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thro281/r/Divorce_Men13/10/23 07:44 PM
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thro281/r/Divorce_Men04/07/24 07:45 PM
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The formula is your multiple your age by 2 and realize that you only live once and date who you want to. I got divorced and turned down some younger women but there is so much to learn and experience from all types of women if they like to for the right reasons.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/25 04:51 PM
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Respectfully you can’t date your way out of this. She is in her black hole stage where anything he does will be taken negatively by her. It can be her favorite Michelin and she will turn it into why didn’t you ask me, or I wish we could’ve gotten a table near…. or we can’t afford this. She has to change her mindset to she wants to save the marriage too.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/25 01:04 PM
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Signs are definitely lack of respect. Her overvaluing what she does and dismissing what you do. Another sign is her hanging around single women. Single women poison married women faster than anything.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/25 10:36 AM
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Hired one two days a week best advice ever.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/25 12:39 PM
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Update I decided to not go out of town, got a babysitter and went to an event in town. I saw her and her friend at the event. She blatantly lied saying she was going to be visiting her mother. What a terrible person
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/24 07:19 PM
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Yes at least in Maryland
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/24 07:17 PM
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I make over 100,000 more and have 50/50. I only pay 615. After alimony and other things
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/24 07:15 PM
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This makes no sense
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/24 12:43 AM
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This makes no sense
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/24 12:42 AM
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It’s amazing how that happened. It’s like all these good things started happening the further I got away from her
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/24 06:57 PM
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This reminds me of those scenes in the TV show The Walking Dead where Rick had visions of everyone working together for the good of the community even Neagan who was the bad guy. It wasn’t until Neagan gets his throat slit after a war and goes to prison for years that he is redeemed. I say that to say that is how most redemption stories go after marriage. It is usually the man who wants to work together and be the good guy. It is only after being out in the street and realizing it is much harder…
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/24 01:27 PM
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Wow just wow
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/24 02:55 PM
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I try to be a bigger man but I do want her to not do as well. Maybe later but it’s still fresh.
/r/Divorce_Men05/08/24 04:42 PM
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During my year of separation I learned a lot. I started doing what I wanted to do. Cycling, running, taking my self to coffee shops, lunches, happy hours, concerts. I started connecting with me again and guess what it became natural for me to talk to people and guess what some of those people are women. I don’t use dating apps. I just meet people in person and women happen to have a lot of friends. I think in this year about 60 guys and women have my number. There is always a party or event to a…
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/24 11:29 PM
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The great thing about being a man is we get better with age because we know how to get better with age. This shit doesn’t just happen I spent my 20s and 30s getting knowledge and experience. I get more women now from the breadth of conversations than I did from the breadth of my chest and lats as a very handsome 25 year old. So my advice is to lean into your age and have confidence. Then you will see a difference.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/24 03:44 PM
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New life who dis? Lol. Don’t worry about it and you must let any new woman know what your situation is.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 10:52 PM
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And here I am complaining about $750 a month for 3 years. Congratulations bro!!!
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 03:41 PM
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What branch are you in? Are you officer or enlisted? I was in the Navy but not want to jargon you to death and I don’t want to tell you repetitive info. So as others said your marriage is over now it is time to prevent further damage to your future. Don’t be nice because divorce is a shakedown. I know your instinct being in the military is to sacrifice, but don’t be nice because divorce is a shakedown. You have people in your unit who have been through this and will give you good advice, or at l…
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 11:22 AM
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Materialistic She doesn’t read books for whatever reason she doesn’t get along with her mother (we men are supposed to get along with both parents why can’t they)
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/24 07:36 PM
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I wish I had this 401k advice
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 01:04 AM
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I am 3.5 months removed after 11 months of separation. I’ve traveled, bonded with family and friends and have gotten new friends. Life is so good that every random dog comes up to me to absorb my positivity. I get hugs from the women I’ve sleep with and it feels like actual bonding and not just something to do.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/24 04:14 PM
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Sounds like a sign to me.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/24 01:56 PM
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About a month when I realized there was no going back.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/24 01:55 PM
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I went on dates but didn’t seriously date anyone. As long as you don’t lose focus on the goals. I felt I could do both, but the quality of women I was pursuing were not amicable to my situation. That is fair, and I think it helped me become a better person because I failed at attaching to someone while doing through this traumatic experience. Now that I am fully available my dating life is bustling.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/24 06:46 PM
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Slept with two women since my divorce had been final two months ago and I didn’t know it could be that good. I really sacrificed a lot for that crappy marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/24 07:25 PM
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I did Yokosuka as a single man and it changed my life. It was the culture more than the women you meet. I met a great one and she really opened my eyes. I messed up by not marrying her. Instead I met, married and divorced the next woman I dated stateside.
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/24 07:22 PM
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Between my mortgage and all the money I’m paying her I don’t have much left for a nanny.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/24 03:02 AM
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Outsource things my man. You don’t want or need someone to lighten your load. You are approaching this new life all wrong. It sounds like you make a decent living. Use Care.com to find babysitters and house keepers that have background checks approved through the website. I started a premium subscription and it has been great. Last week I hired 2 babysitters for 3 events/dates. They cost $25 an hour so I spent $400 last week. They are reliable, do light housekeeping and play with the kids 9 and …
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/24 05:25 PM
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It is very quick. To paraphrase OP 14 years gone in like 5 minutes. I have been done for 3 months and this right now is one of those sad moments. That is a very visceral statement.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 08:30 AM
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Talk to a title company.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/24 09:01 PM
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I bought out my ex and there is value to keeping the house. However, the kids will just look at you home as daddy’s home and the same for the mom. They are incredibly flexible at this age and will adjust accordingly. They will get used to two homes. My advice to you is do an outstanding job making the home a home which may involve you hiring an interior designer or a few good female friends.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 01:59 PM
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Why did you move out? That is the number 1 mistake men make. Move back into the house as soon if possible. But if you can’t keep requesting access as others have stated.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/24 02:30 PM
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So true, my rebound dumped me and I feel even more depressed than the divorce. It was a great lesson learned though.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/24 02:00 AM
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This right here should get more likes. I did in home separation for 10 months. She tried to get me kicked out via pendente lite trial and once the judge found out we still lived together he said they couldn’t just kick me out. She was gone within 1.5 months and I now have the house and 50/50 custody.
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/24 04:14 PM
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Try to settle as quickly as possible. Pay a little extra because lawyers will drain your assets faster than anything. Everyone, the opposing attorney, the judge, the clerks are part of the system and they will get paid. Save your money and settle.
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/24 06:11 PM
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I am 43, 5’11, with an athletic build and I’ve been told I’m handsome with a nice smile. I just went over 11 months no sex and my divorce will be final in about two weeks. I have met many women in person, don’t do the apps due to horror stories, and have gone out on several dates including concerts and speakeasy’s, I tell them upfront I’m still legally married and they eventually back away. The most I’ve had in this time is a kiss two months ago. I’m a good dater and a great catch, it’s just the…
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/24 01:04 PM
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Right now bank transfers. Once she does the other stuff it will automatically be garnished from my retirement so I don’t see it.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/24 01:37 PM
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Don’t go too hard and pour out your whole heart too quickly. I was in something and was like a runaway train. She’s gone now and if I would have taken it slowly who knows.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/24 04:11 PM
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So adjusting for a 3.4% annual rate and I pay her $470 a month until 2044 if I live that long. I will pay my ex-spouse $604,922. She did not one deployment or wore one uniform
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/24 06:53 PM
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I got dared by a disrespectful spouse that I wouldn’t divorce her. She figured she had me due to all my assets and MY retirement. This is not right.
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/24 05:37 PM
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The Sea Lawyers tell you if you married < 10 the spouse can’t get anything, but that is so wrong. The military should teach us about this messed up law. I married her with 7.5 years left. She came in during the good part of my career with shore duty and San Diego. No 9/11, no Enduring Freedom, no overseas tour. And during all that she made more than me and kept her same job.
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/24 05:31 PM
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I don’t know if I’m allowed to do this but there has been a petition out for a while about this: https://www.change.org/p/us-congress-repeal-the-uniformed-services-former-spouses-protection-act
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/24 05:15 PM
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Well, thanks to the Former Spouse Protection Act of 1982, I will be paying my spouse for the rest of her or my life. You got to love how this country screws over military retirees. My pension shouldn’t be community property.
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/24 03:53 PM
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I’m almost 43 and left a covert narcissist. I’ll say find you a third place like a coffee shop, book store, barbershop, etc. Have conversations with people and expand your network. I did that and now I have people to eat lunch with on the weekends, people that invite me to parties and just people to hang out with. Do something that gets you outside like golfing or running and that will also expand your social network.
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/24 09:39 PM
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Same I love getting ready to music, now I jam it and I will dance with the kids at breakfast. It is so freeing.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 11:50 AM
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I am $60,000 and we are finally settling. Settle as quick as you can. I tried to do an MSA and she wanted to tell the world how bad I was. Now 10 months later it is almost over.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 02:16 AM
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She worked from home and can’t maintain the house so we have a housekeeper come once a month. When she is gone on her girls trips the house is easier to clean. Once she moves out I’m canceling the cleaning service, I’m eating leftovers, I’m going to eat out less, I’m canceling HBO, YouTube TV, and my cell phone bill goes down.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 07:19 PM
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The more men do the more they resent us. They resent us for making more money, they resent us for making less money. They resent us for being the sole provider, they resent us for them having to work. They resent that they do all the cooking, they resent us when we do most of the cooking. I once got into an argument because I organized the refrigerator and she felt that I was showing her up. I really think women need drama and most of them blame the man nearest to them for their lack of apprecia…
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 12:19 AM
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Like the Android said on Blade Runner as he was dying “All those moments will be lost in time, like tears in rain”. Your marriage memories will not matter to them as much as it does to you. Their ability to reframe marriage as bondage will have them move on quickly. Focus on the future and living your best life.
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 06:24 PM
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This!!!
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/24 04:25 PM
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The secret is that what they do isn’t that hard. When she would leave I prepared meals, did laundry, picked up the kids and took them to extracurricular while commuting to work 20 miles each way. I also does what she doesn’t such as cut the grass, take out the trash, conduct repairs, change air filters, etc. She worked from home and complained and had no joy. Society tells women they work so hard but with modern amenities it is no longer true. Men do more.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/24 04:29 PM
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Talk to a lawyer first. You are kind of screwed because you paid the mortgage and she just did clothes. The equity will be divided equally as martial property. Do not I repeat do not move out of the house. Do not agree to anything without your lawyer. Also as far as lawyers go they all are not as smart as one thinks so always be looking out for your best interest. Try to get a settlement as soon as possible. I wanted to do a peaceful settlement, she wanted to fight because I decided to end the m…
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/23 06:53 PM
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That is actually pretty good. Any alimony?
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 03:06 PM
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-Friends. (song lyric) How many of us have them? -Gym, trails, pavement, mat. Hit them -Meditation. Learn to do it -Books. Read them -Work. Lean in on it -Affirmations. Believe them. -Time. Okay eventually we all get back into equilibrium like a thermostat. As time passes you will get better. Admittedly time passes slower when you are going through this. Good luck
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/23 02:29 PM
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My divorce is at $27,000 on my end and 7 months in. She wants to go to court because her lawyers are grifting her and she blatantly believes any woman in power. She wants to give me 50/50 custody because she can’t handle the kids. Now it is an asset fight. We have tried to settle twice and they don’t respond.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 11:44 PM
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I’m 42, handsome and in great shape. I am 7 months into the divorce process and I wanted female attention all the time. I found myself always heading out with hopes of getting a phone number or flirting, but now I’m just out with me for my coffee, for my meal, for my beer. I’m on my journey to have actual self-esteem. Females aren’t all that they are cracked up to be and take everyone’s advice and learn to be happy with you.
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/23 12:25 AM
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Okay it will take time. I knew I was going to feel this way when I ended the marriage so the year prior I started watching Cuck Porn, which I find disturbing, but it helped me feel that it could always be worse. As long as it is not in front of me then whatever. Now as you go through this and she is truly a bad person, you will feel the bond start to weaken and you may even feel sorry for her and hope she finds someone just so she will want to settle faster. I’m seven months in and in the beginn…
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/23 07:47 PM
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I like this. They do crave admiration and pursing their own happiness which is usually some social media fantasy with the ingredients usually being: implants, tummy tucks, mixed drinks and wine, bikini pics, people appreciating them while they are on vacation, and them flirting and/or sleeping with all of these guys. They don’t realize that their fantasy is just that.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/23 01:27 PM
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I’m in the same boat. Before we left she was very melodramatic like she is going to miss the kids over Thanksgiving. They were all crying in the garage as I was finishing packing for the trip. I have a huge family down South so I hardly miss her. My kids are just having such a blast with family and I’m happy they are getting to know more about my side of the family. I was going to leave on Friday but my daughter wants to stay another day. I think we will stay surrounded by love instead of the ho…
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/23 01:10 PM
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Two married people making the same income let’s say each making $100,000 is nothing compared to a smart man making just $100,000. Marriage math is not simple and your lifestyle will be more expensive than you realize. As men we are mostly minimalist and as someone mentioned you won’t have to spend money on wedding rings, dress, extra bedrooms in a big house for visitors who won’t come, etc. Wives cause husbands to spend by using emotional abusive words such as cheap. We don’t care about the Jone…
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 02:26 PM
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You paid for a boob job. Look all over this forum, she is likely making plans to leave you. The boobs jobs comes and then divorce usually follows.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 11:53 AM
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Wow, look at my response to this thread. I have lived this life.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 11:12 AM
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My STBX has a Masters Degree and is very pretty. She cooked well and was into the working out. We got together at 29 and married at 31 even though I found her conversations very superficial and she said she doesn’t read, because she said “I read slow”. I was always into reading and had a technical career. I figured I would get my intellectual stimulation through friends and by pursing my education while I was in the military. I got my BS degree and my MS degree while holding down a very demandin…
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 11:06 AM
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This is exactly what I told people. I don’t know if I will find happiness out there, but I am sure as hell miserable here.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/23 11:57 PM
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Lol
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 11:10 PM
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Wow this is a woman I can respect. Signed a prenup, but found another way to get over on you. Dare I say she is a genius. And does any normal man ever make out?
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 12:01 AM
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Ahhhh but….. but…. You’re right. But she is doing it and how about emotional support
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/23 03:08 PM
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Admittedly, this is selfish of me and I am not available as women have stated, but there are certain needs/wants I have. I am thinking of pulling back though because a couple of women say they can hear the pain when I discuss my marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 06:50 PM
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I initiated almost 6 months ago and she immediately stopped talking to me-we do everything via text or email now-she left for a girls trip for a week and I’m sure she got all kinds of bad advice from the bitter women there. She never even asked why I decided to end things. She just assumed that I thought she cheated on me. So a month and a half later things were contentious and she told the kids, without me, that we are divorcing, and she file first. Since this has been going on I had 3 work tri…
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 06:41 PM
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The punishment of making more. Marriage sucks.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 01:28 AM
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My hero. My lawyer told me to make a deal that I get 50/50 custody and I will move out. I said she wants to go partying and dating and she already is asking for 50/50. I get nothing with that deal. I don’t want to pay her legal fees or alimony. I also don’t think she deserves half because I came into the marriage with a lot more assets. I’ll pay child support, kids insurance and anything pertaining to the children.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/23 11:57 PM
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My lawyer said that is a ridiculous request and we won’t have to, but I want to listen to the real men here.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/23 11:08 PM
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5.5 months in and I retained a lawyer 14 months ago and spent $19,000 so far. We still live together and have two kids. Yet she still wants temporary alimony and she makes $115k a year.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/23 07:36 PM
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My STBX listened to the most aggressive and contradictory friend. She told her to ignore me and take away my power and have my wife at the time be a dick to me. However, for her husband she caters to him, makes him food and carries it to the couch for him. I observed this while we were on the vacation together. I thought what a fraud this woman is but my wife at the time kept listening to her.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/23 09:08 PM
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Thanks for all the comments. I am just going to focus on a fair settlement. I just hate the uncertainty. She has nothing to lose and can just keep me tied up in litigation because lawyers say they can have me pay her legal fees.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/23 05:46 PM
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My state has fault and no fault divorce
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/23 05:03 PM
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She doesn’t care about money she just wants me to suffer. She is due an inheritance soon and I’m estimating close to $500k. I am not dealing with a logical person. She doesn’t talk to me and feel like the last 13 years were a waste and her goal is to make me pay and hurt me and she has even used my kids to do it. She hates me for initiating this.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/23 04:40 PM
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Look how I began the thread. I tried peacefully with a MSA and she did the abuse, cruelty and other things. I only released this as a “she is not as good as she portrays card”. She said I abused our kids yet she always leaves them with me to take week long trips and weekend trips multiple times a year. She still hasn’t said what she wants beside 50/50 custody (because child abusers deserve those things), child support, retirement, money and money but nothing specific.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/23 04:37 PM
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Because strippers find men who are taken more of a challenge and they want to corrupt you.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 06:28 PM
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I agree. This is knowledge right here.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 12:35 AM
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What were the results? Did you get 50/50?
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/23 03:10 AM
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We were not so good before. Then my son got diagnosed with autism in January 2020. We could handle it with all the services and then March 2020 everything shuts down and we get no service and our son regresses. All he does is cry all day unless he is eating and stays up almost all night. I’m tired and spankings happen because they is what I learned growing up. Honestly I hated life for almost a year and I became an unhappy person and she was unhappy as well. Once things open back up she decided …
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/23 12:08 AM
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I’m 5 months in and we still live together. I’ve spoken to women but no sex yet. I found out she was dating someone else. I prepped myself for this moment and I initiated the end of the marriage but it still sucks. However, just realize you will have sex again and once you do it will be a far trade. She will eventually feel empty the more guys she sleeps with because sex isn’t important to the majority of women and you will feel fulfilled because sex is important to us.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/23 12:02 AM
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I’m still going through the process but as I was planning for this I learned to golf. Golfing takes up a lot of time, it gets you out in nature, and it is a very social sport. Now that I golf my social life has gotten better and I bond more with coworkers. Golf is also a great excuse to drink beer during the day. Take up golf and you will fill your time. Another sport that is good is cycling. It takes a lot of time, you get super fit and when you go to other countries especially Europe it will o…
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/23 04:37 PM
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They literally aren’t, they are just victims and everything a man gets is not due to hard work, it is due to them being men. I worked my ass off every night I studied some for work for 4 years and increased my salary by 40%. My STBX in that time has moved to two lateral positions within her company to dodge responsibility and watches reality TV well into the night. But she told the court she sacrificed her career for me. She has been at the same company for 15 years.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/23 11:16 PM
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This here can only be etched by someone who themselves were carved so deeply. Thank you for the advice.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/23 08:46 AM
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Some say women are playing chess and we are playing checkers. I think we are playing The Game of Life and they are playing checkers. We are hoping that next card or square gets us happiness, they are constantly jumping pieces and in the end they get it all. Oh the game is actually pretty simple we just deny it’s being played.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/23 06:28 AM
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Tell me more please. We still share cell phone and streaming accounts
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/23 02:45 AM
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It 430 in the morning here the insomnia from divorce is real, but this made me chuckle out loud.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/23 02:34 AM
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I pretty much said what you said but more succinctly and got -3. I don’t understand Reddit.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/23 01:14 AM
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She is going to get those pills now and divorce him later. So you say it’s better that he keep paying to delay the inevitable. I have a lot more money than my wife I’m only going to get richer so she might as well take half now. I’ll get it back in 5 years.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/23 06:29 PM
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Mine did the same she talked so much shit to her girlfriends saying I didn’t pay for the surgery and I could afford it. Gtfoh. Don’t be a sucker, no is your best weapon once you are married
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/23 06:17 PM
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My STBX got surgery in San Diego before we moved back to the East Coast in 2019 and tried to get me pay half. I told her I felt she tried to trick by having me say I would pay half and I didn’t know the cost. I ended up paying $5k of the $20k. She said she didn’t feel sexy because her body was ruined after the 2nd kid. FastForward some years and she said her breast were still too sensitive but she was always posting Social Media bikini pics against my wishes. So pretty much everyone got to enjoy…
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/23 06:15 PM
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When my wife let her single friend stay at our house for the weekend and then disrespected me I sent her the separation agreement within 3 months. She met her on some of these mom trips. This woman was never married and was 43 with no prospects but my wife decided she was a great person to hang out with. I knew she was too far in that partying.. ahem, I mean mom lifestyle.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/23 12:04 AM
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I’m 4 months in and I initiated the split. She was just like your ex and didn’t want to do any of those things. I even told the marriage counselor I get jealous seeing couples on walks. I can’t wait to meet someone who is interesting and actually like me.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 11:56 PM
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