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Discussionvioletskies7/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 09:43 PM
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you’re still failing to provide one.
/r/MensRights21/03/22 01:07 AM
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no, this is you deflecting. i challenge you to provide me with a scientific article that supports this fact. if you cannot do so, you’ve clearly lost this argument.
/r/MensRights21/03/22 12:30 AM
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aw, what a lame answer. you didn’t even answer my questions. probably because you know that your views can be easily contradicted. either that, or you’re trying to debate something you’re not even educated on… what a shocker. call me a nutcase all you want, but by refusing to respond intelligently you’re just showing that you don’t have the capacity to.
/r/MensRights20/03/22 09:43 PM
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according to what study?
/r/MensRights20/03/22 05:25 PM
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says who?
/r/MensRights20/03/22 04:42 AM
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…. everything is a made up term. we made up language. cisgender is in the dictionary.
/r/MensRights20/03/22 03:57 AM
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this paragraph is blatantly unreadable and you contradicted yourself multiple times.
/r/MensRights20/03/22 03:57 AM
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what do you mean “biology is a fact”? first of all, in science we use the word “theories”, not “facts”. you’d know that if you were in the field. i don’t know what you mean by “they can’t change their sex”. what defines your sex?
/r/MensRights20/03/22 03:56 AM
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because they’re really women trans women are “really women.” you’ve been respectful for most of this debate. don’t go saying transphobic things as if it proves your point. like i said, i don’t personally have anything against trans women divisions but i’m not sure if that would ever happen or not.
/r/MensRights20/03/22 03:23 AM
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trans people do have rights. i never said they didn’t. i’m asking YOU if you think they should have rights. ie… the right to identify how they choose and have surgery. but.. it does make you that sex. you can change your sex on legal documents. not sure who made you in charge of the law.
/r/MensRights20/03/22 03:14 AM
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oh, it’s not a delusion! not sure why you’d think that. you can change sex, and many people have! so not sure why you’re saying you can’t when there’s living proof of it happening. you’re still confused about the pronouns! it’s okay, i’m patient. you’ll get it. she! her! have you seen her dna? oh.. you haven’t? interesting.. how can you be sure what sex chromosomes she has, then?
/r/MensRights20/03/22 02:59 AM
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yep. but we’re talking about trans women too, and comparing them to cis women. that’s why i said cis women.
/r/MensRights20/03/22 02:57 AM
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still avoiding my question, huh? typical. a once sentence response really isn’t valid.. i’m going to assume you’re stuck and don’t know how to respond.
/r/MensRights20/03/22 02:56 AM
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it is the most biology that exists. what the fuck is the sentence supposed to say? it’s not as complex as it gets, seeing as some people are born without a penis/vagina or with something inbetween. also, you’re confusing sex with gender, which i shouldn’t have to explain to you. look it up.
/r/MensRights20/03/22 02:55 AM
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you must be confused! i get it, it can be hard to grasp at first for some people. she transitioned to a woman, and so we call her she! hope this helps ❤️
/r/MensRights20/03/22 02:11 AM
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okay, so you don’t think trans people should have rights?
/r/MensRights20/03/22 02:09 AM
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how exactly have i lost this “argument”, lol? all we’ve done is share our respective opinions. there’s no proof to this debate, it’s literally just how we feel about the topic. it astounds me that competitive sports are so much more important to you than human rights? sports are primarily for entertainment and money which imo, are both far less important than making sure trans people are comfortable.
/r/MensRights20/03/22 02:08 AM
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at the expense of fairness yes, i’ve stated tons of times that fairness is really not the most important thing in the world. neither are sports. i’m big on human rights, surprisingly. would i want someone with lesser skills than me to get a promotion? no… in this case though, aren’t the cis women the ones with lesser skills?
/r/MensRights20/03/22 02:06 AM
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it’s going to be a thing. okay, get back to me when it’s in the dictionary. otherwise keep it out of a debate. incredibly dense ad hominem! should i start a counter? i’m not asking you to explain “basic biology” to me. i’m a biology major. what i’m asking you to do is to explain exactly which biological processes you are referring to. ie. is it unnatural when your genitalia doesn’t match your chromosomes? when your gender doesn’t match your genitalia? when your hormones are different than the ho…
/r/MensRights20/03/22 02:02 AM
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i never claimed for them to be physically equal. why are you arguing a point i don’t disagree with? cis women are not physically equal either. some are taller, shorter, more muscular, skinnier. regardless, my opinion is that despite the fact that they are not physically equal, they should still be allowed to compete against each other. i don’t know why you’re still using the words equality and fairness. i believe in equity over those two things. you can say “it’s not fair” all you want but it’s …
/r/MensRights20/03/22 01:57 AM
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you can use slang all you want, but keep in mind it doesn’t really have a place in debate. especially if it’s a self declared term that nobody else knows. what biological processes are you referring to?
/r/MensRights20/03/22 01:18 AM
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anyone with any sense ad hominem :) you sound entitled thinking your opinion is the one and only truth. it’s an opinion. what exactly do you consider a male body? where do we draw the line? what about a trans women who’s had surgery so that her body is just like a cis woman’s? and what if she’s on the same hormones a cis woman has? my point is, are we going to inspect everyone’s bodies to determine if they’re “woman” enough to compete? cis women have extremely varying bodies and they still all c…
/r/MensRights20/03/22 12:34 AM
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i prioritize equity over fairness. hence why i said that i’d raise my children differently than you raised yours. make sacrifices for those who need help, and ask for help when you’re the one who needs it. life isn’t fair and the least we can do is lean on each other and give equity to those who are hurting. i don’t know how to address your last paragraph because being transracial is not a thing. even suggesting that makes you sound stupid asf
/r/MensRights20/03/22 12:23 AM
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i’m not talking about “in sports”. i’m talking about in life. what’s more important? competitive sports or human rights? that’s the question. now, i wouldn’t be against a division for trans women, but we’d have to consult how they feel about that, wouldn’t we?
/r/MensRights20/03/22 12:14 AM
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wokies? can you use actual words, please? lmfao it’s like you didn’t even read my fucking comment. i said that MTF trans athletes have an advantage. then you respond “pretending trans women are physically equal to cis women is bs!!” like, dude.. thanks for reaffirming what i just fucking said. also, being trans is natural, so i don’t know why you’re implying otherwise. gender is a complex biological and societal subject that i think you need to look into a bit more before you come to that conclu…
/r/MensRights20/03/22 12:13 AM
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well, i would raise my daughter differently than you would raise yours, and there is nothing wrong with that. first of all, i would never tell her to give up her dreams because she missed out on a scholarship. there are other scholarships.. there are other ways to get money, and hopefully i would be able to support her financially. my children will grow up learning about transgender people and both biological and societal aspects of it. i have faith in the fact that my daughter would want trans …
/r/MensRights20/03/22 12:10 AM
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hey, like i said, i know that being MTF is an extreme advantage to her. never denied that? thing is, what’s more important? athletics? or supporting trans people? that’s really the choice that people are going to have to make and personally i would choose the latter.
/r/MensRights19/03/22 10:19 PM
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here’s the thing.. why don’t we consider trans men? clearly they would have a physical disadvantage. should we give them an easier time at tryouts and make sure we have trans men on male sports teams, even if they’re not as physically capable? no, that doesn’t make sense. they’re still men and it sucks that they might have a disadvantage but they should have to compete against men all the same. if trans men don’t get a handicap, then trans women shouldn’t be punished for being stronger.
/r/MensRights19/03/22 09:59 PM
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i can agree that because she was born male, she is likely to have a physical advantage. that being said, everyone i see complaining about this on facebook is calling her a man and generally being transphobic. i think people use this as an excuse to be transphobic because they think they can get away with it in this scenario. not letting her compete would be wrong to me. trans rights are more important than sports in my opinion. i get that some girls might be frustrated but it’s not like people a…
/r/MensRights19/03/22 09:55 PM
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you need to be told the same thing repeatedly and you can’t connect things even most of the time based on.. what? the three comments i’ve sent you? all i’ve done is question the validity of your sources and the conclusions you’re choosing to draw from them. what’s wrong with that? it’s not ‘no data’ how? what exactly is your data on the murders of indigenous men and who is committing them? are you seriously trying to say you have data on that based off of an article about women? the article isn’…
/r/MensRights18/03/22 07:39 PM
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no, the first paragraph you quote. that was the second paragraph. There are similarities across all female homicides. Most homicides were committed by men and most of the perpetrators knew their victims — whether as an acquaintance or a spouse. you took this paragraph as proof that indigenous homicides are mostly committed by other indigenous people, but this paragraph isn’t even about indigenous people. that’s all i’m saying. I realize you are very very slow. ad hominem fallacy! sorry, that art…
/r/MensRights18/03/22 06:31 PM
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if you had to look it up you had no basis for your claim what do you mean? you asked me for a source.. what, did you want one from a library book? everything is online. just an fyi, the term indigenous people(s) is preferred over aboriginal, so please use indigenous people(s) in the future. saying aboriginals as a plural is similar to saying “blacks”. in the first paragraph you quote, you are misunderstanding it. it says “all female homicides”. in this particular paragraph they are not talking o…
/r/MensRights18/03/22 04:51 PM
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i’m not defensive… this is a debate, to be clear. if you’re not interested in a debate then don’t reply to me. Here’s an official government document.
/r/MensRights18/03/22 04:41 AM
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it’s not stopping them from running, it’s stopping them from winning. younger people run.
/r/MensRights18/03/22 04:37 AM
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i don’t have numbers on hand. if you’re insinuating that the numbers between missing indigenous women and men are equal, or further, that there are more indigenous men missing than women, that would be a counter-claim. the person who makes the counter-claim is, in fact, the one who must provide the evidence. so go nuts, google scholar is free. make sure your articles are peer reviewed or i’m not reading them.
/r/MensRights18/03/22 12:29 AM
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what’s stopping them is the fact that we have so many older voters. in the 70s, the median age was 26. meaning, there were around the same amount of people older than 26 as there were younger. in 2020, the median age was 41, meaning younger voters have way less influence than they had previously. this, in my opinion, is what’s keeping older people (and those with traditional values) in power. plus, it makes sense that they’re more likely to run, as there are more of them. i suppose this issue wi…
/r/MensRights18/03/22 12:27 AM
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hey, not at all. your reply was very polite
/r/MensRights17/03/22 07:46 PM
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that makes sense, but you’re not even considering the voting system. you realize the US doesn’t do a majority vote, right? to get any real data you’d have to see which areas have the most women, who these women are voting for, etc.
/r/MensRights17/03/22 06:47 PM
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when did i mention teenagers? that’s a pretty random conclusion to draw. no, leaders in their 30s sounds great to me. someone who doesn’t have super outdated beliefs and gets what the people of today need. why would i want someone who’s over the hump making decisions about my future when they won’t even be alive to see it?
/r/MensRights17/03/22 04:56 PM
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i’m just thinking out loud. like i said, i don’t even really believe in patriarchy myself, so i don’t know why everyone else is going nuts. that being said, i would agree with you. however, i am not indigenous, and i think the single most important thing is to listen to them and their beliefs on the topic. i have a feeling that patriarchy isn’t really top of their issue list anyway.
/r/MensRights17/03/22 04:53 PM
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aren’t there equal numbers of men and women? how do women have more power in a majority vote?
/r/MensRights17/03/22 04:50 PM
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not trying to. i think it can be racism and other things. if equal amounts of indigenous men and women were missing, it would be simple racism. if significantly more women are missing.. well, then that’s a gender imbalance at the very least. what i don’t get is how much of a gender imbalance you need to have for it to be considered “patriarchy”
/r/MensRights17/03/22 05:58 AM
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don’t get me wrong, i don’t want women in power just because they’re women. i want a good leader regardless of gender. honestly, i think one of the main issues is that we elect old people. also.. women can be misogynistic just like men can be misandrist, just saying.
/r/MensRights17/03/22 05:56 AM
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what do you mean by “women have more voting power?” genuinely asking
/r/MensRights17/03/22 05:52 AM
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yeah, i’d like to see the source as well.
/r/MensRights17/03/22 05:52 AM
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waahhhhhhh you poor thing
/r/MensRights17/03/22 05:50 AM
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for who?
/r/MensRights17/03/22 01:27 AM
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i’m in canada. i would say for women of colour, it certainly does. considering the amount of missing and murdered indigenous women there are and the complete lack of media coverage on it. for white women.. ehh, i don’t know. women face misogyny for sure, but not so much in a legal sense, just in a societal. and i would say the issue is gender discrimination in general, since men experience it too for different issues (and i’m not a fan of the claim that men’s issues are a result of patriarchy). …
/r/MensRights17/03/22 01:24 AM
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you’re complaining about support? lmfao, being all “woe is me” is not going to change anything for you
/r/MensRights17/03/22 01:16 AM
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what i meant is that generally, women are more selective with who they have sex with. obviously some women don’t care, but most women will only sleep with men they find very attractive/have a connection with. men, more often than women, are open to sleeping with women they are not as attracted to for the sake of having sex. women are just choosier in most cases
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 11:38 PM
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men want sex more than women. women would rather stay single longer in order to end up with a really good man. therefore you have a bunch of women who are waiting by choice and not dating average men
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 08:29 PM
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i think you misread my comment. we’re talking about opting out of fatherhood, not opting out of child support.
/r/MensRights14/03/22 04:13 PM
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yeah, that’s why child support exists.. but what i don’t get is what’s wrong with this scenario.
/r/MensRights14/03/22 04:03 PM
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this is my stance also.
/r/MensRights14/03/22 04:02 PM
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well.. why does the option to opt out of fatherhood and pay child support exist if it’s not okay?
/r/MensRights14/03/22 04:46 AM
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DV history sounds like a motive, not a defence.
/r/MensRights12/02/22 03:04 AM
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you know that everyone has a different reaction to weed, right? it effects every single user differently. to claim that something is impossible is a massive claim and i think you’re pulling it out of your ass. my town has a huge homeless population. everywhere throughout the town. if you take a ten minute walk it’s likely you’d pass ten homeless people. but good job making assumptions on who i am based off your personal experience. i’ll give you a life tip: personal experience means absolutely n…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 05:41 AM
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i would think that calling someone a worthless cunt would be worse than calling them a coward. i’m curious about the specifics though? was the warning from a subreddit or from reddit themselves?
/r/MensRights08/02/22 12:13 AM
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a weed smoker = anyone who smokes weed. i don’t know why you feel the need to define people by what drugs they do, what alcohol they drink, their habits.. they’re a person first. if a guy starts his day with half a bag and then starts programming from home, for example, you’d say he’s a programmer, not that he’s a weed smoker. what about those who do not have access to showers or grooming products? who don’t have razors? usually when people can not afford new clothes they are also unable to affo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 09:28 PM
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lmfao. you cannot recognize every weed smoker from appearance alone. many people smoke weed and are very successful and intelligent. but again, nice generalization, asshole! also, classist? you only respect manual labourers and people who dress nice? what about those who can’t afford new clothes? do you immediately disrespect them simply because you’re more well off? i can tell that you’re extremely arrogant.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 04:35 PM
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no, money from pro-lifers pockets should go towards artificial wombs because they’re the only ones that care.
/r/MensRights07/02/22 12:17 AM
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really? i haven’t encountered a pro-lifer that supports it fully yet. as a pro-choicer i am only okay with it if it is only as invasive as a regular abortion, and if the funding for it doesn’t come out of my pocket. if pro-lifers want to save the babies they can pay for it.
/r/MensRights07/02/22 12:17 AM
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any women i’ve ever met doesn’t give a fuck about any men and their feelings generalization and only seeing what you want to see! plenty of women care about men. you’re choosing not to acknowledge them because it doesn’t fit your “im the victim” narrative.
/r/MensRights07/02/22 12:15 AM
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more power to you if you don’t want to have sex. often being celibate is a good way to become happy and confident with yourself.
/r/MensRights07/02/22 12:14 AM
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i literally cannot read this
/r/MensRights06/02/22 07:42 PM
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nobody’s stopping you from doing that if it makes you happy.
/r/MensRights06/02/22 07:41 PM
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and you’re talking down to me again. saying respect is earned is like saying someone is guilty until proven innocent. do you just walk around disrespecting people you don’t know? i agree with the fact that i don’t have to respect someone just because they’re my elder, for example. but i would show them respect until they give me a reason not to.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 07:32 PM
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your second sentence sounded sarcastic to me and that’s why i chose to ignore it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 03:08 AM
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there’s guns for hunting… lol. the average citizen cannot own a handgun and it is illegal to shoot someone even if they break into your home.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 02:51 AM
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there are people in my community with opposing views, but i’ve not personally talked to any of them
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 02:50 AM
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when did i generalize a gender?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 02:49 AM
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i can’t exactly remember how it came up in conversation but i talk to them often.
/r/MensRights06/02/22 02:49 AM
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what’s your point here? pro-lifers love to preach that they care about women but fetuses shouldn’t be killed. when proposed with an option to have both, they either think it’s too weird, the fetus won’t have enough of a motherly connection, or they don’t want to pay taxes towards funding it.
/r/MensRights05/02/22 10:54 PM
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i bring it up as a hypothetical. their issue is killing the fetus. okay, so what if we had abortion where the fetus survives? would they be willing to pay for it? because i wouldn’t be.
/r/MensRights05/02/22 10:43 PM
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you doubt it? you literally know nothing about me. red pillers are always generalizing women (and apparently you’re calling me a liar too.) your experience isn’t the objective truth. your experience can be whatever you want it to be, it’s irrelevant. prove that guys need to be more charismatic, smart and confident than girls in modern dating with a peer-reviewed study and maybe i’d be open to listening to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 10:41 PM
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when did i say it was near being developed?
/r/MensRights05/02/22 10:37 PM
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it’s very normal for cities to have similar thought processes. small towns especially, everyone is raised with a similar worldview. i don’t know why you think it’s so odd to have a heavily left leaning or right leaning city.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 10:35 PM
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fetus gets removed alive. placed in an incubator. no strings attached for the mother.
/r/MensRights05/02/22 07:23 PM
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i’d bet money that you wouldn’t. you don’t know me, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 07:20 PM
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hahaha. i know for a fact that the women in my life that would make wonderful long term spouses would not go for a red piller. red pillers attract women who are in it for the sex, who aren’t super loyal, etc. because that’s the type of woman that’s into the red pill type.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 05:47 PM
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i’m not opposed to it. for some reason, whenever i suggest this to pro-lifers as a solution to abortion they’re not really into it.
/r/MensRights05/02/22 05:43 PM
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i bEt yOu rEaLly bELiEvE tHaT dOnT yOu 🤓 shut the fuck up lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 05:41 PM
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i disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 05:40 PM
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so you’re saying no red piller has the goal of a long term relationship? there’s another reason to get rid of them. one to two dates? are you nuts lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 05:40 PM
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i mean.. the men i know are very respectful and always respect other men. i think it’s just you buddy. i’d love to show the girls you’re trying to score this conversation
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 05:39 PM
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where’s your source on that percentage?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 05:36 PM
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all it took was for my bf to message me and say hi. after that, we both put the same amount of effort in. i wouldn’t really consider that red pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 05:36 PM
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it’s really not. i live in the most hippie part of the country possible
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 05:35 PM
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there’s another reason i’d leave. making generalizations about women and what they like. are you assuming i’m into bad boys? why would you assume that? i do need respect and i deserve respect as a bare minimum. i would not let anyone treat me any less. if my bf says something that hurts me, i let him know immediately and it never happens again. that’s why i’m with him. idk why you’re bragging about being an abuser but from what you’ve said here alone i know you’re not even worth having a convers…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 07:42 AM
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it worked for my boyfriend so idk wtf you’re talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 07:39 AM
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what do you mean they’ve “gotten what they want” from me? do you forget that there are tons of people out there who are heartbroken after getting dumped? for your second question, it’s really situational. i know for a fact that red pill is not as simple as “tips on how to get girls”. it’s a community that assumes all women want the same things in a man and that there’s a particular type of man they will go for (top 10%). this is generalizing which i do not appreciate. i also don’t appreciate whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 07:38 AM
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you’re more than welcome to. red pill guys only get girls that are into that type of man.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 07:32 AM
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i mean, that’s fine. not everyone seeks a relationship full of fire. some of us like calmness and safety in a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 07:32 AM
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to some extent. ie.. be a polite and kind person.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 07:31 AM
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what about my comment doesn’t sound serious? literally everyone i know holds the same view as me. that’s what living in a different part of the world is like. way to criticize an entire country, lol. i have plenty of american friends, but when i say “i hate americans”, you’re who i’m talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 01:24 AM
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are you a fucking caveman? what the fuck are you hunting? i don’t sit back and let things happen to me. i’m working incredibly hard to get my bio degree. my man is working incredibly hard at his retail job. we work well as a team and that’s why we’re together. just because you need to strategize to get a girl doesn’t mean all men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 01:22 AM
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we don’t need protection here in canada, because there’s no guns. isn’t that funny? i don’t like aggressive men. gun obsessed men are nearly always aggressive.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 01:19 AM
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mindset is absolutely everything. character traits, personality.. yes, of course. i’m not going to date someone who is anti-lgbt, pro-gun, etc, because my beliefs are more important to me than that. that extends to some smaller beliefs too, like red pill, especially since that specifically applies to dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 01:00 AM
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well, there are common traits among red pillers that are unwanted. but let’s say for hypothetical reasons that he doesn’t possess those traits and he is perfect except he’s red pill. if he’s red pill, he believes in strategy, not love, not fate, etc.. he got me through strategy, not through being his true self. either he continues using strategy throughout the rest of our relationship and he’s being fake, or he loses the facade and suddenly issues come up. i quite like having a boyfriend that th…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 12:58 AM
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what do you mean by the best option? the best option for me is someone with a similar mindset to me (aka, not a red piller)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 12:51 AM
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he’s not. i already know that, lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 12:51 AM
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not really.. i see it similarly to me finding out a while into dating that the man i’m seeing is a republican. if i left him because of it, it would be because our worldviews don’t match up. same with red pillers. i doubt they would be able to hide it from me, but if you have TRP worldview then we are just not really on the same page.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 12:50 AM
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so… if i find out you’re a red piller and leave you because of that fact, then what? which of your strategies helps you in that scenario?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 12:14 AM
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it depends on how you define maturity. boys and girls can be immature in different (or the same) ways. i think it depends more on how you’re raised over your gender. that being said, i don’t usually use my own personal experiences to prove a point, because everyone sees and experiences different things. i’m sure lots of people live in communities with mature boys and immature girls. you’re making a claim that girl’s minds mature faster (a fact that your entire belief relies on) and yet you have …
/r/MensRights05/02/22 12:10 AM
1

like i said… just because i personally don’t think they’re okay doesn’t mean they aren’t okay. people can do whatever they choose. i never questioned anyone? so idk what you’re talking about. i shared my opinion and i rlly don’t care if you agree with me or not
/r/MensRights04/02/22 07:29 PM
1

do you have a link to a study about women’s minds maturing faster?
/r/MensRights04/02/22 07:28 PM
1

not really.. bodies maturing and minds maturing are definitely different things
/r/MensRights04/02/22 02:40 AM
1

i don’t have a problem with it being legal at a certain age, i have a problem when people completely 180 on someone’s 18th birthday. either it should get gradually more morally okay as you approach your 18th birthday and then it’s fully okay as you turn 18, or, it should be barely okay on your 18th birthday and gradually become more and more morally okay as you age. does that not make sense?
/r/MensRights03/02/22 07:04 PM
1

you pulled the “it goes both ways!!” card when i’d already stated that in my original comment.
/r/MensRights03/02/22 07:02 PM
1

that’s not me deciding. if someone disagrees with gay marriage that doesn’t automatically make it not okay. in lots of cases age gap relationships work out fine. my parents were in one when they had me. my dad was 20 yrs older than my mom. i have a problem when older people consistently are only attracted to people the same age as their children. i wonder why they aren’t attracted to people closer to their own age.
/r/MensRights03/02/22 07:02 PM
1

i literally stated “this goes for any gender dynamic” and you’re still on my ass about it?
/r/MensRights03/02/22 06:15 PM
0

nobody decides, that’s my opinion. how is age gap dating related to gay dating? “if one’s okay so is the other” they’re literally completely different topics? explain that to me.
/r/MensRights03/02/22 06:14 PM
1

legally, yes. how does it make sense for something to be wrong one day and morally okay the next? the person in question hasn’t developed any more from age 17 to age 18. it’s the same person.
/r/MensRights03/02/22 06:12 PM
0

why am i 200 pounds? lmfao you clearly don’t know me or how long i’ve been involved in this community. i bet you call people snowflakes when your insults upset them but here you are losing your mind over my opinion.. need to take a breather, bud?
/r/MensRights03/02/22 06:11 PM
0

i do not like old people. does that make me ageist? idc
/r/MensRights03/02/22 06:07 PM
1

you clearly didn’t read my whole comment.
/r/MensRights03/02/22 06:06 PM
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i know, but i see plenty of people calling it pedophilia.
/r/MensRights03/02/22 06:05 PM
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you better hire someone else to write it, because i could barely read this post
/r/MensRights03/02/22 06:29 AM
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that’s my opinion love. i’m not going to walk up to someone in an age gap relationship and tell them to break up.
/r/MensRights03/02/22 06:20 AM
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they can fuck who they choose too, but that doesn’t mean it’s a healthy relationship. people under 25 do not have fully developed brains and are a lot more likely to get involved in a power imbalance. i’m not saying people shouldn’t have age gap relationships, i’m saying they should be careful, and it’s weird when old men only go after barely legal women. sure, it could be their type, but in a lot of cases they also wish they could date under that age of majority. it doesn’t make much sense to m…
/r/MensRights03/02/22 06:19 AM
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a lot of people have issues with dating those under 25 if you’re more than a couple years older than them. the brain is not fully developed until then so it’s much easier to have power imbalances with an age gap containing someone under 25.
/r/MensRights03/02/22 06:07 AM
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yes, it is okay to have preferences. is it okay for a 60 year old man to prefer 20 year old women? no. is it okay for a 60 year old woman to prefer 20 year old men? also no.
/r/MensRights03/02/22 05:03 AM
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it wouldn’t really work with a mix of undercover cops, because it’s rare that men are catcalled from cars. that’s what i’m trying to say. the men would have nobody to catch. i never EVER claimed that men don’t get harassed by women. that is not what i asked. this investigation is specifically about catcalling from cars, and that is what i was asking if men experience. i also never claimed sexism doesn’t exist against men. why are you assuming i have all of these beliefs and taking a defensive po…
/r/MensRights01/02/22 08:55 PM
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so you think these undercover cops are going to lie about a man shouting at them? just choose a random man driving down the road and say “that’s the one i’m going to frame”? i don’t know the details of the investigation because i can’t get that from a news article. obviously the undercover force has to be made up of women. but i’m willing to bet money on the fact that the force itself has men in it who are working behind the scenes to pull these men over and such. you seem to have a problem with…
/r/MensRights01/02/22 07:54 PM
1

can you further explain how this is sexist in execution?
/r/MensRights01/02/22 07:49 PM
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what’s happening in this video? is it similar to exposure therapy? or is that dude just being a massive dick?
/r/MensRights01/02/22 12:34 AM
2

yeah that was what i was thinking, lol. why would men have a problem with people actually catching misogynists? isn’t that better than blaming the entire gender for it
/r/MensRights01/02/22 12:33 AM
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for sure. it’s all interesting. i have a pet peeve of people making up percentages though lol. because percentages are meant to be pretty exact.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 08:05 PM
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i’m not sure where you live, but it’s an interesting perspective. where i live, we definitely have enough people and most younger people are having 0-2 kids. where i live, these new “dating mechanics” are not really an issue.
/r/MensRights30/01/22 08:04 PM
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yes, that’s a key part of evolution by natural selection. women had to have kids with the strongest men (or more attractive, when that started being important to society). it’s simple survival of the fittest and the best way to guarantee your bloodline is successful. i have a problem with people making up stats to prove their points, though (or reading a stat on reddit and assuming it’s true instead of researching it yourself). could such a vital and commonly referenced red pill statistic be fak…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 07:52 PM
1

what do you mean by “not working?”
/r/MensRights30/01/22 07:49 PM
1

if someone asks for honest opinions and gets mad at your honest answer, then yes, that’s stupid. there’s a difference between dressing disrespectfully for the occasion (funerals, weddings, etc) and dressing for everyday wear. for everyday wear, people can quite literally wear whatever they want and there’s no use criticizing someone’s everyday style as they’re not hurting anyone.
/r/MensRights30/01/22 07:48 PM
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thanks for the stats, but none of them are this top 10% rule that red pillers base their entire viewpoint on. person i was talking to even deleted their comments because they didn’t have a source.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 07:45 PM
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so you don’t have a study to link me to that has this 10% fact?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 06:56 AM
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i don’t care for this debate it’s not a debate? i asked for a source? i have to assume you don’t have one.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 06:41 AM
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i’ve always wondered where this “top 10% of men” thing came from. like was there an actual study done? or did y’all make up a number and run with it? i’d love to see the study if there is one. 30 likes in one day with the only attractive one being a chick promoting her onlyfans. i just had a convo with a guy who said women who are single (and don’t want to be) are just single because they are too picky. they don’t want the men that want them. sounds like this is your scenario in vice versa. if a…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 06:25 AM
2

yep, that’s wrong. either gender can decide to stay single.
/r/MensRights30/01/22 06:16 AM
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whoever runs the platform. pretty much every platform has a hate speech policy in place already. i support them. except in cases where misandry is not taken down too. it’s not about what you can or cannot read, it’s regulating what you can/cannot say (post).
/r/MensRights30/01/22 06:15 AM
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i can agree with that. like i said, i don’t like the demands/complaints. if you’re choosing to be single, that’s a choice you’re making.
/r/MensRights30/01/22 03:48 AM
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i’m the same way.
/r/MensRights30/01/22 03:47 AM
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that’s kind of true today. i personally wouldn’t have a problem with a man complimenting me but again there’s a fine line “hey, i just wanted to say i really like your dress!” is different then “hey, that dress looks realllyyy good on you ;)” either way, i do agree that casual flirting is incredibly hard to do these days. i can usually tell a man’s intentions by the way he speaks and whether he’s giving me a genuine compliment or he wants something out of it
/r/MensRights30/01/22 03:44 AM
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it’s okay to prefer critical opinions for yourself, but people can’t assume everyone prefers that. if someone asks for an honest opinion by all means say what you think. but if someone didn’t ask, who are you to say their hair style or fashion sense is shit? maybe they know it’s unconventional and not under society’s beauty standards and that’s why they like it. i just think opinions are okay only when people ask you for them. i’m totally against men being shamed for literally everything about t…
/r/MensRights30/01/22 03:42 AM
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i don’t see anything wrong with that then. as long as you’re not rude about it. saying “i personally don’t like the “x” trend” and “that “x” trend is so stupid and it makes people look ugly” are very different. but, yeah. you’re allowed to have general opinions as long as you’re not directly talking about someone or commenting on someone’s post about it. that being said, i have the mindset that not all opinion need to be shared. what’s accomplished by saying you don’t like a makeup trend? like w…
/r/MensRights30/01/22 03:39 AM
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i’m not saying it should sway your opinion. you said “we can accept that people oppose us” as if that’s true for all men on here. i was saying no, that’s not true, because a lot of men want FDS banned. that’s fine. i’m not telling you to change your opinion (although i think it’s unhealthy to have a mindset where you refuse to change it no matter what) in my comment i literally just shared my own opinion and then told you that you can’t speak for all men… so i’m not sure what you’re arguing for
/r/MensRights30/01/22 02:26 AM
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sure they do. but if women are choosing to opt out of having a relationship because they’re not interested in guys that are into them, so be it. i do have a problem if they’re constantly complaining about it. i don’t agree with the standards they have, but they’re allowed to have them. lots of men have a standard for women that they wouldn’t date under.. they have to be attracted to her to be interested
/r/MensRights30/01/22 01:28 AM
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can you explain what you mean? i don’t think i’m following
/r/MensRights30/01/22 12:23 AM
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if it’s not acceptable to you, you’re welcome to not support the site. hate speech is definitely subjective, but for the most part i agree with reddit’s terms on hate speech. except for the fact that i wish they protected men a little bit more. like i said, you’re allowed to have whatever opinion you want, but tons of men on this sub think that FDS should be banned. it’s a common opinion as they’re misandrist. you speak for all men when in fact a lot of them disagree with you. and oh, i know, ta…
/r/MensRights30/01/22 12:18 AM
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that’s your opinion. i’m for banning hate speech. especially on private sites like reddit that get to make their own rules. it’s normal for private sites to censor people for reasons other than violence.
/r/MensRights30/01/22 12:03 AM
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i think there’s a very fine line between what’s an observation and what’s an unwanted opinion. saying “she’s wearing an orange shirt at a black tie event” is an observation. saying “that dress doesn’t look good on her body shape/it looks three sizes too small” is an unwanted opinion. saying “she’s wearing makeup” is an observation saying “her makeup looks bad (or silly, in your words)” is an unwanted opinion. i’m not claiming that women don’t do this to men too, so don’t ding me for that. but in…
/r/MensRights30/01/22 12:01 AM
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i agree with you. i don’t personally associate with any women who have that mindset, but i know they’re out there.
/r/MensRights29/01/22 11:42 PM
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to be fair, i think FDS should be banned as well. it’s not only choosing to stay single- they also call men names and shame them similar to things that occurred on MGTOW.
/r/MensRights29/01/22 11:41 PM
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he wasn’t wrong. however.. is there anything wrong with deciding not to date or being picky about who you date? sure, i don’t think you should be constantly complaining that nobody wants you. but if you just decide “hey, i’m not attracted to anyone who’s attracted to me so i’m just going to stay single” i don’t see what’s wrong with that.
/r/MensRights29/01/22 08:09 PM
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i’m just saying, this post reads as “a woman called me an incel, let’s make fun of her personal life.” which i really don’t think is cool. also... unless she asked for advice, it’s not cool to give unsolicited advice. you’re not her doctor.
/r/MensRights29/01/22 12:57 AM
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you don’t necessarily have to be hit by a man. you could be hit by another woman. that being said, most women who say man hating things are also straight. think FDS. they like guys, but only feminist guys. i still think it sounds like you’re bringing up her personal interests and medication to shame her, instead of just shaming her for calling you an incel.
/r/MensRights29/01/22 12:49 AM
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BDSM kinks are not uncommon, lol. being on medication is also not uncommon. you could’ve left this post at “a man-hating woman called me an incel” because that’s all that’s relevant
/r/MensRights29/01/22 12:42 AM
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when was i giving advice?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 02:42 AM
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compatibility can not be worked on without changing who you are as a person. it’s important to find out whether you’re compatible or not first- that’s the dealbreaker, not looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 02:41 AM
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i thought this was FDS
/r/MensRights24/01/22 04:57 AM
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if they want to, then sure. unfortunately what’ll happen is some men and women will be left that are just not compatible with each other so maybe they will stay single.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 03:27 AM
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if a lot of men are single, a similar amount of women would be single..
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 01:51 AM
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i’m just saying: if you use tactics to attract a girl, you’re going to get a girl that’s attracted to those tactics. if you are not being yourself, you’ll get a girl who’s not truly attracted to you as a person. if you offer to pay for things all the time and buy her gifts, you’ll get a girl who’s maybe materialistic and values you for money. if you use a bunch of smooth lines and have charismatic conversation skills, your girl will expect that for the entirety of your relationship. point being,…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 11:56 PM
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never said i was a hippie, lol. just plenty of them where i live. anyways, like i said, believe what you want. people are not generally the same though, not in the world i live in. it’s quite annoying when people assume what my taste in men is despite not knowing me, because it’s often the opposite of what they’d assume. plus, if i ever heard a man making generalizations, that would be the reason he wouldn’t get a second date.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 10:37 PM
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well, believe what you’d like to. personally I hate generalizations because i don’t think you can take women or men and put them in boxes as if they want the same thing or act the same way. people are people- they are fluid, always changing and growing, all extremely different. if you have the mindset that women all want the same things in a man, and act differently to get a woman, you might just miss the one that’ll actually love you for who you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 10:00 PM
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I really don’t think we’re in the minority. In my experience, the majority of people have the same beliefs as me when it comes to this topic. Maybe that’s because I live in a very leftist hippie part of Canada. Either way, I think it’s silly to accept society as it is and assume it will never change. Society is in a constant state of change, and quickly. Even in the last ten years things have changed immensely. Stop accepting the fact that men are stereotyped and start finding women who believe …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 09:27 PM
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the guys that you want that’s the thing. the guys that i want are the guys who will like me for who i am. that is the single most important thing. looks are a secondary.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 08:57 PM
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but where is this coming from? is this in your personal experience? because nearly all the women in my life advocate for men to be able to express their feelings. women want to change this societal expectation. so, yeah, you could accept that most of the girls you’re into aren’t very empathetic. if you’re fine with accepting that and enabling their behaviour, do it. or, you could have a standard that your girl has to support you as much as you support her, and if a girl doesn’t check that box, d…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 08:53 PM
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of course i find him attractive. but every girl finds different things attractive and so every girl likes a different type of guy. there are girls out there that like every body type, every height, weight, hair color, eye color etc.. so i really don’t see how it’s impossible for any guy to find a girl that likes him for how he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 08:49 PM
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that men cannot cry over you’re making this rule for yourself. nobody is saying men cannot cry over little things except you. if a woman says you can’t cry, tell her to go fuck herself and find a girl with some empathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 07:42 PM
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what makes a woman look good though? what traits must she have? doesn’t that come down to personal opinion?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 07:41 PM
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losing your job can be heartbreaking as well. hell, my man cried with me when we watched marley and me and that’s one of my favourite moments i’ve ever had with him. i think you underestimate how many girls out there like guys who are kinder, softer, more real. i’d take a small guy who writes poetry and cries all the time over a gym buff who’s charming and always has a line any day.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 07:40 PM
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i don’t know.. my man wasn’t the most charismatic. i found it charming that he was as nervous as i was on the first date. it made me feel like he was a real, candid person. there’s a difference between guys that are nice, and “nice guys”. check out r/niceguys if you’re confused.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 07:37 PM
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my comment was satire. did you read what the person i was responding to said? they were making a generalization about women and so i responded with one about men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 07:34 PM
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or both.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 06:29 AM
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let’s not pretend that men don’t high-five each other when one of them lands commitment from a girl with big tits who cooks and does his laundry for him
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 06:08 AM
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just because it’s what you have observed doesn’t mean that it’s okay or that it’s not awful. i know that it’s common, but you really shouldn’t have to settle for that. unless having her support you isn’t important to you. i think it’s natural for men to cry less in general.. but i honestly think that means they should be supported more when they do. the love of my life lost a family member recently and he cried in my arms last night. i cannot imagine looking at him and feeling “turned off” or an…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 03:15 AM
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I think that in a situation where you partner is showing weakness, gender should be irrelevant. Whatever you would do for a girl- hold her, listen to her, validate her feelings and support her- she should be doing the same for you. I’ve had a relationship where my partner did have some mental health issues. I supported them for a very long time and I only left when they continued to refuse to seek help. That is understandable because it was taking a toll on my own mental health. Your personal is…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 02:56 AM
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showing vulnerability may make her leave me then she’s an AWFUL person.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 02:41 AM
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those three things are the most important to most girls, though. or at least women that’ll be good in a long term relationship. i really don’t think it’s difficult to realize that women aren’t going for you because you have a “woe is me” bad attitude. that’s why “nice guys” don’t get girls. while looks and sexual compatibility play a role in attraction, they’re not the most important things for a lot of women. just dress somewhat put together and have good hygiene. all that matters after that is…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 01:51 AM
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i like debating people and opposing opinions. tbh after being here for months i still don’t fully understand the pills, but i do find it odd how red pillers see dating as this big game to win. if a man ever saw me as a prize at the end of this big game instead of seeing me as a person, i’d be extremely upset lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 09:07 PM
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honest people have no chance me and my bf are both flawed individuals and don’t partake in any of the “strategies” you mentioned. i fell in love with him because he’s not a prick who only sees dating me as winning some sort of game.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 12:33 AM
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that’s literally irrelevant to gender though. you didn’t have to say “male doctor”… you could just say “doctor”. that’s medical malpractice and it’s not exclusive to men lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 05:53 AM
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wtf does that mean lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 05:48 AM
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what kind of thing lands a girl in cunt territory? in your opinion
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 05:38 AM
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it is misandrist to call men scrotes for doing things like not paying for a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 02:18 AM
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so you truly believe it’s okay to be misogynistic/misandrist in private as long as you don’t say it to a person’s face? and even better, you think it’s okay to form groups that foster this misogynistic/misandrist mindset?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 01:55 AM
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so if i disagree with the way a woman behaves (eg. she’s a sex worker, or she wants the man to always pay for meals, or she doesn’t have a job, etc) it’s totally cool for me to call her a bitch and a cunt and say she’s low value?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 01:51 AM
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red pillers have a mindset i will never be able to comprehend. they generalize a lot, but hating women isn’t a trait of their group. FDS is straight up man-hating and such a double standard it’s unbelievable. if men made regular posts tagged “roast-a-cunt” i’m pretty sure women would have a problem with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 11:34 PM
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no, they don’t. but it’s not a black and white problem to solve. rape cases are very “he said she said” as there’s often not much physical evidence a victim can provide. even if they get a rape kit (go to the hospital after a rape and get samples done) there is a massive rape kit backlog and none of them are being tested. so we either stop believing victims so easily, and their rapists walk away without a charge, or we have a ton of false accusations and men’s lives are ruined.
/r/MensRights14/01/22 01:50 AM
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yeah, that makes sense, except for the people who are actually victims. are we supposed to expect them not to speak up about their trauma to prevent others from making false accusations?
/r/MensRights14/01/22 01:32 AM
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how
/r/MensRights14/01/22 01:12 AM
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what does this article have to do with mens rights
/r/MensRights14/01/22 01:08 AM
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i’m not sure why you’re mad, because i never said anything that would make me “not a nice person”. i never attacked you personally and yet you’re targeting my character when it’s irrelevant to the conversation. rules and trends are not the same thing. i agree that there are trends, otherwise how would we know what to fix? rules are true, solid statements. a rule would sound like “women don’t like it when men cry” which is simply not true in all cases. if you say “most women”, that’s a trend and …
/r/MensRights12/01/22 05:52 PM
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there’s no rules. people do not fit into boxes like that. i wasn’t insinuating that women don’t say that- i was simply stating it’s surprising to me because i’ve never seen it before. maybe judge the entirety of my comment and not just the first sentence on its own.
/r/MensRights12/01/22 04:37 PM
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i’ve never met a woman who says that men crying is a “turn off”. in the literal sense, sure- anyone crying during sex is a turn off unless you have a crying kink. but that’s not what she means. she means she finds him less attractive because of it and that’s honestly appalling. while i’m not going to constantly push the “it’s okay to cry, show your emotions with me” narrative on my bf, i have held him while he cries multiple times and i feel it only brings us closer because he’s comfortable enou…
/r/MensRights12/01/22 06:09 AM
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you ever think that women are getting away with those things because you’re not reporting them? imo a safe and respectful workplace is incredibly important. in corporate businesses, it usually takes multiple reports before something will be done about it. you should be reporting small things if they happen regularly, otherwise how are things supposed to change?
/r/MensRights10/01/22 03:04 AM
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how am i supposed to know you’re being sarcastic? so many people would genuinely say that because they “don’t believe in gender identities” or some bs
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 05:01 AM
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i think you misread. i said one gender neutral gym. gender neutral means any gender can attend. i did not say nonbinary exclusive gym. where’d you get the number 3 from lol? nonbinary is an umbrella term that various identities fall under.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 04:52 AM
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this is a difficult question to answer as there are pros and cons to each side. however, to reach complete gender equality, men only and women only spaces can not exist. first, because if we have women only gyms and we don’t have men only gyms, that is not gender equality. we could have men only gyms and women only gyms, but then that leaves out nonbinary people. so we would have to have 3 gyms in this case- one for women, one for men, and one gender neutral. it would be much easier (and economi…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/22 04:08 AM
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i know i’m funny. i ignore people all the time. people ignore me and i don’t go back through my comments and find them lmfao. some ppl do have lives outside reddit you know
/r/MensRights07/01/22 09:52 PM
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love to see you’re obsessed with me❤️
/r/MensRights07/01/22 04:34 AM
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i think it’s safe to say that the algorithm is pretty accurate according to what? your opinion? you have not provided any studies that prove or suggest the algorithm is accurate and unbiased. while i concede that i do not have a specific source that proves it is biased, there is no reason to assume it wouldn’t be. you are assuming it is unbiased- i can just as easily logically assume that it is biased. just because the algorithm caught 80% of hate speech doesn’t mean it is unbiased. it is possib…
/r/MensRights07/01/22 04:30 AM
2

people are really stupid in all sorts of ways. they just fall down a rabbit hole of discrimination. it’s even worse when they’re in an echo chamber with a bunch of other people validating their thought process.
/r/MensRights05/01/22 09:55 PM
2

i can’t read your post because it was removed but i strongly suggest you don’t do that anymore lol. it’s just going to bother you and there’s no way to respond to or get rid of them so it’s a waste of time.
/r/MensRights05/01/22 07:56 PM
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i haven’t really been on nicegirls at all but i just took a quick scroll through and i see really no differences. just people that are “woe is me” and don’t see that the reason they can’t get a date is because of their whining, not because they’re “too nice”.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 07:55 PM
1

what? my response is right above this comment.
/r/MensRights05/01/22 07:26 PM
2

you speak the truth! i hardly knew what my bf looked like when we started talking. i was attracted to him because he showed genuine interest to me, he was kind, and he gave me some sweet innocent compliments.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 12:18 AM
0

for me? i already got one lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 07:40 AM
2

i only call my bf that ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 01:32 AM
3

lmao. for the record, i find “in the kitchen” jokes pretty funny. happy new year
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 01:17 AM
9

someone disagrees with you and this is your response lmfao? weak asf
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 01:06 AM
-1

ah, the pain of being on straight tiktok. my tiktok is full of non-muscular, often shorter guys in loving relationships doing sweet things for their girlfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 01:03 AM
1

it literally doesn’t matter. i have no way of knowing if my bf slept around before me and i’m not going to ask because that is irrelevant to our relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 01:00 AM
1

CMV Chad’s are not attractive. i’d rather be with someone who’s a little insecure than someone who’s cocky and arrogant
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 12:52 AM
0

what a backhanded fucking compliment
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 12:50 AM
2

let’s remember that your experience isn’t necessarily everyone’s experience. also.. is that really toxic? putting up barriers is a pretty normal coping mechanism. even if you believe it’s unhealthy, it has nothing to do with masculinity. women can also have irregular behaviours and then refuse to talk about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 09:22 PM
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the problem is, people call it toxic masculinity when men don’t display emotion the way women deem is mentally healthy. to explain, most women would say it’s healthy to cry and talk about your feelings to friends and family. and that it is unhealthy to keep your emotions to yourself or repress them in any way. thing is, everyone deals with emotions differently and we should not be calling men’s anger or stoicism “toxic masculinity” because this makes it seem as if it’s not okay to deal with feel…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 08:09 PM
1

i’m going to assume you’re talking about sex? a preference, then?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 08:05 PM
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i don’t think they consider it hate based on identity. since it’s not just a man hating page, they mask it as dating tips and such
/r/MensRights30/12/21 06:29 PM
1

seems very difficult, as reddit is already feminist in its beliefs and this is probably the only subreddit that would band together and put pressure on them.
/r/MensRights30/12/21 08:04 AM
1

you can go ahead and look through my comments if you want to. i’ve talked to a few of them on here. again, i have nothing to prove to you. really not my job.
/r/MensRights30/12/21 04:19 AM
4

okay, and? what are you gonna do about it? i’m telling you that they are not crossing the line according to reddit, and so your only option is to ignore it.
/r/MensRights30/12/21 01:51 AM
1

i claimed that many feminists admit that they do not fight for men’s rights.
/r/MensRights30/12/21 01:46 AM
1

depends on the person. everyone has different values and a different sex drive and there’s nothing wrong with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 01:04 AM
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not really. reddit is a left leaning website and is more likely to ban misogynistic pages over misandrist ones. that’s the reality of it. not only that, but most of reddits users are also leftist. so when they band together to try and get a page banned, it works much better. really all you can do is boycott all feminist leaning sites, or simply wait for society to shift if it ever does.
/r/MensRights30/12/21 12:34 AM
1

while FDS bothers me, it isn’t doing anything that warrants being banned. reddit has pretty lax rules. can’t do anything but ignore it really
/r/MensRights30/12/21 12:27 AM
1

that wasn’t even a part of our conversation asshat. you’re asking me to prove something i didn’t even bring up just so you can make a random point
/r/MensRights30/12/21 12:25 AM
0

so calling someone out for being racist is also a personal attack? nice. don’t think being transphobic is part of someone’s personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 12:24 AM
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not unless you buy reddit premium.
/r/MensRights30/12/21 12:16 AM
0

was calling someone a TERF a personal attack?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 11:35 PM
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there’s no way to stop it from growing. that’s the entire point of FDS. you cannot fight back with words because you can’t comment anything. getting a hacker to shut it down.. that would be difficult, expensive, and illegal. you can’t get rid of everything you disagree with, unfortunately
/r/MensRights29/12/21 11:34 PM
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this is just FDS for you. no point in really reading them since it’s nearly a cult and you can’t respond to anything anyway.
/r/MensRights29/12/21 08:50 PM
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you failed to mention that they had asked you for advice. if they asked, you’re welcome to say whatever you want. why exactly do you feel disgust? generally when you feel disgusted by someone’s behaviour, that’s your way of saying you believe your behaviour is better and that everyone should behave like you. there’s nothing wrong with being conservative relating to sex. i am too. the problem comes when you start insulting people for no reason lol. it’s like when people tell me i’m disgusting for…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 08:43 PM
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i’ll preface this by saying i am not promiscuous. i have only ever slept with one man and i’m in a committed relationship with him. that being said, why should i care if women are promiscuous? it literally does not affect me in any way. i don’t know why people are so judgy and up in other people’s business. i would only ever say anything if i believed it was a coping mechanism for some other mental health issue. and even then, i wouldn’t talk about the sleeping around, because that’s a symptom o…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 08:24 PM
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thing is, you’re giving them advice they didn’t ask for which comes across as judgement. why call another woman dumb and nasty? it seems like you just want to put yourself on a pedestal by judging other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 08:15 PM
1

why? that’s not my job lmfao
/r/MensRights29/12/21 06:51 PM
1

yep. it depends on the feminist, but many do claim they just fight for women’s rights and not men’s.
/r/MensRights29/12/21 04:22 AM
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first of all, i don’t find masculine words to be offensive. i think that’s just the history of language, we can acknowledge that it was male oriented without being offended when someone uses the term these days. that being said, womankind and mankind have different definitions. while womankind refers to just women, mankind refers to all humans even though women are not included in the term. if we were truly being accurate, mankind should mean just men, and humankind should include everyone.
/r/MensRights29/12/21 12:57 AM
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well, they’d either send trans men, not send trans men (which is transphobic) or send both genders (or neither). the last option makes most sense to me.
/r/MensRights28/12/21 05:15 AM
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sure. but that’s not the website’s problem is it? i think that’s a bigger issue that you’re blaming on this specific site.
/r/MensRights21/12/21 11:30 PM
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whoops, i misread it. it’s not surprising though. there are far more women’s rights activists than men’s rights activists. and many people who put up petitions related to men’s rights may not tag it as such. i don’t think the website is actively removing men’s rights petitions.
/r/MensRights21/12/21 11:08 PM
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advertisements for charity are all about earning the most money. they’re not about showing statistically accurate situations. so yeah.. if you put a young girl on the poster, wouldn’t adult men be helped more overall?
/r/MensRights21/12/21 10:54 PM
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what? there’s no men/womens rights options. it says “human rights”. edit: i was wrong, and i misread.
/r/MensRights21/12/21 10:53 PM
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i have FDS on one of my custom feeds and it’s so painful to read their posts. especially because it’s the only gender related sub that is highly restricted. as a woman, i’m auto banned for interacting with this sub. sure, i guess for FDS that makes sense… but also, women’s comments are only seen by the mods until they’ve proved that they’re FDS material. it takes up to SIX MONTHS or longer of “positive” activity on FDS for your comments to even be visible to other members. if that ain’t an echo …
/r/MensRights12/12/21 03:14 AM
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sounds like you actually just forgot to proofread. no worries, it happens.
/r/MensRights11/12/21 05:26 AM
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uh.. do you mean all men collectively holding back sperm? that’s very unrealistic. if you mean some men, then yes.. that’s their choice. nobody is forced to have sex lmfao, that’s like consent basics. even if you don’t want to dismiss the biological foundation.. biology is in favour of females being picky. most mammals are polyandrous, meaning males mate with many females, but females only mate with the best male. this is how natural selection results in the species growing stronger- only the st…
/r/MensRights11/12/21 04:11 AM
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correlation doesn’t necessarily mean cause. it might, but you’d need actual proof on that. i feel like feminists would be pretty split on that issue since it’s hard to say which option would actually be better for women.
/r/MensRights11/12/21 01:19 AM
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i don’t really have an issue with that. it would make it safer for sex workers as it could be regulated.
/r/MensRights11/12/21 01:10 AM
1

in wild animals, the main goal of the female is to get pregnant. females are choosy, because once they’re pregnant, they can’t mate again for a long time. so they want whoever impregnates them to be the best of the males. on the other hand, the males’ goal is to impregnate as many women as possible. have as much offspring as they can. they go for quantity over quality because sperm is easy to produce. so that’s where the high sex drive comes from. humans are a highly evolved species. the main go…
/r/MensRights10/12/21 11:51 PM
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men have XY chromosomes.
/r/MensRights10/12/21 11:46 PM
1

i honestly hate when people agree with me that’s so boring
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 05:51 PM
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dude abortiondebate is the worst. there’s barely any prolifers there and the mods are all pro choice. at least this sub is split more evenly
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 07:30 AM
1

no.. it’s no prob though. it happens
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 01:54 AM
1

what notion lmfao? when did i EVER say “sex shouldn’t be a priority”??
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 01:45 AM
1

the post is literally about red pillers thinking it’s torture. i was referencing OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 01:40 AM
1

yes? what does that have to do with the conversation? my point: if you and your partner aren’t on the same page when it comes to sex, you’re not compatible. you’re saying “the majority of people prioritize sex” yes, they do. how is that relevant? my point is still the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 01:33 AM
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okay, well you’re always welcome to ask them or leave. not claim that it’s torture that they won’t give you sex lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 12:01 AM
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does it? or is that just your assumption? many people change over time and may have decided to have less sex. or, they have a lot of sex in a committed relationship, but when they get into a new one, it takes time to trust enough again. it’s pretty simple to just ask someone the reason they don’t want sex and not assume they’re cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 11:25 PM
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no, i did not say that. i like sex. but i found someone who likes sex the same amount as me. that’s part of why we’re compatible. if i was dating a guy who didn’t want to have sex yet, and sex was a priority to me.. i would break up with him and find someone who did want sex. i don’t understand your confusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 08:39 PM
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🕵🏻 me trying to figure out who asked
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 08:31 PM
1

sure, but that doesn’t change my statement. just because sex is a priority to most doesn’t mean it is to all. if sex is a priority to you, you need to find someone who shares that priority. if your current SO doesn’t share that priority, you’re not compatible. it’s not fair to expect your SO to have sex as a priority just because you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 08:29 PM
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you wouldn’t want to be in a sexless relationship how would you know? you’re assuming you know what i want. many people are asexual or have sexual trauma that may make them hesitant to try sex again. many people are virgin and are just not ready. many people wait until marriage. waiting to have sex is not as rare as you think, and it works out quite well when both parties are on the same page.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 05:29 PM
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idk, and it’s so frustrating. i find this mindset in both men and women complaining about their SO just because they have different standards, boundaries, wants and needs. like.. you can communicate and compromise to some extent, but if someone has a boundary that doesn’t work for you, you’re simply not compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 06:01 AM
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making someone wait hang on. nobody ever forces anyone to wait for sex. if you are not ready, and your partner is tired of waiting, that’s fine. your partner can leave you and clearly they are not the person for you. because when you meet the person for you, they will have no issue waiting for you. best case, they want to wait too or it’s not a priority for them. if someone finds sex to be a crucial part of a relationship, that’s totally okay. they need to find someone who feels the same, not ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 05:18 AM
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When did I claim that it did? My claim was that this study actually contains absolutely no information about what race/sex experiences the most hate speech on facebook. There was no study done on that basis. Many people are assuming that because white directed hate speech is taken down most, that it is also most prevalent. Sure, that seems like it would be a reasonable connection to make, if we knew the algorithm was completely unbiased and works without error. You could also assume that it’s un…
/r/MensRights05/12/21 04:11 AM
2

funnily enough, i really only see this topic talked about by FDS type girls who see it as a red flag. it’s a serious issue, but i think porn addicts should be offered support, not just written off as “low value men” or whatever they call it over there
/r/MensRights29/11/21 08:06 AM
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i agree with this. what would you say then to feminists who believe that men’s issues are real, but it’s not their job as feminists to advocate for them? would you be okay with that?
/r/MensRights28/11/21 09:58 PM
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what a great speech! that is scarily similar to my experience. originally, i’d joined this sub just to ridicule it and see how misogynistic it really was. it wasn’t until i started actively listening to men talking about their issues that i started to take them seriously (and stopped being a feminist.) while women and men have their own gender related issues, they both deserve endless amounts of recognition and support.
/r/MensRights28/11/21 08:56 PM
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100%. one of the most frustrating things to me is when women try to say they have it worse in every single case. mental health is one of the big cases where men are disproportionately affected as a gender and for them to try and take attention away from that is just wrong.
/r/MensRights28/11/21 07:44 PM
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ik this is a serious topic but this made me laugh
/r/MensRights28/11/21 07:43 PM
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i listen to what men tell me. i take their concerns seriously. i don’t pretend to know what it’s like to be one or the struggles they go through, i just try to listen and support in whatever way i can. you, on the other hand, are pretending you know what it is like to be a woman. you claim i cannot possibly know what it’s like to be a man. that is true. however, how can you possibly know what it’s like to be a woman? your view is biased- you are actively choosing not to take women’s struggles in…
/r/MensRights28/11/21 07:30 PM
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One April 2020 document said roughly 90 percent of “hate speech” subject to content takedowns were statements of contempt, inferiority and disgust directed at White people and men, though the time frame is unclear. And it consistently failed to remove the most derogatory, racist content. essentially everyone’s talking about this single paragraph, so let’s break it down. 90% of hate speech takedowns were posts with hate speech towards white men. not 90% of hate speech overall, 90% of what was tak…
/r/MensRights28/11/21 06:10 PM
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it’s not hate what is it? you’re calling all modern women spoiled and immature. how is that better than someone saying that all men are misogynistic and dangerous lmao a woman should not be on a men’s right sub what about female MRAs? how tf do you expect to actually gain men’s rights if you don’t have any women on your side
/r/MensRights28/11/21 06:47 AM
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are there many women out there that are anti-feminist? or would you just find one that’s not very political?
/r/MensRights28/11/21 01:34 AM
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how you gonna find a big titted non feminist?
/r/MensRights28/11/21 01:31 AM
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why would you choose that as your username😭
/r/MensRights27/11/21 08:47 PM
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well, that’s because it’s untrue xd there’s a difference between advocating for men’s rights and having a grudge/hatred for women, lmfao
/r/MensRights27/11/21 08:14 PM
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the algorithm detects hate speech in a racially blind way proof of this? if you’d read the article, it actually says the exact opposite. you’re misunderstanding again. nowhere did it say that they are more prevalent. it will scan a hate speech post directed towards a minority, and not register it. missing hate speech posts means that whatever % the algorithm finds of white directed hate speech is not accurate. if it’s missing minority hate speech. blacks lol, all i needed to hear. disrespectful
/r/MensRights27/11/21 08:12 PM
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i didn’t even read this article because it’s very obviously biased. come on guys, that’s one of the first things you look for when determining if it’s a good source! i just went straight to the washington post article and i’m not surprised that the topic was completely different than the original blog.
/r/MensRights27/11/21 08:07 PM
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well, it’s statistically proven that girls are more likely to have body image issues. numbers will vary slightly depending on the study, but approximately 90% of women have negative body image, and approximately 40% of men. does this mean male body image is a less important issue? not at all. i think that girls posting is a cycle. many girls, even those with negative body image, post themselves because of the positive response they get. it might make them feel better momentarily, until they see …
/r/MensRights27/11/21 08:06 PM
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hate speech directed at minorities is a real problem. are you saying it isn’t? there is not one single real problem. in fact, you saying so is hypocritical to the MRA movement, who’s entire point is that men’s issues are important, even in cases where women are affected more. like i said, nowhere does it say what % of hate speech is directed towards white people. that is an assumption (and a reach, i would say). it says that the algorithm continuously misses hate speech towards minorities. it’s …
/r/MensRights27/11/21 08:01 PM
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you’re saying you think that boys posting less photos of themselves on social media causes them to have lower body image? how so?
/r/MensRights27/11/21 07:21 AM
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excuse me?
/r/MensRights27/11/21 04:45 AM
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wouldn’t it make sense that if a MRA post reached the front page, it would begin to get downvoted and disappear from it just as quickly?
/r/MensRights27/11/21 04:29 AM
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social media can have negative effects on either gender. teen girls are statistically more likely to develop EDs or body image issues from social media, but boys and men can develop these as well for the same reasons. (though usually the “ideal male body” is promoted as muscular while the “ideal female body” is promoted as thin). while the above statements are facts, the following is just my hypothesis: girls and women post their bodies and faces way more on social media than boys and men, so it…
/r/MensRights27/11/21 04:27 AM
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okay, did anyone actually read the washington post article or not? it clearly states that 90% of hate speech detected by the algorithm was directed at white people. nowhere does it state that 90% of hate speech on facebook is directed towards white people. it also states, directly afterward, that the algorithm consistently failed to detect hate speech directed at minorities. so, if we are actually using the washington post article as a source, the problem would be with the algorithm having a bia…
/r/MensRights27/11/21 04:23 AM
1

i like your message. if you live in the US or canada, men can legally be raped, sexually assaulted or abused by women and the woman would be charged for it.
/r/MensRights20/11/21 02:39 AM
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apparently now husbands can rape their wives, but not the other way around. Articles 271 & 278 of the Criminal Code criminalise rape of men or women, including spousal rape, as sexual assault, and the government enforced the law effectively. almost all men’s reports are ignored i said that men’s DV and SA reports are ignored. are you just reiterating what i said? because it sounds like you’re trying to disagree with me even though we stated the same thing.
/r/MensRights19/11/21 03:41 AM
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advocating for issues men bring to my attention (lack of mental health resources, dv against men, etc) rejecting gender-norms and stereotypes and speaking up when someone criticizes men from being too masculine or not masculine enough encouraging the men in my life to express their emotions any way they see fit (that doesn’t hurt others, of course). many people encourage men to cry and talk about their feelings- while this should be normalized, we should also accept men who don’t express their f…
/r/MensRights19/11/21 01:19 AM
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i wasn’t considering factors outside of the courtroom. i was saying that the bill itself is not a gendered issue. what is a gendered issue is the fact that men’s DV and SA reports are ignored and they are killed by police as you say (i’m not sure whether that’s true or not). regardless, that is the gendered issue in this scenario, not the bill.
/r/MensRights19/11/21 01:08 AM
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you are probably remembering me talking to one specific person. never would i generalize and say that MRAs hate women. do some MRAs hate women? yes. in the same way that some feminists (but not all) hate men. when do women ever agree with men? often. well, i’m not american but i’m sorry you don’t have universal healthcare. both should be covered, they have no reason to advocate against viagra because that does not help them in any way. i support men often and so do the women in my life. i would …
/r/MensRights18/11/21 06:39 PM
1

the intent of the bill is irrelevant. the effects of the bill is what i care about, and if the bill will cause an unfair, strategized trial, then i would disagree with it. even if the intent of the bill was to harm men (i think that would be difficult to find proof of) this bill is not gendered. if a woman was the accused, and a male the victim, he would be given the same right to a attorney as a female victim would. so while i disagree with the bill, i don’t see this as a gendered issue.
/r/MensRights18/11/21 06:35 PM
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okay. let me just clarify that i understand. so in a rape case, where a man is accused of raping a woman- before the bill, the woman could not discuss evidence with the prosecution before her testimony to avoid strategizing and ensure her testimony is truthful and not swayed by evidence presented. now with the bill, the woman would have her own attorney who would prep her on what to say in testimony to get the man a guilty sentence, and she’d have knowledge of other evidence presented that she m…
/r/MensRights18/11/21 03:56 AM
1

lol, i criticize what everyone posts. that’s what i do. i criticize feminists just as often, so it’s not like i’m skewed against MRAs or something. because that’s what you’re making it seem like. also, i’ve never said OR implied that MRAs hate women, so don’t put words in my mouth, especially without quoting me directly. you are making it seem like i am against MRAs because i criticize or question the things some MRAs say. it’s not like i disagree with every post. hell, i disagree with less than…
/r/MensRights18/11/21 03:45 AM
1

feminists are against MRAs certainly. some feminists are against men, some aren’t. just like how some MRAs are against women and some aren’t. you’re telling me how you view things. i’m telling you how i view things as an external party. my view is less biased because i’m neither feminist or MRA. many MRAs misunderstand feminism, actually. you cannot claim that all MRAs have done their research. you also cannot claim that feminists don’t care what men have to say, because many feminists advocate …
/r/MensRights18/11/21 03:07 AM
1

yeah, i’m a bio major. i know about primal instincts. but you need to consider the fact that humans have incredibly developed brains and incredibly developed societal standards, and as time goes on we continue to lose those primal instincts (eg. we don’t kill anymore to assert our dominance). the whole “women seek an alpha” and “men seek a mate for children” thing is a complete generalization of today’s society since there are plenty of dominant women who like submissive men, stay at home dads, …
/r/MensRights17/11/21 07:16 PM
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never intended to twist your words, but it’s certainly okay to take breaks from debate, it’s tiring. never pressuring you to respond. goodnight!
/r/MensRights17/11/21 05:11 AM
1

agreed.
/r/MensRights17/11/21 05:02 AM
0

you said “women aren’t discriminated against” and “the point of this sub is to make men equal because they aren’t.” am i wrong in assuming you mean that you believe men are discriminated against more than women? that’s what i took from your claim. women do have a spotlight on their issues and i agree that men need a bigger light. that’s part of what i fight for, as i said i believe men’s and women’s issues should be given equal attention. if you believe men’s and women’s issues should be given e…
/r/MensRights17/11/21 04:09 AM
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thank you! much appreciated. my brain is fried for the night, but don’t think i’m ignoring this- i will come back to it.
/r/MensRights17/11/21 04:04 AM
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utter bilge i should have clarified that i am talking specifically about reddit, and MRAs/feminists on reddit. it is very clear that the two groups are against each other on this site, and i have heard MRAs say many many times that feminists are misandrist (and vice versa) so i’m not sure why you believe that to be untrue. i’ll have to watch the video later as i’m in a public spot without headphones right now. i agree that you cannot have a conversation with people who do not want to listen. hen…
/r/MensRights17/11/21 03:51 AM
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hm, i could understand why you would think that. however, if you looked at my contributions to feminists subs, you would also notice that i am mostly in disagreement/questioning there too. i actually would say that i agree with most of the posts on this sub. however, i don’t really see the value or interest in commenting something as simple as “i agree”. it’s not really an intellectual addition to the conversation. so when i do agree, regardless of the subreddit, i suppose i simply don’t declare…
/r/MensRights17/11/21 03:48 AM
1

when did i say my view was more valid than anyone else’s? you are putting those words in my mouth. i’m allowed to share my opinion without expecting anyone to take it to heart. about C-51: i hadn’t heard about it until now, so i just spent around ten minutes reading about it and i haven’t seen anything in the bill that relates to gender. would you be interested in summarizing it for me so i can understand what you’re getting at/what you want my opinion on? from a quick read it seems alright, but…
/r/MensRights17/11/21 03:44 AM
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i think that the only difference between those two things is the language you use to describe it. you seem to be intentionally downplaying the severity of misogyny within certain MRAs. i know you disagree though, and i am always trying to further educate myself, so if you have a real article proving your points i would love to give it a read. unfortunately i can’t just change my beliefs from your personal experience.
/r/MensRights17/11/21 03:33 AM
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i can’t really answer that as it’s not a specific question. but thank you for your non-contribution
/r/MensRights17/11/21 03:26 AM
1

i wouldn’t know. in any case, some people have different ideas about what is misogynistic and what is not, so it would be hard to say without being biased. often misogyny can come from being socially fed up- i would say being socially fed up or angsty is the cause, and misogyny can be the action/reaction.
/r/MensRights17/11/21 03:25 AM
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there’s no problem admitting that men have more struggles than woman, if that were true. i’ve yet to come across proof that men and women have an unequal amount of issues, and that is what i asked you to explain to me. sure, they have equal struggles in canada, but what’s that supposed to prove? i specialize in canada and other first world countries. gender issues are entirely different in other parts of the world- women are still oppressed in many countries. i’m not sure if men are oppressed in…
/r/MensRights17/11/21 03:23 AM
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gotcha. wow, so imagine if it wasn’t quarantined. i bet this sub would have far less misogyny and perhaps a better reputation. kind of interesting to think about
/r/MensRights17/11/21 03:14 AM
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would you like to explain to me what MGTOW was? it was before my time on reddit.
/r/MensRights16/11/21 11:41 PM
1

in first world countries (let’s say canada, because i live there and am most qualified to speak on my own country) i would say men and women have an equal amount of struggles. their struggles are different entirely, but i think that the severity of them and the awareness they should have is equal. and we should fight equally to solve them. it seems like you believe men have more struggles than women do. this comparative mindset isn’t helpful. progress comes faster when we consider everyone’s iss…
/r/MensRights16/11/21 11:39 PM
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most people don’t like to have polite conversations. i came in the sub with a feminist mindset, but because i have an open mind, i’m now egalitarian. feminists love to call MRAs misogynistic and MRAs love to call feminists misandrist. not many from either group are open to discussion about the other gender’s rights.
/r/MensRights16/11/21 11:36 PM
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i agree. i think the criticism in this case should be that they’re sexualizing the person and not appreciating them for their talents. this is not a gendered issue. the part that i take issue with is that the comments relate the sexualization with gender. let’s run with your example about a man saying a similar thing. if a man said in an interview “i like Y because she’s hot”, it’s likely that some women would say “men don’t appreciate women’s talents they just sexualize them.” i think you’d hav…
/r/MensRights16/11/21 11:34 PM
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have you seen this sub’s reputation? before i joined, all i knew was that it was a misogynistic woman hating echo chamber. probably the people banning you haven’t actually spent much time here at all. unfortunately the actual misogynists that hang out here give the whole sub a bad rep and that’s hard to escape.
/r/MensRights16/11/21 09:52 PM
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MRAs and feminists are both biased in my opinion. one group is biased towards women and one towards men. now, there’s nothing wrong with focusing on a certain gender’s issues, but the problem comes when you downplay the other gender’s issues along the way. imo the only way to not be biased is to be egalitarian and fight for both genders equally. this “gender war” on reddit is only going to create further divide and generate more misandry and misogyny.
/r/MensRights16/11/21 09:50 PM
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i understand your point, but you have to realize that you’re doing the exact same thing that she is. you’re taking a random post (in your case it’s not even directed towards you) and making it personal. listen, i involve myself in gender debates on the daily (with both feminists and MRAs) and this post doesn’t seem like it’s man-hating at all. she’s simply frustrated with the misogynistic comments she’s getting. and yes, they are misogynistic because the commenters specifically use her gender (d…
/r/MensRights16/11/21 09:47 PM
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no, that would be equality. letting people study what they want and getting employed based on skill is exactly what workplace equality is. equity, in this case, is feminists having a problem with men dominating a certain field- and instead of encouraging women to go into that field, they insist that 50% of hires are women regardless of skill. that is equity. giving one group better treatment/easier odds in order to make both “equal”. sometimes it can be a short term solution for certain things (…
/r/MensRights03/11/21 05:39 PM
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it’s not equality. it’s equity.
/r/MensRights03/11/21 04:07 AM
1

my bf told me if i ever try to propose to him he’s saying no because he wants to be the one to do it
/r/MensRights02/11/21 01:42 AM
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people who say this a) are really just advocating for teaching consent (which should be taught) and b) blind to the fact that men get sexually assaulted the amount of times i’ve seen men sexualized (the grey sweatpants thing) or touched inappropriately by girls who think it’s funny or assume they like it (“who wouldn’t want a hot girl touching them?”) it’s honestly so frustrating. why is it so hard for people to see that nearly every problem affects both genders in some way and both should have …
/r/MensRights01/11/21 06:18 AM
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(doubtful) that made me laugh. anyway, i didn’t come here to be insulted so imma dip. i’m very attracted to both feminine men and masculine women as well as non-binary people. but i suppose gender fluidity is a bit too complex for you to understand, so no prob. if you’re interested though, a quick google search can go a long way. i won’t be replying anymore though, i got a bio lecture to get to!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 06:05 PM
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i think you’re confusing feminine with weak and masculine with strong. both are strong in separate ways. stereotypical feminine traits are more emotion based- kindness, empathy, etc- and in today’s world, empathy is more important than strength. we need it more- because the goal is to unite and work together.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 04:52 PM
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we’re just getting further and further down the rabbit hole. can you please start explaining the things you say so i don’t have to ask probing questions every single time? why do you say that? what feminine traits do incels have? really dude, you could’ve anticipated those questions. that’s like.. an essential part of conversation
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 08:52 AM
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according to who? i’m beginning to think this is satire.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 08:37 AM
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someone who feels gender shame, probably. a man who feels he doesn’t live up to societal expectations of masculinity, or a man who is embarrassed of being a man/acting masculine due to feminists constantly shaming men just for being men.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 07:05 AM
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well, i’m not 18, and i’m a bio major, so.. no? your metaphor doesn’t make sense. are you trying to insinuate it’s not supposed to work that way? who says? god? sorry, i don’t believe in him. i’ve asked many people why they take issue with gender fluidity and nobody has been able to give me an answer thus far. and no, your screw/hammer metaphor is not an answer, because it doesn’t explain the reasoning behind your beliefs- it simply insinuates that it’s wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 04:06 AM
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it really doesn’t matter to me personally. this is a debate sub however, and that’s what i’m doing. times of confining men and women to strict gender roles are long over. they have been for years, and traditional gender roles and stereotypes are not coming back. why exactly do you take issue with men being feminine and women being masculine? i genuinely just want to know your reasoning
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 02:45 AM
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like i said, you can be masculine and submissive. i’ve known men who are extremely masculine day-to-day and only submissive behind closed doors. who the fuck cares? are you the masculinity police? the only expectation that comes with being a man is that you are one. men don’t have to act a certain way nor do they need to conform to societal expectations. if you’re a man yourself you got some kind of inner misandry going on. same as when girls slut shame each other. i’m certainly ready to have a …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 02:39 AM
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i’m saying that it is okay for men to be less masculine. just because a man is submissive and less masculine one day, doesn’t mean he can’t be masculine the next. people’s feelings and demeanours can change. sure, let’s say you’re less masculine when you’re being submissive to your partner. that makes sense. but you can certainly be masculine after the fact (or even during the same round of sex!) ever heard of switches? sometimes it’s fun to give up and take power. makes things interesting. be a…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 12:52 AM
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why not? i don’t think anyone should be made to be like anyone else. my boyfriend and i both have our dominant and submissive moments and that’s how we both like it. why isn’t the policy just let people be the way they wish, especially behind closed doors? why should you get to decide how feminine men can be and how masculine women can be? what’s wrong with gender expression being fluid? does that negatively affect you? (hint: the answer is no)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 12:43 AM
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femdoms are asexual do you even know what being asexual is? turns out you just don’t know what the fuck you’re talking about lmao. associating being sub/dom with sexuality doesn’t make any sense. how are there dominant gay men then? and submissive lesbians? there’s no link between sexuality and dominance since there are subs/doms of every sexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 11:39 PM
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how’d you know i’m a biology major? i’m not saying biology doesn’t have an influence. there are more dominant men than women, and more submissive women than men. that’s true and perfectly fine. what i have a problem with is him claiming that a man being submissive is unhealthy, that submissive men have extra baggage and “fucked up hormones”, and essentially shaming them for being less masculine. in a roundabout way, that’s kind of misandrist because shouldn’t we be supporting men to be as mascul…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 11:37 PM
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just don’t fight people problem solved /s
/r/MensRights28/10/21 11:29 PM
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i think OP is saying that people say “it’s not acceptable to hit anyone” when we live in a society where it is acceptable to hit people, or at least it’s more acceptable to hit men than it is to hit women. people who say “it’s not acceptable to hit anyone” have the right idea, but they don’t actually fight to make that a reality.
/r/MensRights28/10/21 11:27 PM
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lmfao what scientific basis does this stand on? oh wait— it’s just another person claiming every person of a gender should act the same and want the same things. plenty of femdoms and submissive men exist and unless you’re a doctor, you have no place calling someone unhealthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 11:25 PM
1

emotionality and logic go hand and hand. nobody makes decisions solely on one without considering the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 11:13 PM
0

people here respect me despite my purple hair. it’s almost like the color of your hair is irrelevant to your political beliefs
/r/MensRights24/10/21 07:33 PM
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lots of subs have weekly discussion threads for random chats to keep random talking out of the feed. that might be a good idea as to not take attention away from real issues.
/r/MensRights24/10/21 06:39 PM
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damn i don’t like feminists but you sound like the whiny one here bud
/r/MensRights24/10/21 06:38 PM
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why would a woman go for someone who disrespects her? logically, it doesn’t make sense. however it does logically make sense for plenty of women to be secure in themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 06:54 PM
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totally. the media cares about viewers and profit and that alone. it doesn’t matter if what they say is fair, or right- they want it to be popular and interesting. and you know who society has the most empathy for? young white women. we see the same issue when we talk about the coverage of missing indigenous women. they are hardly ever covered in the media because unfortunately people just care less when it’s an indigenous person and care less when it’s a man.
/r/MensRights22/10/21 04:46 AM
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this is just my opinion, but i feel like women are just more inclined to show that empathy outward to people they don’t know super well. it’s normalized for women to be emotional and highly empathetic. i think men (in general) can feel the same amounts of empathy, but may be less inclined to show it due to societal expectations, or because they simply are more inward about their emotions. which is perfectly fine. the men in my life are all highly empathetic, but you don't see it until you active…
/r/MensRights22/10/21 04:26 AM
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i think it’s a pretty stupid song. but i also think there’s bigger fish to fry. whether it exists or not, apology or not.. that doesn’t affect mens or womens rights. people aren’t gonna use that song as a source like “well, according to the song modest is hottest women shouldn’t dress like that” i think acknowledging that it’s not a progressive mindset for either gender is enough. any intelligent activist knows that already.
/r/MensRights22/10/21 04:23 AM
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really? is there a stat on that or is that just your opinion?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 11:11 PM
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are you proud of yourself for thinking of that one? ⭐️
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 08:55 PM
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i don’t. and guess what? just because you are a man doesn’t mean you understand all mens experiences either. you cannot say that all men experience something. there are always exceptions to generalizations, and that makes your claims false. saying that all men experience something is discrediting the experiences of men who don’t experience that thing (or experience something different/worse.) for example- let’s say you say that all men want to have sex. this is untrue. some men do not want to ha…
/r/MensRights21/10/21 07:38 PM
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he’s not talking about his experience, though. if he was, i would have no problem with it. he’s taking his experience and claiming that it’s all men’s experience, which is a generalization and what i take issue with.
/r/MensRights21/10/21 04:24 PM
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what do you mean by look out for number one?
/r/MensRights21/10/21 04:23 PM
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you clearly just haven’t learned that yet, mr jesus of misogyny. no girl who’s secure in herself is going to go for someone who disrespects her
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 04:07 PM
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the question was directed towards women. and i was wondering- do women really spend their time thinking this way?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 04:05 PM
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no, totally. i just wish there was a solution for people who are not financially well off enough to afford a lawyer. it sucks that it’s always “he said she said” because while i hate false accusations, i also never want a rapist to walk away because there wasn’t significant proof. that’s why i’m passionate about the rape kit backlog. many SA allegations could be proven through DNA testing and hundreds of thousands of rape kits sit in storage, untested. i would support solid proof being required …
/r/MensRights21/10/21 04:44 AM
1

not duolingo💀 i’m getting my Bsc at the moment
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 04:24 AM
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that makes sense. i’m still young, so i suppose that’s why i didn’t consider that.
/r/MensRights21/10/21 04:23 AM
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never meant to insinuate that you yourself said that. i think i phrased my question poorly. finances should be considered when deciding to be long term with someone. i just don’t know if someone’s financial status should be a dealbreaker on the first couple of dates (ie. searching for someone with a lot of money and not considering other important personality traits or your actual compatibility) i guess just wondering why people date for money and not for love.
/r/MensRights21/10/21 03:48 AM
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i guess i agree with the wake up call, however i think that’s more a personality thing and not so much looks (ie. learning to be respectful). why dedicate yourself to give other people a wake up call though? that seems like a waste of time and also not your responsibility/none of your business. if someone asks for advice that’s a different story.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 03:40 AM
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transgender male? do you mean.. transgender woman? i think you’re very confused about what a transgender man is lmao
/r/MensRights21/10/21 03:27 AM
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do people actually spend time thinking about these things? couldn’t you be.. i don’t know, learning something useful instead of rating people based on their physical features? what is the benefit of this
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 03:26 AM
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that’s how men think yes! let’s generalize men as if they all think the same! /s spoiler alert: they don’t. i’m currently in love. so not sure why you think women don’t fall in love. or are you just confusing your own personal shitty experiences with everyone else’s reality? i agree with the point that i grew up being told to be cautious of men. that sentiment stuck with me until i came to mens rights and realized that just because specific men are bad doesn’t mean that i can blame the gender fo…
/r/MensRights21/10/21 03:24 AM
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do you think that my boyfriend is going to work in retail his whole life? am i going to be going to school my whole life? no. my boyfriend is not lazy. he’s hardworking and has many passions he could pursue and turn into a career. we’ll have a wonderful family and i’m certain we’ll both contribute to bills. or maybe he’ll be a stay at home dad and i’ll be the breadwinner :) i don’t care as long as he’s the one i’m with
/r/MensRights21/10/21 03:19 AM
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seems expensive
/r/MensRights21/10/21 02:04 AM
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do people actually consider finances when they’re looking for a spouse? i’m a university student with great grades and a lot of money i’ve earned in my savings account. the love of my life works full time at a retail store, has considerably less savings, is committed to a football team and is an amazing guitarist. so what? his economic status does not have anything to do with his passion, hard work, or his worth. he takes care of me and i take care of him, emotionally and physically. that’s all …
/r/MensRights21/10/21 02:02 AM
1

me rn 🏃🏽‍♀️
/r/MensRights16/10/21 12:36 AM
1

quote please.
/r/MensRights15/10/21 05:48 PM
1

I know for a fact he was being sarcastic because he could’ve read the acronym in my response and typed it easily. Or, look it up- i commonly look things up when i’m unsure of spelling. I’m confident it wasn’t a typo.
/r/MensRights15/10/21 05:35 PM
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does it state that in their terms and conditions? no. so they’re good to go. like dude regardless of my opinion on the matter, it sucks that you feel discriminated against but this is a private company and they can do whatever they want so if you don’t like it then don’t use it
/r/MensRights15/10/21 04:42 PM
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i wasn’t getting mad over him getting it wrong.. i was being sarcastic when i claimed he couldn’t spell. it was pretty obvious that he misspelled on purpose to degrade the acronym. i don’t know why you’re thinking he actually just didn’t know how to spell it. sorry, let me rephrase. lgbt+ encompasses every identity in the lgbt community.
/r/MensRights15/10/21 04:39 AM
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the plus is implied. nobody needs to get mad over me missing one character when i’m typing. saying straights are excluded from the lgbt community is like saying white people are excluded from being POC.
/r/MensRights15/10/21 02:09 AM
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you can just write lgbt+. lots of identities fall under the same umbrella, no need to type them all out. the + is more inclusive anyway because it encompasses every identity
/r/MensRights15/10/21 01:10 AM
1

never seen fifty shades actually. is it good? i don’t care about your lifestyle in the slightest. to say something derogatory towards woman to someone who has not consented to partake in BDSM, is sexist. i didn’t consent nor do i enjoy being spoken to like that. speak to your subs all you want like that but not in a serious debate and not to me.
/r/MensRights15/10/21 12:00 AM
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get your bdsm outta politics wtf😭 you gonna ask me to call you daddy while we debate or smthn?
/r/MensRights14/10/21 11:50 PM
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stop assuming that i’m misandrist because i’m a woman. you claim i speak whatever i think because i have a vagina, like most women. that’s you directly bringing gender into things. i said i don’t trust you because you don’t have a source. gender has nothing to do with my statement. stop wanting to be oppressed so badly. you sound like a feminist
/r/MensRights14/10/21 11:49 PM
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lmfao you’re nuts. tell me where i claimed you’re a white supremacist? where i claimed you’re anti lgbt? you clearly aren’t processing what i am saying. i’m saying that there are plenty of discriminatory websites that are protected by free speech laws. i didn’t say anything about you as a person. it’s pretty sad that you can’t spell lgbt when i had just spelled it for you. i guess some of the population just inherently has a lower iq lmao
/r/MensRights14/10/21 11:42 PM
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i’m not speaking an opinion. i’m telling you that factually, there are many discriminatory websites and they are not obligated to follow a certain set of beliefs. i would love your sources so i can actually read them because i don’t trust your word alone, either.
/r/MensRights14/10/21 11:39 PM
2

congrats on clicking the first link that comes up. reddit does not have discriminatory terms and conditions. you are able to make any claim you want- doesn’t mean it will be successful
/r/MensRights14/10/21 11:30 PM
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i’m sure. there are plenty of white supremacy, anti lgbt, anti man and anti woman websites. that’s free speech for you.
/r/MensRights14/10/21 11:28 PM
3

i agree on the front that men should not be shamed for wanting a particular type of wife, or for being masculine or assertive. i don’t think toxic masculinity was ever meant to assert that masculinity was inherently toxic. however, i do think that the women who invented and use the term toxic masculinity think that they are genuinely helping men break from gender norms and experience emotions in the way women deem is healthy. i used to think this way. however, i came to realize that women do not…
/r/MensRights14/10/21 11:25 PM
3

you can’t (successfully) sue a website for discrimination. they’re allowed to promote whatever views or opinions they please. websites are not obligated to uphold any standard of equality.
/r/MensRights14/10/21 11:16 PM
3

what would they even be sued for?
/r/MensRights14/10/21 11:10 PM
0

yeah let’s take one woman’s actions and generalize it as if all women are the same
/r/MensRights14/10/21 08:20 PM
1

no, correct terms would be cisgender man vs transgender man.
/r/MensRights12/10/21 01:09 AM
2

i like your point but you just implied that transgender men aren’t humans lmfao
/r/MensRights11/10/21 11:52 PM
1

i feel bad for the non misogynistic MRAs on here. you give them such a bad rep
/r/MensRights11/10/21 11:52 PM
2

“unsavoury men”? the fuck lmao? of course they’re unsavoury hun you’re a lesbian seriously tho, obviously not all lesbians are like this but ive noticed lesbians are more likely to be misandrist than bi women
/r/MensRights27/09/21 09:39 PM
1

that’s completely alright with me, i don’t mind disagreeing. i’d like to remind you though, that the group is “men’s rights”, not “men” :). so the sub is actually not just for men. it’s for men’s rights activists.
/r/MensRights27/09/21 12:24 AM
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you’re welcome to think that, but you’re not welcome to speak for all men. saying “we don’t want you here” is false, because you didn’t consult other men on this sub before making that claim. OP asked a question. they did not state that their question was only for men. also, this sub is for men’s rights- not for men only. recently before commenting here i got a reply from a man who said he appreciated that i was a woman here, an advocate for men’s rights as well as the fact that people like me p…
/r/MensRights27/09/21 12:13 AM
-1

how is my advice wrong?
/r/MensRights25/09/21 05:34 PM
1

probably. i think i have anxiety tbf so my opinion is biased lol.
/r/MensRights25/09/21 06:06 AM
0

it just sounds like you’re complaining about one negative comment on your post which is unusual because people get negative comments all the time.
/r/MensRights25/09/21 05:33 AM
1

commenter said “they seem pretty supportive, what are you talking about?” you said “scroll down” as if you were trying to prove they weren’t supportive. when you scroll down, there’s only one negative comment. so what are you trying to prove by saying scroll down?
/r/MensRights25/09/21 05:00 AM
1

did you miss the part where i agreed with you and said restricting spaces like that causes issues? i don’t think that it’s okay to have gender exclusive gyms. however, i personally wouldn’t be comfortable going to a gym with men (at least not yet) so i would probably opt out of going to the gym altogether.
/r/MensRights25/09/21 04:50 AM
2

you’re getting mad over literally 1 comment? sorry that not everyone in the world agrees with you all the time lmfao you got majority agreement
/r/MensRights25/09/21 04:37 AM
2

i don’t know anything about anime so i can’t speak on that. i asked about d&d and then spoke about characters presumably from movies.
/r/MensRights25/09/21 04:35 AM
1

that makes sense. i generally don’t agree with separate gender establishments either, though maybe for a slightly different reason. does that mean only female presenting people can go to the gym? people born female regardless of their appearance? what about non binary people? restricting access based on any characteristic like that comes with issues. as a woman i would be definitely more comfortable going to a woman only gym, but it’s not a fear of harassment or anything- it’s because i’m anxiou…
/r/MensRights25/09/21 04:33 AM
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well, the first step is knowing your fears aren’t logical, and you’ve done that. the hard part is next. overcoming those fears instead of giving into (and actually believing) them. it’s wrong for a woman to hate all men and be fearful of all men after being hurt by one. it is understandable, but shouldn’t be normalized as okay. therapy helps. i agree with other comments about viewing people as individuals. it is not okay to stereotype based on race. so why would it be okay to stereotype based on…
/r/MensRights25/09/21 04:23 AM
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who’s stopping men from playing d&d without women? also, you ask why feminists complain about certain female characters. why do men complain about female characters in a lot of cases? truth is, people are gonna complain no matter what and that’s something you literally just have to deal with lol
/r/MensRights25/09/21 04:16 AM
2

why do we have separate male/female change rooms, then? why is that okay but having male/female gyms is not?
/r/MensRights25/09/21 04:13 AM
1

that’s the basic idea. but what is their goal? do they not want to get with a woman then?
/r/MensRights14/09/21 07:17 PM
1

i did say enlighten me. meaning i’m giving you a chance to explain what it is besides that.
/r/MensRights14/09/21 06:27 PM
0

okay? your point is..?
/r/MensRights11/09/21 12:54 AM
3

idk man, i guess my boyfriend didn’t get that memo
/r/MensRights11/09/21 12:29 AM
1

i think you’re confusing wants and needs. sex is not a necessity. i still want it, i’m just not going to compromise myself or my morals in order to get it lol
/r/MensRights11/09/21 12:29 AM
2

then they can find someone else willing. sex is not a necessity for me, lol. i wouldn’t do it unless we have a lot of mutual trust between us. i wouldn’t want to have sex with a guy that doesn’t value that mutual trust, anyway.
/r/MensRights11/09/21 12:04 AM
-2

me: i trust my man everyone else: 😡😤👎🏻
/r/MensRights10/09/21 04:23 PM
-1

let me reiterate that i would never try to convince him or force him to have sex with me. he does not have to partake in that in any way, shape, or form, if he does not have enough trust in me to do so yet. i wouldn’t be upset about that. what i would be upset about, is him wanting to have sex with me despite the fact that he doesn’t trust me, and wanting me to sign something because he doesn’t trust me. i would rather just not have sex with him because if he doesn’t trust me enough to make that…
/r/MensRights10/09/21 04:22 PM
0

did you really write this out, post it, and still think it was funny?
/r/MensRights10/09/21 04:14 PM
-20

what? how does using protection relate to trust? i certainly trust him to pull out, but that doesn’t mean i won’t get pregnant. never took std tests either. and we won’t be married for a while because we’re still pretty young. so long story short, yes, i trust my man.
/r/MensRights10/09/21 05:52 AM
-25

if someone asked me to do that i wouldn’t. shows that they don’t trust me, and i wouldn’t have sex with someone that doesn’t trust me.
/r/MensRights10/09/21 04:52 AM
77

it’s in female dating strategy.. i’m not surprised
/r/MensRights10/09/21 04:51 AM
0

why would i be a troll
/r/MensRights09/09/21 05:48 PM
-2

your evidence is pretty relevant to the post. you should’ve included it
/r/MensRights09/09/21 05:36 AM
6

is sleeping with your boss actually a good way to get ahead in your career? i thought that shit only happened in movies i guess all the men in top positions are secretly gay /s jokes aside, i just don’t think sleeping with your boss is a super common way of getting promoted.
/r/MensRights08/09/21 05:52 AM
1

why aren’t people getting it safely prescribed by doctors, then? why are they buying it in high volume dosages from animal stores? i’m sure not every person using this method knows how to properly calculate a dosage (without errors). that could lead to serious ramifications.
/r/MensRights07/09/21 07:37 PM
1

thanks for the perspective. i bet people are still going to disagree with you even though you have actual physical experience lmao
/r/MensRights07/09/21 06:40 PM
2

there’s not 100% consensus for a single thing on earth. even things proven to be true (the earth being round?) consensus doesn’t matter. that’s probably the shortest paper i’ve ever read lmao. thanks for the quote but that doesn’t make me think you’re any smarter for defending anti vaxxers lol
/r/MensRights07/09/21 06:38 PM
1

provide links please! i want to hear what these doctors have to say
/r/MensRights07/09/21 06:31 PM
2

so obnoxious
/r/MensRights07/09/21 06:30 PM
1

i 100% don’t agree with the way she phrased the post because it was definitely anti man. however OP’s title says “making their own medical decisions” as if using horse dewormer instead of following actual medical advice is a sound medical decision (that OP supports).
/r/MensRights07/09/21 05:56 PM
4

i never said anything about it being ineffective. what’s stupid to me is going against the advice of pretty much every doctor, because you think you personally know better, and using a product made for animals which can result in all types of dosage and safety issues.
/r/MensRights07/09/21 05:55 PM
3

did you just stalk my profile to find out that i’m a barista? that’s actually so funny because i quit my job to get my BSc😭
/r/MensRights07/09/21 05:53 PM
-15

this has nothing to do with gender but are you seriously defending people who use horse dewormer? yikes
/r/MensRights07/09/21 05:05 PM
8

i just saw this! i really liked that his story was featured.
/r/MensRights07/09/21 01:22 AM
1

perhaps. but i think in all relationships, any dynamic is okay if they come to an agreement. if the man has a job, and him and his wife agree that he’ll split his income with her if she stays home and takes care of the kids, and they happily agree on that, that’s perfectly fine. if the man decides he wants to keep the entirety of his income and not provide for his wife, that is also fine- but then she will have to get a job and they will have to split childcare/housekeeping duties. the genders c…
/r/MensRights06/09/21 08:31 PM
1

forced how?
/r/MensRights06/09/21 06:09 PM
0

why would a man lose more in court? i’m genuinely asking also.. sign a prenup.
/r/MensRights06/09/21 04:49 PM
3

i definitely think the wife is NTA in this situation? they equally split finances and expenses already. they equally contribute. why should the man have a right to her profit? no problem splitting a man’s income if this is agreed upon by both parties. if a man does not want to split his income, he can literally not do that and just leave. many men are okay with splitting their income because they enjoy providing for their SO in exchange for them doing house duties/childcare etc. any financial sp…
/r/MensRights06/09/21 06:13 AM
10

like- when that whole blm thing was in full force i was legitimately pressured into performative activism (ie. posting about blm all day long but not actually doing anything to help the cause). then when i got emotionally tired of doing so, i felt like i couldn’t stop or people would think i’m a racist or something people can support a cause without it becoming their entire personality
/r/MensRights06/09/21 06:06 AM
46

hi! if ur a female that posts about your daily starbucks run, pics of your fatass body for “body positivity”, or a selfie with lots of filters, INSTEAD of showing your solidarity and speaking up against marginalized people, poc, or god forbid MEN, ur a loser if this post offends you put ur makeup down, sit down with your grandpa, dad or brother and ask him about a time a woman has abused him or taken advantage of him. if he feels uncomfortable sharing with you, it’s probably because he’s scared …
/r/MensRights06/09/21 05:52 AM
2

“despite these stats” what stats? lmfao you just made up the number 99%
/r/MensRights01/09/21 03:07 AM
3

-23, consider myself blue pilled but i’m still learning. definitely a far leftist.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 10:26 PM
2

i’m sorry you experienced that.
/r/MensRights15/08/21 10:06 PM
1

pick a side?
/r/MensRights14/08/21 12:03 AM
2

how exactly does treating men’s and women’s issues with equal importance lead to laws protecting female genital mutilation only? clearly, in this case, men’s and women’s issues were not treated with equal importance. i would say men and women have very different problems, but they have equal amounts of those problems and they should be treated with equal importance. “the shit mras complain about these days doesn’t compare to all the shit women still have to deal with, that men specifically left …
/r/MensRights14/08/21 12:01 AM
1

i mean, you shouldn’t have said men have it worse because that really invalidates women’s struggles. but for it to be truly equal, yes, if a woman said “women have it worse” she should be banned also. however, that sub is not egalitarian. its widely known that they are feminist. subreddits can ban whoever they please, so there’s really not much you can do
/r/MensRights13/08/21 11:45 PM
1

on where?
/r/MensRights13/08/21 09:06 PM
2

perhaps i interpreted it differently- if this was the message of the post, i would be on board with it.
/r/MensRights13/08/21 09:04 PM
2

yup, which is the issue. in developed countries, men do not have it worse. women do not have it worse. they both have completely different issues, but an equal amount of them. saying that men have it worse actually invalidates women’s issues. it’s like a feminist saying “yeah, men have problems, but women have it worse.” certainly not a path to equality, just creating further divide.
/r/MensRights13/08/21 09:02 PM
3

i know, i’m on them!
/r/MensRights13/08/21 08:59 PM
1

i agree with you 100%. but this sub isn’t banned.. and lots of men’s issues are mentioned here.
/r/MensRights13/08/21 08:27 PM
1

i did! for sure, i don’t really think this post in particular is bad. is the one that has it EASY? neither has it easy. this sentence implies that OP thinks women have it easier than men. all i’m saying is that we need to stop deciding who has it worse or better- and agree that both genders struggle and we should put equal effort into fixing both gender’s problems.
/r/MensRights13/08/21 08:23 PM
1

my comment is relevant, since OP is essentially trying to prove men have it worse than women. oh well what do i know, women just think we’re neanderthals and walking atms. dude, i agree that men’s rights are equally as important as women’s rights. but this statement is so “woe is me”.
/r/MensRights13/08/21 05:56 AM
6

well that’s incredibly stupid.
/r/MensRights13/08/21 05:53 AM
2

what does this have to do with what i said
/r/MensRights13/08/21 04:47 AM
0

it’s written in the rules. i’m currently reading them. they may not follow them though, which is what i stated.
/r/MensRights13/08/21 04:23 AM
1

not at all. please, be as loud as you can about men’s issues. they deserve recognition. eye for an eye, no. constantly shitting on feminists is not making progress, imo. just like how feminists constantly shitting on MRAs does not make progress for equality.
/r/MensRights13/08/21 04:22 AM
-4

hate speech towards men is against reddit’s rules. “hate based on identity”. whether they regulate it, is another story. but it’s plainly written in rule 1.
/r/MensRights13/08/21 03:49 AM
1

the thing is, feminists who believe that are not going to let that go until they die. you cannot expect to defeat that issue- it’s frankly impossible. in my opinion, the most beneficial thing would be to stop wasting energy on this back and forth and instead fight for men’s rights without also downplaying women’s issues. i would say the same to a feminist- that she should focus on women’s rights without claiming that men are the problem.
/r/MensRights13/08/21 03:46 AM
0

so.. a feminist saying that women have it worse is just her debunking you? it’s only debunking if you’re actually correct. and frankly, neither feminists or MRAs are correct unless they are also egalitarians.
/r/MensRights13/08/21 03:40 AM
-2

my comment was about the word gaslighting. i think you replied to the wrong person
/r/MensRights13/08/21 03:16 AM
-8

sorry what does this have to do with my comment
/r/MensRights13/08/21 12:57 AM
9

i’m not saying you’re wrong but i hate the word gaslighting😭 it’s used so loosely that every time i see it i cannot take it seriously
/r/MensRights13/08/21 12:03 AM
6

incels, misogynists, and rape apologists exists, but they’re not mutually exclusive to MRAs. they’re separate groups, lol. is it really a good solution to say “the feminists will never listen, so we should just do the same thing to them that they’re doing to us”? i get that you’re incredibly frustrated but i hate that eye for an eye mentality because it’s proven not to work.
/r/MensRights13/08/21 12:02 AM
65

why are we constantly fighting over what gender has it worse? it’s so annoying. can we just treat men and women’s issues with equal importance instead of saying “actually we have it worse! actually we’re oppressed!” because that does apeshit for actually making any progress.
/r/MensRights12/08/21 11:27 PM
1

i would agree, however i always disclaim that this is for my country (canada) and i cannot speak for other countries because women are oppressed in some third world countries
/r/MensRights12/08/21 07:06 PM
1

yeah, i wouldn’t call that real equality. i’d say equality is looking at each gender’s problems with equal importance.
/r/MensRights12/08/21 07:00 PM
1

excuse me, are you talking to me? i’m just relaying what feminists have said to me, so i’m not sure why you’re asking me that instead of them
/r/MensRights12/08/21 06:59 PM
22

i’ve had some feminists tell me feminism is about equality for the sexes and that men’s problems will be fixed by fixing women’s problems. others have told me that feminism is not about equality, it’s about women’s rights and the fact that the “patriarchy is skewed against women”.
/r/MensRights12/08/21 12:54 AM
10

against hate subs is actively against men’s rights. of course if you linked a MR post there, you’re gonna get banned. it’s like linking a MR post to a feminist sub. against the rules.
/r/MensRights11/08/21 07:27 PM
2

i think it’s different for everyone. personally i would only have sex with a romantic partner as a way to bond. but it is pleasurable and some people do it for stress relief or just straight pleasure. i don’t think it’s anyone position to decide if recreational sex is good or not. we have to remember that what’s best for you is not best for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 02:27 AM
5

there shouldn’t be any narrative. why do we keep grouping men together and saying they all think the same, act the same, and want the same things? has it ever occurred to you that confronting a generalization with another generalization is just as bad as the initial one? if you say “men do x” or “men think y” you’re automatically wrong. because there’s not a single opinion in the world that all men agree on.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 06:29 AM
7

some men are monogamous and some are polyamorous. it’s something like sexuality- you just like who you like, how you like. i don’t understand this question.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 05:51 AM
2

kinda weird.. i don’t really consider this redpill. i’m definitely against redpill but i agree with most things on this sub
/r/MensRights03/08/21 05:38 AM
3

is this considered a redpill/incel sub or are you subscribed to others?
/r/MensRights03/08/21 03:17 AM
6

ah. so since OP’s looking for “rooms”, it’s not illegal.
/r/MensRights30/07/21 04:15 AM
48

so.. why aren’t more cases of this reported/taken up legally?
/r/MensRights30/07/21 02:11 AM
149

this makes sense to me. you can’t discriminate based on sexuality, or race.. so why gender? what if someone said “black people only” or “white people only”. that would be considered problematic.
/r/MensRights30/07/21 12:49 AM
2

so instead of taking one step towards cooperation, you want to just continue battling mra’s?
/r/MensRights28/07/21 04:41 PM
0

i’m curious to know what you think men are good for other than their dick? any traits or qualities you can give me that a woman can’t provide for herself? or are men just glorified dildos?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/21 05:09 AM
1

i would never call myself a cum sock. those are your words, not mine. i offer him much more than just my pussy 😉 i don’t think i need to get into detail on that. sex aside: your point is that he can live without me. that’s true. he sure can. but he doesn’t want to, because a dog can’t hold him, a dog can’t give him advice, can’t hear him out, can’t kiss him or give him butterflies. i’ve never nagged or gaslit him. what makes you think i would? actually: he’s right here. since you’re so curious t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/21 04:13 AM
1

so why would you associate with that movement then? you’re choosing to associate with a movement that doesn’t stand for equality. that’s the question that turned me into an egalitarian from being a former feminist.
/r/MensRights27/07/21 09:14 PM
1

Of course he can do all that himself. I’m not his mother, he doesn’t need to be taken care of. I have no doubt he’d be just fine if i never came into his life. I never claimed he couldn’t live without me. He doesn’t want to live without me though, because i do add significantly to his life. He wants me around because i’m his best friend and companion. I’m still not really sure what you’re trying to prove by calling me a cum sock lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 09:13 PM
1

people are going to get mad at you for everything. just do what you think is right and ignore them
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 06:56 PM
2

even if it’s most women, it’s still not always, so i don’t know why you’d make generalizing claims when that doesn’t help your case. there are plenty of non-traditional women out there (maybe less if you live in the south or whatever) but i’m from canada and most girls are like that where i live🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 06:44 PM
2

i would disagree. i don’t think a person should ever say “men suck” or any other generalization like that because you are implying all men are the same. instead, say “some men suck” which is both true and not offensive? like it’s not that hard to adapt your language
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 06:42 PM
2

so.. make equality your intention, then. there’s no point in fighting non-equality with non-equality and having this constant male vs female power struggle
/r/MensRights27/07/21 06:40 PM
2

the post made claims about women in general. i’m a woman, so those claims would apply to me. i wouldn’t have commented if he’d said “some women..” instead of just women. because he made it sound like he thinks all women are the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 06:31 PM
2

most women is different than just women. when you just say women, you’re generalizing. and yeah- not all men are the same. no two men are the same, actually, so they can’t be treated as such. are you sure the man always does the work or is that just your own personal experience? first few months of a potential relationship?? in my personal experience, i offered to pay on the first and second dates- and then i did pay for the third. after that, we generally alternated. we were also official after…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 06:29 PM
2

are you sure? it’s extremely common in the girls i know and what ive seen. we all see the world through different lenses. i wonder why you’re not seeing the girls i see?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 06:25 PM
3

when did i say i don’t take care of myself lol? my acne is a genetic condition- my hair was what i was born with. i wear makeup when i feel like it because it’s not a requirement. i’m a figure skater so i only work out in the winter. i don’t diet because i don’t need to- i’m a healthy weight and i like my body shape. nowhere does that insinuate i don’t take care of myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 06:24 PM
1

did you ask him about that? lmfao of course he can, but he appreciates when i pay half the time because it shows i care about him and want to treat him. he doesn’t masturbate anymore because in his words “i make him feel better than anyone’s ever felt” so he saves himself for me. i don’t nag him afterwards, i hold him and pet his hair and kiss him because we’re both piles of mush. we like to cook together and take turns cooking because again- it’s an act of service and shows we love each other. …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 06:22 PM
3

yes, but that’s the thing. at that point, the girls that are pursuing you at that point aren’t going to treat you well. if you’re a bad person you’re going to attract bad women, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 06:20 PM
3

it’s not an argument, lol. it’s to show that one person’s personal experience is not necessarily the truth. OP doesn’t see the kind women I see. I wonder why?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 06:19 PM
1

amongst attractive women it depends on your standards, i suppose. however, you can’t keep going for the hottest women and complain that they have shit personalities. they can do that, because they’re hot. of course, some women are the full perfect package, but those women are only going to go for men who are also the full perfect package. i’d say i’m attractive but that’s always dependant on a person’s preferences. girls with wonderful caring personalities are incredibly common- but you cannot e…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 06:17 PM
5

cheers! i genuinely hope you do enjoy it, maybe you can buy a plane or something
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 06:13 PM
4

you’re always so kind to me ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 06:12 PM
3

how is it rare based on stories you’ve heard? based on stores i’ve heard, every girl i know treats her boyfriend very well and essentially equal to how he treats her. if you’re so convinced the woman you want isn’t out there, you’re obviously not going to find her because you’re wasting your time complaining about how she’s not out there. a girl who’s going to treat her man well wants a man who’s emotionally mature, who can have open conversations with her, and treat her the way she treats him. …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 06:11 PM
2

OP also didn’t use statistics. The original post is also personal experience. There is no documented proof that what OP’s claiming is true, and especially not for a generalization of all women. Saying all women behave the same and want the same things- that is what I take issue with. I used my experience as an example because that proves not all women are the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 06:06 PM
4

OP also didn’t use statistics. The original post is also personal experience. There is no documented proof that what OP’s claiming is true, and especially not for a generalization of all women. Saying all women behave the same and want the same things- that is what I take issue with. I used my experience as an example because that proves not all women are the same🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 06:06 PM
14

are they? or do you just not see them?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 08:20 AM
22

i don’t think women will care if you decide to stop pursuing them. it’s probably a good thing, actually- they’ll have dodged a bullet
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 08:19 AM
10

LMFAO right?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 08:18 AM
12

i just read the tldr, but: if both labels are striving for equality why even have those labels to begin with? why have a focus on either men’s or women’s rights? having a focus on women’s rights (ie feminism) isn’t very equal.
/r/MensRights27/07/21 06:20 AM
20

i don’t online date. i don’t have many men to choose from, and i don’t dismiss people with one look. why do you assume all women behave the same? why do you think you know what all women think? i’m fucking hilarious and spoil the shit out of my boyfriend. i’m pretty, but not any prettier than my friends. of course i’m entertaining and interesting on the first date- i want him to like me and my personality. i have hella acne, my hair’s a frizzy mess, i wear minimal makeup and don’t workout much. …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 06:06 AM
1

the word bitch is directed towards women and can be used both positively or negatively. i don’t have an issue with people using it. instead of nitpicking language, we should be assessing each individual’s language, tone of voice and actions to assess if they’re a good person.
/r/MensRights27/07/21 05:46 AM
63

i pay for half our dates, i buy my boyfriend equally expensive gifts, we contribute equally to expenses. it’s not my man’s job to provide for me. it’s our job to provide for each other. i make my boyfriend happy and please him in bed. i feel inclined to do more than the bare minimum because i love him. he treats me well because he loves me and he wants to, not because it’s expected. me and my partner are both okay at cooking. not super great as we’re still young. but we cook together and clean u…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 05:43 AM
49

what the hell
/r/MensRights27/07/21 02:49 AM
1

you can fire someone without just cause in canada. IF you give them 2 weeks notice or 2 weeks severance pay. “just cause” for termination means the employee did something wrong (stole, didn’t show up for shifts, etc.) if they’re fired for just cause, you don’t need to give them 2 weeks pay if there’s just cause. you can terminate someone simply because you don’t need them anymore. you just have to give them 2 weeks pay.
/r/MensRights27/07/21 12:40 AM
1

yes? but even if they had to produce a reason- they could say they just don’t need the staff anymore. as long as you give severance pay you can fire someone even if they did nothing wrong.
/r/MensRights26/07/21 11:57 PM
1

what was the wrongful termination though?
/r/MensRights26/07/21 11:52 PM
1

the exact reason employers refuse to give reasons is to avoid getting in trouble. even if it’s a fireable offence, it’s still safer not to give a reason because that way it can’t be disputed.
/r/MensRights26/07/21 08:37 PM
2

how is it illegal? at will employers don’t have to give reasons for termination.
/r/MensRights26/07/21 06:48 PM
9

that’s not true, actually. canadian here! at will employers can fire you at any time for any reason (assuming it’s not discriminatory like the original comment said). they just have to pay you 2 weeks severance pay.
/r/MensRights26/07/21 06:46 PM
1

certainly. my mother is biased that way because her husband isn’t the best father at times and he isn’t very patient.
/r/MensRights26/07/21 06:12 PM
2

your first paragraph made me laugh ahaha i don’t fully disagree with you, i like when my boyfriend is protective over me. ie. walks on the outside of the sidewalk, pulls me closer around strangers, etc, so i see what you mean, but only to some extent.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 08:01 AM
1

how is it contradicted in actions?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 08:00 AM
2

if a problem can be solved another way, i’d certainly rather see my man use his big boy problem solving skills or leave the situation! if you have a # for how many women feel that way, go ahead and share- i can’t just take your word for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 07:44 AM
2

perhaps? i’d say every man is capable of violence, it doesn’t really matter what your body type is as long as you can throw a punch or stab someone. i would hate to see my man violent in any situation other than a last resort in self defence or to protect others.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 07:01 AM
2

are you sure? i’ve always disliked muscular men/men with “alpha” personalities (as they tend to be more cocky and incompatible with me.) my dream guy is someone who’s not too muscular (anything from chubby to skinny to average is what i’m most attracted to!) and i prefer a softer, empathetic man so he can really understand my feelings on a deeper level. i think you’d be surprised at how many women think the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 02:49 AM
3

maybe they were upset because it sounded like you insinuated she didn’t use protection/was reckless? that’s really the only reason i could think of that you’d get downvoted for saying something like that. it’s perfectly possible to sleep around and also be careful, so to insinuate that she doesn’t care about her child is probably pretty hurtful. don’t get me wrong, i hate when people downvote immensely and get mad over these things, i’m just trying to explain how your comment could’ve been viewe…
/r/MensRights26/07/21 02:46 AM
10

yup, it’s certainly a two way street. my mother would rather me find a man that’ll be a great father and share dinner making/house chores with me. career is irrelevant.
/r/MensRights26/07/21 02:41 AM
1

that’s so dramatic. you should be a movie script writer.
/r/MensRights25/07/21 07:15 PM
1

that’s a good suggestion. usually people say something like “yes but women are lacking rights due to the patriarchy” or something and it’s still difficult for me to understand wtf the “patriarchy” is
/r/MensRights25/07/21 06:59 PM
3

it depends what country you’re in.
/r/MensRights24/07/21 10:26 PM
1

i can’t read the post because it’s deleted, but let’s remember that teenagers can be pretty stupid. they believe whatever they’re told and have strong opinions and refuse to second guess themselves. it’s not until 18/19 that i grew out of that.
/r/MensRights24/07/21 08:11 PM
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one hundred percent. this is exactly what made me realize i’m not a feminist. before, i genuinely just didn’t know better. telling a feminist they’re wrong though, is a death wish lol. i try my best to suggest egalitarianism as that fights for equality. fighting for women’s rights is not fighting for equality, it’s bettering women in any way possible. even if they rise above men in some aspects.
/r/MensRights24/07/21 07:58 PM
1

that makes sense, however i see literally no solution to this besides the fact that people should focus less on looks and more on personality, shared interests and common goals when choosing a partner.
/r/MensRights24/07/21 05:18 PM
1

i have, lol. but anyway, most hookups also start online. flirting culture has nothing to do with it.
/r/MensRights24/07/21 05:43 AM
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so it’s like a pyramid? top 10% men/women on top middle tier is all other women and bottom tier is all other men? that’s how i’m visualizing it, at least? why is that the case? and how is that even fixable?
/r/MensRights23/07/21 11:15 PM
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i had to read this so many times lol are you saying girls are hooking up because they think it’ll lead to a relationship? and the 10% of guys have so many options that they’ll sleep around? therefore leaving the girls hooking up but getting rejected for a relationship, the 10% of men sleeping around, and the rest of the men unable to get a hookup OR relationship? correct me if i’m wrong it was just very hard to understand what you’re saying.
/r/MensRights23/07/21 11:14 PM
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okay, so what about girls who don’t match with the 10%er? meaning, they’re not attractive enough to be swiped on by a 10%er. aren’t those girls still on the market?
/r/MensRights23/07/21 10:16 PM
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oh, a lot of things i comment are pointless/i don’t end up changing anyone’s mind, and that’s okay. i usually still either learn something, or have an enjoyable time.
/r/MensRights23/07/21 10:15 PM
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do you make any effort to break this habit? yes, hence me being on this subreddit. i used to be a feminist, and now i’m an egalitarian- so i’d say big strides have been made. any sane and rational person should be able to see that anyone telling them “all x are y” is full of shit a four year old? who believes everything their mommy and daddy tell them because that’s who they trust most? imagine you were raised with your parents telling you the sky is red. the ocean is red, etc. you grow up belie…
/r/MensRights23/07/21 10:11 PM
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i’ve never been on tinder so i’ll have to take your word for that. even so- let’s say a guy is part of the popular 10%. he gets 50 matches from all different girls. fifty is a lot, so obviously if he’s looking for a relationship he’s just going to pick some to pursue and in the end, only date a few in person. wouldn’t those girls who weren’t picked just go back into the dating pool? making them available for men who aren’t part of that 10%?
/r/MensRights23/07/21 09:13 PM
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i can do whatever i want lol, if you’re not going to contribute to meaningful discussion here then why are you even here
/r/MensRights23/07/21 09:10 PM
0

why would society ever reintroduce those “rules”?
/r/MensRights23/07/21 06:14 PM
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you don’t have to lifelong (and continuous) conditioning is extremely hard to break out of. i would say fearing for your life/safety is more extreme than fearing you’ll lose your job. however: i may be less likely to get attacked than you are to lose your job. i don’t know the actual stats on that. you get to talk to children what do you mean lol? i generally don’t talk to other people’s children because kids shouldn’t talk to strangers. i don’t think talking to strangers kids is a right. you’re…
/r/MensRights23/07/21 06:11 PM
1

i don’t really understand what you’re saying.
/r/MensRights23/07/21 06:06 PM
1

i wouldn’t say sex has been erased from society. sex is sex, no matter what method you’re using to get it. if you’re not looking for an actual relationship, i don’t see why the method matters.
/r/MensRights23/07/21 06:05 PM
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what’s the purpose of your comment?
/r/MensRights23/07/21 05:53 PM
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gen z is so online oriented anyway that i don’t see this as a problem for them. for millennial men who want to flirt in person, yes. but most gen z men will just approach a girl and ask for her social media, which is generally considered acceptable, and continue the conversation online.
/r/MensRights23/07/21 05:52 PM
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ive been scared to talk to men my whole life because i was conditioned to assume all men are dangerous at the age of 4
/r/MensRights23/07/21 05:50 PM
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how can you say “sex has been erased from society” and “hookup culture is rampant”? aren’t those conflicting views?
/r/MensRights23/07/21 05:49 PM
1

oh, i didn’t know certain political standpoints make it more likely to ghost someone. why do you think that is?
/r/MensRights23/07/21 05:29 PM
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okay that’s fine lol, it just seems out of place that you even needed to describe her since it was kind of irrelevant. why am i getting downvoted?
/r/MensRights23/07/21 04:01 PM
1

my comment started the thread. nowhere did i talk about patriarchy besides stating that i didn’t know about it.
/r/MensRights23/07/21 06:45 AM
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why’d you call her a liberal hippy girl? was that an insult or just an unnecessary description? if it was an insult.. well, you’re not a nice guy.
/r/MensRights23/07/21 06:06 AM
1

when did i say it exists? you are literally making things up at this point. i didn’t even say anything about the patriarchy.
/r/MensRights22/07/21 05:20 PM
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dude. i don’t know anything about the patriarchy, i don’t know why you continue to ask me about it
/r/MensRights22/07/21 05:55 AM
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i don’t know, seeing as that’s the question i didn’t want to answer due to lack of research.
/r/MensRights19/07/21 06:36 AM
1

i never said that men are suicidal due to the patriarchy. i suggest you reread my comments.
/r/MensRights18/07/21 02:47 AM
1

i don’t think i ever said that men were suicidal due to having power? i think they have power in certain areas- mental health support not being one of them.
/r/MensRights17/07/21 04:54 AM
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i didn’t want to get into researching the patriarchy and it’s effect on men, therefore i can’t say whether the title of the post is true. i can however answer the last question OP asked, “why are men still a lot more likely to commit suicide” because i have prior knowledge of that topic. does that make more sense?
/r/MensRights17/07/21 01:45 AM
1

sexual pleasure is intended as much as reproduction. hence, organs made specifically for sexual pleasure and not reproduction.
/r/MensRights16/07/21 09:16 PM
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i see what you are saying, you’re taking about ratios. there’s the same amount of sex-oriented men as emotion-oriented women. there’s the same amount of emotion-oriented men as sex-oriented women (a minority, but still a mirror amount) an interesting take. unfortunately, i can’t really say it’s true unless we have stats on it.
/r/MensRights16/07/21 08:31 PM
2

i still don’t really understand what you’re saying then, lol. but that’s alright
/r/MensRights16/07/21 08:21 PM
2

perhaps the majority, but let’s not say all men or women are like this. there are asexual men who only like romantic interactions. there are hypersexual women who have a need for sex even moreso than men.
/r/MensRights16/07/21 08:06 PM
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what do you mean by this? women want good sex too. you know how many men go straight to penetration and don’t know/don’t care about making their girl feel good? i wouldn’t be with someone who couldn’t make me feel good, either.
/r/MensRights16/07/21 07:30 PM
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i’ve obviously researched the question i’m answering. i haven’t researched the patriarchy and it’s effect on men.
/r/MensRights16/07/21 04:08 AM
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what was the point of this
/r/MensRights16/07/21 03:43 AM
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what’s the point of surviving without them, though? lol
/r/MensRights16/07/21 02:34 AM
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not for more than a week or two. by then, the truth should’ve come out
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 09:54 PM
-1

men cannot be born without women, lol
/r/MensRights15/07/21 07:53 PM
1

why even date at that point? does your new girl deserves to be treated as “not fully a person” just because you’ve been hurt in the past?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 07:19 PM
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okay, and what point does that make? we need men as much as we need women
/r/MensRights15/07/21 07:17 PM
1

as i always will be. you don’t know me
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 07:16 PM
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since when is it not? i’m committed to my partner for life. i’ve never heard of lifelong happiness together not being the end goal
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 06:26 PM
0

you really don’t understand anything thanks? that’s not helpful to discussion. i really don’t know what you’re trying to prove here. with the technology we have, women are able to do those jobs too. just because they don’t doesn’t mean they can’t. men and women play equally important roles in the well-being of our species, and i think that’s what’s important to remember.
/r/MensRights15/07/21 06:18 PM
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it’s not that i need the last word, it’s just that i enjoy conversation and debate. if i don’t think the conversation’s finished.. i’ll respond. gender activism for either sex is not really something i have room for on my plate in real life. i just enjoy discussing it in my free time- i like hearing other point of views and learning new things.
/r/MensRights15/07/21 06:13 PM
0

why do man believe that being a spiteful asshole is the only way to have success? i really don’t understand how you’ve come to that conclusion because i’ve never met a woman who would date someone like that
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 05:57 PM
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that’s why i think you should be upfront about your interests even if they’re not desirable. then you have a chance of finding a girl who loved pyjamas too, and you’ll weed out all the girls who will hurt you because of it. aka.. blue pill ideology.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 05:56 PM
1

not sure where you’re looking. maybe come to canada because we got a lot of healthy relationships here lol. tbf, being a red piller and having that mindset would show me that you’re not honest/emotionally intelligent, and that would be my reason for not perusing you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 05:54 PM
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because we’re not talking about FDS lmfao?? why would i bring them up out of the blue? instead of disproving my point, you basically said: “but- but! FDS does it too! they do it too so that means we can!” sound like my little brother, lol. for the record, i hate FDS, but instead of asking my opinion on it you assumed things about me. i don’t really understand why you generalize women or think they’re all the same when they’re all as different as men are from each other. how do you feel when wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 05:53 PM
1

i don’t really see what your first paragraph is trying to prove. why does it matter where/what games you play if it’s a common interest? it’s okay not to advertise things. but i know plenty of women who play video games (or enjoy watching people play them) so i really don’t know how they’re so hard to find. it’s okay to hide the fact that you play video games for a while if you’re worried about it- but if it’s a part of you, your SO will find out eventually end either be okay with it or leave yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 05:49 PM
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you never been in love? marriage is irrelevant.. it’s a piece of paper, a commitment, but it doesn’t measure your love. i hope you fall in love someday. it’s a really wonderful feeling to love someone and know they love you back. but it’s not going to happen if you only care about sex lol. unless maybe you’re aromantic and really do only care about sex. if so, have at er!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 05:45 PM
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well, even people on shows like my strange addiction who eat mattresses and paint markers find love, so i’d say that’s proof that you can find love even with strange traits lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 05:43 PM
-1

you seem pretty hopeless. you’re literally speaking to proof of a woman who’s converted from feminism and you still seem to believe it’s impossible. i suggest you stop making generalizations too, because despite what you may think, all women are not the same, and generalizing us isn’t exactly going to make us respect you.
/r/MensRights15/07/21 05:41 PM
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i mean, men depend on women too. 9/10 nurses are female and they play an incredibly important role in the medical world. women lead the way in childhood education too- our children need an education. each gender leads in different areas, i wouldn’t go so far as to say one area is more important than another.
/r/MensRights15/07/21 05:40 PM
1

i shockingly don’t know a single person who thinks being themselves means wearing pyjamas on a date. is that a personality trait?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 09:10 AM
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why would it be a job for women? that’s like saying it’s men’s responsibility to fight for women’s rights. i’m pretty sure it’s more of the women’s responsibility since it’s their own rights they’re fighting for.
/r/MensRights15/07/21 09:09 AM
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it’s not my “job” necessarily, it’s something i could do if i wanted to though. men don’t have to try and convince people to fight for their rights. but if they want to get anywhere with their movement, that’s the way to do it
/r/MensRights15/07/21 09:08 AM
1

i guess you’re right but i think it also depends on how the relationship ends.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 09:06 AM
1

nah that was me putting my foot down in a friendly i care about you getting rest way. goodnight lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 09:05 AM
1

people are free to wear whatever they please. if someone wore pyjamas to a restaurant i certainly wouldn’t care. if someone wore pyjamas on a date with me, i would care.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 09:05 AM
2

well, i’m not a feminist, so perhaps. although i don’t think red pillers and feminists are complete opposites.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 09:04 AM
0

are you serious? how could a breakup be less painful than just being single?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 07:38 AM
1

go to bed. i’m so tired lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 07:38 AM
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i don’t know what i’d tell him, honestly (i’m about to pass out) all i know is that me and all the women i know fall for men who are honest, kind, and emotionally intelligent- traits that i think anyone can be, and ones that don’t have to be faked.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 07:37 AM
1

agreed. (although i don’t care if people have casual sex, none of my business)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 07:36 AM
0

i hate FDS as much as i hate red pillers. so you’re saying since FDS uses spite, men (red pillers) should be able to as well? theres that eye for an eye bs again lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 07:24 AM
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i can’t even read this, it’s exhausting me. can’t you break up your paragraph or something😭 it’s the middle of the night here. so you think not wearing makeup in public is the same as a man wearing pyjamas in public? i’d say that someone (of any gender) wearing pyjamas to a restaurant is wrong, whereas a woman not wearing makeup to a restaurant is normal. he doesn’t have to wear a suit and tie and have his hair slicked back. he just has to wear.. clothes, not pyjamas? i’m not really seeing how a…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 07:23 AM
1

by seeking revenge, you’re feeding into that cycle, because now, you create a new victim who may also seek revenge because you’ve hurt them. red pillers certainly have an eye for an eye mentality. so why exactly are you a red piller if you disagree with that cycle?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 07:18 AM
1

LMAO not really no. she was a lesbian too so ig she didn’t care about men for partners either
/r/MensRights15/07/21 07:17 AM
0

they should lift weights if they want to, not to impress someone else. they should get a haircut if it’s to help their confidence, not for someone else. go out and meet people yes- i think that’s generally a good thing for blue pillers too? i don’t know where you’re getting your stats from, but i disagree. my boyfriend was himself. my friends boyfriends were all themselves. they had no facades. my dad is himself. to say that 99% of women only like facades is a bit of a dramatic stretch. it’s lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 07:17 AM
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i wouldn’t say the same, because egalitarianism doesn’t focus on woman’s rights, nor do we have the bad apples of feminism or the bad apples or MRAs.
/r/MensRights15/07/21 07:04 AM
1

i once spoke to a feminist who wanted to form a female militia armed with guns to defend ourselves against the men (and or get rid of them altogether). felt like a fever dream
/r/MensRights15/07/21 07:03 AM
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i mean, i’m not an expert, but i can give you my opinion. it could be a lot of things. generally, desperately wanting a girlfriend is exactly what prevents you from getting one. i desperately wanted a boyfriend for three years in high school. i never had any luck until i stopped searching and became happy being single and happy and confident in myself. some men simply need to find themselves first, and that’s okay. find other things to make themselves happy- friends to surround themselves with, …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 06:55 AM
2

different names?
/r/MensRights15/07/21 06:52 AM
1

that’s nice to hear! you’re the first feminist i’ve ever heard say that lol
/r/MensRights15/07/21 06:52 AM
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sorry, can you rephrase? i’m really tired and not understanding why you mean. what i’m trying to say is that women and men have an equal amount of issues now. change still needs to happen- gender equality still needs to be reached, but we need to focus on men and women equally and solve their problems at the same rate.
/r/MensRights15/07/21 06:52 AM
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am i really an exception to the rule, though? i know many many other women who have similar views as i do. who want a man that’s himself- that plays games like they do, like sports like they do, make stupid inappropriate jokes like they do. the majority of women i personally know are like that, actually. first of all, some boys choose to be virgins, let’s not forget that. also, it’s statistically proven that single men are more likely to be looking for dates than single women. there are more men…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 06:50 AM
2

i never said all of feminism is bad. i’ll try to explain again. by identifying as a feminist you are choosing to be in the same group as some bad apples. why not join a group with less bad apples instead of trying to convince people you’re not like other feminists?
/r/MensRights15/07/21 06:46 AM
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historically, yes. but currently? not so much.. it’s very common for women to be breadwinners now and for men to be homemakers. i think since we’re generally equal now, it makes more sense to maintain that equality, instead of continuing to tip the scale until women are considered higher up than men (because then we’re not equal anymore!) egalitarians also stand for tackling gender stereotypes. having better mental health resources for men is actually an MRA focused issue. society is still male …
/r/MensRights15/07/21 06:45 AM
2

thank you for further explaining! to address your last paragraph: if a man shows up to his first date in pyjamas, that is showing that he doesn’t care about his date or impressing them. let’s say this man uses “game” and wears nice clothes on his date, when really he wants to wear pyjamas. he manages to impress and get the girl. eventually, the facade will break and she’ll see how he really is- he wears pyjamas everywhere. to the store, movies.. out to dinner! she’ll wonder what changed, and lea…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 06:39 AM
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i was a little confused. but what i meant was: saying all men are bad because of some bad apples is insulting because men don’t choose to be men. they cannot be anything else, and so they are constantly insulted for something they can’t change. saying feminists are bad because of some bad apples is not insulting, because you decide whether to identify as a feminist or not. so essentially, you are choosing to be grouped with those bad apples, willingly, and that is why you are viewed in a bad lig…
/r/MensRights15/07/21 06:31 AM
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yes? of course i would? as long as you’d be willing to listen to me talk about how i just finished red dead redemption 2 and nerd out about the characters, story and graphics. you women don’t want a guy that is himself. you want a confident, charming guy who sweeps you off your feet. when i first started talking to my boyfriend, he was nervous as hell. he kept apologizing, thinking he was coming on too strong, he was worried about being hurt, he was sweet and honest with me about how he felt. he…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 06:28 AM
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can you be more specific about what the patriarchy is? the only example i can think of (for my region at least) is women being less likely to be voted into office. and i don’t know how that would affect men’s issues in the slightest.
/r/MensRights15/07/21 06:21 AM
7

what exactly do you mean? you don’t choose to be a man. you choose to be a feminist, though.
/r/MensRights15/07/21 06:16 AM
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“the advocacy of women’s rights on the basis of equality of the sexes.” ie. a focus on women’s rights, not men’s rights. many feminists say that men’s problems are a result of women’s problems, and that fixing women’s problems would solve men’s. i would disagree.
/r/MensRights15/07/21 06:15 AM
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i think that may be too difficult. what’s the reason for wanting to reclaim a term where so many members are bad apples? egalitarians certainly focus on gender related issues- i’d say even more so than any other issue. they just have an equal focus on men and women’s rights, instead of just having a focus on women’s rights. if you’re focused on women’s rights (the definition of feminism) then that’s not really equal, is it? because you’re focusing on one gender.
/r/MensRights15/07/21 06:10 AM
-1

i’m still pretty new to figuring out this red and blue pill thing. are red pillers looking for romantic relationships? what exactly is game? why can’t men just be themselves instead? do they really think they’re that bad?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 05:59 AM
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i was the same as you, a few months ago. i wanted feminists and MRAs to work together. i thought their little war was stupid. however, i know now that that is unrealistic. you cannot be both a feminist and MRA. they will not work together as they are conceptually different beliefs. you may think they want a lot of the same things, but they want a lot of different things too. i strongly suggest looking into r/egalitarianism. it’s a great place to see things from a neutral point of view. i also sa…
/r/MensRights15/07/21 05:57 AM
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the reason i said that is because i didn’t want to get into researching it right now. i only wanted to answer OP’s last question.
/r/MensRights15/07/21 05:53 AM
0

dick getting wet😭sorry that’s the just the funniest thing i’ve ever heard. so.. you’re not interested in romantic relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 05:52 AM
3

you don’t need to convince me, i already agree. but it takes time for people to change. before i became egalitarian, i was a feminist- and it’s hard to reconsider lifelong beliefs like that. if you’re raised christian, it’ll take more than one conversation before you even consider atheism as a possibility. some refuse to consider it- and some, in time, may change their minds. it’s the same with feminism. it’s engrained into women from a young age. the belief that men are scary and bad was taught…
/r/MensRights15/07/21 05:51 AM
1

so? what’s the point of that when it accomplishes nothing?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 05:42 AM
-2

why do red pillers sound like they’ve been hurt so badly? it’s such an eye for an eye mindset and that shit never works out. “i was treated poorly so now everyone i pursue deserves to be treated poorly too!” it’s fuelled in spite.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 05:38 AM
3

i don’t know whether that’s true or not. either way, to answer your question- if they’re still fighting to change it, clearly it has not changed yet. meaning there is still an imbalance of emotional support for men vs women.
/r/MensRights15/07/21 05:36 AM
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hey, not necessarily. i came here as a feminist because i found the sub listed as a hateful subreddit and wanted to come see how bad it really was (ie make fun of it). now, after being on this sub for months, i’m no longer a feminist. i’m an egalitarian. i think instead of preaching “feminists are bad” it would be helpful to explain why feminism can be problematic and try to change the minds of those willing to listen. how else will you get more people to fight for men’s rights?
/r/MensRights15/07/21 05:35 AM
1

oh yeah, for sure. i’ve been called both misogynistic and misandrist, funnily enough. you just can’t please everyone.
/r/MensRights15/07/21 04:29 AM
0

i am a former feminist too. i would say i fight for men’s rights, but wouldn’t call myself an MRA because i don’t really want to be associated with the extremists (misogynists) and i don’t necessarily agree with all MRAs views. same reason i left feminism- its growing too radical and i don’t want to be associated with that either.
/r/MensRights14/07/21 10:20 PM
1

i forgot the /s in my comment- it was a joke. i have tons of friends, but i still spend the majority of my time with him because he’s my best friend!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 07:57 PM
1

i apologize for insulting you. but if i spoke to a feminist, they would say “feminism is not against men. feminists are against MRAs because they’re oppressive hypocrites. MRAs just don’t like seeing women in power and they pretend that feminists are anti-man.” which is essentially exactly what you just said, but the other perspective. it’s interesting what you can witness and learn from a neutral perspective. i think that by being neither a feminist or MRA, i have a much wider acceptance for al…
/r/MensRights14/07/21 07:54 PM
-2

no. of course i want my boyfriend to have friends, but the less friends he has the more time he’s spending with me lol edit: i’m kidding.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 06:28 PM
2

both can be, it all depends on your view. i wouldn’t say they’re in denial, but i think they literally just don’t see it. unless you’re in the thick of it like i am, active on both sides, you’re not going to be insulted like that. i’ve been called both an MRA and a feminist as insults- apparently just because i defend women or defend men that makes me one or the other
/r/MensRights14/07/21 05:13 PM
-4

for sure, but that’s also why feminists use MRA as an insult (because they disagree with MRAs). basically- feminists use MRA as an insult and MRAs use feminist as an insult. because y’all have this war going on
/r/MensRights14/07/21 05:11 PM
-13

in this sub feminist is used as an insult😭 it literally just depends who you talk to
/r/MensRights14/07/21 05:18 AM
1

yes. although this is all dependant on context, and what exact stereotype is being said. i don’t really think “men hurting women” is a stereotype (as it’s just as common for women to hurt men.) i think it’s just that girl’s personal experience.
/r/MensRights13/07/21 09:19 PM
0

why is women in quotes lmfao
/r/MensRights13/07/21 08:14 AM
0

okay! why did you bother replying then?
/r/MensRights13/07/21 05:06 AM
1

i’m generally a self-sacrificing woman, but so is my boyfriend. that’s why we work well together. i’ve seen SO many women take advantage of their boyfriends. are we just going to invalidate the struggles of these men by saying they’re less likely to be taken advantage of (when they’re not?) i’ve seen so many men who are self-sacrificing and generous. to say that men aren’t self-sacrificing in general invalidates those who are. basically, you’re generalizing, and that is almost always an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 03:53 AM
1

of course i would feel bad. OP said that they communicate.. nowhere did they mention that one person was doing more work than the other. it was just strange that you’d insinuate that OP was doing less work than their SO was. even stranger that you said that men are often oblivious to their partner’s needs. why men? any gender can be oblivious to their partner’s needs. to say that men are more likely to be is honestly a sexist assumption
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 03:34 AM
1

that would be an unhealthy relationship, though. although i see your point. you’re saying OP may think his girl his happy with the 50/50, but she might be unhappy and just not be saying anything. i still don’t understand why you asked if he was a man, as that has nothing to do with things.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 03:21 AM
1

for sure. that will end up in one of two ways. a) their healthy partner will help them grow and unlearn their mindset b) they will be unhappy in their relationship and (hopefully) end it either way, it’s a mindset that needs to be unlearned in order to have a healthy relationship. let’s say a woman doesn’t understand that she can communicate her needs without being a burden, so she keeps her needs to herself. are you really saying her boyfriend is at fault for not reading her mind and realizing …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 03:19 AM
-2

no, i am not a man. no, i am not trying to “invalidate” his point. all i said was that although he’s personally never heard about an asian woman being criticized for her dating preferences, that doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen. his own personal experience is not everyone’s reality. me saying that is not invalidating his point, it’s disagreeing with it. which.. i’m allowed to do, as he asked a question. yup, i don’t really like twoxchromos as a sub sometimes. i don’t like this one sometimes either…
/r/MensRights13/07/21 03:13 AM
1

for sure, but like i said- we weren’t talking about an abusive relationship in this conversation. let’s go back to OP’s original comment. We're a man/woman marriage, and we check in with each other regularly about this- we've both agreed that we're sharing finances 50/50 (though sometimes we switch to a sliding scale if one of us is temporarily making much less. So if I'm making 50% more than they are I will pay 3/5 of the bills for example). We don't have kids but we also share 50% of the house…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 02:58 AM
2

sure. can you tell me exactly how that ties in to our conversation?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 02:53 AM
3

are you talking about abusive relationships? no, i wouldn’t know what that’s like, and i wouldn’t claim to know. however, that’s not what we were talking about. from OP’s post, their relationship sounds healthy and with communication. all my comments were made with a healthy relationship as the basis. in a healthy relationship, a man should not be expected to mind read. if something is wrong, she should be able to express that to him, not just expect him to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 01:26 AM
3

i’d disagree. i’ve met many women who are selfish. i’ve also met many women who are healthy self-confident and put themselves first. i’ve met many men who are pushed around by women. i’ve also met many men who are incredibly selfless, generous and kind. i wouldn’t say one gender is more likely to be selfless. unless you have actual statistics on that, or something, but i don’t know how you would even gather that info. perhaps you have simply had bad experiences with men/witnessed bad experienced…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 01:24 AM
3

we are? the majority of people i know can articulate their feelings like this. i would not call myself above average for being able to explain how i feel, lol. that’s a pretty basic thing. you seem to think that in unfair relationships, women are always the victim. at least by the way you’re speaking. so putting the onus on a woman to be able to realize and communicate that the relationship is unfair seems like an impossible standard if you cannot communicate, nor realize that a relationship is …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 01:12 AM
0

not an argument, just a discussion. if you want, explain how i’ve been hypocritical. perhaps i can clarify!
/r/MensRights13/07/21 01:04 AM
3

for sure. but what does that have to do with gender? you said men can be oblivious, but both men and women can railroad a weaker person into accepting more than their fair share of work. so in reality, both men and women can be oblivious and OP’s gender is irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 01:03 AM
8

how can men be oblivious if the woman sits down with him and says “listen, i don’t think things are distributed fairly.” it’s not always the man’s fault- sometimes women expect men to pick up on signs that they’re unhappy instead of explicitly telling them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 12:53 AM
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i’m sure if you’ve checked the accounts, then yes, it probably is intentionally hateful. but all the knowledge i have is what was posted. let’s take a look at the language used here. dudes will be like this is not implying all men. when i read this, it implies some men. therefore, not a sexist generalization. all women are the same this is directly generalizing and intentionally harmful. the genders could be reversed, and i would say the same thing. to me, it’s about the language and tone used.
/r/MensRights13/07/21 12:35 AM
-1

why would we talk about asian woman’s preferences OP directly brought up asian woman’s preferences by saying “i have NEVER, not once, heard about an asian woman being criticized for being primarily into white men.” we’re having a conversation here and i’m talking about OP’s post. if you disagree with what i’m saying, go ahead and tell me why! but i’m not a dunce or a troll, and i’m not sure why you’d waste your time calling me one.
/r/MensRights13/07/21 12:19 AM
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sure, i advocate for better language use also. ie. some women instead of of just “women” (as that implies all women. however in this context, whether talking about men or women, i can infer that OP is not actually talking about all women (or all men), just women/men in their own experience. which i take no issue with, and i even find it funny sometimes.
/r/MensRights13/07/21 12:00 AM
-15

i think the point is: someone who says “i’m not like other guys” is putting other men down to raise himself up. which actually is an unattractive behaviour. guys who are genuinely good do not have to say “i’m not like other guys” or “i’m a nice guy” to prove it, because they show it through their actions.
/r/MensRights12/07/21 08:50 PM
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i’m not saying i don’t believe you, but what i am saying is that i don’t see that kind of thing on my social medias. in my personal experience, i don’t see that. that is why one person’s experience is not a trustworthy source- because we all see different things. which was the only point i was trying to make. your point may be true. but also, OP cannot claim that women don’t experience the same thing if OP’s not a woman. if OP isn’t the target audience, they wouldn’t see whether or not women exp…
/r/MensRights12/07/21 05:34 PM
-2

something you have to remember is that your personal experience is not everyone’s reality. you probably have never heard of an asian woman being criticized for liking white men, because, in fact, you are not an asian woman. why would you know that they get criticized for it? i don’t exactly know how you can say you’d never be critiqued for that if you were a woman. you aren’t a women, and i doubt you’ve done a poll among women to see what their experiences are. all that said, i would be very int…
/r/MensRights12/07/21 04:27 AM
0

some days i look at myself in the mirror and think i’m extremely beautiful despite my flaws. other days (or if i have an acne flare up, i have genetic cystic acne) i find myself less than average. i’m 19, never used dating apps but have been asked on 3 first dates before by various boys in high school (and one by a girl). only ever had one boyfriend, we’ve been together a year and he swears i’m the most beautiful girl in the world hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 08:14 PM
-1

how exactly do you know if you’re average or below average? isnt that a matter of opinion?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/21 06:13 PM
1

have you read about female anatomy at all? most women are always “wet” due to discharge.
/r/MensRights26/06/21 10:42 PM
5

well, yeah, some people are fucking idiots and there’s not a ton we can do to prevent that. but honestly i’d blame it on our lack of detailed sex ed. i don’t know as much about the male reproduction system as i should. and i know that consent was not taught as thoroughly as it should have been.
/r/MensRights26/06/21 06:25 PM
6

i don’t understand the point of your comment. are you saying that having an erection means it’s not rape…?
/r/MensRights26/06/21 06:24 PM
15

i don’t even know.. what there would be to input. sexual assault is sexual assault. that’s like saying “she was wet she must’ve liked it” about a woman, when it’s a bodily function that can occur with or without consent.
/r/MensRights26/06/21 07:00 AM
2

that’s the point i was trying to make. if someone assumed a woman was abusive, people would go crazy.
/r/MensRights23/06/21 12:57 AM
3

sure, i agree that in this specific situation he’s in the wrong. however, people started accusing him before they found any proof and were just making assumptions, and that’s what i take issue with.
/r/MensRights23/06/21 12:10 AM
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why are people in the comments defending the woman by saying “there’s two sides to every story, he could’ve been abusive, etc.” while that is TRUE, if it was a woman posting, and someone said “well maybe the woman did something to drive him away”, everyone would throw a fit that you’re criticizing someone who just wants to rant. like, seriously dude. double standards
/r/MensRights22/06/21 10:54 PM
6

“moderators shouldn’t exist” you wouldn’t even have this sub without moderators..
/r/MensRights17/06/21 01:22 AM
1

i don’t have a problem with making accusations, so long as the person has ample time to defend himself (which he did.) still see nothing wrong with what i said. what’re you trying to accomplish here?
/r/MensRights16/06/21 04:57 PM
1

i could’ve phrased it as “would you call her a hooker if she was wearing a tank top but had smaller boobs?” instead, i said- if she had smaller boobs you’d be fine with her outfit. he could’ve disagreed and said the tank top was his problem, if he wanted to. but he didn’t. i don’t think it matters how i phrased the question- either way he had an opportunity to either agree/disagree with me.
/r/MensRights16/06/21 07:12 AM
0

because i’m trying to understand what his point is. i need to know whether he’d say the same thing to a girl with smaller boobs. because either he has a problem with the tank top, or the boobs themselves, and those are two very different things
/r/MensRights15/06/21 03:41 PM
0

i would disagree, but whatever. what is the ideal option then? if it’s bad to be both egalitarian and feminist.
/r/MensRights14/06/21 05:49 PM
0

i’ll still have to disagree with you. you cannot be feminist by default lol. a person decides their own beliefs. i’m an egalitarian. but go on- tell me again what i am and am not as if you know better than i do.
/r/MensRights14/06/21 05:40 PM
1

i disagree, but whatever floats your boat!
/r/MensRights14/06/21 05:39 PM
0

i’d have no issue with my grandkids being named that? lmfao bold of you to assume everyone’s islamophobic
/r/MensRights14/06/21 05:39 PM
1

lol i’m at -60 downvotes now and people getting angry at me for being a feminist like i’m not a feminist, i just don’t think women should be called hookers for dressing.. normally? lmfao
/r/MensRights14/06/21 04:52 PM
0

he doesn’t? i’m trying to figure out what HIS point is.
/r/MensRights14/06/21 04:51 PM
-1

nah, i live in canada.. it’s beautiful here
/r/MensRights14/06/21 04:50 PM
0

i’m not a feminist :) how would you know from one comment?
/r/MensRights14/06/21 04:50 PM
1

it’s so peaceful, actually
/r/MensRights14/06/21 04:50 PM
0

he’d say that it’s wrong to call a woman a hooker just because she’s wearing a tank top :) idk why you think i’d date a slut shamer?
/r/MensRights14/06/21 04:49 PM
0

i just don’t go out alone generally. especially at night. appreciate the sentiment though!
/r/MensRights14/06/21 04:32 AM
-3

you’re so welcome!! nothin wrong with me havin the last word :)
/r/MensRights14/06/21 04:22 AM
-6

got a problem with that?
/r/MensRights14/06/21 04:18 AM
1

i hope so too. i never understood the whole “never hit women” thing. let’s never hit anyone except in self defence. and yeah, if a woman is hitting you, you do whatever you need to to defend yourself. you should be able to punch her in the face if you have to. unfortunately, our legal system can be biased.
/r/MensRights14/06/21 04:15 AM
0

so funny i forgot to laugh
/r/MensRights14/06/21 04:12 AM
2

what’s that?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 03:43 AM
-10

agreed! i hate guns, theyre illegal here
/r/MensRights14/06/21 03:43 AM
2

hahaha. the only issue is, her top isn’t ill-fitting. if the tank top was looser, it would be baggy and wouldn’t fit properly. she’s wearing the correct size in the photo. so i don’t know if judging her is the correct thing to do (generally, i think we should judge everyone a little less.) if you were wearing nothing but a jock strap, that would be something inappropriate to wear in public because you aren’t wearing pants. the woman in the photo is wearing suitable pants and a suitable shirt tha…
/r/MensRights14/06/21 03:42 AM
1

okay, that makes sense. do you think it’s harder to find a woman with good looks? or is it harder to find a woman with a good personality? do you think looks or personality are more important? or are they equal?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 03:39 AM
-33

hahaha. i love that movie. could you actually explain what you mean though? clearly i’m confused. i guess my question is: why is it okay for women with small boobs to wear tank tops, but not women with big boobs?
/r/MensRights14/06/21 03:31 AM
-33

are you saying you’d still call her a hooker if she had a cup tits?
/r/MensRights14/06/21 03:27 AM
-12

hi! i’m not a feminist
/r/MensRights14/06/21 03:21 AM
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are women not allowed to wear tank tops lol? if this women was slim and didn’t have big boobs you’d have nothing wrong with her outfit
/r/MensRights14/06/21 03:18 AM
2

it shouldn’t be, because i’ve heard that shit hurts. i feel so bad when i accidentally hit my boyfriend there. i don’t find it funny in comedy either- people getting hurt isn’t funny. it’s cheap comedy. i love home alone, but it’s not funny. it makes me wonder though- most of the people writing this into the script are men. most are written/directed by men, so why would they write it in and not see an issue with it?
/r/MensRights14/06/21 03:06 AM
2

as a woman, i don’t really understand the rating scale. don’t different men find different things and different women attractive? how can someone be an 8 across the board? it makes me wonder what i would be. not that i really care, but it’s curious. my boyfriend would say i’m beautiful, a ten even. i’d say i’m beautiful, but i wouldn’t want to put a number on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 03:03 AM
3

great! idk why you’re so concerned about generalizing women then, when their behaviour doesn’t even affect you anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 09:55 PM
3

i don’t really have the need to do that since i’m in a long term relationship. however.. if you keep going for the type of girl that uses you for your money, it’s no surprise that it keeps happening to you. perhaps if you focused less on shallow traits such as looks, and more on finding a girl who’s loyal and committed, you’d have better luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 08:53 PM
1

and.. your personal experience isn’t everyone’s truth. most women YOU have dealt with have used you. so it makes me wonder what kind of women you’re attracted to/spend your time with.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 08:41 PM
1

but… i’m asking where your proof is of this. personal experience? you’re making big claims.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 08:37 PM
1

where are you getting your info from?😭
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 08:35 PM
0

why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 06:58 PM
4

it definitely depends what country you live in.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 07:48 AM
1

then don’t get married? nobody’s forcing you to get married or even have a partner. if you’re happier alone, stay single. each divorce case is different. sometimes the women benefits, sometimes the man.. sometimes both, or neither. i don’t care whether you get married or not. but don’t push your insecurities onto other people by telling them marriage isn’t worth it, because you don’t know their relationship with their partner like they do.
/r/MensRights11/06/21 11:47 PM
1

completely and honestly true. the first time we cried together was watching Marley & Me. we both just sobbed when the dog died hahaha. i’ve never felt closer to another person than in that moment. i really hope society shifts its gaze to make this dynamic normal in the near future. it’s so much healthier for both parties.
/r/MensRights11/06/21 11:39 PM
2

i do. i’m very thankful for my boyfriend as well, because he tells me right away when he’s feeling down, has a bad dream, has worries about us, etc. big or small, silly or serious, he knows he can trust me. he holds me while i cry and i hold him when he does. relationships should always be 50/50 in that aspect. the gender of your significant other shouldn’t affect how you care for them. i’m sorry that so many women are like that. but i also promise that many aren’t, though it may take a little s…
/r/MensRights11/06/21 08:31 PM
5

makes sense! still answered every question accurately hahaha
/r/MensRights11/06/21 08:28 PM
2

thanks for the conversation. i totally agree with you.
/r/MensRights11/06/21 07:28 PM
2

i find that society is moving towards that mindset of supporting men emotionally. it’s happening slower than it should be, but i’ve seen people beginning to speak up more than they have in the past few years. do you have a link to an article about that rape case? that sounds awful. financially, maybe yes it is a terrible decision. generally people get married for other reasons though. i think that you really need to be sure that it’s the right decision for you before getting married. and you don…
/r/MensRights11/06/21 07:08 PM
2

thank you for sharing all that. honestly tugged at my heartstrings. i’m really sorry that things are that way. i think nearly everyone could benefit from therapy. i wish it was completely covered for those who need it. if your significant other tells you to grow up/get over it, or uses your insecurities against you later on, they are manipulative. full stop. that’s not a healthy person, nor is it a healthy relationship and you deserve better than that. please don’t lose hope on marriage due to s…
/r/MensRights11/06/21 06:45 PM
1

for sure. so do i, if he wants to talk about anything. i just have a distaste for blanket statements.
/r/MensRights11/06/21 06:38 PM
3

when you say “nobody cares about men” that means every single person. if you said “next to nobody cares about men” that would leave room for exceptions. let’s dive into this then. what is different for your dad than for other men? why can’t other men confide in their wives? or go to therapy? “women definitely do not care about men.” again, a blanket statement, which is untrue. i care about men. if men aren’t accustomed to confiding in each other, they should change that. when i can’t talk to my …
/r/MensRights11/06/21 06:00 PM
9

that was the most tiring survey i’ve ever taken😭 so many of the questions were repeated 5+ times but worded slightly differently. however, did make me happy to see my results.
/r/MensRights11/06/21 05:50 PM
3

blanket statements? many people care about men and many men have emotional support networks. not all do... but you can’t say all don’t when it’s just blatantly false.
/r/MensRights11/06/21 05:49 PM
7

don’t be violent? wtf lol
/r/MensRights10/06/21 11:45 PM
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how about people can just do what they want to do? they can dress provocatively if they want to. what do you have against kinks/bdsm? how about we just quit judging people either way. don’t judge people who choose to abstain from sex and don’t judge those who have a lot of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 01:41 AM
0

how about any age gap is normalized? as long as both parties are legal and consenting, and there’s no grooming involved. my parents were twenty years apart in age. there’s nothing wrong with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 11:16 PM
1

they do. when i was a feminist, if you were yelling at me, calling me names, telling me that being a feminist was bad- i’d just assume you’re a misogynist and brush it off. as i’ve been told to do time and time again. if you ever actually want to get to feminists and have them reconsider, i feel like it’s better to suggest egalitarianism, show them some proof of how feminists can be harmful to both men and women, and do so politely. i’d have been more willing to listen, if that’s what happened t…
/r/MensRights06/06/21 06:06 PM
1

why are you calling yourself disgusting?
/r/MensRights06/06/21 05:42 PM
1

i don’t know. men can wear skirts and dresses in my workplace. our dress code is gender neutral. meaning the dress code is the same for each gender. how it should be.
/r/MensRights06/06/21 07:31 AM
11

as a woman, i would LOVE to see this. would love to see a lot of variation in the men they showcase, too.
/r/MensRights06/06/21 07:13 AM
1

as an egalitarian, both feminists and MRA’s are pretty sceptical of me. sometimes they ask me questions I don’t know how to answer, like “what rights do men need to fight for?” i consider rights to be things under law (ie. legalizing gay marriage) and where i live in canada, i don’t know of any laws that suppress either men or women.
/r/MensRights05/06/21 05:23 PM
1

but in your opinion, are all feminists intending to be hateful? don’t some deserve the benefit of the doubt? i was a feminist for a very long time. it’s easy to blindly follow something that everyone says is right.
/r/MensRights05/06/21 05:17 PM
0

don’t say “you’re not egalitarian” to someone you don’t know lol?
/r/MensRights04/06/21 11:44 PM
2

but you have to despise modern feminists to be an MRA, which is what i was saying.
/r/MensRights04/06/21 11:42 PM
-4

hahaha omg. i totally thought this comment was on egalitarian.
/r/MensRights04/06/21 11:42 PM
1

i am egalitarian. but thanks for trying to tell me what i am and am not, when you don’t know me. i’m not a centrist, lol. that’s what i’ve been called.
/r/MensRights04/06/21 09:57 PM
-3

in theory, yes, we should be working together. but i’ve been told specifically by both feminists and MRA’s that they despise the opposite group.
/r/MensRights04/06/21 09:55 PM
-4

found the mra!
/r/MensRights04/06/21 09:55 PM
3

i’m an egalitarian and a woman, and both feminists and MRA’s hate me for “being a centrist and playing the middle of the field.” In reality, I really just agree fully with neither group’s ideals.
/r/MensRights04/06/21 06:09 PM
1

they are bad. but white people tend to try to be sjw’s and say things are racist when black people are actually okay with them. for example, i’ve seen posts of white people wearing braids (not cornrows) and other white people calling it cultural appropriation. they mean well, but in reality they are overshadowing actual black voices. i have never in my life heard a doctor claim that preferring a certain gender doctor is sexist. so i think before you make those claims, you should ask some doctors…
/r/MensRights03/06/21 01:45 AM
1

i truly don’t think a preference is discrimination. let’s say you have one doctor you really prefer. asking for that doctor is not discriminating against the other doctors. sexism isn’t acceptable in modern society, but it exists. you’re not personally a doctor who’s been discriminated against, so how do you know they actually care? it seems like you’re fighting for something nobody asked you to fight for. there are bigger and more important issues to focus on rather than my preference for a fem…
/r/MensRights02/06/21 05:07 PM
1

there’s no need to give a reason. you just say “i prefer female doctors” or “i prefer male doctors.” either they comply or you switch clinics, no questions asked. there’s no need to be offended over someone’s preference when you don’t know their reasoning. some exams are very intimate. i might not be comfortable with a man touching my breasts even if it’s in a medical context. and that’s okay.
/r/MensRights02/06/21 04:11 AM
0

yep! i’m a bi woman. i’m very against all forms of discrimination. but it’s very normal in the world of healthcare to put patient comfort first. doctors often ask which gender you prefer. not for regular surgeries- but for vaginal exams and the like. basically, you can ask to have a female doctor- but the doctors office does not have to provide you with a female doctor if they don’t want to. most offices try to accommodate patient requests. but if you really didn’t want a male doctor you can alw…
/r/MensRights02/06/21 01:33 AM
1

i guess we just disagree, then. if someone is offended that i don’t want them as a doctor due to their gender, that’s a pretty stupid reason to be offended imo.
/r/MensRights01/06/21 05:32 PM
2

as i said, the difference is is that those positions are not intimate like a caregiver would be. my body is mine- and i decide who sees it. what about muslim women who only have female doctors due to their religion? are they sexist? most doctors offices actually ask whether you prefer a male or female doctor. patient comfort comes first- a doctor shouldn’t be offended that a patient is more comfortable with a certain gender.
/r/MensRights01/06/21 06:23 AM
2

i understand where you’re coming from, but i don’t see it as discrimination. it’s my comfort that matters. preferring a certain gender doctor is different than preferring a certain race doctor. for example- if i said i don’t date black people, i don’t date asian people, etc.. that would be considered kind of racist. because race shouldn’t be in your standards for a significant other. but if i said i don’t date men, that’s not sexist. that’s my preference and what i’m comfortable with.
/r/MensRights01/06/21 05:35 AM
3

for sure, i would find that racist. but i still think there’s a difference when someone’s looking at something as intimate as my genitals. the race of my doctor has nothing to do with my genitals, but the sex of my doctor does. let’s say i was sexually assaulted by a woman. i might want to request a male doctor because i have that trauma. i said “i’m not sexist” and... i didn’t say anything sexist. so i don’t really get your point.
/r/MensRights01/06/21 02:55 AM
5

i personally feel more comfortable with a female gynaecologist. i’m not sexist, i trust that male gynaecologists can do their jobs. it comes down to what makes me feel most comfortable.
/r/MensRights01/06/21 01:43 AM
0

some of those buzzfeed tweets are pretty funny, though. the title is misleading. the guardian post is pretty stupid as is the last example. i definitely don’t agree with them. however, they’re still opinion posts. those exist for everything- leftists, right-wings, any issue at all. i’ll agree that misandry is much more common than misogyny due to radical feminists. (feminists are more common in the media than MRA’s.)
/r/MensRights31/05/21 10:01 PM
-3

but they’re private sites. who would they be taken down by? people are allowed to be both misandrist and misogynistic online, especially on their own sites. reddit’s rules are against hate based on identity or vulnerability. meaning, any subreddits that are openly misogynistic or misandrist should be reported and taken down.
/r/MensRights31/05/21 07:42 PM
-9

are there any statistics to prove that misandry is socially acceptable? because in my experience, it is not. and yeah, it shouldn’t be allowed to exist.
/r/MensRights31/05/21 07:35 PM
17

yeah? because it’s clearly a misandrist article. looks like it’s from a shit site, too. these things are out there, we just have to ignore them.
/r/MensRights31/05/21 07:29 PM
1

okay
/r/MensRights31/05/21 06:07 PM
2

i still think it’s different. if i’m going in to the gynaecologist, i’m allowed to request a female doctor if i’m more comfortable because they’re literally looking inside my vagina. or, if i’ve had trauma surrounding women, i could request a male doctor. a caregiver is an intimate position, especially if it’s for someone elderly or disabled who needs help going to the bathroom, getting dressed, etc.
/r/MensRights31/05/21 06:06 PM
11

i just said it should be allowed for either gender. not female only?
/r/MensRights31/05/21 05:47 AM
36

the double standards are stupid. however i think for a caregiver, gender should be allowed to be specified because a person may only be comfortable with a certain gender caring for them.
/r/MensRights31/05/21 03:17 AM
2

totally
/r/MensRights25/05/21 11:03 PM
3

i’d say i’m the same. feminists hate me for being an mra and mra’s hate me for being a feminist so it’s easier to just be neither rather than both lol
/r/MensRights25/05/21 10:38 PM
2

my boyfriend would rather have extra cuddles and kisses over a sandwich (although he does like a good sandwich)
/r/MensRights25/05/21 06:24 AM
5

as long as the dress codes are gender neutral and clearly stated that they’re for this reason (not due to boys wandering eyes, if that excuse is still even used). ie. armpits and midriff must be covered, no shorts/skirts shorter than a certain length, no visible undergarments. i’m sure that’s reasonable. however, the flaw i see here is that we’re preparing everyone for business. not everyone is going into a path where they need a dress code and style is certainly a big part of self expression es…
/r/MensRights25/05/21 06:23 AM
8

i’m not an mra, i’m an egalitarian, but i’m further left than liberal.
/r/MensRights25/05/21 06:19 AM
0

i’m a little confused. from what i read, these minorities and women got less covid relief benefit in the first round (compared to white men) because of the ppp. is this not just them trying to balance that issue out?
/r/MensRights25/05/21 06:18 AM
2

i don’t really like being on a lot of subs, i prefer to focus on a few.
/r/MensRights25/05/21 02:38 AM
1

plastics? what foreign contaminants lol
/r/MensRights25/05/21 01:41 AM
1

what?
/r/MensRights24/05/21 11:49 PM
1

hahaha it’s okay. that response was just funny
/r/MensRights23/05/21 07:03 PM
20

there are trials ongoing for the male birth control pill. it’s a completely different issue than female birth control, because female birth control just stops ovulation- whereas male birth control either must reduce the amount of sperm or make it infertile. i suggest researching it.
/r/MensRights23/05/21 06:43 PM
6

exactly, which is why i think the father’s choice must be made before the birth. if he wants her to get an abortion and she refuses, that’s fine because it’s her choice but he should be able to opt out of parenthood. no child support, no contact with the child allowed. if he waits until the child is born, that’s too late.
/r/MensRights23/05/21 06:40 PM
5

lmfao what? i was asking a genuine question because i’ve never heard of the guy. what exactly am i ruining
/r/MensRights22/05/21 10:41 PM
5

oh. so why are all the feminists mad lol. i’m so confused
/r/MensRights22/05/21 06:00 PM
-20

so is he just an MRA or is he actually misogynistic?
/r/MensRights22/05/21 05:01 PM
233

where did this take place? that one woman said “why this space to talk about that”. just curious why the location of the event effects things
/r/MensRights22/05/21 07:56 AM
1

what do you mean
/r/MensRights19/05/21 07:29 AM
1

yeah. go over to r/prolife or something, they’ll welcome you there
/r/MensRights19/05/21 04:27 AM
9

bold yes, but better to find someone who agrees with him from the start rather than find out they have a fundamental disagreement later in the relationship
/r/MensRights19/05/21 02:02 AM
5

no, i’m actually not going to defend feminists, but thanks for asking. you haven’t seen it maybe, but i have. you’re telling me that there’s not a single feminist out there that isn’t also a good person? people do good compassionate things no matter what they believe. i was just sharing my own personal experiences. whether they align with yours or not doesn’t matter.
/r/MensRights18/05/21 05:40 AM
1

walking with me around town is too much? lol
/r/MensRights18/05/21 02:03 AM
1

he doesn’t have to, like i said. what’s wrong with him wanting to? it’s normal to be protective over someone you love.
/r/MensRights18/05/21 01:36 AM
1

he doesn’t have to protect me. he wants to. neither of us feel super comfortable with me walking around on my own in this town, it’s not super safe.
/r/MensRights18/05/21 12:38 AM
1

but that’s literally just how i feel. i don’t go walking around on the street without my boyfriend. what should i do, then? i can’t exactly just stop how i’m feeling.
/r/MensRights18/05/21 12:34 AM
1

when did i say anything about generalizing men? i never said all men were bad. i said i am more fearful of men than i am of women due to personal experience.
/r/MensRights18/05/21 12:20 AM
1

i wasn’t arguing anything lol? i was sharing my experiences and answering OP’s question. what exactly are you trying to prove here? that i’m a bad person for not trusting men?
/r/MensRights18/05/21 12:19 AM
3

so i am being an asshole towards men because i’m cautious around them and/or fearful? it’s not like i am anything but polite to them.
/r/MensRights18/05/21 12:15 AM
2

for sure, i’m sorry you’re going through that. those personal experiences make it perfectly normal for you to be distrustful towards women and i would not blame you for that. what’s your point?
/r/MensRights18/05/21 12:10 AM
5

that’s because women issues are actively spoken about in the media and in general. you knew women’s issues existed. i don’t have a ton of hostile men in my life. i actually have zero hostile men in my life. i blindly believed everything i read as a feminist because that’s all i heard. i had no reason to question it. it’s like parents who raise their kids atheist. atheist kids don’t hear anything about religion, so why would they consider believing in god? when i said i had bad personal experienc…
/r/MensRights18/05/21 12:06 AM
5

because feminists are told that feminism are for men too and if something is repeated enough you’re going to believe it. if feminists told me that feminism helps men, why would i question that? i trusted them, i had no reason to. i wouldn’t say i’m scared of men specifically. i’m scared of walking alone at night when it’s dark. (or walking around in general) we have a big drug and homeless issue in my town which are primarily men (which is an issue on its own), and it’s not their gender i’m afra…
/r/MensRights17/05/21 11:56 PM
3

sorry, i’ve read your comment three times now and i’m not understanding what you mean. can you rephrase?
/r/MensRights17/05/21 11:53 PM
19

i’m gonna answer this as a woman and a former feminist. it’s all you hear. “feminism is fighting for women’s rights. women have been and are still oppressed in society.” feminism is fighting for my rights as a woman- that must be a good thing, right? i want to fight for women because i am one. then i’m also told that feminism is for men too. “fixing women’s problems will fix men’s. feminism is about equality!” what reason did i have to not believe those statements? as a young women i’d had my fa…
/r/MensRights17/05/21 02:34 AM
2

interesting! i never knew that, thanks
/r/MensRights15/05/21 05:37 PM
1

what cheese has meat in it
/r/MensRights15/05/21 06:28 AM
4

so straight men/lesbians are vegetarian?
/r/MensRights15/05/21 05:44 AM
3

they’re in the process of it, but it’s a long road.
/r/MensRights15/05/21 01:25 AM
2

your friend is clearly very uneducated. they didn’t find sperm in a woman’s body. they figured out a way to create immature sperm from men’s stem cells in their bone marrow. if these cells can grow into mature sperm, men without functioning sperm or testes would be able to have biological children. this means that sperm can also be made from women’s bone marrow. the offspring will always be a female though, due to the sperm lacking the Y chromosome. a woman could even have her own child, but i’m…
/r/MensRights15/05/21 01:24 AM
3

for sure. it’s more normalized for feminism to be misandrist than it is for men’s rights to be misogynistic. it’s interesting though, being a female on this sub- if i say something people disagree with, they tend to get aggressive quickly.
/r/MensRights13/05/21 06:10 PM
29

there are a lot of toxic feminism subs. although rare, misogyny does exist in this sub too. i guess there’s just those extremes wherever you go.
/r/MensRights13/05/21 02:47 AM
9

i feel like there’s just less variety in what men wear. shirts and pants sum it up. women’s section has dresses, skirts, and more variety in tops and bottoms.
/r/MensRights13/05/21 02:40 AM
1

for sure, obviously that would be better. i was really only discussing trans people in my original comment
/r/MensRights11/05/21 04:32 AM
1

yep, which is unfortunate, but at least non-TERFs only hate one group of people instead of two
/r/MensRights11/05/21 04:08 AM
2

for sure. at its base, feminism is defined as the belief of equality for the sexes. which is exactly what i want, and so i thought i was a feminist. once you really start looking into it you find out that feminism isn’t really it’s definition anymore.
/r/MensRights11/05/21 04:07 AM
4

i don’t know, because when i was a feminist, i didn’t keep up with much. i wasn’t really on reddit or other sites with active discussion, and so i got most of my knowledge of feminism from the news and social media like instagram (activism posts). when you’re only surrounded by one view, that tends to be the view you have, because what reason do you have to oppose it? i only started realizing that feminism wasn’t all i thought it was when i dove deeper and looked into men’s rights and egalitaria…
/r/MensRights11/05/21 01:39 AM
2

thank you♥️
/r/MensRights11/05/21 12:01 AM
1

for sure, i agree that it’s part of the problem. but men behaving this way has been normalized a lot in the past, and over time, it has lessened. so i’m hoping that it will continue to lessen as time goes on.
/r/MensRights11/05/21 12:00 AM
6

just women’s rights in general. the reason i am more of an egalitarian now is because most issues affect both men and women. sure, some issues lean more towards one sex but both are usually affected. the thing that affects me most personally is sexual harassment, which is something feminists fight strongly against. obviously this happens to both men and women. in my own experience, i’ve only ever been made uncomfortable by men. especially when i was a minor, being catcalled and sexualized at wor…
/r/MensRights10/05/21 11:24 PM
1

tell that to OP and the majority of the commenters, then.. not me. personally, it doesn’t bother me either
/r/MensRights10/05/21 11:13 PM
11

as long as i’m welcome here i’d love to keep expanding my knowledge. i recognize my beliefs have been wrong in the past but they’re only growing the more i’m taught.
/r/MensRights10/05/21 11:13 PM
19

hey, i had to join this sub to figure that out. lots of mra’s get pretty upset with me here for sharing my thoughts- tell me to get out of men’s spaces. but i’ve learned more being here, challenging my beliefs, than i would’ve if i stuck on feminist subreddits.
/r/MensRights10/05/21 09:32 PM
52

this is completely why i’m not a feminist anymore. i used to be, before shit hit the fan and the majority of feminists turned into misandrists. but now if i even say the word feminist, i’m automatically signalled out as someone who hates men and doesn’t care about their rights. so i would say i’m an egalitarian at this point.
/r/MensRights10/05/21 09:17 PM
2

the commenter asked why OP said “be civil”. i answered their questions. it’s funny that you think i’m trolling, as i certainly am not. i am a decent human being, i am indeed privileged and i’ll recognize that, and i’m not a feminist. but make as many assumptions about me as you want. i think calling me a monster is slightly over the top. who exactly have i hurt here? i’ve never discredited men’s struggles. the people calling me a whore were actually the ones trolling lol.
/r/MensRights10/05/21 09:11 PM
3

literally it’s not hard to figure out. i like penetration but there’s no way i’m coming from that alone
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 09:08 PM
2

did you read the rest of my comment? it’s pleasurable for different reasons. not in an orgasm sense, because i can’t finish like that. but it’s exciting, and i feel a deep sense of love with my partner when we do it. but dick size wouldn’t change that at all. don’t worry lol, my boyfriend is fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 09:07 PM
3

as a woman, i couldn’t care less about dick size because penetration is not pleasurable at all. a lot of women would say the same. the reason i enjoy penetration with my boyfriend is because a) it makes him feel good, and b) i feel a connection with him. dick size doesn’t matter- but being good in bed does. if a guy can take his time to get me off, that’s what matters most.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 06:53 PM
1

so you’re okay with women saying “happy fathers day to all the single moms out there!”
/r/MensRights10/05/21 06:49 PM
-3

i mean, i can’t stop you, but i can also say whatever i want to you. if i’m discussing pregnancy in general, i use the word women as it’s the majority. that makes sense. but if i am talking about anything where trans people can/should be included, i respect them by using gender neutral terms. it’s not difficult.
/r/MensRights10/05/21 04:33 PM
0

i mean trans people are important, i’m glad that’s what they’re fighting over
/r/MensRights10/05/21 04:26 PM
-6

approximately 420,000 transgender men have experienced accidental pregnancies due to being told their testosterone supplements will make them sterile. these are not moms, and that’s about .13% of the US population. and that’s just the accidental ones- i couldn’t find data on planned pregnancies but they exist as well.
/r/MensRights10/05/21 04:09 PM
0

wow calling me a rotten bag is so civil lmao. thanks for proving my point. never been on that subreddit before. but, yeah. i’ve been called a whore one too many times on this sub
/r/MensRights10/05/21 03:51 PM
3

but women do do the same shit. how is that a joke?
/r/MensRights10/05/21 03:49 PM
-7

i mean, i’ve seen my fair share of not so civil comments on this sub. there’s always some bad apples wherever you go.
/r/MensRights10/05/21 06:34 AM
26

like i’m all for men’s rights but i swear that’s what half the sub is these days
/r/MensRights10/05/21 04:46 AM
2

most MRA’s would say that single moms making father’s day about themselves is sexist towards men.
/r/MensRights10/05/21 04:35 AM
1

what a refreshing thing to see on this sub. thank you!
/r/MensRights10/05/21 04:16 AM
1

i definitely think fathers should be able to opt out of parenthood. condition being, no contact whatsoever with the child until they’re of age and they choose to contact him first. like a sperm donor.
/r/MensRights10/05/21 04:15 AM
92

women do something wrong so let’s also do something wrong to prove point
/r/MensRights10/05/21 04:02 AM
5

where do they talk about buff males at all? i don’t know where you’re drawing this from
/r/MensRights09/05/21 01:24 AM
2

yeah, that would be frustrating. nobody in my city offered a female only bursary.
/r/MensRights09/05/21 12:21 AM
1

what are you talking about? every single bursary i applied for was not gender specific. i applied for 40, but i had up to 100 gender neutral options. i’d love to see this big list of women only bursaries you wished you could’ve applied for. i don’t know much about the lower admission standards, so i won’t speak on that. i can see how that would be frustrating. i totally agree men and women should have equal opportunities. i don’t agree with this woman only bursary. however, i’m just reminding yo…
/r/MensRights09/05/21 12:00 AM
-8

unfortunately all bursaries have specific requirements. some are only for POC. some are only for lgbt+ students, some are for people who live in a certain part of town, do certain sports, etc. the bursary people are giving away free money.. it’s up to them to decide who can apply for it. perhaps the person giving the bursary had a daughter in STEM who passed away and it is a memorial bursary for her. just an example. there are so many bursaries out there.. just scroll past this one and move onto…
/r/MensRights08/05/21 07:08 PM
1

lmfao why are you even talking to me then? if you’re not gonna bother explaining yourself just get outta my comments
/r/MensRights08/05/21 04:53 AM
3

i am not a troll. i comment what i genuinely think and what i feel. i’m not an MRM, but i’m not a feminist- i’m an egalitarian. would you rather this be an echo chamber? it might not seem so to you, but there is a big difference between saying “women do not understand nuance” and “it seems to me like most women do not understand nuance”. one is claiming a fact that is untrue- one is an opinion, not a generalization. it’s not hard to say some women every time. i do it. the first commenter said so…
/r/MensRights07/05/21 10:55 PM
0

yeah, i still don’t understand what your point is.
/r/MensRights07/05/21 10:47 PM
5

for sure- but i personally have learned to be a lot more thoughtful and intentional with my language as to be sure i’m not misunderstood or insinuating something i don’t really mean. sometimes i just wish these things would be acknowledged.
/r/MensRights07/05/21 07:49 PM
2

thank you for the info, i’ll give it a more thorough read later! most of what i skimmed though says that men are of equal risk (or more) of domestic violence. i obviously believe in factual things, so if women and men are equally at risk than that is what is true. however- if i am walking down the street alone as a woman with a man close behind me, i get nervous. i am afraid to go outside at night. i wonder if anyone is watching my car as i get in in the parking lot. to you, are these fears stil…
/r/MensRights07/05/21 07:35 PM
2

it is an issue that men face all the time... which is why they should not be doing the same to women. it’s extremely hypocritical. if it’s “not all men”, then why is it all women? i wouldn’t say i’m an MRA or a feminist because i am both pro-man and pro-woman.
/r/MensRights07/05/21 06:56 PM
3

why do some MRA’s always speak about all women as if they’re all the same? it doesn’t make sense to me. i do not want men and women’s standards to be different. i want to get rid of stereotypes for both men and women. i have two pairs of shoes and wear minimal makeup. and i still feel insecure with my face and body at times. that’s just what the media does to you (affects men too). the fact is, it sucks when you say “women” instead of SOME women. you’re opposing me just because i am a women, eve…
/r/MensRights07/05/21 05:48 PM
0

and since when am i misandrist? and did i ever claim that misandry only affected MRA’s? no, i didn’t. and, did i ever claim to be a feminist? no, i didn’t. you’re arguing with the wrong person here- i agree with you
/r/MensRights07/05/21 05:30 PM
5

being misogynistic does not only affect feminists. it affects all women.
/r/MensRights07/05/21 03:27 AM
1

your problem is even seeing it as “the other side”. sure, radical feminists can be hypocritical and prejudiced against men. that is very true. but this is not a men vs women fight. if you fight for men’s rights but then go around and be misogynistic to women, then guess what? you’re no better than a radical feminist. because you’re doing the exact same thing. it’s everyone vs gender stereotypes. this feminist vs mra shit is so stupid.
/r/MensRights07/05/21 01:57 AM
4

“i’m not sexist but i condone misogyny” lmfao.
/r/MensRights07/05/21 01:18 AM
1

???
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 02:07 AM
1

i think the world has been heading in that direction for a long time haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 09:35 PM
1

oh, for sure. i only speak about my own country in general, and my own situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 04:56 PM
1

okay? but that’s not me personally making that decision. i never said a bias didn’t exist.. i just said that it shouldn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 04:15 PM
1

why don’t you share those statistics with me? polyamorous relationships can work and be healthy. i don’t really know why you’re denying that when it’s the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 04:14 PM
1

i mean, we have our own online communities where we talk. the numbers are only growing. it’s a little rude to call someone’s love life a trend. you do not know just how complex human beings are- we cannot be reduced to our jealousy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 04:09 PM
-1

okay? i clearly said that i disagree with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 04:07 PM
11

the titanic occurred in a time where women were to be protected over men. i am talking about our current society. how do we expect to prove that women are just as strong and capable as men when we also say that they need to be protected? are we deciding that they are more fragile than men or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 07:06 AM
2

i’m a little confused about your comment. are you disagreeing with me? what are your thoughts on the questions?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 06:40 AM
25

as a woman: a) no. is a woman obligated to risk her life for a man? b) no. same as above. c) yes. if you truly love someone you would protect them with your life. it has nothing to do with gender. nobody is obligated to protect anyone. is it a kind, heroic thing to do? yes. but they are not obligated to. saying that men would be obligated to protect women but not vice versa, just strays further from the equality we’re searching for.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 05:27 AM
60

why can’t employers just hire the best suited people for the job? taking gender into account is stupid. if they end up having 90% men because they’re better suited, whatever. if they end up having 90% women because they’re better for the job, so what? the ratio of men to women doesn’t matter in a business unless they’re specifically discriminating against a certain sex in their hiring process.
/r/MensRights05/05/21 04:52 AM
1

they changed their comment because of me hahaha
/r/MensRights04/05/21 05:35 PM
-25

jesus you sound like a 12 yr old troll lol
/r/MensRights04/05/21 02:57 AM
6

you’re 20 years old. are you forced to move in with them due to financial issues? it’s not called running away when you’re of age- you can leave whenever you want.
/r/MensRights04/05/21 02:55 AM
2

i have so much empathy for men’s struggles. suicide rates in men and their general mental health are topics i am very passionate about as they are not spoken about enough. men are not forced to make the first move if they do not want to. they may miss an opportunity, but so what? i’d love to hear what you mean by “profoundly oppressed.” please elaborate. it’s extremely unfortunate when women traumatized/humiliate/attack men. it’s not okay at all, and you’re right that if a man did that to a wome…
/r/MensRights03/05/21 06:34 AM
3

there’s literally no context here to determine what happened. perhaps he had an affair? just because he’s at the lowest point in his life doesn’t mean he’s forgivable.
/r/MensRights03/05/21 05:20 AM
0

not at all.
/r/MensRights03/05/21 05:13 AM
2

wow, what an absolute rant that was. i didn’t even want to read that all. i can agree that grouping harassment, assault and rape together can be misleading. anyway; i’m glad you got that off your chest i guess? i don’t know why you’re specifically talking to me as if i represent all feminists (i’m not even a feminist). but thanks for calling me egocentric and selfish, and assuming so many things about me from the singular comment i made :) you couldn’t be more wrong. take a step back and do some…
/r/MensRights03/05/21 03:52 AM
1

well, that’s misogynistic.
/r/MensRights03/05/21 02:36 AM
2

yeah, that’s very hypocritical.
/r/MensRights03/05/21 02:36 AM
1

it’s definitely not the same thing, as those are not sexually intended terms. obviously if someone called me sweetie in a genuinely kind, not flirty or sexual way, i would have no issue with it (i wouldn’t like it but i wouldn’t say anything). but i can clearly tell when someone is being sexual/flirting with me when they call me pet names. it’s all in the infliction. how about you stop arguing with me about what’s harassment to me. telling me i “scream bloody murder” is such a hyperbole
/r/MensRights03/05/21 02:25 AM
0

why is it up to you to say what is harassment and what is not? sure, a boob grab might be concentual in some scenarios and in others it is definitely harassment. it depends on context. i would definitely say that the victim knows best what the context was and if they had malicious intentions or not. if anyone (besides my boyfriend) ever grabbed my butt that would not be okay and i would consider that sexual assault. you can’t expect your experiences to be the same as every other victim. just bec…
/r/MensRights02/05/21 10:10 PM
-13

i mean, i’m not personally putting it in that category, if you read the fine print it says that sexual harassment is considered sexual violence. i’m not saying it’s as bad as rape, but it’s in the same category because it is a sexual offence. in the order of severity, it goes harassment, assault, rape.
/r/MensRights02/05/21 05:16 PM
1

lol i’m not sure?
/r/MensRights02/05/21 05:14 PM
2

thanks! i love when people who don’t know me judge me. unwanted compliments are.. unwanted. it’s abnormal for someone i’ve never met to call me pet names. it makes me uncomfortable. and when i ask them politely to not call me that? they get angry.
/r/MensRights02/05/21 05:12 PM
2

for sure. i’m in canada and that’s definitely abnormal especially for old men. if an old woman called me sweetie i wouldn’t mind because of her intentions. usually you can tell someone’s intentions. if they’re innocent and calling me that because i seem child-like, that’s alright. still kind of weird but not sexual. but when gives you a compliment and then calls you sweetie/honey etc it gives it weight. ideally only my boyfriend would call me pet names
/r/MensRights02/05/21 04:43 PM
2

he sure does :p
/r/MensRights02/05/21 04:41 PM
-12

what do you even mean by that
/r/MensRights02/05/21 04:38 PM
-3

lmfaoo why don’t you ask my hot ass boyfriend?
/r/MensRights02/05/21 05:20 AM
-4

i do tell them to call me by my name. they roll their eyes and tell me to lighten up, to take a compliment, or to just smile. it’s harassment. you really wouldn’t understand if you haven’t been through it. what is your main point? your comment was pretty hard to read.
/r/MensRights02/05/21 05:17 AM
1

so what point are you trying to prove here? you want me to be like “oh i’m sorry men have it so much harder than women in this world”
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 05:16 AM
1

men definitely have struggles but this post really sounds like you’re feeling sorry for yourself. how do you know that more people are nice to me? are you a woman? no, so you really can’t say that for sure. the right men have everything they could ever want. your gender alone is not the reason you don’t have a girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 05:08 AM
-16

dude. disgusting old fucking men whistle at me and call me pet names all the time. no, i don’t think criminals stop at stats? that’s literally what i said in my fucking comment. no matter what we say or do, men still whistle at me and call me “sweetie” and shit when i’m at work.
/r/MensRights02/05/21 05:05 AM
-49

why does it matter what you call it? people shouldn’t be whistling at me lol. no matter what stats you put out, call it violence or not.. they just don’t learn.
/r/MensRights02/05/21 03:52 AM
2

i mean yeah, that’s totally your personal opinion and you should just tell her it makes you uncomfortable. you can’t just assume those jokes are too far for everyone because they’re not. what you think is not what everyone else thinks- many couples make those types of “i’m leaving you” jokes and find it completely alright.
/r/MensRights01/05/21 05:51 PM
1

what’s your point here? i realize that from the outside things can seem perfect- that goes for all types of relationships. all i’m saying is that poly relationships exist and for the right people, they work.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 04:57 PM
13

i gotta say, besides the judicial system, absolutely none of these are true. fuck i wish everyone was nice to me. i wish old men didn’t call me a bitch for rejecting their advances. wish i had the money to travel or stay home from work.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 08:08 AM
13

as a woman, this is one of the most important issues to me. everyone deserves to be emotionally supported.
/r/MensRights01/05/21 06:25 AM
2

it wouldn’t be a divorce if you aren’t married. i just shared my thoughts, like you asked for. obviously i don’t have an inside look on your relationship. you said she crossed a line.. but did you set those boundaries to begin with? did you sit down and tell her directly that you’re not comfortable with those kind of jokes? many men are comfortable with and make those kind of jokes, so it’s possible she just didn’t know it would hurt you. you say “most women are incapable of differentiating righ…
/r/MensRights01/05/21 02:38 AM
0

but all women have different tastes? i don’t even like typically attractive men lol. i don’t like abs, just minimal muscles. skinny or chubby (or midsize) guys are my thing👍🏻
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 02:32 AM
4

my thoughts? you guys are not compatible. clearly she has a sense of humour that you don’t find funny. you made a joke calling her racist, she made a joke saying she’d leave you. i’d say those jokes are equally offensive. it sounds like you guys aren’t close enough to even know each other’s sense of humour.
/r/MensRights01/05/21 02:28 AM
1

you can’t compare porn addiction to domestic abuse, that’s such a stretch. why don’t you compare it to drug addiction instead? people are also addicted to alcohol and junk food while others can consume them perfectly fine. the alcohol/porn existing is not the problem, it’s the habit of consuming it in unhealthy ways that is.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 02:18 AM
1

have you been a victim of domestic abuse?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 01:45 AM
1

wow.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 11:55 PM
1

sure, but people can choose not to watch it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 11:45 PM
1

i would agree, right now i’m monogamous with my boyfriend and it’s perfect as he fulfills me in all ways. but i’ve seen tons of completely healthy polyamorous relationships where they all live together, are married and/or are all emotionally invested. i’m not disagreeing with you, it probably can be difficult at times but they learn how to communicate properly in their system
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 11:41 PM
1

for sure, everyone is different. some people need that amount of emotional stimulation and affection and prefer multiple partners
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 10:47 PM
1

porn isn’t new lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 10:46 PM
1

i don’t know about that. it seems like you think you can speak for all men when clearly you don’t have the slightest clue what they like and dislike. are you a doctor?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 10:26 PM
1

chad?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 10:25 PM
1

i see what you’re saying. but like.. a gay person can say the word f*g and make homophobic jokes and that’s okay because it’s at their own expense. obviously if i was like “POC should run the world, let’s go around and kill all whites” and i was serious, that would be racist. but nobody’s ever said something like that.
/r/MensRights30/04/21 06:03 PM
1

that’s literally some guys kinks lol you cannot speak for all men
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 05:58 PM
1

i would respond that way. that would be heartbreaking to watch. it’s different though when three people all fall in love with each other. there’s no jealousy because it goes all ways- and they’re often excellent communicators!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 03:40 AM
0

you’re basically saying most men are monogamous. which is true. but some men are really into polyamory.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 03:07 AM
-1

it’s literally my own race lol. i can say whatever tf i want about white people
/r/MensRights30/04/21 01:00 AM
-1

so you’re telling me i’m being racist to myself
/r/MensRights29/04/21 08:31 PM
1

i don’t think it’s a motivation- i think it’s more of a sexuality. i didn’t decide to be polyamorous it was kind of just something i was interested in. men who are in polyamorous relationships are a lot more emotionally developed than your typical alpha male. they wouldn’t be in one if they didn’t like it. and for the record, i’m in a monogamous relationship right now. i’m still poly, because in the past i’ve dreamed about poly relationships, had crushes on multiple people at a time, had dreams …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 07:48 PM
1

i am white.
/r/MensRights29/04/21 07:39 PM
0

who am i being racist to
/r/MensRights29/04/21 06:29 PM
2

hey, thanks for giving me a logical explanation so i can change my opinion and definition of the word. everyone else is kind of just shitting on me.
/r/MensRights29/04/21 06:24 PM
0

thanks for calling me an idiot i appreciate it
/r/MensRights29/04/21 06:14 PM
1

i love that i get downvoted not even for stating my opinion- but for asking questions so i can form an opinion. would y’all rather me not be open to changing my opinion? they are no longer slaves but racism still lingers. history doesn’t just go away. it has to be kept in mind because it’s what’s led to racism in today’s society.
/r/MensRights29/04/21 06:04 PM
0

oh. thanks for calling me a freak. and you’re using the wrong term here. i’m not talking about polyandry. i’m talking about polyamory, which means having multiple partners regardless of gender, you might all be dating each other instead of one person dating many. i think you’re just not seeing it. polyamorous people don’t exactly flaunt that to the world because of how much criticism they receive. but if you were a polyamorous person (or at least accepting) and you did some digging, you’d be sur…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 06:01 PM
2

thank you for sharing your story. i hope that we can speak up about discrimination against your ethnicity more in the future
/r/MensRights29/04/21 05:56 PM
1

what i meant is that they both (should be) fighting for their own rights. meaning closing much of the gap between the genders and making them equal to each other.
/r/MensRights29/04/21 05:52 PM
1

racism typically applies to marginalized groups or minorities. by definition. i guess that is not every single case, so i apologize for that claim (though it’s what i’ve been taught). but it’s the majority of them. what makes me sceptical is that white people often call racism just to discredit POC’s struggles. basically, if you constantly say things like “white people experience racism too” without also putting effort into fighting racism for POC, it sounds as though you only care about white p…
/r/MensRights29/04/21 07:38 AM
0

well, yeah, we’re on men’s rights. i would be shocked if that wasn’t your opinion. there’s quite a debate over the isms and lots of people would agree with what i said. i don’t think it’s a black and white (pun not intended lol) term.
/r/MensRights29/04/21 07:15 AM
0

i’ve been raised to believe (by history teachers) that the “isms” only apply to an imbalance of power. ie. white people holding power over black people, or men holding power over women. i’m currently testing that belief to see if i actually agree with it. thoughts?
/r/MensRights29/04/21 07:05 AM
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I wouldn’t speak on behalf of them, as I am not one and am not familiar with their culture. what i can speak about is racism in canada. racism affects POC here. not white people. and i would say that it’s the same for the US. racism is more of a big picture thing. it takes into account a history of oppression, something that white people in north america have not experienced. like i said- you can absolutely be prejudiced to white people based on their race, but the way the term racism is used re…
/r/MensRights29/04/21 06:58 AM
-17

noun prejudice, discrimination, or antagonism directed against a person or people on the basis of their membership in a particular racial or ethnic group, typically one that is a minority or marginalized. i don’t know what your source is, but you are incorrect.
/r/MensRights29/04/21 04:01 AM
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you’re missing part of the definition, racism applies to groups that are typically minorities or marginalized. (so not white people) white people can certainly experience racial discrimination and prejudice, but they cannot experience racism because they are not a minority/marginalized.
/r/MensRights29/04/21 03:44 AM
1

we have the exact same views! it’s rare that anyone agrees with me on these things. it’s quite unfortunate, because i believe in equality i’m shamed for being a feminist by mra’s, but i’m shamed by feminists for being an mra. apparently i can’t be both.. which doesn’t make sense because it’s the same fight.
/r/MensRights29/04/21 03:42 AM
-1

very good answer, i agree with you. anyone can experience prejudice but only minorities can experience racism.
/r/MensRights29/04/21 03:41 AM
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why specifically men having multiple female partners? i think polyarmory is already socially accepted among many. people in open relationships. men dating multiple women, women dating multiple men.. or men and women all dating each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 03:38 AM
17

askfeminists?
/r/MensRights29/04/21 03:32 AM
-11

i’m trying to determine my opinion on this. do you also believe you can be racist to white people? or is that different because you think POC are actually oppressed whereas women aren’t?
/r/MensRights29/04/21 03:31 AM
1

because they would be the only character referred to with they/them. how is that any different than a regular book? there can be 20 different female characters in a book that are all called “she”. with good book writing, you still know which female they’re talking about. or it could be written in first person, from the nonbinary person’s perspective.
/r/MensRights27/04/21 11:42 PM
1

how so?
/r/MensRights27/04/21 11:31 PM
1

imagine a book where the main character is gender neutral and is referred to as they/them throughout the entire book but it’s never actually acknowledged or talked about? that would be amazing
/r/MensRights27/04/21 06:42 PM
3

is it really most people? i must just associate myself with good people then- i can’t think of a single person i know that would marry for status over love.
/r/MensRights27/04/21 08:21 AM
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i genuinely don’t understand people. why search for something so fickle as height, money, specific ambitions? i couldn’t care less what height my boyfriend is. he works at a convenience store. but i love him to death. because of his courage and kindness- the way he treats me so gently, the way he laughs and smiles, his sense of humour, i could go on. why search for someone that meets a box in checklist instead of searching for your person? the person who just gets you? i think that is far more v…
/r/MensRights27/04/21 05:39 AM
5

yeah i totally agree. as a woman, i’m so sick of the “gay best friend” trope.
/r/MensRights26/04/21 08:12 PM
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that’s the dumbest thing i’ve ever read. as a woman- everyone should be charged equally. gender, race- it doesn’t matter.
/r/MensRights26/04/21 08:08 PM
4

yeah well after the age of majority there’s nothing a mother could do to stop them anyway
/r/MensRights26/04/21 08:03 PM
8

i would agree with that. but if he opted out of the child support he would not be allowed to see his child until they’re the age of majority and decide to on their own.
/r/MensRights26/04/21 04:07 PM
2

what happens if there is a disagreement though? the woman wants an abortion and the man does not. do we just force her to carry the pregnancy to term? we can’t take away rights that have already been given
/r/MensRights26/04/21 03:55 PM
6

i only said no because i’m canadian and we don’t use guns here 👍🏻
/r/MensRights25/04/21 10:17 PM
2

only thing is, if nobody banded together to fight for their rights we’d still have slavery, gay marriage would be illegal, etc. power is in numbers. but i guess if you hate everyone on the planet you don’t care anyways lol
/r/MensRights25/04/21 05:16 AM
10

like i understand that i’ll never understand men’s issues as much as men do. but i have men in my life and i truly care about how they feel in today’s society. just as much as i care about women’s issues. although the genders have very different issues that stem from different places.. they still all matter to me.
/r/MensRights24/04/21 10:39 PM
8

i commented. when i’m on that subreddit, i’m told i’m not a feminist and that MRA’s hate women and feminists. when i’m here, i’m told i’m spreading feminist hate speech and that as a woman i cannot talk about men’s issues. so i guess i’ll just worry about myself and not fight for anyone’s rights🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/MensRights24/04/21 10:15 PM
0

yeah she can. i think the difference to me is that her yelling came from a place of defensiveness and fear whereas his came from a place of anger🤷🏽‍♀️ not saying it was right for her to yell but making a scene is generally the best way to get bystanders attention if she genuinely thought she was getting attacked
/r/MensRights24/04/21 06:08 PM
-1

gross. it goes both ways.
/r/MensRights23/04/21 08:14 PM
8

every fight in the past has felt uncomfortable. it’s hard to stand up against the majority. just keep fighting
/r/MensRights23/04/21 08:13 PM
1

yeah for sure. i won’t be blaming everyone for the actions of few.
/r/MensRights23/04/21 07:54 PM
1

it only had a couple upvotes. it was a long conversation where he was calling women worthless whores for having so many sexual partners. a really sad thing to see. now that i go back and look, he ended up deleting his actual reddit account in the end, so i wonder if it was a throwaway to troll or something similar. either way experiences like that are really disheartening but do not stop me. all i know is that if i’m spending my time advocating for men’s rights, they should at least respect me a…
/r/MensRights23/04/21 07:15 PM
1

yes i said that, but you brought up specific examples that i did not make and tried to fit them into my statement. i suppose a good example is the backlog of rape kits. there are so many kits of samples taken after sexual assault that are just sitting there and haven’t been tested. if we found a way to get the dna more easily tested, it would a) bring justice to sexual assault victims and b) reduce the amount of false accusations because of the physical proof.
/r/MensRights23/04/21 07:07 PM
1

it’s not a choice per se but it’s just how you are. some men are more masculine than others. just like some men are less masculine, but feel obligated to be masculine. because they are shamed for doing anything that is less masculine or even feminine.
/r/MensRights23/04/21 07:04 PM
1

that is fantastic. if they are happy, that’s what matters! but i have men in my life who have told me that they don’t feel comfortable showing their emotions the way girls do because they feel like they have to be strong as a man. my boyfriend has only ever cried in front of me (or alone). he said he definitely doesn’t cry as often as me (lol) but that it feels really nice to not be judged for something like that. it genuinely hurts my heart to think that the suicide rate is so high in men becau…
/r/MensRights23/04/21 07:02 PM
1

oh i easily believe those women’s subreddits should be banned too. ive never been on them but they sound awful. (also two x? that sounds transphobic to me lol).
/r/MensRights23/04/21 06:54 PM
0

oh my lord. hate slurs? since when is that an established slur? it’s not, or i wouldn’t have said it. not anything can just be a slur, it has to have significant history to it. with that out of the way, i apologize for using a word that clearly is far more negative that i realized. ive never used it meaning to be negative but apparently it has those strings attached. there are clear gender stereotypes though that people feel restricted to. i still believe that. they shouldn’t exist, but they do.…
/r/MensRights23/04/21 06:53 PM
0

everyone who replies to me is so sarcastic lol. ive been informed that it’s more of a negative term and has a different meaning than i thought. so i won’t be using it anymore. i personally have never heard the word be used that way, but i believe you. that phenomenon of the gender stereotypes still exists.. but i won’t call it that anymore
/r/MensRights23/04/21 06:50 PM
0

well i don’t think i deserve to be called a worthless whore for saying that men and women both have their own rights to fight for
/r/MensRights23/04/21 06:38 PM
3

thank you!
/r/MensRights23/04/21 06:39 AM
2

it kind of hurts. because not only do i have to deal with shit from actual, misogynistic men at least once a week... when i come here in an attempt to stand up for both men’s rights, women’s rights, and equality... i’m told i’m spreading feminist hate speech? just because i’m female doesn’t mean i’m a feminist.. i’m an equalist. men and women both have their own things to fight for. there’s no need to put one group down in the process.
/r/MensRights23/04/21 05:52 AM
2

agreed
/r/MensRights23/04/21 05:31 AM
2

it’s unfortunate, because i really want to be involved in the fight for men’s rights. but as a woman, i see some questionable posts.. and it discourages me. being pro men’s rights shouldn’t be anti-woman.. it should be pro equality.
/r/MensRights23/04/21 05:31 AM
1

the posts i read on the red pill talked about how women will leave you for someone more successful, they’re manipulative and all the same. from what i read, the main point of the subreddit is for “dating tips” (complaining about how woman behave) unfortunately, the term feminism has become a negative thing. i don’t identify as a feminist. i want equality for all, but that subreddit really is misogynistic.
/r/MensRights23/04/21 04:46 AM
1

i don’t think emotion should be specific to a certain gender, i really don’t. some women are cold and calculating. some men are emotional and compassionate. it doesn’t mean they’re any less masculine. i would not say i oppose masculinity at all. people should not feel restricted by their gender, regardless. if a man is happy being traditionally masculine, good, as long as he’s happy. but i know that many men struggle to show their emotions due to societies expectations and they shouldn’t have to…
/r/MensRights23/04/21 04:42 AM
1

i’ve come to the conclusion that the term toxic masculinity means something different than what i’ve previously thought. it’s negative, and i will stop using it. i apologize. how do they get punished? i’m not saying they don’t- i just need examples to better understand. i can admit i’m sort of clueless. but i am trying my best to learn. i want equality for everyone- and being pro man is important, even though i’m not one myself. i’d like to know how i can better help. i apologize for blaming any…
/r/MensRights23/04/21 04:38 AM
1

i never meant that it was a bad thing. but why constantly complain about how women are in relationships when you’re not seeking one? why does it affect you or matter to you, then?
/r/MensRights23/04/21 04:31 AM
2

hey, i totally agree with this and appreciate you bringing this to my attention. i did not realize exactly how negative the term could be. i will refrain from using it in the future. if you’re willing to give more advice- what should i say to fellow “feminists” that use this term not realizing how negative it can be? as my eyes are only opening to this now, i’m sure many others don’t realize.
/r/MensRights23/04/21 04:30 AM
1

sure, but what i have a problem with is when it becomes a game and the man doesn’t care about the woman’s feelings at all, just wants to be her first as some achievement and then leave.
/r/MensRights23/04/21 03:55 AM
-11

are these actual statistics? because if so, how is it sexist? if it’s just actual facts.
/r/MensRights23/04/21 02:18 AM
2

i’m sorry if i was acting like feminist C in this scenario. it was not my intention. it’s awful when either side gets out of hand. women blaming men for their problems- or men blaming women. it would be my goal to criticize both sides of that narrative. i’m not trying to undermine the non-feminist or invalidate their feelings. i believe that toxic masculinity is a thing- but as i explained, it’s harmful to the man experiencing it- i’m not trying to put blame on the man for that.
/r/MensRights23/04/21 02:10 AM
0

i took what i said directly from that subreddit. if that is an inaccurate description.. blame those that posted it there. you’re right that i don’t understand their goal. if you know so much, please explain it to me.
/r/MensRights23/04/21 01:58 AM
0

gaslighting? i’ve been nothing but honest about how i feel and my views. other (toxic) feminists definitely use the term toxic masculinity as a way to ridicule men and i was just simply trying to explain that that’s not what it’s supposed to mean. that’s what i truly and genuinely believe. no feminist hate propaganda here. i’m certainly not trying to defend feminists who go over the top and hate men. not at all. i certainly disagree with the way they do things and it’s unfortunate that their act…
/r/MensRights23/04/21 01:16 AM
1

even so, i enjoyed it. i have a passion for discussion.
/r/MensRights23/04/21 01:13 AM
1

hey! i’d love a specific example of where i did this.
/r/MensRights23/04/21 01:06 AM
1

i could say that to pretty much every insult you’ve given me lol. i’m just saying that it shows that not many people agree with you
/r/MensRights23/04/21 01:06 AM
1

okay -100 comment karma
/r/MensRights23/04/21 01:01 AM
1

sounds like something someone would say when they know they’re in the wrong🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/MensRights23/04/21 12:57 AM
-3

so what is their goal? to stay single forever and just continuously complain about women? enlighten me
/r/MensRights23/04/21 12:56 AM
-1

i don’t agree with those solutions. what exactly do you mean “blame it all on men?” if it was a man causing the violence, as most women are in straight relationships, then of course the blame would be on the man. there SHOULD be more DV resources for men. i never said those things solved men’s issues. i’m saying that if gender stereotypes were abolished it would solve problems for both genders.
/r/MensRights23/04/21 12:55 AM
1

for sure. just be aware that when the red pill is referred to on reddit it is usually referring to the misogynistic subreddit!
/r/MensRights23/04/21 12:50 AM
2

women really do have dog brain. lol. how many more sexist comments are you going to make while i’m trying to converse with you? it’s perfectly okay to have preferences on women- perhaps you like to date more modest dressing women, or women with brown hair, women who are less or more sexually experienced. of course that’s allowed. what’s not cool is the language you’re using. just because you’re not attracted to women with lots of sexual partners doesn’t give you the right to demean them and call…
/r/MensRights23/04/21 12:50 AM
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worthless means having no real value. having multiple sexual partners does not reduce your value. i’m not sure why men are so fond of chasing virgins and think that they’re a prize to be won. in fact, i’d say having multiple sexual partners just makes you better in bed. it doesn’t hurt my feelings personally because i have only ever had one sexual partner and i am devoted to him and him only. what i disagree with is the fact that you are so quick to disrespect women based on their sexual activit…
/r/MensRights23/04/21 12:33 AM
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so.. you’re jealous of women who can get laid easily? why do you even care about how much sex women have? you’re clearly not the one they’re having it with. pussies have a shelf-life haha i’d love for you to tell me what this is supposed to mean. no man wants to fuck a disgusting whore. no real man would call a woman a disgusting whore in the first place. grow the fuck up, stop shaming people and start respecting them. why would a woman want to be with a man who calls other women disgusting whor…
/r/MensRights23/04/21 12:30 AM
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i don’t think women hide “their true nature.” i don’t know a single woman that behaves the way red pill men think they do. then exposing “the truth behind women” is simply them coming up with excuses for why they can’t get a girlfriend🤷🏽‍♀️ respectable and kind women are definitely out there and are the majority, but grouping all women together and saying they’re all the same is not helping your cause lol
/r/MensRights23/04/21 12:27 AM
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calling someone worthless is about as low of an insult as you can get. i don’t think anyone deserves to be called worthless just for having multiple sexual partners.
/r/MensRights23/04/21 12:23 AM
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the fact that you think having multiple partners as a women is shameful and having multiple partners as a man is not.. that’s pretty clearly anti-woman in itself. the fact that you’re so quick to personally insult me for disagreeing with you shows that you’re defensive and need to resort to that to prove your point.
/r/MensRights23/04/21 12:22 AM
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i generally respect people until they give me a reason not to. but i guess that’s just my way of being a good person
/r/MensRights23/04/21 12:04 AM
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why is it wrong for a women to have multiple sexual partners? is it wrong for a man to sleep around too or is he praised for it? why are you calling me a stupid broad lol. i didn’t insult you. we’re having a respectful conversation.
/r/MensRights23/04/21 12:03 AM
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how about you respect everyone regardless of how they look and what they do? that is basic human decency.
/r/MensRights23/04/21 12:00 AM
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calling someone a worthless whore is anti-woman.
/r/MensRights22/04/21 11:58 PM
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except, the red pill subreddit is not simply about truth. it focuses on gender issues and the belief that women are all the same, manipulative, attention-seeking, overly emotional. feminism is toxic, sexism is fake, men have it harder than women, and everything the media teaches about relationships is a lie. is that the truth? i don’t think so.
/r/MensRights22/04/21 11:58 PM
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you don’t have to be anti-woman to be pro-man.
/r/MensRights22/04/21 11:50 PM
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of course. it’s a contributor- not the only one, but one of many. just remember that beauty is subjective, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 11:41 PM
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Only for women though. no? i’ve been talking about men this whole time and breaking down gender norms for men. Normally if a man shows his emotions to a women that’s a deal breaker right there. exactly! you’re understanding my point now. the goal is to CHANGE that narrative. to show men that they CAN in fact show their emotions and do not have to force themselves to be masculine (toxic masculinity.) consider what happens to a man in a divorce. unfortunately, i am uneducated on this topic. if you…
/r/MensRights22/04/21 11:24 PM
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i would disagree. i use the term toxic masculinity and like i explained, i don’t think masculinity itself is toxic. it’s just a way of presenting yourself. it’s when men feel as though they have to conform to masculine gender stereotypes, that it becomes toxic. toxic to THEM. we are not saying the man is toxic for being masculine- we are saying gender stereotypes are toxic for men. i don’t even call myself a feminist. So tell me what you know of masculinity. can you explain what you mean by this…
/r/MensRights22/04/21 11:20 PM
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so incredibly and completely true. many men’s problems can be solved by solving women’s problems, and vice versa.
/r/MensRights22/04/21 11:10 PM
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it was an assumption, i will admit. but i’m surprised it isn’t true. are you saying then that men’s rights doesn’t fight for men to be able to act the same as women do, without being judged for it? to have the same emotions without being ridiculed?
/r/MensRights22/04/21 10:54 PM
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yes, gender norms that people expect of them. some of us are trying to break down these gender norms, though. i always encourage my boyfriend to show and share his emotions with me, to cry, and that’s it’s okay to have weak moments. i’m curious what extreme sanctions you are referring to
/r/MensRights22/04/21 10:53 PM
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you’re missing the point lol. the terms exist because of gender stereotypes and their goal is to break down these stereotypes. to prove that men can be more feminine and women can be more masculine.
/r/MensRights22/04/21 10:50 PM
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toxic femininity is a term. i will agree that it is used less, and that is unfortunate, but it includes assaulting men and then pulling the “woman card”, using your period as an excuse for being abusive, judges favouring women in custody battles, the list goes on. toxic masculinity is not trying to put toxicness on men. anyone can be toxic. it is a specific term used to talk about men who feel forced to “act like men”, the term “man up” is included in that. the belief that men need to be stronge…
/r/MensRights22/04/21 09:50 PM
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except toxic masculinity is a real thing? it occurs when men feel the need to conform to strict gender norms (ie. repressing emotions, not seeking help for mental health/abuse, feeling the need to be/act/look strong all the time)
/r/MensRights22/04/21 09:28 PM
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i said in my comment that there is discrimination and prejudice against men. other countries are not exactly my expertise but i know for a fact that women in other countries are actually oppressed and do not yet have the rights we have in the US/Canada. that’s unfortunate that domestic violence services only serve females. i have not heard of that rule before.
/r/MensRights21/04/21 04:23 AM
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i suppose that could be the wrong term. i’m talking about women’s sufferage and their right to vote/hold office, as well as the equal pay act, acts against discrimination in the workplace, the military ban against women serving in combat, etc. international women’s day is meant to celebrate these milestones where they’ve gained equality to men.
/r/MensRights21/04/21 12:10 AM
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which is unfortunate.
/r/MensRights20/04/21 04:44 PM
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fair enough. i never thought he was in the wrong
/r/MensRights20/04/21 03:48 PM
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i think the thing with the “isms” (racism, sexism, etc) is that the party affected has a history of oppression. of course you can be discriminatory and prejudiced towards men/white people but the reason we have holidays to celebrate women/ethnic people is because of their history of oppression and the fight they’ve had to get here.
/r/MensRights20/04/21 03:47 PM
1

he can. he can do whatever he wants as long as it’s legal. it doesn’t mean it’s the best option to diffuse the situation
/r/MensRights20/04/21 03:44 PM
1

why did he need to tell her to fuck off though lol. couldn’t he have just said “i wasn’t following you” and then go home? it’s okay for her to be scared and he also has nothing to apologize for. i just don’t understand why he would be mad? you’re going to encounter difficult people in you’re life and i’m pretty sure telling them to fuck off doesn’t usually help the issue but idk
/r/MensRights20/04/21 06:44 AM
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this is probably the worst way to make an argument. how do you feel when women say things like “all men are bad, women have it way worse” etc. it makes you want to counterattack and not take their issues seriously. if you constantly talk over and minimize women’s issues, they will be less willing to listen to your issues. if you acknowledge that BOTH women and men have similar gender related issues, and that they are both bad and should both be talked about instead of just women’s issues being h…
/r/MensRights20/04/21 06:37 AM
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it’s valid to feel how you are feeling but just remember this is not a men vs women issue. it is all genders vs all gender issues. we cannot solve men’s issues without solving women’s- we cannot solve women’s issues without solving men’s. we are in this together.
/r/MensRights20/04/21 06:33 AM
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why do you say “women are shameless hypocrites who leech resources off men” as if all women do that when it’s really just a handful? if you’re adamant that “not all men are like that” when referring to sexual assault, surely you must believe not all women are “shameless hypocrites”. if you did, you yourself would be the hypocrite!
/r/MensRights20/04/21 06:32 AM
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i don’t see why they cannot have a homeless shelter for men. women have their own shelters because they may feel unsafe around men living with them. if enough men are feeling unsafe around women, they could definitely fight for a men’s shelter and i’m sure if there was as much demand as there is for women’s only shelters, it would happen!
/r/MensRights20/04/21 06:22 AM
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abuse of any kind by anyone is bad. terrible. i’m very glad they removed this, abuse towards men is often overlooked and is very real. true feminists take men’s issues just as seriously- we only have a problem when men try to downplay women’s issues by saying things like “we have it just as bad” instead of actively trying to help us as well.
/r/MensRights20/04/21 06:20 AM
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