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I believe that this is Tempest's response to my pm to her regarding this very struggle I am facing. I think she put the word out there about some issues I am having a hard time wrapping my head around. I don't know what all this high dominance, low dominance theory entails. I have always let my husband call the shots except for a few cases that I could not because he was being a complete idiot. I am guilty of keeping my worries to myself and now they are coming back to bite me in the ass. I walk…
/r/RedPillWives17/05/17 02:44 AM
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The private message was to you as you well know and I did not delete it. I am not flouncing because I am hurt by personal advice given here. I am taking a stand which I believe will resonate with other readers. You have amassed a number of good women here who can benefit from the honesty and philosophy of this sub. Yopu are ruining it with your political viewpoints. Dear Phantom I am writing to you because I am intrigued by RPW and yet I don’t really know if I will fit in with this community. I …
/r/RedPillWives02/11/16 12:03 AM
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You are wrong about this. Prove your statement. Other than one private message, I have kept my opinions to myself until now. I realize I am burning my bridges and have no intentions of returning. I am sorry to walk away, but I just can't abide by the sentiment here any longer.
/r/RedPillWives01/11/16 11:24 PM
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It has everything to do with the other candidate, because most of the articles that are presented here are from extreme right wing news sources. I just reached a point where I had to speak out. The fact that the alt right has such influence here is alarming to me. I do not agree with most of the rhetoric they espouse about African Americans, Jews, Muslims and women. I despise their ties to white supremacists. I am grateful for the support and encouragement I have received from the women here and…
/r/RedPillWives01/11/16 10:27 PM
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The rules changed when Hillary became secretary of state. Up until that time using a personal server for email had been an accepted practice. Yes she should have followed the new rules, but her actions were not a result of stupidity. Instead they were a matter of convenience and privacy. I am sure she regrets her decision now. I find it interesting that the Donald's refusal to release his tax forms is disregarded here. While everyone is demanding full disclosure from Hillary, he is allowed to sk…
/r/RedPillWives01/11/16 09:28 PM
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I agree that this article is a stretch by any imagination. However, I feel you are showing the same ignorance when you classify Hillary as a fucktard just because you don't like her.
/r/RedPillWives01/11/16 08:00 PM
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Never mind. I got it. Its thanks right
/r/RedPillWives24/10/16 09:43 PM
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What does that mean?
/r/RedPillWives24/10/16 09:42 PM
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Thanks. I am happy for you in your new role as a mod.
/r/RedPillWives24/10/16 09:40 PM
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Good: My job is going well and I am learning so much. My husband and I have taken up kayaking and have had two fabulous trips down the river. Bad: I finally signed on to face book and my son told me my profile picture had to go. Ugly: I guess it would be my profile picture.
/r/RedPillWives24/10/16 09:12 PM
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This is well deserved. Thank you for the time you devote to this sub.
/r/RedPillWives24/10/16 02:19 PM
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I'll play. I could care less if anyone shows up at my funeral. I'll take the coma for 20. I don't think I'm cut out for jail. I process everything through my sight, and have a habit of "not hearing" which lands me in trouble anyway. Are you kidding? Shaving is not that much of an inconvenience. I would keep my hand. I would rather be a pirate wearing a bandanna on my head than a hook on my arm. I really like having the use of my hand. edited for spelling
/r/RedPillWives12/10/16 10:40 PM
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Well maybe they need to be reminded on occasion that they have mean girls in their own neck of the woods.
/r/RedPillWives06/10/16 11:24 PM
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Yes! Yes! Yes! Find something that makes you happy and people/men will gravitate toward you out of a desire to share in the positive energy you give off. I hope I am not sounding like an earth muffin here. It is simple. A happy person who finds pleasure in life is naturally going to be more attractive.
/r/RedPillWives06/10/16 11:10 PM
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To be honest, I really did want to forget. I almost deleted my post because I found the BP response so appalling. By the time they were done with their comments they had reduced me to a pathetic char woman married to an insensitive brute who cut the arms off of the chairs because he was too obese to fit in them. Their hatred toward my husband was pretty unsettling. One person even expressed their wish that he have an accident with his chainsaw. At the time I was trying to make a point about lett…
/r/RedPillWives06/10/16 10:23 PM
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Your comment made all the anxiety i felt in sharing something very personal with this community dissolve in an instant. I have learned a great deal from the honesty of the women who write here and I vow to give them the same honesty in return.
/r/RedPillWives23/09/16 02:59 AM
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We've already decided on an "up and coming" area, cause he feels we'd get more investment there. And I'm okay with that since kids will either be doing homeschool or private school anyway. I definitely look forward to turning whatever house we get into a home for the both of us! Sounds like you both are on sound footing and will make a sound decision. (Sorry I couldn't resist) Do not settle for shoddy workmanship. There are well built houses to be had, if you can see the diamond in the rough. Ag…
/r/RedPillWives19/09/16 10:50 PM
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If your SO is looking at the structural soundness of the house, the quality of the lot ( how it drains, what surrounds the house, the zoning codes, etc.), the plumbing, heating and appliances, and so forth, trust his judgement. However, be sure and make your wishes know about the neighborhood, the school system, and the surrounding area. You can do a great deal to improve a house and make it a home you love, but you can't change where it is located. Best of luck. I did not like the first house w…
/r/RedPillWives19/09/16 09:55 PM
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That is reassuring. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWives14/09/16 09:20 PM
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That is so nice to hear. Thank you for your encouragement.
/r/RedPillWives14/09/16 09:14 PM
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I enjoy the spirit of camaraderie here. It is a rare thing to find.
/r/RedPillWives14/09/16 08:51 PM
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I really am learning! I am working on a computer several hours a week for my job. It is really hard and I feel so inept because I work with young people and I often have to swallow my pride and ask for help. However it is almost always a really simple fix like one or two key strokes. I have found my most important command has been control Z which is undo. Who knew?
/r/RedPillWives14/09/16 08:47 PM
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Your comment made my day.
/r/RedPillWives14/09/16 08:40 PM
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I hope you are feeling better. Yes I have learned how easy it is to focus on the worries and the little setbacks when you don't look at the big picture. I tend to be a worrier and I am trying very hard to follow a saying of my niece: not my monkeys, not my circus. thank you for your reply.
/r/RedPillWives14/09/16 08:39 PM
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It is good to know I can express a sense of humor. I have had a hard time in understanding the concept of tone.
/r/RedPillWives14/09/16 08:34 PM
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Thank you. I was inspired to make a change in my life after reading this sub for a year.
/r/RedPillWives14/09/16 08:31 PM
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If you are 5'6" and a size 10 you would seem to me to be a healthy weight. It does sound like you would be happier if you could drop another size and I am sure you could do it, if you can get into the right mind set to do this. The most important thing is to recognize your self worth and I do not mean self esteem. Find something in life that gives you satisfaction and pride. It can be anything. The secret is it can be anything, but you have to do it well. You will not be an interesting person if…
/r/RedPillWives06/09/16 02:52 AM
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He said it first. It was early August. I was nineteen and he was twenty two and we had only been seeing each other for two months. My parents hated him and forbade me to see him, so we had to sneak around. I was going away to college that fall after spending my first year at a branch at home. My parents were threatening to keep me at home for another year if I continued to see him. I wanted to go away to college more than anything in the world at that point in my life, but I also was completely …
/r/RedPillWives06/09/16 01:19 AM
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Wow! You just reaffirmed my faith in this sub giving good advice. I completely with this.
/r/RedPillWives05/09/16 06:26 PM
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Tonight as I stood on our deck and tended the grill, I admired the large pin oak in our yard and I marveled at how much that tree had grown in twenty four years. That tree started out as a baby sapling in our flower bed, started from a seed from a tree in the neighbor’s yard. I remember like it was yesterday, the day my husband and I transplanted that tree, working together to get it in the ground on a cold fall day. That tree grew as quickly as our children did. That tree would be my metaphor f…
/r/RedPillWives02/09/16 01:41 AM
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I am ending my novel here to go and put supper on the table for my poor husband who is suffering right now as i try to find my way in this new job. I plan to write a field experience post on my decision to take this job in the future. Thank you for your reply.
/r/RedPillWives24/08/16 10:21 PM
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The thing is: I am working with young people in this job, some young enough to be my kids and I don't want to be a pain in the ass by constantly asking questions if I can learn the stuff on my own. There were no pretenses when I was hired for this job. I made it clear I d very little computer skills and no social media experience ( I did not mention this site lol) They hired me because my lack of 21st century skills were not as important as my knowledge and experience in the field.
/r/RedPillWives24/08/16 10:18 PM
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I am saving as I go here so I don't end up erasing my words. the challenge for me will be to use Facebook only for work and not have friends and family in the picture. I hope it is easy to do and as simple as refusing a request to be a friend. I am learning. Yesterday I found the urban dictionary and read quite a bit of it. I now understand some of the acronyms I needed to and some of those acronyms I could have done with out ever learning.
/r/RedPillWives24/08/16 10:08 PM
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I am sorry I took so long to reply to your wise advice. I am actually in a new job that requires I get up to snuff on my computer skills and pretty much demands that I join face book because it is a marketing tool. I have been so busy I haven't been on here much.
/r/RedPillWives24/08/16 09:58 PM
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One more question and I am going to bed. I finally typed put my comment and hit send before I accidentally erased it for the second time. Sighs in relief Is sighs in relief in the right context? How do italicize it?
/r/RedPillWives18/08/16 01:57 AM
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Now it seems I am so behind it is like learning a new language. i don't understand the context, the nuances, and most of all the acronyms that every one seems to know and take for granted. Also when you say This does that mean I am in total agreement?
/r/RedPillWives18/08/16 01:47 AM
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I am embarrassed to admit the only place I log in and comment is this sub. I know i need to get on face book. Even my 90 yr old mil is on face book and she has a dial up connection. I have just always worried about the privacy factor as a teacher.
/r/RedPillWives18/08/16 01:44 AM
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I am doing my best to improve in my social media skills. I just learned another hard lesson. If I am going to type more than two or three sentences, I had better do it on word and paste it because I just lost my entire paragraph. I did visit the IRC and I am learning. It is just not easy and I don't have a lot of time to devote to it. But I am determined to come out of the dark ages
/r/RedPillWives17/08/16 11:42 PM
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Thank you. I have read that post and that is why I asked for further insight on the subject. CQ pointed out a point that hit home with me and Camille gave me several aha moments with her post.
/r/RedPillWives17/08/16 01:51 AM
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Thank you CQ for your comment. I too abhor the concept of marrying down (that a woman settles by marrying a man who has a lower SMV than her) If a woman chooses to marry a man she loves and trusts, she must be prepared to accept the lifestyle that he can provide for her. I would also like to say that I read Camille's post Why we must Discriminate from start to finish and all of the comments of the article and all of the comments on this sub. It has definitely given me food for thought and answer…
/r/RedPillWives17/08/16 01:33 AM
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The first thing I would like to say is that I believe that every child born into this fucked up world should be wanted, and provided for physically ,emotionally, and spiritually. Of course I realize that this is not at all realistic, but I still hope that it is possible. I would say to the OP that he is spot on in facing his concerns and I respect him for it. My husband and I were in agreement that we would have two kids before we started our family. We were also in agreement about the sacrifice…
/r/RedPillWives16/08/16 12:07 AM
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But to be honest, the financial reason isn't the main reason I don't want to have another child. The main reason I don't want to have another child is that I feel like children have a very detrimental impact on the husband-wife relationship. Allow me to explain. I stopped reading your post at this point because I instinctively knew that it would not support your argument any further in my perspective and I was already in agreement with you. I will elaborate a bit later.
/r/RedPillWives15/08/16 11:12 PM
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I am having trouble understanding why so many women of this sub disapprove of young women getting an education when 55% of the survey respondents had a bachelor’s degree or more. What is it that makes young women today decide that a college degree is not worth the cost? Is it because you could not find a job after you graduated? Is it because the classes did not seem to add to your quality of life? Is it because you do not plan to work after you are married and the degree is not worth the studen…
/r/RedPillWives15/08/16 07:07 PM
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My second goal is to pay attention to my tone here as well as in my personal life and I have to credit the mods of this sub for pointing out my lacking in this area. I hope I have not come across as a complete bitch, because in all honesty my husband and I rarely fight, but I am starting to think that may not be a good thing.
/r/RedPillWives04/08/16 01:26 AM
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My goal is to become assertive. I am an "avoid conflict at all costs" kind of person, the one who smooths things over. That is the passive side of me. The aggressive side of me is the woman who will snap when things overwhelm her emotionally and run for cover. I don't fight, I retreat and its usually under a layer of icy detachment. I also refuse to cry in front of my husband. I know that is really fucked up. So it seems the solution for me is to be assertive and say "I am feeling hurt" or "I ne…
/r/RedPillWives04/08/16 12:42 AM
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What I miss is the easy confidence I used to have with my husband. And I'm trying to get it back. I am on the same mission. I just typed out a long reply but the damn thing just disappeared on me. I will try to say more later.
/r/RedPillWives03/08/16 10:24 PM
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I remember when I was young and totally infatuated with my boyfriend. He made me melt many times for sure, but the time I remember most occurred several years later when we were married with three kids and both working full time. It was insanely busy and stressful at that time and we had an argument over something I don’t remember now. I was pretty much shattered after that fight and I know it hurt him also. It was summer and he left the house and went into our yard. I stayed in the kitchen and …
/r/RedPillWives01/08/16 01:37 AM
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Thank you so very much for your replies. They mean a lot. I will write back in some depth what draws me to this sub even though I always seem to rub people the wrong way. I am headed to our cabin for the weekend where we have no internet connection. It will be a few days till I can respond
/r/RedPillWives29/07/16 07:56 PM
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You are a smart lady. As much as family can make a marriage bat shit crazy, it is an important part of a marriage and the best thing a spouse can do is be a sympathetic ear and a diplomat who does their best to help their SO navigate the rough waters when there is discord.
/r/RedPillWives28/07/16 09:24 PM
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Well I have to say I admire your objectivity in this. i think it speaks volumes about your maturity to see his mothers point of view in this scenario when it is an obvious inconvenience to you to meet her wishes. I do believe this can be solved however by making a compromise with her. I believe you should point out those times when it would make more sense for her to come visit you, encourage her to visit and then make sure it is as pleasant a visit as you can manage.
/r/RedPillWives28/07/16 08:42 PM
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I agree. She can show loyalty and a willingness to sympathize without taking sides in a situation where no one wins.
/r/RedPillWives28/07/16 08:20 PM
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I missed where she said this took place in public.
/r/RedPillWives28/07/16 07:54 PM
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I think you are smart staying quiet. This is his mother. He might want a cheerleader, but if you honestly cannot support him in an emotional rant, then you risk his trust in the long run if you try and fake it. He will settle down and forget what he said, but he will remember what you said. Do not say anything about his mother that might come back to haunt you.
/r/RedPillWives28/07/16 07:41 PM
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I have forgotten how to flirt with my husband.
/r/RedPillWives28/07/16 06:46 PM
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I realized after I hit save that I should said most men instead of all men. And I also accept there is a playfulness to this concept that I have not experienced and I do not understand. I am looking for light fun happiness in my marriage, but I am also wary of advice that goes against what has been a source of contention for me and that is acting like a scatter brain. If this is feminine trait then I am most definitely feminine. However it is not a trait that I am embracing, but one I am looking…
/r/RedPillWives25/07/16 05:35 PM
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You are correct that I am viewing these behaviors as being ditzy. I guess I need an example of how they can be a positive. My husband doesn't find it attractive when I forget things in a conversation, assume I told him something when I hadn't, or change my mind about something without a logical explanation. I am not doing these things on purpose. I am not bad because of it. He just finds it irritating and sometimes he gets annoyed. I appreciate that women and men think differently. I just don't …
/r/RedPillWives25/07/16 04:08 PM
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I am questioning her advice. Think about a woman past wall acting in this way. She would not appear feminine, she would appear stupid or fake.
/r/RedPillWives25/07/16 03:41 PM
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Am I the only one who sees the irony in taking advice from a woman who says women do not know what they are talking about and do not mean what they say?
/r/RedPillWives25/07/16 03:30 PM
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what does dafuq mean?
/r/RedPillWives21/07/16 08:58 PM
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My mother can make me bat shit crazy if I let her.
/r/RedPillWives21/07/16 05:22 PM
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I am sorry I confused you. I really suck at reddit. I try to just lurk but there are posts that I just have to respond to.
/r/RedPillWives01/07/16 02:25 AM
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I am not surprised there was talk of marriage. I am happy for you. I am also relieved that you let him know your true feelings about this matter, even if it came down to him finding you crying, which I believe you tried to avoid. I think you have your head and heart pointed in the right direction. Best of luck.
/r/RedPillWives01/07/16 02:20 AM
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I am sorry you got the bot. I want to hear your response. I haven't posted in over a month. Please try again.
/r/RedPillWives29/06/16 01:53 AM
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I suppose what my daughter did may be considered a shit test. But if you don't test the waters in a relationship how do you expect to swim through the currents of the rapids that are ahead. I think that my daughter used her girl game to her potential and I am proud of her. She is married to a man who loves her and is an alpha in every sense.
/r/RedPillWives29/06/16 01:36 AM
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My daughter went through this same scenario. She approached him about it and they had a huge fight. They were both booked for a vacation the next day. He said he was not going. My daughter had paid up front for the vacation and she was not about to stay home so she left without him. He booked a new flight, paid a fortune for his ticket, and arrived late that same night. Four months later he proposed to her.
/r/RedPillWives29/06/16 12:36 AM
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I agree that you're on top of it and you have every reason to hope. I will not say you have an easy road ahead of you, but you are doing the best thing for your son by understanding his needs. My son was eight when he was tested because he was struggling in school. The school psychologist gave me a dim assessment and told me not to expect much from him. Fortunately, his classroom teacher who had taught for thirty years told me this was bullshit and my son had a lot of ability. I will not bore yo…
/r/RedPillWives24/05/16 08:09 PM
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This has been an area where we are opposites. He looks at how something is built, how well it works, its practicality, and pays little attention to how it looks. I on the other hand look first to see if things go together and feel nice before I consider their practicality.
/r/RedPillWives24/05/16 07:29 PM
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I think most of pintrest is ridiculously impossible unless you have unlimited resources and time. I have gotten some good cleaning tips from it, but most of the ones on beauty are out of my league. I can't even paint my own nails and I am an artist. Hair, forget it, unless its to curl it or pull it back. I wear foundation, blush, and mascara. On special occasions, I'll use eyeshadow. The make up routine that most sites advocate for women my age makes my head spin. Fortunately, my husband is not …
/r/RedPillWives24/05/16 07:20 PM
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Thanks for the encouragement. I did manage to use wood filler and paint to fix the chairs so you can't really tell they were altered. The best thing is I was too busy to worry about my husband and his chain saw. I guess it proves distraction does work.
/r/RedPillWives24/05/16 07:12 PM
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This post convinced me to submit my own post about chairs that I had written last week and never followed through on. The coincidence is just too strange to ignore, especially as it, as yours does, centers on the idea of pick your battles
/r/RedPillWives23/05/16 06:18 PM
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I think you are very wise.
/r/RedPillWives19/05/16 08:16 PM
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I love this sub for its honesty.
/r/RedPillWives18/05/16 11:57 PM
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Congratulations. You have every reason to be proud of the progress you have made. I can definitely learn a thing or two from you. I am horrible about mothering and worrying. I am working on it though.
/r/RedPillWives18/05/16 08:50 PM
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[–]stevierose34558 married 35 years[S] 1 point 51 minutes ago I guess the best way to explain my thought process is to quote the lyrics of two songs: "Freedoms just another word for nothing left to lose" :Bobby Magee by Janis Joplin and "If you die before I do, better tell the grave digger he better dig two." :The band Perry. The fact is that at one time time in our marriage we did in fact have nothing left to lose. Those were the easy years. Life became complicated when we brought three childre…
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/16 01:21 AM
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I guess the best way to explain my thought process is to quote the lyrics of two songs: "Freedoms just another word for nothing left to lose" :Bobby Magee by Janis Joplin and "If you die before I do, better tell the grave digger he better dig two." :The band Perry. The fact is that at one time time in our marriage we did in fact have nothing left to lose. Those were the easy years. Life became complicated when we brought three children into this world. As much as I would like to follow my husban…
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 12:12 AM
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I am sure you are right about this. However, as I said, I want to address the root of the problem. There have been a few posts about how to be vulnerable. I would like to examine what vulnerability means when you are truly vulnerable. When you have entwined your life with your husband to the extent that you really do not know how you will survive without him at your side.
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 10:59 PM
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I will admit that when I typed the words for this comment, the idea of self-fulfilling prophesy ran through my head and it made my heart sink. I may very well have been a distraction and the cause of the accident.
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 09:26 PM
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I think this is good advice. The truth is I could probably distract myself if I put my mind to it, and yet if an emergency would occur and I was too distracted to be aware of it I would never forgive myself. I am really going to try and figure out the root cause of my worry and deal with it. I am going to ask some further questions before the night is over but I will be offline for a couple of hours.
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 08:43 PM
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I am sorry that I keep posting in small increments, but I have written long comments and somehow ended up deleting them. Yes I find it completely hot that I have a take charge, competent man who can do a wide range of masculine activities. I do my best to place my complete trust in his abilities and I pray when he gives me cause to worry. Prayer helps, but it does not fend off the physical consequences of being so anxious. What are some things I can do to help calm myself down during these times…
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 08:03 PM
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I have to clarify that my husband is not a stupid man and that this scenario was the worst case for me. He usually knows when a job is too risky to attempt on his own and will hire an electrician or a tree trimmer for example. He is in a dangerous line of work and I know he puts himself at risk, but I don't worry about him very often when he is on the job. I guess after 35 years I got used to it. Instead it is the times that I have to WITNESS him taking on a dangerous task that cause me to be so…
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 07:39 PM
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I have found that there are times I just have to remove myself from the situation. I am around the corner so to speak where I don't have to watch but I can call 911 if needed. One time he was determined to fix the broken spring on the garage door. I begged him to hire a professional, but he was sure he could take care of it himself. Long story short, the wrench came loose, hitting him in the chin and knocked him off the ladder on to the concrete floor. Then I had to beg him to go to the emergenc…
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 06:32 PM
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Up until now I had always thought that the movie "American Beauty" was the story of a couple having a mid-life crisis. Now I believe Kevin Spacey's character is a man who swallowed the red pill after realizing his wife was a controlling, cheating, insecure, bitch. It was a truly disturbing movie, but it did present Spacey's character in a sympathetic light. At least I think so. Others may complete disagree with my line of thinking.
/r/RedPillWives11/05/16 10:31 PM
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We had friends like that. They both put on a great deal of weight over the years. The problems started when he lost the weight and became fit again and she didn’t. Furthermore, she hated his accomplishment and constantly harped on him to eat. Needless to say they are now separated.
/r/RedPillWives09/05/16 08:01 PM
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I agree it is terrible to be late. What I find drives me more crazy are the people who show up a half hour early to a party or event while I am still finishing up last minute preparations.
/r/RedPillWives09/05/16 06:47 PM
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It is no wonder you are feeling depressed. You are traveling to meet him in places where you don't know anyone and then on top of it you are left alone most of the time. Furthermore, he is not giving you the affection or attention you need. This in turn cause you to doubt the relationship. Maybe you need to stay home for a month or so and use the time away from him to put things in perspective. Use your time in your own environment to get involved in things you enjoy and keep busy.
/r/RedPillWives08/05/16 06:25 PM
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Duly noted.
/r/RedPillWives04/05/16 09:13 PM
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As you point out there are situations when two incomes are not worth the toll that it takes on the family.
/r/RedPillWives04/05/16 09:12 PM
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You are not mean and inconsiderate. That is the hamster talking. I hadn't heard anything either. I find it appalling that she is being used as a pawn by the media for another sensationalist article in this disgusting game of politics when respect for women is nothing more than words. Real respect is in actions and I don't think Carly received any respect or kindness in this situation. I am not a fan of Carly either, but I do not want her see her treated so badly.
/r/RedPillWives04/05/16 01:50 AM
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I never did hear if she was okay after that. Do you know?
/r/RedPillWives04/05/16 01:24 AM
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I am going to say four things about having an education. No one can take it from you unless they can crawl in your brain. It is yours to use forever. It expands your mind so that you can approach life from different perspectives. It makes you more interesting as a person. If can open doors in all areas of life because knowledge is a key.
/r/RedPillWives04/05/16 01:06 AM
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The women who have no ambition do not end up with a degree. It is the high value women who do, and furthermore they pursue that degree because they have a brain and a zest for life. Furthermore, they are better wives and mothers for it.
/r/RedPillWives04/05/16 12:46 AM
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OH! I guess I was talking to myself. How hilarious to be talking to myself on line. I thought I was replying.
/r/RedPillWives03/05/16 11:00 PM
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I agree with your assessment of Roosh. Any woman with half a brain would avoid him like the plague.
/r/RedPillWives03/05/16 10:12 PM
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I agree there is a lot to be said about the determination and hard work it takes to put one's self through school. I believe for some families it is the only recourse. However, if parents have the means to help out and they choose not to, using the excuse that no one gave them a leg up, I think they are selfish.
/r/RedPillWives03/05/16 06:43 PM
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If you can manage to save some money in a college fund, I encourage you to do so. It will be one of the best gift you can give your kids. My husband and I did not have many of the material things that our friends did, but it was worth every sacrifice to see them graduate from college. Our friends kids are saddled with student loans because their parents had to have big homes, new cars, and their toys. I could never understand why they were so selfish. Then again, it explains why all of their mar…
/r/RedPillWives03/05/16 06:21 PM
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I said I encourage all women to get an education. For some women a two year associate degree at a junior college is a viable solution. I sympathize with today's young people and the debt they are in because of student loans. My son's girl friend is over 100k in debt with her law degree. If they marry, and I think there is a good chance that they will, they will be paying off those loans for a long time. Still, they will have more economic advantages than those couples who do not have college deg…
/r/RedPillWives03/05/16 06:03 PM
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It is very difficult in today’s world for a family to survive on one income. I’m not saying it can’t be done, but it often entails sacrifice unless one partner makes very good money. It seems to me if a woman is going to work outside of the home, it would be to her best interest to have a college degree. It can be the difference between a low paying, thankless job and one that brings some level of satisfaction as well as benefits such as health insurance. I worked full time for many years and I …
/r/RedPillWives03/05/16 05:34 PM
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A simple moment of truth: Sometimes as a mother you witness an interaction between your husband and your son that you know in your heart you just need to STFU about and still you just can't help but put your two cents in. Just remember that not only did you annoy them both, neither one of them heard a word you said.
/r/RedPillWives30/04/16 12:31 AM
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I can certainly understand her reluctance. I am very wary of what I say on line. What I will say is that the overall atmosphere of this sub is honest and for the most part positive. I hope she will give it a try and lurk for awhile. I think she will find posts that she can relate to and she can just dismiss the rest. I wish you the best in your journeys. You are already on the path to moving forward, and you will line up if you keep a spot on the horizon where two lines converge. Best of luck.
/r/RedPillWives29/04/16 10:12 PM
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I don't understand what you mean by comfort test. Is it testing your comfort zone to offer her comfort? Or is she testing your ability to do so? At any rate, part of being a leader is tending to the needs of your first mate for protection and affection. In turn it her role to tend to your needs for respect and complete loyalty. It will take time to get there, but I think you will both find it well worth the effort. The biggest hurdle you might face is learning to forgive the past. I am rooting f…
/r/RedPillWives29/04/16 08:09 PM
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There are times a small child needs one good swat across his or her bottom to get the message. “Do not try and stand up in this grocery cart again!” This is the instinctual reaction of a parent when a child is doing something dangerous or testing the limits. It is a far cry from using spanking as a punishment. I have only spanked my children on two occasions and I have to admit it was done in anger. Although they were too young to remember it, I do. Not only was it totally ineffective it made me…
/r/RedPillWives27/04/16 11:44 PM
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Thank you for the update. You are still in my thoughts and prayers. I know how hard it is for some people to accept help, but we all were happy to give.
/r/RedPillWives27/04/16 08:24 PM
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it's the beta/comforts that she claims to need more of that I'm lacking.< I think you need to revisit this statement and do something to rectify it. Men need respect and women need affection. They are intertwined
/r/RedPillWives26/04/16 10:34 PM
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It's silly to expect women (or anyone) to do everything and do everything well. Society is trying to tell us that we can have awesome, high-powered careers, a great family, a huge beautiful clean house, a wonderful marriage, be healthy and have a happy peaceful state of mind all perfectly in balance - if we just work hard enough we can have it all. Lean in! Wrong. Something's gotta give and usually it's more than one!< Wow, Littlefox, if you have already figured this out you are way ahead of the…
/r/RedPillWives26/04/16 10:12 PM
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Thank you. You have been a great help.
/r/RedPillWives26/04/16 09:18 PM
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Where can I find info on how to put my post in reddit format? Do I need to explain if I edit a post or comment after I submit it? Why? Why is it bad to delete a comment?
/r/RedPillWives26/04/16 08:18 PM
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I have some handwritten cards that my daughter gave me over the years ranging from kindergarten to the one she sent me after her wedding. What is even cooler is my mother saved some of my handwritten cards I had given to her and recently gave them back to me. I treasure these.
/r/RedPillWives26/04/16 07:33 PM
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Not having children, this is the sort of thing I struggle to contribute< What a great opportunity to establish a ritual between the two of you where you share your day. You will have no problem in adapting it to accommodate a family later on.
/r/RedPillWives26/04/16 02:25 AM
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This is absolutely awesome advice, and I wish I had managed to accomplish half of those things in my marriage and I am sure my husband would second the motion. For those of you who are C students in household management like I am and find this unattainable, I am going to give you the cliff notes. If it impossible to have all the laundry done, concentrate on making sure the essentials are clean: underwear, towels, his work clothes, the kid’s school clothes. Sometimes the laundry will pile up, it …
/r/RedPillWives26/04/16 01:59 AM
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Thank you
/r/RedPillWives25/04/16 10:28 PM
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My favorite is: Creative minds are rarely tidy. I have no idea who said it. It certainly makes me feel better at times.
/r/RedPillWives25/04/16 10:25 PM
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I am glad to be here
/r/RedPillWives25/04/16 05:08 PM
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Wanted you to know that I bought a damn apron and lost a pair of earrings. As a friend of my often said: I am a work in progress. Thank you for your comments.
/r/RedPillWives25/04/16 12:46 AM
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I am glad you took the bait. It sounds like you will fit in around here.
/r/RedPillWives24/04/16 11:41 PM
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Thank you for your nice comment. I do intend to write a couple of posts in the near future. I have also enjoyed your input here.
/r/RedPillWives24/04/16 11:40 PM
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I can't even imagine trying to moderate this sub, much less face what you did starting out. It speaks volumes about your work ethic that you stuck it out. Thank you for making me feel better about over reacting. I just cannot comprehend the fact that some people have nothing better to do than sit around and tear down other women and men. I did try the IRC. Twenty minutes in I thought my head would explode. I could not begin to keep up. Thank you for the invitation. I may pop in on occassion and …
/r/RedPillWives24/04/16 11:37 PM
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I agree there is nothing new under the sun, except for technology and social media lol. The great thing about this sub is that it gives its readers a diverse group of women who present their own unique points of view. I have never talked with women outside of the US before unless I was on vacation. I agree i have some wisdom to pass on, but I am learning a great deal from the young women who post and comment here.
/r/RedPillWives24/04/16 11:29 PM
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As you would say OMG! Thank your for the encouragement. I was feeling so bad about being so clueless. I guess the best way for you to understand my predicament in understanding the tone of comments is the fact that I have always relied on body language to decipher the meaning beyond the words. Emojies just don't do it for me.
/r/RedPillWives22/04/16 10:02 PM
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Wow! Congratulations on turning your world around! It is amazing what facing the truth can accomplish in self improvement. I am sure it hurt to read what men say about fat women, but you did not curl up in self pity. Instead you got off the couch and worked to remedy the situation. Great post. I am sure you are an inspiration to many women.
/r/RedPillWives21/04/16 08:57 PM
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She was correct in saying that I 'try to bring out my femininity for the occasion, as opposed to being feminine whatever the occasion'.< I find myself guilty of this. I wear a t shirt with the excuse that I will get dirty, instead of buying and wearing a damn apron. Instead of taking the trouble to curl my long hair, I rationalize that it is more efficient to pull it back than wear it down. I hesitate to put on jewelry because I might lose it, knowing full well it is not bringing me any joy stas…
/r/RedPillWives21/04/16 07:55 PM
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I can relate to what Tempest says here. My mom would buy one box of sugary cereal a week and we had to share it between five kids. After it was gone there were corn flakes or cheerios. We got one can of pop on Friday nights to go with our popcorn. The dinner hour was sacred and it did last for a complete hour with no television or phone calls to interrupt our family time. I am grateful to have been brought up this way. In turn I established a family dinner hour in our home and learned to cook. M…
/r/RedPillWives21/04/16 06:26 PM
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I don't have a clear answer other than to firstly just trust your man and that he has your best interests at heart, but also that there is much merit to the phrase "what gets rewarded, gets repeated"< This comment really hit home for me. I respect the time this post took to write and the courage it took to be so forthcoming about your thoughts and responses.
/r/RedPillWives20/04/16 07:11 PM
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I have truly enjoyed hanging around here. There are great discussions, well thought out advice, and a positive tone that lends itself to honesty, but does not cross over into judgment. Keep up the great work ladies! Your efforts are making a difference in women's lives.
/r/RedPillWives19/04/16 08:29 PM
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So very sorry for your hardship. Will send prayers your way.
/r/RedPillWives19/04/16 05:10 PM
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For crying in the bucket! Stay away from the RP concept of the wall! You are 35 years old and attractive and there are a number of good men out there who would love to date you. Follow the advice of these wise women and vet the men you date carefully, be wary until you are comfortable, and do not give your sexual favors out freely. My sister in-law remarried at age 55 after finally agreeing to her mans wishes to make it legal after they had dated for 10 years. They have been happily married for …
/r/RedPillWives17/04/16 11:35 PM
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Pretend that you have a five year old in your home, who you are training to do housework from scratch< Excluding this point I think eliza is presenting a very workable solution.
/r/RedPillWives16/04/16 12:25 AM
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Okay, I have thought about it and I am ready to respond. This situation is complete bullshit. You have a thirty year old man who has put in two tours in the marines who can’t clean up after himself? He is taking advantage of you. I would absolutely revise the stipulations of your lease and demand that he step up in his behavior. He is in your home and he is certainly old enough to realize that he should respect it.
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 11:27 PM
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Holy shit! That does put a new perspective on the situation. I am going to have think about this some more, but I will say that this whole situation is unacceptable from what I can see as an objective observer.
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 10:25 PM
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Of course I believe in PMS, but I don’t buy into the idea that excuses bad behavior. It may explain the mood swings and all of the symptoms that go with it that result in irritability, but they are a far cry from temporary insanity. It may excuse an instance of loosing ones temper, but it does not absolve a woman from apologizing for acting like a banshee later. I put this concept into the same category of “I have ADHD so I can’t help it if I don’t get my shit together. (For the record, I also b…
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 09:57 PM
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I love the old sayings being quoted around here! As they say: “he who forgets history is condemned to repeat it.” I thought about this situation while I walked my dog, and I have to say you are in a tight spot. I can understand how important it is to have a clean house when you have a baby in the picture. However, I don’t think nagging is the way to approach this. I am assuming your cousin is college age. He is still not completely an adult, but I am sure he reacts to nagging as many adult males…
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 08:38 PM
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That is putting it mildly. It is good to hear from another art history student.
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 02:30 AM
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I get it. You should check out Salvador and Gala's relationship. It defies all logic. I guess it points out the power of love even in the most bizarre circumstances.
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 02:26 AM
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Would that be the neighbor who witnessed his meeting with Gala on the beach where she left her husband and child to become his woman?
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 02:13 AM
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I have been wondering how you got your name from the very first. Are you identifying with the artist or a someone or something he depicts in his paintings? Off topic, I know, but I had to ask.
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 01:49 AM
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What the author recommends about relinquishing the finances is valid. I myself just have a hard time in following this suggestion. Other recommendations were easier for me. I really would welcome any advice how how I should deal with this issue.
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 11:47 PM
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I think that was a complement. Thank you
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 11:35 PM
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Okay. Sounds like a plan.
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 09:25 PM
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One last comment concerning the goggles( sorry for the typo): My insecurities do not revolve around my appearance, because I look damn good for my age. Instead they are tied to getting old in a society where youth is everything when it comes to being a desirable woman.
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 09:05 PM
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I would be interested in the mini-book club style as long as it isn't in the IRC. I could not keep up.
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 08:37 PM
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I realize the hamster is still spinning when it comes to this issue of money. I really don't worry about our marriage disintegrating, because I do believe in the googles. I guess it is a matter of embracing a different mindset that is scary and uncomfortable and relinquishing one more area of control.
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 08:15 PM
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Just for a little clarification. The Red Pill talks about how men have been raked over the coals when it comes to divorce. I saw first hand, women who after 30 years of marriage had to start over financially because their husbands hired better lawyers than they did.
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 07:59 PM
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I won't lie, there is a voice in the back of my mind that demands I have enough saved to survive if I would ever need to walk away or if he walks away. I know that sounds crazy after 35 years of marriage, but I have seen too many women in marriages that have fallen apart after 30 years to not be cautious. I do live with-in my means or I would never have been able to save the money in the first place. It is a matter of perspective as to what things cost and as to what things are important that co…
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 07:49 PM
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It is very easy to get into a “Miss Independent” mode and say “I can take of myself”. I have fallen into this trap many times in my marriage and rationalized it with thinking: I shouldn’t ask for his help or consult him on this because he is too busy right now. Or it might have been: He is not in a good mood. Or it might have been: I don’t want his help because I am pissed off at him right now. The hamster was spinning. It all boils down to this: My husband gets satisfaction in knowing that I ne…
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 07:05 PM
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Thank from me also. I may have hit the wall, but I am learning to climb it.
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 04:35 PM
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I agree with BSC that the point of the article is valid but the examples used to support are not.
/r/RedPillWives13/04/16 07:35 PM
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This is very very good advice.
/r/RedPillWives13/04/16 05:00 PM
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We do both laugh about it now. It was a learning experience for me for sure. I learned to never go buy a major appliance without him again. My husband never makes purchases on a whim. I also learned how to tear apart a washer. We repaired a lot of things over the years working as a team. Two heads are better than one.
/r/RedPillWives12/04/16 08:20 PM
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I forgot to point out that this was a shit test on my part. Sometimes desperate times lead to desperate measures, but the fall out can be hell.
/r/RedPillWives12/04/16 07:24 PM
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We had a very bad fight once when the washing machine was broken and the kids had the flu and the laundry was piling up and he was swamped with work and couldn’t fix it. I was very unhappy with his suggestion that I load up the kids and the laundry into the car and hit the laundry mat. Instead, I loaded the kids into the car and headed to the store and bought a washing machine, to be delivered in two days time. To make a long story short, he was not happy. In the end, the order was canceled and …
/r/RedPillWives12/04/16 07:04 PM
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I have found that if I mention something a couple of times and it doesn’t get done and it is something that really makes our life inconvenient, I can get my point across by attempting to a least start to fix the problem or take care of the situation myself by filling out the forms, making the phone calls, buying the necessary parts, doing the research, reading the directions, setting up the necessary equipment, and so forth. There is an old saying: God helps those who help themselves. I have fou…
/r/RedPillWives12/04/16 06:43 PM
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Just bookmarked the page. <3
/r/RedPillWives12/04/16 03:08 PM
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I would definitely be interested. I bet it would be great with deer trail, and vension sticks.
/r/RedPillWives12/04/16 03:06 PM
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I have never heard of pickle crisp. All of the recipes we have call for alum. I will research it. Thanks
/r/RedPillWives12/04/16 03:00 PM
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I use red delicious because we have tree in our yard. We don't spray, so the apples aren't great for eating, but they are fine for making sauce. I have not heard of Braebums . I will try them. Thanks.
/r/RedPillWives12/04/16 02:56 PM
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I have frozen hot peppers and they are great to cook with, but my guys (husband and sons) love the crunchy ones in the jar like pickles.
/r/RedPillWives12/04/16 02:25 PM
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What are some good apples to use with red delicious? I too made the mistake of only using one type of apple.
/r/RedPillWives12/04/16 02:10 PM
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Do any of you ladies have a good recipe for Hot Peppers? My husband and I have been trying to can them for years, but we still haven't perfected them. They always turn soggy after a few months.
/r/RedPillWives12/04/16 02:09 PM
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It is odd, but I find that the times when I most need to be doing something productive are the times I just don't feel like it. (The less you do, the less you want to do kind of mentality) can contribute to feeling bad about one's self and feelings of loneliness. If I can force myself to just start something, I usually gain momentum and soon I am working happily away.
/r/RedPillWives12/04/16 02:03 PM
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I do not doubt that you are making the right decision when it comes to educating your children. The fact that you are already weighing the benefits and drawbacks years ahead, speaks volumes.
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 02:56 AM
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Yes, please dig out your paints, get busy and push the sadness out the door. I so understand the more than just loneliness.
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 02:37 AM
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Well I am not going to lie to you; you are taking a lot onto your plate.(This plate is not the RP definition of plate) Be prepared for a lot of research, planning, and hard work ahead of you if you want to do a good job in seeing that your children are well educated. And I mean to tell you... education is the key.
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 02:30 AM
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I am glad that my words resonated with you somehow. Sometimes I regret sharing my viewpoints because I know I have no business in giving people advice. And then there are times that I know I just have to share something because it so clear to me, and that clarity is hard won.
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 02:13 AM
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I hope you find the opportunity to pursue what makes you happy. Just keep in mind that it may not be what you expected it to be. I was certain that I would get my shit together when I left my job, instead I found that I had to re-examine my priorities.
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 01:15 AM
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I have made great strides in making my home more organized and tidy, but it will never be immaculate. I use my talents to make improvements that last more than a couple of weeks. There is dust on the mini blinds, but a new valence that I made hangs above them. My husband has never expected an immaculate home, just one that is presentable. The one thing he desired was a good hot meal on the table most nights and I did not find this to be difficult to do, especially since we we had three children …
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 01:08 AM
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Amen! I spent too many years feeling bad about not living up to a standard that (really when it came down to it) did not suit me at all, instead of focusing on the things that I was good at and enjoyed.
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 12:05 AM
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So happy to see this. I love Ian Ironwood. His blog led me to Red Pill in the first place. He is the one who introduced me to many red pill concepts.
/r/RedPillWives10/04/16 11:26 PM
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I finally mastered the concept of properly citing a source! Pardon my outrageous comment. I just couldn't resist.
/r/RedPillWives09/04/16 12:46 AM
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My husband once surprised me when we first started living together by going to the laundromat and..washing...all..of..my...sweaters< I once surprised my husband by washing his rifles ( by hand keep in mind)
/r/RedPillWives09/04/16 12:29 AM
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Finally!!! I got it. Thankyou!
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 10:29 PM
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No she is not wrong. I treasure my grandmas sayings. One of her favorites was: "A moment on the lips, forever on the hips"
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 10:22 PM
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I got waylaid somewhere because it didn't work. Thanks for trying to help me. I will figure it out. I will also ask mods for guidance.
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 09:34 PM
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I feel the most 'at ease' when I'm with people I trust (they are capable, knowledgeable, have solid morals similar to my own, value hard work, think things through, have a sense of humor).*
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 09:26 PM
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Thank you.
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 08:51 PM
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I hope I cited Phantom's words correctly. I don't know how to make them italic.
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 08:33 PM
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(I feel the most 'at ease' when I'm with people I trust (they are capable, knowledgeable, have solid morals similar to my own, value hard work, think things through, have a sense of humor). I agree whole-heartedly with this. Trust your at ease gut instincts.
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 08:30 PM
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What is it about Home Depot that brings out the worst in some of us wives? I have to admit that when we picked out some wood flooring I let him choose the color and I was convinced that it would look terrible, but I kept my mouth shut. Turns out he made the perfect choice.
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 07:15 PM
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Before I learned to STFU, my husband and I had some arguments ourselves in the home depot. I feel so ashamed now when I think of how much of a shrew I must have seemed and how embarrassed he must have felt.
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 05:30 PM
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Great job of presenting a different perspective to STFU. There is a hard balance for me in deciding what I should and shouldn't say to my husband. I do not want to put more troubles on his shoulders nor do I want him to think I don't need him.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/16 12:06 AM
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If you do not want the hormones of BC, are leery of the IUD, and you are opposed to condoms, why not consider the old fashioned diaphragm. It can interrupt the moment if you don't plan ahead but it is pretty effective when used properly. Please incorporate a more effective birth control method into your relationship. It does not appear that you are prepared for pregnancy. Your SO seems to get this.
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 09:49 PM
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I agree entirely. Another name for the pull out method is parenthood.
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 08:58 PM
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I didn't find it funny when it happened, but I find it hilarious now. It definitely toughened me up for the road ahead. I taught high school for several years and taught elementary school for a few years as well. I am glad you enjoyed my comment.
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 07:21 PM
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It really is true that there are times when women and men look at a situation from completely different vantage points. I learned this hard truth when I was a young and student teaching in a high school. I was helping a student when a boy two seats in front of us asked another boy “What do you think of the new teacher?” There was no doubt that I was the new teacher. My cooperating teacher (who was a man) looked up from his desk because he too overheard the question. “I’d like to cream all over h…
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 06:52 PM
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Wow! What a great diversity of women here. It is wonderful to hear about so many different hobbies, interests, and life experiences. It looks like we can all learn a lot from each other. I am very happy to be welcomed to this sub.
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 05:38 PM
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Hi. I am stevierose. I am probably the oldest and most naive woman here. I have been with my husband for 39 years, but I believe every marriage can improve and I am still learning. Furthermore, I have three grown children and this sub gives me insight into their lives. Never fear, I am not a meddling mom. I learn a long time ago to STFU when it comes to their relationships. I have very few female friendships due to changes in life’s circumstances, so I enjoy hearing about other women’s perspecti…
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 04:08 AM
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I do not take it personally. Really I don't. I am totally clueless about so much of social media. To be honest, there is not much out there that interests me, but this site does. I have three children and I want to see them find good mates and if it is right for them, find joy in raising a family. Furthermore, I want to see other young people find some stability and happiness in world that seems to be imploding.
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 04:57 AM
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So why is a 58 year old woman who has been married for thirty five years commenting on this site? It is because I believe I have something of relevance to say and you can benefit from my wisdom as well as my ignorance. I do believe in love and I do believe that with love, marriage can bring happiness. I believe you need a strong marriage before you bring children into this world. If my presence here makes you uncomfortable, I can understand that. I do not want be the mother or grandmother that i…
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 04:21 AM
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It is an interesting read. Ian Ironwood (I know the names a riot) is the reason I found red pill women.javascript:void(0)
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 03:11 AM
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I made the comment about the wolf alpha. Are you making fun of me? If so, please explain why.
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 03:05 AM
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I agree with much of this, but I would like to point out that some women give up their own dreams when they commit to marriage. I know I gave up my dreams (a specific career in a large city that I went to college for four years to pursue) to stay in a small town and find a job to fit my major in order to marry the man I had fallen in love with. It was a hard decision, but I realized that my first choice in a man would make me happier down the road than my first choice in a career. Once I made th…
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 02:32 AM
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I love your motto too!
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 02:04 AM
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Glad to see you reposted this here. I read it a while back on RPW and it has some great points.
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 04:47 PM
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I like the idea of three different alphas that Ian Ironwood (the red pill room) talked about: the bull alpha, the bear alpha, and the wolf alpha. I am married to a wolf alpha and I think I am very lucky.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/16 04:16 PM
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You explain the standards for the flair but not how to add them to my user id
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 04:16 AM
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This month my husband and I will have been married for 35 years. We were in our early twenties when we married and we were lucky, because we had the advantage of growing up in homes with two parents who stayed married. We had some guidance that many people are never given. I guess the most compelling thing about our relationship was our mutual understanding that we had married for love and we had married for life. Divorce was off the table, so we needed to find a way to make things work. It grew…
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 02:50 AM
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What are some hobbies that you and your SO share?
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/16 09:32 PM
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Well just don't set the house on fire. LOL!
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/16 08:50 PM
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I have had my moments too. I think it is difficult because I want to please my husband by keeping a clean house, but sometimes it is overwhelming when I have to clean around clutter and I just want to say why bother. I have found that if he sees me making a conscious effort to get rid of my junk, he will look around and see what he can get rid of also. Like your SO, my guy has taken stuff out of the Good Will pile that is not even his stuff. I don't think you are a mess. I think you are just fru…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/16 08:29 PM
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I can sympathize with you. My guy is a "we might need this someday or I might be able to fix this" kind of man.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/16 07:17 PM
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I am sorry you lost something so sentimental to you. Your daughter sounds like a peach.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/16 05:14 PM
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At one time our basement was so full of stuff when my son moved home from college, we couldn't walk through it. Not to mention the attic was crammed full of stuff too. I have worked really hard to clean out the attic and the basement, but I have to stay on top of things or the junk is back before I realize it.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/16 05:12 PM
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I agree it is the principle of the matter.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/16 05:02 PM
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My husband has never forgiven his mom for getting rid of a box of his baseball cards. In her defense though, he should have taken them when he moved out. Its not fair to expect your parents to hang on to your stuff indefinitely. However, she should have asked him, no question about it.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/16 05:00 PM
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I know it seems ridiculous that I was upset about the oatmeal containers too, but I was saving them for an art project and you can't get them anymore. Now they are made from plastic instead of cardboard. Believe me, I have learned to ask before I get rid of anything and that goes for my kids stuff too. However, I have to give them the ultimatum of take it or it disappears, because otherwise they treat my home as their storage space and we just don't have room for it.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/16 04:51 PM
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Good: I have been following the beginner's guide to a cleaning schedule (Thanks poorsay for taking the time to share it) and my house is the cleanest its been in a long time! Also I have taken on an internship and I love it. Bad: This internship is on a voluntary basis, but I am feeling pressure to devote more time than I had anticipated. It feels good to be able to use my talents where they are needed and appreciated. However, I need to be be mindful of the fact that I retired from my career to…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/16 11:42 PM
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I am sorry LadyOE for assuming that you live in the US. I was busy typing my reply to your post and missed several comments. My earlier suggestions may not be practical for you. You seem to like the idea of child care and I think it is a sound opportunity, if you are suited to it. I was very appreciative of the stay at home moms who took care of my small children when I was working full time. If you charge a fair price, keep a clean home, watch the kids as you would your own, and spend the time …
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/16 11:54 PM
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I spent three years writing a romance novel. It was a way to escape for a little time each day after working at a very stressful job. When I finished the book, I paid to have it professionally edited and I tried to get it published. To be honest, when all was said and done, I felt like I was just used. I gave up after the last publishing company strung me along for months, requesting more chapters and a marketing plan. When they finally asked to see the entire manuscript, I was excited, thinking…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/16 10:41 PM
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I also printed this out. I am horrible at housework because I get distracted and never seem to finish one job at a time. This schedule will really help me stay on task. Thank you for taking the time to share this.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/16 10:00 PM
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I have never gone hunting with my husband because I knew I could not keep up in a drive or sit still in one place for that amount of time, although I never tried sitting still when my kids were little and I was exhausted. I did go fishing plenty of times, and we also took our kids on a number of occasions. The camping trips with our children were some of our best times, but also the most worrisome. Those of you who have introduced your young children to campfires, wildlife and fish hooks underst…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/16 10:03 PM
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I would be interested in learning about leisure activities and household tasks that first mates share with their captains. "Have you ever helped fix the washing machine or gone hunting?" are two random examples. I would be interested in knowing how the first mate works and plays side by side with her captain.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/16 08:42 PM
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We had a blast. The hangover the next day was worth it.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/16 04:09 PM
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P Good: My husband and I went to a Party. Our first party in a long long time. W Bad: We both drank too many Whiskey sours. R Ugly: We both Regretted not sticking to beer when we woke up the next morning.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/16 03:10 AM
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I wouldn’t be so quick to write off your girlfriends. You don’t know how important female companionship is until you no longer have it. I have close friends that I rarely see because they live too far away. I have other girlfriends who drifted away after their marriages fell apart. It is easy to become isolated after awhile if you are not in situations where you can meet and talk with other woman. If you are allowing your friends to influence your relationship in negative ways, that is your own …
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/16 02:48 AM
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I appreciate your lone voice. This makes a great deal of sense to me.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/16 01:52 PM
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These are all very good suggestions. We are both outdoors people so the meetup groups is a great idea. I will check into some local parks and see what I can find.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/16 01:51 PM
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Congratulations on your new baby. I am glad you are finding some alone time together. Being new parents is exhilarating and sometimes overwhelming. It sounds like you are achieving a balance in your new roles.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/16 01:47 PM
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This is what I am aiming toward. I would enjoy getting dolled up every so often also. Furthermore, it would be something to look forward to. It need not be an expensive night out, but a welcome change of pace. Thank you for the encouragement.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/16 09:01 PM
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Thank you for your comments. My husband and I do not have a circle of friends. We are the last married couple. I agree that it would be healthy to join some type of organization that would help us make some new friends and I am exploring some different options. It is hard to make friends with other couples when your children are no longer involved. I have decided to plan a night out and suggest going to the movies to see the Revenent. My husband has commented that he would like to see that film …
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/16 05:20 PM
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I'm sorry, but I don't know what you mean by psychological sweatpants stage. We have plenty of time of sitting and enjoying each other's company. It is just that our perspectives have become somewhat stale. I am just trying to bring some freshness into our relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/16 12:32 AM
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Should I make the arrangements. Should I just say "There is a new play I think we would enjoy and I would like to go"? Is that the way to approach this?
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/16 12:06 AM
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I am in no way trying to make this an obligation. I am just looking for a way to get us out of the house, doing something fun together that will lead to conversation and connection. We always enjoy our adventures when we are on vacation. They just never materialize in day to day life
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/16 11:46 PM
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I follow this sub because my husband is the most important person in my life. I want to make him happy and I want to keep my marriage strong. I am a strong, capable woman and letting my husband lead does not detract from my own abilities. Instead it makes us stronger as a team as we face life's adversities together.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/16 11:20 PM
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I understand how profanity helps when one is upset. However I would still encourage you to try and ban it from your everyday speech even if your man says he finds it attractive. The fact is that it is unacceptable in many social situations and it can become a habit. Save it for the bedroom. I don't want to come across as harsh, but it is one thing you could do to start improving yourself and it is a small thing. In the end you will have more respect for yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/16 10:23 PM
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I would also suggest cleaning up your language. If you talk to him like you write, it is probably a turn off. We all swear and the occasional "fuck" is one thing when it is warranted, but you take it to the extreme.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/16 09:29 PM
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Thank you for sharing your expertise. It is obvious that you have done your research. I will most certainly check out your suggested web sites. I absolutely hate pantyhose so I tend to shy away from skirts and dresses in the winter. Your post made me reconsider trying hosiery again.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/16 01:20 AM
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Thank you! It is so great to finally get a human response. I will continue to comment and then I will write a post to get some needed advice.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/15 10:18 PM
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I am a lurker for the most part because it is so difficult to get a response published. Your damn bot keeps telling me I have not been around long enough. I agree with the basic tenets that you emphasize which seem to correlate with the "The surrendered Wife". I will tell you how they have improved my marriage and ask for advice on problem areas I am struggling with. For that to happen I have to be recognized first. What does on have to do for this to happen?
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/15 09:50 PM
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"You are a woman and that won't go away until menopause." I don't understand this statement at all.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/15 01:18 AM
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I completely agree. Even though you may tell yourself over and over that you should not be feeling the way you do, it has no impact on the feelings you continue to have. It is only when you face these feelings head on, accept them, and put aside your guilt for having them, that you can find resolution and peace. If it takes a therapist to do so, then by all means go to one.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/15 09:14 PM
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The first thing I would like to say is you should not feel ashamed to ask for help. Many people experience times of anxiety and depression in their lives. It is not a character weakness; it is an illness and like any illness cannot be just willed away. Stress can wreck havoc on the body. A good therapist will help you sort through underlying physical, emotional and mental issues that can be causing your worry, sadness and feelings of helplessness because you cannot snap out of it. I went through…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/15 07:52 PM
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I am grateful that I can trust my husband to take care of a great many things in our life and that he does a great job at it. I believe he feels the same thing about me. The one area in our marriage where I cannot relinquish control at this time is my separate savings account; money I was able to save while I still working full time. He knows I have this account and he wants me to invest more money into the stock market. I have with his guidance, made some wise investments in the past, but I wor…
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/15 10:32 PM
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There are several benefits to good home cooked meals, but I think the most important one is they are healthier for the entire family. We eat at home most of the time. Meals out are a treat and a special occasion. My husband, my children and myself are a healthy weight and do not have cholesterol issues or high blood pressure. In contrast, our friends who eat out most of the time are overweight and on several medications.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/15 03:15 PM
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I found this test absolutely fascinating. I am ENFP and when I think about it, I can see where it has influenced some of my life's decisions.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/15 07:46 PM
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I suggest you wait. As this is the first time you will have met in person, it would be the equivalent of sex on the first date.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/15 06:37 PM
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I think you handled this perfectly.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/15 12:18 AM
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