When I say initiative, I mean dates and things alike. Initiative with sex and similar am I fine with initiating myself.

 

Tinder match. We chat for a few weeks over snapchat/fcb and decide to meet. Have sex, but I'm having some issues performing(see post history). Since then, I've seen her twice. All three times has been my suggestion. Again, I'm fine with leading and setting up dates. However, now it kinda feels like she's just saying yes to not seem "mean". There's very little drive from her regarding making plans. She's either very passive, great at sending mixed signals or I'm completely lost and doesn't understand what's going on. My bet is on first and last.

I told her to meet me one day. She had to cancel since she was working. Fine, it happens. I give her an alternative date and she's free. Lunch and hanged out in the park. I ask her to meed me again today, again she agreed. We had lunch and relaxed in the park. When she has to go I ask her, jokingly, "so when's the next time we see each other? Or have you had enough of me?". She responds with "mmh yeah, I'm fed up". She's great with irony and I pick up on it. I respond back with "yeah, that's it. No more". I let the silence build and a few seconds later she says something like "naah I'm not sure but some time during the summer". Before we met the first time, she said I had to come visit her when she moves. I'm getting, what it feels like, minor hints that she wants to hang out but she's not making any effort to make it actually happen. When I told her to kiss me before she left last time she kinda scoffed at me, but still kissed me. She did the same thing when we made out when we first saw each other. Maybe that's just how she is, idk...

I've left out a few details to keep the text short(-ish). Can give more examples if asked for.

  • Am I reading too much into everything?
  • Just keep going until I get a definitive "no"?
  • Soft next? (leaning towards LTR material, no immediate red flags yet)