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I remember the first time I witnessed a Beta Bux "bail out" in real life, I could hardly believe it myself. This woman I know (an internet 'model') got knocked up by a Tinder one night stand. Sometime early in her second trimester she made a woe-is-me-I'm-so-blue post on social media and one of her high tech Silicon Valley big moneyed beta orbiters came knocking on her door with a cup of soup and shoulder to cry on the same night. She was visibly pregnant by then, and I remember feeling disbelie…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/11/19 06:59 PM
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I hear and understand your frustration and agree with others that when both partners are working there needs to be reasonable division of labor at home. What I don't quite understand is why it takes 3 1/2 hrs to clean your house? Are you trying to clean the whole thing in one go? My advice would be to get on top of the cleaning situation by giving the whole thing -- each room -- a thorough top-to-bottom cleaning and then put a daily/weekly/monthly/seasonal cleaning schedule in place so all you h…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/19 11:38 PM
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Cheating begins at disrespect. Once you disrespect your partner by disrespecting the boundaries of either the physical or emotional space of the relationship, it's just a slippery slope toward sex. She is disrespecting her man and showing submission to other men by a) refusing to live with a man she supposedly loves while having no problem cohabitating with another man; and b) not only revealing her breasts to other men but wearing one of their shirts like the territorial flag of a conqueror. I …
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/08/19 08:18 PM
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Yes, use precise language. "Dominant" definitely reads as BDSM. But "assertive," "decisive," "take-charge" are descriptors that communicate clearly the qualities you desire. This also frees potential candidates to boldly embody those traits from the start without having to feel out/calibrate for your assumed level of feminist sensitivity.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/19 06:41 AM
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The driving lessons are a valid concern if her mother skipped out on her and her siblings indefinitely and there will be no adult in the household. The family is now solely dependent on her for the foreseeable future. She needs to be able to drive to take her siblings to school, to take them to the doctor if need be, to buy groceries, to go to the job she intends to work for the summer. Unless you live in a city with well connected public transportation, driving is a life essential for the avera…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/06/19 05:21 PM
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Do you have links to Amy's social media? The snippets I've seen of her gardening, homesteading and cooking look interesting, but all I can find is an old LuLaRoe Instagram page that hasn't been updated in two years. Does she have her own channel?
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/19 10:09 PM
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I think terms of endearment should arise naturally. They really can't be forced. For a man, I think the simple, affectionate "babe" might work well as placeholder until something else presents itself.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 08:27 PM
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Beautifully stated. There's no clearer "demonstration of high value," in my opinion.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/19 01:29 AM
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Absolutely, and I've honestly been surprised by just how much it affects a man's RMV for me. I have found that my attraction to certain men has increased if I've been impressed by the quality of women in their past, and likewise my attraction has plummeted if I've been underwhelmed by the quality. Not just in terms of looks. A history of success limited to hot promiscuous bimbos will tarnish a "ladies man" in my mind as much as -- if not more than -- a series of plain Janes, who might boast othe…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 11:16 PM
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Food is the way to their hearts. Two of our older managers have wives that pack their lunches every day, not once have they ever had anything negative to say about their wives. In fact they often speak very fondly of their wives, and clearly cherish them very dearly. The rest of my male counterparts do not show this much affection publicly, while they might not say anything negative about their wives they don't say anything positive either. A packed lunch is a great way to show your man you're t…
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 03:37 AM
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​ I'm sorry, but I'm cracking up over here with the mental image of a woman angrily cleaning in a corset and bunny tail! Sexy 'rage cleaning' reminded me of this scene from Mad Men: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=buWU5pm3hok
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/19 03:03 AM
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I hear you, and often find myself wondering the same: are my standards really that high? Am I overly picky? I have girlfriends who have slept with dozens of men and it's just beyond my powers of imagination how any woman can find that many men worthy of that extreme intimacy and vulnerability. It's worth keeping in mind that your partner -- your "one" -- doesn't ultimately have to be the one to fulfill all your needs. You can debate politics and talk history with friends, colleagues, or family m…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/19 02:52 AM
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Calm down. Quit catastrophizing. :) Love is a leap of faith. You only have control of two things in a relationship: your own actions and reactions. No matter how well you vet your partner you will never be able to control or fully predict his choices. If you want guarantees in love, you'll find none. Everyone is capable of cheating. Your best hope of preventing it is to reduce opportunities for infidelity by maintaining clear physical and emotional boundaries with members of the opposite sex (in…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/19 05:34 AM
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This is a great list. I'm not sure what I'd add except: Maintain muscle; this is what supports skin and keeps it taut as natural collagen declines. Light reflects better off firm skin, which is what gives that youthful 'glow'. Hydration is super important, and salt is crucial to well hydrated skin. Since I started drinking 'sole' (water in which salt has been dissolved) my skin has never looked smoother or more radiant. If you eat clean, you shouldn't have to worry about getting 'too much' salt …
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/19 12:06 AM
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How can a mans natural desire to have sex with as many attractive women as possible be managed so it won’t destroy a monogamous relationship? Do you just have to vet properly for the right man? "Keep his belly full and his balls empty" is good advice and may deter most men from actively seeking partners on the side. But studies have shown that most people (both men and women) are capable of and willing to cheat if 1) the opportunity presents itself and 2) they think they can get away with it. Wh…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/19 05:27 PM
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I love MMM! My personal style could be described as 'vintage', or at least vintage-inspired. How I wish I could go all in with those outfits and hairstyles in this day and age without looking like I was wearing a costume! It's National Hat Day, though, so at least I have an excuse to pull out the vintage hats. ​
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/19 08:07 PM
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I think he was very likely under the influence of one substance or another.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/18 06:28 PM
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I live in a major suburb of a major East Coast US metropolis. Off the top of my head, I can remember being catcalled exactly twice. Both remembered instances were mere whistling; flattering enough, not offensive or intrusive of my space. I do think the perceived incidence of catcalling is likely exaggerated online, and likely more prevalent in certain areas than in others. While I've rarely been harassed just walking down the street, I have had some frightening encounters on public transit (buse…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/18 06:20 PM
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To be able to identify "red flags" you first must identify with absolute clarity your personal values and dealbreakers in a relationship. These will be different for every woman. For me, personally, what you have described would indeed be red flags. Bear in mind, however, that red flags are simply that: warnings to proceed with vigilance and caution. Red flags may precede the breaking of the deal if certain behavioral patterns aren't corrected. By 26 I'd expect a man to have his drinking under c…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/18 08:04 PM
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I do barre, ballet (NYC Ballet workout) and the Victoria's Secret Angels workouts (you can find them on YouTube and Instagram). I'll do workouts from a few folks I follow on Instagram (hilariabaldwin; fitformebycourtney; balletbeautiful; bodybysimone; stansleyfitness; krissycela). I do a lot of bodyweight work, light to moderate dumb bells, ankle weights, resistance bands. Yoga with Adriene on YouTube. I walk at least three miles a day, sometimes six if I manage to get out in both the morning an…
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/18 12:00 AM
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Depends on why one isn't "in the mood." Barring extreme physical or emotional upset, I think a woman should tend to her partner's sexual needs the way she would tend to any other necessity of daily life (i.e., childrearing, meal preparation, dishes, laundry, etc.). One may not always feel "in the mood" to go to work, or make a grocery run, or pack the kids' lunch boxes, either; but there are things that must be done. Marriage maintenance (or long term commitment maintenance) goes hand-in-hand wi…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/18 10:13 PM
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When you can't tell where the beard/moustache ends and his nose hair begins. Not kidding. I once knew a guy whose facial hair appeared to flow from his nostrils like the headsprings of two mighty rivers. Neck beards and back hair are also gross. I can't stand dirty or ragged fingernails. They're coming nowhere near my lady parts. Weight, grooming, and hygiene cover most of what a man can control physically. Fashion comes down to taste. My personal preferences don't include tattoos or piercings/m…
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/18 03:03 PM
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To me it's not an issue of insecurity but one of respect for the relationship. In general, I think it's best to minimize potential for needless tension and drama whenever possible. I personally feel it's inappropriate for a married man or woman to confide intimacies to someone of the opposite sex, or to spend time alone (outside work) with the opposite sex. There is simply no reason good enough I can think of to risk either the temptation or the appearance of impropriety. Most cheating is a crim…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/18 01:33 AM
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We have this idea in our modern age that our romantic partner -- our "one" -- should, by essence of their very "oneness," be all things to us, able to satisfy infinitely our every need. It's a lot to expect of a single person. Many relationships fail under such strain. No one man or woman can shoulder the burden of all those needs. It's a good thing then that we also have friends, activity partners, family members, neighbors, colleagues, and internet communities who can share some of the burden …
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/18 06:49 PM
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Unfortunately, it's deviation from that hardwired stoicism that can raise alarm in many women, particularly weaker women accustomed to being led by a man. Anything that undermines a woman's sense of her man's strength and leadership can cause feelings of insecurity and disdain which may be as hardwired as male emotional reticence. In my friend's case, her boyfriend is pretty 'alpha' by almost any estimation; she adores him, but the minute he shows a sign of vulnerability she explodes in outright…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/18 02:56 AM
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I'm sorry for your pain. It sounds like you have done a lot of introspection and are growing from it. This is all really sound advice, especially: Do not take the things he says he needs lightly. Do not take them with a grain of salt. Take them as truth. He means them. Many people are so dismissive of each other's needs, even when their partners are open and frank about their importance. Women can tend to be resistant to a man's expressed needs, I think, because they instinctively balk at or res…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/18 11:11 PM
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Are you sure he's fine? I ask because my father passed a little over a year ago, and it put me in a real funk for a while. At the time of his passing (after a long, painful illness) there was a lot of other stress and anxiety swirling around me, and the only thing that helped me through the day was taking a few hours to zone out completely with some mindless distraction. Could video games be that for your husband? The death of his mother, preceded by the stress of her long illness and the stress…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/18 09:22 PM
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I think you're looking for a guarantee, and we know life comes with few of those. Marriage is a leap of faith, like any other. Only it's a leap you take holding someone else's hand, so you have to be even braver. Your own resolve may be eternal; you can work as hard as you can to honor and strengthen it, but the other person is always going to be a variable in the equation: how eternal is their commitment, how hard are they working? Commitment is a choice, and each of us chooses to whom and how …
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 07:48 PM
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No, I hear what you're saying. Some situations you absolutely need to walk away from. Child molestation would be one. Physical or ongoing emotional abuse, etc. A husband taking early retirement or otherwise losing "status" wouldn't be grounds to walk, in my opinion. A lot of the time, though, people simply bail the minute the going gets tough, or the tingles subside, or someone new turns their head. The best you can do before making that lifelong commitment is to be honest in evaluation of each …
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 07:10 PM
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I often meditate on this quote from C.S. Lewis in "Mere Christianity": The promise, made when I am in love and because I am in love, to be true to the beloved as long as I live, commits me to being true even if I cease to be in love. A promise must be about things that I can do, about actions. Commitment is a practice: a continuous choice to love, to be loving, to act lovingly in service of the other. It's a daily renewal of that promise to each other, despite the vagaries of life and human hear…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 06:11 PM
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I'm not a practitioner but am very familiar with Wicca through a good friend whose parents were actually the founders of one of the 'traditions' within it. Yes, I absolutely feel that Wicca can be compatible with RPW principles. If my recollection is right, Wicca focuses heavily on 'gender' (in the metaphysical sense) and balancing energetic polarities within oneself and those inherent to the natural world. It embraces and honors all aspects -- light and dark, young and old -- of both the god an…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 04:12 AM
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For everyone trying to break their spouses of fingernail biting/chewing, I recommend informing them that one can get paronychia, cellulitis and/or sepsis and potentially die from the habit. For extra effectiveness, I recommend finding and sharing graphic pictures of said infections. Mouths are full of bacteria, which is then transferred to broken skin vulnerable to infection. It's not just a bad habit; it's bad hygiene. I try to be tolerant of a man's idiosyncrasies (and hope for the same tolera…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/18 10:02 PM
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I'm familiar with it, but am unsure what sort of commentary on it you're specifically looking for. Could you elaborate? In a wolf pack, I believe mating is limited to the alpha male and female. ​
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/18 08:38 PM
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It all comes down to the value/scarcity principle. We value what is scarce; we hold precious what is rare. I'm not sure that the friendzone example is a direct male value equivalent to a woman's n-count. A man's r-count (relationship count) would be more comparable, but in terms of 1) scarcity of his emotional commitment and 2) quality of the women to whom he committed and from whom he secured commitment. A man desires to be a woman's sexual 'one'; a woman desires to be a man's emotional 'one'. …
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/18 07:47 PM
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I remember reading a study rather recently that found that MOST people, both men and women, were willing to cheat if opportunity presented itself and they felt they could get away with it, regardless of reported satisfaction in their relationships. If that's the case, then I'd say to minimize the risk of cheating one's best course of action would be discretion and deterrence. Reduce opportunity. Both parties practice vigilant discretion in their dealings with the opposite sex. Enforce hard marit…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/18 04:40 PM
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From your post I understand that you have a high libido and that you consider 3x a week (with oral on days off) too little for your satisfaction. So my advice might shock you, and you're free to dismiss it: try dropping sex down to ONCE a week for a while. No oral on off days. No porn for either of you. My reasoning is this: "familiarity breeds contempt." We desire what we don't have. Esther Perel says the secret to maintaining desire in a long-term relationship is distance. It's essential to gi…
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/18 07:54 PM
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It does a great job of working the oil into the skin, and presumably any other product you might use. You can keep it in the refrigerator or somewhere cool and it's excellent at de-puffing after a rough night. I do think it has benefited my skin texture but not to the dramatic extent that I'd recommend investing big $$$ in one of the more expensive rollers. When paired with a steam treatment it's a bit like ironing out a skin-shirt, I like to think to myself. Although this might be more psycholo…
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/18 05:23 PM
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On waking I like to dunk my face in a shallow bowl of sparkling mineral water. The effervescence gently exfoliates my skin and the bubbles wiggle between my eyelashes to help wake me up. I might pull some frozen used green tea bags out of the freezer if my eyes are puffy. Then I'll grab some Badger rose face oil and work it in to my face and neck with my jade roller. Skincare-wise, that's about it for me. I don't use sunscreen because I believe it's more toxic than it is helpful. We need some su…
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/18 05:06 PM
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Ideally, my Captain wouldn't require me to "calm" him down or "soften" him because he'd be in control of his own emotions. There's a difference between aggression and assertiveness. The latter is desirable, the former is potentially dangerous. In general, I think it's a bad idea for a woman to make herself "vulnerable" before male "aggression". Wilful insistence is also a different scenario from anger and would require a different approach. Tears aren't the appropriate lubricant for every confli…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/18 03:08 PM
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Short hair can be very feminine. Some of the most glamorous stars of old Hollywood had notably short hair. That's where I'd personally look for inspiration if it works with your own style. YouTube has a lot of great tutorials for vintage hairstyles. Here's one on achieving Marilyn Monroe's famous look.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/18 11:07 PM
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I make glorious homemade 'quickles' (i.e., quick pickles), but so far that's been the extent of my foray into fermentation. Since my first serious attempt with homemade sauerkraut went sour (thanks to a small errant spider I missed on the cabbage), I've been mindful of the dangers of home fermentation. I once successfully (read: accidentally) fermented marinara sauce when a jar got lost in the bowels of an overcrowded refrigerator whose thermostat was on the fritz. Mm... tomato champagne. My fat…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/18 09:39 PM
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Your face is probably more attractive than you think it is. You'd be surprised how far a bit of careful attention to things like eyebrow shaping and eyelash curling can go. Add a bit of color, clear up any adolescent skin issues, lose whatever puppy fat may remain in the face, and you could be a knockout waiting to blossom. Google some gossip rag pictures of celebrities without make up. Most aren't much to look at without the glamour. Now, I'm not advocating that you employ deceptive make up pra…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/18 11:31 PM
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So many of mine have already been covered. I don't really think it's fair to hold someone's childhood family situation against them. While I understand that a lot of bad behaviors are heritable and patterned, and that early unresolved emotional trauma can carry over into adulthood, I'd rather not judge a man by uncontrollable past circumstances. Instead, I try to look for evidence that he has overcome whatever struggles life has handed him. In fact, I find such resilient men on average more impr…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 06:23 PM
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Seven or nine year relationships with no marriage in sight have become so normal that I think a lot of mend forget that women even want to get married. My brother took seven years to marry his now wife. At the seven year mark she started pushing for a ring, so he dumped her in order to pursue (finally) another woman he had always crushed on and beta orbited. When that woman had no interest in him, he went crawling back to the first one with a ring. Then he made them live together for another two…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 08:02 PM
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Hi! Sounds like we're pretty similarly sized. I'm 5'2 (and 3/4", so I usually round up to 5'3) and my weight is usually in the 105 (a bit too skinny) - 115 range. I aim to keep it at 110. You're right that you can't spot reduce fat, but you can effectively spot train, I think. High multiple sets of any weighted exercise should firm you up and increase size in the desired area. If you're just interested in "toning" you can't really go wrong with bodyweight exercises. They require no fancy equipme…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 07:37 PM
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Honestly, will power is the only answer. Like a muscle, it can be developed through exercise. Start by saying "no;" repeat. I simply cut out all liquid calories and non-whole foods from my diet for the most part. Definitely avoid added sugars. Don't snack between meals. Eat only when hungry. Get off the insulin roller coaster. Stay active. Doing this my weight has settled just where I want it. I also do intermittent fasting (fasting for about 18-20 hours and then eating one or two meals in that …
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 12:47 AM
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This. I do think M/W is comparable in a sense to the A/B dichotomy in that both polarities are desirable in a partner and one should strive to integrate them. As I'm the one who mentioned it the other day, I should clarify that I was speaking of something that men largely have no conscious control over, which you've described perfectly here. Practically speaking, I'm just not sure how much of a husband's perception of a woman is within her control in this case. She can work to maintain the balan…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 05:54 PM
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I keep my skin clear, my hair shiny, and my body fit at all times. I wear makeup most days, but my boyfriend is well acquainted with my bare face and always has been. My point is that you should find yourself a man who thinks you are beautiful no matter what (within reason), and never puts pressure on you to look dolled up 100% of the time. This underscores the importance of basic maintenance. Good hygiene, fitness, and grooming are the best canvas a woman has to work with. A fit body, healthy a…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 05:48 PM
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Have you tried actually speaking to him about the drought in your marriage? I think the "Madonna/whore" complex can be very real for some men. It might be a tricky transition to go from viewing your wife's body as that of your lover to viewing it as a life-giving vessel. I've heard men talk about the difficulty of reconciling both aspects of the woman they love. For those men it is a challenge to enjoy their wives bodies for their own pleasure, while still honoring those bodies as the bearers an…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 05:16 PM
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This is a fascinating discussion. I suppose in this day and age I might be labeled "demisexual" (had never heard this before). While I can objectively recognize and appreciate physically attractive men, I have never -- never -- felt any kind of sexual desire or longing in the absence of an emotional connection, which for me absolutely must precede sex. Once that's there, I am sexually ravenous for that one person. Even if I were, say, to fantasize sexually about someone attractive -- like a cele…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/18 07:14 PM
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People could help you better if they better understood the nature of that darkness. Are we talking about drugs, self-mutilation, a middle school goth phase? Or are we talking about having black out unprotected sex with hundreds of strangers? There are gradations of darkness. I think u/Pixie0310 gave you excellent advice. If you have recovered from your past emotionally and you're receiving treatment for any mental health issues that may linger, I think it's okay to let your past be your past. If…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/18 06:46 PM
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If you really feel this man could be the love of your life -- the father of your children -- do you really want to take the chance of losing him forever when you could just talk to him honestly instead? What do you have to lose here? An international move is a big deal. Maybe he didn't feel that he had the right to ask you to do that for him. Let him know clearly you're willing to do it, if you are; or regret not doing so and wonder "what if" for the rest of your life. What's the worst that coul…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/18 01:16 AM
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I only have experience with OKCupid, so I don't know how similar the set up of other sites/apps is. Anyway, OKC gives you the option of declaring what sorts of experiences you're open to/looking for. So if I were only looking for something serious I'd check "long-term dating" and omit "short-term dating" or "casual sex". Then hopefully anyone who came across my profile could figure out for himself that I ain't his good time girl and move forward with messaging me or move on.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/18 02:03 PM
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This woman sounds like a right idiot undeserving of acknowledgement. I don't know where the Mormons stand on sex education in schools, but this is just flat wrong: While we’re here, let’s talk a bit more about pleasure and biology. Did you know that a man CAN'T get a woman pregnant without having an orgasm? Which means that we can conclude getting a woman pregnant is a pleasurable act for men. No orgasm is necessary to impregnate a woman. Pre-ejaculate can get the job done (which is why the pull…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 05:34 PM
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I'm not sure if weight lifting would necessarily increase SMV, but in many cases it can certainly help with body image and strengthening your muscles and surprisingly bones as well. This could be important to note if osteoporosis is something your family may have genetically passed on to you. Weight lifting can absolutely increase a woman's SMV. Underlying muscle tone helps to keep skin taut and firm, and will help a woman to maintain a youthful 'glow' even as she ages (light reflects better off…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 09:09 PM
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I respect your feelings about what happened, but from a neutral outsider's perspective I can't see that you did anything wrong. What exactly did she "have" with the guy, whom she only knew for a "few days", and when she already had a boyfriend? A little confused here. Men may come and go. Friends may come and go too, for that matter. I guess my judgment would depend on the strength of the friendship vs the strength of my feelings for the man in question and how much of a future I saw with him. I…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/18 08:59 PM
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Yes, I agree that it's unfair to go into a relationship expecting a person to change who they are naturally inclined to be. But sometimes it's worth the conversation if everything else is on point because it might be worth it to the other person to please their partner and keep her/his commitment going forward, as long as the change is a reasonable and healthy one and not something that might cause later resentment. Some things can be negotiated and may be worth negotiating: like if you are unwi…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/18 06:26 PM
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You haven't clearly stated what you find so unattractive about this man. Is it something he could improve? Could he grow a beard, lift weights? Is he a 2/10 in terms of physical attractiveness, or is that an estimate of your own excitement about him? Is he just not your "type"? Looks and lust are ephemeral, bear in mind. The lasting qualities are far more important in a LTR, but having said that: everyone deserves to be desired. If you don't feel that you can truly desire and love this man the w…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/18 05:04 PM
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It will be different for every man, but I'd imagine the real value under consideration isn't so much a woman's professional accomplishment as her evidenced work ethic. As Jordan Peterson has astutely noted: most people, both women and men, don't have exciting careers; they have jobs which they are paid to do because otherwise they wouldn't do them. Hardly anyone would work if there were no necessity to work. Men like to provide for their women, and many would gladly support a woman who made her …
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/18 04:34 PM
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Yes. While I've always naturally had a "red pilled" frame of mind, I spent years feeling like there was something "wrong" with me for having this visceral resistance to third wave feminism and modern intersexual dynamics. When I discovered RPW the world no longer seemed so upside down.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 06:48 PM
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The biological imperative to egg-guard is a factor among many, as mentioned by others. Frankly, I'm surprised that more modern women don't feel this apprehension more keenly. Sex is the most intimate, most vulnerable act in which two people can engage. Until very recently (a blink of the eye in human history) it most often resulted in nothing less than the creation of new life. There's little casual about sex, in my opinion. It can be enormously consequential both emotionally and physically. It'…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 02:41 AM
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I think you're right that this is a similar (if not directly equivalent) female version of the AF/BB scenario. There was one particular alpha friend I had who, while spinning multiple plates, used to call me every night at two o'clock in the morning to read his poetry and dump out all his feelings. He'd complain for hours about these women and then say, "Someday I'm going to marry you, you know." I had no romantic interest in him at all, but found it amusing that here was this textbook alpha -- …
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/18 03:47 AM
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he knows I’m a good woman but feels as though this is something he /needs/ to do. If he knows you to be a good woman, demand he treat you like one. THAT is something a good man who values a good woman /needs/ to do. ​
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 06:22 PM
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It's heartening to read that you are taking the necessary efforts to correct course, and I find this a prudent addendum to your tale of redemption. I do think it's early yet to assess what damages you've incurred in the long run. You hope your ability to pair bond hasn't been compromised, but this is relative to the pairbonding abilities of women with like history--not to those of women with more reserved sexual pasts. For your sake, I wish you a smooth trajectory toward happiness. Consequences …
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/18 06:03 PM
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I don't condone cheating for anyone, and am disinclined to view male straying as more pardonable an offense. If both parties have agreed to a monogamous relationship then any breach of that relationship's terms by either party is betrayal, period. A man's cheating may (generally) be less emotionally motivated; however, that doesn't lessen the emotional impact of his cheating on the betrayed partner. For me, personally, I make no distinction between the sexual act and the love bond. They're insep…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 04:56 AM
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Never understood "dread" as a tactic in a healthy, loving relationship. It's disrespectful, manipulative, and immature. Frankly, it's behavior more befitting a neurotic woman than a strong, self-assured man. I have an anxious temperament and this would compromise my emotional well-being in a way I'd never tolerate. Think you can do better, bucko? By all means, do. As will I.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/18 04:34 AM
3

I find myself (as a jealous woman with high personal standards) torn between wanting to know very little about a prospective mate's exes and wanting to "vet" them for myself. If a man has a history of attracting beautiful, "high quality" (by my own standards) women, he immediately becomes sexier to me. If, however, I deem his taste in past women questionable (they're ugly, slutty, etc.), whatever budding attraction was between us dies instantly on my end. Any man can bed a hundred women if he ha…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/18 10:07 PM
2

I'm sorry you're having to go through this, and hope you'll be able to get to the root of the problem quickly for the sake of your marriage. I agree with previous posters that it sounds like there's something more going on under the surface besides physical discomfort. Porn addiction would be my guess; habitual abuse can desensitize a man to real sex with a real woman, and the younger the man is when picks up the porn habit, the harder it is to break the addiction and reset his dopamine receptor…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/18 04:58 AM
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