That pretty much sums it up.

Example: if my boss says something that pisses me off I can shrug it off because he won't pick at me trying to reveal a weakness.

My girl on the other hand will say something on the order of "I'm gonna go study with a friend...(1 minute later)...your mood just changed, what's wrong?" And keep asking about it. Even the slightest change in me will illicit this reaction from her.

I'm probably being AFC, but changing my belief system regarding women is a growth process, so I'm still on training wheels.

What's the best way to hold frame in such situations?