Since commenter “Black & German” requested that I make this observation of mine into its own separate post, and since I want to focus on being just a weebit more responsive to my readers, here it is, a kind of “Part Two” of my recent “A Woman’s Nation: The Acid Test” post; as always, comment and reply, invited!

Holla back:

“As much as I would like to remain optimistic about things, I fear that things will get worse before they get better on this front. Simply put, we are now entering a generational phase where Women are outearning Men almost across the board-and this WILL have real consequences in the dating realms. What you’re talking about is also age sensitive-I’d say Women post-30-but even there, for “Todd Palin Men”-Blue Collar types-there have been articles that have appeared in the NYT that clearly shows such Men aren’t as likely to marry, nor are there any Women presenting themselves to them much.

And then there’s the things both Nova and Deery mentioned, and we can put that together with your recent linking to that NYT article that featured all those ostensibly high-powered Women:

-Nova mentioned the book The Big Sort, which speaks to how we’re increasingly becoming a segregated country along many lines and on many fronts, by our own volition and to our great detriment-this speaks particularly to assortative mating, and as we all know, Women drive the sexual marketplace; what they do, Men follow, for the most part.

-Deery noted that few Women will travel and/or move explicitly for the purposes of love, romance or even sex, although the latter can and does happen wrt vacation cruises and the like, which Women go on more than do Men, perhaps in part because they can afford to do so (although, money or not, I’ve never been interested in paying lots of money to basically get something that I could get at home-I always wanted to go to really different places: Cambodia, India, parts of Africa and the Middle East, other spots in Southeast Asia-and I’ve found that not too many Women are particularly crazy about that, LOL).

-And Meep’s linking to that NYT piece really brings all this home-it never occurs to the Women featured in the article that there’s a world outside of NYC-whats the chances of *ever* running into a “Todd Palin” there? And even among the “Todd Palins” in and around NYC, these ladies’ attitudes completely shoots their own feet off. Why do I say that? Because again-in the mating dance, Women, like all Females, sets the tone, whether they like it or not. Never once did any of those Women consider their own role to play in things, and automatically assumed that they guys they were with “couldn’t handle their success/wealth/smarts/etc. Well, I’m here to just point out a few things:

1. When it comes to the current day economy, NO ONE’S SAFE. People who are on top today, could very well be a footnote tomorrow. We’ve all seen this happen in ways big and small over the course of the past decade, so don’t even front. There’s no such thing as company loyalty, no gold watch, sometimes you don’t even get a going away party-you just get escorted to the door by the goons, box of stuff in hands if your a cubicle dweller, and that’s about it. One reason why more and more Men are “disappearing” from the work world is because they know the game is rigged, and want no part of it. They know, firsthand, what a lot of Women-those same high-powered types-are about to experience over the course of this decade-that you can and will be replaced, when such time comes that you’re either too expensive to keep around or are in some other way perceived as dead wood and the higherups need a scapegoat and plausible deniability as a cover for their own incompetence. And girlfriend’s body will still be warm while they unceremoniously remove her name off the door, cleanout whatever’s left of her grand office, the band will play on, and she’ll be forgotten inside a month. If that long.

2. Therefore, a lot of Women are headed for a seriously rude awakening in the next decade-many of them will enter their 30s, 40s and beyond, and despite their probable financial success, will in truth have little to show for it. Not only will they get chewed up in the corporate grinder, but they will have wasted their best years doing so, while at the same time trying to chasedown guys who were never going to commit to them in the first place. Sure, some will have kids along the way, and others will find solace in their pet causes-but there’s really no substitute for a companion and life mate. Which brings me to the next point…

3. A lot of these Women have got it all wrong, gotten Life itself all wrong. Which reall isn’t surprising since Women are more likely to buy into the Matrix moreso than Men (Men tend to be outside the box thinkers-go back to the school thing. One big reason why Women excel in school moreso than Men is because they’re more likely to go along to get along), and only when theyr backs are against the wall do they finally start to get a clue. Of course by that time, the guys they wanted are gone, having used them up, and the guys that they didn’t want, *don’t want them now*. They could easily find other gals who aren’t as much of a hassle, or simply enjoy life ala Todd Palin-style-hunting, fishing and the like half the year, working in the great outdoors the other half, in quiet, slower paced surroundings. Lots of guys are starting to figure out what Todd Palin knew years ago-that true happiness comes from living the kind of life you want, and that doesn’t always mean being a corporate bigshot. In fact, for many, many Men, it won’t mean that at all.

In truth, who earns a bigger paycheck, or who went to this school or that, or what your “friends” and “colleagues” think of who you spend your time and dime on and with, all of that is Bullshit-because in the end, and trust me on this, I’ve seen enough death and misery to last two lifetimes, none of that’s gonna matter. What matters is having someone to share your life with, who’s your companion, mate and lover, who you can enjoy quiet time with, and so on. What matters is having someone who gives a damn about for more than a pump and dump, who respects and treats you with human decency, and who is a witness to your life.

Personally, I rather welcome the “turn” of events, because, like the old saying goes: tough times don’t build character; they reveal it. With more and more Men not being the breadwinners they used to be, and with more Women getting higher educations and salaries, we will soon see what people on both sides of the aisle are truly made of. Sure, there are a lot of loser guys, but that’s nothing new, nor is it the sole preserve of the poor-as many of these Women soon find out, having money and lots of degrees has little to no bearing whatsoever on one’s character.

And with Women now fully in the driver’s seat-like that which are featured in the NYT piece Meep linked to earlier-they’ll have no one to blame but themselves if things go south. Afterall, according to the rules they bought into hook, line and sinker, they’re in control, or at least a large part of it. If that’s so, why blame the guys solely? No one made these Women live in NYC-one of thee roughest dating environments on the planet. No one made them chase down guys they knew from the get go, were problematic. And no one made them go on and on about their success, as if that somehow makes a difference between the sheets. It’s all a crock.” The Obsidian