Recently got fired from my job and now I am depressed help?

2012-03-31T11:16:49+00:00

Try to work out as much as possible. It will give you a natural boost and more confidence as you get in better shape.

LeonidLeonov · 2012-03-31T09:29:11+00:00

You've got to get some control back. Feeling like you don't control your own destiny is very depressing, and can really sneak up on you.

Pick a project, and carry it through to the end. Make it challenging, but achievable.

It doesn't have to cost anything except your time. My two were learning a new computer language, and sanding and painting our deck. The latter cost a hundred bucks in stain and sandpaper but was by far the most satisfying for me, as it was completely new to me and I thought I'd probably fuck it up. It turned out great!

The_Patriarchy · 2012-03-31T09:49:19+00:00

Ideally, you could ask for help from family/friends. If that's not an option, something that's helped me in the past (for depression and anxiety) was this little bit of CBT I picked up in college. Get yourself a journal. Every time you think something awful, you write down the date, time, the awful thought and a more reasonable thought to counter it. For example:

03/31/12 -- 5:30 AM -- "no one called me to hang out last night, it must be because I'm a horrible person and they want nothing to do with me" -- "I normally work on Friday nights, and I didn't actually let anyone know I was off...they probably just assumed I was busy with work"

After you write something down, read all of the other entries. Seeing all of the faulty thinking laid bare like that really takes its power away.

Aside from that, you might want to learn to say "fuck it". There are a lot of things that are just outside of your control. Worrying about them isn't going to fix it and might actually cause you some serious problems (stress kills).

Also, try to remember that things do have a way of working out. Your dreams might not come true, but life has a way of working out when you actually work at it.

Oh, and meditation can help too. A simple way to meditate is to sit down somewhere quiet in a comfortable position. Close your eyes, breathe in through your nose, and out through your mouth. Take slow, deliberate breaths. Each time, try to pinpoint the exact moment the breath changes direction. Do this for as long as you like, though I used to find that a little bit of that went a long way (usually around 4 - 5 breaths). You can also try other forms of meditation, though I'd avoid anything that mentions "spirit guides"/etc. because it's retarded bunk peddled by idiots and charlatans.

But yeah, try to talk to someone in your life...it really is your best bet. Good luck man.

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carbonnanotube · 2012-03-31T18:49:48+00:00

If you have a bike, ride it. I am a little biased on the matter as cycling enthusiast, but your bike can take you out into the beautiful country side where you can work through what is going on in you head. It is amazing what an hour on the saddle can do for you, especially since exercising releases endorphins.

EDIT: Just thought of a good analogy: It is like your thought time in the shower except with scenery and nature.

rodvanmechelen · 2012-04-01T01:43:47+00:00

Were I 30 or even 20 years younger, I would move to one of the oil boom towns of the Bakken, where the unemployment rate is extremely low and the income is very high. Alternately, I would look into training to operate aerial drones. With less than 2 years of training, students are landing jobs paying well in excess of $100k per year. Soon, the FDA is expected to allow tens of thousands of drones in America airspace. My suggestion, consider this as an opportunity to take advantage of these fantastic employment opportunities.

NiceGuysSTFU · 2012-03-31T16:00:44+00:00

I would reckon being terminated from a job is always a massive blow to a person, but in this economy, it seems like the dark cloud would be darker and more long-lasting. Everyone has given really good advice so far. Mine would be to stick to a normal work-like routine at home as much as possible. Devote 8 hours per day doing things like polishing your resume, job-hunting, improving your skills, getting some exercise, volunteering, etc.

Title	Recently got fired from my job and now I am depressed help?
Author	kingoff00ls
Upvotes	5
Comments	8
Date	March 31, 2012 9:14 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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