Backstory: I am a 29yo Male and married my STBX a 25yo Female. We were High School sweethearts and had a great relationship. We dated for a year with no sexual interactions and this did sit with me well so i did the dumb thing and cheated. We broke up and I joined the military. After about 2 years she contacted me again and we rekindled what we had. I asked he to marry me because I though that this was a second chance at the best relationship I had and I didnt want to pass it up. We got married in a court house and moved into a house on my base. After about 10 months we learned she was pregnant and we were going to have a little Girl.

The Fighting starts: I was a full time military member working, she was a stay at home mom. Every day when I came home she wanted me to do the cooking and watch our daughter while she went out to go do stuff on her own. I didnt really mind it but still had barley any clue at how to handle being a father. I would call her asking simple questions at where things were and what did she need. All these thing made her mad because she had to figure it out on her own while I was at work. She wanted to go and see the world but always had trouble with saving money. We both had some bad spending habits. When I told her that if I took an assignment for a year we could go to Germany after. I asked her if she would want me to extend my assignment for 2 years and she could come with me. She told me no and we agued over it for weeks. I took the one year assignment and left. During that time she though of moving back in with her family to save some more money. Again I agreed because it made her happy. During my assignment I discovered I had alot of issues and started seeing a counselor. I then learned my wife started working leaving our daughter with her mom and she wasnt being taken care of properly. I finished my assignment and decided to leave the military and focus on my family and move back to my home town.

The move: When she learned i didnt take the Germany assignment and that I got out she was furious at me. I had moved in with her at her parents house and took some time off to focus on myself and spend some time with my daughter. After about a month I was tired f dealing with her mother and got a job and worked on getting an apartment. after about 4 months we moved into an apartment and started living just us again. We lived in that apartment for 2 years. The whole time all she wanted was for me to work more and to get a new car and buy a house. We had no money in savings and lived pay check to pay check. any time I told her we couldnt afford it she would get mad at me and blame me for everything and said it was all my fault. I finally saved enough and she found a rent to own home. we signed the papers and moved in.

The Main event: While we lived in the new home she would still want new things. New washing Machine, new dryer, new car, new fridge. Whenever she wanted to go to the store she wanted me to go and for me to drive. She would have me running around stores all day on my days off. When I didnt want to go she would get upset and then go with her mother. Well one day after working on fixing a part on my car I was tired and wanted to lay down and relax for the rest of the day. She came in and wanted me to come with her to some pictures that they were getting of the families grandkids. I told here I didnt want to go and she started complaining how I never want to do anything. So I got up and went with her. I was driving and didnt talk much just put on the radio. When we got to the area I asked here where we needed to go and she didnt know. This annoyed me, she then called her sister-in-law and was told the otherside of a bridge in a big green area. this annoyed me even more. after driving around for 10 minutes I parked and told her to figure out where we are supposed to be or get out. She chose to get out. I picked her back up after they were done and proceeded to a restaurant where we were meeting my family for dinner. She had an attitude telling me it was embarrassing for her to have to walk in a park to the picture area. She then asked me if I was going to come eat with them and I told her its embarrassing to be with her in front of my parents while she treats me like this so no. She went in and I proceeded to go for a walk. She called me when they were done to come to the car and go home. I told her I needed more time to cool off. She Left me there and after about 30 minutes I called her and told here where I was if she was ready to talk and go home. She told me she would be there in 10 minutes. I wanted over an hour and when I tired to call her she sent me to voicemail. She finally answered and told me I had to figure my own way home. I called my father who took me home. When I got there she had locked me out and changed the locks on the house. I climb in through a window and yelled at her for locking me out and let my father in. She had her sister-in-law and brother there with their 2 children. They proceeded to lock themselves in a room and called the police. When the showed up the front door was still open and they came in. They asked my father and myself if anything physical happened and we told him no we had just gotten there a few minutes earlier.

The Final Straw: She packed some of her stuff and left that night. The next day I spent some time talking to a few attorneys and getting some legal advice. One told me to try and call and talk to her on more time before going down this route to try and make it easier. So I did. Her sister-in-law answered and I asked to speak to my wife. She told me no and that they are filing for a protection order against me. I asked her for what and she just laughed and said you know what then hung up. So I called the attorney and told them what was happening and they said just have a few things ready and to be ready to leave the house. I did and went out and started loading my car when they showed up with the police and removed me from the house. She had accused me of abuse and that she was scared of me. This is a person who is guarding some of the worst in a prison. So I took some clothes and my computer and left. That very same day I had my attorney working on the papers and she was served the divorce. That was the best day of my life besides having my daughter.

She has since kept my daughter from me and neglected some of our animals we had. I have been fighting for 3 months now and 3 weeks ago finally got to start seeing my daughter again. The judge has issued family investigations to do a full report on both of us. There are times I feel bad and wondered if I was wrong for getting mad about the directions or if this was something she had planned for awhile and was just waiting for the right moment.