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| 9 | What would you tell black women who are experiencing racial bias when it comes to dating?I noticed the same thing on “Too Hot To Handle” on Netflix. Rhonda (the black woman on the show) got treated so well by a bunch of the guys, regardless of their races. Although she ultimately ended up coupling up with one of the two black men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 10:14 PM |
| 9 | Don't ever move for a manI have my own horror story about this. I started dating my NVM ex last year when we both lived in the same West Coast (USA) city, but then he wanted to move back to his hometown in the South for six months and he asked me to come with him. It was a major Southern city, so I figured I could be decently happy there and six months would go by fast. I paid for my one-way plane ticket, ended my living agreement with my roommate, cancelled my gym membership, and quit my job. I started a new job that w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 10:01 PM |
| 14 | These fly out stories never end well and these women never learn....OMG, I have so many horror stories about traveling to meet guys and then getting thrown out like trash after I arrive! My last NVM ex had me move across the country to live with him in his hometown for six months (pre-COVID) and then wrote me a horrific two-page breakup letter explaining all his pet peeves about me right after I arrived and then made me fly back. I discovered FDS soon after that and I’ve decided I will never travel for a guy ever again. The only exception was when my HVM college… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 09:28 PM |
| 12 | Beautifulpeople: An OLD site where disgusting scrotes can rate women as “absolutely hideous”I made a profile on there when I was 19 (10 years ago) just because I was curious if I’d get accepted. I got in and the validation felt good at the time because I was super insecure, but I never actually used the site or talked to anyone after that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 08:02 AM |
| 5 | Finally, an unpopular opinion we can get behind!She actually used a random vagina pic from Google, not a pic of her own. But they were all excited to get it. https://metro.co.uk/2015/11/21/this-is-what-happened-when-a-woman-sent-men-unsolicited-vagina-pics-on-a-dating-app-5517405/amp/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 10:03 AM |
| 13 | Finally, an unpopular opinion we can get behind!I read an article once by a female journalist who sent a bunch of men unsolicited vagina pics on Bumble as a social experiment and then wrote about their reactions. But otherwise I’ve never heard of a woman doing that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 02:46 AM |
| 12 | Where is the lie? And, Who are the worst?? I’ve heard Pisces men...My emotionally abusive NVM ex was a Virgo and he was so goddamn nitpicky! He basically wanted me to be perfect and never make mistakes, but he would always bottle it in and act like everything was great and then just explode in anger out of nowhere. He broke up with me by writing me a two-page letter explaining all my “flaws” in detail and then kicking me out of our shared apartment. He still had a lot of trauma from his previous divorce and I’m pretty sure he was just using me as an ego boost t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 08:17 PM |
| 18 | It's not your responsibility to make your or any man feel like a manAbsolutely and it’s so sad! I really wish men like my dad were much more common. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 07:55 PM |
| 52 | It's not your responsibility to make your or any man feel like a manMy mom makes significantly more money than my dad and he’s never had any issues whatsoever with it. They’ve been married 30+ years and he stayed home to raise my sister and I when we were kids so my mom could keep working. As a kid, I just thought that was normal (even though I was the only one in my friend group with a stay-at-home dad), so it blew it my mind when I discovered as an adult how rare that really is. My dad is a true HVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 07:37 PM |
| 4 | DAE think that the ratio of attractive women to attractive men is truly insane?That is true a lot of the time! I was referring strictly to looks and not personality since OP’s post was about looks. I once dated a music producer here who literally rented a Chanel-themed house on AirBNB for a few months so he could look cool on Instagram and then he was homeless a few months later. Lmfao. He was from Oakland originally. He did treat me well at least, but he was still LV due to his awful financial decisions. My other LV ex grew up in Atlanta and he was super self-made wealthy… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 06:45 PM |
| 17 | DAE think that the ratio of attractive women to attractive men is truly insane?I live in Los Angeles and there’s a much higher percentage of attractive men here compared to my home state in the Midwest, which had mostly redneck and basic bro men. There’s a lot of very fit athletic guys, artsy guys with a creative sense of style, and hot European immigrant guys in LA. I think the close proximity to Hollywood motivates guys of all ages here to step up their game in terms of physical appearance, even if they work a normal 9-5 job and aren’t in the film or music industry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 03:19 AM |
| 1 | This. This is what I am working on with myself at the moment. Trying to get to the bottom of why I accepted what I did. Ladies it’s very useful to look inwards and see what is going on internally! Why are we allowing subpar shitty behaviour or traits?I was single for more than five years before we met because it seemed like every guy I became interested in only wanted casual sex. And I was convinced that meant something was wrong with me. So I wanted to make it work so badly just to prove I was good enough for a serious relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 01:15 AM |
| 6 | Hollywood big shot started an acting school. Married one of his students when she was 16 and he 51.She was a Sports Illustrated swimsuit model and she’s now married to John Legend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 08:27 PM |
| 7 | I'm 30 yrs old, and I'm shocked at how old men lookI totally agree. I moved to California from the Midwest a few ago and guys here are like 10X better-looking on average compared to guys in my hometown. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 04:48 AM |
| 1 | I’ve been seeing this post all over ig lately...not sure what to think about it. Thoughts?I’d be cool with it, as long as he’s clearly working toward something better. I’m in my 20s and I live in one of the most expensive cities in the US. Unconventional living situations like this are fairly common in my city, especially for young people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 08:17 PM |
| 6 | How often do you Queens get approached?Very rarely. I think it’s because I’m tall and have resting bitch face. I rarely have guys sliding into my DMs on social media either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 04:04 AM |
| 10 | Asking men how tall they are before agreeing to a date?I have my height (5’9”) listed in my bio on dating apps and my pics clearly show that I’m tall. I don’t have a height preference for guys (my exes range from 5’7” to 6’5”) but if he looks like he might be shorter than me in heels, I’ll tell him I’m tall and make sure he’s OK with it before meeting up. If he’s not, I unmatch and block. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 08:51 PM |
| 1 | as a black woman does anyone else feel like white men treat you better than other men do?I’m white, but one of my best friends is a black woman who primarily dates white men for this reason. Although she also has a lot of stereotypical “white” interests like country music and hockey, so I think she also just feels more compatible with white men. She had a Mexican boyfriend like 6 years ago but I’ve never seen her date a black guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 06:41 AM |
| 1 | Have you ever beaten a guy in any sport? What was his reaction after losing?This isn’t quite related, but my college ex thought the famous NHL player Alexander Ovechkin was a player on our school’s hockey team and I corrected him. He was cool about it and just laughed it off though. This ex was a HVM (we broke up due to our post-college plans no longer being compatible), but it still made me laugh 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 10:56 PM |
| 21 | Why you shouldn't settle for a LVM-Lost nine pounds and paid off $1500 worth of credit card debt this year -Started writing a comedy fiction blog series a few months ago, which has gotten nearly 150 subscribers so far -I was an editor for my college newspaper. I have a journalism degree. -Lived in five different US states and traveled to 35 states since turning 18 (I’m 29 now). Moved out of my small rural hometown -Walked in runway shows as a model in LA and been published in a few small magazines -Fixed a severe speech impedime… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 01:10 AM |
| 7 | Upleveling my Hinge Profile!My only concern is that I am more of a “cool girl” (according to your description, not the Hollywood trope) in the sense that I love the outdoors and nature activities, including going to the lake like you said and I usually dress casual since I work from home. I’ll dress up sometimes but I’m just not someone who’s in full glam mode every day. I don’t want to dress up fancy in all my online dating photos if that’s not who I am in real life. I worry that would be misleading. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 08:33 PM |
| 17 | Stop smiling for men because you're afraid of RBF. You can exude warmth without grinning like a Cheshire cat. Normalize non-emotive faces!I got nicknamed “the grump” by my school’s janitor (a man in his 50s) because I was shy and quiet and rarely smiled. I was 10 years old. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 05:44 AM |
| 4 | LVM with Egos in the Legal Field and Black CommunityThat makes sense. We were both living in LA when we were dating, but now he’s back in Atlanta and he just got a girl there pregnant after dating her for only two months 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 12:24 AM |
| 4 | LVM with Egos in the Legal Field and Black CommunityMy emotionally abusive NVM ex is from Atlanta, although he’s white 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 12:21 AM |
| 15 | THIS. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.Speaking of Megan Fox, she just got a divorce apparently. Like literally a few days ago. Her 10-year marriage to Brian Austin Green was off and on the whole time and sounded rocky. They also have a 12-year age gap. So she might actually have been more of a PickMe than she seems. Although I read that the divorce was her idea because she realized she wanted to be single and get her independence back, so maybe she’s learning FDS! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 06:12 PM |
| 52 | I cannot get over how disrespectful Justin Bieber is to his wife “Listen to me woman.”My NVM ex I dated last year idolized their relationship and used to compare us to them. He loved Justin’s music and Hailey was his celebrity crush. I sort of look like her, but only because I’m also tall and blonde with brown eyes. I never knew this about them. I always thought their relationship seemed pretty good. But now it all makes sense. My ex was emotionally abusive too and he used to constantly criticize me and nitpick at me for the tiniest random “flaws,” and then he’d act all sweet and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 06:33 PM |
| 11 | Oddly specific but soooooo spot onI used to model and there’s actually a term used in the industry for those guys. We called them GWCs, which stands for “guy with camera.” As in, they’re not even real photographers. Just guys with cameras 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 10:52 PM |
| 21 | Red flag: Men on their phones while in the bathroomI take my phone in the bathroom so I can read articles or scroll through Reddit (usually FDS ironically) while on the toilet, but I’ll spend maybe five minutes in there at most. Like if I’m reading something really interesting, I’ll want to finish it. But I totally agree that 45 minutes to an hour is excessive unless they’re sick or something. The only times I ever took that long were when I was throwing up or constipated, which is rare because I eat pretty healthy and I don’t drink much alcohol… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 06:05 PM |
| 7 | Don't wait for a man to commit. If a man wants you he'll let you know right away.I totally agree. My NVM ex proposed to me after 4 months, dumped me a few weeks later, and then got his new girlfriend pregnant after only 2 months 🤢🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 06:00 PM |
| 16 | A lesson from Cassie, who majorly upgraded: Don't let your boyfriend keep you from your husband- when they know they knowMy NVM ex who I dated last summer proposed to me after only four months and then dumped me a few weeks later. I said yes because I didn’t have much prior relationship experience and I didn’t know better. I moved in with him and he didn’t like that I was kind of messy at home, so he just kicked me out and ended things. He started dating his current girlfriend in January and then already got her pregnant in March. They just bought a house together too 🤢🤮 The biggest lesson I learned from that expe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 06:50 PM |
| 11 | How long can a man go without contacting you?Me too. I’d much rather have 2-3 amazing deeper conversations per week than just small talk every day. Once quarantine’s done and we can start dating guys in person again, I’d be OK with not texting at all in between dates except to make plans, as long as we’re going on dates regularly. Quality over quantity is key for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 02:59 AM |
| 13 | How long can a man go without contacting you?I’m clearly in the minority here, but 2-3 times a week is fine with me. I hate texting someone every day. I find it exhausting and unnecessary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 01:12 AM |
| 1 | Why do they always think our world revolves around pleasing them? Dang it Bobby, back at it again with complaints about not getting some 🤣That makes sense. I’m American and Chad is a fairly common name here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/20 04:27 AM |
| 1 | Ladies, what does FDS think of men who are into gaming?One of my exes loved playing League of Legends with his dad. But it was definitely more of an occasional hobby for him rather than an addiction and I thought it was cool that he and his dad were close like that. My ex was in college and working part-time at a job he loved and his dad was pretty successful in his career. His gaming had zero effect on our relationship either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 08:04 PM |
| 6 | Is it a bad idea to send your long term partner sexy videos and pictures?I second this. I personally don’t mind sending them but I will never put my face in them. Also make sure any tattoos aren’t visible if you have them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 07:20 PM |
| 16 | Why do they always think our world revolves around pleasing them? Dang it Bobby, back at it again with complaints about not getting some 🤣As a fellow 28-year-old human, he can’t sit with us. He’s kicked out of the club. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 06:36 PM |
| 78 | Why do they always think our world revolves around pleasing them? Dang it Bobby, back at it again with complaints about not getting some 🤣My high school crush literally was named Chad. He was a friendly boy who got good grades, was talented at sports and business, and nice to everyone around him. He’s now 30, works as an accountant, still takes care of his body, and posts cute photos of his wife and kids on Facebook. We should all be like Chad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 06:27 PM |
| 5 | Do you think couples who post all the time together on social media are the most unhappiest?One of my best friends did the same with his ex-boyfriend. They always looked cute together on Facebook, but then we’d talk on the phone and he’d vent to me about what an asshole he was. I feel bad for LGBT people in that sense because they literally have less options in the dating pool compared to me as a straight women. Even though that comes with plenty of own its issues. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 11:34 PM |
| 2 | Somethigs I hateWhen I moved to Los Angeles from Minnesota a few years ago, I noticed a big difference in the amount of men who take care of themselves. My last roommate was in his 40s and he had a full head of hair and pretty solid skincare and health and fitness routine. Even the guys who work regular jobs that have nothing to do with Hollywood seem to do it. That roommate was a restaurant manager. (Side note: I’ve noticed it’s fairly common for people in their 30s and 40s who are single with no kids to live … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 08:04 PM |
| 3 | How much do you tell your parents (or other family) about your dating lives?I don’t tell anyone in my family anything until I become Facebook official with someone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 07:22 PM |
| 5 | College and acceptance of prostitutionI used to be a sugar baby and I was lucky in that my experience was very positive, but I know that’s not the norm. I still probably wouldn’t do it again though. I live in LA and it’s apparently pretty common here. They literally have billboards advertising sugar dating apps. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 07:44 PM |
| 3 | These Wish ads always crack me up 😂😂Technically, it probably is. Although this dick insert looks obviously fake and I’m not a fan of the obviously fake-looking push-up bras either. I bought that one from Victoria’s Secret that adds 2 cups once and it felt too unnatural and weird, so I barely ever wore it. That’s just my opinion though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 01:04 AM |
| 4 | Scrote @ the beachI’m American and I went to a nude beach in California once. It was pretty hidden and hard to get to though, since it wasn’t an officially designated nude beach by the state. I don’t think those exist. But we were able to find a trail map online which got us there. I know there’s also “adults only” resorts in Las Vegas that have nude pools. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 07:58 AM |
| 7 | Did you ever experience true love?I felt like I had that with my college sweetheart. We broke up when I graduated because our life goals for after college weren’t really compatible, but it was very incredible two-year relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/20 08:03 PM |
| 4 | 15 Men React To The Idea Of Taking Their Wife’s Last Name After Marriage aka don't give men like this the time of your dayStephen (#2) sounds like a good guy. The rest all sound like definite LVM or NVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/20 07:31 PM |
| 2 | Is it unhealthy to be friends with potentially Low Value Men?Does your high school have a DECA program? It’s a business and marketing club for high school students. I’m not sure what country you live in, but they have it in tons of high schools all over the US. I went to a smaller high school in a small town in the Midwest and we had it. I joined when I was a sophomore, so I was 15 and I stayed active in it until I graduated. My school’s DECA chapter seemed to have a lot of high value teens, both male and female. Like the type of teens who not only enjoye… | /r/askFDS | 02/05/20 06:18 PM |
| 18 | PSA: there is no such thing as "HVM-qualities"My ex was a prime example of this. Super rich entrepreneur at age 26, yet still emotionally abusive with major trust issues. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/20 07:33 PM |
| 17 | Loving and caring HVM men BINGO for you fine ladies ❤I love all of this, except the only one I disagree with is no debt. I would make an exception for student loan debt if he’s young and lives in America. And as long as he’s actively working to pay off his debt, regardless of where it’s from. Nearly everyone I know in their 20s, both male and female who went to college here in America has at least some student loan debt. So it would be hypocritical to expect him to be debt free when I’m not. Especially if we’re around the same age. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/20 02:51 AM |
| 2 | Friends First?Yes, Meetup is a great place to make friends of all genders who share similar interests to you. Another option is to find the local subreddit for your city, like r/losangeles for example and see if they have in-person meetups. Although they might not be happening right now because of quarantine. | /r/askFDS | 29/04/20 10:06 PM |
| 2 | All the girls I’ve ever dated I end up losing interest within a couple weeks and it’s starting to scare me. SOS!My guess is he’s probably under age 25 based on that alone. | /r/askFDS | 29/04/20 09:12 PM |
| 6 | What do you think about guys that say that women are more beautiful without makeup and that they prefer "natural" women?In my experience, only ugly guys who don’t take care of themselves say that. I’ve never heard a handsome fit guy say it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 07:24 PM |
| 6 | “ 5’8 “As a fellow 5’8” (female) human, I do not approve of this message. He can’t sit with us 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 06:53 PM |
| 21 | Only LVM don't care about a woman's accomplishmentsSlightly off-topic, but I grew up in a small town in the Midwest and went to college at a local state university in my home state. The amount of women I met who claimed they were only there to hopefully find a husband was shocking to me. This was in 2009-2013, so not that long ago. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 06:02 PM |
| 3 | How much does it really matter if you’re not his type physically?I’m 5’9.” I don’t know the heights of his exes, but Guy #1 is just barely taller than me at 5’10” and his exes in the photos are clearly at least a few inches shorter than him. It depends on what country you live in. I know 5’4” is average height for women in my country (USA), so I’d say anything shorter than that would be “petite” here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 10:54 PM |
| 12 | How much does it really matter if you’re not his type physically?Update: I’ve decided to cut him off after reading the comments from all of you. Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 10:43 PM |
| 2 | How much does it really matter if you’re not his type physically?It’s been about six weeks and he hasn’t said anything else since then. But I am keeping my guard up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 08:51 PM |
| 6 | How much does it really matter if you’re not his type physically?Ooh, yes! That’s a good idea. I may have to ask Guy #1 who his celebrity crush is. I remember watching a movie with a guy I was dating two years ago and he told me he really loved Saorise Ronan (who was in the movie.) We’re both blonde, but she looks nothing like me otherwise and I remember questioning why he was interested in me. I also remember another time years ago when I went to a guy’s house and we were watching reality TV. One of the girls on the show had huge fake boobs and he kept talki… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 08:42 PM |
| 3 | How much does it really matter if you’re not his type physically?Thank you! That’s very possible. If he’s blocked them on Facebook, there was maybe a good reason for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 08:32 PM |
| 3 | How much does it really matter if you’re not his type physically?Oh, absolutely! Everyone has a different type and beauty is in the eye of the beholder, as they say. I would certainly hope Guy #1 is choosing his girlfriends based on personality too and not just looks. Otherwise he wouldn’t be the HVM I’m thinking he is. The main thing I’m wondering is, why is he interested in me since I look like nothing like exes? It does make me a bit confused and insecure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 08:16 PM |
| -4 | How much does it really matter if you’re not his type physically?He only said it once on our first date and he’s been treating me amazing otherwise. But yeah it does kind of make me wonder what he sees in me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 08:08 PM |
| 0 | Sending nudes is a terrible ideaMy friend literally got injured while doing this. We were in Vegas last summer and she went in the bathroom to take nudes to send to her boyfriend back home, and she slipped on a water puddle and fell down. She was OK though, just minor bruises. They’re still together now though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 06:35 PM |
| 27 | Need help finding a HVM? Check out your locationThis was so true in my experience. I grew up in a small town in rural Minnesota and I never dated in high school. I thought I was just unattractive because none of my crushes liked me back, but really we just weren’t compatible. My first long-term boyfriend in college was really great, but we broke up due to me wanting to move after graduation. Then I lived in Minneapolis for three years after finishing college and I was single the whole time. Again, I thought something was wrong with me even th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 12:28 AM |
| 10 | This is so true, men know what they want regardless of the time they’ve known you for. Don’t let him waste your time.The only issue I have with this post is wasn’t Demi Lovato super young when they first started dating? I know Wilmer was a lot older which is a problematic in itself, but I think Demi was 18. I have no idea how old Wilmer’s current fiancee is, but Demi should not have been getting engaged after six months at 18-19 years old. Although their relationship still should’ve ended a lot sooner than it did. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 07:08 PM |
| 3 | Guy says gf is selfish because she wants a breast reduction due to back pain...They were guys from her hometown and old classmates, so they weren’t complete strangers. But still. It pissed me off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 06:29 PM |
| 4 | Just WTFIn the movie “We’re The Millers,” there’s a character with a tattoo just like that. He could be using fake photos. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 01:37 AM |
| 2 | Consider it a red flag if a guy isn't wild about any unique features of yours.I have long wavy light blonde hair and one of the guys in my rotation (I’m following the FDS rule of dating multiple men since we’re not exclusive yet) joked with me on our first date that he usually doesn’t like blondes, but I must be pretty special because I “converted” him. I’m not really sure if that should be a red flag or not. He’s Mexican though and I’m white, so I’m wondering if he’s just more used to dating women within his race who have dark hair like him. Then we had a video chat date… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 12:52 AM |
| 14 | Dating a man with trust issues is a fucking nightmare! Refuse to suffer for another woman's mistakes.OMG this literally describes my ex and our relationship almost perfectly. He was also cheated on by his ex-wife. I developed so much anxiety during that relationship because he would just explode on me out of nowhere with false accusations. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 12:38 AM |
| 3 | Men and their social media habitsI do that too and my last ex used to get jealous when he saw me liking photos of other guys, who I’d known since before we met. Even though I was liking all his photos too. To me it meant nothing, but it meant a lot to him for some reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 12:31 AM |
| 3 | Guy says gf is selfish because she wants a breast reduction due to back pain...One of my friends got a breast reduction a few years ago because she also had severe back pain. She was single at the time, but I remember seeing so many men leaving comments on her Facebook posts about the surgery talking about how sad or angry they were at her for doing that, or saying things like she was ruining her body or “throwing her god-given gifts away.” She ended up removing a lot of her male Facebook friends after that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 12:20 AM |
| 9 | When you are ”nice” and men automatically think you’re “flirting”I was wearing jeans, a tank top and ballet flats when I got assaulted. This is so true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 01:17 AM |
| 1 | If you see anything that can be perceived as shady, get out IMMEDIATELYWhat if I have platonic male friends though? Do I have to tell guys I date every time I hang out with them? One of my best friends is male and we video chat about once a week because he lives far away and that used to bother my ex so much, even though I never once cheated. I wished he would trust me more. My ex was also a jealous and emotionally abusive LVM though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 07:49 PM |
| 7 | Imagine speaking that badly of women and not even reaching 6ft.As a fellow Gemini, I do not approve this message. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 07:17 PM |
| 5 | Being single for years doesn’t mean you’re unlovable or less worthyYou’re welcome! I wouldn’t explain too much. Just tell him something generic like “it’s been a while” and if he asks why, just say something else generic like “I was working a lot.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 11:08 PM |
| 6 | Male “dating coaches” for womenPlus didn’t he date Camilla Cabello for a bit? She’s like 10 years younger than him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 07:09 PM |
| 2 | Movies with HVM leads?I also love how the men in LOTR are openly affectionate with each other and give each other compliments, just to show they appreciate the friendships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 07:02 PM |
| 5 | Saw this while swiping through IG, thought you ladies would appreciate this; especially my fellow younger ladies who feel pressure to date LVM rather than stay single and level up.I never dated or got asked to dances in high school, I had two very good serious relationships in college (for 9 months and two years respectively), and then I stayed single for the next five years, from age 22-27. Part of that was because I was busy with work and had super high standards, but I also got super jealous from seeing my friends and other girls on social media get into what looked like cute relationships. People would constantly be shocked that I’d been single for so long because I’m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 05:24 PM |
| 8 | Withdrawal Survival Guide“15. Cry a lot.” The week after my emotionally abusive LVM ex and I broke up, I would listen to the song “Praying” by Kesha about 10 times per day and just cry my eyes out. It helped a lot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/20 06:16 PM |
| 4 | Pickmeisha Rehabilitation: First stepsSTANDARDS/EXPECTATIONS: Gives me space to maintain my independence outside of the relationship Lives a healthy lifestyle and puts in effort to look good Works hard in his career, but isn’t a workaholic who can’t ever have fun/take breaks Wants to spend quality time with me at least once per week. More than that is awesome, but not necessary because I like my space Supports my career goals and encourages me to be myself. Is in a similar career field to me, ideally RED FLAGS/WILL NOT TOLERATE Any … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 11:01 PM |
| 8 | Dump Him.I hate swallowing too and I always felt bad about it because I was taught by many LVM that it’s important and I must be weird since apparently other girls do it. I’m glad to see I’m not the only one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 06:05 PM |
| 8 | Oneitis/ " The One That Got Away" will really fuck you upThis is a little off topic, but I have a sad story about this. I used to work at a gas station during college, around 2011-2012 and we would always listen to my town’s local Top 40 radio station. On slow days, we would sometimes have long conversations with customers because we had nothing better to do. On one particular slow day, this woman in her 50s came in and the song “The One That Got Away” by Katy Perry happened to be on the radio. She told me she’s a huge Katy Perry fan and that’s her fa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 05:20 PM |
| 5 | Disgusting meme on the frontpage. Most commenters acting like this is the most normal and funniest shit. I'm scared for so many women out there. Stay safe, beware of red flags and learn some self defense techniques, it might sadly prove useful, "consent" or not.Oof. I follow that sub because I’m a huge Spongebob fan. I just unfollowed it. That’s terrible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/20 06:06 PM |
| 6 | When he starts acting cute...I renamed my ex Patrick Star in my phone because he’s a fucking dumbass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/20 03:00 AM |
| 5 | Male Plastic Surgery and HVM/ LVMMy ex got a nose job when he was 18 because of insecurities about having a big nose. He was a LVM man for many other reasons. His nose had nothing to do with it. Unless a guy is trying to look like a Human Ken Doll, I don’t have an issue with men getting plastic surgery. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 06:19 PM |
| 12 | Beware when dating men in your country of origin that are expats/have recently moved from overseas/are on working, study VISAs etcI dated a British guy living in Los Angeles for about a month in 2018. He told me on our first date that he was only in America on a six-month work visa, but my stupid ass still fell for him despite knowing logistically that it probably wouldn’t work out. He dumped me after a month because he didn’t want to date someone long distance. Which makes perfect sense. Before that, I went on a few Tinder dates with other international guys from places like Sweden and Argentina, but they were all college… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 06:07 PM |
| 17 | Honestly I cannot stop laughing at his before and after faces 🤣🤣.Trump is one of the biggest examples of a LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 05:35 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 4/4/2020Combination of both. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 04:27 PM |
| 1 | How do you think HVM and HVW would go about dating during this current pandemic?Yes, that was our normal level of communication before quarantine. But we both had and still have busy work schedules. I actually don’t like talking every day just because I prefer to have some space and freedom in my relationships. My last ex wanted to talk every day and I found it suffocating, although he was a jealous asshole who lovebombed me in the beginning and then became emotionally abusive. If that’s your preference, I wouldn’t say it’s clingy. Whatever works for you. I feel like my pre… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 04:23 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 4/4/2020OK, thank you! What would you say is a healthy amount of effort during the early stages? Like how can I tell the difference between normal interest and love-bombing? Would you recommend that I block and delete or somehow communicate that I’d like a little more effort? Or is it even possible to do that without looking needy? He’s really nice otherwise and our conversations are always very good. And he’s a HVM on paper (attractive, good career, takes care of his body, nice apartment, etc.) Also I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 03:21 AM |
| 5 | Are all female [twitch/youtube] streamers that use sexual appeal to engage a male viewer base pickmes?I have a lot of Instagram followers and I sometimes post sexy photos. About 75% of my followers are men. When I posted photos with my ex last year, my engagement took a nosedive. Now that I’m single and deleted all my posts with him, it’s back up to normal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 01:40 AM |
| 1 | How do you think HVM and HVW would go about dating during this current pandemic?I’m currently seeing a guy I met in February, before quarantine happened in my country (USA). We’re temporarily long distance because I went back to my hometown to be with my family until quarantine’s done, but we just text 1-2 times a week and go on video chat “dates.” We met on Tinder. I feel like he’s a HVM so far. If you do decide to do online dating, just insist that you will only do video chat dates and accept nothing else. I know everyone else is saying not to date right now, but I actual… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 06:08 PM |
| 25 | Women, patriarchy and aging. Being over 25 doesn't make you worthless. Life doesn't end, it gets better. We get better.I’m 28 but I have a few female friends who are in their 40s and 50s, plus I’m close with my mom and a lot of my aunts. I have plenty of friends my own age too, but the older women in my life inspire me so much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 04:56 PM |
| 7 | Tips for college-aged womenAlso if you do have a boyfriend during college, I would recommend having frequent “homework dates” with him. Outside of regular dates, of course. My ex bf from college and I used to do that a few times per week, where we’d meet up to study together and then spend quality time together during study breaks. A HV college man will care about getting good grades. Whereas a LV college man will just want to party. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 02:59 AM |
| 3 | #vanlife- is that code for #nojob?Yeah my mom is planning to do the solo Van Life thing after she retires next year. She’s in her 60s. So it is a legit thing, even for non-Millennials. Although the guy in this post sounds like a loser. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 05:36 PM |
| 2 | What an awesome husbandIt’s too bad I’m over 25 because I love Spongebob and this is such goals, OMG | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 04:22 PM |
| 11 | Are men that doesn't make a move LVM?Oh, shit. I did not check his post history and I totally should’ve. My bad. Yeah, OP is definitely a LVM in that case. Why wouldn’t she start spending time with other men after her crush ignored her? That’s common sense. OP clearly only wants what he can’t have and is now taking our his insecurities on her. | /r/askFDS | 01/04/20 09:36 PM |
| 2 | Are men that doesn't make a move LVM?She’s probably sad because she thinks you’re not interested and is trying to move on with her life, but she’s not quite over you yet. Women’s dating advice tends to drill into our heads that men who are interested will always “pursue” no matter what and if they don’t, then they must not be interested. I wouldn’t say not pursuing makes you a LVM necessarily, but you should definitely face your fears and make a move because she probably won’t. And may I ask, why weren’t you interested in her earli… | /r/askFDS | 01/04/20 09:05 PM |
| 1 | Will a man be considered LVM if he got plastic surgery?My ex got a nose job when he was 18 and I thought it looked good. He was a LVM because of his personality though. Not his nose. | /r/askFDS | 01/04/20 01:42 AM |
| 6 | From conversation, to where they take you for your first date, how they act, and how they groom. Be selective, as a HVM is and then give your effort to those who deserve it.Yes! This is so true. The ex I mentioned above was my first relationship in five years and I had poor self-esteem because it seemed like most guys I was meeting previously only wanted to hookup. So it felt really exciting to have a guy actually want a relationship with me. The attention felt so good that I ignored a lot of red flags. The guy I’m dating currently puts in normal effort like what you mentioned above and I think he’s way more of a HVM than my ex was. We only talk 1-2 times per week … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 07:32 PM |
| 25 | From conversation, to where they take you for your first date, how they act, and how they groom. Be selective, as a HVM is and then give your effort to those who deserve it.This may be an unpopular opinion here, but I don’t necessarily agree. I do agree that a HVM will put in noticeable effort for you and not be lazy, but effort isn’t everything. Case in point, my last ex put in a ton of effort for me early on, so I assumed he was a HVM and our relationship would be successful. But then as our relationship progressed, he became very critical of me when I didn’t measure up to his crazy high standards and we got into a lot of fights over this before he eventually kic… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 07:16 PM |
| 3 | How many percentage of tinder meetups lead to actual LTR?I’m currently seeing a guy long-distance who I met on Tinder in late 2018. I rejected him after three dates last year when I met my LVM ex and then we recently reconnected. The long distance is temporary because I decided to go back to my hometown right before quarantine to be with my family. I’m realizing now that I made the wrong decision last year and this guy may be a HVM. We’re not “official” yet so this probably doesn’t count, but he’s planning to take me on a dinner date once quarantine i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/20 06:11 PM |
| 33 | anybody else unable to tolerate normal relationship subs anymore?OMG yesssss! I read a post in r/relationships last year from a guy who got angry that his girlfriend used to be a sugar baby years ago before they met and didn’t tell him. Basically all the comments were from other men defending him and talking about how terrible it was for her to do that. So I thought it would be a good idea to chime in and share a perspective from the other side of the story, since I’m also a former sugar baby who didn’t tell my LVM ex and he also got angry when he found out o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/20 05:51 PM |
| 6 | Nostalgic older songs that you realize are super pick me or LVMOMG, I remember listening to that song in the car with my mom when I was like 9 years old. This was during the very early 2000s and she’d bought me the CD. She told me it was a very stupid song and to “please don’t ever believe that you were born just to make some guy happy.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/20 06:55 PM |
| 7 | Is it red flag when a guy is into one country ?I once got fetishized for being a white girl from the Midwest (USA). I had just moved to Los Angeles from Minnesota and I went on a date with a Mexican guy who had lived in LA his whole life. He told me he didn’t like Mexican girls because they were all “crazy” and his dream was to date a white girl from the Midwest or South because we have “family values.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/20 10:59 PM |
| 5 | I feel like all HVM used to be LVM. Thoughts?The guy who was prom king at my high school was a HVM even as a teenager. Ironically, his name actually was Chad. LOL. He played sports, got good grades, was active in Student Council, dressed well, and was popular because he was genuinely nice to everyone. He was popular with girls because of his looks, but he only ever had monogamous relationships. He didn’t party or hookup. He went to business school for college, became a successful accountant and then got married and had a baby in his late 2… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 11:16 PM |
| 2 | Please suggest apps to make friendsI went to a few of the monthly meetups (before quarantine) for the subreddit r/losangeles since I live there. It was fun. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 10:59 PM |
| 10 | How often should a guy make contact in the dating phase?I’m probably in the minority here, but 1-2 times a week is enough for me. My last ex wanted to text every day, all the time and it was overwhelming. I like my space. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 05:06 AM |
| 5 | This is what happens when you let yourself be trapped. The lady couldn't even complete her degree- ensuring she won't have any option to be independent in the future. Be wise ladies. Don't fall into that trap.Oof. It’s the worst. I did the opposite. I tried super hard to become more detail-oriented in order to please him, which caused me a ton of stress since it’s not something that comes naturally to me. I was definitely a Pickmeisha. But at least I learned my lesson and to never do that again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/20 11:32 PM |
| 12 | This is what happens when you let yourself be trapped. The lady couldn't even complete her degree- ensuring she won't have any option to be independent in the future. Be wise ladies. Don't fall into that trap.OMG that sounds like my ex who was a software engineer. He hated that I wasn’t more “detail-oriented” and used to always criticize me for not noticing random little things. It made me feel so stupid. Granted, I am a bit messy at home and I’m more of a creative free spirit type, but those traits have never caused me any issues in life. Like I still pay my bills and have my shit together. He ended up dumping me by writing me a long letter listing all his pet peeves about me and then kicking me out… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/20 10:31 PM |
| 2 | The Accuracy... 🎯I can’t wait to throw her out like a trash bag and then replace her with the next shiny object I find. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 01:05 AM |
| 22 | What it really means when they say they "hate too much makeup"Ugh, yes! I remember a few years ago, there was a popular meme about why you should always take a girl swimming on the first date. The idea was that it would cause all her makeup to disappear and guys could see “the truth.” I had terrible acne at the time, so I relied on makeup and Instagram filters just to feel like a normal person and not a disgusting slob, so I found that meme very offensive. In my experience, men only like “natural” girls if they have good skin. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 05:28 PM |
| 14 | Never ever ever make travel plans to meet up with a guy!I know. I did a lot of stupid things before finding this sub, but I learned a lot and I now realize those guys’ behavior had nothing to do with me. They were just LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 06:25 AM |
| 19 | Straight from my brother’s mouth: “men don’t respect women who approach them”I made the post: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/epf1q1/never_ever_ever_make_travel_plans_to_meet_up_with/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf And ugh, for real though! I feel like you’re totally right. I’m glad you called him out on his bullshit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 05:58 AM |
| 2 | How do y’all feel about this?My ex was super jealous and constantly worried that I was cheating on him because I have a few close platonic male friends and I had a lot of casual sex partners years ago (I now realize thanks to this sub that I should never talk about my sexual past, but I didn’t know then.) Plus his ex-wife cheated on him and he hadn’t yet healed from that. I felt like I had to go super above and beyond to prove I was being loyal and it drove me crazy. So I prefer to always trust my partner unless he’s given … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 03:51 AM |
| 3 | Use FDS quietly, men don’t need to be told what you expect from them, men don’t need a chance to explain themselvesHe really wasn’t a good person. He did have some positive qualities that made me think he was a HVM, but in hindsight I was definitely dating for potential rather than who he is today. My intentions were a mix of both. I was very hurt by his decision and I did really value that relationship, but I also felt bad for not realizing how important cleanliness was to him and I felt like I hurt him by being too messy. I would’ve felt the same way if I were moving in with a female friend or a random Cra… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 12:31 AM |
| 87 | Straight from my brother’s mouth: “men don’t respect women who approach them”I’ve been a victim of this THREE times! Where I traveled for a guy and he completely lost interest in me. I’m just like that girl in that I love to travel and money and wasn’t an issue for me, so to me it didn’t seem like a big deal. But not to them! I’ll make a post about this later sharing my thoughts in more detail. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/20 11:27 PM |
| 20 | Use FDS quietly, men don’t need to be told what you expect from them, men don’t need a chance to explain themselvesI agree with this because I’ve been on the other side. My ex, who I now realize is a LVM for other reasons thanks to this sub, dumped me 24 hours after we moved in together because he was a clean freak and my messiness was apparently an automatic dealbreaker for him. But he didn’t kick me out and he allowed me to stay a few more weeks until I found a new place to live. I was devastated and I told him I’d be willing to work on being less messy if he gave me another chance, but he refused to chang… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/20 11:08 PM |
| 2 | I really want to ask this man if he has a job because how do you have so much time to tweet about this BULLSHIT!!??!My ex was a Virgo and he was a massive clean freak who couldn’t relax if things weren’t “perfect.” My free spirit Gemini self couldn’t handle it. No more Virgo guys for me 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/20 07:17 PM |
| 1 | Can a guy be HVM if he still lives with his mom?One of my guy friends who’s in his mid-30s lives with his mom, but she has a lot of medical problems so he helps take care of her. His dad passed away years ago and he’s an only child. They share an apartment, so it’s basically no different than him having a roommate. I think a situation like his would be acceptable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/20 07:03 PM |
| 2 | For every woman who thinks she "doesn't deserve" a high value man.I’m from a small town in the Midwest too and I also got teased for being too skinny in high school. Then I moved to LA and people told me I’m too fat. I’m a size 4. 5’8” and 140 pounds. I was a model there but I also got negative comments about my weight from a few guys I met on dating apps. It’s crazy how beauty standards are so different depending on where you live. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/20 05:44 PM |
| 4 | The problems with looking younger than your real age comes also in dating? How to look older/more mature?I used to work at a gas station that sold cigarettes, and we were required to ask for ID from anyone who looked under 40. The legal age to buy tobacco was 18+ where I was living (Midwest USA.) I’m not sure if it’s different in Europe, but I wouldn’t be offended if people are asking for your ID. It could be because you look under 40, not under 18. If you’re 26 and look over 40, that’s probably not a good thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/20 04:13 AM |
| 2 | How do I make HVW female friends?I used to be a model and I met some of my best female friends that way. Depending on the type of modeling, you don’t have to be super tall and skinny. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/20 06:29 PM |
| 4 | A level up a day keeps the dust awayI rarely ever get hit on, probably because I’m tall and I have resting bitch face. I don’t deal with creepers much, which is awesome but I do wish I got more positive attention from men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/20 07:18 PM |
| 6 | Where Did Women Learn That Having to Fake Orgasms Was Normal??I remember watching the movie “When Harry Met Sally” with my mom when I was in high school, and there’s a famous scene where Sally’s telling Harry about how common it is for women to fake orgasms. He’s shocked and doesn’t believe her, so she demonstrates for him. I was a teenage virgin at the time, but I remember that movie made me assume that faking orgasms must be normal for adult women. That movie came out in 1989, so it’s been a thing at least since then. Here’s the scene, for reference: htt… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/20 05:31 PM |
| 5 | Wealthy men aren’t always high value men.Look at Donald Trump. He’s wealthy as shit but definitely a LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/20 08:47 PM |
| 7 | And they get upset if we use filters or flattering angles. SMHHe also may have just had someone else Photoshop it for him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/20 03:12 PM |
| 9 | Just a niceguy comicOMG, Diary of a Wimpy Kid 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/20 06:02 PM |
| 1 | Where to find HVM?Facebook groups for people who share your interests. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/20 12:25 AM |
| 2 | REMINDER: Every time you don’t text him, every time you don’t check his social media, is an act of self-love.Yes, exactly at least for me. Like yeah my ex was a douchebag, but he never harassed me or made me feel unsafe so blocking him feels too harsh. Just removing him on social media and no longer texting him feels like enough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/20 09:45 PM |
| 1 | Do you guys prefer OLD or stay away from them?Facebook groups for people with shared interests is a good way to meet people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/20 10:00 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone here ever had a successful relationship with a HVM they met on OLD?He’s 36 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/20 02:34 AM |
| 20 | Pickmeisha gets owned! [From r/technicallythetruth]My mom kept her last name when she married my HV dad 30 years ago. I feel like it only makes for me to do the same when I get married. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/20 08:36 PM |
| 5 | A HVW's online dating profile?Look up love coach Nicole Moore. She sells a PDF document on her website about how to create a top-notch OLD profile. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/20 06:47 PM |
| 11 | Has anyone here ever had a successful relationship with a HVM they met on OLD?My friend met her HVM on Tinder. They’ve been together for two years, live together in a nice apartment and he treats her like a queen. I haven’t had such good luck with OLD though, but I’ve met some good guys through Facebook groups for people who share my interests. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/20 06:39 PM |
| 10 | Examples of HVM?Barack Obama Whereas Trump is very much a LVM | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/20 09:29 PM |
| 13 | Ew, ew ,ew ,ew!! This man looks 70, but wants a young barely legal woman to take care of his limp dick and kids for him. NOPE!!Of course he’s from Atlanta, just like my shitty ex 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 09:28 PM |
| 2 | What if a man has no social media?I make money as an influencer on IG and YouTube, so social media is a big part of my life and I’d prefer to be with a guy I can at least somewhat share that with. I wouldn’t judge a guy negatively for not having social media, but I’d question our compatibility. One of my exes from years ago only had LinkedIn, which was fine for me back then, but I probably wouldn’t date a guy like that now just because it means we probably have different values. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 05:34 PM |
| 0 | Q4W: Is your first impression about a guy who doesn't use social media (Facebook, Instagram, etc.) that he is a creep or that he has issues?I wouldn’t find him creepy, but I’d find it weird and question our compatibility, since I love social media and I want to be able to share that with him. 28F. Los Angeles USA | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/19 10:54 AM |
| 30 | What are your biggest pet peeves from men’s OLD profiles?Ooof. That’s a big thing in the Midwest too. I hate it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 11:58 PM |
| 12 | Can you relate to Pickmeishas anymore?I remember once in high school, I was riding the school bus and I overheard a girl in the grade below me say to her friend “my sport is dating guys.” I wasn’t friends with this girl, but I went to a small town Midwestern high school so everyone kind of knew each other. This girl was definitely a LVW (or LVGirl because she was like 15) in the sense that she didn’t play any actual sports or participate in any other school activities like theater, she was kind of chubby and didn’t really dress well… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/19 11:21 PM |
| 74 | Truth!Also, they don’t care if you’re taller than them in heels. Only insecure LVM care about that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/19 06:18 PM |
| 20 | Brown men hate brown womenMy best friend is a black girl and she’s been with her white boyfriend for two years. They live together and he treats her amazing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 12:06 AM |
| 3 | The two types of LVMOMG, my ex is totally type #2. Reading that gave me so much clarity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/19 07:08 PM |
| 11 | Is this what hitting the wall is like?I met a super hot British guy once just by asking him “hey, is this the correct Uber pickup location?” after leaving an event. We only dated for a month because he was only in America on a six-month work visa and he didn’t want to date someone long-distance. But it was still a great experience. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 07:10 PM |
| 4 | What are your dealbreakers?I will not date men who: -Get jealous easily because I have platonic male friends -Are basic bros (their only interests are football and Bud Lite) -Are more than 2-3 inches shorter than me (I’m 5’9”) -Get upset if I wear heels -Don’t work out or eat healthy -Don’t want to live in a big city (I grew up in a small town and I hated it) -Are content just working a boring 9-5 job (I’m an artist and entrepreneur, so I prefer creative guys who are similar to me) -Have no fashion sense -Don’t use social… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 06:58 PM |
| 24 | Dating Older Men in Your 20s = Guaranteed Trauma?That’s my plan with any future guys I date. The reason I told him was because I thought being completely honest about my past was something a good girlfriend was “supposed to do.” That was before I found this sub and read about how you should never tell guys about your sexual past. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 05:21 AM |
| 16 | Dating Older Men in Your 20s = Guaranteed Trauma?I probably wouldn’t do it again though, because of the stigma against sex work in society. I hated feeling like I had a big secret that I couldn’t tell my friends/family. And my last ex was horrified when he found out, even though I’d ended the sugar daddy relationship a few months before meeting him. We broke up for other reasons, but that caused some issues. I’m making sure no guy I meet in the future ever finds out about my past. I’m pretty sure 99% of guys would consider that a dealbreaker o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 04:56 AM |
| 14 | Dating Older Men in Your 20s = Guaranteed Trauma?I was broke and living in a high-cost-of-living city. And I don’t need an emotional connection to have sex with someone. I just wanted the money and I got lucky in that he was a good person. I’ve heard that’s not always the case. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 04:48 AM |
| 8 | Dating Older Men in Your 20s = Guaranteed Trauma?This isn’t quite the same, but I used to have a sugar daddy who treated me very respectfully. We’re still platonic friends and we’ll sometimes meet up to get food or watch movies, but we haven’t had sex in over a year. He’s 50-something and I’m 28. That being said though, all my actual relationships have been with guys around my age and they’ve been hit or miss in terms of quality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 04:45 AM |
| 3 | High Status Myth vs. High Value MenLook at Donald Trump versus Barack Obama. Both men are obviously high-status, but Trump is a LVM and Obama is a HVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 01:13 AM |
| 6 | Extremely Tall woman doesn’t tell her Tinder Dates how tall she is. Hilarity ensues when they meet in person. Turns out men discriminate based on height too.I went to school with two guys who were best friends. One of then was 6’8” and the other was like 6’5.” They actually called themselves “the two towers.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 12:26 AM |
| 5 | Extremely Tall woman doesn’t tell her Tinder Dates how tall she is. Hilarity ensues when they meet in person. Turns out men discriminate based on height too.I’m only 5’9” which is probably a lot shorter than her, and I’ve still had those same experiences happen with a few Tinder dates. My last ex was shorter than me at 5’7” though and he didn’t care. He had plenty of other issues though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 12:10 AM |
| 12 | This is why men must always pay for dates.I’m white, but I bleach my naturally medium brown hair light blonde, so I can relate. My hair’s not silver though, so I just use a purple hair mask once a month to tone it at home. In a typical day, I just brush my hair and go and I only straighten it for special occasions, which saves me a lot of time and keeps my hair healthier. I bought an Amika flat iron for like $200 around six years ago, and I still works great because I rarely use it. That gives me a good balance. My hair’s naturally wavy… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/19 11:42 PM |
| 7 | Best way to respond to "Send a sexy pic" to OLD creeps..I always say I’ll send a photo of my ass, and then send them a pic of a donkey. Sometimes I’ll use Donkey from Shrek. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/19 11:07 PM |
| 2 | Do not date a man based on his potential.Another amazing example of this is Barack and Michelle Obama. Look at how cute they still are, even today. And in terms of success, becoming president of the US is about as high as a man can get. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/19 09:58 PM |
| 6 | Are red pill ideas about the lives of above average looking women totally disconnected from reality or am I doing something wrong?I’m a former model and my experience has always been similar to yours, even when I was a teen. I’m 28 now. I rarely ever get approached by men in real life or get thirsty DMs from them on social media, although both men and other women are generally very nice and friendly to me. I get some attention from men, it’s just not every day all the time. The only place I do get a lot of attention is Tinder. I honestly think most guys might be scared I’ll reject them, so they just don’t bother trying, be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/12/19 04:39 AM |
| 72 | On top of not walking alone at night, parking in between vans, dressing a specific way, rejecting men, let's also add being a passenger in Uber on the list of things that will get women raped. 🤦🏾♀️I used to be an Uber driver in a large Midwestern US city and I got so many comments from female customers who said they were super happy to have a female driver, because it made them feel safer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/19 12:18 AM |
| 4 | Do you find the men in your area attractive?For the most part, no. I’m back in my hometown for the holidays, which is a small college town in the Midwest USA. There’s a lot of hot young college guys here, but most of the guys my age (28) and older look like shit. Lots of fat redneck guys who look like they’ve never once used moisturizer. When I lived in LA, it was definitely a different story. Tons of good-looking and fit men there. Even my old roommate who was 45 looked good for his age because he took care of himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/19 10:07 PM |
| 2 | A question for women who have strict standards about heightI used to be super insecure about my height too, so I get it. But you gotta work on that and learn how to love yourself, just like I did. Especially since you can’t change your height. Having a victim mindset is way more unattractive than being short. And you’re not even that short for a guy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/19 08:48 PM |
| 3 | A question for women who have strict standards about heightI’m a 5’8” American woman and I have no issue with guys who are the same height as me or slightly shorter. My last ex was 5’6” and I thought he was hot as hell, but any shorter than that would probably be too much. I don’t find super tall guys attractive either though. I just don’t like having to bend my neck too far up or down to look at a guy. The whole idea of men needing to be 6 ft or taller to be considered attractive is something I’ve only ever seen in memes and on Reddit and not in real l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/19 08:35 PM |
| 12 | Just FYI, not all dating strategies work the same way for all women...Same here. I’m a former model and I rarely ever get asked out in real life, only on dating apps. I think most guys are scared of me because I’m tall and I have resting bitch face a lot of the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/19 01:19 AM |
| 23 | OLD Men and Lies About HeightOMG, I can’t stand that shit. I’m 5’8” which isn’t even super tall, but I’ve had lots of guys I met through OLD claim to be like 5’11” or 6 ft and then get upset when they meet me IRL and we’re the same height. And then they complain about me being “too tall.” My last ex was 5’6” though and he never once mentioned my height throughout our whole relationship. It was awesome, although he had other issues which is why we broke up. I can’t stand insecure guys. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 06:51 PM |
| 16 | Are "Asexual Men" a thing?He could be secretly gay, especially if you live in a place that’s pretty conservative and doesn’t have a big LGBT scene. I knew a guy like that in college. Super good-looking, athletic, got good grades, involved on campus, nice to everyone, etc. He definitely seemed like a high value man, at least on paper. But he was always perpetually single. Like he never even flirted or hooked up with girls. It seemed so unusual. It turned out he was secretly gay. He finally came out right before we graduat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/19 02:27 AM |
| 38 | Queen Sh*t MegathreadI blocked my ex on everything about two weeks ago. We had tried staying friends after breaking up and I still had feelings for him, but his constant criticism was really hurting my self-esteem and I realized I was putting him on a pedestal and acting pathetic, so I had to do something. I’m slowly learning to love myself again and unlearn all the negative things he said about me. (I found this sub literally the day after I blocked him. I think that was a sign.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 07:06 PM |
| 4 | Bad dating coaches and terrible mainstream dating adviceI’m a big fan of Nicole Moore’s LoveWorks courses and content. She mainly focuses on mindset and how to build up your confidence with dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 05:59 PM |
| 2 | Women who do have fwbs, how do you navigate that?For FWBs, I choose guys who are good people but wouldn’t be good boyfriends for me. That way I won’t catch feelings. For example, someone who has incompatible career goals that don’t match up with mine. Or someone who’s like a 7/10 in terms of looks (attractive enough to be fuckable, yet ugly enough where I won’t be sad if it never leads to more.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 02:54 AM |
| 4 | Highly recommended reading, even if you haven't experienced physical or emotional abuse at the hands of a man. Here's a free PDF.Thank you! I think reading this will give me a better understanding of my ex. Also, there’s an audiobook version of it on the Scribd app if you prefer those. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/19 07:29 PM |
| 5 | Never making the distance for a date againI’ve bought plane tickets to visit guys three times in the last five years, and all three guys ended up treating me like shit and putting in zero effort for me once I arrived. I love traveling though, so I just made the best of it and did fun vacation activities by myself. NEVER AGAIN will I do that. Glad I learned my lesson. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 07:44 PM |
| 13 | Discuss the Tatcha power couple love story: the woman committed all the sins in the FDS bible - initiated, chased, proposed and even bought the ring. They went on to build a successful company together. What's going on here?I had a boyfriend in college who I broke a lot of the FDS rules with. We dated for two years after meeting in public speaking class. He told me he was glad I made the first move because he was shy and bad at reading signals. I asked for his number after class one day and I asked him to be “official” two months later. He said yes right away. We had sex after dating for about a month. During summers, I would drive an hour each way to spend every weekend with him in his hometown. But in my defense,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 07:24 PM |
| 3 | Daily reminder: don’t ever settleI follow that page, Posh Girls Club on Instagram. I love all their posts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 08:08 PM |
| 6 | Came across this gem today. My age-range setting is 23-27, not “aging like grade c dairy products”Mine ranged from 12-38, depending on my facial expression, the lighting and how much makeup I was wearing. So I’m not sure how accurate it is. Bright lighting, smiling and wearing light makeup made me look like I’m in middle school. Dark bar/club lighting, resting bitch face and heavy makeup made me look almost 40. I’m 28. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 09:38 PM |
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