(Xpost from AskReddit)...guy is lost after his now EX changed her mind and had an abortion despite his wishes. just thought he could use some support from here.

mymarrowsjustlow · 2011-09-07T13:43:26+00:00

I went through something similar. Shit sucks. You are the invisible victim and expected to just shrug it off and bounce back like nothing happened.

I still think about it everyday and know how old he/she would be. There is no easy way to deal with this kind of loss because it is so intangible and due to social and cultural expectations.

Scott2508 · 2011-09-07T13:12:35+00:00

im disgusted by some of the responses on there, while its her body her choice yadeyadeya the fact that he is being told to "just get over it" and "be thankful she had the choice" many of them seem to want to dismiss the sense of loss and grieving that he is obviously suffering .

Scott2508 · 2011-09-07T17:39:16+00:00

eh this sums up my view on the whole thing http://rantings.scottmclelland.co.uk/#post5

hardwarequestions · 2011-09-07T05:32:32+00:00

Looks like the downvote brigade has come over.

Scott2508 · 2011-09-07T15:36:10+00:00

You guys fight for men's right to not support a baby if he doesn't want to. to not get stuck paying child support if he didn't agree to be a father. but you guys can't understand when a women doesn't want to be a mother?

I'm not trying to be rude but I don't understand how you can get attached to something you've never met or is even developed. He is crying at the idea that being a father was torn away from him, it's more than the abortion he's crying about. Which that i understand.

Biology and evolution aren't fair. As a female I get horrible, painful periods monthly that make me nauseous, depressed, bend over in pain, I have problems even standing up and walking. All this for a damn kid. Which actually has me hating evolution even more. Anyway, my body, my life, my health. My decision. no one in this world can force another human being to be a prisoner and violate his body.

Maybe in the future we'll have artificial wombs and then men and women won't need each other. Until then this is how things are. Women's decision. Also, he was a jerk for calling her selfish And basically dumping her while she was under stress and scared.

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