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| 5 | After watching this doc I’m shocked that POS sexual predator Marilyn Manson hasn’t been arrested yet!I’m watching it now because of this post and because I love her as an actress. But I’m wondering why she put her entire rape scene halfway thru the first episode?? I know it’s out there publicly in the music video so the only reason I can think of is that so people don’t go search it up and give M.M. profit. I actually don’t know how it’s legal that the music video is still up or for it to be shown in the documentary | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 01:49 AM |
| 1 | Exactly why do women hate on each other? (Especially for seemingly no reason?)It’s not beyond men at all esp if they’re social climbers which the ones who care about their image the most usually are | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 12:12 AM |
| 602 | I have no wordsWhat an actual dumb fuck 🙂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 03:47 AM |
| 76 | Here’s a small compilation of TikTok comments from women waiting for a ring- never settle your standards for a LVM.Why are they even seeking a ring anymore, wouldn’t you just resign to “I don’t believe in marriage” at that point? Terrifying. If they eventually get married does it even feel as good anymore? I’d be embarrassed to tell family. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 01:47 PM |
| 23 | JusticeIt’s been a few years now and I’ll say that desire does fade and doesn’t eat at you as much. All I was told is that “it won’t work” by everyone on Reddit, family, friends, blah blah. Part of me regrets not trying. The more society tells us “it won’t work” the less it will continue to be reported. Like, I would have done it had I not been influenced by people telling me not to. You have the desire for this justice for a reason. And it’s worth it. It may not turn out how you want it to, but IMO, i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 01:38 PM |
| 31 | If this is not ultimate FDS energy I don’t know what is 🤣Show his face!!!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 02:14 PM |
| 32 | As she should !Yk what’s sad, they’re always posting about stupid situations where the woman is literally just expressing that she’s upset and asking him not to do something, which if he said sorry, he should have agreed with. And they make it into a Reddit post. Like have some empathy and just don’t call your gf a hoe. Problem solved. Why is it so hard for you dude. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 09:12 PM |
| 52 | Found on Dr Jessica Taylor's Facebook page, and I had to post it here - such a great analysis of how misogyny works today.This is perfect | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 08:58 PM |
| 1 | Men should make women wait for sex if they want to avoid high n-count womenHow do they ‘give in’ unless they sleep with you? Do they just like.. tell you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/21 08:46 PM |
| 5 | Men should make women wait for sex if they want to avoid high n-count womenWhen they give in do you fuck them or do you instead say ‘nah I was just testing you, get off me concubine!’ ? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/21 04:37 PM |
| 5 | Men should make women wait for sex if they want to avoid high n-count womenMost women on FDS are or were recently in a relationship. And there are success stories. :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/21 04:35 PM |
| 6 | Men should make women wait for sex if they want to avoid high n-count womenShe didn’t say men can’t have preferences… How is preferring a tall man hypocritical? A man preferring a smaller or bigger woman has nothing to do with me unless they’re trying to date me and make me smaller or bigger. So what’s your point with that comment | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/21 04:34 PM |
| 13 | Reminder: FDS is not heavily focused on how to improve your appearanceTHANK YOUUUUU. Taking care of yourself is not the same as performative femininity! Lots of women don’t understand that because they’ve been taught that performative femininity IS ‘taking care of yourself’ and to not participate is to ‘let yourself go’. Anyway. Same for men. I really don’t need someone gorgeous I’d just like someone I find attractive who takes care of themselves so ideally we could live a long life together. Although lately I’m not really thinking I’ll find a good enough man to e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 03:41 PM |
| 15 | I am feeling immense guilt for leaving my relationship. Feeling like the bad guy and that I wasn’t patient enough. Would appreciate support to not go back to him.Trust that every moment that passes you’re closer and closer to healing and not caring about it anymore! You already gave what you could to make it work yet he decided to not commit. I hate breaking up. I’d love if they would just grow balls and grow up but they just don’t. They perpetuate the cycle and drain years from us with giving nothing in return. Once an LVM always an LVM. When my ex and I broke up I told him I could sleep better at night now and he didn’t believe me lmao. Like yeah dude … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 03:56 PM |
| 16 | BOYCOTT DATING APPS! (TRIGGER WARNING: R*pe, violence) Ladies, you are not a product to be consumed or a tool to be used and discarded by men. Especially not men like this. Protect yourselves by removing yourself from the equation.I meet friends off dating apps too. Idk where else to meet people. :( I’ve never had anyone come up to me in public in a friendly or romantic way. I don’t have the option for coworker friends or school friends, same goes for dates. Maybe a MeetUp event app could be better than a dating app or something... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 03:36 PM |
| 15 | If a guy has a high "body count" he is probably a rapist.Easily thousands | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 05:05 AM |
| 125 | OP drank the LibFem koolaid and posted nudes online... now the same redditors who jerked off are judging 😳🥸“I’m just not down to be in a relationship with a woman who is / was so freely sexual with strangers.” Says the dude who’s likely jerked it to hundreds if not thousands of strangers 🥱 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 03:52 AM |
| 23 | Men are the reason the True Crime genre exists.It’s a vile truth. I stopped listening, it’s just upsetting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 12:34 AM |
| 3 | Beauty is like a social exchange. I don’t like it.Omg the leg hair blowing in the breeze is so true. I can feel more of my body when I move too, feel my legs more when I walk around lol. It’s kind of grounding in a way 😊 I think about that too. If I put all the time, money, and effort I spend on my looks into my online business for example... it would be drastically different. Women would have so much more free time even if not dedicated to a specific hobby or project. It’s a lovely thought | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 07:18 PM |
| 4 | Thoughts on changing your name when you get married?I don’t want mine or his tbh, I’d rather do a combo like some are saying or preferably just make one up. I would love to choose one together that fits both of our names. That would feel really special to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 05:51 PM |
| 7 | Thoughts on changing your name when you get married?I don’t want mine or his tbh, I’d rather do a combo like some are saying or preferably just make one up. I would love to choose one together that fits both of our names. That would feel really special to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 05:51 PM |
| 137 | Is Bill Gates LVM?Bill Gates has always been LVM bc imo a lack of empathy = LVM. Smart and rich isn’t all it takes, I’d like to have a heart inside my man if that’s possible!! But that’s sad. I feel for her. I could see how she probably felt it was a powerful move & right thing to do by making him decide like that. I hope she feels some happiness and relief throughout the divorce process | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 05:47 PM |
| 101 | LVM trying to keep you from raising your valueOh I agree they love to bring women down with them. They refuse to change, project themselves onto others, have zero self-reflection, and will somehow make you the problem. They would love to palpably turn you into something they can hate with a reason, and it’s also a power thing. It’s actually crazy how dark & nasty seemingly nice men can be, though my impression of ‘nice’ has changed a lot since uncovering some of their manipulation tactics. I’ve had the life sucked out of me by at least 3 di… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 05:42 PM |
| 6 | Beauty is like a social exchange. I don’t like it.No. I don’t think you should spend your money, or actually change anything. It was more like a follow up question, kinda rhetorical, bc I’m assuming posture isn’t the only reason you wear them. Like???? Maybe you should examine your own internalized misogyny and insecurity too. My post is literally not at any specific individual and I’m not asking anyone to change what they do. At all!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 09:42 PM |
| 11 | Beauty is like a social exchange. I don’t like it.It is definitely different. Women are expected to work out too. Women are expected to do all that men do for physical beauty, and then much much more- makeup is only one piece of it. Working out isn’t the same as wearing makeup either, even if someone chooses to do it for aesthetic reasons rather than wanting to live a healthy and long life. It’s kinda like saying, well men have to eat healthy like us too if they want x y z. It’s beyond basic health and hygiene such as brushing teeth, showering,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 09:06 PM |
| 9 | Beauty is like a social exchange. I don’t like it.Ok I understand but I don’t see how shaving your legs is art. Not saying you shave, but like 95% of women do. I wouldn’t count dyeing your hair as art either for ex., unless you’ve really done something...like...artistic. Know what I mean? Your personal experience is valid and so are the women who simply can’t turn these expectations into hobbies yet are forced to still paint their nails and wear makeup to be socially accepted or held in high regard. The fact that we are expected to is a problem… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 08:36 PM |
| 14 | Beauty is like a social exchange. I don’t like it.Patriarchal standards are still present in a room full of modern day women & most women participate in upholding them (usually not aware of it and not solely dependent on a man’s presence). It is normal to want to look presentable. Unfortunately makeup has become a REQUIREMENT for specifically women to look presentable to many people. Women who don’t wear makeup suffer more in the workplace because of it and are often paid less. It’s just messed up | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 08:22 PM |
| 5 | Beauty is like a social exchange. I don’t like it.And that’s appropriate and part of healthy parenting imo. Encouraging children to abide by some or many social norms makes a lot of sense and will help them in the world and in life, some social norms suck but we do them to ensure good social standing and build rapport. Thank you for allowing her to make choices & healthily express herself within the confines society puts on us | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 08:14 PM |
| 12 | Beauty is like a social exchange. I don’t like it.Posture braces would give you the exact same good feelings if posture is the only thing that makes you wear corsets at home, or outside, since idk your reasoning other than posture. They might even be more helpful actually? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 08:03 PM |
| 17 | Beauty is like a social exchange. I don’t like it.Personal hygiene is done for personal reasons and not just social yet personal hygiene is still part of social exchange even if that’s not it’s purpose. You will be socially accepted or rejected based on personal hygiene, which is healthy for humans to do this. Being hygienic isn’t the same as beauty regimens and grooming for beauty purposes, so I’m not talking about simple personal hygiene such as bathing and brushing teeth. Im talking about how beauty regimens have literally become considered … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 07:45 PM |
| 15 | Beauty is like a social exchange. I don’t like it.Ah, reading this was like a warm breeze for my brain lol. And interesting to point out the home decor trends. I never have another soul in my bedroom but the idea of someone seeing it and thinking highly of the decor is very satisfying for me. Knowing I have something others would be attracted to or aesthetically enjoy even if it’s done just for me. And the decor does follow a type of style which is one I didn’t come up with, yet still gives me a standard to measure my own bedroom against and de… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 07:17 PM |
| 15 | Beauty is like a social exchange. I don’t like it.I’m not speaking on it in a healthy form, like makeup artists who decorate themselves. I’m talking about the unhealthy form of it and it’s roots, which the other 95% of women have to live under for most of their lives. We’re social creatures so most of what we do could swing back to ‘for others’ but this expectation is placed specifically on WOMEN and it’s damaging. It is now viewed as being ‘well mannered’ (well dressed, pleasant makeup, often excess grooming to maintain a certain standard of h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 07:05 PM |
| 15 | Beauty is like a social exchange. I don’t like it.Yes I agree. I believe that the way we personally experience femininity is greatly impacted by culture and society, though, which is what I’m trying to grapple with. I’m not really sure what you mean by having it taken away from you but I fully support doing what you enjoy and that’s not my intention | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 06:47 PM |
| 9 | How to use crushes to our advantageThank you this is an awesome post. I need to work on my self esteem and not allow others to decide it for me ugh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 04:41 PM |
| 5 | Scrote wants pity for getting dumped after stringing ex along for 10 years.“I don’t have much to share” he literally had nothing to share other than he got dumped. Like I’m sorry but you getting dumped after 10 yrs with no backstory doesn’t mean anything to me. Change is hard, sorry about that I guess? That’s about the most empathy I can muster up because I have a feeling it was totally his fault and totally preventable... 10 years dude... Didn’t even talk abt the proposal and what his plans were that got ruined lol. I’m assuming there was no plan, just an unchecked to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/21 04:12 PM |
| 15 | BEAUTY - Do you think it is worth it for women to pursue it?I'm curious about women throughout history. Like before male domination was a thing. I think humans have often dressed themselves up and, with mirrors, wanted to look nice. Jewelry has been around forever. Art, making pretty pottery or clothing, has been around forever. A desire for beauty in ones life is not a poor value to have. I'm trying to not judge myself for wanting to be pretty. I'm trying not to judge men who put extra effort into their appearance either (many men could literally be 'pr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 02:58 AM |
| 9 | “It is hard to respect yourself when you are being forced to pick up the garbage of another human being. An adult.”What's her tiktok name? Ik it's on the vid but it's blurry on my phone | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 02:38 AM |
| 26 | This is such a great argument for why “don’t bring up what happened in the past” is such bull. Men just wait for you to calm down so they can brush everything under the rug, and then do the exact same thing again. LVM truly do not care about their partners.Or when the past was like a month ago and you've been together for years lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 09:04 PM |
| 23 | Dating in the 21st century. Funniest roast of men I've ever seen. Her twitter is yellowspoongirlLmao. Well said | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 12:47 AM |
| 20 | Shout it from the rooftops queensTbh I got all 3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 06:43 PM |
| 105 | Let men do lots of things for you and don't feel bad about itTrue girl. It's in your best interest to just leave that type of man, the passive one allowing you to emasculate him. He will never step up if he hasn't yet. He will resent you for taking care of him yet he won't leave his life of childhood comfort. It's a lose-lose situation for both parties. They're best left alone permanently. Find someone who joyfully provides for you however he can. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 02:22 AM |
| 83 | That's why don't do girlfriend /wifey things for your fbwHow I sleep at night after my ex and I broke up lol. New girl can take my place of sleepless stressed nights 👋 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 04:57 PM |
| 55 | Does she think she’s special or smarter than any of us for letting her man openly fantasize and ogle over other women?less sexual boundaries means Cool Girl who is carefree and fun!!! Low stress & low maintenance for the boys who put no effort into maintaining a respectful relationship anyway | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 07:04 PM |
| 154 | TDLR Scrotes is finally dumped but clueless why gf no longer wants to play mommy.Lol perfect synopsis | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 06:52 PM |
| 7 | Being gaslit and manipulated so much that your SO talking about murdering you doesn’t look like a 🚩I hope you're doing okay now | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 07:59 PM |
| 102 | The projection is palpable; I've spent quarantine fixing my skin, working out, and taking college courses. Ya'll?The girls who haven't done much could just start a workout routine and change their eating habits...? Men really want you to feel worthless as a woman. Like 5 or 6 years into being an adult you're maybe ok but after that you're worthless because you can't pass as a barely legal 18 year old anymore. Pedo culture. When I was a little girl I specifically remember thinking nasolabial folds and under eye circles were part of being a beautiful WOMAN. I was curious when I would start looking like a wom… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 07:47 PM |
| 104 | Two kids, I’m guessing around almost 20 years together, and he’s *still* like this.Annoying how she's complaining about her children possibly not gifting her anything. I think if her husband made Christmas special for her she wouldn't care about gifts from kids, but maybe not idk. I feel like she built up resentment and is trying to make a statement to the family rather than her husband. Of course he'd be like "your mother is upset, you guys need to start giving her presents and not just selfishly expecting them." I'd love to see him spend time crafting a gift like she hopes h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 07:24 PM |
| 2 | Men are really weird 🤨The men who talk badly about gold diggers are the ones who aren't being used for their money. They don't like gold diggers bc the gold diggers aren't into them. Like I so rarely hear stories about men shoveling out their money to their s/o for her to not care about him at all and leave him for no reason. Only in extreme examples like 90 day fiance or in camgirl onlyfans situations where they have to pay for the fake relationship in the first place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 08:41 PM |
| 5 | Ain’t that the truth 💅🏻Lmao I'm literally saving this for my daily affirmations ✊ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 08:26 PM |
| 6 | Why is it that kissing and making out are now automatically assumed to lead to sex right afterwards? And men complaining about being "led on" and "blue balls"? What happened to just wanting to snuggle and be intimate?They don't stop even if you verbally tell them to. The type of men that ignore your physical actions are mostly the same type to ignore your words too. A man stomping around & huffing... obviously he's angry. A woman pushing you off, acting nervous or despondent, avoiding eye contact... she's clearly not into it. If they can't read obvious body language they have some type of serious issue. But they do understand, they just know that if they keep trying they can coerce the woman into giving in. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 08:22 PM |
| 85 | I understand she's happy but damn, what kind of loser husband does she have who doesn't care whether she climaxes or not?? As long as he gets his, all is well 🤬The only reason I'd cum with my ex was because of vibrators or using my hands during penetration. So many men don't care. So many women accept it and internalize it as "I can't come" rather than "he can't make me come" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 07:50 PM |
| 7 | The logic of men. Each one of these nine arguments can be countered so easily..I'm reading about legalized prostitution and it says that human trafficking numbers go up. If it's legal then there's more demand, more demand means more women involved. That's a good point about legalizing drugs too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 07:43 PM |
| 107 | Put yourself in his shoesI'm so glad I stopped feeling bad for men and stopped making excuses for them. And it really did have to do with putting myself in their shoes. Idk why making excuses for them is the default, we would never act that way if roles were reversed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 07:35 PM |
| 1 | I know I'm probably late to the party but my friend and I finally learned that being a HVM has ZERO correlation with someone's education, career, statue etc.True but you kind of have to consider why and look at the bigger picture. All I'm saying is HVM provide, but not all providers are HVM | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 07:17 PM |
| 77 | Remember when everyone called her a gold digger for getting a huge payout from her divorce..He's sounds a little obsessed with her. What a sick man | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 06:59 PM |
| 10 | They can never leave us alone!Lol the faded "...is now blocked" is the cherry on top. What does he mean he wants to see what he's working with. For what 😒 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 06:58 PM |
| 2 | The logic of men. Each one of these nine arguments can be countered so easily..What about 6? I don't have a response for that one | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 06:53 PM |
| 35 | Remember when everyone called her a gold digger for getting a huge payout from her divorce..Kanye West did what? 😧 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 06:41 PM |
| 17 | I'm sick of LVM chasing me and and not finding any HVMEven if you found someone amazing, you'd still have to be vetting them all the time. I agree that dating apps are easy for LVM and most on there are LVM. I think some apps attract more than others (tinder: hook up/party app). Maybe is there a hobby/activity you could take up that would allow you to be around similar minded people? Either way don't give up, even if you use dating apps. Don't give up on yourself and settle I mean. You won't be alone forever. There are so many people out there. Thi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 07:01 PM |
| 50 | PICKME gives women a piece of her mind.100% a guy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 12:34 AM |
| 5 | My friend she wouldn’t mind being casually proposed to while doing dishes or taking out garbage - I hope I never get to this pointTo leech off me and move out of his mom's house lol. Fr the only reason. We had been together almost 5 years so he had plenty of time to propose, he was just desperate ✊😔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 10:31 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020Awesome 😃 for what 😃 what do any of them ever do for those girls. Like seriously | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 10:12 PM |
| 25 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020Why do men say "was that okay?" after the sex is over and they already crossed the line in one way or another? Why is it never asking beforehand? This isn't my current situation but something I realized now happened from 2 different men who did what they did without asking me. AND I SAID "yeah" IN RESPONSE TO BOTH OF THEM when I should have said no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 10:09 PM |
| 133 | My friend she wouldn’t mind being casually proposed to while doing dishes or taking out garbage - I hope I never get to this pointLol my LV ex asked me to marry him while we were laying on his bed in his moms house where he lived bc he was jobless. I teared up because I was like damn he really doesn't care about me. They stop vetting their bfs once they've given him the stamp of approval for whatever reason. Never stop vetting. A marriage proposal is only worth as much as the man you're marrying idk.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 05:06 PM |
| 27 | Just through the whole man outThey probably enjoy sex as much as they enjoy a burger. "Damn good! Time to throw the rest of the burger and wrapper away because I'm full.😋 Now where was I... 🎮🖥🕹" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 01:31 AM |
| 26 | Men will always find a way to invade women's space and women's topics. This tik tok is literally a man watching a woman talking about bras and "pretending" it's informative. Men will find any excuse to invade women's private spaces. They simply can't accept we want women only safe spaces.I've seen multiple tiktoks of "young girls" asking how to masturbate, looking for techniques, asking about how other women give blowjobs. It's usually an anonymous tiktok account with the video being of like the ceiling, no faces. Women go off in the comments super openly but I get the creepiest feeling it's a man posting. Why wouldnt the girl just privately google it idek | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 08:49 PM |
| 17 | Hey! I made a list of red flags on when someone is cheating on you (Before and During) based on a question I asked on r/survivinginfidelity (hope you all find it helpful!!)This post is golden. A full list and so accurate | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 07:40 PM |
| 28 | Dating a gamer is never the move.They'll flirt with gamer girls even if you live up to the gamer girl fantasy. Like even the hottest insta gamer uwu ahegao face girls have dudes messing around on them. Their fantasy addiction usually includes video games + porn and not putting effort into their real life and real people. Fantasy is always better to them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 07:38 PM |
| 12 | He asked me to split the bill on our 3rd dateWage gap is real so he can pay for "equality" OP's sister Edit: pink tax too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 06:25 PM |
| 70 | Not All Men in ancient timesLol this is perfect | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 02:58 PM |
| 24 | When Keeping it “Woke” Goes Wrong. Male Vegan Activists brand women with hot irons to demonstrate what “Animals Feel Like”. TRIGGER WARNING/NSFW!!Exactly ^ I also have a weird feeling they're the type to go seek out those videos despite knowing what happens, just to watch for fun, but say it's bc they care lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 11:04 PM |
| 106 | Had a laugh. Thank god my lululemon date days are over!!I'm sure she does. I think she was exaggerating "never" to show that she's never gotten the chance to wear nice date-attire on actual dates lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 10:28 PM |
| 129 | When Keeping it “Woke” Goes Wrong. Male Vegan Activists brand women with hot irons to demonstrate what “Animals Feel Like”. TRIGGER WARNING/NSFW!!They're not empathic for animals if they're propagating that same abuse for another living being. If men are capable of empathy it's only logical empathy, there is no feeling. Why weren't they branding other men in their underwear? I believe men work more in slaughter houses than females do. And the shit you see of workers stomping on chickens heads or throwing them into the wall for fun are done by........you guessed it.......... But this isn't about veganism or animals this is about being fuck… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 10:25 PM |
| 37 | Why do gamers attract such a culture of pickmeishas surrounding them?It's what it always is. Serve to be served. They go overboard because they want to be special to someone. Standards for men aren't so important when you're a servant, usually the servant is the one being judged on what they bring to the table. So they work work work to get the approval of being picked. Gamers or not, they'll serve their LVM no matter what flavor of LV he is. The real question is why are so many LVM gamers?!?! I guess video games have replaced watching tv for a lot of people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 06:30 PM |
| 19 | The cesspool of online dating is pure male delusion, really dude???I'm so glad you two pointed this out | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 03:29 PM |
| 8 | Low brow humor... haha woman fart, so funny 🙄 A hvm wouldn’t do shit like this.This is so annoying. Men find a sensitive spot and poke it for their own amusement. They act like little boys & I refuse to be a sibling, bro or playmate in my next relationship. This kind of humor is exhausting when you're on the receiving end | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 03:16 PM |
| 44 | She flew across the world to go on a date with him and he broke up with her when things got tough. They are married now, so happy ending, I guess!If she falls ill again what's going to happen? 😒 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 03:03 PM |
| 0 | Why, why, WHY would she call THIS a boyfriend?? 🤮I'm part of the grey area that gets turned on by head. Giving and receiving, man or woman. I don't see the self-degrading trap of receiving great head from a man then returning it while enjoying yourself all the way through. You can be used for blowjobs while getting nothing in return, same as how you can be used for sex by someone who doesn't care about your pleasure. It's not degrading for a woman to make that autonomous choice is all I'm saying, I agree it's degrading if she doesn't enjoy it … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 04:20 PM |
| 34 | Never again. Not even 50/50.Lmfao. Entitled. The men who complain about having to provide for women are the type I now easily feel absolutely nothing towards. I had to learn the hard way though. Somehow working my ass off 50+ hours a week was STILL not as hard as the 36 hours my bf put into 3 shifts as a fast food manager. He had to do actual labor apparently while I just, "didn't have to do much. It's like a lifestyle, not a job." (Fun edit: I made more than him) Lifting children, actively running around and playing with … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 03:51 PM |
| 23 | Post on r/ trashy. You should see the comments. Such a young boy already saying "she wanted it". And they find it all funny, the comnents are so disgusting, I have completely lost hope in men.That's like abusive? Exposing a child to pornagraphic material is an OBVIOUS NO and in that case I don't blame that young boy at all. Wtf is wrong with them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 03:12 PM |
| 26 | How do you crush the crush?For me, if they're attractive I have huge difficulty letting them go. Some people are magnetic regardless of being HV or LV. The only way I move forward is to ground myself. I feel like infatuation comes from an ungrounded place. The mind just takes off running and fills in the blanks just because we're somehow attracted to them. Or we give them excuses for their red flags, especially if subtle. I personally just have to remind myself that there is someone better. There's soooo many people out t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 03:06 PM |
| 0 | Why, why, WHY would she call THIS a boyfriend?? 🤮Lesbians have also been eating each other out forever. Women like giving and getting oral too but if you think they're also depraved then to each their own | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 01:43 PM |
| 15 | Why, why, WHY would she call THIS a boyfriend?? 🤮Giving head didn't come from porn. People having been mouthing genitals since forever, there's ancient art about it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 02:29 AM |
| 3 | Looking for genuine advice.Don't regret opening your mouth. Of course he knew what you meant and wasn't offended, he just wanted to turn it back onto you. Taking you to meet his friends, talking about meeting his family, many positive affirmations etc etc sounds like love bombing to me. Especially since you said it was only about a month ago. Acting like he loves you when it's only been weeks. It's weird that he kept you at a distance while inserting you into his life in a strong way? Mixed signals I guess. Mixed signals … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 01:31 AM |
| 3 | LVM “All men ogle” myth BUSTED 😎Ooh good luck 😊 same happened to me. If it's just looking at people then why is it so hard to stop? Since it's apparently not a big deal to them in the first place? Like no it's an indulgence type of thing for you that you don't want to stop. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 06:22 PM |
| 41 | LVM “All men ogle” myth BUSTED 😎This is good to know. It's a sign of respect. I actually won't entertain distractible men anymore, at least not after the first date. You should be able to sustain focus and interest in me during the date. If their eyes wander then so do I 🏃♀️💨 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 10:44 PM |
| 230 | Even Tumblr knowsIt's actually wild how comfortable they are with being leeches | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 01:05 PM |
| 4 | How much of the general public was this douche able to convince to join in his "crusade"?Yup. Like fight or flight is a thing!!!! I've gone into fight before because flight was not an option. Proud of you for defending yourself by the way, although I'm sorry you had to experience it in the first place. Also, I found out he specifically talked to his friend about burning Amber's body then having sex with her corpse to make sure she's dead. But he later said he was just mad because she was on his case about his substance abuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 08:47 PM |
| 118 | Reads like a copypasta, but it's real. At least she's leaving him and taking the kids away 🤷♀️Cheating men: "It's your job to be kind and accommodating no matter what I do 😌 cause I'll leave if you're not pleasant 💅 jk I'll leave if you're pleasant too... but you tweat me badly!!! And that's why we're not working out😔" like stfu. You were never good enough for her, it's not about when you were ready to leave her cause ya let that ship sail. She had to be the grown up and pull the trigger. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 09:37 PM |
| 99 | A little reminder for everyone 💕Their feelings count more than yours do. God damn and then you're the selfish one if you claim otherwise. Ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 07:09 PM |
| 47 | Recently a guy gave me the "false rape allegations" talk and I unfollowed him that very second. I should have done this earlier when I saw the Islamophobic stuff and BLM denial on his stories....Men who think like this are men who willingly cross boundaries. No woman has had consensual sex and claimed afterwards that it was rape. Like I'm not going to include the 0.001% who maybe have done that. If anything she was 1. Uncomfortable from the start or 2. Displayed discomfort during, neither of which you responded to. Likely ignored it and continued. There are women who freeze up. Most of these men think they wouldn't rape someone but they're the same men to keep going if a woman changes h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 07:07 PM |
| 70 | Crushing on OnlyFansHonestly I kind of love to see it. They love to claim women are naive (usually this means they're trusting and have no reason to believe you'd flat out lie to them). Yes, dumb idiot, please waste your life on women who wouldn't have ever said a word to you if there wasn't money there first. And who will happily never say a word to you again should you put the money away. They're usually kinder to these women anyway, so keep em out of the dating pool if they'd rather be entertained by onlyfans. K… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 06:55 PM |
| 11 | How much of the general public was this douche able to convince to join in his "crusade"?Well I heard he lost. But I also hear EVERYONE bitching about him losing and calling Amber a soulless, abusive, lying bitch. My ex and I argued a few times about this case and I said we'll see who wins in court. To me, the phone calls made him look guilty. But I guess this is how abusers get away with shit - no one else thinks they're guilty. " Oh the alcoholic with a history of violence could do no wrong 👼" I'm not saying she never hit back or anything but I believe he perpetuated abuse and due… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 06:44 PM |
| 335 | Why do straight women even bother tbhI used a vibrator or my hands every time I had sex with my ex. He'd ask if he made me cum and I'd say no, I did. Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 05:02 PM |
| 66 | I'm new to this sub, but I just want to say....I feel this so much. I view adopting FDS standards as returning to my original standards. As if requiring respect, compatibility and effort are picky. Yeesh Edit: welcome to the club btw! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 05:52 AM |
| 16 | Deleted my snapchat after breakupAs you should 💅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 05:45 AM |
| 58 | Man who had sex with chickens while wife filmed allowed to keep animals againI'm sorry to get darker but I honestly am not surprised that male suicide rates are what they are. Idk how they live with themselves for as long as they do after committing all the crimes they commit. Against women, children, animals, anything you could possibly exploit. How could you live with yourself after putting your dick in an animal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 12:57 AM |
| 145 | Where being a pick me will get you.😐 as if he didn't have a bottle of moisturizer that he frequently used. It's not about that. I'm tired of men thinking they can jerk their depravity out of their system. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 12:40 PM |
| 9 | My dad = OG HVMAw 🥺 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 04:21 PM |
| 7 | Good reminder this week: DON’T settle!Why is this thumbs down? I agree | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 04:16 PM |
| 20 | What is with Snapchat?I think they like to see if you're cute irl too or in other angles. Or like to look at your cute face. I don't have a snap and I'm not gonna make one for those reasons. See me in person instead dude :-) I don't even snap my friends. Idk why these guys think they're special. And then they only show half their face or the ceiling in conversations lol 🙊 Edit: also agree with what the other commenter said about soliciting nudes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 04:14 PM |
| 30 | Men don’t like to be held accountable for their actions. And then when they are called out for it, they try and separate themselves as “men” and “boys”. It needs to stop.That is so true. The right to a child rather than the actual child. I hate hearing men bitch about the court systems favoring women and child support. Of course it's not fair in 100% of all cases but come on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 12:39 AM |
| -15 | Men don’t like to be held accountable for their actions. And then when they are called out for it, they try and separate themselves as “men” and “boys”. It needs to stop.Children cannot be held accountable for their decisions the way an adult can, it's incorrect in terms of their brain development and functioning. I was molested by a girl cousin so I do feel your pain though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 12:36 AM |
| 10 | How do I respectfully flirt with other women?It's so hard. But the hi what's up message doesn't always work for me because it's just not great for convo w someone you know nothing about. I feel like even though you messaged me first i have to be the one to think of something interesting to talk about sorta if that makes sense. But i admit I message the same to girls sometimes esp if they dont have much in their profile to go off of | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 12:11 AM |
| 36 | Gas me up to drop this manHe sounds like a love bomber and you continued to keep him around even though you originally weren't interested so I think that may point to weak boundaries on your part and on his part, crossing boundaries. It's horrible that he took it to that level and brought you into some fucked up fantasy where you're supposed to sexualize your abuse for him. Gotta love the BDSM men. I still can't get away from all the toxicity yet but I'm in therapy and trying. It's hard when you guys have so much in comm… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 11:50 PM |
| 2 | Men hating astrology and tarot, ect.It's possible to be paid for reading charts and it's possible to help people by reading their chart for them. So far it has been a rewarding hobby for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 02:00 PM |
| 8 | Men hating astrology and tarot, ect.You're going to tell me all your hobbies contribute to world peace and ending world hunger? Dang | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 01:46 PM |
| 45 | Found out I’m pregnant last nightOmg 🥺 congratulations mama!!! It looks like you're going to be well taken care of throughout the pregnancy and he sounds like he'll be a good dad too 😊❤ that's so sweet I love this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 05:41 PM |
| 10 | LVM find women so easily and it’s infuriatingI thought my ex had happily moved on. He was with the girl for I think a year and she was much more of his "type" than I was (he cheated on me with women who looked like this). Anyway he texted me after 3 years trying to sleep with me. Sooo he was trying to cheat on her just like he cheated on me. But I thought she was his type and I was the issue? I wasn't, just like you weren't, it's just typical of these men. It's in their character, not ours. He didn't build you up because he knew you were t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 07:08 AM |
| 44 | If your man looks at other women, he’s willing to cheat on youMen cheating is not uncommon, especially if you consider porn a form of cheating. Heard plenty of men say porn has helped them not to cheat 😂 They're the worst about keeping their gaze focused, seems to oggle all over the place lol. Glancing happens so let me clarify that looking is intentional. I learned to control myself after being scolded for staring at someone with a disability when I was like 6. If I can politely mind my own business after being asked to as a child, so can grown men. It's … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 01:43 PM |
| 1 | Pick me! My friend who took her ex back after he moved out a few months ago.True 😳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 04:38 PM |
| 14 | The mental loadI fucking hate that so much. It's never "fair" to them. They value their labor so much more than ours so doing their fair share translates to being your slave. I want them to get over themselves but they're so dense and entitled they absolutely will not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 08:23 PM |
| 53 | Pick me! My friend who took her ex back after he moved out a few months ago.The ones who say they'll pay and don't care about gender roles are often the ones who end up in the maslucine role though | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 07:47 PM |
| 38 | Strongly against porn - how and when do I find out if this is a deal breaker with a potential partner?I don't have a perfect answer to give you but what I will say is to trust your gut. I'm sure you've picked up on common behaviors, attitudes, and other things that are displayed in porn addicts, so you have some experience and can maybe pick up on certain things. Honestly I try to bring it up nonchalantly but super directly. "So, do you watch porn?" Lol. Usually their response is a good indicator. Sometimes I will admit to my past porn usage to make them feel like they can tell me. But you can b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 07:31 PM |
| 133 | This comment on r / teenagers..girl is disturbed both brother and dad watch rough anal pornography :(("YoU wAtChEd It?! ThE fUcK?!" Damn at least she didn't go seeking it out like her brother and dad. I might have watched it too out of curiosity but sure, shame her rather than than them... "Crying anal" love it when men get off to crying. /s I'm glad I never had a brother. I've always been disturbed about my dad watching porn & I can't imagine him raising a son to be any different. I don't trust any of my male family members to magically be the ones who choose not to watch. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 03:41 PM |
| 6 | Thank you to the queensMen don't provide shit. I've been driving a beater car and lost my job during covid had to get a new one... no man has offered help, unless you count offering me their penis as helpful lol. I'd starve if I didn't take care of myself. No gen z or millenial man is going to be like here bby I got u I don't want to see you struggling <3 They expect you to be struggling and working hard. A good woman is apparently a woman that struggles. When is it about providing, anyway? It seems more about control… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 08:10 PM |
| 15 | Well, maybe if you didn't only said: ''Hi'' like the countless other men... imagine, a guy walking to you in the supermarket or at bar and only said: ''Hi'' would be pretty awkward.. maybe show more effort?!But did she delete her account or just block you 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 07:10 PM |
| 21 | HVM in media done right, David is a HVM and all the rest, in my opinion, LVMWhich is why women will be a ride or die. They think they'll get a happy ending after all the suffering | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 07:05 PM |
| 2 | I need a little pushHow do you want to better yourself? I feel like if you have defined goals then you know what to structure your time around instead. Like do you want to get into existing hobbies, try new ones, or spend more time on your physical or mental health? Your education? Career, etc? Maybe consider having an insta but putting a limit on the time you spend on it each day and just balancing it out. Like start with 2 hours and eventually work down to an hour or a half hour. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 08:43 PM |
| 2 | Can a man be both HV and an abuser?Cleaning, financial stability, and hygiene are base level things. If it's a mix of both traits, it means he's low value. I used to think maybe there's a middle ground but there really isn't. He either has it or he doesn't and men don't change so it's not like there's a middle ground for growth potential. If they grow it happens so god damn slowly and over decades I swear to god. Also assuming some sort of middle ground exists, we still aim for only HVM. so that middle ground really means nothing… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 07:07 PM |
| 105 | LVM bamboozled me into a shit date where i starved and froze to deathI would have finished my drink and said well, I'm done with my drink and since that's all we're here for, I'm heading home to eat dinner & change into something warm 😠🙄That guy sucks he didn't deserve to have your company. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 06:49 PM |
| 15 | Rule 7 🙄And it's sad because when you share something online and everyone responds in a similar way you think that the whole world will respond that way to it. But no. She just ended up with a bunch of ignorant people on her post yet now she might think "well I guess how dare I for calling him a rapist..." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 07:15 PM |
| 7 | Pleasing yourself sexually after a break-upTry to make a goal to involve more physical sensation than mental stimulation. It's how you can recondition yourself out of watching porn too, but I think it's a healthier attitude to have towards masturbation in general. Focus on the sensations of pleasure rather than scenarios or thoughts of people. It takes practice. It's helped me be a bit more grounded in my body and imo it's kind of freeing to cum without restriction to certain thoughts | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 08:41 PM |
| 22 | Peak LVM right hereHow does it only being about sex make it any more excusable? You still looked her up. If not for emotional connection, sooo then you were thinking about fucking her and looked her up for what? LIKE??? But showing his true colors which is a blessing if you can act on it and remove yourself from him. I hate that shocking and surreal feeling when they do something so outrightly disturbing, disrespectful or creepy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 08:12 PM |
| 9 | If you're in a relationship are you expected to teach your partner to help out around the house or contribute if they live with you?I just saw a tiktok of a woman who visited her bf's house for the first time. She took him to Walmart to buy cleaning supplies bc it was so messy and he apparently didn't know how to clean? Sorry but if you don't know how to clean then I don't trust we are mentally compatible because you should be smart enough to YouTube "how to clean your bathroom". Men are not projects to fix or students to teach. In my experience they are showing you that they don't have the same standard of living as you and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 07:58 PM |
| 54 | Scrotes Rolling Up To Comment on FDS LikeThe mods do such a good job of keeping them out tho☺️ they can stay mad and scrotey in their own little subreddits | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 07:09 PM |
| 30 | Throwaway because my boyfriend has my main account. How do I ask to be taken to a nice place for sex?He dumped you? You know what his priorities are then. Access to your body > your comfort, emotional fulfillment, and sexual fulfillment. Please don't let this discourage you from having your first time be special with someone and from finding someone who WILL be more than happy to provide you with a comfortable and romantic experience. Like. His behavior has everything to do with him, nothing to do with you. I'm glad he spared you the disappointment of having him be your first but I'm so sorry y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 05:39 AM |
| 22 | He’s just mad because he keeps getting rejectedThey're already expected to shoulder all the emotional burdens by simply ~not crying~ and are already expected to provide less than half of what the woman does for the family! 😥 Adding on 'finding a mate to be low-value with' on top of all those expectations is just too much work and pressure lol.../s Also is it safe to assume we have an instinct to not approach unfamiliar/unknown men if possible? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 05:28 AM |
| 2 | Should I have said something more? Idk...honestly I didn’t know what to say more. If you were in this situation, would you have asked something more to keep the convo? Or wait for him to say something longer? I might be too sensitive if I think he is putting a low effort?I view talking to someone online as part of making a good first impression. One word answers when we've just met online and are trying to have a flowing convo is a pass for me. This goes for when I'm trying to date or befriend women as well. It just kills the conversation and I'm not going to be the one to revive it when we JUST started talking. It's hardly better than not responding at all. You did fine, don't take it personal like you did something wrong or could say something different to mak… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 04:37 AM |
| 3 | All the money I sent to my NVM ex in 2 months. Green is him. Don’t be a 🤡🤡🤡I've been in your place :( They're literal fucking leeches | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 04:57 PM |
| 26 | Which one of you is this red chick? I found you in the wild.It makes me sad when women openly show distaste towards calling ourselves "the prize to be won" in dating. It's so obvious we were brainwashed to think women aren't worth much and to think the average woman is worth the same as the average man, because "human". Except the average woman usually has given more, experienced more, LOVED more, and worked harder than the average man... I used to have the 50/50 mindset and tried to be so fair in a game that was rigged from the start. 🙄 You're not doing… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 09:26 PM |
| 3 | Having a Hard Time TonightThat's low value behavior. A car and a job doesn't make someone high value. Remember those are bare minimum requirements and he's still as selfish and emotionally immature (LV) as he was when you were with him. They don't change inside, and if they do it's a slow change, not something that happens in a month or even a year. It won't work out for those two, I'd put money on it. But, this is why I don't keep tabs on my ex. I know he'll try to climb higher than he ever did while with me and I don't… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 09:48 PM |
| 52 | I was trying to think of a witty caption... but honestly I have no wordsMy mom is a labor and delivery nurse. Some women have the father stay out of the room because if he were there he'd be actively mocking her, laughing, judging or making things overall worse while not lifting a finger to help. And it's not uncommon. I know some men freeze up in that situation but to actively make fun of your partner while in labor with YOUR CHILD.... I can't stand that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 02:43 AM |
| 21 | 25f, I'm feeling insecure, that I will nEveR bE gOoD eNOuGh because I am not as fit and attractive as I could be. I feel like I am wasting the pEaK oF My yOuTh and BeAutY because I'm not iNsTaWoRthY. Fears of losing value as I age. Help me change this silly attitude and replace these shit beliefsI'm in the same boat as you. The internalized male gaze runs deep in me and I'll save this thread to see if someone has advice for us lol :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 05:35 AM |
| 75 | Just Pick Me ThingsI've replaced cuddling men with cuddling pets <3 my dog is happy my ex moved out lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 02:00 PM |
| 4 | If you had stayed with your LVM, what music would the radio play? 😆Same as you :) lol angst bands that were cool to listen to in middle school and for some people in high school. I tried to get back into it but the inner cringe just screamed so loud, I felt like I was 13 again and I'd rather not feel like that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 01:59 AM |
| 7 | Imagine who ever he tries to date next🤮Umm I get vibes that he should be locked up. For safety purposes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 01:17 AM |
| 93 | Never tell a guy you’re dating about your trauma / past abusive relationshipsI told my ex about the way my abusive ex ended our relationship and some of the things he did. The recent ex ended the relationship basically the same way, and also recreated some of the same scenarios and used the same "lingo". I'm pretty certain he was getting off on it, either sexually or power-wise | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 01:15 AM |
| 30 | Why do men do this, it really irritates me. If you know you're not ready for a relationship or don't want one with her, then just leave her alone. Don't string a woman along just to feed your ego.Shit :/ That's a horrible story and he sounds like a pathetic excuse of a person. It's extremely difficult to get out of something you've been in since a young adult, especially when that person is future faking, it feels impossible. I'm so sorry you were manipulated and deceived. It made me happy to hear that you see your true worth and aren't going back to that way of living. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 12:34 AM |
| 12 | So is there any interest in this sub-reddit about discussing our own low value behaviours (besides being a pickme)? I'm guilty.Yikes I'm embarrassed of my life rn and wouldn't want to share it with someone anyway. No education, shitty job, 0 friends, my goals are either unrealistic or I'm failing at them or both, I smoke weed too much and do other drugs for fun (prob addicted to weed at this point), I don't get out of bed for anything much other than work, I look like I'm 10 years older than I am because I don't take care of myself. I'm going to be 23 in October. I used to do social work, paint, do yoga, draw, find new … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 05:51 PM |
| 8 | Daughter struggles against verbally abusive step-father IN PUBLIC, while her mother cries because she’s worried he doesn’t find her attractive anymore. If that’s what marriage is to some, fuck that.I was thinking the same thing. Especially the bartender but ANYONE saying ANYTHING would have been nice... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 05:23 PM |
| 34 | Racist LVM tells his black wife that she looks like a slave in her head scarf, yet she's wondering if she's the asshole?:/ why do women have to go to bed looking like they just got ready to start their day anyway. Let her wear a damn scarf she's just going to SLEEP. And it's literally a means to preserve her natural beauty and not to mention the pillow case, like she's not doing it to purposely get your dick soft you stupid selfish asshole. Why does everything have to be for you. Why wouldn't it make you happy to see your wife taking care of herself and why wouldn't you think the scarf is cute. I'm just so done w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 05:01 PM |
| 0 | This is the kind of guy that would say "wOmEn aRe ToO pIcKy" despite listing TWENTY-NINE extremely specific things he wants in a woman...It's a meme rn it's not serious | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 04:56 AM |
| 11 | OLD match forgets about our arranged date & claims to be unavailable for the foreseeable without an explanation, but still continues to try and talk to me on Instagram 🤷♀️🤷♀️He is bored and not comitted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 04:45 PM |
| 6 | To the ladies who have completely moved on from their LV ex's, what is the FDS way to handle situations where you run into them? Do you completely ignore them?I try to avoid and ignore. Pretend they're not there. I personally have no reason to walk up to them and if they walked up to me I'd continue to ignore them until they left. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 04:40 PM |
| 18 | The double standard is astounding🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 04:37 PM |
| 6 | Would counseling work?He's lying. He's still watching porn and that weird feeling you get isn't coming from nothing. You're making both a logical and intuitive conclusion to assume he still is. He's still following subreddits. Most men have a porn habit that has been years long and is part of their daily life and routine. Men don't change that fast, especially upon their partner's request. Therapy would just give him an excuse to continue doing it while saying "I'm working on it though". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 04:32 PM |
| 17 | SupportSomething I've been thinking about. He could have been any other lvm in this situation and you'd still miss him. At least that's how it goes for me... It's not specifically about HIM, it's about the fact that I got attached in general, which could have been to anyone had the circumstances been right. It's about the role of companionship in your life that you miss, even if that was fleeting fuck buddy intimacy. He is nothing special, the bonding chemicals you feel may tell you otherwise, but let … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 02:14 AM |
| 15 | Is this a deal breakerHoney :((( this makes me so sad. Cause my bf would do the same thing to me, and guess what, would use the same excuse-- "I just felt insecure or lonely or we had a fight and I needed consolation or blah blah blah". I have come to learn to observe men's behavior ALWAYS over their word. You are an empathetic and intuitive human. You felt the shallowness of his emotions. You felt the lack of genuine care in his apology or in his heart. You're not making that up, you're witnessing truth and the dept… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 05:33 PM |
| 6 | How many HVM out of every 100 men do you think there are?Oh my god, I hate thinking about this lol they're such a rare find I have my doubts they exist at all. 0 out of 100 is my vote. Take 100 porn free men as a sample size and I'm sure the number would raise slightly. If you can even find 100 porn free men. :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 04:18 PM |
| 13 | Stories of LVM revealing their true colors after years in a relationship?There are always red flags that were either overlooked in hopes of 'change' or 'potential or the woman was just ignorant/unaware that there were red flags. I firmly believe this. And this is why the MOMENT we encounter something weird or unsettling with a dude, it's best to just. Block. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 04:15 PM |
| 12 | Why am i obsessed with guys who ignore me?Avoidant attachment? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 03:44 PM |
| 6 | Help for a virgin kinkmeisha?Cut down porn intake to 0 and focus on sensations during masturbation rather than scenes, ik that's easier said than done but that's going to help a lot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 12:10 AM |
| 9 | Who they are sexually is just an extension of their personality. Has anyone *really* surprised you by being bad in bed? (Ps ignore Carrie what woman is ever really bad in bed lol)Not everyone needs immediate bang pow sex, or prefers to have sex that way. Sometimes that type of sex comes after being with someone for a while and things are more comfortable so you can let yourself be more vulnerable and the heat picks up. There are men who are generally more gentle and slow, not in a rush or needing a 'show', plus other men who are happy to take the lead and guide you even if they're a bit wild. The right person will make you feel comfortable and not timid but also you migh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 01:30 AM |
| 35 | On keeping your options open. How have you worked this out in real life.I think a man saying he wants to be in a relationship with you, or bf/gf, counts as that commitment. If he never says it and you're 6 months in, I wouldn't be surprised if he was seeing other people. The goal is for him to be upfront and make the honest commitment to you early on, clear and established, not a 'no labels' thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 10:42 PM |
| 16 | “I don’t want no scrub, a scrub is a guy that can’t get no love from me.”Lol, this used to be me. Treat men like your kid and they'll use you like a scrotey teen boy uses his mom as a maid. They do not respect you if they allow you to pay for them like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 06:15 AM |
| 9 | A gorgeous proposalI was waiting for the proposal to happen I didn't even realize he did it lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 05:01 AM |
| 21 | How To Be A HVW When You're BROKE?Do what you can and it will show! -The best thing to do is work out! YouTube has vids for yoga, cardio, etc -start drinking more water, or tea -skincare; a nice cleanser, you can use apple cider vinegar diluted with water for a toner, vit e oil can make a good night moisturizer, etc just do a little research on what fits your skin -hair, scrubs and face masks work nicely homemade too :) Eggs, avocado, sugar, honey, etc -nail polish is cheap, don't have to get acrylics -thrift stores have a bunch… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 04:57 AM |
| 7 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?Your sun sign isn't your birth chart | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 09:12 PM |
| 26 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?Geminis drop you the second they're bored, then come back the second they're bored. Cancers=fuckboys, emotional manipulation I study birth charts. RUN from saturn in the 8th house and any squares from pluto!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 07:25 PM |
| 14 | So....I think I may have found some actually GOOD Sex advice for once?! Does anyone watch Adina Rivers YouTube Channel?I used to, then she said she was fine with men masturbating to her/her videos. She said she was like honored that they feel that connected to her or something. I dipped after that but I do respect her for trying to teach men 'real sex' rather than porn sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 05:57 PM |
| 3 | "Men age like fine wine" Sean Penn, 59, and Leila George, 28 just got married. There are no words.She's probably aware of what she's doing, she's not blind, she's just blinded by that 🤑 I don't blame her | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 05:52 PM |
| 8 | Too little too late?No no no, they always do this girl. This is why so many women end up married to losers. They talk them into staying and sometimes that involves temporarily changing their actions to get what they want. They will slowly wear on you because they will slowly start changing back into their old ways after you already started reinvesting yourself. I did this for 6 years with multiple men, please don't let this dude convince you he's not like the other boys and capable of change. Change does not happen… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 02:13 PM |
| 5 | Finally aloneI'm so happy for you 🥰🥺 life starts now!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 02:08 PM |
| 14 | A Yahoo Answers thread I made years ago about my hot and cold emotionally abusive situationship 🤡I don't believe he was porn free, sooo.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 01:58 PM |
| 21 | BROTHER HUGE SCORTE.I don't think he's a nice person. I think you see the real him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 01:55 PM |
| 5 | Just got my first place. Treat yourself, ladies, instead of waiting on someone else to do it.Yayyy!! Cheers to that 🥂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 12:26 AM |
| 27 | Thanks to you and the handbook I’m not screaming HI IM A SINGLE MOM LIVING AT HOME WHO WANTS MARRIAGE AND KIDS! Helps me weed out the losers. I am the prize.Imo it's a case of him more interested in talking about himself rather than getting to know you. Or, presuming you're already interested & care enough to think up random questions other than 'what do you do for a living' and 'how much $ do you make'. Either way it lowkey puts you in the masculine role as the pursuer | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 03:27 PM |
| 91 | Thanks to you and the handbook I’m not screaming HI IM A SINGLE MOM LIVING AT HOME WHO WANTS MARRIAGE AND KIDS! Helps me weed out the losers. I am the prize.So sick of dudes who expect women to lead the conversation and ask the questions. "What do you want to know about me?" WORST. I want to know nothing about you know cause clearly you have nothing to offer | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 02:10 PM |
| 25 | This is what is wrong with my generation. Wife privileges without any commitment... promoted like girls should want this!Friends with benefits? There's no 'lowkey' relationship, there just isn't a relationship then. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 02:06 PM |
| 16 | Marriage VS Long Term GirlfriendsI've been watching her vids non stop lately. Like I'm going to listen to her in my sleep instead of subliminals lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 12:08 AM |
| 6 | How do you guys deal with seeing your LVM ex dating someone new?It's never about being not good enough, but it does involve choosing the wrong people for yourself. Next time choose someone who respects you & shows you off. I'm sure my ex will be showing off his new gf soon enough, I won't be there to see it though. You are attached to something but not him. Maybe your lost hope, your plans, the person you thought he was, but not him. He is a hurtful and cruel person who didn't respect or care for you. He is not worth your respect or care | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 01:07 PM |
| 6 | relationship exit plan - or do I just block him?Idk I'd personally make him feel kind of bad, like "oh i found someone else" Lol. That's just my petty ass though. Don't give him the chance to explain himself or try to talk you into staying (I'm almost certain he would). You're right to block him but definitely let him know it's over. Someone else here mentioned not to tell him about the icloud because it will just make him sneakier towards his next victim, I agree! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 01:51 AM |
| 8 | Helping a LVM?I guess if I had all that, and was still single, I would still look at myself and genuinely ask myself what's wrong with me or am I trying to date the right people. You listed multiple ways that, upon further reflection, I'd be horrified to discover about myself AND WOULD GO TO THERAPY. By myself. Wouldn't unload it embarrassingly onto some dude and ask him "why don't guys like me :'(" but he thinks the problem is other women and wants that validation. He doesn't want to confront himself, you ca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 12:32 AM |
| 17 | “Decent sex life” and husband watches porn.He does choose porn over you, though, if he watches porn at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 12:25 AM |
| 55 | Looked up Female Dating Strategy on YouTube and it's all mockeryYes!! And of course all the men in the comments are encouraging these women and making them feel special and picked:) all these men holding onto the privilege of having a more successful and bangmajd gf while they sit back nonchalantly and say it's a genuine relationship. They don't want to be outed because then they'd have to start putting work into their relationships and themselves. It made my physically uncomfortable to sit through their videos, I had to skip and end them early. It's pointle… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 02:08 PM |
| 17 | Feeling lonely todayMy LVM moved out last week. Just got done crying again lol. It's sad. I can't wait to be done feeling this way but I'm trying not to rush it, it's just kind of agonizing for me. I hope she chills out and can come to her senses and just be a friend to you. If not, you do have us here. I know we'll come out stronger once we get to the other side of this. Stronger and hopefully leveled up, something I never truly could of done had he continued being in my life | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 09:06 PM |
| 4 | My (27) M boyfriend cheated on me (20) F within the first month of dating by kissing his ex yesterday, should I leave?Just adding to the 'yes' comments. Like, please don't waste your young life on this dude | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 06:08 PM |
| 50 | I have no clue what just happened here. Not entirely convinced I’m not being punk’d or something....You just encountered an incel.. block, don't give him the time of day with replies | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 04:12 AM |
| 46 | How does FDS feel about the picture book "The Giving Tree" by Shel Silverstein?It literally used to make me sad to read as a child, like I used to cry about it lol. I did view the tree as a woman, or parent, who was taken advantage of but continued to give anyway. Ofc it's written by a man. This is how they live their life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 03:21 AM |
| 1 | Is it okay to ask your boyfriend not to masturbate while you’re home?He made you stay when you walked in on him? If you did not appear enthusiastic and 'into it' I would consider that sexually abusive. Even if he didn't know about your trauma. These men are pornsick. It has nothing to do with you, he is a porn addict. If not a porn addict... a sex addict, or someone who enjoys making another person sexually uncomfortable (a predator), etc, there is nothing good about a man having a lack of sexual control. This can't be good for your mental health. EMDR works most… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 02:28 AM |
| 10 | Looking for encouragement /supportYou're allowed to miss him a little bit. It hurts to sit with that feeling and not act on it, but it will pass soon, and you'll be glad you stayed committed to yourself and your vision instead of like. Betraying yourself in a way, and crossing the boundaries you set for yourself. You set them and went nc for a reason, I trust you had good reasons too. But I agree with making a list and trying to remember what it felt like whenever he hurt you, lied to you, mislead you, etc. It hurts to let go of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 02:17 AM |
| 12 | I am disgusted by all these Discord groups!I think it's weird to first of all do that, but secondly to share that with people and like you said make it into a weird hobby. That's like the creepy man down the street who had a dirty magazine collection, except nowadays it's just commonplace and it's something to bond with your buddies over. It's gross | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 01:57 AM |
| 10 | How to be a better version of yourself after a breakup?My ex of 5 years moved out last week, toxic situation I needed to be out of. I also don't really have anyone around me for support. I've been working out, sleeping extra, begrudgingly doing a minor skincare routine and painted my toe nails. Too depressed to do things I enjoy like tarot or painting but I started new medications which have definitely been helping. Therapy will be helpful for you hopefully<3 it def is for me. Someone on this sub recommended tylenol or ibuprofen for physical pains r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 01:36 AM |
| 72 | He’s had more than a million chances to treat you the way you deserve to be treated.You're right. 2nd chances are useless when it comes to men. I wish I really accepted that years ago | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 01:18 AM |
| 39 | 🥰😜Ha ha omg I’m such a douchebag it’s so cute😜🥰Wow | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 01:17 AM |
| 93 | 🥰😜Ha ha omg I’m such a douchebag it’s so cute😜🥰It's obviously rude but what does that even mean | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 01:14 AM |
| 9 | LVM Bingo Time!I've known men who weren't addicted but chose to play all day anyway. If they've got more going for them sure that's fine but I feel like video games are comparable to watching TV, it's not a hobby worth mentioning and doesn't show anything of value to me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 01:36 PM |
| 14 | Is it a PA giving him ED or something worse?I'm glad everyone is saying it's porn, because it is. It will be cycles of him getting better then relapsing again. each time he gets better you will regain hope only to have it crushed when he starts it up again. They don't get better without long term therapy. Your self esteem will be ruined over someone else's addiction, you're young and should be able to have a healthy and vibrant sex life with someone. Being a PA shows addictive personality traits too. Overall you will discover that giving … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 04:56 AM |
| 15 | LVM Bingo Time!Seeing "Is a gamer" being first on the list, even though in no particular order I'm assuming, brought a spark of joy back into my life. OLD profiles mentioning video games are an immediate swipe left. It's like saying you like to watch tv. Great........anything else.....? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 04:48 AM |
| 2 | One of my ex is a LVMTypical LVM, I'm glad you're away from him and can look back and see red flags. Now you can avoid this in the future if someone like him comes along again. Also, can't believe he called you ugly, wtf. He sounded extremely disrespectful | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 01:55 AM |
| 6 | Dating is for finding the right person, not to find someone to hang out with all the time and be his "girlfriend" for years and years while he has made no real commitment.I have a problem with this that I've been trying to figure out. I feel that men change and can definitely uphold an act of being an amazing person for a long time. I guess it's just, I have to know that divorce is always an option and that there is a risk of him being worse than you thought? I feel like some men didn't show their true colors to me until much later but that probably involved missing some red flags or overlooking them? The posts about women married for like 10+ years then suddenly… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 08:16 PM |
| 13 | When my husband gets something nice for himself, he buys me one too:) I like this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 05:24 PM |
| 2 | What about when your dad is a LVM?:( that's all horrible. I hate to know people do these things for years and just get away with it while victims, their own children, suffer. I'm sorry you went through that and had to grow up with that man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 11:34 AM |
| 4 | Orrrr maybe take women out to dinner? Also looking for the cheapest withdrawal fee on an ATMc to buy the cheapest pizza?? Thanks for the tips bumble22, he's 23 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 11:41 PM |
| 6 | ScaryIn 3rd grade during bible class a girl would masturbate, with a literal bible. The male teacher of that class never called her out despite it being so freaky and obvious. Then in 4th grade at a different school the same thing happened except she'd just wiggle around and grind on her legs. The male teacher there again said nothing, DESPITE IT BEING SO FREAKY AND OBVIOUS. It gave me such bad anxiety | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 11:29 PM |
| 11 | Orrrr maybe take women out to dinner? Also looking for the cheapest withdrawal fee on an ATMc to buy the cheapest pizza?? Thanks for the tips bumbleHmmm someone asked me on a date tonight where we could go for a walk together and/or paint together. Is that low value? It actually sounded pleasant to me. He was going to buy a pizza for us lol but who knows if it was a pizza from a restaurant or frozen pizza 🤨 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 11:16 PM |
| 138 | The audacity is astronomical .. Can you say toxic?After all that abuse then they're done with you because you're half the person you were. You take care of yourself less, become angry, sad or bitter, start taking care of them less or start showing desperation, etc. They can't use you anymore after they've drained you so they let you go to find fresh blood to suck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 11:14 PM |
| 139 | This is what I mean when I say we need to call a spade a spade with our girlfriends"Wish I could drug you more when you act out". That's disgusting and evil. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 11:26 AM |
| 103 | Young Scrots perpetuating pornsickness as normal and the Pickmieshas in the comments are celebrating.One of the comments "one time I thought I was legit gonna die so I pried his hands off my throat then had him do it again 🥴" . Okay girl. I'm sick of kink. I used to be "into" it but it never made me feel 100% safe, ever. I felt I was only good for sex so pleasing a man in any sorts was the goal, ignoring the gut response to idk, fuckin run or something??? It almost always comes from trauma for women yet for men it just seems to come from their depravity. And I'm supposed to think that's a safe … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 11:21 AM |
| 18 | Can someone explain to me the difference between exclusive and girlfriend? Why wouldn’t a guy just make you his girlfriend? What’s this middle “label?”I thought they were the same. If a guy wants to be exclusive, only seeing each other, without dating other people yet can't refer to me as his gf that's a hard no from me!! No middle ground there | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 03:53 AM |
| 30 | Should I be concerned? It was a family photo and this is his little brother. (Ignore the red face I did that)That's so strange I can see why you're kind of on the fence about it. But it's strange in a bad way imo. Just really weird he thought that was appropriate to do but then POST | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 03:02 AM |
| 75 | Uh oh. Looks like scrotes M.....Being a high value woman and knowing men's games makes you dAnGeRoUs!!!! Hurry before we go off hurting people by promoting self esteem!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 02:12 AM |
| 14 | Uh oh. Looks like scrotes M.....What was it?? Edit: what the fuck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 02:11 AM |
| 21 | i am really depressedThis is temporary, real, but temporary. You will find a good man one day, it is worth the wait. I understand wanting a companion to share your life with, I'm lonely too, but I know I need to be happy with myself and being alone before the right person shows up | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 11:27 PM |
| 7 | How can a man cry to a love song and say he loves you but the actions dont line up?^ THIS IS IT ^ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 10:32 PM |
| 12 | DO NOT put up with a porn sick, lying man. Told her he was looking at cars and did not know she had her makeup mirror there - when she asked him to show her he’d quickly flip to a picture of a car. Look closely at the mirror.That has to be a real thing. I feel like I can tell just by looking into their eyes but I thought maybe that's crazy. BUT THEY LEER, empty and imagining, while people who aren't porn sick appear to be more 'grounded' and present when I look into their eyes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 10:28 PM |
| 12 | DO NOT put up with a porn sick, lying man. Told her he was looking at cars and did not know she had her makeup mirror there - when she asked him to show her he’d quickly flip to a picture of a car. Look closely at the mirror.LMAO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 10:26 PM |
| 2 | LVM decided I was the one worth leaving.I'm glad I'm not alone. :( I've already gotten so much done today through my tears, things I had neglected for weeks. I looked in the mirror this morning while crying and literally said out loud "what are you crying about??? You're so pretty and smart and funny, blah blah blah" I know it will take time, I can't wait for the day to come when I feel in my heart that I'm happier and it was the best decision. Women like you and in this community are so supportive, it makes it a lot easier to hear su… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 03:33 PM |
| 11 | A question about SnapchatYes, girls have snapchat accounts for posting lewds or nudes, sexting, exchanging pics, etc., usually involves the guy paying them thru snap or other means of payment. Guys who get so caught up in 'pretty girls' usually take it further and get caught up in seeing more of them. Why is he so defensive about removing them. Why is he that attached to random girls on snap that he can't remove them from his life, despite knowing it makes his partner uncomfortable. I just think it's disrespectful and r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 01:08 PM |
| 12 | Women can’t have a safe space without it being violated by creeps like this it’s sickening how some men will really go out their way to catfish women as an attempt to instil fear and insecurity within usI was left by a man apparently because my boobs were too small. Or, actually, I was cheated on and that was the named reason. I left him because my self esteem was so damaged and still is now after that, still think I can never find a faithful man because of my body. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 12:54 PM |
| 89 | I finished the handbook and broke up with my bf of 1.5 yearsEx and I broke up yesterday. I'm not a HVW at this point either but I intend to be and also feel that shift happening. To our brighter futures..🥂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 03:59 PM |
| 34 | How to vet for sexual compatibilityYes!!! What a great test!! I could have spared myself if I had taken this approach. I will take this approach in the future. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 03:35 PM |
| 3 | LVM decided I was the one worth leaving.I also had an abortion with him. It adds to the whole experience of loss, doesn't it. Losing another future that was so close to happening but honestly it was for the better that it didn't. That man was a horrible person, he sounds like a textbook narc and I'm so sorry you went through that and suffered his abuse. Your strength inspires me. And to think there is no better woman for him, just one more willing to put up with him, is really comforting to hear and true. I tried so hard to be flexibl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 03:31 PM |
| 57 | This is sickeningnot surprised. I will keep saying this: it's all about the novelty. I hate men | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 11:47 AM |
| 9 | LVM decided I was the one worth leaving.Ugh, there's no way he could, not until it's too late for him is my theory. I keep thinking about him settling down with someone else and just feel horrible about it. I want to focus on myself and will try my best. Thank you for the congratulations, I need that attitude | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 05:52 AM |
| 9 | LVM decided I was the one worth leaving.I hate to hear it but also glad to know we're in it together. You will be better off too girl | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 05:12 AM |
| 18 | LVM decided I was the one worth leaving.You're so right. I keep trying to tell myself it's better now than never because he couldn't have been the one to spend my life with. Thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 05:09 AM |
| 0 | Thoughts on this? We matched on OLD and had a few text conversations over a week, asked for a quick phone call and he said no?What is OLD? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 03:30 AM |
| 6 | Man with girlfriend flirted with me in front of her. How to overcome my disgust and outrage?I would have looked at him with a flat expression and turned away upon realizing the situation. It's not polite pool talk, it's clearly undertones of flirting... Drop the pick me behavior girl.. His attention for 2 seconds isn't worth participating in a situation that's possibly hurting someone, hate to say it but a fellow sister, right in front of their face. And you're asking if he's worth pursuing beyond this?? Girl??? You're interesting because you're new to him. Someone will be the new girl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 03:18 AM |
| 14 | Engaged Since 2010This makes me happy to read. I wish you two well:) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 02:43 AM |
| 192 | Woman posts about wanting romance. Scrotes on the comment section make it about themselves once again. We cannot even complain about LVM without them getting defensive. The narcissism of these Redditors. The audacity of scrotes if baffling.Scrotes can never have a woman feeling good about herself. All they care about is novelty, they emotionally discard you the moment you start feeling no longer 'new' to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 02:14 AM |
| 8 | Suicidal thoughtsFor abuse and trauma, EMDR is really great. Idk if you've heard of it but it's therapy that's got so much research to back up the effectiveness. I'm currently doing it rn and in the process of getting my old self back inna way, though I know it will never be the same, I can feel safe, secure and worthy again. Men, especially abusive ones, will suck your soul until you're as empty as they are. I'm sorry you went through that. It also ended for me 2-3 yrs ago and I still get flashbacks. You most l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 11:03 AM |
| 142 | This makes me sick to my stomach. I hope she broke up with him and got a better boyfriend.This is sexual abuse, so blatantly. Like this is something that would fuck me up for YEARS. I seriously hope she's okay and has found someone that has a soul. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 04:37 PM |
| 25 | American Culture - Does it teach men to do the chasing? Or does it teach women to do the chasing?I think there's probably 1 good man for every 50 good women. I've been feeling like the chances of finding one is like finding a unicorn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 07:58 PM |
| 7 | I am not saying it IS rape, but I can’t be the only one that thinks hiding use of porn on purpose when entering a relationship is rapey behaviorI know what you mean. Idk if I'd call it rape, it's more like cheating and I wouldn't call someone cheating on me raping me but like I said I know what you mean. It's violation on many levels and I think 100% contributes to rape culture. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/20 09:27 PM |
| 28 | My entire attitude has shifted. FDS really helped meThis is the way to do it. Men have so much more fun working for the woman, but they don't always realize that (& LVM don't have fun working for women) And it's literally so much more satisfying to show up after your morning and night routine, after a focused and productive day at work, etc, to a date that HE planned. It's like... you glow more when you invest in yourself instead of the relationship. And men honestly prefer it that way. Once women get comfortable with doing that and the guilt goe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 11:34 PM |
| 2 | I found my divine masculine incarnateI'm so happy for you!!!! That's beautiful and I love hearing stories about it because it makes it all the more desirable in my head... never settle ladies find your HVM:) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 11:22 PM |
| 4 | Can chemistry be built over time?It can be built over time but it's usually better and worth it to find someone that you feel the spark with rather than being "well there's no reason for me not to feel it so he's good enough" know what I mean? It might be related to inexperience but I have my doubts about that, unless you've never experienced arousal at all | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/20 05:22 PM |
| 7 | What is your opinion on using coloured contact lenses and hair extensions?Different men have different takes. Women dye their hair so I don't see a problem with colored contacts or extensions other than colored contacts never looking attractive imo. Some men don't have interest in hearing about the details and prefer the image and mystery. Other men like the authenticity one-to-one but don't mind if she dresses up how she wants (preferred). Then other men think it's 'fake' so automatically bad, although those are usually the same men who don't actually know what makeu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/20 05:19 PM |
| 27 | Who is gonna tell her ? Five years spent . Being. Fuck. Buddy. Not. Even. A. Forever. Girlfriend . Ladies remember if nobody knows about you ,you aint his woman .Just try to keep noticing the signs in these LVM rather than beating yourself up cause it's definitely a challenge to navigate through their deceit and false promises. If anything self reflection is healthy and breaking up with this guy was a smart and healthy choice, so you broke some self sabotaging cycles. These days I kind of want (my face/pictures) to be present on their social media even before being their gf, at least on stories or something. I've been cheated on bc no one knew my ex even… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 02:27 AM |
| 247 | Who is gonna tell her ? Five years spent . Being. Fuck. Buddy. Not. Even. A. Forever. Girlfriend . Ladies remember if nobody knows about you ,you aint his woman ."When I bring up the fact that he looks like a totally single guy to anyone snooping on his profile, he tells me I'm reading too deeply into it, and asks me if I'm bored and want to do something to "occupy my mind." Am I nuts here?" Look, it's gaslighting in broad daylight!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 09:32 PM |
| 3 | How do you feel about momma's boys?my ex spouted feminist and women-loving rhetoric, big mama's boy, but still wound up in him being physically, sexually, emotionally abusive. It was weird because his mom seemed generally detached from him. But he's still living with her and can never hold down a job so he's working at her at-home doggy daycare. Until he can find a new gf to support him. Being a mama's boy doesn't say much to me but normally I interpret it with a negative. He'll always hold her above you, which if the goal is to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/20 11:57 PM |
| 6 | How do you feel about momma's boys?my ex spouted feminist and women-loving rhetoric, big mama's boy, but still wound up in him being physically, sexually, emotionally abusive. It was weird because his mom seemed generally detached from him. But he's still living with her and can never hold down a job so he's working at her at-home doggy daycare. Until he can find a new gf to support him. Being a mama's boy doesn't say much to me but normally I interpret it with a negative. He'll always hold her above you, which if the goal is to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/20 11:57 PM |
| 86 | Fuckboys who treat their new girlfriends to all the things you wanted but never got do so because they're desperately trying to prove you were the problem all along. Recognize it for the manipulative tactic that it is, and don't take it personally.a personal transformation required for these kinds of men takes YEARS, not a few months in between you and the next girl he dates | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/20 10:30 PM |
| 94 | Fuckboys who treat their new girlfriends to all the things you wanted but never got do so because they're desperately trying to prove you were the problem all along. Recognize it for the manipulative tactic that it is, and don't take it personally.That and the fact that they use it as leverage over the new girl--"Look at how great I treat you!! I don't do this for other women, see, I treat you like you're special." When usually they're just treating them in a pretty standard or base level way that the original girl never got so by comparison it looks like treating the new girl like a princess. Even if they are treating them super extra, it doesnt make their faults disappear and their true selves will show eventually. They just needed more… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/20 10:24 PM |
| 19 | Ladies, let's talk about porn in a relationship.Getting off to porn multiple times a day sounds like a porn addiction rather than a high sex drive. He has fetishized a "type" of woman, before he met you, you're meeting the fetish criteria. When he watches porn those women are meeting the preexisting fetish criteria. That's just my take. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/20 09:09 PM |
| 4 | How to deal with shame of past experiences?The shame doesn't really have to be your own. It's helpful to learn to prevent it from happening again, as much as it's in your control to (some men are just manipulative as hell and KNOW the red flags so they find ways to avoid displaying their poor traits until later). The past is the past and we just have to move forward to better things, like the other commenter said. We all make mistakes and our culture teaches us to accept certain things while ignoring others. Most of us can relate to you … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 03:17 AM |
| 68 | Tattoo artist based AFDude that's so funny. And satisfying. No one tell him. Please let him walk around with his true colors on his skin foreverrrr :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 02:51 AM |
| 3 | Yes Ladies, You CAN be raped and not realize it until weeks later: A Profile of a GraypistPlease, what happens when you report with no proof????? I have proof that we dated, I even have some nerve damage on my back but idk how to prove he did it. The statue of limitations in my state is up soon so I either report this soon or never. But I'm scared to report. But I feel like I want to, should, and some part of me feels like I have to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 04:21 PM |
| 10 | How do you get over being used?Were you coerced into anything? Or did something more go on where you felt powerless to stop it? It just sounds like a trauma reaction to me so idk how safe you truly felt with him. It takes time to rebuild the internal structures we had to support us. A lot of crying and holding yourself through it, promising you won't let it happen again to the best of your ability-knowing the warning signs, going to therapy, not ignoring red flags, etc. Just being kind and gentle on yourself. Bad experiences … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 06:37 PM |
| 0 | Am I the only one who consider Lana del Rey to be a LVW?"Her music isnt even good. Listen to good music. You dont think I listen to good music?? Grt fucked everyone dont be snob." Come on lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 04:49 PM |
| 2 | I'm 23 years old and have never cooked a damn thing in my lifeYou sound clinically depressed. Medication and therapy would probably be the best route before undertaking literally anything else. After you do that start with cleaning (so that you regularly wash your clothes) and basic hygiene, manners. Then cooking (once you have it as a norm to keep the house clean and washing dishes. Otherwise food gets left out and wasted, leftovers sit in containers forever, etc, not worth it). Mostly ANY skill can be developed with time and practice, for some it takes l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/20 04:05 PM |
| 3 | How can I stop envying my boyfriend and his achievements and be less bitter instead of letting it ruin my relationship with himI'm sorry :( comparison is a killer. There will always be someone better than you, but always someone worse than you too. I like the idea of only comparing our current self to our past self. You're probably only moving up in the world rather than going downhill, even if you're not exactly where you thought you would be. Is he supportive of you during this time? Has he tried to lift your esteem at all or reassure you? Tbh this situation just kind of sucks, having someone so close to you who got a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/20 08:46 PM |
| 3 | Ex boyfriend. HelpI believe you're feeling particularly triggered from this man reentering your life and it is stirring up old feelings because there may still be things unprocessed (like you said when you mentioned looking for closure). The things unprocessed don't have to be that you still love him, want to be with him, etc. Well it could, but I'm talking about dealing with that shit you mentioned in a relationship can be somewhat traumatic... so I'm just guessing there's many layers to this for you emotionally… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/03/20 10:54 PM |
| 1 | Men: if a woman's male friends ALWAYS end up trying to fuck or date her, does that mean she isn't interesting/funny/good enough to be friends with?My question is why men befriend attractive women-"most of my friends are attractive and I would fuck/date them"? Rare that men truly befriend women who are totally opposite of their type or considerably unattractive. A man's idea of a female friend is a friend until 'the opportunity' arises which is like ... ok then. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/20 05:28 PM |
| 16 | How can a woman respect men knowing that they all want to fuck her?Guys vs CUTE girls or guys vs girls? You think cute guys don't get laid as frequently as cute women....? Who do you think the cute girls are having sex with? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/20 04:31 PM |
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