Hi ladies! Some context- I am anti porn, even softcore because it leads to the objectification and degradation of women and I've been subject to a lot of that throughout my life, so porn has no place in my relationship.

I've talked about this up to my partner and he sees where I'm coming from, and has gotten rid of most of the porn accounts he used to follow and reassures me that he isn't watching it. He still follows a lot of porn subreddits, which really really bothers me, but I feel like I need to talk to him about the fact that that's a betrayal to have all of that still there, I'll bring it up when I see him next.

Even though he's amazing, and he reassures me he's not watching any of it, I still can't trust him. I imagine in my head that he's getting off to porn on Reddit, I really have no clue and he's such an amazing person, I know he wouldn't lie to me, I just need to rebuild trust, but it's hard!

Would it work if I attended counseling sessions? Not couples counseling, but just for me? Would they be able to help me trust my partner more? Does anyone have any other suggestions (apart from to leave him, please, I don't want to do that when he's willing to do what he can to make things work- maybe I need to explicitly say that porn reddits are also porn and I'm extremely uncomfortable that he still has that kind of thing around now we're getting serious)

Thanks ladies!