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after I filed and before we separated...lol
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 01:51 PM
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DO NOT LEAVE THE MARITAL HOME without a separation agreement. In some states it can be considered abandonment. It is 100% your home and 100% her home. Without the courts she cannot force you out. Do everything your lawyer says to a "T". Make moves (motions) early and often to establish your position and narrative with the courts. The worst thing you can do is play nice, or give her the benefit of the doubt that she will be honorable. Your one job right now is to play hardball, legally, fairly, a…
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/25 11:26 AM
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Married 15 years, separated 2, divorced 6 months. I filed a civil complaint against my ex for substance abuse and endangering the children through that substance abuse. She lived in the house for 8 months after I filed. In truth I had been planning the divorce for a year prior to that and COULD NOT wait for her to be out of the house. I was dating within 3 months and have had a healthy, stable, stable, and thriving relationship for a year and a half now with an absolutely amazing women.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/25 12:41 PM
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hands down, bar none, alcohol. She was drinking 2 - 4 handles a week towards the end. She traded her family for booze and pride. She didn't want to go to rehab (I tried twice) because she didn't want to go to "prison."
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 09:39 PM
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I'm telling you right now as plain as a possibly can. do NOT leave the marital home without a signed separation agreement. DO fight legal hardball. File motions for everything and do NOT give her the benefit of the doubt. My ex is trying everything she can to put me in jail, upend my life, keep my kids from me, all becauae I treated her like a human being in the divorce process. She lost everything because of who she us and now she is throwing out any accusation she can, it's hell.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/25 06:13 PM
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In NC if you file a Divorce From Bed and board which is a civil suit against your spouse for various reasons, abuse, affair (alienation of affection), substance abuse, than alimony is off the table if the court makes a finding. idk if there is something similar in MN.
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/25 12:38 PM
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Divorce is living death. death without dying, the undead but without all the cool superpowers.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/25 09:56 AM
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My ex moved into her dudes place the day the court ordered her to leave, from one door and bed strait to the next...lol in the long run, with her lack of foresight, she has shot herself in the foot.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/24 02:19 PM
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Yeah, I agree. I wasn't attacking my lawyer. Mostly, I was just venting and really trying to understand what is happening. Especially when it comes to my ex not abiding by the courts orders for her.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/24 03:18 AM
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I have seriously contemplated (fantasized) dropping everything and going to Thiland and just live out my days. I would regret forever abandoning my kids, but it's better than dying.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/24 04:03 PM
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...and interesting stance...I Like it
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/24 04:01 PM
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I don't get bonuses, so I can't speak to that from experience. However, I would not be surprised if bonuses would be included. Heck, dissability even though it isn't taxed, is included, and I have to pay her a portion of my dissability.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/24 11:50 AM
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Think of the phrase "skin in the game." The "skin" being something wagered could be money, usually on each hole.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/24 02:17 PM
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"Skins" is a type of golf game. As I am not a golfer, I don't know the specifics.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/24 02:15 PM
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Yeah, it's around 2600 a month, which makes me want to gag, but still it's better than an alcoholic living in my home.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 09:04 PM
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Yeesh, yeah, I would not be able to afford that.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 08:56 PM
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still hurts at 45 hours a week, but I agree.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 08:53 PM
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Nope, she asks what more she can do, if she is doing enough. go figure.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 04:53 PM
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A "No Fault" state simply means that you can get divorced without there being a fault. That being said, if there is a fault there are usually provisions in family law to file a complaint against the offending spouse and have her removed. In some states this is called a Divorce from Bed and Board. Get a lawyer, tell her what you think and she will more than likely tell you to hire a PI if you don't have proof of infidelity but know there is infidelity. Again, No fault does not mean that there can…
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/23 01:08 PM
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as many have said to you already. you need to listen to us. Leaving the home out of "kindness" becuase she asked you to without a separation agreement that is legally recognized, her lawyer will claim that you abandoned the family. Legally you lose so much fucking leverage if "abandonment" is slapped on you. move the fuck back in now, it is your home as much as it is hers, you have every legal access to that home. Guys everywhere. Divorce (as I have found out) is war, regardless of how you still…
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/23 01:02 PM
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If she askes you to leave, do not leave. The only movement that happens is through a separation agreement. She has no right to kick you out of your home, none. Same goes for you. In some states (southern) there is what's called a Divorce From Bed and Board (DBB) where in a grievance by one party is brought before the court and the court can force the separation. Usually this is done in light of infidelity, or as in my case, rampant substance abuse. The main point: Do not leave the marital home w…
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 06:50 PM
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Currently Separated: I filed, court ordered her to move out. I'll say it. I am doing both, I am aggressively pursuing new/multiple sources of income in order to hedge against the virgining financial hit and to pursue things I have always wanted to. I am back in the gym, eating healthy, and in weekly counseling to process/heal from all the hell. I am also doing this to aggressively pursue casual female friends who aren't looking for something serious, we can be placeholders for each other. I'm la…
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 05:38 PM
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Same here, she threw away everything for alcohol, everything.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/23 03:56 PM
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Trying to find middle ground and treat her as a honorable party. This is war, you make peace after war, not during.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/23 03:34 PM
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I'm in NC also and just got off the phone with a PI, his retainer is $2,000. He said they try and get as much done with that budget as possible, and before more is billed it must be agreed upon by me.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/23 12:38 PM
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It sounds like her parents hold a lot of weight in her life. Almost as if you married into an honor and shame culture. She probably does love you, however she is bound by honor to her family and the subsequent shame if she goes against them.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/23 02:29 PM
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ask a lawyer before you move out, moving out without separation agreement (in some U.S. states) can constitute abandonment.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/23 12:24 PM
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what all is involved in discovery, like what can they find?
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/23 10:22 PM
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I don't need to understand or comprehend why my lawyers is asking me to do something, or telling me what I need to do next; do everything she/he says to a T. I thought something was scorched earth, and cruel so I sat on it for too long, now the outcome sucks and I am to blame because deep down, some fucked up part of me cares for her (wife)..or I'm just co-dependent.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/23 04:28 PM
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These assumptions, snap conclusions, and moralizing what we are doing and who we are is exactly why we are divorcing. When was his lat post on fb? Mine only shows I have x amount of kids, but I have more. Mine still says married, I have not posted anything on fb in two years. Also, if his fb is public for any willy nilly to look him up and he was going on dates with you, more than likely he simply hasn't been on fb in a while and the information he gave you about him is up to date information ab…
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/23 02:30 PM
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Divorce is warfare, no matter how amicable, especially if lawyers are involved. So unless you two can hire a single lawyer to mediate between the two of you how separation and CS is going to work; treat this as a war. If you can afford it, you need to pay for a consult with most of the lawyers in the county you reside. Especially the big name law firms that deal almost exclusively in family law. If you get a consult with them, she can't hire them because it will be a conflict of interest. I went…
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/23 02:35 PM
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She cannot legally force you out of the marital home, that required a court order. If you leave without a separation agreement that is singed, noterized, and in some states filed with the county clerk, her lawyer will come after you for "abandonment" Get a lawyer yesterday and follow everything they say, to a T. some of the things your lawer will tell you to do will feel like scortched earth type stuff and you will hesitate. DON'T EFFING HESITATE. Divorce, no matter how amlucable, is warfare. Th…
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/23 01:03 PM
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Jusges have a habbit of railroading your carfully laid out plans...I'm living it now. Gathered evidence of her drinking and neglect for two years, absuive texts, more than 15 beratement sessions wher she is swearing at me...etc. things aren't done yet, my complaint against her and the request for a separation was granted, but all that evidence didn't mean a lick in court, at least not yet. She is being treated as someone who hasn't caused a grievenc, and I'm in an at fault state, so I'm a little…
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/23 01:26 AM
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File a damn Domestic Volance Restraining Order (DVRO) EFFING YESTERDAY. that shit will and has scared your kids, bro, if it was a dude hitting you in front of your kids, cussing and screaming, you would defend and remove them from that situation so fast. Protect you kids my guy, that is your legacy with them.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 04:10 AM
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"Do not under estimate the whole your absence would leave in the lives of those who love you." Dr. Jordan Peterson
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/22 04:59 AM
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I am right there with you on the BPD, it is uncanny how things are so damn similar for thousands across the globe who contribute to that sub.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/22 06:44 PM
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Well put. It is the current division he is noticing. I'm sure he senses what is impending.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/22 01:33 PM
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I have called the cops on her three times for driving while drunk, usually it is to go and get a new bottle, but nothing has ever come of it. I even told them the vehicle description, route, and destination, but again nothing.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/22 06:02 PM
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From what I understand, I can file for custody once we are legally separated.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/22 03:58 PM
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