Summary: In this thread I attempt to demystify successful long-term mating strategy. The concepts covered in here: mate selection, frame, mutual self-improvement and red-pilling her.

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This post is not for beginners. From this point on, I assume you have had experience with short-term mating strategy. I also assume that you posses decent physique, social calibration and your modus operandi is of masculine nature.

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Let me preface this with the fact that THERE ARE NO UNICORNS! They do not exist. But here's the good part: you can definitely make one. Here's how:

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Mate Selection

Picking potential unicorns is key. Always look for self-improvement.

Her big goals should be aligned with yours. By now you should know that your local bars are not a place for top-notch women. On occasion, one cute bunny might wander into the den. The eyes of the crowd will be on her and her defenses will be high as the Great Wall of China. There is one more problem, though. Without engaging in conversation, we have very little information to work with.

To minimize the time spent on mate selection, look for a potential Unicorn in a location that aligns with your life goals. You wanna travel the world? Offer friends to go on a trip and let them invite some girls or go on tour-guided trips. Looking to become a writer? Local writer meet ups will be your best option. Maybe become a musician? Playing in venues and meeting musician girls. Your life goal is to become a fitness coach? By all means go and help out or talk to the cuties at the gym that are actually working out and not just posing in front of the mirror. At this stage, it's a numbers game and we want to minimize the number of women we need to vet.

The strategy of engaging with potential Unicorns is the same, whether looking for LTR, STR, ONS except for vetting. Small talk -> Man to woman -> IOIs -> Escalate. Potentially it doesn't matter if you sleep with her the first time you meet her or the second. The only difference here between other strategies is to vet her hardcore for qualities that you want in a LTR. Make no exceptions. If she's a hardcore metropolis girl and you plan on living in a small town in Alabama, that's a ONS or next. We're looking for her to join you on the journey, not sacrifice parts of it to accommodate.

Make sure her mother is hot. When you see pictures of her mother, take a very good look and imagine that your potential Unicorn will look like the mom in the picture. If you find her mother hot - then your LTR sex life will be good.

Until you both have decided to date exclusively, there's no point in minimizing your chances. You are allowed to date many women at once. Mate selection is a numbers game after all. Telling her that you're dating casually but are open to something more serious is a power move displaying abundance mentality and high quality. If she has issues with that, that's a red flag.

The ultimate test before you can consider moving in together is to take her with you on a holiday trip or to the country-side for a week. So you've been dating. It's been nice and you think she has some potential to become a Unicorn. Time for the ultimate test. Time to go an a trip. This test, if failed, is a hard next because if you can't stand being a week with her, you definitely cannot handle being a year with her. It's easy to keep an appearance for a day/date. It is very difficult to pull the same thing for a week in a totally new location. If any challenges arise, you two will have to solve them together. Look for how she acts when shit doesn't go according to plan. Imagine, that's how she's going to be like when life will give you something unexpected. If that week didn't feel like a honeymoon, you should seriously reconsider exclusivity.

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Holding and Building Frame

Like any other girl, potential Unicorns need to be tamed.

The words “I don’t know” do not exist in your vocabulary. Have an opinion on everything. Answering all of her questions will be crucial for the moment when you’ll want to red-pill her. And if you can’t provide her with answers, at worst – your neighbor will. In the moments where you truly do not know what to give her, learn to say “Google it”. It’s a valid answer - a command for her to look it up. Over time, the idea manifests itself: If I need something, I will ask u/NorthOC, he always knows.

The theme is always the same: You’re the the boss, and she’s the secretary. Whether you’re picking a place to eat for the first date, or picking a place to go on vacation for yourself a year later. You’re going either way, whether she joins you or not.

Introduce variety to sex and find a way to make her cum. One orgasm for you, one orgasm for me is enough to keep her wanting more. At first you might be a little bit more vanilla. Then one day make her squirt. Vaginal orgasms are usually more difficult to achieve so let her rub the clit while you bury the bone. A month later introduce her to a new sex pose or five. Put in some BDSM elements down the line (you’ll learn some cool knots). Try a finger up there. Fuck her well, and she’ll be your little play doll.

Your world is a slowly unwrapping enigma. She will prod and poke at you to try and figure you out. Don’t give everything away in the first couple of months. Later down the line, in the process of red-pilling, you can give her all the answers.

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Red-pilling

Turning your potential Unicorn into an actual Unicorn.

Break her reality. Give her something that provokes a reaction similar to disbelief. Like “women and men cannot be friends”. If she ever mentions any past male friends, I tell her that women and men cannot be friends. Then she’ll go on about how they are nice guys driving her to uni or giving her small gifts. Tell her they’re simps who want to sleep with her. If she argues, tell her she’s not ready. Be vague. The other option might be that she agrees with you. Either way, it is seeding the idea of you knowing more than she does.

Another one is if she tries to bitch about other women. Pass her the “men want to know what women want, while women do know women and they hate them”. Sayings plant seeds. Seeds grow into trees. You can find more in the sidebar or EC posts. (PS. DO NOT TELL HER ABOUT AWALT)

After she, inevitably, starts asking more questions about social dynamics, it’s time to introduce the fertilizer.

Re-watch “The Matrix” and, in the process, introduce her to the concept. Nothing like a good movies night that’ll change her life forever. If you decide to proceed, be prepared for the 5 stages of swallowing the Red Pill. For women, self-improvement is more important than sexual strategy. So give her a brief that there exists a community of people who aim to better themselves, who see the world differently. You’ll be her GLO for a while, and she’ll be your billy boy beta. Take it slow and avoid using RP slang.

Give her the true experience of how you see the world. You’re with friends and one of them is in a woman-dominant relationship? Tell it to your Unicorn in the making. Red alert maximum simping in sight? She’ll take note. Examples of long distance relationships not working? She’ll travel with you to the ends of the world to avoid that one. At this point, the chances she’ll find someone better than you in this lifetime is slim to none.

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Mutual self-improvement

Knowing the truth can be lonely at times. But now you have a partner in crime. Time to focus on self-improvement and reach for maximum hotness and success.

Work on goals. Go to the gym together. you do your work out, she’ll do hers. Start saving some amount of money – half you, half her. Do not open a mutual bank account.

Cook and eat together. Cooking food is healthier, cheaper and, if you learn how to do it properly, tastier than in mid-tier restaurants. Cooking also makes you both better in a team. Chances are, you’ll be the top tier chef at cooking (women are shitty cooks), so teach her. At some point, she’ll get comfortable with making your dishes and will want to cook for you new stuff.

Mutual happiness comes from discipline, so make it like in the military. Set the time for sleep, when you wake up, when you eat, when you work out, when you buy groceries. Life will be much simpler when she won’t need to ask you everyday questions about when you’re going grocery shopping, who’s washing dishes or who’s turn it is to take out the trash (yes, I’ve made a plan even for that). This will maximize productivity and you’ll both make each other better in the process. In your household there should be no question of who does what.

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Conclusion

An LTR is meant to propel you closer to your mutual goals and financial success. If she's a burden, then she's a next.