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Absolutely everything on here, especially the dog idea!! I rescued my dog when I was 19 and it was the best thing for both of us. Having another living thing depend on me helped me get it together and keep it together. I'm 27 and married now and he's 8 years old.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/15 01:41 PM
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Very true. Fake is easy to spot and hard to keep up.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/15 01:27 PM
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A "significant factor bond". Is that why everybody my parents age has been getting divorced after 30 years of marriage (including my own parents)? No it's because my mother is a psychotic and my dad got sick of her throwing divorce papers at him every time she was mad. If both parties don't try to be their best always, the love, intimacy, respect and "significant factor bond" all dissipate into divorce.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/15 01:26 PM
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...also not true. He knows he does this and he likes to talk ideas out with someone listening to see if it's feasible. He needs to hear things out loud. Often I'm just listening and I rarely actually give my opinion because it isn't needed. He figures out what he wants to do and how to do it. Sometimes he drops the idea that night, sometimes he brings it up again and the drops it, sometimes he brings it up again and then puts it into action. I rarely know which one it is until ibrealize it eithe…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/15 01:17 PM
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Oh lol! No a lot of women are full of shit today, believe it or not
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/15 02:02 AM
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It was something discussed in our premarital counseling. His family follows Dave Ramsey and I was introduced to it and during our counseling before marriage we were on the same page, I thought.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/15 02:02 AM
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He told me back in September about this need and I said "yeah that sounds legitimate" or something. Basically, I agreed it would be a good expense. Note my husband frequently so start projects or talk about new ideas and many never come to fruition. He's a dreamer and when the actual plan goes into effect his enthusiasm and interest will fizzle out. So when I didn't hear about it again for a month I figured that's all it was, a passing idea. I never heard another word about it except for tonight…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/15 02:00 AM
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I did not get to express it though. That's what I'm trying to tell you
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/15 01:56 AM
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I don't understand why I can't have an opinion on how our combined income is made.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/15 01:45 AM
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I was like yeah if you feel like you need it lets save up some money this month for it. Apparently he felt he needed it by the 20th of this month and decided to take it into his own hands. I never heard about it again. Like the beginning of September he brought it up.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/15 01:26 AM
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It is money he's is spending from our personal account, not his business account. This is a brand new business, he has not made any money yet.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/15 01:13 AM
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A horrible situation, no. However we are in the middle of filing for bankruptcy. We both work outside the home. We have always had great communication about our finances, we have agreed to not borrow money or go into debt anymore. It has less to do with control, more to do with, he didn't talk to me about it. Never asked me for my opinion, didn't tell me anything about it. I don't have a right to be upset about that? If it was a decision he was going to make either way, regardless of my opinion,…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/15 01:12 AM
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I can't tell if you're being sarcastic? No not all women mean this. Some of them are staying home under the guise of being a sahm but it's just because they're too lazy and unmotivated. My husband's ex-wife was a "sahm" and he would come home and clean the house, she would do nothing, actually cheated on him various times. Now that they're divorced she still doesn't work, she has lived with 3 different men who have all supported her and helped support her kids and when she doesn't have a boyfrie…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/15 04:31 AM
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I hate the sahm's who are on fb or social media all the time and claim martyrdom... Yet their kids are babysat by the tv and are fed premade microwaveable crap (my husband's ex-wife). That's annoying. I suppose in the definition of the word "career" it is not one but to me, raising kids and keeping a home for my husband are the most importanto goals. I do not yet have children of my own, I have in biological children, my husbands from his first marriage that come and stay with us, and I also wor…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/15 03:05 AM
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Uhh women's minds are not a mystery. If anything RP theory has them pretty well figured out.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/15 01:06 AM
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Lol I do like that idea. It's like a safety word. Maybe I'll suggest that to my husband. I don't always realize when I'm revving up to full nag, I do realize it when I'm there and I'm getting better at stopping it but I'd love to not have to get there in the first place.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/15 04:30 PM
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First I will start off by saying that I agree with the things other ladies have said here, regarding therapy and why did he pick you in the first place, etc. I have a big jealousy streak in me, both of my parents had multiple affairs while I was growing u,p and I seemed to enjoy dating morons in my early twenties and was cheated on then too. So I know first hand what that anxiety is. What I do is make sure that I do everything I possibly can for my husband at home and really cater to him so he i…
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/15 04:19 PM
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An excellent point and one non-rpw women seem to get wrong all the time.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/15 04:12 PM
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If you have a man that doesn't reciprocate, you have found yourself a bad captain. II know for a fact previously blue pill men can be changed back to their natural state because I've made the changes in myself and watched them affect my husband. He's a different man. Where he used to forget to do things, flake out, be selfish and unromantic, he is the opposite. Make sure you are getting out of your man's way and letting him lead. It make take a few months, my personal attempts failed initially b…
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/15 04:10 PM
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My husband and I have the same deal. I just tell him to say it nicely that I'm being irrational or too emotional lol
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/15 04:04 PM
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Head on over to trp and tell them you're a woman looking to lose the mentality of entitlement. They'll help you out! In all seriousness though, from my experience, I will tell you that I never realized just how much my attitude was oppressing my husband and how much I controlled the relationship. I never really realized how much of the relationship is ME I made every decision and my husband told me it was honestly easier for him to go along with it then for us to fight. This relationship is not …
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/15 02:22 PM
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Haha! I find it really relaxing, I can't explain why! I also love to organize and I kind of use that in laundry. I sort all the laundry by kitchen linens, bathroom linens and individual person. I get huge satisfaction from seeing the nice neat piles in the baskets. Plus it is a huge help to my MIL and I love helping her.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/15 08:00 PM
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You have a right to express your concerns to your man and have him come up with a solution. Your boyfriend's solution is to blame you. Not such a great trait in a man.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/15 07:59 PM
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My mil is exactly who I am learning from. My mother is very similar to what OP is describing, my MIL the exact opposite. Classy, feminine, just a little feisty, an amazing cook, real good at making a house a home, an amazing mother. I've learned so much from her and I'm so grateful.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/15 01:50 PM
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I love yoga with Adrienne!!! Too funny! That's who I use on YouTube. She's awesome.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/15 02:17 AM
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My weird hobby is doing laundry, I love doing it! Lol I do me and my husband's and I also do my in laws. I think it's relaxing.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/15 02:15 AM
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I love to read and I sew, (currently finishing an apron), I am going to learn how to quilt this winter and knit. I also want to learn Danish, my MIL is Danish, born and raised in Danmark so she'd be a great teacher!
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/15 02:14 AM
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Laura Doyle wrote in The Surrendered Wife that when a man is dealing with something on his own, be available to listen if he wants to open up, otherwise busy yourself with your own hobbies and female friends. That would be my advice. I am sure I would feel the same way in your position and I know it's hard because you just want to be reassured that's he's fine and everything is fine but leave him alone. I personally have not had this problem, even when my husband is dealing with something seriou…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/15 04:37 PM
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That's a pretty big problem. You can't ever bring up a problem to him without him getting defensive. How will you solve conflicts with him? You'll always have to cave and act like it doesn't bother you.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/15 01:30 PM
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Thank you Tempest!
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/15 01:05 PM
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This exactly.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/15 01:04 PM
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He admitted that what he did wasn't cool and still got mad at you for being uncomfortable. This guy is so shady. Next him please! He's mad at you for getting mad about plans being postponed for the 5th time? You'll see him "tonight, maybe tomorrow"? Girl, you are barely a priority to this guy. Dump him.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/15 01:01 PM
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I am a funny person but as I've gotten older I almost feel like my sense of humor has gotten in the way of developing actual relationships with ppl because I'm too busy trying to be funny all the time.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/15 08:28 PM
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I keep sayin this to everyone, lol but I never thought about that. It balances me out in my job, in a way.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/15 02:45 PM
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Mmm I guess I never thought about it
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/15 02:44 PM
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An interesting take, thank you! I'm going to take this into consideration.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/15 01:58 AM
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That's a good idea. This has less to do with my husband and more to do with me trying to build an overall more feminine and delicate self. Idk if it will work because I'm pretty loud and boisterous but I do feel sad when that's my reputation because I'm also really caring and helpful and I'd rather be known for those things. Does that make sense?
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/15 01:57 AM
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Mmm I think that it probably depends on the man. Some men like to be challenged more than others, some not at all. I give my husband shit all the time and he gives it back but it NEVER happens in front of either of our in-laws because he has specifically told me he does not want even a hint of discord, real or imagined, being shown to or families and I agree with that. We have nosy parents. :-) on the other hand out with friends, they think we are hilarious. So I think it's different for everyon…
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/15 08:22 PM
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Thank you! Thank you for taking the time to type all that!
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/15 08:18 PM
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Same!! I have one I bought off amazon, not sure what the brand is but it's awesome.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/15 08:09 PM
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My mistake, thank you for the correction. I have a hard time figuring out the alpha widow thing tbh
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/15 05:09 PM
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I believe it was in Fascinsting Womanhood that I read that a man wants a woman who is feminine and dainty but also has a little fire to her, one that will challenge him in a way that delights him. I know my husband feels like that too, he always says he loves how "feisty" I am. :-) he and I can have a healthy debate on things and I have my own opinions on things but when it comes down to it, he prefers that I support how he does things and calls the shots. There's a balance to femininity and fei…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/15 04:40 PM
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Exactly this. When I first began surrendering, my husband thought this was a trick or that I only thought I wanted him to be in charge. We were having a hard time with one of his sons (my step) and I suggested that if his behavior kept up, we not buy him a birthday present. My husband thought something else would be more effective but went along with what I suggested and told his son shape up or no present. A few days later I find out he didn't think the idea was good and I said so why did you a…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/15 04:35 PM
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Well said, everything I wanted to touch on, you did.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/15 04:26 PM
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It seems that the two of them are just not over each other, honestly. I am not friends with any of my exes and my husband the same. It's inappropriate. You're feeling uneasy for a reason. Irrational or not, I would feel hurt by the song thing too, lol, no matter how insignificant it may be to him. If you're trying to red pill your relationship, you've got the wrong guy. No guy who's worth it is going to have two complicated emotional relationships - what would the benefit of that be for him? You…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/15 04:23 PM
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Haha! That is such a coincidence!
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/15 11:44 PM
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I completely agree with Tempest, you are an adult and the way your family acts as a group or as individuals does not reflect on you. There's not point in arguing or trying to persuade your mother of her ill behavior, like my dad says "don't argue with an idiot, they'll just drag you down to their level and beat you with their experience." Let your mother be, there's nothing you can do to change her. You simply can only accept her behavior or cut her out of your life.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/15 02:36 AM
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My husband is horrible at remembering dates. His two sons are born 4 years and 2 days apart, he knows the month and days but doesn't know which is which most of the time. I give him plenty of notice if I would like him to do something for a special day like my birthday or our wedding anniversary. Our wedding anniversary is actually inscribed on both of our wedding bands and he keeps reminders in his phone about our special dates. It is really important to make sure both people understand the exp…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/15 03:51 AM
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27, married a year and two months, no children of our own yet, he has two sons from his first marriage... I can definitely understand why a man would not want to get married in this day and age, especially one that's already done it and been raped by the system. Luckily for me my husband is an eternal optimist and wanted to go there again. I suggested a prenup and he went for it. Not wanting to get married would be a deal breaker for me, I am a Christian and fully believe that marriage is what G…
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/15 01:43 PM
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PLEASE READ THE SURRENDERED WIFE. It is life changing. Don't just read it, do it. It's hard and it's scary but it works, trust me. I've been doing it for four months and my husband is a new man, truly. It will get worse perhaps for a time because he will be so used to you doing things and him doing nothing and feeling safe but he will pick up. My husband didn't get it at first, I had to sit there and sweat and fret about whether he could pull off whatever it was I was worried about. Do you know …
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/15 04:20 AM
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My husband is a year and a half older than me. I have pretty much dated guys my age to a year or two older than me. I want to experience things together for the first time and if I date older, we will be able to experience less, that was kind of my thinking. I never dated younger, I always felt like we wouldn't be on the same page with the same priorities. Idk if any of my reasoning is true or typical but those were my reasons.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/15 02:01 AM
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In "The Surrendered Wife" Laura Doyle talks about how you can be large and in charge (I'm paraphrasing) at work, but that you should be sure to take that hat off and put on your "surrendered" hat when you come home. You can be both. I work as a CNA and residents, nurses and my other CNA's all look to me because I'm a lead, so I am in charge at work. However at home, I'm surrendered, I take time to decompress when I come home and for a while was super mindful of changing my attitude when I got ho…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/15 04:00 PM
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You took the words right out of my mouth on both of these subjects.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/15 03:42 PM
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I'm not going to have a discussion with you because neither of us will change the others mind.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/15 03:39 PM
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Aw! Thank you! He will step up I promise you. He's going to make mistakes and you're going to want to throw this idea out the window but please don't. You'll have to start over again. It's like my husband is a new person and so am I.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/15 03:39 PM
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Uh not all homes or aides or nurses are like that. I find your generalizations offensive. I've been a CNA 10 years and love my job and patients even of some them don't remember me. Just because you're related to someone doesn't mean you're the best one to care for them. Thats why there are professionals. Everday I go to work is a day for me to make a difference with kindness in another's life. There are good homes and aides and bad homes and aides. Sure, I think everyone of my residents would ra…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/15 04:34 PM
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100% agree. Ppl who judge only do so because they've never been in that position.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/15 04:28 PM
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Yes, so true. I didn't know he was so capable! I must have been out of my mind before....!
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/15 04:16 PM
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I do understand what you mean because it does make me uncomfortable too and my husband and I actually have a mutually agreed upon rule that we don't go out with friends of the opposite sex alone because we both think t is inappropriate especially now that we are married. Plus I do know that no matter how irrational you know a fear to be, it still doesn't make it easier to deal with.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/15 01:01 AM
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Thank you, I was going to bring up the covert contract! Another thing to consider, OP , is this: if any of his female friends were attracted to him and he to them, you wouldn't have been his girlfriend, one of them would have been! I have to give major props to your guy to holding frame and saying he wouldn't give up his friends, that's quite a bold thing to say to a lady. Rational or not, the next time you come upon this sort of problem, you need to remind yourself of why you trust the man you'…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/15 06:42 PM
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Much of the time the decision my husband makes is the one I would have made anyway. We were very close friends for many months before dating and eventually marrying. We are extremely compatible in virtually every way possible. However in the off chance we do disagree about something, as head of our family, I defer to his judgement. This is not about who is better at what. He can change a car tire faster than I can but has no idea how to stock pile sales at the grocery store. We complement each o…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/15 03:10 PM
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Thanks! Yes the ladies here are tough lol, I didnt know it was possible to be embarrassed online but I totally was after my first post. Lol but I love rpw.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/15 07:53 PM
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That's what I'm hoping! Ladies who are struggling, just let it all go and let your husband be who he is and do what he does. It is so so worth it! Laura's principles work you just have to give it a few months.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/15 10:02 PM
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I love hearing marriage tips from long timers!! I work with the elderly so this is a frequent topic of discussion for me with my residents. The longest married couple I've ever met was 73 years. 73!! Incredible!!
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/15 03:15 PM
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My husband loves no make up on me (which is good because I've never worn it religiously) but he also like the change for the day when I do wear it. And he prefers me in dresses and skirts. He's very vocal about his likes and dis likes in clothing for me so it's great because I never have to wonder what he's thinking.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/15 03:12 PM
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All of this. Clover is on point here. Drop everything you're doing now that you don't want to do and let him pick it up. And don't pick any of it up ever again. It's going to take some time for him to realize things are different and what he should do about it but he will.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/15 03:02 PM
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So the solution to you two wanting to live together was to get married? What a fantastic reason to get married! I'm sorry but saying the vows were for legal reasons and mean nothing to you is an affront to all of us who take them seriously everyday. People who get married on a stupid whim are the ones giving marriage a bad name, not the homosexuals as some might think. Vows mean something. Your promised this man you'd love him for better or worse. Right now it's worse. So tell me, did you know y…
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/15 02:59 PM
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I suppose you could try one more time, but that would probably seem a little desperate. It's hard to say exactly why this guy doesn't like you, there's a list of reasons why any one person doesn't pick another. It could have nothing to do with you, maybe he feels too busy or met someone else. Just because you're a red pill woman doesn't automatically mean this guy is a red pill guy or that any red pill guy will be attracted to you. If he is in fact a hard core red pill guy, one could almost say …
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/15 05:35 PM
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I like this answer. It's rational, keeping your lady safe and you safe.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/15 03:59 PM
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If you're not a red piller, why are you on our pages?? Rpw doesn't need a pat on the back from you saying we are beautiful no matter what. We aren't some low self esteem women who thought they couldn't do better than our rp guys. We are here by choice, we have opinions about things and beliefs. Congrats to your friend for being in her 30's and still whoring it up like she's in college?? I know I personally don't guard myself against sexual encounters for any red pill reason, I do it for moral an…
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/15 09:03 AM
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I agree with this. Maybe it's a work thing or a personal thing or he's stressed about the move. Give it like a few months, to figure out what new "normal" is for you guys now that you live together. If your new normal is what you've described, it's time to leave. There's no excuse for that. My husband and I have been together for 2 years, married almost one, friends for 4 and he has NEVER spoken to me like that. That is so unacceptable.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/15 08:51 PM
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I find this to be the most disturbing thing. My husband regularly puts his food in his mouth. One time while we were dating he had had a few and told me he prefers blondes (I'm a brunette). Men can just say dumb things without thinking at times and not realize it. He may have also thought this was a compliment lol, like you're #2 out of 10 that's really good! Haha but more seriously the killing animals thing, that would be an absolute deal breaker for me. That is so off putting and heartless. Co…
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/15 08:46 PM
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My husband and I had been together like 7 or 8 months when we first talked about it. He proposed on our one year anniversary, we were married 3 months later. Let it happen organically otherwise you will worry that you pressured him into it or something. Or worse, maybe you actually will pressure him!
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/15 12:29 PM
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We get that you live him and invested time in him. Guess what? He has cheated on you. He told another girl he loved her! That's an emotional affair and a deal breaker. You said yourself, you don't know if you'd be able to trust him again after this. You won't. I've been there with someone who physically cheated on me. You are not going to like the person you become if you stay in this relationship. Also, you are asking rpw. We expect our men to lead and be in charge of their feelings. This man w…
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/15 12:23 PM
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Very true! I woke him up this morning by climbing on top of him at 5am then we both PASSED OUT afterwards until 8am lol. It was great.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/15 08:27 PM
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I used to be very into feminism in my early 20's, a woman can do anything a man can, just as good, while in heels, type girl and thought being in charge was great. I used to purposely seek out beta males so I could get what I wanted all the time. I think that age and maturity and being married, wanting to be a better wife and learn about being a wife, got me started on my journey and I stumbled upon TRP reddit by accident. That's where I first heard of TRP lol. Well a lot of it just made sense, …
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/15 04:36 PM
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I'll have to try that in the morning, it's something I think my husband would be very into..... Even though he's not a morning person. Thanks for the idea!
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/15 04:33 PM
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I'll have to try that in the morning, it's something I think my husband would be very into..... Even though he's not a morning person. Thanks for the idea!
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/15 04:33 PM
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I want to be like you!
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/15 11:37 PM
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I am constantly evaluating how I am treating my step sons. Children are so impressionable and we need to be really intentional about how we teach and train them. We are allowed to have bad days but let's keep it so it isn't something the remember years from now. I'm sure we all have a few memories of our parents blowing up at us for no reason. I always try and avoid that with my step sons.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/15 08:40 PM
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I love this! It's so true too, they notice your change and they change too. This is wonderful. I love sending my man off in the mornings!
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/15 08:37 PM
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You've inspired a whole conversation on irc pursuing grace! We are all horrified!
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/15 06:09 PM
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My first thought is that you are online under a screen name so isn't that anonymous? But you are able to direct message ppl through reddit if that isn't private enough for you. However I will tell you that in my opinion, it is better to ask the group because you will get a well rounded answer from many women of many ages and backgrounds all with the same rpw attitude. How do you know if you and I were to dm that you and I are similar ages or that I would be able to appropriately relate to your p…
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/15 04:59 PM
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You basically described my mom. She is divorced from my dad, something that I mostly think is her fault but she hates men now too and is in a weird online dating thing with her high school sweetheart. Idk she's a nut. Anyway, when she man hates I just sit and wait for her to finish her rant. I certainly do not contribute and I don't try and reason with her because in my opinion, she is unreasonable. You aren't going to change who your mother is, you're just going to start a fight. As far as chil…
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/15 04:55 PM
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I'm glad I don't have to play that game anymore, that's all. Just got to focus on keeping my DH happy. But I always wondered why TRP made such a big deal about it but I get scared to ask them questions because they can be aggressive lol! I love rpw!
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/15 12:41 AM
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Ultimately, it is up to each individual couple to decide together how we are going to divide up our chores and errands. My husband and I believe we both should have a hand in the finances, together. If you handle it, that's fine too. If he handles it, that's fine too! My husband and I have a budget for everything and plan our our bills at the beginning of each month. We talk about our finances about every other night. I don't think it's healthy that your husband asks you if he can spend money, I…
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/15 07:10 PM
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An excellent point!
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/15 06:45 PM
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I suppose I am just glad that my husband couldn't give a flip about my number. I wish I could take back the years I partied. Not just sleeping with each boyfriend I dated, but also not saving any money, dropping out of school... I wish I could change all of it! I think 22 year old me would be appalled by how boring 26 year old me is lol
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/15 06:45 PM
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Ok I can appreciate that. It is totally a guy's call if he doesn't like the number and vice versa. I see where you're coming from. This always seemed like a random point to me but I'm glad you explained it.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/15 06:43 PM
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Oh I've deff seen it be a big deal at the red pill, I know it is over there. I suppose I can see their point in some ways but I don't like that some women who have genuinely changed for the better can be written off by such a rule. Aren't we all allowed to make mistakes?
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/15 05:48 PM
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I view this the same way I view married couples who don't share a bank account. When you're married, you're supposed to be on the same team, you're looking out for your partner, it's you and your husband against the world. If you can't do these 2 things, then why get married?
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/15 04:14 PM
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I've never heard of her, I don't have cable so I don't get comedy central but the whole time I'm thinking "she isn't pretty enough, why is she the leading role?" Like, Bill Hader isn't a 10 but he is better looking than her. It's an odd match.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/15 04:05 PM
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I honestly don't get why this is always such a big issue. I have had more partners than my husband because he is my first marriage I'm his second. He has, I'd say half the partners I've had. Neither of us care. He's more comfortable asking me questions and hearing my responses about past relationships than I am about him. He wants the discussion, I don't want to know. So it's personal preference. Idk. Like I said, I don't get why ppl make such a big deal out of this. If I could go back in time, …
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/15 04:02 PM
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Just kidding I found it in the side bar
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/15 12:39 AM
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Lol Idky in not in the IRC. What is it?
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/15 12:39 AM
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I'm heading over to your site right now! Thank you for the response!
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 11:44 PM
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Too true! See, that's why you're so highly regarded around here, Laura!
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 11:43 PM
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Have women actually said that the men commenting scare them away? Or is it just something that's been noticed, like women stop contributing? I'm just curious, it's anonymous here and so for me, the men commenting doesn't bother me. Someone suggested if we want male advice go to TRP but I would honestly be afraid of doing that because a lot of the men seem really hostile. I like coming here, it feels safe, lol!
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 11:39 PM
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Laura thank you so much for your book The Surrendered Wife. I have been married 10 months and I read it 3 or 4 months ago when I discovered RPW and I am so grateful for the changes it has made in my marriage and I feel so lucky to have discovered all of this at the beginning of my marriage. I truly appreciate all the women on RPW and your books and various efforts to help women and I just wanted the chance to say it to you "in person". Any chance you're doing a book tour? I live near Worcester M…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 11:13 PM
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It sounds like maybe this is a conversation you should have with your man because you seem to have a big disconnect in this area. Or you just agree to disagree? It almost sounds like he is telling you his job will always come first, even before you. If you're ok with that then there isn't a problem. But if you aren't... Again sounds like a conversation to have with your husband.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 10:59 PM
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"If you want him to be more of a man, try being more of a woman." LOVE that!
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 10:48 PM
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Ugh I used to strive for my life to be like hers and now I see that it really just was a train wreck. Aptly titled movie. All of its jokes have been done to death and I think it will do poorly in theaters. I think it's funny how even though the protagonist champions the way she lives, the movie is called "Train Wreck" and we all know she is going to fall in love at the end. So I guess her life style really wasn't working out for her?
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/15 05:42 PM
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I'm not sure how cheating wasn't the main concern. If she didn't think he cheated or could have possibly cheated, then why would she have a problem with this woman staying over? OP is in some serious denial.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/15 05:33 PM
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No one told you to be a sahm or sahw as it were since it doesn't sound like you guys have children. If you don't like the advice here, don't take it. But this is red pill advice. Sometimes it is about realities and harsh truths we don't want to recognize ourselves. But to attack women who see their role as an SO or wife or sahm as their primary goal in life and take immense pride in isn't right or called for. To say our priorities are out of focus.... Well I could just as easily say that about y…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/15 05:29 PM
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I will say now that I'm married and have stepsons, my mother was a very narcissistic person. She loved to sacrifice herself and then throw it in our faces as kids and my father's. Her and my dad have been divorced for like, 3 weeks now and she is the coldest person. It's like I don't even know her. I can tell that my dad is the one who held the family together and really helped shield her obvious mental illness from me and my sisters for so long. It'd too bad because now my dad has to start a ne…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/15 04:58 PM
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I really love Ian Ironwood. I think most of his articles are more geared toward men but his wife chimes in from time to time and occasionally they will be geared towards women. He's great.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/15 08:31 PM
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I found this article extremely helpful getting my man to step up:http://theredpillroom.blogspot.com/2014/09/girl-game-encouraging-your-captain-to.html?m=1
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/15 01:35 AM
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Stop complaining and find my husband funnier more often. Go to the gym!
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/15 08:13 PM
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Honestly I think it may just be his age. He's getting older and his testosterone is probably dipping. Do you have a higher libido than him or were you just throwing sex at him because you thought he wanted it? If you just thought he wanted it, I guess you can relax lol but I would research low T and see if he has other symptoms, if that's the case you may need to try and have a conversation with him about talking to his doctor.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/15 10:48 PM
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My husband and I sext and I send him sexy pics. But we're married, I wouldn't send them if I was just dating someone.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/15 12:53 AM
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Love your reddit handle btw. I couldn't come up with anything more creative than my email.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/15 12:17 PM
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A lot of the ladies I've clicked with at my church are anywhere from 15-40 years older than me! Lol I guess that makes me an old soul. I don't mind, many of the girls my age seem very clique-y and still have that feminist pov that's in our culture. That's just me. I also have sisters I can talk to about problems pertaining to my age group so maybe you're aren't as lucky. But I don't worry about the age differences so much.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/15 12:16 PM
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How long have you guys been together?
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/15 09:48 PM
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Its a must read in my opinion and many other ladies on here! But I do think if you recharge you batteries a little you'll feel better. Best of luck!
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/15 06:01 PM
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Thank you. Absolutely agree. Where can we find this guy and tell him that?
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/15 12:42 PM
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Agree. If this guy stays after all this, plus her saying he isn't a man, he's not a red pill man at least. What man puts up with all that BS?! There's no respect here, op is in denial.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/15 12:41 PM
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The book The Surrendered Wife says that if you are feeling like you need to lash out at your husband to stop and examine how much time you've been spending in yourself. Typically when we feel exhausted or at the end of our rope, it's because we haven't been spending enough time on ourselves. Now I know you haven't said you've been lashing out at your SO but I think feeling sad or insecure about yourself can also speak to a lack of me time too. Go do something nice for yourself, a manicure, get a…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/15 12:33 PM
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I think you're justified in feeling uncomfortable about that. Obviously she isn't too embarrassed if she's still texting.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/15 12:25 PM
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No problem! I used to think I needed things to be perfect and maybe I do still but it's not just about me. Women are funny like that lol.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/15 12:25 PM
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My husband and I live with his parents and 4 other siblings at the moment. We have a small apartment attached to the family home, but walls are shared with his brothers room and their kitchen. When we have sex we put the TV on and are just quieter. When we had our own place we were able to be louder and freer but look, you can't be so choosy and say this this and this have to happen for us to have sex. It's really not that important. Like why go without sex because of something? It's too importa…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/15 08:38 PM
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Omg thank you, I wasn't seeing any outrage and I was definitely feeling it. This. Is. Not. OK!! He didn't tell the other girl he has a girlfriend until recently?! That is some immature bull shit and this dude does not sound like a worthy captain. No no no
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/15 08:31 PM
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I hate that girls who make the decision to not go out and have casual sex are made to feel as though they're missing out. Missing out on what exactly? Sex is essentially the same mechanics with every man. The one you have the deepest connection with is usually the best sex. Having to see ten different penises is not missing out on something. Truthfully I wish I didn't have to see all those other shlongs!
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/15 09:17 AM
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You're not missing out on anything. Trust me. Your single friends are wishing they had a committed relationship like you.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/15 11:34 PM
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Agree. A good captain would not have made this mistake. This isn't just a "I didn't balance the checkbook correctly and we bounced a check" mistake. This is a serious assault on the relationship. I would leave and if this happened to me, in a two year relationship and married, I'd leave him too.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/15 11:56 AM
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My personal biggest fear ever. I am so sorry this happened. I can't imagine how you're feeling. I can only speak from what I would do, I would leave him. Your captain has led you astray. Time to jump ship. I personally would not be able to respect a man who cheated on me, ever. I know from personal experience, you will be suspicious and hypervigilant about every female in his life from now on, if you're like me. I would never ever be able to forgive this sort of indiscretion. I know some posters…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/15 11:54 AM
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I'm glad someone else said this because I have been feeling like that too about the OP. OK so to some men all of your notches (how many could there be? 100?) may be unattractive but there are other men who don't care so much about that. My captain has been with 3 girls his whole life me, his ex wife and a random hook up. I've slept with 6 men including him. He doesn't care. He doesn't think less of me. I think you're focusing too much on your past mistakes and really honing in on this one fact o…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/15 12:21 PM
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Pinterest is great, I also went on Etsy for my wedding. I had my MIL and SIL to help me plan and decorate, I found stuff on Etsy I liked and we went about recreating it. Because frugal often means DIY, luck a few things that you want that are sort of labor intensive and lighten up in other areas. One thing I wanted were burlap and lace Mason jar centerpieces. We made those ourselves. I didn't buy any flowers, my MIL used flowers from her many gardens for centerpieces, and I had no bouquet. Our w…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/15 12:02 PM
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I wish my husband and I had done our marriage as a church marriage rather than with the state. Too late now but if I had known a year ago there was a different way to do it....!
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/15 11:44 AM
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Very true.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/15 10:59 PM
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I agree that there are inequalities between genders and that isn't a bad thing. I suppose that's why I never understood the rage of the feminists.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/15 07:43 PM
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I totally agree with you! Thank you. I feel like this too but I'm so new to this like anti-feminism culture that it's hard for me to think of examples.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/15 05:35 PM
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Well, I think that like, statistically, there has to be inequality somewhere, however I generally feel that most of the "inequalities" are made up by feminists or statistics that are slanted to make it look like the inequalities are vast. For example I saw this statistic today and it's about the wage gap but if you actually look at the evidence, women work less, as a whole, than men so of course it's going to seem like they make less. I've always felt like women and feminists are going too far w…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/15 05:34 PM
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Generally speaking, feminism and the many "inequalities" of today are the figments of hysterical women's imaginations. Generally speaking. I know there are actually inequalities however they're not as glaring or obvious like they used to be back in the 50's 60's and 70's in America.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/15 11:40 AM
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Haha yes me too
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/15 11:35 AM
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Well to each their own, I suppose. I know it doesn't bother my husband if I curse but I feel less like a lady when I do.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/15 11:34 AM
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Good posture, manners, neat appearance, a pleasant speaking voice in volume and tone, no cursing, thinking before speaking and acting, these are all things I think of when I think of poise.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/15 07:28 PM
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After advice like that, any other reply would just be redundant or not even close to being as good. Damn.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/15 01:19 AM
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Based on my own questions that got answered by women more experience in red pill than myself, your SO was most likely upset and hurt by your actions before red pill but he was too beta/desperate to keep you happy that he suppressed it. I know you said he was OK with it but isn't it obvious from his actions now that he really wasn't? I know, it doesn't seem fair, I'm sure you talked to him and wanted him to be honest and tell you if he was fine with everything but he lied. Or he thought he was OK…
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/15 12:55 AM
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That makes sense. It seemed that this particular poster's wife was half heartedly trying to change, I can understand that sort of frustration. I introduced my husband to red pill and he at first laughed but when I showed him the philosophy and actually started practicing it, we both were pleasantly surprised at how much better our relationship got.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/15 12:46 AM
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He isn't the type to get upset easily but it was a concern. Red pill has been working so well for us for the past month. We have a different marriage!
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/15 12:44 AM
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Haha! All joking aside, I read something on married red pill about a dude who had just taken the red pill and he too had gotten really pissed off and resentful of his SO. I don't think it was for any reason close to what's going on here but one of the replies said that it was common for men to get upset at their SO after going red pill. Can anyone explain that? I'm scared I'm going to experience that now, having introduced my SO to red pill!! Edit: spelling, clarification
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/15 07:53 PM
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Omg so new to reddit I have no idea how you guys are seeing her history, I want to see it
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/15 03:33 PM
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They really do lol and they don't sugar coat often but they're always right. Set me straight a few weeks ago.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/15 03:27 PM
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Here's another thing to think about: say you guys are still together when this trip occurs. He goes, you don't know what happened, you guys get married. He's going to always think it's acceptable to travel with other women because of the precedent you set at the beginning of the relationship. He's not going to see a problem. He may not cheat this time but what about the next time? And the time after that?
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/15 10:17 AM
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I can certainly understand why a man who has only been dating a girl 5 months would prickle at the suggestion that he not be "allowed" to go on the trip. However I think most men could understand her fears. For herself, the OP should definitely set some boundaries, what she finds acceptable and not, but she should also be prepared for the fact that this seemingly terminal bachelor may tell her to take a hike.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/15 10:13 AM
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Camille you are just giving solid advice and have a completely sound argument, I just wanted to give you kudos, I've been reading this whole post and comments and yours are spot on.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/15 10:07 AM
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This has already been said by a few ladies, however I'll say it too: trusting your man is one thing, allowing certain behaviors and situations to occur where something unsavory may happen is another. I trust my husband more than I trust myself. If you think for one second I would put up with him going on a vacation with another woman that wasn't his mother or sister you're crazy. Married or dating, for me it would never happen. One of the poster's put it really well, talking about biology and we…
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/15 10:04 AM
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I also thought it was odd that you have not yet met any of his friends... Also you said to "the best of your knowledge" he talks about you to his friends. Meaning, you're assuming, but there is a chance they don't know you exist at all.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/15 10:00 AM
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It sounds like maybe in addition to having a physical health problem, he may have a mental health problem like depression. Perhaps you could encourage him to seek a mental health professional? There has to be a reason he "gave up" like you said.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/15 09:35 AM
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Yes, your plan sounds similar to mine. I don't know specifics about our account at the moment and I don't feel the need to. However if I wanted to, I can absolutely ask him to explain things what's this where's that how much is this. And we do not spend more than a set amount without discussing it first.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/15 04:43 PM
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My husband and I have joint accounts. We talk about the budget together and savings goals but atm, Idk how much money is in our checking account. My husband handles all the day to day, I write out checks for bills and he tells me when to send them, he pays the online stuff (I prefer paper he prefers electronic) but he handles everything because it stresses me out too much. I used to handle it and it would affect my whole day. SO handles it now and it's so much better for me and he likes to do it…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/15 04:40 PM
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Congrats on everything! I just got married 9 months ago, tomorrow. We had 30 ppl at the wedding, myself and my husband included. From engagement ring to dress, suit, food, decorations, cake, everything, we spent $1400 with donations of $800 and $500 from our families. We got married on his parents property, they live on 2 acres with beautiful gardens. His father and uncle barbecued our reception, in his parents yard. It was so special, it was everyone we wanted there, close family only and churc…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/15 04:35 PM
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This is beautiful. I'm so glad things are working out for you, I had the ladies here give me a similar attitude adjustment earlier in the week. This subreddit is amazing because the ladies will give us honest and helpful advice rather than the feminist blue pill crap we here from friends and family members who's own relationships are in shambles. Best of luck to you in your future wedding and marriage plans.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/15 04:29 PM
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I agree with this. If they used to hook up, I would think she is just trying to get you out of the picture so she can hook up with him again. Ask her for hard proof of what she is saying. If she gets mad and says "what you don't believe me?" or says she deleted it, she's a liar. If I had to have a conversation with a girl like this, I would have had all my proof with me the first time.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/15 01:53 PM
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Perhaps the exact percentages are off but I think the more important point is that it is happening way too often today.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/15 11:35 AM
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If you can afford it and you want to do it and your husband supports you, why wouldn't you do it?? Good for you!
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/15 11:34 AM
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I hope thats not what others see! I didn't touch the op I figure other women will learn from any and all posts so I didn't touch it other than when I edited.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/15 10:49 PM
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I feel like this is my first real milestone on our way to a red pill relationship haha
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/15 08:48 PM
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Its a process for sure lol. All the things I've let go of already has made life so much easier, I don't know why I thought it didn't apply to this aspect of life.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/15 08:41 PM
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I didn't delete the original post, I'm wondering why you can't see it.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/15 08:39 PM
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I loved your personal experiences! I know no one who is a step mother without her own children or children raised by step parents, I have no one for advice on what to do or not to do. I should deff not try and be their mother, just help their father. I get it. I do not want to breed resentment towards me from them and I certainly don't want to be the block between him and his kids. I thank you for your insight.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/15 08:16 PM
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I'm so glad I posted this problem. I knew I would get good advice here. Always coming here for advice!
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/15 08:15 PM
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He's very forgiving. He's a wonderful man.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/15 08:14 PM
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My earlier comment, now deleted, I was going to argue with you. Everyone's comments have helped me realize how absolutely asinine this was. I just picked up that book from the library a few days ago and I think I will take you steak and lingerie idea.... Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/15 07:41 PM
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You're absolutely right. I'm so used to controlling everything. I can't control this without ruining it. I'm seeing that now.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/15 07:32 PM
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I did not think of it that way until reading the comments. They may very well feel like that. I never thought about what they thought. Which seems so stupid now.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/15 07:31 PM
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You're right. So they know they can always come home to us no matter what. I hope these things get easier when I'm biologically a mother, like will a switch turn on and I'll just get it that you can always just love someone. I've been cold and selfish (and was single) for a long time. I've controlled everything in my life forever.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/15 07:30 PM
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This is TRUTH.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/15 07:29 PM
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I don't know how I didn't see this before. I do try and control everything. And I've been realizing as I've been letting go of things this past month that I hate being in charge of everything. I don't want to be the leader. This is just one more thing. It all just became so clear to me now like I can't tell you.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/15 07:28 PM
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I want to say thank you to everyone who posted. I read the comments and GEEZ I get what men mean when they say women "hamster". His parents have always been there for the kids. I'm new! How could they just trust me off the bat, right? I'm going to apologize to him right now. I freaking love this subreddit. I really do get it now thank you so much I'm so glad this helped.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/15 07:16 PM
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You're absolutely right. I was honestly hoping you would see my post, I always read your advice on here and it's always good. I will trust him. How could I gave been so stupid. They feel more entitled to call the shots than me because they've been there since the kids were born. I haven't. I'm so stupid.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/15 07:13 PM
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This is less about the kids and more about his parents. The boys and I have a good relationship. I want to make sure they have proper structure when they're with us. I am upset because I feel like none of the adults in their lives including their mother are like, instilling values in them. They had the boys young. They were 18 when the oldest was born. They never planned to be parents and that caused a lot of problems and I hate that the boys were and are still subjected to it.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/15 07:11 PM
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Neither of us think me speaking to them on my own is a good idea. I've also tried to explain to his mother (the main culprit) before what I'm trying to do and I ask her for advice and we talk a lot about the kids. So I know she knows I'm frustrated. But I really don't think it's my personal place to call them out, I think my husband should be the one to do it.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/15 06:40 PM
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I expected someone to say this to me. I suppose my main issue is how am I supposed to just accept that I'm not worth that respect to anyone if he decides to not change it? That his parents can treat me however they want to my current step kids and then possibly my own biological children later and he won't say anything? How can I be with someone who doesn't think I deserve that respect enough to try and help me?
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/15 06:39 PM
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I like that idea however we only have the kids every other weekend. It's not enough time to split.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/15 06:33 PM
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August
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/15 06:32 PM
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My husband filed for bankruptcy. Long story short he broke a federal law before I met him and we are now making payments of almost $500 a month to the government for a grand total of 137k. I make 20k take home he's about 25k. These payments have crippled us financially at the moment and we are trying to add them every month plus child support plus the fees for filing for bankruptcy. It's been a shit show.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/15 06:31 PM
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We live in the apartment off of their house at the moment. My husband had lost his job and so we moved in. It is temporary, but we've been there since August. It may be another 6 months or so until we are able to move out.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/15 04:19 PM
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This post deserved more likes. Never lie to your husband!!
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/15 11:19 PM
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I really like this answer and it was sort of my feeling when I read this post over on rpw. I agree with op, the responses seemed passive aggressive. Your answer is great though. My husband takes his belt and tie off in the kitchen every night even though he's on his way to the bedroom to change. I used to get PISSED (pre-rp) about this and was even passive aggressive (I started hiding them until he realized he was missing every belt) and nothing worked. And then I talked to my MIL one day and sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/15 11:18 PM
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I would like to respectfully disagree about it being her period. I suppose it could be, it could be a lot of things, but I have never had the urge to act like that ever, on my period. I've been keeping up with OP's story and his wife just sounds so completely psychotic to me. She doesn't even sound like a normal woman. I keep seeing awalt and some are like that and are extremely manipulative but... She more just sounds mentally disturbed.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/15 11:11 PM
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Daaaaaaaaaamn what a difference in your body!
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/15 10:45 PM
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Perhaps 100% custody of children to a father is rare, I would agree with that however 50-50 is not rare at all. If both parents are contributing members of society and decent parents each has the exact same right to see and raise the children so neither parent should have full 100% custody. So it's not as if when a man leaves the mother of his children he never sees the children again. My husband sees his kids from his first marriage more than ever before because he has set days he gets them and…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/15 12:58 AM
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Of course I understand your reservations but I makes me sad that men think like this now. I hate that no one can commit to things anymore and it's all about "what can I get from this person?" that's why trp appealed to me so much in the beginning. I hope whatever you find in life makes you so so happy. Marriage or not! <3
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/15 12:52 AM
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Totally agree about prenups! I'm my husband's second wife and he got completely hosed in his divorce. I suggested the idea of a prenup to benefit both of us because I didn't want him to feel any reserve about us getting married and also I am wanting to own my own business and I don't want to lose half of it. Prenups are great and imo, today they are no absolute necessity to protect against getting screwed in a divorce.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/15 12:49 AM
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Its funny that you mention befriending women who are older than you because that's what I do. I'm 26 and I am BFF's (literally) with my MIL and I also spend more time with the moms in my church who are 40-ish lol. They are just more on my level.
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/15 01:45 PM
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That's really excellent advice and it does work, I have personal experience of it working for me in my early 20's. You'll be happier and you'll barely notice if one person stops coming around.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/15 07:11 PM
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When my husband and I were dating, he was a horrible impulse buyer. A thousand dollars a month on red bull, a doughnut, iced coffee, etc. I'm a saver, however I have the hardest time balancing a check book. He was banker for a long time but I was concerned about his impulse buying. We both got on the same page financially by reading and using Dave Ramsey's Financial Peace and it has been life changing. We have the same goals now and we have a budget for everything you can think of. I write the c…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/15 07:08 PM
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Ugh, I think just brainwashed by feminist ideals her whole life. She needs an attitude adjustment.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/15 06:21 PM
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I like your answer, it's good advice and good life lessons for women.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/15 06:06 PM
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I have had sex with six different men, including the man that is now my husband. Now it is a little confusing to me, a new rpw, when I look on trp and the men for the most part don't like their women to have a high partner count, but they encourage each other to spin plates, so it confuses me, I would love some clarification from a red pill guy or rpw. My husband knows all about my life and vice versa, we have been friends forever. So I don't think a number matters at all, it's more loyalty to a…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/15 06:01 PM
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Women don't like to feel judged lol. I know it's stupid but I probably would have deleted it too if I were her.
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/15 01:08 PM
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Thank you! I wanted to see the op!
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/15 01:06 PM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/15 02:30 AM
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I can assure you the need for lube is because it's just a few weeks where I have no sex drive, however I don't use that against my husband so we use lube. I'm 26 so I doubt it's my age ;-)
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/15 08:36 PM
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So idk if I should be posting or what not, I'm super new to this, I'm a woman, but I am loving the red pill lifestyle, learning about it etc. I am on the same generic bc your wife is on and have been for two years, before that I was on a different generic bc, came 3 month deal. So I'm sort of an expert IMHO ;) I noticed for me personally the whole first month I have the raging hormones as if I was ovulating, I'm super horny, and other stuff that's prob tmi. The second month my drive dips and my …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/15 11:26 PM
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I have found really nice clothes on Jen Clothing, Sierra Brooke and Salt clothing. They have a more modern feel but are usually knee length or longer and more modest than traditional dresses, skirts, and tops.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/15 09:43 PM
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I thought the same thing. I was like "oh Ok we can't hate fat ppl but you can call skinny ladies bitches"
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/15 12:44 AM
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I would say just observe your man and his habits, his routines, his preferences and some of the weaker areas of his life and see where you can interject your help. Does he frequently forget to set his alarm for the morning? (mine does) so I remind him or I set it for him. My husband is not organized and his ex gets pissed if the kids come back to her in our clothes versus her clothes. So I have a designated "go home bag" for the kids and taught them to put their mom's clothes in it when they com…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/15 12:23 AM
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