A meditation on manhood, "bad-asses" and the war on men - in a car blog! Well worth the read.

stemgang · 2012-04-21T23:45:13+00:00

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Senor_Porfirio · 2012-04-22T14:54:01+00:00

Great essay.

Baruth doesn't speculate as to why the Affliction douchebags and muscleheads are proliferating, but it's a very important piece of the puzzle. As the position of women has risen in stature, due to women's liberation, the man's role as provider has been diminished or dashed completely. Their enhanced career prospects, and their newfound ability to delay childbirth and thus marriage with contraceptives, now allow them to dally with hyper-masculine, sexy but unstable, untrustworthy men. Women are marrying at the age of 28 or so, and live anonymous lives in big cities beforehand, in a time where no one expects them to be a virgin when he proposes. That means she is free to have sex with abandon, with the shiniest bauble at the bar. And since she isn't looking for a husband currently, it's okay if he has other women on the side, or that he won't call her again.

Who gets laid more, the man with tribal tattoos, or the man worrying about the well-being of some pond fish? It sounds like a crass question - but in evolutionary terms, when sex was inextricably linked to childbirth, the men who get laid less get wiped out over time. Put differently, when the good quiet man is losing in the mating game to the crude loudmouth, women have effectively deigned the former a loser.

Changes in society have unleashed female sexuality, and allowed it to indulge itself to destabilizing excess. We already knew what unrestricted male sexuality looks like, that is, when the man has his druthers - sex with lots of attractive women with no investment of time or money. And now we are getting to see what the female variant looks like, and it ain't pretty either - you may even recognize it... Attractive women in their prime (16-24) sleep with various unattainably high status men, without much expectation or even desire for commitment. She will in fact make herself undateable, by filling her schedule with various other commitments and priorities that make her fit only for the occasional romp in the sheets. She accrues several sexual partners and eventually heartbreak from the refusal of the high status men to commit.

She tires of this at around age 26 or so, and only then starts to seek a husband and moderate their drive to consort with the highest status man around, in return for greater male investment. In this environment, there is less reward to being a man of great accomplishments and modest appearance. His reward, at best, is a rapidly depreciating Beemer that he's got to pay out the nose for to maintain, when all the previous drivers got to drive it in its prime hard and fast, for free. Who'd take that deal? It's hard to fault the douchebags when there's method to their madness.

It hasn't gotten as bad as it could be - people still have monogamous relationships long before marriage - but it takes time for our mores and behavior to adjust to a change in circumstances. But over the past 50 years, adjust it has. And as long as women have contraceptives and economic independence, we will continue on this trajectory.

Also, women have evolved to look for markers of status and health, to the point where the markers are more important than the reality. If you're a veritable bad-ass but no one can tell, all your exploits are good for nothing. You won't be getting the women wet with your feats when you just look normal. Thus, men who appear to be raging criminals and such have far more allure than the silent operator.

Title	A meditation on manhood, "bad-asses" and the war on men - in a car blog! Well worth the read.
Author	EvilPundit
Upvotes	17
Comments	4
Date	April 21, 2012 10:25 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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