How do you build a strong frame?

MotiMorphosys · 2018-07-03T05:29:15+00:00

You focus on yourself and your own self improvement. Get really fucking good at it.

you already mentioned LIFT. That's definitely important. Get really fucking good at it.

Focus on your job. Get promoted. Become in charge of managing people. Get really fucking good at it.

Focus on a craft. Like an instrument, or acting, or martial arts, or a sport... Get really fucking good at it.

when you get really fucking good at something, you have frame. People look up to you and they respect you when you are in your element and environment. People that you look at that you think of us having frame, are really just in their environment. If you would have put them in a different environment, they would have far less frame and control.

RylanBlackwood · 2018-07-03T11:05:09+00:00

Nobody on this planet can do anything to you that will ever emotionally affect you in anyway.

Imagine you're a rock, a rock that nobody can chip.

Just get up tomorrow and consciously decide that you're now a rock.

urbanbooks140 · 2018-07-03T08:48:58+00:00

Let's give you a hypothetical test: Go to and public place park, side or any place with lots of people and then lay there on ground and then you will feel the sociatal pressure of other peopleand you will want to move. But resist the urge and stay there. And then you will get used to it. By staying there and resisting the urge to move which resisting other people's influence and staying calm. That is frame

This is an exaggerated example. But I do something similar to this from time to time. And then you reliaze you don't give a shit about other people's thoughts and are interrupted by their influence.

Then there are the sublte ones that are hard to notice but they still influence and impact us like when a friend tells you something or a girl you like saying something bad of you and those are the dangerous ones

The best way I would decribe it as not listen to anyone's criticism or complain of you. Ignore or AA. Only you can critisize yourself and you couldn't care less about what other people say what they think is right or wrong. it's your life and your gonna do whatever you want

It's a mixture of an healthy amount of narcissism and IDGAF attitude which hugely overlap with each other

Morphs_ · 2018-07-03T10:10:46+00:00

Go through shit.

Last December I was in Poland for an Iceman training. You know, meditating in ice water. Climbing mountains in what felt like -30 degrees, shirtless, to deal with the cold.

Hard as fuck, but it builds tremendous internal power and frame.

Go out of your little comfort zone.

QuantumSpecter · 2018-07-03T05:35:25+00:00

I guess to dumb it down. Dont let things bother you. Stay true to yourself, dont let emotions get the better of you. Dont care about rejection. Dont lose ur cool.

Girls you talk to will say things to throw you off, they are called shit tests. Read about all this stuff in the side bar for a better answer. Males will also challenge you, you see it some times on this subreddit. Other users will make you feel like a bitch. Dont lose ur cool and look stupid. Learn from it.

Please someone explain this better cause im on my phone rn

AnotherDisposableMan · 2018-07-03T04:42:20+00:00

There's a concept called fudoshin.......this is what literally helped me cement my reality. FUDOSHIN.

Ohboohoolittlegirl · 2018-07-03T10:10:05+00:00

Frame is when you can keep your sets of core values and beliefs without interference from others, when this core-set is strong enough, it doesn't matter what someone else does, or what they say about you. It slides off cause you know better

abudun79 · 2018-07-03T10:41:59+00:00

First of all you need a frame, it's not going to be strong from the beginning. Your frame is your set of values, your way of handling things and your desires that you follow, and so on and so on. You already have that or are you used to do what people tell you?

When you're assigned with a task, do you ask others how you should proceed or do you find a way and ask someone to assist you?

Every now and then reasses your frame. Does it still serve you? Things change though the years.

Your frame gets strong by sticking to it. So, everytime someone asks you to do this or that, you don't do it right away and you don't deny it right away. You consider it. If it fits you frame, you might go on. If you find your frame not optimal (or not present at all) on the topic at hand, you improve your frame and adopt to the situation. But you never act against your believes and values. By refusing to do so and either dragging people in your frame or finding a middle ground that's within your values, you strengthen your frame.

It's solid and strong when people know what to expect from you and act accordingly; that is, some testing and lot's of cooperation, not the other way.

tikitheman · 2018-07-03T04:20:14+00:00

Step one stop giving a flying fuck.

Title	How do you build a strong frame?
Author	hopinghobby
Upvotes	7
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Date	July 3, 2018 4:06 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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