Diversity in Dating

ManThoughts · 2011-07-07T23:57:53+00:00

If she wants interracial dating to be more accepted, she should be preaching at women, not men. A recent Time Magazine study showed men were more open to interracial relationships than women. And anecdotally, I've experienced this firsthand when i was in a LTR with a black girl. Guys didn't care, women were catty and passive-aggressive about it.

mtux96 · 2011-07-08T04:25:30+00:00

I’ve known white men who say that they are just “more attracted” to Asian women (not too long after these remarks, I slowly edge out of the room). But of course that’s not true. They’re “more attracted” to what they think Asian women are — that is, what they want Asian women to be. As soon as they find out that I am as far from a docile, domestic doll as can be, I’m not Asian enough for them anymore.

That's a very subtle racist comment and is assuming these guys left her because they thought she wasn't asian enough. It's an assumption based on her personal perspective. It's just like any relationship you enter into. At first, you are just getting to know them and are initially attracted to them based on how you first perceive them. As time goes on, you start learning more about them and find out they are not right for you so you move on. I'm not saying that some people don't leave people because they are not "asian" "white" or "black" enough for them, but trying to claim that everyone is leaving you because of that is a bad, horrible racist stereotype.

The other comment I have is about the "fetishizing" of asian women by white men. I'm a white man and I do like a lot of asian women, but it's not because they are asian, but because of the personalities of the individual. If I could have find a white woman, latin woman or *insert race here* woman that matched the personality I was looking for, then I would have dated them as well as long as they were single. It wasn't really the race I was looking at, but rather the personality. More Asian woman matched more of what I was looking for in a lifelong partner, though like all races and people, there's a mix as well there some I would never even consider based on how they acted. But primarily, my main search was to find someone that would match with me.

getthefuckoutofhere · 2011-07-08T05:18:43+00:00

So why I have always dated white men? Because I’m surrounded by them. I grew up in the most typical suburban area imaginable. Almost everyone is white – I was one of three people of color in my graduating class. For better or for worse, I still have a weakness for Oxford shirts—and don’t even get me started about Oxford shoes. Honestly, there aren’t many options for men of any other race.

what a load of bullshit. men who want to date asians are looking for some "submissive doll" but ol' sideways vagina here who solely dates white men has some "legitimate" excuse. "why, there are simply so many white men, and so few asian, black or hispanic men". Yeah, that sounds believable.

Title	Diversity in Dating
Author	thetrollking
Upvotes	1
Comments	4
Date	July 7, 2011 11:27 PM UTC (15 years ago)
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