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It's definitely petty. Those with critical reading skills should see that it was meant to bolster Mr_Privacy's point about amused mastery.
/r/TheRedPill25/05/16 01:01 AM
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Today, I just used amused mastery on a man. This man and I were walking into a store with him ahead of me. You have to go through 2 doors to get inside. There are products on display between the two doors. By his body language, for a second, I thought he was going to hold the first door open for me, but instead he lets himself in first and puts just a tiny bit of effort into keeping it open for me. From first door to second door, I look at some of the products on display and in my peripheral vis…
/r/TheRedPill24/05/16 05:12 AM
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No contradiction in this situation. In which situations below would you write this 22 year old HB7 off as not LTR material? all 15 guys (including you) didn't have to wait all 14 guys didn't have to wait except you all 15 guys (including you) had to wait all 14 guys had to wait except you Though 3 and 4 are preferable to 1 and 2, with this girl being 22, she's not pursuing long-term strategy at 14+ partners (I added the + because knowing what I know now, if I were the OP, I'd just assume this is…
/r/TheRedPill10/03/16 01:28 AM
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"My thinking of you wouldn't change. I already think you're a dirty little slut." wink wink.
/r/askTRP09/03/16 06:32 AM
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In the future: I'm the most important person here. I'm so important that my time, money, and energy can't be wasted. In the future: "She isn't interested in serious relationships" and "She isn't looking for a boyfriend" Cool. She's not interested in Me. I respect that. I appreciate her letting Me know now instead of wasting My time. I don't care that she told Me indirectly. Now that I know how to read her indirect communication, I can, more efficiently, spend My time, money, energy elsewhere. In…
/r/MGTOW07/02/16 05:55 AM
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There's a lot more than listed above. He talks about the dangers of: as many males get older, they tend to think they know it all like some great philosopher, but in the end, they don't know shit, turned themselves into grumpy old men, and have pushed everyone way so they end up alone. deeply religious women, who use religion in a manipulative way, stunting any healthy relationship the hippie/vegan women, who use their beliefs/ideology in a manipulative way, stunting any healthy relationship wom…
/r/TheRedPill01/02/16 08:46 AM
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throwing around words...without really defining what the hell it means. I think that pretty much describes most of the book. Only useful thing I got out of it was the concept of dominant/submissive, aggressive/passive, ergo masculine/feminine. For without it, there is no sexual tension.
/r/askTRP22/01/16 07:53 AM
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That example is actually very good. When you make them think, they find it interesting. When they know exactly what you mean, then you're boring, not challenging. Everyone can disagree with this or down vote me, but it doesn't matter to me because in my own life experience I've found that when a woman says, "I don't know if that's a compliment" or "I don't know how to take what you just said," they always find that more interesting. Of course I don't mean you talk like this every time because th…
/r/TheRedPill20/12/15 11:48 PM
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I used to take words literally so when women talked, I thought some of what they were saying was completely stupid or nonsense. Once I figured out there was a double meaning to those words, it was like I was now privy to a whole new rich and secret language. And when women know you know how to speak it, they have more respect for you and let their guard down because they don't feel you're a threat anymore.
/r/TheRedPill20/12/15 11:38 PM
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You played the long game and are going to come out a winner. You did what any real person would do in this situation, eat the plate of food they made for themselves. Playing the long game means you know she's going to get pissy but it's only temporary. Most beta men are afraid of her ending up pissy and thus cave in. Thus they end up having to fight off more shit-tests/arguments. If you were really intent on eating the entire amount you fixed for yourself, then not sharing was the correct move. …
/r/askTRP08/12/15 08:10 AM
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"I haven't even got a chance to know you and you're already thinking of sleeping with me?"
/r/askTRP08/12/15 07:36 AM
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I'm happy to pass on what I had to learn the hard way.
/r/askTRP05/12/15 07:31 AM
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I upvoted you and agree with what you're saying but, if you're the boyfriend who ignored all the red flags up to this point, you must get into these discussions to see all the glaring red flags that pop up, and there were so many in that conversation.
/r/TheRedPill03/12/15 05:30 PM
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There was one with 900+ upvotes saying to look at it from her point of view. the tl;dr of it was she fantasized about her fairy tale wedding her whole life so it should be understandable that she was disappointed. The thing of it is that fairy tales are for kids. This guy needs to find an adult.
/r/TheRedPill03/12/15 04:49 PM
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"we can finish this convo later". You: "Scratch that, can't make it. But good luck to you." Your valuable time expended? 10 seconds.
/r/askTRP02/12/15 11:23 PM
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Not disagreeing with anything you're saying, but for me, I prefer the term complex because it helps me look for other avenues to try. If the avenue is complex, I should try it and see how she responds. Plausible deniability is just one avenue of complexity. Tricking her in some teasing way is another avenue of complexity. If she asks a yes-no question, it's more complex to say anything other than yes or no. If I thought in terms of mysterious, I think I'd end up limiting myself to the twilight v…
/r/TheRedPill02/12/15 04:57 PM
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For women, I look for some way to pick on them. The rule of thumb I follow is, don't pick on anything that makes her feel good or bad about herself. If at the airport, I 'm walking next to an attractive woman and she trips a little but she makes a nice recovery. If we make eye contact, I'd say with a smirk, "Nice triple somersault back flip. If I was an Olympic judge, I'd give that a 4.6." She laughs, rapport built, start small talk. If I know she was a very clumsy person and she was conscientio…
/r/TheRedPill02/12/15 04:49 PM
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For point number 3, "air of plausible deniability", when I was beta and got "philosophical" about direct communication, a woman told me that, "I don't like direct. I don't know, it just doesn't seem real." Me: "What do you mean not real?" Her: "Well if it's not complex then there's something wrong there, something fishy. I don't know how to explain it." The way I view it, women like that "complexity". Not only is this the way women communicate with each other, but it's challenging, adventurous, …
/r/TheRedPill02/12/15 04:12 PM
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I tried calming her down Always a complete waste of time. Just let her emotions flow but listen. saying she doesn't see it from my position and that she doesn't trust me You tried to use logic and as we can see it got you nowhere. later just apologized You gave a fake apology. She knows you didn't mean it. She knows you're just trying to placate her. Why would you apologize for doing nothing wrong? She said she wouldn't forget it, Chances are, this is a bluff. If you had handled this correctly, …
/r/askTRP28/11/15 10:24 AM
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Yeah, OP. It's not your job to figure out if you're attractive enough for her. That's her job! Let her figure that out for herself. You on the other hand go as far as you can go while enjoying the entire journey/adventure.
/r/askTRP28/11/15 09:44 AM
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treat her like a queen treat her like gold if it's out to dinner, let her choose where she wants to go if you want her to like you, be her friend
/r/askTRP28/11/15 09:24 AM
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What would a real person do in this situation, a person who felt disrespected by the other person? A real person would get mad and call her out on it, right?! In hind-sight, you could have not let her see how emotional you got. But, being real is always the correct move with women. Being real encompasses holding frame. How much respect for you do you think she has for you if her apology was disingenuous? Now you want to apologize to her? Why would any real person apologize for doing nothing wron…
/r/askTRP28/11/15 09:13 AM
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she text me last night said how bad she feels and she want to come over and work thing out Translation: "I'm the bad guy here. Women are supposed to be the caring, loving, tender, empathetic, nurturing, gender. They're not supposed to be the bad guy. Can I come over so I have a chance to work things out so I can come away from this as not being the bad guy?" Or, "Things didn't turn out so well with the other guy, so I want you back."
/r/askTRP26/11/15 10:47 PM
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Conversations should be fun! Flirting, teasing, generally being playful is fun. A serious conversation is fun too. Even arguments are fun in an adventurous sort of way. Being a dick can be fun. The most important thing about a conversation being fun is: it being fun for you! Secondary to that is being fun for her. "...keep up the same exciting frame...." I noticed you described this as exciting. Exciting fun right? "...realized that i really didn't need to maintain that frame." You make it sound…
/r/askTRP26/11/15 10:37 PM
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A middle ground to treating her like she's a real person? Never! Couple has an argument. The man is clearly in the right. The guy who does whatever it takes to keep her says sorry. It's a fake sorry. He's not truly sorry because he did nothing wrong. He's just saying it to keep her. He's fake. He believes if he doesn't say sorry, she'll leave. If she leaves, he's not getting any pussy. Now she's no longer a person, she's just a pussy. The other guy, who doesn't care whether or not she leaves, kn…
/r/askTRP25/11/15 04:38 AM
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If you were a woman, which of these two men would treat you like you were a real person? the guy who doesn't care weather or not you leave him, or the guy who does whatever it takes to keep you?
/r/askTRP24/11/15 11:50 PM
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I don't give a shit about giving them tingles. What I do give a shit about is having fun. And it's a lot of fun...for me...to flirt and tease them. Bear in mind that it's mutually fun, because if I'm having fun and she's miserable, chances are I'm just being a socially-clueless asshole. Just the other day a receptionist said ouch after sneezing. I could have said, "Oh come on! If that sneeze really hurt, I'd have expected to see you spray your computer screen with spit and snot or something." I'…
/r/askTRP04/11/15 05:46 AM
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keeps telling me she has no idea how to handle the situation Your response: "Yeah, that really does suck." with no given advice or offers of help. Empathy but no advice or help. It doesn't cost you much to show empathy--no touchy feely crap, just sincerity. Keep in mind, for you as a man to truly empathize, you have an almost unbearable need to want to help or give advice. This is what you do with male friends. But because you can't with women, because they will be dissatisfied if you do, you ca…
/r/askTRP03/11/15 08:48 AM
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This is where we agree to disagree. I disagree that Christianity is founded on the idea of objective truth and good. What exactly is objective truth and good? Are you saying the only objective truth and good is the Christian standard? Does this mean that all other world views on the subject are irrelevant unlesss it complies with the Christian standard? Jesus was all about looking into the deeper meaning. Religious leaders tried to corner Jesus for objectively working on the Sabath by healing so…
/r/askTRP09/10/15 03:15 AM
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If you're in an LTR and you get dumped, never try to figure out why she dumped you. Don't determine what you did wrong. Don't look for ways you could have done it better. Don't try to convince her you will change. This is all you need to know. "I make up a different viable and personalized excuse for each guy which is custom-tailored to preserve his ego and dignity and emotions to the maximum extent possible. I’ve come up with all kinds of crazy things. But the one reason I will never tell them …
/r/TheRedPill08/10/15 01:50 AM
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No offense but you missed my point entirely. My point, to use an example is, if you say hello to me and in my language, that word hello is highly offensive, then you're not being nice to me no matter what you think. If you say to me "piss off" and in my language that's a very respectable greeting, then I believe you're being nice to me even though your intent is to be really mean. It's the same with treating women. You think you're being nice to them but in reality, you're not from their point o…
/r/askTRP08/10/15 01:12 AM
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"do to others what you would have them do to you" I would have them be nice to me, so I must be nice to them, right? But what if they don't want you to be nice to them? I certainly don't want people to treat me in a way I don't want to be treated. So if they don't want me to be nice to them, then I'm doing the right thing by not being nice. That's how I reconcile TRP. For those who I believe want to be treated nice, I do. And those who don't, I don't--women especially. No matter what, I treat al…
/r/askTRP07/10/15 05:54 AM
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When you give a fuck, you worry about how she (being any woman you're attracted too) will respond to your actions. When you NGAF, you could accidentally fart in front of her and not care. It's not that you would do something like this but, if it happened, you don't care what she does. You don't care if she rejects you and walks away. When you realize that you finally have a NGAF attitude, you discover...you have a lot of freedom that you didn't have before--that your own mind was keeping you a p…
/r/askTRP06/10/15 01:46 AM
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...she finally showed up and went to bed and didnt say anything. She just left to work just now." Women never want to be the bad guy. If she says anything, she knows the conversation will devolve into her being the bad guy. So she avoids conflict however she can--not say anything; hoping it all just magically goes away.
/r/TheRedPill28/09/15 01:08 AM
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I thought this thread was about something else--where game is when a woman (or man) manipulates you. With that in mind, how do I destroy the game? One method I use is: to win the game, sometimes you have to give up the trophy. Because the trophy is the key to their manipulation. If you don't want to play by a woman's rules, then you neuter her.... When she manipulates you with that trophy, as long as you desire that trophy, the longer you play by her rules.
/r/TheRedPill20/09/15 03:49 AM
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I'll sometimes wait for women to hold the door open for me. One time, just as I was approaching a glass door, a woman on the other side was reaching the handle to open the door too. But seeing me, she stopped, waiting for me to open it. I just looked at her, until she opened the door. The look on my face said, "What in the hell is wrong with you? You reached for the handle and then stop to wait for me to do it?"
/r/TheRedPill03/09/15 04:35 AM
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it's taking the frame she is trying to push on you, and exaggerating it to the point of showing how ridicules it is, but in a fun/teasing way. Or you pretend to support/agree with the frame she's pushing but incongruently. Her: blah blah blah...because I'm such a nice person. Me: Uh...yeah...sure. Her: Oh, come on, I'm a nice person! Me: I totally agree [as I put my hands up for protection and flinching like I expect to get hit at any moment...followed by a smirk].
/r/askTRP23/08/15 07:53 AM
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It's like growing up and having to hear how important it is to have good role-models. I could never understand this. I never had one nor felt the need for one. I probably could have benefited from an adult male/father taking me under his wing and guiding me through life growing up. But I didn't need it from some media entity!
/r/MGTOW20/08/15 01:53 AM
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What mindset? Be a real person. This means you basically handled this correctly. "I go where the fun is." What real person wouldn't? A man being fake would do: if I want to keep her, I better do what she wants. "...made plans, ...not back out..." Any reasonable real person would do the same thing. Notice how she's the one that calls back or how both of you make up after the "back out" statement? It's the success from you being real. Probably the only thing I'd critique is: "...not the time to jo…
/r/askTRP13/08/15 08:33 AM
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I used to argue until 2 am in my LTRs. I know what you mean when you say that it's not worth it. I also know that keeping the bitch happy is the wrong way to go. It just leads to more arguments that last until 2 am. I've learned that 90% of what she says in an argument is bullshit. If you address each of her points one by one, you'll be up until 2 am! I repeat, if you ever find yourself addressing each of her points one by one, you doing it wrong! Instead, I try to find the 10% that is not bulls…
/r/TheRedPill08/08/15 07:25 AM
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Interested to hear more. Been reading up on HIIT and wondering how to incorporate it into calisthenics.
/r/TheRedPill08/08/15 06:37 AM
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HITT, can you explain more?
/r/TheRedPill07/08/15 01:40 AM
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Men are guilty. And if I were a woman who wanted to experience the best in men but find I'm only experiencing the worst, then I'd join a sub called women going their own way. If I were to meet a woman who joined such a group, I'd tell her, "Yeah a lot of men are like that." This as opposed to only hearing, "Not all women are like that, stop generalizing." Their implication being joining MGTOW is of no benefit.
/r/MGTOW02/08/15 09:56 PM
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2 methods I found effective: try a few times to keep conversation on track, when she keeps derailing it, say, "This conversation is getting stupid, I'm done." If it truly is stupid, she will be thinking, as a real person you had every right to walk away from a stupid conversation, what real person wouldn't? listen to her side track threads but don't defend against them, don't comment about them, don't deal with them in anyway, don't say anything about it. Just listen, as soon as she's done talki…
/r/askTRP31/07/15 05:18 AM
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"you're a dweeb" won't get me far. Correct. Because you're being two things: directly...insulting. I prefer to pick on them or tease them in some way which is: mocking them...indirectly. I'll say something nice or neutral but there's an undertone of associating her with something she finds unappealing. Without saying it directly, I insinuate something mocking. Her mind should be thinking, "He didn't insult me or anything but I get the feeling he's making fun of me...in a fun way." My experiences…
/r/askTRP26/07/15 09:55 PM
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The book How to Succeed with Women had one word that helped me and then I sort of just took it from there. That word: misinterpretation. Take your reality and then misinterpret it. Other things I learned that branched from this concept: twist reality, twist logic, pretend. That word pretend; you used to do it all the time as a kid. When that girl convinced you to play house with her? That was both of you pretending. An alternate word: role-play. All of these concepts help you to become...not so …
/r/askTRP23/07/15 06:41 AM
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"Women never want to be the bad guy". Great tool for navigating female communication and understanding of their actions.
/r/askTRP22/07/15 02:45 AM
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What would you say? You're going to let her know, without any ambiguity, that you are going to sleep on the side that you want to sleep on. And if any elaboration is necessary, the only thing that needs to be said is because you want to. This lets her know you're being real. Now...because you see potential problems with you sleeping closer to the TV, you may decide that you now rather sleep on the side furthest. Just make sure when you choose the furthest, it's clear to her it's because you want…
/r/askTRP21/07/15 01:36 AM
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The number of shit test are infinite. Instead of antiicpating what shit test I will encounter and how to handle them, I follow this rule of thumb: What would a real person do? What would another person, who is not me, do in this situation if he (AND she) were genuine? For example: Would he (and she) ignore their unreasonable demands? Yes? Then that is what I'm going to do. Would a reasonable person not comply with their demands? Yes? That's what I'm going to do even if it means they will be piss…
/r/askTRP14/07/15 05:12 AM
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This is pretty good: "it'd look cuter in your mouth and might even shut you up." "maybe you'd like to try it on" Hell yeah I'd like to try it on.....[insert hot celebrity]. "Why do you expect me to swallow if you don't want to taste it" Your expected to do whatever pleases me.
/r/askTRP12/07/15 05:46 AM
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more like as I approach and they see me, I'll look them in the eyes with a slight smile and say excuse me as I keep moving--not like I'm barreling through but more of a making my way through.
/r/TheRedPill09/07/15 01:08 AM
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make way since you don't seem like you're going to stop. That's probably why. Though I will look them in the eyes and say excuse me with a slight smile. But if this is the case, I'd rather do this than walk up to them say excuse me, wait for them to respond, get through, and have one of them call me a loser. What I do seems less time consuming than the OP's described scenario.
/r/TheRedPill08/07/15 04:38 AM
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Has never happened to me. And I suspect it never will because women are social conformist. In otherwords they don't want to look like the bad guy...especially socially. They would rather not cause a seen. So if there was a group of women crowding the entrance to the bathroom, the first woman I approach is going to move out of the way because to not do so will make her look like a bitch (remember, my actions are respectful). And the rest follow. I do the same with men, but maybe I have to more of…
/r/TheRedPill08/07/15 04:29 AM
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Just want to add something about body language. When I move through a crowd, I move like "one way or another, I'm getting through. I'm not going to be disrespectful but I'm getting through like it's a forgone conclusion." I just walk like I have every right to walk through this space. If the woman doesn't see me, I lightly place my hand on her shoulder and say excuse me as if I'm trying to squeeze by and had no choice but to touch her. But note when my hand touches her shoulder, my body is still…
/r/TheRedPill07/07/15 02:16 AM
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Be selfish. (using common sense, of course you help out those who help you). Girl attempting to leave work asks if anyone (read male) willing to change her flat tire. Don't volunteer because...you have better things to do.
/r/askTRP22/06/15 09:15 AM
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The closest we can come to a universal standard is: "Would you fuck her?" Chances are, if he would, I probably would too. Too be more explicit, the chances are greater that we would both agree she's fuckable compared to his HB8 equaling my HB8.
/r/TheRedPill15/06/15 03:59 AM
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When you truly internalize not caring what a woman thinks about you, especially one you are attracted to, you have this "knowing" that you can truly be yourself. Image that you are in the presences of a woman you are very attracted to. Then you accidentally farted. When you care, you feel totally devastated. When you don't, it's just a minor awkwardness, that only detracts little from your game if you were trying to game her, nothing that a little finesse can't fix. And if it did detract to much…
/r/askTRP13/06/15 04:04 AM
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In the context of a serious conversation, she'll hear me holding frame. See my comment to Vulturo.
/r/askTRP02/06/15 06:45 AM
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Agreed. Though this is logic, that's not what I'm doing here. My intention is not to explain to her logically. I'm merely saying this is what any real person would do. My life experience is this is the most effective way to talk to a woman. They may not listen to logic but they will listen to and understand what any real person would do. It's holding frame. My frame is to have fun. I didn't waver from that. My frame is to see if I should choose her--not figure out if she should choose me. If a w…
/r/askTRP02/06/15 06:40 AM
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I don't have the expertise or knowledge. The abortion thing is what I heard mention a few times from people far older than me. The orphanage thing I read from a book of true crime stories (don't remember the title) but it describes orphanages role in society in the 19th century. All around the world society had a "don't ask, don't tell" arrangement with orphanages. Parents didn't want know know what happens to the kids they bring there. Parents had no options because they had to think about the …
/r/askTRP31/05/15 08:39 PM
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humans aren't meant to be monogamous people who say that are ignorant of the times when there was no convenient birth control, latex condoms, getting snipped, legal abortion, and birth control pill. Times when women died from illegal abortions or families had to send kids to orphanages because otherwise the whole family starved (they can barely make with 8 kids but they all starve from the 9th). They forget about the times when a woman with kids and no husband meant they very well could all star…
/r/askTRP31/05/15 08:09 PM
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I'm stuck asking the same generic questions That's boring. It's like you're conducting an interview--not fun. Try being the one that shit test them. During conversation, if they reveal something about themselves, ask a question (or make a statement) that's barbed--one the one-hand your question can be taken literally but on the other, it insinuates something else. But be fun, light-hearted about it.
/r/askTRP31/05/15 09:10 AM
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Yes, your listed combination sounds like me. I'd like to know what you did.
/r/TheRedPill25/05/15 04:41 PM
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You still want to know why she did what she did. I'll tell you why. No woman wants to be the bad guy! All of her behavior points to this. Accept their nature.
/r/askTRP22/05/15 06:10 AM
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For starters, fully absorb the below: You are your first priority. Be more selfish. Apply this to everything in your life. I'm not talking narcissistic here--use common sense. No woman should be a higher priority than you. Example: you ask a girl out, you ask her where she wants to go. She's now a higher priority than you. If you take her where you want to go, you are a higher priority than her. Being more selfish is paramount in short-term relationships. In long-term relationships, your selfish…
/r/TheRedPill18/05/15 04:46 AM
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If you refuse because of the reasons you stated, that is you being real/authentic/genuine. This is always the best strategy with women. What are your alternatives? Never refuse sex? Isn't that the same as losing frame/being disingenuous or inauthentic? You are now functioning at her whim, not yours. If she self-destructs, let her know the real reason. Make it the "end of story" meaning don't argue about it--the real reason is final. Refusing sex just because you can, can be a powerful tease to m…
/r/askTRP13/05/15 05:43 AM
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this relationship isn't going to work out but I've just invested a lot emotionally into this 20 years into your future, you'll look back at this statement and say 6 months ain't shit.
/r/askTRP12/05/15 05:04 AM
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In hind-sight, I don't think it was a matter of what you said was too deep but rather just insulting. You reduced her to a vagina, you reduced the other women to just numbers and basically said you like the other flavors better than hers. That's why she said you were cold. You could, in hind-sight, said the same thing without the insults: "The sex was a lot of fun, but not worth deny myself the fun I have with others. I like chocolate, but I still like vanilla and strawberry." Here she'll focus …
/r/TheRedPill12/05/15 04:48 AM
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What's even worse than that is the harm that can come to her friends and relatives because she continued a relationship with guys like this knowing she should have ditched the relationship when she saw the red flags. For example the lady who finally ended her relationship with her abusive boyfriend. He ambushed her when she came home one night. Only he ended up not killing her but her sister by mistaken identity.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/15 05:09 PM
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For the ones that want elaborate, it's all about displaying their social status.
/r/askTRP09/05/15 03:42 AM
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Somehow you've taken the action of initiating conversation with women and taken it to mean caring and seducing them when that is not true at all. I initiate conversation with women that I have absolutely no interest in. This includes flirting, banter, teasing, with women I would never have sex with. I do it because it is fun. And when it is obvious to others that her and I are having fun, it has advantages. Attractive women who would not give me even the time of day are now interested in getting…
/r/askTRP08/05/15 03:56 AM
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No. But this works: care about things you really do care about emote because you really do feel something; you smile because something makes you smile; you laugh because something really is funny socialize at work because it's fun, it's a nice break from work, it can help your career say what you want because...well you want to do what you want because...well you want to do something fun for you but enjoy it with a companion, so ask her out initiate conversations with women because through bante…
/r/askTRP07/05/15 04:02 AM
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Be real/authentic. You should always have time for that. There is no excuse. Example: attractive female classmate ask for tutoring help after classes. beta says yeah sure, despite not having much time for it but hopes this gives him a chance with her. Alpha says no, because he doesn't have time and let's be real, why should he? If alpha wants a chance with her, he asks her out. Beta gets used and subsequently disrespected. Alpha gets respect.
/r/askTRP05/05/15 02:05 AM
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she knew my reaction would be kicking her out of my life. Translation: I want you to come away from this not feeling so hurt. And most of all, I don't want to feel so bad for what I did. Because as a woman, I don't want to be the bad guy. I'm a member of the caring sex.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/15 04:23 PM
1

Was that a better way to do it than just to outright encourage her to come? Yes, and it worked. Though you framed it as such, if you only went running or lifting because you hoped she would tag along, then that's beta. If you were not talking to any woman, would you have still went running/lifting? If not then that's beta. You have to be really careful because women can tell if you're not being authentic.
/r/askTRP01/05/15 04:45 AM
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living the nice guy... When I did this, I was creepy. When I put myself first before any woman, I was respected.
/r/TheRedPill30/04/15 04:30 AM
1

Certainly, there are other men who walked the same path. I didn't come to TRP because they showed me a new way of looking at life/relationships (though I did learn some things). I came because I finally found a place I can relate to. People here are sharing experiences that match my own.
/r/TheRedPill29/04/15 04:29 AM
1

Sounds like you were more interested in being the group's comedian rather than just a normal person having fun. And if this is true, you oozed of someone who wants others to like him. You should be someone who's trying to figure out why you should be interested in someone else, not the other way around. Women don't like to be insulted directly, which means communicated directly/explicitly and it's directly about them. Example, "Hey that outfit you're wearing reminds me of a clown." When you insu…
/r/askTRP28/04/15 04:47 AM
1

Say playfully: "Uh, oh! That sounds like code for clingy?"
/r/askTRP28/04/15 04:29 AM
2

If what you're doing doesn't work, try something else. Want sex, get rejected. Try not wanting it--as a sort of dread game. When you initiate and she rejects you, say you don't want sex, you just wanted the intimacy. But you have to mean it. Sometimes intimacy should be all you want. Once in awhile, when you initiate and she does want it, say you seriously don't. It's hard core but the purpose is to put her in a state that she thinks she might not always get any from you. Right now she knows she…
/r/askTRP27/04/15 09:43 PM
1

Have a secret stash of toilet paper.
/r/askTRP27/04/15 09:32 PM
1

In the future such arguments should last at the most ten minutes. When you are in these situations, first ask yourself what any real person, whether male or female, would do in this situation. What would they do if it was a roommate instead of wife and kids. A real person would probably tell the roommate to shoove it and go to the house. That's pretty much your clue to how to properly respond to her. "you are my wife. I should be able to count on you." Then leave. While you are gone, she will re…
/r/TheRedPill27/04/15 05:51 PM
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A. Whoe! Careful, now. The last girl who gave me a low rating, ended up fucking me. B. Hmm, hmm, turn around, hmm, well come to think about it, and with the light the way it is...I'm not saying. C. depends on what XYZ is. When women pry, think of some funny lie, pretend it's true, and see how long you can bullshit her with it. Makes the whole interaction more interesting than telling her the reality. Edit: and when you bullshit her, the point isn't to convince her it's true. The point is to play…
/r/askTRP27/04/15 04:51 AM
1

Women never want to be the bad guy, so you'll never get an honest answer. If you manage to coerce an answer at all from her, it will be one where it's gentle on your feelings and doesn't make her come across as the bad person--in other words, it will be an answer that won't help you in any way.
/r/askTRP27/04/15 04:26 AM
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Just be selfish. Make yourself your top priority. There's need to disrespect people while still putting yourself first. I'm sure you will understand that I mean within reason.
/r/askTRP27/04/15 04:05 AM
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Grab her by the hair, look her in the eyes, and say, "bitch, the only thing I care about is how my dick feels!" Then fuck her how you want. She mind-fucked you to enhance the sex, she's looking for you to mind-fuck her back. That's why she asked if she did something wrong.
/r/askTRP26/04/15 09:17 PM
2

Beta answer: spout anything you think she wants to hear whether true or no. Alpha answer: say exactly what you truly think. In her mind, "he probably asked me out because he liked my ass. Well at least he's not bullshitting and not afraid to tell me like it is." You did good because you're being real. Also no one can give a truly deep answer after 2 dates. She knows this. That's another reason why she laughed aside from the two mentioned above. Edit: also you kind of teased her. It's almost like…
/r/askTRP26/04/15 08:33 PM
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As others have said: it doesn't go completely away and practice helps significantly. I'll just add you really have to internalize the belief that you don't give a damn what other people think. For example, 3 or 4 super pretty women as a group are walking in the opposite direction as me in this corridor I'm in. The old me: see them up ahead, get real nervous, start to shake and sweat, automatically seeing if there is a different route to take without looking like a dweeb. New me: will deliberatel…
/r/askTRP23/04/15 06:49 AM
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With women, the correct response is always the real response; doing what a real person would do. Any real person, whether man or woman, would not tolerate another being upset for a hypocritical reason. Being real is playing the long game. The only thing you did wrong is address her arguments point by point; you think you're winning each point but really they are just short-term wins. Addressing each argument results in exhaustion and accomplishes nothing. You may have won each point but in the e…
/r/askTRP23/04/15 06:34 AM
2

Every time I hear about women's intuition, her "intuition" always has to do with relationships. In a psychology course, I learned that men are tasked-oriented and women are relationship-oriented. So when there is a situation dealing with relationships, of course her intuition will be better than the average man because she's spent her whole life thinking about relationships. If you do anything with enough practice, you gain an intuition about that subject.
/r/TheRedPill21/04/15 05:22 AM
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And for a longest time the sole proof that it's culture not gender was in this person http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/David_Reimer until David came out and disproved it.
/r/TheRedPill21/04/15 05:08 AM
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You did everything right; you stayed real; don't waver from that--without sounding butt hurt, "Listen, this is real. You didn't confirm; I assumed this wasn't going to go through. I made other plans. We'll rain check." If she doesn't want to do that, wish her a nice life.
/r/askTRP21/04/15 04:42 AM
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You only mention 1 possible signal--possible because, as I said, you can never be sure. You need more signals to get a more accurate reading. I wouldn't pay attention unless I got at least 3. Chances are, you being flirty means she got a good reading on you, knew you were hitting on her, and is not interested.
/r/askTRP13/04/15 08:21 PM
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Signals are just a gauge to see how much she's possibly interested in you. I say possibly because there is no surefire way of knowing. All it does is give you a rough idea of your chances of success in getting a date. Rules of thumb that are helpful: If her behavior requires more energy than necessary but she expends that energy because of you in some way, it's a positive signal. For example, gazing after you; ironically acting cold to you but friendly to everyone else. To go along with the last…
/r/askTRP12/04/15 10:04 PM
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"I don't really like to talk just for the sake of talking. I don't like to speak without saying something meaningful." Small talk is a tool. You're alone on an elevator at work, someone you've seen around before gets on the elevator too. It's just you two. He looks you in the eyes and says, "You dress very well. Your attire must cost a lot of money. I'm interested to know what you do as a career?" This guy is speaking something meaningful right? But it's awkward as hell--creepy even. That's why …
/r/TheRedPill11/04/15 04:38 AM
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I don't think feminism did it all by itself. I think the birth control pill turned the balance of power in favor of women. When a birth control option as convenient as the pill comes out for men, you'll see the balance of power change in favor of men. Might take a few decades but it will change. "You want to have kids with me, prove you're worthy."
/r/TheRedPill11/04/15 04:25 AM
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Side message: "she's a sweet heart who laughs at everything I say." Remember this whenever you consider getting into an LTR with a woman you think is really cool. Remember this! She could be playing girl game on you.
/r/TheRedPill04/04/15 04:52 AM
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Respect. You can still respect someone while being an asshole. Woman asks you to go out of your way to do her a favor? You're refusal can be respectful even though it comes off as assholish.
/r/askTRP31/03/15 12:24 AM
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"But I do want things to get back to normal." Don't give a fuck! When I started having this attitude, women started respecting me and generally liked to be around me. It's before when I wanted them to like me that they were creeped out by me and didn't respect me.
/r/askTRP29/03/15 04:20 AM
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Remember fellas, women never want to be the bad guy! Admitting they friend-zone, makes them the bad guy.
/r/askTRP27/03/15 01:13 AM
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Do the opposite. Be respectful but don't want them to like you! You will be amazed at the results. This coming from my own experience.
/r/askTRP25/03/15 01:16 AM
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When I wanted men and women to like me, they treated me with no respect. When I cared more about me than I do them, they seemed to like me. So what am I going to do? Care about me more, as I should have been doing all along.
/r/askTRP25/03/15 01:11 AM
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It's justification. It's the same thing as when someone commits a crime and explains why it's not really a crime or the crime is actually good (or not as bad as it sounds), or the crime was plain and simply justified. For example, "Yeah, I stole from that business but it's really not that bad because their insurance is going to pay for it anyways." Or, "I had to steal so I could eat." Or, "I prostitute to put myself through college."
/r/askTRP24/03/15 04:59 AM
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When a woman says she loves you, she's only telling you how she feels right now. When a man says he loves you, he's either: lying because he has an ulterior motive saying it back so she doesn't have mental break down when he really means it, it's pledge, a vow! When a man says he loves you and means it, those words are more powerful than those words coming from any woman.
/r/TheRedPill23/03/15 01:25 AM
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Before I was old enough to join the military, I heard so many negative things, that if I ever joined the military, I'd never take a woman seriously enough for commitment.
/r/askTRP23/03/15 01:14 AM
3

"Why does this have to be a male-specific thing..." Because I'm a man. I'm only concerned with the male-side of things. If I were a woman, I would be concerned with the female-side of things.
/r/askTRP23/03/15 01:09 AM
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If your woman ever offers sex as an alternative to something that she should be doing, or offers sex to get you to do something, or to manipulate you, YOU HAVE TO TURN IT DOWN. Example: she says, "How about I just give you sex instead of buying you a present?" The correct answer is, "Fuck that, I want a present." If you ever get the, "If you do this, I'll have sex with you." You have to turn it down. Don't ever beg for sex. She should be begging you. Edit: you should do this from the very beginn…
/r/TheRedPill23/03/15 12:29 AM
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"ha, ha, ha, stop bullshitting me." then ignore her come backs until she stops the bullshit.
/r/askTRP23/03/15 12:19 AM
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"OP realises that her actions signal her unsuitability..." I don't think that is the only realization. The other is that on some level he realizes she's not the woman every guy wants but few can have but rather many had her and even passed her around. His perception of her is forever tarnished.
/r/TheRedPill22/03/15 01:44 AM
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This depends on age and the person. When a guy says he has had a few women but gives few details, then has sex with one girl and goes into many details including how it felt and what she was like and analyzing the hell out of whole interaction, you known it was his first time.
/r/TheRedPill21/03/15 02:26 AM
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She'll say this to the next, the one she left you for; the one she thinks is better than you; and she'll say it to the next one after that, and the next one after that, blah, blah, blah. It's her hamster spinning. Seeing the pattern gives you the realization that what she says is meaningless bullshit designed to satisfy her own ego. Anyone can be around someone long enough to point out their flaws. It's just meaningless drivel; not worth my time ruminating about. If she says you have a small dic…
/r/askTRP20/03/15 03:51 AM
1

When you're raised and taught by society to be beta, you're primary focus is to make her happy. You're so focused on this that you forget about you--what makes you happy?! That's why women like jerks, because these men are focused on making themselves happy--which means...he's being real; doing what a real person would do. (Thing is a jerk takes it to the opposite extreme of a beta.)
/r/askTRP20/03/15 03:42 AM
1

For me it's not "how do I spot a shit-test", but rather me constantly asking myself, how would a real person act in this situation? A real person who isn't influenced by anything outside but his own selfish reasons (within reason). For example, I as a real person, want to see my wife to wear something skimpy around the house. What would a real person do? Tell his wife to wear something skimpy around the house. Another example, I haven't hung out with my friends in awhile and we've made plans to …
/r/askTRP19/03/15 01:31 AM
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This has been my experience before I discovered TRP: when a woman says she loves you, it really means "Right now I feel like I love you". All those post from men who say, "how should I respond when she says she loves me?" Just remember, she's only telling you how she feels right now. Because two weeks from now, she could hate your guts, not remembering what she said two weeks prior.
/r/TheRedPill15/03/15 05:27 PM
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Your mindset is: girl here, I'm interested in her. (Interested as in getting to know more about her.) Your mindset should be: I'm so important, I don't have time for boring things unless it can convince me it is interesting. Now your actions and behaviors act accordingly.
/r/askTRP24/02/15 05:43 AM
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This ones easy, look her in the eyes, with a shit-eating grin, laughingly say, "Ha, ha, you mistook me for gentleman." You might add too, "I'm really more of a caveman."
/r/askTRP22/02/15 05:16 AM
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Be more selfish! Then you don't have to concern yourself with these questions. Hot chick calls you up and asks, "I'm going to the mall, you want to come?" First thing you should be thinking is, "Do I need anything at the mall?" If the answers is no, you tell her no. If the answer is yes, then go. You should be thinking in terms of what benefit to you is going to the mall, as if you were going alone.
/r/askTRP16/02/15 08:03 AM
1

"They don't need your approval". I wasn't looking for their's. The end.
/r/askTRP15/02/15 07:06 PM
1

"I've heard about you" With a cheezy grin, "So, you've been asking around about me?"
/r/askTRP15/02/15 06:56 PM
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Give a compliment that's not really a compliment: you walk into a room. You see her on the couch. You snuggle up to her to give her a hug and say "ahhh, my favorite girlfriend". She's thinking, "wait, I should be his only girlfriend". Your words should be confusing.
/r/TheRedPill05/02/15 02:10 PM
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It's like playing dominoes. You can lay down a bone and score points here and there while hoping the other players don't score. Or you can allow the other players to score off of you but pretty soon you lock the game up, everyone else has to dig in the bone pile, and you play the last bone, the only bone that can be played and win the game. See in your relationship, you playing for points, hoping to score by caving in and agreeing to not see your friends (basically putting her first in you decis…
/r/TheRedPill04/02/15 05:21 AM
1

Do the gym on your fast day. Being active really helps take your mind off the hunger. (I fast 3 times a week.)
/r/askTRP01/02/15 04:37 AM
1

You don't practice, so much as, you're force to live it. You ask someone, say a girlfriend, about what happened, expecting a reasonable explanation, but instead you get a story that doesn't make sense. Alarm bells, pay real attention! You ask her to explain the parts that don't make sense thinking she'll clear it up but instead, you end up being further confused. More alarm bells! In your wisdom from experiencing these situations many times before, you now realize...she's leaving out crucial inf…
/r/askTRP30/01/15 07:35 AM
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Women never want to be the bad guy. But she obviously is when you pointed out that she wasn't the one. Only thing she's missing now is...why is she not the one? Why is she the bad guy? Thing is...if I were in your shoes, my time would be too valuable to divulge that information.
/r/askTRP28/01/15 06:22 AM
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"No offense, but I don't want to be friends." I think the above line was perfect. You know why you failed the first time? It's because you were not real. She knows you don't give a damn about what kind of dog she has. She knows the real reason you asked is because you were attracted to her. That's why she was apprehensive--you're being fake by pretending to be interested in her dog. She knows you're another umpteenth guy trying to open her up. On the second approach, the light banter (the neg ra…
/r/TheRedPill27/01/15 07:21 AM
2

With women, there's a window of opportunity. Once it's shut, forget it. It's lost forever--nothing you can do about. Now you can never be completely sure when it's open either, but when you think it is, you better take your shot before it closes. Also, the circumstance could be such, that you don't have time to determine if the window of opportunity might be open, so you better just take your shot anyways.
/r/askTRP26/01/15 08:00 AM
1

"There have been studies about happiness that have found that people get happy by giving to others." which implies, what you give, will make the other happy. If you do something to a woman that makes her more attracted to you, wouldn't you say that, what you did, is really, what makes her happy? If you do something to a woman that causes her to lose respect for you, wouldn't you say that, what you did, is really, what makes her unhappy or apathetic? Your problem is, you believe what would makes …
/r/askTRP26/01/15 07:39 AM
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For me, the phrase "maintaining frame" isn't adequate. What works for me is, "be real". What does that mean? It means, what would a real person do (or say, believe, think, etc.) if he was not influenced by pussy, social pressure, peer pressure, his significant other, friends, family, strangers, etc. What would he do for himself, within reason. What would he do selfishly but not so selfishly that any human being would rightfully and reasonably object. For example, there was a post by a man who's …
/r/askTRP20/01/15 07:44 AM
1

Can't a marriage be annulled after 1 year? If so, he should have done it. She deleted his life's work because he failed her shit test about never crying. What he should have told her was, "Woman! I'm a unique individual human being! I handle my emotions my way just like you handle your emotions your way! I'm not going to start crying just so you can see me handle my emotions your way!" Then he should have walked out. The worst thing he said is, "Crying doesn't solve anything." In woman-speak, he…
/r/TheRedPill13/01/15 02:02 AM
2

What changed? More practical birth-control (the pill and latex condoms).
/r/askTRP07/01/15 05:08 AM
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LTR needs balance: what you want/need as an individual and what she needs/wants. It's beta when you only consider her wants/needs at the expense or negligence of your own. What do you want/need? You want/need to not text her all damn day, especially at work/class. Time with her should be mostly face-to-face anyways. Lay down some boundaries that work for you. What does she want/need? Well when you're in the middle of a text conversation, respect her time too. Tell her, you have to go and will te…
/r/askTRP05/01/15 06:27 PM
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I guess I'd have to be there. But it could have went like this... "Oh, you're going to make fun of my lisp? Well I'll just start talkfling dy disfl." Talk like a retard while you're chasing her, tickling her, wrestling her but acting like you're retarded and handling her ineptly. As you're wrestling her, pretend when you talk you're about to slobber too (but don't actually slobber on her). Gross her out without really being gross. Then when the playfulness is over, make her feel bad. If she does…
/r/TheRedPill05/01/15 08:10 AM
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Gaslighting? Yes, especially since she tried every tactic to duck the question, and since that didn't work, attempt to convince you it didn't happen at all or not in the way you remembered it. Many ways you could have handled it but one I'd like to address is: "you aren't still mad at me are you?" You should have told her the truth, yes you are still mad! And here's blue pill talking yourself out of what you truly feel: "It was just a fucking plant, after all. I'll just buy my tomatoes from the …
/r/TheRedPill04/01/15 10:19 AM
1

I think you're way off base! You're thinking is, "I need to learn more techniques to handle shit-test." This is what you should really be thinking, "What the fuck do I want to do if I'm only concerned about myself?!" Of course being married, you have to balance your concern for yourself and your concern for your family members. The point is, being raised by society to have a beta mindset, you think you're suppose to be more concerned about your family members more than yourself, but this is an i…
/r/askTRP02/01/15 05:37 AM
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For LTR, be real. Be a real person. (There's a whole book about what that means called No More Mr. Nice Guy.) In an LTR, you tend to forget who you really are because you are so focused on maintaining the LTR. Say on a particular night, your friends plan to hang out and invite you. You haven't hanged out with them in a while. You tell your girlfriend you're going to hang out with them on that night. In the coming days, your girlfriend gets upset about you hanging out with them and really just wa…
/r/askTRP22/12/14 07:01 AM
1

Only say (or don't say anything) what you really, truly think/feel when appropriate or deserved. Be real. It's the same with compliments. I rarely give them. But when I do, it's because I am so genuinely impressed that I feel the other person deserves to hear it. Don't say what you think she wants to hear and/or what you think she needs to hear. It's fake. And she will pick up on it and become insecure about the relationship. And because of that insecurity, she will provoke more arguments. If I …
/r/askTRP22/12/14 06:37 AM
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She sees where I'm coming from and the second I come up to her she says in a gleeful tone "They chose me didn't they!". Pre-RP, I wouldn't have paid much attention to this part. But now...I notice...she knew the score as soon as OP came up to her. How long did she have her antennae for just this situation? All night? Many clubs before?
/r/TheRedPill01/12/14 02:58 AM
1

I find it useful for long-term relationships. Not good for short-term relationships unless you enjoy being friend-zoned. Both of these two previous sentences I say having learned from my own life experiences. What is useful about this book? Don't ever try to fix her problems just listen! I could have avoided a thousand arguments if I'd known this one. And every time I could not figure out why she was upset when I was only trying to help. Also I learned, her emotions are natural and need to run t…
/r/TheRedPill24/11/14 02:55 AM
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Another one I hear is when the guy spent hours trying to diffuse his upset wife/girlfriend because she had a dream of him cheating on her--hours! Every time I was in this situation, I saw it as an opportunity to have fun teasing her. And it lasted as long as the teasing--five minutes.
/r/TheRedPill14/11/14 03:20 AM
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"Then she brings up her boyfriend." A real person (whether man or woman) does what a real person would. Does a real man find talking about a person's relationship problems fun--a person he use to have a crush on?! Hell no! A real woman might. But not a real man. So you should do what a real man would do: "I don't want to talk about that stuff." It sounds so easy that it's got to be a socially unacceptable solution, but trust me, it's very effective and definitely socially acceptable. I say this …
/r/TheRedPill05/11/14 07:39 AM
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Respond: "it's complicated...still trying to figure it out." The thing is, when a woman says that, she's only telling you how she feels at the moment. If you said it and meant it, I'm sure you'll agree, that it's more than just a feeling you're feeling right now. If you genuinely said it, it's like a pledge, a vow. But when she says it, it's just a feeling. Watch, two weeks from now, she'll feel like she hates your fucking guts. She's also not just asking for information (yes/no), she wants to s…
/r/askTRP25/10/14 06:16 AM
1

You're asking all the wrong questions. The questions you should be asking are: barring any outside (especially her) influence have I been acting/behaving the way I wanted to earlier? barring any outside (especially her) influence, how am I going to respond?
/r/askTRP25/10/14 06:00 AM
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I abhor hypocrisy. Long before TRP, when I discovered evolutionary biology, I learned women were just following the best strategy for their biology. I realized that it was hypocritical of me to hate them for merely following their best strategy, for if I was to turn into an anatomically correct female right now, it wouldn't be long before I'd be doing the same damn things women do. The good thing is that this realization also helped me to embrace my masculinity too, for I'm merely following the …
/r/askTRP23/10/14 04:04 AM
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I would have handled it like the boyfriend did because of experience. From experience, if I were in the boyfriend's position, I know she'll try to talk this out with me and twist it in such away that it will look like it was really my fault and she was not the bad guy all along. I won't give her the satisfaction. I would contain my emotions until such time I can let it out in private. "That you can't keep your own woman attracted to you." This is wasted thinking because happens to every man. Eve…
/r/TheRedPill20/10/14 06:29 AM
2

In flirting, acting cocky should be delivered in the context of fun. You're just having fun with it, whether or not your cockiness is for real. Even if she knows you're just acting, if she can sense you're just genuinely having fun, she knows you're flirting with her. If you're truly, genuinely just having fun, she knows there's no insecurity.
/r/TheRedPill18/10/14 06:32 PM
1

There's a difference between lying about who you are and lying as a part of being playful, fun, teasing, and flirting. The "I like what you're wearing..." said with a smirk is an example of lying (bullshitting) as a part of being playful, fun, teasing, and flirting. 98% of the women out there who were to hear that line from you, would instantly know that you just initiated playful banter with them. If you're playing on your strengths, you're trying to impress someone. If you're truly impressive,…
/r/askTRP14/10/14 05:41 AM
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If she's not honest, it is still not her fault if the guy works extra hard on his personality. It's his fault due to his own ignorance. The bottom line is, whatever her reasons are, he doesn't give her the tingles. So what should he do? Next!
/r/TheRedPill12/10/14 07:55 AM
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"Ugh, why do menz even care about this?" Note in reality there's no double-standard here. Women want the man that everyone woman wants but can't have...because he only wants her! As a man, I want the woman every man wants but can't have, because she only wants me. Now if many men have had her, well that shatters that romantic ideal. There's nothing stopping women from abhorring a man who's been with a lot of women. As a matter of fact, I used to wonder why women didn't. Then I learned about evol…
/r/TheRedPill28/09/14 05:19 PM
3

This books mentions, "lead her through a sequence of positive states". Emotions are not just one state; they're a whole bunch of states. So don't fall into the trap of thinking, if I make her laugh, that's a positive state, so I'll concentrate on always making her laugh. Next thing you know, she thinks you're just the class clown. You want to lead her though a roller-coaster of ups and downs with unpredictability. Also women communication indirectly, with double-meaning, and insinuate, with plau…
/r/TheRedPill23/09/14 01:15 AM
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Don't ask her a bunch of questions about herself like an interview. Instead, flirt, playfully tease her, lightly mock her. Don't get into logical or philosophical discussions with her. You're much better off role-playing, daydreaming, make-believing, or pretending but including her in on it. For example, you two just happen to be discussing running a business. Don't discuss your theories on how to properly run a business, instead you tell her, "One day I'll open an ice cream shop and I'll hire y…
/r/TheRedPill21/09/14 05:46 AM
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"Ah, that reminds me when we first me and I told you I was a lawyer and a music producer."
/r/TheRedPill16/09/14 04:48 AM
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Aside from irresponsibility and ignorance, I believe this is also the real reason for teenage pregnancy--the attention.
/r/TheRedPill12/09/14 04:45 PM
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I think women are this way period, disorder or no disorder, if you allow it. Figuring out the manipulation is part of the relationship learning process and it takes time. When I was around the same age as the boyfriend in this video and in a long-term relationship I remember thinking, why am I somehow always the bad guy? That just can't be. It's like the movie Casino where Mr. Rothstein wants to know why the dumb hick can't figure out that the customers are scamming the slot machines. The dumb h…
/r/TheRedPill16/08/14 11:41 PM
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He has no self respect because he puts up with this shit all the time. Note how his friend says this. He should have never let it get this far. Even his body language shows he's one step away from curling up in a fetal position. I don't know, maybe it's just me because in my relationships, I put on an air that this behavior will not be tolerated. Thus I don't have to deal with these situations. Notice how she uses a verbal tactic where she just unleashes a verbal barrage that gives him no opport…
/r/TheRedPill16/08/14 04:08 PM
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Before I was a teen, I would learn in church about whole societies being conquered, the women taken as slaves, and I would think, "Why aren't these women committing suicide over their one true love's death in war? Why would they continue to live as slaves under a group of people that killed her one true love? There's something wrong with this concept of Disney love." Of course I didn't think of it as Disney's notion of love, I thought of it as the only concept of love period. Then in my teens, I…
/r/TheRedPill11/08/14 04:32 PM
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"If I were a guy, I'd really be worrying about measuring up." Yeah, when I was younger and dumber. Now that I'm older and wiser, it's more like, "I was considering her for LTR. I thought when she picked me, she had high standards. Now I find out she has very low standards. Not a quality woman." What makes a classy woman, classy? She has high standards.
/r/TheRedPill08/08/14 10:54 PM
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What a headache! I stopped after reading about a paragraph's worth, then just went to the comments to see what everyone else said. I scanned for the tl:dr's. One poster even quoted her and I read it just to see if I made the correct decision--I did! I guess, for everything she ever read, she did not pick up on the need for word flow. Let's see, I'll follow her approach to reasoning and imagine that I am completely neutral to what she wrote and you wrote here. I conclude you have a better writing…
/r/TheRedPill08/08/14 10:29 PM
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Yeah, my dad suscribed to the philosophy that it's best if I learn on my own. So instead of having a "leg up" in life, I have to reinvent the wheel.
/r/TheRedPill04/08/14 02:17 PM
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Correct me if I'm wrong but you're saying why you should approach as a man and it really cost you nothing to do so. I agree with that. I'm merely stating for men and women looking for a long-term relationship they hold certain frames about what they think is worthy in a prospective partner that goes beyond biological needs. Biologically, as a man, I want to have sex with the slut and the virgin. But if I want a long-term relationship, intuition and experience (with a little help from culture) te…
/r/TheRedPill28/07/14 06:25 AM
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They did not crave sex, they craved wives to bear their children and secure a future for the man in his old age. The man's instincts are based on nature. He wants a committed and loyal bearer of his offspring, not sex. This is what I was implying in my statement you said is incorrect. I'm basically saying that, aside for biological reasons, a woman has this frame where she wants the man (she's attracted to) to chose her, not the other way around, and that is why a man must make the move. Just as…
/r/TheRedPill27/07/14 05:44 AM
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except when she claims postpartum depression
/r/TheRedPill25/07/14 11:34 PM
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Women generally don't approach because they want to be chosen. When she can practically get any penis she wants, it's no challenge for her to just walk up to an attractive male and say lets go to bed. Instead, she wants the attractive man that is so attracted to her, that he takes all the risk to approach her. The male equivalent would be for him to not want the easy slut that any guy can get, he wants the one that only has sex with him. At least that's my take on it aside from a woman being bio…
/r/TheRedPill25/07/14 11:31 PM
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I disagree with "why not to ask women questions." But I agree with everything you observed. I've observed the same thing too. Instead of finding it as a reason to not ask women quesitons, I use it as a reason to tease them, flirt with them, all in the name of fun. Knowing they will choose the politically correct response, I exploit that to make them look politically incorrect or in a socially negative light. For example, during a conversation she asks me what is my nationality and I clearly look…
/r/TheRedPill14/07/14 05:44 AM
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do unto others as they have just done to you I disagree. This can lead to an endless cycle of violence (or any form of retaliation)..."You killed my friend in a drive-by, I'm going to retaliate."
/r/TheRedPill14/07/14 05:33 AM
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So, "Do to others as you would have them do to you." was ingrained into me growing up. But I took this a step further, "Do to others...if you were in the others' shoes, including biological, psychological, sociological, and economical (etc.) differences. So how do I justify RP behavior considering my ingrained belief? If I were a woman, I wouldn't want to be around a creepy guy, I'd want to be around a guy who's authentic, real, in other words, displays RP behavior.
/r/TheRedPill12/07/14 11:45 PM
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To me, frame is a subset of something else. That something else is to be "real". If I asked you, what does it mean to be real? It would actually be a trick question. Chances are, you would answer that question from your perspective. The problem with your perspective is there are to many things in life, especially social expectations of you, that muddy what being real really means. Your relationships can disorient you on what it means to be real. Now if you were to imagine another person, some ma…
/r/TheRedPill31/05/14 04:36 PM
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Since finding TRP, I don't go to /r/askmen or /r/askwomen all that much anymore. But when I did, objectively speaking, every once in awhile you find a rare gem of insight. For example, in response to one thread about some guy whining about how women don't just reject you directly thus saving everyone's time, this woman posted all the bullshit that usually happens when women are direct.
/r/TheRedPill30/05/14 07:33 PM
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I would like to give a special thanks to /r/askwomen. For without them, I would have never known TRP existed.
/r/TheRedPill30/05/14 05:51 AM
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How? Be real. Ask yourself, what would a real person, a person with his own thoughts, beliefs, and desires do? What would a real person think of this situation? When you answer that, that's what you do. The best way to respond to a shit test is to respond like a real person. Girlfriend doesn't want you hitting the gym? What would a real person do? He thinks: I going only an hour 5 days a week. It's not cutting into time I set aside for other things like having a relationship. Her reasonings don'…
/r/TheRedPill25/05/14 05:08 AM
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It's been awhile since I read it so I don't quite remember why. Also keep in mind the author is generalizing. From what I vaguely remember and my spin on what I may be inaccurately remembering, hippy/vegan and religious chicks are so focused on their life-style that it drowns out any real work they need to do to maintain their adult relationships and they use their life-style as a beating stick when the relationship doesn't go their way. It is the same thing with women who are too involved with …
/r/TheRedPill25/05/14 12:49 AM
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Being in relationships before I knew about TRP, I learned women: don't like to be the bad guy (slut, person at fault, person in the wrong, being in a conflict or heated argument) don't stray from the herd If you view their actions in that light, what they do makes sense (from their perspective).
/r/TheRedPill24/05/14 08:23 PM
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What Men Still Don't Know About Women, Relationships, and Love by Dr. Herb Goldberg In the first part of the book he's pretty brutal to men, but if you stick with it and read, you'll realize he's warning you of what you will become if you don't change. An example that I personally can relate to is going through life like you're some kind of insightful philosopher with the inevitable outcome being you're nothing but an alone, grumpy old man. The other part of the book he talks about women. We all…
/r/TheRedPill23/05/14 11:38 PM
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A word of warning...Steve can go to HR resulting in you being reprimanded, written up, or terminated. It doesn't matter if Jane was offended, what matters is if anyone (including third-party) was offended. It doesn't help Steve if he chose to do so that he said fuck off though.
/r/TheRedPill17/05/14 03:36 PM
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The next decade is about me and my pleasure/happiness. And that's when women will say you finally get it. Because you're being real. So when..."you should know why i'm mad thing"...that's when you think, "Screw this, I have better things to do than waste my time with this bullshit and I'm going to do them!"
/r/TheRedPill16/05/14 01:38 AM
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I call bullshit. One of these days, if your parents haven't already, someone is going to tell you you shouldn't do something. They'll give you all kinds of admittedly logical and valid reasons why you shouldn't...but you're going to do it anyways. Why? Because you want to! Where did that "want" come from? Your emotions. I read somewhere that one of the difficulties in the field of artificial intelligence is it's hard to teach logic to a computer/robot without emotion. If you teach a computer/rob…
/r/TheRedPill12/05/14 04:22 AM
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You're correct it's a generalization. I agree it's not a gender thing. But this is just one more anecdotal evidence to add to my own numerous anecdotal evidence. When you hear so many women say, "He's perfect in every way but..." and then you see so many women who get treated like shit by their boyfriends and yet they're still madly in love with them, guess which type of boyfriend I want to be--the one that doesn't try so hard.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/14 12:57 AM
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This sounded like a mistake too but now that you explained it, I don't think so. If you were truly more interested in watching the playoffs rather than deal with her mistake and the money, then you were being real. Does any one apologize for someone else's mistake? No! So by you not apologizing, you were being real. So I say you did everything right because you were being real...the real you. And the results show it.
/r/TheRedPill28/04/14 03:45 AM
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Women express funniness the same way they communicate: indirection, plausible denial, and sarcasm. (Though from my life experience, I always associated sarcasm as more a male thing. I especially resorted to sarcasm in my past because I was, and still am, rarely witty. I simply can't match the quick wit of some of my male peers.) Because I'm not witty, I still come across as funny to women by using their style of communication to my advantage. One thing I like to do is say what they want to hear …
/r/TheRedPill27/04/14 05:05 AM
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Another observation you reminded me of is men tend to find jokes that are socially unacceptable as funny where as women stick to what is only socially acceptable. Thus men like jokes that involve sex, violence, racism, or bodily excrement like boogers, farts, and poop. Women tend to think of these types of jokes as definitely not funny. Another reason why women like corny jokes in addition to what I already mentioned is because corny jokes are usually socially acceptable.
/r/TheRedPill27/04/14 04:51 AM
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All of these post about how women are not funny make the same mistake feminist make about women are just the same as men. They assume that what men find funny is the same as what women find funny. My observation of what men find funny heavily involves wit or a joke at the expense of someone. My observation of what women find funny has more to do with fun. Wit for them is only one aspect of what they find funny and it has to be in the context of fun. My observation of women is they generally don'…
/r/TheRedPill26/04/14 07:27 AM
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But I'm willing to see if we can find where things went wrong, see if that is something we can work on. Notice here, how she uses "we" to spread the blame instead of owning up to it.
/r/TheRedPill18/04/14 06:10 AM
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is interpreted to mean, this happens so often, here's another example. Even before I knew about TRP I observed this happen so many times that my pre-TRP generalization was that women can't stand to be alone for long; they must get attention from someone. I agree with Archwinger that this was kind of whiny. No matter what gender, if you cheat on someone because of whatever reason, it's a bullshit excuse. Here, the OP's girlfriend is using some twist in logic to justify her actions but really, it'…
/r/TheRedPill12/04/14 03:49 PM
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I think just be yourself is great advice in the right context. If she's clearly in the wrong during an argument but you still say you're sorry, are you being yourself? When you hold the door open for some hot chick and it takes a little bit of time for her to pass through it walking at a normal pace, is it because you're being yourself? Would you do the same thing for a man? Or did you do it because she's hot or because you were raised to do that? Say you go on a date and it doesn't go as you pl…
/r/TheRedPill09/04/14 05:19 AM
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I wished this too. Only while I was raised that men are evil pigs, I slowly started to see how, out of any group of people, only women were the most hypocritical. It made me bitter towards women. Evolutionary biology made me realize women were just being women and if I were a woman, I'd do the same thing too. So if I have any bitterness at all now, it's more towards society conning me.
/r/TheRedPill05/04/14 06:00 PM
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This is actually key to not being creepy. When I was the consummate gentleman and very concerned about not being creepy, I ended up being creepy to women. When I became selfish and gave no fucks about being creepy, I stopped being creepy to women.
/r/TheRedPill05/04/14 04:11 PM
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If she's making a point on a blog, about how she chose her passion of writing, over "fast cars, cash and VIP bottle service", I would expect her to at least demonstrate good grammar. Otherwise her point falls flat, which only compounds my skepticism in her writing ability. If someone told me their passion was carpentry and showed me a chair they made where one of the legs was not the same height as the other legs, I'd question how passionate they are about carpentry. I'd be thinking, that person…
/r/TheRedPill04/04/14 05:04 AM
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I was thinking the same thing too. Also, for someone whose passion is writing, I'd think that they would at least proof read before publishing.
/r/TheRedPill04/04/14 03:48 AM
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Agreed. Usually I'll smile and make eye contact a few times. If her response is positive each time, then I know I can say just about anything to start a conversation.
/r/askTRP30/03/14 01:39 AM
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I a man does this to, "...make her think you've got more going for you..." then he has the wrong mentality. If he did it because he thinks, "I'd rather hang up and do nothing or plan and commit to what I'm going to do next rather than stay on hold for someone..." then he has the right mentality.
/r/TheRedPill28/03/14 04:43 PM
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"I got to say know to this phone call." I've observed so many people who simply can't do just that, especially when they are involved in something else at the moment.
/r/TheRedPill28/03/14 04:26 PM
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Women will also cluster bomb you. An argument starts, you foolishly think you should stay on the topic that started it. You send off your opening salvo, one missile representing the topic that started the argument; she responds with a cluster of 50 missiles, each representing a different topic, even topics you argued about last week that you thought were settled. This too gives her an edge in verbal combat. From my experience the best way to handle this is to ignore the 47 missiles, only 2 or 3 …
/r/TheRedPill10/03/14 06:19 AM
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Don't ever assume she will tell the full story about what she did with other guys. It's not just about what she did with other guys. It could be about anything that she knows you'll not be comfortable with or get upset about. Any time she tells you a story about whatever and your first reaction is...that doesn't make sense...then you ask her to explain...and it still doesn't make sense...you know she didn't give the full story. Don't "wonder" if she gave you the full story, just accept it as a g…
/r/TheRedPill19/02/14 04:36 AM
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Now we all know I'm generalizing, but I've just seen too many situations where I feel the average man would address the situation head on whereas the average woman would rather hide or ignore the situation because she wants to avoid any type of conflict.
/r/TheRedPill15/02/14 05:15 PM
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I believe that the reason the world is mostly lead by men and always will be is because of quorum sensing in women--the social group doesn't like bad guys, thus women never want to be the bad guy. To be an effective leader, sometimes you have to be the bad guy. The worst leader is one who tries to please everyone.
/r/TheRedPill15/02/14 08:22 AM
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"I only accept women at their best."
/r/TheRedPill30/01/14 04:09 AM
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What exercises can I do in order... I used to get the butterflies. If I walked in a room with a couple of attractive women, I'd start shivering and sweating. If I walked down a path and up ahead a couple of attractive women were going in the opposite direction, I'd instinctively look for an alternate (escape) route. I was so worried about what they would think of me! That life was very constricting. Then I decided to live by a couple of principles--not to overcome the butterflies, but because I …
/r/TheRedPill26/01/14 06:33 AM
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I have to say, if it weren't for /r/askwomen, I would have never found /r/theredpill. It took one woman in that sub, to say something like "blah, blah blah...not as bad as /r/theredpill...blah blah blah" that brought me here.
/r/TheRedPill21/01/14 04:51 AM
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You want proof? Look at all the rules in /r/askwomen, all to protect the innumerable sensitivities of every member. Then look at the rules for /r/askmen. Notice the sizable difference? I used to lurk on /r/askwomen and /r/askmen before I found /r/theredpill. It always seemed the moderators of /r/askwomen were spending most of their time being sensitivity monitors.
/r/TheRedPill20/01/14 04:43 AM
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This is what I call "being real". You just act like a real person. Would real person apologize in this situation? If yes, then apologize. If not, don't. If I let someone down, I'm going to apologize because I wholeheartedly feel they deserve one. I don't care if it looks weak. A man of strong character has certain principles he lives by and stands by them despite how he may be perceived. If my girlfriend is pissed at me and through her "logic" she says I owe her an apology, I will never give her…
/r/TheRedPill15/01/14 05:45 AM
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Don't put yourself in the role of rescuing a woman.
/r/TheRedPill12/01/14 03:01 PM
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It's a good sign if you don't start giving her compliments after that. You should have responded, "It's because I don't give out empty compliments."
/r/TheRedPill28/12/13 10:25 PM
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That was a huge shit test right there. You should have said, "Sex is a form of expressing intimacy in relationships. It is not a gift and I will never accept it as one." This actually happened to me one time before I knew about TRP. My girlfriend at the time couldn't think of what to get me for a present so she said, "How about I just have sex with you as a present." I said, "Fuck no. I want a real present!" I could tell that I had passed that shit test by the way she was ruminating in her head …
/r/askTRP28/12/13 07:16 AM
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It's not about what precludes her so much as I find her past distasteful enough to not be worthy. There's also nothing to preclude a woman from being a worthy partner if she been arrested many times (has a long rap sheet). Whatever the reasons for her being arrested, I find this information distasteful enough to find her unworthy and I would want to know about it as soon as possible. I don't want to waste my time with such a person.
/r/TheRedPill26/12/13 11:45 PM
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Why does it work? When a beta does everything he thinks a woman wants, he's faking who he really is. Example, when he gives her that compliment, would he have done the same thing if she were a man? When an alpha doesn't give a shit about what a women thinks, he's being a real person. If you were a woman, would you rather be with someone who's authentic or fake?
/r/TheRedPill25/12/13 07:18 AM
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I was reading this book by a pimp. He said, when a hoe goes out the front door, have another coming in the back door. He was basically saying, no matter how much you have your pimp game down, there will always be a hoe that will leave you; a good pimp doesn't sweat it, he accepts this reality and just gets another hoe.
/r/TheRedPill24/12/13 07:13 AM
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That comment about the beta, I don't think your GF inadvertently revealed that it was a shit test so much as she knows that beta so well that that is what he would have done. And the building the table was just a little exaggerate to emphasize the point. If she knew the situation with you was a deliberate shit test, I don't believe she would have asked her girlfriends what they thought of the situation. What do I think? I think you just ended up in two situations where you stayed "real". The rea…
/r/TheRedPill23/12/13 06:18 AM
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Maybe the phrase "maintaining frame" is misleading for you because you see it as pretending to be something to the point of exhaustion. Maybe this phrase will work for you as it has for me, "be a real person". For example, her and I are arguing. She says I'm in the wrong and should apologize. Well, what would I say if I was having this argument with a male friend? What would a real person logically say in this argument if I were observing it third-party? If the answer is, I'm not convinced I am …
/r/TheRedPill20/12/13 08:11 PM
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A philosophy I live by is something I learned from women, but it kind of condenses a lot of what TRP talks about: be real. When I focus on being a real person, women like it--both short and long-term relationships. How do you handle a shit test? Be a real person. Why do women like bad boys? Because bad boys are very real about who they are as a person. I was brainwashed growing up to be fake. You here things like, her happiness is my happiness or a happy wife makes a happy life or do whatever it…
/r/TheRedPill13/12/13 10:27 PM
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I disagree. It doesn't matter whether or not she's involved or thinks she is. What matters is if you feel this change is necessary and/or beneficial to you period. I will say, sometimes if you do decide to change, you have to let her know that it is your decision regardless of what she thinks. One time my SO and I got in an argument. During the argument, she suggested an idea that was better than my idea. It was such a good idea to me, I proceeded to go with it. This resulted in her getting angr…
/r/TheRedPill07/12/13 07:59 AM
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This is something I learned the hard way. I call this "being real". It's a phrase I learned from a woman. It's the only advice from a woman about women that I found useful but profoundly so. And it's not like she directly told me this. It's more like I pieced it together through a story she was telling me (I asked her, "What do you mean he wasn't being real?"), other women's stories, and my own life experience. All the shit test and attempts by her to change you is her way of seeing if you're a …
/r/TheRedPill06/12/13 05:14 PM
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If he failed to mention he was married twice before or has children by another woman, then you can be sure Abby will have a different take on it.
/r/TheRedPill18/11/13 03:14 AM
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woman who commented on askwomen. negative marketing
/r/TheRedPill11/11/13 04:53 PM
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The entire story might not be so much what this lady was doing to you and her boyfriend, as much as it was what she was doing to your date--possibly making your date look bad or putting your date in her place in the female hierarchy.
/r/TheRedPill01/11/13 06:25 PM
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His entire body language/movement when he says "I don't like gold-diggers" just strikes me as weak--like he's sneaking in a pop shot and then getting the hell out of there as fast as he can. He only gives her brief eye contact when he says it. This is how I'd respond if I was nervous around a woman including that little hand wave he does. I kept asking myself when I saw the video: why doesn't he maintain eye contact when he says this; how come he's in such a rush to leave when he says it; why wa…
/r/TheRedPill26/10/13 06:17 AM
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"It may mean something different to you now, but it was designed to signify ownership." What about that diamond wedding ring? A symbol that you belong to someone. Notice how women want to remove one tradition, but conveniently leave in place another tradition?
/r/TheRedPill21/10/13 05:00 PM
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so I told her: "No... The problem here is you took her question literally which is logical. But what she meant was something emotional. She felt something emotional at that moment which caused her to say she needs you and ask if you need her. She was hoping for an emotional answer.
/r/askTRP22/08/13 02:03 AM
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tl;dr Author says its hypocritical for intelligent men to reject her in a child-like way by not being adult enough in saying directly they are not interested in her...a woman, saying this about men...
/r/TheRedPill12/08/13 04:51 AM
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Being REAL is something I learned from a woman, she left a beta because he wasn't being REAL and chose an alpha because he was being REAL. This is probably the only useful advise I've learned from women. Being REAL helps you in short-term relationships and is key in long-term relationships. Most shit test you can pass if you just be REAL. If you have to make a decision that you know will make her angry, decide on what the REAL you would do. There's been posted an article where a guy interviews 4…
/r/askTRP10/08/13 03:56 PM
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If you just be REAL, there is no paradox. At the bar, girl asks you to buy her a drink? "Hell no! I don't know you. Why in the hell would I buy you a drink?" That's being REAL. A real person wouldn't buy a complete stranger a drink just because the stranger asked nicely. Your experience with that "good girl", you don't put up with her bullshit...you don't put up with her bullshit because no REAL person would. You want to do something romantic, I'll repeat that, YOU WANT to do something romantic,…
/r/askTRP10/08/13 07:50 AM
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I briefed 1, 2, and 3 to confirm my thought that this link is really sexist. Look at number 9. If you change genders to race, it's very racists: Walk on the other side of the street when you see a white person is walking towards you at night.
/r/TheRedPill31/07/13 05:36 AM
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"I hate how you don't say I love you back" "When you said that to me, at that moment in time, you said it with powerful feelings behind it. I wasn't quite feeling the say way at that exact moment. When I do say those words, I want to say it with those same powerful feelings you were feeling." Of course whenever you actually do feel that way, only time will tell.
/r/TheRedPill27/07/13 10:04 PM
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Predatory? After saying he wants to talk it over sober, this happens. when they first brought it up I stayed quiet - I was ok with doing it but I wanted my wife to say so. and then Sally started giving me head, my wife started giving Harry head, and it had started, we were all having fun. It was exciting. This guy is fully responsible for what happened. And later he doesn't have the balls to except his responsibility; he puts the entire blame on Harry. He's not weak as in victimized; he's weak a…
/r/TheRedPill27/07/13 06:37 AM
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What were they volunteering for, more specifically?
/r/seduction10/07/11 08:23 AM
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While talking on the phone with a girl... Me: Oh, you like Star Wars?! Girl: Yes, I'm a big fan. What, does this me I'm suppose to fall in love with you now? [blatant sarcasm detected] Me: No, I'm a big Star Trek fan, a Trekkie. [It should've been obvious to her I'm lying. For the rest of the conversation, which moved on to something else, I never admit to liking Star Wars or being impressed with her being a fan.] Edit: If I remember right, I may have teased her about Trekkies being superior but…
/r/seduction09/02/10 04:51 AM
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You need to learn and practice this: stop caring about what they think about you. For without their vagina, they are nothing to you--which is no different from how you view men who are strangers to you. Their vagina has no currency in your nation. So there's no reason to care what they think about you. You have to learn, practice, internalize this to the point where if you saw two hot girls whispering to each other about you in disgust, instead of feeling like a worthless sub-man, you actually f…
/r/askTRP
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the feelings of shame, confusion, frustration and such that I feel when I like a girl and fear and doubt paralyses me. This right here on a deep level is a big part of your problem. "When you like a girl..." who you never even went on at least one date with let alone the many times you have to spend with someone to learn if you truly like them? I was able to turn this think around in my life by becoming more selfish (yet respectful), putting myself first before any person (especially women). I n…
/r/askTRP
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The things are bullshit face saving. Woman never want to be the bad guy and she definitely wasn't going to look bad in a social situation.
/r/askTRP
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Just going to nitpick one thing I see. Don't invite her to run unless you routinely run for fitness. You should only invite her along as merely to have company during your running routine--as if you would have went running regardless if she came. Also when she invited you to go running, and let's just say you had no plans, you should only go because you genuinely thinks it will be fun or it fit in with your running routine. Don't ever go because you think it gives you more time with her--that's …
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Best way to protect yourself is to learn how to sense it. When someone gives you a story that doesn't make sense, alarm bells in your head should be sounding off. When they give an explanation and it still doesn't make sense. Those alarms bells should be ringing even louder. This means you're being manipulated, told a lie, and/or not told the complete truth. There are other things to look out for but I can't think of any at this time.
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When I don't know how to handle myself, I rely on 2 rules-of-thumb. What would a real person do and what would I do if she were a male friend. This is how I guide myself in being "real". Buddy says to take him out to drinks instead of buying a watch? Chuckle while saying, "Yeah, not a chance." Tell buddy he's welcome to take me out? Wouldn't say that. You paid for dinner last time, now it's his turn? Would you say that to a buddy who lives 30 miles away? It sounds whiny. Ask yourself, what do yo…
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Probability? I don't look at it that way. I look at it as whatever happens happens as long as...I am having fun. If I'm not having fun, next. If she's not having fun it will likely ruin my fun.
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Your first mistake in mental process: It means you have to avoid mistakes You should not care about making a mistake even if it was just one girl.
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What would a real person do? Well it's not the guy's job to figure out why a woman should choose him, it's the woman's job. "Why should you choose me? That's your job to figure it out, not mine." Her mind will be like, well he's got a point that's real. Does any real person DESERVE another? "As to why I think I deserve you. I think that's a bad way of looking at dating. Nobody DESERVES anybody. I'm just on this date to have fun. If I end up having a lot of fun, I'd want to continue having fun in…
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