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OFF TOPICthatbadlarry/r/RedPillWomen24/02/19 12:01 AM
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Outliers aren’t the rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/19 07:02 PM
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I absolutely do.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/19 04:34 PM
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I don’t know what world you live in. I’ve never ever ever been constantly propositioned for sex ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/19 04:12 PM
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Love the edit lol!
/r/RedPillWives24/08/19 03:40 PM
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Not every woman has an extensive past. I have a count of two in my late 30’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/19 02:16 PM
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I absolutely can but I have an N count of two.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/19 09:03 PM
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To be honest she’s kind of not. My stepmom is the same. My grandma was the same. There are many many millions of women just like your Mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/19 04:08 PM
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Ugh I’m so sorry. Hearing that probably felt as bad as actually being slapped. Red pill does NOT advocate abuse. Good captains/leaders/husbands do not hit or threaten to hit their wives. I can understand his frustration with you going over budget but that’s not an excuse. I can see why you feel creeped out and don’t want him to touch you. The fact that he feels parenting his own child emasculates him tells me he’s a deeply insecure man hiding behind religion and RP ideology. If I were in your po…
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/19 02:56 AM
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I won’t really get into the relationship aspect because your depression is what stood out the most to me. I know “go get some exercise” sounds like a brush-off but your husband is right. Exercise is the best and most under-utilized anti depressant. I have finally gotten a 20 year treatment resistant clinical depression under control through exercise (and an herbal regimen). You need to take care of yourself the way you would care for a child. What do children need? Sunshine, healthy food, outdoo…
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/19 02:36 AM
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Mama’s boy and coddling, nosy codependent MIL alert. They don’t sound like they have a healthy relationship whatsoever. She doesn’t respect boundaries and he doesn’t have any. This would really bother me too. It’s insane to cry cause your 30 year old son doesn’t you to clean his house Could you and she have a heart to heart? If I found out my meddling was causing issues in my sons relationship I would be backing off. I think you need to talk to her about this lady to lady.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/19 07:40 PM
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It’s bizarre. Seems like a really codependent and unhealthy mother-son relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/19 06:59 PM
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Source?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/19 02:24 PM
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I bet it did!! Good for you, girl.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/19 06:04 PM
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This is fantastic! I think your statement is so funny and charming. This is a hard one to talk about without sounding like a prude but you handled it like a champ.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/19 05:25 PM
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So so well said.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/19 02:41 PM
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Why are you even entertaining this? Don’t be naive. “He gives me tingles...but I won’t sleep with him!” This is red pill, time for some painful self reflection. If given enough opportunity - you will sleep with him and you will justify to yourself why you did it. You will hate yourself for sleeping with him and hurting his wife and children. It will eat away at your soul from the inside out. You will hurt your career and possibly nuke your social reputation. And when it ends badly with him (and …
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/19 02:37 PM
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Plays by the rules...just not when it comes to keeping promises and not breaking hearts? Come now. Don’t let your feelings for him cloud your discernment and judgement.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/19 10:35 PM
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They do it all the time. Here’s the thing. People who cheat almost always lie about to other people to make themselves look better. His ex wife might have been putting out every night! But he would never tell you that because then the sad man victim narrative would crumble. They lie and spin half truths to make themselves look less despicable. He cheated and lied their whole marriage. He has a greasy casual attitude about truth and integrity and his past behaviour shows it. Don’t listen to his w…
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/19 10:26 PM
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Why not just break up then? He’s a high status guy, he would find someone else. He didn’t do that though, just continued to enjoy all the benefits while her mental health spiralled. That’s not a healthy dynamic at all. Sometimes things really are simple.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/19 06:01 PM
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Her mental health spiralled BECAUSE he was lying and cheating. Her mental health problems didn’t make him act like that. They were a direct result of her anguish and stress at his behaviour. And I do understand relationships - they are transactional whether we like it or not. She’s getting a raw deal. He gets everything and she’s getting lies and disrespect. How is staying in that better than leaving? You’re blaming her and saying she doesn’t deserve him is absolutely wrong.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/19 05:40 PM
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You can’t. Once that trust and respect is gone, it’s almost impossible to get back. The way he has behaved it’s a wonder he even had your trust and respect in the first place. Set higher character standards for the men in your life. A handsome face, money and status mean nothing if he behaves like garbage.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/19 02:59 PM
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Are you kidding me?? She cooks, cleans and lets him fuck around while she stays loyal and she’s the one who doesn’t deserve him?? Absolutely retarded. You have lost the plot if this is your response.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/19 02:57 PM
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I couldn’t agree more! I wish that more emphasis had been placed on character vetting and how to do that - rather than “purity”.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/19 08:59 PM
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Excellent advice! Not the OP but I will be taking this to heart.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/19 07:00 PM
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I was told that being a virgin would make me so valuable and that my husband would love and cherish me for that fact. I was young and naive and believed that. It was a very rude awakening.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/19 05:22 PM
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You’re right! Posture is crucial!
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/19 02:49 PM
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I regret saving myself for my husband who cheated on me the entire marriage. Flip side of the coin.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/19 02:40 PM
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I’m older than you, my friend. I remember really struggling with the concept of aging in my late 20’s and early 30’s. Hitting 35 made it easier somehow. I’m 37 now and hardly ever think about my age or post wall status. I know this is...incredibly dark. But I see aging very differently these days. I lost my best friend to cancer at 29. Now I realize what a privilege it is that my body continues to exist. Aging means not dying in my prime of an illness or accident. That makes me incredibly fortun…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/19 08:31 PM
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Normal but also a potential sign of being dehydrated. Try drinking more water, it really helps me. If that doesn’t help try using lube. No shame if you need lube! It’s nothing to be embarrassed about.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/19 06:22 PM
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There is a concept from MRP that I love and it’s basically that you need to cultivate an attitude of abundance. Your crush is far from the last decent guy and cultivating the attitude of abundance will help you realize that and keep you on an even keel. You also need confidence cause the attitude of lack stems from insecurity and lack of confidence. The best way to build your confidence in a genuine way is to set self improvement goals and then work hard to reach them. Nothing helps you build tr…
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/19 03:35 PM
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It’s not a rule but an idea I see and it grinds my gears. The idea that the woman should submit to her husband even if he’s wrong and then STFU about it. There’s an example from one of the recommended books (I’m sorry I can’t remember which one) where the author’s husband bought a sports car she knew they couldn’t afford. She gave her blessing but a few months later they didn’t even have money to pay the utilities or buy lightbulbs. This, to me, is the definition of an absolute doormat FOOL. My …
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/19 03:28 PM
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The way I see it you are chasing this man and leading the relationship. You come to his house and spend your gas doing it so you can pick things up from across the room cause he’s too lazy. He tells you he doesn’t care if you stay or not. You’re not even committed to each other. I hate to say this but it sounds like he has a great, convenient placeholder that will drop her life to come see him and pick up after him. He gets convenience, sex and a maid. What do you get? You get nothing at all. Yo…
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/19 02:44 PM
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Not true at all. There’s nothing hotter than a strong man being a tender and loving father.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/19 02:52 PM
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He’s lying. He’s upset that girls are sending him nudes? Bullshit. No one is sending him nudes and if they are it’s because he asked. He’s just saying whatever he can think of to get you. He’s thirsty and desperate and his actions and words don’t line up.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 04:59 PM
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You’re absolutely right. That’s not normal behaviour for CC men at all. He’s just telling OP what she wants to hear.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 02:51 PM
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Absolutely not. Stating that he wants to marry you by the third chat is an absolute flaming see-it-from-space red flag. This is love bombing and it’s a manipulation technique. Now he’s furious with you because you don’t feel comfortable getting sexual until you meet in person? Yikes on bikes, girl. This is so so bad and only the beginning. He’s not mentally stable. No mentally stable man behaves this way. And no man of quality behaves this way. You can’t block and delete this guy fast enough in …
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 02:35 PM
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I’ve heard a lot of men will literally right-swipe EVERYONE. They are playing a numbers game. That said I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being the first one to say hello or send a message. Men aren’t the best at breaking the ice and now most are afraid to.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/19 11:16 PM
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Sounds like you have a very solid grasp. While time is moving quickly - I still agree that nun mode is a necessity for your mental and emotional health and for your kids. Best of luck OP
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/19 01:28 AM
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This is beyond rude and condescending.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/19 01:24 AM
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I want to hug you so hard right now. I’m so sorry for your loss and trauma. Your feelings are valid and you’re not being selfish. I wish you peace in the coming days and months.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/19 01:19 AM
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I think a lot of people struggle with clinginess especially when they are young and lack confidence. Doesn’t mean they have a personality disorder.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/19 04:58 PM
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You’re right - but getting an education first to fall back on is very, very prudent. Even just a two year associate’s degree is a good place to start.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/19 11:58 PM
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Yes inappropriate. Send it to your husband or girlfriends (if you have a good girl group).
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/19 11:49 PM
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I’ve never done it but I have a lot of friends who have and it caused problems in their lives for sure. Attention and validation causes a dopamine spike and it’s easy to get hooked on the thrill. One of my friends kind of became a huge attention whore and it made her obnoxious. Men in our friend group said they enjoyed looking at her but would never consider her to GF material. The attention-thirst is a huge turnoff for men, despite all the likes and surface validation. Instathots are a dime a d…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/19 08:51 PM
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Honestly, that kind of attention feels thrilling in the moment but overall is pretty cheap. Men’s attention isn’t hard to get, but the love and trust of a good man sure is and nothing in the world feels better. It’s natural to seek validation but when I stopped doing that I was so much happier overall. A saying I tell myself frequently is “validation is for parking tickets”. You are not a parking ticket. You’re a human being whose worth is so far beyond likes from thirsty men on Instagram.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/19 08:28 PM
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Competition is everywhere and I’m very aware of that. I don’t want it in my living room. My father and grandfather were faithful and strong husbands. They were never weak or lazy, ever. If only having one lady makes you weak and lazy, that’s on you.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/19 10:36 PM
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Over at the age of 40? Not in the least! That’s when a lot of women just get rolling. Women don’t just suddenly dry up like old husks the minute they aren’t in their thirties. In fact many 65+ woman have happy and healthy sexy lives.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/19 10:26 PM
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Never in a million years. I’m a one-man woman and want a one-woman man. Being at home all day with other women waiting for a man to come home so I can compete for his attention is a solid no from me. That sounds like misery. There is absolutely no motivation for me to be in a “marriage” like that.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/19 10:23 PM
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Is this a troll post?
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/19 09:59 PM
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Saving your comment. Not OP but thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/19 05:32 PM
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Also - it makes perfect sense for partners who both work full time to share domestic duties. Your feelings about that are valid and make sense. RPW doesn’t mean slave or doormat.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/19 11:30 PM
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I’m definitely a mixed bag (much more centrist politically and I do believe some feminist points have merit) but I find RP to be very helpful personally. RP helps me understand the “why” behind men’s behaviours and preferences. Men like smooth skin on women because body hair signifies male sex hormones more than female sex hormones. It’s more biological than we give credit for. Once you realize the “why” - RP makes more sense. For example - men have a deep deep fear of raising a child that isn’t…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/19 11:21 PM
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Bike ride somewhere and a picnic
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/19 07:15 PM
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I’ve never been to one but I assume so!
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/19 01:06 AM
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A more formal lunch event
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/19 09:26 PM
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List it. That “I need you” bit is yikes. He barely knows you. Doesn’t sound mentally stable or emotionally healthy.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/19 05:38 PM
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Me too! Gives me a sparkle in my eye and flush in my cheeks nothing else can replicate.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/19 01:05 AM
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Comment saved. Awesome - thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/19 10:56 PM
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This is a great post. Thank you for addressing this and explaining it so well!
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/19 07:54 PM
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Exactly. It’s a ridiculous straw man argument.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/19 07:15 PM
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It’s not reflexive at all. I read all the context. Staying in an unhealthy relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship is bad for people.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/19 12:43 AM
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How am I not?
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/19 12:42 AM
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That’s what she said in another comment so I’m giving you context. But hey personal insults! That’s cool too.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/19 12:08 AM
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The dude has weird kinks she isn’t comfortable with and he insists on doing it raw. No one is obligated to do something they find disturbing, disgusting or unsafe. No one.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/19 08:30 PM
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Oh honey you need to go. Now. End it. Even if you never date again - isn’t that Better then feeling like you have to do things in bed you aren’t comfortable with? No relationship is better than an unhappy one I promise you.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/19 08:28 PM
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Good insight
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/19 08:21 PM
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I understand you’re feeling like it’s not worth the fight. I’m sickened that you’re in this position. Y’all need some employees rights. Withholding severance because you challenge the legality of your termination - disgusting. That would so not fly in my country. Sounds like a bad place to work and I’m so sorry you’re in this position.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/19 06:38 PM
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Oh that’s too bad! I can understand that. My tolerance for bodily grossness is high, I can see others absolutely loathing some aspects of cloth.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/19 02:05 PM
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I agree! It does seem pretentious to me. And like a conversation killer.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/19 01:45 PM
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Cloth can be super cheap!! My entire cloth stash was less than $100. That’s three boxes of disposable diapers. Of course you can spend far more than that. But you can also spend far less. We had the semi-fancy all-in-twos and inserts but flat cloth dipes can be bought for pennies.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/19 01:34 PM
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Look into your legal options right now! In my country that would be so illegal. Firing a pregnant woman so you don’t have to pay mat leave is beyond greasy and many countries have laws that protect you from that so it’s absolutely worth looking into. I think your husband crying is actually a really good sign. He takes his responsibility seriously and trusts you enough to be vulnerable. I think reminding him of other times he’s made it through would be helpful. Telling him “we are a team and we a…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/19 01:07 PM
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Hard, HARD next. Ok so I’m a bigger lady too so this isn’t fat hate. But the dude mentioned your figure and how he likes ‘em thin - double standards galore. This is the kind of man who will eat himself into a heart attack by his fifties yet give you the stink eye for eating a piece of cake at your own birthday party. I know men like this and they are terrible. Talking about enjoying sex and orgasms is so ridiculous. Everyone enjoys orgasms! Water is wet! He has no couth or situational awareness …
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/19 12:56 PM
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I’m surprised to hear that! Usually when I see people reading in a place like that it comes off as “don’t interrupt me.”
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/19 12:47 PM
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I’m all about using (only) the stuff that makes the most impact. For me that’s BB cream, mascara, brows, a touch of cream blush and tinted lip balm. My makeup can be applied in five minutes flat. I don’t have time for a full-face routine with contour and 3 shades of eyeshadow and I’m assuming you don’t either. But just these products in the right colours can freshen you right up. Oh! And dry shampoo is every mom-of-two-small-children’s best friend.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/19 10:35 PM
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You explained this so so well. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/19 06:42 AM
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Ding ding ding. This just screams triggered cheater whataboutism. It’s so transparent I have secondhand embarrassment for the OP. Just looking for justification and excuses.
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/19 01:55 AM
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Ahhh a triggered cheater. Do you know how ridiculous you sound? And how selfish? “But muh unmet neeeeeds”. Just stop. Many women do their best to meet their man’s needs and put out far more than they actually want in order to satisfy their husbands. Husband still chases strange. It’s a tale as old as time. “The man hurts when he cheats too.” Please fucking spare me that sob story. Delusional and selfish to the enth degree. 🙄
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/19 01:09 AM
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I’m not saying this in a glib or flippant way so please take this with the care and respect that I mean it in - it sounds like getting some therapy would be helpful for you. It’s not really fair to “punish” everyone with the mistakes of others in your past. I’ve gone through this stage too and I know it’s hard to get through. Therapy really helped me to approach new people with a “blank slate” mentality instead of judging them based on my past hurts. It might really help you too. It’s hard to re…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/19 11:36 PM
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No. A guy walking to your car and helping you select a watermelon is not cheating. Talking about your hopes and fears late at night via text while your husband sleeps next to you might be. Yes emotional cheating is as damaging as physical.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/19 11:30 PM
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That and he is putting his wife at risk of STI’s without her knowledge or consent. Yes, that’s harm. Absolutely.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/19 11:27 PM
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Can you expand on cheating being a symptom of much deeper issues? What issues? I’m married to a serial cheater and really want to understand more.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/19 04:42 PM
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I agree. Apologist bullshit. There’s no excuse for either gender to cheat. None. If you’re not happy - leave.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/19 04:40 PM
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Ouch. This comment isn’t a kind one.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/19 03:39 AM
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Only you can say if it’s good or bad. We don’t know your finances or your life. Sounds like you’ve already decided what you want to do. Now be bold and own it! 💪
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/19 01:09 AM
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Thank you, that makes perfect sense. Good advice!
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/19 09:52 PM
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I’m really glad you’re out and safe now. I hope your heart, mind, soul and body heal from this. Hugs
/r/RedPillWives03/07/19 08:13 PM
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I think this is terrible advice. It is not to a woman’s benefit whatsoever to give it all up to a man so easily. That’s how your N count gets high and your heart gets broken and jaded. While this might get a man’s short term attention it won’t get his respect or his love.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/19 01:47 PM
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Ok I used the wrong term.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/19 03:52 AM
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The video doesn’t super-apply to married women but I really like it anyway. Feel free to disregard if this advice doesn’t work for you.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/19 01:13 AM
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Im sure men’s RP has stuff in the sidebar but I haven’t been there since the quarantine so I can’t really find it for you. Self-possessed would be another descriptive term. I really like this podcast that talks about being self possessed https://frenchkisslife.com/self-possessed-woman/ And this YouTube on the power of being unbothered https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=_hcJ9vxn2yY Hope this helps!
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/19 01:07 AM
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Can you explain? This went right over my head. If he sends 3 messages you shouldn’t fuck? Or if you do?
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/19 11:01 PM
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You’re right. We women are so good at lying to ourselves and excusing men’s behaviour and it’s not to our benefit at all.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/19 08:41 PM
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I think giving him the silent treatment and sleeping on the couch isn’t going to help. You’re just setting yourself up to look insecure and petty (I don’t think you are). Acting visibly jealous will only make the forbidden fruit look sweeter. Indifferent, amused mastery is a skill to hone that will set you apart and totally flip the tables.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/19 08:38 PM
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These are beautiful and timeless pieces of music. Great choices
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/19 06:07 PM
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You sound friggin adorable omg
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/19 06:05 PM
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Then apply the firm hand where it’s needed. This is not that. This is passive aggressive and would only make you look bad - not the other person. Anyway, agree to disagree
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/19 08:10 AM
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I bike a lot - 200 kilometres a week now. I am looking at incorporating more strength and resistance training soon too. I love biking though, the beauty gains are just one happy side effect.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/19 04:23 AM
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No you
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/19 01:07 AM
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I don’t talk about RP outside of Reddit and my philosophy is always “take the best and leave the rest.” I’m glad I discovered the red pill. I use what I think is applicable to my life and ignore the things I don’t believe or feel apply. I’m really not sure what the point you’re trying to make - is.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/19 11:19 PM
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You’re right. This is why I would never go for a self-described “red pill man.”
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/19 10:56 PM
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Don’t exclude anyone from cookies. That just makes you look like an immature, unprofessional bitch. That’s terrible advice. Tell them directly what the problem is, work through it and share the cookies. That’s the adult thing to do.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/19 10:52 PM
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Daily exercise will give your skin a glow that no cream or makeup can fake. Eating lots of greens, berries, flax, fish and nuts has done wonders for my looks. Getting lots of water and beauty sleep beats spa treatments any day of the week. Sunscreen every single day no exceptions! Basically, take excellent care of your body and your natural beauty will really shine.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/19 10:15 PM
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I’m so glad you resolved this together and you don’t have to sacrifice being an at-home mom.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/19 07:45 PM
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Age gap between two adults is very, very different than a 23 year old “dating” a 16 year old child. If she’s 23 and he’s 30 - that’s a completely different thing. Any adult with common sense can see that.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/19 06:26 PM
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I would definitely DEFINITELY say something. It might not help cause teenagers gonna teenage - but better than not saying anything. Is her being 16 mean it’s ok for him at 23? Sometimes the age of consent between two minors is different than the age of consent between an adult and a minor. I would definitely look into that one. Honestly, the mom in me says tell your parents. She might be furious with you but it’s for her own safety and good. Edited for grammar
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/19 02:40 PM
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I don’t feel that vibe at all. She’s in the anger and disappointment stage. This is a normal thing to feel after first swallowing the RP
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/19 05:02 PM
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I’m so so sorry. It’s such a painful experience, I can’t imagine going through it while pregnant with his child. I stayed after he cheated and I regret it. I was never able to get over it and I see now I never will. Another four years of my life wasted after he wasted the first 14. But I’m not you and I don’t know your life. I do feel your pain though. Hugs.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/19 05:00 PM
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You’re in the jaded anger stage of the red pill. Most of us go through this stage, I definitely did so I get where you’re coming from. The men’s red pill is interesting place to observe but remember that it’s full of angry, jaded men and while there’s a core of golden truth - there’s a lot of vitriol and bullshit to wade through to get it. I know a lot of men who loved their wives and were faithful to them to the end. My grandpa was a loving and faithful husband even after my grandma gained a lo…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/19 04:52 PM
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Your husband sounds wonderful. Good catch!!
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/19 02:14 PM
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Use the terms “assertive” and “leader” then. That’s a much better descriptor than “dominant”. Dominant refers to sex for most people.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/19 02:13 PM
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That’s excellent advice. Your focus on the process rather than end goals is much healthier and it’s sustainable.
/r/RedPillWives26/06/19 12:49 AM
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This is about you and your insecurities. You need to figure out a way to get past it before it poisons your relationship. It sounds like he has been transparent. Have you ever been cheated on or had cheating in your family history? I think you need to do some soul searching on this one cause you’re blowing it out of proportion (I say this as a wife whose marriage is over because he was a serial cheater).
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/19 06:37 PM
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He’s my ex because we went to college four provinces apart and he met someone else.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/19 01:59 PM
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I promise you there are a lot of women in LA that feel just as hopeless and lonely as you do.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/19 04:17 AM
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Don’t let it get you down. There’s so much more to a man than how chiseled his jawline is and (smart, mature) women know it.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/19 04:12 AM
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Yes you can definitely compensate. He was hilarious, creative, kind, fun, good with kids, street-smart, protective, strong, self effacing, skillful and a leader. Those qualities were what drew me in. I was a really pretty girl at that age and honestly he wasn’t in my league looks wise but I really didn’t care, I was warm for his form.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/19 03:31 AM
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Attractiveness is subjective and can grow or diminish in your eyes depending on how a man carries himself and behaves. My first real boyfriend was my best friend for two years before I fell for him. I first thought he was a chubby goof but he won me over with his character and personality. He might not have been classically attractive - but he was very attractive to me.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/19 03:24 AM
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Therapy, my friend. Growing up in a cult alone calls for serious reprogramming. Do you have healthy, wholesome friends or family? If not you need to find some. It sounds like you swung from one extreme to another and neither are healthy. You need normal people in your life so you can learn what that looks like. No dating, no men, no sex for a while till you’re more healthy and sorted. You need to decide what your standards are for yourself (don’t sleep with married men or give yourself away so e…
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/19 08:53 PM
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Honestly this is good practice for letting things go when baby is born. Lean into it and rest.
/r/RedPillWives18/06/19 11:24 AM
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Congrats!
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/19 10:49 PM
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Sounds like you need some beauty in your life! Can you get a little plant or even pick some flowers for a vase on your desk? I love the other suggestion of good music. I know many offices are Scent-free but if you’re allowed a slight touch of perfume - nothing makes me feel more Feminine!
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/19 09:12 PM
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Your sis knew what was up! What a thoughtful lady
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/19 06:09 PM
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It sure is. “Food is practical love” is something my Grandma used to say and she was 100% right.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/19 06:08 PM
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Super low quality. I also don’t like that he posted this to feminist subs to try and get a rise out of them. What’s the point? “Ha ha you lefties are uggos”. Like, bro, don’t you have a better use of your time?
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/19 02:46 PM
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Just a little story on this topic - I had to make a sudden 2 day drive to see my mom when she was palliative. I stayed the night with my old best friend who I hadn’t seen in at least 4 years. We have been best friends for 20 years and I taught her how to cook. When it came time to get on the road again she handed me a lunch. She made a tuna sandwich just the way I like it (toasted bread and with pickles) and a homemade chocolate muffin. I totally cried when I saw it. I was so so so touched. It w…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/19 01:44 PM
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Yes, but saying “well I’ve never had that problem” isn’t at all helpful or constructive.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/19 07:07 PM
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I’ve been to therapy while in a relationship and found it helpful. It gave me some tools to work on myself. It was a good thing for me. The most important part is to find someone you work well with, not all therapists are equal.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/19 04:31 PM
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You’ve never had a bad reaction but that doesn’t negate how OP’s husband feels. He said that it turns him off. Men aren’t all the same. She’s not thinking into it too much - that’s what he said and his actions back it up.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/19 02:25 PM
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I think you’re in the right sub
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/19 04:08 AM
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There’s a lot of women like you, trust me. You’ll find them if you keep your mind open.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/19 01:22 PM
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You can’t take sex back. “I fucked you before but now I don’t want to” just doesn’t work. I mean, you can try but he probably won’t stick around. What’s done is done in that regard. You can’t walk intimacy back. As for baking - YouTube is a great learning resource. As for his previous relationship - he probably has a lot of baggage that you need to be aware of. Do you know why their relationship ended? I think that’s very relevant information. To me that’s a bit of a yellow flag until you have m…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/19 07:52 PM
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I did not accuse you of being a woman-hater. You’re really reaching here and I’m done. People are giving you great advice but you don’t want to listen so I’m done wasting my time.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/19 04:50 PM
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Men’s RP philosophy helped your lesbian friend because she is attracted to women! So that’s not surprising at all. You’re trying to attract a man and the playbook is completely different. This is pretty obvious. Also, ouch. You are going directly to personal insults and attacks when I’m giving you excellent advice.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/19 03:42 PM
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Your comment doesn’t really make sense. “You were serious about transitioning but felt uncertain.” That’s a total contradiction but that aside... You don’t research female behaviour, you surround yourself with it. You find a group of feminine women and spend time with them. I’m getting the feeling that the true heart of this is that you have an idea that being feminine or being a woman is lesser. Deep down you think women are inferior. So you don’t want to be like the rest of us. You’ve absorbed…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/19 02:32 PM
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You sound aggressively “not like other girls”. It’s not cute, it’s not a turn on. You’re trying way too hard. Men can smell that. Masculine strength isn’t actually strength in women. Get out of the manosphere and cultivate your femininity.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/19 02:10 PM
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I totally get it. My marriage is over and looking out at the dating market - big yikes from me. Wgtow seems appealing on some levels but my heart just really wants a good man to love. Admitting that feels vulnerable but it’s the truth. So I’m not giving up on men yet! I don’t know any real life mgtows which is too bad. Would be interesting to chat and share ideas
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/19 11:37 PM
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It’s not “wrong” and it may be rational. But it’s lonely as hell.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/19 11:19 PM
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Absolutely do not give him control. He has not proven himself responsible. Not every man is fit to be called Captain and his having a penis doesn’t mean he’s capable of handling this responsibility. I get it. You want to be red pill. Part of being RP is proper vetting and admitting when something doesn’t work. Letting an irresponsible person handle the finances isn’t RP, it’s foolish.
/r/RedPillWives06/06/19 04:52 PM
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I totally respect that and love your attitude of non-entitlement and your respect for your fella’s finances. I think that’s a lovely character trait. How would you feel about asking him out once in a while and letting him know it’s your treat? I wouldn’t touch the bill but you could very sweetly offer to go Dutch or split. I think it could be emasculating unless you do it very sweetly but the right tone with a sincere smile makes all the difference.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/19 09:25 PM
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Why do you believe in splitsies? Why is it so important? (Not challenging you or calling you wrong, just curious). I think gracious acceptance is very feminine personally. You can always offer to get after-dinner drinks or dessert.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/19 09:16 PM
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If you are into YouTube - Mrs Midwest has a great episode about building real self esteem. She actually has a few videos about this subject that I personally find very helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/19 03:43 PM
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Church (synagogue/temple/wherever your place of worship is) is your best bet. Join young adults and singles groups in your church to meet people. There are some online dating sites for specific religions as well.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/19 03:42 PM
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Keep your focus on the big picture: making a solid foundation for your marriage. That means listening to each other, intimacy and talking about things that aren’t wedding details. Keep your joy and lightheartedness. Joyful lighthearted brides are the best kind. Don’t become a stressed-out Bridezilla - frankly it’s a really ugly look and sets the whole tone. I know a couple men who wondered if they were making the right call when they saw their girlfriends morph into controlling basket cases befo…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/19 02:50 PM
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Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/19 02:29 PM
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That’s an incredibly high compliment but I get your frustration hearing it. Men in their early 20’s typically aren’t looking to meet a nice lady and settle down. What age parameters have you set for dating? I would recommend being open to men in their late 20’s/early 30’s.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/19 08:07 PM
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May I ask you what digestive enzymes you use to stay slim?
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/19 04:49 PM
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Sounds like you have strong coping mechanisms, I admire that. But I hope things get better for you. No one should have to live like that.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/19 12:09 AM
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That sounds...awful and exhausting. I hope your man and job are worth living in a state of perpetual stress :(
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/19 11:29 PM
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Ok so you’ve ruled out any potential shadiness on your part so this is definitely him. Sounds like he is really insecure. When he’s going off about you “cheating” - how is he acting? Angry? Hurt? Sad? I’ve noticed that men who are like this tend not to listen to any sort of reason. They have this idea in their heads and nothing you do or say will ever change it. Often they will push their partner away and it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. Obviously it’s your choice to stay and try and work …
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/19 06:18 PM
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Do you have a history of cheating or even behaving in a way that could make a man think you cheat (eg being flirtatious with men you shouldn’t be)? Does he have any reason not to trust you? If the answer to this is an honest “no” I would take his behaviour as a red flag. Perhaps he’s been damaged by cheating women in the past. I’ve noticed that cheating types tend to be jealous and assume everyone else behaves as poorly as they do. If you have done nothing to provoke this behaviour in him I woul…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/19 05:54 PM
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You’re totally overthinking this. Being surrendered does not mean not giving input (especially when he genuinely wants it) or having no opinion whatsoever. That kind of relationship won’t have room to grow and it’s really boring. Don’t make yourself human tofu.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/19 04:39 PM
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You have every right to be as upset and scared as you are. What a ridiculous situation. Is there any way you could talk to his CO? (I don’t know much about mil life please disregard if this is terrible advice). You’re about to lose your home, that’s really serious. I imagine the army would not be cool with you being in thus situation because he has been neglectful. Perhaps they can help light the fire under his ass. Or get you into some kind of housing.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/19 05:22 PM
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I think it’s really important to communicate your expectations in a loving way. “Mother’s Day is important to me. I would really appreciate if we celebrated it next year.” No Covert expectations or contracts. No love bombing Father’s Day in the hope that he will reciprocate. That’s only going to set you up for disappointment. And it’s ok to communicate your disappointment and hurt in a gentle and non accusatory way. Men aren’t mind readers, but it’s ok to have your feelings of disappointment.
/r/RedPillWives13/05/19 04:39 PM
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Many do. And Mother’s Day isn’t about them!
/r/RedPillWives13/05/19 04:31 PM
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Not necessarily true. My husband does a lot to make Mother’s Day special. And it’s not about consumerism if you don’t make it that way. A nice homemade breakfast and homemade card and a special “I love and appreciate you” is a beautiful way to celebrate and you don’t have to spend anything or buy anything necessarily. It’s the thought and the effort that count. Saying “men just don’t care” is just pure laziness.
/r/RedPillWives13/05/19 04:24 PM
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I’m really sorry to hear that. I hope your next pregnancy is a happy and healthy one. First Mother’s Day is really special and important. I thought it was just a Hallmark holiday until I had children. Saying “it’s just another day, get over it” isn’t helpful. It’s not just another day, it was her first Mother’s Day and her feelings of disappointment are absolutely understandable and valid.
/r/RedPillWives13/05/19 04:19 PM
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Are you a Mom?
/r/RedPillWives13/05/19 01:37 PM
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Then why even mention it if you know it’s not a good idea?
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/19 11:15 PM
2

Very well said
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/19 11:14 PM
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Julie is such a queen and a gem.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/19 07:48 PM
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No it does not.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/19 07:46 PM
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Child marriages (to much older men) are supposed to be a good example for us to follow now? 😂 Insanity.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/19 06:14 PM
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Who says not getting married at 20 means sleeping around till 30? No one here would ever even suggest that.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/19 04:19 PM
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Lol! We wrote almost the same thing at the same time!
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/19 03:19 PM
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I think there’s a middle ground here. I agree with your grandma that 20 is farrrr too young to get married and you need more experience. Not sex experience but life experience. I married at “just turned 22” and it is my biggest regret. I didn’t know how to vet a man properly and was soooo naive. I married an incredibly dishonest cheater but I didn’t see any of the red and yellow flags because I was too innocent and naive. I can also see why you don’t want to wait till your 30’s to get married. T…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/19 02:57 PM
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Dude wanted to smash and then got pissy when it didn’t go his way. Now he’s being a baby about it. This says everything you need to know about him! He’s not going to respect your boundaries and he will pout when he doesn’t get what he wants. HARD. NEXT.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/19 02:50 PM
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T shirt dresses are my favourite. So easy and comfortable and I still feel feminine and pretty.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/19 02:48 PM
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Being really clean and well put together. No scuffs on your shoes or threads coming out of your clothes. No coffee on your shirt or grubby jacket cuffs. No swearing. It doesn’t sound refined or educated (I’m not great at this) Manners, manners, manners! Being an excellent dining companion (great table manners, phone turned off, great stories to share etc) Keep strictly to your grooming schedule - especially for haircuts and colour. Roots and split ends are not something I see often on upper clas…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/19 02:43 PM
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Oh I’m so relieved to hear that. I’m glad you’re in a loving and healthy relationship now. All the best to you sister.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/19 04:22 PM
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You’re in love with a person who sexually abuses you and says they are the only one you will ever have? This is the saddest thing I’ve ever read on a gratitude thread. I really hope you realize that that’s not love and you can do better. Sorry to derail a thread but I can’t let that go without saying something.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/19 04:14 PM
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I think so! It’s in Canada. It’s a spray foam glass cleaner that’s basically a miracle in a can.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/19 08:32 PM
2

I love Bon Ami for my appliances.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/19 07:15 PM
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Seems very wgtow-ish and bitter. Feminist uncles. Edit: Jesus. Feminist uncles! I meant incels
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/19 06:59 PM
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Bathtub for big stuff (sweaters) and bathroom sink for small stuff (delicates).
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/19 05:37 PM
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Before you post in a community you should know the rules! That’s just being respectful. It’s under “community info”.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/19 04:43 PM
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You might want to take a look at the rules then. Men are asked not to do that.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/19 04:35 PM
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Sounds like you’re giving advice based on your personal preferences.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/19 04:03 PM
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Dude -“nothing but other women”? You need to read here a lot more. We have a ton of men (a ton!) who post and comment here regularly but they follow the rules! The rules of the group actually state that men can post here but are to keep their gender in their pants. “Man here” posts are not allowed in RPW. Your post flies in the face of the etiquette of our group. Read the rules first and respect them and you’ll get a much better response. You’re coming off like a horse’s ass when you just jump i…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/19 02:48 PM
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What do you expect? This post is so arrogant and you have no user history to back it up. The fact that you would even expect any other response shows me that you really don’t quite have the social graces you think you do and you don’t really get what the purpose of this group is. Feel free to hang out and actually get to know us before you deign to pass on your wisdom from on high.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/19 02:35 PM
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Dear lord. What makes you think you’re such a “good catch”? Why do you feel your perspective so unique and your advice so wise and sage? 🤣
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/19 02:24 PM
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I use the retinol toner from Pixi. It’s a good beginner product.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/19 01:31 PM
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According to the ACOG the risk of a baby with a birth defect is 1 in 940 at age 30 and 1 in 353 at 35. So let’s not get too ahead of ourselves with the “have a baby at 29 or else”. Another thing we need to consider is that fertility does not mean readiness to parent. A lot of people in their 20’s are not ready yet, either emotionally, financially or in their lifestyle. Having a healthy baby is wonderful, but not if you can’t support your child financially or you’re not mature enough to make that…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/19 05:38 PM
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Bingo.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/19 05:22 PM
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30 is still young. 35 is where it begins to get a little more iffy but many women have healthy babies well into their 40’s. Let’s not panic the 29 year olds just yet...
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/19 05:00 PM
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12 weeks is absolutely nothing. That’s really barely just enough time to get nursing really cemented and to heal from a vaginal delivery. If you have a c section or trouble with nursing it can take a whole lot longer. I’m my country we are entitled to 50 weeks (at 60% of our gross) and I took every minute I could get. It was 100% worth the financial sacrifice. Babyhood doesn’t last long at all but sets the foundation for your family and your child’s entire life. I feel terrible for moms who only…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/19 04:09 PM
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An article on a website for coloured contacts is hardly “evidence” that guys prefer anything. They will tell you anything to sell you stuff that you don’t need. Straight up - your eyes are pretty just the way they are and coloured contacts look unnatural and do nothing for eye health. And if you did attract someone with your fake eye colour, are you just gonna wear contacts forever? It’s an artifice that can’t be maintained. Just love what your mama gave ya!
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/19 08:56 PM
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Lol, “real alphas” don’t call themselves alphas and plenty of them use dating apps.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/19 02:58 PM
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Your story made me tear up a little. I’m so happy for you! I would love your list of red and green flags if you don’t mind sharing them!
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/19 12:45 AM
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You’re totally right. And the people you surround yourself with are a reflection on you and your judgement.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/19 04:29 PM
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The pain will stop when you make a change. I know it’s hard, I’m shy too. Are you this shy with everyone or only with men you’re attracted to? Sounds like you need to work on your confidence and social skills in general before applying it to the dating world.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/19 09:33 PM
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Yes. Coming at you so aggressively is a big red flag.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/19 09:52 PM
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Whoah about the rambling being a bad sign. I never thought of it that way but you’re absolutely right. Thank you! You really gave me lots to think about with this one comment.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/19 06:04 PM
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You can’t just David Goggins your way out of trauma. It doesn’t work like that.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/19 04:54 PM
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Clueless, tone-deaf and horrible advice. “Don’t lie”. You know that sexual abuse is really hard to talk about right? You know that sometimes our brain makes us outright forget a lot of details as a coping mechanism, right? If you don’t know these things - get educated before you say shit cause this was harmful. “Don’t give away your pussy so easily.” Uhhh she was in a committed relationship with someone she loved. Honestly - how dare you. “Don’t descend into drugs and depression.” Just that easy…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/19 11:32 AM
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Telling people to take responsibility with the words they use is me clutching my pearls? Lol got it.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/19 08:39 PM
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I read all your comments and mine still stands.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/19 07:44 PM
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“Not your view, just stuff you’ve picked up from other RP communities.” Uh, bullshit. Own your words and take responsibility for what you say even when the response you get isn’t what you hoped for.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/19 07:24 PM
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Wow your hypocrisy here is shocking. Jesus.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/19 03:23 PM
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Agreed. I’m pretty disgusted by a lot of the blaming and questioning.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/19 02:10 PM
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Thank you I’ll check her out
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/19 11:26 PM
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Would love the name of that YouTuber :)
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/19 09:29 PM
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It’s an amazing book and definitely worth the read. Or you can just make snap judgment about something you haven’t read instead I guess. You sound kinda silly when you do that though.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/19 06:42 PM
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Your husband is an abuser. He’s financially abusing you and your daughter by withholding money for your daughter’s basic needs. Completely disgusting. If you can, I would leave. That is not ok.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/19 06:10 PM
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For us it was daily walks in the stroller. After she woke up from the noon nap I would feed and change her diaper and then we would go for long walks in the stroller. I made sure to do that every single days in the afternoons. I made sure that we (adults) had dinner every evening at a certain time and that evenings were as quiet as possible. I would do housework and chores during the mornings. It was a pretty flexible daily routine but it saved my sanity!
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/19 06:02 PM
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Gaming for 144 hours during your newborn’s first two weeks is absolutely beyond the pale and way beyond “a man needs his hobbies”. Expecting anal sex from you when it triggers you to crying is incredibly uncaring at best and emotional abuse at worst. I think harassing him on every platform was a really immature thing for you to do but I 100% understand your resentment building up to that point. I’m sorry I don’t have much advice but he does not sound like a good husband or dad at all. Was he lik…
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/19 05:23 PM
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Maybe date different guys?
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/19 08:47 PM
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I really like your nuanced perspective. Thank you for sharing your views and experiences here! I hope to see you around this sub more. I value your input!
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/19 08:43 PM
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Good post OP. One challenge I was surprised by was how difficult I found the lack of structure to be. I had to make my own structure and I found that very difficult. It was so easy to let all the hours, days and weeks kind of run together and that wasn’t good for my mental health. Setting up structure for the children and then adhering to it myself really saved my sanity.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/19 02:46 PM
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Wow. I’m really sad for you, that would be a huge blow if I were in your shoes. I think you need to make your feelings crystal clear to him - but focus on “I” statements. “I feel extremely taken for granted and very hurt by your omission” instead of accusatory. I really hope he gets it and makes this up to you OP.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/19 02:09 PM
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Get a bike and find some safe gravel paths! I started that 8 months ago and haven’t stopped going 5-6 days a week for long rides. I’m absolutely hooked on it because it’s so much fun! Now I’m getting serious about it and find myself eating well for athletic performance’ sake. I find that incredibly motivating for me! I’m working on dropping weight so I’m faster in an upcoming race. As I’ve fallen in love with a sport (it can be any sport) I find myself naturally taking much better care of myself…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/19 03:25 AM
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Wise
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/19 02:22 PM
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I think all humans need both. Balance.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/19 02:17 PM
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How can she not fix his mistakes though? They have kids together. If husband fucks up and doesn’t pay the mortgage - the kids lose their home. It’s way more than “oh you forgot your lunch again but I’m too busy to bring it so you’ll have to be hungry till dinner. The stakes are too high when there are children in the mix.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/19 06:49 PM
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Perhaps pastoral counselling would be a good fit for you
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/19 05:22 PM
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The fact that you have a penis has exactly zero bearing on the topic at hand. She asked if it is meddling - not if it’s safe or a good investment.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/19 04:56 PM
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I don’t think it’s meddling. I would want to know.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/19 01:00 AM
2

This is really excellent advice!
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/19 03:16 PM
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Ehhh not necessarily. I smoke weed daily and I’m an ambitious person whose shit is together. I think his behaviour is a bigger problem than weed.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/19 08:06 PM
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Preach, sister!
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 11:28 PM
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Wanting to show off = wanting validation. Deep down it’s exact same thing.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/19 07:00 PM
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You can accept yourself without putting towel photos on Instagram. It’s not about accepting yourself, it’s about you needing validation. I think you need to be more honest with yourself about your motives. I’m not surprised people reacted to it poorly. Those cries for attention will never give you the attention you really want.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/19 10:34 PM
1

There are coffee tables that have a mechanism to bring it up to dining table height. They are awesome! I had an elderly client who used one in the den cause it was easier for her to eat there then in the kitchen.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 08:22 PM
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Yikes. You sound unbelievably insecure.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 04:40 PM
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Worry less about how you should “be” and more on proper vetting. Learn how to spot the liars and manipulators before they pull you in. Not every man deserves your submission.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 04:58 PM
3

Deep clean one zone of the house per day and have a daily maintenance routine for things like garbage, dishes, laundry and general tidying. This has made all the difference in the world. I never feel bad if someone stops by and the house runs pretty smoothly.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 12:59 AM
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Way to go!! You are strong 💪🏻
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/19 07:56 PM
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Nooooo don’t answer him! You have nothing to feel guilty about. You know things will never change with him. Don’t waste your best years being someone’s backup option. Stay strong!
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/19 05:09 PM
8

You sound a little like an entitled brat. “Let’s go to Rome and you pay for everything but my plane ticket.” If I were your boyfriend this would be a screaming red flag 🚩
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/19 06:11 PM
2

I really can’t wait to read your happy posts in a year or two!!!! I’ll be grinning from ear to ear! 😍
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 07:50 PM
2

You are already very wise. You know the truth. You just need to trust yourself. You’re gonna make it girl. I just know it. I wish you all the love and happiness.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 07:36 PM
5

No we are not. And honestly? Neither are they. Cheating and manipulative men are a dime a dozen. You will meet many many more out there. Learn how to vet them carefully. They know how to talk a great game but their actions will show you their character. Be smart and trust that part of your gut that says something is off. Don’t get swept away by their sweet words and the tingles they give you.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 07:17 PM
2

I think it would be good for you too. I’m glad you didn’t take what I said in a hurtful way cause it wasn’t meant to be. I see a lot of my younger self in you and I just want you to be happy and healthy. I’m rooting for you!
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 07:14 PM
8

And HIM (the married man) changing YOU (the sweet naive girl) into a better person?! That’s just laughable and pathetic on his part. Older women can see right through this but it’s very hard when you’re inexperienced. This man is more and more garbage the more I read. You can and will do so much better.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 07:06 PM
5

He doesn’t care about you. If he did he wouldn’t say things like “you’ll never get over me”. That’s not love, that’s not caring. That’s manipulation. If he loved you he wouldn’t string you along while being married to someone else. If he loved you he wouldn’ make you live a lie. You are young and naive and he took full advantage of you. You’re not addicted to him, you’re addicted to pussy tingles. Therapy. For real.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 07:03 PM
12

I made the mistake of believing I was “special” and he would never cheat on me (even though he admitted to cheating a lot in the past). Long story short we got married and he cheated so much I literally hate him but don’t feel I can live cause we have kids. Please learn from my mistake. Past behaviour predicts future behaviour.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 05:44 PM
8

Soooo manipulative. What an utter skeeze. He is a hot garbage fire.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 05:42 PM
9

OH MY GOD!!!!! What a piece of trash thing to say to someone! Yes you will find someone. It won’t always hurt so much. You can do better. That’s a horrible thing to say and you know already that his morals are garbage. He’s a cheater and a liar. Garbage human. You need to figure out what your moral lines are and how to vet for them. This man is a walking red flag and you need to figure out why you let yourself get into this position in the first place. I’m not trying to be cruel to you, this is …
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 05:39 PM
8

You did the right thing. Don’t go back.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/19 05:11 PM
5

Yes. Dependa culture is full of vultures and victims. “Hardest job in the military” my ass 🙄 No disrespect to military families but there is a culture of women who prey on military men to get that sweet sweet Tricare and wear their husband’s rank like they earned it and it’s really fucking gross.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/19 07:23 PM
6

I’m not the OP but my point still stands. I don’t think it’s respectful to train a grown man like a small child or a dog.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/19 06:32 PM
8

“Lay his clothes out and remind him to change “ That’s exactly what I do for my five year old son. No offence but I think this is terrible advice. Unless you like being his mom.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/19 03:08 PM
9

I fit into my size medium scrub top this morning. I was wearing 2xl in September. I’m only down about 20 pounds with a lot more to go but it’s great seeing the results of my discipline. I’ve been biking about ten hours a week for 6 months now 🙌
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/19 11:16 PM
1

How snappy was this “snap”? Was it a casual way he said it or was he angry? To me it doesn’t sound like a red flag but I wasn’t there to witness it.
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/19 01:48 AM
7

Fuck that guy. That’s not “rehoming” that’s abandonment and he’s an utter shit stain for that.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/19 09:01 PM
2

You start small and work your way up. Shower, make your bed and commit to eating one healthy meal. Tomorrow you do those things plus the dishes, etc etc.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/19 08:55 PM
4

I get out on my bike for a long ride by myself and basically exorcise the hormone demon with box sets of hills. I don’t come home till my quads are screaming and I don’t have an ounce of irritability left in me.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/19 08:32 PM
2

Yes
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/19 05:34 PM
4

I’m really enjoying it! It’s Belgian but subtitled if you don’t speak French.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/19 03:19 AM
3

That’s nice. Not everyone has access to practice babies. A class is a good way to become more comfortable with the hands-on parts of baby care.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/19 05:42 PM
3

I would suggest a class on baby care basics. Most hospitals with maternity wards have them. As a doula, the books I recommended most often to clients were “The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding” and “Wonder Weeks”. “Happiest Baby on the Block” method turned our cranky newborn tigress into an absolute angel, so that one too. His toddler book is incredible as well when you get to that stage.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/19 04:20 PM
6

How often do you bring up feminism? Are you picking arguments?Dont do that if you are. Perhaps those friends are a lost cause but you don’t need to exclude feminists from your life forever. My friends are my friends because we share the same value system (wanting to be great people, wanting to be better moms, take great care of our bodies, minds and souls, wanting to nurture our talents and do good things in our communities) but we may walk different paths. That’s ok as we all want the same thin…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/19 03:23 AM
8

I’m friends with a ton of feminists and it’s not a problem. We don’t argue about stuff at all and we never let things get heated. We respect each other and support one another and never talk about pills, red blue or otherwise. Part of maturing is being able to look past things like this because the value you each bring is so much deeper than any philosophy.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/19 02:40 AM
8

Dry shampoo and makeup wipes will help you at least feel clean and fresh when you don’t want to do your whole skin routine or wash your hair that day. A five minute yoga or deep breathing break a couple times a day can go a long way. Rotisserie chicken and bagged salad grocery store so you can eat well with a minimum of fuss during a crisis. Lysol wipes for quick cleaning when you’re overwhelmed. A 20 minute episode of a comedy show can turn my day right around. Make the time for exercise, even …
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/19 05:39 AM
3

Noooo not at all. It makes people uncomfortable and question my social maturity.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/19 12:22 AM
5

“Spray Info like a skunk” Lol thank you for that mental imagery. As an “over-sharer” I’m going to have to remember that one
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/19 07:15 PM
7

Love that, wise words here.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/19 12:07 AM
1

What’s the discussion here? What’s the point of this post?
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/19 04:48 PM
38

This is grossly unhealthy and you already know it. He’s not a captain, he’s a user. Break it off and do some work to figure out why you thought this kind of behaviour/character is acceptable.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/19 04:45 PM
5

Some are,’some aren’t I suppose. I have several overweight friends in very happy relationships. I don’t consider their husbands to be overly handsome but they do so it really doesn’t matter. They’re happy together so good for them.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 05:19 PM
12

There are lots of fat women in happy relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/19 03:46 AM
3

That’s really great advice
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/19 12:11 AM
1

Obviously she’s not attracted to you. Work on being being your best self and stop whining about being friend zoned.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/19 08:24 PM
3

Red flags everywhere. You need to put yourself and your kids ahead of your tingles and you’re not doing that. This is all incredibly unhealthy for you and your kids.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/19 09:18 PM
5

Boom. Mic drop.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/19 04:40 PM
13

At 38 I don’t get “hit on” or gawked at as much as I did but I certainly don’t mind. I get treated with much more respect and deference now than I did at 21. I’m treated like a lady by most. People are more forgiving of my flaws. However I have worked hard on my presence and how I present myself and I think that’s a huge part of it. I’m more friendly and open than I was and I’m quick to apologize if I make a mistake. I can’t say I was like that when I was younger. I’ve developed true confidence …
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/19 11:29 PM
3

Posture is everything!
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/19 07:23 PM
–

Cheapo plastic tablecloth on the floor under the table 👍
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/19 09:56 PM
4

90k isn’t exactly an average income though.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/19 03:57 PM
9

You need to chill, gazpacho. You’re really overreacting. Also, timing. Dude wanted to get off and you lay this whole emotional thing down over text. That’s really bad timing on your part. Learn when and when not to wear your heart on your sleeve. Getting into all your “stuff” while sexting was really poor timing. He didn’t know that this was a big vulnerable thing for you cause most people don’t do those kinds of talks during sexting or over text at all.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/19 09:39 PM
3

That’s super sweet. I’m sure he will love it.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 06:00 PM
19

Good grief. It’s not a leper’s colony. 🙄
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/19 09:13 PM
3

I agree. Two breakups won’t break your ability to pair bond.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/19 03:37 PM
7

Welcome here :)
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/19 12:24 AM
7

Congrats!!! Sending you all my good vibes for a happy pregnancy and healthy baby ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/19 06:02 PM
1

What’s the point? You’re getting divorced. I can see why you would feel disrespected and hurt by his behaviour, but I don’t think you need to address it. It’s over, it’s done now. You need to move on and heal now. ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/19 06:21 PM
36

You were being insincere. You said you realized neither of you would sway but you still said “yes you’re right.” That’s lying and your man saw right through it. You don’t have to lie. You can say “you probably know more about this than I do”(truth) rather than “you’re right” (not true cause you don’t believe it.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/19 04:01 PM
7

Honestly a Daddy takes care his little and that means being a provider. He’s not doing that nor is he trying. That’s not a good Daddy (kink), captain or parent.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/19 12:26 AM
2

Wow. Solid gold. Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/19 12:10 AM
5

My husband would be offended by this sort of thing too. He would say he’s not a five year old.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/19 11:51 PM
8

Exactly! It’s honestly kind of demeaning. Especially if she’s actually better at this stuff than he is.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/19 11:36 PM
10

Honestly this sounds...manipulative to me. Maybe I’m reading it wrong.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/19 11:31 PM
3

I have the same problem! It’s so hard! I feel incredible guilt spending on beauty things for myself. I think you need to just not think about it. Easier said than done I know. Remind yourself that he wants you to spend the money. Think of it as an investment in your marriage rather than superficial indulgence.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/19 09:48 PM
1

Age of consent and age of majority are two different things pedotard.
/r/askTRP04/01/19 09:43 PM
-1

Age of majority is 18 in the UK numb nuts. Get educated.
/r/askTRP04/01/19 07:23 PM
0

Whatever word you use - it’s still diddling minors. Get help.
/r/askTRP04/01/19 06:57 PM
-1

Hebephile is the pedophile’s favorite word. And I think wanting to sleep with kids makes you the tool, not me. You know you’re a creep or you wouldn’t have even asked this question.
/r/askTRP04/01/19 04:09 PM
4

Wanting to relive your youth - at 22. This is the most feeble and ridiculous attempt and justifying pedophilia I’ve ever read.
/r/askTRP04/01/19 03:45 PM
3

Yes
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/19 02:19 AM
25

“Someone he feels a connection with” oh lord here we go. This is even worse than just a physical affair. His having an affair with someone he has a connection to is literally the worst possible idea. If you or he thinks he will somehow become more attracted to you while spending time and being intimate with someone else - you’re both so very mistaken. That is not how any of this works. And that “new relationship energy” is a drug he won’t be able to give up. This is a terrible, terrible idea. Pl…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/19 01:48 AM
3

He’s fun and confident.
/r/askTRP04/01/19 12:04 AM
19

Nope. Never again. We did the open thing for years, closed it together (I told him we can be open again if he needs that, he said he was happy with monogamy) then found out he was fucking at least 3 women on the side. So no, that vulnerability will not make a man more likely to be loyal or treat you right. It means he gets ass on the side, that’s all. Don’t fall into the trap of being naive or your heart will be broken. Do what you want but don’t expect it to go well. Non monogamy usually doesn’…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/19 11:51 PM
51

You really need nun mode. You are not ready for a relationship and if you start dating “to distract yourself “ (yikes) you are going to end up in another really heartbreaking place. You need to fix you. Figure out your stuff, unmess yourself. Cut ties with Peter and John and let your heart heal. And not for any guy but for your own health and happiness.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/19 11:41 PM
6

Your fertility is not declining at 24. You need to chill about that. It is MUCH better to have a child when you are ready to raise them, not necessarily when your eggs are at their freshest. I’m not saying wait till you’re 39 to start but at 24 you have time and your first priority should be finishing your degree and becoming more financially stable. You will be in a much better position to raise a child then.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/19 04:31 PM
6

Okay this is a whole other story. This guy is damaged right now. He’s been badly hurt and he’s basically punishing you now. He will need some help if he wants to be in healthy relationships. I really think you need to have him leave now. Maybe in the future he could be okay but he’s really not ok right now (as evidenced by his behaviour) and you need to protect yourself and child.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/19 03:50 AM
1

Pretty big assumption there bro
/r/askTRP02/01/19 02:12 AM
5

Curiosity. Don’t read too much into it. She’s just checking up that your life is worse than hers. That’s all.
/r/askTRP02/01/19 02:11 AM
31

The fact that he called you names in front of your daughter AND THEN TRIED TO DEFEND THAT is really messed up. He is bad bad news my friend. Get him out. You don’t need your daughter growing up seeing that. I guarantee it won’t be long till he’s using his fists and not just his words and then telling you it’s your fault cause “you made him hit you”. This isn’t red pill and he isn’t an alpha. You don’t want your daughter growing up thinking this is ok.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/19 01:42 AM
1

You told her to fuck off right? That’s the worst thing you did (after messing with a work girl in the first place) Not apologizing. I think you just need to let it be now.
/r/askTRP01/01/19 06:35 PM
1

Wash your face with a cleanser morning and night. Moisturizer with SPF (sunscreen) in the morning after you wash your face. You can use moisturizer (without sunscreen) at night too if your skin is dry. Use a face scrub once a week (gently! You’re not trying to take off paint here). I really like Cerave and Cetaphil brands. You can do more than this but this is a basic skincare routine that will be enough for most.
/r/askTRP01/01/19 06:19 PM
5

Oh you fucked up bad bro. You messed around with a coworker and then told her to fuck off after??? What kind of absolute stupidity is that? You did a dumb thing and then handled it the absolute WORST WAY POSSIBLE. You need to figure out why you did something so stupid so you can avoid doing that again. Don’t message her, you’ve fucked up enough and she no doubt hates you now. RIP your career
/r/askTRP01/01/19 05:53 PM
10

I think it is for women that take care if themselves. I’ve known black ladies in their 40’s who look 23 and I’ve known some who look terrible in their 20’s. I do think black ladies have a natural advantage of looking youthful longer but like everyone else it comes down to lifestyle and how well they care for themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/19 04:43 PM
2

Notes are a biggie? What does that mean?
/r/askTRP31/12/18 08:32 PM
19

There are a surprising amount of men who are very dominant and powerful out of the bedroom and submissive inside it. They like to give up control for a little while and be led. It’s like a vacation. Source: had friend who was pro dominatrix
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/18 07:16 PM
2

Don’t flush it down the toilet that’s terrible for the sewer system. Tie the condom in a knot and put inside some TP. Throw it in the garbage somewhere else after you leave.
/r/askTRP30/12/18 05:52 PM
1

Wow. Rude! Jealousy is not a flattering look.
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/18 04:54 PM
8

I noticed that! She always looks so lovely and feminine. Enjoy those elegant nightgowns.
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/18 06:44 PM
8

It’s really hard isn’t it? I really struggled with that when I first swallowed the pill. I saw all the times I made mistakes or acted in an unbecoming way and beat myself up for it. I still do a bit but it’s much less. I realized I actually have a fresh start now and I can change my ways. I deleted my Facebook account (which was full of cringe), dropped some friends that weren’t good for me. I started reading a lot of RP stuff and challenging myself to grow and change. It’s been two years now al…
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/18 05:13 PM
1

I bike for at least an hour every day and do longer rides (35-50k) on Saturdays. I need to add a strength component to it but I haven’t gotten there yet.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/18 11:05 PM
2

You sound really needy and desperate and women can smell that from a mile away. Go to have fun, not pick up. If you are genuinely enjoying yourself you’re 5000% more attractive than someone with a sad, needy vibe.
/r/askTRP23/12/18 06:35 PM
3

Good for you! I hope it works out the way you want it to. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/18 06:14 PM
3

No I don’t think he was. My advice to next still stands but if that’s too drastic for you right now - I would still go no contact until he comes back with some remorse for how he acted.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/18 06:05 PM
11

Hard next. Dad being sick is not a good enough reason to act like that. He’s the one gaslighting you, saying you called him something you absolutely did not. Sorry he’s going through a tough time but that’s no excuse.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/18 06:01 PM
5

RP is not a hive mind. Consensus isn’t possible :) We’ve both had a turn at being a stay at home parent while one works full time. The at home parent does about 80% with the other one filling in the gaps. Right now husband is at home. I would never expect him to do absolutely everything. Frankly kids and house are a 24/7 job whereas my job is only 40 hours a week. So of course I help out. When it was the other way around he helped out too. But from a practical standpoint it makes sense to have t…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/18 10:32 PM
94

Wow, so no one comments on how he’s ripping her confidence to shreds and then telling her “she should have more self esteem?” Cause that’s a massive red flag. Yes unattractive women can have happy marriages but it really helps to have a husband that isn’t openly flirting with other women and trying to lock down a younger woman. If your husband wasn’t behaving like that my advice would be to focus on the things that you’re really really good at and remember that our looks fade anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/18 10:31 PM
8

RP is not a hive mind. Consensus isn’t possible :) We’ve both had a turn at being a stay at home parent while one works full time. The at home parent does about 80% with the other one filling in the gaps. Right now husband is at home. I would never expect him to do absolutely everything. Frankly kids and house are a 24/7 job whereas my job is only 40 hours a week. So of course I help out. When it was the other way around he helped out too. But from a practical standpoint it makes sense to have t…
/r/RedPillWives22/12/18 07:21 PM
3

Whatever terminology you want to use - I don’t care. Doesn’t change the fact that being jaded is a character flaw that most of us will want to vet against. You can use whatever label you want, the end result is the same. If you’ve taken yourself out of the dating pool, why should women bother with you much less have a strategy to date you? Do you have a specific strategy for cat ladies? I’m thinking no. This post is utterly irrelevant to women or our goals.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/18 03:11 PM
3

Being jaded is a negative personality trait and red flag. I don’t give a shit about MGTOW’s. I’m not here to convince them or change their minds. I’ve noticed that a lot of self proclaimed MGTOW are actually pretty obsessed with women and spend more time thinking about them then regular dudes. Just like the #foreveralone girls. I’m not forming a strategy to date men who don’t want to date. That’s a silly waste of everyone’s time.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/18 02:37 AM
22

You’re totally overthinking it. She loves it cause it’s her dog, not because it came from him. You sound really jealous and controlling which only takes away your value.
/r/askTRP19/12/18 10:04 PM
8

Public schools vary widely between cities and even different neighbourhoods. We lived in a “poorer” neighbourhood (houses were still in the 450k range so still not a particularly low income area) when our first was elementary age and moved to an upper middle class neighbourhood and catchment over the summer. The difference in between schools is pretty startling. The new school is far better equipped and staffed. There are more teaching assistants and less “problem kids” that take most of the tea…
/r/RedPillWives19/12/18 04:07 PM
5

Public schools vary widely between cities and even different neighbourhoods. We lived in a “poorer” neighbourhood (houses were still in the 450k range so still not a particularly low income area) when our first was elementary age and moved to an upper middle class neighbourhood and catchment over the summer. The difference in between schools is pretty startling. The new school is far better equipped and staffed. There are more teaching assistants and less “problem kids” that take most of the tea…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/18 03:59 PM
0

I wake at 6:30 (quick shower, skin, light makeup) and am at work for 7:30. I finish work at 5:30. Quick dinner then out for a bike ride. I get home from my ride about 7. I’ll spend some time with the kids and make lunch for the next day. By 8:30 I’m showering and getting ready for bed. I’ll tidy up and do some stretches and lights out at 9pm.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/18 02:56 AM
1

Brow and facial threading $15 every 3 weeks Hair products $50/year Nails: I do my own. $14 for cuticle cream Haircuts and colour $300/year Skincare $75 a year (cerave for the win) Makeup $75 per year (replace one or two higher end products that I use up) Clothing - maybe $200 a year unless I have to replace something like a coat or boots Gym $80 a month for the Y so the kids get “free” swim lessons Cycling is my exercise and frankly I don’t want to know what I spend! My kit alone is worth hundre…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/18 04:03 PM
3

Go get the help you need from a qualified therapist. It doesn’t make you soft or weak to get professional help. I’m so sorry your parents fucked up so bad. Now you gotta unfuck yourself, but you can do it with help. I believe in you homie.
/r/askTRP14/12/18 02:20 AM
3

Give him your passcode and tell him you have an open phone policy because his trust in you is important.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/18 01:22 AM
14

I’m shocked that people are saying stay in the relationship after moving out. He’s using you and has no ambitions to change. I would dump this dead weight and move on.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/18 01:49 AM
1

The “My Brest Friend” is the best nursing pillow! I used to be a doula and recommended it to all my clients.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/18 06:32 PM
2

Tidy up every single night before bed no exceptions. Every evening I clear all the surfaces and make sure the kitchen is clean (sink and every surface shiny), floor swept and everything picked up. It takes less than ten minutes. I make sure House is neat before I go to work in the morning. I deep clean one zone every day too (bathrooms on Mondays, livingroom Tuesday etc) Clean out any garbage/things you don’t need from your car every time you get out and do a deeper clean twice a month. It’s act…
/r/askTRP09/12/18 06:14 PM
21

Drop money on really good clothes. They don’t have to be flashy but we can always tell when clothes are good quality. Look for high end fabrics (silk, linen, Egyptian cotton, cashmere, fine wool) and construction rather than brand names. Get those clothes custom tailored to fit you perfectly. Invest in good shoes (not sneakers) and make a point to find the best barber in town and see him once a month. Get your grooming on point. Dress like a man with money, taste and high standards and we will n…
/r/askTRP09/12/18 06:06 PM
1

I can hear it now!! WHAT HAVE YOU DONE?! Lol
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/18 04:39 PM
3

You told her you didn’t want to be exclusive so she wasn’t exclusive. What on earth else would you expect? You have no right to expect anything other than what you got. This one is on you.
/r/askTRP06/12/18 03:19 PM
1

I don’t know about making it appealing but I can tell you what not to do! Don’t make posts about -partying -complaining -your actual problems -bragging -a man Don’t post any pictures you don’t want your boss, mom and future mom in law seeing. Keep any comments or posts light and don’t treat social media like your personal diary. No one wants to know what you ate for dinner, that all your shopping is done or that you had a shitty day at work. It’s very smart of you to be thinking about presenting…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/18 11:23 PM
3

Thank you, you explained my thoughts much better than I could!
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/18 05:46 PM
30

Girl I feel sick reading this. Your Mom is a fucking awful person for even suggesting this to you. Don’t do it. Your gut instinct about this is right. She’s made terrible decisions and is now suffering the consequences and trying to get you to do the same! Don’t do it! I know paying for school must be so stressful but it will be worth it. Focus on your education and your own self improvement and forget her. Quite honestly if my mom even suggested this - her role in my life would be greatly dimin…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/18 03:51 PM
3

Totally aside - hearing people call men “men” and women “females” makes my skin crawl. So dehumanizing.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/18 03:24 PM
12

No the mid 30’s sexual peak is real (you’re conflating sexual peak with attractiveness peak). My sex drive is much higher in my mid 30’s. My skill level, ability to be present, my openness and sensuality have all improved drastically over the last 15 years. I may have been my prettiest at 20 but I was squeamish and lacked the confidence and sexual charisma I have now.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/18 03:55 PM
4

-Love-bombing early on in the relationship. -Past history of cheating - A casual relationship with the truth - Shitty relationship with family or exes (no relationship is fine but I wouldn’t tolerate constant badmouthing) - lots of “big man talk” with no results - substance abuse - anger management issues - being a pushover
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/18 04:22 PM
7

Unfashionable is a red flag to you? That seems...silly. It’s the easiest thing in the world to fix.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/18 04:17 PM
2

Oh I wasn’t talking about you when I said people weren’t being realistic!! Just random posts. I have a bit of a wider nose myself. I’m sure I would be more attractive if it were more slender but here we are. :)
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/18 10:51 PM
5

I think it’s really hard for most women to objectively rate ourselves. I see a lot of younger women posting here who describe themselves as 9’s but I have a hard time believing there are that many real world 9’s and they are all on RP. I have a pretty face but I am 60 lbs overweight. My guess would be 3-4 but objectively I don’t really know.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/18 10:38 PM
16

Seriously I consider pulling the plug on a bad date to be more of a success than a “successful date”. You kept your cool and vetted well instead of getting swept away in the moment or just seeing what you want to see. That’s awesome, my dudette.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/18 01:38 AM
34

Above the knee is a cocktail dress not formal (it does sound gorgeous though).
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/18 01:23 AM
7

I wouldn’t suggest this. It’s trying too hard and will make everyone uncomfortable. An RP woman knows there’s a time and place for everything and this isn’t it. Honestly I think you are overthinking everything and just need to chill a bit. Relax. Hold hands and give a flirty wink maybe but anything more is awkward and cringey.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/18 11:51 PM
16

This sounds a bit much to be honest. You don’t need that many costume changes to keep him interested, I’m sure. You’re not Cher.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/18 09:12 PM
14

I was spanked as a child and it awakened sexual feelings in me far earlier than they should be. It was incredibly confusing for me and really messed me up. It also taught me to lie and be sneaky. We don’t spank in our house and our kids are kind and (almost always) well behaved.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/18 04:45 PM
9

I live in a very expensive city (second most expensive in my country) myself. We manage very well on quite a bit less then that. It’s called living within your means and having reasonable expectations.
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/18 04:12 PM
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“Just 100k..” Holy shit lady. Six figures is damn good. I’m sorry but I’m siding with your man cause it really does sound like your expectations are ridiculous. Wow. Come back down to earth.
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/18 11:19 PM
15

Being red pill means being aware of biology and seeing the world through that lens. Nothing you listed sounds red pill to me at all, it’s all pretty normal surface stuff that has nothing to do with red pill theory. Personally I wouldn’t bother with a dude who talks about red pill all the time. Men who talk about red pill and “alphas” are usually super beta or using it to get laid as much as possible. Natural alphas don’t spend their time on TRP, they’re out actually accomplishing their goals and…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/18 09:50 PM
2

Fair enough!
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/18 05:26 PM
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Yes, absolutely!! My stepmom married my dad as a 35 year old virgin who had never dated anyone and they had a wonderful happy marriage until my Dad passed away last summer (miss you, Pops). You sound a lot like how she was and is. I would stick with the religious community (since you are) to look for a man with the same values as you. Are there catholic dating apps? That could be helpful too. Join a single adults group in a local church if you can. Ask some of the older ladies you trust if they …
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/18 02:59 PM
1

We live in different countries and that might be where some of our views differ. It’s not like that at all in Canada. My dad was awarded my full custody in the early 80’s and I grew up with a single dad and birth mom paid child support. I don’t know anyone who has gone to jail for child support. I know one guy who had part of his pay withheld but he deserved it. He was going to Vegas and Cabo all the time while his kids literally didn’t have shoes that fit. So fuck that guy. I have no patience f…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/18 03:09 PM
1

“Probably go to jail”. Please. Dude. Out of all the batshit things you say this is the most ridiculous. I know a lot of divorced people and not one of them has gone to jail. What world do you live in?
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/18 02:29 PM
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.What was your relationship like before your attitude change? What was he like? I think it’s extremely shitty of your husband to call you a fake bitch for trying to improve but it does make me wonder how things were between you before. If you genuinely were a bitch you’re going to have some repairing to do. If you weren’t - his comments are extra out of line. Weaning-baby hormones are definitely a thing and can really colour your perspective. It’s amazing how something can seem like such a huge …
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/18 02:16 PM
1

Chill. This is not the forum for your anger.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/18 12:41 AM
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H O U S E There is no question here of what is the smarter choice. A house.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/18 05:23 PM
7

You’re not gonna like this - but sometimes you have to lower your standards temporarily for the sake of sanity. There’s nothing wrong with iPad and Cheerios for a few months till things settle back down. Something has to give somewhere cause you can’t keep this up. Decide where your standards can be lowered a little or where you could find some help and then adjust accordingly. I wish you the best. Being pregnant with a toddler isn’t fun even in easy pregnancies.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/18 04:39 PM
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I find this to be 1000% true, especially in the workplace. I’m in healthcare and the rules are strict about nails and jewelry but we are allowed to wear athletic wear instead of scrubs (I don’t work in hospitals). A lot of my workmates wear hoodies and yoga pants to work. I wear coordinated scrub sets (nice ones that fit well), thin fitted cardigan over top, tiny stud earrings and light “my face but less tired” makeup. I get treated with waaaaaay more respect and professionalism than my coworker…
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/18 04:54 PM
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I don’t have this problem at all. I wear a “natural face” of makeup and knee length dresses almost every day. I get treated like a lady. I’m not saying that as a dig, I’d like to help you. What kind of makeup do you wear? What clothes? What is your look when others see you as tarty, slobby or dyke-ish? Maybe I can give you some suggestions or insight - only if you would like that though.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/18 04:45 PM
6

Honestly meditation does exactly that for me. It helps me realize that a thought is a thought and I don’t necessarily have to believe it. All thoughts are just that and all feelings are transient. I know it’s not a quick and easy “solution” but it does help me. All the best!
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/18 01:03 AM
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I wear athletic wear for outdoors. Sleek leggings and a long sleeve top are great. You can add warm layers over that if needed. Don’t go “too girly” when camping - it looks like you’re ridiculous and not practical. Learning how to dress appropriately for each situation is more important than looking frilly and feminine at all times. You can use nicely cut clothes (flannel shirt with a nipped in waist as opposed to a men’s straight cut flannel for example) and good colours to look your best while…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 05:35 PM
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Personally I wouldn’t. That’s a huge red flag for me. I wouldn’t talk to him again after that. There are men who don’t steamroll your boundaries. His Behavior would be totally unacceptable to me.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 04:05 PM
12

He crossed a boundary. I don’t think it was wise to sleep in his bed (don’t tease like that) but he certainly crossed a boundary and that’s not ok.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 02:15 PM
10

Preference and dealbreakers are completely different.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/18 12:36 AM
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Hair loss is a dealbreaker? Jesus. You must be very young.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 10:58 PM
3

He sounds like a keeper!
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/18 04:37 PM
3

I do agree it’s a waste of money and your points about the men who would insist.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 09:41 PM
4

It’s not dishonest, she’s still a virgin.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 08:22 PM
13

Right? Not liking purple hair doesn’t mean I’m not creative or artistic. The tone of this post is really irritating.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/18 02:58 PM
3

Good to know! Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 09:02 PM
3

Tell me where you get your magnet lashes pretty, pretty please! Definitely want to give it a go
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 08:21 PM
4

Yes you can! Anywhere that sells Burt’s Bees sells their cuticle balm. It’s great stuff and makes me look polished without using actual polish.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 05:20 PM
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I work in healthcare so nail polish isn’t professional but I keep my nails nicely groomed and it really helps my confidence. I keep them nicely shaped and clean. My trick to keeping them groomed is to push back my cuticles every night in the shower and then slather them in Burt’s Bees cuticle balm afterwards before my hand lotion. I’ve really come to love the aesthetic of natural but well-groomed nails.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 03:23 PM
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While I agree that sloppy stained t shirts aren’t nice - there is a balance here. You don’t live with your guy yet so you’re not really in this stage yet but - honestly there’s a real intimacy in your man seeing the real you - no makeup, pyjamas and all. It’s a privilege not many should have. My Dad loved seeing my Mom come in from hard work in the garden - all full of dirt and wearing his too-big shirt. It’s intimate and real. There is a balance though. Soft leggings that make your ass look gre…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 03:13 PM
1

This is the only magazine worth reading imo!
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 03:29 AM
10

Yes oh my gosh zip your lips girlfriend! It’s great to be a planner and already thinking ahead but I would keep it to myself until at least after the engagement. Your parents haven’t even met yet, there’s lots of time. Definitely do what you’re doing but I would keep quiet about it till the time is right (the time isn’t right yet). I say this with love from one planner to another.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/18 06:58 PM
2

You’re using him as a placeholder and that’s not right. You need to figure out what you’re getting out of this and find another way cause you’re having your cake and eating it too and that doesn’t seem right to me.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/18 04:15 PM
7

I started placenta encapsulation 6 weeks after my youngest was born after encapsulating my own and having a much easier recovery! It worked so well I became a bit of an ambassador for it. After a couple of years I decided to get training and add postpartum doula services to my offerings. Doula work is incredible. I highly recommend looking into DONA if you’re considering it!
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/18 03:24 PM
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Wow that’s terrible. I feel absolutely sick for you. I assumed you lived together? You may well have some common law benefits/be entitled to equitable division of assets. I would be talking to a lawyer cause this isn’t right.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/18 03:01 PM
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I was a postpartum doula and placenta encapsulation specialist for about 4 years and it was really rewarding to work from home and support other moms. My one caveat - don’t get sucked into any MLM’s. They really prey on moms at home with small kids, take a lot of time and give very little $ in return. I know several moms who would invest hundreds of $ for “start up kits”, manage to sell nothing and then move on the next MLM, becoming more and more desperate and broke each time. :(
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/18 02:43 PM
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There’s a big difference between “women who enjoy riding” and “horse girls” and dumping a hobby you enjoy because of some people on the internet is incredibly weak and silly.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/18 08:13 PM
1

Always such good advice!
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 04:15 PM
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Yes there absolutely is such a thing as being too thin. Wtf kind of advice is that.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 06:14 PM
3

Love that, thank you
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 12:53 AM
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Oh for heaven’s sake - it’s a metaphor. Are we all suddenly anthropologists now? Good grief. I liked this and the idea OP presented is helpful. Thanks OP!
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 08:25 PM
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My dad and I had vastly different politics and I really let it colour how I saw him. I didn’t give him the love or respect he deserved because of it. He died suddenly of a heart attack last summer and suddenly I realized how stupid and silly it was to let something so small interfere in the most important relationships in my life. Hold your tongue, be humble and treasure your mom and her wisdom (she still has wisdom whether you agree socially or politically).
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/18 01:51 AM
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It takes discipline! Discipline yourself to go to bed 30 mins early and wake 30 minutes earlier. Master a no-makeup look and choose your outfit the night before. Do everything you can the night before to make the mornings as smooth as possible. I’m a working mom of two school age kids and This is my secret to getting us all out the door, on time and looking our best.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/18 07:23 PM
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Crying, questioning and yelling are pretty normal reactions to finding out you’ve been deliberately deceived. Please don’t beat yourself up for that or feeling like you made it worse. Being RP does not mean never having emotional reactions. Under those circumstances it’s a totally understandable reaction. And yelling at you over grilled cheese is completely insane. Seriously drop this guy like the dumpster fire he is. Dude needs some serious self reflection time.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 06:35 PM
2

Yes 100%
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/18 02:08 AM
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Most of my best friends are feminists and honestly - they’re pretty wonderful. We have mutual respect and acceptance. We have hobbies in common that we enjoy. We agree on more in life than we disagree on and we don’t get salty about stuff. All I’m saying is you can find good women/people in most groups ( except for hate groups obvs). Try to get past the typing and try to get to know people as individuals! They might just surprise you.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/18 02:06 AM
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I think your feelings are valid and honestly as your partner yes he should share those values of dignity, respect etc. Your feelings and experiences are valid and honestly so is your judgement. Don’t be so quick to dismiss your gut on this! You feel the way you feel for a reason
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/18 01:44 AM
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Routine routine routine! Having daily routines (cleaning, cooking, play, self care) and weekly (meal planning, groceries, errands) will give structure to what could easily be chaos. I also got into the habit of making dinner in the late morning rather than right at dinner. There was nothing I hated more than starting dinner at 4 with an empty rumbling stomach and cranky kids underfoot!
/r/RedPillWives07/09/18 12:14 AM
5

This is very very wise. Thank you for this post!
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/18 11:07 PM
8

Having you on his arm gives him more status in their eyes.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/18 01:49 AM
5

This would be a huge dealbreaker for me, especially considering the circumstances. You uproot your entire life for him while he lies and then makes absolutely stupid excuses? Not ok at all.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/18 04:19 PM
4

Portishead, Moderator, Alfa Mist, Marvin Gaye, Julie London
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/18 03:10 PM
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I think you’ve gotten enough admonishments about making out so I’m leaving that part out. I have a tendency to do the same thing and what it tells me is that I’m not living my own life hard enough. When you’re working hard on your goals, making a lot of effort to develop yourself and taking great care of you - there isn’t much time to spend mooning over your latest crush! That’s what I recommend. Go hard at your own life and you won’t have much time left over for obsessing over someone.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/18 11:40 PM
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He’s hardly getting the milk for free. He’s financially supporting you and even giving you spending money. Look at actions not words. His actions tell me he’s committed to building a life with you.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/18 05:32 PM
2

Bipolar is not a personality issue - it’s a mental health issue that can be treated.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/18 03:19 PM
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I completely get where you’re coming from girl. You have a very high stress, difficult job. I really think those in the caring professions need to have someone to talk to or it can eat away at us a bit. Do you have someone you can vent/talk to/commiserate with on tough days? I call my mom when I need to vent about my job (caregiver for special needs children and adults). She’s a nurse and she gets it. She’s my emotional support system! I really believe every nurse needs that! Another thing that …
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/18 02:35 PM
6

Ok girl here we go. One woman married to a serial cheater to another. He’s broken and unfixable. Cheating three times (that you’re aware of - I promise you there’s more no matter what he says) tells you everything you need to know about his character. His character sucks. I hurt for you that you still love him and yet hate yourself for your moment of grief and weakness. You cheated once after having your heart broken and being separated. Forgive yourself and do better next time. But let him go. …
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/18 12:16 AM
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This was my first thought too.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/18 11:45 PM
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I’m sure whatever you decide - you’ll be happy with. You know it’s about the marriage, not one day. A lot of brides lose focus on the important stuff but you sound like your priorities are straight.
/r/RedPillWives30/08/18 01:42 AM
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There’s a huuuuuge push in our society to have as lavish a wedding as possible and it’s a disgusting industry. A giant party will not a happier marriage make. My friend got married last summer for less than 3k. They married on her brothers farm and had a potluck picnic which everyone loved. She scored a beautiful lavender dress for $50. Her mom grew all the flowers. She and her husband made all the favours the weekend before after splitting a bottle of wine. They had so so so much fun making the…
/r/RedPillWives30/08/18 01:32 AM
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Nope not worth it. We eloped and it was great. Married on the beach with a justice of the peace and 2 friends of ours. My only regrets are that we didn’t dress up (even a little) or get any professional pictures done. We spent $200. I don’t feel like we missed out that much. It’s a failed marriage at this point (14 years later) and if I ever get married again it will be a simple and frugal wedding. The idea of spending a house downpayment on one day would stress me out too much to actually enjoy…
/r/RedPillWives30/08/18 01:05 AM
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That’s a good approach
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/18 06:47 PM
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They weren’t married yet. This happened before the wedding.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/18 06:46 PM
1

Thank you for the reminder. As women - we need to cool our jets a bit with those instagram expectations sometimes and remember that a party that lasts one day is not with damaging our relationships or finances.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/18 04:24 PM
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He’s still her son. If I saw my child in a state of emotional distress because of their boyfriend or girlfriend - you bet your butt I would say something. Sometimes you can’t see the red flags when you’re in a relationship and it takes an outside perspective. She’s his mother and will always look out for his best interest. That’s how it goes.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/18 04:21 PM
2

Don’t think of it as a cold open. Just think of it as being friendly! Take some of that pressure off yourself and it might be easier.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/18 03:12 PM
4

My number one regret in life was marrying and staying with someone with a shady sexual history. Please don’t make the same mistake as I did. He might saveable but only he can do it and it’s a lot of work. Maybe after a few years of therapy he might be ok, but that’s a huge gamble I would never take. Girl, it’s time to go.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/18 05:11 PM
1

Decide on a colour palette and paint things to match it! We do a palette of white, cream and light grey. All of our furniture is mismatched and secondhand but you would never know it because it’s all in the same colour palette. Learn how to refinish furniture and you will always have a ton of cheap options! Plants add a lot of life and good energy to a room and there are many that aren’t toxic to pets and children. Second hand stores and the Facebook buy/sell groups are a great place to find gre…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/18 05:10 PM
1

I think you handled that perfectly, well done on maintaining those healthy boundaries. I’m really glad you didn’t just let it slide the way I did. Excellent.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/18 03:03 AM
1

Did you tell him how violated you feel? I would be really clear about that. My soon to be ex read my diary right when we first started dating (did it a few other times too) and looking back it’s a huge massive red flag I should not have ignored or downplayed. Insecurity and lack of respect kill relationships every day.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/18 02:43 AM
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The truth is you’ve devalued yourself in Will’s eyes and his relationship with you has cost him his friendship with his best friend. I can’t really blame him for wanting to be “casual” after that. I think you need to move on. Move way on. This social circle and these relationships are tainted. Better yourself, meet new men and then do better. The good part of this is that you’re young and you can learn from this mistake
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/18 02:13 AM
1

Whooooah I would feel violated too. Reading all your messages on FB from before his time even - wow. Hope he sees now how inappropriate that was.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/18 01:52 AM
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It’s a red flag for me when someone who isn’t life long committed wants access to all your personal stuff. This is how an abusive relationship started between one of my friends and her boyfriend. Pretty soon not even her male cousins were allowed to message her on FB without him losing his mind and it got super ugly very fast. In a marriage - I can see a couple giving each other mutual access - but it must be mutual or again - big red flag.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/18 06:11 PM
4

Thank you. That comment was gross.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/18 05:56 PM
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No I still think your experience and insight is valuable - I just don’t know how to apply it to my own life. Maybe I’ll think of it as a “caution sign” rather than a lesson per se. I do think you’re selling your mom a little short though. I mean, the woman was/is an engineer. I definitely respect her obvious intelligence and capability cause I could never do that. Also, you never know the nuances of a relationship. I feel a little embittered myself cause I’m trapped in a marriage with a cheater …
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/18 10:53 PM
7

Sooo what do we take from this in order to improve? Not work?? I can’t not work, there is no way we can make it on one income (trust me, I’m incredibly frugal and I know how to pinch a penny). Honestly I don’t get this post. What is the lesson here and how is it applicable?
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/18 03:57 PM
5

Your education should serve you well then. I would state it, but not make a huge deal about it. Be somewhat modest about it and you should be fine.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/18 07:58 PM
9

There’s a huge difference between sleeping with someone in a long term relationship and being promiscuous. No one here is suggesting promiscuity. You’re straw-manning.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/18 07:53 PM
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You do you, bro. This is just my own experience and my own thoughts. After 15 years of marriage I’m not as idealistic as I once was. But it’s a very sweet and romantic idea and I sincerely hope it works out for you the way you want it to.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/18 06:24 AM
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Two people who really don’t know what they are doing or what they like or don’t like? No thanks. What if your new wife finds she can’t get off without anal and the idea disgusts you? What if you like it rough and she’s the gentle type? And neither of you even knows this about yourselves yet - much less your spouse. Sexual compatibility is far more important to me than an intact hymen.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/18 06:05 AM
1

Routine routine routine! I have a morning tidy routine, evening tidy routine and each day I deep clean a different zone of the house. My home always looks company-ready and it feels pretty effort less since I do some every day. It’s never overwhelming.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/18 05:54 AM
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Honestly, I regret getting married with so little experience. Turns out sexual compatibility is actually pretty damn important. My husband and I (soon to be ex) are not sexually compatible and our kinks don’t match at all. I had no idea at the time because he was my only. I’m not saying ride the carousel, but I don’t believe marrying as a virgin is a good idea. Sex is too important to me to just “buy sight unseen” so to speak.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/18 05:39 AM
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Girl, he’s just not that into you. I’m sorry. If he was really into you you would know it. This awkwardness and “non-talk” is actually pretty clear. I suggest letting it go. Bringing anything up will just add another layer to the current awkwardness. Let go of any hopes or expectations and just treat him like any other friend. I give this advice from experience. Don’t be like the young me - save your dignity and move on. Be friendly and light around him but set your sights elsewhere. All the bes…
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/18 05:00 PM
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Have you tried a gritty cream cleanser like Vim? Or a magic eraser (melamine sponge)? I use Vim on my tubs and showers every week and I swear by it. Magic erasers have also cleaned things I had almost given up on!
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/18 04:27 PM
4

Thank you! I like you too!!
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/18 10:05 PM
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Indulging in beauty and sensuality. The feeling of awe you get when hear a beautiful song, or see a work of art that speaks to you. The lovely feeling of silky fabric against your skin or the smell of roses on a warm day - these things really center me in my feminine core. Smell those flowers, put that music on that inspires you, slow down and enjoy perfect ripe piece of fruit with all your senses, give someone a smile or a warm hug. Indulge in healthy sensual pleasures and enjoy the beauty arou…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/18 07:24 PM
3

Love that and so true. I can only imagine how cringe it is hearing women shit-talk their exes. I know it’s a huge red flag if a man shit talks their exes or refers to them as crazy.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/18 04:36 PM
2

I could not agree more! Very well said.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/18 03:58 PM
2

Yes it helps a lot thank you so much! I can’t wait to dive into those links. Please do make a post! I would love to read it. Thanks again, sister.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/18 04:37 PM
2

Link to podcast? Would love to give a listen
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/18 05:27 AM
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Can you be more specific about what “strong feminine energy” is? It’s something I really want to cultivate but I still don’t fully even grasp what it is.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/18 05:26 AM
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Fantastic post. I especially loved the “be the kind of woman he wants to commit to”. I would give this advice to my younger sister if she would listen! Edited cause of a word.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/18 02:32 AM
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I sing and play piano. I really want to learn operatic voice too! It’s so challenging and the idea so thrilling. I consider caring for my houseplants (mostly succulents) to be a hobby because I’m pretty into it and would love to turn it into a little side business. I love to paint as well. I’m not very talented but it gives me joy.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/18 11:26 PM
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Me too, girl! I’m in my late 30’s and I love it. So freeing.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/18 05:58 PM
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She mentioned nothing about being introverted or having no social skills. I think you’re reading into it. Also - I was hot at that age so I do actually know what people’s expectations are of a pretty young woman.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/18 05:00 PM
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Lol! Are you me?! Ha ha! Thank god for getting older right? It’s really exhausting to have those crises of identity all the time.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/18 04:51 PM
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You can’t find them because you’re young and self absorbed. No hate, I was like you at 21 too. EVERYONE hides what they feel are undesirable aspects of themselves. Everyone. Everyone is afraid of judgement and feel like no one understands them. It’s called the human condition.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/18 04:06 PM
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I had to suppress my internal eye rolling cause you sound EXACTLY like me and all my friends at 23. We thought it was so amazing that we could love camping AND dresses?! We are so complex and interesting, lol! You’re not having an identity crisis, you’re not weird. You don’t have multiple personalities and you’re not special. You’ve been told your whole life what a unique special butterfly you are and this angst is the result. Lots of people love fashion, weed, metal and football. It makes you..…
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/18 03:41 PM
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We’ve always done at 80/20 with whoever stays home with kids doing the lion’s share and the working partner helping out. It works well for us. Right now I’m the breadwinner and he’s home with the kids. I would never expect him to do absolutely EVERYTHING while being the hands-on dad. I have no problem helping out with chores after coming home after a shift because I know he’s been working hard parenting as well as cooking and cleaning. I would never say that he failed at his (difficult) job bein…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/18 04:57 PM
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Brutal and not ok. That’s really unfair of him. Moms of babies who work full time (night shift as NURSE even) need more help and less shitty comments. I’m angry for you. :(
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/18 04:41 PM
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What stuff excites you daydream about? I’ve always loved music so it’s just part of who I am. My houseplants are very therapeutic for me. It all started with one cute succulent and now I’m a full blown plant lady.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/18 01:18 AM
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Yep faulty logic but super common! You have to become a complete person on your own first. Relationships where someone relies on their partner to define them as people are EXHAUSTING to be in and usually don’t last or become very codependent. Do you have any hobbies or passions? Invest yourself in them. They don’t have to be exciting. You just gotta figure out what your things are! Personally I play piano/sing and collect and care for my houseplants. It’s nothing crazy but it lights me up. Figur…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/18 12:57 AM
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I get it! When I first started reading about RP I felt pretty overwhelmed so I totally feel where you’re coming from! Sounds like you’ve got a handle on what you can do to maximize your physical appearance. I disagree that you can’t look nice in scrubs. I wear scrubs too! Hospital-issue scrubs are kinda hard to look good in but if you’re allowed to buy your own there are tons of flattering scrub companies out there (I love Koi but there are other great companies that make cute scrubs that I wish…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/18 12:11 AM
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Is there anything specific you would like some guidance on? Your post is pretty broad but I’d love to help if you have some more specific question, concerns or goals.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/18 11:06 PM
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If one thing has been drilled into us since birth it’s that our youth and beauty is our biggest asset and it’s running out rapidly. Blue pill and red pill alike. Women are extremely aware of what you call the wall and we don’t need men writing up long protracted essays about it. We don’t need your reminders, trust me we know. 🙄
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/18 04:01 PM
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Right!! That’s exactly why I’m so sick of reading about it here. It’s always men that bring it up too. “Remember you won’t be hot soon cause wall”. Women are quite well aware of it thank you very much. 🙄
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/18 07:27 AM
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Well said.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/18 06:32 AM
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Yes they eat at women more than men. Men aren’t told that their biggest virtue is their youth or beauty. I get the biological attraction to youth and beauty - it makes perfect sense. But it’s a small part of who we are. Our obsession with it is really toxic.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/18 04:59 AM
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“Women are either attractive or hideous.” Lol that’s ridiculous. It is NOT this black and white. Someone I find hideous might be stunning to you and vice versa. I think this wall shit is so so so overplayed here and it makes women feel terrible about themselves when it’s something they can’t help. You can’t NOT age, you can’t bring fertility back once it goes. Why so much fretting over this thing we can’t control? Just...do your best. Eat well, exercise, take care of your hair and skin as best y…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/18 04:28 AM
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No I would never suggest being “lol ok”. He was disrespectful and I understand why you were upset. I would keep it short and sweet. I find that a “that’s not cool or okay” goes a long way. It’s a way of pointing out the behaviour - not totally emasculating him as a person/man. There is HUGE power in showing emotional restraint. Saying you don’t approve and leaving the room is very clear but leaves his ego intact. When I see shitty drivers I never give the finger - I give a “thumbs down” and head…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/18 01:02 AM
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There’s a lot to unpack here. You probably don’t want my general advice but a few things that stuck out to me - “ice skating” is a reference to meth. You mentioned you worried about him doing drugs - unless he’s some kind of hockey guy that would be a yellow flag. When you said “there are other guys way better looking than you” IN FRONT OF HIS FRIENDS that was absolutely brutal. Him slipping and calling someone else a “fine ass bitch” ( ew by the way) didn’t deserve the emasculating response you…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/18 04:03 PM
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Depends on your goals. 21% on the low end to 31% on the high end.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/18 06:20 PM
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You’re doing enough, mama. I promise you. You’re building fingers and toes and a brain and all that other stuff from scratch - and you’re having an even tougher time cause it’s been a difficult pregnancy. Don’t feel guilty, I can tell you’re really trying. Let him be the strong one right now and let yourself be a little more gentle to you.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/18 06:18 PM
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It totally depends on your build. If you have a smaller bone structure it might be overweight but not super overweight. I’m the same height and looked awesome at 160 because I have a very athletic build. I have friends who have smaller builds that would look pretty dumpy over 140. Body fat percentage is a much better number to go by than BMI.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/18 05:45 PM
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They both did. Two way street.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/18 03:31 AM
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You slept with a married man. Who cares if you don’t take selfies or you cook? The lady who ruined my marriage probably has some redeeming qualities too but I will forever hate her because the she failed at the one most important thing - being a decent human being. Edited for grammar.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/18 02:54 AM
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You spent the night on the third date but you didn’t have sex?Girl nooooo that’s being a huge tease. Don’t stay the night unless you intend to sleep with him. He was probably hugely disappointed and thought you were just playing him.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/18 05:45 AM
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Horrible and ridiculous advice. Work is a professional environment. There’s a time and place for “mating dances” as you call them and work isn’t one of them.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/18 04:59 PM
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Being told something that made you feel disgusting or unsafe should never be part of the job - especially as a minor. I would go to your boss. It’s your boss’ job to protect their employees - especially minors/young people. If one of my employees or customers was harassing one of my employees I would damn well want to know about it so I could take care is my employee and the situation. Was this a co-worker or customer? Was anyone else around? I know it’s hard but you are always within your right…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/18 05:33 AM
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No we don’t. We are actively trying not to.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/18 05:41 PM
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Thanks guys, that actually makes a ton of sense. Kind of like how those girls that say “I hate drama” are usually the worst for drama..
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/18 07:48 PM
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Excellent advice
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/18 05:54 PM
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Whoah - saying “no hookups I want a relationship” looks like/means you’re damaged? I’m scratching my head here cause I’ve never thought “no hookups” meant low value or damaged. Can you explain that more specifically? I want to understand
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/18 05:53 PM
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Aw I love your “moon date”. What an awesome idea!
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/18 08:13 PM
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Thanks for replying. I found your last sentence intriguing because I’ve thought about the tax thing too..
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/18 02:59 PM
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I feel like this is kind of out of touch with reality today. Women don’t work because we aren’t domestic women, we work because we have to! Unless you’re lucky enough to be married to someone with a high income - two incomes are a necessity (in most major areas). People act like this is political or cultural and I don’t think it is. It comes down to money more than anything else in my opinion. I have several feminist friends who would give their left foot to be a stay at home mom. In our high co…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/18 02:28 PM
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That makes sense! I’ve definitely felt my feelings of self worth/value rise or fall depending on the attention of a man.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/18 03:30 AM
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Comment saved, thank you
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/18 09:08 PM
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You need to lift, girl. Squats. Seriously. You can get thicker in all the right places if you train your body properly.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/18 04:55 PM
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I keep my fingernails bare and natural ( I love the clean look). If I do wear polish for special occasions it’s a light pink-nude. I use a deep cool red on my toenails. I despise most nail trends and I’m pretty old fashioned when it comes to manicures.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/18 12:01 AM
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Face yoga? I’d love to hear more about this!
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/18 02:00 AM
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“Showing up”. Wow. You’re exactly right. Brilliant response!
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 03:21 PM
1

Ahhhhhh got it. I think I know what you’re talking about and yes it’s a very flirty move
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/18 02:00 PM
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I’m trying to imagine what you mean by “dips her head slightly”. Do you have an example?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/18 09:15 PM
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Awesome post thank you. I’m glad you said this cause cause I’ve been thinking about frame too. Good for you for just going with the sheets. You maintained grace and composure as well. I think that’s valuable especially to men. Minding your posture, cultivating a sense of calm, presenting your best self (grooming,hair, skin, makeup, Clothes) on a daily basis, speaking less and speaking well, cultivating depth, behaving like a lady both in public and at home, openness and friendliness- these thing…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/18 05:33 PM
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Wow sounds like you both have very full plates! I commend you for working 3 jobs plus nursing school plus staying fit! That’s really impressive, I couldn’t manage all that! Something that really helps me is doing my cleaning routines every morning and night and the reserving an hour or two of weekend time to a deep clean. Here’s my routine Morning: Make all the beds Quick pickup and wipe down in bathrooms (30 seconds) Empty dishwasher and put breakfast dishes back in. Tidy kitchen and wipe the c…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/18 06:10 PM
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Once we have that conversation about exclusivity. I wouldn’t expect fidelity until we both decided we want to be exclusive.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/18 03:52 PM
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Yikes
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/18 03:48 PM
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Absolutely. Im genuinely attracted to older men and always have been. I’m also quite submissive so I think that’s part of it. The experience and wisdom of an older man is so sexy to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/18 09:58 PM
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Sometimes it IS rape and abuse though. :(
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/18 06:04 PM
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Hoooly shit. This is not “feminism poisoning your sexuality” - this guy has damage. Severe, severe issues. THIS IS ABUSE. He is abusing you. Please get out. Don’t let your child grow up thinking this is normal. It’s not.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/18 06:02 PM
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Hmm I’ll have to think about this more but I think it’s healthy for both partners to feel lucky - like they’ve got a great catch. Knowing your mate’s worth encourages both partners to continue to grow as people and work hard on their relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/18 10:56 PM
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You’re so right, my friend. I have a lot of feminist friends with happy healthy marriages based on mutual respect and love. The nit-picking lazy feminist is a trope and certainly they exist - but it’s not an accurate picture of many of them.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/18 10:51 PM
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I don’t think it’s shallowness - it makes perfect biological sense. Younger fit women are probably more fertile and able to give birth to healthier offspring. Wealthy men are better able to provide for offspring than poor men. It might seem shallow but it makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/18 05:58 PM
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I do pay for my kids, thanks. I’m talking about social structure here. Holy shit you’re a salty one.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/18 05:52 PM
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It’s cheaper to abort then support an unwanted child. It makes perfect fiscal sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/18 07:37 AM
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I absolutely wouldn’t mention red pill. You could say that you like traditional relationships if you feel the need to mention anything.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/18 06:00 AM
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Ew, no. Id prefer a man with some standards. 😂
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/18 05:49 AM
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Don’t relax too much. Boundaries help keep the romance and mystery alive. At home, it’s fine to be in cute pyjamas with a face mask on bumming around the house. That can be cute. But if you need to pass gas from any orifice its good to do that in the bathroom. Speaking of which, shut the door when you go. Your man doesn’t need the details on your gastric distress either. You’re smart to keep up the oral hygiene and showering. Men really hate when women don’t wash their hair. They love when a wom…
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/18 05:42 AM
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Those three dots on the top right hand corner? Tap it and then tap “community info”. That’s the sidebar.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/18 05:25 AM
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Pretty sure that would get us painted as a thirsty slut.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/18 05:22 AM
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It's at that point that good, High Value Men have no interest in dealing with a reformed feminist. Sucks to be me then.
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/18 12:32 AM
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It is a financial sacrifice the whole family makes. Family income goes down, husband is under more stress to provide. I feel very grateful and lucky I got to be home for both my kids until kindergarten but it absolutely was a sacrifice. STBX husband had more pressure, I had less of a budget to feed and clothe the kids and the extras like piano and swimming lessons couldn’t happen when we wanted them to. It was a sacrifice for all of us but it was worth it. It wasn’t easy but I’m glad we did thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/18 12:12 AM
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If enough of us are telling you a thing - you’d think you would listen! Tattoos are very trendy and so is his hair. I don’t know why you think tattoos are edgy or bad-boy. They’re really not. They’re pretty basic these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/18 09:35 AM
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Lady here. Guy #1 only cause he looks relaxed and chill. He looks like he could be my gay bff and we could go to yoga together and talk about boys. It would be platonic. None of these men appeal to me on a lust level - they look too try-hard. Businessman and gym-bro look standoffish and douchey.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/18 08:40 AM
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Fantastic. This is a really well written summary, thanks for sharing it with us!
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/18 05:34 AM
1

In other news - water is wet!
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/18 05:29 AM
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To be honest I’m really tired of men using this sub to air out their grievances against feminists/ women. This has nothing to do with bettering ourselves as women. This kind of low hanging fruit content clutters up the feed.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/18 04:37 AM
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Lol! Thank you for the laugh! 😂 If we misgender someone we just say sorry and carry on.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/18 07:30 PM
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I’m Canadian and we don’t have the same gun culture Americans do, although we do own guns and many of us hunt. I do understand where you’re coming from and I agree with you politically HOWEVER - this doesn’t need to be a dealbreaker. You have the same values and this is a very small divergence of opinion. Like previous posters have said -it sounds like he is a mature and responsible gun owner. There will be other things you don’t share exactly the same opinion on and that’s normal and to be expe…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/18 07:18 PM
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“Only free nation on earth” Lol PLEASE. That’s a laughably ridiculous statement.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/18 07:10 PM
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I wasn’t the only one. He cheated multiple times with multiple women. There is always a risk of your partner cheating. When your partner is a sex addict that risk is extremely high.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/18 05:20 PM
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Total obliteration of my trust, my loss of respect for him, the end of our marriage, the end of our parenting unit and exposure to disease. My once-manageable depression and anxiety have skyrocketed. I can’t stress enough how bad things are now despite both of us trying to fix it. I would rather die a lonely old lady than love a sex addict. I gave him many chances but he’s too broken. Knowing what I know now, I wouldn’t dream of being with a sex addict.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/18 05:06 AM
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About to divorce a sex addict myself and there is no way I would be willing to go down that road again. Never ever ever. It’s great that he’s working on his issues and I give him credit for that but the risk of relapse is really high and the consequences are devastating.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/18 03:07 AM
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