Right, so about 3 weeks ago I came across TRP. Read the sidebar multiple times and realised all of the blue pill sins I have been making in my 17 years of living.

To cut the story short, there's this girl who I've had severe oneitis with for about a year. We aren't in a LTR and she has made that strictly clear and shut me down about it whenever I have brought it up. She is beautiful and has a huge pair of tits, bigger than many other women, anyway, she and I are both virgins. Well, I'm 99.99999999% sure she is. I've done all of the typical blue pill flags:

  • Buy her gifts, pay for ALL dates, even to the extent of getting her ubers to go out to places where I'm not even going (I've spent at least a good £400/$500 on her in the last few months)

  • Tell her I love her first, although she said it back

  • Always validating her, constantly calling her for hours and talking about rubbish and not actually getting her on a date

  • Always being the one to ask her on dates, and again, always being the one getting declined with no reschedule yadayadayada anyway

Like I mentioned before, we haven't had sex and haven't even been close. We've made out a few times, and I've been able to touch her at most. Whenever I have tried to talk about the opportunity of sex or anything she always sighs and rambles on about how she isn't ready for that yet. She has said that she wants to have sex with me but not right now and she feels the same with everyone. Maybe she actually wants me to wait or maybe (the most likely option) she is saying this solely to keep me interested. I even thought that she might be frigid or asexual at one point, and thats why she doesn't want to have sex with me.

What really fucks with me is that she gets mad if I like other girls' instagram pictures, talk about other girls being good looking etc. She specifically doesn't want to be in a relationship, but gives me the relationship burden without the BENEFITS of sex or anything else. She wants me to be exclusive and says that she is exclusive to me also.

𝐓𝐋;𝐃𝐑 - Been orbiting this girl for a whole year, validated her, bought her things and she tells me she isnt ready to do anything sexual with me (she is a virgin)

I've wrote a fuck ton, my apologies, anyway TRP - my question to you with this information is, is she genuinely not ready to have sex with anyone? (she is a virgin I suppose) or is she lying and fucking chad behind my back?

If she genuinely is not ready, any way I can make her feel more attraction towards me in order for her to feel like she is ready?

Have I completely fucked it with this girl? Has the last year just been a waste or can I still manage to get her in my bed?