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My friends wife bought him a kick ass manly knife. He did not understand the hint. You know, as long as we are sharing experiences.
/r/askMRP22/04/16 07:07 AM
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When my wife loses libido it is either because she is stressed out or sex is boring. Can't do much about stress since it is work related, but boring sex is on me.
/r/askMRP19/04/16 07:23 AM
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So you want her to rake in 1/2 and you start doing the laundry? Just say it and it will come. Honey, I was just thinking. You really should put in more hours so you can match my income. I'll take care of the kids and do the laundry.
/r/askMRP15/04/16 05:57 AM
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I know the type. In fact I can identify two of my friends from the op. They have another thing in common too, they both have a db marriage. They call this behavior "team work" or some bullshit. I can see this going on at their house when I visit for coffee. It is plain disrespect from their wifes part and it makes me cringe. I heard a funny thing while back. One of my friend was telling his wife that did you know tbornott and his wife are having sex on regular basis? This is what she said. You a…
/r/askMRP25/02/16 06:27 AM
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I don't think these are shit tests. She is just using you for servitude and you happily comply. She should be taking care of her own shit. Shit test is a test of character. You don't have any to test. Shit tests will happen when you start expecting her to pick up for herself.
/r/askMRP24/02/16 07:03 PM
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I respond, Whatever you want to do. Wtf mate? Seriously? Read this again and think. "Are you gonna go to sleep once she passes out?" And she responds, "Yeah what am I supposed to do?" I respond, Whatever you want to do. How about you replace it with what YOU want to do? -Come here and have a drink with me. -Come here so I can slap that fine ass of yours. -Come here and help me make some evening snacks. Instead you are "Meh, nevermind" I'll just leave the house.
/r/askMRP21/02/16 05:40 AM
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Just to put things in to perspective. All these days and presents are mostly a marketing ploy invented to get you to buy more useless shit. So think about that while you consider if you should or should not buy some more useless shit to your wife? I never got my wife an engagement ring. You know the one that's supposed to cost X months salary. Can you guess what happened? Well nothing happened, except that I still got married...
/r/askMRP12/02/16 05:37 PM
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Why are you hesitating? I have this nagging sensation, that I should be making myself more useful. I was brought up to have a good work ethic, but I have learned that it does not matter always. It is more important to do right things, than to just do things. You guys can instantly come up with a ton of things I could be doing. But you can't help me decide for myself, I have to do that decision on my own.
/r/askMRP10/02/16 08:05 PM
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Not really what I mean. I certainly do not think daycare is prison. But to me it will always be secondary option.
/r/askMRP09/02/16 06:16 PM
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This reminded me that I have not figured out what I really really want to do.
/r/askMRP09/02/16 04:15 PM
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But your wife isn't your mother, and the State isn't your daddy. Certainly so, but I feel no shame. I've seen state tax me to shit and it does not care. So neither do I anymore. Daycare definitely is my hamster, maybe because I personally never enjoyed daycare. School was fine for me though. They way I feel about daycare is people get used to prison and military too.
/r/askMRP09/02/16 04:11 PM
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Well, I have done the numbers and it don't look good. Right now household is making little bit of excess. Not much, but it feels comfortable. If I would start a business, any kind of business, then household would be leaking money every month. State sees fit to hand me a pretty fat check (if you ask me), as long as I don't do anything. That combined with full time daycare costs is as much as you would except from a low paying full time job. I don't make the rules and I would feel like and idiot …
/r/askMRP09/02/16 11:32 AM
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It's just that orgasm is considered be-all and end-all of sex. Cosmos and whatnot are filled with "what position" "what technique" and so on as if there is no sex without orgasms. You know what? You will never be as good masturbating your wife as she is masturbating herself. Blog is about how a chad (or chump) came along and told that female how he is nearly busting in his pants because her ass is so fine. Now this chump could not masturbate this female as good as she does (or her husband) and s…
/r/askMRP07/01/16 12:08 PM
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I am on a fixed salary. If we take what I will make plus that last paycheck of hers, we should be able to just squeak by in September and then things should improve as her job picks up. However, if I hadn't closed the joint account, she would have just kept spending when she felt like it and we would have been underwater. You saw a problem and took action. Tried one approach, it did not work. Then you picked a new one instead of hitting your head on the wall. This is good. Now you should figure …
/r/askMRP29/08/15 07:49 AM
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Thanks. This is a good tip. I am sure I won't be pulling Bond moves anytime soon, but it never hurts to observe.
/r/askMRP24/08/15 06:42 AM
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I am pretty certain she has no intentions, but it just got me thinking as to why I don't do this in public. So just like you said, maybe this is not flirting, it is just who I am. Well at least it is not flirting with an aim to get her in bed. From my personal experience I can know that sometimes women escalate fast and it is very physical. I would not mind if they did some light kino or something like that, but it is like they mean business. I feel like I need a way to de-escalate gracefully, b…
/r/askMRP24/08/15 06:39 AM
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This is very true. I guess it is just some blue pill shit. Like if I am nice I am obliged to fuck you. I have to keep this is mind.
/r/askMRP24/08/15 06:00 AM
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No I don't intentionally run hard dread on my wife. It is just how I view the world. When I interact with females I am not out to make friends. I see other females mostly as sexual beings. That does not mean I am out to fuck them. So this leads to a situation where it is either strictly professional or I choose to ignore completely. Like these women do not exists at all. It does not feel right. Let me give you an example: I was at a gym recently and while I was getting my things I notice a young…
/r/askMRP24/08/15 05:43 AM
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No that is not what I mean. You need to call him on it. If he is acting like a pussy don't reward him. You can just look uninterested and tell him to get his shit together. I know it may seem hard if you see him "depressed", but is he really depressed or just not owning it? Read the post by /u/jacktenofhearts again. It is solid. What you don't want to be doing is sending mixed signals. This sub is full of examples, thats why guys are here asking questions. Their wives signals are all over the pl…
/r/askMRP20/08/15 06:14 AM
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TBH you might have to push him to the doghouse first. I think you can do a lot of things to guide him, but it (the process) needs to start from him. I kind of did the red pill journey on my own. Well with help of my wife to be exact. I am pretty sure she has never read any of this stuff, but looking back, it look like she sure knew what she wanted and was pretty clear about it. Biggest problem is that of course she wanted me to "just get it". Being an Oak: She comes up to me and say "You have so…
/r/askMRP19/08/15 06:05 AM
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She does not want to save for those things, rather just wants them. You are fumbling with this YNAB and she can see right through you. That is why she says she wants to save. She does not believe you can do it. Give her the allowance and be done with it. It is the simplest most effective budgeting tool known to mankind. Of course you don't just give her her paychecks. She will auto-deposit whatever is not her allowance to joint savings. You can setup mutual funds or whatever in her name at your …
/r/askMRP18/08/15 07:17 AM
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Why can't you allow her to have her own bank account. She is an adult after all. I know it is a big responsibility, but I am sure she can handle it.
/r/askMRP17/08/15 05:33 PM
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How does she respond if you ask her something like: "Do you like my cock inside you?" How does she respond if you demand her to say it: "I want your cock inside of me." How does she respond if you fuck her until she is just about to come and then pull out. Then ask something like: "Do you want me to fuck you until you come?" Just pull out and put only the tip back in. Alternatively you could edge. Point is to have her close to orgasm, but you will not go all the way if she does not say: "I want …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/15 06:27 AM
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Maybe it is just me, but you come out as indecisive. Let me give you examples: On the way back to work she calls and says she's done w/ the marriage. I Agree saying "Okay - Let me know when you're moving out" To me it sounds like you are just playing her down. Not believing her. It does not set any boundary. This is what I would do (and what I actually did say). "Either you do it or you don't. I don't want to hear about it ever again." I chalk it up to a woman's equivalent of dread since she's s…
/r/askMRP15/08/15 03:29 PM
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My wife wanted to have sex in pitch dark, preferably under blanket for long time. Only until recently she came out of it and it was after I read SGM and started showing that I am comfortable with my body. When we started having sex I would just say leave the light on for a moment and get undressed and just basically showed my body to her. She would be under blanket or dressed, whatever. I did not tell her to do anything, except look at me. Then one night we got a bit hot and heavy in the bathroo…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/15 02:25 PM
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You did not describe what you do. Do you lead by example? All you said was that you fuck her, bought a gag ball and told her to do things. Are You Immersed and Emotional like described in SGM?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/15 01:01 PM
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I've been considering if I should write this up as a field report. My story is not really by the book. I discovered MRP after I had things pretty much under control. However there were things that I could relate right away. For example shit tests. I'd read "what is a shit test". Then I would just observe and notice I instinctively respond to shit tests correctly, but I also realized I used to struggle with that before. Another thing is that my wife is a highish career woman and she does and will…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/15 08:57 AM
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If she is doing medical school right, she's busting her ass and now I'm starting to think if you are the whiny lazy party. Yeah he is a lazy whiny party who pays for fucking everything. The short answer. Buy a car. Yes, get that present ready you lazy mf. Maybe if he would shover her with more presents, just maybe. How does this advice relate to MRP? Where does it say that you should shower your wife with presents? Does it say that you should do it especially when she is acting like a bitch? Rel…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/15 03:04 PM
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For example, I am planning a trip to visit my family in a few weeks, and my wife says "I don't want to have to drive you 2 hours so you can have a vacation." So you tell your wife that if she drives you to your family, then she can have the car for her own needs. Instead I held my tongue and accelerated my plans to purchase a second car. And when she says: "You can crawl to your family's place for all I care. I will take (your) car and use it for my own needs." You start thinking what a wonderfu…
/r/askMRP13/08/15 09:20 AM
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Look, I know there is a lot of advice out there to communicate, communicate, communicate. I guess there comes the idea about "the talk". For some reason females fail to tell what kind of communicating they want and it is mainly two things. 1) They want a manly man to communicate his lust for her body when he is fucking her solid. 2) They want you to break out the pop corn and sit back when they babble on about their daily encounters. Third thing is logistics, but that should be kind of obvious.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/15 07:50 PM
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It is January 2013. I am contemplating on divorce. After a long and hard thought I come to a conclusion that I will stay at least until kids are gone, but I will make it as comfortable for me as possible. It is going to be my house/life and she can kick me out if she does not like it. Sex? I was too tired to want it and only get it maybe once a month. I just accepted the fact that I am not going to get any for the rest of my life. Ever so slowly I started to assert small things I wanted and star…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/15 06:16 AM
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If we were going to have a parent-child dynamic like that, I'd rather just take over all the money and give her an allowance. What is wrong with that? Hell, I even give myself an allowance. I don't see how that is parent-child dynamic. I get and allowance, she gets an allowance. Fair game. My wife does not intervene with mid to long term finances. She is welcome, but needs to run the numbers and be serious. So far she has shown little interest. As for getting pissy when you say no, I think that …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/15 01:48 PM
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Up till now, our "budgeting" strategy has mostly been her asking me if we could buy ______ and me saying yes or no. You can imagine how awesome that's been. and you are changing all that because? I totally get you making a budget, but why involve your wife if she is not interested? Sounds just like my wife about two years back. We were building a house together. Well she was mostly just cosigning the mortgage, I was doing all the constructing and building. At one point she wanted to start to fid…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/15 12:12 PM
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There was zero contact often for days. She learned that if we had sex, I would give her time and attention again without a word even being spoken. Offer your wife a real path of escape to your attention and time, she will use it. This doesn't need to be sex, but sex will solve alot of problems for you and her. I am going to go and disagree here a bit. At least on the "it doesn't need to be sex" part. I am just going to assume sexuality is important to females. When you give attention for day or …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/15 09:58 AM
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I can only speak for my wife, but she kind of sounds the same. She does not responds well to spanking, any kind of degrading dirty talk or choking. She responds very well if I hold her down by the back of the neck with my fingers reaching halfway her throat. If I move my hand over her throat (no pressure at all), she immediately tells me to stop. I have not even tried spanking. If I "impose" on her, or move in such manner that it creates a sensation of me restricting her or that I am stronger th…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/15 08:07 PM
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I think he is saying "when it will happen". This is just irrational fear. Quite understandable when you have not yet quite grasped the concepts. He should just take it slowly and not worry about it too much.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/15 03:57 PM
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This is not just directed at you. What's up with the idea that you can fuck your wife and come inside and just not get her pregnant. I can see this going around me everywhere. Ooops, oops, I did not know she could get pregnant. I went to see a doctor for vasectomy and she was like, dude your wife is almost 40. It might be possible she can't get pregnant anymore. This is madness. This is directed at you. No wonder your wife is defensive. You fucked her bareback and she got pregnant. Now own your …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/15 06:49 AM
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How old are your kids and how long do you plan on being SAHD? Could you think of starting a business on the side? With your wife making the money, I don't see how it would be financially unfeasible? I went from being the breadwinner to SAHD and that is a fucked up move. I just did not know at the time. Still I was able to improve sex life in under a year or so. Odds are against you and with you being home it only makes it harder. You definitely need something on the side, besides the kids.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/15 08:47 AM
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I am planing on following Mark Manson's book advice (only fap once a week, at a set time) to get it out of my system and try to not think too much about it. I need to release about twice a week. Less than that and I get some adverse effects (blue balls, loss in erection quality). I did try that no fap thing, but it just kills my libido. I don't want that. I probably could get enough sex, but I do not want to engage if I am not mentally there. So I do fap every now and then, but not because I was…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/15 03:20 PM
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When it's the PMS talking then.. 1) Buy chocolate 2) Ignore. If you would ask me what she said I would reply: "I don't know. I was not listening." 3) If she tries to get into my face I just tell her to shut the fuck up. I don't engage in anything. 4) Initiate sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/15 03:48 PM
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"dependability, reliability, trustworthiness, steadiness....now that I think of it, I guess a good husband is like a good car." I bought a car like this. It looked good on paper and that was what I "wanted". I've had it for years and it is just what it promised. Only short while back I was driving and a thought came to my mind: "Fucking break down or something. Do something you pos!" I realized that if this car got into an accident someone would haul it to dump. I would not miss it and I don't c…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/15 07:35 PM
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Her: “I was miserable. I will be sleeping on the couch”. Her: "I was so drugged up on hormones and shits that I cannot remember anything for three days after labor. It is possible that I was miserable, so I am not exactly lying. Anyway you failed to assure me that you are not leaving me alone with the baby forever. I will be sleeping on the couch."
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/15 06:19 PM
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Sounds like a comfort test to me. I have to say AWALT on this one. Clear your schedule for a month around due date. All she needs to know is that you will be there for her. Who knows when the baby is popping out? Just state you are planning on going, but you will reschedule if she really needs you. You always have (I bet you have). If she would actually try to stop you from going that would be shit test. Don't you guys have a tradition of getting wasted when the baby is born? I could only find s…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/15 05:54 PM
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I have told my wife I love you maybe three times. We have been together for 20 years. That shit is reserved for truly special occasions. If you just want to know, shouldn't you just ask instead of making a statement?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/15 07:38 PM
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I can't help but think that problem is you. She has nothing to do with it. Do you even work on the side bar?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/15 05:07 PM
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I just naturally assumed she would afford me the respect of heading my own fucking home at the end of this draining journey. You can stop assuming now. If you want to control her money or both of your money, then you need to show that you can run the finances of your business (marriage) better than her. You have a covert contract: I took care of you when you needed it, now I will handle finances. But it is not the same thing. You going to school or starting a business and she taking care of you …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/15 12:46 PM
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She’s also stated that she’s "always open to re-evaluating our mutual investment strategies and will be amenable to any of my suggestions.” Really, how generous you emasculating idiot. So, what are your mutual investment strategies?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/15 08:54 AM
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The thing I'm most worried about is getting started. I keep reading this stuff, getting excited, and then my brain fills up with thoughts about how she's going to reject what I'm doing. Maybe she will at first...I don't know. Baby steps and just do it. I feel pretty uncomfortable with most of the stuff. That includes dirty talking, but I just started by consciously breathing heavy next to her ear. Just get the ball rolling. It is like Rose said about getting positive feedback. Oh she likes when …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/15 10:43 PM
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Anyway, we have a very deeply-ingrained pattern to our sexual encounters: we usually discuss having sex verbally in some way (i.e., she or I will say "wanna have sex?"). If yes, we do the following, every time: we make out for a while, I might play with her clit with my hand for a few minutes, then I lube up and we fuck. She says she can't get wet anymore after pregnancy, but what I've read leads me to believe I'm just not getting her wet. Might have described me and my wife here. I have some in…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/15 11:29 AM
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I don't know shit about sex, but I've wrestled and done some martial arts. Feeling of physical defeat (and victory) is stronger when both parties are invested. Think of wrestling match. When you give everything you've got and you still lose there is no question about it. You can judge how good(bad) your opponent actually is. This is not the case if you just fall over. When she is putting up a fight she can have a better feel on how strong you actually are and how easily you can overpower her. Bu…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/15 06:19 AM
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Sorry to jump in. I just read SGM and it was a revelation to say at least. I always thought I was ok in bedroom, but I recognized myself in all the archetypes in that book. Not just one but all. From that point on Rose really had my undivided attention. Close to twenty years ago my (to be) wife asked me to wrestle a bit. Well I did as per request. It was playful at first, but then she was really starting to get serious about it. I did mount her with relative ease despite her giving everything sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/15 06:41 PM
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Maybe she is just trying to say you need to get out more. Using your phone has nothing to do with it. It just is the most boring thing that she sees you do. So maybe she figures if you would stop that, then you would be more exciting. Of course you cutting back on fb/phone it will not help. Only getting out and doing "exciting" stuff will. I would take this a friendly suggestion.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/15 07:09 AM
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Point taken. Crappy post on my part.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/15 09:26 PM
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This is not under a debate. Of course she tries to debate it, but that is a different matter. If telling her would just work, then it really would be end of story, but it is not playing out like that. So far I have met fairly little resistance, but I bet it will change in the near future. And yes I have been enabling this and that is my fault. I can only try to fix it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/15 01:17 PM
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She is hungry or so she says. Kids eat much better when the dinner is later. They are not bitching about what is served and are having a taste of some things that look weird to them. If dinner is around five they eat hardly anything and then graze throughout the evening.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/15 10:04 AM
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I care and the kids care. If one adult in the family is eating around 5, then how can you tell the kids that they can't have any until an hour later? You can't. I have no plans on making dinner every night indefinitely. I know I came out like I make dinner every night, but that is not really true. I need to set an example until I feel like I can trust her to do it around six.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/15 08:10 AM
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What possessed you to tell me about the one time you stuck your finger up your wife's ass? and then label this as a FR? Seemed relevant at the time. I have no idea really. It was about me. Why does your wife even get a say about what time dinner is? Well this post is a lot about her, because I am having a problem with her. But this is really not about her eating. It is about me and kids eating. Do I really care when she eats? Not really. But I do care if she starts eating in front of the kids be…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/15 05:52 AM
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I think I’ll accidentally let the sex concern slip if she starts digging into me, and I know this is something that I shouldn’t talk to her about (can’t negotiate attraction yada yada). It is not yada yada. If she gets even a hint that you will give her a baby for sex, she will fuck your brains out until she gets prego. I know my wife, we’ve known each other our whole lives, and we aren't ready for something like this. Come on. You have been ready for a long time and are getting close to stale. …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/15 06:52 PM
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Few points I don’t like kids and I never really have, maybe if they were my own I would, but I honestly don’t know. I don't like kids and I never have. But I like my own kids. Not at the moment they were born, but the bond grows over time. This is normal for men. My feelings towards other kids are mostly indifferent, but sometimes more negative. I don’t think she understands what all goes into raising a kid. I get the impression that if she popped a kid out she would just drop it at my feet for …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/15 08:28 AM
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Thanks. Last night I called a friend and we went for a late dinner in a restaurant. I did not make a case about it, but I should have informed her that I am going for dinner. I just need to enforce this for few weeks straight without fail.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/15 08:05 AM
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Thats pretty funny. I just need thermal imaging and trip wires to beat mindset of a five year old with reach and cunning of an adult.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/15 07:48 AM
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Thing is I really like making dinner and she sucks at it. I can't match her skills in baking pastries and bread and stuff, but dinner.. I'd rather eat my own. She is not going to give me a shit storm for this. She knows she is wrong. It is those ninja tactics that throw me off guard.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/15 08:10 PM
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I guess I would sent them their room. I should do that. I've been letting this slip for some time now. So.. I was thinking I should make the point again, but maybe not. I think I'm going to sent her to our room and explain later.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/15 07:59 PM
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Maybe I sound like a dick, but I'd be hesitant too if someone asked me to be a maid for them one week a month. For free. Are you just looking to absolutely win on this? I don't see what you are bringing in return. I doubt you share your salary and savings.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/15 12:40 PM
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I've been lurking here for few days. Married for 15 years. I've only learned about red pill just now, but I have been doing red pill stuff for last 2 years or so. Not going to give advice, but I feel you. At times I feel resentment and no affection. For me it is not a dull nothingness. It is a feeling. Negative feeling, but a feeling anyway. There is two things I do. First, it is ok to have feelings. Secondly I've realized how much she is actually doing to keep herself attractive to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/15 07:36 AM
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Thanks for reading tips. I did read a bunch all ready. Lifting is hard for me. I did a bit of weight training when I was younger. I know the benefits from personal experience. Maybe it is my physique, but I can't build much visible muscle. It felt like million bucks anyway. Being a stay at home dad is kind of weird, because you can be a maid when she is not around, but when she comes from work you need to drop that shit.
/r/askTRP29/12/14 08:46 PM
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I have managed to figure this on my own. Took a long time too. I've only learned bits and pieces so far. Maybe time is on my side.
/r/askTRP29/12/14 08:27 PM
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