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CULTURAL MISOGYNYveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 11:06 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 02:11 PM
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STRATEGYveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 04:50 PM
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NAH, SISveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 02:38 AM
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THINGS SCROTES SAYveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 05:41 PM
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LibFem Logicveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 05:20 PM
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FDS MEMESveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 02:23 PM
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FDS MEMESveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 07:31 PM
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NICE FOR WHAT?veruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 11:48 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 05:07 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 02:40 PM
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WHOLESOME CONTENTveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 04:05 PM
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STRATEGYveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 08:48 PM
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STRATEGYveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 08:01 PM
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RED FLAG 🚨veruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 06:39 PM
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FDS MEMESveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 04:53 AM
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DISCUSSIONveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 03:20 AM
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FDS MEMESveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 03:32 PM
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 REDDIT HATES WOMENveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 07:13 PM
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REMINDER 👑veruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 12:19 AM
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RED FLAG 🚨veruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 05:11 PM
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FDS HUMORveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:23 PM
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REMINDER 👑veruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:09 PM
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FOREVER GF TALESveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 12:20 AM
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REMINDER 👑veruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 04:01 PM
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GLOBAL RESISTANCEveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 02:58 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFEveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 05:36 PM
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FDS MEMESveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 03:33 PM
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MESSAGE FOR MALE LURKERSveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 07:04 PM
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FDS MEMESveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 05:37 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 02:18 PM
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DISCUSSIONveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 01:02 AM
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STRATEGYveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 04:27 PM
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FDS MOVIES & TVveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 07:08 PM
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DISCUSSIONveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 09:38 PM
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PORN SICK, LIMP DICKveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 05:52 PM
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SHOWER THOUGHTveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 07:36 PM
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PICKMEISHA HALL OF SHAMEveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 06:55 PM
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How-To High Valueveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 04:35 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 05:19 PM
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WHOLESOME CONTENTveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 12:47 AM
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TRIGGER WARNINGveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 04:58 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 04:09 PM
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How-To High Valueveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 04:16 PM
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#JustLVMThingsveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 02:59 PM
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MINDSET SHIFTveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 02:15 PM
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MINDSET SHIFTveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 06:51 PM
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#JustLVMThingsveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 03:49 PM
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STRATEGYveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 10:02 AM
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LEVEL UPveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 05:11 PM
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NAH, SISveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 11:44 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 09:16 PM
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STRATEGYveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/20 04:30 PM
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GLOBAL RESISTANCEveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 06:39 PM
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PICKMEISHA HALL OF SHAMEveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 06:20 PM
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PICKMEISHA HALL OF SHAMEveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 06:46 PM
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DISCUSSIONveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 02:09 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 03:43 AM
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RED FLAG 🚨veruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 09:27 PM
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MINDSET SHIFTveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 06:47 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEveruscka/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 05:54 PM
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I really don’t see how she is comparable to a typical male serial killer. Obviously murder is never okay, but she was defending herself against people actively trying to harm/exploit her. Male serial killers typically lure innocent victims, gain their trust, then rape/murder them. It seems like there is a higher expectation of morality for women, so when they do murder it’s seen as more of an aberration. Whereas with men, it’s so common that it’s expected on some level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 05:13 PM
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The entirety of human history begs to differ
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 06:11 PM
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Oh yeah, I’m just getting to the acceptance phase of grieving a friendship. It’s been hard. I do recommend reading about the stages of grief because a friendship ending can feel like a huge loss! My pickme friend is moving to a totally different region/city, so I’ve come to terms with that we probably won’t see each other again. The pandemic has really accelerated some relationships and has made people believe they are closer to their SO than they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 02:28 AM
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Am I being a Karen, or is my life in danger?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 02:07 AM
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Everyone tag yourself! I’m These people are children of Rihanna born in the fires of chaos... But this was a close runner up: Do you like tumeric???? Charcoal ice cream???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 08:25 PM
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Roxanne Luckey (his sister in law) has posted about what a creep he is, how he once tried to set her up (at age 19) to one of his old divorced friends and then gaslit her about it when she wasn’t into it. Imagine being such a pickme that you’re willing to overlook your bf trying to pimp out your little sister to his friends (and then marrying him)… I hate these people so much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 05:50 AM
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Anyone have a PDF?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 06:57 PM
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Wow, so much contempt in his face. He despises her. Also what is even going on here, he has an immersive video game console in a closet?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 05:43 PM
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That thread has big pickme energy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 11:29 AM
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This really validates me in how I never gave an ugly man a chance to begin with 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 12:38 AM
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A great place to curl up and die
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 10:19 PM
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Oh do you mean Brock Turner, convicted rapist and registered sex offender?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 10:17 PM
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If you’re a dude on OLD and you’re truly having to “fight tooth and nail for a single message”, it’s because you’re really unattractive or you have an awful personality (or both).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 10:13 PM
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Have you contacted the mods about this before this post?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 09:11 PM
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Don’t show us, show his wife. Then block him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 04:45 PM
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I’m imagining him sitting in a stupor, slowly trying to fit all the puzzle pieces together as to why he’s the only one not eating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 06:57 PM
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lol why is this so funny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 06:24 PM
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Deleted mine 7 years ago. You won’t miss it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 02:02 PM
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This! She’s 25 and messaging her dad’s ex that hasn’t been in her life for over 15 years. She’s just mirroring his manipulative behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 03:18 AM
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Did you even look at the link? It’s mostly links to ways to donate to humanitarian visas and the evacuation of afghan women. There’s literally no mention of military action. “Advocate for US Government Action” is not military action. Here, I’ll copy and paste it for you: Charter direct evacuation flights to the United States for Afghan women activists most imminently under threat. Already, too many have died in Taliban assassination campaigns. Direct a significant portion of the $1.125 billion a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 04:22 PM
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I agree, but it also feels wrong to do nothing? It’s such a horrifying situation and the helplessness around it is overwhelming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 03:59 PM
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It is so devastating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 02:46 PM
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This right here. I’m willing to be tolerant of any religion, but not if it violates someone else’s civil rights by default.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 02:35 PM
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Women seriously need to stop believing this shit will magically turn out ok. A man who wants to be a good partner and father does not act like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 03:20 PM
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If only these guys only took themselves out. They always drag down innocent lives with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 11:36 PM
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Excuse me while my eyes roll right out of my damn head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 11:35 PM
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Reminds me of a quote I heard on a podcast about the falling birth rate: “populations with a higher ratio of women have more peace, populations with a higher ratio of men have more war”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 11:04 PM
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No goals, no imagination, no future. Just wallowing and hate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 11:02 PM
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Go to ‘My Profile’ (in ‘Home’) and under your avatar it should say how many followers you have. Click on that and it will display their usernames which you can then block. I just check every once in a while and block anyone who follows me (unless they’re an active FDS commenter). Also I’m on mobile but maybe someone who uses desktop Reddit could explain if it’s different.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 10:51 PM
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If he had a relationship with a woman he would have just killed her too. The people implying if women had just been nicer to him or if he had a gf this wouldn’t have happened make me sick. This man had a black hole inside him and was always going to murder, he is responsible and no one else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 09:54 PM
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Same. Also “No standard shaming” is literally one of the rules of this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 03:29 AM
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I think this is a solid strategy. Can a man raised by a single mother be high value? Totally, if he’s worked on himself and found positive surrogate father figure(s). Most men simply don’t work on themselves though so it’s unlikely he’ll be high value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 05:24 PM
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I actually feel positive about the future and think things are headed on the up and up! The concept of FDS is still super new, but look how much this community has grown in the past year. The ideas are catching on, both younger and older generations are wising up, keeping their standards high, and slowly realizing what a clusterfuck liberal feminism is. At this point you have to assume most pickme’s don’t know any better and will come around, lots of women here used to be pickme’s (myself includ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 05:20 PM
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What did he think he was gonna find though? 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/21 05:13 PM
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1.3k upvotes for admitting you’re a pedophile. stay classy Reddit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 06:52 PM
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How are we defining power here? Money + a highly visible platform?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 03:25 AM
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Intimate relationships are normal and healthy. To desire a meaningful connection with someone is normal and healthy. Sometimes I think people participate in the type of cognitive dissonance in OP’s post because they think not putting a label on things will prevent them from getting hurt somehow, but it doesn’t work like that. Not only will they get hurt anyway, they’ll feel bad about getting hurt because the relationship was never “legitimate” to begin with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 02:47 AM
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I feel like it’s a tactic to just break down women even more so we’ll accept subpar treatment; “I must be treated so poorly because I deserve it, after all I am what I attract, etc”. Abusers are attracted to everyone, they stay with vulnerable people they can control. The mental hoops people jump through to not acknowledge the selfish nature of the majority of men must be exhausting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 06:55 PM
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The truth is a prostitute is 10x more expensive than a situationship. Preach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 06:02 PM
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Who gives a shit what they think? What uninformed randos think is irrelevant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 02:36 PM
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it’s no big deal, stop being such a little bitch Uh… these are your friends?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 02:24 PM
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My pickme friend is about to move across the country for a guy she met in a chat room that she’s only met irl 2x. And she’s all “He thinks I’m beautiful… none of my previous bf’s ever called me beautiful 🥺”. Ummm ok, just drop everything and move away because a guy gave you a compliment he’s probably said to every woman he’s been with. And yes I know, our friendship is doomed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/21 05:27 PM
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Mods, how can we help here? We can report any sus comments, what else? Let us know what we can do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 02:43 PM
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How can they be so bad at reading signals?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 01:14 PM
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👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 03:07 PM
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Check out the botched plastic surgery sub for examples of what can go wrong with filler… I know it’s just a subtle change for most people that get it, but it’s such a new procedure that no one really knows what happens long term. Lots of people are discovering it never really “dissolves” like it’s said to, it just migrates around your face as time passes. If you get too much, you get that puffy “overfilled” face that so many aging influencers have now. What’s even sadder is to see young girls in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 02:55 PM
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Most serial killers are white men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 02:41 PM
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Yeah I looked at the child free sub once, read some of the comments and was like ummmmm no thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 04:25 PM
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Wtf is he basing this claim of what is more food than “what is healthy for the average adult woman”? Is he a nutritionist specializing in pregnancy nutrition? So tired of women breeding with scrotes like this. Guarantee this isn’t the first time he’s acted entitled and selfish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 05:30 PM
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They know you’ll never fuck them, it’s about getting you to acknowledge them and monopolizing your attention even if it’s just for a few minutes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 04:44 AM
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Every woman fantasizes about her bf’s big dicked friends, it’s just fantasy, move on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 05:38 PM
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I live in a city with a high homeless population and I just realized how every woman I know has a story about an uncomfortable interaction with a homeless man where they felt scared/threatened but I’ve never heard of a man feeing threatened by a homeless woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 02:04 PM
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Beautifully said
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 09:50 PM
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Glad you’re here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 09:49 PM
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Well said, all of this! Women commit too early and we act like we’re married when we’re not. If he hasn’t put a ring on it and you’re generally unhappy, just split.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 06:21 PM
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I agree. While they may not be aggressively hurting you, they are still passively harming you by wasting your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 06:12 PM
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100%. If you’re not developing as a person in your relationship, end it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 05:52 PM
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I have to laugh at scrotes that feel like things were ended out of nowhere. It wasn’t out of nowhere, you were just in denial about how bad it was for the other person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 05:50 PM
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Same! I kept expecting things to get better, but I don’t know why I expected that when things had been flatlining for so long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 05:47 PM
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I agree with this. If he’s wishywashy during the planning stage, he’ll probably be wishywashy when it’s time to settle up. Conversely, a guy that’s pursuing you with intention will be excited to take you out; he’ll know which place he wants to go, or he’ll be into the place you suggest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 09:47 PM
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This is true, men on Reddit have posted in other subs about how to go on as many dates as possible, as cheaply as possible. This is why they’ll suggest coffee and park walks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 04:48 PM
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lol! If you do this please report back because I’m curious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 04:44 PM
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This is it. The whole thing benefits men allowing them more economic and personal freedom while it keeps women tethered to the home and economically disadvantaged
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 03:03 PM
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Yep this is the whole point of LinkedIn right? Facebook is for friends and family I thought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 02:55 PM
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Sure, you can go ahead and split it with him… Now you know where you stand and can block/delete with no confusion or second guessing yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 02:53 PM
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Children of divorced parents learn this early in life. My parents have been divorced for over 23 years and still occasionally have to deal with each other even though my brother and I are adults. And they still complain to me about the other when this happens.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 02:43 PM
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Women who have kids with a man thinking it will eventually lead to marriage are so sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 02:42 PM
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It’s insane how men’s sexuality has become divorced from its logical consequence (pregnancy) while women are punished for it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 11:14 PM
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Anyone else feel like when most women are “in love” it’s almost like a temporary mental illness or addiction? The way non-FDS women ignore logical thinking by making excuses to justify their bf/husband’s LV behavior seems akin to how an addict lies to themselves…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 11:11 PM
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Omg, yes!!! I will stream the fuck out of an FDS-led true crime podcast!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 11:06 PM
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I would love to see a full post about this! It would probably help a lot of people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 09:50 PM
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Women have socially evolved with the times with taking on traditionally “male” responsibilities, but men have not done the equivalent and even though men are doing more than their forebears women are still doing most of the labor. Like it says in the handbook, most straight men are simply not suitable for a relationship. The population decline is men’s failure, not ours as so many women would be more than happy to start a family but men turn it into fucking punishment so it’s just not worth it f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 10:49 PM
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If they don’t want to be a father they should get a vasectomy or be abstinent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 09:58 PM
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Trying to justify why they’ve stuck around before they start listing the abusive behavior
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 03:53 PM
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They think they’re gonna meet McDreamy but they’re gonna meet McSleezy who has a teenie weenie
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 07:26 PM
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They can never see how the root problem is other men. There was a post recently about some guy noticing women moving away from him at the gym and going out of their way to not be physically near him in bars, cafes, etc. And all the comments were men complaining about “being lumped in with other guys” and how it’s “unfair”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 02:34 PM
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I agree, I want people to be able to vent but I also don’t want to see pointless documentation of how awful men can be
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 02:31 PM
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I hate those flower pots so much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 02:28 PM
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Reading about Amber Heard’s surrogacy is what spawned this post, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 06:00 PM
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This is just wild, and on so many levels
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 04:59 PM
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I’m glad to hear some people are having a positive experience with it. Unfortunately I don’t think your cousin’s experience is the norm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 04:59 PM
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That is so gross. We need to call out exploitive behavior in women just as we do with men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 04:10 PM
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Just wanted to say women can still have a future after prostitution, in fact there women right here in this sub that have done that and later changed course.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 03:57 PM
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Exactly. Who gets to decide how much your womb is worth?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 03:37 PM
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Yes Kim K is mentioned in the article I referenced and she’s complaining about how difficult it was having a surrogate and “the lack of control”.🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 03:24 PM
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The narrative of the struggling couple is always played out more sympathetically then the woman actually going through the damn thing. Just like with porn and prostitution, women’s bodies are collateral for someone else’s agenda
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 03:21 PM
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I AGREE. We encourage people to accept their limitations everywhere else, I think it’s time people who can’t have kids simply accept it. There are 7+ billion humans already. Take the fortune you were going to spend on finding a surrogate and donate it to a local daycare center or charity that helps struggling mothers. Volunteer and mentor young children and teens. People will never do this though because they need their picture perfect family
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 03:19 PM
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This is all so well said. I’m also ok with family members being surrogates for each other because you’re going to presumably be in that baby’s life after giving birth and not simply paid and sent on your way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 05:06 AM
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Well said. I hate when these people talk about pregnancy like it’s sacred or how having kids is their “destiny”, if you really believed that you wouldn’t put a price tag on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 04:00 AM
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The way people talk about adoption like it’s a consolation prize has always bothered me immensely!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 03:56 AM
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Yeah I know it’s bound to piss some people off but it’s worth discussing. And there’s no other place on the inter webs I’d rather discuss it. :) Like we’re all fine with blaming men for exploiting women’s bodies in porn and “sex work”, but what about when women pay to exploit other women for their fertility? It’s complicated but it exists under the same umbrella of exploitation and you’re still buying a woman’s body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 03:47 AM
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What if you acted like it’s a rhetorical question and just didn’t answer? Like you don’t have to be rude or anything, but sometimes if someone asks me an invasive question I just kind of smile and wait for them to change the subject. As women we’re conditioned to resolve tension when it arises and quickly answering a rude question is part of that. But you don’t actually have to answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 11:36 AM
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Porn is mundane
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 11:29 AM
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I love when men get offended by stuff like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 03:44 AM
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Ugh I hate how true this is. Was carrying groceries home and thinking about stuff I had to do and some guy walking adjacently was like “You don’t have to look so scared, I’m a nice guy”. It confused me so much that I actually said “WTF” out loud. And he was like, “Seemed like I was making you nervous!” And I said “I didn’t even see you”. He just looked confused and wandered off. They really do think we’re just literally waiting for them at all times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 03:41 AM
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Oh I definitely won’t say anything to her about it. She’s super headstrong and if I voiced my real opinion she would double down. I did ask some questions to see how much she’s thought it through (where will you go when you need space from him? What will happen if it doesn’t work out and he doesn’t want you there? What other reason do you have to move there? Do you have emergency money? Etc). Her general attitude is that “you only live once” and she’s happy so… that’s it I guess. I simply won’t …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 05:36 PM
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Omg that is so fucked up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 11:57 PM
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I would start mentally preparing for this friend not being in your life anymore. You really just are going to have to let her live her life. She knows she’s left you behind but still puts her new bf first. Thank you, this feels so bleak but this is the tough advice I need right now. She has demonstrated where in her life she sees our friendship and I clearly valued it more than her. And it really sucks to know that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 11:56 PM
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Haha, I’ve posted this same exact graphic here before
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 08:33 PM
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Don’t forget Elon Musk and Grimes. She was 30 and he was 46 when they started dating (17 yr difference). It’s pretty funny how every pic of them looks like a goofy dad with his teenage daughter. Their relationship makes me sad though because she’s publicly defended him so many times and gets blasted for it, and I don’t know if he’s ever acknowledged her publically really? Like I know they’re together and have a baby, but it doesn’t seem like he’s particularly excited about her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 03:43 AM
278

Don’t forget the zoomed in dead eyed serial killer stare Oh yeah and when I was in apps I saw one pic of this guy taking a selfie in a dirty public bathroom and you could see all the grime and trash on the floor, and another man was actually coming out of one of the stalls in the background and was looking right into the camera at that second. Like really, you thought this pic would be good? I used to screenshot them and send them to my friends
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 03:35 AM
13

Just because a question is asked doesn’t mean it deserves an answer. Also, “Why are you asking?” is a perfectly reasonable response to an invasive question and is a good way of letting the asker know they’re being rude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 11:33 PM
18

T.I. Said He Goes To The Gynecologist With His Daughter Every Year To "Check Her Hymen"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 03:05 PM
77

Makes me think of when TI said he goes with his teenage daughter to the gyno regularly to “get her hymen checked”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 12:28 PM
34

Tears and tiny little erect penises
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 03:25 AM
4

They only want to be friends so they can keep tabs on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 05:32 PM
81

Women assume their FWB has the same heart as them. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 05:26 PM
68

It’s amazing how they understand consent when it comes to gay men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 12:49 AM
5

Oh god, the pussy hats! Where are they now…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 12:41 PM
22

Raise your hand if a guy has ever “accidentally” slipped it in ✋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 04:23 PM
21

I’m not sure what to say. It seems like you may be conflating safety with boredom… You can definitely feel safe with someone and also want to rip their clothes off. Sounds like maybe you haven’t met anyone that can fulfill both areas for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 11:39 PM
69

Hmm… you should feel happy/excited to see them, and very attracted to them. But not in a “drug-like” way. There should be a feeling of safety, like you’re in good hands when you’re with him. You should be able to fully be yourself, and he should be able to fully be himself and it should feel playful and harmonious when you’re together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 10:37 PM
100

A long term partnership is incompatible with infatuation. If you have wild chemistry with someone right off the bat, it doesn’t actually mean they’re good for you. Every time I’ve dated someone where there’s fireworks in the beginning it ends up blowing up in my face a few months later. Yet another reason it’s essential to vet ruthlessly for the first few months (and after, but especially the first few months).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 07:58 PM
24

Women that are in relationships with men that treat their reproductive system like a baby factory are unwell mentally. This woman needs rest, actual rest, so her body and mind can heal themselves after 3 back-to-back pregnancies. Her feelings of worthlessness and mourning her old identity contrasted with her idealization of her husband tell me she’s not getting the help she needs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 04:40 PM
32

Yes. The fact that there is even a meeting in which both OP and the scrote will be sitting together is really strange to me? The guy is just going “tell his side of the story” and do damage control
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 03:17 AM
46

Can’t even imagine what a huge disappointment these men must be on a day to day basis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 03:12 AM
77

I’m not really sure what speaking out against him in a meeting will do other than frazzle your nerves and give him an opportunity to argue and lie thus making the situation more tense and upsetting you further. What justice will come from this? If your pastor thinks what happened was the equivalent of sexual abuse, why can’t this guy just be kicked out or whatever. If you want to go through with it anyway, be prepared for this guy be furious and throw insults and twist the situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 02:29 AM
36

This made me die inside a little bit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 02:14 AM
26

Agreed, idk how anyone can watch him. He has all the charm of a wilted piece of spinach
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 02:11 AM
230

Men love commitment… they love when you’re committed to them lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:59 AM
102

The amount of stories on Reddit from women who were abused, gaslit, humiliated, or threatened literally during birth or moments after birth is astounding. Movies/tv would have you think it’s this sacred moment (I’m sure for some couples it is) but for many it’s an opportunity for their abuser to keep them in line.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:52 AM
100

A modest list
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 08:14 PM
46

When they cheat on their SO’s, no one ever asks what the women they cheated with “bring to the table”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 06:16 PM
23

😏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 06:14 PM
23

Every day I think about deleting this stupid app. And the harassment I receive is probably nothing compared to what the mods deal with. At some point one has to evaluate if being here is helping their level up journey or if it’s keeping them miserable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:43 PM
9

People who lie to themselves and blame others/their childhood will never heal. If men want to fix male social issues, they need to do the work themselves instead of blaming women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 04:22 PM
19

They say that, but their criticism stops at women as individuals instead of looking at the overlying structures that contribute to women not wanting kids in the first place. If an unwanted pregnancy will cause economic hardship and physical/mental health problems, then women are smart to delay it (or avoid it altogether). If you want more women to have children, get political and fight for subsidized child care, paid mat/pat leave, free birth control (so women have control over the # of pregnanc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:00 PM
57

They really don’t understand how consent works, do they?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 12:42 PM
127

It’s insane how normalized plastic surgery and fillers etc have become. Sad to see girls in their 20’s with that puffy “overfilled”- looking face because they think it makes them look better in their Instagram pics...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:32 PM
23

I appreciate this sentiment. Sometimes I feel really disgusted with my former self, but I have to cut the old me some slack. It’s normal when you’re in the process of intense growth and development to look back and say “omg why did I do that” because you didn’t know then what you know now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:44 AM
19

He makes it sound so random and meaningless
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:52 PM
10

Same, girl. At least FDS can be a tiny oasis in this sprawling dumpster fire. If they shut us down, I’m deleting my account and never thinking about reddit again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:44 PM
43

Bro the women who didn’t want you before have already forgotten about you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 04:55 PM
86

So glad Reddit can provide a safe space for these men to support each other and their incest/pedo fetish
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 01:27 AM
57

Uh, do they not realize there are practical reasons for having a bed frame? Your mattress absorbs humidity from your body while you sleep and if it’s just sitting on top of a non-porous surface with no air flow the moisture will get trapped which can lead to mold. It’s one thing if you just moved and don’t have furniture yet, but to intentionally not get one to seem more “poor” is just a bad life decision. I hope they enjoy sleeping on their moldy, damp, turtletank-smelling mattresses. Really st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 01:23 AM
267

It will never not be crazy to me how quickly they turned on JK Rowling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:09 AM
318

When women start murdering men en masse, trafficking little boys, masturbating to male pain via violent porn, legislating their reproductive anatomy to be used against them, obstructing their ability to be paid a fair wage, all while constantly interrupting and harassing them while they are simply existing in public spaces... that’s when we can talk about misandry like it’s a real problem. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:06 AM
136

Any sub that centers women is like catnip to those lowlifes. This is why I can never give $ to Reddit, the people at the top could care less about the average woman seeking support on here, the fact that this effects women seeking advice for something as serious as abortion just makes me sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 09:43 PM
87

Right, 40 hrs per week doesn’t sound “super chill”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 04:37 PM
8

Why must they ruin everything?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 04:33 PM
49

This! Having sex is the riskiest thing you can do with a man. If there’s no relationship of trust, commitment, and respect then what is the point? It’s almost like self harm at that point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 04:30 PM
7

I have a math disability as well, as do many people working in tech (it’s called dyscalculia). You may find some coding arithmetic may take you longer, but you probably have accelerated pattern recognition skills. I’ve never used Code Academy, but I love freecodecamp.org. And I’m sure you already know, but Stack Overflow is your best friend if you get blocked! You can do this :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 03:59 PM
9

I went to coding boot camp and felt so dumb at first, but don’t worry practice is everything and you WILL get it if you keep at it :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 02:59 PM
28

That is some next level gaslighting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 02:58 PM
274

If he’s such a minimalist, it should be no problem to take care of his own stuff :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 02:53 PM
36

I just think about how he sounded when he ate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 10:48 PM
2

I was giggling to myself like a weirdo as I was making this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 11:31 PM
1

Ok this made me lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 11:30 PM
57

lmao at the fingernails and the dark woods
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 02:17 PM
22

Honestly the only entity these vapid videos benefit is the makeup industry. They literally feel like an ad for makeup/skincare products at times
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 02:03 PM
9

Yes. The GenZ women who are here are not part of the problem. 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 01:59 PM
34

The left really has become a joke. I’ve been a leftist my whole life and I can’t believe how empty and performative it’s become.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 01:57 PM
4

Feminism is for everybody by bell hooks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 01:13 PM
232

I’m really over these 15 sec videos of conventionally attractive young women slathering makeup and serums on while delivering these hot takes on male behavior that are actually just common sense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 04:23 AM
101

WHAT NOOOO. The Beauty Myth was so important to me as a teen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 03:42 AM
6

We are all Hide the Pain Harold when complimented by men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 03:08 AM
129

So he’s admitting he made her sad and exhausted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 06:46 PM
98

Protect the neurodivergent queens at all costs 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 02:17 PM
17

“girliegirl” definitely sounds like a username a man would make for LARPing in an all female space
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 03:17 PM
54

Men say women can’t handle the truth yet men are the ones that absolutely lose their minds if they are the ones cheated on. I mean, how many news articles have I read where a man murders his gf/wife and the man she had an affair with because he found out? How many men execute their whole family and/or go on a killing spree because their feelings were hurt? Also every woman I know who “snooped” through their partner’s found what they were looking for, unfortunately. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:50 PM
23

That’s... so weird
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 11:51 AM
36

Any man that’s an open and proud Dom is going to abuse you mercilessly and then say “Well what did you expect? I said from the beginning I was a Dom”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 11:40 AM
15

They both look dumb
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 11:37 AM
22

I’ve noticed men seem to naturally identify and see themselves as part of the whole historical collective of men. I’ve heard them say things like “we built society”, “we created all the technology”, “we let women have rights”, etc. But how many men (that you know personally) have actually achieved something notable and great? All the successful men I know have jobs and maybe families, and... that’s kind of it? So many more can’t even meet this simple baseline of stability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 01:13 PM
6

Pickme’s do though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:35 PM
113

lol I was hoping this would end up here! She would def have earbuds, sunglasses, and a mask on if she could
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:29 PM
83

In the city I live, they had to redo the whole 911 call waiting system and hire 75 new dispatchers because of the increases in reports since restrictions lifted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:27 PM
114

Why would someone talk about false allegations if it wasn’t true? Umm I can think of a few reasons. Manipulation, gaslighting, guilting her into supporting him...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:22 PM
29

I consider what takes the minimum effort from me, but also what will keep me safest. I’ll exert more effort if it will protect me in some way. These are really the only two metrics in my mind when I’m dealing with lvm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:17 PM
9

They really think we want to be approached in public by their mediocre ass 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 07:06 PM
62

Wow yeah, I would block him. Nothing good can come from this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:52 PM
62

Jfc, what a psychopath. Posts like this are why I had to unfollow the relationship subs, I just can’t with these women that are literally letting their bf/husband assault them and then asking “WhAT Do I dO?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:47 PM
24

I’m so guilty of this. I find it easier to be assertive in writing/email because I can reread what I wrote and finesse it. But vocally, I constantly do the “uptalk” thing. I didn’t even realize how bad it was until I watched a recorded video of me presenting something on zoom. I was cringing listening to myself 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:37 PM
33

I’m curious about the context in which he admitted this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:33 PM
18

Ah I hate stories like this. The nuclear family model simply doesn’t benefit women. Even if the man is great, it’s still difficult for the woman in the long term. Of course you’re going to feel like a shell when you’re the one taking care of everyone but no one is taking care of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 09:37 PM
13

God I wish this wasn’t true but it so is. Men are always the biggest shit talkers at work and they cover for each other so they can keep shit talking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 06:01 PM
4

“Other comments you’ve made...” aka, we saw you’re part of FDS so we’re just gonna go ahead and ban you now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 05:56 PM
4

Radfem Black is such a great follow. I want to repost everything she says.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 12:15 AM
10

I would love to see those confessions juxtaposed with how they represent their family life on social media
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 12:13 AM
5

Sometimes I wonder if we feel like we’re treated better because we just feel more confident. And that shows in our behavior, and that’s actually what other people are responding to and the makeup is actually irrelevant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 12:08 AM
38

None of those politicians are really pro-life, they’re just securing the vote/support of the religious right. If a woman in their life they care about has an unwanted pregnancy, they’ll just drive her to another state to get it done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 11:55 PM
13

Agree with all of this so hard. You really nicely put into words what bothers me so much about the discourse on mental health now. It seems many people think they should just be mindlessly affirmed and comforted so they can ‘feel better’ no matter what. Real healing starts when you take full responsibility for yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 11:48 PM
1

I feel like this is the 3rd or 4th time I’ve seen this posted here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 09:02 PM
40

Same... they also act like she is benefitting somehow from everything yet she got fired from Aquaman, L’Oréal, had to go to court a bunch of times, her reputation is trashed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 08:59 PM
45

Agreed they ruined each other. Now Depp is suing the ACLU to try and uncover if Heard lied about donating her divorce settlement. He is obsessed with her and wants to destroy her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 07:08 PM
6

I’ve always hated my last name so I’m kind of open to taking someone else’s if we were married and it would be an improvement. Maybe that’s vain? I don’t really care to keep my father’s last name as it reminds me of my close minded relatives. It’s also very German/abrasive sounding. I’ve thought about taking the maiden name of some of my older female relatives but... they just have their father’s last name too. Idk. Maybe I should just change it to something completely new I chose for myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:22 PM
12

Internalized misogyny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:15 PM
315

Damn, it hurts to look at Depp. Allegedly he spends $30k a month on wine so it’s not surprising.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:11 PM
12

WHAT DO YOU DO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 06:45 PM
17

Just as many left-leaning scrotes as there are right-leaning. I live in a super lefty city on the east coast (US) and can’t count the amount of times seemingly progressive men will say/do something misogynistic. For some reason they can see how things like class-based oppression and racism are bad, but they leave women out of the equation. Also, by and large, women (especially WOC) are at the forefront doing the work in activist circles. Men will still try to take the credit though. Don’t get me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 02:35 PM
6

Block him, if you haven’t already
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 05:09 AM
33

I see you’ve met my ex!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 06:50 PM
31

The only time I’ve seen menstruation depicted was in a scene in Handmaid’s Tale, but even then it was really tame, like a red splotch on white underwear shown for a second or two. Just once I’d like to see a scene where a woman wakes up in a small pool of her own blood because she forgot her period was due, and just getting up and getting on with the rest of her day. Or a scene where a woman gets her period during sex and accidentally bleeds all over the bed. That would be some fun realism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 10:31 PM
20

Yeah it’s really sus. The hookup happened over 6 years ago, but how do you forget one of the dudes in your phone is now married to your friend?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 09:47 PM
86

Petition to show women in tv/movies burping, farting, having their period, as well as not always having neotenous features
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 08:26 PM
71

Right I thought the same, like her body is actually in duress right now. Probably part of why she thinks the issue is her friend “beating her at everything” and not her lv husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 06:38 PM
125

True, also who takes out their phone during brunch to show off texts/photos from hookups? So cringey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 05:33 PM
48

Someone mentioned to me an ex from long ago got into some trouble but wouldn’t say anything else, so of course my interest was piqued and I had to google. Arrested for causing a collision while DUI. There’s really nothing like seeing a mugshot of your terribly aging and disheveled ex on a public site for everyone to see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 05:07 PM
59

Yeah... there are WAY too many posts. It should be it’s own thread at least, it’s cluttered and annoying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:35 PM
25

This needs to be common knowledge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:31 PM
387

She is saying she was FWB for three years, but she was straight up committed to him if she wasn’t also seeing other people. He got girlfriend treatment from her while he got to fuck around. Notice how he committed to her after he turned 30 and he suddenly wanted to get married and for her to start popping out kids. The wall for men is real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:26 PM
36

From 2019, but un-shockingly still relevant Anti-rape devices may have their uses, but they don’t address the ultimate problem Crime prevention initiatives targeting sexual violence are by no means new. But as technology advances and costs decrease, we are seeing an abundance of digital and technological strategies emerge. Last month, an invisible anti-groping stamp sold out within an hour of its launch in Japan. The stamp can be used by victims to mark someone who gropes them on public transpor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 05:22 PM
38

Yes. They try to get away with boundary testing behavior to see if they “still got it”, then pull the dopey old man act if they’re criticized.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 02:56 AM
11

I never thought about how hard it would be on my wife’s body I mentally checked out I was mentally not there I barely helped I was so overwhelmed I still didn’t do much I stepped it up a little bit I dropped the ball again I can’t help but feel like it’s my fault Un fucking believable! He let his wife run herself into the ground and now she has COVID and is on a vent. And all he can think about is me, me, me. I really hope it’s a fake post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 08:29 PM
8

Future Police Officer at Kansas City Kansas Lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 08:17 PM
5

Lol I get those Reddit Care things every other day. Also I love Granny 🥺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 08:12 PM
15

They absorb encouragement and support like it’s their birthright, and when it’s not there they act like something’s being taken away from them. I’m done with it all and ready to sit back and let these guys dig themselves into a hole. ✌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 03:50 PM
6

All of this! There’s never been more self-help resources available than there is now, but none of that matters if someone can’t look in the mirror and see they’re part of the problem. Cutting off men like this is the only kind thing to do, for ourselves and for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 03:46 PM
9

Wow that’s so scary and I’m glad you got away from him. Be careful Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 03:45 PM
36

Haha my dad always did this growing up! Anytime my family would go somewhere together, he would walk way ahead like he wasn’t with us. It just made him look stupid though. We would literally laugh at him while he did this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 03:23 PM
2

That’s a tricky one. Will not holding his hand about being a parent help or hurt your son in the long run?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 03:01 PM
14

Without knowing any details... if you think it would prevent harm to others and it wouldn’t compromise your safety, I say go for it. You wouldn’t ruin his life, he ruined it himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 06:13 AM
46

Yup! This is how all men can level up, by cutting their dependence on women’s emotional labor. This is why men ultimately can’t love pickme’s, they know subconsciously she is covering for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:12 AM
52

If you are naturally the type to extend a helping hand it takes a lot of de-conditioning to stop yourself. Even now with male coworkers and such, I have to take a beat and remind myself to not get involved if I don’t need to be. Better to just keep my head down and focus on what I’m doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:02 AM
52

Yeah but she got picked so it’s all ok
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 03:58 AM
52

You thought he would be destitute because he wanted you to think he’d be destitute. Funny how they always seem to figure out what to do when they need to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 03:57 AM
35

It definitely sets up a dynamic that makes it easier for them to blame you going forward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 02:58 AM
24

Yes. Helping people who would never help you is a game you can’t win.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 02:57 AM
6

❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 02:54 AM
31

Glad it’s sinking in! It took me a long time too. As women we are collectively too nice. We all need to learn to start being kind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 02:54 AM
17

These questions are so good, especially: Would me helping him solve the root cause of the problem?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 02:53 AM
8

It’s not, at all. Sex is a big deal and women pretending it isn’t benefits men, not women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 04:29 PM
11

He follows her from room to room? Tf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 04:27 PM
64

The pandemic has brought employment levels for women back to what it was in the 80s. If your partner doesn’t think your career is as important as his, he is planning on freeloading off your unpaid home labor that you’ll do instead of an actual job. Men always expect women to take one for the family and it’s unacceptable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 04:05 PM
29

I posted about a tidal wave of scrotes coming. Anthropologically it’s all pretty interesting to me. As a species we’ve never had a pandemic while being this technologically advanced. We’ve all been in our own pods and some of us are emerging better for it but many men simply do not know how to be on their own and lost their minds. I really do think there will be a surge in dating and gender violence as society starts to open up more, the entitlement and desperation are real. For anyone that is c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:59 PM
7

Every woman yearns for a man with a penis that’s “just fine”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 03:46 PM
35

I’d like to see them get even lower, let’s get down to Japan numbers!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 01:08 AM
31

I meant commitment as in marriage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 08:54 AM
557

These articles always seem to imply women’s selfishness is the obstruction to more births. Probably a lot more of us would be having kids if this wasn’t a patriarchal dystopia. I have yet to see one of these articles address how men don’t really want to commit to women anymore. Are we supposed to be excited about starting a family with a man who can barely handle a conversation about defining the relationship after having sex for months? Like historically there has never been a time like now whe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 04:59 AM
33

Correct. When the men in the study looked at photos of scantily clad women in suggestive poses, the part of their brain associated with objects activated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 06:41 PM
5

His mother should have aborted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:22 PM
18

The more someone posts about their relationship on social media, the more insecure they are about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:17 PM
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Lol I don’t want to go back to Neanderthal days, I just think it’s funny how so many of these men assume they’d be in a position of power? Like, if you were a weak/undesirable male not only will you not mate, but you’ll probably be killed by the actual dominant males. The entire incel community would be DONE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:03 PM
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It bothers me how libfems use “empowerment” and “confidence” interchangeably. If it doesn’t actually give you power, it isn’t empowering. Example: wearing concealer to cover blemishes and dark circles isn’t empowering, but it can make you feel confident. Empowerment would be not spending your hard earned money on cosmetics, and letting your face look however it naturally looks. And then being confident anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 02:45 PM
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I secretly love when scrotes talk about “biology” and “instinct” because they forget how in nature males will literally kill each other for the chance to mate. They don’t see the irony.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 07:43 PM
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I never understood this logic either. Having a child with someone enmeshes your life with his and your family with his. Birthdays, holidays, vacations, funerals, and family functions will mean you’ll have to communicate with him on some level for at least 18 years, probably more. A marriage is reversible, children are not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 01:32 AM
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This was intentional but also meant to be somewhat humorous :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 01:49 AM
4

There’s really no insult like an Azealia Banks insult. It’s like an art form for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 06:03 PM
2

It will be interesting to see what happens with these “quarantine couples” when restrictions are fully lifted 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 10:18 PM
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Totally agree. If I never saw my partner sober (remember this guy also smokes weed all day), I wouldn’t just... accept that? People who need to numb themselves 24/7 shouldn’t be in relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 10:09 PM
5

Wow that makes so much sense. Also wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 10:08 PM
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Reposting bc I can’t type
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 06:56 PM
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Reposting because I forgot to remove the community name from the last screenshot ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 06:46 PM
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Love how she prefaces this wall of text by saying how hard it is to date right now. She knows deep inside he’s not a catch, she just can’t admit it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 05:28 PM
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Sorry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 03:08 AM
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Research Spotlight: The Radical Story Behind the Famous “The Future Is Female” Graphic T-Shirt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 05:37 PM
15

lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 05:26 PM
51

I would scream if a man did this to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 05:22 PM
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Men are never going to understand the vulnerability of existing in this world with a vagina. I step outside and am immediately confronted with an obstacle course of dysfunctional men who would shove themselves in me if they could and are constantly testing the boundaries to see if they can get away with it. The leering, the catcalls, the gaslighting and time wasting... and those are only the mild things that can happen. It’s exhausting and it’s a constant interruption. Men don’t understand what …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 04:36 PM
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This is why I wear headphones with no music on. The little dances they do to get within our line of sight so we’ll notice them... it’s honestly pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 04:25 PM
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I'm taking care of all the paperwork, the bills left over, the splitting of the banking and other assets, everything regarding the divorce. I'm the one reminding him to get his own car insurance, to get off my bank accounts, all of it. I'm carrying all the mental labor. Why do you have to do all of this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 04:22 PM
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Glad that you made it here. :) First of all, I’m sorry you went through that. That sounds so difficult. You sound mature and like you’re taking the right steps to take care of yourself, so kudos to you for prioritizing your mental health. I was also kicked out by my unwell mother when I was 18 and lived in my car for 3 months. It became a slippery slope, even when I was checking off all the right boxes later in life (college, getting jobs, etc). It honestly took a long time, like 10+ yrs, for me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 01:26 PM
4

If you are involved with the Victim and want to escape his abuse, you may find that you feel guilty toward him, despite his treatment of you, and have difficulty ending the relationship as a result. You may feel that because his life has been so hard, you are reluctant to add to his pain by abandoning him. You may worry that he won’t take care of himself if you leave, that he will wither away from depression, won’t eat or sleep, or might even try to kill himself. The Victim knows how to present …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 05:59 PM
3

Lol! I thought this too. I wouldn’t want a woman like this in my corner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 04:19 PM
31

Honestly I think yearning for a “dream girl” is a red flag. Someone who is mature and ready for a relationship isn’t pining for some ideal, perfect person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 03:55 PM
6

This is so well written! And I agree, his diagnosis wasn’t the actual problem, it was how he coped with it that caused all the problems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 03:34 PM
3

I know that now, but at the time it seemed like the right thing to do. Of course therapy offices want your money so they’ll just throw out the suggestion to go to couples counseling to literally anyone who talks about their partner in individual counseling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 03:15 PM
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When my ex and I would get into a fight, I would need space in order to regroup, cool down, and get my head together. My ex was the opposite - he needed immediate physical assurance like hugging and kissing in order to calm down. I was told over and over that “my way” was problematic and I should try and “overcome” my need for space so we could “come together as a team”. Lol. It makes me sick to think about how many times I would grit my teeth and force myself to comfort him when I was fuming. T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 03:12 PM
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I’ve known so many women that do this and they always end up regretting it later. Reminds me of this girl who I went to high school with who got into a good art school in a big city. She starts dating this loser from our high school and transfers to his shitty rural state school to be closer to him. Predictably she hates it, is miserable, slides into a depression and stops going to class. He dumps her. She tries to transfer back to her first school but is rejected because her gpa is now below th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:34 PM
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No. Neurodiversity refers to the natural differences in people’s brains as they develop as children (or before they’re born). About 30-40% of the population is neurodiverse and many of those people are living happy lives and having healthy relationships, they just have to work a bit harder than others. Mental illnesses are patterns of behaviour where a person experiences a ‘state of mind’ that is different from their ‘normal self’. Obviously there can be overlapping, but there’s two different th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 04:49 AM
10

Neurodivergence is not an illness. But I do agree that anyone with an unchecked mental illness cannot be high value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 04:34 AM
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The thing with mild and harmless atypical men is that they’re just quietly going on with their life not bothering anyone. I watched Amy Schumer’s cooking show she did with her husband, a chef, who’s also on the spectrum. She’s spoken publicly (with his permission) about some of their relationship dynamics and how some things are different. On the show he seemed kind of flat but also relaxed, quiet and soft spoken, nerding out over the order of ingredients and going on about how more people shoul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 04:32 AM
4

No but I am now 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 04:20 AM
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He went to therapy before, during, and after I knew him lol. Makes me wonder if he spent all that time just complaining about his parents instead of working on himself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:38 AM
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Yes! I read about this. It has to do with the differences in how male and female children socialize with each other. It’s an interesting subject for sure. And yeah, I wondered if the dynamic in therapy triggered some sort of episode in him because he got so much more entitled and vindictive. But maybe that’s just who he was all along and the therapy just revealed it faster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:33 AM
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I don’t think it’s the pot calling the kettle black. It seems like there are some fundamental differences in how neurodivergence manifests in men vs women. It’s a fascinating subject, I wish it were studied more!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:25 AM
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Thank you. The day after I broke up with him it was like this toxic smog cleared from my life and I could finally breathe. I still think it’s pretty funny the couples counselor dumped us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:20 AM
25

Okay but neurodivergent ≠ unhealthy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 02:11 AM
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At best they have a stem job and nothing else going for them in their life. Yup you just described my ex. Impressive on paper, absolute nightmare in real life. No real friends, stopped talking to his family because they “weren’t supportive enough” of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 01:30 AM
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Excellent post. SWERF is just another term to tear down women, anyone who uses that word doesn’t actually give a damn about the women coerced into prostitution.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 06:41 PM
9

Another great question to ask is if he knows how much it is to give birth in a hospital and if he’ll be able to cover all related costs. This might only be relevant for people in the US though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 06:09 PM
2

Hey, me too. The women in my family went to college, but their “greatest achievement” was being a wife and mother. Sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 04:31 PM
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Reddit is full of weirdos with limited social experience and most are incapable of extending empathy to women. I’m sure they would think of the situation differently if it were a female professor with a bookmark of big black cocks or whatever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 04:28 PM
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APAB (all pimps are bastards) AJAR (all johns are rapists)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 07:17 PM
4

Wow, that last comment 🤡 she’s so close to getting it though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 04:01 PM
2

I love her as an actress, but I agree. I imagine her personal politics are pretty complicated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 02:27 PM
6

I really appreciate you for bringing up the history of vanilla! It’s always bothered me that a plant with such an interesting history is used as a catch all term for anything that’s plain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 04:30 AM
6

Interesting. So it’s still considered eugenics territory even though vasectomies are reversible?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 11:55 PM
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I’ll never forget when an ex boyfriend and I were arguing in public. We were walking up to the door of my apartment building and I turned around to tell him to find somewhere else to stay tonight because I didn’t want to look at him. His fist flew out and punched the door an inch next to my ear, cracking the glass in the little window in the door. I flung open the door and literally ran away from him and locked myself in my apartment and hid under the covers with the lights off like a child. It …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 03:14 PM
21

Pickme’s who “discover” they’re a sub in their 30s and think it’s wildly subversive are hilarious to me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 03:00 PM
9

I am embarrassed on her behalf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 01:41 PM
3

This is interesting. What will be the consequences of forging consent or lying about age? At least it’s a step in the right direction though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 01:38 PM
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My god, sorry you had to go through that. If I knew him, I’d leave a bag of flaming dog poo by his door.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 01:35 AM
11

... What
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 01:17 AM
20

This is honestly the ideal situation to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 01:16 AM
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I know you’re joking but this would legitimately prevent so many unwanted pregnancies lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 10:27 PM
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As long as someone is fully aware of the consequences, I don’t see what the problem would be?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 10:25 PM
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Where did I say anything about abstinence?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 08:35 PM
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Agree with everything you’re saying! Good on you for taking control of your circumstances. And it’s true, all these options available for us that women fought so hard to get in the first place have been weaponized to punish us for how our anatomy works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 07:29 PM
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I actually made a whole post about pregnancy about 2 weeks ago: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/mi4ocy/pregnancy_and_its_discontents/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 06:18 PM
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Yes! Make vasectomies free for all men. Better yet, offer money to low income men to get snipped. Broke men that can’t provide or pay child support shouldn’t be trying to reproduce, tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 05:41 PM
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Men will elevate themselves when more women start leaving them behind for the things she mentioned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 05:21 PM
23

Dworkin forever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 04:13 PM
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It's so interesting to think about how the appearance of exhaustion - puffy eyes with dark circles underneath - is just so offensive. How many women feel they have to hide their exhaustion by spending money on day/night eye creams, eye masks, primers, concealers, color correctors, foundations, special makeup routines that "open up the eye" and make the eye look "brighter and more awake". Go on youtube and look up "how to hide puffy eyes/dark circles" and a hundred tutorials on how to look "more …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 06:22 PM
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Pay attention to that feeling. Your body is telling you he's a predator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 06:08 PM
5

Pickmes: Wow, this is such a great idea! i'm so honored he likes me enough to hang out in his house right away, I bet he looks cute while he's working 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 05:26 PM
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I get what the post means but dismissing anything appearance related as "performative" is not helpful and it just slides into libfem rhetoric ("I'm not like those vain girls who obsess over their clothes and waxing and stuff"). Yeah that's not what's happening here. It's important to be able to differentiate between doing something because you like how it feels versus doing something because it causes anxiety to not do it. I'll use my mom as an example. She has to put on a full face of makeup to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 06:41 PM
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Great comment. And you're 100% right. Those rules aren't about natural vs unnatural, but moreso feminine-compliance vs feminine-noncompliance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 06:31 PM
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Yes, jfc, why can't men just talk to each other more? Male friendships are seriously deficient in emotional intimacy and it's sad. Stop expecting women to pick up the slack, we're busy lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 01:56 PM
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Yes. People who are pro-prostitution think the woman is "in control", but in reality she is coping with immense psychological pain. It also makes me terrified for all the young girls who think it's okay to send/sell nude photos. These girls can really slip between the cracks if no one is looking out for them :( Hope you're doing better now 💞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 09:29 PM
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Her nonchalant words about her past and her sad eyes, scars and tattoos make my heart break :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 08:59 PM
13

I am lonely and miss you but i don't understand my emotions, pay attention to me please fuckface!!! ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 06:37 PM
6

IMO a bit of androgyny pushes someone from being attractive to super attractive!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 06:30 PM
13

If you open it in Chrome it will translate from Swedish
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 05:12 PM
18

A nice butt on a man is a thing of beauty, also the perfect thing to grab and hold onto during sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 03:14 AM
26

Hey, that's my type too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 03:12 AM
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There should be a "Congratulations on avoiding your first divorce!" greeting card
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 03:08 AM
6

100%! Reading about all this made me realize how abysmal things are in the US. Women in countries with more socialized health care don't understand what a huge independent undertaking it is to be a mother in the US. There's no subsidized childcare, maternity leave is minimal unless you're lucky, there's really not much of any kind of safety net... if you don't have a strong support system you're literally on your own. I think COVID has really highlighted this as well, so many mothers raising the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 03:46 PM
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Added it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 03:16 PM
3

It would certainly make some things easier 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 03:12 PM
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Doesn't massaging the area help with tearing? Like with pelvic floor therapy for weakened uterus muscles, many women don't even know there are treatments available. I hate that all these decreases in quality of life for mothers are just accepted and normalized. Mothers deserve better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 03:09 PM
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It's insane, isn't it? Like, we think of our bodies as being intact a certain way and then pregnancy makes everything relaxed and super malleable and your body can actually rearrange itself. It's wild. Also there are multiple organs that can become prolapsed from pregnancy, I didn't include them because they're more rare (like bladder prolapse)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 02:51 PM
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They want us to to be ignorant. It's not like being more educated will stop some women from wanting a child, why not give her all the info so she can be as prepared as possible? Also men need to be educated about this as well. I honestly didn't even know about many if these things until I did a deep dive into google. But yeah, the brain/neural changes were the most terrifying to me because so little is known about it because it's under researched. No one knows why women's brains change so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 02:49 PM
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Added it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 02:44 PM
5

Thanks for this, I added a little section on professional setbacks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 02:38 PM
8

Omg, src? i need to see this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 05:14 AM
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Thanks for this! You'd think with the current information that's out there, mothers would be a super protected class with all kinds of laws to keep them safe and they would enjoy an elevated place in society. Instead we live in hell. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 03:02 AM
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I thought about this while making the post, how none of this is new and women have been suffering and literally sacrificing themselves for their babies since always. It actually really upset me to think about the pain my mother must have gone through and how no one really cared, least of all my dad who was upset she didn't bounce back to her pre-pregnancy weight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 02:58 AM
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So that guy basically thinks women are like demigods and can control if a fetus lives or dies? I mean, if a lot of conservative guys think this way it would explain why they're so obsessed with reproductive control
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 02:55 AM
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Oh girl, it pained me so much to read this. What is your support system now? It's not normal to think about being run over by a truck. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 02:53 AM
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As with marriage, women are conditioned to want these things from a young age without any detailed information about what to prepare for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 02:51 AM
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Thank you for saying that. I don't wish for women to stop having babies, I wish for the whole process to be as safe and painless as possible. Pregnancy should be a stress free experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 02:50 AM
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This is such a great point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 12:29 AM
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Lol! It's a total construction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 12:09 AM
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Yes this was my main intent for this post. Like, okay, maybe you'll be one of the lucky ones that doesn't experience most of these things but what if you aren't? If you want kids, it better be with someone who is kind, generous, and willing to support you through any or all of these risks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 11:34 PM
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Not exactly. "High levels of the hormones progesterone and estrogen during pregnancy can temporarily loosen the tissues and bones that keep your teeth in place. This can make your teeth loose."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 11:07 PM
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Added it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 11:05 PM
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Thank you for writing this, I wanted to add something like this but couldnt figure out how to phrase it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 10:58 PM
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Yup, even if you have an amazing HVM as a partner it will still be one of the most difficult things you'll ever do. Why would you risk it with some LVM?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 10:54 PM
26

A pregnancy belly is like a siren call for socially awkard people
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 10:39 PM
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Thanks! Honestly not trying to use scare tactics, it's just so confounding to me that little girls are socialized to want babies but aren't educated on every risk. Like i didn't even know about many of these until literally today and i'm in my 30s. I'll update some the "permanent" parts of this post though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 10:14 PM
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No worries, it does seem like he was the first one to use it. I agree he is a misogynist though :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 10:08 PM
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I would love to hear more, can you elaborate on which ones? Maybe I should rephrase things to "can be permanent".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 10:02 PM
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How long has it been?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:52 PM
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(internet hugs)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:52 PM
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This was the area that intrigued me the most, how much a woman's brain changes after pregnancy. You really don't see it discussed much outside of playful "haha, baby brain moment" type comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:51 PM
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Do you have a doula?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:49 PM
18

It's not a reference to Freud, there are many other book titles that contain "and Its Discontents".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:49 PM
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I'm very introverted as well and it never made sense to me how people are comfortable with approaching random pregnant women to talk to them, much less touch their belly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:36 PM
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💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:05 PM
131

Lol, same. The research for this post was legitimately upsetting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:01 PM
133

Ugh I cannot wrap my head around couples who think it's a lesser commitment to have children than it is to just get married. If getting married seems like too much... maybe don't have kids with them? You can get divorced, but having a child with someone keeps you connected to them for the rest of that child's life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 06:03 PM
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Lol, I instinctively downvoted this before i remembered what sub i was in. This man has probably never even met a bisexual woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 06:00 PM
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Dopamine withdrawal after a breakup is real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 03:00 PM
6

Mom bods need more love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 02:31 PM
5

in a situation like this, would she have to pay alimony to him because he's not working? Or it just depends on the law?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 01:50 PM
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I really thought a dad bod meant muscular arms/legs but a slightly softer waist. Not obese.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 09:40 PM
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"There is a thin line that separates laughter and pain, comedy and tragedy, humor and hurt..." 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 03:47 AM
3

I wonder how many new women this brought in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 03:44 AM
12

This post gave me warm fuzzies. 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 03:42 AM
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People don't want to ask for those items so they steal them so then they get locked up and then no one gets them because it's too awkward to ask. I wish there was a better way, maybe a vending machine in an discreet spot or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 08:47 PM
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I doubt there are many women who got married after 2 weeks who stayed happily married forever, but I hear what you're saying. Maybe milestones based on how long you've been with someone really don't matter at all and the only thing that matters is how they respect your boundaries. But setting and expressing boundaries and learning if they're truly respected takes some time, no? Especially since some guys are so good at faking it in the short term. It's interesting to think about. In any case, I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 08:39 PM
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This was pretty great and I really enjoyed her, definitely required viewing for any ladies that are 100% sure they want to get married. However i did gasp a little bit when she said she got engaged after 2 weeks and married after 2 months. Not shaming her at all, but that isn't a feasible path for most people. I'm in my late 30s and still undecided about marriage. I can't decide if I want to actually be married or if I just want the affirmation that someone wants to marry me (if that makes sense…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 07:17 PM
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Soooo tired of "Karen", all the biggest "Karens" I know have all been men anyway
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 03:52 PM
16

Men really need to educate themselves on pregnancy and postpartum. It's like they think pregnancy is like having a cold or something and women just perfectly revert back to how they were pre-pregnancy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 03:51 PM
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The thing with aerosol creating a cloud is only a good thing if conditions are perfect. I see it as more of a drawback because if there are any adverse conditions (wind, precipitation) it can blowback hitting you or bystanders. I'm not presenting it as the perfect solution, just as an option for anyone interested in something more powerful than pepper spray but not as lethal as a gun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 03:42 PM
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Yes. It's basically a small gun that uses hot goo instead of bullets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 06:31 AM
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While I agree with the main points you've listed, I'm pretty disappointed to be told to "stay away from dangerous situations". That is something I would expect my mom to say, not a woman on FDS. Are the parking lot of the grocery store, the sidewalk in front of my house, the platform of the subway station, etc all dangerous situations? Or is any scenario that involves me leaving my house a dangerous situation? I am not purposefully seeking out "bad areas" (lol!) I am trying to fucking protect my…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 03:37 AM
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It isn't pepper spray though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 01:20 AM
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benefits of the pepper blaster: - can shoot up to 13 ft (!!!!!!) - not pressurized like spray, so doesn't lose pressure over time. - disables attacker for 45 mins. - easier to grip and hold than spray. point and shoot. - sprays often have a safety lock, the pepper blaster doesn't. faster and more instinctual. - concentrated shot. lower chance of hitting bystanders.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 12:53 AM
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I have never understood why so many men don't wash their hands after peeing because they "only" touched their penis. Like, what do they think we do? We don't even touch our vag generally, we just touch the toilet paper.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 11:01 PM
13

"genital-hands" 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 10:59 PM
17

Bitchboy Babydick 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 10:56 PM
79

tbh if I received a message like this, I would tell them to kill themselves. And I wouldn't feel bad about it 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 10:54 PM
23

what the fuuuuuck?! maybe someone reversed the genders?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 10:52 PM
15

Thank you for sticking up for your daughter. 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 11:16 PM
4

Yes. Sometimes i get really angry about it. I try to channel it into something positive - art, cooking, organizing, helping confused women on Reddit, exercise - and remind myself I didn't know then what I know now, and it wasn't my fault. We are all a product of our environment, and the environment is misogynistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:24 PM
6

ah, how quickly their tone can change
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:12 PM
53

We don't shame women who have prostituted themselves, we shame the men (and women) who pretend sex work is a necessary evil to placate male libido. Porn has warped men's sexual expectations and OnlyFans etc has made men feel entitled to asking literally any woman for nudes and if she's being compensated then he doesn't have to feel guilty. FDS ladies typically care very much about women who are forced into prostitiution and exploited for profit. The whole conversation around "sex work" reminds m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 05:21 AM
59

Well, now it’s clear that the banwave was directly related to this exact same person. Last year they wrote an open letter which resulted in many Gender Critical accounts and subreddits being removed from the site. This included the de trans sub (trans activists hate detransitioners) and the true lesbians sub (which catered to actual lesbians, not mtf ‘lesbians’ with penises). Now they are a full employee of Reddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 02:24 PM
27

I love to see it 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 04:07 PM
7

This is so toxic and sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 02:57 PM
20

It really is a grieving process. Have you read about the stages of grief? Try not to focus on how he feels, it’s basically a habit you must unlearn. How he feels has everything to do with him and nothing to do with who you are as a person or your worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 05:04 PM
54

it’s not just smoking/alcohol, it’s diet too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 03:43 PM
404

What you’re going through is normal. Everyone looks at their relationship through rose colored glasses as it’s ending. Cut yourself some slack and allow yourself to grieve your relationship. I saw you have a therapist, which is great - can you increase your meetings temporarily? This phase will be difficult for a while but it’s ultimately fleeting and soon your whole world will be different. Being on your own is scary but so so rewarding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 02:27 PM
74

Make decisions about your future as if you’ll be single
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 11:03 PM
15

Yup, he sucks. Seems like whenever he’s in a bad press cycle he just does a bunch of weird meme-y shit on Twitter and all is forgotten 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 06:48 PM
13

When I was dating I liked to wear a simple all black outfit for the first time meeting. It’s low effort but “put together” enough that i feel confident, plus it works in almost any setting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 03:26 PM
26

Nah Grimes is a super pickme for Elon and would probably do whatever he wanted. The whole vibe I get from their relationship is that she’s made herself smaller to yield to him. Oh yeah and she’s also all about that money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 03:08 PM
58

This is it. When Elon Musk and Grimes go out together, they look like father and daughter. Elon was rumored to have ties to Epstein so he is probably one of the famous people he had dirt in before he died in prison. Plus in 2019 he randomly called one of the rescuers of the boys soccer team trapped in a Thai cave a pedophile. Projection?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 02:55 PM
117

They aren’t married, she’s his baby incubator
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 03:16 AM
92

Clearly he’s depressed, why isn’t she more accommodating to him coping? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 08:09 PM
4

I think a world made by woman would, in general, be very open and inclusive, even for men. Typically women are better at thinking in terms of what’s best for the collective, what’s best for families and children, and how to protect who is most marginalized and vulnerable in society. I think the biggest difference would be in reproductive justice. Free bc for women and men. Better sex education. Free parenting classes. 1 year paid maternity/paternity leave, at least. Subsidized day care and babys…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 03:10 PM
34

100%. You know it’s going to be scrote city in there when they’re offering free drinks to ladies only.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:32 PM
43

Wow they’re really spinning their wheels with this one. I would low key love a Netflix show based on FDS, thanks for the free idea scrotes! 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 06:51 PM
4

Same reason why white supremacists don’t speak out against white people committing hate crimes. They find comfort in it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 06:45 PM
45

Wtf. "He apparently has an issue, what he considers a sex addiction, and sees these locations ... [as] a temptation for him that he wanted to eliminate." he should have just killed himself. How there’s any confusion about if this is a hate crime or not is beyond me, he killed them because they are women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 05:49 PM
47

Wow sorry you work with such a scrote. Keep on killing it! 🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 02:49 PM
44

We all know that vulnerability. Unfortunately none of us get the option to live without male violence, it’s like this toxic smog that hangs over everything and sometimes it clears but it always creeps back in. You can lessen the anxiety by being as prepared as possible. Learn how to seem more intimidating - make eye contact, speak firmly, plant your feet, learn to say “Back up” in a loud voice when someone gets too close. Learn to punch correctly. You can carry pepper spray. I don’t condone gun …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 02:45 PM
14

For anyone on ig, @TheNapMinistry is a great account to follow regarding this topic!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 10:39 AM
647

We don’t friend zone them, they fuck zone us
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 02:29 AM
130

I would love to see a language shift in the way we talk about pregnancy. You’d almost think women reproduce asexually the way most people talk about it; “she got pregnant”, etc. Women get pregnant because they are impregnated by men. It’s really time to end the disassociation between men’s sexual pleasure and reproduction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 05:00 PM
52

I read this and then breathed a deep, satisfying long exhale of pure relief. It’s so refreshing to read something by someone that just gets it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 02:31 AM
40

When you’re alone in public, you’ll be seen as an “option”. Doesn’t matter what you’re wearing or how old you are. I wish there was a way to just completely opt out of this type of attention, but the only thing that has ever worked for me is to wear headphones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 05:44 PM
7

Strength in numbers... if he’s making multiple people uncomfortable, that’s a significant issue. Maybe if you get organized with your coworkers, you can come up with a better solution? It’s crazy that the manager spoke to him about it but nothing changed, makes me wonder what the manager actually said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 05:41 PM
6

Thank you. People responded as if I was making a value judgement on her sex life when I could not care less, my intention was to address the fact she’s feeling so bad about it afterwards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 10:48 AM
3

💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 10:44 AM
10

People don’t want to acknowledge the same patterns that keep showing up. And everyone acts like they live in candy land where men and women are “the same” and on a level playing field. So many clueless women suffering trying to figure out “what went wrong” and overanalyzing every little text and interaction when it’s so obvious. Commenting on other subs makes me realize what a luxury it is to be part of fds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 10:41 AM
2

It doesn’t make any sense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 10:31 AM
104

This one was pretty mind blowing for me: LVM are not a prize, they are the pipeline to women's poverty. Financial, social, physical, mental, spiritual and generational poverty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 08:35 PM
147

People want to pretend men and women have the same emotional experience with casual sex and it’s so exhausting. A different user actually called me misogynist. I was actually trying to help her with my comment instead of the loads of people telling her “aw don’t feel bad, it’s ok to have sex if you felt it was right at the time”. Next time skip the shame and self loathing and wait to see if there actually is a connection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 07:48 PM
216

Do you mean to imply a total stranger might not have my best interests in mind? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 07:21 PM
12

Oh. My. God.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 06:08 PM
5

Hashtag thanksdominique
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 04:34 PM
32

These are all great tips! Food can also make a huge difference for your psyche. I’ve noticed whenever I feel like shit, it’s preceded by me eating really poorly and/or being dehydrated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 03:29 PM
16

This is your friend?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:00 PM
9

You could read “I Hate Men”, the writer makes some good arguments about why it’s a rational response for women to hate men as a class (not necessarily as individuals) because of the violence and chaos men they’ve wrecked upon women’s lives collectively. In terms of more practical advice, work out and turn your rage into a dopamine rush.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 02:54 PM
6

I mean if he would really rather die than suffer the embarrassment of having his life saved... then ok?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 02:47 PM
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Because it’s Reddit and the average male Reddit user is angry and / or has an untreated mental illness. I feel like if you walked up to random men on the street and asked “would you be bothered by an all female message board where women can talk about dating and their experiences? Btw there’s nothing stopping men from making an all male version of their own, there’s just this one place where men can’t post”, I think most men wouldn’t really care lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 02:45 PM
15

Such a great idea and it would genuinely improve the world
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:09 AM
24

Cool thanks Dominique 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:38 AM
2

This reasoning is so strange to me. No one is saying these women “shouldn’t exist”. What shouldn’t exist is male violence and systemic poverty. It makes me sad that so many people literally can’t imagine a world where women don’t have to be prostitutes just to get by.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 10:15 PM
16

What do you expect from a company with a well known misogynistic past? Fuck VICE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 10:03 PM
18

You’ve dated billionaires?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 09:54 PM
8

What the FUCK. Imagine thinking that’s an appropriate thing to say. You handled the situation perfectly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 04:40 PM
20

Anyone else following the superstraight drama on Reddit?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 03:28 PM
26

I see pinkpill is coopting our language - high value, vetting, etc. Men don’t love women like this but they accept them as placeholders until something more exciting comes along.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 05:25 AM
11

Came here to say this! Stressful relationships mess with the endocrine system.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 04:05 PM
158

If running marathons, leaving toxic relationships, getting educated and healing from trauma makes me a “failed woman” then sign me up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 04:01 PM
3

I love your username
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 03:28 PM
7

Why is she asking what do do? What else is there to do but block him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 12:58 AM
17

Omg. They really do think we’re “damaged goods” if we’ve been hurt. Also there’s no way he stopped having sex because he was “concerned about her being uncomfortable”, he was thinking about how a different man had touched her and he felt emasculated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 12:54 AM
66

LOL. Imagine you were seeing a guy you had love feelings for and he said he was “uncomfortable in the long term” with you, but wanted to continue having sex. He’s posting this on Reddit instead of just telling her how he feels because he knows she would dump him instantly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 08:52 PM
58

They should have stayed broken up when he said he wouldn’t marry her without kids after 6 (!!!) years of dating. And how obscenely fucked up that he only feels bad about manipulating her because he’s unhappy with the results?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 01:01 AM
97

lol yes. His self hatred is the correct response to his actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 12:59 AM
23

Same. When I had relationship problems with boyfriends, my mom always said back in her day “girls just found a big strong man and married him” and she didn’t understand why things were difficult. I had to constantly remind myself that she grew up in a different time and with different information.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 11:51 PM
160

Given that men tend to overestimate their own attractiveness (and women underestimate their attractiveness), you can rest assured he looks like a thumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 11:48 PM
18

Let me guess, by their partner?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 12:25 AM
4

I also have anxiety with OCD so I feel you. Medication and therapy were game changers for me but the biggest thing that squashed my anxiety was breaking up with my ex. He made me so anxious all the time that I felt physically ill and developed weird phantom pains that mysteriously went away after we broke up. I’m with someone different now and what a different experience I’m having! I literally never worry about him or our relationship, things are just... secure. I don’t have to think about if t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 06:15 PM
11

Damn, what a great comment by “emmi”. I want to print it and frame it. The faux critical thinking people (men and women) display around “kink” is astounding. There is nothing less subversive then men getting off on hurting women, it’s the status quo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 06:04 PM
11

It’s not about the money. It’s about the attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 05:56 PM
46

You can’t. You just have to vet ruthlessly and know 90% of the men you see on there won’t be for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 06:57 PM
40

Not sure how other people feel about it, but I adored Killing Eve. I definitely recommend it to anyone interested in a show about a complicated female antihero!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 04:39 PM
70

I just heard about this story! Apparently what she is being compensated is less than a year’s salary, but still a step in the right direction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 04:37 PM
6

Ahh Jezebel, how the mighty have fallen...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 04:36 PM
6

Same, I kept waiting for the funny part. I don’t get why this post has so many upvotes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 04:33 PM
87

Yeah he looks “fun-sized” 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 09:56 PM
50

LOL same I couldn’t get past that first paragraph
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 09:52 PM
28

Lmao, the hand over the mouth at the end sent me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 05:26 PM
85

Seems like this life would be so much worse than simply being a single mother. At least single mothers don’t have to deal with a 200lb gorilla with a drinking problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 05:23 PM
223

It truly fills my heart with joy to see young women realizing they’re better off single 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 05:20 PM
2

I agree. They are trying to cope with their dysfunction and it’s awkward af
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 05:07 AM
76

Devaluing women seems to be the favorite way of male group bonding since they can’t just talk about their feelings in a normal way. I’m interested in how men seek male validation constantly yet male friendships are so deficient in intimacy. It’s like they are overcompensating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 04:48 AM
162

My boyfriend and I have a really great relationship and it’s a healthy relationship and I love my boyfriend however he still ignores my feelings and doesn’t care when something bothers me 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 10:42 PM
63

Men think in terms of quantity > quality because the average woman is amazing. If men understood how disappointing the average man is, they would see that getting “heaps” of attention is actually worthless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 04:07 PM
14

I’m glad there’s so many comments about feeling bad for her, because I don’t. Instead of posting a video about how gross your husband is, how about you try leaving. I doubt he’s a perfect angel outside of this particular instance. As I get older, I find it more difficult to respect those who can’t respect themselves enough to want more. We only get one life, do you want to spend it stressing about... messes made by your husband? No. Level the fuck up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 10:06 PM
193

“I feel pretty different from other women” = no meaningful female friendships
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 09:54 PM
17

My mom was like this too, she was the mom and the dad and had to be in control of everything. And she was absolutely miserable. I know it’s easy for me to say this, but I wish she had prioritized her own happiness more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 09:47 PM
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As a child primarily raised by a single mother (who took care of everythiinngg) and a father who agreed to joint custody (only because it was cheaper) I can confirm this. My mom was not my friend as I was growing up, but we’re friends now. I’m not close with my dad at all, he’s kind of irrelevant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 07:27 PM
5

This is how I got here too! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:07 PM
16

So interesting how kink acceptance is always framed as people needing to be more understanding/respectful of men’s desires Like I’m not seeing anything anywhere with the POV of women having a fetish for cannabalizing men, it’s only the reverse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 07:55 PM
24

I bet he likes Elon Musk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 07:51 PM
30

There’s going to be so many posts like this in next couple days 💔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 07:46 PM
6

Messaged you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 04:09 AM
231

Is it terrible that her response made me burst out laughing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:17 AM
15

Okay how pathetic is it that they’re actually pretending that the issue is that they can’t buy flowers because they cost too much?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 01:22 AM
279

lol I love when they say older women are “damaged goods”. So you agree, men are damaging to women and we should have higher standards?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 01:07 AM
40

💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:55 PM
35

More of this attitude, please 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:28 AM
4

Make it more difficult for yourself to use the apps. Move them to a sub folder within a sub folder. Turn off notifications. There are apps that will disable programs after a certain amount of time has passed, Freedom and SelfControl are two I know of. But the apps aren’t the real problem, the problem is that you’re lonely and bored. What else are you doing to help yourself?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:24 AM
111

Wow, a month in and he’s already complaining? Maybe he can’t afford to date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:14 AM
5

I’m pretty sure the kid gives af
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 01:05 AM
7

Men like that are the biggest “simps” for other men. They’re cowards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 10:49 PM
3

lol, I was imagining a utopian society where any below average penis would be able to get surgically enlarged and then men across the land would finally be able to please their girlfriends/wives thus improving society as a whole. In reality it would probably make a lot of guys cheat and engage in risky behavior more in general. Oh well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 10:46 PM
4

So like... if a guy’s penis is the size of one’s pinky fingernail, is that smaller than a micro? Is there a category smaller than micro?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 10:34 PM
31

Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 10:30 PM
85

Wow I had no idea I had the right to be an abuser and get away with it, very cool. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 09:16 PM
46

Agreed, but they get extra salty when it’s something they have no control over and I just have to laugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 09:06 PM
60

Idk, lots of men pay for hair plugs. I think it depends on how vain they are and if they can afford it. If there was a surgery that could safely make a man’s penis bigger, I think a lot of dudes would want that, especially guys with micropenises
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 09:05 PM
47

Absolutely! Also interesting to look at prostitution (aka “SeX WoRK”) through this lens... if sex is “real work” and empowering, why aren’t average white guys doing it? If the answer is “Because they don’t have to,” you have to take a look at who does have to and what power structures are at play.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 09:03 PM
143

Sounds about right. Whenever we have a preference on something that’s unchangeable (penis size, height, hairline), it fills them with rage. I wonder if there will ever be “hardmaxxing” surgeries for men where they can get plastic surgery to make themselves taller or make their penis bigger. Imagine how much money could be made from that lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 08:54 PM
32

Great post. This is why it’s important to ignore and block when things feel low effort. He’s probably using your attention to prop up his ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 01:39 AM
2

I’m a humorless feminist and proud of it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 03:08 AM
28

It’s crazy, isn’t it - most people’s last names are a reflection of generations of women being “property”. It would be nice to start fresh with a new name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 04:41 AM
10

If the banhammer ever falls on FDS I’m deleting my account and never looking back, there’s literally nothing else that’s worthwhile or valuable in the same way FDS is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 04:13 AM
148

Yup. The difference between misogyny and misandry is that misandry doesn’t actually hurt anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 04:11 AM
12

Normalize male maturity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 03:33 AM
28

Most of us have last names that are our father’s last name. And our mothers and grandmothers grew up with the last names of their fathers, and so on. Every last name is a man’s name, there’s no escaping it. That being said, I don’t see why I should have to change my name more than necessary? Maybe that sounds weird, but I’d rather not deal with the paperwork and confusion. It just seems annoying and inconvenient, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 03:19 AM
118

People accept male violence like the weather, it just happens and there’s nothing that can be done about it. Men need to be thought of as a class, not the default. This was an interesting post to think about, pit bulls as a whole cause less mayhem than men but are somehow held more accountable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 03:13 AM
2

Children are of very low cost to men. Why wouldn’t they want them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 02:56 AM
90

Most women directly contribute to everything that makes life good and enjoyable. We work on ourselves and try to help the people we care about as much as we can. And the average man feeds like a parasite off those contributions while being praised for being mediocre. The problem is that most men are not conscious of how they benefit from a collective society, they think they’re all “self made”. This is why it’s so important to not build-a-boyfriend and vet ruthlessly. Men simply aren’t social-mi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 07:46 PM
184

Men benefit hugely from how women are conditioned to resolve tension. If it’s not your problem, don’t try to fix it! Take that energy you were going to put into resolving the conflict and put it into yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 12:32 AM
7

That is insane
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 03:57 PM
4

I never heard of this phenomenon outside of Reddit, tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 03:44 PM
42

Your friend doesn’t sound like a HVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 10:45 AM
5

Most men think of fatherhood as a series of Kodak moments...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 05:23 AM
17

Truth. A man could pay for every meal the rest of a woman’s life and it still wouldn’t make things “equal”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 11:08 PM
2

Same. When I learned about FDS, it was clear what I needed to work on right away and as soon as I did life got soooo much easier. When you prioritize yourself, things have a way of falling into place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 05:39 PM
19

I think the jury is still out on whether all vasectomies are 100% reversible, but it raises an interesting hypothesis about how men don’t have any accountability in their reproductive role. They either wear a condom or sleep with a woman on BC or they literally don’t even think about it at all. Birth control benefits all of society, why do women have to have all the accountability? And why do men think their bodies are pristine temples that mustn’t be tampered with in any way while we take pills…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 10:06 PM
151

When I’m committed to someone, I give it my all and don’t give up until it’s completely over. But after that point, I never ever go back. Meanwhile every guy I’ve been in a serious relationship with, without fail, tries to slither his way back into my heart after I’ve moved on. I don’t really get it tbh, once that window shuts there’s no reopening it for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 10:00 PM
20

These stories about misogynistic doctors make me see red. I hope every woman that experiences something like this reports that shit. I’ve had male doctors say awkward things to me when I was younger and I didn’t say anything because I felt like it was my fault. Then I switched to only female doctors, and guess what... no more awkward comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 06:03 PM
3

Shut the fuck up William Flowers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 01:51 AM
8

Hmm I was just contemplating this since I saw some old photos of myself when I was with my ex, and I looked so sad/tired/sick in them. LVM are literally tumors. The good news is you can bounce back almost immediately. As soon as I was back on my feet everyone was telling me I looked brighter and seemed healthier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 01:07 AM
6

“you are such an illness” lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:25 PM
102

Thank you mods!!! If I could send each one of you roses, I would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 12:48 AM
317

A LVM cannot be gentle because gentleness is a combination of strength, restraint, consideration, and respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 03:45 AM
449

Saying “sex work is work” requires nothing from them plus it sounds woke. Admitting housework is work would mean they would have to concede that they benefit from women’s unpaid labor
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 03:37 AM
123

Is her boyfriend a hobbit?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 05:06 AM
22

Did you read the the post? Lately he’s not been lifting a finger to help out with my daughters at all. At first he was doing everything wrong, now he’s doing nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 09:34 PM
29

I don’t agree with you. Parents don’t get to just opt out because they feel like it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 09:25 PM
9

This is how you get HIV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 09:25 PM
9

Settling for scraps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 09:21 PM
36

I can’t be sexually attracted to someone I have to clean up after.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 09:20 PM
27

Putting dishes away isn’t exactly the equivalent of parenting though, is it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 09:16 PM
46

It’s ok everyone, she got picked
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:23 AM
105

I never had help for anything my whole life and almost never ask Bullshit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 12:04 AM
6

What a piece of shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 05:40 AM
10

Yes, the truth is that most men don’t deserve an heir
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 07:11 PM
5

Absolutely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 07:10 PM
20

Same. It’s also just exhausting having to think of ways to communicate the same issue over and over in a way that will stick. The only thing that works is to leave. Glad you got out of there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 05:31 PM
2

Is it bad that I can’t think of single really good gift that was ever given to me? lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 04:55 PM
35

Yeah if it’s so “empowering”, are white men doing it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 04:45 PM
31

This topic really hits a nerve with me lol. My older brother was a much bigger “investment” for my parents than I was and this manifested in some behavioral ways (treating him like the golden boy) and some material ways (he had significantly more money in his college fund than me). When I confronted my mother about it she said “Well I figured you would be just get married and start a family” 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 04:44 PM
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Yes I don’t know how more people don’t realize this. So many women on the advice seeking subs asking what to do about their boyfriend/husbands’ absurd behavior that’s been going on for months or years... As if the problem is that the magic words just haven’t been spoken yet and once they are, he’ll magically “get it”. But I guess it’s easier to accept the problem is lack of communication rather than your partner doesn’t actually value you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 04:40 PM
2

Wtf. He saw the doorknob was broken, he can report it. This makes no sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 11:44 PM
8

So nice to see a post about empowerment that’s actually empowering! Congratulations on almost completing your advanced stem degree. I’m furthering my education in something very technical as well (not a stem PhD, but still very rigorous). I felt like I was so terrible at math as a child and had so much shame about it and didn’t pursue things I could have, but now I’m realizing I could have if anyone had encouraged me. Don’t be afraid of the technical fields queens, we need more women in these fi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 05:24 PM
113

Also, he says that he’ll be living a miserable life if he has to limit his gaming time I would be taking that comment really personally if I were her...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 08:46 PM
5

Read the handbook 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 07:18 PM
7

Same!!! I stopped dying my hair in 2020 and as I grew my hair out I saw lots of silver hairs coming in and I’m so excited! Pro tip - to make your silvers more silvery, use a purple shampoo/conditioner
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 04:26 PM
10

I would imagine it would depend on the severity of what they said, but I know in the US you can file a complaint with the state medical board in your state. It may not lead to the dr being disciplined, but it would be on record.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 12:58 AM
62

Not sure if you already knew this but I’ve heard on r/childfree they can recommend doctors that will sterilize
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 12:04 AM
33

I sort of agree, but I also don’t think we can fault her for not expecting him to outright remove whole organs without permission
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 07:10 PM
56

Please tell me you reported him for saying that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 07:09 PM
1

Male photographers are literally the worst, they really think their camera is a extension of their dick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 07:02 PM
8

Why people hate mothers as a group so much is beyond my understanding. Is it because men resent the fact they originally were made from a woman?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 07:00 PM
3

I’ve dated a few men who led with this in the early stages and they were terrible relationships that left me emotionally depleted and hurt, so I definitely agree it’s a red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 06:57 PM
12

Anyone feel like these posts from advice-seeking pickme’s are really messing with their head? I’m having more and more trouble wrapping my mind around how anyone could actually put up with this? People need to seriously grow a shred of self-respect...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 06:51 PM
110

A real boyfriend is going to act like your dad, best friend, and boyfriend all in one See how insane that sounds?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 06:32 PM
247

Holy fucking shit, my jaw dropped when she said he removed her tubes instead of tying them Does anyone have any further info about what happened to this woman? Did she press charges?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 06:30 PM
12

These... aren’t the smartest people
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 10:10 PM
4

Omg this post messed with my head. Why can’t people want more for themselves?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:03 PM
3

Hmm yeah it’s kind of a red flag when it’s so intense that early. If you only saw him for a month you really didn’t know him. Sounds like he loved bombed you which is a common tactic with narcissists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:51 AM
1

Yeah, it’s fucked up. He’ll probably try to “good morning!” his way back onto your good side when he’s less “busy”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:03 AM
1

Instablock ⚡️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 12:52 AM
6

Yup, it couldn’t be any more clear
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 12:51 AM
17

Being very slow to text back (like taking more than a couple hours every time). Saying his exes are crazy. Making every situation sexual. Not remembering details. Being overly careful with money. Not putting effort into his appearance. Being sarcastic and miserable and generally having nothing interesting to say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 12:44 AM
31

There’s people that travel and are enriched by it, and there’s people that are just running away from their life. I love traveling. But I agree there is a subset of people that are usually really depressed about their lives and get stuck in a cycle where they feel down, they start making plans for a trip and get super excited. They go on vacation and explore and take photos and post it on socials and feel “happy”. When they come home and they’re down again and start planning their next trip...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 12:14 AM
10

It’s like by just being a woman alone in public they see you as an “option”. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 09:03 PM
52

Regardless of intent it’s a way of expressing he’s interested. He’s probably not going to say that to a 90 year old woman that asks for help, y’know?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 02:19 AM
28

I know, i love when men gaslight themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 11:10 PM
16

He’s asking if they’re still in the courting phase after 1 month LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 10:42 PM
21

This is the most pickmeisha thing I’ve ever seen in my life
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 10:36 PM
63

Someone who plays Animal Crossing now and then isn’t going to have much in common with a guy grafted to his gaming chair by his own filth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 10:35 PM
8

Right! If men really truly “knew” from the beginning, they would be proposing to women on first dates all the time. But that’s not something that happens. I think culturally we’re still very enmeshed in the idea that the right woman’s love can transform a man into the ideal partner. Men who are good partners work at it and work on themselves, just like we do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 05:06 PM
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Ehh I would try to take stories like that with a grain of salt. It’s always easy to say he knew after everything’s already worked out. I mean obviously we all had a good feeling about everyone we’ve ever dated in the beginning. Otherwise it wouldn’t have continued. Not saying it’s all a lie, but it is convenient and more romantic to just say you knew from the start.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 04:52 AM
2

Thank you, I wish mother/daughter relationships weren’t so complicated. The feeling of me being the parent and she’s the child goes hand in hand with how I feel awkward and self-conscious. I’m starting to think I just won’t bother with it at all because it’s just too emotionally taxing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 08:23 PM
1

That’s kind of where I am. She knows he exists but I don’t tell her anything because I know if I do the wheels in her mind will start turning and she’ll start asking more and more questions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 05:15 PM
4

Good for you, you made the right decision! I remember many years ago I broke up with this abusive guy who cheated with multiple people. I was talking to our mutual friend about how I wasn’t going to stay friends with him, and I asked if she was going to keep hanging out with him. She said, “Why wouldn’t I?” 😒 I never really looked at her the same after that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 02:51 AM
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Thank you for saying that. It’s been over 6 months. In previous relationships they usually meet my mom 3 or 4 months in. But the more I think about it there’s no reason to do things the old way when the old way made me so unhappy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 01:46 AM
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Did she modify her behavior at all after you talked to her? How have your bf’s reacted to her? I know for me if they accept the gifts/attention my attraction to them gets sucked down the drain, never to return.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 01:26 AM
7

This all makes total sense, although I would feel like it’s a big ask to make someone go through this. But yeah, you’re right... if it’s so difficult and stressful, why even bother? I don’t even know why I’m worrying about this, I just feel like they are “supposed” to meet and idk why! My mom was very controlling when I was growing up so I think she has this big looming presence in my life still. Through writing through my responses here I’ve realized my feelings of resentment/anger towards her …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 12:45 AM
6

Yeah I think it’s been long enough I can talk a little bit about it without seeming like I’m “trauma dumping”. I haven’t addressed it at all or said anything about it. It’s all been so easy to avoid with COVID!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 12:34 AM
17

There’s no cry like the yoga cry!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 12:11 AM
5

Good luck to both of us!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 11:54 PM
17

Thank you for this! The only times in my life where she hasn’t been like this is when she has her own SO (and it’s going well). I can’t force her to get into a relationship though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 11:26 PM
5

Thanks. If it were literally any one but her she would have been uninvited long ago
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 11:24 PM
22

My old therapist used to say mother-daughter relationships are the most complicated relationships there are. It’s hard to relate my relationship with her to a normal friendship because I would never be friends with my mom. She’s not even like someone I would meet within my social circles. And oh I definitely know what you mean about when they try to form an alliance against you, it’s such a betrayal!!! You’re right about being able to trust my partner, do you think a conversation about it is war…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 11:12 PM
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We are rarely in group settings anymore because she is single/unmarried and my brother, like me, avoids bringing SO’s home. So it’s usually just me and her and maybe my brother. She definitely has a pattern of being ignorant to others’ boundaries (especially when it comes to their romantic relationships for some reason) and being kind of embarrassing in general. She’s the main reason I’m eloping if I ever get married (lol).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 10:57 PM
31

I’ve tried to do this in the past but it feels too punishing. I also know way too much about my mother’s personal trauma (because she is an oversharer) so it’s hard for me to be tough with her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 10:38 PM
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I actually love your idea and don’t find it unethical at all. It almost feels like she’s trying to insert herself in the relationship or trying to live vicariously through me or something. I don’t know why she has to act so thirsty 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 10:26 PM
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Aside from yoga and floor exercises, the biggest thing for me is how I mentally perceive my body. Am I treasuring it because it’s the vessel I carry myself in? Or am I punishing it when it doesn’t give me what I want/look how I want? Try to have some sympathy for your body, it works really hard for you. 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 05:00 PM
10

Same. We didn’t know better at the time but now we do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 04:46 PM
40

So many women think he has to do something really really bad in order to feel justified breaking up. If you feel unloved and unappreciated... umm you probably are. It’s perfectly fine to end things if you don’t feel right. No need to give him another chance when he promises to change because if he wanted to he would have already have done it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 04:36 PM
23

Ohhh ok! I had no idea the angel/witch stuff had incel origins! Uhh that makes sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 04:51 AM
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”fine but all I’m doing is drinking” Umm no he’s not. If it was like that they would have gone to a regular bar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 04:43 AM
18

I follow r/vindicta and I admit it has its problems (like people over focusing on their “failos”) I haven’t noticed them using incel lingo, I’m curious where you noticed that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 04:38 AM
24

She should just shit on his floor Or maybe take a dump in his hat She could poop behind the door And cover it with sand like a cat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 02:58 AM
3

It looks beautiful on you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 02:33 AM
22

What does she mean he won’t “let” her? She needs to take a shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 02:32 AM
4

Right :( I’m hoping she’ll snap out of it post-COVID but tbh I’m kind of resentful because I’m going through stuff too. I’m just trying to keep an open mind at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 06:38 PM
5

It’s hard out there. One of my closest friends can currently no longer be bothered to text me back and it sucks. The last couple times we hung out she seemed manic and was talking about us taking a trip together and all these fun things, but then we go our separate ways and it’s radio silence. I know she has mental health issues and she’s currently “medicating” her low emotions by obsessing over some guy online she hasn’t met. She wasn’t like this pre-COVID. I stopped putting in effort and we ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 04:29 PM
3

Ask him what he thinks it means to be a man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 04:23 PM
5

Happy New Year to all of you* to the badass mods who make Reddit worth spending time on and all the queens dropping knowledge every day and all the newly arrived pickme’s who are just starting to level up. *except lurking scrotes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 04:20 PM
3

Lol at men who think being nice just means buying shit? People treat women like we’re empathy machines and expect a never ending stream of kindness from us and if we express any negativity we get called bitches.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 04:17 PM
1

Lmao thank you for this image
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 04:08 PM
48

Umm there’s no way he was just going to give her head without expecting something in return
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 08:45 PM
62

I went to counseling with my ex-bf. I actually think it’s a good idea if you’re thinking of marrying/moving in together. Counseling actually helped me realize I didn’t want to continue the relationship and stopped me from signing a lease with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 08:43 PM
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Most people wait until things are on fire and it’s too late to salvage the relationship to go to counseling. More couples should go when things are calm and stable. Also more women need to realize if your SO doesn’t treat you with basic respect (or if all the problems stem from a lack of respect), going to counseling won’t fix anything. Easier to just leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 08:40 PM
6

Yeessss! I love to see it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 02:05 AM
9

Yes, one of the biggest realizations has been knowing I have to be ready to walk away from someone I really like and care about if they start revealing LV behavior. This is why it’s so important to keep vetting even after the first few months and try not to get attached. The way they act in the first few weeks is never the same as how they act after 6 months or a year or a couple years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 05:56 PM
6

We live in hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 05:52 PM
3

You deserve it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 05:51 PM
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And what is he doing for those 20 women that would “pull up right now with a smile” and feed him? If you care about the women in your life, don’t be a fucking burden on them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 05:50 PM
3

Why did you keep writing back? He doesn’t deserve an iota of your attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 05:45 PM
21

Hey! Your sexuality is an important part of your identity. Don’t get them take it away from you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 06:32 AM
13

Basic human needs are water, clothing and shelter. If you want to get more cerebral about it, you could argue sanitation, education, and healthcare are basic human needs. But sex? Lol no. Also rapists don’t rape because they just want to have sex, they rape because they are violent and feel entitled to punish their victims under the guise of sexual gratification.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 09:10 PM
9

🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 05:00 PM
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The only people this hurts is broke LVM. They’re mad because they know they brought it on themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 04:56 PM
24

LOL. Pick up dirty laundry once and you’ll be picking it up for the next 30 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 04:53 PM
3

This is the oldest trick in the book
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:57 AM
1

Am I the only one who isn’t a big holiday person and is anti-Christmas gifts?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 12:29 AM
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It’s a transaction... they get to be a pampered, fawned upon bride for one day in exchange for decades of being a wife and possibly mother. If there were more cultural respect for wives/mothers, there would be no need for the fantasy bridal pageantry stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 12:19 AM
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Omg. I lived in NYC age 23 to 33 (my “prime” dating years) and in my experience, dating was a shitshow. A lot of men use dating apps like a dispenser where they can push a button and have a date whenever they want. Every dude thinks “the path” they’re on is the most essential, most interesting thing that one can pursue and gets claustrophobic as soon as the possibility of a relationship forms. The guys that are super attractive know they have tons of options. The guys that are truly ambitious ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 12:13 AM
5

Congrats Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 11:35 PM
9

Damn, his post history 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 11:31 PM
5

That sub blows my mind. I knew there would be a deluge of gift-related posts from disappointed forever-gf’s, but still... How does someone lack so much awareness that they would consider that they are the asshole in this situation? Patriarchy is a helluva drug.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 11:23 PM
4

My ex I was with for 5 years had a hobby of repairing/tinkering audio equipment. He gave me a broken record player, busted tape player, broken amp, etc as presents, then say he was going to fix them up for me... then it would just sit at his house. When he would finally get them working, he would just keep them. I think I kind of would have preferred to just not exchange presents with him so I wouldn’t feel resentful about giving him a gift and literally getting junk in return 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 04:15 PM
17

I wish there were women-only passenger cars on public transit like in Japan. I’ve had so many uncomfortable or downright terrifying experiences on public transit all with probably homeless and/or drug addicted mentally ill men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 10:38 PM
76

Lol this reads like he just happened to be in the same room as her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 10:29 PM
14

My eyes just rolled out of my head
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 02:43 AM
10

Idk why you’re being downvoted, this is literally what average means. Average ≠ Bad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 11:42 PM
104

If your bf does this, you’re single
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 02:33 PM
4

Unrelated, but can anyone id that shirt? 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 04:49 PM
5

Imagine what the comments would say if the genders were flipped
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 04:46 PM
11

Good for you for inviting your friend 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 08:56 PM
2

What a pickme... i hope she gives him a papier-mâché ps5 and buys something fancy for herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 08:53 PM
6

And mine! He would straight up smash his fist through the console if he lost too many times in a row, my parents would just replace it and he’d do it again...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 08:42 PM
10

lol, that’s similar to how I saw it too. Sounds like he wants Gregg all to himself 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 08:41 PM
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Look at him complaining about a “design flaw” like this is a product review. Also how is he not aware of male outbursts of rage? Men between the ages 18-45 are the most violent demographic in any country at any time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 01:49 PM
40

I’ve been vegan for 6 years. I have never met a vegan man I was attracted to. I always end up with omnivores who are comfortable eating vegan food (or at least vegetarian) with me most of the time, but will order chicken or fish at a restaurant. It’s not ideal, food is really emotional for everyone and a lot of men really can’t separate their sense of masculinity from eating meat. Men that joke about steak and bacon to vegan women are scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 05:29 AM
35

Sometimes it’s fun to watch them from a purely anthropological perspective. I watched “My Best Friend’s Wedding” recently while trapped at a relative’s house and realized Julia Roberts was the villain. Sooo I still enjoyed it and laughed, just in a different way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 05:16 AM
47

Well, this explains a lot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 05:50 AM
26

Pie in the sky
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 05:47 AM
24

Many men also have no comprehension about how the vagina is self-cleaning. Or that a hymen is meaningless, and can grow back over long periods of time without piv sex. Or that there are 8000 nerves in the clit alone. Or what the actual purpose of a period is. The list goes on...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 09:34 PM
9

Typical LVM behavior, identifying with his “socially awkward” male friends more than his actual wife. But really this goes so far beyond being socially awkward... their behavior is aggressive and boundary pushing, and the dumb BF thinks because he’s not offended it’s a non-situation. I hope she divorces him because if she goes back on this, his friends are just going to keep pushing her boundaries and he will sit back and let them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 09:30 PM
13

For a lot of men it takes having a daughter. Then they suddenly get it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 09:24 PM
2

I love to see it! Keep doing what you’re doing. 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 02:17 PM
4

Hahaha love how he acknowledges he didn’t do any of the things he was supposed to do but takes no accountability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 02:16 PM
3

Like... outside?! I would never speak to them again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 02:13 PM
131

Everything should be fine because their oldest knows the routine A 6 year old girl is more skilled than this fucking moron.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 01:50 PM
39

She’s going to waste her 20s on this loser. It makes me sad that so many women think a guy has to assault them or something to justify breaking up. She would be completely justified in ending it now because he’s not honoring the conditions they both agreed to (marriage within 1 year).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 01:43 PM
3

What response was he expecting?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 05:21 AM
21

Love to see this flair pop up in my feed amongst all the disturbing screenshots!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 05:18 AM
8

Sooo... he’s a pedophile?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 05:16 AM
141

Some laws changed and women became more economically empowered, but marriage was never great. It was just easier to hide things like cheating and abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 05:09 AM
150

I feel like there is more to this story?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 12:45 AM
20

Anyone remember that screenshot where some guy described what he was looking for while stressing he “didn’t want a relationship” and what he described was literally a relationship?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 03:00 AM
40

Yes the way people generally speak about pregnancy is a huge problem IMO. “She got pregnant” - see how all the onus is on the woman, the pregnancy is something that happened to her, it’s her responsibility. I wish there could be a language shift somehow that reflects that men are 50% responsible (biologically) for every pregnancy. It just seems like there is always this weird imbalance of all the focus being on the woman, people talk about pregnancy like women just magically get themselves pregn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 02:48 AM
12

Omg this thread is killing me right now 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 03:17 AM
1

Beautiful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 03:15 AM
8

Congratulations! Lovely ring 🤩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 11:13 PM
15

there was a post on one of the advice seeking subs that a lot of people believe to be her, apparently the timing of the relationship and pregnancy all line up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 10:28 PM
99

YES. This what the not-all-men people do not understand. The fact that “not all men” are predators doesn’t negate the fact that all women have to interface with the threat of male violence daily.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 01:57 PM
96

Elon Musk sucks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 01:52 PM
46

You handled it perfectly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 01:52 PM
2

I agree. Maybe it’s the parents’ fault if a child doesn’t have the right hygiene, but after childhood there’s just no excuse. There are even articles for adults that were never taught good hygiene habits as a kid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 01:50 AM
114

I would love to see a study about how and why some grown men turn out like this. Is it parental neglect? Part of a psychological disorder? Internalized homophobia? Do they really just not know how to care for themselves and never bothered to learn? I just want to know why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 04:53 AM
4

He thinks he’s the prize
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:19 AM
4

How’s that saying go - “don’t light yourself on fire to keep someone else warm”?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 06:50 PM
11

Never reproduce with a man that is concerned with his legacy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 06:47 PM
27

something inside me snapped and I agreed So her desperation completely took over
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 06:44 PM
11

Sometimes all people need is to feel like someone is in their court and like they have a safety net.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 05:30 PM
30

Sex is not rent that women pay to men who partner with them. I have no sympathy for right wing women like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 05:10 PM
13

I can come from PIV or from fingers, I have never ever ever had an orgasm from cunnilingus. I have pretended to have an orgasm from it so that it would be over faster... it didn’t feel bad or anything, just not good enough to orgasm from. I’m also really sensitive to sound, and I absolutely loathe the sounds associated with oral sex...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 04:16 PM
5

She is delusional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 03:29 PM
40

Yup I knew if I said “Hey, just dump him!” she would go into protective mode for him. Whenever she talked about a conflict, I would sympathize with her and just validate her point of view and let her know she wasn’t “being crazy”. I would also ask open ended questions like, “How are you feeling about living with him?”, “What do you think would make things easier for you?” - questions that gave her an opportunity to analyze the situation. Eventually she came to her own conclusions without any hel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 03:23 PM
50

Oh god. My beautiful friend let her LVM bf move in with her and post-COVID things really hit the fan. I never said anything negative about him, but I just focused on building her up and making sure she knew she was the special one (not him). And then she dumped him on her own!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 02:29 PM
18

“Yeah no you’re right I didn’t think about that!” 🙄🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 02:26 PM
2

Sorry, but do we really need a reminder men are fucking disgusting and we can’t even dress comfortably without them eyefucking us?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 05:24 PM
29

There’s so many questions I would want to ask before a proposal. How do you actually see marriage? Are you invested in my emotional and physical health? Are you willing to spend less time doing things you want to do if it means I’ll have a better quality of life? How will you deal with it if I were to become sick or injured? How do you expect marriage to benefit you? How do you expect it to benefit me? I hate how indulgent and excessive the wedding industry is. I would just want to get dressed u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 08:24 PM
5

Those other posts were okay because it didn’t hurt their feelings
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 03:42 PM
4

😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 02:10 AM
41

Liberal feminism + Toxic masculinity * Pornography - Critical thought = Normalization of paraphilias under guise of sexual liberation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 11:10 PM
22

Why would you want to eat a meal cooked by someone who only cooks once a year 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 11:02 PM
9

Uhkay!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 10:53 PM
39

Lolll, this reminds me of that Key & Peele skit...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 09:31 PM
89

I think celebrities/media have really twisted the way people perceive pregnancy. The average person doesn’t have a personal trainer, dietician, and disposable income for a tummy tuck/lipo/etc., if he wants her to look like that he can pay for it lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 08:52 PM
1

I feel like if a man tells his partner to “shush” during labor, she should be legally allowed to punch him in the face 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 08:34 PM
94

Jesus Christ. Why are men so emotionally deficient when it comes to what women go through in pregnancy/labor/post-partum? This is why it should be mandatory for soon-to-be fathers to have classes that teach them how to be supportive of their partner before, during and after childbirth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 08:26 PM
15

For real
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 03:29 AM
7

0:45 😮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 03:23 AM
18

Leveling up and focusing on yourself is life or death. It’s time to start viewing relationships with LVM as the public health crisis it is. Being stressed all the time causes your body to be stuck in “fight or flight” mode, releasing adrenaline and cortisol which is associated with anxiety/depression, digestive issues, weight gain, insomnia, headaches, memory/concentration impairment and just general inflammation... and as we all know, inflammation increases the chances of cancer and other disea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 06:26 PM
32

I grew up in a small town, and in my 20s moved to a major metropolitan city (NYC). One of the things that had a profound impact on me was how many women I met in their 30s, 40s, etc that were unmarried and childfree and totally happy. Their lives revolved around their creative/professional projects, friendships, traveling, romantic relationships... And they seemed more energetic, hopeful, and youthful than women in the same age bracket in my little home town. I don’t think marriage and kids inhe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 05:53 PM
16

10 scrotes downvoting you because they can’t face their cognitive dissonance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 05:41 PM
6

If they can convince others that women want to steal their man, they might be able to convince themselves and then feel better about their LV relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 05:36 PM
14

Ah, memories of my brother smashing our Nintendo/Super Nintendo/Sega Genesis because he lost a game... People who expect boys to be less emotional are actively contribute to the social conditioning of boys/men to suppress negative emotions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 05:19 PM
1

lol what does that mean though? Can’t imagine saying that to someone I loved
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 05:12 PM
18

-chefs kiss-
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 05:10 PM
91

Love how these guys “brag” about their wives but do nothing to redeem themselves... he knows he did a shitty thing (“I screwed up yesterday”) but did he thank her by taking her out for a nice dinner? Get her a nice gift she’s had her eye on? Give her a back rub!? Nope, she gets to be anonymously bragged about on Reddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 05:08 PM
47

Oh man I used to love Doja Cat but got soured on her after realizing she worked with Dr. Luke (the producer who abused Kesha and gaslit her for years), so this doesn’t surprise me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 05:04 PM
54

This man doesn’t understand the basics of relationships and you’re married to him? You deserve so much better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 05:01 PM
5

You don’t need “faith in men” in order to live your life. Have faith in yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 02:55 AM
47

This is so toxic. I’m guessing when he realized no one else would put up with him is coincidentally also when he realized “she’s what I need for the rest of my life”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 02:46 PM
42

Someone should tell him voter intimidation is a felony 💋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 08:19 PM
25

lol I wasn’t, thanks for the serious answer!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 05:54 PM
67

Does watching porn reduce brain function?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 04:43 PM
6

When feminism became heavily commodified in the late 90s/00s and turned into a buzzword you could slap on a tshirt, it became easy to just dismiss it. People thought, “I believe in equality, but I don’t want to associated with those crazy women”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 04:40 PM
253

The deep enmeshment of identity politics without any critical thinking is what made the third wave implode in on itself IMO. People take the successes of the first and second wave for granted so deeply that they can even say “oh I’m not really ‘into’ feminism”, “I wouldn’t call myself a feminist”, etc while enjoying the rights that were literally worked for and achieved by feminists. Now everything is about how you “identify”, consumerism as self care, and being endlessly accepting and accommoda…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/20 07:50 PM
13

Men with untreated mental illness are a plague. If you want to be a therapist, get a degree and get paid. Don’t be a free therapist for some guy you barely know that’s just going to manipulate you. There’s a reason these guys avoid actual therapists: actual therapists hold their clients accountable!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 05:26 PM
1

Don’t most dating apps allow videos to be uploaded?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 05:13 PM
5

It’s always the ones with an anime profile pic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 05:08 PM
10

So she can’t get away?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 11:56 PM
76

They have no clue how normalized/expected the natural makeup look is. They think makeup is a red lip, blue eyeshadow, winged eyeliner and too much blush lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 06:30 PM
117

This is a salient point. There’s nothing “natural” about women removing body hair that’s supposed to be there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 06:26 PM
91

Bikinis Make Men See Women as Objects, Scans Confirm Pictures of scantily dressed women cause a region of the male brain associated with tool use to light up, a new brain-scan study reveals. BY CHRISTINE DELL'AMORE PUBLISHED FEBRUARY 16, 2009 Sexy women in bikinis really do inspire some men to see them as objects, according to a new study of male behavior. Brain scans revealed that when men are shown pictures of scantily clad women, the region of the brain associated with tool use lights up. Men…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 05:58 PM
1

Ugh he should have taken all that time and effort into how he’d propose instead of making his own ring. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 03:03 PM
1

Well, Aaron sounds like a sociopath
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 08:02 PM
3

Yah - gentlemen don’t have to constantly announce their gentlemenliness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 08:01 PM
11

Yes!!! The only thing that’s different is the law. We don’t have to silently put up with harassment like our mothers and grandmothers did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 07:56 PM
45

Yup. Any interaction, no matter how contentious, will be perceived as interest in them. The only thing that truly signals lack of interest is ignoring/blocking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 07:52 PM
93

Woman: (has body parts) Man: YOU JUST CAN’T HELP BUT DISPLAY YOUR SEXUALITY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 06:18 PM
19

🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 06:17 PM
47

Sorry who is this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 06:15 PM
153

This conditioning that women have to suffer for love starts early. Disney princesses anyone?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 06:14 PM
6

I know... yes I am tired Kevin, tired of your dumb voice talking at me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 10:22 PM
8

We should just eject any man that can’t have at least 5 women vouch for him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 10:21 PM
1

This is brilliant
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 10:19 PM
3

She needs to start dating other men now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 10:16 PM
8

Ummm yeah counseling won’t fix that. He said who he is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 03:53 AM
15

Welcome! I wish I had been exposed to FDS principles at your age! :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 02:52 AM
42

When you meant to write a review for perfume but instead accidentally exposed your sexless marriage to a scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 10:07 PM
23

If he won’t wear a condom, don’t have sex with him. No condom? Cool, then no sex. Don’t gamble with your body and your sexual health for some guy that might even like you that much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 09:15 PM
3

They think it will shut us up. lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 07:37 PM
16

Agreed there’s nothing wrong with not getting married, the problem is when women pay into their boyfriend’s mortgage and it doesn’t work out there’s no legal financial protection for them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 07:17 PM
36

“we have a super healthy relationship” Ok sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 07:11 PM
108

Women have always had abortions. Women will always have abortions. If abortions aren’t legal and safe, then women will die trying to get them. Abortion should be free, safe, and convenient for every woman on earth!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 07:10 PM
13

Never split the rent with a boyfriend...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 03:54 PM
20

Bare minimum: Lives alone and is financially stable, takes care of himself physically, has a sense of style, pays for dates, responsive texter, consistent and kind and affectionate! I should always feel comfortable and safe when I’m with him and intimacy should be natural and never forced. Bonuses: Wealth/assets, above average handsome, big dick, cute pets
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 03:53 PM
15

Yeah he says it’s “nature’s decision” but ignores the fact we’re biologically hardwired to bond with those we’re sexually intimate with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 03:38 PM
22

r/menwritingwomen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 02:41 AM
1

Did one of you report him? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 09:56 PM
10

Whomst 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 09:48 PM
40

I’m sure whoever sent that volunteers all the time and totally serves their community /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 07:55 PM
161

It’s so interesting to me how this community is more worried about condoning violence against men with a single octopus meme than the entire male Reddit incel/rp community is when actually condoning literal violence against women Also, I like the octopus meme
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 06:58 PM
2

Agree with all of this! If someone is rude and entitled, call them rude and entitled. No need to use actual people’s names as shorthand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 06:30 PM
15

This warmed my icy lil heart. I hope the men are taking some notes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 06:22 PM
3

It’s not even just Karen! It’s Jan (“Sure Jan”), Felicia (“bye Felicia”), Sharon, Susan, Becky, Sandra... like these are the real names of many people! The only male name that comes close is “Chad”, but it still doesn’t get quite the level of vitriol that the female names get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 06:17 PM
6

Bless you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 03:12 PM
12

I’m so ready for the whole Karen meme to die
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 05:02 AM
38

I just love being a woman and feeling feminine. It’s just so, well, womanly. Which I like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 04:20 AM
10

ruddy-faced male redditors 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 02:43 AM
21

Would love to see an FDS-approved gender reversed version of this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 10:40 PM
26

That was my first thought as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 10:33 PM
14

I know right? How many books and movies involve men expressing their hatred of women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 03:30 PM
21

Where are people preordering her book from? I want to support her. She seems pretty rational; her thesis is that women should be allowed to hate men as a class because of the violent oppression they’ve perpetuated historically and in present day. I think it’s progressive to think of men as a specific class of people just like women are. No where does she say she wants all men to die or even that she hates men individually but her critics still act like she’s the antichrist. She’s also bisexual a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 03:27 PM
25

She definitely is, from men and women sadly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 03:20 PM
2

I lol’ed at the mortgage one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 01:58 AM
9

I’m loving the extra space as well!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 01:57 AM
32

Who knows what she knew and what he told her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 01:35 AM
147

Idk either, but Isabella is a queen who excelled after he left her. In fact she received a Princess Grace award that same year, the next year she was nominated for a Prix Benois de la Danse, and then was promoted to soloist at ABT. And she’s now married to Daniel Shin, a financier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 01:23 AM
17

This is why I hate r/purplepilldebate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 02:46 AM
26

You’d think men would be demanding this to be available immediately
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 11:09 PM
57

So fucked up. And if she had divorced him during his illness, she would have been judged for “abandoning” him. I guess it’s better to be judged negatively and be stable, than judged positively and end up with nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 10:08 PM
47

Omg. Could it be because women’s birth control makes too much money? This is the first time I’ve ever heard about this procedure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 10:05 PM
141

“If I’d hardened my heart and divorced him, I would have been given half of everything. And if he’d died without making a will, I’d have got everything. But I stayed and did the moral thing and I’m being paid for it by being thrown into the street.” Damn...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 10:00 PM
10

Level headed is definitely good! I say explore that and see where it goes. I have an anxious attachment style as well, it’s crazy how people like us tend to have immediate chemistry with guys that are avoidant!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 09:29 PM
19

At this stage you shouldn’t be putting in more than 10% effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 09:25 PM
21

Yes for sure! In my experience when I have a ton of chemistry with someone right away it tends to fizzle out after a few months. I’m with someone now who I was kind of ambivalent about looks-wise in the beginning, and I am way more attracted to him now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 09:20 PM
5

Wow, yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 03:05 PM
6

I’m childfree but as someone who was primarily raised by a single mother this post touched me. Us childfree women support you and have your back. 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 02:38 PM
10

Wanted to add men love fucking overweight women but won’t have a relationship/marry one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 02:33 PM
18

This was so refreshing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 02:30 PM
49

I had an abortion 10 years ago. Sometimes I think woah, I could have a 9 year old now with a selfish and heartless man I dated for a few months?! Thank god I lived somewhere where abortions were easily accessible. It sucks that in the US how many children you have and when is determined by what region you live in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 07:18 PM
96

Men are also victims of domestic violence at a higher rate than women Uhhh excuse me what
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 07:11 PM
6

This is so accurate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 02:29 PM
11

He may or may not be broke, but he definitely sounds cheap
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 02:24 PM
3

I’m not sure. If I am, it’s mild – I’ve taken multiple online tests that are supposed to be accurate and they all indicate high probability of being on the spectrum. I don’t know if getting an official diagnosis would help me at this point in my life (I’m in my mid 30s) so I haven’t pursued it. However I do get a lot out of the r/autism sub. It’s worth noting that women with autism tend to get diagnosed much later in life since the symptoms/behaviors can be different for women. And we can “mask”…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 03:40 PM
4

enjoy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 11:08 AM
21

lol and all the comments telling her to communicate and accept the nest hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 04:38 AM
39

Occasionally they’re funny (like the one about the guy who didn’t have a bed and just had a “nest” made out of blankets, towels, and laundry)... but most of the time they are just depressing. Would rather read about ladies leveling up and self care and radical feminism
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 01:30 AM
6

I want a dog so bad but I have no yard and very little space 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 08:22 PM
30

Wtf, he was so loyal yet he kept chatting up other women? And then he asked to be friends? Why on earth would you want to be “friends” with someone like that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 08:21 PM
12

I lol’ed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 08:20 PM
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He was man enough to do the deed lol. I feel sorry for the woman who kept an unwanted baby because she thought she could keep the man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 07:24 PM
8

How long did it take you to realize you’re in love with your partner? How long before they told you they were in love with you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 07:20 PM
69

Of course, it’s part of the human condition. The best thing to do is to learn to be your own companion: treat yourself, make yourself feel special but also set goals and hold yourself accountable. Now is a great time to focus on yourself, learn new skills, and learn to love the wounded parts of you that want validation. How are you ever going to be content if you can’t be content on your own?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 07:01 PM
26

That’s right! If he isn’t adding to your inner peace, then he’s subtracting from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 06:50 PM
8

Great post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 05:38 PM
29

Omg that’s amazing. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 05:22 PM
6

Ugh this is why I had to delete my ex from LinkedIn (as well as everywhere else).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 04:50 PM
29

Agreed 100%. It’s all part of this larger cultural narrative of misogyny that women are responsible for how men act.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 04:49 PM
23

🏅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 04:47 PM
6

Going from long hair to very short hair is a great Rorschach test for men. I’ve never known a man who was obsessed with long hair that wasn’t a LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 04:44 PM
7

I think some women just really enjoy the excitement and extra attention that comes with being pregnant. She’s not thinking long term.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 05:31 AM
3

Love this and it’s so true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 08:50 PM
35

Twitter is such a cesspool. 221k likes for this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 08:44 PM
12

This made me realize how amazing my STEM bf is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 08:34 PM
48

I was also fed this myth by my pickme mom and then as I got older realized how completely false this is. Add to this that most men who look good later in life have a woman giving them tips, men that are on their own tend to age the worst from what I’ve seen. I told my ex about wearing SPF to prevent wrinkles and it actually blew his mind that all you have to do is apply it every day in the morning. He had no idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 09:50 PM
18

They would never go for this because the scrotes would whine about how women would just report false allegations. Instead of trying to fix the cesspool of Tinder, some savvy tech ladies should just invent their own dating app that does a background check, video screening (to verify identity), and required proof of STI screening. I’m not single but I would have happily paid to use a service like that when I was. It would be doubly effective since the worst scrotes wouldn’t even be part of the poo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 06:27 PM
17

Almost all of modern medicine is based around male bodies. It wasn’t until pretty recently that people even realized the symptoms of heart attack are completely different for women. And women are constantly gaslit by doctors, told that our symptoms are just because of anxiety. The case of that woman who had 140 lb tumor that grew from an ovarian cyst in her abdomen comes to mind. Her doctors thought she was just fat. (src)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 05:05 PM
128

If society could be healed by men having access to sex, we would already have a perfect world lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 05:08 AM
144

Not them - it’s always other women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 05:07 AM
52

Ugh this is maddeningly stupid. And of course it’s framed as women are supposed to “provide services” to people they don’t find attractive and not the other way around. Can you even imagine someone suggesting a man have sex with someone he found unattractive because it would “benefit them and society”. If you want to talk about ~ “sexual mutual aid” ~ let’s talk about how women can engage in casual sex in a safe, pleasurable, and convenient way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 05:05 AM
11

They both have mental illnesses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 02:32 PM
12

I think a pre-date FaceTime screener is a great idea and I honestly don’t know why everyone on OLD doesn’t do this. If he seems great you should go to a restaurant though, not coffee.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 02:24 PM
2

There are pretty clear warning signs of someone with a chronic drug addiction that would probably come out during the initial vetting process. I still think it’s weird to administer a drug test to someone that didn’t consent to it, especially someone you’re hoping to build a relationship with. It seems like it would be easier to just end things if you distrust them so much. But you do you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 08:03 PM
4

I hope he doesn’t cut himself with that edge
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 01:58 PM
9

No. These are excessive. I ask to see his ID/driver license (to verify full name/address/age), a Google search on his full name, and a reverse image search on his photos. I think if you find yourself secretly drug testing a man’s pee, you need to question why you feel this is necessary. If a man did this to me, I’d feel extremely violated and instantly block/delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 01:47 PM
18

Just wondering when one graduates from “FDS Newbie” user flair?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:47 PM
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Me 6 months ago
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:37 PM
7

We stan a hardworking queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:37 PM
12

Not wanting to sleep on a futon or have money spent isn’t even a high standard, it’s a standard. Keep your expectations high!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:30 PM
25

r/nametheproblem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 03:14 PM
24

What does “Medically Retired” mean? And why is he on Tinder if he’s going his own way?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 03:13 PM
22

What’s also weird is what you don’t remember! I think back on my ex I was with for 5 years and... its kind of just a fog. A few moments stand out from specific events (holidays, birthdays, moving, job changes, etc) but all in all I can’t recall what we did when we were together, or what we were constantly arguing about, or even how we broke up exactly. It’s like it was just a long slow death and my brain just blocks it now haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 04:43 AM
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My takeaway was that its not about their actual physical age, but “how old they feel” (aka how rejected/embarrassed they feel while trying to date in the wild).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 07:59 PM
14

This makes no sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 04:28 PM
14

Well that was depressing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 12:01 AM
3

Thank you for writing this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 04:16 PM
4

I unsubbed a long time ago
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 04:05 PM
43

Damn. Wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 02:24 PM
20

lol, I thought of this sub when he said that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 02:40 AM
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Before FDS I didn’t even realize how many guys I was in contact with casually that were lvm. Guys I met through OLD, guys I went on a few dates with (before they got cagey), guys who were total strangers but who interacted with me on social media (like watching my ig stories 5 seconds after I post every time). Blocked every single one of them and I feel so much lighter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 02:38 AM
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Don’t forget to pick yourself up a nice housewarming present! 🎁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 02:36 AM
20

Too bad for him, but that’s what can happen when you’re unreliable. Good for you for not getting overly attached and for rejecting his sad breadcrumbs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 02:33 AM
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I think the perception of tattoos is heavily influenced by where you live. I live in a somewhat large East coast city in the US and I feel like tons and tons of people have visible tattoos to the point where it’s banal. I have 5 myself and they are easily hidden with clothes, but even if I wear a tank top to show them off I still don’t feel like I’m “standing out”. I think her reasoning could maybe apply to people with provocative face/neck/hand tattoos (“jobkillers”). Oh yeah and I have good se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 02:13 PM
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No way he wants kids, he just doesn’t want to miss out on an opportunity with a younger woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 12:54 PM
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I love this thread! I want to hear all the HV love stories
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 12:51 PM
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We love to see a happy ending
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 03:00 PM
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Sounds juuuust like my ex. We almost moved in together and he flipped out when I suggested we split the rent in proportion to our income since his was much higher. He wanted to know why I wouldn’t go 50/50 since it would still be less than what I was paying now. I said because I would be giving up having my own space to live with him. We didn’t last too long after that, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 02:59 PM
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I would think less about what is normal and more about what is the most safe. If you ask him to get tested and he reacts defensive, aggressive or pushy, then he’s a lvm. Try to focus more on your safety and less on their reaction; worst case scenario you have a lifelong disease you have to monitor. And tbh, I wouldn’t consider giving oral to someone I was dating casually. :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 02:32 PM
6

What do you want me to tell you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 01:56 PM
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Do you ask for that? Yes, you ask for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 01:35 PM
2

What was the deleted comment?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 12:28 AM
2

Agreed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 10:20 PM
3

Thanks! That’s what I was going for. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 10:19 PM
2

Thanks! These are my baseline standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 10:18 PM
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I wouldn’t like it, but it depends. I don’t think there’s a good reason for them to stay in touch with exes unless he’s like... co-parenting with them. Or they work together professionally in some capacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 10:18 PM
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I’m also in my 30s and obsessed with skincare, vitamins, staying fit, etc. It seems like it’s not the self-care itself that is troubling you, but the feeling of disappointment that you’re never satisfied by it. I say continue with physical self care (as long as it makes you feel good) and explore other more psychological/emotional forms of self care as well. How connected are you to others? Is there anything you can do to serve your community? Helping others can be incredibly healing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 09:16 PM
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Looking good costs money and time, even if you’re young and have good genes. Imagine if we started showing up to dates with dirty unwashed hair, no makeup, wearing an old sweatshirt, leggings, and slip-ons. This is what men who won’t pay for dates should get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 04:39 PM
14

“instagram face” is real
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 01:46 PM
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Why would I “come from a place of love” for someone I barely know? I’m not going to necessarily be coming from a place of fear, either... why is she presenting these as the only two options? It’s oversimplification pickmeisha style.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 01:40 PM
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Interesting because don’t other male animals usually have physical characteristics that they use to stand out to females? Horns, tusks, bright plumage, colorful ornamentation... it’s almost like females are the more visual sex since the males’ prerogative is passing on their DNA as much as possible, while females’ prerogative is to find the best DNA possible... 🤔 So it would actually make a lot more sense for females to be more visual Edit- this is called sexual dimorphism .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 02:16 AM
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Couples who post pics of their SO frequently or do “relationship appreciation posts” are actually more insecure about the relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 08:07 PM
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“When you’re accustomed to privilege, equality feels like oppression.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:39 PM
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These people are deep in the echo chamber. Love how that guy brings up how single mothers rely on the government but doesn’t explore any of the systemic reasons why they might need to rely on the government. Maybe men who abandon their children shouldn’t be allowed to vote?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:25 PM
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They are projecting. Most men go downhill terribly fast after age 30, unless they put in effort to take care of themselves, which most don’t. I flourished after age 30 and so did my friends, we look better than ever and have our own money and careers lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:45 PM
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No future
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 09:59 PM
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Things might be different if casual sex wasn’t extremely high risk / extremely low or no reward
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 09:58 PM
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She looks great! Those incels know they have no future. This is why they have to harass women online, there’s no other way for them to feel “seen”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:20 AM
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Why are they so allergic to the word “relationship”?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:17 AM
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I tried to watch the whole thing but she’s just so irritating and now I’m exhausted
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:08 AM
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He looks like he is literally dying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 05:39 PM
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Watch Dr Ramani’s videos on narcissism
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 05:32 PM
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At least you’re realizing it now, and not after 8 months, or a year, or several years!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 05:24 PM
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I’m sorry girl but he played you. The fact you had to bring up exclusivity after 7 months is in itself a red flag! In the future, please vet harder and if he doesn’t bring up exclusivity after 3 or 4 months, just move on. You should also be dating multiple people before commitment is established. Reread the handbook and try to internalize it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 02:58 PM
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It’s true, I’ve met multiple men that didn’t even try to choke/abuse/rape/murder me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 02:55 PM
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Omg I just shrieked with laughter so loud I startled my sleeping cats 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 11:36 PM
14

Turk couldn’t even remember her ethnicity (she’s Dominican)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 05:23 PM
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I don’t understand where these women using dates to get a free meal are? I have plenty of female friends out there dating and I have literally never heard of this before I joined Reddit. Maybe there is a tiny fraction of women that do this? But it can’t be enough to justify this widespread FeAR oF bEiNg UsED. I feel like an easy way for both sexes to deal with this is to video chat or at least a phone call before meeting. If it goes well then there’s literally no excuse not to go on a nice dinne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 05:06 PM
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He sounds sooo smarmy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 04:50 PM
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Gay men can be incredibly misogynistic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 03:26 PM
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Thanks for this! This reminds me of the rules of misogyny: Women are responsible for what men do. Women saying no to men is a hate crime. Women speaking for themselves are exclusionary and selfish. Women’s opinions are violence against men, thus male violence against women is justified. Women and Feminism must be useful to men or they are worthless. Women who go around being female AT men by menstruating and breastfeeding babies deserve punishment. Women should always be grateful to men for ever…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 01:09 PM
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Most if not all of us have been there at some point. Thinking you “did something wrong” and “scared him away” is part of the pick-me mindset. Remember you’re the special one, not him. If he really cared for you, your attachment wouldn’t have scared him away. Please do not check his social media anymore, it’s only going to make you sad and hinder your ability to level up. How long has it been since you last saw him? Oxytocin withdrawal after a breakup is real and it can take a few months to dissi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:33 PM
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By going to the FDS ig account and then going through who’s listed as a follower
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 10:17 PM
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I don’t give a damn about their feelings. I posted it because I am concerned about the safety and privacy of women who follow FDS on ig – people deserve to know if incels are combing the followers list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 07:42 PM
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Yeah, shouldn’t requesting women’s actual names for the purpose of stalking them warrant a ban at the very least? Wth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 07:40 PM
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So creepy! It’s probably a good idea for women following FDS on ig to lock their profile if they haven’t already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 07:08 PM
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iNTeReSTiNg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 06:46 PM
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I honestly think most of these are made by teens with very limited life/relationship experience
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 04:04 PM
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I’ve noticed that too! All of my male friends/acquaintances that waited until late 30s/early 40s have daughters now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 03:58 PM
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Idk! I think it would be a possibility if resources weren’t divided up equally. It’s an interesting scenario to think about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 09:09 PM
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“What was really surprising was that there seemed to be an association between advanced paternal age and the chance that the mother would develop diabetes during pregnancy,” said Eisenberg. For men age 45 and older, their partners were 28 percent more likely to develop gestational diabetes, compared with fathers between 25 and 34. Eisenberg points out that possible biological mechanisms at play here are still a bit murky, but he suspects that the mother’s placenta has a role. Woah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 09:07 PM
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lol, we don’t want men to go die in wars. We just don’t want to be expected to be a mother/wife/girlfriend to manchildren who take up our space and attention while giving us nothing of value in return
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 08:57 PM
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A vast, immediate global-wide decrease in interpersonal violence. It’s actually crazy to think about how different society would be for women. Governments, police forces, every profession all would be women. We could all go wherever we want, whenever we want, talk to whomever we want. There would still be crime, but it would be a mere fraction of what it is now. We wouldn’t have to constantly be contemplating our own death.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 08:50 PM
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That little girl deserves so much better 💔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 02:03 AM
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I almost did this last year, tg we broke up! I can’t imagine the hell that would have been quarantining with him for months. It might be more expensive to live alone, but at least I have inner peace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 10:03 PM
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When women feel like their worth is defined by their relationship, it’s not hard to see why they’ll jump through all kinds of mental hoops to avoid breaking up. Add to that the idea you’re going to “max out” at 30, so many women feel like they should accept what they get. It’s so sad because it may seem like it’s easier to stay in a crappy relationship rather than go through a traumatic breakup, but it’s always better to be single than to be with someone who makes you feel insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 02:55 AM
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This. And also stepping on other women in order to advance yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 06:10 PM
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Modern day Libfem is culty ftfy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 06:01 PM
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DICKLETS 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 04:06 PM
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Banned for telling the truth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 04:02 PM
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Girl, if he would really leave just because you wanted to have sex less frequently, he’s not a HVM. Sex should be fun and satisfying, not transactional. It’s ok to not want to have sex, I wouldn’t want to twice a day either!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 07:40 PM
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This legit made me sad. I hope she grows some self respect
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 06:57 PM
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If you have a kid who’s truly sociopathic, there won’t be anything you can really do about it. Luckily most people aren’t clinically sociopathic. Traits like empathy, kindness, patience, and generosity can be developed like a skill. If a young boy is raised to value those traits, he’ll be fine. The thing is that most boys aren’t raised to value those traits. Which is why so many men go through life being self-absorbed jerks until then one day suddenly “get it” when they find themselves the fathe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 06:54 PM
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Spoken by a man that’s probably never cared about anyone enough to be hurt by their cheating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 06:46 PM
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Wow, not only do we have to make our marital status known but we also have to let everyone know if we’re under or over 30? I look forward to the day when we can just use “Ms” universally for all women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 07:02 PM
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Scrotes wish they were as cute as that dog
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 06:41 PM
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I really loathe those compliments as well. I give really thoughtful compliments but rarely receive them. Things like “You’re very sexy”, “You look so cute”, etc make me feel nothing... Like obviously I know they think I’m physically attractive or else they wouldn’t be spending time with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 01:38 AM
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Why am I imagining him as Gollum from LOTR
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 08:57 PM
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Bet he’s fun at parties.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 08:54 PM
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Hey, a lot of us have been there, I know I have. I know I definitely used sex like a drug in the past to make myself happy and to feel wanted. If you deal with anxiety/depression, it can easily become a negative feedback loop where you feel down, you try to get “high”, then you feel bad about what you did, repeat ad nauseam. I certainly would recommend a therapist to help you come to grips as to why you let this play out again and again. Taking a long break from sex/dating is a great idea and le…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 04:38 PM
3

That’s quite literally not prostitution
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 12:43 PM
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Agreed 100%. “Cis” isn’t a word we chose for ourselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 02:59 PM
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I was disappointed by that as well, but then I remembered that women who don’t say Not All Men will probably get rape/death threats from anonymous scrotes:(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 06:05 PM
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I used to be like this. Once I realized I didn’t actually owe them a reason, it became a lot easier. The fact you want to leave should be enough of a reason, any additional info is a bonus. It makes it easier to sound grateful - when there’s a lull in the conversation, thank them for hanging out and it will start to get easier to wrap up the whole thing. It’s totally acceptable to just be like, “Well it’s been nice to meet you, I’m going to head out now!” But if this is too much, you can have a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 04:19 PM
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It’s okay, strong men don’t get corona
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 03:08 PM
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I see no problem with dating a man with older kids that has an amicable relationship with the mother... but a baby? You have to ask yourself why he has the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 02:43 PM
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All these blatantly misogynistic subs and Reddit decided to ban r/GenderCritical? Seems fair. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 05:43 PM
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I think a true dad bod is pretty attractive - muscular arms and legs that can pick you up, but with a softer tummy that’s perfect for cuddling. Having a huge beer belly with skinny arms and legs is NOT a dad bod.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 11:03 PM
6

What a beautiful phrase!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 05:01 PM
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Ever since I learned about how couples who are insecure about their relationship post about it more frequently, things like this just make me laugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 04:50 PM
5

That face! 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 01:36 PM
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💕💖💞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 08:42 PM
10

Omg I also work in arts admin and I feel this so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 03:40 PM
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I’ve noticed that too! I know men who are workaholics when it comes to their job/career, but then like anything else in their life requires female support to maintain it. If women collectively decided to stop helping them all the time society would probably come to a grinding halt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 02:35 PM
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Befriend introverted ladies. Befriend ladies that are different than who you usually hang out with. Ask women that seem interesting to hang out in a non-pressured way - example: “I’m going to this thing on Saturday, would you want to join me? I’m going either way so no pressure, but it would be cool to hang out!” If you hit it off with someone, be obvious in that you enjoy their company and think they’re cool. Everyone wants to feel socially validated, so just tell them you think they’re funny/a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 12:09 PM
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Yup. Sex with a LVM is never ever worth it. I hope he sorts himself out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 11:59 AM
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Things like this make me so angry. It sometimes feels like women are solely responsible for making sure every daily activity in society keeps functioning lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 11:57 AM
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Love how she proved him wrong with grace and aplomb until he realized literally all he has to offer is the D. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 11:54 AM
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It is 100% okay, it’s time to move on to better things!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:19 PM
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What’s pocket watching?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:12 PM
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If you had been together longer, I would say make an exception and pay. But for 2 months? A card and a small treat is completely acceptable imo. But I’m curious why you don’t want to get anything at all, is he showing signs of being a lvm?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:10 PM
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👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 12:09 AM
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I know he’s lazy and taking me for granted and so I know I should probably just remove myself from the situation Bingo, just block and delete. You can’t play his game back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 05:20 PM
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Take it one step at a time! Don’t be alone with a date (or go to his house/let him be at your house) until you’re 100% comfortable. Dating should be a stress free experience for you. And please don’t feel rushed to jump into dating just because your ex moved on, it’s much better to be single and go at a slower pace IMO!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 05:12 PM
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Of course his banner is of a Tesla truck 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 06:19 PM
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Men who get turned off by pubic hair are probably pedophiles
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 06:14 PM
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You’re not alone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 09:47 PM
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lol. For some reason my post was removed a minute after I posted it (??!?) and then it was put back up at some point so maybe people weren’t seeing it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 06:22 PM
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Why do I have a feeling she’ll find herself suddenly single in her 30s and wondering why she wasted so much time in her 20s...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 03:35 PM
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She gonna get picked
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 12:59 AM
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It’s not about not wanting someone to walk beside you, it’s about knowing you’ll be good either way. Life moves in phases and there’s good times and bad times, we all feel alone sometimes. The difference is knowing that you’re grounded, you can take care of yourself, and you participate in activities that foster self-growth. There are so many people that literally cannot sit with themselves. Feeling empty is a part of the human condition. You’ll occasionally get that feeling regardless of your r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 12:58 AM
3

!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 07:23 PM
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Not sure how to help... What exactly about working with animals interests you? Do you like feeding and taking care of them, or do you want to be in an office environment?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 10:59 PM
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Oof I have a friend who’s a flight attendant and she struggles with the same thing! I would maybe just not mention it until you’re really comfortable with someone, it’s a fetish for many men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 10:56 PM
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I share your weird ass feelings. I try to remind myself that people in abusive relationships almost never realize it’s abusive right away, and at least by airing their grievances online they can start the process of separating from the person whose been manipulating them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 07:11 PM
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If it’s helpful, try to act “professional”. It’s something that’s helped me in the past when dealing with ex’s. I basically act like they are a former colleague that I have to see again for whatever reason, and it’s just a transaction. Don’t be emotionally available, but no need to be rude/disrespectful either. They aren’t worth the energy. Is it really necessary for him to help you pack your stuff and for you to stay over though? I obviously don’t know your relationship but this just seems like…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 03:54 PM
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land her before she understands her value Damn, not even pretending
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 04:50 PM
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If this guy were a spice, he’d be flour
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 04:46 PM
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It seems like you intellectually recognize you weren’t compatible but you just can’t stop thinking about him. It sounds kind of like thinking about him is an obsessive compulsion at this point. What are you gaining from hanging on to him like this? Would you say it’s possible your unrequited love for him keeps you “safe” in a way because you can’t get attached to anyone new? Maybe you are scared of being hurt again so you are letting him hold this space?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 09:35 PM
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SARAH HELP ME
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 02:58 PM
3

Lmao this is exactly how I read it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 02:36 PM
5

Love it!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 01:47 AM
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Lol, “self defecate”? Did he mean self defeat?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 01:42 AM
3

I hate that one as well! Like what am I supposed to be asking...?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 04:39 PM
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Lol Yup. Most of them have completely bought into the myth they can have kids anytime. They think they’ll be the same at 50 that they were at 18. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 11:58 PM
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So many men are completely unaware of this lolol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 07:31 PM
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I used to be really pro-app but not anymore. It’s so exhausting constantly rejecting lvm that have never worked on their personality a day in their boring lives. And it’s also sad? Like... the lack of character/identity in a lot of guys that are in their 30s is just depressing. There are good guys on there, but they are too few and far between... even if you do meet up and hit it off, he’ll probably still see you as “a girl from tinder/whatever” and not take you seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 07:31 PM
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He’s definitely sending the same copypasta to multiple women lolol the laziness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 04:54 PM
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Yeah what is up with that... growing up my distant female family members would just leave their baby with me. Them: Want to hold the baby? Me: Oh... no, I’m– Them: HERE! plops baby in my lap and disappears somewhere They never, ever did this to my brother or stepbrothers. 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 03:55 PM
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Oldest daughter = third parent. And often she is the “parent” to the actual parents too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 02:53 PM
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I love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 01:26 PM
2

I know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 08:07 PM
2

Good for you! He sounds like a dud. On to the next! 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 07:49 PM
2

I think a cool, crisp “Oh. Sorry to hear that.” (or something similar) with nothing else would be better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 07:46 PM
2

Im so sorry you’re going through this. Is there a women’s shelter near you? If you feel comfortable, let me know what region you live in and I can help! Please don’t tell him anything about leaving, it’s very likely he might try to injure you or worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 10:31 PM
7

Does anyone else just get so fed up with this they feel like they are going to explode? This shit is honestly so depressing and I don’t understand why men have to be this way. I’m also pms’ing and really hormonal right now but stuff like this honestly makes me want to give up on finding a great guy to share life with. Fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 03:42 PM
11

This is why I find it difficult to “trust his actions, not his words”. It’s easy to be sweet and affectionate with someone. But having an actual conversation defining the relationship? That can be uncomfortable and requires vulnerability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 03:36 PM
16

will turn green after a month Maybe that would fit the relationship tho lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 05:20 PM
3

Excuse me what?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 05:17 PM
14

triggered Sahara 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 05:16 PM
5

As a HVW, dating should be a stress-free experience. If you’re confused and doing mental gymnastics, you’re not doing it right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 05:12 PM
15

You are in an abusive relationship. This is not the way someone who loves you would treat you. Are you living together? If so, do you have friends and family you can stay with? This isn’t something you can work out with him. Please put yourself, your children and your baby first now, you don’t owe him anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 05:10 PM
10

It might be worth it in some cases. If they don’t step up right away though it’s probably best to just nip it in the bud!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 05:04 PM
17

Why even bother with a ring at that point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 05:02 PM
13

You wouldn’t know if he was a HVM only after a month. Glad you blocked him! When you’re with the right person, you’ll know because you won’t feel confused. :) I would encourage you to read up on boundaries and make sure you’re setting healthy boundaries going forward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 04:51 PM
14

Wasn’t there a post there very similar to this recently? The woman saved a ton of money, the man spent it without permission and said it was for a computer or a console or something and the comments told her no computer/console cost the amount he spent. I wonder if this is just the excuse they use now. Always keep your savings in a separate account.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 02:25 PM
31

Yeah it’s so telling that he was “okay” with the decision in the moment, but after his toxic parents got to him he changed his mind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 02:21 PM
135

“I had to choose between life or death, I chose life, AITA?” The posts in that community from women in relationships with toxic men are the saddest things on the internet How convenient the father would never be in her situation. I wonder how many fathers-to-be would choose to give their life so their baby could be born?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 02:20 PM
14

r/nametheproblem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 02:15 PM
51

I’m not gonna fucking buy you shit or pay for ur kid so whys it matter what my job is So he wants take up space and smash while offering nothing of value, got it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 08:10 PM
3

If he isn’t doing anything to foster your wellbeing, just block him. You don’t owe him anything. More likely than not, he probably just wants to keep tabs on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 08:07 PM
1

Totally agree. Lust can make you forget what you know. After a breakup, it’s normal for your body to go through a chemical process of withdrawal from an ex, read up on oxytocin withdrawal. Pleasure yourself and know it will go away in time lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 04:21 PM
7

LOL every comment here is gold and I’m here for it ✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 04:12 PM
18

🙌🙌🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 04:06 PM
22

If he wanted to he would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 03:12 AM
13

Lmao at a 2 year “talking stage”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 03:00 AM
21

A lot of those guys feel like they’ve been victimized in the past for being unattractive, and when someone actually gives them a chance it’s payback time for all those times they felt rejected by other women. A lot of these guys tend to view women as a monolith and believe “nice guys finish last”, “women love assholes”, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 02:58 AM
8

Read the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 04:23 PM
2

lol, this is so true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 02:07 AM
2

I agree with you 100% except I think boys need to spearhead this and lead the movement themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 02:06 AM
2

Plus she has looked up to him since she was like a teenager
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 07:54 PM
16

Oh they ain’t married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 02:40 PM
29

Imagine what the world could be like if men performed emotional labor for each other instead of expecting it from women every time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 02:39 PM
19

You waited 25 mins longer than I would have. He had his chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 10:01 PM
10

I had high hopes then I got to the Cons, something is definitely not right with him. I’m thinking his texts sound impersonal because he’s probably telling other women he’s seeing to also “have a wonderful day!” And he said he loves you after a week but he is happy to go weeks without seeing you? Yikes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 09:59 PM
7

Her approach is really soft and I get the sense she doesn’t want to call out those specific types of men or incite any type of aggression. The interview is more about the importance of the continuance of asking for what you want after getting married, not just before. But yeah she does get into how men expect compliance and how they often don’t even realize they expect it, but she doesn’t explicitly blame them. I agree with her that it’s a “collusion” between multiple parties (including other wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 06:49 PM
13

I’ve been seeing tattoos like this recently, I wonder if it’s ink?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 10:18 AM
21

This is how they cope with us ladies becoming more aware and leveling up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 10:17 AM
11

lol, they are imagining a Hollywood actress approaching them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 10:15 AM
53

Tagged this as Strategy because she talks about how the perception of the institution of marriage is meant to benefit men and children, not wives, and why it’s so important to ask for what you want after you’re married so that you can remain your authentic self!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 10:12 AM
3

Damn. I hope you feel better! And congrats on your promotion!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 02:10 PM
34

Number 2: Always trust your gut feeling. For the ones who have trouble differentiating between an insecurity and a gut feeling- an insecurity mainly makes you question your own character, or a trait, or a body part, basically it makes you question you, whereas a gut feeling makes you question the other person. I'm not asking you to be extremely critical either, your gut feeling will come from your body, it will make you repel from the situation in your mind. Do not ignore that gut feeling. Somet…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 01:23 PM
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I’m sorry OP. I can’t imagine how hard that is to go through right now after having a baby, dealing with depression/anxiety, and just the general state of the world right now. Please do not say anything to him that indicates that you know he’s cheating. Collect as much evidence as you can in any form you can - emails, screenshots from your phone, receipts, photos - and please get to a lawyer ASAP. Best of luck to you and your baby. Please keep us updated and use this community for support. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 02:27 AM
3

I hope she leaves him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 02:20 AM
6

I agree to an extent. The difference is you let those feelings/memories wash over you and let them pass, whereas this guy decided to get vengeance using his gf and then flipped out when she told him no. It’s all about choices.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 10:08 PM
23

Right. When you’re over someone, you’re indifferent. Not jealous, moody, and hypersensitive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 05:19 PM
25

They also broke up four years ago, did he think she was just never going to move on? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 05:17 PM
123

Yup. I’m glad she broke it off right away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 02:26 PM
50

I want to disagree but I can’t
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 01:01 AM
8

So he’s calling his first baby a mistake. How nice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 10:01 PM
36

Please don’t let him use you for an ego boost. He sounds like a LVM. You might still have a soft spot for him, but it’s time to move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 07:42 PM
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I don’t know why you two broke up but it doesn’t bode well that he sent this message just as you were starting to get over him. When this situation has happened to me it’s been because he was rejected by others and needed an ego boost. If it feels off to you, it probably is... I would ignore him tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 07:01 PM
20

Glad to see some sanity in the comments and ppl calling him out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 06:51 PM
5

lol idk why I’m being downvoted. I just meant that what he says doesn’t even make sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 06:49 PM
27

Can I ask what community this was posted in? Like, I don’t understand what he hoped to achieve by posting this... Such abusive, antisocial behavior. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 06:21 PM
6

Can anyone translate this nonsense?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 06:18 PM
4

He doesn’t trust someone who would truly hold him accountable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 12:25 PM
6

Agreed. No response is the best response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 12:23 PM
9

Simply tell him he’s been great but it’s time for you to move on and focus on yourself. The attachment will fade with time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 12:17 PM
6

Beautiful flowers (and awwww kitty!)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 12:15 PM
5

You ok Christian?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 11:37 PM
9

lol you hurt his feelings
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 10:59 PM
11

Beautiful 🏡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 08:26 PM
9

Was he ok before you met him? If so, he’ll be ok if you leave him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 08:24 PM
19

Why do you have to let go?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 11:33 PM
26

I told him it doesn't even count as sex if the woman doesn't orgasm. I LOVE THIS CONCEPT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 05:00 PM
5

lol. But He’S jUsT HaViNG a ToUgH tImE riGHt NoW
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 05:57 PM
1

That last sentence is 👌🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 05:56 PM
7

Too bad his mom didn’t abort him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 05:53 PM
10

This so weird to me. I would never even dream of asking anyone (much less someone I wanted to date) to drive out to see me, insist on a high end restaurant, then at the end say “are you gonna pay for your food or..?” It’s just so rude!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 05:51 PM
36

He has no reason not to call/text you. The quarantine probably just expedited what was inevitable. You did the right thing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 04:29 PM
26

This literally describes a guy I wasted a whole month on. All he ever had was “Hey how are you, want to get a drink somewhere?” It just got so pointless so quickly. I already have friends I can grab a drink with. It was like the boredom he felt in his own life just seeped out of him and into my life lol. This dude still randomly calls me sometimes at 2 or 3 am and will leave a slurred message asking me to call him back 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 03:15 AM
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They also banned r/itsafetish, r/LGBDropTheT, r/terfisaslur, r/gendercriticalguys, r/actualwomen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 01:33 AM
11

29 is kind of a weird age; maybe you feel self conscious about getting older so you’re giving off a negative vibe? Also, 29 is extremely young! If you eat right, exercise, get adequate sleep and focus on things that make you happy you’ll be a fox well into your 40s :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 01:29 AM
2

Yup! If someone asks about it on the 1st or 2nd date they are probably looking for weaknesses. :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 09:02 PM
13

I personally find it a huge turn off if someone goes on and on about the how’s and why’s of their most recent breakup. By doing this, they make themselves seem fixated on the past and unready to date. Be positive, but vague. No need to go into a ton of detail so early.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 06:25 PM
6

I’m not crying, I have something in my eye
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 06:49 AM
6

My ex is triggered
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 05:43 PM
15

That shit is weak
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 04:40 PM
6

Just wanted to chime in that D-mannose is awesome and I would recommend it to anyone who suffers from chronic UTIs (and doesn’t want to drink cranberry juice). It’s also hella cheap, I bought a big bottle for $20 and even though I don’t need it anymore I keep it in the fridge just in case
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 02:32 PM
5

Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 01:11 PM
13

He was a pretty clean guy so I wonder if he was asymptomatic...This is amazingly useful info. Thank you so much for sharing! It’s wild how women are conditioned to think we are “dirty” and automatically think sexual health issues are our fault. I’d love to see some formal studies about this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 12:10 PM
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This is wild and kind of unbelievable that it’s not talked about more, but also... women’s health issue so no one cares I had several UTI’s and multiple yeast infections with a previous long term boyfriend. It went away when we broke up and never came back despite me sleeping with other people since then. Guess he just had a lot of bacteria :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 11:46 AM
10

I lol’ed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 10:08 PM
10

Damn. This is like a description of me when I was in my 20’s 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 10:07 PM
5

WTF!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 09:58 PM
1

Yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 07:12 PM
1

You can’t! That’s why you have to level up, evaluate ruthlessly, and keep your options open until commitment has been established 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 06:29 PM
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