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I need to. There are many gems buried under volumes of verbose explanation. She simply writes the same strategy from many different approaches as applied to many different situations. But at its core, the system really is just that phrase, worded in a specific way, thrown up at the person when they are on the attack. (She gives reasons why the sentence and its variations are deliberately worded in a passive, indirect manner.) Looking back at WISNIFG, the part that I got the most out of was the f…
/r/askMRP10/07/17 01:53 AM
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I do not think your wife will get as much out of WISNIFG as you will. Assertiveness is a primarily rational approach to getting your needs met. The whole point of the book is to teach you how to cut through someone else's bullshit to get to the real issue at conflict. Most people are not able to express their real problem in a conflict, either because they don't want to or they don't even consciously realize what their problem is. So they throw up a lot of bullshit to try and obfuscate their rea…
/r/askMRP03/07/17 06:00 PM
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Actually, I find The Nicola Method to be a much more elegant approach, especally when dealing with high conflict personalities. Rather than taking the iterative / recursive approach that WISNIFG relies on, the Nicola Method cuts right to the chase. When she is on the attack, you simply reply with: When you said that it seemed like you thought I did something wrong. It's not a question, it's not an accusation, it's not a retort. It's just an observation that usually gets the other person to stop …
/r/askMRP03/07/17 05:47 PM
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To continue the tortured analogy, new guys gotta work hard at dodging the bullets for a while before they realize that it doesn't matter which way they twist, turn, and jump....they only get hurt if they believe they got hit. That is one of the best nuggets of new guy meta-advice I've ever seen.
/r/askMRP30/06/17 07:57 PM
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And I would consider using Ryver over slack. There are no restrictions on free accounts. There are also some cool features that make it a bit more like Reddit.
/r/askMRP30/06/17 07:31 PM
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I'm sleepy now.
/r/askMRP29/06/17 07:47 PM
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The only chance you have of saving the marriage is to truly believe that saving it doesn't matter. Everything you do here has to be done because you want to do it, not because you want more sex, want to keep the family together, want to avoid divorce. "It's only after we've lost everything that we are free to do anything."
/r/askMRP29/06/17 01:08 PM
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Although she already told me her primary was touch. To expand a bit more on what I wrote above, when you wife's "love language" is touch, it doesn't really mean she wants you to touch her more. She might think that on a conscious level, but that is not what is working on a much deeper level. She doesn't realize it, but what she actually wants is to feel what she feels when you touch her. It's a subtle but important difference. Just touching her more isn't going to fix anything. What you need to …
/r/askMRP29/06/17 12:55 PM
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Read up on Dalrock's blog for more on the Churchian thing, since it sounds like that is what you are dealing with. As for the book, save yourself a lot of time. What you wife wants is the feelings she gets from the book, not what the advice in the book actually says to do. When she whines about crap like, "you don't communicate with me," it's never really about communication, it's about the way she wants you to make her feel, which can be accomplished other ways than what the book says.
/r/askMRP28/06/17 08:57 PM
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If it doesn't apply to you, then it doesn't apply to you. The book was not written for every guy, but only for those who may be suffering from the Nice Guy Syndrome. It's up to you to be honest with yourself about whether it actually applies to you, but the fact that you are here on MRP is probably a sign that there is something for you to gain from the book should you be honest with yourself.
/r/askMRP28/06/17 08:51 PM
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I guess, sidebar and lifting got you through the last 3 years? I've written about my journey a few months ago across a string of posts. The TL; DR is that I used the side bar as an excuse to avoid doing the work I know I have to do. I got pretty good at spotting other guys problems, and used that to distract me from my own issues. I'm slowly learning that the anger phase is more about my anger at myself than anything.
/r/askMRP15/06/17 02:17 AM
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Does it get any worse? No, but it usually doesn't end soon. I'm more than three years in and I still fall back into it frequently. Only now it's punctuated with apathy.
/r/askMRP15/06/17 01:36 AM
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...she isn't getting what she needs. Which according to her is "sweet little notes" and "little" tokens of love, flowers etc. Here is a hint, she doesn't really want an actual note or token of love, she wants more of the feelings and emotions receiving those things give her. and asked her what little notes and "tokens" she has given me? That just comes off as petty. Don't play the tit-for-tat game with her, you'll lose every time. Remember, "the only winning move is not to play."
/r/askMRP15/06/17 01:25 AM
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you also be to know which comment you need That sounds like my next project: Restatement of JackTenofHearts. The hard part will be editing the other posts to give him context.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/17 01:52 PM
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Did you have this one saved? Go to Reddit Comment Search and search for Jacktenofhearts in the user field. Leave the search field blank (unless you want specific search terms), and you will get his entire comment history. Print to PDF comes out to about 415 pages.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/17 10:44 PM
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I'm like 98% sure your wife would have melted in your arms if you said that shit. And I bet she wouldn't have noticed, just like I bet a lot of you didn't notice right now, you didn't actually confess any feelings. That right there is eliciting values and feeding them back to her to get her to feel emotions. That is old school PUA stuff going back to MrSex4UNYC and a.s.f. The older guys (pre-RSD) wrote a lot about it. It's become a lost art now since Rollo came out with Plate Theory and everyone…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/17 07:37 PM
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If you are seriously suicidal, then you need to talk to someone now. 800-273-8255 Now, as far as "better in a relationship," that just is not the case. A man needs to be happy with himself before he get in a relationship. You have to legitimately lead a great, satisfying life on your own. Only when you do that can you be successful in a relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/17 08:15 PM
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You know those little "toilet targets" they use to potty train little kids? My family friends had some of those. I dropped a few in the toilet and took it as a personal challenge to see if I could flip them out of the bowl.
/r/askMRP03/05/17 07:43 PM
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Technically it depends on what was said in the meeting, not the fact that there was a meeting or how long it went, or whether someone paid money for it. It's actually is a decent tactic to lock your spouse out of all the "good" divorce attorneys in town. It's expensive because those attorneys know what is going on, and will charge you money for the consult. There are enough divorce attorneys in any mid-sized city to make this an expensive proposition. I would just stick with an attorney who only…
/r/askMRP03/05/17 07:40 PM
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Terrorism is just as bad luck as a plane crash. No, it's not. It is a planned, intentional, deliberate act; the complete opposite of an accident. Breaking and entering (solution ?) Shoot the son of a bitch. That's about it.
/r/askMRP28/04/17 03:10 PM
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leave firearms to the police How well did that work out for the Bataclan? Bad guys in your neck of the woods have guns and large trucks. Krav Maga isn't going to help you much there
/r/askMRP27/04/17 11:12 PM
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I hate this whole new "run and hide" mentality for workplace violence. So far, every single active shooter situation has ended the instant the shooter is confronted with equal or superior force. It's like when my wife kept being a bitch about me being armed while inside my kids school. After listening to her bitch about our kids getting kicked out if someone sees me, I finally told her that I would never be able to live with myself if something happened there and I was unable to stop it. I told …
/r/askMRP27/04/17 11:09 PM
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Her party has been created by a former SS, an Holocaust denier and the equivalent of Royalists and White Supremacists. Sounds like the democrat party up until 1960 or so.
/r/askMRP27/04/17 10:59 PM
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The problem is that your government has been wholesale importing people who have absolutely no desire to be French. They just want to find a new place to set up the same third world existence they are used to. But I digress... To get back to your original question, look at the Nice truck attack. That is your threat model. How would you defend your family against that? IIRC it took a lot of men with guns to end that. Can you get a gun? Are you ready to take necessary action as soon as you hear so…
/r/askMRP27/04/17 10:40 PM
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I am French. Vote LePen.
/r/askMRP27/04/17 08:52 PM
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I fell like I'm giving her proper opportunity to come aboard and have a happy intimate marriage, after smothering her a bit early on. You are in her frame. You self improve because you want to, not because you win her over. You have to have already let go of her and your marriage in order for this to work. You are frustrated not with her, but by your emotions and feelings that she should get in line behind you. Men do not let those types of emotions affect us. That's a woman's game. But, she nee…
/r/askMRP25/04/17 03:00 AM
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Lastly, she catches me balls deep? It wasn't me.
/r/askMRP25/04/17 02:49 AM
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I've actually thought a lot about this. I've never cheated, but I'm not sure how much of that is lack of opportunity vs. me choosing to hold up my end of our vows. I personally think she has already violated her vows by withholding sex, but I digress... I would absolutely own it. I would tell her confidently that I did, and maybe tell her why I did it. I would probably insist on getting divorced no matter what she offered, as I would have already checked out of the marriage by the time I cheated…
/r/askMRP25/04/17 02:45 AM
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Anal, go deep, and film it so there is no chance of false rape allegation.
/r/askMRP25/04/17 02:21 AM
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There you go. Calm, well executed, rational, and with a parting blowjob. Now that is how it is done. Go start the rest of your life. There is plenty of prime pussy waiting to be slain.
/r/askMRP25/04/17 02:20 AM
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I can say do not be like the male lead in any Kendrick brothers movie.
/r/askMRP25/04/17 02:13 AM
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This sounds a lot like negotiated desire. It could also be the Main Event, which you passed by not failing it, but it somehow still seems off to me.
/r/askMRP25/04/17 02:09 AM
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So you and Laura Doyle have hot sex in front of 12 people too stupid to get out of jury duty? I really need to finish reading your book...
/r/askMRP25/04/17 02:05 AM
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You are right, that is a good way to look at it. I'm on a slightly different path right now. I may get on that one in the future, but I'm not there yet.
/r/askMRP14/04/17 06:27 PM
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The way I envision it, it's her choice. She says she wants divorce, then here you go, sign right here right now. Put up or shut up. You have already made the decision that you are fine with either outcome. Or, more appropriately, you have already set out on your own path, and she is welcome to follow or leave. Either way, her wanting divorce does not change that path. You call her bluff and move all in.
/r/askMRP14/04/17 04:17 PM
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No, it's Up Down Up Down Left Right Left Right B A Select Start. [Edit: forgot part, it's been a long time.]
/r/askMRP14/04/17 12:19 PM
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fail the shit test gracefully No such thing. They are pass / fail. When you fail, no matter how bad, she loses attraction.
/r/askMRP14/04/17 03:20 AM
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I did tell her she was over-reacting and to calm down. Not sure ever suggesting that a wife calm down is ever sensible. It's not. I've found it's a lot more fun to push her harder and harder into overreacting, until you eventually fry her circuits and trip the circuit breaker. She'll usually reset herself a short time later and be back to normal. And if she doesn't, I have a front row seat to a spectacular fireworks show. Amused Mastery in a calm, detached, and aloof frame works best.
/r/askMRP14/04/17 03:17 AM
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Okay, so I am going to revise and extend my remarks to this. You are making a point, and this should be done to drive home a point. The point is, "threatening divorce is a hard boundary. Transgression of that boundary will be dealt with swiftly and with extreme prejudice. I have made the decision that I no longer need you or this marriage to be happy. Here are the separation papers to prove that I mean business. Now put up or shut up, winch." You say all that without saying a single word. Acta n…
/r/askMRP14/04/17 03:08 AM
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I'll rethink and expand on my pointed non-point tonight.
/r/askMRP13/04/17 10:02 PM
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Point taken.
/r/askMRP13/04/17 08:12 PM
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Who said anything about making a point?
/r/askMRP13/04/17 07:24 PM
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Quite literally give her papers. Get a separation agreement drawn up by a lawyer. It'd all boiler plate, so it should only cost $500 or so. Have it ready. Next time she drops the "D" word, put it in front of her, and tell her to get out. Just stand there and say nothing. It gets the point across.
/r/askMRP13/04/17 04:21 PM
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Ask her, "I have the right to say no don't I?" Also,, a phrasing I saw recently, "when you said that, it sounded like you think I am not allowed to say no."
/r/askMRP13/04/17 04:08 PM
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Yeah, that's Athol Kay's book. Take it with a grain of salt. He's gone very purple pill and almost blue pill.I think your time would be better spent reading other material.
/r/askMRP12/04/17 05:07 PM
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You file your financial disclosures with the court under oath. I You might not get caught, but if you do you are in worse shit then you will ever imagine.
/r/askMRP12/04/17 12:07 AM
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That is a great way to do it if you have the leverage and she is willing to cave. Make sure you have a lawyer review it, as certain things like child support cannot be settled by negotiation and are strictly controlled by law.
/r/askMRP12/04/17 12:05 AM
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Not to mention that your financial disclosures to the court are made under oath, and that is perjury. If you think a divorce makes your financial situation harder, try getting a job with a felony conviction. Hell, just a felony arrest is enough for some employers to terminate you or not hire. You won't get bonded or insured, for starters.
/r/askMRP12/04/17 12:02 AM
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Probably negotiated settlement using the threat of an alienation of affection or criminal conversion suit against the affair partner. I bet he was instrumental in coming up with settlement funds.
/r/askMRP11/04/17 11:44 PM
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Not child support. That is a right held by the child against each parent. Infidelity has no bearing on that.
/r/askMRP11/04/17 11:40 PM
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I'll set this thing up so tight that she walks away with nothing, and I'll start acting single as soon as the paperwork has ink on it. Yeah, don't get your hopes up on that one. Equitable distribution and community property pretty much guarantee she'll get very near even split of the marital assets and not much more. The reality is no fault divorce pretty much makes infidelity irrelevant. Best is to give up the fantasies, divorce porn is for women. Treat this like a business transaction and noth…
/r/askMRP11/04/17 11:38 PM
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Try reading up on Albert Ellis and REBT. If you are a Career Beta, then you probably have a lot of shitty internal programming, usually something that ultimately leads to you thinking you are entitled to sex for some reason or another. It might not be obvious, but it is there if you really look for it. Fix that, and the anger should subside. Now, fixing that is the big thing. You have a lot of reading to do. Start with NMMNG, and then move on to A Guide to Rational Living by Albert Ellis.
/r/askMRP10/04/17 08:43 PM
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Yeah, gonna need more detail than that to chalk it up to anything more than pregnancy. Also, don't post here with tour main Reddit account! Jesus, how many times do we have to say that?
/r/askMRP09/04/17 12:59 AM
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I don't doubt you. But that does not change the fact that the status quo is your kid gets crazy bitch 100% of the time. Not only that, but she also gets to see you live a completely miserable life and tolerate a certifiable nutjob. What exactly is she learning there? That it's okay to sacrifice your own life and well being in order to save a kid? Is that what you want your child to do should they find themselves in the same situation? Or do you split cleanly and give her the shot at having at le…
/r/askMRP06/04/17 01:08 AM
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Most dudes like breast the way I like feet. Most dudes like nice, big, and round tits because it is a clear sign of fertility. It's been ingrained in the Y chromosome for a millennia because it serves a useful purpose. Explain to me how, exactly, having smelly feet after working all day ensures the reproductive goal of the human race?
/r/askMRP05/04/17 10:08 PM
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Reminds me of the Eminem lyric from "Guilty Conscious" What she tripped? Fell? Landed on his dick?
/r/askMRP05/04/17 08:04 PM
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It was around for the two weeks I was there before stumbling into this place, so at least three years ago.
/r/askMRP05/04/17 07:59 PM
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her previous 11 partners You do know you are supposed to triple that number, right? Anyway, it's pretty clear she is an Alpha Widow, and she settled for you. The only way to salvage the relationship is for her to see you as the highest value man she believes her SMV can afford you. But she has already said she chose you because you were a "nice guy". She married you for that reason, so do not be mad when she no longer wants to be with the guy she thought she married. More bad news, though, is yo…
/r/askMRP05/04/17 07:27 PM
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I was going to say that the old MMSL forums had a phrase for that called "wife googles." I can certainly say my view of my wife and our relationship changed since I found this place. But then again, my view of her and our relationship was unhealthy co-dependency, so any change from that is a change in the right direction.
/r/askMRP05/04/17 07:16 PM
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Pretty much everyone here is saying to Ditch the Bitch (tm). I know that is a tall order for you, especially since you have a kid involved and are concerned for the kid's safety. But one big thing to keep in mind is that if you do a clean split from her, meaning strict no contact beyond simple logistics (and all in writing via email or text message), then you will be able to provide your child with at least 50% normal, sane parenting and 50% crazy BPD bitch. This is in contrast with the current …
/r/askMRP05/04/17 07:13 PM
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My wife had crushing credit card debt from being irresponsible in college. She lived like someone from an episode of hoarders. And she went raw dog with me on our second date. But, I overlooked all thus because she fucked better than a pornstar. [cut] Had sex all of the time and both the wife and I were into lifting. [cut] She swore up and down that she wouldnt get fat and would make our sex life a priority. After the kid was born things instantly changed. [cut] And she spiraled and became more …
/r/askMRP05/04/17 02:01 PM
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Congratulations! You have yourself a wife with full blown Borderline Personality Disorder. Ditch her immediately. Get out as clean as you can and never look back. There is no way you can Red Pill crazy like that.
/r/askMRP05/04/17 11:47 AM
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If. Memory serves Totally read that in a Chairman Kaga "voice-over" voice.
/r/askMRP04/04/17 01:21 AM
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The Black Phillip Show was an on-again off-again show that ran for several years on SiriusXM's Opie and Anthony channel. After a few appearances on the show, Patrice O'Neal started giving out dating advice to callers. O&A suggested he do his own call-in advice show, and gave him some time on their channel. The result was called the Black Phillip Show. Dante Nero was his usual sidekick, along with a rotating cast of other comedians. The show did not have a set schedule, only airing late at night …
/r/askMRP04/04/17 01:18 AM
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The NMMNG boards all agreed universely that this was the one point where Doc missed on. They all agreed don't talk to your wife. Didn't Doc Glover also later cede that point?
/r/askMRP03/04/17 10:38 PM
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There is no comparison between the two. You have to put in the work to become the highest value man you can be. If that happens to also be the highest value man she thinks her SMV can afford her then she sucks your dick and lets you cum on her face. Don't over think it.
/r/askMRP03/04/17 10:30 PM
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listening to The Art of Charm podcasts on game Be careful with him. Jordan Harbinger is openly hostile to Red Pill ideas, and his idea of "game" is an odd take on purple pill ideas that he makes feminine friendly. He is way up Tucker Max's ass as well. Mike Cernovitch has written about him before. Some of his content is interesting to but the overall signal to noise ratio is not high enough for me to spend the time and effort to sift through all of it. Your time is better spent listening to the …
/r/askMRP02/04/17 02:15 PM
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As a man, you need to use your masculine gift of rational thought and consider emotions for what they are: a basic system evolved from thousands of years ago to provide for survival and reproduction. It has not adapted to modern times, and is frequently in conflict with your more recently developed higher order rational thinking. While you cannot prevent your emotions from coming, you can use your rational thinking ability to evaluate them and determine if they serve any useful purpose given the…
/r/askMRP02/04/17 01:42 PM
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Somewhere between Be a Man! and Do Girls Want Sovereignty? is when it first clicked for me. That followed by The Way of the Superior Man somehow reprogrammed my world view such that it all clicked. I was now able to get it, all of it. Rollo Tomassi, Roissy, Pook, RSD, hell even the old school PUA stuff made more sense after that.
/r/askMRP31/03/17 03:05 AM
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The regulars are doing a good job of breaking your balls already, so I'll refer you to the Official No More Mr Nice Guy Forums. Online for over a decade, tens of thousands of Nice Guys have done the BFE there. Just be sure to use a different username there than here, and keep the Red Pill to yourself when posting. While there is a very strong Red Pill undercurrent there, they still superficially come off as plugged in, and a few of the regulars are openly hostile to us. But it is still a great p…
/r/askMRP31/03/17 02:56 AM
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Read The Way of Men by Jack Donovan, and Be a Man! from The Book of Pook.
/r/askMRP31/03/17 02:47 AM
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Cut yourself some slack. No man is expected to hold it together 100% of the time, especially when his father has just passed. You're going to feel a lot of powerful emotions that will come out of nowhere. Just acknowledge them and let them pass. Just do it one day at a time. It will get easier.
/r/askMRP31/03/17 02:41 AM
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And I think you're a dick. So what?
/r/askMRP30/03/17 01:31 AM
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Desi family, you're fucked. There is no way to overcome that cultural programming.
/r/askMRP29/03/17 12:02 AM
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Yeah, I think 10% or less BF is getting into dedicated body builder range. You are going to have to do a lot of work to get there, and it's going to be hard to maintain. Is that really a realistic goal for you? Physical attractiveness is not as important to women as it is to men.
/r/askMRP29/03/17 12:00 AM
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I always thought the PUAs who peacock look like dorks. And they do. And they are. You know why they did that, right? You know why Mystery made such a big deal about it? His game was based on spiking attraction by passing shit tests, lots of them, from HB10s in the LA club scene. He stood out like a sore thumb to get the girls' attention from all the other choads and draw their fire. One he started passing their shit tests one after the other, their attraction spiked, and he fucked them. The mode…
/r/askMRP28/03/17 11:56 PM
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Or, as I tell ppl in the regular world who ask now when I'm getting married to her, "I'm waiting until I can afford the ring she deserves" Pedestalize much? The reply should be," I'm waiting on paternity test results... "
/r/askMRP28/03/17 11:42 PM
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Why are you rushing to move her in? What do you think you will accomplish with cohabitation that you cannot accomplish with coparenting? Did you ever stop and think about why she let you get her pregnant? It's not like women don't understand how that works, or realize how the baby trap works.
/r/askMRP28/03/17 11:40 PM
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All I ever had was mom saying "be yourself, be nice, don't be a pig like that bastard father of yours I divorced when you were 5!" Brother? Is that you?
/r/askMRP28/03/17 11:36 PM
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but I jus stopped caring about this... what is the proper way not to hurt her? Ditch the bitch. You're not married. She'll be over you faster than you'll be over her.
/r/askMRP28/03/17 11:34 PM
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If an hour long fuck session on a Thursday morning is an "excitement killer", then... well, shit I can't think of how to end that. You're just a dick.
/r/askMRP28/03/17 11:32 PM
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So do you and your roommate split everything 50/50, or is each one responsible for a certain bill? When you treat her like a secondary plate, don't be surprised when she acts like one. Especially when, you know, she is your wife.
/r/askMRP28/03/17 11:29 PM
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Wait, so in one weekend you rented a whole new place, moved her and your kids out to this new house, and left them there? Left your kids alone with psycho bitch? Who cares about some old pictures. (It's not the pictures you enjoy anyway, it's the memories they remind you of.) I'm having a hard time seeing where leaving the kids with her is a good play. Why not just move out all of your personal stuff you care about into a mini storage and keep just your clothes and bare essentials. I just don't …
/r/askMRP28/03/17 11:15 PM
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Have your fun for the next little bit, then delete this thread and come back with a dedicated reddit account for here. Never post here with your main reddit account!
/r/askMRP28/03/17 11:02 PM
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Further down the road you should be ready for The Relationship Reset . and the coup de grace, when she wants to have a BIG TALK ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP and she says “I don’t like how you have been acting the last [fill in the blank]…” and you look her square in the eye and shrug “you don’t have to”. BOOOOM goes the dynamite. Relationship reset activated. #winning #welcomebacktestes #tingles I love this post.
/r/askMRP28/03/17 10:57 PM
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joint desi family and all. I suspected some type of cluster B issue with her, but that pretty much answers all of it. The little I know of Desi families makes me think I'd be better off with the Borderline... There is nothing we can do to help. The cultural norms of your community are likely too strong for you to overcome. Good luck. Edit: My qualifications for this subject: two seasons of Outsourced.
/r/askMRP24/03/17 06:01 PM
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Prime is great because we use the streaming side pretty extensively, and two day shipping is great during Christmas.
/r/askMRP24/03/17 05:56 PM
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But recently I've had an itch. I keep thinking about all the random pussy and how much I miss it. I am starting to obsess about it. To a point I want to fuck all these other women and it's all I keep thinking about. But I can't stop wanting to do it. It's like I crave something new. I have cheated once before and it fucked her up pretty bad. I know getting pussy on the side and her knowing about it is something she isn't going to put up with and will leave. but I can't stop flirting and wanting …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/17 12:22 AM
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over all she spent over half of our 2.5 years marriage in long distance, at her parent's place. That's not a marriage. That's immigration fraud.
/r/askMRP24/03/17 12:13 AM
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No shit. We cut the cord five years ago and never looked back. It's saved us almost $5k so far, and we are much better off doing other things.
/r/askMRP24/03/17 12:10 AM
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My wife is extremely jealous and possessive of me - to the point of insanity, which makes dread game really effective. What else does she do to you? Give some examples of her crazy behavior and how frequently it happens.
/r/askMRP24/03/17 12:06 AM
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but that analogy never rang true to me, at all. Same here. It becomes even more obvious when you reverse the analogy. Imagine a ship that was run like a marriage...
/r/askMRP23/03/17 11:52 PM
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Your wife is a leech. I agree with your overall take, but he comes off to me as a classical Nice Guy from NMMNG. If that is the case, then the question about her is whether she is a leech because she really is a leech, or whether she is a leech because he conditioned her to be that way?
/r/askMRP23/03/17 12:48 PM
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The covert contract is: If I resolve all her problems then she will be happy. That isn't all of it. There is a part where you get something in return. For Nice Guys (from NMMNG) it usually involves availability for sex. In my case, it was either, "if I do X, then I will get 'credit' for fixing her problem that I can redeem for sex," or, "If I do X, then she will be in a better mood and more receptive to my sexual advances." Of course being the classical Nice Guy I never picked up on the differen…
/r/askMRP23/03/17 05:21 AM
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I am going to take a different view from everyone else, similar to /u/[deleted] . This is a boundary issue. The OP has decided to set a boundary where he is no longer going to just rush in and volunteer to help someone else. He will have to be asked first, no matter what. This is something that is covered in NMMNG. There is even a Breaking Free exercise for it where the recovering Nice Guy goes on a moratorium where he flat out refuses to help his wife with anything unless she explicitly asks. D…
/r/askMRP23/03/17 01:38 AM
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Whenever my wife lets me masturbate with her pussy, I take that as a sign to completely ignore her and just fuck the shit out of her. I go deep, I go hard, I grab her tight and take the fuck truck to pound town. Occasionally she gets into it, but mostly I just completely ignore her and just fuck.
/r/askMRP15/03/17 12:53 PM
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It's frustrating in that I had set myself on the path to build attraction by passing shit tests (much the way Mystery did). But she just does not give me enough easy opportunities to do it now. It's gotten harder now, as she has adapted. (Much like the Borg...) This just means I cannot use simple shit-test passing to spike her attraction. I have to do it via other means.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/17 01:21 AM
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The unexpected outcome was actually that the shitty behavior dropped way off after the first one or two times. I never really got a chance to work on holding frame because the shit tests and outbursts just (mostly) stopped. Looking back this was not the best outcome at the time, as I grew complacent and never locked in the gains. I've noticed the shit tests have gotten much more subtler, and that is what I have to work on now. If I want her to get worked up into ranting and raving nowadays, I ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/17 12:47 AM
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I remember (fondly?) the first few fights with my wife after I finally found the balls to unplug. She would start ranting and raving at me, completely disproportionate to whatever perceived sleight she found, becoming a complete bitch at the top of her lungs, building herself up to a tsunami of rage; and I just stood there, getting control of my fight or flight response, stood up straight, and just laughed at her. I somehow found a few chuckles somewhere down deep in me, and lobbed them her way.…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/17 11:23 PM
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And it'll keep going until you give up the extra testosterone. Your choice.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/17 03:14 PM
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No, he's on steroids. That's his problem. He admitted as much below.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/17 03:13 PM
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Want to know the fun part? You've lost your comfort safety net. You rise and fall, without excuse, on your own merits 100% from now on (assuming this is read well enough) Just like Cortez drilling holes in his ships.
/r/askMRP11/03/17 12:21 AM
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Nice guys obviously need NMMNG and push overs need WISNIFG. But you repeat yourself.
/r/askMRP11/03/17 12:14 AM
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Jesus, it's like deja vu all over again. What the fuck is it with guys who want us to think they have it made and are winning at MRP, who now just want to go run off and fuck some other random hoes? Go do some searching. /u/over60_stupid_loner had a great post about a month ago summarizing his thoughts on cheating. It's probably the best I've read so far. Edit: Here it is. Read both this one and the one he linked to in it.
/r/askMRP11/03/17 12:06 AM
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Is it validation or is the guy just finally actualizing a sex life that was denied to him while he was Blue Pill? No, it's 'roids. He said below he is taking testosterone treatments.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/17 11:56 PM
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Dude said below he's taking testosterone. That's what's going on here. There is no way she, or most any other individual woman, is going to be able to keep up with his supercharged sex drive.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/17 11:54 PM
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But I'm always Fucking horny. I want it all the time. So when she's not around I lust. And when she doesn't do the freaky shit I watch in porn I wish she would. Maybe I need to lay off the porn but like I said. I'm always horny. I take testosterone so I'm constantly like a 12 year old with his first hard on. Well there is your answer. Your libido is thrown into overdrive because of the testosterone, and she cannot keep up. There was an NPR story once (I cannot find it now) where they interviewed…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/17 11:47 PM
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So what's the solution? Just Get It.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/17 11:34 PM
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I don't think that's the reason she should suck my cock. The reason is I'm jacked. I make good money and take good care of her. Support her and force her to better her self. From Rollo Tomassi: Sexuality is spontaneous chemical reaction between two parties, not a process of negotiation. It’s sex first, then relationship, not the other way around. A woman who wants to fuck you will find a way to fuck you. She will fly across the country, crawl under barbwire, climb in through your second story be…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/17 09:59 PM
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Is it validation or is the guy just finally actualizing a sex life that was denied to him while he was Blue Pill? For this guy it's validation. He's not married to her. He can run off and get whatever strange he wants. Yet look at the way he drones on and on about all his anguish in his post. Look at the words he uses. Look at how he describes it. Shit, look at his posting history from r/TRP. He is on-again off-again for the same girl for four years. Can anyone say "one-itis"? /u/bogeyd6 called …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/17 09:52 PM
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So you clearly have your own issues to work through, and they are big issues that require a lot of work. I think the regulars here have done a good job pointing this out to you, and I think you may truly understand what that means. So that aside... It's becoming more clear to me that she has her own issues too, and those may be big ones. I know the word depression has been thrown around here, but I don't see it based on what you have said. She looks like she is feigning depression as a tactic ag…
/r/askMRP10/03/17 08:37 PM
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Those two lines are what I was looking for. You have, essentially, won MRP. I guess now it's up to you to decide if this is what you want. Although since I think your situation would pretty much be considered to be what most all men would call ideal, you should probably start to think about what impact a divorce would have on your kids, and how that measures up to what you want in life. That, and maybe grace us with a detailed Field Report so the rest of us can learn from it.
/r/askMRP10/03/17 08:05 PM
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She needs drugs, not therapy. You cannot medicate Cluster "B", you excise yourself as cleanly and surgically as possible, and run away as fast as you can.
/r/askMRP10/03/17 07:48 PM
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This guy actually sounds gamma. Trying to red pill a gamma is a bad idea. Vox Day has written a lot about it.
/r/askMRP10/03/17 06:46 AM
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she is south american Interesting. Was not expecting that behavior from a SA girl. I figured a SA girl would just disrespect you and viciously shit test you into oblivion. Weaponizing sex is not something I would expect from traditional Latin culture. But then again, all I really know about it is what I have read here and TRP.
/r/askMRP09/03/17 01:51 PM
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It seems we all want better quality sex, not even necessarily more of it, but we want it to be better. Sex God Method. If you are truly as alpha as you purport to be, then this is the missing ingredient. If you are not, then it will blow up in your face bigly, and we'll see you back here in two months.
/r/askMRP08/03/17 08:42 PM
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The popular vote narrative is just that, a narrative. If you were to take Los Angeles County, Cook County, and New York County out of the equation, then Trump would have won the popular vote. Simply stating that Hillary won the popular vote without putting that statement in context is misleading. Doing so means you think those three counties alone represent the will of the people.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/17 08:39 PM
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I'm glad we clarified that. If this was some recent, specific incident where she said made the, "sex is a gift," that she, "gave up," on, then I tend to think this might be closer to an extinction burst, where she is holding onto the last vestiges of her main manipulation tool in a desperate fight with her more primal attraction urges getting stirred up by your improving SMV. But this seems to be the theme from the beginning of the relationship. What is your cultural background? You do not have …
/r/askMRP08/03/17 02:01 PM
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Her view is that I changed from the guy I was before I was married, a super total beta, and now I’m a bit more a dick, and that if she “gives in” to having sex with me, that I’m never going to change back to person she wants me to be. Now that is some hamsturbation. Give us more detail on this, was this a single time she said this? How did it come up? While I generally agree with the others that you cannot be sure until you are further along, I think this is interesting enough to flesh out more.
/r/askMRP08/03/17 09:20 AM
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I could have AA’d and said something like “Oh your right!” This is so inconvenient”, then walked off with the diet coke never to be seen again all day or something to that effect. That's not really A&A, there is no back handedness to it. I would have just called her princess, chucked, and moved on. Or, if you really wanted to get her, say, "it's diet, I figured you needed it." But this is pretty next level shit.
/r/askMRP06/03/17 11:12 PM
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You are a little too boundary-happy. Not everything is a boundary for you to enforce. If anything, her behavior gives you an opportunity to lead her to where you want to be. If she is being shitty, you lead her to the behavior you want (either by changing her mood with teasing, AM, AA, etc... or by negative reinforcement by walking away). As far as pregnancy goes, use it to understand why she may be acting a certain way, and use that to determine the best way to lead her to better behavior.
/r/askMRP06/03/17 09:58 PM
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Don't you have a stove to go clean, while your ice harpy shrieks at you? She cleaned it herself. But back to the original point of all this, before you ran off on a tangent like a closeted mobster in New Hampshire, I don't think /u/resolutions316 's problem is PPD. He's got other issues he needs to work on. Right now, it's him. Medicating his wife isn't going to fix that.
/r/askMRP06/03/17 08:18 PM
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the core concept here is to see if you can use the RP techniques to improve and save your marriage That is not the core concept here or anywhere else that is Red Pill. We save the man not the marriage. As for taking the easy way out and just medicating her to get some perceived tranquility, if that works for you, then great. All meds do is manage the symptoms, they do not fix the problem. She has to want to fix the problem herself, which would be kind of hard for her to do since the meds make he…
/r/askMRP06/03/17 07:11 PM
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be more oak, tolerate more moodiness as long as it's not directed at me or my son. Understand it, never tolerate it. A man should never tolerate shit from a woman.
/r/askMRP06/03/17 02:59 AM
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The downsides are most of these meds are SSRIs and kill libido, or even make orgasm impossible. But you get your wife back. After a few years of her being normal mentally, she can probably get off the meds and be fine. Wow, so two or more years of drug addled infrequent duty sex that you have to really work for, where your wife wanders around like a crew member of the USS Cygnus. How is that any better than your current situation? Me? I'd rather tickle the dragon's tail. But then again, my persp…
/r/askMRP06/03/17 01:12 AM
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Actually if he has to register as a sex offender, he might not even be allowed to attend depending on how the church is set up, daycare, school, etc... I'd get the number of his parole officer or the county sex offender registration officer to see where he is allowed to be, and if he can even attend.
/r/askMRP05/03/17 02:40 PM
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Her parents are very generous and forgiving and have been there to help us through tough times without any questions asked or judgment given. That's called enabling. Go watch any plea / sentencing hearing for a sex offender, I guarantee 95% of the time, his parents will be there explaining it away how it's not his fault. Never trust the parents of a sex offender, ever. Draw a bright line between him and your family and do not cave in. Recidivism rates among sex offenders are the highest of all t…
/r/askMRP05/03/17 02:37 PM
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Jesus, fucking search. We get this question four times a week. The answers never change. The blue pill still-plugged-in guys will tell you to completely stop Red Pill and go all beta. They will get the most up votes because reasons. At least one or two women will wander in on a random search for the word "pregnancy", and will commence to dispense shitty advice, "as a woman..." I will come in and emphatically state nothing changes during pregnancy, and promptly get downvoted to hell for no reason…
/r/askMRP05/03/17 02:29 PM
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As I've said before, mine I very emotional and prone to outbursts, and I very very rarely get upset or angry at her for them. If she really gets personal and nasty I'll shut her down, full stop, but normally I just tease and mess with her until she storms off or gets sick of my shit. If she makes an effort to re-engage me, I try not to rub it in her face too hard and will typically act like it's no big deal, and usually she realizes how crazy she was at this point and is trying to make up for it…
/r/askMRP03/03/17 02:38 PM
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o to answer your question, don't do anything, have a smile, poke fun at her for raving like a lunatic, and turn it sexual, because then you can give a shit what she's talking about. Exactly this. The most powerful weapon a man can unleash on a woman, the one that will inflict the most pain and suffering, is indifference.
/r/askMRP03/03/17 02:26 PM
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Weaponized autism, my friend.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/17 03:37 PM
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Good general ideas, but needs some improvement to flash it out. Delightfully tacky, yet unrefined.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/17 03:16 PM
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Fuck Tyson. Richard Feynman was the better physicist. Not only did he do more to advance the education and understanding of physics for the common man than anyone else, but he was was also quite the player. He played the bongos too. But I actually have, as a longer term project, an idea to equate Feynman's Lectures on Physics to game. There are some very loose generalities that can get pulled over. The immediate one I saw is where when you look at natural phenomena up close, it appears to be ran…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/17 02:58 PM
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Return of Kings has an article about Solomon II, along with a pdf compilation of at least some of the posts. I can't link to it now because the shitty free wifi I'm on blocks the RoK domain.k A Google search will turn it up as the first hit.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/17 02:55 PM
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Solomon 2 One of the greatest blogs ever published, btw. It's up there with Pook. Drive thru boyfriends is a timeless work of art.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/17 02:37 PM
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I must be autistic, because I get it. It's essentially two different main points: Don't miss the forest for the trees. Women view your indifference as an indicator of abundance mentality, which they find attractive. They find abundance mentality attractive because they assume that if a man has options, it means other women must find him attractive. And if other women want him, then I want him. And we all know what happens when a bunch of women decide they all want the same thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/17 02:16 PM
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We don't have enough context to say for sure in your case, but these are usually garden variety shit tests. What she is really saying is, "I'm bored, and I want you to fix it." This is where you AA (or maybe AM if the kairos is right), and tease her a bit. Get a big, shit eating gin on your face and say something like, "oh, I am soooooooo seething with rage at you. I am about to be out of control. You had better run for your life!" and then, depending on the relationship you have with her, start…
/r/askMRP02/03/17 08:40 AM
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No homo.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/17 02:35 AM
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Never post anything anywhere else with your TRP account. I did a quick look at your post history and already know a lot more about you than I should. We are hated here, and posting will automatically get you banned in other subs. (You are probably already banned from r/relationships, and for starters.)
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/17 12:20 AM
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Our sex is meh to be honest Have you tried the Sex God Method?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/17 11:48 PM
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Does it matter? Does knowing what any one of us thinks about a given hypothetical change our experiences, our judgment, and our advice? Are we somehow missing some relevant viewpoint or perspective because we may or may not have done things differently in a different world?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/17 11:30 PM
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Waaa, my pussy hurts! In all seriousness though, if you get all butthurt from a random guy on the Internet questioning your situation, what makes you think you are ready for marriage? You've seen both here and r/TRP what a woman's true nature is and what they are capable of. You have seen the pages upon pages of documented misery men have faced. You see the wreckage the FI has strewn about in our society in its never ending quest to get what it wants at any cost. And yet you want to go into this…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/17 10:55 PM
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The biggest tell with him is that he claims to get Plate Theory, yet wants to get married in his mid 20's to his plate. Clearly someone has not read the rest of TRM. That and he posts here and r/TRP with his main Reddit account.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/17 09:36 PM
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You clearly don't get it. None of us are here because we have a happy married life. We're here because marriage completely backfired on us. We're here because we were not told of the true nature of women and marriage. We're here because we are trying to make the best of a bad situation. Both MRP and TRP agree on what the true nature of women are, and how that is expressed in our modern gynocracy. Reread all the "helpful advice" you got from the "20 or so" other commenters above. The flared ones …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/17 09:33 PM
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My wife has been dealing with mental issues.. anxiety, depression, ocd. etc for most of our 17 years. She's been in the hospital for it at least three times. Assuming this is legit (as women are really good at working themselves up into any number of disorders), then you are not going to be able to fix this. You have to make the decision for yourself about whether you want to keep living like this, or leave her and move on with your life. As far as kids go, keep this in mind: by staying with her…
/r/askMRP01/03/17 08:27 PM
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she knows I keep the phone on me at all times so i was probably playing the "ignore game" wit her again . Yeah, and you suck at it. She knows that too. You don't take her calls, either at work or otherwise, not because you are playing a game or because you are trying to "enforce a boundary." You don't take her calls because you don't have time to. You are a busy man with shit to do, and enabling your wife's insecurities by talking to her is a low priority to you. If you have time to talk to her …
/r/askMRP01/03/17 08:21 PM
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Yeah, this is married red pill. Ditch the bitch and find another one while you still can. You are nowhere near even reaching your peak SMV. Learn game, fuck tons of other chicks, and then you will be ready to settle down with the pick of the litter when you are in your mid 30's. Don't make the same mistake the rest of us have done here.
/r/askMRP01/03/17 08:11 PM
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Why in the hell are you posting here in married red pill? Go ask in /r/asktrp .
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/17 08:06 PM
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I thought that was Candyman.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/17 04:13 PM
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When she had that call him in front of me I wanted to slap her You know, there are plenty of videos out there of guys fucking girls while the girl is on the phone with her husband / boyfriend lying about her whereabouts.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/17 03:24 PM
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I cringe as I read this, as part of me desires to live vicariously through you. But another part of me, who is going through a slow-drawn out terminal illness, cries out for the poor schlep on the other end of the phone. (I hope both the schlep and the other part of me end up in hospice care soon.) It is truly amazing what truths a balanced hypergamous equation will reveal. Women are shit, until you realize that's just their nature. After that, you can see them for what they truly are, a life su…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/17 01:53 PM
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Your post title is weak. What, you think you can just waltz in here and throw this up without a decent post title? One word? That's it? One word? This sub would be much better if we would just limit it to u/Rollo-Tomassi. WTF dude, do you even lift?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/17 01:45 PM
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¿Como se dice "stupid fucking non-sequitur" en español? Estúpido puta no-secuitur.
/r/askMRP27/02/17 11:47 PM
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Not sure what to say, I vocalize what I'm thinking. "you're actually pretty easy to ignore" and I head off to finish my evening. Ha! that is fucking gold right there. Almost a neg, but with a searing bight that drags her into your reality of "I am not bothered by your little foibles, silly girl." The fact that you just said what is on your mind means it probably came out with smooth, confident delivery too. Sometimes you don't have to overthink it, don't be afraid to let it rip on her. Sometimes…
/r/askMRP27/02/17 09:35 PM
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Yeah, we're on the same path here, except I start to lose interest and get distracted somewhere between 3 and 4, and just decide to start over again with number 1 using a different subject (or replow old ground with a new shear and horse, because this time I'll get it...) I realize now that for me, this is just mental masturbation. A convenient excuse to not just do the work. Couple that with the fact that the work I want to do is not the work I should be doing. The more I plow into mindfulness …
/r/askMRP27/02/17 03:07 PM
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I know. It really simplified things for me there. I always had a general understanding of your inner voice and where it comes from. When I started looking into REBT / Stoicism, it clicked for me that I can actually just see the voice for what it is and just ignore it. But after delving more into buddhist meditation / mindfulness, I'm learning more and more about how to deal with the voice, and my mind in general, to get a better handle over it. The book itself is mostly Dan's story about the lon…
/r/askMRP27/02/17 02:51 PM
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...starting to realize where this whole process went wrong right from the beginning. Back to the drawing board so I can rethink this a bit. Get out of your head. God, it's like reading my own journal entries from back in the beginning. Looking back on it, what I did wrong was not the specific "I did this, and she did not do what I expected." It's not that. You are too much in your head. It's hard to describe right now, and I will try to flesh this out more in the near future, but the best I can …
/r/askMRP27/02/17 01:26 PM
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I am not going to do your homework for you. Seriously, JFGI.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/17 01:27 PM
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I caution you, YaReally is truly on his own level with game. Don't just think you can read a few comments of his and you will magically get your wife to sext you. There is a lot of other groundwork that you need to do that YaReally does not. He's not married. He's not a beta schlub. These are offered only as examples of what can be done with texting, not what you should be doing it. What you should take away from them is the underlying dynamic of the interaction and how that works as a function …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/17 11:18 AM
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Exactly. Do not ever co-mingle assets. However, keeping separate property separate does not necessarily keep them out of the equation. Those assets can be taken into consideration when deciding your net worth for computing child support, and possibly alimony, and whether you have the ability to pay what the court orders you to pay.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/17 11:44 PM
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I never thought of it that way. It is quite the paradigm shift.
/r/askMRP24/02/17 08:43 PM
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Another thing to note for you noobs reading this: this is next level shit. Don't do this until you have established solid attraction, and your wife is regularly fucking you. Do this before you have reestablished attraction, and she'll just call you a childish jerk.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/17 08:33 PM
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Let's go ahead and clarify the whole, "texting is for logistics only," stuff. Exhibit "A": YaReally on text game, with examples. He sends out paragraphs full of text messages. He spends most all day texting chicks, and gets mad pussy. Most other guys who text more than logistics: no pussy. The difference? What you say. If you know how to talk to a woman, then you can text all day long and still get laid. In fact, you'll get laid because of it. There is nothing inherent about text messages that m…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/17 08:29 PM
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Basically after stating what I wanted three times she didn't respect it and that how it is. Probably because you did not confidently tell her you were okay, and this is what you really wanted. She read the situation as you subcommunciating to her that you really want to do this alone, but have to put up a fight because reasons, so just keep telling him that you are okay with staying behind. (Or something like that.) Women rarely take words at face value. They are always looking for what was unst…
/r/askMRP24/02/17 05:08 PM
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Having to do anything in exchange for sex is inherently beta. Your wife would have blown an alpha male and let him bust all over her face even without getting the milkshake. No, there is something else going on here. They weren't negotiating. It sounds more like flirting. Negotiating sex is where the guy gives up something big for begrudging starfish duty sex. Letting a guy cum on your face is a very submissive act. It's a sign she is already attracted to you. A woman would never let a guy blow …
/r/askMRP24/02/17 04:59 PM
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So, let me get this straight: you wife finds you so attractive that all you have to do to get her to suck you off with a facial is to get her a fucking milkshake?
/r/askMRP24/02/17 04:55 PM
1

Now the reason for finding the red pill is 4 months ago I found signs (though nothing definite) that she might have been seeing some else form work over the last few years. I have dug deeper and tracked back and forward since then and found 0 evidence to confirm this other than some (like 2) flirty (by her standards) emails in the last two years, also MAP is working very well, sex is up (x2 weekly previously monthly and she initiates about 10% of the time before it was 0), shit tests being passe…
/r/askMRP24/02/17 04:53 PM
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She likes them now, specifically vibes. When she uses them, she is tight and it’s great. When she doesn't she's loose and I don't feel much at all. That's a big sign right there. Granted, she pushed out 4 kids so things are stretched out. The vagina is just a muscle. She can exercise it and get it as tight as she wants. Number of children have no bearing on tightness. It hit me last week that sex is 80% me where I do almost all the work. It was like a ton of bricks on my head that I was working …
/r/askMRP24/02/17 04:45 PM
1

Just look at what happened in Katrina, and that was just one city where everyone knew the rest of the country would come in to help.
/r/askMRP24/02/17 04:31 PM
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Even at these things though you're more likely to hear "happy wife, happy life" than any RP rhetoric. Am I missing anything? No, you are just seeing proof that most guys are still plugged in, and deeply plugged in. We've been conditioned by years of FI programming on tv, movies, media, you name it. Everybody Loves Raymond wound up being the main source of how a man should be in a family for a decade. Home Improvement before that, and countless other sitcoms before that. Think about it. What did …
/r/askMRP24/02/17 02:53 PM
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It depends on the guy. I know that was one of my many excuses to avoid doing the hard work. Analysis paralysis and all. While I do try to calibrate to my wife, I always err on the side of too much. Any action is better than inaction. I'd rather blow it all up and say "I tried," than go to my grave still hearing that quiet song of desperation for eternity. Something like this guy.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/17 09:05 PM
2

You earned it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/17 04:39 PM
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probably the best critique of everything i've done over the past 2 years, including posting this. maybe it's not awalt: maybe i'm just a poser, and she saw through my bullshit. you make me sound like a lost, confused, selfish loser trying to cover up my flaws and insecurities with humblebrags. maybe you're right. Jesus, you are even passive aggressive about being passive aggressive. Here, this series of posts is right up your alley.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/17 04:18 PM
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A fucking letter... Can't find a YouTube video, but it reminds me of that old Vanish toilet bowl cleaner commercial from the 80's with a singing toilet: "My baby wrote me a Dear John letter. She say's she's Vanished, she says it's better..."
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/17 04:02 PM
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its about my pride being wounded that she would turn on ME and i didn't see it coming So, you let your world, your emotional state, your own idea of self-worth, be shattered by, of all things, a plate?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/17 03:53 PM
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bullshit beta fanfiction 50 Inches of Pegging.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/17 03:52 PM
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I gamed her until she cheated on her bf of 10 years, who was working in another city, when i sensed an opportunity and a moment of weakness. [cut] I am pretty narcissistic. I have always cared more about having her as a trophy, for the pride factor amongst friends and especially new business acquaintances than actual "love". There's a certain praise and attention you immediately get from other men and women if your girlfriend is smoking hot. [cut] 've never been very needy of sex (definitely not…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/17 03:51 PM
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I'm only partially through the book, Then save yourself a lot of time and read Anti-Dump's Machine (linked to above). You'll get the same thing in a fraction of the time.
/r/askMRP22/02/17 09:25 PM
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Models is a GREAT book for Red Pill Rambos who are to Alpha and need to emote more. Nah, Models is good for really nothing. The Book of Pook was written from a Red Pill frame. Models was written by a guy trying to carve out a niche by not being Red Pill.
/r/askMRP22/02/17 06:45 PM
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She wants all play and none of the grown up married life planning. You've just described every single women in existance.
/r/askMRP22/02/17 02:43 PM
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I'm going to jump in here with a slightly different take. I was you when I first started, thinking that this stuff would just get better if I had a good, masculine role model. And that makes sense. Men are geared to follow a hierarchy, and will usually defer to a stronger man who shows superior leadership skills. It's why the military works so well. Men will naturally fall into a chain of command that puts the most competent leaders at the top. (Let's not get tied down in petty discussion about …
/r/askMRP22/02/17 02:25 PM
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Get Model's by Mark Manson. First fifty pages or so will give you an idea of what's attractive to women. Along the way hopefully you'll then figure out who you want to be for yourself. No, skip Manson. His shit is just warmed over stuff that he rewrote to fit a purple pill frame. (Much like Athol Kay's later stuff.) Read The Book of Pook, it's time well spent. And if you really want to know what Models is really like, then read Anti-Dump's Machine, since that is pretty much all Models is.
/r/askMRP22/02/17 01:57 PM
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Sounds like a shit test. Maybe, not likely. It came off from his post that she may legitimately looking for advice on what to do. Not everything a woman does is a shit test. "pff what makes you think I was gonna let you use my last name at all? " Nice swing, but it's still a miss. Something like her taking your last name in marriage is a big deal, and is a boundary that should not be crossed. By treating it as a shit test the way you do you sacrifice that boundary just to score some temporary at…
/r/askMRP22/02/17 01:54 PM
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Do you want her to have a hyphenated last name? If he says anything other than, no, then he is a pussy, full stop. The man is head of the household.
/r/askMRP22/02/17 01:49 PM
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The red flag... more like pink, is that she still values the opinion of single preggo. That looks like the big take away to me as well. It sounds like she is unsure what to do and may be looking for guidance or input, but it is clear from this that she does not think high enough of OP's opinion on it that she has to resort to a single mommy for advice on a subject she (presumably) knows nothing about. I would make clear that this issue is non-negotiable, and that she takes my name with no hyphen…
/r/askMRP22/02/17 01:45 PM
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My wife kept her maiden name professionally for a year or so after we got married, but she always made clear she was going to take my name eventually. When she switched jobs, she made the jump completely, and adopted her maiden name as her middle name and my last name as her last name. It has been that way ever since. So she now gives her full legal name as: Firstname Maidenname Mylastname, and goes by Firstname Mylastname. She has completely dropped her original middle name.
/r/askMRP22/02/17 01:40 PM
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Your drill sergeant?
/r/askMRP21/02/17 09:14 PM
2

Just some quick context: what happened was Anti-Dump was (maybe still is) a regular poster on the SoSuave forums at the same time as Pook. Pook took some of Anti-Dump's posts, cleaned them up, and compiled them into a system. Anti-Dump's Machine is Pook's compilation of those posts along with his own commentary explaining the "machine". The whole idea is that you set up this system and just screen girls through it, and The Machine will screen the girls and provide you with the one that is the be…
/r/askMRP21/02/17 04:22 PM
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A girl's gotta have her standards. P.S.: Holy shit, Val Kilmer actually has a good flash of game in that clip.
/r/askMRP21/02/17 04:13 PM
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I completely agree with both your comments. I just wanted to clarify that Stoics also did not want to get too tied up with positive emotions either. They were not Epicureans, after all.
/r/askMRP21/02/17 04:09 PM
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Gop ahead and read up on Anti-Dump's Machine and save yourself a lot of time.
/r/askMRP21/02/17 03:58 PM
1

I actually got a lot out of Models. I finally forced myself to finish Models last year, and quite literally, it is nothing but a gussied up version of Anti-Dump's Machine. Pook and Anti-Dump came up with this well before Manson even started out with as a PUA, let alone all the postmasculine bullshit.
/r/askMRP21/02/17 03:54 PM
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Stoics aim to not be controlled by NEGATIVE emotions. Or by positive ones either. You don't want to get on the hedonistic treadmill of chasing positive emotions either. Stoics effectively say that you should enjoy positive emotions with the understanding that they are fleeting, and not to come to rely on them.
/r/askMRP21/02/17 03:52 PM
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So far most everyone else here had nailed it. Do you have any other proof she is cheating? Any solid evidence? Because while this behavior is certainly consistent with a cheating woman, it's also consistent with a plain, boring, homebody who just wants to get done with a stupid business trip. My wife would absolutely describe a function like this as boring because she has no interest in loud parties, dancing, clubs, etc... and the last thing she wants to do is go through the hassle of internatio…
/r/askMRP21/02/17 08:56 AM
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Especially the part about visualizing my robot penis. ROBOT PENIS. Can you nail a six inch spike through a board with your ROBOT PENIS?
/r/askMRP21/02/17 08:38 AM
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Yeah, "I feel..." is a common verbal filler for most all women. It's a reflection of the fact that they are primarily emotional thinkers, although it's seeing more use recently as a stand in for, "I think..." or, "I believe..." by men as well. That is usually not how a woman starts a shit test. It actually is one of the few times when you can take a woman's words at face value. She very likely is feeling whatever it is she says she is feeling, but will very likely be feeling some other random un…
/r/askMRP21/02/17 08:30 AM
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The point of MRP is to save the man, not the marriage. It makes no sense for someone to enter into something with full foreknowledge of what would happen to him. Basically, we rescue guys from marriage, we don't prepare them for it. If you just want the thrill of being married, then go play russian roulette with four out of six chambers loaded. It'll save you a lot more time and money.
/r/askMRP21/02/17 01:53 AM
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I don't know about ironwood, but I can tell you that you can skip the rest of Manson. It's just a fluffy rehash of Anti-Dump's Machine as described by Pook. Come to think of it, The Book of Pook should be next on your list.
/r/askMRP21/02/17 12:55 AM
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Here is the big issue that all you guys missed with this post: I am considering marrying her. Why in the fuck are you even considering marriage in this day and age? Especially to a girl who you are so unsure of, you have to go ask a bunch of random (asshole) guys for advice on how to handle. Bottom line, if you are unable to come up with the answer to this question on your own, then what makes you think you're ready for marriage?
/r/askMRP20/02/17 11:44 PM
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He strikes me as some type of high functioning autist. But with some kind of weird defect that makes him chuckle whenever someone says the word assberger.
/r/askMRP20/02/17 11:17 PM
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Your next step then is to seriously look into REBT. Albert Ellis has written dozens of books on the subject, and has come up with a way to apply it to just about any situation. The grandaddy of all of them is A Guide to Rational Living. This thread from the RooshV forum is a great summary of that book. Now that you are no longer overwhelmed by those negative emotions, you can use REBT to knock them out completely.
/r/askMRP20/02/17 09:34 PM
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A few quick points on money: However you choose to manage your assets is up to you, be it marital / community or personal / separate. Just know that no matter what the actual financial situation is, one of the worse things that can happen is that the court catches you trying to hide money. It's up to you what to disclose, and how to disclose it. Just know that all your finances are submitted to the court under oath, and if you get caught lying, you're fucked. Also, whatever you tell your lawyer …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/17 09:19 PM
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It's floating in my mind to recast and rewrite this whole thing and make it a main post. I recently started looking into mindfulness meditation to see if that can get factored in there somehow. I want to actually try it first to see if it works.
/r/askMRP20/02/17 08:39 PM
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I'll bite, just because reasons... [Insert witty retort about only $75k per year, 9/10, etc...] Ok, either she played you like a fool with a completely unenforceable pre-nup. And you reinforced that frame by making a comple bull-shit pre-nup, both in form (a Google Doc, really?) and in content (pube length? Your lawyer will double his fee just to have to explain that one to the judge, who will completely fuck you over out of spite because she is a raging feminist bitch in a robe). But I digress.…
/r/askMRP20/02/17 08:33 PM
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Two things come to mind with your post: She is acting this way because you are not clearly leading her. And I don't mean bossing her around or giving orders. I mean you are not clearly showing her your vision for where your life is going, and what her role in that life is. Sure, you can short-term take advantage of these incidents to get a freaky blow job or to get her to give up the ass cherry while she licks your semen off the floor, but those do not solve the longer term problem of your failu…
/r/askMRP20/02/17 08:13 PM
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Reddit puts the brakes on new accounts for the first few days to a week. It'll act like normal once it figures out you are not a spammer. Which, BTW, you are not doing a good job of with this post. BTW2: use a dedicated account for this sub and other Red Pill subs. You'll get doxxed if you don't.
/r/askMRP20/02/17 08:04 PM
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I originally downvoted this reply, but I have rethought what you are saying. I think you have it right in the sense that her withdraw of sex should not affect you. You should always be OI. And certainly pregnancy can be an explanation for a lowered libido on her part. But she absolute does not get a free pass on no sex. Marriage is fundamentally a sexual relationship. When you take the sex out of it, for any reason, you are changing the nature of the relationship.
/r/askMRP20/02/17 07:39 PM
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Edit: Correct your statement! Corrected. You might think this makes you come of as smart. It doesn't. No, but the rest of my post does...
/r/askMRP20/02/17 07:34 PM
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I've had roommates with the stomach flu before. I remember exactly how I treated them and I can treat my wife the same way. It's actionable without being specific. I think that's fair. Then the advice should have been, "hydrate them, make sure they sit and rest. Make sure they do not strain themselves. etc..." It would have been actionable, specific advice. But by simply saying, "treat it like stomach flu," what she actually does is make you equate pregnancy with someone who requires special tre…
/r/askMRP20/02/17 07:24 PM
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That'swhy I told him to get the rocker and get the kid out of the bed. The marital bed is for making babies, not for raising them.
/r/askMRP19/02/17 02:23 PM
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I need to get that SPAM list off my dresser and snap a pic and upload as a post here ... maybe share back with society a bit. You need to think long and hard about doing that. Too much detail could reveal your identity and get you doxxed.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/17 09:39 PM
1

It's all too easy to be overwhelmed at how far you have to go if you never look at how far you've come. Not if you only focus on what needs to be done next. Focus your efforts on the next step and only the next step. Once you accomplish that, focus on the next step after that. There is value in taking a moment to enjoy your progress, however minor it may be. It gives you the emotional fuel to keep grinding because you know it's working. There may be, but it is fleeting. For as soon as you turn y…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/17 09:36 PM
1

The trick is to never, and I mean never compare yourself to how you used to be. Compare yourself to where you want to be. Concern yourself only with the present, and what you need to do right now. “Two elements must therefore be rooted out once for all, – the fear of future suffering, and the recollection of past suffering; since the latter no longer concerns me, and the former concerns me not yet.” – Seneca
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/17 09:31 PM
2

Does it matter?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/17 09:22 PM
2

I will diverge a bit from the mainstream and say it's ok to go Red Pill Rambo......if you are strong enough. Man enough. Just don't come here crying that nothing is working. Go Rambo, fuck it all up, look back and go. Well damn that didn't work. I agree with you on this, in the sense that I think a lot of guys will use the "don't go redpill rambo" as an excuse to not do what needs to be done. It becomes too easy for a guy to not do the hard work, to not take the first big leap, to not make the f…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/17 09:21 PM
1

Cosleeping sounds like a shit test to me. Get one of those fisher price infant rockers and have the baby sleep in that next to the bed. This is a boundary I would start enforcing right now, and no matter what. The right to sleep in your own bed is fundamental.
/r/askMRP18/02/17 04:52 PM
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I just found this Ted talk that has some gems in it. I haven't had time to fully digest it and work it into my original post, but I wanted to get it out there and hope it helps someone. Plus, the guy is funny as shit.
/r/askMRP18/02/17 03:26 PM
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If you want to ditch the hookers and start landing better tail, then either you or your wife need to start running game on chicks. Plenty has been written on scoring threesomes with your primary girl and some fresh tail. Start looking for info on MLTRs and threesomes to begin. Basically, you are just going to have to put the work in to get it.
/r/askMRP18/02/17 05:04 AM
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And here I thought you were a Special Snowflake(TM), I guess AWALT. Let me break this down for you: u/Thomaskingo starts things off with this wonderful piece of advice: When she's pregnant lots of the red pill advice become incorrect. She needs a lot of beta and very little dread if any at all. u/bangorlol follows up with: Do you want drowned children? Because this is how you get drowned children. Which is presumably a reference to Andrea Yates. Let me ask you, how many pregnant women drown thei…
/r/askMRP18/02/17 02:03 AM
2

My wife would straight up murder someone who did this to her. Meditate on this for a bit: what if you did do that to her, right now, completely out of the blue. What realistically could she do to you? Get mad? So what? Scold and shame you? Pfffffft, just words. Withhold sex? She's already doing that, it's why you are here. Divorce you? You need to have already done that to her for TRP to work. Ask yourself, what power does she have over you?
/r/askMRP18/02/17 01:09 AM
1

Filed for divorce and told her I cheated on her the last 5 years Tiger Woods style. She sucks my dick on command and fucks me pretty much whenever I feel like it. This right here screams field report. I have got to read this! (I'm being serious.)
/r/askMRP17/02/17 08:08 PM
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This is a big challenge for me. She's always been a reserved, sort of stand-offish person. That comes out ALOT when she's upset, and she'll do the classic arms-crossed, leaning away, buried in her side of the couch, looking away from me...etc. That is where the calibration comes in. My wife tends to be more analytical than I think a typical woman to be. (That's not to say she isn't irrational, just more analytical.) It was hard at first for me to really get into the teasing at first, mostly beca…
/r/askMRP17/02/17 08:04 PM
2

Her: "I hate the dog/cat. It's too stressful with them and the kids - I want to get rid of them." Me: "OK. I've done the research and here are the shelters that can take them. Call one of them, figure out what paper work we need, and I'll get it done." No action taken, subject dropped. Her Yesterday: "Ugh, kids still won't nap. They're clearly tired. What do I do?" Me: "Let's bring back that sleep coach for a 1-on-1 session. We'll do an hour, tell her the issues, and get a plan in place. Bring i…
/r/askMRP17/02/17 05:36 PM
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Do you want drowned children? Because this is how you get drowned children. Complete and utter hyperbole. Your changes are not going to overrule her motherly instincts. If she decides that the best response to your improvement is to harm her children, then you really picked the wrong girl. There are few things more important to a marriage during pregnancy than providing comfort and security to your wife - especially during the latter two trimesters when shit starts to get painful, hormonal, and …
/r/askMRP17/02/17 05:12 PM
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I've mulled over this post a bit more, and my wife has been bombarding me this morning with the same dumb shit. It now occurs to me what is going on. She is looking for your leadership. These texts are her venting her frustration. She is frustrated because the kids are behaving in a way that she does not want them to behave. She is venting on you because she doesn't know how else to handle this, and that's what women do, they bitch about problems instead of trying to solve them. Give her somethi…
/r/askMRP17/02/17 04:43 PM
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if she starts a fight at 2am again you'll be sleeping somewhere else the next night No. Never give up your bed to her. It is your fucking bed, you sleep wherever you want to. If she want's to be all butthurt and storm off, let her. She can sleep somewhere else.
/r/askMRP17/02/17 04:28 PM
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You appear to have the right mindset and are heading in the right direction. You improve yourself solely for yourself, and no one else. You have a long way to go, though. She is throwing garden-variety shit tests at you, and STFU and ignore is perfectly fine for when you are just starting out. Once you get more self-confidence you'll be able to see them coming sooner and react to them. One thing to keep in mind is that you are probably moving toward something like The Main Event, which is where …
/r/askMRP17/02/17 04:25 PM
1

A broad who gets it. A unicorn indeed.
/r/askMRP17/02/17 04:06 PM
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No butthurt from you...That's basically the only thing you really need to worry about right now. All in all, just dabble in the waves of her emotions the way most posts here talk about. In time, you'll need to make sure you're staying the alpha around the house with more kids and more drama. Everything's going to turn into check-boxes that need to get done. Just make a mental note that you make sure you don't turn your gaming and your kids into mere check-boxes as time goes by. It'll need a majo…
/r/askMRP17/02/17 03:59 PM
2

Your story almost exactly mirrors mine. I unplugged soon after the birth of our second child, during a drought initiated (not caused by) by her breastfeeding for six months. The sex during the second trimester of that pregnancy was some of the best I've ever had with her. Four to five times a week, with many occasions of her waking me up at 3am just to fuck. So when the drought rolled in about midway through the third trimester, and continued on for months after the birth, it just sunk me right …
/r/askMRP17/02/17 03:56 PM
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Nothing changes during pregnancy. You still act like a man, and you still initiate sex. A lot of times she won't be in the mood, either for logistics, hormonal changes, whatever. That is to be expected, just roll with the punches. Understand that at least some of the time, her unreceptiveness to sex is not directly because of a lack of attraction, so act accordingly. But whatever you do, don't go all beta on her. All you will do is trigger her hindbrain that she fucked up and you are not the rea…
/r/askMRP17/02/17 03:36 PM
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Completely wrong. Nothing changes during pregnancy. She is still a woman, and you are still a man.
/r/askMRP17/02/17 03:31 PM
1

Somewhat like Powertalk, but not the same thing exactly. Subcommunication, especially when it is between women, is different. Powertalk is most effective between people who are on equal footing for it. (Sociopath to Sociopath, Loser to Loser, or Sociopath to Loser.) It's different for a man to a woman, because men and women are not on equal levels or equal footing. It's a good thing to know about, though.
/r/askMRP17/02/17 02:31 PM
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When learning how to fish, you do not talk to the fish, you talk to the fisherman. I repeat: Never take relationship advice from a woman. This broad comes traipsing into this sub doling out what is essentially useless, non-actionable advice just because she also happens to be pregnant, and it gives her good feels because she thinks she is helping out a fellow pregnant sister. She has no idea what the real problem is, nor anything about your perspective. She has never experienced the world as a m…
/r/askMRP17/02/17 02:14 PM
1

I have the ability to dictate the schedule. THEN FUCKING SET THE SCHEDULE TO WHATEVER YOU WANT IT TO BE!!!!!!! Jesus Christ you are fucking annoying.
/r/askMRP16/02/17 07:19 PM
3

Let me just preface by saying that I am a Christian, and so is the girl I'm considering marrying. So what. She is still a woman, and will always behave as such. I know one of the big Red Pill rules is to not talk about partner count, etc, and I understand why. However, it's been a struggle trying to balance that with the Christian convictions I have. What impact does partner count have on your faith? A core tenant of Christianity is that we are all sinners and fall short of what God wants us to …
/r/askMRP16/02/17 07:15 PM
1

I'm not going to be as blunt as others, but why does this matter? What is having a discussion about this going to accomplish? Your visitation time is set whether you like it or no. Dreaming about your ideal visitation schedule is not going to make you get more time with your kids. Convincing a judge to modify the custody order is what is going to change that. And you only get to do that after you have put in the hard work to improve yourself, your home, and your life. So rather than solicit fodd…
/r/askMRP16/02/17 07:00 PM
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I think subcommunication is what you are actually describing, not covert communicate. You are not being covert about anything, you are just saying something without directly saying it. The message is still loud and clear.
/r/askMRP16/02/17 06:56 PM
2

Look above.
/r/askMRP16/02/17 04:36 PM
2

With me I've never really had a culture of self pitty. I created that because it was easier for me to create this little pity party than to actually do the hard work and put myself out there, no matter what. (Radical self-acceptance, I think it's called.) Porn did a lot to stem the natural urges that would otherwise have driven me to get off my ass and do what I needed to do to get sex.
/r/askMRP16/02/17 04:35 PM
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How did you overcome analysis paralysis? Just doing it. The reward from doing something becomes self-reinforcing, and you are more likely to do it again. What is going on is when something happens, like your wife throws a shit test at you, your subconscious (hind-brain, croc brain, or "System 1" for you Daniel Khaneman fans) responds instantly with an emotion or feeling. An example of how System 1 is supposed to work is when you first go bungee jumping. You feel intense emotions of fear, terror,…
/r/askMRP16/02/17 04:32 PM
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Don't praise me yet. I'm only just starting to do the actual work to fix it. For me, actually following through and doing the work is the hardest part. It is way to easy for me to slip back into the little world of self-pity I spend decades creating, where I can escape to by just reading one more field report...
/r/askMRP16/02/17 03:09 PM
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The copendency and neediness for it not be your fault is interesting. But that's the interesting part. This whole thing really is my fault. I am the one who chose her. I am the one who ignored the red flags. I am the one who put myself in this position. She was just following her programming. With the exception of a few incidents, she has, for the most part, been following a predictable pattern of female behavior. My big problem has always been my internals, my "Inner Game," if you will. Looking…
/r/askMRP16/02/17 02:49 PM
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look, right now our man is in triage mode without any clue as to what he's dealing with. Which is why he needs to focus on improving himself, not on dealing with her shit. What will fix this is OP becoming attractive to her, not becoming her emotional tampon. There is nothing Red Pill Rambo about it. He shouldn't be reacting to her, she should be responding to him because he is attractive. Women do not find a man attractive who listens to them kvetch about how hard it is to watch children all da…
/r/askMRP15/02/17 08:27 PM
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If you want to keep with the whole lioness-in-the-wild metaphor, then you will note that the lion tamer does not control the lion by sitting down and listening to it vent about its shit all day. He shows the lion who is in charge, and who is subservient to who. Anything less and you wind up like this guy. Besides, I'll be damned if I'm going to wipe up some bitch's menstrual blood from anything other than my dick.
/r/askMRP15/02/17 08:15 PM
1

Texts are for logistics, and you should never become her emotional tampon. That being said, this is more a woman who is looking for stimulation, not just to unload her emotional baggage. Tease her and flirt with her. Stimulate her emotions through all the usual ways. Don't jump right into doing this, as you teasing her will likely be incongruent to who you used to be. You'll have to calibrate and ease into it. Ideally try it when she is not in the middle of a mandibular menses. But that's how to…
/r/askMRP15/02/17 08:02 PM
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Call her after the first anxious text of the day and just listen So, be her emotional tampon. Nope. Surest way to become one of her girlfriends and not her lover. Women don't fuck their girlfriends.
/r/askMRP15/02/17 07:56 PM
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Try doing a search. Seriously, it's been covered extensively. Just look around. Basically, you don't handle her feelings. you use them to your advantage. From The Sixteen Commandments of Poon: IX. Connect with her emotions Set yourself apart from other men and connect with a woman’s emotional landscape. Her mind is an alien world that requires deft navigation to reach your rendevous. Frolic in the surf of emotions rather than the arid desert of logic. Be playful. Employ all your senses. Describe…
/r/askMRP15/02/17 07:49 PM
1

You misunderstood my answer. It doesn't matter. Do whatever you want to do.
/r/askMRP15/02/17 05:45 PM
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Read this, this, and this. There are tons more on just r/TRP. All you have to do is search for "field report feminist". I also remember reading a field report somewhere (can't find it now) where a guy gamed a feminist chick back to his place for a same night fuck, and just as he's about to fuck her, she says, "I have to tell you, I'm a feminist." He replies, "I know." He then goes on to engage her in completely degrading sex acts, which she loves. Basically, feminism is just another shit test. T…
/r/askMRP15/02/17 04:40 PM
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You are in an LTR and not married. Go fuck some strange and cement your abundance mentality. It will pay dividends later down the road. Edit: Although the more I think of it, I wonder why you think you need a foreign trip to work on self improvement. You should be doing all this stuff every day, not just when you are out of pocket. If you want to get away from her, then just get away from her. You don't need an excuse. You don't need permission. Just do what you want to do without needing an exc…
/r/askMRP15/02/17 03:48 PM
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It all depends on the frame of the relationship. You wouldn't give a plate a Valentine's Day card, because the frame of the relationship is that you are just fucking and nothing more. But your wife is (presumably) not a plate. She's the woman who has decided to follow you and enter your world. She may also be the mother of your children. Women do occasionally need reassurances that they made the right choice in trusting you, and one of the ways you can do that is with Valentine's Day. So long as…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/17 03:45 PM
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You were actually that bad? I was. Even worse that that. I hit rock bottom several times over the ten plus years of our relationship. Everything from begging and groveling to keep her early on in the relationship (standing in front of her car blocking her from driving off), an eight month dry spell of absolutely nothing from her (which led to a still-lingering porn addition), years of begging for just starfish sex (her green light was "this won't take very long, will it?), looking for advice fro…
/r/askMRP15/02/17 02:33 PM
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I know I did it out of my frame and don't need your approval for me to be confident in how I handled it. Don't flatter yourself. I didn't type all that for you. I typed it so that everyone else could learn from it.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/17 03:43 AM
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She's going to tire super easily due to pregnancy, and you're probably tiring her on a daily basis, which is probably why she is laying in bed! It's a fucking miracle the human species ever made it this far. That is some next level hamster shit right there.
/r/askMRP15/02/17 02:46 AM
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This is a super helpful guideline for me. Appreciate it. Never take relationship advice from a woman. Especially a pregnant one.
/r/askMRP15/02/17 02:43 AM
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I'm 25 y.o. and in a LTR for 6 years now. You have your whole life ahead of you, with your peak SMV still to come. Your lack of experience will become a drag on your current relationship because you are will not truly have abundance mentality. You can only get that after having played the field and seen for yourself that you are the prize. Ditch the bitch and get some strange.
/r/askMRP15/02/17 01:04 AM
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You are exactly where I was when I unplugged almost three years ago, bank accounts, location sharing, fear of spending five fucking dollars on myself. It gets better. It's a long, hard journey, but once you start, it gets better.
/r/askMRP15/02/17 12:56 AM
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This is a great FR for intermediate MRPs. Seriously, did we even read the same post? Thus is a great FR for what not to do.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/17 12:43 AM
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You do that by initiating sex, not by talking to her about it. You show her you expect more sex, you don't tell her. The only words spoken should be, "now put my Cock in your mouth..."
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/17 12:41 AM
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but it opened the door to the real discussion. His big problem, the big clue to this whole thing that you missed is that he initiated this discussion. He did this completely out of left field, and via fucking text message. And he did it passive aggressively. Men do not do this. Men lead, they don't talk about relationships, especially via text.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/17 12:37 AM
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One other critique, I think the word you are looking for is not covert. I think Subcommunication is the better fit. Your coconut spa is Subcommunication for sex. Saying that you want sex without actually saying the words, "I want sex." Thats how a lot of the anti LMR and ASD tactics work, they essentially subcommunicate to the girl that she is not a slut for wanting to have sex with you without saying anything that actually calls her a slut.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/17 12:10 AM
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Far from it. She was in a state of frantic discourse the whole time. Yeah, because you decided to chuck this at her out of left field: me - what would be a shame, is for one party to do everything within their power to repair a crucial part of a relationship while the other does very little and also fails to see the importance of this. Let me ask you this:what were you trying to accomplish by bringing this up? Exactly how does saying that move the ball down field? Because it comes off as complet…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/17 12:02 AM
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For the one or two confirmed autists who frequent this sub, OP here is being sarcastic. Don't do this IRL.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/17 09:12 PM
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You are in her frame. You are letting her drive your feelings and mental state and frame. All of your texts show her you are incapable of doing what needs to be done to get what you want, and will resort to passive aggressive threats, whining, and emotional manipulation to get what you want. Well, guess who primarily uses those tools to get what they want: a woman. Stop acting like a fucking woman and act like a fucking man. Edit: for all you clowns down voting me, here is how you deal with divo…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/17 09:11 PM
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If she's shit testing you it means she thinks there is something worth shit testing over. Indifference is the real sign you are in trouble.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/17 09:00 PM
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So quick practical pre-FR I'm throwing out there for ideas. I bought my wife a nice card to give her in front of the kids, a second card that is a "funny" card that insinuates sex for later, and a large bag of Skittles. Sex probably isn't going to happen tonight for logistical reasons, (and I already got the consolation hand job over my lunch break today) but it's one more step on the path of increased sexualization of my wife and our relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/17 08:54 PM
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it is a steak based covert contract I think Steak and Blow Job Day is anything but a covert contract. It's pretty clear what the origin and point of that day is.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/17 08:51 PM
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Last night I instigate & then afterwards she's telling me how we're so much more "in tune" over the last few months (must be coincidence haha...!) and how sex feels so much better these days. Ok, let's at least turn this into something of a learning experience here. What does she mean by "in tune"? Exactly why has the sex felt "so much better"? Discuss. (Extra credit for links to relevant Manosphere articles and quotes. Basically, show your damn work.)
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/17 08:32 PM
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Bottom line - think of how you can re-create the mini-vacation experience at home. Was there a special drink you guys had when you were there? A different activity that you adapt for home? Time to be creative and think outside the box. Exactly, and the hard part about that is it is not the drink or activity, it's the state she was in when that happened. My guess is it would be hard to try to recreate that state the same way once you get home. Just mixing up the drink isn't going to do it. It's f…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/17 08:23 PM
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Not financially there yet to go off for a weekend. You do not need a weekend. I have a plan to just wisk my wife away unexpectedly for an afternoon walk and picnic in a secluded park nearby.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/17 08:17 PM
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likely more internal to myself than to her It is, and my original reply had a lot more to it that I chopped out. My initial thought was that you had to balance carrying over the momentum from the vacation with getting back into a routine. But then when I tried to articulate the second part about getting into routine, I really had no idea what I meant by that. Why would you not want to change the entire dynamic? Why would you not want to have that hot vacation sex every day of the week? Is it bec…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/17 08:15 PM
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Another log to throw on the conflagration this post has started. For guys who are still trapped with the moral aspects of sticking with the marriage, either with the fact that you made an oath, or that there are children involved, etc... Just realize that when she withholds sex, she has already broken the wedding vows. Each of you vowed never to cheat ("forsaking all others"). Inherent in that vow is a reciprocal vow to provide an outlet for the other partner's sexual desires. If she is going to…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/17 08:07 PM
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She married me, she should fuck me whenever I want, you say. Marriage isn't a covert contract, it is a fucking overt contract. You had a party, you talked to her family, you basically promised not to fuck anyone else but her, and she did the same. You've thrown a party to celebrate that fucking fucking promise. And yet she doesn't act as she promised. You are absolutely correct in this. If she is going to hold veto power over your sex life, then she has to be able to satisfy your sexual wants an…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/17 07:48 PM
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Good work. Use the mini-vacation to "reset" the relationship, and get her to treat you like y'all just met for the first time. Build that little bubble between you and her and give her a chance to forget about your everyday relationship. Try to keep her in state for the weekend, and she might give you the chance to try for things she normally doesn't do. Problem is going to be carrying over any momentum gained back into everyday life.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/17 07:37 PM
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OR you could just be the man she wants to fuck. The Man She Wants to Fuck is the man who makes his wishes known, either overtly by initiating sex and doing what he wants, or covertly, by playfully teasing her with Amused Mastery, leading her to the place he wants her to be. The Man She Wants to Fuck also just gets it, and knows how to calibrate his approach to her, so she can gleefully submit to him. Bottom line, responsive desire means she is not just going to fuck you because of you, she has t…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/17 07:28 PM
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It's almost like dealing with ASD / LMR. You have to give her hamster the ability to say, "He did not say he wanted to do [degrading sexual act], and I did not agree to do [degrading sexual act], it just happened. Therefore I am still a good girl and am not a slut / whore / sex toy..."
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/17 07:21 PM
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Shit or get off the pot. If you are going to step out on your marriage, then do it. Don't just come in here and emotionally masturbate and expect us to be your dried up cum rag.
/r/askMRP13/02/17 09:50 PM
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It was probably one of his old blog posts. He took all it down after he started aggressively monetizing his brand. He even said awhile back that he talked to a consultant, who told him he should not be giving all that content away for free.
/r/askMRP13/02/17 01:56 PM
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So 189 lbs. You're either ripped as fuck, or overweight. That's a little on the chubby side, but not overweight. Pretty much dad bod.
/r/askMRP12/02/17 12:08 AM
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Have you already bought your midlife crisis sports car? There is no such thing as a mid-life crisis.
/r/askMRP12/02/17 12:06 AM
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Well, if you can survive this, you can survive anything. There's that...
/r/askMRP11/02/17 11:58 PM
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I can't really describe what your issue is either, but the fact that this was your reply to u/ReddJive is a pretty big sign of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 11:41 PM
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Its going to take me some time to have 'mission' thoughts at the wake-up hour. That's where I want to get to. So one of the big problems with you (and with many of us, myself included), is that your internal thought processes are messed up. That ongoing dialogue you have with yourself is messed up. You have the right idea that it is a problem and needs to be changed, but you are going about it the wrong way. Don't just brute force tell yourself, "I need to do this, I need to do that," because yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/17 02:44 PM
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Would also explain why he left his life behind every 2 years to live in the woods, and still had a job when he got back. I actually think he got away with that because he truly was the shit in the advertising world. BBDO and McCann Erickson were both after him, and would have done almost anything to get him. (And did so.) Remember how the show ended: he went back to McCann after his little California case and (its insinuated) he invented one of the greatest television commercials of all time. Th…
/r/askMRP09/02/17 09:42 PM
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Eh, perfection is boring. Besides, something like 7 out of the 8 main writers on that show were women. Draper is the embodiment of what turns women on because, well, that's who created him.
/r/askMRP09/02/17 08:40 PM
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There is more to it than just "flip your ass over". If you are getting pussy on the regular, start looking into Sex God Method, and take it slow from there.
/r/askMRP09/02/17 07:30 PM
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My guess is that your wife wants the assertiveness/dominance from you but without feeling like she's being ordered around by a drill sergeant. Your reply makes me think along the lines of the idea of LMR from the PUA set. I've been going over the Book of YaReally recently, and had a few insights from his posts talking about LMR. I have not digested it enough to put it up there, but it's interesting.
/r/askMRP09/02/17 07:28 PM
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Just keep fellating yourself and try to work on that gag reflex, it'll relax soon enough.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/17 07:22 PM
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Seriously, get some help. If any of the shit you have posted is true, which I doubt, then you are in need of some serious professional help. You are beyond anything anybody in this sub is capable of helping you with. Stop posting this shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/17 07:11 PM
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So what's a guys equivalent? This. Dressing slutty is a way for a woman to stimulate desire and attraction in a man. It's visual. If she has the tits and ass, and shows them off, the guys will respond. So what is the equivalent in women? Dominance, power, control, authority, command. Alpha. Women and men perceive physical attractiveness differently. Physical appearance is not what makes a man attractive, it's what that physical appearance means. Strong muscles are not attractive to a woman, it's…
/r/askMRP09/02/17 06:54 PM
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Call your lawyer right now to initiate the divorce. Be sure to tell him you want to protect your finances by cutting her off to the extent you can immediately. Next, ask him how to take steps to get her removed from the house. Protect your kids and cut everything off with her. No more sex, no more communication, nothing beyond bare logistics just to get by. Completely ignore her and kick her ass out. There is no forgiving her actions, especially after she defended them. Trying to win her back af…
/r/askMRP09/02/17 04:19 PM
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My head is filled with thoughts, thoughts of her ovulation: Is she already ovulating? Do I have a few more days to up my manliness before her ovulation peak? Shit, I was a faggot day before yesterday and I failed a few shit tests...Get frame boy, get frame...ovulation incoming... You are way in her frame here. Why are you ruminating over this so much? You do you and she falls in line. Otherwise, you are dealing with her shit tests pretty well. Always take the opportunity to fuck around with her …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/17 02:22 PM
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"We are a generation of men raised by women." - Tyler Durden
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 11:45 PM
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Please let me hear your "wife a BPD" plan. Take out a large life insurance policy and set up a trust with your kids as the beneficiaries of the policy. Name a third party you trust as the trustee. Get a really high value one, like for millions of dollars, Make sure it is a reputable company that is known to pay claims without fighting it. Do this because if your post is anywhere near truth, that bitch will slit your throat and they will never find your body.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 09:54 PM
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and then give them pointers on how to be better at it for the future. Going meta is always a good reframe.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 09:16 PM
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And one that is ultimately about red vs purple. You are so full of shit. If you are really up on your bitch management game, then you know there is no purple pill. And if you really cared about how your kids factor into this equation, you would not be doing what you are doing. You don't plate your baby mama. Either wife her up or ditch her.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 08:49 PM
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Let's see here: BPD baby mama who likes to eat pussy as much as you do got the police / lawyers involved while you want to enforce your new boundary for side pieces that is a complete double-standard. (There is more, but I got bored and just skimmed.) You sir, are a pimp. Why are you slumming it with us beta chump incel AFCs? If you really are swimming in that much pussy, then you already know the answer to your question.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 08:32 PM
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The bigger issue here is why you are trolling for free BJs from fatties on a shitty subreddit. If you are going to step out on your old lady, then you need to fucking mean it. Go out and game, and pull some strange like you mean it. You go out and slay pussy because it is your prerogative as an alpha male to spread your seed far and wide to whatever ladies are lucky enough to receive it. This, however, this is just you being all butthurt gamma, "she won't fuck me because she's always sick, blabl…
/r/askMRP08/02/17 07:35 PM
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The benefit is that you have proof that other women find you attractive.
/r/askMRP08/02/17 07:00 PM
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Getting constantly shit-tested about my self improvement efforts especially the muscles, She wouldn't be shit testing you if she wasn't attracted. She would just ignore you. For a woman, the opposite of love / attraction is not hate / disgust, it's indifference. I told her "now that you got that outta your system, you will go pick up my coat and bring it back upstairs to the chair." Good luck enforcing that demand. You completely set her up to shit all over your boundary, which she (so far) has …
/r/askMRP08/02/17 06:54 PM
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Forget her possibly cheating, you cannot control that. You can only decide what you will do should you ever find out it happened. Start reading up on stoicism. I'd start with Ryan Holiday's book, The Obsticle is the Way. It's not quite stoicism, but it's the easiest introduction. You need to focus on getting yourself under control, since that's the only thing you have any control over.
/r/askMRP08/02/17 06:42 PM
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There are three things that could explain this: She is responding well to your new RP self. The new BC pill could be causing her libido to go up. Was she horny when she was pregnant? Birth Control generally works by mimicking pregnancy in the body, thus preventing ovulation. (Along with a few other things.) Maybe she found out that you were trolling for free blow jobs over on /r/RandomActsOfBlowJob , and she is really feeling the dread. Either way, we can't really tell without more information. …
/r/askMRP08/02/17 06:35 PM
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Interesting. I guess there was a lot more subcommunication that doesn't come through in a plain write-up. It came off to me as she being bitchy and you reacting to her rather than a reframe. You pulled it out, but I think I would have just walked out on her if she is going to act like a bitch.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 02:47 PM
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Go read up on Borderline Personality Disorder. Hint: her incongruity is the big clue here.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 12:32 PM
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Me: That's surprising. A few years ago this would have been an entirely different conversation. Walk me through your reasoning on that one. Why bring that up at all? It seems like the whole thing almost went off the rails after that.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 02:08 AM
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Nailed it. If he was truly in his own frame, he would have seized the opportunity to really have fun with her. (As in how a dad will find amusement when his daughter wants to play with him.) Bring her out, tease her, flirt with her, play with her, turn the whole thing into one big game show where you are the host and she is the contestant. Lead her into the fun world that is time with you. If you do that, one of two things will happen: either you'll spike her emotions and she'll love it (and be …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 01:59 AM
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You can say the same thing about your pediatric oncologist. Just because he didn't have cancer doesn't make the advice any less relevant.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/17 07:04 PM
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It was a TL;DR of the part I quoted. (Or more a restatement of it the way I understood it.) It's impossible to TL;DR your articles.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/17 06:53 PM
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From the linked essay: The key to living in a red pill context is to unlearn your blue pill expectations and dreams of finding contentment in them, and replace them with expectations and aspirations based on realistic understandings of red pill truths. TL, DR: you are conditioned to hold out hope for something that never existed and never will exist. Once you realize that, start working towards satisfaction with what reality actually is. This is truly a man's strength, to take what is really in …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/17 01:29 PM
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I'm still just processing this whole series of articles. I have felt a string of emotions that have run from every single extreme you can think of. I still cannot really get a handle on exactly how this article left me. The impact was just that much. Two things I have said in the past come to mind: "It's not until you've lost everything that you're free to do anything." "Fuck you, chase me." When I wrote those things, I thought the key was to be willing to lose it all. Be mentally prepared to bl…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/17 02:47 AM
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This is looking to be one of Rollo's most [can't think of adjective, but similar to earthquake, only more violent, destructive, and liberating] posts ever. Be sure to read the comments for the next few days, as there are several great threads of analysis and lots of practical advice for how to follow through on this. This comment by Jeremy is a particularly good one. It reminds me a lot of the original Dave from Hawaii comment on CH from many years ago that wound up being the very beginning of M…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/17 01:48 AM
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Similar, from Le Chateau (emphasis added): when she wants to have a BIG TALK ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP and she says “I don’t like how you have been acting the last [fill in the blank]…” and you look her square in the eye and shrug “you don’t have to”. BOOOOM goes the dynamite. Relationship reset activated. #winning #welcomebacktestes #tingles
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/17 11:59 PM
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Read The Book of Pook first, when you turn 16.
/r/TheRedPill26/06/16 12:32 PM
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You create your world, and she follows you in it. She can have a fun time in it, or be left behind. It makes no difference to you.
/r/TheRedPill16/06/16 12:53 AM
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Go read Sex God Method and find out why dick size (mostly) doesn't matter.
/r/TheRedPill04/06/16 01:46 PM
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Read up on Borderline Personality Disorder and be thankful for the massive bullet you just dodged. Once you have a solid understanding of it, never contact her again for any reason whatsoever.
/r/TheRedPill04/06/16 01:43 PM
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I read your article. The gist of it seems to be to just use negs to knock her self esteem down.
/r/TheRedPill01/06/16 12:02 AM
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Pook started the whole inner game approach circa 2003, long before Manson even got into PUA, and well before anyone realized this was the better way to go. The Book of Pook is still the best work on the subject, and the first real Red Pill work. Edit: to summarize, Pook's approach is simple: be a Man, embrace your testosterone, and build the world you want to live in. The chicks will follow you in that world. Much more simple and accurate than Manson's muddled ideas of "vulnerability" and "hones…
/r/TheRedPill28/05/16 01:08 PM
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I know. Just make whatever point you want to make and let it stand on its own merits. Opening your argument by stating what is or is not dangling between you legs is either an attempt to bolster your argument, or is irrelevant.
/r/TheRedPill25/05/16 05:03 PM
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Woman, the most responsible teenager in the house. I love that article.
/r/TheRedPill25/05/16 04:01 PM
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I've always expressed dread as nothing more than her realization that other women find you desirable; not you telling her that.
/r/TheRedPill19/05/16 11:14 AM
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A great book. Also include Franco's Manual of Seduction for more on the same lines.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/16 11:06 AM
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Throw Swinggcat's Real World Seduction, JD Fuentes The Sexual Key, and Franco's Manual of Seduction in there as well. All focus extensively on talking to women.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/16 02:54 AM
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You fuck her senseless. Either she gets into it, or you get a good lay for yourself and she gets confirmation that she doesn't control you with her vagina.
/r/TheRedPill05/04/16 11:26 AM
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I have to respectfully dissent from the Captain / First Officer model. Human sexual relationships are about polarity, the masculine to the feminine, complete opposites who attract to each other the more opposite they are. C/FO is a linear construct. A chain of command does not function well with polarity. A woman can never step up and fulfill the role of a man. Edit: Rollo Tomassi also critiques it here.. He has different reasons then me: While it may be comforting for a woman to believe her opi…
/r/TheRedPill24/02/16 12:14 AM
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Borderline Personality Disorder. Get Stop Walking on Eggshells and I Hate You - Don't Leave Me and start reading. Understand that you are likely up against a pretty serious personality disorder. No amount of Red Pill is going to fix that. You are at best going to manage it and try to minimize damage. Since there are no kids with her involved, just walk away.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 11:22 AM
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Why are you not driving? Unless you are incapable of driving, you should always drive.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/16 02:42 PM
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For my honor as a man. Go read The Way of Men by Jack Donovan if you want to know about honor as a man.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/16 08:02 PM
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No, you need to work more on yourself. A woman is never going to tell you what really turns her on, because she doesn't even know it herself. Women have responsive desire when it comes to sex. She isn't going to push the boundaries of sex because that's your job, not hers. Her job is just to follow along with it until she feels she's gone far enough. Your job is to push her there. The big secret is that the more attractive she finds you, the farther she'll let you push her.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/16 07:49 PM
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you have to lead her to the well to drink. No, you have to make her thirsty first.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/16 07:46 PM
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She not attracted to you. Once she becomes more attracted to you, move on to Sex God Method.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/16 07:45 PM
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If you want a woman to be her beautiful feminine self, then you need to be a masculine dude. Period. This. I analyzed the flaws with the Captain / First Officer model in the past, and won't rehash them here. The real model is polarity. Pure masculinity triggers reciprocal perfect femininity. Masculine dominance brings out feminine submission. This is the underlying message in both The Book of Pook and The Way of the Superior Man. Read those two books to get the fundamentals down.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/16 07:42 PM
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Read up on Stoicism. Start with A Guide to the Good Life, the Ancient Art of Stoic Joy. It's a great place to begin.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/16 11:28 AM
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He put it back online. He had two posts explaining what happened. Essentially, we drove him from five hits a week to 400 a day, and he took a day or two to process what was going on. I'm glad he put it back up, I enjoy his writing style, and his thinking is solid Red Pill. Based on his latest two posts explaining his shutdown, I'm not sure he gets what Red Pill really is or what we are really doing here. Hopefully he'll lurk awhile and see what we are really about.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/16 01:04 PM
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Is this really what Christians read and learn from about how relationships should work? Read [Dalrock's blog](https//dalrock.wordpress.com) for numerous examples of what the modernized feminized "churchians" teach. Especially read the comments on his articles (he had some very insightful readers). I find it so funny when the modern evangelicals claim to follow the infallible Word of God in Scripture, except for where Scripture clearly and unequivocally defines the roles of man and woman in marri…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/15 12:09 PM
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Women like it better when you treat them like children. Women: The Most Responsible Teenager in the House.
/r/TheRedPill20/12/15 12:27 PM
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Since we're all busy kicking each other in the feels, this is the only commercial that drew tears when I first saw it. And here is a great parody of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/15 05:02 PM
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He didn't ask. He gave her the choice of who would be the one satisfying him that night. She made the safe choice.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/15 02:00 AM
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Roses are Red Violets are Blue Flip your ass over and I'll make you cum too.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/15 11:42 PM
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Really? deleted the post? What the fuck you cunt.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/15 11:39 PM
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We had a thread about this a week ago or so. The best reply was that women want experiences. They want to feel things, like emotions. So take that path as you think of something. In my case, I tried some old school PUA "eliciting values" from my wife over a bottle of wine the other night. I got her to tell me that what she wanted as a little girl was the Snoopy Sno Cone maker. I checked the reviews, and saw that I didn't hold up very well, so I went with a modern shaved ice machine. I'm looking …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/15 11:34 PM
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She doesn't understand what dread is, she thinks it is literal dread. And that is the reality of This Thing of Ours. Dread is not cheating on your wife, nor making her think you are cheating on her. Dread is nothing more than her realization that you have an awesome life that she is welcome to join you in. If she chooses not to join you, your life just keeps going right on without her. It's her choice was she wants to do.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/15 11:16 PM
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YaReally is truly a resource. Over five years of analysis and advice for all stages of pickup. He is one of the most practical and detailed PUAs out there. He can also usually link you to a video on YouTube that explains what he is talking about. I encourage everyone to go to the YaReally archive and do some searches on issues you are curious about.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/15 06:50 PM
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All teenagers wishing to unplug should read The Book of Pook. That is the foundation for the rest of your life. Go forth and Unite Dream and Day.
/r/TheRedPill08/12/15 03:19 AM
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It all goes back to the Curse of Eve. From Free Northerner: Before the curse, she was a helper to a perfect leader. Now she is a subject to a fallen man cursed with bitter hardship. This fallen man may be cruel, he may be weak, he may foolish, he may be sinful, he may despise her, he may reject her, and he will most certainly hurt her. He will never be the perfect man, God’s own untainted image, in which she yearns with longing deep to lose herself, subsume herself. This is the paradox of Eve’s …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/15 03:25 AM
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It's a backhanded compliment, with emphasis on the subtle backhandedness. "That is a beautiful dress, I wonder where everyone is getting it from?"
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 11:24 PM
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"You should try; like when we first got married" That is gold.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 11:19 PM
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This is really dangerous territory. If your wife is behaving, she really doesn't deserve a neg-hit. Needs to be more about teasing. Neg hits originally came from Mystery, and were devised as a way to get through the extremely powerful bitch shields of the strippers and models Mystery was hitting on in the LA club scene. They made him stand out from the other thirsty males who were feeding her validation. The neg is essentially a special version of push / pull. I think there is probably more to b…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 09:00 PM
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Check out Swinggcat Real World Seduction 2.0 for great coverage on the emotional game. I also recommend The Sexual Key by J. D. Fuentes.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 08:17 PM
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Most insightful take on vasectomy that I have seen was from a female commenter on a quasi manosphere site. She said she loved it because now that she had divorced her husband, she knew that the two children she had with him would be the exclusive beneficiaries of his provisioning capacity for the rest of his life. He would never have more kids that would share in his money.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 08:15 PM
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It is your world to which she is welcome to follow you. If she is not contributing to it, then you just go on without her.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/15 11:52 PM
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Experiences over 'things', (emphasis mine) Women love emotional range. Gifts are just one way to evoke that emotional response.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/15 10:32 PM
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Already called CH skittles man. It's linked above.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/15 10:29 PM
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Already called that one.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/15 04:49 PM
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sex is not negotiable. But this sound like it does. What gives? You are not negotiating with her. You are stating what is about to happen. There is no give on your part.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/15 01:48 PM
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Here is the original article to which OP is referring: Woman: The Most Responsible Teenager in the House.
/r/TheRedPill08/11/15 01:16 PM
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This is the big thing to note. We are hearing his side of the story, but this is presumably a fact, and reeks of stupidity on OP's side. Makes him look suspicious, and above all makes him a man who violated a court order. Most restraining orders clearly state that only the court can reverse its order, and that the person who is protected under the order cannot change it or rescind it without the court's permission.
/r/TheRedPill05/11/15 09:54 PM
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As soon as someone puts the law on you, you must sever all ties because that person is your enemy for life. That is the best, most accurate legal advice that has ever been given on this message board.
/r/TheRedPill05/11/15 09:53 PM
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Just to follow up on this. I think this comment pretty much sums up my situation. So far we are on a two week dry spell, with her throwing the "I'm tired" bullshit excuse. She is just not attracted to me, that's my problem. I have more work to do.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/15 02:56 PM
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Let me restate that: if you're not attractive to her, she's not going to give you any better than starfish. She can't. She doesn't want you. She's compliant and starting to understand that you have sexual needs and that its wrong for her to reject them, but she's not attracted to you at a primal level. And that is why I always caution those who want to jump in with Sex God Method. She has to want you for it to work. If she is not getting into state, responding to your dominance, being submissive…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/15 02:52 PM
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From Pook: How do successful men act with women? They bring the lady into their world. When they date (at the beginning especially), it is HIS date ideas, he gets to be as creative or dull as he wants. And she will judge you based on the world you are creating for her. Remember, she is going to be defined by you. There is a reason why she takes your name. We can argue which 'worlds' are more appealing to others with the women (a crazy spontaneos world or a more stable less risk world or such). B…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/15 02:45 PM
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Eh, I hear they are all a buncha hosers.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/15 09:30 PM
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since swallowing the red pill I don't think he has swallowed it. I think he just wound up here with no idea of what this is all about.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/15 06:32 PM
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The answer to your problem is a whole lot deeper then just how to deal with in-laws during the holidays. The advice we would give you here relies on a much deeper foundation that you just don't have. Without that foundation, it would backfire. If you want a fix for more then just what to do with in-laws, then stay here awhile, lurk, and start reading everything on the sidebar. You have a long, hard road ahead of you.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/15 06:30 PM
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You think you can drop in here, get a quick answer, and leave? Fuck you. Also, don't post here with your main Reddit account. You'll get doxxed and banned from other subs, including r/relationships.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/15 05:47 PM
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From a healthy eating standpoint, is there anything wrong with loading up your chicken with different spices? There are literally dozens of various Cajun spices you can buy that make anything taste good. I am also thinking of blackened chicken.
/r/TheRedPill27/10/15 03:23 AM
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"Fuck you... War." - Andrew Breitbart
/r/TheRedPill27/10/15 01:11 AM
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Choreplay. A strange game. The only winning move is not to play.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/15 10:37 PM
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Good, in-depth resources on flirting include Franco's Manual of Seduction for Husbands, Single Men, and Playboys and J.D. Fuentes The Sexual Key. Both provide a good thorough background on the how and why various flirting techniques work on women, and how to use them. I also recommend Practical Female Psychology for the Practical Man. Specific flirting techniques to research include: hot / cold, negs, push / pull, and disqualification. Edit: add Mystery Method to that list. Edit 2: here is a goo…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/15 07:53 PM
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being beta makes sense...because we have been conditioned to believe the outcome matches the equation. At times I find myself listening too closely or slipping into covert contract mode and have to nip it. Exactly what Dr. Glover covers in No More Mr. Nice Guy. Overcoming that ingrained programming was and still is the hardest thing for me. It had taken over a year now, but I am finally starting to overcome it. So far, that had been the most productive for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/15 05:47 PM
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From Le Chateau (emphasis added): when she wants to have a BIG TALK ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP and she says “I don’t like how you have been acting the last [fill in the blank]…” and you look her square in the eye and shrug “you don’t have to”. BOOOOM goes the dynamite. Relationship reset activated. #winning #welcomebacktestes #tingles
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/15 11:29 AM
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That is a good point that occurred to me after I wrote the post. The financial stuff still works, but the leaving portion is going to be situation specific. Check your jurisdiction, the abandonment issue doesn't carry the same detriment as it used to, but it is still a factor.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 01:08 PM
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Here is my plan to be completely gone within six hours of execution: Take half of the cash in all our joint accounts and put it in a separate account. The separate account is an old one that I have had for years. I also have a credit card with the same institution. Our mortgage is not with this institution, to prevent them from trying to offset should mortgage payments become an issue. Call HR and immediately cancel / change direct deposit. Both our paychecks go into a joint account. Unfortunate…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/15 03:08 PM
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Something I considered might be happening but then decided it's not in my control so I'm not worrying about it Great Stoic approach, but remember: your response and preparedness to the possibility of her initiating divorce is under your control. Do some homework and start putting plans in place now.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/15 02:28 PM
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She'll say I'm cheating or some shit Someone else had a great reply to that (I think it was on here): "If you really thought I was cheating, you would have left already." And then just walk away like nothing really happened. My wife has been doing that to me more recently. It's something she has always harbored since the beginning of our relationship, and I almost think she want's it to happen just to validate her insane beliefs. Unfortunately for her, that has never happened. Edit: I go back an…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/15 02:26 PM
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Dear wife: Fuck you. Chase me. Sincerely: R. Budd Dwyer
/r/TheRedPill20/10/15 08:44 PM
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and let the battle to who will submit play out. That's exactly what my wife does during sex. She starts to mirror my moves. I grab the back of her neck, she grabs mine. I hold her hand down, she tries to hold down mine. I bear hug her as i go in for hard thrusting, she squeezes back. It's like she'd doesn't get that she is supposed to submit.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/15 07:22 PM
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what would you recommend then? I don't know how to fix it. If you find out, let me know. I think I'm in roughly the same place you are. What I do know is that if I try just straight-up caveman / SGM on my wife, it won't work. She just will not let herself go along with it. She is too much with it. Maybe I'm not attractive enough, maybe I'm not confident enough, I don't know. It seems like I'm in a plateau right now, and I'm not sure how to get out of it. Unfortunately I'm at the stage where I ca…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/15 04:57 PM
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Eat. Pray. Fuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/15 01:49 AM
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I recommend Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child as well. Just a few points about the book: The book is not organized very well, and Weissbluth seems to have ADD. Read it as a first pass, then go back through the parts that resonate with you. Read Weissbluth's blog for more info. He has written quite a lot. His replies to reader comments was where I found a lot of useful information. The answer to every single problem is a 6 pm bedtime. Many people think Weissbluth only advocates extinction (cry it…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/15 01:34 AM
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Athol makes his living trying to dress up the Red Pill in feminine imperative friendly new-age garb. Don't waste your time with his later books.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/15 01:09 AM
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Reading Sex God Method Be careful with that. If the attraction isn't there on her end, then SGM is going to backfire. Read it to get the idea, but based on what you described, it won't work. She is giving you textbook duty sex. Sex God Method isn't going to fix that.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/15 01:02 AM
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She is not attracted to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/15 12:57 AM
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I'm just going to lob this one out there. How is her tone and demeanor? Is she just persistent, or is it sharp and accusatory, almost like there is a hint of anger? If the latter, you might want to look into Borderline Personality Disorder. That is how my wife first manifested it to me. The quick, sharp, out of proportion replies to my A&A / Amused Mastery replies to her shit tests. The first indicators were her constant demand for what she deemed to be an acceptable answer (regardless of whethe…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/15 12:50 AM
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Woman: the most responsible teenager in the house.
/r/TheRedPill20/10/15 12:35 AM
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In the book Sperm Wars, Robin Baker makes the argument that sex without orgasm may also have an evolutionary biology component to it for women. Sometimes her body just wants to be topped of with her lover's sperm, and no orgasm is needed. Women do sometimes just enjoy penetration.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/15 03:46 PM
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ignored, amplified ?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/15 11:25 AM
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Shit tests as Foreplay.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/15 11:12 AM
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Related: Archwinger on shit tests vs. comfort tests, and Archwinger on shit tests as it relates to her cycle..
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/15 11:04 AM
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Also, don't give out so much personal detail. People will try to doxx you. Edit your post to remove the details. Edit: also, don't use your main Reddit account. Use a throwaway for everything here.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/15 01:46 PM
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I would like to remind the OP that in Kill Bill, Pai Mei is totally unmoved and relaxed by anything that the Bride throws at him. He never loses frame, never is surprised, he slide, faints, moves out, nothing ever makes him REACT, All the way to the end. He even dies with dignity.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/15 12:07 PM
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have a solution in place. get conceal and carry. some drunk guy wants to fight you, you'll know exactly why you're walking away. I'd be very careful with that. Most States with concealed weapon permits place restrictions both on where you can carry, and in what condition the permit holder can carry in. Your permit may be invalid inside of an establishment that served alcohol, or while the permit holder had alcohol in their system. Also, asserting a self defense claim in a criminal case where you…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/15 11:59 AM
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I have a recent post on dalrock op should take a look. Jesus did not prohibit divorce or cheating on your wife by tAking a second wife. Link?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/15 11:53 AM
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Sometimes she just wants to get you off to keep you happy. If all else is fine, don't read too much into it.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/15 11:51 AM
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/u/BluepillProfessor and I debated it at length in this thread awhile back. My first critique of the C/FO model is here.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/15 10:13 AM
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The captain SHOULD have the right to assume his First Officer is telling him the truth. Instead, we are faced with an active and unified group of First Officers tag teaming the media, society, our parents, even our own mothers in order to lie and misdirect about what it is they really want. Which is another reason why I don't like the Captain / First Officer analogy for relationships.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/15 10:19 PM
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And then Google it for each of the 49 other States, DC, and the Federal system. The bigger issue is giving out legal advice on Reddit, when there are at least 52 variations for each specific situation in just the US alone.
/r/TheRedPill16/10/15 04:10 PM
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My point is, this is highly fact and jurisdiction specific, and people should be seeking professional advice about it.
/r/TheRedPill16/10/15 03:38 PM
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If you lived with a chick in a common law state but then moved to a non-common law state, the non-common law stated will still hold the common law valid. No. A common law marriage is not a real marriage that can be recognized under the full faith and credit clause. It is a legal fiction that only applies in certain situations. Example: you and your girlfriend live together in a common law marriage state for ten years, and "hold yourself out" as married. You then kick her ass out. She sues for al…
/r/TheRedPill15/10/15 10:52 PM
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Utterly incorrect. ALL states recognize common law, but you can only be declared common law in 9 states. Um, no. Common law marriage is a legal fiction used to facilitate certain things in certain situations. It is not a real, actual marriage. You are not magically declared a marriage after some period of cohabitation. There is no real marriage for another state to recognize under the full faith and credit clause. All common law marriage does is if you pretend to be husband and wife for a period…
/r/TheRedPill15/10/15 10:42 PM
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You have to check the laws of whatever state you are living in. You also need to watch out for something called the putative spouse / putative father doctrine.
/r/TheRedPill15/10/15 10:36 PM
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I've noticed my wife does get wet when I do dishes. But then she promptly gets mad at me for misusing the faucet and just storms off. I've been communicating more with her though. I always ask her what she wants me to do to make her happy. I make sure to find out what sex positions she liked after our monthly intercourse session. I have even been asking her in the middle of the marital chore whether she is enjoying it. I guess I just need to work harder at trying to understand her.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/15 12:56 PM
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talk moar But my wife says I don't communicate enough. What should i do then?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/15 10:42 AM
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but we were like a gang, a unit. Sounds a lot like what Jack Donovan writes about in The Way of Men.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/15 10:39 AM
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Read The Book of Pook. Aot of it was written for the man just starting out, and will set you on the right path. I wish i had read it much earlier.
/r/TheRedPill13/10/15 10:38 AM
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Thanks! Good read! Now go read The Book of Pook to learn how to Be a Man.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 12:36 AM
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Read the Sex God Method to lean what really turns women on. Hint: it's not what you did. Edit: here is the Cliff Notes version.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/15 07:39 PM
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That doesn't mean that I don't think women can't gain anything from an interest in Stoicism, but I think they will gain less from it than men, by natural inclination. The bigger picture with women and stoicism is that their innate solipsism prevents them from even realizing their emotions lead them around. It takes a strong man to lead them to self betterment. Which is why the few female stoics that did exist back then inevitably were the wives of men who were prominent stoics.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/15 10:25 PM
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There was an old Reality Method blog post about giving gifts that i am trying to find in the archives. The gist of it is that you should only give gifts that both of you can use together. Example: two tickets to a show, couples outing, a game you both can play. Never give a gift that is just for her. That, or just give her a bag of skittles. Here is some more on gift giving.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/15 04:36 PM
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I know some of us here frequent the Stoicism subreddit. Well, apparently some of them do not want us there. Some of the replies on the thread point out the decidedly unstoic tone of the post, but the thread and its replies are petty well upvoted. Remember to keep your Red Pill to yourself. Participate under a separate user account that is not tied to this sub or TRP, and do not talk about This Thing of Ours.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/15 04:18 PM
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Jesus. You tried way too hard with the candles, music, sex light (wtf?) and came off as needy. Your idea of what turns women on is completely wrong. Like /u/Redneck001 said: learn real game. Sex for women is emotional. The best way to drive her emotions is by what you say and how you say it. Push / pull. Hot / cold. Negs. Teasing. All of that type of stuff. Not only do you need to say less to her, but you need to say the right things. Your came off like a whiney little bitch with her. Do not eve…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/15 12:47 PM
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And that is exactly where she wants to be.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/15 11:22 AM
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I'd do a TrainingTheBrain on Marriage compilation post, but it would literally be everything you have ever posted. This one stands out as good foundational material.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/15 12:49 PM
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Do Girls Want Sovereignty? from The Book of Pook: How do successful men act with women? They bring the lady into their world. When they date (at the beginning especially), it is HIS date ideas, he gets to be as creative or dull as he wants. And she will judge you based on the world you are creating for her. Remember, she is going to be defined by you. There is a reason why she takes your name. We can argue which 'worlds' are more appealing to others with the women (a crazy spontaneos world or a …
/r/TheRedPill30/09/15 03:36 AM
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they get sometimes get hot for "drama" and argument The Seductive Value of Emotional Range, by CH. From the link: When a woman isn’t receiving her recommended gaily allowance of emotional stimulation, she will try to “fill the tank” by seeking out a man who can make her feel alive or, if no man like that is available, by manufacturing drama in the hopes of dragging others across the event horizon into into her black hole of anxiety. How is this useful? The Artist Formerly Known As Roissy continu…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/15 01:07 PM
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so there's a sense of sexual urgency. She's afraid of missing her chance with him. Because she's ovulating, and hypergamy. You two are both correct.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/15 01:02 PM
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This is perhaps the most insightful post for our sub ever to come from RT. The way children influence the dynamic between man and wife, and the way the wife will use the children to pivot herself as the primary in the relationship is an angle that I do not think has ever been explored in the Red Pill context. This needs to be considered for the sidebar. Be sure to come back and check the article comments after a few days, as RT has some of the most insightful readers of any manosphere blogs. One…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/15 02:19 PM
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Read this from Pook: Do Girls Want Sovereignty? How do successful men act with women? They bring the lady into their world. When they date (at the beginning especially), it is HIS date ideas, he gets to be as creative or dull as he wants. And she will judge you based on the world you are creating for her. Remember, she is going to be defined by you. There is a reason why she takes your name. We can argue which 'worlds' are more appealing to others with the women (a crazy spontaneos world or a mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/15 08:53 PM
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It's all about you. Forget about her. It's only about you. Take a moment and imagine your life without her. Block her out completely. She is not in the picture. Now. Do you go to the movies because you want to go? Yes? Do you decide what movie you want to see? Yes? Do you decide that you want to see it alone or with someone else? Someone else? Who do you invite? Your wife? If yes, then tell her, "I'm going to the movies. You can come if you want. I am leaving in an hour." Women are followers. De…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/15 06:34 PM
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The UN, international treaties, and administrative regulations and rule making are going to be how a lot of freedoms will be eroded. The tactics have already been used with some success with gun control.
/r/TheRedPill26/09/15 07:33 PM
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So I had a few plates ... and then promoted one to LTR and divorced the wife. I married the LTR. [cut] she is jealous. She is suspicious all the time. So, let me get this straight. You cheat on first wife with multiple women, including this girl. You then get into an LTR with her while you are still married. Then, you divorce wife, and marry the LTR, who knows you have a history of cheating on your wife. You are now shocked to find out that the new wife is mate guarding. You have a massive amoun…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/15 01:30 AM
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Right now I am deployed so my only means of communication is thru email with an occasional phone call. That's all that needs to be said right there. Wife: blahblahblahblah you do this blahblahblahblah [big city] party is same day blahblahblahblah... You: Look. I'm busy keeping our country safe from terrorists, rogue regimes, and despots. It's a little girl's birthday party. I think you can handle this. [click] [P.S.: I'd edit out the city name. Don't give details that could potentially identify …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/15 01:23 AM
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I have a few thoughts on vasectomies, in no particular order: Great source of dread. "You mean I can fuck whoever with reckless abandon...?" No more do-overs with a younger, hotter woman. The kids you have are it, and she is the mother of all your children for eternity. If she is not the nice red pill wife / mother you want, oh well... Gets her back on a natural cycle. Hormonal birth control pills can really fuck up her libido. Nothing beats gaming her natural cycle. She now has no concerns abou…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/15 01:17 AM
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Just keep it in mind. His other articles are good. Especially the ones on Stoicism, Rhetoric, and John Boyd's OODA loop. Just take the relationship stuff with a very critical eye.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/15 02:46 PM
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Brett McKay and the Art of Manliness have a lot of good materials, but be warned: he is not Red Pill friendly. He has had guest bloggers who are outright hostile to our core beliefs, and has written some articles that can only be considered purple pill at best. He and Athol Kay are still trying to make TRP fit into a feminine primary frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/15 10:32 AM
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Good overall summary with the general caveat that most of those issues are state specific, and may vary. A more important difference is community property. If you live in a community property state (predominantly a few States in the the Southwest, California, and Louisiana) then category 2 is going to be completely different. You will probably wind up with roughly the same outcome, but the mechanics are entirely different.
/r/TheRedPill12/09/15 11:30 AM
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This is the very beginning of the foundation.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/15 10:44 PM
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My natural inclination is towards beta. I'm a great provider, a loving husband and father. The beta-provider is ever present, and that will continue. And that is your problem. You do not get it. Go read The Book of Pook to get the correct mindset. You are coming from the wrong place. Edit: I want to expand on this a bit more. You, along with a few of the other newbs here have this thing all wrong. You think that the is that you are too beta and not enough alpha. You think that all you have to do…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/15 01:23 PM
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Yeah, no. That website is run by Brian Rideout, one of Athol Kay's main people. While the advice may be good advice, understand that they are not operating from a Red Pill masculine primary frame. Also, he doesn't try to hide the fact that he is Canadian.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/15 01:10 PM
1

"Mistakes were made..."
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/15 12:07 PM
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She's great in politics, and a constitutional lawyer. Ditch her. You will find that your life will be a lot easier when you are the smart, ambitious one. Besides, no one is really a "constitutional lawyer". Lawyers either sue people or give advice on how to avoid getting sued.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/15 11:25 AM
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Comfort her with a liberal helping of beta No.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/15 11:11 AM
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You talk too much, especially to your wife. Don't shit where you eat.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/15 11:06 AM
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From Woman: The Most Responsible Teenager in the House. It becomes like comparing three-month fermented wine served in a box of Chateau Cardboard to single malt scotch aged for decades in an oak cask. As such, women do mature faster than males but stop maturing at around the mentality of an eighteen year old (or also, I suppose, to the maturity of a 28 year old man), leaving the woman as literally, the most responsible teenager in the house. Like a teenage girl, she will always need the solid fo…
/r/TheRedPill09/09/15 12:38 PM
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I'd say the only exception is Don Draper of Mad Men. It's a retrospective of a different time, so the writers can get away with far more. Which is funny because the writing pool for Mad Men is almost entirely female. They actually wind up writing Draper as the type of man they are actually attracted to deep down, but they still can't help but make him flawed with the whole "raised in a whore house" back story (and a few others). They also tend to sprinkle in little bits of beta here and there to…
/r/TheRedPill09/09/15 10:26 AM
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Dwyer is legendary. Someone who stood up for what he knew was right, all the way to the end.
/r/TheRedPill09/09/15 02:45 AM
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Another great one from Gracian is A Pocket Mirror for Heroes. From what I have read, it is a more refined version of The Art of Worldly Wisdom. I have not been able to find any public domain versions, though. Edit: here is a link to the Google pdf archives of his works.
/r/TheRedPill08/09/15 10:34 PM
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he yells and screams in front of our kids. She tries to take some headphones I was holding out of my hands to throw at me. She is too weak to do that, so she grabs a glass of water and throws it at me, spilling it everywhere. Then she throws some laundry she had folded at me. We are beyond A&A,, amused mastery, etc... at this point. That is just shitty behavior. Upping the dread is the overall way to go.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/15 12:01 PM
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Jesus what a solipsistic bitch. On another note, why are you making her eggs now? First off, she only started fucking you again, and it was only five times. You want to be rewarding better behavior, not the bare minimum behavior to keep the marriage in-tact. (Sex less than once per week triggers the "fuck me or fuck you" sequence in my book.) Second, the reward needs to come immediately after the act. I'd get her some nice chocolates or a bag of skittles and have it ready to give her immediately…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/15 10:53 PM
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and now she's pregnant. Simple and effective. And when she looks into that child's eyes for the first time, she'll thank you for giving her that wonderful gift.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/15 09:41 PM
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It takes ten steady years to truly get established in a career. "A few months" is not going to advance her any further in her career.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/15 07:26 PM
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If she did not want to get pregnant, she would not have had unprotected sex with him. Women are capable of rational thought when it comes to not getting pregnant. It's when she wants to get pregnant that you get this type of irrational behavior.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/15 07:12 PM
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She lets you fuck her raw with no protection, and leaves the ultimate choice up to you as to whether to inseminate her. It sounds to me like she very much wants to be pregnant, but also wants to let you make the decision for her. Maybe it's a test of how alpha you are, whether you have the stones to take the initiative and make the decision for the both of you. This is especially true if you wind up cumming in her and she doesn't complain, or she continues to have sex with you raw. My advice, tr…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/15 07:07 PM
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Your woman has a human growing inside of her. Cut her some slack. She is doing something that her body was designed to do, and women have been doing successfully for the entire history of the species. Why now, all of the sudden, do we "cut her some slack"?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/15 11:07 AM
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Nothing changes during pregnancy.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/15 11:03 AM
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Woman: The Most Responsible Teenager in the House. From the article: It becomes like comparing three-month fermented wine served in a box of Chateau Cardboard to single malt scotch aged for decades in an oak cask. As such, women do mature faster than males but stop maturing at around the mentality of an eighteen year old (or also, I suppose, to the maturity of a 28 year old man), leaving the woman as literally, the most responsible teenager in the house.
/r/TheRedPill05/09/15 12:15 PM
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Nothing changes during pregnancy.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/15 04:42 PM
1

This song does it more for me. Especially turned up loud with a lot of low end.
/r/TheRedPill01/09/15 06:24 PM
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This thread from RSD Nation is for you. Best most comprehensive SGM summary to date.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/15 01:16 AM
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Aside from Sex God Method, here is a good summary of some sexually dominant moves.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 11:18 PM
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All you have to do is ask... The Roissy Reader: Chateau Heartiste on Game.
/r/TheRedPill31/08/15 02:11 AM
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Chateau Heartiste sums it up best: Women have slicker emotional fluidity than men, but their highs aren’t as high nor their lows as low as the passions that men are capable of feeling. Few women will ever feel with the same intensity the exhilarating rush of power that a man feels when he is victorious in struggle. Few women will experience the lustful, insistent, romantic yearning that surges outward from every corpuscle of a young man’s being when the merest flicker of a pretty girl grazes his…
/r/TheRedPill30/08/15 10:06 PM
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This was during the "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" period, so I wouldn't recommend doing something like that today, since someone might get "offended." Quite the contrary, you would be protected in today's Army.
/r/TheRedPill30/08/15 06:08 PM
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Sex for women is about getting dominated, being controlled, and feeling emotions. It's why Sex God Method works.
/r/TheRedPill28/08/15 06:55 PM
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Along the same lines is When I Say No I Feel Guilty. Fogging, negative assertion, and negative inquiry are three go-to tactics for any shit test. One thing I will critique your post on is where you describe fogging as: This is the technique of nominally agreeing with accusations made against you in an argument It's more nuanced then that. You look to agree with any part of the argument, or perhaps the general sentiment of the argument, never the whole argument itself. Your examples do a good job…
/r/TheRedPill28/08/15 06:32 PM
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So female cheating is worse according to red pill philosophy? It's called cuckoldry. If a husband cheats on his wife and impregnates another woman, the worse that can happen to the wife is that loses exclusive access to the husband's resources. She still knows all of the children she gave birth to are her children. If the wife cheats on the husband and gets pregnant, the man has no such guarantee, and might wind up raising another man's child without ever knowing it. This was the norm prior to t…
/r/TheRedPill28/08/15 10:54 AM
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Ellis himself said he based REBT (the original CBT) primarily on Epictetus and Marcus Aurelius.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/15 07:38 PM
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The modern version of Stoicism is Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy by Dr. Albert Ellis. Definitely modern stoicism applied. I found the best approach was to research both of them.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/15 04:44 PM
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The term OP needs to look into is Borderline Personality Disorder.
/r/TheRedPill20/08/15 12:55 PM
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Men are disturbed not by things, but by the view which they take of them. - Epictetus One of the core tenants of Stoicism. It is also what Albert Ellis based Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy on. Emotional thinking is what women do. Rational thinking is what men do.
/r/TheRedPill19/08/15 10:38 AM
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My wife has outright told me I'm stupid for not returning a remote to a tray where we keep the remote. ... She went into a rage at me that this was my fault. Even though the kid moved it this time. I fixed it for her and she continued to harp at me as I did. There might be something else going on with her. If you picked up on any type of serious vibe from her behind all of this, you might be dealing with Borderline Personality Disorder. Especially if this is not the first time she has gone off t…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/15 12:59 AM
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By oscillating her between dread and orgasms, you are getting her juiced up.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/15 12:39 AM
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Start pulling it while you are fucking her doggie style. Then tell me you still like short hair.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/15 12:26 AM
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Yes. Treat it like the garden variety shit test it is.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/15 12:24 AM
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Great post. One of the main differences between us and TRP is that we cannot just treat them all like shit tests. If the PUA blows a comfort test, he probably misses the lay. If we blow up a comfort test, we may lose half out possessions, income, and access to our children.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/15 12:22 AM
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Deep, on point, yet easy to digest and practical. You sir are the Richard Feynmann of Married Red Pill.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/15 12:19 AM
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Most of the time, when a woman starts saying "I feel..." in a conversation, or when she keeps droning on and on about "that bitch Jenny at the office..." or when she keeps dragging up ancient history (yours or otherwise), she is really doing it to relive and reexperience the emotional state she felt at the time the original event occured. She is creating her own current. If she is doing it while you are there, it probably means: You are not providing her with the emotional fix she wants or needs…
/r/TheRedPill10/08/15 02:27 AM
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I think the difference between solipsism and narcissism is that solipsism is a phrase we borrowed in TRP to label the idea that a woman's thought process always puts her front and center, regardless of the situation. Ian Ironwood does a good job describing it here, but the gist is that a man looks at a project and says, "what needs to be done?" A woman looks at the same project and says, "what can I do to help?" You see, she puts herself in the middle regardless of whether it is relevant to do s…
/r/TheRedPill09/08/15 06:13 PM
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As good as that sound, your emotional state will strongly be determined by the people that surround you. I have to disagree with you. My recent discovery and implementation of stoicism has done wonders to put me firmly in control of my own emotional state. For those who prefer the modern version, look into Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy and Dr. Albert Ellis. Here is a thread on the Roosh V forums summarizing and analyzing his best work on the topic.
/r/TheRedPill09/08/15 11:04 AM
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She says that she masturbates to how a guy made her feel, as opposed to how a man looks. Emotions. Make a girl experience them, both good and bad, and she will become addicted to you. If you can effectively drive a woman's emotions and make her feel everything, she becomes yours. P.S. Words spoken by a woman in confidence, which I share with the community. Something about that sentence trips me out. It works on many levels.
/r/TheRedPill09/08/15 12:19 AM
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Just like while on the pill... Edit: what I mean is your approach does not change while she is pregnant or on the pill. You still up your SMV, you still dread. Nothing changes as far as you are concerned. Many guys seem to think you change your behavior while she is pregnant, like going more beta. This is not true. Nothing changes during pregnancy as far as you are concerned.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 08:55 PM
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Office Game primer by Ian Ironwood.
/r/TheRedPill07/08/15 05:51 PM
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with cohabitation laws the way they are. I don't know where you live, but this does not apply in most of the US. "Common Law Marriage" only exists in a few states, and is the exception and not the norm. If you are unhappy in an LTR, then get out. There is likely no legal consequences to doing so.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/15 11:20 PM
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This is my LTR of 4 years I'm considering marrying, and I discovered TRP 2 years in. Don't. You are four years into an LTR that has enough problems to compel you to seek out and rely on information provided by completely random strangers on the Internet. Pull that rip cord and get out while you still can do so.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/15 11:17 PM
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Nothing changes during pregnancy. Only now you do not have the benefit of a predictable cycle to game, nor the testosterone surge just before ovulation.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/15 11:09 PM
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I found myself in virtually the same situation last weekend. I had reached my wits end with five weeks of no sex, and finally got really aggressive with it one night. It escalated into a fight (mostly her, some me), where she stormed out of the room. I decided (very calmly and deliberately) to pursue the matter and I continued to escalate, driving her to a screaming match. After about 20 minutes of back and forth, we found ourselves sitting on the couch hashing the last year's worth of stuff out…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/15 08:58 PM
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Also your stupid "prettiest princess" box idea is cringey as all hell, are you autistic? Quite the contrary, it sounds like a genius idea of executed properly. Women are essentially teenagers, so treat them that way. I want to try something like this with my wife. I plan on using it as a platform to initiate light teasing.
/r/TheRedPill03/08/15 11:43 PM
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I totally get the overarching concept but I don't have the time to interact with enough women to find and test the formulas. Exactly my dilemma. I am married, so I only get one or maybe two chances to try a technique before she figures something is up. The more examples, the better honed I can be.
/r/TheRedPill03/08/15 11:19 PM
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You cannot argue against woman’s feelings, only manipulate them. ... And so man must manipulate woman’s emotions in a way that makes her cooperative, or he should not engage her at all. So I see the general census in this thread is that you handle an emotional woman with amused mastery. Is this the emotional manipulation we should be using here? Is there some other way to change her emotional state to something more powerful? Several other writings have talked about causing women to feel emotion…
/r/TheRedPill02/08/15 12:23 AM
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Read up on Stoicism and REBT/CBT.
/r/askTRP01/08/15 11:21 PM
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I've learned three big things: Never have a woman as a boss. Never work in an office full of mostly women. Never ever combine one and two.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/15 05:48 PM
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Agree with that. The bigger point is to make sure your gifts consist of things the two of you can take part in, not just her.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/15 05:46 PM
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Repost from the now-defunct LaidNYC blog: How To Give Gifts And Still Keep Your Balls (2014-02-12 10:55) If you have a special honeytits on a gift-giving occasion and are going to get her something bigger than bag of Skittles, the key element of gift giving is to get her something you can enjoy as well. Champagne + Lingerie A weekend at a bed and breakfast A couple’s massage A cookbook for your new Paleo diet Skiing Lesson/ Gun range/ some activity lesson Ditch clothes, fiction books, jewelry, e…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/15 10:25 AM
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First two lines of the essay she wrote to the guy who "fat shamed" her: I was on another date when I received your message. He returned from the loo to find me in a flood of tears. She was checking Tinder while her next date was in the bathroom. She was probably thinkg to herself, "well, this date sucks. This guy is nice, funny, and has a great personality. But I'm just not clicking with him. Let's check Tinder to see what else is next..."
/r/TheRedPill22/07/15 10:29 AM
1

Keoni Gault was the first manosphere blogger to make the analogy between game and the red pill.. But when it comes to who originally came up with the paradigm shift, that honor belongs to Pook back in 2005, or Bonecrker depending on your worldview. ROK did articles on both Pook and Bonecrker. The seeds for masculine and feminine polarity were planted long before even a.s.f though with David Deida's Way of the Superior Man, first published on 1995.
/r/askTRP19/07/15 11:03 PM
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I think it is more about spending your limited energy on targeting specific muscles that will make you look bigger, as opposed to just being stronger. I don't know a lot about lifting, so I cannot give you specific examples. I only do bodyweight. But read up on powerlifting vs. bodybuilding. That will have more answers for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/15 06:20 PM
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Lighter weights for more reps, combined with using your energy to target specific muscles that show more means more visible and defined muscles. That is bodybuilding. Less reps with more weight, spread out over more muscles means more strength, but less visible definition. That is powerlifting. You can try to balance one or the other, but generally you can only focus on one. In short, targeted lifts mean more visible muscles, while combination lifts me an more overall strength.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/15 04:06 PM
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Hypertrophy.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/15 12:16 PM
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The funny thing is, the sub you've described would never exist. What are you talking about? That sub does exist, it is one of the default ones.
/r/TheRedPill18/07/15 04:07 PM
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Kids, that is what we call Borderline Personality Disorder.
/r/TheRedPill18/07/15 04:00 PM
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Judges will come to a conclusion before using any logic or law, and then manipulate that logic to appease a sympathetic plaintiff. Judges are some of the best at backwards rationalization. I have more faith in juries than judges to make the right decision.
/r/TheRedPill18/07/15 01:25 PM
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I'm speaking from my life's experiences which includes law school I laughed when I read that. Law school is nothing like law practice or real life. Ask any practicing attorney what practical advice they gained from thee years of law school, the answer will be "next to nothing." The Red Pill is all about approaching life and women as they are, not as you wish them to be. Law school is the complete opposite of that when it comes to the practice of law.
/r/TheRedPill18/07/15 01:09 PM
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I lost all hope in the existence of a reasonable jury. A jury is nothing more than 12 people too stupid to get out of jury duty.
/r/TheRedPill18/07/15 01:05 PM
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If you think that what you learned in law school is anywhere close to what the actual practice of law is like, then you are in for a rude awakening, counselor.
/r/TheRedPill18/07/15 01:03 PM
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The Fountain of Youth from The Book of Pook.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/15 10:20 AM
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Chateau Heartiste covered that story here.
/r/TheRedPill14/07/15 11:58 AM
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This is the best article in the series, and I cite it frequently. Thank you for writing it.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/15 12:40 AM
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Eventually, when she realizes that you pass those fitness tests, they'll stop. They never stop, they decrease in intensity and frequency until you miss one.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/15 12:38 AM
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My only problem with the book, would be his emphasis on pleasing the women, when really the focus should be on YOU The better she fucks, the better the sex for me. The better she gets fucked, the more sex there is for me. Sounds like a win-win situation.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/15 12:24 AM
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The sources you cite all rely on self-reported data from women about sex. If you do not immediately see the problem with that, then you might need to get back to the sidebar.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/15 12:21 AM
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This article on RSDNation is the best summary of Sex God Method I have ever found.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/15 12:19 AM
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Sounds a lot like Stoicism. Here is a more practical guide to living the stoic life in modern times.
/r/TheRedPill12/07/15 12:37 PM
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'Bitterness' put in the fembabble translator usually means: "don't be someone I can't manipulate". Masculine anger gets things done in a non-bitchfest ('talking') way That is pretty much the gist of the quote... Don't be bitter, be angry. Edit: Bitterness is misused by fembabblists.
/r/TheRedPill12/07/15 12:05 PM
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"You should be angry. You must not be bitter. Bitterness is like cancer. It eats upon the host. It doesn’t do anything to the object of its displeasure. So use that anger. You write it. You paint it. You dance it. You march it. You vote it. You do everything about it. You talk it. Never stop talking it. Maya Angelou
/r/TheRedPill12/07/15 11:06 AM
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After that, read The Book of Pook.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/15 12:23 PM
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There should also be some kind of penalty for suggesting "smack her ass / pat her head and tell her she's cute" as a cure-all. Why? That works.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/15 09:12 PM
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I've heard people 'round these parts say that men should walk leading with your dick/pelvis — but that advice never impressed me. And according to this data it's not just wrong — it's the opposite of the truth. I've always took that to mean don't slouch your shoulders over your pelvis, not literally walk like you are being dragged around by your cock.
/r/TheRedPill08/07/15 11:23 PM
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Women, the most responsible teenager in the house.
/r/TheRedPill07/07/15 11:16 AM
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Just google "NLP bullshit" and you'll find a whole host of discussions on it. Or, alternatively, just hunt around any PUA forum and see who is still using it. After that you'll see my 'new direction' ... It's just 'below me'...
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/15 12:57 AM
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Roissy / CH covers it here.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/15 07:17 PM
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BC pills just make her have more responsive desire. They can, or the more common side effect is that it kills libido entirely. BC pills are a dangerous gambit. Nothing is better for a husband than keeping track and properly gaming his wife's natural cycle.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/15 02:04 PM
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hope her issues don't need medication, The problem with BPD is that it is a personality disorder and not an organic disorder. You are dealing with learned behavior that goes back to early childhood. She knows no other way to cope with certain things in her life other than to act the way she always has. She has to unlearn decades of maladaptive coping mechanisms and rebuild from scratch. It's why most BPDs have no idea that they even have a problem, and see no reason to change. It's why BPD is ra…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/15 02:01 PM
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People make the argument that you should game your wife differently when they are pregnant. This usually shows up as, "Never dread a pregnant woman." My point is that wives who are not pregnant but on hormonal birth control have the same hormonal makeup as a pregnant woman. Are you not supposed to dread them then? My point is as I have always been: nothing changes during pregnancy, including dread game.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/15 01:44 PM
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There is some good to be found in Speed Seduction and Ross Jeffries, but the consensus is that NLP is bullshit. Be wary of what you take away from his material.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/15 12:44 PM
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The only thing you have done that I agree with is breaking them motherfucker's jaw. I would never risk a felony conviction for a cunt.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/15 12:37 PM
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Game is game. AWALT. Except Cluster B. Read up on Personality Disorders, especially Cluster B. Don't stick your dick in crazy.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/15 12:41 AM
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her being powerless also makes her a weaker partner. That, no one needs. Quite the contrary, her being a weaker partner in relation to you is exactly what you need. It's not a hard and fast rule, but it's something to consider.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/15 11:17 PM
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It's not until we've lost everything that we're free to do anything." Tyler Durden
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/15 08:14 PM
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Remember, money is a big source of power in a relationship. If you are both earning money, then that is no longer a source of power.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/15 07:51 PM
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Roissy's Sixteen Commandments of Poon: V. Adhere to the golden ratio Give your woman 2/3 of everything she gives you. For every three calls or texts, give her two back. Three declarations of love earn two in return. Three gifts; two nights out. Give her two displays of affection and stop until she has answered with three more. When she speaks, you reply with fewer words. When she emotes, you emote less. The idea behind the golden ratio is twofold — it establishes your greater value by making her…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/15 07:48 PM
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In fact this will never truly work until you are ready to walk away from her completely. No matter what the outcome, you will be happy with your life.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/15 07:37 PM
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For those of you with Netflix, watch Rescue Me Season 4 Episode 13, "Yaz", the scene when Tommy Gavin (Dennis Leary) goes to Valerie's (Gina Gershon) apartment. That is how it is done.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/15 06:07 PM
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The other time I see this word used a lot is in a defensive posture. Accuser: Why did you do [X]? Accused: I was just trying to... Another thing I've noticed that goes along with "just" is the use of past tense when asking permission to do something. (I am sure there is a proper grammatical term for I, but I don't know the name.) Person wanting to do something: I was going to go to the bathroom... What is implied by that statement is actually: I need to go to the bathroom, can you take care of […
/r/TheRedPill04/07/15 12:36 PM
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Woman, the most responsible teenager in the house. As stated in the beginning of the article, you should read the two articles leading up to it to get the full effect. In fact, you should read the entire Masculine Principle book.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/15 08:44 PM
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It's just standard MRP. Don't ever put up with a woman’s shit, no matter who the woman is.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/15 06:36 PM
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Cleanup on aisle five... (Said in the Michael Scarn voice.)
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/15 04:08 PM
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That is a good point to think about. I am guilty of it too, but I find that I use it more as an excuse to myself to not do things. This is worse, since you are lying to yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/15 04:02 PM
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You look stressed..." I am. Let me rub one our on your tits and I'll feel better...
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/15 03:37 PM
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Why are you so concerned with her? She is a grown up, she can handle her own time.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/15 03:33 PM
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The only movies I ever really cried over were Saving Private Ryan and American Sniper.
/r/TheRedPill03/07/15 01:09 PM
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Quite the contrary, we are entirely different. Men in Love, Women in Love, Of Love and War.
/r/TheRedPill03/07/15 12:08 PM
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"I've been raped by better men than you." At least he got away free and clear... Not a good response, but then again you are beyond shit tests at that point.
/r/TheRedPill03/07/15 12:05 PM
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Women in Love, Men in Love, and Of Love and War. Someone else also wrote that the only true love a man will ever feel is from his parents.
/r/TheRedPill03/07/15 11:59 AM
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The Art of AMOG by Rollo Tomassi. After that, there are plenty of articles on the various game blogs dealing with AMOG, "Alpha Male Of Group".
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/15 02:43 AM
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She is not against giving it but she simply doesnt find pleasure in doing it. You should be focusing on you enjoyment of sex. Her orgasm is her responsibility. Not that she doesnt reach orgasm because i make sure she does everytime. You should be focusing on your enjoyment of sex. Her orgasm is her responsibility. She says that she feels loved when i act loving towards her after sex and that sex isnt for her, it is for me. This has really turned me off since 1. i have no clue what she is talking…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/15 02:20 AM
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Any good resources for men in our circumstances? Discussion of giving soccer moms, secretaries, etc., the tingles but not necessarily bringing them back home. Read stuff on Day Game and run it when you get the chance. As far as numbers go, treat it as catch and release and toss the numbers after you leave.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/15 02:01 AM
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What is the MRP general expectation of wives besides providing sex for their husbands? For wives to express their femininity to the fullest extent they can.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/15 01:54 AM
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Here is an outline summary someone did over on the RSD Nation forums. Most comprehensive, concise summary of SGM I have ever found.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/07/15 01:25 AM
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Downvotes are okay, but it is better to just jump in and reply. It leads to a better discussion.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/15 10:08 PM
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From Rollo Tomassi (emphasis original): Women’s shit testing is a psychologically evolved, hard-wired survival mechanism. Women will shit test men as autonomously and subconsciously as a men will stare at a woman’s big boobs. They cannot help it, and often enough, just like men staring at a nice rack or a great ass, even when they’re made aware of doing it they’ll still do it. Men want to verify sexual availability to the same degree women want to verify a masculine dominance / confidence. A she…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/15 08:06 PM
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You need to read up on Borderline Personality Disorder. It frequently gets misdiagnosed as Bipolar disorder and depression. I sometimes think of it as Extreme Female Behaviour Disorder, because that is essentially what it is. The bad news is that it is not treatable with drugs. (This is actually not a bad thing, since many psych meds will absolutely kill libido.) It requires years of therapy and a dedication by the wife to want to get help, assuming she even admits she has it. The good news, to …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/15 07:52 PM
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How do you pass Jedi level shit tests? You don't.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/15 07:43 PM
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You beat me to my own post. A follow up: She has not used the silent treatment since then. The Master says to the student: if you drink this tea, I will hit you with this stick. If you do not drink this tea, I will hit you with this stick. What do you do? Take away the stick.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/15 07:23 PM
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I would like to make a request. I personally loved your series on Our Masculine Power, particularly part four, The Power to Love and Appreciate. I cite to it often, especially in discussions about a woman's emotions. The second part is the best discussion I have found about implementing Roissy / CH's Commandment of Poon IX. I frequently feel like I am not emotionally connecting with my wife, and am not giving her the emotional roller coaster that gets her panties falling to the floor dripping we…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/15 07:18 PM
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Wife invited several other couples for a lunch next week hoping that my attitude could rub off on some of the other guys. I know you can't force the red pill down, but I have an opportunity here for something, how can I capitalize on this? Don't. You live your life. Let others learn by example. You cannot hope to unplug another man after just a simple lunch date. They have to realize on their own that they are doing it wrong, and the desire for change has to come from them first. This takes mont…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/15 07:00 PM
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how Christianity and the church play into all of this. Read Dalrock's Blog and Hawaii Libertarian's blog. Both blog extensively on game and Christianity, and are solidly Red Pill. Dalrock even makes the argument that Christians get credit for inventing game. Hawaii Libertarian wrote a great post on Gaming the Curse of Eve. Also, Free Northerner has several articles on the Biblical basis of The Red Pill and the true nature of masculinity and femininity. The Bible and true Christianity (not the Ch…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/07/15 06:48 PM
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“Bitterness is like cancer. It eats upon the host. But anger is like fire. It burns it all clean.” Maya Angelou
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/15 06:35 PM
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Come with me if you want to live. You will find that the r/TRP view of marriage is bleak at best, and rightfully so. It does not make sense for most men to get married in this day an age. The problem is that many of us found TRP too late, and want to see what can be done before we make the decision to pull out of our marriages. There are also a lot of other factors at play here, primarily your own view of yourself. Most married guys in bad marriages find themselves on a spectrum that runs from t…
/r/TheRedPill01/07/15 03:17 PM
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The Roissy Reader is the best summary of Roissy / CH I have found so far, and does a great job laying out a clear path through his voluminous writings.
/r/TheRedPill01/07/15 02:51 PM
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I echo what u/cover20 said above. I've critiqued MMSLP and the MMSL forums before, but here is the gist: MMSLP The book has a lot of good information in it, but the frame is all wrong. He writes from a feminine-centric frame where he takes red pill ideas and comes at them from a feminine frame. A prime example of this is in MMSLP when he talks about the Captain / First Officer dynamic. He even goes as far as to use the Pilot / Co-Pilot model where each one are equal and can take over flying the …
/r/TheRedPill01/07/15 01:49 PM
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Read The Red Queen: Sex and the Evolution of Human Nature by Matt Ridley for an in-depth scientifically based discussion of this backed by research.
/r/TheRedPill01/07/15 11:09 AM
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Show me one lawsuit where a man successfully litigated this issue against an institution.
/r/TheRedPill30/06/15 07:48 PM
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Contingency fee cases are primarily personal injury. I highly doubt you'll find an attorney willing to stake potentially a million of more dollars of their own time and money to take on an institution with a near unlimited source of money. Litigation is expensive, with a lot of up front costs. In a contingency fee case, the attorney usually pays all those costs out of their own pocket. Most attorneys are not going to risk all that up front money for a very real chance they'll get nothing.
/r/TheRedPill30/06/15 02:25 PM
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From the article: When she finally fell into bed with him, he lasted just 2 minutes, she said. That is the problem right there. Had he fucked he properly, this never would have happened.
/r/TheRedPill30/06/15 12:51 PM
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the proper response is to litigate the fuck out of them. Do you have any idea how expensive litigation is, especially against an institution with an endowment?
/r/TheRedPill30/06/15 11:23 AM
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Be sure to check out the NMMNG forums at http://nomoremrniceguy.com/forums It is much more in depth for Nice Guys as described by Dr. Glover. Do the BFEs there, not here, as the forums are private.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/15 11:08 AM
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Read The Book of Pook before MMSLP.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/15 02:06 AM
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You: I like this too (looking at own body), but I'm not attracted to you. Too tit for tat. You: That's fine. I don't need you to be attracted to me to have sex with me. Meh... You: I'm going to go find someone who is... I'll bring her back here around 12:30 tonight. (and then leave.) Now you're talking. That's a good one. You: (look dead in her eyes) There's the door... go find someone who fits your standards... but don't come back here. Ever. A bit too far, unless you are ready to go nuclear.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/15 02:02 AM
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Just check the laws of your jurisdiction. Many things, like child support, cannot be waived via contract as they are not contractual in nature. For example, child support exists as a right on the child to receive support from the parents.
/r/TheRedPill23/06/15 12:23 AM
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What I mean is will she expect you to commit now that she is 'free'? You treat I like the shit test it is. If she demands an answer, next her. She can learn the consequences of her choices on her own.
/r/TheRedPill22/06/15 10:53 PM
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Not many states actually have common law marriage. What you need to look out for is called the putative spouse / putative father doctrine.
/r/TheRedPill22/06/15 10:49 PM
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The Book of Pook Lesson 6. Circa 2005. Swinggcat also had a similar paradigm he called prizing.
/r/TheRedPill19/06/15 08:58 PM
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Stoicism looks a lot like Cognitive Behavior Therapy. I did not truly appreciate either one until I started researching both.
/r/TheRedPill17/06/15 01:34 AM
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Teasing is very effective because it gives you both dominance and emotional push / pull in one shot. Those are both things women crave.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/15 04:54 PM
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Everything should be shared between a husband and wife. No. When you remove all personal boundaries, you lose the individual identity that attracted her to begin with. You lose the air of mystery, ad well as undermine any chance at effective dread. When your woman knows everything about you, then you become predictable. When you become predictable to her, the attraction dies, and she starts to look elsewhere. Never have an open door policy about your personal life with your wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/15 04:46 PM
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You want your wife should let her friends see her with a thrifty diaper bag who really wears the pants in the marriage? FTFY.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/15 01:39 PM
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looking back on it I feel like 90% of the time I could have put in a much more constructive way instead of looking like a high schooler throwing insults. You are still trying to work in a feminine imperative frame. (Much like Athol Kay does.) You don't get it. She chases you. When you understand that, then you see that calling her a bitch reinforces the fact that her behavior is displeasing to you. Go read The Book of Pook if you don't get that.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/15 12:46 PM
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Everyone here needs to read The Book if Pook. It is one of the founding books of the movement, and sets the proper frame. I think everyone should read it first when newly unplugging because it gets you in the right mindset and shows you where you need to go. Read it now.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/15 12:17 PM
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"Ugh, I'm so glad you don't look like that." "That much muscle is just GROSS." "Do you need someone to put some paper down for you?"
/r/TheRedPill04/06/15 01:50 PM
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The quote is from The Illimitable Man's summary of the Principles of Game by Beige Phillip. Well worth the read, especially for LTRs. Here is the full quote: #04 – Women fall for who you are but they try to make you something that you’re not. A woman falls in love with you for everything that you are. She spends the rest of the relationship trying to change you into everything that you’re not, and when she succeeds she will dump you for the guy who is what you were when she met you. You’ll get l…
/r/TheRedPill03/06/15 11:20 PM
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you'd have no problem finding a suitor. Wow... You have no clue about The Red Pill.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/15 10:50 PM
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USED to be sexually adventurous/dominant in bed.. Get his testosterone levels checked. This sounds medical, especially if he used to have alpha tendencies.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/15 10:44 PM
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improving myself and my own feminine poise That is a good place to start.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/15 05:06 PM
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/r/RedPillWomen is a better place for this.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/15 04:22 PM
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Sounds a lot like the Graduating Gamma series written by Vox Day. The advice is similar.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/15 02:52 PM
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I am trying to get better at fogging from WISNIFG. I also got Verbal Judo based on a recommendation from the NMMNG forums (I think). The latter one is written by a former beat cop who got very good at disarming tense situations without resorting to force (something every cop would love). It's actually written for police officers. The first story he tells is really good. Essentially, two cops show up to the regularly scheduled domestic call at 2am between two regulars. When they arrive, they find…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/15 02:49 PM
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Would you marry your LTR for a US Visa No. You are talking about getting married in order to facilitate your immigration into the country. That is not a valid reason to get married.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/15 02:24 PM
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Why hide it? Nothing wrong with improving your life. Do not tell your wife about MRP, TRP, or any of This Thing of Ours.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/15 02:20 PM
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Hi all. Let's say I have an "open door" policy with my wife about online interactions. We can look through each other's history, social media accounts, texts, etc. For the most part I'm happy with this arrangement. That is your problem right there.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/15 02:18 PM
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How do you guys respond to this? Realize that the big overall lesson to take away here is reframing. All of the replies everyone has given you so far are all great examples of what reframing is and what it does. Internalize that, and you will never have to worry about that to say next time. It will just happen.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/15 02:17 PM
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She fits very few of the markers for BPD. Quite the contrary, I spotted four huge red flags in just two of your posts: History of promiscuity, at least some of which she/you characterize as "risky": I knew she had pictures taken of her with previous boyfriends. She had said that was in her wild years and it was so stupid and risky. And lo and behold, here she is doing it again. Completely out of proportion response to a confrontation: My view on my dad dating russian girls and that I've been tea…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/15 01:47 PM
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The Borderline Personality Disorder alarm bells are going off. She is vacillating between extreme rage, violence, and sexuality. Normal women do not lose control of their emotions like this. You need to get read up on this ASAP and decide if she has it. Start with the book, Stop Walking on Eggshells (just Google around to find a pdf), read these articles in the BPD section, and check out Dr. Tara Palmatier's stuff (Google shrink4men BPD). What she did to you, fighting you then the blow job, is c…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/15 10:27 AM
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Since swallowing the pill I've done my best to reply to her attempts at arguing with nonsensical and some just plain silly shit. I've taken to quoting Flying Circus skits to her, specifically Dead Parrot, Spam, The Lumberjack Song, and when she is really interrogating me, The Spanish Inquisition.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/15 10:31 PM
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The No More Mr. Nice Guy Forums have a section devoted to breaking free activities. There is over ten years of archives over there, including lots of good stuff about understanding and dealing with women. Several old time PUAs were also activate there for a few years. (Like Franco, David Claire, Joseph South, and a few others...) It comes off a bit softer then r/TRP and r/MRP, with a lot more beta males with issues. (It is a forum devoted to nice guys, after all.) But there is definitely an unde…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/15 11:12 AM
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Sex God Method is your next step. This is the situation it was made for.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/15 11:01 AM
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MMSL-P is not written from a red pill frame either. For example, he calls the wife a "co-pilot" who can take over the plane at any time. A woman can never take over a man's role in any relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/15 07:13 PM
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Game, negging, PUA, etc. are not necessary if you do the above. Except it is not so easy for many of us. We had no strong male role models. We are a generation of men raised by women... What those things do is provide a model for those of us who do not know any better. Many of us grew up with no idea of how to love ourselves. It feels completely wrong to do whatever the fuck we want. We have been raised to think that those things are wrong. We need Game, negging, PUA, etc.. to know how to act co…
/r/TheRedPill29/05/15 06:11 PM
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Sulkowicz just reeks of BPD or some other Cluster B personality disorder.
/r/TheRedPill29/05/15 05:49 PM
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Be very wary of the advice from Art of Charm. Jordan Harbinger is openly hostile to TRP and PUA in general, and they have become more blue pill as they try to get a wider audience. He is up Tucker Max's ass quite a bit recently.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/15 05:47 PM
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Step two comes first. You need to fix yourself first before you tackle her. Improve yourself. Understand her. Be a Man. Fuck her good.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/15 11:13 PM
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You are likely approaching one of these soon: when she wants to have a BIG TALK ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP and she says “I don’t like how you have been acting the last [fill in the blank]…” and you look her square in the eye and shrug “you don’t have to”. BOOOOM goes the dynamite. Relationship reset activated. #winning #welcomebacktestes #tingles
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/15 10:53 PM
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Get the MMSL stuff out of your head. Athol Kay works from a femme centric frame. Start with Pook.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/15 04:37 PM
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Jesus. What part of Nothing changes during pregnancy do you not get? If you are just now unplugging and going red pill, then how the hell do you know it won't work?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/15 02:05 PM
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it's no longer stressing the nervous system and you are no longer forcing hypertrophy. That is what Progressive Bodyweight fixes. There are tons of variations on standard bodyweight exercises that continue to stress the body. Check out Start Bodyweight for more.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/15 10:20 AM
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This made me think of some inner game stuff I have been wanting to write up. None of this stuff will really work until you have made the decision that anything, including divorce, is better than the status quo. You have to really, truly convince yourself that anything is better then where you are now. You will never be truly congruent until you have made peace with yourself and your potential fate, no matter what that fate is. Until you know that, you will always second guess your actions. "It's…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/15 02:36 AM
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Athol Kay's stuff is not really red pill either. He has always played to a feminine friendly audience.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/15 02:30 AM
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First, let's get our terms straight here. Dread is nothing more then her recognition that this is your life that she is invited to follow you in. It is not making her think you are about to cheat on her. It is simply rue recognition that your world is a fun and interesting world that most women would love to be a part of. Read The Book of Pook to get the big picture. Now, as for your hypothetical. Let's say you "up the dread", and she gets the 'gina tingles because she knows she has to compete t…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/15 02:15 AM
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I am so sick of the pregnancy bullshit. Women have been carrying multiple pregnancies successfully to term for millennia now with no modern medicine, pain killers, FMLA, and other assorted feminine imperative bullshit. Bearing children is what she was biologically designed to do. She has very little active role in it, actually. The whole thing is pre programmed from the start. She is just along for the ride. Check back in with me when women have actively built civilization and explored other pla…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/15 12:17 AM
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Asshole Game Week: The Relationship Reset
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/15 12:11 AM
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Nothing changes during pregnancy.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/15 12:09 AM
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I'd say you don't dread her Bullshit. Nothing changes during pregnancy. Nothing.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/15 12:08 AM
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For younger kids, my go to rainy day activity is to take the kids to the local firehouse to meet the firefighters and see the apparatus. Most local fire departments love showing off the equipment, especially to kids. No appointment necessary, just call ahead to make sure they are not out in a call.
/r/TheRedPill24/05/15 12:12 PM
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Yes. Read up a lot on threesomes, though. You have to be careful or they'll blow up on you.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/15 08:33 PM
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I am going to dissent from the prevailing advice here. Don't do it. A man should always be the dominant, especially in sex. A woman should always be the submissive, especially in sex. Treat this as a request on her part for you to be more dominant. Push her dominant feelings back in her face like a Cleveland Steamer...
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/15 08:03 PM
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Chateau Heartiste / Roissy has a lot of good material on dealing with women in general, as well as a lot of hidden gems for relationships. I recommend this as a good start. While not for beginners, it is a wealth of insight for third wanting a fuller understanding of the ways of the fairer sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/15 01:58 PM
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Again, it's why you do not tell your wife about TRP. She will find it when she is ready for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/15 12:50 PM
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Be ready for one of these: when she wants to have a BIG TALK ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP and she says “I don’t like how you have been acting the last [fill in the blank]…” and you look her square in the eye and shrug “you don’t have to”.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/15 12:02 PM
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A lesson for the others here: Do not tell your wife about The Red Pill. Women talk, men do. Just do what needs to be done. To the OP: your wife did not "misinterpret" anything. She saw exactly what she wanted to see to manipulate you.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/15 11:45 AM
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We are supposed to "take it" (to a certain extent). My time is valuable, and when you let her drone on and bitch about her day for no other reason then she wants to bitch about it, then you are showing her that your time is, in fact, not valuable.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/15 01:54 PM
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Does repeated sexual innuendo not make you seem obsessed with sex? I am obsessed with sex. I have 20 times the amount of testosterone she does in my system at any given time. I think about sex a lot. If she doesn't want to help alleviate me of that problem, then why should I focus on trying to alleviate her problems?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/15 01:51 PM
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Woman, the most responsible teenager in the house.
/r/TheRedPill13/05/15 08:21 PM
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Outcome independence, just walk away and have something else to do.
/r/TheRedPill13/05/15 07:41 PM
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There was a great post about the latter a while ago--conform, or else. Do you happen to have a link to that post? I recall it, but cannot find it.
/r/TheRedPill13/05/15 01:29 PM
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Makes sense now.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/15 10:38 AM
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and I wouldn't have been able to get a new girl after I had manned up anyway Why? That is how this whole thing works. You self improve to the point that you know you can get another girl easily, and she knows it too...
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/15 10:20 AM
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Rollo has chosen to stay anonymous while becoming a published author and exhaustively quoted blogger Rollo uses his real picture as his avatar, and had published real pictures of himself on Twitter. He has done two podcasts. He has given enough personal detail about his life and history that anyone who at least knows where to look could probably find him. His friends and colleagues would easily recognize him if they read some of his material. While he writes under a pseudonym, I would not consid…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/15 01:59 AM
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I don't think we should judge women on how they treat us when we're beta. Which is funny because feminism wants us to believe that women are rational actors and are not influenced by their cycles. Either they treat betas like shit because their programming dictates that that they do, or women truly can just be vicious cunts.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/15 10:57 PM
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Why are you cross posting here? The general consensus here is to avoid marriage. Most of us here are only here because we unplugged too late. Also, wait until you are at least 38. Your SMV has not peaked yet. Marry at the top.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/15 10:38 PM
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As far as feeling mean for be in assertive, read When I Say No I Feel Guilty. If you are a career beta, then it will do a good job reprogramming you to stop feeling bad for doing what you want.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/15 07:16 PM
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Do not read much into what's she said. If the pussy was dripping wet, and she was screaming, then you are good. Do not try to make sense of anything a woman says for at least 12 hours after a good fucking.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/15 07:09 PM
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Why are you playing dread games after you had sex with her? Sure, maybe she's shot testing you, but you are letting her remove you from a room simply by her entering the room! A shit test is a shit test no matter when it comes. She disrespected him by blatantly ignoring the gift and card. You intermittently reward good behavior, but consistently punish bed behavior.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/15 05:26 PM
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Speaking of scripture, I would love to see a wedding where rather than hear 1 Corinthians 13 taken out of context, they have Ephesians 5:22 to 33 read. Now that would set the appropriate frame for a marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/15 05:17 PM
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Mother's Day is becoming the most solipsistic day for married women. What Valentines Day is to single women, Mother's Day is to wives. Rather then taking the day to stop and give thanks to for the blessing that children are, and reflecting on her role as a mother; my wife has done nothing but passive aggressively express her disappointment over the lack of pedestalization she believes she is due simply by fulfilling her biological imperative. I told her to drop the attitude.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/15 05:08 PM
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The only one I feel sorry for in that linked article is her son. That kid is screwed. Fuck her for ruining he son's life. Selfish solipsistic bitch.
/r/TheRedPill10/05/15 03:59 PM
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The thing that makes Pook's writing stand it is that it is all solid Red Pill thinking before anyone really started pushing it. The idea of Masculine / Feminine polarity was around before Pook (Deida's Way of the Superior Man was published in 1997), but he is the first one to really distill it down and bring it to the unwashed masses of a new generation. The whole "book" is really just a compilation of his best posts from the SoSuave forums. Before Pook, SoSuave was primarily made up of younger …
/r/TheRedPill10/05/15 01:06 PM
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Rollo Tomassi wrote about it here.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/15 06:04 PM
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Agree on that point. A woman's responsive desire means she will almost never initiate anything sexual. You'll be waiting a long time for her to do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/15 10:33 AM
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Copper IUD is non hormonal.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/15 10:14 AM
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One only needs to understand that women are forever teenagers, and respond well to child raising techniques, and male dominance. Woman: The Most Responsible Teenager In The House?
/r/TheRedPill05/05/15 01:27 PM
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It's kinda shitty Mike showed a picture of Tucker's girl while she was competing and a picture of his own girl when she was all slutted up. I think Cernovitch was doing a bit of shit stirring there. It's something Max would have done in his earlier years (see the Duke camping party story). It is understandable though, since Max appears to be blatantly cribbing shit from Mike's site. Mike's point about the relative attractiveness of his girl to Max's is valid. Max's fiancee's social media sites a…
/r/TheRedPill05/05/15 12:51 AM
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So far I have not seen anything original or groundbreaking on Mating Grounds. Everything they write about is stuff Pook already covered almost ten years ago. Tell me, when Tucker claimed no one had ever written about the truth behind inter sex relationships before Mating Grounds , exactly what was he taking about?
/r/TheRedPill05/05/15 12:37 AM
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There is usually some type of breaker or switch at the heat pump outside; just switch it off and the inside unit will just blow air around.
/r/TheRedPill05/05/15 12:26 AM
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Okay, then read what Matt Forney said about him. Edit: Rollo Tomassi's comment is spot on.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/15 10:13 PM
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Read Mike Cernovitch's takedown of Tucker Max and the Mating Grounds. Max also went after Roosh.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/15 09:01 PM
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I find the Art of Manliness to be a good secondary podcast (and source of articles) on interesting male topics. I find their content to be very well written and researched as well. However, he is not red pill friendly. He alludes to this in several of his articles, and even had a guest post by someone (Jordan Harbinger?) do a guest post about how there is no such thing as an alpha male. Take his stuff with a grain of salt, and just ignore the relationship material (there isn't a whole lot, actua…
/r/TheRedPill04/05/15 04:28 PM
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Agree. Jordan Harbinger comes off as such a douche. His guests are weak, and he tries too hard to bash the Red Pill movement while painting himself as something different. He really is all about supplicating to women, just look at some of the guests he has had on. He has also been all about Tucker Max recently. Roosh caught him lying his ass off about wanting to get Roosh on the show. All in all, I find the podcast to be a waste of time. Edit: Here is an example of Harbinger trying too hard. He …
/r/TheRedPill04/05/15 04:22 PM
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This post from Free Northerner has some discussion from the perspective of make female relationship dynamics. Dalrock also has written extensively on it. Look for the posts where he rips Pastor Driscoll from a few months ago.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/15 11:39 AM
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Habit is all.
/r/TheRedPill02/05/15 10:33 PM
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If the man derives some other value from dealing with the shit test, and he deems that value worth the effort of dealing with the shit test, then he can deal with the shit test. He doesn't have to deal with the shit test if he doesn't want to. The poster above my OP was critical of just nexting the girl rather then deal with the shit test. I believe the comment to be unwarranted given the purpose of plate theory. TL; DR: The purpose of having plates is to not waste time dealing with female bulls…
/r/TheRedPill02/05/15 10:03 PM
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That is the point of having plates. Why put up with the bullshit when you do not have to?
/r/TheRedPill02/05/15 12:37 PM
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Chateau Heartiste / Roissy also has a write up on the scientific underpinnings of game as well. In fact, he writes about it a lot. Just Google: Chateau Heartiste scientific proof game works.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/15 10:38 AM
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I own a business (that recently has been really struggling) That is the main reason right there. Struggling business is perceived as weakness by her. The rat of the shit tests are a result of that. Get the business right again and you'll see an improvement.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/15 10:39 PM
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Another added bonus is that lactation acts as relatively effective birth control since the hormones that support lactation also suppress ovulation. Raw dog all you want so long as she nurses enough times per day. The only downside is that those same hormones usually kill her libido as well. You'll have to game harder to get her I the mood.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/15 08:21 PM
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Read The Book of Pook instead. It's better than Manson, and is free. The problem with Manson is this whole "vulnerability" thing to get women is the wrong way to go. Women do not want that. Manson's work reeks of him attempting to spin a mediocre PUA career into something different by being purple pill.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/15 11:52 AM
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His point is correct, although put bluntly. Stop the pity party, sack up, and change your life. You know what to do, it's in the sidebar. And read The Book of Pook.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/15 11:39 AM
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prance around happier than a fag with a bag full of dicks, That alone is worth the up vote.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/15 11:36 AM
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Part of me wonders if my reactions to the reckoning are subliminal attempts to induce more dread. Bingo!
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/15 11:08 AM
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I was actually about to quote SGM. The context of my reply is in the OP's original motivation. He wants to get his wife a vibrator so that she can orgasm. That is not the right frame to have.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/15 07:58 PM
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I don't know anything about this "magic wand" business but I think I might learn soon! It's just a vibrator. Who cares?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/15 08:38 PM
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I did some deeper introspection and realized that one of the things that I DO want is for my wife to orgasm more often. Is this a good approach? No. Never focus on trying to please her in bed. Her orgasm is her responsibility, not yours. A female orgasm is based on emotion and feeling dominated, not any particular physical act. It's why Sex God Method works so well. Keep going caveman on her and do what you want to her because you want to, not because you want her to orgasm.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/15 08:21 PM
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I have written a few critiques of the model in the past here and here (and a few other places I cannot find right now). I can sum it up here: It doesn't fit the model of an actual chain of command. In a real chain of command, all people are moving toward the same common goal or objective. In male female sexual relationships, the two genders have opposite and incompatible sexual strategies, and only one side's sexual strategy can prevail. First officers do not shit test their captains, and captai…
/r/TheRedPill27/04/15 06:20 PM
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Sex God Method; threesome; then demote to plate in that order.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/15 07:17 PM
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Read the first batch of posts on the now-defunct Reality Method blog. The section is called, "Get Your Head Straight: “Inner Game“".
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/15 10:37 PM
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No triage. This is not MMSL. The man wants to step back a bit and figure a few things out on his own. Let him. I've thought about doing the myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/15 10:23 PM
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this instance you seem to be saying she should make the choice and decisions as far as plans or celebrations if any. I told my wife that I would be celebrating our anniversary at a nice Italian restaurant that I like, and that she was welcome to join me. She, of course, had no desire to make any alternate plans. That is the frame to have.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/15 06:36 PM
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She is the one who should e celebrating the anniversary of me choosing her, not the other way around. When the woman gets more benefit from the marriage then the man does, then she should be the one showing her gratitude. She chases me.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/15 05:42 PM
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Islam is a religion for women, not men: The answer is this: Muslims are not manly. On the contrary, they’re some of the most hypersensitive and feminized men alive. The attack on Charlie Hebdo,the worldwide demonstrations against the Jyllands-PostenMuhammad cartoons, and every other act of Islamist terror happened because Muslims feltoffended on behalf of their prophet. Letting your emotions dictate your behavior is what women do, not men.
/r/TheRedPill25/04/15 12:40 PM
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The worst offender is definitely Everybody Loves Raymond. Even in my bluest of blue pill days I knew something was very wrong with that show. One time, while we were fighting, I told my wife that she sees herself as Deborah and treats me as Raymond. I have yet to find any other show that clearly illustrates the dysfunctional dynamic of the modern feminine centric family. The show should be used to unplug married guys by saying, "look at this! This does not work!"
/r/TheRedPill25/04/15 12:21 PM
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They come to understand that the life decisions they’d made 10-12 years ago were based on a fulfilling long-term female sexual strategies. Now they see how that path played out for them. Men find themselves in a position of having wasted that SMV peak potential by accepting the responsibilities he was convinced were his duty by the Feminine Imperative in his 20s, or he finds himself experiencing the boons of that SMV and unable to truly capitalize on them because of his commitments. This is what…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/15 02:25 AM
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From Rollo Tomassi: Ultimatums are declarations of powerlessness because you are resorting to a direct threat to get someone to do what you want them to, and in doing so you OVERTLY confess your weak position. If you were in a genuine position of control it wouldn’t be necessary to resort to an ultimatum; you’d simply use that control. There are many ways to effect a change in another person, but ultimatums will never prompt a genuine change. If they change behavior it’s prompted by the threat, …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/15 03:14 PM
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When she acts like a cunt, and she provokes you by poking your weak spot, sometimes you need to let her have it. From Ian Ironwood: It's also important to emphasize in subtle ways that while you are, indeed, in control of your emotions -- you're a good Zookeeper -- you are also completely willing to drop the bars of the cage when you need to. That is, if she ignores your warnings about how to deal with your emotions, then you are completely allowed to expose her to your raw emotions without the …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/15 02:37 PM
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Hold the line! Also, sleep in your own bed; never give up your own bed.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/15 07:06 PM
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For instance, a plate of mine rarely initiates sex, and says she's "not in the mood" many times. She's a plate. If she is not meeting your sexual expectations, you next her for another woman who does. The entire idea of plate theory is to get your sexual needs met with the least amount of work possible.
/r/askTRP19/04/15 12:14 PM
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Also, never call cops or talk to cops for any reason. Here is an example where talking to the cops kept him out of jail. When all the cop has is the other person's story along with several other witnesses all saying the same thing, and your refusal to just tell him what happened, he has no other choice. Sometimes you talk, sometimes you don't. It just depends on what happened. Edit: Masaad Ayoob has a video on the subject. Basically, give the police enough information for them to know what reall…
/r/TheRedPill19/04/15 10:46 AM
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"Do These Pants Make My Ass Look Fat" It's not the pants that makes your ass look fat... That is some graduate level work, though.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/15 09:10 PM
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When did she start the meds? Anti depressants can kill libido.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/15 02:49 AM
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Damnit man. I'm definitely not doing the complete asshole game with my wife, but a sprinkling here and there is useful. Read more of CH's stuff, especially the full Roissy Reader. Once you see through the cynicism of his stuff, you will start to see the subtle nuance of his work. It's not about being an asshole.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/15 12:38 PM
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What to make of this? Marriage over, I think. Hell no! It's just starting. Not the most ideal reframe, but a great start. You completely exposed her as the manipulative shrew cunt that she is.. This reminds me of Chateau Heartiste's Relationship Reset post. Start going hard on the self improvement. Lift, eat better, dress better, improve your SMV now.. You have the momentum, don't lose it. Great play.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/15 10:45 AM
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Take this as a chance to ditch the counseling and show that you can be just fine without her. Lead the family and let her have the space to do what she needs to do. She is going to lash out at you for dumb things. Do not take any verbal or emotional abuse, but understand where she is coming from. From The Sixteen Commandments of Poon XV. Maintain your state control You are an oak tree. You will not be manipulated by crying, yelling, lying, head games, sexual withdrawal, jealousy ploys, pity play…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/15 10:19 AM
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Hmm, women want DUAL things in a man? Yes, men who go both ways. That's what I took from it...
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/15 03:10 AM
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It is definitely ego/headship whatever. I see where you are with that. Sometimes she needs to be reminded who the head of he household is, regardless of the circumstances. It reminds me of a piece of advice I was given by the "behind the scenes" guy to a prominent state wide politician. He said that whenever he takes over a new organization, he will fire a few people on the first day just to show that he is in charge. Keeps the rest in their toes.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/15 09:50 PM
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> How do I direct her hamster? You don't. You go do your thing, make your life awesome, let other women show your wife that your life is awesome, and your wife either follows you in your life or she doesn't. That's all there is to this. Do not overthink dread and make it more than it really is.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/15 09:35 PM
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Since you have your shit together, try something completely out of the blue. Start quoting Monty Python lines to her. Go in character. Really sell it like the whole thing is a big comedy sketch. See how long until she finally breaks down in laughter.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/15 09:31 PM
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You should apologize and buy her flowers. Then maybe take her out for a really nice dinner. This. Make her dread how bad she'll feel when she sees what a nice guy you really are!
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/15 09:29 PM
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Your plans needed to be in place before the marriage. It's too late now. As for the hamster, do not engage the hamster ever. Also, threatening divorce is not dread, it's negotiated desire.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/15 08:28 PM
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Don't try to engage the therapist by arguing or trying to make your case. Odds are your wife selected a feminine friendly one who will see you and your demands as the problem and not your wife. Get your hands on When I Say No I Feel Guilty ASAP and read it now. Use fogging, negative inquiry, and negative assertion the entire session. Don't make any assertive statements, though; just fog the shit out of it. It will drive your wife nuts, and the therapist will probably know what you are doing, but…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/15 07:26 PM
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You do not dread a woman who is pregnant. Bullshit. Nothing changes during pregnancy. How is your way supposed to work? Your wife thinks you might be cheating. "Who knows, honey... Better stay on your toes and suck harder." Bam, she's pregnant. "No honey, I'm not cheating! I'd never cheat!" Kid is here and you are then back to, "well who knows..." It's completely incongruent. You have the wrong idea about dread. Dread is not making her think you are cheating or could cheat on her. Dread is just …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/15 06:59 PM
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> That's an excellent article and stands head and shoulders above the majority of relationship articles on Psychology Today. I've heard Psychology Today referred to as the "USA Today" of the psych world.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/15 06:58 PM
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I recommended Ridley's book, The Red Queen because it is scientifically backed discussion of a lot of this stuff. And it was written in 1994, we before the time of PUA and the manosphere.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/15 01:18 PM
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For a very in depth discussion of how human mating in the perspective of the animal kingdom (as well as plants, bacteria, and anything else that relies on genetics) I recommend you read The Red Queen; Sex and the Evolution of Human Nature by Matt Ridley. It is an exhaustive survey and analysis of just about the entire scientific field of sex, mating, and genetics going back at least to Darwin. I do not necessarily agree with your premise that women can be alpha. That tends to be a term reserved …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/15 12:44 AM
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> You can show him where the water is, tell him how cool and refreshing it is, but you can't make him drink it. But you can sure make him thirsty. Try just sticking to the part that points out the disparate treatment men get from women in a divorce. Encourage him to start asking "why?" about all things female. Why do women always go for jerks? Why do women get preferential treatment? Why is it always expected that I treat women better? Just stick to that for now, as it wok have the most impact o…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/15 12:57 PM
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This from Ian Ironwood is the only thing that comes close. Not sure I would open that can of worms with him, though, Tred lightly.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/15 12:34 PM
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From Pook: Habit is all. The good thing about habits is you can start with the small ones and build from there. One step at a time. The purpose of this sub is to talk about what those correct habits are.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/15 02:57 PM
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But I also have to say I run female friendly game. That is the wrong mindset to have. Game is not male friendly, female friendly, or anything. Game is game. You improve yourself to become the best you can be for no other reason then you want to be the best. Running "female friendly game" sounds too much like you are trying to accommodate her or change because of her. None of this is about her, it is all about you. Also, it reeks of Athol Kay.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/15 02:46 PM
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Guys will come on here looking for help, and all it takes is one or two early responses talking about the rules and that guy's outta here. Exactly. We are a discussion sub, not an advice sub.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/15 12:50 PM
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Agree. This place is different then MMSL. Constantly doling out the same advice over and over to newbies who have not read the material and will consider it fixed when the wife gives up the monthly ovulation sex is going to run this place into the ground. We are not a relationship advice sub. We are a sub for the discussion of male sexual strategies in marriage. To the extent we give "field reports" or ask for advice it is only in a new or unique situation, or to illustrate a point. Like Dan3G s…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/15 12:44 PM
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You need to get acquainted with Borderline Personality Disorder really quick. Read Stop Walking on Eggshells, it's available out there in pdf if you search for it. Read it right now, as in tonight.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/15 09:33 PM
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Read The The Book of Pook. Your entire life is ahead of you. The world is yours for the taking. Unite dream and day.
/r/TheRedPill03/04/15 12:58 AM
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> It tries to oversell the IDGAF attitude and does quite well in that regard, but while simultaneously not taking the style of the book, as well as the formatting, very seriously either. The book is nothing more than someone else's compilation of his best posts at the SoSuave forums. Pook never intended them to be compiled into a book. The same goes for the other compilation, The Book of Pook at the Mill (that being a compilation of his blog posts). The thing to remember is Pook always said he w…
/r/TheRedPill02/04/15 02:42 PM
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The best source for inner game is still The Book of Pook. I recommend Pook over Manson anyday.
/r/TheRedPill02/04/15 02:13 AM
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Start building that record. You may well never need it... He will not ever need it because he is going to kick her ass out now. This bitch is not only violent, but cold, calculating, and manipulative. This reeks of provocation on her part to get him to hit her.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/15 10:31 AM
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Say with a straight face, completely stoic and non-angry, that violent physical aggression will be responded to with overpowering physical defense. There is no need to make a threat, just state that you have a right to self-defense. Do not fight back, no matter what. Self defense claims in a domestic assault like this are murky at best, and do not have a good success rate in court. It's your word versus hers, and that can be a crap shoot. Stating things like, "I have a right to self defense," in…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/15 10:28 AM
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Take a moment. you deserve it.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/15 11:14 PM
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No, the court orders a set amount of child support based on formulas set out in the statutes. These formulas (allegedly) already take into account healthcare and child care expenses, so the lump-sum amount already includes those in it. The court can, however, depart from that formula in certain situations. One of those is when healthcare can be provided for already by one parent's healthcare plan. In that situation, the fact that healthcare is already provided for means the the court can order t…
/r/TheRedPill30/03/15 05:39 PM
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Just don't do it for the tax break. Financially, they are a complete drain.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/15 03:53 PM
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it's simultaneously not monitored and you can't monitor it yourself. You can work out an agreement where you will pay directly for certain services in lieu of direct payments to the mother. For example, you can have the child included on your health plan and pay directly for daycare. Those things would then not be factored in to the total child support amount.
/r/TheRedPill30/03/15 03:48 PM
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Yeah, no. Not when it costs ten times that much just to maintain the little fuckers. Marriage is a huge net financial drain on anyone.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/15 02:22 AM
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8 minutes and 27 seconds of big tits. Was there something else I was supposed to get from the video?
/r/TheRedPill30/03/15 01:24 AM
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Bitterness is like cancer. It eats upon the host. But anger is like fire. It burns it all clean. -- Maya Angelou Only thing by her that I like.
/r/TheRedPill30/03/15 01:13 AM
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Great example of pure alpha dominance, beta compliance, and frame: The Sopranos. Followed closely by The Shield. You also get probably the best writing and acting ever done for television to boot.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/15 08:52 PM
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pregnant nursing wives Fortunately that will not last very long, as pregnancy will tend to dry up the milk supply.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/15 05:46 PM
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The prolactin levels caused by the nursing are what kill her drive. Pregnant women can be quite horny. Post natal nursing women are not.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/15 05:44 PM
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Woman, the most responsible teenager in the house.
/r/TheRedPill29/03/15 12:41 PM
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Even in my worse blue pill days I still knew there was something wrong with Ray.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/15 09:49 PM
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It's more a recognition of the fact that your energy comes from within you and not from her. You spend the appropriate amount of energy on her when she deserves it.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/15 10:42 AM
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Reminds me of the old Everybody Loves Raymond episode where he uses the "Ass In Seat" rule on his wife. He drives off and leaves her at home when she makes him late to an awards banquet. Of course, Ray being the complete beta bitch flubs the entire thing, but he did have the stones to leave her. One of the few times he does.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/15 10:40 AM
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And that folks is a great example of reframing. Well played, sir, well played.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/15 12:26 AM
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Relevant article by Archwinger on shit tests and your woman's cycle.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/15 11:13 PM
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What I am struggling with right now is whether she deserves an improved me. Improve yourself first so she can make that decision. There is too much history, too many feelings and too much attachment. You cannot let the past control your future. That is a sign that you are still in the anger phase. Don't make any decisions while still in the anger phase. One of the gifts of masculinity is the ability to have a clear mind with which to make clear and rational decisions. You need to find that gift …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/15 09:23 PM
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> at that point she says I put her under pressure, she's not comfortable and would rather go to bed and not have dinner together or watch TV if it means avoiding having an argument or feeling under pressure. Either your SMV is not high enough yet, or she does not see that your SMV is high enough yet. She is not attracted to you. To quote Rollo Tomassi > A woman who wants to fuck you will find a way to fuck you. She will fly across the country, crawl under barbwire, climb in through your second s…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/15 09:00 PM
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Why did we pull this out in to a separate post and not keep it as a reply? It's generally better to keep discussions in one place.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/15 08:49 PM
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Exactly. There is no way you even understand what really goes on in a relationship in the first few months of unplugging, let alone a week. You really come off like you just want to leave without trying. OP, at least be honest with yourself; you really have not tried at all to fix this. You were just looking for an excuse to get out.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/15 08:47 PM
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A few things that popped into my mind: Read The Book of Pook.. That is the true inner game you are looking for. Athol Kay's stuff is not true Red Pill. Part of the reason why it went down the way it did for your wife is because Athol waters it down to be more female friendly. Have your wife read Rollo's stuff at The Rational Male. That is more true to core Red Pull thinking. If she can take Chateau Heartiste, then you know you have a keeper. Serenity's blog. Just remember, her claim to fame is b…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/15 01:06 PM
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I think you guys might be misunderstanding the role of stoicism in this. A stoic can still be cocky and funny, assholeish, and what not because those are all outward things you do when you interact with others. Stoicism is all about the internal things, inside your head you are a rock. That is where stoicism lives. It's about you.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/15 12:56 PM
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It works if a woman uses it on a BP. Not in the way it is supposed to work. It'll just drive the BP into harder and harder beta mode, which will kill any hope of attraction and drive her to divorce faster.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/15 10:07 AM
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> But the last time I dumped her, she started cutting herself. Get real acquainted with the term Borderline Personality Disorder and get ready for a wild ride that is completely unnecessary.
/r/TheRedPill26/03/15 12:43 PM
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So I've been thinking, what does a good strategy look like for a woman? Just being submissive wouldn't cut it, would it? Yes it would. The natural state of femininity is to be submissive to a dominant male. She will be happy that way because that is her natural state. Can a woman inspire a man to be more alpha, withhold sex if he doesn't do his beta jobs, motivate him with sexual favors, and stuff like that? That is contradictory. If you are a strong alpha male, then she will want to submit to y…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/15 10:10 AM
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Try progressive calisthenics. It's what Olympic gymnasts do to get ripped without weights.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/15 01:52 AM
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It looks like it will work if a man uses it, but not sure if a woman were to use it.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/15 01:41 AM
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> Maybe there's a guide somewhere Navigating the SMP by Rollo Tomassi is a good start. Chateau Heartiste has a more practical formula for computing it for men and for women.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/15 03:54 AM
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Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Don't teach a man how to fish and you feed yourself. He's a grown man. Fishing isn't that hard. -- Ron Swanson
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/15 11:01 PM
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That's the difference between SMV and SR. No, the difference is SR is what Athol Kay calls it, and SMV is what everyone else calls it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/15 10:45 PM
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Afterwards say "What the hell did you do there. I thought my dick was about to explode" or "Fucking hell honey, what year is it ?". The next morning make her a cup of tea and give it to her with a big shit eating grin on your face "Honey, last night was awesome. I'm definitely putting it out there that this was because I am awesome. But you were pretty awesome too." No, that's going a bit far. Just slap her on the ass afterwards and say, "good game," and walk away. You are making sex with her up…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/15 10:40 PM
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No shit. I'm getting downvoted to oblivion for giving pretty standard advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/15 03:53 AM
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You need solid confidence and some decent looks and clothing, but nothing spectacular. Just watch am those spring break shows.
/r/TheRedPill23/03/15 02:51 AM
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You ever seen Girls Gone Wild?
/r/TheRedPill22/03/15 10:51 PM
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Just skimming over this post I can tell you are still in the wrong frame of mind. Read The Book of Pook before you try anything further. You live the life you want to live for you, and she follows you in it or not. That's it. There is nothing more to it.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/15 10:34 PM
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Play with her tits because you want to play with them, not because you think she likes it. Sex for women is emotional not physical. Once you start having regular sex, read Sex God Method. Don't try it until you have a firm grasp on the rest of the relationship first, though. More specific to your question, though; my wife will sometimes get the giggles / ticklish on her nipples and clit. It's usually a sign that she is not turned on yet. Stoke the fire more before you start sex next time.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/15 05:32 PM
3

In the right place at the right time, an literally just walk up to 30 or so different decent looking women and say nothing but, "hey, wanna fuck?" One of them will say yes.
/r/TheRedPill22/03/15 05:22 PM
92

When faced with losing her provisioning and support she finally puts out. It's like we talked about a few days ago: When a woman says "I love you", what she means is "I need you". When a man says "I love you", he means "I am firmly committed to you".
/r/TheRedPill22/03/15 12:32 PM
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> EDIT: Normal cabin service resumed. All indicators green. She gaming me, bro. She good. Got to get fitter, faster, better now, just to keep up. Now playing for fun. In the light. No. Something is brewing. She is just quietly planning or brooding. Wives of former betas who suddenly discover exactly what has been going on recently don't just magically become submissive beauties after discovering their husband's postings on Reddit. Something is up. Watch yourself, don't let your guard down. Now m…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/15 03:50 AM
2

AoM is a good source on a lot of material. His articles are well written and researched, and his topic areas are interesting. That being said, he is not friendly towards the red pill movement, and will make subtle jabs at it here and there. He actually does so in the OODA article.
/r/becomeaman21/03/15 06:01 PM
2

The Art of Manliness has one of the best over views if Boyd's OODA loop I have found here.
/r/becomeaman21/03/15 11:48 AM
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Now I'm having to go through blow by blow, sentence by sentence, explaining what everything I've typed recently means. Why? Why is she "the judge" of your actions? Why do you have to justify them to her? Why is her judgement important to your value as a man? Read WISNIFG right now. I am going to expand on this part. To OP: Why do you have to defend your thoughts? Why do you have to defend what you shared anonymously with a community of your fellow men? Why does any of what you said matter to her…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/15 02:28 AM
1

The article speaks for itself. There is nothing more of value I could add to it.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/15 12:35 AM
1

She doesn't have a right to be mad, she just is mad. Exactly. Rights are things that citizens hold against an authority of some sort. People do not have rights against other people. Being mad is an emotional state, not an obligation one person can enforce against another person.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/15 11:02 PM
1

There is a serious down vote brigade going on in this thread.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/15 10:56 PM
0

What right does she have to be mad about this post? Ask her. I want to know what makes her mad about this. Have her post a reply to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/15 10:41 PM
0

Another way to look at this is knowing how the magician does his tricks. Knowing how a good illusion works makes you appreciate the hard work it took to design and execute it. I mean, what secret is she really discovering? That you are becoming a more desirable man?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/15 10:31 PM
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"Must have been a reeeeaaaaaallllllyyyyyyy busy day at work..." Interesting that either she had enough time to find this article, or she has it ready to go and was just looking for a time to use it
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/15 08:11 PM
5

"You never apologize..." I'm sorry I married you...
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/15 08:09 PM
1

To answer your original question, the whole idea underpinning all of this is the polarity between masculine and feminine. She desires to submit to a masculine man who demonstrates his masculinity through dominance. All of the techniques you see, like amused mastery, cocky and funny, most of the stuff that you point out from MMSLP, are all ways of demonstrating dominance. That is why it all works.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/15 11:57 AM
1

We normally have great sex and she's normally very responsive to my approaches. Then why are you here? Why are you reading MMSLP if you are satisfied with your sex life?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/15 11:03 PM
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To the wife: Just realize that the basic premise of the Red Pill movement is to become a confident, high value man. The kind of man you will brag to your friends about. The kind of man you want to sire your offspring. The kind of man who will lead you to a great life. Deep down you know this is what you want.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/15 11:00 PM
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And that, newbies, is called Female Solipsism.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/15 10:56 PM
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But wife sometimes wants more [...cut...] What can I do to get "back in the ring" when this happens? Tell her to try harder.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/15 08:51 AM
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> The Cardinal Rule of Sexual Strategies: For one gender’s sexual strategy to succeed the other gender must compromise or abandon their own. Rollo Tomassi Given the innate submissiveness of the feminine, it is inevitable that she will yield to a more dominant masculine man. Because of this, ironically, she will also be happier when she does.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/15 11:03 PM
8

Well that is a whole lot easier then listening for the telltale ripping of adhesive in the morning and fishing through the trash...
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/15 11:00 PM
1

I feign outcome independence and she’s off to bed while I stew well into the night with anger over yet another rejection. And that right there is the cause of your problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/15 04:17 PM
0

I'm taking my family to other places for sunday morning enlightenment, starting with the Unitarian Universalist. I would just do home church at that point. UU have really no beliefs at all. You'd get more from a Rotary Club meeting.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/15 03:55 PM
0

Btw are there any non-catholic manosphere/NRx bloggers? Dalrock.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/15 03:19 PM
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Don't do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/15 02:21 AM
1

If you hold frame on this issue, and continue to hold frame on everything from here on out, I bet you three months of total firm billables that she takes your last name professionally within a year.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/15 02:08 AM
1

Her future attempts to argue would be met with silence. Or me laughing at her. Female "litigators" respond very well to amused mastery.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/15 02:01 AM
1

she is an attorney and a hard nose one at that [cut] Going toe to toe with someone who argues for a living is tough. She's already done all her research and reasoning and made an argument. Female "litigators" are a joke. (Side note: a "litigator" is what they call a trial lawyer who doesn't actually try any cases) Do not be afraid of her. Put any female attorney in court up against a male attorney or a judge who has just one of his testicles still intact and she will run out of the courtroom cry…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/15 01:58 AM
2

Make sure he reads The Book of Pook.. You should too.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/15 06:37 PM
1

You did get the joke, right?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/15 01:06 AM
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Your son is going to be teased mercilessly and get the shit beat out of him if he has a hyphenated name. She is setting him up to be a bitch from the moment he is born. You Must Not Budge One Inch On This Issue.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/15 12:58 AM
1

I'm a 7 sigma genius Is that the next step above black belt?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/15 05:28 PM
1

Ah yes, Choreplay. Tell me how well that is working out for ya... Dude is a genius. Eh, not really. He is okay, but the 3 R's are still the best.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/15 05:27 PM
1

I didn't find any of the cartoons that particularly funny or well done. It has noting to do with the subject matter.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/15 05:15 PM
1

She is working to see my perspective No, she isn't. No matter what she thinks or says, she is utterly incapable of seeing things or understanding things form you perspective. A woman cannot think like a man, and cannot empathize with him at all. We actually had a lengthy discussion about this, which is what led to this post in the first place. I find it more productive to pluck my pubic hair off my scrotum with a pair of rusty pliers than to discuss anything substantive with my wife. > It is cer…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/15 01:56 PM
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Curse of Eve. Before The Fall there we as no need for Eve to doubt Adam's strength or leadership because he was perfect. After the fall, she is now cursed to follow an imperfect man, which she bitches about constantly. If the programming was there from the beginning, then The Fall is what triggered it.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/15 12:37 PM
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Three weeks and you are getting awesome blowjobs and she is initiating mind blowing sex... ... and she is half Asian. I think you might be on the right track, but I'm not sure... Always look to a woman's actions, never her words.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/15 12:05 PM
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> That is why my question focuses on the minutiae that reality has but the abstraction lacks. Your question focuses on the minutiae because while you may understand theory, you have not yet internalized it. Basically, this has not happened yet. Once you can see it, this will all fall into place. Don't worry, it hasn't happened for me yet either, but I can feel it coming. I can see it in other people, just not me. Answer Whinemoreplease's question. Knowing the theory, what is the answer to your q…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/15 11:55 AM
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Dread. Dominate her more.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/15 11:31 AM
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Nothing changes with pregnancy. You will have to maintain a stronger frame and be more dominant, but nothing else changes. Be mindful that the hormones will intensify the breadth and depth of her emotional swings, but it is only an explanation for her behavior, not an excuse.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/15 01:49 AM
0

So much of modern Christianity is feminized because pastors water down traditional headship and biblical submission to attract more female members. Catholics then follow suit because they think they have to mimic what the evangelicals are doing to keep the membership up, since Catholics aren't doing a good job of making more Catholics.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/15 12:24 AM
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It was enlightening to me as well. Game works because God made women that way. My wife's purpose for existence is to be my helpmeet, and my purpose for existence is to lead her and rule over her. It's how Dalrock can claim that Christianity created Game. The reason why we have so many problems it today's world is because men are not fulfilling their biblical role as head if the family, and women are running around thinking they are supposed to be in charge.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/15 11:26 PM
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The Curse of Eve Gaming the curse of Eve
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/15 10:20 PM
1

The way you describe it sounds like your feelings are changing; but your relationship towards her and your frame does not. Now more than ever you need to maintain the same steady, firm headship of your new family.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/15 04:45 PM
2

Hey, pregnancy is weird...
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/15 04:39 PM
3

Your frame is more important now more then ever. If you do not maintain control of the relationship, your child is going to grow up with the wrong idea about relationships. If you want your child to grow up with the right idea about relationships, then you need to maintain your frame Nothing changes on your end during pregnancy; just expect more intense moose mood swings from her and be a bit more forgiving when she flips out.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/15 01:17 PM
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Relevant link for those who don't get the joke.
/r/TheRedPill11/03/15 11:08 PM
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I wonder is this is a guy thing or or more driven by personality? Women, being driven more by emotional feelings than logic, have better recall of those events because of the way they felt when it happened. Try it sometime. Try remembering the way you felt about something, the smells, the temperature, etc... You will find that your recall will be better.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/15 12:37 PM
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Women don't love you, they love the way you make them feel. That right there is what has had me tripped up recently. If I can get good at frothing her broad (but shallow) well of emotions, then I can create that much more attraction.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/15 01:42 AM
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will start it as soon as I finish my current read by Mr. Kay. Skip Athol Kay for now. Read WISNIFG and NMMNG. MMSLP doesn't cover your situation at all. You have a full on Cluster B thing going on. Put Stop Walking On Eggshells on your list as well. Read those right now. Stay up late if you need to, but do it right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/15 01:21 AM
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How is your sex life before you tried SGM? My take is SGM will backfire unless the attraction is already there. Don't try this stuff if you are only getting once a month starfish duty sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/15 01:08 AM
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It really does. I see a lot of Pook in there too.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/15 12:58 AM
2

I still don't undertand why they can't just tell you that what they really want is a good hard rodgering but they will NEVER give you a clue. Because women want you to [ just get it.] ( http://therationalmale.com/2012/08/22/just-get-it/)
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/15 10:57 PM
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SGM is better. It's about nothing but fucking, focuses not on technique but on emotions, and gets rave reviews by everyone who tries it.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/15 10:49 PM
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Mustn't we understand what they are actually saying and doing in order to react correctly? Not when those two things are absolutely, completely, unrelated to each other.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/15 09:02 PM
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As far as breakfast in bed, it may not be a bad thing as long as sex is for a dessert. Sex has dried up, so I really am not inclined to do anything for her.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/15 06:21 PM
1

The more I think about this and read other posts, the more I think WISNIFG is the book I need to focus on more.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/15 05:58 PM
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Why not just buy her the fast food breakfast? Dress it up with a rose and maybe a mimosa? This doesn't seem like an unreasonable request from her. The more I think about this, the more I realize I am making more out of this then there is. What I was trying to do was to come up with a way to talk with her that would validate her more, like in the Nail thread. Right now when she just drones on about stupid stuff I just fluff her along with "um hmm," and, "yup," and whatnot to get her through the c…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/15 05:53 PM
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Everything doesn't have to be a conflict. You are right. The more I thought about this, the more I am realizing that I am creating more here than there needs to be.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/15 05:47 PM
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Just reading through this series of posts, and your replies to them, I think you are over analyzing her and this situation. I realize now I am guilty of the same thing. I agree with /u/jacktenofhearts that you will get more out of WISNIFG. I believe I will too. Stop trying to understand what she is really saying and doing, and just live your life. Unite Dream and Day, and she will want to follow you on your path. TL:DR: Betches be crazy.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/15 04:10 PM
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That's the impression I got as well. I haven't read the book, so that is why I linked to the post.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/15 10:26 AM
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It's on Scribd.com The blog posts are better than the book. There isn't anything in the book that is not covered on the blog posts.
/r/TheRedPill10/03/15 01:40 AM
1

I found this blog post that seems to give a really good description. Edit: actually, this entire series of blog posts looks good.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/15 04:30 PM
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Some of the mindset is good, but the ultimate problem is that the post is meant for men with multiple women at the same time. Most of us here are not in that situation. Edit: disregard. I did not realize who posted this.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/15 02:27 AM
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I'm in the same boat, except mine says I don't "talk" to her. Make sure you check out [this post as well.] ( http://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/2y0jj0/its_not_about_the_nail/)
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/15 11:29 AM
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Read The Book of Pook. Every single man over 16 years old should read this book. Nothing else will better prepare you for the most brutal trap that the world has waiting for him: woman. The world is your oyster. Go forth and unite dream and day.
/r/TheRedPill08/03/15 03:53 AM
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So a lot of the original seduction gurus from a.s.f. talked about doing things like this, validating a woman's feelings, eliciting their values, etc... and it worked pretty well for them. I personally believe that this is a big deal of what I could be doing better in my marriage. However, I keep getting hung up on a few things: So I validate her feelings (as shown in the video clip above). Now what? How do I translate that into sex? I sense that there is another step that can be done after this …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/15 09:09 PM
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Just did. Check elsewhere in this thread. I did not edit anything, they are just the raw pdf files as I printed them from the original site.
/r/TheRedPill06/03/15 07:32 PM
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Check elsewhere in the thread, I just posted a link.
/r/TheRedPill06/03/15 07:30 PM
2

Check elsewhere in the thread.
/r/TheRedPill06/03/15 07:30 PM
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Here is a zip file of pdf files of every single individual post from Solve My Girl Problems. I got them all at the end of January, and are taken directly from the original site, and several contain links to embedded YouTube videos. Many of the old videos are no longer available.
/r/TheRedPill06/03/15 07:29 PM
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Book of Shark coming? He already had a book called The Black Flag. It's on Scribd. As far as a "best of" compilation of blog posts, that would pretty much be everything. It was all well written, on point, and there were not that many posts total (maybe 100 to 150). It only took me an hour to pdf the entire site by hand.
/r/TheRedPill06/03/15 12:28 PM
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Shark was a great writer. He was clearly grounded in the same philosophy as Pook. His stuff is a great bridge between Pook's theory and practical application. Shark also wrote a lot about LTRs and marriage. His advice on those topics is very good. He was very red pill.
/r/TheRedPill06/03/15 11:33 AM
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I just went though each post and did "Print to PDF" in Firefox. It only took an hour.
/r/TheRedPill06/03/15 11:31 AM
3

You are new and the Player Guide.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/15 11:36 PM
3

It's interesting how the community has progressed from concrete implementation to more abstract concepts It really clicked for me when I read this from Pook. All the old PUA techniques were doing was describing and modeling alpha / dominant / masculine behavior. It worked because those are the things a naturally confident man would do, and are what most women are attracted to. All of the various methods out there all worked because they exhibited some type of confident, dominant behavior. It's s…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/15 10:20 PM
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Google Groups still has the good stuff. You can also get the fastseduction.com archives of a.s.f posts via the Wayback machine.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/15 09:53 PM
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once your frame is in place and she knows not to pull crap like that, I suggest you treat your wife tenderly and let her air out some emotions from time to time. The more you do the more she will be emotionally investing in sex and will soon be unable to imagine a life without you. I imagine this also eliminates the common, "you never listen to me..." line.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/15 09:10 PM
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I do this mostly to get her to talk more so I determine if the nagging is a shit test or a comfort test. Now that is a great use for all of this.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/15 09:05 PM
1

You can also add Borderline Personality Disorder to the list of things you should become intimately familiar with.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/15 08:33 PM
3

aren't I just validating her hamstering? That is it right there. How is this not validating dumb female bullshit and giving her what she wants without getting something tangible in exchange? I can understand letting her do this when her mouth is full of my cum, but letting her do it whenever just lowers your value to her. My time is valuable.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/15 07:44 PM
3

Negative Inquiry What is that again?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/15 07:38 PM
1

So here are my issues with this. When I try to do this my wife, who is entirely too logical at times, will either demand to know what I think about it (I really could not give less of a shit 95% of the time and have nothing to say), or will look at me whimsically and wonder why I am talking like that. (She then goes right back to demanding me to share my thoughts as if she is entitled to them.) 2, Why should I give her what she wants most in the relationship when she doesn't deserve it? I am not…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/15 07:36 PM
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MrSex4UNYC talked about this in this post nearly 15 years ago.. (This link is a repost of part of the original thread from the old a.s.f. news group. This link is his reply post to an earlier poster.) It is referred to as "reflective listening", and sounds like validation. There is a lot of discussion about it in the book Stop Walking on Eggshells, and is a very effective technique for dealing with BPD. Edit: Here is the original a.s.f, discussion thread mentioned above. I skimmed it briefly, bu…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/15 07:19 PM
2

Pook completely cut against the grain of the time and laid the foundation for all modern Red Pill thinking. You can see strains of Pook everywhere, including even Roissy. His ideas were not completely earth shattering, though. Deida's Way of the Superior Man is based on playing the polarities between the masculine and the feminine. You also see a lot of it from MrSex4UNYC and Svengali back in the old a,s.f. archives. They were the first ones in the seduction arena to go beyond just doing the for…
/r/TheRedPill05/03/15 07:07 PM
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The Book of Pook
/r/TheRedPill05/03/15 04:30 PM
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A priest can and will do the Sacrament of Reconciliation (confession) for anyone, regardless of religion. It is a great feeling just to tell someone else what is weighing heavily on your soul.
/r/TheRedPill05/03/15 04:24 PM
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Provide comfort while holding frame. I'm thinking no on that. If she is in a pissy mood giving me attitude, she doesn't get shit. Or she gets treated like a child.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/15 02:50 AM
1

she NEEDED sleep. The feminine need to submit to a dominant man bus a good fucking far out ranks any short term need for sleep that she can make up for the next evening. Sleep can be caught up on the next evening, a good solid fucking is something that must be acted upon immediately.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/15 10:04 PM
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I would have gone for sex, but she had to work early. Fuck that. I would have nailed her for hours. She wanted it.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/15 01:37 PM
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Bet your bottom dollar...
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/15 01:33 PM
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Treat her like a child (she is one). Woman: The Most Responsible Teenager in the House
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/15 12:18 PM
1

So in an appropriate tone, something as ridiculous as "You don't show me that you love me" can qualify as a comfort test? She feels like there is something missing, and you need to figure out what she really wants. Usually it is some type of reassurance about the relationship. why don't you establish a boundary where you don't engage in discussion about her ridiculous unfounded allegations? Because if you don't address it (and "fail" the comfort test) then she will start to" check out" of the re…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/15 09:31 PM
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"Seriously? I'm just going to put my coat on, walk out that door... Reminds me of the old forbidden "door pattern" from Ross Jefferies.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/15 08:33 PM
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> Say you come home and your wife is pissed and before you can say anything she yells "You never do anything to show me that you love me!!!". Shit test based on the tone and delivery. She acts out like a child and you treat her like one. Someone here recently had a great response to a situation like this. It went something like, "woah, you want to go out and try that again sweetie?" (It was /u/BluepillProfessor in this thread) It could also be a comfort test, but an appropriate tone needs to be …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/15 08:28 PM
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And then we had the main event, and I was exhausted, but I held frame and held frame and held frame. If I hadn't acted, then MRP would have been just a circlejerk on the internet that fed my frustrations. But I acted even when it was scary, I acted because I had to rock the boat to change things. And here I am, with a Thanks MRP post. I believe you are referring to one of these.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/15 05:34 PM
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I don't understand how its a comfort test, and in the end, the OP even treats it like a shit test with his witty last words. It's a comfort test wrapped in a shit test. There is discussion somewhere about that, but I cannot find it right now. Archwinger is again demonstrating deft handling of this delicate situation. That, folks, is true mastery. If she is really comfort testing with this then she just wants to FEEL loved, not understand the complex love dynamics. What she wants is a simple stat…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/15 05:18 PM
2

Agitating before soothing, much like effective selling (problem-agitate-solution) Also known as push / pull. It is a very effective technique that has been a staple of the seduction community from the beginning.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/15 05:05 PM
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Relevant link to article. I encourage everyone to read it.
/r/TheRedPill03/03/15 11:55 AM
1

Other people know better than me, but I heard that Strong lifts 5x5 is not really a beginner program. Try looking into starting strength by Rippetoe.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/15 05:30 AM
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This sub is not about how to handle this particular situation or that particular situation. This sub is about opening your eyes to the world as it really is, and not as you were told it was. It's about you becoming a man. Once that happens, you will not need to ask how to handle a shitty ex wife, you will know how to do so. Give a man a fish and feed him for a day. Don't teach a man to fish...and feed yourself. He's a grown man. And fishing's not that hard. Ron Swanson
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/15 05:20 AM
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You don't get it. Go read Pook and come back later.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/15 04:59 AM
2

Actually watching his infield videos shows a lot on frame and inner game. I'm going though them now and I can sense something deeper in them then just the pickup itself. The way these women just fall into his frame is amazing. Also, the way he can create and control the frame is amazing as well. You get even more insight as to what he is doing if you watch the Pimp sample videos.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/15 10:00 PM
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It sounds like you are building up towards this. Chateau Heartiste also talks a bit about it here.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/15 05:14 PM
2

Assuming I knew about red pill? No.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/15 02:14 PM
1

I'm other words, must be feminine.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/15 01:27 PM
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TL;DR: Feminine Submission. She naturally wants to submit to a masculine man, a man who has a strong vision of where he wants to go and what he wants to do with his life. She wants to be a part of that, whether she realizes it or not. This is why you make the changes for yourself and no one else. For those following the Captain / First Officer model, she subconsciously is looking for a ship with a good captain who wants to go where he wants to go because he wants to go there, not because she wan…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/15 01:04 PM
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Once I was changing for me, had my own goals/dreams that were independent of her, was no longer a child. She is just a roommate now. A roommate and my baby's mama.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/15 12:46 PM
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We talk about dread. It's primary utility is to fool your woman's SMV radar. I disagree that it fools her radar. It is more indirect proof of SMV, not really fooling it. If other women want you...You must be a man to respect. That is it right there.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/15 11:55 AM
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Nice rack on her.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/15 11:11 AM
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If your religion is OK with the pill it's OK with plan B. Not true. Most BTC pills work by preventing ovulation, not implantation. Plan B can work either way. If you believe life begins at conception (which is what most people who object to plan b believe in), then do not get plan b.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/15 01:41 AM
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However, a month ago we were arguing and considering divorce... Now all the sudden a dog child is a good idea? FTFY.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/15 11:02 AM
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I know. I still wanted to drive the point home.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/15 01:46 AM
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How often is she questioning you? Frequently enough that it bugs the shit out of me. I suspect she does it for a myriad of reasons, including distrust, jealousy, and setting up for her martyr complex. Is this over text, on the phone, in person? All three. What happens if you simply ignore her questions? She keeps badgering me for an hour, then usually drops it with some snide remark that reeks of holier than thou moral superiority. What happens if you just give her a silly response ("I'm at the …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/15 11:16 PM
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Next time a chick mentions she has a boyfriend, ask her slyly, 'u want a man friend?'. It will come off douchy but whatever. No, don't do that. If you are going to do an approach, then do in right. Go for the digits then toss them later. Catch and release.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/15 11:03 PM
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Make sure you are not a complete dick and are there to take care of her emotions Don't be a dick, but her emotions are her responsibility.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/15 10:59 PM
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It still amazes me that ten years later Pook still has the answers. Only a few since then have come close.
/r/TheRedPill22/02/15 02:56 PM
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This article from Rollo Tomassi on Last Minute Resistance seems particularly relevant, especially given the other r/TRP linked comment above.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/15 12:38 PM
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I would only go as far as to introduce him to The Book of Pook and leave it at that. I would do so anonymously.
/r/TheRedPill22/02/15 12:12 PM
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Not sure. It is definitely plausible that she was setting up for a joke. I'm not going to chalk this up as a win.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/15 02:45 PM
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She tried to play it off like she had figured where I was and was just trying make a joke. (When I replied with, "getting a haircut" the she was going to answer with "get all of them cut...") I was hoping this would provoke a bigger shit test from her, but oh well. I'm still going to use it.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/15 11:22 PM
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Actually, the more I think about it, the more I am going to buy into this. She hasn't put out in awhile, so I think I am going to just reply to her with Flying Circus clips until she does.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/15 10:28 PM
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It probably doesn't help that we're both highly intelligent and similarly overeducated. She picks up on what I'm doing pretty quickly and inevitably takes a negative view of it rather than recognizing that I only wanted to fix our marriage and sex life. This has the makings of a power struggle, methinks.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/15 10:16 PM
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There is a lot of really good inner game that can be learned from those posts. All married men should read it. The posts are actually a quick read.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/15 10:08 PM
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It is downright scary how relevant 85% of this is to marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/15 09:23 PM
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Save your time and skip Manson. The Book of Pook is much better, more sincere, and free. Also, Pook never sold out to make money like Manson did.
/r/TheRedPill20/02/15 11:23 AM
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No shit. You are considered a star if you bat. 300, meaning you miss 2/3 of the time.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/15 07:53 PM
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Heartiste again, for the win.
/r/TheRedPill19/02/15 01:52 AM
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Another thing to note that I gleaned from the summary (so I do not know if it is more explicitly laid out in the book) is that these techniques are not so much about her, but are about you. Fogging is done so that you do not have to directly utter the word "no," and thereby trigger your own sympathetic nervous system response. The whole idea of the book is that your sympathetic nervous system is actually preventing you from saying no. These techniques allow you to withdraw from the fight without…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/15 12:12 AM
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Chicks don't want honesty, they want to be mastered. In fact, honesty seems to be the last thing they are interested in.
/r/TheRedPill18/02/15 11:20 PM
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The Book of Pook. Dread for the sake of scaring her just leads to negotiated desire. Dread is nothing more than showing her that your life is yours and yours alone, and many women want to be a part of it. She is welcome to follow you in it. The choice to do so is up to her.
/r/TheRedPill18/02/15 09:50 PM
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Dead is not making her jealous or scared of being nexted. Dread is nothing more than showing her that your life is a fun life that many women want to be a part of, and she is welcome to follow you in it. Her choice.
/r/TheRedPill18/02/15 09:46 PM
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Forget Manson, read Pook.
/r/TheRedPill18/02/15 09:44 PM
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It's all about testosterone.
/r/TheRedPill18/02/15 09:41 PM
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All of it goes back to playing the polarity between masculine dominance and feminine submission. David Deida actually laid it all out (soaked in new age bullshit) in The Way of the Superior Man back in 1997.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/15 09:27 PM
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Bitterness and Resentment are going to be the first big obstacles that the career beta will have to watch out for. I suspect that man career betas will wind up like Cypher, only there is no way they can get plugged back in. They will just become bitter and paralyzed, content to silently seething until they are finally freed by death or divorce. This mindset will hasten both. I am still struggling with this part myself. I have not seen much improvement at all, and I attribute this ultimately to l…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/15 09:07 PM
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No big surprise from me, but I think Pook should be moved up a bit hither on the list, at the same time as NMMNG. It is an easy read, and it sets the overall lens that everything should be seen through. It also does not get bogged down on technique. It is solid inner game. Which leads me to my next point. Inner Game is the most important thing for a career beta. Building completely from scratch requires inner game. The problem with that is good inner game is a long and hard struggle that present…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/15 08:47 PM
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I in no way mean to imply that. I agree 100% with you. Pregnancy sex is great. It was the most sex and the second best sex I have ever gotten in my relationship. Keep in mind, though, that all women are different in when it comes to pregnancy. Some will be insatiable, others will be barren. Women will even vary from one pregnancy to the next. However, it does lead to other more intense swings and shit tests that, to the uninitiated, are going to be unnerving at best. I want OP to be ready for th…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/15 04:49 PM
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This blog post, which we talked about here, pretty much confirmed something I have suspected, but could not put my finger on. Rereading his material through that lens made me realize that while his stuff works, it is coming from the wrong place. Ultimately that is going to be a problem. Your overall goal is solid inner game and a dominant frame that leads to your wife's submission to you. He does not believe that, and it shows through of you know to look for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/15 03:22 PM
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Woman, the most responsible teenager in the house. See also Arthur Schopenhauer's On Women, discussed here on TRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/15 02:24 PM
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Go to the dean first and tell him you are being blackmailed. Have her charged with code of conduct violation for blackmailing you. Beat her to the punch and use the system against her. This will muddy the waters and it becomes a less clear cut case at that point. Hard next the bitch, she ain't worth it. Date somewhere outside the school's code of conduct jurisdiction. Betches ain't worth getting kicked out of school.
/r/askTRP18/02/15 02:07 PM
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Pregnancy is the unknown. Hot and cold on a moment's notice. It's the only time in my life she woke me up for sex at 3am. Postpartum is the barren wasteland. Nursing, exhaustion, and the constant attachment of a newborn coupled with all the other issues lead to no sex at all. Pregnancy is unpredictable, postpartum is not.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/15 01:49 PM
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Roosh writes about it a lot, actually. Here are his criticisms of it. Given OP's situation, day game is still better. It's probably what I would do if I got back out there.
/r/TheRedPill18/02/15 04:29 AM
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Or just do day game exclusively. Roosh V. wrote a whole book about how to do it. It is well written, and makes it easy to set up for approaches anywhere you happen to be, grocery store, coffee shop, public transit, elevator, anywhere but the club scene.
/r/TheRedPill18/02/15 02:07 AM
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As for Athol Kay's advice, no one is right all the time, and all principles have their exceptions. My issues with Athol go deeper than that. I'm mulling over a post opening up a discussion about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/15 12:05 AM
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Athol Kay says not to initiate every night. But I am seriously starting to doubt his advice. I moving towards initiating sex when I want it regardless of the likely outcome or her state.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/15 11:49 PM
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Ninth, your wife is eventually going to have “the talk” with you, probably about at this point. Now is the time to be firm and direct, without being an asshole. Her: I don't like this person you have become. You: You don't have to... Boom! Relationship reset. Everything in Archwinger's post will be setting you up for this moment. This moment will happen, be ready for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/15 11:44 PM
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Just remember, she is pregnant. While this does not excuse her behavior, it will make things harder. Pregnancy is going to be the cause of a lot of dumb shit on her part.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/15 11:38 PM
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Once you get that going in the right direction, the next step is inner game, or why all of the above steps work. Your long term strategy is solid inner game, as it will carry you through the myriad of variations she will throw at you. This will carry you through the rest of your life. [Start with the Book of Pook.](https;//bookofpook.neocities.org)
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/15 11:35 PM
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"Print to PDF" is your friend.
/r/TheRedPill17/02/15 05:29 PM
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Run it through redditlog.com, and "print to pdf" from your browser. This gives you a universal file format that will (likely) still be readable in 20 years when you want to show your son. Redditlog.com gives you a clean version of the post and comments, which saves time and file size.
/r/TheRedPill17/02/15 05:27 PM
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I can't find the quote, but it goes something like, "man created civilization, and showed it to woman. Woman said, 'that's nice. What have you done for me lately?"
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/15 05:00 PM
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The Book of Pook helped me get through the anger phase. Women are who they are because they were made that way.
/r/askTRP17/02/15 12:43 PM
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http://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/2gekzj/elegant_use_of_married_dread_game_with/ I think it may have actually been a post on the Red Pill Room as well. Ian Ironwood posted it.
/r/askTRP17/02/15 12:25 PM
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It saves it to your account, which when you view the saved posts, generates a list.
/r/TheRedPill17/02/15 11:20 AM
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Sex God Method. It might just be in your other (bigger) head.
/r/askTRP17/02/15 03:37 AM
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My head says, after all the theory, to not give in to her and stay yourself Bingo. Always do what is in your best interest. She is attracted to you because you are yourself and not what she wants you to be. Trust the gut.
/r/askTRP17/02/15 03:28 AM
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What you witnessed there was true feminine submission. It is a beautiful thing that few men get to see. Enjoy it. Do not feel guilty about it. It is what she was created for.
/r/askTRP17/02/15 03:23 AM
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The Book of Pook. Then either Bang or Day Bang depending on your game preference. From there just read the books that cover what you are interested in.
/r/askTRP17/02/15 03:16 AM
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For TRP to work, the man has to want it. If he doesn't, you are just asking for trouble. Refer him to the Book of Pook and leave it at that. Of Pook resonates with him, then proceed further.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/15 11:13 PM
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> read up on oneitis. Forget oneitis. Read up on Borderline Personality Disorder. You dodged a whole magazine worth of bullets if that is the case.
/r/askTRP16/02/15 10:53 PM
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Relevant /u/Archwinger comment reply can be found here. Very insightful, a must read for all married men.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/15 07:36 PM
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she may not have concisously understood it, but her crap was geared towards helping that. All my wife had to do was up the IV drip sex to about twice a month, maybe three times a month, and not picked so many fights with me over dumb shit. Had she done that, I would have just drifted on and would never have Googled the phrase, "wife shit test." The rest is history.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/15 07:14 PM
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This is FAR more common in these parts than a former masculine, alpha badass who slipped a little bit over time after getting married, and sex tapered off somewhat. There are a lot of guys around here who have never had control of their lives, much less their marriages, and are starting from ground zero. They’re not just looking to freshen up their relationships with their wives. They’re looking to completely rewrite the rulebook of their marriage from scratch, while being opposed at every turn …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/15 06:18 PM
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This essay hit home as I discovered the Red Pill at about the same time my father was diagnosed with a terminal illness. On what was to be our last visit where he was still cognitively there, I told him about the Red Pill and how I was not going to make the same mistakes he made in his life. He seemed proud, and I like to think he died with a certain piece of mind from knowing that I would not be following in his footsteps when it came to women.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/15 04:23 PM
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Also, many that just found TRP come here excusing they don't need to lift because their SMV is good enough. BULLSHIT. This is them excusing their laziness. Remember, you are making these changes for yourself and no one else. You do not lose weight to get her more attracted to you, you lose weight because you want to be the best version of yourself for yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/15 02:16 AM
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Too often men are avoiding conflict. They will tailor their response and boundaries to avoid any sort of disagreement or conflict of any source. This is completely unacceptable. You must embrace the conflict. It is your birthright as a man to confront and do battle with whatever stands between you and your goal. She cannot win. She is the submissive sex. You must stand your ground and fight until she submits to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/15 09:58 PM
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The first time she invokes a "boundary test" (to use your motif from the original post) is not really a test, since she is just discovering the newly-established boundary. But after that initial crossing, she will try to test it again. That is when it becomes like a shit test. She could be doing it because she wants to fight for the territoryv back. She could also be doing it because she is mad about the change in the status quo, and is behaving like the bratty teenager she really is. She cold a…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/15 09:40 PM
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A train of thought that I had earlier this morning is the relationship between shit tests and boundaries. We all know what a standard shit test is, what it consists of, and why she does it. But one thing I recent noticed is very similar to a shit test, but does not fit the exact definition. After reading this post, I realized that what my wife does a lot of the time are not shit tests in the traditional sense of the word, but are more like boundary tests. An example: in my worse days (which are …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/15 06:37 PM
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Pook should come first because he sets the proper frame for all self improvement: you do it for yourself only and no one else. You desire to be the best man possible to create the best life possible. The problem with Athol Kay's approach is that he seeks self improvement in order to get her interested in you again. He thinks you should improve because you want her back, or you want more sex, or you want to scare her into compliance with your sexual demands. He tries to work within the woman's fr…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/15 05:55 PM
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Do you recognize sarcasm? NO! WHAT THE HELL IS SARCASM? GET OFF MY LAWN!
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/15 04:59 PM
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Take out Mindful Attraction Plan and replace it with The Book of Pook.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/15 12:26 PM
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Are you new here? Read the FAQ. Jesus...
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/15 11:34 PM
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I am still researching the emotional angle. I have been going through the old a.s.f archives, particularly MrSex4UNYC. He used to talk about owning a girl. Here is a cut and paste of his original post on the topic. This is what I am striving for. There is more material on this in The Sexual Key by J. Fuentes.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/15 12:12 PM
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I was actually envisioning a reframe of the relationship by telling her we are going out to get drinks and pretend that we just met. Then just run a standard approach and go into the routine as if I was hitting on her for the first time. I think success with this hinges on the correct setting. I almost want to say correct frame, but I do not think it that would be the correct use of the word.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/15 01:51 AM
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Sample The Rational Male first to see if it clicks first. His stuff is very "heady" and might be easier to absorb with some preliminary background first.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/15 01:48 AM
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Start with The Book of Pook. Think about it for a week, then come back and ask for more help.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/15 09:36 PM
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Setting boundaries happens because you allow yourself to set them. You have to truly believe that you have the right to set those boundaries. You have to set them because you want to set them. Set those boundaries because you have earned it.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/15 09:32 PM
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I told Ray (with a smile, to try to keep it light and to maintain frame) that he needs to stop touching my woman. That sounds like Mate Guarding to me. The guy is 70, do you think he'll really do something with your wife? If she doesn't like it, let her handle it herself or ask you for help.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/15 09:19 PM
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It's as simple as specifying the jurisdiction(s) that matter for the post. And reveal personal information that could be used to identify me? No thanks. hasn't stopped 'theredpill' and 'asktrp' from being 99.99% anecdotal No one should ever seek advice from anecdotal experiences with the law. Pussy is one thing, but your assets and freedom are much more valuable. You should be paying for good advice in those regards. If it flies, floats, fucks, or files a lawsuit for you, you should rent it.
/r/TheRedPill13/02/15 09:12 PM
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> Why the fuck don't we have /r/TRPLegal ? 50 States, DC, and Territories are all different. Posters would have to divulge their locations to get remotely relevant advice. Each case is highly fact specific. See above. Different attorneys will give different advice given what the client wants. You have no way to vet credentials and competency on an anonymous Internet forum. One example is a thread a while back where someone cited to what they saw in The Wolf of Wall Street as proof of how the Gra…
/r/TheRedPill13/02/15 03:51 AM
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Relevant comment on Chateau Heartiste. Roissy himself even chimes in.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/15 12:06 AM
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I agree with that. I would be very careful getting physical with you wife in anger. Ian Ironwood talks about showing aggression when appropriate here. Relevant portion is about halfway through, but I recommend reading the whole thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/15 09:08 PM
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Try to read Roosh's Day Bang before, if possible.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/15 03:09 AM
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Read The Book of Pook next.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/15 02:57 AM
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That's not really agree and amplify as you are giving her too much credit by saying she is turning you on. I would just say, "yes, yes I am," and start grabbing her playfully. When she throws up a hard no, then OI. Add The Book of Pook to your list. Read it now. Don't worry about SGM until after you are having regular sex. Don't bother with MAP.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/15 02:44 AM
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Welcome, friend.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/15 02:40 AM
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Let her pick a fight with me the day before. She decides to try the silent treatment again. I enjoy a nice quiet Valentines Day without having to worry about doing anything.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/15 02:38 AM
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> Funny. Internet tough guys always crack me up. Then why the fuck did you ask in the first place? Seriously, you came in here and asked a question, got an answer from a respected regular member who know his shit, and you then proceed to shit all over the place. You need to lurk more because you clearly don't get it. Your wife was not shit testing you. She was fucking you. Women don't shit test whilst enjoying a good pounding.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/15 11:30 PM
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Dread falls under 1. Improve yourself and 3. Be a man. 2. Understand her includes the explanation as to why it works.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/15 04:30 PM
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Relevant chapter from The Book of Pook.
/r/TheRedPill10/02/15 04:27 PM
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THE BOOK OF POOK!!!!! I actually thought of this while reading Pook.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/15 02:36 PM
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I was originally aiming to come up with a simple system to categorize the various tips, techniques, books, etc.. At the time I came up with this, I was reading a lot of stuff on emotions and women, and wanted to easily fit it in to the whole, "be a man," thing. I break it out a bit more than just, "be a man," because a man's interaction with a woman is a basic, fundamental aspect of humanity. At our core, our whole species revolves around the interaction between a man and a woman. It all goes ba…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/15 02:35 PM
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I have found that I can fit most everything I have read so far into one of these four categories. Start with step one and proceed on to the next step when you have a good grasp on the current step. You do not need to master one before you move onto the other, but I do think you need to be pretty far along before step 4 really has any effect.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/15 02:06 PM
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Let's discuss it further here.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/15 02:04 PM
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Run indirect day game instead.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/15 12:28 PM
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Exactly.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/15 12:03 PM
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Antithesis of Monk Mode, but I would go try to pull some women while you are out. It'll build up your confidence and allow you to get a better assessment of your SMV. Just toss the numbers before your wife gets back.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/15 11:32 AM
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Innocent aloofness I envisioned more deliberately benign indifference with a hint of Asshole. Nothing innocent about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/15 01:51 AM
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What you gonna do? How about you get out there and game some chicks. Women have made this into a big day with big expectations. Why not get out of your room and experiment, have fun, game some chicks, and see what happens. This is a chance to try something different. See if you can get a SNL in Valentines Day. Imagine the story that would be to tell. Anything is better than just whacking your pud in your goddamn dorm room.
/r/TheRedPill09/02/15 09:04 PM
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The Book of Pook. Stop what you are doing right now and read it. Before you read anything else, read it.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/15 08:21 PM
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Improve yourself. There is only one person that really matters, and that person deserves to be the best that you can possibly be. Understand her. Understand her nature. Understand why she does what she does. Understand what she is attracted to. Understanding why she does what she does gets you past the anger. Once you know the rules of the system, then you can start to game it. Be a Man. A man is confident. A man is dominant. A man's prerogative is to master the world and bend it to his will. A …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/15 06:36 PM
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you could have used her non-compliance as an excuse to spank her ass while you were doing her. After the shit she was giving him over cold hands, I guarantee spanking her would have completely backfired.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/15 06:21 PM
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You need to build attraction. She needs to be attracted to you on a basic level, which is not accomplished with a dinner date and some playful flirting. I am talking about building the attraction again from the ground up, and that takes a long time and a lot of work. You want to get her back to the time when you two first met and she would fuck you anywhere, anytime, without reservation. How do you get back there? That is the whole point of this sub...
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/15 05:53 PM
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Sure enough, it didn't, so I put everything away and went to get ready for bed while pretty much ignoring her. [cut] I got in bed, and shortly after she came in. We normally shut the door to our room, but she didn't, so I said "you forgot to close the door." [cut] she said my hands are cold and was resisting like crazy. ... but she kept pushing me off of her and saying that my hands were too cold and that I have to warm them up. ...but then she kept resisting and complaining about my hands. She …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/15 05:45 PM
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"Bitterness is like cancer. It eats upon the host. But anger is like fire. It burns it all clean." - Maya Angelou
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/15 02:56 PM
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Forget the whole pussy pass aspect; Who the hell thought they would have a night out on the Vegas strip and not drop several thousand on drinks? The only way to recover from this is for all the groomsman to raw dog all the bridesmaids and finish on their faces, then post the pics.
/r/TheRedPill09/02/15 01:55 PM
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at the beginning, I worried so much about the details of the exact words I said, really trying to take apart what she said. I did this too. The fatal error in this is the assumption that the she is capable of rational thought and logical consistency. Once you realize that she is not capable of either on any significant level, especially when it comes to relationships, then you realize the details of exactly what she says are irrelevant.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/15 12:44 PM
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First, don't post here with your main account, especially if you are going to post real screen caps with your kids names in them. Get an alt account that is strictly for posting here. Second, we need more detail. Delete this post, come back with an alt account, and post more details about your marriage. Do not post actual screen caps next time. This is your marriage you are trying to save, you can take a few seconds to type it out.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/15 12:12 PM
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" why are you acting so cold/distant lately" "Huh? Hadn't noticed.. "
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/15 12:05 PM
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> If you have a son, you might want to check out the Boy Scouts when he is that age. Think long and hard before you do that. BSA has gone way downhill, and has strayed far from its roots. I will not allow my children to join scouts.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/15 01:14 PM
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The Book of Pook should be first on any 18 year old's reading list.
/r/TheRedPill08/02/15 12:05 PM
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> Every married man should plan and execute an exit strategy immediately. FTFY. Most men should try to save it first. Mine is called Valkyrie. Six hours after activation and I am on my way to Valhalla.
/r/TheRedPill07/02/15 10:49 PM
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Some of us are late to the party and trying to salvage what we can.
/r/TheRedPill07/02/15 09:15 PM
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Read the original history. Those were all things she did before he changed. She doesn't do it since he took control. Read the complete original history, not the blog post linked above. There is way more to the story.
/r/TheRedPill07/02/15 08:47 PM
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and he thinks that he has all this shit worked out. Ah, but he does. He gets nightly hot, dirty, dominant sex from his wife. His family runs the way he wants it to. His wife and kids look up to him and respect him. This was just one incident amidst a pretty awesome life he created for himself. Read his history.
/r/TheRedPill07/02/15 08:19 PM
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Ah yes, Dave Bowman over at the MMSL forums. One of the best posters there. Sadly, he never returned after Athol Kay gave him a three day ban. His departure was one of the signs the forums were going downhill. I recommend everyone read his entire post history. This particular one is a good place to start.
/r/TheRedPill07/02/15 08:11 PM
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Relationship started with unequal power balance in your favor. She finishes med school, and and the power balance shifts away from you because her earning potential went through the roof after she graduated. You do not like the shift in the balance of power, and that is understandable. Relationships based on equalism do not work. Unequal earning capacity is one of the main ways that power is managed in a relationship. The problem here is that you knew this was a possibility, yet you chose to mar…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/15 07:41 PM
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Average Married Dad has several blog posts with analysis and recommendations on couples porn.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/15 04:18 PM
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I disagree. I see a first officer who was given a solution to a problem that involved the entire family (and indirectly impacted the financial viability of said family), unilaterally made a bigger mess for herself, then got mad when she was put in her place and decided to shit test. He is in the right on this one. She should be left to hang until she sees the light.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/15 02:00 PM
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Ah, the silent treatment. "Okay babe, you mean to tell me that after all the bitching you have done to me about my decision, my punishment is now that you will no longer bitch about it to me?" I love it when my wife, who will Not. Shut. Up. about the dumbest most mundane bullshit in the world, tries the silent treatment. She who needs constant validation. She who needs to talk about the dumbest shit in the world. She who needs to think out loud and constantly seeks my input. She who has no other…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/15 01:37 PM
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Abundance yes, but more about asking yourself the question, "why do I have to do all the stuff to get her interested?" Paradigm shift.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/15 12:08 PM
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> This is where you say: "We both know this isn't about the leftovers... Too much talking and explaining yourself with that logic stuff women are repulsed by. When she screams at you about the kitchen not being a restaurant, you reply with, "so that is why the reviews suck..." Never use a shit test to launch into an argument or explain yourself to her. It's a shit test, not an invitation for discussion.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/15 05:35 AM
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you are serious about the nuclear option - not threatening, just that it may be better than things are now - things will actually get better. And therein lies the paradox. You have to truly believe yourself that you will be happy no matter what happens. You must not fear losing her or the marriage. You must believe that you yourself are the sole source of your happiness. Until you truly no longer fear any outcome, you will not succeed. "It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/15 05:21 AM
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I agree with you about using, "sorry," to express sympathy. I always thought it sounded soft, and never understood how it got to be used in that context. I have only ever heard women use it primarily. When people say it to me, I usually respond with, "why are you sorry? It wasn't your fault..."
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/15 04:32 PM
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Well said, well executed. I am impressed.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/15 01:53 PM
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Why does this piss me off so much? Hard to tell because OP did not give enough information. Was she kidding, or was she serious? She wound up fucking him anyway, so I am not sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/15 02:59 AM
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My response was along the lines of, "When I want to have sex, I'm going to have sex" with a stone serious voice, was trying to go for some implied dread. Then not long after I told her, "I will pick you up, throw you over my shoulder, throw you on the bed, and do whatever I please." That sounds a little too, "I'll just take my ball and go home..." Don't talk so much. Don't reward her bad behavior with attention. Don't show her that it bothers you. Just get up and walk away (and preferably wind u…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/15 02:44 AM
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She slapped me, though we finished the session with mind blowing orgasms. Then she informed me, "you failed the test, and I wont have sex with you for a week." " I guess you won't be a part of the threesome then... " and walk out the door.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/15 02:41 AM
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"Swallowing while deployed" Heads up, the title is not what you think it is...
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/15 05:45 PM
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However, there is a downside. I can rarely last long enough to give her a hard pounding orgasm if it has been at little as 48 hours because it is going to be all over in 5 minutes or so. Have you tried just keeping on fucking? I have found a that I have can keep a mostly hard erection for awhile if I just keep going nonstop. Once I slow down or stop, I'll lose it. The wife doesn't even notice when I cum unless I make a big show of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/15 02:10 PM
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You have a long way to go. The weekend is no indicator at all of your long term situation. You need to have one of these before you see what real progress is.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/15 03:30 AM
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The balance between being young enough to still give a shit about the rest of your life, old enough to have the wisdom to know that you are the only one who can fix it, and the sobering reality of everything that is riding on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/15 03:22 AM
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Really, he fucking deleted it? I wrote one of my best replies ever, where I spill my heart out, and it gets lost because he fucking deleted the post?!?!
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/15 03:06 AM
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My own life starts soon Your own life starts this very instant or it never starts at all.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/15 02:29 AM
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I leave to boot camp in 3 months. Living by myself would not be a smart move and a waste of the money I make. Bullshit. You have a three month window to get out on your own, experience life, travel, do whatever and be free before you start a minimum four year commitment to an organization where you will have none of that. I say again: bullshit.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/15 02:13 AM
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Remember, you have a life vest called manhood. She's got nothing compared to that. That right there is pure gold.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/15 02:04 AM
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Im 18 years old [cut lots of hamster bullshit] who do I move in with? From The Book of Pook, chapter nine: The first young man is facing TOWARDS infancy. The second young man is facing AWAY from infancy. The first one wishes to climb back into the womb; the second one wants to fly from it. The first wishes a cushioned place in the world while the second one leaves the cushions behind. The first one is ordinary; the second one is extraordinary. Thus, the second one becomes the Great Catch while t…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/15 02:00 AM
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Push back her dominance harder. There can only be one dominant sex, and it isn't hers. Somebody will submit eventually, you need to make sure it is [not] you. [Credit /u/bp_captain for the crucial edit.]
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/15 01:49 AM
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I speculate it is called that because it is something other than "nice guy" beta game, and the Feminine Imperative wants it disparaged so as to keep the nice guys in line.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/15 06:07 PM
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Any thoughts on the path I should take to get there when the "I miss the old you" gets tossed at me? "I don't... "
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/15 09:16 PM
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"just do what you want." "Don't worry, I am... " And just walk away. My wife would be passive aggressive and say similar things. Once I just ignored her or responded with" don't worry, I will... "she quit saying it. This article will set your head straight about feeling guilty in this situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/15 03:26 PM
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Or, maybe you did not say what you thought you said in her language, and she was making sure you knew what you were actually saying. The change in mood could be completely coincidental. Post hoc ergo proper hoc.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/15 03:51 AM
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I agree about NMMNG. I put off reading it in the beginning when I first stumbled into the red pill, but it did not really click until I read it (in one night) and realized that I was sabotaging myself. Without that, I would be completely dead in the water. Not everyone here needs it, but if you do need it, then you really need it. I'll give Athol his due, he opened my eyes and made me realize that the way I had always been told to do it was wrong. I quickly outgrew him, though.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/15 03:10 AM
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LA Confidential. Although the term may have existed before the book, and is a general name given to a generic criminal who gets away.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/15 03:03 AM
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The Book of Pook dovetails nicely with Rollo's stuff. I actually recommend reading it before you try to tackle The Rational Male. Rollo's stuff is really "heady" and hard to digest at times.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/15 03:02 AM
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Pook for the win , again! “I see…” said the startled young man. “The second one is always getting better. The first one is always staying the same if not getting worse.” “Exactly! It is the difference between ROTTING and RIPENING. Be the good fruit! Be the PRIZE to be won!”
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/15 11:39 AM
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I do see it as a covert contract. You are not doing something good for her in the hopes that she will reciprocate. You are just processing your feelings the way any normal man would do.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/15 12:15 AM
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Today she sent me an e-mail asking... That is a big sign there. The medium is the message. She chose to email you rather then talk to you directly. She knows she let you down, and wants to communicate in a way that gives her time to hamster before she replies. Ignore the email. Act disappointed in her the way you would act when disappointed by a teenage girl. Let it fade away on its own. She knows she let you down.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/15 12:11 AM
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Tell her I'm disappointed in her behavior this weekend and try to work some things out. Of course, this goes into dangerous territory because I run the risk of appearing butthurt. Not sold on that one. Engaging her in a discussion about how her behavior made you feel is just engaging her on emotional grounds, which is her behavior. You are also going to give her a chance to exercise the hamster, and really, who has the energy to engage that shit. The best time to address the behavior was immedia…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/15 12:07 AM
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He really had a great take on it. I had read the originals Roissy post early on and wanted more. It was so tantalizingly bereft of details. I scoured the comments in the entire heartiste.wordpress.com domain,but found little. I then finally found "Hawaii Libertarian, " realized it was Dave in Hawaii, and dove in. I was thrilled to have found the rest of the story.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/15 11:52 PM
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I have more. I have about 2/3 more direct links to his stuff that is on topic. I will edit the OP when I get a chance. Check back in 24 hours.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/15 11:48 PM
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Soaps are more about making her feel many different and varied emotions, which is why soaps have very little logical consistency from scene to scene. She watches the soaps to experience the emotional shifts, which gives her as much excitement as a man gets watching a well designed and executed play on the field.
/r/TheRedPill28/01/15 09:20 PM
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It was this NPR story.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/15 03:21 AM
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Dominance : My wife resists being heavily dominated. I will try to put her into positions I like and she will resist physically. If I overpower her she will resist vocally and beg "no I don't want it like that please" Exactly the issue I run into when I try this with my wife. I can sense when she is in it versus when she is just riding it out until I finish. When I sense she is not in it, I don't even bother with SGM anymore because I know she'll resist it. When that happens I just tell myself "…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/15 09:59 PM
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You have the opportunity to fuck your way with many different women out of the depression and back to happiness. I envy you, sir.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/15 08:11 PM
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Saying it is the easy part. Actually doing something about it is the hard part. Follow through is always where I fall down.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/15 07:57 PM
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A field report on how to get a blowjob before she does the shit test... [Sorry, couldn't resist.]
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/15 07:45 PM
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I will (again) quit jerking off to porn. I will initiate sex when I want it, regardless of the fact that I know she will reject it. (Corollary to above) I do want sex every night. The fact that I know she will reject it is not a reason to not have sex. I will lay the groundwork earlier in the day for sex. I will not give myself the excuse to not initiate just because I did not stoke the fire earlier.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/15 07:38 PM
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Ten years later and Pook still has the answers, for everything. Wow.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/15 06:58 PM
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This is another really good article for frame. I had completely forgotten it until now. You need to read this one right now. Stop what you are doing and read it right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/15 06:25 PM
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I agree. I had completely forgotten about the article until that random synapse in my brain fired. Also, the refresher could not have come at a better time for me personally.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/15 06:22 PM
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Ask youself, "What is the worse thing that can happen?". Always ask yourself, what is the worse thing that could happen if I defied her.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/15 06:18 PM
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Just remember, this is for guys who are already getting sex. This enhances your already-existing sex life, it does not create it. If all you are getting is IV drip / ovulation sex once a month, then simply having your way with her when you want will not work. She needs to be attracted to you already.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/15 04:34 PM
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I will take the time to do things for myself, despite the fact that it will leave her alone with the kids. I will not feel guilty about doing this. Quite frankly, because I have earned it.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/15 03:34 PM
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I like this way of phrasing it. Thanks to your post, I realized I am doing the same thing, hence the bullet point.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/15 03:26 PM
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Some of you newer guys might not want to use those exact negs that /u/BluepillProfessor cited above. You are going to want to build up to that level. Start with something a bit softer like, "Oh, nice dress! I saw a girl on the street wearing one just like it!" (When she uses some hamster logic) "That's funny! I heard (young child's name) say the exact same thing..." (Credit to /u/jessalon who gave me the idea in this comment.)
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/15 03:21 PM
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I want to start using it in my own marriage first to get a feel for it. The problem with it is so much if it is geared towards the initial seduction of a woman who knows very little of you. Implementing this in a marriage where she knows you in and out is going to be a huge shock. The problem I am running into when I use it is her looking at me with a confused look saying, "why are you talking like that?" Huge frame break.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/15 03:14 PM
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There is a place for all of this. It fits in somewhere in the whole scheme of things. It's still about you, self improvement, being a man, and maintaining frame. But being able to trigger emotions in a woman is a demonstration of dominance. The negs keep her in line, but the more emotional stuff keeps her attracted to you. Two things to solve next: How to get her to actually feel the emotions when I bring it up rather than get a puzzled, "why are you talking like that?" Initial thoughts are to d…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/15 03:12 PM
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Ask youself, "What is the worse thing that can happen?". Sounds a lot like The Stoic Trick that /u/strategos_autokrator talked about. Just reframe it. What is the worse that could happen? She leaves you, you get back out in the game, and wind up banging girls in a stairwell. Read the field reports in /r/theredpill and tell yourself, "If she leaves, that will be me..."
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/15 03:03 PM
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However, I've noticed I'm internalizing it more, and many things that were scary before, now I manage well without any fear. He is the one.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/15 02:58 PM
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Sometimes I am afraid of my wife. I'm afraid that by setting up boundaries I'm rocking the boat, and this changes the dynamics, and I don't know how she will react to that. The old beta ways are familiar, and it is scary to decide not to go back there. I will not fear my own feelings and emotions about whether I am doing the right thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/15 02:49 PM
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