Advice for 30 years old?

Indlons · 2016-06-08T11:34:14+00:00

I'm 32 and discovered this place about 5 weeks ago. The biggest thing that helped me was to make the switch to IDGAF. It has helped so much. I have been able to just talk to new people so much easier. I have been getting phone numbers like they are on sale (I got one today).

Granted, I am still slowly learning to move away from a lot of the BP ways that I have spent pretty much my whole life in. Those are hard habits to break as they have been ingrained for so long.

So, the phone numbers are flowing in but taking those to completion is harder. I am struggling with making something of them. Each step takes work.

If you are looking for someone to marry you are in danger of squeezing a person that doesn't belong there into that position. I did it with girls left and right before I discovered this place.

Remember this place is not designed to get you laid. This place is here to show you that working on making yourself a better person is the only thing there is to do. Build the foundation, ignore the color you paint it and the pattern of the fucking drapes. The confidence that comes from actually being the best version of yourself is what will get you laid. Attention from ladies is a convenient side effect of the improvements you will make. PUA techniques are paint and drapes. That's not what buildings are made of.

Right before I found this place I had just quit smoking pot regularly. Discovering this community's mantras made it so much easier. There isn't any time for excuses, and we already have the equipment to recognize excuses.

Keep lifting. And never lift for anyone but yourself.

Pillredpopper · 2016-06-07T22:24:50+00:00

Fight your instinct to marry and have kids, dont ever look for that or you put yourself in a position of "this is the result" which can lead you to overlook things in women which you should not. If you want a LTR, do not make an LTR a goal, an LTR should come as a byproduct of your ability to screen Higher quality women. To do this, you must date around and learn how this works. A LTR does not make things easier, shit tests never end, frame checking never ends. Live how you want to live now, because a wife and kids will change that forever.

With that out of the way, 30 is great, welcome to the higher SMV club, enjoy dating younger girls, they want to date men your age. To sum it up, Be strong and masculine, do not take shit from her, do not be needy, thats for chicks. When in doubt about your next move with a girl, do nothing instead. Never compromise your values, next them if staying means doing just that. Do not date single mothers, divorcees, or feminists, read the trp sidebars and really ingest the proper male female dynamic.

Stay close to those general guidelines and youll do fine, girls 21-26 are a prime market for you right now, women your age are wall approaching and will be quicker to seek out resources which is what drives most girls over 30, however you are just beginning your ascent.

poochman · 2016-06-07T21:02:25+00:00

But I also want to just travel around the world, meet more girls and live as a bachelor until I find someone really worth marrying.

Basically do exactly what you said.

30s are a great age for a man (I'm 31). This is where your SMV will tend to peak as you become established in your career and are still near your physical prime if you maintain your body right. Take advantage of that while you can by not rushing into a LTR. Perfect time to travel as you mentioned.

Read everything in the sidebar and learn to spin plates. It will take time. Once you can do that, then decide if marrying and having kids is what would make you most happy in life. Remember men don't have a biological clock like women do (unless they are like 50 or something I guess).

Title	Advice for 30 years old?
Author	ag_silver
Upvotes	2
Comments	10
Date	June 7, 2016 8:11 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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