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GLOBAL RESISTANCEyumiia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 10:47 AM
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LEVEL UPyumiia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 05:48 AM
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FDS HUMORyumiia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:09 AM
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FDS MEMESyumiia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 01:14 AM
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NAH, SISyumiia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 08:57 AM
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GLOBAL RESISTANCEyumiia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 12:56 AM
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PICKMEISHA HALL OF FAMEyumiia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 07:52 PM
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FDS RESCUE MISSIONyumiia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 11:59 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYyumiia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 09:21 PM
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FDS SUCCESS!yumiia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 06:09 PM
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COUCH CREATURESyumiia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 10:13 AM
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PICKME CULTUREyumiia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 02:51 AM
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RANTyumiia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 11:18 PM
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RANTyumiia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 12:09 AM
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FDS SUCCESS!yumiia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 11:33 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYyumiia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 12:01 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYyumiia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 12:10 AM
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LEVEL UPyumiia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 07:02 AM
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LEVEL UPyumiia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 05:26 AM
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yumiia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 01:42 AM
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LEVEL UPyumiia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 08:15 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEyumiia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 10:20 AM
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FDS HUMORyumiia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 09:50 AM
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QUEEN SH*Tyumiia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 02:01 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEyumiia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 11:10 AM
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FDS SUCCESS!yumiia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 06:23 AM
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yumiia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 02:09 AM
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RANTyumiia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 07:45 AM
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DISCUSSIONyumiia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 04:51 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYyumiia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 10:36 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEyumiia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 09:13 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEyumiia/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:12 AM
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yumiia/r/MGTOW16/05/19 01:32 PM
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Yes I will dm u
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 04:48 PM
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I told my therapist about fds and how people hate us and he said it seemed like a good women’s group and I should continue
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 08:29 PM
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Thank you! Much appreciated
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 08:22 PM
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Thanks queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 08:02 PM
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You should end it. Read the handbook. I don’t feel like writing a shit ton when the handbook will tell you everything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 04:54 PM
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It’s normal to not want to be called a pig by your boyfriend. Sad I have to say this...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 09:30 AM
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Honey you need to read the guidebook. Selfies and nudes cannot be on your reddit profile if you are apart of FDS. It is dangerous to be apart of this community when you have so much information on your page. With that said, I hope you remain here and read the guidebook. I think this sub will help you tremendously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 06:35 PM
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Yup thank you. I just deleted a inflammatory post they could against me. It’s annoying but must be careful since they are so hellbent on getting us banned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 10:27 PM
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I don’t see anything wrong with what you’re saying personally. But the hate groups against us will take anything they can get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 10:25 PM
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These techniques remind me of what my rapist did
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 10:03 PM
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Marina Diamandis is not a pickme I’ve been following her since highschool and went to her froot tour concert. “So the main theme for song was about women and diets really and generally how we seem to have morphed into mute scary dolls. Falling hook, line and sinker for every lie that we are fed by magazines/ etc. Ofcourse this is all old news to everybody. But you have to think why is this still going on?. Why isn't anyone smart enough to say 'Fuck off'? what would you feel if this were your dau…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 09:05 AM
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I would feel different if there was a pot. But it’s just the head of kale. I looked it up and it only costs $1.49 for just the head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 07:54 PM
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I agree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 07:50 PM
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I see what you mean but in my eyes I was thinking pretty means something else here. It means the soul is pure and good, pretty. Not the physical looks. It means if you’re nice to women it means you’re pretty no matter the physical appearance. But I definitely get what you mean and I’m not sure what the original twitter poster meant. So next time maybe I can use a different word.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 07:50 PM
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God...I can’t believe people were complimenting him on this either way it’s stupid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 07:43 AM
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Holy crap. I mean it’s a possibility??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 07:37 AM
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If we live in the USA will we be arrested for fighting back?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 04:10 AM
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K-kalemeisha...I-
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 03:08 AM
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Dude I’m dead at this 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 03:05 AM
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Okay lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 02:59 AM
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“Hey babe I know it’s our one year anniversary so here’s some kale cause you’re getting kind of chubby.” Your take on it is even worse than mine. 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 02:58 AM
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That’s what I was thinking too! This is totally a kid thing to do not a grown man thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 02:55 AM
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The value of the lettuce is the value and effort he puts in to the relationship. 💀. Nutritional value of the lettuce the same as how much he cares about her. 💀 “ $1 lettuce for one year of being together baby”💖🥰headass. Articles praising him for this are pretty widespread too.... like why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 02:52 AM
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TW: It only cost my rapist $20-30 to rape me. It cost me $700
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 09:04 PM
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Haha yes never again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 11:34 PM
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I can’t even read these without getting a headache
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 10:20 PM
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Accurate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 09:36 PM
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Your girl is dumb af and a huge pickme
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 11:40 PM
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I’m so glad I didn’t die the multiple times I was choked by men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 10:55 PM
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So you’re telling me it’s possible???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 10:34 PM
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I’m blessed that I have been able to go to therapy before this occurred to deal with trauma I already had. So I already have the tools in my brain to deal with it. Reaching out to people helped a lot and saved me from going to the psych ward again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/20 11:08 AM
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I have him blocked on everything. I don’t think he will try again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 03:39 PM
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Oh I didn’t know I could report him without pressing charges. I’ll have to read more about it to find out more on what I should do. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 02:35 PM
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That’s what I’ve heard from many people...I’ve decided not to go through with reporting him. I know it’s going to tear me apart even more and I doubt my case would be heard. I’m honestly just glad people aren’t accusing me of lying or saying I’m over exaggerating. So far everyone has believed me and been kind and I’m very grateful for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 02:34 PM
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Thanks so much for the advice and offer, I will keep it in mind! I might look into joining some women’s groups because hearing people have gone through similar situations helps me validate my experience and that I’m not just overreacting. Sometimes it still doesn’t feel real that this happened and is wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 11:19 AM
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Thanks for being honest. This is exactly why I am hesitant to report it. I also don’t have any money to get a lawyer and he makes a lot more than I do. I wish it was easier to get justice for what has happened but I honestly don’t want to go through the character assassination either. I know they will use the raunchy texts against me and the fact that I consented to one act will be used against me as well. Even though he hurt my back and got me severely sick, I don’t think the courts will rule i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 11:09 AM
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I’ve heard women tend to get really fucked over in this kind of case...I don’t want everyone around me to know about it or for it get out into the media somehow. I don’t want to be harassed. Is it worth it you think? Will he even get punished...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 10:42 AM
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I just looked at blue aprons Instagram, and it looks like pretty good food. Which is coming from me being a foodie haha. He probably only likes to eat plain marinara spaghetti, nuggets, and Mac n cheese. Poor sob doesn’t even know how to boil water.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 10:06 AM
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Thank you for framing it like this. Fucking terrible how heterosexual relationships are portrayed in the media. And how accepting people are of these subpar efforts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 07:31 PM
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This might come off as harsh, but he needs to take care of himself. You can’t spend all of your energy trying help or fix him. That energy should go towards bettering yourself. Leaving him will give him room to breath and maybe help him realize he needs to get his shit together. But really that doesn’t even matter for you. It’s your life never put a man first if you’re not happy. He will figure his mental problems out. This coming from someone with mental illness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 06:29 AM
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The reasons why they put you on a sex offender registry is so parents can keep their 15 year olds AWAY FROM YOU. How hard is it to understand?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 03:08 PM
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Lmao I’m a year older than you. All I’m asking is to not call another member dense for no reason. Be respectful and don’t try to flip this into me being a women hater when you were the one being rude. This is my last reply because it’s not worth the energy. I will add that I shouldn’t have gone at it from that angle and just left it neutral and told you not to call her dense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 03:00 PM
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Okay that’s fine honey I honestly don’t even really care what you think just don’t be rude to other members, be respectful. You can say the same thing you said without calling her dense. Please learn to have a conversation without attacking someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 02:56 PM
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Look my reply was based on the fact that you called someone dense, when dating older men is a naive choice. Dating a man even five years older when a women is 20 can be risky because both tend to be at different places in their lives. You can’t call someone here dense when you’re making naive choices as well. It’s just hypocritical and rude. Since you’re new you should know not to be unnecessarily rude to other members. Especially fellow newbies. Because we are all here to learn and grow from ot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 02:52 PM
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It is pro women. So don’t be rude :). We do occasionally call each other out when we’re being ridiculous, but we don’t call each other dense when the person was kind enough to supply advice in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 02:46 PM
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You’re the one dating guys a decade older than you so don’t come for anyone on this sub. It’s not what it’s meant for. We need to be kind and respectful to each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 01:39 PM
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Just going by the handbook, FDS recommends not going on drink dates as they’re low effort and often a man trying to get laid by getting a women tipsy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 01:23 PM
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It was hard to tell people it felt like I was out of my body and my head felt dizzy. I couldn’t even say rape to my cousin I just said assault but I think he gets the gist of what I was saying. I understand minimizing...when we accept reality it is very overwhelming. Last night I was considering going to the psych ward because I was getting bad mentally again. But somehow talking to people pulled me out of that and I was surprised how much it helped. Talking to my cousin pretty much stopped me f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 12:51 PM
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Thank you. I’m glad I was able to tell people and they didn’t think I was stupid or blame me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 12:47 PM
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Yeah it takes awhile because our bodies trying to protect us from the trauma. I feel like it kind of tries to ease us into it in a way. I’m glad you’re going to therapy I’m looking forward to getting through it so I can be stable again and not break down over it. I worked really hard for stability and this knocked me down again. I think if you need to report it, you should. But as someone who went through it as well and knows how shitty men can be. I’d think it through. Maybe this is bad to say,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 12:45 PM
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Can confirm :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 05:38 AM
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Wow I thought my 18 and 25 gap was okay
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 05:38 AM
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He redpilled her ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 05:37 AM
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He probably doesn’t even read one book a year
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 05:36 AM
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Omg this comment killed me 🤣. Worst otome game...sounds like amnesia
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 05:36 AM
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Wow thank you so much :0!!! You’re amazing!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 01:48 AM
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Sorry I totally forgot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 01:34 AM
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I think liberal feminism has made it look like a joke is my point. I do support it now but it took me a long time to realize why I had so many qualms with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 01:33 AM
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No all it says on her instagram is going to the hospital
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 10:20 PM
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Oh sorry I forgot to mention he’s my ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 09:16 AM
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Same dude. My ex loved the raccoon eyes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 05:02 AM
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That’s so sad...I’m sorry that happened. They need to just let us be. Thanks so much for all you’ve done for this sub!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 04:16 AM
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Are you still going to use fds? It says this is a throw away account
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 03:57 AM
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I definitely see what you mean by getting a female therapist, and I do agree that they are more empathetic. However, the reason I chose a male therapist is because I cannot stand too much emotion in therapy. I look at therapy and mental health in a very structured logical way and i don’t like it when they feel bad for me. And are very sweet. Yes I know that might sound crazy but it just feels weird. It feels kind of infantilizing in a way to me personally. I like looking at my mental health sepa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 03:49 AM
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Agreed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 03:44 AM
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It’s from her instagram. All she wrote is “going to the hospital.” Not why
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 03:43 AM
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Oh man...from what you say she seems very smart and hardworking. That’s so cruel he treated her like that. Are you still in contact with your father? I have the feeling you aren’t, I’m not either. It’s very sad how fathers destroy their wives and children. It makes sense what you are saying and I’ve seen some other Redditors go through this. But I’ve never witnessed it myself except to a small extent. I’ll have to research and see if I have any maladaptive coping method things. My therapist told…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 03:26 AM
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That’s so sad...maybe she likes the chaotic high of a toxic relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 03:22 AM
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All I can tell you right now that there were old photos of her with a “sugar daddy.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 03:19 AM
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Ohhh 🤣. Well most laws state that if someone else struck first then you can hit them back. So good idea!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 03:17 AM
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Wow you’re so smart and seem so well educated, especially on this topic! I want to learn more too :0. Did you read books and articles? How did you learn about all this stuff. And sorry if I’m bothering you but if you have any other sources I’d love to read them. And maybe if you posted them others could share in the knowledge as well. No worries if you don’t want to though! Also thanks for that! I went to therapy for a year and now live with my family. I’m an entirely different person. If I met …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 03:06 AM
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Sorry can u explain. Sometimes I don’t understand jokes/sarcasm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 02:59 AM
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I wish I was Jared, 19.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 02:57 AM
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Man I thought mine was bad for not letting me wear certain shirts and dresses (and occasionally no bra)! This is a whole fucking new level. EDIT: MY EX SORRY!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 02:56 AM
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Oh wow I didn’t know housewives and women in general had such a long history of being medicated. I personally know I needed to be on medication and was trying to before I went into the psych ward. And it definitely helps me! But yes a lot of my mental health problems were due to my ex! They only worsened when I met him and he enabled a lot of negative behavior. I told him so many times I needed to get out of the house and have a proper sleep schedule. But he always wanted me to stay in and sleep…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 02:54 AM
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Is it just me or is this just a post bragging about the sex he probably doesn’t have or has greatly exaggerated
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 02:45 AM
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Don’t forget atm! He’s probably ugly too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 02:43 AM
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Oh yeah I’m so glad I don’t have to deal with my exes gross farts and stinky bathroom. He didn’t understand that lighting a match or candle made it go away. Actually he prob just didn’t care
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 02:21 AM
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Not sure. I’ve been trying to figure that out too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 02:20 AM
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Thanks I’ll check it out. Not sure if it applies to me since I admitted myself but will give it a look! Edit: I watched it and I honestly don’t understand it if you would like to explain. No worries if you don’t. In my personal experience, I already had mental illness and then got diagnosed before I met the ex. He just exacerbated it. Meds have definitely helped me. Honestly confused by what she’s saying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 02:16 AM
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Omg I was so confused for a second until I realized the cockroach is your ex haha. Is there a support group or something? Like a discord for leveling up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 01:52 AM
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No need to apologize, she’s a russian model. Anya Hoffmanita
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 01:49 AM
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Maybe he was crying because he didn’t want to get married lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 01:46 AM
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When I was in my first serious relationship, I was pretty good looking probably an 8/10. As the shitty abusive relationship continued, I gained weight severe acne and went to the psych ward. I’ve since left him and my skin is almost always completely clear, moisturized, soft and smooth. I also am way better mentally and have meds I take daily. But I definitely went down appearance wise. I also had stopped wearing makeup and dressing nice because he gave me a dress code and didn’t like it when I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 01:32 AM
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Yeah I actually showed this to my hairdresser two years ago and was shocked to see how much she changed. It’s not just about the looks. She seems unwell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 01:29 AM
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OMG YES!!!! My mental illness is what he used as ammunition to gaslight me!!! I would always think I was just being over dramatic due to my ptsd. But no!! My body was recognizing the pattern of abuse and trying to warn me. And yes I agree that those types of men are attracted to us with mental illness who tend to be shy, quiet, low self esteem, etc. they prey off our weaknesses. I will give that book a look thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 08:29 PM
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I’m not sure if Einstein had something that made him neurodivergent. But there’s a lot of stigma still with people that are “different.” Some men fetishize women with mental health problems. They see it as a damsel in distress thing where they get to be the hero and protector. When my ex noticed I was getting better mentally he tried to drag me down again. They like the feeling they get when they comfort you. It was so bad he would get hard and try to have sex with me whenever I cried or was dep…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 07:54 PM
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I can see where both of you are coming from because I wasn’t sure how to explain it and honestly ended up googling it myself as a reference for how to explain it. But sometimes hearing from someone else what it means can provide a better explanation and context. At least the next person who reads this thread will have it there for them to explain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 07:31 PM
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Yeah I noticed the same pattern in myself. Fds is amazing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 06:54 PM
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You were so close to having a good mindset and then I got to the end and was speechless... like yes honey don’t be with someone you have to worry about cheating! Do not waste your energy on someone when you think they’re cheating, just leave!! So close yet so far, and I think it will help you now. You knew you should focus on yourself, you just didn’t realize that you should also leave the trash at the curb!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 06:34 PM
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You’re free from an LVM and his new wife is stuck with him. Congrats
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 06:32 PM
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It’s just someone that has mental illness or something that makes their brain different. It can include mental illness, learning disorders, dyslexia/dyscalculia, adhd, autism, Aspergers, kind of an umbrella term.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 05:26 PM
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I’m scared because I am neurodivergent and some men see me as an easy target. It’s sad how scary relationships and men can be. We shouldn’t have to be this vigilant...but that’s just how it is right now unfortunately. I’ve decided I’m safer staying single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 07:37 AM
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Thank you...yes I’m excited to go back. But also worried. I think they will push me to date again even though I don’t want to. I really don’t trust men anymore. But I guess I do need to keep trying our different therapists to find one who won’t hound me on that I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 06:58 AM
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Yes I will be going back to therapy soon. Thank you. It suxks tho I don’t want to remember whatever it is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 06:24 AM
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I’ve dealt with my trauma but I still don’t remember some of it. Is there a therapy people need to do to remember?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 05:59 AM
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Can you explain number two to me? I don’t remember a lot due to trauma is that bad?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 05:04 AM
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You don’t have to honey. I’m 21 and decided to be single and dedicate my life to science and helping people. If I meet someone nice along the way, that’s chill. But I’m happy on my own right now. I think you should do the same. Take a break and heal your mind and body. If you don’t want to, you never have to date again. It’s entirely your choice and there are way more fulfilling things in life than a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 05:02 AM
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Maybe...? I use both. Personally I found the a spot and it feels really good. But whenever I do any kind of sex or stimulation my clits still involved. It just makes penetration feel better when it’s at the right angle. I’ve never been able to orgasm without involving my clit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 09:56 PM
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I was worried it would hurt too but it’s small and smooth. The textured ones hurt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 09:54 PM
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He’s going to go on dates and conveniently forget his credit card...and a condom
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 01:10 PM
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This is not a man...but a walking red flag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 12:32 PM
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Wow didn’t even think about that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 11:47 AM
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Warning:Some men on old post nude photos of their butt. I also haven’t used OLDs in over seven months so do not worry about that, I’m no longer a pickmeisha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 09:53 AM
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He walks away, the sun goes down; he takes the day, but I'm grown. And in your way, in this blue shade... my tears dry on their own. I don't understand, why do I stress the man? When there's so many bigger things at hand? We could've never had it all, we had to hit a wall. So this is inevitable withdrawal. Even if I stop wanting you, And perspective pushes through. I'll be some next man's other woman soon. I cannot play my self again, I should just be my own best friend. Not fuck my self in the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 04:52 AM
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I would break his ps4 for that ducking terrible. Break up rig the douche after you delete your pictures from his phone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 04:47 AM
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I would say it shouldn’t be normal, but it seems to be so common that it is becoming a norm sadly. Your ex is not just an LVM, he is also abusive. So yes it is normal for you to feel scared since he has threatened you and gotten belligerent. I would suggest telling your neighbors and people close to you, as well as seeing if you can make a report with the police. If you have enough evidence you can pay to get a restraining order. If you have proof of abuse the restraining order would possibly be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 02:14 AM
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Why would u feel bad for him not getting his dick wet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 07:25 AM
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I looked at her twitter profile after seeing this on a Instagram page I follow. It doesn’t really seem like sarcasm to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 10:16 PM
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Because they’re trying to make you feel indebted to them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 03:17 AM
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You’re right :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 01:06 PM
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Yes it is. I’m alone in quarantine however haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 08:06 AM
1

Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:53 AM
1

That’s awesome I’m hoping to get that one day
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:53 AM
2

Aww that’s so sweet of you to say I’m glad you feel comfortable on this sub. I think we’re all trying to reconnect with our feminine side and I honestly feel more powerful from doing that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:52 AM
1

Haha yeah...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:51 AM
1

Thank you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:47 AM
1

Yeah I also got sick from a male partner. Had to have two rounds of antibiotics :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/20 05:46 AM
8

Yeah probably porn sick...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 06:10 PM
5

Yes!! Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 04:15 PM
2

Good I’m glad you never did it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 04:13 PM
3

Yes me too. I’m glad you stopped doing that as well. For me it really lowered my self worth. I’m more than a sex object and stripper....I want someone to love me not use me for their pleasure...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 04:12 PM
3

Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 04:09 PM
3

Awesome girl! Glad you’re honest with yourself now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 04:07 PM
4

Yes we do!! I wish I had known this before I became super depressed from the redpoll ideology. I hated myself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 03:57 PM
26

I’d rather not even engage but that’s funny haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 03:57 PM
5

Oh thank god
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 12:49 PM
5

Yes I understand that feeling. Are you okay? It says you are a youth?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 12:45 PM
12

Yes. https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/ewvo6e/as_requested_a_medical_professional_explains_why/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 12:44 PM
8

All of mine costs $200 I am selling on reddit. If no one wants it I’m going to throw it away. Overall your choice. If it makes you feel bad then get rid of it ASAP. Mine was making me feel gross just knowing I had it still. But yes I understand this stuff is very expensive...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 12:42 PM
5

Aww yay this comment is so cute made me smile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 12:40 PM
14

Yes my low self esteem and abuse played into it. I used to ask him to slap me when I was feeling bad about myself. He got off on it and crying so it worked. Very toxic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 12:40 PM
15

Yeah...I’m glad I’m not doing it anymore. I’m traumatized by my pst sex life. I still need to go to therapy to get over it so I can have healthy relationships in the future. I cant use any toys except a vibe without having a panic attack probably can’t have sex until I deal with this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 12:38 PM
6

Thank you for your message :) I hope to have better relationships going forward
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 12:37 PM
5

Thank you so much! I’m happy with all the support
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 12:36 PM
7

Yes!!! No more crappy relationships with no effort
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 12:35 PM
11

Eww what the hell. Can you link it?? What is It exactly?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 12:35 PM
9

I won’t anymore!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 11:20 AM
29

That’s amazing I’m hoping to be in a relationship with someone like that. I can’t wait to experience real love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 11:19 AM
9

Thank you I am on the right path now thanks to fds, my self, and my family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 11:08 AM
26

Yes he was a very bad one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 11:03 AM
29

Yes we should
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 11:02 AM
142

Some guy messaged me saying he’s never had anal lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 11:02 AM
22

Yeah it’s very sad...glad that part of my life is over
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 10:29 AM
41

Yes! It’s amazing I’m a different person now and this subreddit always help me keep the pickmeisha in me at bay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 08:24 AM
110

Yeah honestly...I’m way happier single. My past relationship almost killed me. I am so grateful we didn’t get married. I thought I needed him, but I’m actually doing really well without him. Him however not so much...last time I saw him he had been unemployed for six months and was living off his parents for rent. He only ate fast food and didn’t clean well. He was very skinny. Made me realize he needed me but I didn’t need him. He’s 29 now I’m 22. We started dating when I was 18 in hs and he wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 07:54 AM
13

Thank you so much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 07:51 AM
76

Awww thank you 🥺. I’m hoping so too! If not I will settle for cat cuddles haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 07:51 AM
231

Yes you’re right. I want to go into future relationships without this baggage. It will be good to have sex that doesn’t make me cry anymore unless it’s from happiness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 07:40 AM
14

Thank you! I’m always pleasantly surprised by the support here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 07:39 AM
15

I’m glad. I hope you make a permanent account here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 07:39 AM
34

Thanks so much! I’m proud of you too! Keep strong! ☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 07:23 AM
144

I never realized how much it was damaging me. It fed into my low self worth. The worst coping method for an abuse victim
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 07:16 AM
25

Thank you I’m happy I’m not in denial anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 07:11 AM
28

Thank you I will :). I want to try vanilla now haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 06:45 AM
45

It’s okay it’s ingrained in my brain. I’m going to be celibate for quite awhile and that’s okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 06:11 AM
39

Thank you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 06:02 AM
4

Your mindset of feeling invisible and willing to go on any date that falls into your lap shows a self esteem issue which is something we’d encourage you to work on before you date. Dating with low self esteem means putting up with negative behavior you don’t deserve. You don’t have to be good looking to demand respect we all deserve it no matter what we look like. At this point it seems like you’d be grateful for any male attention and that can lead to being strung along. We advocate for not cha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 11:37 PM
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Well I was in a similar situation and my bf was cheating the whole time anyways. I’m guessing this is something she’s trying to do to take control and feel like she has a say in the relationship since he already cheated on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 10:24 AM
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As respectfully as I can say this, I do wonder if he has some form of autism since she says he focuses on one thing without stopping. That could also be a hyper focusing trait of ADHD. But who knows...something is definitely wrong here and neither of those would explain this sexual behavior??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 02:35 AM
3

That’s awesome. We’re leveling up :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 02:26 AM
11

Yes it is. I think if he hadn’t been exposed to it as young as middle school age he wouldn’t be as depressed. He wouldn’t hold such racist beliefs, and he wouldn’t be alone. But unfortunately it’s what he chose and what he continues to choose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 12:52 PM
3

Fetishize is definitely not the right word here...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 07:46 PM
27

And here we have someone who didn’t read the guidebook and doesn’t understand what this sub is for...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 05:08 PM
1

https://www.reddit.com/r/Amiwithanasshol/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 06:24 AM
2

Please join the sub r/amiwithanasshol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 02:42 AM
53

Yeah even if he’s hvm if his families gonna treat me like shit I’m not dealing with that lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 04:54 PM
9

It’s because lots of women focus on helping others and obsessing over LVM instead of focusing on their own problems
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 04:53 PM
5

What about school? I don’t understand people who always say they have all this free time. Take a full course load or AP classes and you will 100% be too busy to think of LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 08:52 AM
13

I’ve met lots of LVM on there. One lived in a hoarders house, one still had nudes of his ex, one tried to get me to a remote location and showed me his baby carrot (🤦🏻‍♀️). One treated his mother badly and wasn’t even aware of it. The rest were just grimy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 03:19 PM
17

Even if it didn’t happen I still wouldn’t use OLD. I think the chances of meeting someone HVM is almost zero. And thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 03:12 PM
40

I don’t use old anymore. It cost me about $700 because the dude got me super sick and coerced me into certain sexual acts. Didn’t have insurance at the time so I paid out of pocket.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 03:04 PM
133

I can’t imagine having some kink or life style like this. This is just honestly disgusting. And I feel bad for children that must bear witness to this foolery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 03:03 PM
3

You need to work on yourself before dating. The way you are making yourself easily available to them is going to get you hurt and seems to already be doing that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 03:56 AM
1

That’s good you’re listening to your intuition it will prevent you from being hurt in the first place. Is this a workplace situation?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 03:48 AM
5

This is an old post from 267+ days ago showing how this sub used to be with guys allowed to post. This isn’t me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 03:41 AM
15

Sounds like you’re wasting time on a guy you already know isn’t right for you. Typical advice from this sub would be to block him and move on. Date multiple people keeping the plates spinning so you don’t develop feelings too fast for one person. Keep them chasing. FWB is definitely not advised, and I suggest reading more about this sub to decide if you actually agree with the radical beliefs. I don’t agree with all of them but I still follow the rules and just read what I agree with. Up to you,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 08:56 PM
16

Your post and question is very hard to read and confusing. Quite a few men on those subs fail to mention that there ARE reasons their SO won’t have sex with them. This could range to them not wanting to perform porn acts their husband wants, not wanting to do anal, not wanting threesomes, and not wanting to have sex because their husband treats them badly. Or they may not want to because they receive no satisfaction from it, like a jack rabbit fuck with not clitoral stimulation. Some women may n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 08:53 PM
3

I’m not trying to say there’s nothing wrong or downplay here but what did he do to make you not like him? Is he harassing you at this point?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 08:38 PM
1

Yeah definitely true...:( I will just ignore him and hope he doesn’t go psycho haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 08:31 PM
8

Lmao yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 06:46 PM
2

Yes they’re pretty weird...the way he flirts is also very weird to me. Thanks for your comment, I’m honestly just glad I don’t pick up every crumb of male attention anymore. Me in the past would be feeding into the breadcrumbing even though I don’t find him attractive. I would have probably been giddy from the low effort attention. Thanks FDS for opening my eyes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 11:19 AM
2

This is not a debate sub. Take this to r/opinions or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 10:19 AM
26

Some gay guys think they can give women advice.but like its all shit advice lmao. Listen to fellow hvw
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 09:47 AM
2

I’m pretty sure if you think about it for more than a minute you can figure it out lol...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 08:18 AM
30

He’s 40...what a dumbass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 06:23 PM
6

Thanks 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 06:12 PM
38

Sometimes I look in the mirror and cry a few tears because I’m finally free again. It’s a good feeling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 08:11 AM
83

Welcome to FDS and the freedom of being single haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 07:34 AM
2

That’s good. I’m glad you’re improving
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:59 AM
1

Are you 100% sure you’re not bisexual or lesbian? I think you should definitely consider this as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:13 AM
10

That’s so sad wtf. If you like taller men then I’d say go for that and just be carefully vetting them. But I understand where you’re coming from. It’s sad we have to worry about this stuff
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:11 AM
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If he apologized and realized that what he did was wrong for any of these it would make it not as bad. But still these things can be a sign that a storm is brewing so I’d keep testing the waters and date other people still. I personally am not as experienced in this sub, but I’m honestly on the fence here as well. So definitely wait it out and notice his behavior. Let him talk a lot and see if he says anything incriminating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:37 AM
8

Good for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:19 AM
9

Why are you in this sub then?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 05:14 AM
15

I agree with you on this. My mom doesn’t have any female friends either and always think people are talking badly about her. She has some deep rooted issues with old female friendships that she hasn’t gotten over and it makes her distrust all women. It’s sad. I also haven’t had “evil glares,” from other women since middle school. But in middle school I dressed VERY weirdly so I think that was the cause of the glares. I feel like overall women are not this petty?? Idk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 10:20 AM
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I really hope this doesn’t come off as mean or judgmental, but I had to go back and read this part a few times. When you said you get a lot of “evil glares,” from women if just stuck out to me. It reminds me of young girls/women that always think other women are their competition. I am aware that women get jealous of each other and sometimes lash out due to those feelings. But overall, I feel like women are pretty supportive of each other. And it makes me wonder if you have some thoughts left ov…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 07:49 AM
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I personally don’t read all the comments and scroll all the way down to see the downvotes as well. I also don’t read all of the posts but I do check the sub everyday. I’m guessing I don’t see it because I sort by hot. And by the time I scroll down further maybe it’s already reported? But yeah I’ve only gotten one message that I blocked. And reported one guy that posted on here, but that’s it. I guess I’m getting lucky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 07:40 AM
2

85%?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 07:08 AM
12

I do everyday. I haven’t seen that so far. Maybe the mods react quickly? I saw a guy on here last week but that’s it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 06:59 AM
22

What advice have they been giving?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 06:49 AM
16

I haven’t seen any yet. Can you link any you see?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 06:46 AM
3

We’re talking about bipolar disorder right? Not borderline personality? Just want to clear that up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:30 PM
2

Yeah they are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 04:25 PM
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Oh okay I didn’t know he was diagnosed with it. And yeah I can see what you mean, my mom has schizoaffective disorder which is kind of bipolar and schizophrenia in one package. But I see a lot of people claim that someone is bipolar simply because of mood swings...and I’ve always found that frustrating honestly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 09:06 AM
14

Yes it’s a reddit post. I think it was on aita. A women kept getting utis because her boyfriend/husband couldn’t properly clean his ass. He also left poop marks on the bed and his underwear because he refused to clean there. Also it seems sort of common for men to think that cleaning their ass properly is gay sooo...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 08:58 AM
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I guess this may be trying to turn the tables on men that claim women have bpd when they actually don’t. However, I don’t like using it as an insult, or armchair diagnosing someone either. This coming from someone who has been to therapy and is diagnosed with some mental disorders. This isn’t BPD. It’s manipulation. Men will depend on women’s natural instinct to comfort. Honestly sounds exactly like my ex. Kind of crazy how good men are at fake crying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 08:50 AM
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I honestly don’t know, but I see where you’re coming from. All I suggest, is to make sure you don’t end up trapped with an LVM not treating you right. Ultimately though, you know what’s best for yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 07:27 AM
1

“Before I marry any women, I tell her I can’t be faithful.” LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 10:38 PM
6

I only read about four sentences until I lost the will. Girl... he has problems he ain’t dealing with you’re not his therapist and he isn’t treating you right. It’s so simple...leave him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 10:22 PM
5

I just got a message lol...I blocked them immediately. I thought it was someone from here that wanted to talk so that was a bit disappointing. Not worth the time trying to explain to someone who only wants to see it from their pov...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 01:19 PM
13

It’s so hard to break past the trauma bonding. Especially when one isn’t aware that it is a thing. It’s like why do I feel so terrible when this person isn’t with me? But I also feel terrible when I’m around them because they treat me like shit? Those rare moments of affection keep one going back it’s so addictive. My brain wasn’t normal when I was in that relationship. Everything was fucked up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 01:17 PM
25

The most painful part is realizing how badly you treat yourself. Looking back and seeing all the signs and bad treatment ignored. Realizing that you put everyone else above you every time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 09:31 AM
2

Oh thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 09:19 AM
8

What’s a lemon. Like you going for an orange and get a lemon. Is that what you mean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 09:12 AM
17

I agree with this but I also must say that if I found this sub earlier I think I would have listened and broken up with my abusive boyfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 09:11 AM
7

I think it’s best to break up with this guy and focus on how to change this behavior. I think going to therapy would help a lot. If you don’t want to do that though, then I suggest reading the full guidebook and every source on this subreddit. Then just tell yourself everyday that you are better than any man will ever be. Even if you don’t believe it at first, keep saying it. I found myself falling for someone thinking oh he’s so cute I hope he asks me out. And I told myself no girl...I’m cute, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 09:07 AM
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I agree. It’s better to calm down and plan so it’s a cleaner break up. It’s safer for women this way. If I could go back and redo my break up with my mentally abusive ex, I would do this instead. I would pack up all my boxes in the span of three days while he was gone, pack it all up and take it to my moms house. I would take every belonging of mine possible and just never talk to him again. He used and abused me multiple times after breaking up. And even though it was a two year relationship, h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 09:04 AM
44

Is he really trying to blame some type of mental illness or psychosis on his cheating...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 09:01 AM
10

I’ve never gotten a message
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 04:50 AM
14

It helps a lot. I used to be severely depressed and suicidal. But I went to therapy for a year, got on meds. But honestly the most effective change was changing the way I think and my view of the world. Beating yourself up mentally just leads to a negative spiral. Also a bit off topic, but I read an article on Snapchat about psychopaths. The man said when he makes mistakes he doesn’t feel bad or guilty. He just thinks where did I go wrong? What can I do to improve next time? Sorry if this sounds…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 09:40 PM
13

Thank you! I try to see the good in everything and I’ve learned in life that beating yourself up inside does nothing for improvement. It just makes you feel worse. So I tell myself okay I made this mistake, and it’s okay I am human. Now how can I do better and prevent this mistake from happening again?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 09:36 PM
1

Read the guide, get a flair, then post if you’re a woman. It explains everything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 09:34 PM
44

Oh but it saves gas money and it’s better for the environment so don’t feel too bad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 09:19 PM
3

Too. Many. Periods but definitely a good way to look at dating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:32 PM
4

I honestly don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day. I never got into it I guess. Today I am frantically trying to catch up on my studying and homework for school lol. I’m hoping to get ahead. Reading the comments though makes me want to plan some galentines events next year. Thanks for the inspo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:03 PM
2

Oh yeah. At the time I saw it as a red flag but at the same time I understood it. Half a year ago I felt similar because I was so stressed and hated where I lived. That I felt if someone messed would me I would just fight them so I decided to accept it as he’s just super stressed. Yes I know that’s dumb now. I’ve learned from this sub when I notice any red flags it’s time to bounce. I also haven’t been in contact with him at all except when he texted me and I told him off. I don’t have his numbe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 11:26 PM
3

Yeah you’re right I’ll try and find some stores here. I just stopped watching porn completely after joining this sub. I didn’t watch it that much in the first place maybe two times a month. But after reading I decided it’s morally wrong to watch it. And I haven’t been masturbating at all because it feels wrong to me for some reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:09 PM
3

Men my age tend to piss me off...maybe it’s better to just stay alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:07 PM
3

Haha yeah probably best for me not to do it. It might affect my family relationships. I’ll buy a vibrator
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:06 PM
1

Sorry where did the violence come from? And don’t worry I ended things a month ago and when he texted me asking for sex I laid him out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:03 PM
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I have a high sex drive and just want some dick lol. That would be why. He hasn’t suggested anything I just find him attractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:02 PM
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No he hasn’t done anything inappropriate. He never did anything to groom me, I barely ever saw or spoke to him when I was underage. The reason I was interested in him is because he’s attractive, in good shape, tall, and I already know he’s a decent person. He hasn’t flirted with me at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:02 PM
2

Oh wow I didn’t even think of the erectile disfunction. And no he didn’t groom me I don’t know him that well. I just see him at family functions and I think he’s a funny person. He never groomed me or even really talked to me at all when I was younger. But I can see where that concern comes from. He actually looks young for his age and is in really good shape so that’s why I was interested. He’s attractive to me. And yeah I make sure to get them tested before I have sex with anyone. Now I’m goin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:00 PM
3

True
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 09:57 PM
10

That’s savage girl. I love it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:18 AM
8

Oh yes I’d love to meet somehow. I can’t afford a cruise though lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:07 AM
1

He got tested for hsv-1, hsv-2, gonorrhea, and chlamydia. After reading your comment it’s making me a bit worried to see my test results... EDIT: I just remembered telling him to ask his doctor to test for herpes as well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 07:01 AM
40

Yeah that’s because it’s a male writer that doesn’t know anything about the female body and has probably never made his wife orgasm. Sad shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 07:48 AM
41

The funny thing is, with a little knowledge and preparation. A woman CAN cum from sucking dick. 69ing can get both off if the woman likes oral. Or she can suck his dick while he fingers her g spot and uses a vibrator. OR use a vibrator and dildo. There are so many options but LVM don’t know shit about women’s pleasure. But for some reason still think they have a golden stroke and are sex gods. Unbelievable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 07:34 AM
12

Read the guidebook
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 04:12 AM
3

I think your message is a bit pickmeisha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 10:50 AM
2

I’d definitely tell him that and see where it goes from there. Good luck!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 10:48 AM
2

Honey I have c-ptsd as well and used to have agoraphobia and am still prone to it at times. That doesn’t mean you can’t find a good man. First you need to work on your mental health. Go to therapy, consider medication, have internal dialogues with yourself. And if you notice the dialogue is mostly negative challenge that negative voice. Start adding positive voices. For now, you are in a vulnerable spot so avoiding men is the best choice. Work on your life and happiness. When you feel stable and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 10:43 AM
3

Okay from hearing all that he sounds like a decent guy. I’m new to this sub so maybe I’m not the best judge, but he seems like a good guy especially considering your young ages. As long as you two are able to openly communicate, and he deals with his insecurities in a healthy way I think it’ll be fine. Just watch and make sure his over protectiveness doesn’t escalate. As long as he doesn’t start trying to control you I think it’s normal. One worry I have though is are you not enjoying it because…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 10:30 AM
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Oh I’m sorry. It was confusing to me but thank you for explaining. Honestly, he needs to get over it because women have other partners in life. I’m sure he’s had sex with other people before committing to you so it’s not rational to be upset like that. Even if you had sex with your ex it shouldn’t be a problem at all. So he should definitely work through this insecurity, it is entirely his problem not yours. If he has that much trauma I think therapy is needed for him. Did anything happen after …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 09:35 AM
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My ex lvm of two years always tried to fuck me when I started crying. He would immediately get hard from it. Fucking disgusting. Anyways he abused me for two years. Insulting everything about me, controlling what I wore, making me do sexual acts I didn’t want to, not caring when sex hurt me, and cheating the whole time. Men like this are hot flaming garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 09:33 AM
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Holy shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 09:17 AM
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I’m happy for you honey! Good things are on the horizon, just have to get over that initial hump of depression and you’ll be feeling way better without him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 09:15 AM
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That’s so awesome honey! I’m in the same boat as you being a newbie, so I wish you well! You will learn a lot in this sub! The guidebook is like a holy grail for dating HVM haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 09:08 AM
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Did you cheat on him? What does “stuff” mean? Maybe I’m misreading I don’t understand
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 08:45 AM
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“No one else will ever be willing to deal with you and your problems.” He said after cheating on me the whole time during our two year relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 04:24 AM
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You weren’t awful to him at all. This shows he is a LVM. You need to get the hell out of that relationship. It is typical for a LVM to blame the problem on the women when she tells him she is bothered by something. It’s called gaslighting. It makes you question yourself. If you’re too sensitive, if you’re not a good person. When in reality the guy is just treating you like dirt and is trying to keep you where he wants you by flipping the script. Please leave him honey. Also you are not high main…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 03:49 AM
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Thank you!!! Time to level up haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 03:26 AM
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Ah yeah I will from now on...I know my worth now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 03:23 AM
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Ah no he definitely should! Good for you for sticking up for yourself and your health!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 03:16 AM
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LVM have such egos but act like whiney cry babies. I guess that’s why they leech on women for the confidence boost. Funny, since most women are too nice to be honest about what they don’t like about men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 09:46 PM
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I used to be so confused on why men did things. Now I’ve realized that if I’m confused it’s most likely not worth talking to them anymore. The things he did that confused me were listed in the guidebook, so now I know it was manipulation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 09:44 PM
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Oh my bad, I wasn’t aware of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 09:42 PM
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That’s so pathetic of him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 09:39 PM
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Coconut oil? If you mean for lube that can cause yeast infections :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 06:21 PM
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Thank you. I’m getting a second round of antibiotics today along with a blood test. I’m hoping I’ll be fully recovered in a few weeks. The first round didn’t work though so we’ll see. Doctor said there might be another problem
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 03:14 PM
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I read that post. I’m going to research more about it. I do enjoy it when it’s done properly, but I think I’m better off using beads. I have done therapy and am planning to get back into it once I have insurance. Thank you 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 03:12 PM
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Thank you. I love the support here 💖. It’s really nice of you to say that. And yes you’re right I’m already getting better with the help of my family and this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 01:30 PM
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I’m staying celibate for a year to work on my self worth and boundaries. Even my ex that was super controlling and abusive knew not to do that. (A to V). It’s shocking that an adult man couldn’t comprehend how much of a health risk it is. And if he knew, didn’t care, and denied it...that is especially heinous. I have a problem where when I’m having sex I’m in a haze and when he kept insisting over and over saying it’s fine. And I shouldn’t worry so much I just let him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 01:26 PM
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It shows that you are a good person with empathy for feeling bad for him. It is in your nature and you shouldn’t deny your nature or feel bad for being an inherently caring person. Unfortunately, men take advantage of this. So don’t send him any birthday texts. As time goes on, you’ll slowly forget him maybe even faster if you’re really busy in life. Something that helps me is thinking “would he feel the same/do the same for me?” If the answer is no it usually shuts my empathy down for them haha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 11:45 AM
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Of course. I hope it’s decent quality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 09:38 AM
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I’ve been on the sub and they said they’ll ban you for too low or too high scores. But it’s so obvious it’s skewed in favor towards men smh. I read through all of the rules and rating guides.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 09:32 AM
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Well yes I do think most women do it for their boyfriend. But I personally don’t like the hassle of condoms and worrying about them break. I don’t think they’re effective enough personally. ALSO sex personally feels better to me without a condom. Even when it properly fits it just doesn’t feel as good to me. But I will say majority of men would never be willing to take Bc and deal with the symptoms. Women are always expected to make the sacrifice
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 09:30 AM
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A Low Value Man is someone who has potential as a human being, but squanders it. A LVM may have inherent talents, good looks, and charm but doesn’t bother refining it. For example, they may be great at the piano and had lessons paid for by their family. Yet they decide to play video games instead. Or they may naturally have great hair that they don’t bother washing. This could go on and on, with not dressing well or taking proper care of their hygiene. They most likely don’t know basic life skil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 09:19 AM
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I’m glad :) good luck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 05:30 PM
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That’s an awesome response. I think it shocks them and may even make em feel a bit guilty or embarrassed haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 11:04 AM
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Just don’t rush. It’s an important part of this sub to also be a hvw. Not taking time to reflect after a past relationship failed can lead to problems and confused feelings in the next relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 08:32 AM
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Yes I get you. It’s good you still open your heart to others. Just be careful. It’s terrible how awful men can be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 06:16 AM
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Honestly you don’t seem stupid to me in this situation. I think you just need to learn not to put all your eggs in one basket. Which would mean not putting so much hope in one man. It also doesn’t help to fantasize about it going well something I’m guilty of. The guidebook says to date multiple guys at once which helps prevent idolizing one man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 06:05 AM
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Don’t say anything. If you feel the need to respond say something polite like same to you. But really saying nothing is best imo. I remember saying stuff like no worries good luck on your dating journey. 👋🏻 Edit: sometimes men go after women out of their league just for an ego boost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 05:45 AM
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You seem too good for him. That’s all I have to say
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 05:42 AM
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You already have your answer. Why would you want to waste time with a man in another country anyways? Are they close by like an hour away or lower?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 05:30 AM
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I hope so but I think it will be at least $100. I’m completely broke right now I’m hoping I can get a job soon. I think I might be able to get medical and my aunt offered to help me pay so there’s that. UPDATE: My aunt is taking me to a clinic tomorrow. Thank god. Last time I went to a local clinic by myself and it went terribly...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 02:47 AM
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Yeah and asking out during night only at the very beginning. And texting at night only
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 02:41 AM
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Don’t do it. You will feel like shit and be depressed for awhile afterwards. Not worth it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 02:37 AM
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I’d recommend reading the full guidebook and taking a break to assess your goals in life and what you want. Maybe take a month off. Me personally, I’m staying celibate and single for a year. Then I’ll be employing the FDS rules in action.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 02:36 AM
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I’m glad you didn’t text him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 02:28 AM
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Yeah it probably was. Honestly it’s a good thing you saw his shiftiness before wasting your time with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 02:12 AM
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Yeah FDS can be brutally honest. I feel guilty sometimes talking like that but it is necessary for improvement here. I like that they call me out on my bs haha. And I feel you on that, I used to think similar things about my ex and it made me excuse his terrible behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 01:03 AM
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Honestly, if we were just going by the guidebook, it would say to dump him block and move on. But I don’t think many people want to be that cut throat. It’s common for men to be lovey dovey and put a lot of effort in until they get comfortable and stop trying. Here are some options I’ve thought of: 1. Talk to him about the relationship and why he’s like this. Tell him you’re unhappy and unimpressed. And you have other men that are interested in you that you’re going to go on dates with. This wil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 01:01 AM
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Girl I just skimmed because the answer is you’re not following FDS guidelines. You’re supposed to date multiple people until you have a solid commitment. You’re wasting your time on someone ten years older than you who loses value steadily each year he ages, and already lives far away. You’re 20 in the prime of your life. You can keep talking to him, but at the very least PLEASE go talk to other romantic interests. Especially since they’re HVMs. And why waste time on and older man who lives so f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 12:49 AM
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Casually insulting something about you. Trying to lightweight make you feel bad about something that might be a possible insecurity. I had a rando dm me and ask how tall I was. I’m about an inch taller than the average women. But he said wow you’re really tall for a girl. I’m guessing his expectation was for me to ask him if I really was and seek validation from him. But instead of that, I told him I wished I was taller. That definitely threw him off. Usually when men try to bs me I go off. But …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 12:45 AM
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This is pickmeisha all the way...I used to be like this too. It’s like a horny monster talking to a beautiful angel. 1. Puts up with his gross introduction which is super disrespectful. 2. Double texts saying nice things about him twice. Like...why sis?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 12:39 AM
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It is necessary for FDS to be slightly harsh. It wakes women up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 12:36 AM
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I’m mad because I already got treated but it didn’t work...health is so expensive ;(. Dang yeah I didn’t realize it was that bad I’m glad I’m going soon!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:44 PM
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Thank you! 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:01 PM
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Oh god...I’ve had this for over a month now...I’m getting kind of scared. And yes I made an appointment thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:00 PM
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It’s really sad how many girls and women grow up without having any standards. Or having really bad standards ingrained in them from ignorant family members. It’s so widespread :( and thank you again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 11:14 AM
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Yeah I think I am just very naive with dating. I’ve only been in one serious relationship and it was abusive with an older man when I was still in HighSchool (18/25). That ingrained in me a very unhealthy view of consent. So I’m still learning how to properly date and maintain boundaries . But FDS is a life changer. I think I will do a lot better now that I have a guide. Before I was aimless and completely lost on how to act. And now I have a good basis for my standards and behavior. Thank you f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 11:04 AM
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Oh I see that’s good to know. And no I don’t unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:10 AM
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Thank you I’m honestly tearing up from the support. I’ve never felt this welcomed in a community. It’s so well kept. It’s the first time I’ve felt like I had a safe space.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:04 AM
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Why would living by a border matter? Sorry I just don’t know about that stuff. Also I’m not sure what to do because I’m still on my parents health net insurance but I can’t use it where I live because I moved too far. I would cancel my insurance just to go to planned parenthood for free. But I’m scared I won’t be able to get my psych medicine anymore. I think I can go to planned parent hood for $100? I went to a clinic and the lady was really off she was a physicians assistant not a doctor and s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:00 AM
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It takes a long time to build self esteem and it never ends. But I think this sub will help a lot. Good luck to you as well 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 07:38 AM
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Honestly I feel like people that give out gifts at the beginning of relationships, especially pricey ones are very suspicious and probably aren’t worth your time anyways. You don’t owe them anything not even a response. Now if it was something cheap, maybe like a single red rose it wouldn’t be too bad. But expensive stuff at the very beginning of dating is a big red flag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 04:37 AM
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I would argue that you’re not asking for enough honestly. Not trying to attack you but I think you deserve more than the bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 04:24 AM
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This is fds and the guide says that when men treat you badly and make you feel like shit, you block and move on. No negotiations, no excuses for his behavior. Block. And. Move. On. You can easily meet someone better. If you want to give him closure just call and tell him that you’re not happy and want to end it. Don’t let him talk to you about it he will try to convince you to stay and may even try to manipulate you. You should end it as soon as possible so you can meet other people and or focus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 04:17 AM
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