopolitan.com/entertainment/celebs/a33297037/jada-pinkett-smith-will-smith-relationship-timeline/
/r/MensRights15/07/20 03:37 PM
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they are now injecting culture of cuckold to our society which soon will be legal What does this even mean? It's legal now, as it should be. The law shouldn't take a perspective on the actions between consenting adults, that's a social problem.
/r/MensRights15/07/20 03:36 PM
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These fucking laws have to change. Men will just stop marrying. In a generation we're going to have a generation of young men that will simply refuse to marry, and we'll wonder why.
/r/MensRights15/07/20 03:28 PM
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Why? You somehow think that a male's force of personality can keep a woman from straying? That's basically a part of toxic masculinity and narcissistic, to think that you can control the world through your will, or that a woman's actions is associated with your personal power.
/r/MensRights15/07/20 03:27 PM
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people do. The woman I'm currently dating does. Their rule was that neither could bring somebody home. I guess it worked well enough for them. My ex-wife wanted to try that on me as well, but she resented all boundaries and so I'm sure would have brought one or more people home, and I would have gone out of my fucking mind. So, it's possible. I guess.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/20 11:30 PM
3

Congratulations! It's a battle but it's worth fighting for the health and safety of your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/20 12:16 AM
1

triggered "his money is our money, but my money is my money". saved you a read
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/20 06:49 PM
3

We should also cancel birthdays, because John McCain had one and that's going to remind her of her loss all over again. And Christmas, because Christmas reminds her of that one time her Dad gave her a gift on Christmas. Sorry for your loss Meghan. But you can't expect the entire country to help you avoid your pain.
/r/MensRights17/06/20 05:41 PM
3

She won’t have to get a job? I pay all her expenses? Why can’t she work? Her ability to work is usually factored in, but she'll be evaluated at a min wage or entry level position, so the amount of her expected contribution to her expenses will be minimal to moderate. She'll probably sell the house and downsize, and in that event your alimony payment may be enough to support her living expenses so she won't feel the need to work.
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/20 08:10 PM
6

Also come clean on the girlfriend. That wasn't in the OP. Is it in his history?
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/20 08:07 PM
2

Texas isn't a foreign country. There are other places that are, though. She can pursue you in Texas, but would have much more trouble if you moved out of the reach of the US judicial system.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/20 06:34 PM
5

He will only ever have one dad. Your ex may or may not find another man, and she may or may not make a commitment to anyone. You could be a source of stability in the kid's life.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/20 03:51 PM
2

I give my ex $4200/mo for spousal and child support combined, and she just claimed that she doesn't have the budget to split the cost of summer camp for the kids. Also, she's not working to augment that income. Some women are just totally worthless.
/r/MensRights27/05/20 04:34 PM
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I'm not sure it's true, but whenever a woman tells me that she loves me and I'm not providing anything, I assume that she's playing the long game.
/r/MensRights27/05/20 04:18 PM
1

My first thought too.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/20 02:59 PM
1

My ex never hit me, but she never apologized either.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/20 06:13 PM
1

Divorce Men
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/20 09:36 PM
3

I hung out in MGTOW for awhile as I agree with the philosophy on paper: do things for you, not for some potential partner. But MGTOW is dominated by misogyny and frankly, I still want to fuck. I just want to do it on my terms. I don't hate women in general, I just know one that isn't worth dogfood. I'm not convinced that that makes them all bad. I'm not sure that the community is still aligned with those goals, so unsubbed. I think DM is a better place to be.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/20 08:34 PM
5

She always waited for me to initiate make ups after issues That's a good point lol. Now that my STBXW has partnered up with another gal I wonder who apologizes to who first. Presuming they fight ofc, but who doesn't. I allowed her emotional tyranny to work on me for too long, but when they're both chicks in a relationship, who becomes the emotional bitch? Probably whoever figuratively bottoms.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/20 08:13 PM
6

OFC she is trying to get everything from you. She doesn't want her life to change, she just wants you to not be in it.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/20 02:50 PM
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give her a deadline, and then execute. "come pick it up within 30 days or it's going to goodwill. Here are the times I'm available." And then mean it.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/20 04:42 PM
8

Do not take advice from the opposition's attorney. That is the first rule. You could maybe manage this "pro se" if she didn't have her own counsel. Now that she does you need to bring your own weapon to the table. The amount that you spend on an attorney, while it'll be a lot, will be dwarfed by the amount a bad alimony judgement will cost you. Maybe you spend $20k on legal fees? Sounds like a lot, right? If she gets an extra $1k a month in alimony because you weren't able to mount an appropriat…
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/20 03:19 PM
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"I think of a male, and then remove reason and accountability." Also the reason for the higher mortality of men from Covid-19 is not understood.
/r/MensRights24/04/20 03:55 PM
5

That's all besides the fact that they are asking for support for "undocumented" female immigrants. I think there's a huge gap in our immigration and I support their right to be here. OTOH, they should not be eligible for government assistance either. And then to make it sexist on top of that is doubleplus ungood.
/r/MensRights24/04/20 03:51 PM
3

We accept no fault divorces because the courts, I think rightly, don’t want to wade into the sordid details and he said she said. I understand that. But the correct response is to never get married. If there are no consequences to violating a contract you should not enter into one.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/20 08:14 PM
3

I'm sure that's it, and everyone else in this thread has been trolled.
/r/MensRights17/04/20 03:15 AM
2

Also because the Japanese are in a position to kick us out, threatening our naval dominance of the Pacific. The Afganis really aren't.
/r/MensRights15/04/20 08:20 PM
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I saw that too. "It's your fault, really, cause you should have done more to disprove me to be lying cunt that I am." I actually have to admire this guy's restraint. I know that defamation cases are hard to prove, but when there is a videotaped confession and clear material damage to a reputation based on those lies, I think it's worth seriously pursuing prosecution. It's the only way to get these fraudulent charges to stop.
/r/MensRights14/04/20 12:13 AM
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I mean, it's kind of a silly question. "How much time does it take to process a divorce?" The real answer is, "it depends"-- on about 20 variables that OP didn't give, the big four being length, kids, finances, and how toxic it was. If given no other info, I'd start with about a month per year. A 25 year marriage takes at least 2 years to recover from.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/20 08:52 PM
3

You want a bullshit rubric? I'd say it takes about a month per year of marriage to process it out.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/20 07:27 PM
2

And it's women that won't trust men in those child care positions too. If you are a male, even if you are willing to take the lower-paid childcare jobs, they won't let you.
/r/MensRights10/04/20 07:30 PM
3

perfect, those are the saltiest. it's take a drink every time they call the ex a "LVM" except that that would probably kill you. I think it's wrong to call those women feminists, though. I don't think feminists would own them either.
/r/MensRights07/04/20 06:05 PM
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got any hot take links? I bathe in those tears. With any luck, Adele's ex-spouse also cheated, and the feminists are realizing that that no longer matters to support judgements in most states in America. If no-fault is good for the gander it's good for the goose too.
/r/MensRights07/04/20 05:58 PM
3

Alimony received due to a decree filed after Jan 1, 2019 is.
/r/MensRights06/04/20 08:33 PM
88

Haven't you heard? All alimony is now tax free for the recipient.
/r/MensRights06/04/20 03:22 PM
20

but I cannot boot out the person that I have protected and loved for all my life. I still love her She's taking advantage of you and your love.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/20 01:37 PM
5

She cannot leave because she no longer has an income and now is the worst time in history for job hunting That's become her problem and her problems are no longer your problems.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/20 01:36 PM
1

She really doesn't like the fact that she doesn't have emotional leverage to use over me any more. It must be, i hope it's, infuriating to be ignored outright by someone that you used to pretty much be able to compel at least a discussion with. I'd like to too, but long ago gave up any expectation that she would. She still maintains some level of expectation that she can, I guess.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/20 08:32 PM
5

That's about what it feels like too. Stuck between two megaliths, you can only wriggle in place until finally you perish from lack of sustenance.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/20 01:25 AM
5

What are my options in this case? Get a free consult so you know what your legal options are, and then if she decides to go after you, you know the position from which you can negotitate. DO NOT TELL HER that you've seen a lawyer, as that'll put her on the defensive and the knives will come out. Keep it amicable as long as possible, but also know what your options are.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/20 03:36 PM
2

Tax changes should have been grandfathered in. IOW if it was tax deduct to the payor when it was enacted, it should be still and have no effect.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/20 02:02 AM
6

I saw it in the wild on my FB.
/r/MensRights17/03/20 05:18 AM
2

well, except I'm liable for indefinite (aka "lifetime") alimony. Basically I could be paying her until I retire in 17 years. So, it's not all roses. But yeah, your state elections matter.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/20 06:53 PM
1

really, so interesting. In Oregon, it's 50/50 by default and a sliding scale based on income and percentage. I guess you should try for 51%.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/20 04:15 AM
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you get 50/50 by law, and if you want it you should take it. Also, your child support is based on time anyway, at least in my state. So by pushing for 50/50 you're also reducing your CS commitment, and she might know that the state will come after you for it regardless.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/20 09:19 PM
2

She doesn't get to unilaterally decide the terms anymore. I'll be frank, I think that's a hard habit to break. Both for you and for her. The right answer here is: no. I don't agree. I want and demand 50/50 time, as it's fair and legal, and your opinion is only 1/2 of the relevant opinions on the matter, it's not longer going to carry all of the weight.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/20 09:23 PM
4

Man I wish I could get my ex to work. So far she's refusing, depending on the alimony I pay. Spoiler: it's apparently not enough for her living expenses, so she's going into debt; and I think I'll be able to get it reduced further after we go to court.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/20 04:21 AM
3

If she earns more, she'll owe you alimony as well. I'd encourage you to take it, being equal is the only way we can garner fairness.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/20 07:51 PM
1

they see having a husband and children as a burden As I understand Japanese culture, it absolutely is. What's more interesting to me is that, again as I understand it, Japanese women also aren't participating in a hook up culture to replace their loss of desire for committed attachment. Like, where did their sex drive go? We can usually count on human sexuality to drive coupling, if not legal commitments. But it appears that human sexuality, at least among the women, is failing Japan as well. Ar…
/r/MensRights19/02/20 04:56 PM
1

Depends on the state, but get a lawyer. We're going to make an argument on that basis, as the tax law has recently changed. We even hired an expert witness to break that down. Now that alimony is no longer tax deduct, it has a significant impact pact on awards as a consequence.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/20 09:07 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/Feminism/comments/4yob4x/amber_heard_did_what_abuse_victims_are_supposed/ Huh, crickets. Why are we supposed to assume that voice of a woman is infalliable? As a blogger pointed out, she has done more to set back women's rights than many an exploitative man.
/r/MensRights07/02/20 08:35 PM
4

I signed. Ty for bringing this to my attention. She should be drummed out of the industry, and I will boycott any production that she is in.
/r/MensRights07/02/20 08:27 PM
1

And fwiw we settled Drs. appts the same way. She kept scheduling them for my time. Well, that didn't work with my schedule. Now she has primary custody, but that also means she has primary responsibility for drs. appointments. If she wants to share that obligation, I offered to go to joint custody and she refused. If she wants to share the responsibility and obligations, she can also share control. My lawyer says that primary custody doesn't have an impact on her ability to eg move them, as long…
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/20 08:16 PM
2

"Am I under any sort of obligation to take them to ones I didn’t agree with that are on my time?" No. My agreement explicitly states to that effect. She must get pre-approval from me for both expenses as well as any commits that impact my time.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/20 08:11 PM
7

Mine too. And many of the red flags were my own, but I ignored them because I thought we would strengthen each other. We did for some time, but then eventually didn't also. I know much better what I want and can give a relationship, and what my needs are as well as my boundaries. I think it takes a long time to learn them, and even still they can change over time. My failure to know them and to adapt to their change over time may practically mean that I will now not ever be able to retire.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/20 07:52 PM
5

While true, he is asking us. And men in particular. I think the deal against marriage for men is stark. I see exceptionally little benefit for it in the rules of the day. As a (woman) friend puts it: marriage is betting 1/2 your stuff that both of you will be happy forever, and it only takes one to want to quit. I'm not particularly bitter about the emotional toil (any more) but I grieve the loss of 1/2 of my earnings that were going to go towards retirement and eventually getting out of the rat…
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/20 07:47 PM
5

Taxes absolutely do factor in, now that alimony is no longer tax-deduct by the payee. It's now based on net, not gross.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/20 09:55 PM
2

And it might factor to your benefit when determining alimony, inasmuch as some of it is based on what your actual take home is. Or what it is after taxes, in which case by excluding some of your income from taxes you're actually raising your net takehome before 401k. Ugh. The tax factor makes this all much harder.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/20 09:54 PM
7

Hang in there, take one piece at a time, try to be flexible with your expenses. Case in point: I stopped contributing to my 401k cause 1) i needed the cashflow to set up my life; 2) she was going to get 1/2 of my 401k anyway. That was a unilateral decision that I can just control at my own discretion, but I also didn't ask my lawyer if I can do it. You might need to restart some of your capital building, but just live again like you're in college and it could work out. This is a rebuilding year.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/20 07:21 PM
1

Then you will fail the payments and she will have to sue you for them. When she sues, she won't be able to claim because you have no money to claim. She might be able to garnish you in the future when you are working, but that is a problem for then.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/20 06:48 PM
13

Men do not receive alimony and women don't have to pay alimony, thus nothing happens when they get divorced. That's not remotely true.
/r/MensRights23/01/20 08:28 PM
12

Except now alimony is no longer deductible and the recipient doesn't have to pay taxes on it. Thanks Trump.
/r/MensRights23/01/20 08:27 PM
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Then why should the dad be "forced" to work as a slave for the rest of his life to support the woman and the child? He would only support the child until they're 18, in this case. He would only support the woman if they were married.
/r/MensRights17/01/20 03:29 AM
1

But if the mother changes her mind at any point, or if the mother appeals to the state for support That includes the mother requesting state low income support.
/r/MensRights17/01/20 03:27 AM
9

Untrue.
/r/MensRights17/01/20 03:25 AM
18

That's so they don't have to own their own desire. Too late. They need to own it now. That's probably ok, but they need to catch up their sides of their brains. If a gal said no to me, that'd be it for the night, period. There's no way I'd continue. I'd rather go home and jerk off.
/r/MensRights14/01/20 06:07 AM
21

don't keep asking, it's a turn off. sorry. still going home alone. It's just not worth.
/r/MensRights14/01/20 06:03 AM
5

most states are no fault anyways, so while you might think evidence matters, and it can have an impact on you emotionally, from a legal standpoint it's usually a waste of time.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/20 10:03 PM
4

I think i'd rather talk about the divorce, actually.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/20 09:58 PM
2

And you can go for a run whenever you want, you don’t have to buy it dinner first. These guys that claim to need sex every night—I just can’t fathom it. Like when do they sleep lol? I’m about 2x a month tbh. I don’t like going for many months without, but my needs are really pretty low. I have things to do
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/20 02:30 AM
6

Part of me is wondering if this is just the natural course of relationships I honestly believe that women go through their own mid-life crisis. Which often means that they get tremendous FOMO of not having had enough penis in their life. In this day and age, that desire appears to be mostly celebrated as empowering, and encouraged. I'm not even sure I can fault women for it actually, as it may well be a consequence of biology and a delirium takes ahold of them that few are able to manage well. I…
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/20 09:23 PM
2

You need to simply ask yourself if you are ready to date. I think you need to first ask yourself if you want to date, and if so, why. Is it to satisfy cultural expectations? Is it to avoid the side-eye? Is it to compete with your ex? Is it to have a trophy? Is it because you want a maid? I think all of those are terrible reasons. The best reason is that you find someone with a valuable perspective that you want to learn from, and who values your perspective as well.
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/20 09:17 PM
2

I'm exactly at that point too. I'd even pursue someone that I met organically and showed interest, and was compatible with my own interests. But I've found OLD to be almost a total waste of time. I've matched and gone on some dates, which have ranged from mediocre to terrible. The one bright date never called me back afterwards, so I think the interest was one-sided. I'm not going to humiliate myself in the "thirsty wars". I'm not going to compete with the other thirsty dudes for the attention o…
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/20 09:12 PM
2

I hate referencing that sub, although I subbed for awhile. The philosophy I think is sound and healthy. Misogyny isn't. Too often MGTOW devolves into rank misogyny.
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/20 08:59 PM
3

Society tells me I'm not allowed to be alone and be okay with it, but maybe I am okay with it. Society's interests are not necessarily to your benefit. They want to compel you against singledom, because it wants you to be a provider and a father. You're already doing that, so who cares what they think. If you're not lonely, who cares. A large part of toxic masculinity is believing that your worth and importance comes from the kind of woman you can attract. You're realizing that that's nonsense a…
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/20 08:58 PM
1

You can try with a mediator, but if you don't come to agreement you can use a lawyer. She will have to pay you. For how much and how long are the questions.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/19 04:43 PM
1

No spousal even though she hasn't been working in 10 years? Congrats, mate.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/19 06:47 AM
14

the cliched “controlling and abusive” That translates to "I couldn't do whatever I wanted to, including fucking other dudes". Any setting of boundaries is "controlling", and any response to a violation of boundaries is considered "abuse". Women are taught that they have innate value. That's reinforced through society's constant, albeit superficial, validation of them. Therefore they have nothing to prove. Squeezing out kids a decade ago, or even just existing, is sufficient. Men are taught that …
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/19 06:16 PM
1

Does that mean that they’ve selected themselves out of the armed services?
/r/MensRights22/12/19 07:46 AM
3

Go back to the part where you wouldn’t go out and leave a 15 year old on their own?
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/19 04:55 PM
1

Hopefully. Things can revolve quickly when either of you has decided that they’re ready to live on to the next chapter of your lives. 5 months is probably on the outside of how long this will be manageable.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/19 01:38 AM
7

Cohabitation will maybe work ok up and until one of you is ready to start dating. And she’ll probably be ready first.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/19 01:26 AM
-27

The government doesn’t fund abortions.
/r/MensRights30/11/19 09:39 PM
1

Where is this magic of nested replies on fb? That’s the real mystery
/r/MensRights29/11/19 02:43 PM
3

First holiday without any family time for the whole break. I went to Thailand. One of the best post divorce decisions I’ve made, tbh.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/19 02:51 AM
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she expressed that 50/50 parenting time wont be in the best interest of our son. She's about to learn that she can no longer dictate the emotional terms of your arrangement. Many women find that very surprising, as they were often given that responsibility for most of the marriage. She can have her opinion, and you can have yours. And if you can't decide between you then you pay a lawyer and have the judge to it for you.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/19 04:49 AM
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Clearly. But if you aren’t having sex, or intimacy, you’re really just roommates.
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/19 11:28 PM
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Since you're asking in this sub, let me ask the reverse: After you're divorced, how important is sex now that you're single? Are you so desirous of sex that you are willing to commit to a relationship to get it? Or are you better and stronger belong alone and single, even if that means no sex or no consistent sex? I'm struggling with this myself--can one lead a fulfilled life if it's sexless? How much am I willing to compromise the rest of my life just for sex? The current answer is: not much. I…
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/19 10:26 PM
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https://www.straightspouse.org/
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/19 09:03 PM
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Do you best for the kids when you have them. Endeavor to provide a safe managed conflict free zone when you have them. Paying for extracurriculars that the kids want to do and my ex doesn't want to contribute for is a big problem with us.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/19 09:02 PM
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Those sound like good bargaining chips. Don't forget them. She'll probably have to pay Child Support as mandated by the court, at least. But asset division and alimony are of course negotiable. don't forget that you will need means to be able to provide for your child.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/19 09:01 PM
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IKR? Are the ones that go lesbian the worst in terms of imagined victimhood? We started with "let's be amicable" but then her support demands were straight ridiculous I figured there was no way to go but up. Even if I lose every contention I'll still be no worse. Compounded by railing me as an abuser, claiming I don't support the children although I have 1/3 custody time + pay child support + am willing to do 1/2 on extracurriculars, and making up this false victim narrative. Meanwhile she was a…
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/19 08:59 PM
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my g/f stays last on the totem pole... sometimes to the point where I think I’m not a good boyfriend Gee, really? lol
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/19 09:41 AM
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I'm coming up on a year out of the house, and everything in that post is spot on. I made all of those mistakes as well, and only now am really beginning to pull out of it. You will probably ignore this advice, and you will read that post in a year and recognize it's truth. So at the least minimize the damage. And for the love of everything, DO. NOT. COMMIT. You don't even know who you are yet. And you'll quickly find that there are precious few women that don't want a commitment, so you'll eithe…
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/19 09:41 AM
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It will do wonders for your mental health. As in, give you a baseline for healthy behavior and non-healthy behavior. This is the lower end of the scale. Many many people date before, during, or immediately after they're separated. Myself included. The reasons are obvious: you want to see if you still have it, after facing probably the largest rejection of your life. You want to see if the magic person is out there now that you left a toxic one. You are lonely. You are etc. A lot of people do it,…
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/19 09:31 AM
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Agreed. But changing the children’s identity is a battle worth fighting over. Imo.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/19 01:37 AM
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is it worth the fight? Generally, yes. surrendering to their whims just makes it seem to them that you will continue to do so. They may have gotten accustomed to making unilateral decisions during the marriage, but those days are over.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/19 11:17 PM
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You can’t keep them from quitting. And then they have a support case against you. Even if you marry a financial peer I don’t know that that’s enough protection. The only thing worse than one alimony payment is two.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/19 09:16 AM
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You know For a second there Yeah I kinda did
/r/MensRights16/11/19 02:06 AM
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I think you have a case, but you shouldn't be asking us. You should be asking your lawyer. And if you don't have a lawyer, and are asking us for advice, my advice is: get a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/19 10:59 PM
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Agreed. Gross it is.
/r/MensRights09/11/19 01:42 AM
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Annoying != sexual assault. Or I’d be raped every time I was cut off in traffic. People shouldn’t annoying and the ones that are, are assholes. But that doesn’t make them sexual predators either.
/r/MensRights08/11/19 11:28 PM
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It’s like they’re classifying an entire class of people based on the attributes demonstrated by some members of that class. What’s the word for that again? S_xism? Can I buy a vowel?
/r/MensRights08/11/19 11:25 PM
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He’s not wrong though
/r/MensRights07/11/19 03:16 PM
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Learning to live with yourself is healthy. Broadly categorizing an entire gender is not.
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/19 05:05 AM
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Beware that when she realizes her new reality that she turns face and starts expecting you to make up the difference. Mine is using the very sentiment of keeping the kids out of it to extort me, rather than face up to her share of responsibilities. Hopefully you can forge a more positive path, but don’t make promises you can’t keep and protect yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/19 03:00 AM
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Depends on the state. Seriously, I wish we had the "specify the state" bot from Legaladvice over here too.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/19 09:05 PM
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It is somewhat unique indeed. However other western countries are also facing a decking population growth rate, if not a try ally a negative one like Japan. While the politicians decry the pop growth rate, really it’s a generational thing-it means loss of young workers to support old retirees, and of course it has immediate impact on things like the teaching workforce (fewer kids means closing schools means kid career teachers are out of work). However it also means less resource needs and the k…
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/19 07:38 PM
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Look at Japan. Refusal to couple is leading to an imploding population.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/19 03:44 PM
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12%? More than 1 in 10 children are unknowingly not their fathers? I find that hard to believe.
/r/MGTOW31/10/19 03:40 AM
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Get a lawyer so you know your legal options. Remember they are a consultant; if you think their advice is too aggressive for the situation you can always decline it (at your peril, but that’s the decision you gave to make). Also, they are likely to be able to recommend a mediator. Don’t be hesitant to ask for the amount of custody you think is appropriate. You will also be able to claim spousal support and child support, and if you know the state guidance on those amounts you can always negotiat…
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/19 08:30 PM
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The bitter pill here to swallow is that it will be up to her discretion about to whom she exposes the kids, and when. Unless they are basically criminals, addicts, or abusters, there's very little you will be able to do to alter that. That's on her. Just be the best dad you can when you have your time with them and be the rock that they may need to depend on.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/19 07:33 PM
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The simple solution would be to not get married, but then they might be at risk of having to work for a living.
/r/MGTOW30/10/19 06:37 PM
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lol this comment got me banned from /r/FemaleDatingStrategy They apparently scrape this reddit for commenters and proactively ban them. Is that a parody sub, or what?
/r/MensRights30/10/19 06:36 PM
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Here's the book that's being shilled. https://www.amazon.com/Untrue-Everything-Believe-Infidelity-Science/dp/B07GWYZNTD/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=Wednesday+Martin&qid=1572457597&sr=8-1 If women truly desire variety, then they just shouldn't get married. End of.
/r/MensRights30/10/19 05:47 PM
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Open relationships don't prevent divorce. That whole premise is flawed. Your relationship needs to be extremely strong and communicative to survive being opened. If it's in trouble, opening it will only make it 1000x worse, it'll hardly save it.
/r/MensRights30/10/19 05:38 PM
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You’re going to get blow back. This is classic wanting cake and eating it too. She wants to live her life but maintain financial protections of a marriage. I very much doubt you’ll be able to provide enough in a handshake that’ll she’ll be happy, so will wind up divorcing you to try to extract more, and will have precedence on her side then as well. I think you should negotiate in good faith, but with legal assistance, and go for full divorce. Her health insurance is her problem.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/19 06:19 PM
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Anyone who tells me they cannot be happy unless they're in a relationship has issues that need to be addressed. Can you say that 100 more times? I don't think I can add very much to the eloquence of your comment. There are a lot of people that moan about the need to add someone to their life. There are lots of people that approach it like hiring for a job. I think both approaches are grievously wrong, and bespeak unresolved personal mental issues. The only excuse if you're a woman on a biologica…
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/19 05:11 PM
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I have kids. I wound up purchasing a mfg home from marital savings, and furnishing it from those same savings. Yes, I've downgraded--I was in a 4bd home, and now am in a mfg home. Also, she's basing her request for spousal support partly on the basis of her cost of living, which includes maintaining the mortgage on that 4bd home; naturally that's somewhat greater than what I would have to pay for her to just rent an apt for herself. I may be yet able to argue that--if I'm still participating in …
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/19 04:38 PM
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You guys that stayed in the house—how did you? I’m 100% sure mine would have brought back a dude every night, to bang while I was failing to sleep in the guest room. That situation would not have ended well, I saw no legal way of preventing it, so chose to bail instead.
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/19 04:48 AM
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Ofc that’s what she is going to think; she can’t admit to herself how terrible she is. Her actions regarding custody are all you need to know. Who wants to purposefully exclude the father from their children’s lives? And frankly o doubt she’ll win, in which case there’ll be forcible custody.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/19 05:43 PM
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From the thread: "Most men I meet are all emotionally volatile like toddlers, and I have tried a wide range of men from different backgrounds. I don’t need another child to look after. Edit: I thought I’d add some examples for you guys to laugh at. One dude started crying because I didn’t want to cuddle him to sleep. Another dude started screaming on a date because I refused to hold his hand. I laughed at him and then he started crying. Yet another started crying during dinner because his ex wif…
/r/MGTOW18/10/19 07:09 PM
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I mean, I don't think that they're wrong. OTOH, men that choose to do without women are reviled, so the double standard is telling. I'd very much like to see a "a man needs a woman like a fish needs a bicycle" equivalent bumpersticker. The fact is that a man's power is still largely defined by society as to how many women he can sleep with, so to take oneself out of that pool willingly is seen at best as highly suspect. The end state of these gender wars is going to be a decrease in population, …
/r/MGTOW18/10/19 06:45 PM
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me to pay everything and there you have it. Once they realize that their meal ticket is gone, they freak out and panic and thrash. If money weren't part of the issue I honestly feel like I could get along with my ex and do a decent job raising the kids. But the fact is that I have money, she doesn't, and she isn't inclined to work. Therefore we have the pettiest imaginable disputes and emotional manipulation so that she doesn't have to change her life. Know it for what it is, and just let it rol…
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/19 04:30 PM
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I’m seriously considering moving my liquid assets to Swiss bank accounts (edit: or crypto) and fucking off to a country that won’t respond to US garnish or extradite requests. I think there might be a few candidates that could still be nice places to live.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/19 06:58 AM
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That was the demand, yes. I make a lot, but it requires 50% travel to do it. And the judge hearing that amount basically threw her out on her ear, even after hearing how much I make. That's relevant, but only to a point.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/19 04:51 PM
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My settlement agreement included a higher spousal support then the court formulas in my area typically call for, but that came at the expense of it being non modifiable and non extendable. I'd have agreed to something similar as well, and offered it. I'll support her through grad school and even pay for it, if my obligation ends afterwards. She believes that she will do better fighting me for as much as she can get. I think that she thinks she can basically compel me to do both, without having t…
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/19 04:49 PM
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totally agreed. we were trying mediation to save some of these expenses, but someone appears to be in her ear to make this as complicated and as expensive as possible. and it's the kids that will suffer. I think you're right. I think after $30k combined from the both of us we'll wind up pretty close to my last best offer from mediation. I think I may wind up a little better than that offer, actually, but I went beyond in order to try to keep the peace. I wish she could see that, but it takes two…
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/19 04:43 PM
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forced you to let her stay home and raise those kids? Speaking for me, yes. I wanted her to go back to work once the kids were in school--now 5 years ago. She refused, which led in no small part to where we are today.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/19 03:48 PM
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I too, believe i offered her more during mediation than she will win in court. I did so in the interests of peace and for the kids. But it just wasn't enough, she has $$ in her eyes. Many of the commenters here are saying that she deserves support and the kids deserve support. I actually agree on both counts, and was willing to go some distance to provide for a stable transition into a new life that she wanted. She just didn't feel like it was enough, regardless of where I believe, with my attor…
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/19 03:42 PM
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I pay it because it allows her to get additional education that will allow her to make significantly more money for the rest of her life that will benefit my kids. I would support her through her own retraining to be able to place her into a stable income. What she's asking for, is for me to pay for that retraining but also to support her literally indefinitely. And perhaps she should have considered the financial position losing her meal ticket would put her in before making the choices that sh…
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/19 03:38 PM
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he didn't have to worry about childcare While that was true, and I was able to build my career, I now have to worry about childcare so I can have custody while I continue to have to work. Now that I have to undertake childcare, why isn't is also true that she has to work?
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/19 03:33 PM
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Yes, and actually I agree. Some transitional support is reasonable. But lifetime? For the next 30 years? I don’t think so.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/19 01:54 PM
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Mine is: divorce is so expensive because it’s worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/19 01:57 AM
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I know, the crashing marriages was tongue in cheek. I’ve even congratulated newlyweds-even men. I mean, good luck to them. I personally think the institution has outlived its usefulness, but o wouldn’t actually interfere with someone’s else shot at happiness.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/19 11:02 PM
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I've been beating wayfair like it's a pinata. It's not rock bottom cheap, but it's cheap enough and good enough to last me 5-10 years.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/19 05:53 PM
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Now I'm not advocating this as it's illegal, but it's funny My racket is to make large purchases with shared accounts, and then return or be reimbursed for those things after the accounts are split. Case in point, I have like $2500 in airline vouchers. The tickets were bought with marital money, but I won't use those vouchers until after we're split and it's my money that'd I've have to spend. By all appearances she's forgotten about them. They'll go after the obvious honeypots, like bank accoun…
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/19 05:51 PM
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See, the solution here is that we shouldn't get married ;p (/s) Why /s? I'm so down on marriage I have to be restrained from crashing friends marriage parties and trying to get them to cancel. I don't see a lot of upside.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/19 05:45 PM
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It’s just this one. Having re-entered the dating pool, I'm astonished at the amount of women that breathe the words, out loud, to me, knowing how I resent my ex for this same attitude, their desire to just be a kept woman. Even from professional women. No, not all are like that. But enough that I am now very cautious. The only thing worse than one alimony payment, is two. IMNSHO being gorgeous once in a while isn't a balanced contribution of effort. Many think that way, because the media tells t…
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/19 07:50 PM
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but I'm pretty certain that if you look at the causes of divorce I'm not all all certain of that. It would be difficult to actually know the reasons why, but 70% of divorces are initiated by the woman. We could perhaps compare those rates against state differences in alimony awards to help determine if that's cause.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/19 07:44 PM
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Let me guess the gender of the mediator. Hopefully it was non-binding mediation. I had a hearing in front of a (male) judge. I went in fearing the worst, but couldn't have been happier with the result. Maybe the imbalance is being recognized.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/19 07:40 PM
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And still wants alimony “because.” And says she should get all of our assets Like, the mind boggles. How does one have the audacity to believe that they deserve that?
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/19 03:51 PM
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Did she agree in writing?
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/19 09:29 PM
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Try to stay away from the drinking. Fill your time with other things Try to stay away from the girls. You'll want to pursue them to re-validate yourself, and it's probably the most commonly ignored advice ever. But try to minimize it and treat yourself and them with respect.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/19 03:48 PM
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I’ve been playing violin and reading/writing :) Going slower when you get out is the best, most ignored advice lol
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/19 12:35 AM
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Y, dating is a shit show. A total flaming dumpster fire of feces. Get out if you want—you may very well be happier alone than with the stbxw. I know i am. But the dating world shouldn’t be a primary consideration.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/19 12:24 AM
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She divorced you before her naturalization was complete? That's a bold play, cotton. Let's see if it works out for her. On no account should you let her take the kids with her. And no, she doesn't get your passport either. Are you kidding.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/19 04:44 AM
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Do. Not. Continue. To. Have. Sex. With. Her You aren’t sure if you want a kid, but are only using withdrawal? Are you kidding? You need to figure out contraception, then figure out if you want to stay married, then have your kid if you want. Also, it only takes one to divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/19 04:02 AM
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Congratulations!
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/19 03:44 PM
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why did she get the kids?
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/19 05:36 AM
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I would ask your attorney if you can stop paying your alimony. She'll sue you, sure, and you might lose. But at least you'll force her to present her argument in court, and you'll be able to present your counter argument then as well. Since you hold the lever of money, use it to your advantage to force the timetable.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/19 07:39 AM
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Either way, I'll celebrate the holidays with the kids. You know you'll need to negotiate that with the wife? I was surprised to find out that as my marriage dissolved I wasn't going to spend Xmas with the kids for the first year.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/19 06:45 PM
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When I told mine that, she said that she “was disappointed in me” and wondered “if I even know how to love”. I understand the instinct, but I don’t understand how those words can come out of your mouth. You really think that love = one sided support? Maybe, just maybe, I know how to love. I support those that I love (like the kids). I just don’t love you. Therefore, no support.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/19 05:35 AM
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And of course demands that you continue to support her "for the sake of the kids". Look, I get it. It's time we went our own way and lived our own lives. But that also means taking responsibility for yourself. Expecting that you will still continue to support her while she does her own thing is the height of hubris.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/19 03:30 PM
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shes going to ask you for a divorce at the counseling session, and wants the therapist to help mediate.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/19 07:15 PM
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You may wind up with some spousal support based on income difference, but the short length of the marriage will have that minimized. And don't forget the debt obligation should be also split against marital assets. Honestly--it's better to decide this sooner than later. The more you wait, the larger your commitment will grow. And the stress on your marriage from the difficulties you already had conceiving may be worsened, not alleviated, at this point, if you are yet able to conceive with or wit…
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/19 08:08 PM
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If she wants back why is she giving you the list
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/19 05:38 PM
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I would definitely go to her club and heavily tip another girl.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/19 12:48 AM
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Get to the gym. Stop lurking her on facebook. Write down all of the things that you'll get to do now. Get to the fucking gym. It's not about the exercise, it's about the endorphines.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/19 06:15 PM
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That her girlfriends have her back is what's really infuriating. They're supporting her choices no doubt because of the evil emotional manipulation you've subjected her to, so this is her natural outlet. There is no reasoning with this attitude. The only course of action is to bail out hard and fast. https://dadstartingover.com/should-i-take-her-back/
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/19 05:55 PM
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Right there with you, brother. I went a little insane. Sought validation to contrast against the ex, who for all intents and purposes, no longer wanted to have anything to do with me. When you get that signal from someone that you've depended to help locate your self-worth 20+ years I think it's human to seek a countervailing signal to re-establish your worth. + you're technically signal, so you can finally act on your fantasies of being a "player", right? That makes for frankly a toxic mental s…
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/19 05:36 PM
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I am terrified of having to pay him alimony. Whelp, you’re in the right sub, even if wrong gender. Welcome to the club. The notion of alimony in this day and she is horseshit. Also, not to be a downer, but your pictures of care won’t mean anything. The standard is that he’ll get to maintain his standard of living, although you may be able to impute a reasonable fir him based on his training. Nevertheless, if his imputed income is lower than what you make, you’re likely to have to pay him somethi…
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/19 06:11 AM
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Right, I agree. Op is probably going to wind up paying some amount of support. If you want to try and have this be uncontested, I’d find out how much your liability might be and then lowball that, as in “I’ll give you FOO for BAR months if you don’t contest”, knowing that FOO is less than your legal obligation but perhaps more than he was expecting. Otherwise, good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/19 02:22 AM
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I know I cannot remove her due to a divorce. The fuck you can't. If this is the law in California, and elsewhere, it's the first I've heard of it. I'm in Oregon, and I fully expect to drop her off my insurance when the paperwork is final. edit: it appears that she can ask my insurance to provide her coverage for 9 months after divorce. I guess that'll be on her to pursue, and she'll bear the burden of whatever part of the premium that isn't subsidized. After that, she can pay for COBRA coverage.…
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/19 08:02 AM
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You have to go for it's own sake, not because of the intangible abstract body improvement. Go because it makes you feel good. If it's not the right activity that makes you feel good in the moment, keep trying other ones. I found mine and I look forward going to to the gym now.
/r/seduction19/07/19 04:50 PM
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Unfortunately for her we live in an at fault state. lucky lucky you. I get why the state wanted to get out of the business of he said, she said, and PIs taking dirty pics...but there should be some consequences to betraying the marriage. Instead, the adulterer is almost rewarded...not only do they get free play time, but they walk away financially whole as well.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/19 03:22 PM
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If your daughter wants to move, can you carry the mortgage on a new place yourself? Would you be able to take on a rando renter to help if necessary? Also, I tend to agree that she's an adult and needs space away from her emotionally hurt date. She needs to begin her own life. However! "I am very emotional right now" = it's a bad time to make long term significant financial decisions. It'd be better to give as much space as you can from the relationship before locking yourself into an obligation…
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/19 03:28 AM
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think she wants to get the money and run and rely on me as a friend. I don’t know if both can happen in the end. It doesn't matter what she thinks or wants. It only matters what you want. There is no need for negotiation. Men get in the habit of capitulation during marriage that often transfers over to them post-divorce, and continue to let the women set the terms of the emotional framework. She doesn't get to do that anymore, in any respect beyond what's necessary for the support of your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/19 07:01 PM
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well, besides the not getting laid part. but yes.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/19 03:52 AM
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it is attractive financially for her to divorce It is maddening. There is no incumbency on the less-able worker, generally the woman, to resolve the differences of a marriage. They will be supported either way: either by a defeated husband that concedes the point regardless of how wrong; or by an ex paying support. I understand the philosophy of marital assets and spousal support. I even understand the concept of no-fault divorces--finding who's "more at fault" is a messy business. But to make a…
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/19 04:43 PM
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My STBXW is refusing to agree to 50/50 custody of our two boys and insists that she be the primary custodian of the children because “it's in the best interests of the children” She no longer gets to contribute to those decisions. She doesn't get to just "refuse". She no longer has the final say.
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/19 12:55 AM
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Exactly. “Are girls actually a good source of dating advice?” No. They’ll tell you what they want to think they like, inasmuch as they pride themselves on their emotional intelligence and being above human instinct and desires. But in reality they’re just as susceptible to impulse and instinct as men. They’ve been convinced of this from the media messaging: that they alone manage the emotional health of relationships, and have developed an empowered gatekeeping attitude about it. It’s why OLD is…
/r/seduction29/06/19 06:46 PM
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I see a sheriff evicting her in your future.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/19 05:54 AM
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Do you really just want me to cover all costs for the kids?" The answer to that is, yes, ofc. I'm going to take a flying leap here and assume that she was a SAHM and now is either unemployed or underemployed. I have one too and since I remain her only source of income, she's nickel and diming me. I wish they would just grab the feminist mantle by the horns and go about supporting themselves so that money wasn't an issue. But for reasons it appears that a great many refuse to do so.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/19 04:21 PM
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In many states you could still be liable for child support as the law assumes the child is yours unless proven otherwise, and the state just wants to find someone to put on the hook for support without really caring who. You need to compel a paternity test to prove otherwise.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/19 09:11 PM
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I think you're closer. This is less about the ex and more about him. He doesn't want to admit to himself what he's done, so he's not ready to face up to it: that he really succumbed to adultery and allowed his marriage to dissolve as a result. He's still mourning the marriage. 4 years seems like a long time to do so. He needs to process his guilt, and decide if it's something he can live with.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/19 07:28 AM
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Right. Rehab is necessary. I get it. But if you’re taking out life ins on an ex, isn’t that an abhorrent admission that you continue to need him in your life for your life?
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/19 06:29 AM
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I’m not going to pretend that this doesn’t piss me off, not least because I lean strongly dem. This is the crack that she wants to take? Men are “less than” as caregivers? Pick your sides carefully.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/19 03:35 AM
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Remember that your overall earning potential is higher, and that the inflation rate will also mean the value of your payments will decline in real terms over time.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/19 06:50 PM
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Try to remember to take the anger out of it. This is a negotiation, just like buying a car. Try to avoid being self-righteous, or indignant, or anything. Just work the facts and the numbers and the math and let your counselor do your arguing for you. Almost for certain she will appeal to emotional aspects--if you ever loved me, if you cared more for the children, you should be man enough to see how right and fair my position is, etc...simply frankly flat out ignore it. Simply don't respond. Noth…
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/19 04:57 PM
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If you go up to a man and put your hand on his shoulder and ask what to have to drink, 9/10 you'll start a conversation. A woman breaking the touch barrier, even innocently, will break the ice almost immediately.
/r/seduction08/04/19 09:19 PM
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Women are attracted to men that see them as someone they could be friends Seriously though. IME women generally do not want to be romantic, at first, with someone they consider a confidante. In a committed relationship maybe, but this sub isn’t about that.
/r/seduction26/03/19 06:07 AM
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Facebook ("social media") has recourses if you are being threatened with an abuse of their platform to the purpose of extortion through humiliation. If you share compromising info and are then then threatened with it's publication on Facebook, let them know and they can help prevent it's distribution and can help provide evidence to used against the perpetrator of the blackmail.
/r/seduction22/03/19 04:43 PM
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One of the big questions the movie raises, relevant to this sub, is if a seductive man is vile. Ryan's character is not presented as vile initially; Steve's character seeks to emulate him. But after the twist ending, Steve clearly reviles and has contempt for Ryan. Was that a fair change of perspective on Steve's part? Does Ryan disregard women, or is he just not vulnerable to them? Is cad behavior acceptable in the abstract, and contemptuous when close to home? Or is that actually obsolete thin…
/r/seduction22/03/19 03:47 PM
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I agree. It's carrying yourself as if you look like Ryan Gosling.
/r/seduction21/03/19 07:29 PM
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Whether or not the character transformation in the story is credible or a value I don't know, but I will just add that at the end it's not actually clear that the father figure is moving back into the family house. They have a nice and touching laugh, but it's not actually clear to me that that is his path. OTOH, more on topic for /r/seduction than /r/relationships, is the stated character of male in his 40s coming off a 25 year marriage, let his style decay during that time, and has had limited…
/r/seduction21/03/19 07:27 PM
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Y ty for the reminder that this is just an opening phase of a negotiation. I was getting better but then this preposterous demand is a setback, and I'm anxious of the argument to come that will be based on subjective evaluation of what's necessary. I have a long week before I can meet with my own guy and he can talk me off the ledge.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/19 10:18 PM
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I just inferred that from you saying that you're emphatic about everything except your looks
/r/seduction19/02/19 07:04 AM
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Have you tried a new look? I did. Turns out I actually prefer it, and feel like I’m dressing my age and position. I also go the gym, and it runs out unlike that too—even just for me.
/r/seduction18/02/19 10:36 PM
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It’s almost like different women respond to different things. The sooner one stops generalizing their behavior into pussy on speed dial, the better. You know what makes this crystal clear? Ask 5 women for dating advice and you’ll get 4 different answers. Because each knows what matters to them, but it’s a fallacy that even they make to assume that what is one woman’s crank is every other woman’s as well. That’s why the “be yourself” advice is the best-you can do that for longer and you’ll find s…
/r/seduction18/02/19 09:51 PM
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and don't force the choice before they're ready.
/r/seduction01/02/19 11:10 PM
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Is it just me or do a lot of couples start out as just friends? The takeaway for me is that when you make your romantic shot is vital. If you do it early, you're saying: we're going to be romantic or nothing, your choice. But you have to be ready to walk off the lot if you get a no. If you never take it, but there is signaled mutual attraction, then you could transform a friendship into a real long term romantic relationship. The mistake is making it in the middle--then you're forcing a choice b…
/r/seduction01/02/19 08:26 PM
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If you have abundance that's a pretty big "if". Of course if you do, the tables are turned. IME the reverse is much more likely to be true.
/r/seduction01/02/19 08:04 PM
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See girls look at small details a LOT more closely then men do. This is absolutely correct. Consider their perspective: they are at real risk, or consistently believe themselves to be at risk, from being axe murdered. You know you're not an axe murderer. But they don't. Therefore they feel that their very survival depends on acute observation to divine your intent and decide if you're a risk factor. They may be interested, but at the first sign of danger that feeling goes away and that's it. So …
/r/seduction28/01/19 07:02 PM
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The frustrating thing is that if relationship dynamics are top of mind, it’s what you want to talk about. You need to generate other things to talk about, and they also need to be substantive and sincere. This is where hobbies are important, as a genuine passion and interest in them are neither threatening nor superficial.
/r/seduction28/01/19 06:49 PM
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I think I agree. But a little goes a very long way, and it really depends on the situation and the response. If the response is neutral or worse, pushing harder never helps.
/r/seduction28/01/19 06:46 PM
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I never talk about relationships or other guys. This is good advice. Once you do, they almost always start diagnosing you and then you become a clinical specimen of psychological issues, albeit perhaps sympathetic. Save that kind of emotional vulnerability for when the relationship is already on trusted ground. Women say that they're attracted to vulnerability, but ime, that's not actually true. They're attracted so strength, confidence, mystery. They're attracted to unwrapping the present, and …
/r/seduction28/01/19 06:39 PM
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I generally wait for the woman to first break the touch barrier. They know what they're doing when they do, and that's their signal that they're ready for escalation. Escalating before they're ready is a quick train to skeeve town. They generally assume you're interested so don't need you to signal that. They need to signal that they're comfortable with your interest, first.
/r/seduction28/01/19 06:32 PM
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In the Tinder example, they've at least signaled interest in being approached at all and talked to by the specific match. Do you want to have to continue to give the brush off while just going about your business? I can see that being annoying to the point of alarm if guys don't take no for an answer.
/r/seduction16/01/19 07:01 PM
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He will also fall madly in love and convince himself that OP will leave their husband if he can just show enough kind ness.
/r/seduction23/12/18 08:00 PM
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If that’s what you want help him learn to connect with other women that are more conventionally available.
/r/seduction23/12/18 07:57 PM
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