Pushback on Dominance Moves

RBuddDwyer · 2015-02-02T01:49:14+00:00

Push back her dominance harder. There can only be one dominant sex, and it isn't hers. Somebody will submit eventually, you need to make sure it is [not] you.

[Credit /u/bp_captain for the crucial edit.]

tbornott · 2015-02-02T06:19:10+00:00

I don't know shit about sex, but I've wrestled and done some martial arts.

Feeling of physical defeat (and victory) is stronger when both parties are invested. Think of wrestling match. When you give everything you've got and you still lose there is no question about it. You can judge how good(bad) your opponent actually is. This is not the case if you just fall over.

When she is putting up a fight she can have a better feel on how strong you actually are and how easily you can overpower her. But she needs to be able to play at her level at least some of the time to get that feeling.

theultmatecad · 2015-02-02T00:42:54+00:00

I haven't experienced it but I would have some fun with it.

Let her "beat you down" while you smile and "allow" it to happen.

My little boy loves to play fight with me..sometimes I let him "win"

Treat this the same way and have fun.

BluepillProfessor · 2015-02-02T04:02:21+00:00

Definitely play fight with her. She wants you to treat her like a little girl. You wouldn't wrestle with a little kid and manhandle him or her all the time. I have a 1/3 rule. The big kid has to let the little kid win about 1/3 of the time. Let her be the feline predator, then put her in her proper place (i.e. beneath you or bent over in front of you).

nopbeentheredonethat · 2015-02-02T12:37:52+00:00

Before giving you any advice I need to understand your couple dynamic.

Does she respect you in your house?
Does she still nag you?
Who wear the pant in your house?
etc...

Have you made any change in the couple power dynamic lately?

Countpudyoola · 2015-02-02T17:11:08+00:00

So on the " I feel like it's " we may be missing the point.

We're all hypothesizing on her mindset, but it could be viewed as successful.

It could also be that she's seeing these as exciting behaviors from you and is failing in recognizing "the gift we give isn't necessarily the gift we want to receive."

Look at it this way: you do that type of type of stuff and typically it may give her the tingles. If this is new, since you presumably weren't doing this before, she may be trying to return the favor. It'd be as if she really wanted an IPAD for christmas, you give her one, and so she assumes since she likes it so much to give you one back...when all you wanted was a new gym bag.

If you're a good leader sometimes they'll just emulate what you and assuming it's what you like or want.

What do you like? What do you want her to do? Fuck feels. Get out of the why she's doing it worry. Demonstrate, lead... if she's doing something you don't like then course correct. "Baby , that's my job. I know you like it when I do it, but it makes you seem less feminine."

Now that's a personal preference, because if my wife walked by and suddenly grabbed my crotch out of the blue or jumped on ME, well, I'd be pretty much taking her to the bedroom at that point. It would also be completely out of character.

Footnote: One of my best high school friends is about as natural alpha as you get. Met his wife while she was young, she totally adores him and emulates the fuck out of him to the point where I see her as dude-ish. He actually doesn't mind and is still 100% the leader in their long and happy relationship.

redpillhardmode · 2015-02-02T23:54:27+00:00

I think you are all right to some degree. Thanks for the insight!

[deleted] · 2015-02-02T01:01:29+00:00

Well my recently-unplugged experience has her with all eyes on me all the time. She's following my lead, hard. This might be just that same thing.

Title	Pushback on Dominance Moves
Author	redpillhardmode
Upvotes	4
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Date	February 2, 2015 12:00 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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