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I have been kind to her.....I clearly wrote that I offer a supporting hand to listen to her and ask her to spend time outside of work? And I'm not sure why you think I'm patronising her by trying to be her friend? So I'm just supposed to not say anything to her at all when we have coffee?? I'm really not sure where you're going with this. I'm perfectly happy for her when she has her successes and she had a lot of qualities that I definitely don't have.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/20 01:58 PM
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Uhhh wut
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/20 09:37 PM
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First off I think you're being dramatic about me "rubbing it in" - in reality I'm not gushing about something every day to her. It's the occasional times I share something positive that she gets snarky. There have been plenty of other times where the hostility came from something unrelated. I'm not trying to "bait her and be cruel" at all and you're completely misreading my intentions and painting a bad picture of me for no reason, honestly. But generally when friends socialize, we share good an…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/20 09:33 PM
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So you're saying I'm not allowed to share good news about my life with a friend?? Because she started to roll her eyes at me whenever I shared a story about me and my fiancé (among sharing other positive news outside of the relationship). I helped a lot with dating advice from a RPW standpoint (let him drive, dress up more) and was there to listen to her talk about what was going on. In the staff meetings, she'll have a minor outburst at me for just contributing thoughts to the discussion. Clear…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/20 05:21 PM
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The way she treats me has changed, so for sure it's not just one incident. I have also offered a hand to her to go out together but she often declines, and our conversations have slowly gone toward strictly work. But the snarkiness towards me in passing or in the meetings was the dealbreaker, and she doesn't seem to want to include me in any of her side projects (that she has with the guys). The biggest deal breaker is that we discovered our boss gave me a higher performance rating than her, and…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/20 12:31 PM
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Yes, super long relationships are definitely a thing. What I've seen is an average of 5 years of dating, and sometimes even longer - my brother dated his wife for 8 years before proposing. Personally I see the advantage of dating for a very long time before getting married. You really get to know the person, and see them go through enough changes, and also grow together through pitfalls, and there's no substitute for that except time, time, time. Some dating advice says that one year is enough t…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/19 03:37 PM
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The image is really true. I've sworn in passing once and guys have been shocked that something like that comes out of my mouth, because I'm really dainty and girly.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/18 04:49 PM
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The other part is a sort of discomfort at role betrayal. The halo effect makes a pretty girl seem near-angelic just based on her appearance. Breaking that spell is an almost-literal disenchantment. YES!!!! I think this is a huge part of it. It's the "angelic part" - the innocent look that throws people off. So then it's worse if a seemingly sweet girl starts swearing - it's more shocking than funny.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 11:03 AM
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Eh, I wrote this in a comment below - I find it really interesting that the fat girls who have great personalities - entertaining, witty, charismatic, easy to confide in - still have trouble getting asked out. I'm not sure if it's because they've become too self-sufficient and maybe a little more dominant in their mannerisms. Being funny and witty takes a lot of confidence and skill. I wonder if men can have FUN with these girls but still need to feel like they're better than her - and being fun…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 11:01 AM
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I just think it's interesting - the fat girls (at least the ones I know) are really entertaining, fun to be with, easy to confide in, but they still never get asked out. I feel like it's just proof that personality matters, but men still judge on appearances, as superficial as it is.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/18 10:55 AM
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Thanks, I needed this.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/18 07:23 PM
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I'm glad I found out the root of my issues (the sexual abuse) because my depression/BPD was chronic, and no matter what I did in my life, I couldn't overcome it (tons of meds, lifestyle changes, self improvement, self care, CBT). I'm thankful I now know why I suffered from it for so long. I'm single and I'm 29, I feel like I'm a bit of a lost cause because of my age, but I do know objectively I'm still physically attractive. I keep a strict diet and take care of myself very well. Sometimes I fee…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/18 07:06 PM
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Thank you, I actually just started seeing a therapist about the sexual abuse. I suffered from depression/BPD for about 15 years and it wasn't until this year when the traumatic memories started coming back that I realized the reason for all of this.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/18 08:39 PM
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This sounds appropriate. Because if I don't have that dopamine kind of attraction (excitement, emotional), I'm not attracted. My sexual attraction is 100% based off of feelings. When I think back to my childhood, yes I have an anxious attachment style. I always needed my own independence and I pushed people away because I needed space. Then when I was around people, I needed a lot of admiration and attention. I experienced sexual abuse from a male family member when I was 6 and 10 years old, and…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/18 03:36 PM
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No. BMI 21. I don't think it's physical appearance. I get plenty of compliments from both men and women on how great I look. I do struggle with depression and anxiety so that might be it.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/18 07:31 AM
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Second possibility.... Have you considered the possibility that you may not be an appealing LTR candidate yourself? Yes, I have considered it plenty of times. I've tried in the past few years to become an appealing candidate. I just can't tell if it's working. I get some mixed signals here and there. The main reason (judging from my own experience) is men telling me to just be happy and free (instead of feeling like I need to be a perfectionist) but then the opposite problem happens. I'll go thr…
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 07:51 PM
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There is a difference between asking for commitment and asking for exclusivity I think RPW needs to re-word the theory - because it really doesn't make sense to preach "commitment before sex." It's better to say "exclusivity before sex" or at least along the lines of monogamous dating (so make sure he's not seeing other women). Commitment brings the word to a whole other level.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 04:02 PM
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women I feel are very sexual and desire me from the beginning, if they decide to have sex early on because they will enjoy it, as opposed to feeling that strong desire and them trying to hold it against their true will just to “play the game of waiting”, hence being fake on that front. YES this is what I mean too. I would hope to have sexual desire from the beginning. I don't really want to bargain either. So to sum up, being honest, knowing yourself, being courageous, not trying to play games b…
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 11:00 AM
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I see what you mean.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 08:46 AM
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Yeah, as long as a man has good game, he doesn't really need to commit as long as younger women are giving up sex and companionship/co-habitation. It's sad.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 08:45 AM
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And this seems to happen right around the time that you give them the "no sex until commitment" talk. Eh, I don't actually give them the talk. Of course I know it's a boner killer. I usually just wait and see.....and then they ghost because I don't give sex. But I don't actually sit them down and say "hey we need to talk" (omg, headdesk). But it's more like I just don't know how it works IN THEORY. I haven't actually been active in getting "commitment before sex."
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/18 04:53 PM
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Commitment is his attitude about you. The one that makes him decide, over and over again, to spend the evening with you instead of looking for a new girl on Tinder. That's a really good way of putting it! Thanks for that. You appear not to have even started the process of thinking about what the experience of spending time with you looks like from his perspective. Another good point. So I guess the difficult part is - I can show him what it's like to spend time with me - he can either love it or…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/18 04:35 PM
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In this particular case, he had to work a little bit to get me to sleep with him. Basically on the first date he tried to get me to go home with him and I refused - and I did make it clear I wasn't looking for just sex. Second date we talked (like friends) for a few hours, and he did make an effort to court me a bit, we had good chemistry in general, so we hooked up. He did tell me on the first date he wasn't seeing anybody else already.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/18 09:36 AM
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I would suggest, as an early vetting method, establishing early (preferably on the first date) if the guy you're on a date with is seeing more than one woman at once, or one at a time. If you limit yourself to the "one at a time" guys, it may give you a bit more confidence that sleeping with them 3-4 dates in is a worthwhile risk. That's good advice. I naturally sensed the type of man (just looking for fun) when I see he's texting other girls or seems to have a lot of female friends, and I would…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/18 07:59 AM
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Yeah exactly. I've even heard men need to even come inside a woman to see if he feels that reproductive instinct.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/18 06:37 AM
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A variety of places - gym, Bumble, friends of colleagues, friends of friends. I mean there was no sexual chemistry for most so I definitely wouldn't continue dating them if there wasn't. But I'm sort of asking for general advice - the "commitment before sex" sounds impossible if sex is needed for a man to decide commitment.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/18 09:02 PM
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For the majority - no - and definitely I wouldn't have sex if there was no attraction, even if it's easy. The last guy I dated though - we were extremely passionate about each other and he even asked me interview questions (number of kids, told me he had good benefits, asked me about my family, told me he'd like me to meet his family), we had really good chemistry outside of sex, good sexual chemistry....literally everything. And he ghosted. I really don't know what happened there. It seems I ca…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/18 08:59 PM
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I'm only following RPW advice of "get commitment before sex".....
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/18 07:36 PM
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I COMPLETELY understand and I also agree there needs to be chemistry from the beginning. I would also like it to us to be naturally sexually attracted to each other. It makes sense. Attraction is important. I also need to feel passionate about a man and him to feel the same way about me. This is why I just don't understand the RPW advice about "commitment before sex." Theoretically it makes sense. But I don't see how it works in reality. That's why I'm asking how this is "supposed" to work. It d…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/18 07:31 PM
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I usually ask if they're seeing anybody else. If they are, then I'll continue to date (meaning I see if they still call me back) and sometimes they ghost after a few more weeks (my feeling is they ghost because I didn't give them sex). Or they'll say "let's see."
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/18 07:25 PM
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Monogamous relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/18 05:59 PM
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I feel like if I commit to a woman who has no bargaining power, it's more real. Explain this? I think I know what you mean but I'd to hear it in your words. Do you mean there would be a NATURAL sexual attraction rather than a bargain?
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/18 05:55 PM
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"hey, just to get this out of the way early, I'm the kind of girl who waits until monogamy before sleeping with a guy. I just want to be upfront so there aren't any mixed signals or misaligned expectations." Hmm, interesting. I could try this next time. explaining your holding out on sex for commitment as a core part of your identity. Yeah, makes sense when you put it that way. I guarantee he hears that and thinks you're trying to lock him down in the next month. Just to play devil's advocate, i…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/18 05:54 PM
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I try to bring up what I'm looking for in the second or third weeks. Usually first 2-3 dates are just getting to know each other and having fun. Then if all goes well, I'll somehow bring up "I'm looking to have a family" in the conversation, or I'll straight up ask him what HE'S looking for. You can usually tell by their answer - if they're dodgy or skirting the subject, or say some flirtatious line like "well you're just so beautiful" then I know to cut ties. Or another answer I get is "let's s…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/18 05:07 PM
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I tend to lose interest in the men I meet in person! It's strange. I think perhaps I start friend zoning them, even though in theory it's a good way to vet each other as people for a while. When I meet men on dating apps, I think it works out because it's very clear what each person is looking for. Right from the start we know we're vetting for a relationship. I think that's my issue. When I meet men in real life they tend to end up in the friend zone. I think I need the clear intention from the…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/18 11:08 AM
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I would agree with the article, however, personally for me the best relationships I've had were with men I met on dating apps. I've met men at the gym, grocery store, social circles, but for some reason it was never became a sustainable relationship. I wonder why? Maybe it says something about me instead?
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/18 09:51 AM
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Authoritative, firm and decisive....yes, that sounds exactly what I like.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/18 04:18 PM
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Haha, I think the ex didn't realize it was actually a fetish. That's probably why he was scared off. One other thing to mention about it: many men are attracted to that dynamic, but are ashamed of it. Good! Another thing to consider: do you need this dynamic all the time? Or just in the bedroom? Because it'll be a lot easier to find a man who is okay with this some of the time rather than all of the time. Just some of the time. I don't need a full on lifestyle, I don't need toys or coloring book…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/18 04:05 PM
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soft, whimsical hyper feminine element, and can trigger strong alpha behaviors in men who are attracted to it. YES EXACTLY. This is EXACTLY it. I absolutely need strong alpha behaviors to feel sexual attraction, it can be borderline aggressive/violent. For me it's thrilling, knowing the fear of a man's strength. I get turned on being helpless and indecisive and being "put in my place."
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/18 06:50 AM
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I just have a strong feeling of needing to feel cute and small. I know men who claim they need a "queen" or a woman to keep them in line, but this is such a huge turn-off to me. For me it's the other way - I need a man to keep me in line and to order me around. I need to whine a little bit and beg him and he has to "not take my shit" and tell me "be a good girl." For me it's a turn on to misbehave and for him to keep me in line or punish me for bad behaviors.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/18 06:48 AM
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I might have a mild fetish. It's not as serious as other users say - I don't need to play with toys or coloring books. BUT I do feel the need to submit and "serve" a man, and I need him to love and embrace me "like a child," guide me, listen to me, and punish me when I'm bad. I like to beg for sex and be told no, that I need to obey HIS desires. For me it's exciting and sexually fulfilling. Otherwise sex is boring if I have to do the work. I would say I have some rape fantasy fetish too, like be…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/18 06:46 AM
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Interesting, I come from another East Asian culture and my mother raised me to be doormat submissive. Some of the submission works well in regards to deference to a man but for our family, women were highly protected, innocent, childlike. It was common for women to only go out with her husband or a male family member, only go out by herself during the day. My mother was strange because she was very fiesty and criticizing but she told me to be a doormat and do as I was told and keep my personalit…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/18 07:52 AM
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Why does HK culture require you to be witty? Just out of curiosity.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/18 01:14 AM
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It definitely is anxiety. It's also cold feet. I'm dating someone amazing right now and I was able to woo him by "not caring and being myself" but now that he's fallen for me, I'm super anxious as to what I'm "supposed" to do.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/18 03:32 PM
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OMG. That's amazing you said that because I'm now dating my first military boyfriend and he's literally the perfect complement for me. He handles my intensity perfectly. You're absolutely right, it's simply a "weak man" problem. I never knew someone could be take things into their own hands so well (and in a dominant masculine manner) until I dated him. I really do think that women shouldn't dumb down their intensity (if it's a passionate intensity) as long as they're respectful and submissive t…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/18 02:41 PM
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Thank you!!! This is beautiful. I am working really hard to just "be [the best version] of myself" including all the highlights and flaws. I know it definitely doesn't make sense to try to please someone and then turn out to be different. As far as securing commitment... once a man is attracted to who you are, you must show him respect and gratitude when he shows you his love. Yes very important!! It is a catch-22 in that the more you worry about doing something wrong, the less likely it is you …
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/18 01:48 PM
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Thank you for this. I have a lot of passions and interests but I'm always afraid I'm too "interesting/curious." I feel like I have to be dumb and talk about trivial things. The good thing is I'm generally pretty feminine in my demeanor though. Although I would say I'm very passionate about my interests and can be very emotional and I'm just afraid this kind of "fire" can turn off a man. I am slowly realizing it's possible to be passionate about myself and my own life but still be submissive to a…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/18 01:42 PM
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Do you LIKE your witty humor? Yes, I do. I find it boring just to answer directly - simple yes/no or bare information exchange is incredibly boring to me. It's a huge part of who I am but I feel a stigma that feminine women shouldn't have that. If you think being "girl next door" is boring, don't be. I can be a GND sometimes, I can definitely be innocent and sweet and nurturing. I have that side of me, for sure. Just not all the time! My fiesty side comes out occasionally. you are an individual,…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/18 11:53 AM
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There is no one set mould of "wife material", because different men have different personalities, goals, passions, etc. Yes, agreed, definitely it's best to just be myself and show who I am, and let a man decide if he likes it or not, instead of trying to change who I am to make someone like me. Your witty banter may not be good for everyone, but why would you want to try to attract everyone when you should instead be trying to attract people whose interests and personalities work well with your…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/18 11:50 AM
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My background was more strict Christian, but interestingly enough, my partner's background is Indian. We have a lot in common when it comes to our outlook on these kind of gender issues, and it gave us common ground and bonded us. He definitely feels the same. Yes my partner and I are the same. I'm just from a conservative East Asian household. My partner is Midwest America. It's extremely difficult to explain my cultural/family background to others. When my female Australian boss said "it's tot…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/18 01:33 PM
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I agree with this very strongly - exactly what you were saying: But friends, like you are with your girlfriends? Talking about your lives, personal issues, your pasts, your dreams and hopes, laughing together... Nope. Not at all. It will turn into more from one side or the other most likely, as it sounds like it has here. I have noticed this in multiple and various interactions with men that are "friends." I'm also generally a sweet person so it comes off the wrong way to men (I'm super bubbly a…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/18 11:33 AM
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I used to be pretty anti-gun myself [...] I decided to put aside my distaste for guns and put effort into enjoying them. Lots of research and many days at the gun range later, I am now an avid pro-gun advocate, with my gun license and a firearm collection that makes my wallet weep. Interesting, can you tell me more about your viewpoint going from anti-gun to pro-gun? I would just like to know more. Pro-gun DOES NOT equal pro-violence. DEFINITELY not, I agree with this. Don't let this phase you, …
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/18 09:29 AM
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Generally men are more conservative leaning than women. It makes sense biologically, I agree. If women are traditionally the weaker sex for survival, a woman without a man to provide for her, will typically rely on social means such as the government, community, friends, religious institutions. Men, with a natural drive to succeed, build, create, protect, especially with their own hands, will have a natural tendency to be more conservative economically which can transfer into social conservatism…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/18 10:18 AM
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Kind of curious, but major political views do you and your fiancé diverge? Seems like he's right leaning and you're left leaning. As for my boyfriend and I, we're both economically right of center, but I'm more socially conservative than him (I don't have any male friends besides colleagues and from high school/college, I don't go out with men one-on-one unless it's him or a male family member). He's a little more socially liberal, has a few female friends but majority are male friends (him bein…
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/18 10:03 AM
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Thanks for this. I do find it interesting that since we pretty much get along in almost EVERYTHING (family values, life values, sense of humor, gender roles, intellectual topics, sex life....) that there would be merit to him being pro-gun rights. As I said, I just haven't been exposed to it at all.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/18 06:45 PM
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Thank you for your comment. He is in the military as well, and comes from a very conservative background and has been around guns since he was a kid. My boyfriend grew up in a poor neighborhood (that he worked very hard to get out of) so I have a suspicion that he might grown up around crime and thus feels safer with guns in the house for protection. It made me a little uncomfortable at first, especially when he talks about being totally fine using it if he had to. It's definitely interesting th…
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/18 03:12 PM
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I'm not arguing with you anymore. I wrote this post to learn more about a topic I don't really understand. I have good intentions and good faith. I am NOT being selfish and I am respecting his viewpoints by opening my own viewpoints on this subject.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/18 06:26 PM
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Despite our disagreements, are his opinions coming from a basically good, moral, logical place? We can disagree on specific policies or rhetoric as long as we agree on fundamentals (ie., the golden rule, basic human dignity, etc) Very good point! And that's the thing...we do agree a lot on our values, in general. If we both strongly hold the view that a man should bear responsibility for protecting his family, and if he feels one of the methods includes owning a firearm for protection, it makes …
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/18 06:24 PM
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Oh interesting. May I ask which country specifically? I have a few friends from EE.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/18 06:19 PM
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Love of my life? We've been dating six weeks. It's normal to be vetting each other still. I NEVER said I disagree with him exercising his right to own firearms. I literally just admitted I don't have a stance on it because I've never been around it nor do I know many people who own firearms. Do NOT accuse me of disrespecting him. I'm simply learning more about it.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/18 06:17 PM
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I don't understand why I'm getting downvoted for this comment? I'm simply stating I understand his background in the military, and even though I didn't grow up around firearms or really know much about gun rights, I know from HIS point of view it makes sense. I'm not insulting him for his views. I'm simply saying I don't know what to think because my family and general social circle don't really dabble in this part of politics. I never disrespected his viewpoint, I'm just saying I don't know how…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/18 03:49 PM
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In many other parts of the world, owning a gun for defending the family is mandatory for a good man. Curious, but where else?
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/18 02:26 PM
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If he misbehaved with it, that would be different. Waving it around, veiled threats, things like that. Those behaviors should be a 100% deal breaker, but responsible gun ownership is a non issue. Of course, and he's not like that. He's in the military, and he even told me he's literally around soldiers who just NEED to shoot something, but he's not like that. He's someone that if there was an emergency and it's necessary he would be there to protect people. Again he has a strong sense of duty/se…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/18 12:32 PM
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I understand this point, especially with him being in the military and having an extremely strong sense of duty/service/protection. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/18 11:19 AM
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If she is slutty with you and isn't cheating, give her a chance (although her number is abnormally high for any woman, like I said). But as mentioned, give her enough time. People change (men AND women) during a relationship. Most women are idiots when they're young....this is normal. If she can prove herself and her loyalty over time then I don't see why not, however she has to prove it. No attention seeking from other men, investing in herself and her hobbies.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/18 04:50 AM
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So you're saying she's not being a slut FOR YOU? (Meaning she's not being a dirty whore for you and ONLY you) That is not a good sign. Most women will have a few partners but once she is in a relationship her attention should be focused on you, especially her sexual efforts, regardless of how many previous partners she had. By slut I don't mean she's sleeping around or cheating while she's dating you, I'm simply saying she should act slutty with you because she's in a relationship with you.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/18 11:36 PM
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Do you think 24+ is too much for a 22 yo woman tho? She self identifies as a slut and it makes me not want to marry her. Do girls not understand how turned off men get when you talk about promiscuity? It's not insecurity it's more like a feeling of disgust. Yes, 24+ is too much for ANY woman let alone one that is 22yo. Any woman who self identifies as a slut is just stupid to me. She can be YOUR slut but if she says she's a slut in general that is disgusting.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/18 10:51 PM
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She does not have many friends now and I feel like that is why she love/need me so much. Yes but I don't understand how that's an insult that she needs you in her life...usually men are happy when we want to see them and spend time with them and cuddle with them, right? That's why I didn't understand when my tech ex boyfriend felt INSULTED that I wanted to see him. Like I said, the insecurity was unbearable. 23, and lost virginity at 18. I got "hot" at 22-23. I've slept with 10 people to her 24.…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/18 10:36 PM
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I love her more than anything but how do I know she isn't just settling for me? That's where the insecurity comes from. I find this specific comment extremely interesting because that's also EXACTLY what my tech ex boyfriend said: "I'm paranoid that I'm just someone who is convenient for you" - which I found extremely strange. I would always want to see him but for some reason he took it as "I don't have anything better to do so I'll go spend time with him." The insecurity was unbearable and I j…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/18 09:37 PM
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I asked him if he's planning to marry her or something and he said no, he's just going to have a relationship and then break up when he gets bored. Of course, his girlfriend knew nothing of his intentions. I told him he's rather cruel since she probably loves him and is looking to get married, most women are not content just hopping from ltr to ltr , particularly at 27, she most likely wants to settle and not just "waste her time" but he was oblivious to my point of view. He couldn't see that he…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/18 06:57 PM
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I actually agree with this and it makes sense - especially nowadays with easy access to relationships, if a man has high enough SMV to get laid, he can easily date a woman for 1-2 years then leave her when he's bored (or if she drives him away). But this is only pertaining to men who have good enough game - otherwise men will typically stay with one woman and make her happy because it's not easy for him to find one.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/18 03:04 PM
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Just out of curiosity, how overweight is overweight? Obviously obese is unattractive, but a nice ample booty is OK? Do women absolutely need stick thin figures or some meat on the hips/thighs are OK (assuming that stomach is generally flat). Keep in mind BMI numbers are tricky because there are athletic bodies that have more muscle tone but less fat.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/18 10:04 PM
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I’m a mental health professional and the guys who are the meanest and gaslight their women then most and withhold sex are the too brainy beta guys. They also project all their insecurities into their wives. Just whatever you do, don’t marry an insecure man....Additionally, all the pumping up in the world by woman will do nothing to transform these guys....Tons of these guys in tech so their money can lure you in. I'm curious, can you elaborate more on this? Mostly because I dated a very jealous …
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/18 09:11 PM
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Yeah, and that was what it was - he couldn't trust me. I never did anything wrong besides maybe unintentionally flirt on a few occasions. But him not trusting me because sometimes I have to work with or communicate with other men at my job, that's too much.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/18 10:34 PM
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On the other hand, he has made me more aware that my personality is naturally bubbly/flirtatious and how guys perceive interactions differently than women. I think this was what it was for me. I have been shy my whole life and very quiet, and didn't really understand the art of communication/conversation until the past two years so it never occurred to me that this is how men perceive these interactions. I am quite naive I think. At least now I know. I'm even flirty with my girlfriends, it's rea…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/18 10:09 PM
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I agree, and I've learned my lesson. I do think he took it too far (especially the situations when I was accused of doing something wrong when I didn't even open my mouth, eg. Him accusing me of checking out other guys at the pool when I never even looked at them or mentioned them). But I have learned in the future to keep my mouth shut and not to be too friendly to other men around him. It just makes me sad because it's genuinely just my personality and who I am...I even talk to my girlfriends …
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/18 07:13 PM
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I have a social job, but outside of my job I pretty much spend my time alone or with girlfriends and I don't spend my time alone with men or eve male colleagues outside of work. I think he is insecure enough that he can't deal with nature of my job. And it would be ridiculous if I had to change jobs because he's so insecure.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/18 09:14 PM
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Thank you especially coming from a man's perspective. If you want more ridiculous stories read my other comments...
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/18 08:36 PM
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But he has taken it very far, and I am sure it’s because of his ex leaving him and that happening to his friend. To him it probably feels like every time that will happen, and it’s everyone. Especially when it happened to his close friend, he has a false perception this is normal. I think his situation with his ex and his friend's situation influences him for sure. He even plainly stated that he was a jealous person, I just didn't realize to what extent. He would make aggressive comments literal…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/18 08:33 PM
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I understand being suspicious or wary about you texting or seeing other guys 1 on 1, but to be like this about colleagues and shaking the hands of his friends? That is just obsessive. I agree. I never saw any men one on one, nor do I even have a mixed group of friends. I only spend time with girlfriends. One time his colleague asked me a question about my work and I answered, then the next day he texted me a picture of him and said "why don't I ask [his colleague]" simply because I had responded…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/18 08:14 PM
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Thank you. I feel fine breaking up because I don't need to be tested about every single thing I do. I'm a loyal girlfriend.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/18 02:32 PM
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Here's the thing - I'm generally a smiley bubbly happy girl, and the way I talk can come off as flirty when I don't mean to. Hence he was jealous of my "charm." I tried to tone it down but I literally just smile at everyone when I'm interacting. I'm a happy person so I smile. My voice even sounds like I'm smiling. I can't help it... I think he finally realized being smiley is just who I am and couldn't feel secure about it, which is sad. His new girlfriend has resting bitch face, which is what h…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/18 02:27 PM
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I was sad but I got over it pretty quickly. I felt the struggle but finally he ended it. It was only a few months of my life anyway. I don't want to spend the rest of my life feeling like I can't even smile at people.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/18 02:20 PM
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It was both - he was proud to have me as his girlfriend because he says I'm very attractive and fashionable and charming and bubbly, but at the same time he was so insecure. He was worried all the time and literally shit testing me regarding the littlest things I did (once I was zoning out and people watching while out to coffee with him and he kept asking what I was looking at...goodness sake).
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/18 02:17 PM
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I didn't realize it until a few months in. At the beginning he seemed fine in private but then it started showing when we were in social situations together. It's good to know from a guy's perspective that this isn't normal...
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/18 01:02 PM
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Thanks for the pep talk! I feel pretty confident in myself now that I've improved so let's see. I know I want a man who wants me, I shouldn't have to chase after someone. It's not a good basis for a relationship or marriage anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/18 06:37 PM
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Do you mean that the higher the socioeconomic status then the more likely they are to take the more modern route?
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/18 09:30 AM
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Yeah it's interesting because the man interested in me comes from a Muslim majority country (European). His parents are atheists but his sisters married Muslims. He has tons of Muslim guy friends. It make sense what he's doing now that I've tied it to his cultural background.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/18 07:56 AM
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May I ask where you are from or what kind of culture?
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/18 12:22 AM
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In the meantime, do what’s right for you and all the things you need to do to feel good. Go on holidays, take courses, go to the ballet and have dinner with friends. He will come along if and when he’s ready. And this is true in any type of relationship. Even if it's a modern relationship where the couple cohabits, he won't propose until he's ready. The girl still has to get on in her life regardless. It's important to keep our own lives as women. I really believe marriage happens at the right t…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/18 06:23 PM
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Could the attraction you felt when you were more needy, clingy, and insecure actually be rooted in your desire for attention to make you feel better, not in the actual compatibility or relationship potential you had? It could be. When I was more insecure, I had the fear that I wasn't able to offer anything. I'm actually incredibly good at being alone (I have tons of interests, I'm able to keep myself busy, I'm pretty capable, self-aware, introspective). I think that's where it's difficult to add…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/18 06:02 PM
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Thanks, I think this is good advice to stop analyzing. My latest love interest keeps telling me to simply be happy, let him do the leading. I had to stop texting him recently because I realized I was driving him away. I know I need to honor my desire to be chased and wanted. I want someone who wants me. It's difficult to play the passive role because I feel like I'm helpless, I can't really do much but be myself, but I've seen too many women who have chased men, only to be taken advantage of and…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/18 05:43 PM
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Hmm good question. I'm having a bit of a hard time wrapping my head around what it exactly is. So basically if a man IS attractive to me, I become clingy. When I try to "let go," meaning I try to focus on myself and my own life, I don't feel as much attraction to him because in a sense I don't really need him to be happy. So then the attraction is lost because I'M not chasing him. When I don't care about him, I'm not attracted to him anymore. When I let a man chase me (instead of me chasing him)…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/18 04:50 PM
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Thanks, I mean I know you are right (that it's a deep psychological issue) but I just don't know exactly what. Perhaps I feel like I need to offer way more than I need to, in order for someone to like me. Maybe I feel like people would only like me for what I can do for them instead of me as a person.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/18 04:46 PM
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I think the old fashion method is very appealing. I think dating as a single is important because the spaces between (the times we don’t see each other), give us perspective and space to say “yes, this is what I want” or “no, this won’t work for me”. I agree and I think this is the advantage of the second method. Because sometimes you will get too deep into a relationship, it's difficult to see outside of it. When you're going steady just for the sake of having company and not being alone, not f…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/18 05:27 PM
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Yeah this is interesting because the man who is interested in me is Muslim (he's European and not strict but he comes from a predominantly Muslim culture, his parents are atheists though). He's leading our "courtship" this way, and it confuses me sometimes but I think I understand his strategy now. He's very slow at his moves but he always comes back to me somehow. I just met his parents a few weeks ago. It's an interesting way to court. Some advantages is that there's an honesty in a sense - he…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/18 11:29 AM
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I'm not a powerlifter by any means, and my body looks extremely feminine (hips and butt, just toned).
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/18 08:25 PM
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Yes this is what I noticed. I noticed men don't respect a woman who ONLY says "I want a family" or "I want to be married" or "I want to have children." At least not modern men. They look for you as a person, your character, and if you can get along outside of children (empty nest syndrome) - does the marriage last by itself or is it just the contract/children keeping you together?
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/17 02:42 PM
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Agreed, for example a lot of princesses or royal females or even celebrities do humanitarian work with children or disaster relief, or things related to social issues.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/17 08:12 PM
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And I'll add this about your comment above. Women use each other as gauges of the SMV/RMV of men so the fact that you are angry at her is actually more important to your own psyche than you may realize. Most women dislike the new girl who gets "their" man, fewer are angry at the ex. If the ex was still around, you wouldn't get the guy. I'm not angry at the ex, I'm just stating what I think. But that goes back to you seeing him as weak and broken...and another woman seemingly already made this ve…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/17 12:22 AM
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I am not always in 100% agreement with RPW Principles and its commenter May I ask which principles you don't agree with?
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 11:12 PM
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Agreed. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 08:40 PM
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Thanks for the overall comment. I mean he does show interest in marriage with me but I think he's just extremely cautious this time. I do know that he orbited his ex girlfriend so I have a feeling he never knew if she actually really liked him. I have a sense that he's seeing if I genuinely like him as a man, not for what he can do for me. It's great he has improvement as long as you see continual and forward progress. I honestly don’t see where this other woman is a big deal. It seems as if you…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 05:58 PM
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Synopsis: Six-year relationship, factoring in unknown amount of time before new relationship…of which is currently three months. It's written that the relationship ended three years ago. He has a mission outside of women, I just didn't write it. His mission is to retire before he's 40 so he can get out the corporate rat race, own his own consulting business and manage his investments. He's also currently working on creating a new business with his boss. He told me if his overall plan succeeds, t…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 07:10 AM
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This is not true, I DO respect him. Regardless of whatever happened with his ex girlfriend, I respect his intellect and sense of reliability and his push to get through life. I also respect the fact that he put his heart to fix his ex girlfriends problem, because I respect men who try to keep their families together. Just like my father tried to keep his marriage together, he struggled but I respect him in the end. To me his situation isn't his fault at all, I see it as the WOMAN to blame for be…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 07:05 AM
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He does have goals and that includes having a family. He does want one but he feels pessimistic and hesitant because of what happened with his ex. I think his faith is gone because I'm assuming he also thought he could trust his ex to get through a problem and it didn't work out. So I kind of feel like even though he thinks the world of me and I've proved to him I'm self-aware and level headed and good morals, he still has a pessimistic "you never know" attitude.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 07:01 AM
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It does come off that way but I am extremely attracted to him. I get giddy around him and very sexual and flirty with him. I'm aware of what he went through and he doesn't gossip or talk about it as much as I make it out to be (through my writing it may sound like he complains all the time and I'm consoling him) it's just a few things he's said over the months. I don't think he's uncertain about me specifically, I think he's just pessimistic in general...
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 01:57 AM
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You mean your boyfriend also has hesitations about marriage? Or you do?
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/17 11:52 PM
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Thanks again for the reply. Things are going well with him. It's more important if HE tells YOU that he wants to get married and start a family and is actively looking for a partner. This is so important and thanks for the reminder. He has mentioned it to me several times when we started dating so I know he has good intentions. Again I think it's the pressure that angers him because (if I put myself in his shoes), he already told me a few times he's looking for a wife, who first and foremost he …
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/17 10:00 AM
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Sorry for the late reply but thanks for your comment. Here's the thing though - I made it clear to him I was looking to get married and start a family when we met each other. We met here and there over a few months (allowing me to vet him) and he always still came back to me. So that's why I know he's interested in me because NO guy would wait five months to have sex (that's how long it took) with one girl. He actually did make it clear to me that he wasn't seeing other girls but I think what ma…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/17 08:26 PM
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Good point but can you describe how a woman would show needing him and being needy?? I just don't understand the difference between how he would sense that. Edit: Here's the problem though. When I'm secure, I don't miss him at all. Guess what, I don't even find myself needing him at ALL. That's also the problem. My loyalty decreases when I don't "need" him. Does that make sense? The more I'm insecure the more loyal I am to him because I actually need him.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/17 08:18 PM
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Thanks.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/17 08:08 PM
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Unfortunately the author still ends the piece in a modern-single-woman way - overvaluing herself and with the idea that she's the one going to 'settle' for someone, not the other way around. Astute observation! She's still an entitled feminist...
/r/RedPillWives02/08/17 06:15 PM
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Do you want him though? If so, give him your heart and be attractive as you can be to him. What else can we each do? I think guys find it very easy to love girls who love them. Yes I absolutely want him. Interesting comment because I also feel like he only loves me because I love him, does that make sense? I mean at the beginning of our relationship he definitely courted me and chased me. But maybe I just have an image or fantasy that a man should really be chasing a woman that he really wants. …
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/17 12:09 PM
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I could just be reading into things. He's never outright said he prefers that body over all others but he has said in a passing comment that (generally) tall and skinny women are beautiful and all men like boobs. He also mentioned in passing that he's "dated very beautiful women before but there was no chemistry." I took that to basically mean "I dated beautiful women and they're not that great, so I settled for a less beautiful woman who is really great personality that I have chemistry with." …
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/17 12:27 AM
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My comment from a similar question: I could just be reading into things. He's never actually outright said he prefers that body over all others but he has said in a passing comment that (generally) tall and skinny women are beautiful and all men like boobs. He also mentioned in passing that he's "dated very beautiful women before but there was no chemistry." I took that to basically mean "I dated beautiful women and they're not that great, so I settled for a less beautiful woman who is really gr…
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/17 12:25 AM
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Thank you this is perfect. Thank you so much. Does he treat you well, with respect, with regard, with love, with courtesy. Those are his actions. Yes, he does.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 12:47 PM
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Thank you! This is very helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 06:54 AM
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Yes I can stand to lose 5kg for sure. I'm actively working on it. However, what I can't change is my facial features/ethnicity, my height or my breast size (outside of surgery). I dress well, I'm very put together. But it's the things I can't change (listed above) that no matter how I dress, I can't change them. My insecurity is already inhibiting me to an extent, almost to the point where I have toyed with the idea of finding a man with less SMV, simply for the reason that I don't feel good eno…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 01:18 AM
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You can't negotiate attraction. I suppose I meant that if I liked a certain man, but he simply didn't like me (could be any aspect) simply because he wasn't attracted to me, I can't do anything about it. There's just no chemistry.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/17 08:27 AM
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Yes exactly. And they like me because I'm so put together, so I can't show weakness.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/17 08:22 AM
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RP in reality, I suppose. My boyfriend is pretty good at dread even though he's not even aggressive about it.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/17 03:10 PM
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You say you do your 50% in a relationship ... what are you doing with the other 50%? Hamstering? Looking for other men on the CC? That was a superficial statement of mine, and you know what I meant. I simply meant I don't try to control him but I pull my weight in the relationship. You would have know idea why I suddenly did that to you, but "alpha females" such as you described yourself, need a bit of correction from time to time. Making a dominant female submit is the cherry on top. 🍒 This kin…
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/17 02:38 PM
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Good question. I guess I wish I could attract men who would be a little more forgiving, since these men are always on the go (either with their careers or intelligence or staying fit). As a woman I don't really have this stamina to keep going and going (although I'm very big on self-improvement myself, just not at the same pace). They expect a lot out of me. Typically they've also had very hardworking and serene mothers who were very submissive to his father. So when sometimes I might be emotion…
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/17 12:20 PM
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Absolutely not. If you don't trust him without asking for his password, there's something wrong with either him or you.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/17 06:50 PM
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Thanks, will check out the book!
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/17 08:43 PM
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I'm also a bit confused why the two extremes: much lower class or 100k plus? Can you explain this? Just not sure what you're saying. Maybe it's more that you're seeking a guy who's not average, who has some type of edge? A bit, yes. I'm a creative type that likes culture and traveling, and my boyfriend is pretty edgy but he lacks that stability. How old are you? Do you think that another factor might be that lower class men are a bit more dominate and alpha and upper class men with any type of d…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/17 07:04 PM
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I know that men who have money feel like they can expect more from women. For example, men who male six figures would more likely want a socialite HB9 instead of me, who is just an HB7 but with good RMV qualities who likes to stay home. Perhaps it's where I come from, a big international city not in America, but a lot of the men with higher salaries tend to choose trophy wives, not wives that they can build a life with.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/17 06:32 PM
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Thanks for your comment. I don't really mind living a simple life (even if it doesn't come off that way in my writing) but I'm more concerned that life would be difficult and less convenient on a lower salary. Again, I'm wealthy and I don't spend frivolously (besides a few occasional luxuries) but I just don't have to worry about money. That's my main concern. I don't want to spend money being afraid that I'm actually a pretty humble person and that's why I wasn't concerned about his salary at f…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/17 02:06 PM
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Ok sure those are fine arguments, but then why doesn't your SO agree? You mentioned that you don't understand why: I feel that my SO puts too high of a premium on the importance of "love." That's the biggest red flag, IMHO. I mean like other users said maybe it's just different values between us and you, but the main point is you and your SO disagree with how to raise your children. Explain to him what you just explained to me and if your arguments are valid, then I don't see why he would have a…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/17 10:47 PM
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Plus, we can still cook on vacations It seems much more valuable to sit and play a board game with my child My child can instead have memories of how he could never beat his father at chess or how his mother always crushed Charades. I think that's where people are getting the idea that you don't know what it takes to be a mother. It's not just about playing board games and taking vacations!
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/17 09:57 PM
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What does your SO say when you tell him your side? (that you can work during those eight hours, putting them in daycare, outsourcing cleaning and cooking) Do you currently cook for him? Does he expect you to cook when you get married, regardless of having children? Have you discussed splitting childcare duties if you both worked? What does he say? I think if he really wants you to be a SAHM and you absolutely cannot do so, then it's too much if a deal breaker. Like others said you will grow to r…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/17 09:49 PM
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I think you should! Nice reminders for everyone.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/17 01:40 PM
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Out of curiosity, what sorts of things have they said to you? (Maybe not you personally but in general)
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/17 11:16 AM
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I think you're right on some level, however I actually didn't realize the reality of his financial situation when we first started dating, because he was a project manager. Project managers tend to make a decent white collar salary. Slowly over time I realized it was for a small company not a corporation so his salary is lower. So I didn't choose him because I knew I would have "the upper hand"...I chose him because I thought we were more or less on the same level! Then the realities started com…
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/17 11:09 AM
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There's a great article about how different classes shop and brand-signal. What's this article? Can you link it?
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/17 12:53 AM
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I understand what you're saying and I see the potential problem of what you're saying. I don't plan to help him up the socioeconomic ladder. I am not investing in his education or businesses and neither is my family. I also know he might resent me or I might have transactional thoughts if this happened, so I refuse to do that. I believe he has to earn his status himself and he also believes that. He does feel insecure but he is working to not feel insecure. Regardless of me, he doesn't like wher…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/17 10:09 PM
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Actually, I do have real "wealth," but that's a completely different story outside of salaries, assets and investments. I won't get into that though.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/17 09:51 PM
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Will you please relax on the term "wealth"? I've said many times that I'm using the term loosely only to say that I make significantly more than him, and my family makes significantly more than his. If the word "wealth" bothers you so much then we can change it to assets or salary. It seems like you're jealous if you think making 90k is LMC. I don't understand why you're making such a big deal about this.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/17 09:35 PM
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I make 90k and my boyfriend makes 36k.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/17 09:06 PM
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I'm using the term loosely, only to say that my family makes 2x his family. I'm on the lower end of UMC.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/17 10:23 AM
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I do hope that you manage to avoid having to deal with those kinds of people because not only is it damaging to the person but possibly monetarily. Yes and I completely agree with you. I admitted my ex-boyfriend was like this and that's why we broke up. All I'm saying is it doesn't apply to my current boyfriend because obviously I know him and his situation and background better than you do. I have thought about what you said very carefully. If you'd like me to show you exactly where you're bein…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 09:52 PM
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Have you dated any UMC men? Or are the UMC men that you can pull not as attractive as the MC ones? My grad school boyfriend was UMC. Lived in a town where there was an Ivy League school, father was pulling in six figures. Family had a nice summer lake house. I'll tell you all about him. He was the laziest ass I knew. He went to a name school for undergrad where most people are admitted for merit scholarship, and his father paid his way through. He spent his time skipping class and smoking weed (…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 09:45 PM
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I didn't think you were a gold digger, so I hope that's not the impression you got from my comment. No problem. I'm aware that men are sensitive to women wanting them for their money and here some people accuse women of marrying piggy banks so I just wanted to make it clear. But you're right, if I were a gold digger I wouldn't have stayed with him after knowing he's making less. It's definitely good to sit down and make expectations clear though.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 09:31 PM
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"Less pressure" might not have been the best way to describe it but I enjoy middle class men because they're going somewhere. They still have dreams and ambitions. They want to explore. And yes my boyfriend reminds me of my father - intelligent, hardworking, simple, curious. My parents also worked very hard to grow their wealth so that's why it's not a turn-off to me to see him working for it. It's just that I've gotten wealthier earlier than him. So I just have to humble down if we got married …
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 09:15 PM
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It goes without saying, but don't date guys who are looking for a free ride or are deeply insecure about your upbringing. Yes, I agree. He's not insecure about how I grew up and he's not looking for a free ride for sure. I see that he takes virtually all the big responsibilities in the relationship. On the flip side, don't date guys that you consider "beneath you" because you think they're somehow easier to deal with or more impressed by you than a guy from your economic/social class. Definitely…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 09:09 PM
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And this comment wasn't being volatile itself? I thanked you and acknowledged your comments plenty and thought about what you said. Just because I didn't agree 100% doesn't mean I'm defensive. I think you are being the sensitive one.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 09:01 PM
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My boyfriend has taken me to some of the poshest restaurants because of his business clients. He's stayed at 5 star hotels and invited me to go with him. He's gotten free tickets to expensive concerts through his connections and taken me. No, he is not using me for my wealth. He's not trying to impress me with this but sharing his earnings with me. I don't see how it's any different than a couple with equal status where the husband receives some sort of benefit and shares it with his wife. My pr…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 08:11 PM
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I think I understand what you're getting at. However, couldn't you say that most women like nice things? For instance my brother's wife likes 5-star hotels and resorts. My brother is perfectly fine with a 3-star hotel. He wouldn't set foot in a 5-star hotel if it weren't for her. Now, currently she makes more than him, but I see that he feels like he needs to impress her with his money as well. So he's working very hard to give her what she wants. I think most men don't really care about the pos…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 06:51 PM
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Thank you for your comment. The good thing is he does not use me for my wealth. He always pays even when we both know I have more money. He never asks me for anything, although obviously as a good girlfriend I give him some gifts here and there and cook his favorite dishes. I think you make a good point about how we both might measure what it means to be a provider. He for sure has a strong provider mentality. That's something I should make clear to him what I expect at the very minimum. I know …
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 06:23 PM
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Yes I understand this. I know this could happen. For us I think the issue is already apparent but I am giving him a chance. Again I'm not asking for a rich lifestyle just able to have a basic standard of living that's safe. Unfortunately I'm prepared to leave if he can't do this in the next year. I'm 28 and I feel time is running out. We've already been dating for a little over a year and he's shown more setbacks than successes since I've known him. As always I try to look at the character not t…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 05:42 PM
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Yes and I acknowledge that this could happen as well. Usually the prenup is for a woman, when it's because a woman has money and the man has less, how does that work? I refuse to marry him or stay in the relationship if he can't provide a basic standard of living, so I know my money won't go towards a house/apartment.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 05:37 PM
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Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 04:55 PM
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Thank you. Yes his ambition and work ethic is what attracts me. And the fact that he is always striving for more. I know I'm being entitled, and again I realize I was very lucky growing up and didn't have to worry about anything. Especially as a daughter. I see how much he does, for his future and for me. I love him for this. Sometimes I just worry but I'm trying very hard not to.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 04:41 PM
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Great comment. I do know that even though he and his family make less than mine, we do have the same values. So that's why we get along. I am not dating him to be a gold digger - I certainly don't expect him to finance my shopping habits, but I do expect him to provide a base standard of living (house does not have to be big but needs to be safe and comfortable). Any sort of personal purchases I expect that I will work for it myself. I'm probably at the lower end of UMC or at least borderline mi…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 04:40 PM
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I completely understand his ambitions and again I want him to succeed and it's attractive to me. But I'm just watching on the sidelines and encouraging him and I hope he can figure out his way but I'm just afraid what happens if he can't. Again maybe I'm worrying too much because he has shown (in the past) that he's able to always turn things around if he needs to so he has the ability to adapt and be resilient. I think is also an important quality that you need to be able to deal with any situa…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/17 11:47 AM
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We've had a talk about his dreams and goals. He knows he needs to be more financially stable and he knows that I know. He also has some career ambitions and his ambition and work ethic is what drew me to him. On my end I feel like he's just throwing too far into the ocean to really pick put any fish and feel he need to concentrate on a more secure path before he tries going for something bigger. He does have contingency plans and he's able to find other jobs but I'm just worried because he hasn'…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/17 11:08 AM
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Well that's the thing. I've traveled a LOT (over 30 countries) and I speak four languages fluently. I've achieved literally all my goals in education and experiences, I've volunteered and written grants totalling 20k for charities and worked with children and met many different people of different cultures. I've learned many recipes from my international friend (although of course there's more). All under the age of 30. All the "little goals" are toward self-improvement. I have exercise goals an…
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/17 10:08 AM
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I sometimes browse /r/sex and in the past 2 months there's been 2 similar posts by men something like "I get turned on when my girlfriend is crying, can somebody explain why?" This is very fascinating...and explains why my boyfriend doesn't mind when I am scared or nervous because he wants to take care of me. We've also had very intense sex when I've been in a more vulnerable mood.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/17 08:34 AM
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all I want is a woman who wants to build a home and make a family. Where are you men hiding? Men around me seem to just want to have fun. Nobody's looking seriously. I want to build a home and have a family and have a great man as the head of the household but I keep meeting men who still want to be boys.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/17 10:46 PM
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Thank you. I do realize I'm very fortunate compared to most of the world but I have low self-esteem because I'm around a lot of beautiful women, so sometimes I cannot see out of my circle. When I'm around people who have less then I'm not as anxious, it's only when I'm around people who are more beautiful then I'm always worrying.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 08:33 PM
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Worries are a luxury. I love this and you're absolutely right. When you're bored or complain about having nothing to do, it's actually a luxury.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 11:05 AM
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Thank you, and it'd true, grass is greener on the other side. I should try to see the advantages of having my figure/features.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/17 08:04 AM
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Hmm, good to know! Thanks for the tip!
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 11:05 PM
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I'm on a non-hormonal IUD although I've considered switching to a hormonal one because I struggle with hormonal acne. Yes I wear pushup bras already. I don't like it either but the way he does it isn't super obvious, I mean it's the same way as if you're walking down the street and an attractive woman is walking right towards you, of course if she's in your line of sight you'll look at her.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 10:41 PM
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Well it's not the thinness actually. I wish I had bigger hips and breasts. Like I mentioned in OP I've done some bodybuilding so I've grown some glutes and filled out a bit but I will never have that hourglass figure because I'm a B cup and my hips aren't wide enough. I keep picking on minute details of my body even though my boyfriend finds me attractive but for some reason I have this ideal beauty in my head and if I don't have it then I'm ugly and inadequate. But you're right maybe I should j…
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 10:31 PM
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He's made comments about other women in the past but I realized they were innocuous (like he didn't realize it would offend me), although I did let him know it made me upset even if he thought it was innocent and he's stopped. However of course his past comments run through my mind. I suppose I do worship fashion models in a way. I mean when I look around me I do realize the majority of women aren't gorgeous but there's still enough beautiful women I work with whom I feel pretty inadequate. They…
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 10:24 PM
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I have a serious boyfriend so attracting other men isn't a concern to me. The concern is I have low self-esteem because I put so much emphasis on my appearance. I'm very well put together actually.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 09:48 PM
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I'm not sure if you're understanding the point of the post. I dress very well almost to the point of having low self-esteem because I feel like it's not attractive enough. Does that make sense?
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 09:46 PM
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That's the thing though I do have a good life but for some reason these side concerns get to me. I think also I'm someone that if I don't feel attractive then I don't feel happy. It affects my mood. Dressing well makes me feel good.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 07:52 PM
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I'm mistaken for a teenager often actually. I wear makeup and I dress neatly with "big girl purses" and classic jewelry. But I do know I'm at least genetically gifted in that area, I won't look old like other women my age (late 20's). My face hasn't changed in skin tone (no wrinkles) since I was in high school, so far at least.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 07:11 PM
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