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MALE DEPRAVITYsurfgreenbabe/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 09:59 AM
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surfgreenbabe/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 08:56 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYsurfgreenbabe/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 08:08 AM
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MOOD FOR LIFEsurfgreenbabe/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 07:02 AM
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LIES MEN TELLsurfgreenbabe/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 05:01 AM
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ROAST-A-SCROTEsurfgreenbabe/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 08:53 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYsurfgreenbabe/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 01:43 PM
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QUEEN SH*Tsurfgreenbabe/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 08:19 AM
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DISCUSSIONsurfgreenbabe/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 04:53 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYsurfgreenbabe/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 05:26 AM
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DISCUSSIONsurfgreenbabe/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 08:40 AM
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How-To High Valuesurfgreenbabe/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 05:38 AM
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QUEEN SH*Tsurfgreenbabe/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 07:18 AM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYsurfgreenbabe/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 06:23 AM
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Story time ☕surfgreenbabe/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 12:12 PM
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NAH, SISsurfgreenbabe/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 04:18 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYsurfgreenbabe/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 08:27 AM
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So true. This happened to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 12:48 PM
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I was in this huge age gap marriage. I'm 8 years younger to him. He didn't raise above the basic instincts. He found pleasures only in food, sex and sleep. He has no interests outside of these three. He didn't care whether I was unhappy or unfulfilled. I had given up on life. But now that I'm out of that stressful and unfulfilled life, I am rediscovering myself. It hurts sometimes that I lost so many years to anger, boredom, overwork, anxiety and had a very early menopause. All of this was for a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 08:11 AM
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So true. I have been victim of the calculated kindness by a few men in the family and at the work place. Can't change myself being an empath. But anyways, I'm focused on laying strong boundaries now. Thank you. Great post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 06:15 AM
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My daughter introduced this to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 04:36 AM
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And "chicks". Wtf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 08:30 AM
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This is exactly what happened to me. Him and his mother both wanted me gone. He thought he was in control until the kids also moved out with me and I went no contact. He wanted me to live separately and allow him Fcuking visitations whenever he wanted. I am still no contact. He's playing the victim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 05:03 AM
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I don't think we should babify these evil men. Babies are cute and adorable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 08:47 AM
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Good call Sister
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 07:25 AM
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I will add road rage to this list
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 07:17 AM
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Male Idealisation and God like worshipping is a very common culture in all the castes and creed in India
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 04:43 AM
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I'm so comfortable being single. I can do what I want whenever I want. I can sleep late and wake up late. I can keep my house minimalistic and clean. I don't have to fuss over the hundreds of rituals and festivals. I don't have to talk to or entertain his enabling relatives. I am happy to be here and now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 10:09 AM
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He cooked one meal per day, did the shopping too. I had to work in two places so the kids could go to college and have other stuff too. But for that one meal, he wanted to be kept on a pedestal and worshipped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 05:30 PM
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I lost all the respect for Attenborough
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 11:12 AM
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Will these celeb ladies ever find and read FDS?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 04:27 PM
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"Not to rock the boat"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 04:21 PM
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I know one of these types who married a brilliant girl calculating the future. She did masters, took up a job, had kids, bought house. He quit his job as soon as she got the job, joined the law school. Took forever to pass the bar, couldn't find a job. He's in his late fifties, earns very little, but leading a sophisticated lifestyle because of wife's earnings. She pays for everything, including his undergarments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 02:38 AM
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Cringe with a capital C
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 04:59 AM
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I walked out of the most toxic and abusive marriage after 26years, finally reaching a tipping point. He was graduating from verbal abuse to physical abuse. He was abusive to my two adult children too. We three moved out and living in peace now. There are multiple hoovering attempts by him, but I have stayed strong not to go back. I am surprised by this strength which I was unaware of. Children are at peace and though I have triggers, I know I will get there eventually. It's been almost two years…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 06:37 AM
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All the boxes were ticked before getting married arranged by parents, couldn't stay because he was so toxic. How can people fall for "prison Jim"? This episode was hilarious and also terrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 08:41 AM
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""Can we meet before January 10th and sort out every thing. And then go out for a vacation for our wedding anniversary. Please🙏"" This is the latest hoovering text from nvx. He's been trying for to get back from past two years. I don't want to go back. Thanks to this sub for keeping my s**t together and helping me level up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 12:55 PM
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I'm from east. I'm really thankful for the awareness I got from this sub. I may not be able to achieve all of it but I'm glad I know such principles exists and it's good for me. This is a new way of thinking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 08:23 AM
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Ok i will post it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 01:25 PM
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These people stay in a different country
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 06:26 AM
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Yes you are absolutely right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 05:16 AM
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Thank you This is perfect
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 05:04 AM
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No support of any kind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 05:04 AM
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I'm Fifty and what I want to tell my younger self is that don't get married at 23, finish your studies, go all the way, earn well, travel, and don't be trauma bonded with anyone, leave the abusive relationship at the earliest, don't wait for 26 years. Don't be a doormat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 06:13 AM
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WOW just wow I am saving this and thank you for writing it so well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 07:16 AM
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I'm fifty and have this same mindset. Thank you for putting it so well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 07:10 AM
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Pervert
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 05:55 PM
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So what he's 91,age does not define maturity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 06:11 AM
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He (also a doctor) used to call me "death certificate doctor"because I work in the ER
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 05:20 AM
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He said he can't help it and said that God has made men like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 02:06 AM
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Movies and series made us believe that United States men are better dressed than Asian men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 08:28 AM
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This is true. They do have two faces.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 10:29 AM
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But I have been thinking why did her parents didn't report it earlier?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 10:27 AM
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He will become lazy. He will sulk. He will be a martyr. He will want to have joint account in the bank. He will gang up with kids and abuse her. She can never retire because he would have forgotten his skills to get back to the job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 02:09 AM
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"There were three of us in that marriage, me, him and his mom"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 12:15 PM
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He says he can't help it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 09:00 AM
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I have seen a senior design engineer with two Master degrees do this "helpless" act and completely manipulated by her husband for 28 years
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 12:07 PM
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I love everything about this post. Thanks for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 04:25 AM
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Yes the door is open, magic has begun and I have been peaceful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 01:53 PM
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Why anal? What's so special about it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 08:29 AM
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Or he's a lying piece of shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 08:24 AM
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🙏🙏🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 08:00 PM
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Yes when he's resentful, which was often they were my kids and I have spoiled them for this lifetime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 07:07 AM
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And we lived with his mom in the family house. She used to wash the dishes whenever she finds some in the sink in spite of me telling her not to. She would say she doesn't mind it. Any time during the argument, which will happen very often, almost every day, he will bring this up " I cook your meal and my mom washes your dishes. You and your kids don't appreciate enough ".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 06:24 AM
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True. Every dish in the kitchen sink. The portions were huge, kept piling up in the fridge, and gets yelled at for not finising.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:21 AM
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He was cooking one meal per day and expected me and kids to fall on his feet. We were married for a long time and he took us for granted, abused us, controlled us and dominated us. He became careless about us over the time, never wanted to go anywhere, never wanted to be part of anything fun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:12 AM
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And I have heard that don't rock the boat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 03:27 AM
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This is what happening to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 03:25 AM
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They don't want to hear about it too. One of them told "no, I don't want to know". Wtf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 03:21 AM
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Yes. I didn't get any support from my "women relatives", when I walked out of my abuser. Those were the ones who took maximum help from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 03:19 AM
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I love the phrase "Growth Mindset". Thanks. I needed that today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 03:10 AM
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He wanted to know the price of every little or big things I buy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 03:08 AM
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Me too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 02:58 AM
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You could sense even back then. Mind blowing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 02:56 AM
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You are not a failure. He is overbearing. He's purposefully hurting you. Kick him out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:24 PM
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Holy crap! She is a complete novice in this relationship. I am utterly astonished.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 12:19 PM
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I was eating raw Rice when I was in a tremondous stressful marriage. I lost most of my teeth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 04:39 AM
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I heard this from an ivy League student who was a freshman, who was obsessed with a girl whom he was about to see her in the college for the first time as "she was super easy to talk to and she was too eager to continue the conversation. Hence I was not interested". I thought WTF?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 04:16 AM
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Nauseating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 06:58 AM
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Here, the son can't imagine going out only with his wife. He feels very guilty to leave the mother alone in the house. So she tags along wherever the couple goes. Park, shopping, temple, just for a walk, anywhere and everywhere. She will never refuse. In fact, if the son don't invite her for some reason, she will be sulking for a week.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 06:56 AM
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Such a cruelty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 11:42 PM
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Such a cruelty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 11:41 PM
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Oh I didn't know this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:28 AM
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So proud of you🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:07 AM
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I am proud of you Op
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:06 AM
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I am content with my life now. I own a place, children are with me. I have a fulfilling job. Parents are supportive. Separated since one year and never felt so much lighter and freedom and peaceful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:05 AM
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I was permanently banned from RPW for mentioning to check FDS for the one crying over a useless husband post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 07:25 AM
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I appreciate you all for the encouraging words and the awards. Thanks🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 09:21 AM
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Thank you. I have been trying to do most of it. But there are triggers. Makes me very upset. Makes me question of my choices. He was helping to make the meal plan, buying groceries and vegetables, paying the bills. But he was also yelling a lot, controlling, fuming, cursing, using offensive language, chronically mistreating me and the kids, making fun of me, abusive, addicted to substances, comparing me with other women, many many unresolved issues. I was sad for a very long time. This, leaving …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 03:46 PM
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Thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 02:56 PM
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Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 02:56 PM
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My daughter baked me a cheese pasta in the evening and she gave me a bouquet of sunflowers and dark chocolates. It's me and her living peacefully after I split from her abusive father last year. It was she who gave me the strength to leave the house and the relationship of 26 years. God bless her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 11:12 AM
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Yes and Rebecca Jung
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 08:29 AM
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Hi there, I know I have arrived late here. But I wanted to mention one, two or three things about South Indian men. ೧. Deeply bonded with his family especially mother. But dislikes in laws and any of his wife's relatives. Can't stand them. ೨. Expects wife to attend to all the events in his side of the family but behaves very difficult at events in the wife's side. ೩. Wife must be flexible, adjustable, respectful, obedient, hard working, pious, religious, devoted, should care for the elders, appr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 09:03 AM
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True
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 07:44 AM
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Same here. All of them from my in-laws family including the extended family used me to the maximum support and when I called quits and moved out, no one cared. Didn't call to check out how me and kids are doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 07:43 AM
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Brought up in a traditional family and it's difficult to change the mindset. Trying hard though..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 07:12 AM
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I have to wait until I die because I am a Hindu and my unhappiness or unfortunate circumstances are because of "bad karma" of my previous birth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 04:57 AM
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Seperated because the wife walked out of the abusive relationship and this guy don't want give mutual consent divorce because his ego is hurting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 04:53 AM
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same. hope + shame + guilt kept me in the abusive marriage for a very long time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 03:34 PM
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thanks❤🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 12:27 PM
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I confess that I ignored all the red flags and had two kids with a LVM. recently I walked out after several abusive episodes. I hate myself for tolerating and putting my kids in an unsafe and insane space 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 08:54 AM
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They have no clue what decent means
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 08:44 AM
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I did the same thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 08:49 AM
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Amen🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 03:11 AM
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He is not a jerk, he is perfect most of the time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 07:27 PM
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Does he live with his parents Does he have a vision for a successful relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 06:35 AM
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