Hi,

So I’ve (23 year old from Holland) been following TRP for quite some time. Made some improvements, got a decent job to combine with my bachelor’s, did some good resume building, joined student life more, fucked 4 girls, travelled etc...

But looking at what I have now, it feels and is going like everything is passing by on me, while everyone around me seems to be having succes. Last few months:

  • Need a year extra to finish my bachelor’s because of a burnout
  • Lost job and now near broke, now no stable income besides some small assignments as a self employed
  • Now it’s summer break, but I am stuck with working a physical demanding job 5 days a week. And even if I did have time I would not have the people to visit events/travel with aside from a best friends. Actions earlier take to counter friends issue gave temporarily or no consistent results.
  • Parents divorced, I want to rent a room to have my own space/organize parties/bring home girls, but don’t want to leave my father alone.
  • Broke up with my LTR, she simply had to go. No old functional plates to spin. Tinder not as successful as it used to be. Met a cool girl, she ended up falling in love with me but having fear of intimacy and is scared.

In the past I did hope and think that I would turn the tie to a positive way. But the effort and changes did not last or things fell apart partly outside my control. Right now I don’t feel like any effort will turn this, for once and for all, and feel strongly that I miss out on everything guys my age are doing. Like it’s a war I can’t win. Is it all worth it?